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| 1 | Bored of people who says that I am stupid because I got married at 22yo. Need advicesIf you want a happy marriage then read the sidebar books. Every other year or so, reread. Or as needed if more often. You need to care less about other peoples lives or opinions of yours and just live your own and follow your own path. This is a very young comparative mindset and it matters less and less the more you age. That being said, make sure you are on the path you want to be on. You "captain save a ho"'ed the hell out of that situation and "rescued" her. You may realize down the road it … | /r/askMRP | 28/05/19 12:17 PM |
| 9 | Validation vs sexual gratificationIs there such a thing as married monk mode I should do for a while? Monk mode is monk mode... married or not, just different scenery. Sometimes when the lottery get's really up there...1/2 billion on up. I'll catch myself fantasizing about it. There's so much amazing stuff I could do with that kind of dough. But it's just that. A fantasy. Just a bit of mental entertainment for falling asleep or while I'm waking up in the shower. If I'm having a particularly shitty day, I notice I can get stuck i… | /r/askMRP | 02/05/19 05:06 PM |
| 19 | Being strong makes her wet (FR)It's relative. If you are now better than you were before: you'll get rewarded for your effort. Keep going in the same direction. We all had to start somewhere. Hint: Stop responding to all the ribbing on your stats like a wuss. Its a stfu exercise. A worse weakness is mental weakness and feeling the need to defend. | /r/askMRP | 02/05/19 03:43 PM |
| 4 | How do I respond to "Would you still love me if I was fat?"I responded with something like I mean... you actually answered this like it was a real question which is spergy. The only way to answer ridiculous questions is with ridiculous answers. | /r/askMRP | 02/05/19 12:31 PM |
| 6 | Wife calls me gay for wanting anal...proper response...and this is why I think anal is overrated. If you want to go spelunking in the brown eye cavern, you need to have a thick skin to typical encounters with the inhabitants. She's calling you a fag because it keeps the magic of her belief in her body being a temple solid while getting her out of some purging ritual beforehand. How about don't ass-fuck her after burrito night or a chili cookoff? | /r/askMRP | 01/05/19 12:14 PM |
| 9 | Wife calls me gay for wanting anal...proper responseSo... you're talking about sex and this came up or you start paving the way during and she stopped you mid act? My wager is you're attempting to negotiate beforehand. I remember back when I was a dumbass and talked about it beforehand and an exceptionally honest woman told me "oh, most guys just go for it". You'll know then without needing much wit. | /r/askMRP | 01/05/19 01:35 AM |
| 2 | [FR] career-beta under transformation, I think I'm passing her shit tests, but I'm losing interestOh I'm sure it all adds to it. It's old values meeting new. Old frames over new western ideology. Conflicted + fear = amped up bad behavior. Women who want to be trophy wives but Oprah tells them to also be the coach. I think guys in MODERN arranged marriages in some way think they are getting to skip all of the "problems" associated with western dating culture, and in reality they are just trading them off. Women are probably equally being sold (if it's even a choice either) a bill of goods tha… | /r/askMRP | 30/04/19 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Container words, and youFishing for problems online...clearly shooting fish in a barrel! I'm finding I just keep coming back to simple foundations and concepts on how I live which makes everything else fall in place. It's why it gets waved away. To admit (to oneself or others) it's that simple (which gets incorrectly synonymized with easy) undermines the busy mind we all live in where our brains value complexity. "It MUST be a complex solution for me to be this confused and upset. If it were simple I wouldn't need to b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/19 03:29 PM |
| 9 | Container words, and youWhen you know yourself: Every interaction between you and someone else is just them showing you how their mind is working. It's interesting. They could even be talking about you. It's still their own mind and perception they are communicating about. And words are just a noise to assess current and historical action or spur a reaction. When you put yourself in a place of knowing yourself you become a knee-jerk observer. Detached. Perceived as some externally as narcissism (inwardly when you just … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/19 01:28 PM |
| 12 | [FR] career-beta under transformation, I think I'm passing her shit tests, but I'm losing interestI'm starting to see a real pattern with these arranged marriages. You are essentially skipping any and all long term vetting , for her as well, so the women dial up the bitch and shit test to 11 to see how the guy handles it. And all the clueless we see coming here from the far east are the ones that are failing in acting like a man. So the women are PANICKING inside. They have a biologically ingrained FEAR that her parents stuck her with a man who will fail the first time a hungry predator come… | /r/askMRP | 30/04/19 01:02 PM |
| 13 | Tips for Marriage CounselingCounseling works 100% opposite to frame control unless you have a male friendly ie not male hostile counselor. And even then, it wont work as it doesn't do a thing for SMV. I'd only go at this point if a judge ordered it. Even without knowing a thing about rp why would someone with an ounce of self respect voluntarily go and give her a platform to lecture? Nope. | /r/askMRP | 29/04/19 07:39 PM |
| 30 | A tale of how you can imagine you are RP AF, get your ass handed to you, and a non-trivial lesson about empathy.It's why your default mode should be sympathy. Caring without owning the emotion. If we are meant to be the rock, we can't absorb it and champion it. We can feel bad for our toddler that they are having a rough patch and throwing tantrums. But the moment we empathize and get angry along-side them we've dipped the toe too far in. I keep toying with a long form post about it, but it's a meta topic that's a bit tough to quantify without getting too far into the weeds. Having sympathy and being able… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/04/19 03:00 PM |
| 6 | When to try? When to give up?You haven't improved enough other areas. You've sprinkled on a little alpha, but this is going to take some sustained, long term you disengaging yourself from a wife not interested in you because of sustained long term patterns of beta behavior. Basics. Up your wardrobe. Up your fitness and eating. Do many many many more things away from her and the house. Start acting (and actually..not acting... by side effect) like you are 100% planning a better life for yourself without her. She has 0 dread.… | /r/askMRP | 29/04/19 01:55 PM |
| 4 | Pre-sex shit testsRight. You dont tell your spotter to pile on another 2 plates when you are already straining 1 rep. | /r/askMRP | 27/04/19 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Push/pull in bedSee, you're outside of my wheelhouse of what I like here... also, I would need to stretch for a long time before or be in traction. Plus... my sense of humor overpowers a ton of that whereas I just couldn't take it seriously. I'm really just the wrong one to ask. I'm waaay into normal things. | /r/askMRP | 24/04/19 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Push/pull in bedMy 2 cents.: You are way over-thinking this. A lot of this is just personal preference and also timing (sometimes they enjoy x other times they enjoy y). It's like a restaurant choice. Give a few options, once there if she doesn't order something or is having trouble deciding then you help her pick. IMO unless a chick is seriously mentally damaged she doesn't want to get injured or suffocated for real... common sense. Don't Rambo to prove a point, there is no end game goal of having her spontane… | /r/askMRP | 24/04/19 05:52 PM |
| 17 | Damnit - Infertility and MeSo the off topic portion: I'm a closed adoption as an infant. Actually had my parents lined up before I popped out. I can only imagine how my life was 1000% better because of them and only think of my adoptive parents as my parents. The other people were just the sperm donors who had the good sense to give me up rather than keep an unwanted baby. RP portion: But as for how you are feeling bad about it. It's really out of your control. It's a natural thing for us to tie our feelings of manliness … | /r/askMRP | 23/04/19 08:12 PM |
| 25 | The push/pull gameYou know how a dog will play fetch until YOU are sick of it? Never seeming like it wants it to end and will fetch until it dies of exhaustion. Maybe even it will come up and drop the ball on your lap sometimes when you are just sitting there. Then...if you say , skip too many days of no fetch you notice some chewed up slippers? Yeah . That. | /r/askMRP | 23/04/19 06:12 PM |
| 7 | Are All Women Like This?My distillation and grand generalization (beware, as there are occasional outliers for better or for worse and mild overlap): Men have an honor system based on loyalty and time served in regards to truth. In general , men are honest to those loyal to them and who they have investment in. Hands down. Think of your friends you've known forever or who you have shared life changing moments with. Think of those others you look up to. Women have a value based system of perceived worthiness and threat/… | /r/askMRP | 23/04/19 03:38 PM |
| 1 | What happened? Turned red pill overnight?copy paste, post to /r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/04/19 07:45 PM |
| 1 | This oneitis got me so bad. I can’t stop thinking about ending it all.post to /r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/04/19 08:12 PM |
| 1 | DEER is exclusive to females.All covered in amniotic goo and making burbling sounds? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/04/19 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Embracing the black holeGuys who don't need to prove anything never dance to perform. Never let anyone get you upset about someone or something that doesn't upset you to begin with. Otherwise you're the kid in the video who falls down then gets back up and seems fine. But then notices everyone looking at them and starts crying. You lose control of yourself and hand the ownership of your emotions to someone else and start feeling things other people put there. A few years ago a new neighbor moved in next store and start… | /r/askMRP | 19/04/19 03:30 PM |
| 6 | When does it get better?Yep fellas, ja's got this one. | /r/askMRP | 13/04/19 01:01 PM |
| 6 | Learning from a blue pill fatherRead the sidebar books, your answers lie within. This is a place for married or ltr guys to work on improving themselves and making their lives better. What a rp guy who happens to be married's marriage looks like is best gleaned from the many many posts on the main marriedredpill page. Click on any flaired user and read their post history to get a sample. | /r/askMRP | 11/04/19 05:24 PM |
| 7 | Learning from a blue pill fatherWe don't know you then, you lazy fuck. | /r/askMRP | 11/04/19 05:11 PM |
| 6 | Learning from a blue pill fatherI'm in a red pill relationship What makes it so? FYI: post in OWS and we'll judge. You know you can have a family without getting married. It isn't a legal prerequisite. And if you're here looking as a kind of back door assurance from us that you should "it's just tougher". Don't. The main thing that you are changing between your current relationship and what will happen in the future is that you give up your ability to walk away without an unimaginable amount of monetary and legal suffering. Ho… | /r/askMRP | 11/04/19 05:06 PM |
| 1 | 60 DOD week 3: HygieneAlso , if you live in the states, buy a toothpaste from Canada (online) to get the brands with Novamin in them. Here's why. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/04/19 01:04 PM |
| 3 | Update and seeing more positive changes in my red pill JourneyEffort = results. Now don't get lazy or go rambo and things should continue to head in the same direction. May seem like it is, but this isn't rocket science , people. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/19 08:27 PM |
| 12 | Of Dancing Monkeys and Meaning42 | /r/askMRP | 09/04/19 04:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS 1.1Most LDS guys I know are alpha as can be. I'm in a unique situation where my wife is homeschooling our kid and a big part of our co-op is LDS. She remarks on how candidly and openly the women talk about their quite active sex lives. Not only that, with the no drinking or smoking most of the guys are fit as can be with nary an obstacle. How did you miss that boat, Chief? You have to change your mindset and lead your forever-family. You not only have the tools but the peer group expectation. You h… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/19 02:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS 1.1laughing off a rejection is the opposite of getting butthurt. It's a fine line best left to teeter on later. If you successfully (and recently) used it as initiating then that would be a different story. But you really need her to see your needs as less of something to giggle about at the moment. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/04/19 01:49 PM |
| 3 | It’s a feature not a bugSo when I have started new jobs, I usually end up started getting handed the "difficult" people to work with. Sometimes by luck, but mainly because I volunteer. I've always seen that as an opportunity to build solid relationships and also look good to whoever I report. I'm actually now working for one of those people and leveraged a 20% bump to come work on their team. And 99% of the time the "difficulty" I identify is simply a difference in communication style. Or the people complaining are laz… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/19 01:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS 1.1In the future, if you can't figure out posting to OWS , post it to askmrp. She wrote me a note last week about "why" she was upset with me and giving me hard nos for sex. How sweet. Chunk in trash when she's not looking. She's writing her frame out since she may be picking up on you getting your own ideas. and joked about sex at least once a day. The more you do , the more she will see it as a big joke. Stop this insecure punt as your weak foray into the arena. From this point on, you're either … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/04/19 12:36 PM |
| 18 | Need red pill advice on my marriageWhich books on the sidebar have you read? Because it's really seeming like none at this point. | /r/askMRP | 08/04/19 12:58 PM |
| – | My self improvement marriage daily journal.I see where you were told to post to askmrp and automod killed it. I approved that one and you can take up advice over there, this type of post...if it goes anywhere, goes over there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/04/19 12:54 PM |
| 3 | How the fuck do I stop being negative.Well, I can get like that if I get too stuck in my head and meditation helps. Simple breath mindfulness meditation. Like amazingly. Just 10 minutes a day. Also, sitting on the front porch with a drink and cigar and taking stock of the amazing life I have, despite the occasional difficulty and hardships along the way. Or hanging out with friends where we laugh... a lot. Also out just good fortune (life lottery) or something good I did in a past life earned me not being born in a war zone somewher… | /r/askMRP | 08/04/19 12:47 PM |
| 4 | The fallout of saying nowho says you should explain a woman's behaviour to her. Patrice said that? He was a comedian, too. So that's a no as it's pointless. The moment you sussed out her returning mood I would have put a kibosh to any further conversation. Either verbally or O.I. I feel like she successfully foisted some of her mood onto you to. You absorbed instead of deflected...since you seem to have had a skirmish over the bed. How would you act if your angry kid told you that you had to sleep in the yard. It'd def… | /r/askMRP | 08/04/19 12:33 PM |
| 1 | After divorce scare and rough recovery, wife wants to start a familycopy and repaste to /r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/19 08:27 PM |
| 1 | How to make a long distance girl realize that marriage is worth doing sooner and not later?I'm asking this sub b/c I actually want marriage Then I'm afraid you've come to the wrong place. That would be like going to an alcoholics anonymous meeting to discuss the flavor profiles of different beer styles. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/19 04:51 PM |
| 4 | A little something to take the edge off? Stripper anyone?I dont even want to be around her even though I know this is my fault. This directly translates into "I don't want to be around a constant reminder of my failure." This is you. She is a reflection of you. You can't run from yourself. You can try but you'll always end up being there in the end. This should be your wake up call that you are not even in the right frame of mind and shouldn't trust your feelings about her. If you get to a point where you fix yourself and she's along for the ride and … | /r/askMRP | 05/04/19 01:26 PM |
| 3 | A little something to take the edge off? Stripper anyone?Go back to start. Hit the sidebar, read it all until your eyes bleed. Start lifting like you are not a paraplegic. And STFU. And by STFU, I also mean shut the fuck up with your stupid fucking questions about "taking the edge off". You're a Dancing Monkey who has skipped all the hard work, hasn't done the reading, hasn't done the lifting and are now crying like a little baby because Mammy still keeps his balls in her purse and he's too afraid to ask for them back. Pretty sure this was there fro… | /r/askMRP | 05/04/19 01:19 PM |
| 3 | Am I Holding Frame Well or Just Being Stupid?Your first edit is the way to go. Bump her to a plate. If you had done that first without any talking about I.G. and she asked you why you could always fill her in that "Long term material for me aren't constantly seeking attention on social media. You're fun to be around but it just doesn't fit my idea of someone I have a serious future with." I'd give any girl the benefit of the doubt to grow up a little bit if she's into you and go "oh fuck, how stupid, I'm about to lose Chad". OR She'll get … | /r/askMRP | 05/04/19 01:09 PM |
| 1 | So I guess I need to figure out relationships. They’re a lot harder than they advertise...Stop talking about it. You don't say...you do. OI=outcome independence. She starts barking, you leave to go to the gym...the store... your friends to hang out. You don't stick around and reinforce the behavior. You need to read the sidebar material first so you can become familiar with the concepts and terminology. Besides many of your problems and questions are all addressed there. | /r/askMRP | 05/04/19 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2019Sorry wasn't specific, was talking about the fees associated with normally limited mutual fund selections in a 401k. In my own work life I've never run into an employer with a 401k that allowed me to invest in stocks, or etfs. It's great if they are out there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/19 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2019Monday after lunch I initiate... she shoots me down (which almost never happens with her) and gives the reason that she is all grimy and nasty from working on the house. Ok, I can understand that... I tend to feel the same way when I've gone a bit too long without a shower. I say "ok" and walk away... she starts with the whole "are you mad now?" line of questioning and conflict ensues. I really wasn't mad necessarily, I was just disengaging and moving on with my day. So that tension lasts a good… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/19 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2019On track to max 401k by July Do they let you control your investments? And what is max %? 401k investments tend to really get hamstrung by fees. I always maxxed to match employer contribution (free money) and then diverted above that into an IRA where I could control the investments. You may want to look into that or talk to an accountant if you're trying to maximize retirement dollars and diversify. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/19 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2019A nice 2000 3 bedroom pad with zero yard with exposed concrete and HVAC is what I really want. Vicariously rooting for you on that one. But yeah, you just murdered your gf's biologically founded NEST imperative. LOL | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/19 01:10 PM |
| 2 | So I guess I need to figure out relationships. They’re a lot harder than they advertise...You probably got that one night of respite from using words instead of actions because you were doing well up to this point. You have to add O.I. and lack of interaction into your actions. You let her get away with using you as an emotional tampon and she's going to stuff you up there anytime in the future if she needs. You have to start demonstrating with action you wont be the punching bag. Start removing your time and interaction. Actually leave the moment this shit starts up again. If it doe… | /r/askMRP | 04/04/19 12:40 PM |
| 2 | Blue Pill Question From A Confused 22 Year OldTell me your stories. They're all here. Just start reading. Search for snooping, cheating , etc. But really why are you more worried than her? "I know you want to break up with me" or "I know you don't love me". Without context this doesn't really say a whole lot other than possible comfort testing. But make a post in OYS, hit the sidebar reading material---> THEN worry about it. It's not about the time and x time has passed so therefor y. It's about you and your ability to be her Alpha. Maybe i… | /r/askMRP | 02/04/19 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Early in RP - need advice on how to appropriately handle this situationLots of words... really: I need some advice on how to appropriately communicate that I don’t want to have a kid right now "I don’t want to have a kid right now " Wear a condom and flush those potential kids yourself. If it's not something you even want to think about right now and sending you down this hamster deer mental conundrum path... just sideline it to think about later. Maybe that later will come. Maybe not. | /r/askMRP | 02/04/19 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Blue Pill Question Lurking Inside...Repost to askmrp ... and good luck. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/04/19 07:56 PM |
| 13 | Sexual Selection and Existential FearIMO anything for the team. Hot chicks are the star players. The fat chicks are the bench warmers. Star players still need their team to win. They still know THEY'LL get the best picks and $$ in the draft and don't really care what the others end up with so long as it continues to further themselves. More specifically to tinder I would have to imagine if you are a girl...and a solid 6 or 7 and some poor guys have been through fat-fishing hell for the past 10 dates... your ass is going to look lik… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/04/19 12:39 PM |
| 9 | noticing a pattern in my wife responding to my new red pill aware lifeGood deal! That means things are being illustrated via action clearly. And that her hamster paraphrasing is just a weak shit test to color the situation. She's checking the "guilt" variety off her playbook. | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 02:51 PM |
| 14 | noticing a pattern in my wife responding to my new red pill aware lifeStandard behavior. One note if she used the exact words "I forgot, your needs and wants come first... " ... did you talk about fight club? Or just verbalize something she should have picked up on via action. If she's paraphrasing then...ok. But if you literally told her with your mouth "My needs and wants come first". Waaaaaaahhh STFU | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 02:44 PM |
| 1 | If you're extremely high value what's the chance that she'll want to leave?Well, the more you care... the less likely it is to happen. ALL women attempt to nail down high value men. Your problem wont be IF, it'll be can you control yourself long enough to properly vet enough of them to pick the right ones? | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 01:57 PM |
| 2 | The age-old "I'm having lunch with my ex-boyfriend"Clear cut: demote. | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Roast me so I can help myself.I'm locking this as OP is leaving out critical details as others have pointed out and don't want people wasting time. /u/Aaronrodgers2 you can come back and make a new post of the full story if you want real assessment. | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 01:21 PM |
| 8 | Roast me so I can help myself.You know, I try not to read anyone else's posts before I give my 2 cents so my advice isn't swayed by what I read, but in not reading yours I just wasted a few minutes on my life responding to the question that wasn't real. So I have to reverse the practice or if I'm early do the history delve.. people lie to themselves first then us second. "What's the best way to get better mileage out of my F-250, it's really eating up the gas." You answer and then someone else points out 4 posts ago they he … | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 01:19 PM |
| 3 | Roast me so I can help myself.EDIT: Oh jeeeeesus, just saw SBIII's deep delve, I answered you based on the shit you posted here. So if there's a whole other story of this b.s., you are certainly rearranging the wrong deck chairs on the titanic. So take what I write below as just a response to this one question if that was all that was REALLY going on. You tell us half-truths and you wont get full-answers. "Roast me so I can help myself" we do that already. Really no one need request that. All in all my wife’s pretty legit, I… | /r/askMRP | 01/04/19 01:03 PM |
| 6 | Beta Bux and Alpha FucksYou are in an interesting position with your particular female in that sex is always there it's just that her attitude is total shit. From what you've said you do seem to have a particularly challenging chick that you blew past flags to marry. We can label it whatever popular psychological term we want, but all of them are on a spectrum. That being said. You seem to be doing well in course correction with what you have to work with. You're going to fix you and that's all we care about. She may a… | /r/askMRP | 30/03/19 05:22 PM |
| 1 | How to go about dating if u want to get married youngWhy is your goal marrying young? To have children? | /r/askMRP | 29/03/19 03:42 PM |
| 11 | Drunk captain. Am I being cucked?Such a nice guy you are! Get unlazy for yourself...not women. You will constantly have a rotating door of shit for yourself. Start good habits and stick with them. Stay in shape, get unfat and don't get fat again. And go reread no more mr nice guy if you haven't lately. Not half-assed. You keep applying yourself half assed... you'll keep reaping half ass. | /r/askMRP | 29/03/19 03:39 PM |
| 6 | 60 DoD Week 1 - Part 2 Lifting For LifeApproaching 50 I have to be smarter and smarter. Going to see a knee specialist next week, know I also need and mri on my ankle to see what that dick who did a flying scissors on me at the dojo did back in 2015 that has never healed right. And 2 wonky rotator cuffs from being a hard head and not tapping earlier a few times in BJJ. The days of stacking plates and getting that good strain are giving way to lighter weight higher rep. Just have to put in more time. Nothing will kill your gains (and … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/03/19 01:35 PM |
| 5 | My beginning - What am I doing wrong?"Open my eyes" ? No, that's for you to do or not. Read , lift, stfu (here, too until you have done some work), and post to the own your shit thread on /r/marriedredpill Otherwise you're just wasting your (and our) time until you start. That's really all we can do for you at the moment. | /r/askMRP | 28/03/19 03:16 PM |
| 3 | My First MRP Post: Married for 4 years and considering a divorce, possible infidelityWhew. /u/SteelSharpensSteel Really said all you need to hear. Your mindset is currently fucked and a swift kick to your head to unstick it is the best place to start. I mean your wife had to go get an orbiter to get her validation tingles, comes home and you nice-guy blow a gasket instead of blowing her o-ring with caveman like bedroom dominance. Shit, you could have established a pattern of her going out and getting free dinner and drinks instead of it coming out of ya'lls money and then her co… | /r/askMRP | 28/03/19 01:47 PM |
| 23 | My beginning - What am I doing wrong?Welcome. You found the right place. You're establishing that you will sign up for classes and put on the white belt. First step is devouring the sidebar material. Everything you've been told about relationships is a lie. But it's ok , so stay calm. You are going to have to start an uncomfortable path that goes against what you thought. But start there. Read the books and links. Then we can help fill in the rest, but like we can't lift weights for you, you have to do the work and effort yourself … | /r/askMRP | 28/03/19 01:29 PM |
| 1 | My beginning - What am I doing wrong?repost to /r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/03/19 11:53 AM |
| 1 | She wants to turn it into a long distance relationshipThen even more reason she probably just keeps him around as an option as her pool is other physicians. Fuck that. | /r/askMRP | 27/03/19 02:07 PM |
| 2 | She wants to turn it into a long distance relationshipI'm sure you being a doctor with serious income (and potential) is a good enough reason to keep you somewhere on her line so that if new and other exciting options don't pan out for her she'll sudden want to move there. Don't be her backup plan. Kill the puppy. Move on. Now you can focus unhindered in solidifying your new area. Then when the time is right you can add in a woman (or better yet women..to vet or spin) who will compliment your life. You may have spent time with this one girl thinkin… | /r/askMRP | 27/03/19 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Feelings of inadequacy leading to angerI ping pong around. If I were just started I'd eat up the red man group and rollos (he seems to be amping up). When I was just starting though there weren't specific ones so I was listening to PUA's , workout/motivational ones like Elliot Hulse, comedians like Patrice, Bill Burr etc. and to an extent Joe Rogan. Now it seems like for game Charisma on Command is good and I'm catching up with those. Game is just the cheat/ace in hand for success with ANYTHING social in life so it's always good to h… | /r/askMRP | 26/03/19 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Feelings of inadequacy leading to angerIf you're just curious about the why-women-are-like-that? What you don't get from here, the sidebar books, and sites like Rollos, you may want to look into anthropology books, human biology...etc. I'd steer clear of the present curriculum of psychology and sociology as many works are highly tainted with agenda at the moment. Also podcasts galore. You could really spit and hit about 10. | /r/askMRP | 26/03/19 01:40 PM |
| 3 | Feelings of inadequacy leading to angerSo you've started easing in a month ago and haven't heard us mention The Rational Male? What you state is a very surface level skim if you haven't really taken much in yet. Women are women. Men are men. Your feelings of inadequacy are yours to deal with in a manly way and hers in a female way. Your post implies resentment or blame. Neither one of those two work here. | /r/askMRP | 26/03/19 01:15 PM |
| 7 | Marriage after Dread Level 12 (see also “Spin Plates with Caution” or “How to be Happy with What You’ve Got”)So you don't know what you want. You thought you wanted one thing. Got it. Chased another. Got it. Now are directionless. Or I should say destination-less. Please keep in mind you are asking us which direction and path your life should go by taking a litmus test of what makes other guys happy. It's fun and easy to have a project like following the dread ladder and applying all aspects of it like it is it's own pursuit or goal. But shouldn't the end pursuit be sustained baseline happiness?. Perso… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/03/19 04:50 PM |
| 4 | There, for the grace of RP, go youHandled like a champ with a square head on his shoulders. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/19 02:34 PM |
| 3 | [FR]Open your eyes, fellow fag.So even on askmrp if you're going to link to a story (use NP to prevent brigading...it works both ways) it requires an accompanying analysis or it's pointless. People could link to relationships, relationship_advice and deadbedrooms all day long otherwise. | /r/askMRP | 22/03/19 07:09 PM |
| 3 | We don’t do that / You don't want us answering that.In my post I'm talking about the virtual...this place. But simbarlion's response is spot on. | /r/askMRP | 22/03/19 12:46 PM |
| 2 | We don’t do that / You don't want us answering that.I keep telling myself we attract more of the needy, not that the needy grow in number. But then again... I sometimes lie to myself to get through the day and keep hope for the future alive. | /r/askMRP | 21/03/19 08:25 PM |
| 2 | The Thing That I Must, Must, MUST Tell You...MRP minimalist theater with a maximal message , that if taken to heart could alleviate a lot of unnecessary typing. We need a Zen Koan section. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/03/19 08:19 PM |
| 14 | We don’t do that / You don't want us answering that.It takes a village. Steel's the man. I want to grow up to be like him. In the meantime I'll keep spouting my quasi reformed hippie flavor until they decide to finally band together and kick me out. | /r/askMRP | 21/03/19 05:30 PM |
| 1 | What am i doing wrong?repost to /r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/19 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Am I Settling? Should we move in together? Single man seeks advice from married guys on whether this will work.repost to /r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/19 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Wife Checking on Where I AmWomen do love Nancy Drew. This is not a problem this is a sign that she is invested. Ignore. As a sidenote... both my wife and I have Google location sharing turned on as I am a "safety freak". I'm sure she checks when she wants. I don't really care and it saves a text or call. | /r/askMRP | 19/03/19 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Losing frame with my motherIt's funny, I had the opposite experience growing up in that I always fogged , AAed my mom. I think it's because I gradually learned it worked , plus she laughed and who doesn't want to make their mom laugh. Truly though, you have to stop volunteering any information. As weird as it may sound you have to O.I. as well and grow a pair and limit exposure if she oversteps or you find you can't control your emotions. She's like any other person and will learn if she wants to be involved in your life … | /r/askMRP | 19/03/19 01:36 PM |
| 7 | Huge fight with LTR, helpDon't dicker. Dick her. Some basic concepts here you are missing... don't DEER... DARE instead. You get respect for actions in response to behavior. You don't tell her you won't be treated like a particular way. You vote with your feet. LTR...might need a demotion. I asked if she wanted to apologize. What is the point of that? Apologies come unbidden or they mean nothing. Doesn't seem like you've read much of the sidebar. Start there with the extra time you're going to have after putting anythin… | /r/askMRP | 18/03/19 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Questions about assertion (WISNIFG)Patience as in don't get flustered on the phone/in person and keep your goal in mind. Never let someone out-wait or frustrate you. Make sure you'll have enough time to devote to whatever you are negotiating so time constraints work for you. Repetition as in don't get side tracked. If you want X for Y price , don't let option Q throw you off your mark. Classic example is how car dealerships negotiate on price using your trade ins, monthly payments, fees. options you don't care about etc. Escalati… | /r/askMRP | 18/03/19 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Need Some Advice on Marriageshe fucked up but not nearly as bad as once thought Sort of critical to get other opinions on what guys here would do. A pretty good indicator of where you should lean is how transactionally/economically you are thinking about it. And this... this right here: I can tell you, people are jealous of our relationship. Her friends as well as mine. Why give a shit? Do you have goals and wants of your own independent of how it appears to the Joneses? And you're 37 and don't know if you want kids or not… | /r/askMRP | 18/03/19 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Questions about assertion (WISNIFG)Patience , repetition... then escalation. Repeat ad infinitim. And nowadays...take to social media. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/19 05:41 PM |
| 3 | The Wife As A ParentOk ok, so there's a lot of perfect parents in here throwing rocks. IMO I'm not anti a little spanking if something warrants it (at the ages of 2-7ish, mileage will vary). Just seems to have a different effect on girls, and yeah , seems like you really misapplied in this situation. Also , it will lose effectiveness over time and become something else so there are only a few years where it should. And I found whenever I did, it was certainly a lazier route or , like in your state, you were not at … | /r/askMRP | 15/03/19 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed.Might be easier to figure out if you didn't write like a wanna be gangster retard. And I appreciate you making me go slog through again with an edit rather than clarifying in a response that I could have seen without going through that again. Give less shits. Or, better yet, next time to assert dominance just pop a squat on the bosses desk and drop a deuce while maintaining intense eye contact. | /r/askMRP | 14/03/19 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed.Screwing coworkers never works out like you think. At 29 and three months ago you were apparently unemployed so you're still new at work. You really feel like mixing this up? There is too much opportunity other places to gamble. Even if you work in a kitchen and it's somewhat EXPECTED drama , I guarantee you will do better career-wise in the long run if you focus on career at work and play after work. | /r/askMRP | 14/03/19 05:30 PM |
| 27 | I went nuclear with laying down dread. Now I'm confused.Yes. Absolutely. She's a stark reminder of how wrong you were. Your ego just wont let you accept it was you and not her at the moment. You can mentally understand that and STILL not feel it for awhile. I've pivoted a couple of times , twice as rock bottom...bouncing back up realizations, and once just the wave of good interactions overpowering the bad after repeated successful attempts at being a better man reaped better results. If you ever got to the point where you understood her, even liked … | /r/askMRP | 14/03/19 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed.Sales. It must be sales with your English and typing skills if you "wellpaid" , but even that will top out if you don't impruv yer skilz theire. Your question only begs the questions: Why do you give a fuck? This is retarded office bullshit gossip all-girl high school shit. Like all your jobs: do it well, become indispensable, fuck the rest and fuck your question. And Bromeo : DID NO ONE TELL YOU TO NOT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT. Game outside of work if you like your job. | /r/askMRP | 14/03/19 04:16 PM |
| 60 | I went nuclear with laying down dread. Now I'm confused.We get what we earn. The first 8 years you were a beta bitch. Now you're manning up and you are getting what you want. But that new you is a skin at the moment. You are wearing it, so the old you is still inside and mad that you didn't get what you wanted while being what society told you was the good husband. You have to let that resentment go as that is still the old you. Yeah it sucks, now shut up and get over it. You get no retroactive points for trying one way and then the next. There is on… | /r/askMRP | 14/03/19 04:08 PM |
| 1 | I went nuclear with laying down dread. Now I'm confusedrepost to /askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/19 03:20 PM |
| 5 | I thought this was interestingWorks in reverse, too. If you are witnessed being chewed out by a superior or letting someone get one over on you (such as being a pushover boss or employer, letting contractors fuck you on price/work) you'll be in for some fitness/shit tests galore as you lose a peg in her eyes. | /r/askMRP | 14/03/19 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Plan A or B, MAP, or something different?You're 35 and sounds like your SMV is high enough that this will be your new prime and upgrade time. No kids and Plan B is next her? Then Plan B. tell her my vision of what I want from a relationship The most important part will be in demonstrating , years down the road, with a happy life what your vision and goals are and why she couldn't come along for the ride. And that will be in her head because you will have burned the bridge and moved on never looking back. | /r/askMRP | 11/03/19 12:56 PM |
| 19 | How bad do you wish you had your pre-kids wife back?I got my pre-kid wife back when the guy she married came back from betaland. Actually, she's better and we're better. | /r/askMRP | 08/03/19 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Meditation, barriers and fragile egoThe Waking Up app is good if you want less British smug and more cerebral monotone physicist. | /r/askMRP | 05/03/19 02:09 PM |
| 1 | When i say No the boss Stonewalls meYou know what, I like a lot of other answers on here better than mine. I'm softening on talking to a lawyer unless things go sour and he does something actionable. You really have shit legs to stand on at the moment. Also labor laws depend on your state. I live in a right to work state which translates into you can quit or be fired for any reason that doesn't break an equal opportunity (or any other law). Utilizing the group think here I'd say You definitely painted yourself into a corner. You n… | /r/askMRP | 01/03/19 02:23 PM |
| 4 | When i say No the boss Stonewalls meInteresting mind fuck. Sounds like to me he can't directly do a thing and is simply using the poor underling to shake you. Have good documentation on good work performance? I'd remember HR is not there to help you. They are there to ensure the company doesn't get sued. Document the fuck out of your own excellent performance and consult with a lawyer. Then keep that lawyer in your pocket in case of the first overt move. Or possibly make the first move if things get worse. And tell no one of the c… | /r/askMRP | 01/03/19 09:06 AM |
| 7 | Wife will study in a different state for 2 yearsThat fin. Coming right at him. Screaming to him to get out of the water , but he's standing there like "Huh, wha, nah..isn't that a dolphin? Wait, get where? I should get out of the water? Huh?" | /r/askMRP | 27/02/19 02:45 PM |
| 4 | Wife will study in a different state for 2 yearsDense ass motherfucker. She decided to kill the puppy. That's why you think things are better. She's feeling pretty good about manning up and taking control of her life. It makes being with you more tolerable now knowing it's temporary and she has a game plan in place to eject (light at the end of the loser tunnel). I am 200% sure she doesn't have another man She doesn't need one at the moment. She can at least plan for the future and is creating a future opportunity that is worth more then than… | /r/askMRP | 27/02/19 02:34 PM |
| 5 | [FR] Honest About GrowthLow vs. High Vibrations Well. There's a new one. Over a long haul and doing everything right on the surface you can still mentally get stuck in a rut. Get stuck in your head. Crystallize even. Then it takes less and less for things to reverberate around and you give more and more shits thus negatively affecting your mood. I'd wager it's your overline baseline mood. What most new guys don't realize coming in is that you get a benefit of being a new fucktard who may have been mired in betadom. The… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/02/19 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Shit tests turn me offManipulation of truth? It's a shit test for which you are too emotionally invested if you are saying phrases like that. Sounds like you deered into something and are mad. Get over it. Why do you invest in her world view? Have your own... laugh off the disagreements. If she's hot to trot. Just add in extra spanking. If her pouting is causing limp dick you're giving too many shits about female word play. Reality and truth to her are emotions and if you dont get it together you'll be larry limp dic… | /r/askMRP | 23/02/19 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Any > 60 olds here?HUH? WHAT DID YOUR HORSE WEIGH? | /r/askMRP | 22/02/19 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?So...what did you think was the definition of a plate? Maybe in your vernacular you are looking for a harem or sister-wives? You are plating. Plates ride the c.c. , they're not special... you're not special. | /r/askMRP | 22/02/19 02:30 PM |
| 3 | Suspect behaviour: File for divorce preemptively to protect my assets?So if you're at the point where you are asking this question, why even ask the question and why aren't you talking to a lawyer? You're worried about a battle. If the war is over, the best thing you can do is NOT throwing more time into it. This is one (maybe the biggest) deal. But if you don't care about staying married then why aren't you taking whatever lump you have to on this one to ensure that in the future it isn't even an issue (ie. you're single). And then you end with a retarded argumen… | /r/askMRP | 22/02/19 02:22 PM |
| 2 | Any > 60 olds here?what your take on all this is Well there's a nice specific question. Are you just fishing for old grandpa rambles? ASKMRP is lower standards for submissions but think of a more specific question, and put in maybe an ounce of effort before you post. FYI, I know over 60 alphas, betas and omegas... they're the same , they just care less and talk about grandchildren all the time and you have to talk a little louder and right at them so they can hear what you're saying. | /r/askMRP | 22/02/19 02:03 PM |
| 3 | Need to get a grip.You can't enjoy things if A) you prevent yourself from moderately enjoying them and B) are too fearful about the enjoyment ending. Just letting yourself love a woman does not mean oneitis. One of the best parts of a new relationship is the infatuation phase. Your chemicals and neurotransmitters released during the initial bonding phase are intense and can bring a lot of joy to your life. It's a disservice to yourself not to enjoy it for at least a little bit. The thrill of a bungie jump is in th… | /r/askMRP | 20/02/19 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Navigating my shit versus her shit."How do I determine what's my shit versus what's her shit?" You don't. That's getting in the weeds of mental masturbation...and a good way to keep the garbage flowing towards you. Own that everything is your shit. She has no faults... just damage and reaction. Either that someone else or you inflicted (hint: recent beta or rambo damage is yours). This isn't to even assign guilt. I mean , if it helps you get off your ass to do other things...great, but really it's just things to work around or im… | /r/askMRP | 19/02/19 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Blowing up 7 year marriage after swallowing the red pillI want to try and make marriage work in my frame under my terms Wants are all well and good. But don't labor under this outcome that this is the goal. The goal is a good you... good everything else follows or makes way for other good. | /r/askMRP | 19/02/19 04:05 PM |
| 4 | There's definitely a bigger issue but making sure I'm going about this correctlyFor Gracie accredited that's about Par. | /r/askMRP | 15/02/19 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Day 0 - Valentines day off to a great start... Taking the pillShe said she had lip shit on so blah blah blah... It's pretty bad when you get soft nos on kissing, but that's a soft no. Blow through that shit. "Cool, I needed some gloss, baby." Here's a takeaway I want you to mull on. That if you can grasp, might fill a blindspot if you're having trouble doing more than dipping your toe in and new year "resoluting" every time you feel pumped "This time will be the time I really drop that donut": You're sprinkling on alpha and missing the forest through the t… | /r/askMRP | 14/02/19 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Why stay with an old womanMillions... I'm making millions per post. To tap into my deep southern roots I'd say I like to crap out the occasional meadow muffin so that in turn some other animal out there may sift through my dump and find something worth digesting. Glad you found some kernels. | /r/askMRP | 14/02/19 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Why stay with an old womanAnd very few friends of mine like scotch so I don't have to share (not that I really mind). I'm a total contrarian to my circle as I like flavor with my drink. Everybody around me drinks bourbon. The only drink that gets "better" the less it tastes like alcohol and more it tastes like candy. Sounds weird, if you don't already, but if you like the peaty malts... for a change try getting a decent Mescal for sipping. Mescal is to Tequila what Blends are to Singles. Each has a region and recipe. I r… | /r/askMRP | 14/02/19 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Found a text suggesting lunch with guy from gym. Should I say something?So I'm a little confused. A year ago you were posting about a wife ...now your girl. Wife? or Girl? Girl ... easy. You're too invested. Demote, pick up another plate to vet for primary. And I hope if this is a new chick that you didn't jump into verbally creating boundaries. "We both set" translates into "we both set for you". Hoping you didn't break an Anti-dump's machine rule: " Never Ask to Be Exclusive Why would you do that? She is winning YOU, right? Becoming exclusive with a woman means th… | /r/askMRP | 13/02/19 09:34 PM |
| 8 | Why stay with an old womanFuck it...I don't feel like working yet so I'll give you a retarded long winded answer. And I will answer that question and ones you didn’t ask. No matter what I write it won’t be the whole picture either. No need to write a book. And this is imo, not as a mrp rep, so some of that was for comedic effect but to be honest , yes approaching 50 my tolerance for conversations about certain subjects ,worldviews, and the cadence of conversation just bores me to death or worse ... grates in my ear like … | /r/askMRP | 13/02/19 03:40 PM |
| 8 | [FR] Careful how (and if ever) let your wife take lead in bed.. Major shit test can ensue- OP may never recover"You're right, hon... I'm struggling... I think that the only way we can beat this is to go 100% pro-masculine. So starting tonight, while I watch <insert favorite sports team> play <some rival>, I'll need you to give me a blowjob. Then you need to make me <your favorite meal> and you serve it to me in a french maid's outfit along with a glass of <favorite beer>. It's the only way, but I just know if we try, we may salvage this." Semper fi. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/02/19 05:43 PM |
| 12 | Why stay with an old womanFair point. | /r/askMRP | 12/02/19 04:48 PM |
| 47 | Why stay with an old womanYour values change as you age. Do we really need to list all the reasons why mated couples typically stay together? Sure, if you're a sociopath dark triad, keep trading down in age till your dick falls off. Whatever floats your boat. Personally... the older I get the company of younger women gets annoying really fast... all people under the age of 35 seem stupid and preoccupied with inane useless things and situations. But that's because I'm aging. So I want all kids off my lawn. Including the b… | /r/askMRP | 12/02/19 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Learning from cuckold???shit post | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/19 08:13 PM |
| 20 | Shit and RespectIf you can't handle a shit test without getting worn down then you care too much about it or have some sort of expectation (covert contract) of red pill being a sprint where there is an end to the road with the prize of a nawalt unicorn who your wife transforms into because you somehow proved something for long enough. You don't get to get comfortable and can't stop paying attention. Tests of any sort never end as they are a reaction or spontaneous, and you are married to a woman. The trick is t… | /r/askMRP | 08/02/19 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Mixed message?I'm pretty sure it doesn't take MRP or RP or even any-old-guy to tell you when something isn't broke: don't fix it. If something changes down the road you may need a tune up but don't tinker with an engine that runs well. | /r/askMRP | 07/02/19 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Asked my opinion and when I gave it honestly she tried to agrue about it?XXX Bah ba ba ba bwaaa Fail...do not pass go. And this misinterpretation always comes with a fragile ego. That was a insecurity fitness test. She wouldnt ask and just do what she knew would make you happy if it wasn't. | /r/askMRP | 06/02/19 05:02 PM |
| 4 | Asked my opinion and when I gave it honestly she tried to agrue about it?Dude...even if you're jacked up muscle wise you're a birdchest when it comes to stfu, gls and mate guarding insecurity. "Are these too revealing?" "What? You're not going topless?" And if you're going to be a father soon with your last post about books... you think revealing clothing is going to be a problem in the not too distant future? I just ain’t cool with dressing slutty in public. So this is a new thing from her? Nevermind... doesn't matter. This kind of shit isn't ever negotiated without… | /r/askMRP | 06/02/19 03:56 PM |
| 25 | LTR ending due to relocation?Be sad if you want and wish her well. Let you know you'll keep in touch (don't) , and if she's back in town for any reason to let you know (booty call opportunity). She's worked hard and doesn't have oneitis. Neither should you. | /r/askMRP | 06/02/19 02:14 PM |
| 2 | I'm only with you because I have no choice.You're skinny fat with those numbers. So everyone here has told you all that you need to know and already but just to reiterate: You will be the biggest fucking moron on the planet if you go through with purchasing the house while your marriage and life are at this point. And most conceivable points for a long time if 8 months wasn't enough for you to really change. You give too many fucks about too many stupid things to be 40 and are still playing the same stupid shit games 20 year olds do in y… | /r/askMRP | 04/02/19 04:12 PM |
| 27 | Firstly, get the fuck out!Have to preface with an IMO as MRP has been divided in the past on this... But... I hate to say it (especially as a mod), but I just nope on these posts. If you somehow made it here, she cheated and you are still in bargaining mode with how to keep her...it's just a waste of time to try to talk any sense into you. You haven't let go. You're mired. Until they come back and post some anger and are clearly moving on is there anyway to break through. And I don't even care if it's THE GUY'S FAULT FOR… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/19 07:25 PM |
| 3 | WOTSM - Withholding Ejaculation?I think the Latin for this type of line of thought is Autistico et retardo. No thanks. | /r/askMRP | 01/02/19 02:20 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider appropriate for your ltr when going out in mixed groups together?It is tough if you're sitting on an insecurity demon. But really at first you have to recognize the bubbling up that occurs in your chest. Maybe a tightness. Maybe heat in your forehead. ... and walk off if you're in danger of committing a SMV deflating whine moment. Also I meditate. 10 minutes a day will work wonders. Simple mindfulness meditation. Many apps for that. I like Sam Harris' waking up one. And if you're not in the best shape you can be, you go hit the gym. Watch what you eat. Just i… | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 07:07 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider appropriate for your ltr when going out in mixed groups together?Who isn't sometimes? Just got to learn to kill your inner bitch. | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 06:03 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider appropriate for your ltr when going out in mixed groups together?Left my main comment on the asktrp post, but just to add another thought dingleberry for you to really absorb and see how it affects your outlook: You're following. You're not leading. She's clearly the one in control of the emotional dynamics of your relationship. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 03:14 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider appropriate for your ltr when going out in mixed groups together?I confronted her (mistake) At least you know. but I wanted to know if she was into him. Doubling down on the mistake. Does he have a higher SMV? Then assume yes. Women are IN to every guy with a high SMV or skills. So the fuck what? Improve your own and fight them off with a stick instead of whinging over what one is doing.** Or: Why in the fuck is she not worried about all the tail that is IN to you? Don't have conversations like this...you're flashing your inner pussy. Learn to keep that shit … | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Disrespectful LTR, where can I improve?Stop focusing on her and her emotions and random availability. Also : she may have a few other branches other than you she's swinging around (or contemplating) and vetting several at a time while you are wasting time vetting just one at the moment when you are in your prime. Which can account for erratic behavior as well. But serious GLFs, GL Time (who's got time for a sporadic and testy girlfriend) and maybe add a plate or two to the mix. And don't dicker. DICK-HER. You're doing a shit job of s… | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 03:01 PM |
| 1 | She withdraws after fights and I turn into a worthless betawhenever we fight I keep on apologizing, chasing her around discussing the fight, and trying to make things work and say stuff like "I regret what I've done", and she just doesn't say a word or say stuff like "You always regret!" or "Just leave me alone". So stop doing these things. And this belongs on /r/askmrp so I'm going to remove from the main board here so you can repost there. Please start reading the side bar material for a lot more insight. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/01/19 07:53 PM |
| 5 | Help with Car Shopping for the Most Responsible TeenagerSince you linked to my DOD finance post to clarify: my wife is a sahm and was not good at finances which is why I had to separate the accounts and make hard budgets. If she worked and didn't spend on a paycheck to paycheck basis I would have never needed to focus on that. So, going Rambo on areas where there's nothing wrong will probably seem confusing, you can still have managed control of your finances with her input. And the whole "most responsible teenager in the house" to which you are refe… | /r/askMRP | 28/01/19 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Update: Discovered wife has had an affair, have kids, she doesn't know that i knowSo long as you have a clear goal. I'd still cut the fuse on this firecracker very short. | /r/askMRP | 25/01/19 02:05 PM |
| 3 | Update: Discovered wife has had an affair, have kids, she doesn't know that i knowBut I feel like I can give you another chance as we have a long history Never in a million years for me. decide whether i will start meeting other women without her knowing If you have documented evidence of infidelity , why on earth muddy up your own water for a sympathetic judge? And in my state infidelity kills alimony... unless it's on both sides. Whats clear is things can never go back to what they were Right, so in the future don't fuck up and vet properly, and have "the just good times" g… | /r/askMRP | 25/01/19 01:57 PM |
| 10 | "Married couples, what is the unspoken rules of a successful marriage?" thread on askMRPThe top voted comments all come across like a disney wishlist. | /r/askMRP | 23/01/19 07:57 PM |
| 7 | Wife lied again. Plan to kick her out, but want to make sure I’m doing the right thing. Help?!From your previous ows : I found MRP too late to save the marriage, but I found it at the perfect time to save myself. Continue with this plan. This plan should now have 0 investment in her anymore, so why even bother with any of this type of dynamic (confronting, ultimatums, etc...thrashing about). Yes, you're responsible for getting it here...but it's here already. There's no need to throw good effort after bad. Sometimes part of the process is realizing things could have been different had yo… | /r/askMRP | 21/01/19 07:26 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Recently Married, Emotional Cheating, & Dread GameWith or without her (brave words) then "I can't leave because I'll be broke". There's a reason why the redpill consensus about plating women (and especially marrying) those who are alpha widows is a giant no. In this case he's actively still spinning your wife as a potential plate while you sit here worrying how to keep her because somehow divorcing a women under 6 months and having no kids will bankrupt you. So fast forward 4 years. Where you improve then slide when a kid is born and SHE eat pr… | /r/askMRP | 18/01/19 01:56 PM |
| 4 | Update, progress, and question.I calmly got up and told her that I am done with this conversation and that I have to leave early for work, so I was going to bed. So you must have hit either some hidden landmine, bad time of the month, or you weren't reading the room well. Either way the better way to disengage (which is the best option so good job on at least getting part of the puzzle) in this particular scenario (since it wasn't about anything important) would be to finish with more bemusement than disappointment (which you… | /r/askMRP | 16/01/19 02:45 PM |
| 1 | LTR tables turning. Shit testing overdrive.Learn to do so with a sense of humor and she wont care if you change the subject. | /r/askMRP | 15/01/19 04:40 PM |
| 2 | LTR tables turning. Shit testing overdrive.Friday she says she can’t wait to see me and I withdraw attention. You don't punish the positive unless you are a passive aggressive faggot. I get the thinking the uti is an excuse but her exact words were she couldn't wait to see you , so like a coyote you waited (not when you had the problem) and attacked when she showed her belly. Yuck. I said She said I said She said I said She said You have a fragile ego, the only way to defeat that is stop protecting it (GiveLessShits). And STFU already. I… | /r/askMRP | 15/01/19 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Remove the Man 2019I'm so glad Rollo got on this immediately. I was incensed before I even got through the definitions of the new guide. As I posted elsewhere (before I saw Rollo's post) some immediate musings right off the bat... I can't believe any sane modern American would take integration into our failing public school system as a metric for maladapted behavior. Boys don't thrive when forced to sit for long periods of time without break. The grade school my daughter went to was down to 15 minutes for recess. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/19 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is crumblingPlace it here: /r/askMRP And add more detail. And expect to hear "READ THE SIDEBAR BOOKS" as it's the best place to start and we can't effectively spoonfeed what you need at the moment. And if this is "sudden" (hint: it wasn't you just missed all the stops up until she decided to pull the trigger)...it's 99% probably because she found a new branch to swing to and doesn't want to miss the opportunity. Prepare yourself mentally that she at least fucked someone on this last vacation and filled hers… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/19 04:32 PM |
| 4 | What are some controversial topics you need to address before thinking of marrying someone?If a man is walking the wrong direction to an incorrect destination and hits a fork in the road... it'd be a disservice to tell him to go either direction. Questions like these presuppose that you can inoculate yourself from future problems with some clever detective work. There is no inoculation and like the roulette table or the stock market...past performance does not guarantee future results. | /r/askMRP | 08/01/19 06:36 PM |
| 1 | wife "ladies night out" with work friendsrepost on r/askmrp | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/01/19 06:28 PM |
| 2 | What are some controversial topics you need to address before thinking of marrying someone?What the? I... ..what "So I vet women by asking them right, guys? Guys? Is this thing on? | /r/askMRP | 08/01/19 06:17 PM |
| – | Wife is now making more significantly more than me...This type of post belongs on /askmrp . Repost there if you haven't gleaned what you need here. "How do I '?future?' and manage my emotions and goals with her stronger frame?" Is a man-cave a frame or a frame within a frame? How about concentrate on your degree so that you can land a good paying and/or fulfilling job and stuff down your girly worries? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/01/19 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Marriage without the Paperwork?We both have full custody of three kids, so six kids total, both divorced. I make $80k, she makes $45k. So... how are you splitting the bills? And certainly don't combine any accounts. Seems like a ripe scenario for that 50/50 b.s. to slide away into support. Whose name will the house be in? "Well she makes a point that I make more so why shouldn't she pay/buy less? I am the man right?" And if you're thinking you're locking her in on any level by this...please re-examine your motives and realize… | /r/askMRP | 03/01/19 09:20 PM |
| 2 | I'm (48M) getting frustrated with my wife (50F) --am I being too demanding, or not demanding enough?There is a lot of reading material for you that's been compiled on the sidebar. This is a pretty basic low SMV , low respect situation. She hasn't needed or worried about showing you any because she hasn't wanted or needed to. 2+2=4. You + her = bore. For future questions try /r/askMRP it's more for newcomers. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/01/19 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Damage controlI don’t remember this happening but I told a woman in front of my ltr that she was hot as fuck. That's not flirting, that's fawning. If it was legit flirting (initiated by her) that would be a plus. But you initiating overtly is weak and leaves you open to failure big time. You need them to initiate with you. You just drunk fawned hence... demonstrated a beta trait publicly. If I'm going to drink till I don't remember things...only male friends around to laugh about it later and uber home. You h… | /r/askMRP | 02/01/19 06:40 PM |
| 3 | The Wrong Way: Don't Be This GuyI would have assumed she was getting mauled by a dog. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/12/18 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How to translate Sun Tzu's Art of War into The Art of Marriage?I mean it's a good read, for fun, for attempting to apply to conflict management ... conquest... etc. etc. I don't think it'd take too much mental sauce to parse some wisdom where there is wisdom to gain. But I think it'd apply more to a divorce strategy in regards to marriage. If you're in a marriage feigning weakness to get her to commit to sending her strength into a trap... well then you're just a weirdo or role-playing. | /r/askMRP | 18/12/18 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Just realised that my wife makes absolutely no sense when she argues. What do you guys answer to "you hurt my feelings"?"She used the human flight mechanism to remove herself from the situation, therefore, you've done poorly" Perhaps this time...but not always is a woman walking off or going to slam a door a sign of that. Sometimes it's just passive aggressive stamping of feet. In this case I think the failure is the not recognizing the situation quickly enough and everything leading up to that what led up to the point he was goaded into saying something utilizable for testing. | /r/askMRP | 06/12/18 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Advice RequestI have finally come to the decision that I am going to separate from my wife and end the marriage of 20+ years when the state-defined separation time is up. Ok, great. Sounds like a plan. Skip to: just rip the band-aid off and tell her and let her deal with her own emotions. Yes. | /r/askMRP | 03/12/18 09:21 PM |
| 6 | Minimum age for OYS post on the main subWelcome. You found us early. Go post , Grasshopper. | /r/askMRP | 28/11/18 11:44 PM |
| 3 | Leaving Things Half Done - Shit Test or Not?It looks to me like she's leaving all this half done stuff in the way to see if I'll do it for her. Not to psych 101 this but don't ascribe to shit test that which may just be lazy. You're thinking too much about it and trying to get into her head space instead of dealing directly. Personally I wouldn't care if she delegated to the kid if he needs chores and can do a good job. Then it becomes between her and her subordinate... your xo still ranks above him. Don't pick up the slack ... if it's im… | /r/askMRP | 28/11/18 08:12 PM |
| 3 | How I fucked up onlineYou are not owning your shit. Start with this shit. And after 5 years... I guess since you put up with nothing she'll assume you'll put up with somehow feeling guilty you are seeking your need elsewhere? Why care? Have a frame, map and plan? On a long journey this could be the latter part of it if she doesn't start responding to true increases in your SMV...hence why it's at the top of the ladder. Sounds like you are trying to lazily skip everything in between, start over and just hope the next … | /r/askMRP | 28/11/18 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Imagine being so blue pill that you need help rationalising away obvious redpill truthsHere's how to boil it down: Would Mr 720 have successfully survived and passed on his genes in a century other than now? Not likely. Either he would have actually had to forge himself into a man or would have been eaten by bears and/or living in hermitage. Why feel sorry for someone who is alive to whinge and hand wring over "toxic-masculinity" and survive while being fully entrenched into the BP frame? His life right now is an amazing gift as no other age or era would have afforded his existenc… | /r/askMRP | 27/11/18 06:56 PM |
| 2 | [FR] - MargaritaBad? I'd call that established. | /r/askMRP | 27/11/18 01:44 PM |
| 12 | [FR] - MargaritaUncouth savage. What you are missing out on is a real margarita. Juice of 1/2 large or one full lime, jigger and a half of Agavales Silver (or other 100% blue agave tequila) and 1/4 jigger of cointreau). Salted rim. NO MIXES Then after you get that girlishness out of your system just grab a decent anejo and sip it on the rocks with maybe a lime on the rim for smell. | /r/askMRP | 26/11/18 09:11 PM |
| 13 | [FR] When the masks fall, will you dare to see the truth?Enjoy your victim puke. "Those grapes were always sour." Good thing you don't want them now, Mr Fox. MGTOW is certainly easier. But if you're going to go there I'd do so with more introspection and self honesty. AWALT means any woman saddled with beta-you over the years wouldn't have fucked you either. So yes, in that regards AWALT. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/11/18 05:55 PM |
| 6 | How do you manage income, savings, and spending in your relationship?A spreadsheet, a budget, a plan. If you have to hide anything you're not really in control of your finances or leading your wife are you? I manage the long term. She has a set amount to account for/budget on the 1st and 15th. | /r/askMRP | 14/11/18 02:58 PM |
| 5 | Is this unattractive?"NO BRO, YOU NEED TO STOP THAT SHIT RIGHT NOW AND GO ALL RAMBO ON HER!" Slow sarcastic clap. Hi askMrp, I don't have a problem ...is this humblebrag a problem? I'm going to outline all the things you strive for...then list out all of the things you say doing will stop the good things that aren't having a negative effect. You're either lying, a troll or over-analyzing. If the last..I hope your keep the internal second guessing to yourself. People who try to fix unbroken things end up breaking the… | /r/askMRP | 13/11/18 06:49 PM |
| 15 | Disrespectful during moveYou're not married, just started living together and this is the degree of fun and power struggle you are having already? Where is your abundance mentality in all of this? I told her I’d return later and if she was acting better we could get back to work. Eh. Why spell it out? Back in ol' billy beta days I'd call my wife the micro-manager because as sure as I was doing some sort of work...either on the house or in the yard, my micro-manager would come supervise. Helping with something and instea… | /r/askMRP | 08/11/18 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Comfort Test during string of Lazy/Slothful behaviorThis technically doesn't sound like a comfort test though which would be along the lines of "I'm just know you're going to leave because I'm such an inadequate ...<fill in the blank>". If you're putting in the talk time, and it's not time to A.A. or A.M. leading or probing questions are a good variant. If you're learning to fight your own inclinations to give solutions to her airing feels that's actually a good listener-person move and not really a pill-thing. Just more of a conversation thing. | /r/askMRP | 07/11/18 09:22 PM |
| 40 | LTR and recreation cannabis use on holidayBeen noticing a long slip and slide from guys here (and too many others supporting the distraction) of being entirely too focused on how to get wife to do x , how to get wife to not do x. WE LEAD BY EXAMPLE She chooses to follow or fall off. If she doesn't follow, you aren't her leader and you still need work or she's proving she doesn't fit your map. Entirely too much externalization here. We don't make her lose weight. We don't make her budget. We don't stop her from being an alcoholic. We don… | /r/askMRP | 07/11/18 09:10 PM |
| 7 | "Let's work on the relationship" : What does it really mean?Depends on the woman or her mood... Here's a list of things I don't like Things I want you to do... I'm bored , so this conversation is your reward You've been quite beta and accommodating lately...lets see how much more I can milk it... and by the way, since I can , you're kinda being gross so I'm going to treat you more like a little beta and while we have this conversation I'll think of more things to rake you over the coals about. You hear this opener and just realize you've earned it for so… | /r/askMRP | 01/11/18 01:00 PM |
| 4 | What does fmofy mean?For the sidebar challenged . | /r/askMRP | 31/10/18 06:42 PM |
| 2 | wife says, “I don’t know what game you’re playing “There's a faking before you make it period where this particular shit-test will come up. Keep striving for making it and it really doesn't matter. Do YOU think you're playing a game? What part of any of this is a game? Games are for unmarried PUAs. Once signed on the dotted line... nothing is a game anymore. These little silly statements are just a way to note she's noticed a change in behavior and dynamics and she's trying to make it fit her frame instead of adopting yours. It's a fishing exped… | /r/askMRP | 29/10/18 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Nuc or STFUCertainly. Seriously reconnecting with friends will help you and help with perspective. That alone can do wonders for your own resolve. She can either be along for the ride or beat herself up later about it. But I'd do what you can to be a good example. Of mom couldnt get her shit together and ran dad off who is now including them in a better life you cant help but know who they'll look up to and emulate. | /r/askMRP | 24/10/18 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Nuc or STFUYou seem new...so how are you on your style improvements and outcome independence? You've been doing this for a month now? The rule of thumb is a month per year pre red pill to expect real turnarounds. If your example doesn't lead. She wont follow. If you ask her not to do something and her response is essentially "fuck your noise" ... you are noise. Weed's not the problem. It's the focus. And you're helping keep it that way. You improve yourself and the rest will follow or fall off, whatever yo… | /r/askMRP | 24/10/18 08:34 PM |
| 5 | Is this blatant disrespect OR shit test?Dear rp... I was cross stitching with my girlfriend ...why was she sexting Chad but telling me they both share a love of quilting? | /r/askMRP | 11/10/18 11:31 PM |
| 5 | Frustrated...Just want to make an observation here: I traveled to South America and women don't act this way. There ARE cultural differences, but nothing trumps biology. The fact that you were A) probably more relaxed B) obviously ok enough monitarily to travel C) a novelty etc. all factors into it. To chase and quantify problems with women by region takes away from self responsibility. So you find you have to change your angle with the locals... adapt. And don't get sidetracked into thinking women in other … | /r/askMRP | 10/10/18 12:58 PM |
| 9 | The aha momentThe fact that you care is bad enough. The fact that you are analyzing it means you have no frame or map yet. Get on it. And you're breaking some cardinal rules of listening to words instead of actions and giving entirely too many fucks. I would wager... that your b.i.l. doesn't give a single fuck about much, which, if it mattered (which it doesn't) may be the only point you should take from this. A woman saddled with a beta weak sauce could compare him to a lamp and he'll spend the next week aut… | /r/askMRP | 08/10/18 03:18 PM |
| 4 | Advice for this new situation?I’ll add she recently had a friend who was cheated on when he went on a business trip and I’m headed for a quick trip in a few weeks that she learned about Wednesday as well. And? You mentioning this because you think it should spur some mate retention out of her or because you're worried about her insecurity? You see how both of those things are something to ngaf about? SpPoiLerS 1st is a covert contract builder 2nd is building her frame for her "I shouldn't do x because it really will send the… | /r/askMRP | 06/10/18 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know if Planned Orders will still firm automatically in SAP if there are firmed POitems further out?Yes, this isn't the mrp you are thinking, but this pace over here may hold answers to your questions. | /r/askMRP | 05/10/18 12:49 PM |
| 2 | Be UnpredictableYou can't demand respect... only earn it. What you've done is react uber-butt hurt and demanded that mommy pay attention to you. This screams insecurity and weakness. Unfortunately for you, you seem to think this worked or was a victory. Yes, prisoners usually comply at gunpoint, but they'll leave as soon as they can. Dominate in the bedroom... lead in the family room. You're an exemplary example of Poe's law here. Because you're so over the top getting this wrong and presenting as the straw man… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/10/18 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Be UnpredictableThis is thoroughly blue pill either by intent or accident. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/10/18 01:28 PM |
| 3 | For those of you who have been married for 15+ years and have never been divorced, what advice would you in particular give to a man considering marriage?Fair enough, but honestly if you haven't...that's the best thing you can do if you're thinking about getting married. Rather than just get a handful of opinions for whoever is in the mood to type out essentially what would be eye openers in the books. Cliff notes aren't always the best , for something so serious. | /r/askMRP | 03/10/18 01:02 PM |
| -2 | For those of you who have been married for 15+ years and have never been divorced, what advice would you in particular give to a man considering marriage?How about the only advice you need?: READ ALL THE SIDEBAR MATERIAL. | /r/askMRP | 02/10/18 08:24 PM |
| 3 | Act like a dude, get hit like a dudeSO was the Johnny come lately "Hey" guy (teacher?) just caught the tail end and wasn't there for when she started it? Everybody else seemed content to just let both sides duke it out up to that point. Even up to the point she started to learn about bone and muscle development differences between the sexes. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 01/10/18 05:30 PM |
| 2 | facial looks and improving them so you're not uglyWhat? You'll be like a magnet for meth-whores who will think you're holding. I say go more sallow and really rake it in. Seriously though..beard, and remain fit. Confidence, success and muscles will overcome a lot, and those things you can change. Even overcomes height as I see in a lot of cases, which is usually the Achilles heel for some guys. | /r/askMRP | 26/09/18 03:02 PM |
| 3 | Difficulty accepting my new reality.It hits most of us in the beginning. Another little early tip if you are prone to blow ups due to all the sublimated years of broken covert contracts is learn to walk off the moment you start feeling like laying into her and/or participating in a shit test to get out your fweels. Eventually you'll not need to as you get better with AA. AM and your internal noise subsides. And as a result your relationship will improve. At first because you're not there to fuck it up worse and later because you'r… | /r/askMRP | 21/09/18 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Difficulty accepting my new reality.Yeah, we all kind of sound like Sith lords here, but you really have to let the anger flow and channel it. But unlike creating purple bolts of lightning for evil you self direct it into motivation. Like others have said, it runs out, it subsides, it will resurface at times... you just have to learn what to do with it and how to direct it. | /r/askMRP | 21/09/18 02:16 PM |
| 6 | Older MRP: was it worth it?It is currently.* All deals results subject to change. Fees and mileage rates may apply. Shipping and handling not included. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/18 08:12 PM |
| 5 | What to do when LTR can't handle dread?So , when you were single and knowledgeable about rp, why did one lone single ltr plate win the prize? Plating is a vetting process... and if you didn't vet properly then why be surprised. If the issue really is her and not you... then next her and pick better . | /r/askMRP | 16/09/18 12:29 PM |
| 2 | [FR] "Lost" Frame for the First Time in a Long Time.So. What was the kid doing and why am I having to infer (because it makes a difference)? Poking you in the ribs or playing with an annoying toy? Was this a countermand or an actual message you needed to lighten up and were being unfun/uninteresting or boring? Regardless. Kids are going to push boundaries and when mine is feeling lazy and it's just the two of us I get more of the "mom doesn't make me/or care" type of spin when she isn't around and my response generally is always the same (to the … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/09/18 01:08 PM |
| 10 | Weird wife declaration - help me interpret this shitSo you figured you'd take your fat ass up on a bucket truck and skip to the higher rungs on the dread ladder? And wonder about the outcome? You dont 'play nice cards'. You don't make vague half ass attempts at initiation. You don't 'interpret words'. I really hope you're lying about reading the side bar material. How would you have time for this Dr Phil like pondering if you are really super occupied getting your life in order? "I don't want to waste your time" "It's not time I'm about to lay wa… | /r/askMRP | 11/09/18 10:58 AM |
| 2 | Fiance said she is over it, what to do?Applaud her for growing a pair. You fucked this scenario. If you're prone to slide , you'll always slide. Either never get into anything you care about lasting and party. Or find a party girl and the two of you can make some interesting fireworks. (and we'll get to see you on livepd). Or chalk it up that with alcohol you fuck up and find some other way to unwind if youre looking for a set of stable girl(s). Its hard to stay in shape at 40 and drink a lot though. So you'll always be trailing and … | /r/askMRP | 08/09/18 02:55 PM |
| 5 | I’m having a hard time leavingSunk cost. In a debate it's a fallacy , in life : a failure. Some bitches love saving losers. And once the loser starts fixing themselves there's just little for her to do. Hence the relationshit bores apart. You kicked the habit, now you gotta kick all the life that surrounded and allowed it. Maybe even thrived in it. But for whatever reason you gotta kill the puppy and move on. And really all your headtripping and self wallowing on here is gross. Get over that and make something of yourself. R… | /r/askMRP | 08/09/18 02:44 PM |
| 10 | Sick Wife - We cant have sex anymore because im going through menopause.Jesus fuck, dude. I don't care if you've been here a day or lurked for a year... besides being an omega do you just not have even a shred of self worth? Get all your shit in order, divorce... monk mode till you ensure your next dry spell will be no more that a week (when you have the flu). And more properly vet your women. How did both your ancestors make it? Could caveman you have defended her against a lone sick wolf? Or how would she have not been left for the next bear to snack on? | /r/askMRP | 06/09/18 10:11 AM |
| 1 | On My Wayand try this without dying Then don't operate heavy machinery or drive when tripping. I made nachos once, the microwave was probably the most dangerous part. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/18 01:16 PM |
| 1 | On My WayI'm ready to hang up my MRP handle. I'm ready to stop mulling over sexual dynamics and instead simply pursue sex, and life, unapologetically. To be clear about my wants and needs, my intentions and boundaries, and accept the acceptance or rejection other people have of those. SNATCH THE PEBBLE FROM MY HAND. Really , if people want to talk about goals of RP , it's to incorporate it into your life, make it be the new you and move on and it's no longer about you or RP...it's just you. There is no s… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/18 01:13 PM |
| 6 | How do I hand situations where my wife wants to sit down and “talk about our problems”?Smile. "Really?" Kiss... "You gotta stop watching so much Dr. Phil." Then walk off. | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 10:45 AM |
| 6 | How do I hand situations where my wife wants to sit down and “talk about our problems”?"But I AM talking to you...complaints ,however, must be written in triplicate and submitted to the head office". | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 03:46 AM |
| 8 | How do I hand situations where my wife wants to sit down and “talk about our problems”?she wants to “sit down” alone in a room. Face to face. No distractions. and talk about what’s bothering her about me. "Yeah hon...that'll be a hard pass. Thanks." If a wife wants to complain about you...fine. She just really needs to not waste your time doing so. That's what her girlfriends are for. Hey, at least she warned you and didn't just ambush you like most guys going through the new paces run into (although maybe she did since you got "drawn in" by her verbal expertise). But for sure if … | /r/askMRP | 03/09/18 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Financial prep for marriage?prep financially before getting married to protect my savings from being gutted in a divorce one day Well... if you live in a western developed country: you can't. So make whatever decision you are going to make with that in mind. | /r/askMRP | 29/08/18 03:37 PM |
| 2 | The NMMNG / Red Pill contradictionHere's the problem with conversations like that: They're easy to perceive (even if the intention is not) as approval seeking behavior. And you will expect some positive outcome which in turn is a covert contract. It's like a lingering sharing signal the author must just stick in his book in what I see as an olive branch to traditional therapy or some way to keep that apron string tied to his peers. Even a great book (full of diamonds) has the occasional nugget of turd. It flies in the face of ac… | /r/askMRP | 29/08/18 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Wife doesn’t want me to volunteerTell her the more time you spend with animals the better you can relate to her. | /r/askMRP | 20/08/18 01:05 PM |
| 2 | ShitttestsYou are giving too many shits on a lot of levels. Never directly "debate" a woman unless she's on a podium next to you during an actual debate. You lose you lose , you win you lose. Start watching a lot of quick witted comedians. Agree amplify. There's no one immediate answer to any one question without set and setting so it's best to just bone up on your giving a lot less shits and taking this all a lot less seriously. Be amused, be above it or be funny or relaxed. Save the debate prep for frie… | /r/askMRP | 20/08/18 12:59 PM |
| – | Who is behind the programming?Your question has META merits. But too much bait here and doesn't really help you dwelling on this stuff instead of improving yourself. It's scapegoating when you guys need to be looking at your own behaviors. | /r/askMRP | 14/08/18 03:03 PM |
| -1 | Who is behind the programming?Fucking no on mrp to /r/ conspiracy bleed and anti-antisemitism, fuck-tard. | /r/askMRP | 14/08/18 02:54 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Duty Sex Doesn't ExistSo are you using duty and starfish interchangeably? To me duty vs non-duty is more along the lines of how it starts. Ie duty being synonymous with maintenance. So maintenance vs spontaneous. What you are describing screams more starfish vs enthusiastic in the way I framed that concept. So maintenance could become enthusiastic the moment you start if you bring it. Spontaneous can become starfish if you don't bring the enthusiasm with you. Vernacular concepts aside...I see what you are going for h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/08/18 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Took off wedding ring - shit testFunny how things work out. But really if this therapy is for you, you may want to keep it just you. | /r/askMRP | 09/08/18 02:06 AM |
| 12 | [Guide] Home Improvement - Staying BusyThe day I need to look for additional things to do to the house... You work for home depot or just own the stock? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/08/18 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Choice: Baldness or Impotence?The moment my hair started to go I shaved it. And didnt even think this type of Sophie's choice existed nor would I have blinked. Working dick always > hair on head. Sheesh. | /r/askMRP | 05/08/18 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Line in the sandYour form is either out on your dl or squat. There should never be a point where you can out squat your dead unless you aren't squatting low enough or you're deading with your back and not your abs. Before you hurt yourself shell out for a trainer for a month or two. The upfront cost will save a lot in the end. She's playing an online MMRPG called imaginary affair. Whatever. Your best angle would be to shut up about it, and just monitor (clandestine) to make sure it only stays in cyberland. Espe… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/18 02:24 PM |
| 7 | Took off wedding ring - shit testFuck dude... you're a wreck. So first post you're wife is rationalizing why she's not attracted enough to you to bang you anymore and you're responding by just trying to bring her under heel and somehow bring about hysterical mate-bonding sex but making something she doesn't want less fun and even MORE obligatory and contract ridden. So we hear next time about some (very typical and common) misfires, misapproaches, faking it until you make it but still too fake attempts totally wrapped in covert… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/18 02:00 PM |
| 8 | Getting blamed for nothingTough crowd. Deering to basic shit test nets normal results. Fall off horse, get back on horse and learn from your mistakes. "our communication is shit and you never want to help me" "I think I know that song. How does the rest go?" ♫♫ Communication break down...it's always the saaaaame , I'm having a nervous breakdown! Drive me insaaaaaaane ♫♫ Sing my way back to what I was doing. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 08:09 PM |
| 1 | I'm a headfuck!How are you not reacting by purposefully doing what she doesnt like? Why arent you just doing things you need or want to? | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 02:12 PM |
| 1 | I'm a headfuck!She is saying things that cannot be ignored Like I'm going to shoot you in the head with this .45? Currently pointed at your head That would be about the flavor of things not to ignore. The other statements I'd translate as "You're interesting and keeping me emotionally engaged". The only oddball if you took it at face value is: "I feel like the connection has gone" But I'd wager she's going for the fragmentation grenade of trying to get a response out of you to fit her vision of you (keep you i… | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 01:55 PM |
| 3 | Am I being retartedMaybe you are just not speaking her love language! First involuntary snort of the day. Kudos. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Am I being retarted"I feel bad you're having to go through this without me there to lean on." NEXT SUBJECT. The best you can do is distract or not let her dwell if you're going to Skype. If she gets mopey, morose, or clam up...there's your clue the call needs to come to a close. I'm not sure how to get her to vent without being a Rambo or girlfriend... It's not an action seeking behavior. You don't actively seek that. Again, you aren't ...nor should want to be her therapist. Let her work out her emotions and you w… | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Am I being retartedRight, let her vent, but that's it. You don't try to fix the vent. Feel out the vent. Get the vent to open up more to let out steam (it comes with it's own relief valve). And you have to watch the meter to make sure that allowance of vent doesn't breach into emotional tampon territory. Trying to be her girlfriend means trying to get into all of the nitty gritty so you end up in the world of words and not action. Aka where her girlfriends fit in. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Am I being retartedYes. You shouldn't be, nor want to be her therapist. If you also keep trying to be her girlfriend via Skype the next three months she will definitely seek a man for the interim. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 10:32 AM |
| 15 | A few thoughts from an OGGreat post and how have I missed Anti-dumps posts all these years? Now I have to do some reading. My wife loves to shit test me when I'm high. Yep, when I'm trying to get my relax on, smoke a little weed and just contemplate life on my front porch, that's when she decides to come out and ask me all sorts of weird personal questions. Ha ha ha...ouch...yep. The bane of those of us who like to relax occasionally. I mean evolutionary it makes sense. Buzzed guy notices and is less effective against s… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/07/18 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Married woman wondering if I can post?I guess this makes me the one mod not asleep. Sorry, unless you're the masculine one in a lesbian relationship , no wives. Until a new mod consensus is reached and the side bar changes no ladies parking on the dance floor. Please post to /r/RedPillWives/ or wherever they're congregating now. | /r/askMRP | 25/07/18 06:56 PM |
| 7 | FR - Leave Then - 15 monthsThe moment you verbally tagged that you noted her bad mood is worth noting is the moment you cared about her mood and hence...were met with your reward argument and the negativity being transferred to you and off her shoulders. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/07/18 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Let’s try this again"Next thing you know my conversations consist of me basically asking people non stop questions about themselves...." That's what you got out of it? DC's book is great about making inroads, but that's just surface level ice-breaking. People enjoy talking and discussing things which are their passions (not always just about themselves unless they are total narcissists). I've sat and watched the youtube MRE guy where he buys and eats bits (if not all) of ancient rations. I have 0 interest in buying… | /r/askMRP | 17/07/18 08:10 PM |
| 4 | Constant fighting over where to eat.So take all this pleasantness and apply it to everything you do in the future. You haven't gotten to the cash register yet..are staring down and notice that the GI Joe you picked up has a missing arm. Through the visible part of the packaging no less. Not a broken off foot underneath the opaque cardboard. Do you buy it anyway? "Oh , I'll just tape it up when I get home. It wont be too bad. I'll get used to it. Maybe it will fix itself?" Or do you just walk back to the shelf and get another one? … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/07/18 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Wife wants feelings justified. How’d I do?I really need to concisely distill some of this into more generalized and practical application. It's been a while since I've contributed but I wanted to make sure I had something new to contribute first and so much ground has already been tread. | /r/askMRP | 06/07/18 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Wife wants feelings justified. How’d I do?Spontaneity can work out great. It can be all that you expect. But it can also not, and if you're not careful you could react to a covert contract you didn't realize you signed with yourself over it. You could take an indicator that the giving less fucks air you are putting forth is numbness. GLF's has a million flavors. And these are my own non-sanctioned way I look at the categories, again trying to illustrate MRP is a toolset you use to build your own house: the GLF I would hope we're all str… | /r/askMRP | 05/07/18 02:09 PM |
| 3 | Wife wants feelings justified. How’d I do?Maybe, if it doesn't come across as reactionary or butt hurt. Also barring not creating a shit situation to begin with (time constraint, but the only time saver is trying to pressure her into not shopping like a woman? And be the one in charge of keys and driving....). For RECOVERY if he would have realized at the moment he was being a "meanie bully head": I would think : to laugh at the door lock and shake his head in an "I know, I know manner" would have been a good move. Maybe joke about "Hey… | /r/askMRP | 04/07/18 04:01 PM |
| 22 | Wife wants feelings justified. How’d I do?How’d I do? Pretty shitty. But hey, learning from failure makes things stick. The MACRO: What does a wife like? A leader. What do good leaders do? Plan effectively. Why the fuck, if time is an issue, did you make it a date to go to the grocery store and then complain the date wasn't moving along fast enough? The worst use of time here is to not divide and conquer. You showed her with that first decision the time component was malleable. Then while you're there you tell her to speed up while you … | /r/askMRP | 04/07/18 03:33 PM |
| 5 | How can I stop feeling the need to explain myself all the time?Develop an inner backseat driver that sits on your shoulder that you need to check with before you open your mouth. Treat all questions as rhetorical statements until proven otherwise (unless it's so patently obvious you would look like an idiot not saying something...). Or statements you disagree with as pundit style exposition. Never get into theoretical discussions with her. Realize they enjoy the talking more than the solving. It's also always better to ask leading questions if you want some… | /r/askMRP | 28/06/18 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Promotion and Raise at Work, wont tell the wife... but issue.Note my quiet ass self, FT! | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 09:54 PM |
| 5 | Promotion and Raise at Work, wont tell the wife... but issue.See, this exasperation, you've reached the next level, 88Will88 . | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Question: how do MRP Men that are Providers deal with the fear of Alimony?She could also fear you may go fugue . Put all your money in cryptocurrency and catch a plane to a non extraditionary country and surround yourself with a harem of foreign women. But something tells me she's not losing sleep over it or planning her retirement based on that contingency. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/06/18 03:30 PM |
| 4 | Need advice on spouse's behaviourIf you've been doing your reading you should pick up on the fact that you're supposed to be watching actions and disregarding words. And she should be doing more of watching yours. This ladder is climbed one rung at a time as needed and long term results aren't generally instantaneous. What puzzles me is that she talks about long term future stuff almost daily IMO women will talk about what type of curtain would look good on a building scheduled for demolition so... really why put any long term … | /r/askMRP | 05/06/18 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Must haves and can’t standsBussiness major And yet that got past you. I don't know much about majoring in business , but I imagine it involves reading. Check sidebar/faqs for reading material. All explanations are there. I'm locking this so people don't waste time on responding any deeper so that you start lifting on your own. | /r/askMRP | 22/05/18 01:04 PM |
| 7 | Girlfriend's friend wants to visit and stay in the same room.Your girlfriend was his backup in case track-chick didn't pan out. Or not. But no need to trust if you don't tempt fate. Alcohol. A rainy night...flexible morals...putting her through the loyalty vs. faithfulness. Sidenote read /u/reddjive 's great "Trust" primer . You win chance games through luck. Or eliminating negative odds. Become the house. You kick out card counters. You sick a cooler on someone who's hot at a table. Take luck out of the equation. "No, I don't think it's appropriate ,he's… | /r/askMRP | 03/05/18 01:10 PM |
| 3 | KETO: Your shortcut to (part of) being attractive or how you can get shredded in 4 months.Also found you can jump start ketosis with a 2-4 day water-fast to begin. Also makes switching to intermittant fasting and low/no carb food a lot easier. | /r/askMRP | 03/05/18 12:30 PM |
| 2 | On Beards...This comes up with surprising frequency. Grow it, don't grow it. Whatever you do : own it. | /r/askMRP | 02/05/18 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Properly Shutting the Fuck UpIf you can't control your mouth... you can't control your emotions. If you can't control your emotions you can't effectively make decisions. If you can't effectively make decisions you aren't worth listening to. STFU , means STFU. Close your mouth. Don't react. Say less. A lot less, to the point of nothing as you are just adding to the noise. If you can't make a succinct point, you are just participating in marriage theater. So STFU when finding yourself in an argument. STFU if you feel like exp… | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 06:18 PM |
| 1 | I've lost all interest in women.Welcome to the new age. I would delete Tinder. Go monk for a month and then go out and meet women in a more organic way. When you turn something into a video game,you're bound to burn out. | /r/askMRP | 25/04/18 10:40 AM |
| 1 | OI vs. Checked-out AutistIs he a doctor? Sounds like a worthy voicemail to call back. Actually sounds like something I'd like to process off air as well. Once you get your ship in order , it's totally reasonable to answer the phone...whenever is a good time. If I'm at my desk now and can answer the phone I will if I'm not in the middle of something. And if you're at that place where your wife isn't just calling because she's bored then great... but until that point , when you're hitting the reset, you have to learn to t… | /r/askMRP | 24/04/18 07:20 PM |
| 2 | OI vs. Checked-out AutistStop overthinking. If this is your problem, just start doing things because they further your MAP. You have one of those right? Then all else just becomes a part of meeting or not meeting that and all this constant mental whinging needs to get tossed. Currently it sounds like every decision you are making you are weighing in regards to what outcome it will get you out of HER. Or side b of your brain is doing that while side A justifies it. Shit or get off the pot. Commit or don't. But calm that … | /r/askMRP | 24/04/18 06:26 PM |
| 2 | OI vs. Checked-out AutistThat's why space jesus invented 911. He might not be doing it for the right reasons but if he's having to back off constant availability and a devaluing of his time...screening becomes mandatory. Emergency=911 unless you're an omni first responder superman. Important=can leave a message he can evaluate the importance of.... | /r/askMRP | 24/04/18 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Physically sick after finding out my wife chats to men on a secret facebook accountMy vote is creative writing exercises for bored office workers. | /r/askMRP | 20/04/18 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Physically sick after finding out my wife chats to men on a secret facebook accountYour one and only question is why you feel sick when stressed and anxious. You found this obscure subreddit... but not google? | /r/askMRP | 20/04/18 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Can it be turned around?http://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index.compact | /r/askMRP | 20/04/18 05:03 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Alpha ClothingNevermind...here's a better one. | /r/askMRP | 20/04/18 03:07 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Alpha ClothingSeriously that was the most omega shirt I could find. | /r/askMRP | 20/04/18 03:04 PM |
| 6 | [FR] Alpha ClothingThey literally just lay down and spread as I walk by in this. | /r/askMRP | 20/04/18 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Wifes female friends.I super-applaud improvements. This is a component of improvement. Her friend's doing work for you. Take mental notes, keep doing what works. Disregard female chatter. If you're focused on you and confident about your MAP how do you even have time to give this a second thought? Besides no pr is bad pr for your changes. It's feels and focus on you. And in the end we always preach listen to their actions and not words. Women do this instinctively (watch your actions). So if your actions don't match… | /r/askMRP | 19/04/18 05:54 PM |
| 1 | I dont understandPretty sure it's clear you don't jump to the last rung on the dread ladder without moving up slowly and stopping where you need. RP is just a tool set. Some people need an entire toptul 7 drawer trolley as they've got nothing. Other guys just needed to borrow a 10mm socket and then fuck off. So not every tool fits every situation. IOW You don't read long posts about the success stories from the guys who come in... need a little work/shift, change for the better and find their happiness again and… | /r/askMRP | 17/04/18 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Question concerning Ltr + 1 childYour problem was not primarily with the money which was the problem. If it was out of the league money wise, then ... "OOooo yeah, we can't afford that." Is different than any implication you are scared she'll cheat on you. Which hits so many lack of confidence and ick buttons on her that she'll springboard into a shit-fitness test rage. Sidenote bridezillas seem to always push for expensive wedding related EVERYTHINGS so I think it's up to the participants to apply some pressure when it gets ou… | /r/askMRP | 30/03/18 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Married 19 yrs (40m). Lost frame and respect. Can i get it back?Sorry to hear, my mom (sole surviving parent) passed about the time I was 40 as well. It does some weird things to you in ways you don't realize but seriously...friends. Talk to, get some, hang around them. She's not it nor should she be, because it puts her in the role of consoling mother to the person supposedly running the ship. That's got to be uncomfortable. And just in that company you wont want to really have a pity party either (plus it's a good way to run off people)...just latch on to … | /r/askMRP | 23/03/18 01:14 PM |
| 5 | Mad at me for taking a shitYou.... wait for it... give too many shits. Flip on a fan though...what the fuck did you eat? | /r/askMRP | 23/03/18 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Does Red Pill work for gay/lesbian people?Pretty sure the "masculine half" of all relationships would benefit here. | /r/askMRP | 19/02/18 08:37 PM |
| 1 | "Author is Giving Writers $2,800 If They Write a Crime Novel Without a Female Victim" - What to make of this?So this woman has writer's block and wants you to do her work for $2800 that she can resell to Hollywood with the tagline :Totally progressive murder mystery. If you write a good story... hold out for more. | /r/askMRP | 14/02/18 06:57 PM |
| 2 | GF throwing comfort test. I'm not good at these.Once you admit to yourself you're a commitment whore...then you can then work on your problems. You have one life to live. Live it for you (and your children who had no choice but to be brought into this shitfest) and find someone who compliments it and boot those that complicate it. Happy Valentines day! How should I handle this ? Not rebound into a replacement relationship. If this is the one post divorce you're just seeking to fill a hole and any old pitch will fill it. Unfortunately pitch te… | /r/askMRP | 14/02/18 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Is my wife crazy or am I going ramboNot even close to Rambo...so no danger there. She's stressed because you wont lead and she has to with her shitty makeshift toolset (nagging, whining, bitching). Provide less options next time. If you leave things open to debate at this stage...debate is what you get. It's early. You're raw and soft. Time to grow a thicker skin and care -waythefuckless- about her moods/emotions and even actions at this point. Keep up the reading. | /r/askMRP | 19/01/18 03:36 PM |
| 5 | The effectiveness of the Five Love LanguagesThere's two great uses for that book. Use one (paper edition) Save your old dryer lint, and at least one egg carton (the molded paper mache type). Feed the entire contents of the book into a paper shredder. Now take the shredded paper and dryer lint and mush up small enough balls to fit into each egg slot. Melt old candles or some parrifin wax and pour the wax over the paper lint balls. After the wax cools, cut out each egg section and you'll have 12 nice fire starters. Use Two (kindle/ebook edi… | /r/askMRP | 17/01/18 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Feeling like lowest scum on earth.I swallowed the pill 12 months ago. Not really. You're fighting against oneitis for an unhealthy "flag waving" chick who cheated on you. That's just standard schmuck. Step 1: stop being a schmuck. Nexting her will make me look like the biggest asshole on earth. To who? She cheated on you. End of story. Other than you were sticking by her during her "in sickness" part so part of the story is her demonstrating her total lack of giving a shit about you (hint : she never really will in the way you t… | /r/askMRP | 27/12/17 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Ex-wife's dad wants to call meWe've never spent one second on the phone over the 20 years his daughter and I had been married. Weird. But I'm a scorched earth tie cutter. There's just too many people out there to spend time dwelling with people who I had little to do with in the past. I don't trust my own motivations for situations if I have to ask myself if something is off. So I default to "nope" and reassess later as a debrief if I feel the need. | /r/askMRP | 22/11/17 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Shit test, how should I have responded?The gravitational force of his gigantic balls creates a wormhole he can just reach through into the snacks isle at Publix while pushing up. | /r/askMRP | 17/11/17 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Friend needs immediate helpThe problem is you're here and not him. Maybe this will be the set of events that finally opens his eyes to how the world works and he'll be able to listen then. As for now, he needs to speak to a lawyer. Get his shit in order officially. It will hurt. But he's not going to go from beta to alpha through you. So as for you as his bud: offer advice when he's listening, help if it's the right kind and that's about it. Just want to reiterate: the man clearly has more to lose When you're at this poin… | /r/askMRP | 06/11/17 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Ticket seller [quip] that led to married kinship?Interesting bot or language experiment. Begone ye. | /r/askMRP | 06/11/17 04:13 PM |
| 9 | Wife addicted to weaponized sex; impending divorceSometimes you just need to put that puppy down. | /r/askMRP | 06/11/17 04:10 PM |
| 3 | What's the possibility of a "divorce explosion" in the near future?What I want to know is where will transdragonkinmorph marriages be in 20 years. And like, if a my little broney marries a genderfluidpokefurry, who'll primarily have childcub raising duties? Seriously though, every generation thinks the next is going to hell in a hand basket , then they die off and leave the hemming and hawing about their kid's weirdness to the next generation. | /r/askMRP | 01/11/17 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Should I "pop" a heavy question to my wife?5 years ago? Ask yourself: even if you blow your cool and ask her... how would you ever know? Console yourself (since you apparently must) with knowing she's capable of turning down alpha's (when you snooped) even when you were a bp wuss. She threw some b.s. college test at you with telling you about whatever vagueness situation and you passed (hint...if she had cheated she wouldn't have been talking about it in the first place). And you're different now. So act it and don't back-slide. Since yo… | /r/askMRP | 01/11/17 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Healthy response to mistakes and angerShe definitely treated it lightly in the moment it happened It may be her self defense mechanism to stress. Esp if later (after the danger has passed) she changes tone. I imagine if you lead her to the notion that you can handle a stressful situation like a boss she may relax her guard. It's like people who laugh at inappropriate stressful moments. Regardless this is a tangent... Control yourself and emotions and apply them with purposeful thought instead of reaction...then your rising tide coul… | /r/askMRP | 31/10/17 07:08 PM |
| 4 | Healthy response to mistakes and angerIf anyone (esp. the wife) offers you a sincere apology, what do you have to gain by not accepting it? In the moment, if she was cavalier a quick show of controlled anger could snap her into focus. But to rub her nose in it after is just showing her she might as well not bother apologizing next time. Or worse: dig in harder that she did nothing wrong as she has more to lose for making a mistake. You don't have to coddle her and make her feel like she did nothing wrong (like old you), but you can … | /r/askMRP | 31/10/17 06:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys handle living with a wife/teenager?The best way to heat the feet up is with vigorous sex. Or socks. Next time I'd apply one tactic or the other. If you pick the stupid battles as where to draw lines, then you're going to win the wrong ones. | /r/askMRP | 30/10/17 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Asking for sex in phase IYour body becomes a little lighter and airy, insubstantial. Phase two you can start to push through objects like white pine, phase three oak and drywall. The ability to phase 4 is to be able to step through concrete. Conversely the lower the phase the less knowledge absorbent you are. Ie. when you find this sub and think that instead of reading the sidebar, absorbing and applying things first you should just post every situation and ask how to handle it. | /r/askMRP | 26/10/17 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Doctor told me to stop squatting for this year - need alternative exercicesUpper body. Listen to your doctor. | /r/askMRP | 26/10/17 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Go alone or ask her?Lost 5 lbs so far, which feels great since I can fit into my skinniest pants again now. You don't have a large variety of pant sizes on hand then , 5 pounds would mean a lot if you're , what, a hobbit? So welcome...Frodo. "Hey, I'm going to go do X so you'll have a free gno." And to see... a musical...so it will definitely make having random sex with men in the bathroom easier afterwards. JK Maybe. If you mention you're a Judy Garland fan and I'm just going to call closet or troll as being your … | /r/askMRP | 26/10/17 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Notice that "mid life crisis" is mainly a female accusation?"How do I explain this inexplicable behavior? Is there a generic go-to-term that's socially sanctioned?" | /r/askMRP | 23/10/17 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Failure, not sure why [X-Post with RPC]the day after all this happened The more time that has passed between something happening and a critique of this nature (ESPECIALLY if that would appear to be different than how she reacted in the moment) I would take as bullshit rebranding to fit some other thought course she's going down... don't follow it. | /r/askMRP | 19/10/17 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Failure, not sure why [X-Post with RPC]I'm curious like /u/reddjive about the detail. About the situation It's one thing to become the party buffer and out AMOG by virtue. OR you may have gotten lucky by mirroring him and the guy , and group, seeing that his antics are playing to deaf ears just decides the prize wasn't worth it and grants the boon of leaving. If that mirroring really puts you so out of character it can't be explained by a normal shift towards being a better leader, I think it'll be seen as a gambled weak play that co… | /r/askMRP | 19/10/17 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Canonical Red Pill truthI'd say more Gambinos to Cosa Nostra. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/10/17 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Canonical Red Pill truthQuestion one of the FAQ: " Who are you? We are men that subscribe to The Red Pill (TRP) philosophy of sexual strategy, and in particular, applying it in marriage or in Long Term Relationships. This sub was created independently to address the needs of married men to discuss relationships issues. " We're a specific focus group. None of us would have come here without the main sub. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/10/17 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Why lock cheating posts?General rule is a thread gets locked if it turns into a non-productive off topic cluster fuck. If you've seen more than a few of those get locked then it would be from the participants in the comments getting too far off tangent. Certain subjects tend to fuel that type of engagement. So you may notice it more , because I don't think we tend to lock things much, on those prone-to-invite-debate subjects. A while back on mrp main there was a full on post arguing for the benefits of prostitution. An… | /r/askMRP | 18/10/17 02:07 PM |
| 6 | Update/Advice neededBut if you treat her like shitting on you is okay, it's going to disgust her even more. YEEEEEEEEEP. That whole floating a log of "let's take a 2 day trip"...really translates into: "Hey, I keep thinking you are beneath me. Let me test this out after all this crappy behavior by still seeing if you think you are low enough to eat this shit sandwich and pretend to enjoy it." And then OP bit down with interest (instead of laughing at the prospect) and proving her point. Next next next next next. No… | /r/askMRP | 18/10/17 01:39 PM |
| 2 | New sub, lose the faggotryisolos is still here! He posted the other day. Did his posts get wiped at one point? jackten had some long cerebral posts. The guy is a thinker. irate was here under a different name before. I think he's still here. When you're a dr you have to really cya so I 100% empathize with his comings and goings. I know a lot of these guys are still around under alts. I bet if you hold your nose, search thebluepill site for Cad references you can find archive links. They loved to hate him so much that the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/17 07:35 PM |
| 1 | New sub, lose the faggotryActually, I have no idea who we're insinuating here. Many guys lash out here. I always mentally refer to it as the argumentative-learning style. I find it hard to work with...usually I stop helping that type and they work it out with someone who can work with that style... or they can create an entire sub to deal with their need for an "opponent" to learn. I gots tight lips, but yes, we have received a forward of tit pics from a vet who really upped his game. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/17 07:13 PM |
| 3 | How do I approach this.First , a lease <> can't. Hell, for a lot of the guys here a marriage contract + plus kids wasn't a can't. Get any kinds of tangled things untangled , tell her, then don't renew the lease again unless she just leaves and you stay and can handle the whole payment. If she's not on board, cool. You were honest, to me it'd only be right to help her disentangle. Your half-ass commitment lulled her and now you will be upending that notion by trying to be correct and own who you are (for now) I think y… | /r/askMRP | 16/10/17 06:32 PM |
| 2 | New sub, lose the faggotryEh, IMO we're already giving this too much attention. Just like the other parody subs crave. Ignore. Agree, amplify GLFs. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/10/17 03:06 PM |
| 2 | [question] [anger] how to deal with BluePills?You can only live your life. It's frustrating when you feel like you've figured out something or found something awesome and every one else wants to continue to wallow in suck. But it is what it is. One day, if they reach the end of their rope they may come to you for advice IF they see your life as something they should try to strive for. Until then you may seed a comment or two...but really they wont hear it until they are willing to. | /r/askMRP | 13/10/17 12:07 PM |
| 2 | [FR] House chores & owning my shiti laughed it off Start killing that as your gut reaction ... But overall sounds like things went decent. While in the midst of delegating and "doing what needs to be done" I'd make sure to really evaluate if she needs to be upping her contribution. Otherwise some of her new money may need to pay for some house keeping services to pick up the slack. I get every girl has her perks and cons, but the last pattern you want to establish is that you are the house-boy while working two jobs. ANY-juan ca… | /r/askMRP | 04/10/17 01:40 PM |
| 3 | Read MMSLP and getting my shit togetherMy ego wants to start a fight about it think you hit the nail on the head that while he does it : she's picking up on a pissatude. | /r/askMRP | 04/10/17 01:33 PM |
| 3 | Falling down the rabbit holeBaby Steps You could gradually incorporate things... see how that goes, reserving Rambo mode for if that fails. You're only on your own timetable at this point. | /r/askMRP | 29/09/17 12:42 PM |
| 1 | She's shit testing me right out the door.Only way to know is to: Up your SMV% to the point where you are fighting off other offers with baseball bat (or not) and see how she acts. Where are you at in the looks, style, career and NGAF department? Why are you still sitting there after a minute or two of her running at the mouth? Hint: if her shit testing is making you MAD, then you're out of your frame , hoss. Time for OI If it's disappointing, well you have the right attitude but she doesn't see it yet. Time for OI If it's cute to you a… | /r/askMRP | 28/09/17 05:04 PM |
| 1 | noob question long shit test?is she upping shit tests and rolling them into this huge weeklong shit test to test and verify my new frame Maybe. Doesn't sound like you are having that much trouble, and you always expect some push back when you start upping your game. Certain aspects seem to garner certain tests. Nothing looks too out of place... keep on keeping on. Hard no? O.I., non butthurt. Doesn't matter the frequency. Just make sure to always make sure it's not LMR. As it's easy to start taking less as a hard no. If she… | /r/askMRP | 28/09/17 01:13 PM |
| 11 | help with situation tomorrow with wifes boundriesbecomes very tactile and super friendly with everyone when drunk and others see that and go for it . she says last time no one had spouses present so doesn't think i should show . she had boundary issues before when drinking and previously cheated (4 years ago, So based on the above how do you arrive at the statement below? Cant tell her not to go, as then shell be looking to rebel... Or maybe, she knows that she's crossing the line again and getting her toe up to it, and is checking to see if y… | /r/askMRP | 28/09/17 01:00 PM |
| 0 | DL4/5 questionresulting in dry vagina on Saturday and Sunday night I'm not clear...is this actually happening or you fear it will happen. Are you getting hard nos? Are you still initiating and building up? Being away all week would normally suffice. Really examine your weekend behavior. Are you just playing with the kids all weekend and dropped flirting? You just don't want to go off in the wrong direction. Also: if you have something you want to do with your friends then sometimes you need to get out, even i… | /r/askMRP | 27/09/17 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Caught her lying to me. Now what?Not. | /r/askMRP | 27/09/17 10:07 AM |
| 6 | Caught her lying to me. Now what?But, all I can do now is count the days till my I can stand back on my feet. And apparently obsess over little things. Rome wasn't built in a day. The unicorn woman who divests herself of social media wont ween herself cold turkey either. If you're bothered now, it's really going to twist your panties up when she creates her accounts again. She's lying to herself first, and had some sort of mid-year goal she's failing. Give entirely less fucks. | /r/askMRP | 26/09/17 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Opinions please, on how to treat her latest threatAt least she's honest with trying to force compliance through affection withdrawal. STFU. Ignore. A.A., A.M. A beard or not (if you're worried, which you shouldn't be) doesn't make the man, you make the man. And she'll be attracted to, or not to... the man. ...and I'm sure she consults you on her hair styles and choices of clothes. | /r/askMRP | 22/09/17 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Are low SMV plates even worth it?The two generally go hand in hand. Or should I say mouth in mouth? | /r/askMRP | 21/09/17 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Trial separation question.There are no trials. Never leave your own house. You have been reading rp for 9 months and didn't get this at least? I'm just wondering where you are at: This morning another shit test about our sons birthday, I wanted to invite my uncle and cousin. She said she doesn't want to see my aunty in a snarky voice. I said " you don't have to be there" She stormed out and left for work. Yes it sounds a bit nasty, but my wife will find issues with most people, and I am getting sick and tired of losing f… | /r/askMRP | 21/09/17 02:27 PM |
| 1 | LTR stirring jealousy? Shit test? comfort test?Then she drops this gem of a shit test: "My colleagues have been commenting about my new hat today". Ever read "texts are for logistics, humor or pre-meetup amping up tingles"? I'm pretty sure we say it here a lot. Like... broken record style. Why don't you have better things to do than text her back? Since you're already engaging in this, and if you're constantly chatty, she can tell herself (again who cares) you're butthurt. Commenting? "Like why are you wearing a hat?" jk. Gotta meeting/I'll … | /r/askMRP | 20/09/17 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good example of leadership?No surgery is without risks. Who is paying for this? Do you both work? I for fuck sure wont contribute to my wife putting her life at risk. Here's what you do: Get fit and marketable. Work up dread ladder. Once at top (Highly over SMV tiered compared to wife's perceptions) and she still hasn't stepped up (and you care...) then upgrade to better options. Advice <> leadership and only worth ANYTHING when the person seeks or values it. Make yourself someone she WANTS to follow. If her laziness is o… | /r/askMRP | 20/09/17 05:44 PM |
| 6 | Let my story be your lessonLight at the end of the tunnel! Thanks for posting. Couldn't have been easy. But putting all of that down helps solidify the "never going to be that guy again" mindset. Best of luck going forward. You couldn't have "owned more shit" than that. | /r/askMRP | 19/09/17 06:20 PM |
| 1 | For the love of God can someone explain to an autistic more on frame?Correctish. And I make it known I don't feel like talking about it and keeps saying come on! The part in bold can be expressed verbally (once) but after that, the proof is in what you put up with. She only now knows that if she pushes you ...that you will eventually cave. That's her worldview of you. If you want to change that...build something new, you'll have to make it know with action. Ie. "Well this has been fun" and you just leave if she turns into a broken record. Hold frame doesn't just … | /r/askMRP | 18/09/17 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Sperg recovery?We talked about it on another thread, but this would be a good time to mention the classic "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. There are situations where it's cool to not really strike up a deep convo, and others where you may have to dig if it isn't happening naturally...and you need it to. | /r/askMRP | 18/09/17 07:34 PM |
| 1 | For the love of God can someone explain to an autistic more on frame?You can think of frame in several ways. Which also ties into your MAP(male action plan). But a MAP can just be part of your building of your frame. So it's your foundation, your scaffolding... your worldview. How your family dynamics are. When you're mired in someone else's frame they fit the facts to support it. ie. Wife gets what she wants or there will be an unhappy house. Wife sees you as a sniveling errand boy, so when you don't drop everything you are doing and go get her a glass of water … | /r/askMRP | 18/09/17 07:26 PM |
| 4 | In a predicament.Seems like relationshits bleed-over or bored troll fuckary. Or legit idiot. Hard to tell the difference and probably why the effort to derail. | /r/askMRP | 18/09/17 06:13 PM |
| 4 | Help... Shit Test? Comfort Test?When in doubt it's never bad to not add any words/interaction to the mix. Did you like the homework assignment she gave you? That's a funny little power tactic. "I'll have that back to you collated and in triplicate by c.o.b. LOLday". She notes your withdrawal and is trying to keep you in her frame by having you invest time away from her with this activity. "Well, he's choosing to not be around me, I'll have him try to think about me when he's not around me and that'll be 75% as good". A good ru… | /r/askMRP | 18/09/17 01:19 PM |
| 3 | Input soughtWhy don't you start by telling a few random kids Santa Claus is fake first...see how that goes. This is straight up "how do I change her?". Worry about your actions. This type of pondering leads to pointless conversations of battling worldviews. You'll lose. Either by losing...or 'winning'. She'll rationalize her worldview to fit around your relationship if it's quality. | /r/askMRP | 14/09/17 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Will my SO always have lust for other men?Enough for what? Biology to not exist? News flash: Maybe there's a longer time span for Channing Tatum, but...eventually...a woman who he is with will look admiringly at another man. Maybe ...even fantasize about THE OTHER while Channing is plowing her. Maybe she occasionally wonders what it would be like if she had met John Cena first and had his hulk babies? People look. People are attracted to other people, people fantasize. People who say they aren't...are lying to you or to themselves and t… | /r/askMRP | 08/09/17 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Yelling wife shit test? There's a sidebar wealth of information that can help you. Instead of getting into shouting matches spend your time catching up on some reading. You're looking for a quick "right" answer to a minor battle when you need to be tackling the bigger picture if there is one...there really is scant detail here on what you've been doing. We're not Cyrano De Bergerac, you do the work and come back. | /r/askMRP | 08/09/17 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Covert contract?Do YOU want to go out? Is she capable of watching the kids without you? "Did you plan this?" "Oh yeah, it was part of my master plot. To ply you with relaxed muscles." Seriously the less you borrow trouble by worrying about things that may or may not happen or how they are perceived the less is comes across that you ACTUALLY had an agenda all along. Live your life, sometimes you do shit together, sometimes she gets a massage,and sometimes you need man-recharge time. A few of these will overlap o… | /r/askMRP | 07/09/17 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Found messages between wife and exA woman who is going to cheat is going to cheat. Yeah, maybe if you can stealth steer her away from a rainy drive home and "chance" encounter it's a good maneuver. But not overtly, as that is weak mate guarding. This interaction is mild. If it ever looked bad enough your gut would tell you it's P.I. time to CYA on alimony. Still, can be a massive distraction from your own goals. Sounds like you need to go up a rung on the old dread ladder. Women don't branch swing that see the branch is a lower … | /r/askMRP | 07/09/17 03:01 PM |
| 2 | SO overhead phone convo. How did I handle this?"so this is how we're going to communicate?" Yet another silly question. "Nah, thinking about smoke signals for next time." "In English? Yes! Who has time for foreign language courses?" Between us all here... Communication <> always mean verbal. Words can lie where actions never do. Obviously to throw jokes on a humorless audience becomes a waste eventually. Isn't that disappointing? You should act disappointed. Not mad when you leave. Because it is disappointing she is choosing to enjoy some an… | /r/askMRP | 07/09/17 02:53 PM |
| 3 | SO overhead phone convo. How did I handle this?She was playing hot potato and you lost by grabbing it and being the last to hold it. She was mad, you could tell she heard something and got mad , you could tell she then further snooped and didn't like what she heard. At that point, after lots of practice, and learning not to reflexively D.E.E.R. (at ALL, not just a one feint A.A.) you'll learn...to play it out and A.A. and A.M. are you best to go to followed by O.I. if necessary. I said it was probably my prostitute ,daisy, who I rent out on … | /r/askMRP | 07/09/17 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Need help moving on. GF of 6 years dumped me.Yep. Monk mode. The only thing to say about her is one day if you have made something else of yourself, she may want back in. But you'll know better by then and will be doing it for yourself and wont make the oneitis mistake again. You could always plate her later....much lower on the tier. | /r/askMRP | 07/09/17 01:45 PM |
| 5 | Found messages between wife and exThis just in: women seek validation from all sources and sometimes keep old flames on standby for validation. Also this just in: old ex's sometimes have a bit of oneitis pangs for your wife. /u/cholomite 's got it Make a place where she doesn't want to piss away her time elsewhere or is more concerned with keeping up with you. | /r/askMRP | 07/09/17 01:41 PM |
| 3 | I'm shitty but i don't know what I am responsible for after her leaving....Next time on Cops... Geez... a lot here dude. You're dealing with a shipwreck, not a ship that is currently steerable. You're half in half out. How can you plan anything or progress? You need to decide what you want. If it's just to have a relationship with your daughter, you need a lawyer, and stop getting advice from friends/family on what you need to be doing. She got her bachelor's degree almost 10 years ago in liberal arts. She wants to be a teacher. However, she CANNOT seem to pass the two… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/09/17 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Is How to Win Friends and Influence People really RP?Have loved this book for years. I'm due for a reread. This book houses a lot of truths. What you do with it is up to you and what you are trying to do with it. Having a large peer group over which you have influence is 100% rp. Realizing that people are generally all stuck in their narcissistic world view which makes you a better conversationalist (by essentially stfu and reinforcing what they want to talk about) is quite a skill to add as I think it helps with AA and AM, besides making you some… | /r/askMRP | 06/09/17 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Saving the Best - Just Not for MeUgggg. This is some serious sad cringe here. STFU , GLF's. Live in the now and going forward. Was she lighter when she was getting picked up and tossed around? Talk about diminishing returns over time. I like my back. Yay for her. Get a swing. She's telling you this because she wants and likes this kind of stuff. It's up to you to decide if YOU like that kind of stuff. My wife likes Portabella mushrooms, she and PreChad probably used to share them all the time. I tried them a few times. Not for … | /r/askMRP | 06/09/17 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys ever explain to your women why they are the way they are?When running low on fireworks...and want to still watch explosions. | /r/askMRP | 02/09/17 02:34 AM |
| 10 | Lost frame, embarrassing myself in front of friends/familyDa real mvp. OP. If you keep resisting some prodding , eventually they become uncomfortable or bored and stop. I always start with trying to be funny to let them off being an overbearing a-hole. "Madam, I do not PERFORM" said exaggeratedly. "I have a BETTER idea! You do X". "YOOU first!" <half the time when people, they like doing what they're pressuring you to, and want the attention so let them have it> Then either you'll come up with something funny and relevant or laugh and go "I was only ki… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/09/17 07:49 PM |
| 1 | This is not the start of my journey, but it's the beginning of owning my shit.I just went on a 4 day water only fast, just kind of as a food/drink/mentality reset. If you want to drop weight fast, and reset all of your food and drink switches.... water fast. You'll put some back on due to storing water. But honestly the more fat % the longer you can fast. This guy did it for 28. Trick: Don't tell anyone you don't need to. (if your wife plans meals she'll need to know). I had a poker game night and just told my friends on day 3 that I had blood work the next day (deflectio… | /r/askMRP | 31/08/17 06:29 PM |
| 1 | This is not the start of my journey, but it's the beginning of owning my shit.Please edit with some line breaks. Welcome, but this is a mess to try to slog through visually. | /r/askMRP | 31/08/17 05:55 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I'm paying for procrastinationI know the bar is set a lot lower on askMRP than MRP , but if your post is an aimless mess without a question or substance, it's gotta go. | /r/askMRP | 31/08/17 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Who has the final say over the kids ?People are addressing the parenting issue. I'd like to point out a different one : Avoid hypothetical dominance discussions based off of whatever you're interacting with (tv, 2 people talking, radio) like the fucking plaque. What a guaranteed prescription for a shit, fitness or in some rare cases comfort test. Also that's passively letting something else determine the time and place for a serious discussion, when you might be off-game. Do you watch TV so that you can flip into a debate midway th… | /r/askMRP | 31/08/17 01:55 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with future brother in law...Worry about what's in your sphere of influence. The more you shrink that sphere down to what you have ACTUAL influence over and it makes for a lot less stress. Start with the North Korean situation and work your way back to your maybe-not-ever brother in law. Manage your interactions with him. *Maybe advise your wife... then think no more unless you're interacting with him again. [EDIT] And the maybe is keep whatever advice short, to the point and sweet. Never debate. If she uses it to pivot or … | /r/askMRP | 31/08/17 01:02 PM |
| 16 | Female coworker complainingDo your job. Do your job well and better than her. Befriend and be well liked by all of your other peers. And be invaluable to your boss. Never interact with the problem coworker unless a third party is witness (obviously if you can help it and it is within your power), and only for business purposes on work related topics. Document all of your interactions. Including all of the supposed incidents, your managers response, etc. Don't worry how things come across in meetings if you know you are fo… | /r/askMRP | 29/08/17 03:11 PM |
| 2 | How should approach with and deal with her being angry,mad or feeling bad cause of something I supposedly doneI doubt you (based on how you're interacting with this person) will be able to work on yourself and put up with this at the same time. You're not married....NEXT her. | /r/askMRP | 25/08/17 06:06 PM |
| 2 | How should approach with and deal with her being angry,mad or feeling bad cause of something I supposedly doneCan't agree more. | /r/askMRP | 25/08/17 06:04 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with insecurities? "Where are you?" "Did you sleep alone?"You are giving her the gift of emotions. You aren't DEERing. She's focused on you while you are away. What's the problem? Her own hamster is spinning. It's up to her to stop. When you get back you could indicate your dismay at what a train wreck of paranoia lack of trust crazy she is without you around. "There's better ways to tell me that you miss me, Honey." | /r/askMRP | 25/08/17 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Failed a shit/comfort testTummy upsets <> cancer. She wanted a belly rub? You're new so she's probably sniffing out some changes and pulling out all the stops. Ignore. Or AA. "OK, but next time I have a case of the blastin' hershey squirts I'm going to need you to skip Bunco and stay outside the bathroom door. No telling when I'll need more TP. You know... a life threatening emergency." IMO There is absolutely nothing wrong, and everything right with being the nice guy when she's been warranting it and not abusing it. ak… | /r/askMRP | 24/08/17 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Just found you! Devouring the links on the right but I need help and I need it soon.To me (now) there's always a clear line between mate guarding and behavioral expectations ie. "if you enjoy being married, there's things as spouses you sacrifice...and that's going on double dates". When new I used to worry about everything being mate-guarding. But really, she signed the contract, too and its definitely inappropriate. She told him in a sideways kind of sidling into the discussion which indicates to me she knows she's moving off the grid. She wants to go, but feels guilty enough… | /r/askMRP | 24/08/17 03:05 PM |
| 2 | New situation in a relationship - how to handle it best?Are you just brainstorming here? You're 22 and she's 20. You're spinning plates. I'd say you're better served on TRP main ...even if written in the prose of /r/relationshits . | /r/askMRP | 10/08/17 06:23 PM |
| 3 | SO Having Lunch w "Ex" and Friend - best way to handleHere's an ugly truth to always keep in your thought process: If a chick wants to cheat, she's going to cheat. And the more obvious the situation then the less likely. But fuck all you can do about it other than push her towards it or force it underground. My wife wants a GNO and they go out dressed like Rocky Horror Picture show extras...with all their stuff hanging out? I applaud her and send her on her way. They decide to go out on the town after. OK. Are guys more likely to hit on her. Yep. I… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/17 06:05 PM |
| 3 | FR - Rambo at DL3? Oops... can I recover?You don't run into battle if a spork is your only weapon. You can't be game and want to pull big and ambitious wins sloppily and unprepared. You've probably upped the ante on a woman entirely too ready to call your bluff. .... and you folded. They gave you a layup, you probably moved too slow with the party-> to payoff and then acted butthurt when it didn't happen "organically". The whole situation might have been an elaborate shit/fitness test...but entirely too complicated and the odds against… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/17 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Wife says we need spaceNo sex for the past 3 years although our sex life had been dwindling a even before the marriage I'm hoping this is a rounding error. As you clearly illustrate. You are 100% mired neck deep in a situation where you are but an employee and you have someone who doesn't want to be the manager leading out of necessity who rightfully resents the piss out of you for it. You as the current YOU is not going to get an ounce or inch of distance in this scenario. You are obviously very new here. So... welco… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/17 12:44 PM |
| 3 | Always DEERingAll in all you need to stop trying to have the final say. Talk less. This. OP: You can't go verbally toe to toe with a woman. You have to learn when to tap out of talking. She's probably adapted her kung fu quicker than you. She's learned your pattern and can just wear you down quicker because you are trying to engage at a level you're not up to yet. Old pattern: Her talk you DEER. Newer pattern: Her talk, you AA, her increase pressure... you DEER. Now pattern: Her talk, you AA, her more talk, y… | /r/askMRP | 09/08/17 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Reading the sidebar on a Kindle"Hey, the benefit of having Kindles are we can both read them at the same time." If you ever feel like you're sudden caught with your pants down, just start dancing like you meant to. Instead of "Sorry maam, allowest me to delete the offending words from thine eyes!" Either way just keep on with it. The only additional shit-test you'll encounter (and now can be prepped for) is "What, did you read that in one of your books" or "Is this you or the books". Make it the new you. Indistinguishable fro… | /r/askMRP | 08/08/17 03:03 PM |
| 3 | The dating site avalanche effect. What if married women start finding out about this?You'd have to make sure it fits your persona. I'd always go for more a tease, I guess there's guys who know how to spin actual Neg, but I'd have to let them chime in. "You know 99 of 100 of those are fake employee accounts, right?" "You're surprised by masses of lonely people?" "Well, you must stay busy." | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one here who doesn't want sex all the time?I got to the point of using sex as litmus test ...to the detriment of my performance. We're talking year or two into RP. I never ever had starfish from wifey. One tired night I experienced what I read about for years. I realized I went in convincingly and tired. That's when I decided that I needed to step back and re-evaluate. Backing off, taking the focus off, that all led to improvements again. Again, it's just thing in a relationship like anything else. Get what you want. Everyone here talkin… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Is RP internally consistent?"Hey , I am using a hammer...why doesn't my house look like his house that he also made with a hammer?" Boil it down to this: Did you knowingly sign up for someone who wasn't what you wanted? Or did you change and they change in response? Can you recognize how you've changed? Can you change it back. 99 times out of 100 all RP theory applied in the right way will get you results. Ducks quack. Dogs bark. Guys come in and don't want to put in the effort or put in minimal expecting miracles. There's… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Is RP internally consistent?THIS GUY FUCKS | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Let's have a group hug and talk about expectations.We're not misogynists, we're certainly not advocates for rape culture, hell we're not even against women's rights and liberties. Dude, did you just D.E.E.R. for mrp? (jk) Everyone will experience varying pasta as we're all working with different sauces. Although it is still...pastaaaaa. I think the key is to recognize whats at play. Get the basic mechanics and start doing what you can and what you want. MRP or not, life and relationshits are a rollercoaster. Two fucking monkey brains trying to i… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 03:19 PM |
| 2 | The dating site avalanche effect. What if married women start finding out about this?what if a good chunk of married women found out about this? I don't think there's anything for them to find out. I think women instinctively realize , if they aren't the second coming of the female version of the hunchback of Notre Dame , they can find someone to throw down with at the drop of a hat. early 30's blonde, single, who was about a HB6 or 7. (...) Somehow the topic got onto dating sites/apps and she mentioned she had tried both eHarmony and Plenty of Fish. I asked her about the avalan… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one here who doesn't want sex all the time?Everyone varies. The question is always are you getting as much as you need? As I get older I go for quality over quantity. Was not always the case. I find if I abstain , then sometimes the reward is greater. But that's a personal reference point for me. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/17 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Update: Issues Integrating LTR into Friend GroupOr waistband under the back of your shirt as that is where you keep CONCEALED WEAPONS. | /r/askMRP | 03/08/17 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Update: Issues Integrating LTR into Friend GroupFrom what you wrote it appears the only thing you did at first that was an oversight was leave her unattended for an hour. Your friends may be idiots, they may be acting out,but was it really egregious or aggravated? Seems like a lot is interpreted by her and her insecurities. Some mountain building out of molehills. How was the conversation going in a way you couldn't exaggeratedly include her. It's tough to both be sitting at a convo and them ignore her and NOT you and you not steer it or join… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/17 07:32 PM |
| 5 | Update: Issues Integrating LTR into Friend GroupShe also shared with me her fears that this would be a repeat of the wedding, and we discussed signals and ways that she could show me she was beginning to feel uncomfortable. aka bringing you into her frame. :-/ I noticed some signs that two of my friends were purposefully ignoring and being rude to LTR. She noticed it too, and after it happened enough times that it was not an accident, she signaled that she was uncomfortable. We had already talked about what would happen next, so I knew the ne… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/17 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Being rude to me around other peopleOne day you will enjoy these moments. It's like opening the door for me to include her in the social ribbing. Doesn't hurt that MOST of my friends and family rib each other constantly so it keeps the edge sharp. Just always make sure it's light hearted with a smile and you can't be faulted for mean spirit. If she wants to take it further she'll just make herself look like an ass, and you to ignore her or care less about her antics. It's easy to help someone do that to themselves if they insist. | /r/askMRP | 03/08/17 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Fix her feelz?Here's an easy one that may sound comical, but those coming from massive BP land some may recognize. She's mad at you for something you did in a dream. BP Guy: ACTUALLY gets concerned. Fears her being mad at him. And in some sick and twisted way tries to apologize for the way her dream of him wronged her. If you think this is a joke, a strawman, or never happens... you haven't been or met the sad sack yet that I have and was. This actually spirals her into getting mad, turning this into real wor… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/17 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Don't you guys every get legit angry at your spouse?Your definition of legit is pretty low. You let yourself get annoyed or angry and show it over this petty crap and it's a major reflection on your non-ability to control yourself. What, specifically, did you have to repeat 10 times and was there no other solution than to rely on her for said thing? Or she will play detective and ask 100 questions about a specific topic I don't want to discuss. If I say I don't want to discuss that. It's 100 more questions to the point I want to agree and amplify… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/17 05:54 PM |
| 6 | Is Established Male Non-Monogamy the Cream of the Crop of MRP?She's so special and unique it's a conundrum right? It'll do your current kid wonders to add this on again off again daddy/mommy thing to their life. Definitely keep adding to the risk of an oops pregnancy by constantly dipping that toe back in a half failed state. You made all those improvements, not to be better and have better options, but to be more attractive to her right? I feel like she's writing to us from her assumptions of your point of view. If you get that last statement, you'll star… | /r/askMRP | 27/07/17 03:11 PM |
| 4 | SO is bitchy and disrespectful too often, should I leave?Set the bar low and you'll spend a lifetime tripping over it. Refine your screening process. | /r/askMRP | 24/07/17 08:07 PM |
| 4 | Pissy wife- ignore, or up the fun?Well, do YOU want to do some family fun things? I get it. But we can all fall into the trap of over analyzing and attempting to steer moods with carrot/stick. But err on the side of fun. Always. If she gets pissy THERE or whatever, deal with it then , but in no way should you keep from leading your family to fun because of what message you think it may send. If she's not immediately equating the two "We go to the lake or else", then don't start trying put them together. Outcome independence mean… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/17 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Come to my famlies' xyz event testIf your calendar is empty, and you generally follow along, then expect her to fill it. Also seems like you don't have a "legit" reason to NOT go other than "but I don't wanna go , mooooommmm." <her perception more than likely> And I'm not saying go fill up your calendar with bullshit. If that day is the day you truly just want some alone time, FRAME it as such. But do you resent her or yourself for really having nothing better to do? Need more hobbies? She perceives you as you let her and how yo… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/17 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Married to a Beta Husband - How Can I Ask For More Leadership and RP Attitude?... I can't argue with this. You can't lead this horse to water. It'll just have to be thirsty enough to drink and know about this watering hole. ie. the only way he'll come here is if he has a reason. or Where positive stimulus fails... negative sometimes prevails. If my wife ever has to truly "take over", even if it's a special occasion (and I stupidly take her up on it ... like "drink what you want, I'll drive us back"...<what am I? A rookie? facepalm>) she reflexively has her contempt levels… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/17 12:47 PM |
| 4 | Wife is spending time with her coworker during our "trial separation" want to stop handling this so poorly.Skip to the acceptance phase of loss. Don't rake yourself over the coals or essentially invite her to by continuing with the perception that you two will ever get back together. Get divorce, cut all ties, move along. Work on yourself for a while before you get involved with anyone else. Since you were together from 18 -> 30... you're really going to have to re-solidify your sends of individuality-without-her. You are essentially repeating a variant of how my first marriage began and ended (18-28… | /r/askMRP | 19/07/17 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Not sure how to handle this?She's treating it like an unspontaneous task or chore, because your initiation is probably either the same old same old that you always do (hence it's uninspiring, so she's going to prioritize it with the rest of her to-do list) or it's lacking in some other way. If you're wanting or expecting more, you're going to have to put in the effort to inspire it. ie. If you're coming in hot and heavy and she throws some cold water on it, you're either not as hot and heavy as you think or it's time to ig… | /r/askMRP | 12/07/17 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Daughter is being plated. How do I stop it?A mistake made and learned from is worth a billion words from someone else pleading for prevention. And emotional pain is quite the cement. Although kids can come to stupid conclusions if unguided and cast their guesses in concrete. You have to guide the lesson after the mistakes, but at least if it was painful, it will stick. Take out the jargon (really not difficult as the jargon had to be learned in the first place), ask leading questions to get her to fill in the blanks... you want her to co… | /r/askMRP | 28/06/17 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with reoccurring angerWell... if you keep associating the things you do expecting it to change her mood, instead of because they need doing, it's still a covert contract and will come with the negative feelings you get from having that broken covert contract. No matter how far along, you can always be a victim to your own mind tricks and internal dialog. Next time, go somewhere else and chill. Try to do it before you have to make a comment or blow up. I myself have recently experienced a resentment filled blown cover… | /r/askMRP | 21/06/17 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Gentlemen, I need your counsel.The only thing with interaction you do to a hamster already chugging away is give it more fuel. Starve a hamster, feed the cold. The ferber method. | /r/askMRP | 22/03/17 01:21 PM |
| 2 | What little things can you do each day so your wife isn't bored?I find I'm not boring when I'm not bored. And save things that are not boring to you but boring being around you doing (hint: video games) for when you're by yourself. Other than that...try not to perform-to-entertain the easily bored. "Madam, I am not your dancing monkey!" Jesting=good, being the jester=bad. | /r/askMRP | 21/03/17 07:23 PM |
| 0 | Gentlemen, I need your counsel."My wife sent me an article" the link indicates the gist ...and you still read it? I'd mull on that. | /r/askMRP | 21/03/17 07:16 PM |
| 1 | How much sexual history to disclose?The past is the past. You talk about it and it becomes the present. I'll regale something if it's funny. Rarely. And really, the longer you're married...the less shits either of you should give. Newly dating/married young people seem to carry around this insecurity. The quicker you get over it, the need to think about or talk about it... the better. | /r/askMRP | 16/02/17 07:37 PM |
| 1 | help me understand how to handle her feelingsYou have to show her whats important by what you focus on. Or not focus on. I imagine you have a pretty good gauge on what you know is a real issue or not. Investing yourself and taking on her emotions is not your issue. I'm sure she gets sad when she can't get you to take on her sadness. So Be positive throughout and Listen Evaluate If it's more-of-the-same-ol' then: A.A., or slowly steer away from the subject. If she starts to get pissy or resists and wallows, find something else to do, somewh… | /r/askMRP | 16/02/17 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Learning to un-fagPositive results <> instant success. Mixed results = normal and headed in the right direction :usually:. Really, if you're talking a lot up to and during initiation, try to express yourself non-verbally. Sounds to me with the long kiss resistance and commanding in the sack is that she isn't comfortable with surrendering to you. Yet. The secret to this ... is stop giving a crap. She may be happy or unhappy that you're turning yourself around. Might be more happy at more sex, but still not who wit… | /r/askMRP | 26/01/17 09:14 PM |
| 4 | Wife won't have sex bc of electionIf real, the "no dunked erection b/c of election" is simply an excuse/symptom. How transparent. Women will bend their ideals over backward for the right man. And slap a beta silly for deviating from her approval. | /r/askMRP | 23/01/17 07:39 PM |
| 3 | A Question on "Rudeness" and Avoiding Shit Tests"I'm pissed, so stop pretending like everything's normal and just going about your day." You want a man of such greatness to SINK to the level of normal? OH I'm going about my day all right. You just watch me go about it. It's going , see. Lots of about... about it. Whatever stupid shit you send , you either don't respond at all or one thing like the above that purposefully shoots down her drama with I could give a fuck and am in a good mood humor. My wife was talking about some molehill of some… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/17 03:51 PM |
| 3 | redirected to askMRP and rightfully so...Nothing kills attraction like your constant presence. Time to cultivate some hobbies and outside the house interests.. | /r/askMRP | 20/01/17 03:38 PM |
| 7 | Interrupted While Talking - Shit Test or No Big Deal?Sometimes my wife get's super pepped and pumped up and excitable where she uncharacteristically will blab my ear off and cut me off. If she's doing it unwittingly and just part and parcel of being a chatty woman, I'll make a pointed joke about it to not embarrass her or tone down her excitement. Last thing I want to do is be a wet noodle on emotion. During a test or down phase if it's because she's feeling like wearing the pants , disrespecting or overstepping then I'll let it happen a few times… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/17 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Ending scheduled sexThere's a lot of wordy responses here. Valuable...but really: Initiate when you want. Stop paying attention to what day it is. If she initiates then you take it whenever or expect biological fitness fail blow back. If she uses the day as an excuse not to, then treat it like a lmr , you'll push past or get a hard no. Get your head space out of the false dichotomy of her frame of "scheduled vs. unscheduled". | /r/askMRP | 19/01/17 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Used text for logistics and in doing so, delayed a fight she wants to have. Assess my strategy.I'd have probably responded with "Why would't we keep it in the safe?" or "Isn't that why we have a safe?" <then ignore anything thereafter> Plans are great and all, but the more you try to anticipate her behavior and have specific responses , the more you may get standing speechless if she goes off script. Ie, this is approaching covert contract as you demonstrate with the "if she pushes". Be in a good mood. Be unflappable. If she's bitchy I'd definitely steer away from having comfort-test base… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/17 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Spinning the hamster or just being a jerk?Mountain out of molehill. "Errands". "Really boring errands." or "To get shirts." Try not to frame normal every day information exchanges as shit-tests. It's really easy to lose perspective and start overthinking every interaction. Especially if you're out of the first few feet of woods and things are going better. And this is not to say that there is nothing wrong with a playful answer to begin with. But if you start to smell the wind turning really shoot it in the foot. Her: Where were you las… | /r/askMRP | 18/01/17 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Defending your wifeMy friends have the go to phrase of "chick shit" when our wives/girlfriends disagree. If we weren't involved we don't bring it to our table. Likewise I'm a huge pragmatist in if I didn't witness some emotional exchange or argument , then I have no true opinion on what really happened. In the rare instance if advice from me is explicitly sought (ie. I'm not just there to listen), then I'll try to emphasize what I say is only with 1/2 the perspective. And when it comes to emotions you'll never eff… | /r/askMRP | 18/01/17 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Owning up to your beta pastWhile verbal situations call for word play... in the end you can only demonstrate to people who you are with actions. You keep being who you want and that's how people will see you. It doesn't usually happen quickly. You can speed up neutering anything by developing amusement about it. In the meantime, surround yourself with an air of unflappable positive self-outlook projection. The less shits you give about what other people think of you incorrectly and they'll eventually have to get on the bo… | /r/askMRP | 12/01/17 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Owning up to your beta pastEveryone was different in the past, for better or for worse. If you've moved on, you're the new you. A simple A.A. but no truer response to any dredging of it up by her would be to smile and say "Good thing he's gone" or "Good thing you're not married to THAT guy" Another's perception of you is what you own, when they define you even with light probing. Let their definition slide past. Any reactionary (especially defensive or angry) response gets interpreted as OWNERSHIP. | /r/askMRP | 12/01/17 03:27 PM |
| 1 | So this happened and not sure what to call itIt's called "Improvement". Keep it up. Also, so long as you aren't graphic... worry less about demonstrating you and your wife are sexually interested in each other in front of the kids. Better for their psyche to be grossed out but know their parents are in to each other than non-grossed while their parents are cold and distant. | /r/askMRP | 03/01/17 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Don't want to be a social retard anymore. Need help.You are living the definition of giving too many fucks. She's not a bitch for doing what any wife AWALT would do when confronted with being married to a man with a fragile ego. She probes it. Then she probes it publicly. Thinking of it in that light hamstrings you. You value yourself based on HER valuation which in her eyes is cheapening your value. Take a breath. Stop caring so much what she thinks. Listen to some old Patrice O'Neal, Bill Burr and others in the vein of funny, cocky, confident. … | /r/askMRP | 03/01/17 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Because why can't we be the ones to laugh at subreddit drama too? Deadbedrooms and TBP get into a spat."simianSupervisor 21 hours ago Depends on what you mean by 'remove.' In general... yes, by shadwobanning. That way, they aren't aware of the 'ban' and can't just create a new account." Who can't tell from the first post or comment that they've been shadow banned? Log out of reddit, go to url. Is it there? When I would post over there, depending on the day even stripped of jargon the message would receive either upvotes or downvotes. The day the tally stays at one... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/12/16 03:25 PM |
| 0 | Odd change in behaviouru/mrpthrowa 's hunch was the same as my own. And / or she could just be hoping you take it up first THEN she'll feel ok doing it on her on. So it could be now, or she could want the option later. Also a nice way to get you to do something actionable. I'd tell her sure, I need that in writing. I, however, still hold you to the binds of our marriage agreement. In other words: I can fuck around ? Fine. Make it non-actionable. You, however? No. And if it's not really about me it's about you (of cour… | /r/askMRP | 23/12/16 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Wife acts like a bitch, should I stop ignoring her?You're worried about individual bullets instead of the gun firing it at you. You need a broader view and set of goals. If you're seeing each individual interaction as a battle then you're going to fight at every step. Rise above all the petty shit. Do shit you need to do, ignore what's fluff and that's all. Any extra is out the window until things are how you'd like it. And this: Should I tell her anything about my thought process? Why the fuck would you do that? A good way to start getting poli… | /r/askMRP | 22/12/16 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Lifting and Vulnerability (for the New Guy)Limping proof. I probably could have gotten away with normal stretching and warm up had I ramped up smarter and took plateaus to let my ligaments catch up... I basically have to double it now thanks to a torqued shoulder, almost-lumbar hernia, stretched lcl, and wonky ankle. So if you don't pay attention over 40 and slow down, your body will certainly do it for you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/12/16 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Short Positive FR plus Leadership Question.Now my whole week is controlled and going to be stressful "Ok , I'll correct my mistake" It's an A.R.I.C. Attitude Requested Instant Cancel And then no more thought afterwards. I remind myself the moment I start putting effort into something special and overboard to check my contracts. Women have expectations that go beyond what you could even imagine as a normal entitlement factor. They can ecstatically appreciate things you do when they are vying for your commitment. After commitment you wont … | /r/askMRP | 20/12/16 09:50 PM |
| 5 | Field Report: I ended itNow spin plates.... profit. Don't be a commitment whore. | /r/askMRP | 20/12/16 03:13 PM |
| 16 | Shit test or comfort test?If I'm confused ... I err on the side of manly. Protection from danger is one of the oldest biological drivers for a female to seek out a mate. If it's a clear case of compliance/man-ipulation. Ie. "I need you to hold my purse in Bed Bath and Beyond to protect it...then no. But guard me late at night in a situation she can't avoid? Do it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/12/16 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Newbie fuck up FR"Suggested we try non-intercourse sexytimes hand job in the shower" If that was your approach... | /r/askMRP | 01/12/16 09:36 PM |
| 5 | Text from my wifeHow would you have responded? I wouldn't. PS: Apologies via text are cheap. I accept apologies in person. I >note< potential apologies via other forms but that's about it and unless I see it in person it's not worth the thumbs that sent it. | /r/askMRP | 28/11/16 03:42 PM |
| 3 | For those of you who have mastered MRP ideals, how often do you get BJs?You win. | /r/askMRP | 25/11/16 10:59 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with competition from other guys?Sometimes you have to spell it out. | /r/askMRP | 18/11/16 04:36 PM |
| 7 | Coming after tripThis is actually a good thing as she is certainly looking to you for leadership. The problem is you're attacking the problem after the fact. You need game plans and contingencies for your absences. You need to prep the kids that if they treat her like the substitute when you're out of town there are going to be real concrete consequences when you get back. Start coming up with recent scenarios and go over them with her. Have avenues of communication when she needs them with you, but plans she ca… | /r/askMRP | 18/11/16 04:26 PM |
| 1 | If AWALT when can one reasonably expect to see a different sexual attitude from her.I came to rp from deadbed. They had nothing to offer but more useless socially acceptable helpless advice (or commiseration). So it had been a dry spells of 1-2 years at a time broken up with shitty or drunk sex for about 8 years out of 10 of marriage at the time. After the inital RP change sex was several times a week. Now it's dialed back to once or twice a week. She's always non-starfish now when we do it. But by no means are we screwing like porn stars. I initiate with actions. She'll occasi… | /r/askMRP | 18/11/16 04:18 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with competition from other guys?When women make sure YOU notice THEY notice a particular man there's a gambit of reasons, most ...not what you generally jump to. They are self validating If their story centers around how a guy commented on some positive attribute of theirs...it boosts their ego. It validates their worth in the SMV world. Etc. They are telling you because of the next point or because they want you to see they have worth others notice. We all like validation but women NEED validation. They are attempting to make… | /r/askMRP | 18/11/16 04:01 PM |
| 4 | If I STFU, aren’t I just tolerating disrespect?You can only earn respect, not reason it into existence. You don't participate in petty games if you don't want to play. You communicate with action not words. ie. Communication is not always verbal. You can't step into more shit if you stop walking in it. You can't put your foot in your mouth if it's closed. How many more of this crap do you need? The best way to test this all out , rather than reason ahead of time why you shouldn't...is to put it into practice by doing. You're disrespecting an… | /r/askMRP | 16/11/16 08:41 PM |
| 1 | MRP hazard: When IDGAF becomes too realHmm. I feel like I should make some demonic wail as if summoned from a pentagram with all the mentions. There are things that are being true to yourself and goals and things that are reactionary to the selective way we choose to view the world. I'm for self honesty. I'm for balance. I definitely don't think blaming others for how one reacts and feels is a good base for building who they are and what they want to be. Me, personally? I feel like bailing on children when you can spend extra effort … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/11/16 04:17 PM |
| 2 | I need ideas for non wife activities on weekend nights.How to hobby. Manly hobbies. And my personal favorites: play in a band, woodworking, martial arts. | /r/askMRP | 04/11/16 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Teambuilding tonight, told LTR I was going, she got pissed and left, what should i do?Go. You're still living in her frame if HER O.I. is dictating your response. If she was supposed to be responsible for something and it falls apart she should feel the burn for shirking her responsibilities. | /r/askMRP | 04/11/16 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Followup to wife smackdownSolid introspection from a self-aware frame beats 100 pages of someone else's advice. Also, if you're formula feeding you may want to check the formula. My daughter had bad gas pain as a toddler. We eventually had to go all the way up to the Target's up and up brand gentle formula (purple can) , avoid the soy if there's a soy variety. It cured nighttime "fussiness" which was actually her having gas cramps. And if that's not it: let the kid cry it out. They can't even come close to being cognitiv… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/11/16 02:17 PM |
| 15 | Birthday weeksWhew. Get that out of your system? Next year: bake the cake yourself. You're letting the cake represent more than...cake. BITCH DON'T RESPECT ME ENOUGH TO BAKE A DAMN CAKE! Be in charge of your own happiness and wants. As for her birthday weeks. You're either participating because you like it or a willing enabler. Pick one. If the former: who gives a fuck? Don't do it because you expect it to be reciprocated. You're a grown man , like you pointed out, right? If the latter. STOP This is one big g… | /r/askMRP | 03/11/16 08:24 PM |
| 2 | Wife rarely shit tests me... or am I missing it?I don't see the argument. I see you explaining the conclusion so there's nothing to comment on. The thing is : I really cant point a finger at what would be my problem If that's the case... and we don't have specific examples of issues from you, what is it you would like from us? You work on a farm. I'd imagine "If something ain't broke don't fix it." has been known to you for some time. AWALT does not mean AWATS (all women are the same). It means given a certain situation and setup, women will … | /r/askMRP | 03/11/16 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Wife rarely shit tests me... or am I missing it?Think back on your last disagreement/argument. What led up to it? | /r/askMRP | 02/11/16 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Was anyone else a little disappointed with No More Mr Nice Guy? At least the chapter on sex?Move on to the Sex God Method. NMMNG is good about identifying your own weak spots and overcoming your baggage and bad habits. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/16 05:58 PM |
| 2 | How many of you regret marriage?But you can't turn back time. Being married might have save me from being hit by a bus in 2008 when I was stopping by Target for diapers instead of driving to the local bar to pick up a plate. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/11/16 02:25 PM |
| 2 | "Apologize, just apologize, why won't you apologize?"It'd actually consider it closer to a fitness test wrapped in shit tests. Best way for her to check if you are sliding (even when the apology is sincere) is to demand ones where they aren't warranted. Just keep on keeping on. And don't slip into DEERing about apologies, which looks like she could curve you into. Work on fogging, diffusing, ignoring and A.A. if it comes up again. [EDIT] an example if those were her exact words "...why wont you apologize?" replies: why is the sky blue why is such … | /r/askMRP | 02/11/16 01:46 PM |
| 6 | What's the best approach to saying "I'm leaving you"?Actually doing it. Words are an invitation to change a changeable mind. | /r/askMRP | 31/10/16 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Main event"Just had the most fantastic bowel movement! No pain from the hot sauce last night! <3 <3 <3" | /r/askMRP | 31/10/16 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Main event/u/saint_chalet told you: She's on a business trip. You are unemployed. Let her do her business, you spend the time getting employed. Get some space and build yourself and your life. Stop doting on her. In one of your comments: Oh and a side thought, I have been developing a social life while she's on business trips, and that has been causing dread, so I think that's why she's trying to keep me with her on these trips. Sounds to me like the answer is obvious. Don't. | /r/askMRP | 31/10/16 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Main eventFYI: Stomach aches = hand job. She's tired = missionary. Just curious what was nice about she texted me some nice comment about how she got a good seat on the plane The hearts? Sounds more like just chit chat and her talking about how great something was for her. That really affects you 0%. Wait a few hours. Then give a thumbs up or "Cool, so you wont have to elbow anyone. Have fun." Then that's it for a while. | /r/askMRP | 31/10/16 03:43 PM |
| -1 | I guess this was a comfort testWell 20/20 hindsight and all... you could have hugged her during her "Airing of her faults" and said "There there, baby. So long as no one else knows how horrible you are it can be our dirty little secret." and laugh it away. Just like shit tests, comfort tests still involve a line and bait. It's just they're fishing for something different. They still cast it out, and it's YOUR reaction they're gauging to see if what they're throwing out gets any attention. You getting internally cold and angry… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/16 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Main eventThen she tells me she wants some time alone on her iPad upstairs. "Just an FYI: Higher quality cams than an ipad will net you better pay for your performance." Then she starts going on about how I always go up there to have a protein shake to "check on her." "All part of my evil plot. Also sounds like you have a guilty conscience about something." then chuckle as you leave She immediate gets pissed and says she'll get the damn cup while I pull out the car. Great. She got the cup. Who cares if sh… | /r/askMRP | 31/10/16 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Need help with hamsteringNot sure what you mean by hamstering the subject. Hamstering that you aren't up shits creek at the moment? I had left my house in mid-Aug Ok. So you are separated. She's done what you should have by splitting the accounts. You are working your way to divorce. What do you want at this point? An amicable post divorce life with good visitation? To win back the harpy? What was there before all of this went south? There can be no game plan without a clear goal to shoot for. I'd say at this point you … | /r/askMRP | 31/10/16 02:11 PM |
| 3 | Tips for dealing with a wife who has deep sensitivity issues with her faceIt doesn't take acne for them to do night time routines that screw with plans. My wife hit some milestone where certain times of year she grandma's the fuck out of her face for bed. (and body...some of the creams and ointments smell like death). If I'm feeling frisky a lot of times I'll just preempt her routine way before she'd normally start: "Hey, don't get all ready for bed yet. But be READY for bed." or some variant of actions and words. | /r/askMRP | 28/10/16 04:42 PM |
| 3 | FR: Newbie I can't believe how good this works.I find that exercise and lifting can really help calm and even out an unquiet mind. Sometimes meditation works...but depending on your mindset if you're not doing it right it can become an unfruitful session of you sitting there thinking. Work out your demons. Don't show them to others. Stop getting in the way of yourself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/10/16 02:56 PM |
| 1 | "You view me as a sex object and child caretaker, not as a wife"You did fine. Or AA like the others have said. Start drilling it into your head that your wife not only is testing you but thinks outside of her head in general. Think of these thought experiments as just fly casting in open water. So long as you don't take the bait , they'll not hook you. The moment you step in front, well, she got a hit and knows this'll be a new fishing hole. | /r/askMRP | 27/10/16 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Update: negotiated BJWelp. Sometimes it's good, no matter what we say, to see the real life examples play out. Now you can start getting ahead of the curve instead of just being reactionary. Tip: if there's ever another situation where she's doing this unenthusiastically have it not be a standing ordeal. Be laying down , and her head towards your feet. Then you can access her trigger areas and amp her up. Gotta take charge even in supposedly "one sided" situations. | /r/askMRP | 27/10/16 01:30 PM |
| 0 | "I Left The Love Of My Life I Thought I Could Do Better. Now I'm Alone And Childless At 42"The root problem is... if a guy goes beta OR they feel like their SMV is too high in the relationship then AWALT women will just tell themselves the fire outside the frying pan is really warm and cozy and will answer all their needs. Then fling themselves into it and lament the burning sensation later. Where was her empathy? How is it possible anyone familiar with the required reading would think she'd have it for a beta or lower branch man? Where was her loyalty? Where the fuck am I? What is th… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/10/16 08:04 PM |
| 5 | Can I become Alpha without becoming someone I don’t like?It's a common misconception that red pill is about taking the raw you and stamping you into an Alpha Mold® . Really, IMO it's about finding out where your problems are and hammering you into the best you that you can (and want) to be. That can and sometimes will involve changing your deeply entrenched blind spots and becoming... different. But you're not here if your SAME is working. For me it was not really becoming different so much as relearning who I was and AUGMENTING. And if you don't thin… | /r/askMRP | 26/10/16 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Can I become Alpha without becoming someone I don’t like?One of my best friends growing up is a fine arts professor now. He's skinny-fat. At most he like to hike and walk. His attitude makes him masculine. He gets a lot of college p thrown at him. And not for grades. His classes are generally easy. I'm at an age where I have to lift a lot smarter and lighter. I can push it to a point, but with a pretty bad knee, questionable shoulder, and near hernia I can't squat and deadlift like I used to and have to just replace with high rep. The key is to be hea… | /r/askMRP | 26/10/16 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Custody realityWomen have an amazing capacity to overlook anything in a perceived alpha. My niece chalked all of her boyfriends accusers as being false, jealous, etc.. So when the s.w.a.t. cops knocked her door down to apprehend him for molesting another kid she was just a "victim of deceit" and shocked. Shit made the local papers it was so egregious. You'd think a SOCIAL WORKER WHO WORKS WITH ABUSED KIDS radar would be spot on. Nope. | /r/askMRP | 26/10/16 03:39 PM |
| 2 | FR: follow up to 'I have nowhere else to post this'Good call, was going to point this out as well...since he's going to be paying for something up front... she'll likely hamster out of in on the back end. And oh good lord...the butt hurt to overcome will be tremendous. It doesn't take a high IQ to think of all the ways she can approach it. "You REALLY think you can just use me for dressing up?" "You thought I was serious?" Will be a total harpy on the day of payment. Thus making him not want to collect. "Hookers do things like that. I can't beli… | /r/askMRP | 26/10/16 02:58 PM |
| 1 | FR: follow up to 'I have nowhere else to post this'Since you're bartering sexual acts, you should get payment up front. Then wear what she wants...but fuck it up with a little something. Switch out your tie for something loud... anything. Then when she complains point out you should never barter sexual acts...and it's not your fault she paid up front. Ha ha ha ha. Really dude, it might be great she's doing something sexual , but it's not good it took an arrangement to do it. Next time you want a bj, instead of it being a bj...she'll be thinking … | /r/askMRP | 26/10/16 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Custody realityShe is also the one that is currently dating a sex offender that committed the offense against a minor. I would seriously try to solidify bringing that in presentable form to family court and/or the guardian ad litem if one is assigned. | /r/askMRP | 26/10/16 02:24 PM |
| 1 | 911: Marriage near perildo it out of court if possible. Fuck NO Courts may not be your friend and the legal SYSTEM may currently penalize men more, but in the end a legal document may be the only insurance you get of having a decent relationship with your kid and not getting killed on support. Print out YOUR credit report and hers (you'll need her ssn). Grab as many docs you can about accounts, finances, child care. Make notes about what you do. Up the amount of parenting you do and set up a consult TOMORROW if possibl… | /r/askMRP | 25/10/16 07:11 PM |
| 1 | 911: Marriage near perilWife wants to "trial separate", I don't. Hate to say it but the >I don't< part doesn't matter anymore. Talk to a lawyer. Get a good one and shop around if you must. Find out your local laws...don't assume you're in a no-fault state. Even supposedly no-fault states still can have stipulations that affect your assets if she's aggrieved you...say , by cheating. So I'd get a P.I. or get some surveillance on her stat. Worry about you and your relationship with your child going forward. I would get as… | /r/askMRP | 25/10/16 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Trying to go slow, fucked up and got into a mini main event.Jesus Christmas... please read Rollo's most recent post. | /r/askMRP | 25/10/16 06:37 PM |
| 3 | How To Balance Leading vs Withdrawing Time and AttentionThe problem that I'm having is that I have been making plans for us every weekend (which is exhausting) in an effort to lead entertain and placate to the point where she has come to expect it. Don't confuse being a leader/captain with being an entertainer/cruise director. You're also creating a monster and tying a giant covert contract bow around it. This is no different than chore play. Use entertainment planning to create fun and a relaxed environment for the both of you, but dial it back to r… | /r/askMRP | 25/10/16 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Wife's been testing me a lot; today was the old "Wake up call" issueLearn the art of texting back the occasional symbol. I like the thumbs up. Or, download some funny gifs or images for standard other emotions , like the crying baby... etc. Then use sparingly. Yes, at first, it's a good rule to be logistics only. And treat all tests via email with silence. But after that there's no reason not to use it creatively. I do like the thumbs up though. It's a good "acknowledged but not typing more than that" kind of message. And if it's just babble afterwards it's a go… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/10/16 07:09 PM |
| 2 | She wants to go to Puerto Rico without meNot really crazy about being asked to repeat myself. I feel like asking for clarification when it's pretty clear is another subset of having trouble being decisive. | /r/askMRP | 24/10/16 03:14 PM |
| 1 | She wants to go to Puerto Rico without meActually see my comment response to Archwinger. Since you've added a bit more information on other comments my take is a bit different. I think you're setting yourself for a higher chance of bad times due to you not being decisive. Make the decision. Then either go or wish her a good time. | /r/askMRP | 24/10/16 02:17 PM |
| 2 | She wants to go to Puerto Rico without mehaven't been able to due to me not having an American passport yet /u/RuleZeroDad pointed out he doesn't need a passport From a comment: She isn't preventing me from going, she'd like me to go. Going with her friends is her solution to me not going. This all seems to stack up to wishy washy lack of leadership and decision making and her having to prod him to make a decision. He's not setting himself up here well by letting her decide. At this point he aught to book a vacation there with her pron… | /r/askMRP | 24/10/16 02:14 PM |
| 1 | She wants to go to Puerto Rico without meI'd pick Colorado over Puerto Rico as well. Tell her to have fun. Have fun yourself. Punch down any outward displays of jealousy or g.a.f. I get you feel like it may open up more opportunities...but if a girl's picking NOW to cheat on you then there's nothing you can do to stop it, and only make her feel more justified by being such a "possessive jerk". The NOW could also just be some guy she just met at work and banged it out in the broom closet. Nothing says don't watch her behavior though. Se… | /r/askMRP | 24/10/16 01:57 PM |
| 1 | She wants to go to Puerto Rico without meI'm unable and was never really too enthusiastic about Puerto Rico in the first place Hence why if she wants to go, it'd come across as nothing but guarding if you inject yourself or prevent her. Any reason you don't have any guy trips planned? | /r/askMRP | 24/10/16 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Went to strip club and told wife. Beta feelz coming on.AHHH the Clermont! I heard Blondie retired. But this time I'm finding myself really caring that she's upset with me. We can't always control what bugs us. Just how we outwardly displayed it. Sounds like you muddled through well. And honestly the longer you do this the less things will bug you until you're bewildered when your woman has a resurgence during one of your downturns. Even a couple years in my wife will surprise me one way or another and I have to control myself. Or not...and deal with… | /r/askMRP | 18/10/16 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Dread post on others getting divorced?I stop hypothetical questions when I know answers are no longer taken hypothetically. do you think they will be better off apart "Guess we'll find out" if she presses "How would I know? He could get hit by a bus next week because he wasn't going to his old house. OR he could win the lottery , because he went to a different gas station. Life is funny like that." Unless you like fueling hypotheticals that turn into comfort tests. Not every question requires an answer. IMO that type of "dread" is n… | /r/askMRP | 18/10/16 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Creeping Disrespect and Testing the Boundaries of TolerationWedding bands are a great thing to look at when you're thinking about marriage. Sure... you could humorously think of them as a cuff or shackle, but humor aside what stands out to me is the circle. A loop. A loop that as long as you have it on, you will need to remember the cycle of repeating patterns a marriage provides. You can choose to get off and back into the wider circle that surrounds a single man's life. Twirling plates , having some fall off and be replaced. But a lazy (or temporarily … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/10/16 07:30 PM |
| 2 | If my wife sees me as a beta loser, does it really matter if I treat comfort tests as shit tests?If testing becomes an over-focus point for you, shift your mindset and concentrate more on you and how to improve as your own person. This will be instead of gauging everything in the light of her actions/reactions. You're in it for the long haul and overall. Don't get so caught up in every interaction or detail. If you have more important things to worry about, how could you G.A.F. about little exchanges like the above? How would it even cross your mind that the myriad of things you do to make … | /r/askMRP | 18/10/16 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Lesbian Red Pill (FR)Awesome. Thanks for contributing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/10/16 01:37 PM |
| 6 | Gullible moron being played?LOLz!!! I actually chuckled out loud when I read that. Well, there's no where to go but up from here. You could safely consider this rock bottom. Definitely start with "No More Mr Nice Guy". You've been letting her run this show for years, she just blasted your leg off...and you're asking us if we think a band aid would help. Please start here. You're going to have to dig yourself out of many layers before we can start worrying about specific situations. | /r/askMRP | 17/10/16 08:44 PM |
| 3 | Gullible moron being played?You'll probably never know. Welcome, you're obviously new (or at least I hope so) and have no idea where to start. Try the sidebar reading material. You're in the zone. The beta-zone. In the future: get evidence or stay quiet, and please stop with all the outward signs of insecurity. Whether you have something to be about or not. Ie. you clearly give fucks. The 50 million dollar question is: why didn't you go? | /r/askMRP | 17/10/16 08:33 PM |
| 1 | conspicuous consumption or prudent money managementdamn right it's my choice, and no I was not looking for approval, just thinking out loud So can we assume that's just what you're doing here and move on? Decide and move forward. | /r/askMRP | 14/10/16 07:31 PM |
| 9 | Is this suspicious or am I just paranoid?It's probably nothing. But, if it's easy to stealth monitor.... monitor, or maybe even if it isn't easy. And here's where I sometimes go against the textbook mrp standard , since, well..your future is on the line. I'm a firm believer that given the perfect rainy night, any girl will let someone oops into her depending on a lot of other factors. Most guys, too. There's being confident, and there's being neglectful of your investment. You've traded your life for exclusive access to sex. I still ch… | /r/askMRP | 13/10/16 02:33 PM |
| 8 | The Value of Maintaining a positive frame especially for new guysI used to lament as an old beta bucks.... why can she get mad, lose her temper, and be in a bad mood, but I can't? We're in charge and if we lose control, it means things aren't just wrong with us, but we wont be able to deal with the world around us. When she's lost her reason she gets to check out of responsibility. It's the intrinsic benefit she has of topping out at emotional teenager. And it doesn't matter if you know all the right things to do, if you do it negatively it's going to be an e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/10/16 01:28 PM |
| 3 | What, if any, are the applications of these theories to a lesbian relationship?You're not the first... paging /u/livelikealesbian My purely observer take is certain things need tweaking, but it really depends on your role/energy in the relationship. For lack of a better allusion: Yin/Yang if you're the yang to her yin. MRP/RP principles apply. If you're the YIN, well, you'd be on the receiving end of the principals. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/10/16 06:08 PM |
| 5 | Need input, hard to stay the course with pregnant wifeIf this chick can do this , and she's still showing up for work why can't your wife do dishes, cook, or childcare...Cinderfella? You're setting up a bad pattern. Use your brain. If she doesn't have Preeclampsia and/or is bed ridden what makes you the defacto do-everythinger? Don't set yourself up for failure. Start reading the sidebar with WISNIFG and NMMNG. Nothing changes in my mind other than you have to be a little more flexible and default to removing yourself style O.I. as her emotions wil… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/10/16 06:01 PM |
| 8 | Dungeons & Dragons DreadSo essentially, since starting your following abilities have improved Name: Dr_Harden_Thicke_MD Class/Level: MRP/2 human male STAT Modifiers Str +2 Int +4 Wis +3 Dex +1 Con + 4 Cha + 6 Saving throw Modifiers Passing shit test +5 Pass comfort test +2 Pass fitness test +4 Added Skills O.I. N.G.F's Inventory Attorney card of Panic +2 (1 charge remaining) Spellbook Cantrip: Confer with male hive mind. Lvl1: Summon Succubus of fist bumping | /r/askMRP | 12/10/16 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Simple question for the group. But more importantly thefamilyalphaSadly I have a friend who is getting a divorce , his wife was cheating on him. Was pretty shocking but from what he described he was a pretty typical "nice guy" with her. Anyway, found her cheating, then hired a P.I. and has solid proof of her infidelity. My state falls under the "Misconduct Must Have Economic Consequences" variety and is not a no-fault state. | /r/askMRP | 06/10/16 08:13 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys think of MtF transgenders in women's sports?It seems tangentially related. Nope. | /r/askMRP | 06/10/16 05:10 PM |
| 1 | I went Rambo and I think I've nuked it.You are being judged for thought crimes. Your problem is not that you have these (which everyone does and would get pushed further and further towards in a negative relationship), but that you gave her ammo she was fishing for to disqualify someone she's not attracted to enough to be wanting to have sex with. STFU, make yourself desirable... emotionally, physically and in all the ways we say. She has to care that you would be pulled away from her by another woman. Not just use the thought of it … | /r/askMRP | 05/10/16 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Think I am in "a" Main Event & FIGPSo was correcting her mistake and embarrassing her necessary at that moment? Not saying it wasn't , if for example, you were making active plans with these people that these other plans impacted. Or , were you just correcting her in front of her friends on something that didn't really matter and you could have told corrected her in private about. How did you go about it? You'll see women more readily change facts to fit emotions. If they're all in the midst of some inconsequential emotional inte… | /r/askMRP | 04/10/16 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Simple question for the group. But more importantly thefamilyalpha"Hey , I noticed one or two of your guys didn't walk out on their wives back in their beta days so all of your current opinions are invalid". D.Y.E.Logic? Tip o' the fedora to you, el dipshito. My wife cheating on me would grant me a big no-alimony pass as a goodbye present. | /r/askMRP | 29/09/16 06:26 PM |
| 10 | Been RP for years but I finally need help with one.Get your pension. Don't trade the future of your family's life for the end of someone else's. I'd certainly allow for a lot of travel. And maybe if it looks really bad, plan on her being gone for the last month. If he manages to make it to year 5 then I'd maybe look to move there if it's good for your family. And regardless of diet or habits, if he's a man of salt, he'd want his grandkids' future to be of utmost importance as well. | /r/askMRP | 22/09/16 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Even if you're Brad Pitt...My takeaway: they were together for 10...no issue. Get married and 2 years later: divorce. Don't fuck with something that isn't broken. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/09/16 02:09 PM |
| 4 | Does growing up with a sister diffuse some blue pill dispositions?My older sisters filled me with incorrect approaches in how to date. Basically they'd go out with whatever alpha sparked their fancy, then relay to me the things they got pissed about later and then tried to drill it into my head to "do or not do". I must have heard "hold the car door" and "talk about what you're thinking" ad nauseum. Now looking back it's a good reminder what they want and what they THINK they want being two different things. | /r/askMRP | 13/09/16 05:21 PM |
| 1 | My first field report - 2 months inGood progress. Bonus, it gets her insecurity hamster running that "something is amiss" in our relationship - which it is. I thought you were going off with this bullet point until I got to your punchline. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/09/16 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Can Red Pill save my marriage?Thanks. | /r/askMRP | 08/09/16 01:24 PM |
| 1 | I want to spend time with a wife that ignores me without seeming needy....but... that IS needy. | /r/askMRP | 08/09/16 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Dominance application questionAre you the child's father or a nanny in her employ? Being a father means just that. And generally speaking it falls to us to be the disciplinarians as women get worn down by fatigue or resort to yammering at them which is ineffectual. Unless, of course, one doesn't see a massive correlation with problem children coming from single moms with no dad in the picture. Start reading the sidebar material, you're really at the beginning with this. | /r/askMRP | 08/09/16 01:18 PM |
| 5 | Insecurity / Self LoathingI like unconventional approaches. And in the end they make sense to my little brain. You are a big , semi evolved shit flinging monkey on a speck of dust that can be taken out by universal indifference in a matter of seconds. No matter how much you're worth...you still mathematically are netting a big whopping worthless. Even time will erase your accomplishments if it wishes. Start there. You are worth ONLY false temporary value. So just concentrate on enjoying life, and bringing enjoyment to th… | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Opening op the marriage, I think the point was missed6 Months, probably spent a good month crying, 3 months working out and being a man again, then 2 months practicing game. Then, since his cougar CC wife wasn't interested, he found a younger, tighter version. This was my takeaway as well. HE upgraded. Which men do all the time... so we don't write articles about it. So I think you're spot on. The guy went or was always beta and let his wife openly cuck after he was paralyzed realizing it was too late to man up at this point. Then he went back to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/09/16 08:03 PM |
| 1 | How Do You Guys Keep It Straight With All The InformationLike anything else: train until it becomes second nature. | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 07:22 PM |
| 5 | Fatty Mcbutterpants (AKA American Women)Girls protect territory. Girls judge your social mv by how social interactions go, not necessarily who is on the other end. Get every sea cow this side of the equator wanting to chomp on your twinkie. No attention at you is bad attention. It's all good. Your wife is judging threats based on YOUR standards. What if suddenly she came to the conclusion you'd dump her for a chick who's a little chub , but sweet as pie? You think she may change her attitude a little to make up the difference? And ALL… | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Fatty Mcbutterpants (AKA American Women)DAAAAMN | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 02:11 PM |
| 1 | How to keep face after a mess upOwn it, learn from it, and resolve not to repeat it. Project that. | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Shit tests, STFU vs. Legit Complaints"You (who slept in a different room) left the air conditioner on all night while the other window was open! You air conditioned the neighborhood!" THAT explains why it's so nice outside. or AND I hope they appreciate it. or I felt bad for all the sweating squirrels. "You left the sprinkler running, it looks like a swamp out there." Wanted to try out my new duck boots. Do we have alligators yet? I was hoping to bring some in for sausage. Marshes control erosion. Much more environmentally proactiv… | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Therapy or divorce showdown... part II.. too much STFU...Another thing I did was kick her out of our bed. I find it hard to sleep with her when we are fighting and not having sex so when she came to bed at night I immediately played dumb like we were on good terms and initiated. When she hard no'd me, I casually told her that I wouldn't be able to sleep well with her in the bed and asked her to sleep elsewhere. Every time she huffed off to sleep in another room. Who ended up butt hurt from the hard no ? Her. Que? This was a dumb move. If you dga(f) yo… | /r/askMRP | 07/09/16 01:45 PM |
| 59 | "We think it's fair to say that every married gal gets a little antsy on occasion". So begins this Yahoo News article that is chock-full of redpill truths.18 is a magical number in some states that guarantees alimony for life. Gee, I wonder why she picked 18 years. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/09/16 01:19 PM |
| 1 | FR: The Infallible FallacyHow does this add value to my life Sometimes the mere reduction of a negative just that. Not necessarily a straight positive. But a gain nonetheless. And stop moping. That's probably what she's after in her own way anyway. It's what she's interpreting you recent interactions as. Nothing gained with brooding over a situation outside of your sphere of influence. So he's going. Now what are you going to do? Morn privately then get on with it. Can't fight off cave bears and pump manly jizz into her … | /r/askMRP | 06/09/16 06:58 PM |
| 5 | FR: The Infallible FallacyImmediately, she asks, "Are you mad at me?". I say, "No. Not at all. I am just upset about my friend moving and everything that's happening". See to me that's already too much "sharing". You threw a little drop of blood in the water. "Are you mad at me?" "Should I be?" "No, you know you're acting like you're mad at me?" "That's weird." FOG, AM or AA. Sharing any kind of weakness with a woman gets you on a spectrum of pity->fitness test. You want nothing on that spectrum. If you start to feel lik… | /r/askMRP | 06/09/16 06:26 PM |
| 1 | My wife has no interest in sex anymore and its driving us apart.I hope for his sake he was a troll. But since he's deleted it, I'm leaning more towards hopeless. A good lesson: not all guys really deserve sex,respect or attention they crave, yet want to put in 0 effort to get. And are just whiney boys trapped in the bodies of adults. Nature has to limit bad genetics somehow. | /r/askMRP | 04/09/16 02:57 PM |
| 3 | She is not your priority. She can wait.Ironic how you can save and budget better even with child support and alimony rape when you are in total control,aint it? Keep living it well, my man! | /r/TheRedPill | 03/09/16 11:59 AM |
| 1 | Quick check in. Been a bit.My giving fucks are mine to give! No one takes my fucks! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Quick check in. Been a bit.Definitely a good mindset for business ownership or sales. Use it! Put that coffee down, coffee's for CLOSERS ONLY! ABC , motherfucka. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 03:57 PM |
| 18 | My wife has no interest in sex anymore and its driving us apart.Welcome to /r/relationships, Mr Niceguy! Why would she want to fuck her girlfriend? Please read the sidebar , like stat. We have nothing to offer you other than to use you as an example. You are currently in the complete and total grip of a nice guy beta mindset, start with No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say No I feel Guilty. Good luck. | /r/askMRP | 02/09/16 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Quick check in. Been a bit.or have a different measuring stick. Guys don't come here (usually) because they're happy and content. Whatever their measuring stick for that...I'll leave up to them even if there are some basic wants and needs we all share. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Advice on maintaining relationships with close family members who are value-depletingI can still love family members and never interact with them. Sometimes I still love family members only because I don't routinely interact with them. Maybe love is too strong of a word. Some interpersonal relationships you enjoy and participate in organically. Others you manage and participate in where necessary. | /r/askMRP | 02/09/16 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Quick check in. Been a bit.Ab-so-slap-ly. Keep on keeping on. Contentment is the key. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Quick check in. Been a bit.This isn't a clear cut post though. It's sort of a victory. Yet could be seen as sort of a humblebrag, sorta shitting on behaviors EVERY NEWB will come in here with. It could be 100% genuine, but you're posting this in a place where all people monitoring have to have their bullshit detectors set to full-sensitivity. And also there's an assumption you are making as to why hardcore trpers "collectively" as some single entity avoid this place. I don't think they all do. I can assume or take by thei… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Quick check in. Been a bit.Glad you're doing well. My only question is are you a) content, b) super happy like a new lease on life or c) "I'm happy now dammit! Look how happy I am! Watch me being happy" kind of "in spite of" the world happy? I ask because I'm concerned about the marathon nature of this race. I can see why you're getting some flak, likewise I could see where some people could find this post positive... as some validation for what the work here entails. But I'd be more comfortable with guys coming here, imp… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Crawling out of a deep holeJesus Cucking Christopher. Glad this is starting to look like a happy ending. I'd be working towards an amicable divorce "For her sake". Then fly off into the wild blue yonder. Even at her best, her value seems to fall far short. I do think that some guys CAN follow all the advice and improve, but their wives still have them pegged as beta from all the years. The burned-in beta image on their screen that was up too long without relief. Might seem underhanded, but OLD SCHOOL 'Doc Love' would say … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/09/16 02:23 PM |
| 1 | My wife asks if we can spend time together. I don't really want to right now. I'm not sure how to phrase this.Man , this is like a gimme for demonstrating o.i., a cheat really. Have your shit together, watch for signs of what you KNOW are coming... A.A and A.M. the hell out of it , then leave like a champ to do something fun when she inevitably crosses the threshold. She's giving you a lay up! PS:if she actually is nice that day... enjoy, and make sure to sex it up. Either way :win. | /r/askMRP | 02/09/16 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Royal Blue DiatribePsst, neat trick: just start regularly getting some of that T-cream on your wife. Sure she may start growing hair in weird places, but she will probably start getting that pesky sex elsewhere as a side effect. | /r/askMRP | 02/09/16 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Early gains, drive to improve fading with angerYou know why I went to the gym at first? Because I was angry and wanted change. You know why I go now? Because it's on my calendar. I just don't think about it. Find inspiration where you can, before the inspiration wears off: replace with steadfastness. You only needed the anger to get you started... not get you there. No matter how much anger one has, it can't replace time and repetition. So now that's what you are looking at. It's also hard to enjoy the fruits of your labors if you're still p… | /r/askMRP | 01/09/16 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Which direction: tell dad to be more careful or let wifey understand that her feeling don't dictate my actions?Hence, we have example tags! | /r/askMRP | 01/09/16 05:46 PM |
| 2 | [Emergency911] How to transform my life into something better that I know is out there? ( Long Post )Sorry doesn't come close, but very sorry about your loss. Did you buy or rent together? Sometimes you just have to show up with a U-Haul. I did that. Get your shit and go. I always thought if something bad like that happened to me then I'd move very far away. Requiring a passport probably. Taking my memories of their life with me but never retreading where they were made. | /r/askMRP | 01/09/16 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Which direction: tell dad to be more careful or let wifey understand that her feeling don't dictate my actions?EASY! It says what to do right here. Personally I'd just skip to step 3 in Part 1. OR Since they're not your dogs And you have none in the fight AND it's just a bunch of barking anyway: you not get involved and let them bark it out. | /r/askMRP | 01/09/16 02:36 PM |
| 8 | Staying out of her headYou need to learn the difference between having a real conversation and social chit chat. When she's informing you of things , and then commenting on them herself...free form, you're just an audience. Any interruption of the Bunsen Burner flow with her free thought experiment will get you mixing in potentially explosive reagents. Put your goggles on and observe while making mental notes. | /r/askMRP | 31/08/16 07:49 PM |
| 1 | girlfriend refuses to do give me blowjobs but she admitted she has done it for her ex.I dub this post: blue baiting. | /r/askMRP | 31/08/16 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Married to Lucifer's DaughterI'm planning on installing no-audio video recorders throughout the house to prevent my own incarceration in the event she goes that route, but also to have evidence of violence so I can obtain full custody and avoid Divorce Rape. I've contacted a couple lawyers online, but I need make a phone call since I haven't received any response. But on certain levels my hamster feels bad for her and is reluctant.... Great. Also find out what is admissible , etc. You may also need to just put a little sign… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/08/16 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Wife against guns in the houseA great way to encourage the frequency of ultimatums is by responding to them every time. | /r/askMRP | 31/08/16 03:12 PM |
| 6 | Wife went nuclear, struggling with my options.I'd start talking less in counseling. It's for her anyway and works in her frame. I'd start backing off of it completely. There is NOTHING you will be able to do right, and A LOT TO complain about when a woman is NOT attracted to you. There is NOTHING a guy can do wrong and she laughs shit off when she is attracted to you. If you tried the wrong way this long. I'd probably put equal effort in the right way for as long for shits and giggles. Stop with the choreplay. Stop with meeting her "needs" … | /r/askMRP | 31/08/16 03:07 PM |
| 0 | 6 year ltr - 2 months of Mrp implementationWhen I picked her up she was on her phone with her friend talking about logistics for upcoming trip. Seemed reasonable. Shouldn't have affected you at all. Looking back I think I should have been straight up with her and just express my feelings of my displeasure. If she even addressed it why double down on your fuck up/loss of frame? So had she said: "You seem cold" Recovery response: "Eh, my minds been going on a billion things today, don't take it aimed at you." I've noticed that she will get… | /r/askMRP | 30/08/16 08:03 PM |
| 2 | LTR disobeying dominance in sex and blocking affectionBetter. Just stfu and keep working on yourself and up the ladder. | /r/askMRP | 30/08/16 07:41 PM |
| 2 | LTR disobeying dominance in sex and blocking affectionmanaging all the money Does that just mean accounting for the spending and watching or managing the spending and nixing bad ideas? How about before "going nuclear" you just start stepping up the rungs on the dread ladder and giving each a bit of time to be convincingly. Also have you read the sex god method yet? | /r/askMRP | 30/08/16 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Concrete examples of issues you've addressed in your relationship and how you did it.Look at the flaired users submission history, you'll get good examples there. | /r/askMRP | 29/08/16 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Anger/Fear/Comfort TestYou fucked up by leaving. Don't vacate the house next time. I get it, you need a new marriage...but your kids still need parents. Sometimes you have to lose battles to win wars. Based on how things are going I still think you are still over dialing so much. You can't turn the momentum of a big vehicle by yanking on the steering wheel full force or it'll break. If you're finding tons of glee in her having to mow, you're mired in a vengeful angry bitter butthurt-from-years-of-buildup mindset. What… | /r/askMRP | 29/08/16 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Do I need to lose weight before initiating more sex?Initiate when you want it without fail. The only difference between you now and you in a few months will be less LMRs that turn into hard nos. Still , as much as it's gone on about here (being fit can only help): weight is generally less of an issue unless it's affecting your sex drive and performance. I see a lot of hot chicks banging fat fucks where I live and it's all about attitude. Granted, these guys still lift though...they just eat like pigs, think... power lifters with guts. And no I wo… | /r/askMRP | 29/08/16 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Anger is spiraling out of control.So now you know your anger works against you. Words mean shit. Actions mean everything. What the fuck is there to talk about? Coming from someone who can totally blow a gasket if I don't keep a lid on it: you have to learn to manage your reactions. Anger management 101 type shit. It will color everything. It will amp your testosterone up to 12 whereupon you understand the mindset of someone willing to scream at their top of their lungs as they drive their car off a ravine mid argument. It serves… | /r/askMRP | 29/08/16 01:55 PM |
| 2 | LTR getting angry over me going to the gym?You ever hear a battered wife describe how happy and relieved she was that time after he hit her he cried about it? You are accepting and putting up with shit behavior. Come home and she's being dramatic and you're supposed to be somewhere? 'Sorry you're feeling like this is OK behavior for an adult. Hope you can calm yourself enough to show up.' Then leave. She shows up on her own.... or doesn't. But either way you've demonstrated your OUTCOME is INDEPENDENT of her manipulations. | /r/askMRP | 26/08/16 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Noob FR- Early Success and a few failuresIf you crank it to 11 you'll miss the tone in between. IMO a concentration for you here is to curb the butthurt over O.I.. Especially if you have a history of bh on rejection. O.I. could end up just seeming like a larger expression of butthurt if you take it to leave. So more along the lines of "cool"...and then O.I. is more just out of the room going to do something and not coming back. Start adding in pauses (count to 3, whatever the number would be before it gets noticed as weird) before you … | /r/askMRP | 25/08/16 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Log: 15 Year Anniversary tonightGreat introspection. It really is the key to forming a constructive internal dialog that will help keep NG traits in check. “I will take care of it” is such a powerful phrase. And I just recently had a internal self-check a few days ago STILL (it's like being an alcoholic, you've never cured...I will always be a recovering NICE GUY): Wife called because she had car trouble (transmission-ish sounding), luckily she was less than a block away from the car shop we always go to. Told her to limp it t… | /r/askMRP | 25/08/16 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Is every MRPer rich as fuck?Ha, I wish. I make enough for me , my wife (SAHM) and kid to live in a white picket fence style house neighborhood ...kids riding on bikes, everyone keeps up their yards. With 2 cars and no car payments ,only a couple of hundred on average on a credit card if any. What she makes from occasionally working goes to our vacation fund. I make about 57% above MEDIAN household income (which would suck ass trying to live off of) for my city. But consider a lot of those households are single person house… | /r/askMRP | 25/08/16 03:51 PM |
| 1 | LTR getting angry over me going to the gym?Either Testing your resolve (frame/MAP) or Sabotaging your GAINZ® Solution to either: Do your thing. Give less fucks. | /r/askMRP | 25/08/16 01:35 PM |
| 4 | Wife pushing me to say I Love You back.start singing "Tell, tell, tell me you love me" Paula Abdul style. 'Okaaaay' like little John. Or just so it so over the top "OH I LOVE YOU TOO SCHMOOPIE WOOPIE MOONCHKINS". Deadpan "OH I love you all right. Can you feel it? Oh you're going to feel it." Learn to deflect and fog. | /r/askMRP | 24/08/16 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Asking for nudesStart getting into an action mindset. You don't ask if she wants to have sex, you initiate. You don't ask if it's OK you do X, you do it. | /r/askMRP | 24/08/16 05:56 PM |
| 6 | Asking for nudesShe has only sent me a picture of her foot. Currently.... that's all you rate to her. Look at it this way: She now is probably pretty cognizant of the fact that you would like a nude. So once you've turned yourself into a better version of yourself... fitness, career, passing shit-tests , garnering hobbies, interests and upping you social circle. The moment you get an unsolicited nude you'll know you've hit a milestone. In the meantime don't ask for another fucking thing from her. | /r/askMRP | 24/08/16 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Am I crazy to breakup with a hot girl I like because she talks too much but I like every other thing about her?Sometimes her random chit chat would cause me to be dismissive and I could tell I was making her feel belittled which I felt was not fair. Generally you can play this better, but there are always outliers. You don't have to sit there and listen to every thing she has to say with rapt attention. Women do vary in chatter. One of my sister in laws is pretty good looking. Stays skinny . But damn her mouth runs like Niagra Falls and I don't know that it'd balance out. I always joke with my wife that … | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 11:49 PM |
| 3 | How do you keep non-sexual things interesting after 10+ years together?Well, what did you do when you were dating? I always try to seek to minimize quantity time if I find it's interfering with quality. Are you guys just always kind of around each other? I have some friends that I wonder what they actually do when they hang out with their wives since they're always out golfing, hunting , fishing, cigar club, etc. | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 11:42 PM |
| 14 | A recap on a founding principle. "You are not responsible for her emotions."One day I gave a fuck. Later I gave less fucks. Then I couldn't remember what it was like to give a fuck. They want a rock. No matter how much they test you out as a sponge. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/16 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Wife wants me to accept boring sexShe wants to talk about it "Talk about what? I can finally check necrophilia off my bucket list. Night, babe!" Or maybe just "Night, babe", if you don't want to spark the non-boring-prick feels. DYERTSGM (Do you even read the sex god method) If it's boring. CHANGE IT. You're the guy. Drive. Grab a foot, throw a leg, yank a hair, punch a donkey (heh heh...). You know what I mean. Make it NEXT TO IMPOSSIBLE or highly IMPROBABLE that she can just lay still through it. Or... finish up... and aim hig… | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Advice for newlywed brother-in-lawI would definitely not be throwing any jargon out there. You could always encourage him to maintain a healthy friendship/hobbies/married life balance. And point out the pitfalls and some anecdotes of how neglecting that balance will mess you up. Point to books we all know and love. Stress you "know your sister" and from your vantage point what you've seen her say she needs vs. what she needs can sometimes be two different things, so "as a married guy" always pay attention to their actions. Let h… | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 07:42 PM |
| 1 | A Shit Test Guide from Sun Tzu: The Art of WarI reread ever yearish. Applies to so many things in life. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/16 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Getting shit done vs. Enabling her/u/A_Rex has probably the best response, less likely to encur tests. I on the other hand have no problem being an asshole if someone's going to make me be an asshole. So I could tell you what I would do (and this is a complete theoretical as my wife is the one who will throw away anything sitting in the same place for a week). I'd let her know she's got a week to get anything she wants out before it's chunked. Then I'd chunk the rest. Organize the basement and the first item that appeared that w… | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 03:46 PM |
| 7 | More than a year into this. Some progress, but I'm about to explode.Right. SMV is how they judge it, not what we think it is. She clearly thinks she's got a high one. This probably was to validate. Then she "shares" this. If you(op) find YOU'RE the one frustrated and not the other way around...something isn't gelling. Definitely is no shortage of guys at bars willing to validate for some wine flavored spit or a sloppy bj. "See guys still want me!" Guys want to bust a nut, Cutechunk, now tuck your back fat back into your pants. | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 03:35 PM |
| 3 | More than a year into this. Some progress, but I'm about to explode.I think I accidentally made out with somebody at the bar She doesn't get to go to bars then. I see this as a consequence and not mate guarding. If she can't be responsible to not get so fucked she wont wrap her car around a tree then she can't do it. Period. She has a kid. Neither one of you should be irresponsible. I shut my wife down from going on a gno AFTER she had been already day drinking and we had prior plans. Her judgement was impaired. But seriously. Watch that shit. She's rebelling at… | /r/askMRP | 23/08/16 03:26 PM |
| 17 | I messed up. She apologized.Great post. Great thing for new guys to take from this: YOU ARE GOING TO FUCK UP. You can't inoculate yourself from being human, but you can learn how to recover better and on the right end. And a useless apology was not in order, you ACKNOWLEDGED your mistake. Subtle but major difference. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/08/16 06:37 PM |
| 1 | What to do about girl who is stuck in her head and won't express herself - positive or negative emotions are squashed & I end up in the darkSome people are who they are because of their upbringing. Some are who they are in spite of their upbringing. That's up to them to determine. Regardless: you be you. Be the best you and shine by example with emotional health and fortitude. Let her sort through her. Take inspiration from you or ask you specific ...solicited... questions. If she does ask (and it's not just venting), there's no problem with concise "What I would do" scenarios that are brief, concrete and to the point. Otherwise, yo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/08/16 06:31 PM |
| 9 | Wife notices that other women hit on me and text me this today.She texts me. Don't respond. "Is this a rare thing? I thought you had more draw." Cheesy joke route: He could see... you were ON FIRE. Trying to get a cat out of your tree? What kind of hose is he packing? Ladder 69? I can't remember does that get him a merit badge or blow job? Did he wear his helmet and slicker? | /r/askMRP | 22/08/16 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Advice on LiftingThis is better suited for /r/askMRP For mining: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/search?q=lifting&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all But also I would post on /r/fitness I always keep in the back of my head how Herschel Walker was a bodyweight routing guy and still fit as a fiddle. You need very little time to bang out some burpees throughout the day. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/08/16 01:32 PM |
| 6 | The MRP Bait & Switch - don't say i didn't warn you...Getting sex no longer becomes the goal. Right. It's the OBVIOUS gaping hole in your marriage. The other intangibles come back with it. Still remains a litmus test of how you doing currently. Essentially the canary in the coal mine. I see common failure path methods to increase sex (the symptom) as only ever (if at all) working. The rote socially acceptable paths. Treat the disease: you. And the symptoms go away and aren't just temporarily suppressed. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/16 07:52 PM |
| 1 | 1+ year of LTR, small update"I'm afraid if I keep ducking every time she swings the frying pan at my head then she might get worried I'm trying to make her throw her back out." One day you will get it, but currently you are totally in her frame worried about things like that. The fact that your NON response to things that would ACTIVELY push another human out the door is chasing her away? That's just Stockholm syndrome (aka beta) you talking. | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Being "discovered", avoiding talking about fight clubInteresting for you maybe! There are RP wives, textbook feminine and OK with their standard female heterosexual orientation but still need A.R.P.D. (anti red pill defense and yes I'm correlating with ASD (anti slut defense) as she wants to ENJOY the outcome , but social proof the means). She will say many times that her making a decision I should have made, or not taking the reins, or doing the "MANLY THINGS A HUSBAND SHOULD DO" (note have to sift through actual and not chore requests) me less m… | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Being "discovered", avoiding talking about fight clubIs it a bitch move to have a poker face and not show the other player your hand the entire time you play? If you think your wife will respect your new changes as much if she thinks she can "blame" them on the "new fad" thing you are reading or being coached...you'll be sorely disappointed. My wife eventually read all of my posts going through my transition and it severely added problems and weight to the process of changes (SHE EVENTUALLY LAUDED) but then rejected because she now had a target. S… | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 05:59 PM |
| 1 | FR: Have Male FriendsI had a wake up call a while back never to neglect this and how beneficial man time can be. For me it's proportional in intensity to the recharge I get to it, if it's been absent too long. Which, again, simply reinforced it's a need and not a want. I have scheduled dude time once a week minimum. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/16 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Is being a goofball helping or hurting?Witty and funny is good. Funny at cost to you is bad. Self depreciating, and obviously believing it (not the sarcastic kind) Ex: You know me and my small dick! (has small dick) bad. You know me and my small dick! (has big dick) good. Apply to many more things than dicks. Appeasing for too long to "cheer" the un-cheerable (or those not wanting it). Court jester for Vlad the Impaler. A good test is : can you laugh along without any emotional self pain? | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 02:06 PM |
| 2 | DEER helpWhy are you answering the phone? The rest of what she said is irrelevant. It's the reward for you failing the shit test of being too readily available when she's being a crab. And bro , dyethc (do you even track her cycle?). How many days out from Aunt Flo is she (or the sugar pills in the pack)? Do you KNOW when to be scarce. Have thicker skin and be prepared for O.I.? If not, you set yourself up for surprise. We talked for a minute, I told her I wanted to fuck before bed, she got on her knees,… | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Turned down the wife for sex last night. Right move?I can't remember which reading material... but you're missing something. Women don't respond to rejection the same way we do. Typically the only type to reject is a starfish session (AFTER you've really implemented ramping up the excitement). No matter how well you sell it, if you've been turned down 2 previous days , she'll see it as vindictive unless you have a rare but valid reason. Tired usually isn't it. You'll be portrayed as weak either physically or emotionally. Granted if you pull the t… | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 01:53 PM |
| 1 | 1+ year of LTR, small updateLike you'd treat anyone acting like an animal caught in a bear trap. If everything from something you say, to some imagined slight sets her off, you say less or nothing and go away. It's victim status mentality. It's only fed by fuel. Start coming up with things to say to every situation so she gets that you're not biting no matter what bait she throws out: This sucks that you allow yourself to get so upset over so little. If you decide to go please make sure to drive carefully. I hope you feel … | /r/askMRP | 19/08/16 01:44 PM |
| 3 | I'm tired. Read the fucking sidebarReminds me of my no more shit posts on the main rant a few months ago. STP getting MOD MRP NG PTSD There's also /askMRP . Considered training wheels (or some might say the special ed helmet). Great place for new guys. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 08:24 PM |
| 4 | First Shit Test Today, not too phasedso today my wife calls and is just shooting the shit about her day and asks what am I doing Start dialing back anything she could be doing with a girlfriend. I see my coworkers answer the damn phone every time their wife calls to ask X or talk about X or because she can't wipe her ass without discussing how it went. CUT IT OUT. If you're answering the phone to calls of "Hey, Whatcha doin?" You are slowly helping to weave and tie the noose around your scrotum. BE LESS AVAILABLE FOR THIS TYPE OF Q… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/16 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Wife is making me look badA while ago I would have downvoted. But you are right that there are good times for socially asserting your spine. The safer route is definitely to follow something like I suggested, but there has been a time or two I needed to do this. If a guy is at a point (I'd definitely not say at the start) where they are SMV level comfortable or ALMOST , it's like a social shit-test challenge. There was a family event a bit ago where the wife made a snide demeaning comment to me IN FRONT OF everyone else.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 07:08 PM |
| 2 | FNG (Fucking New Guy)I have stupid ass need to over clarify myself when I think my wife is reading the wrong thing into my silence. Yes, to do this is to actively undermine yourself. I'd concentrate on this Achilles heel first. Work something stupid in like, if you're sitting there and feel the urge: get up to refill your glass (pour out something if it's there...there's dirt in it). Much cheaper to do if you always have a glass of water. Or bolt to take a piss. Make it almost like a "whoops I forgot I have to". No … | /r/askMRP | 18/08/16 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Noob Translation of MRPI love the smell of metaphor in the morning. Good translation. Also on the "DON'T TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB": You're already on here trying to do heavy lifting. Your wife knowing is like having a spotter come over and press DOWN while you're coming up on the bench. You may be able to push it back off but damn the amount of effort will be immense. One thing it did do once my wife copped to reading all my posts was that I had to INTERNALIZE INTERNALIZE INTERNALIZE and force change who I was so there w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 03:15 PM |
| 2 | I have seen the gloryDamn, thanks for the vid, doc. Always think I have had good form but that point about incline always stopping an inch or two above my chest totally indicates I'm not retracting. | /r/askMRP | 18/08/16 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Going too fast"Trying to find the balance" You don't withdraw for no reason. You're saying it only occurred to you before because of "beta reasons" but not now? Something tells me you're trying to match some perception of a model of "Alpha male" and may be trying too hard. Be you, but better you. You can add to your life without having to always subtract. If you're getting the sex you want, why would you not give her the contact she wants? | /r/askMRP | 18/08/16 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Major setbackA lot of moving pieces here. She disturbed your kids. Not your fault. I meet all ultimatums with : "I don't do ultimatums." which is exactly what your wife did and you responded to. She says then we need to divorce. I say OK. From your post 3 months ago you state " threats of divorce have stopped" so this is a thing for her. Ignore with extreme prejudice. The moment the D word comes out of her mouth I'd be relocating to a more fun activity or area. She always like this or once a month? Sounds to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Wife is making me look bad1) You should have laughed along with them. If you didn't quick enough and the silence was tense (hint: they were really prodding you for a reaction) then deadpan a joke along the lines of "What? That wasn't just naked wrestling practice I found them doing the other day?" If nothing he says or does is reproachable you zip it and have fun with it. If it gets out of line, an aside moment with him when no one is paying attention and tell him to stop pissing on your doorstep and mind your sister. If… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Greetings! And chill the f*ck out.Damn outlier! You don't USUALLY end up here because your life is going great... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Greetings! And chill the f*ck out.Corrected the link! So you don't have to hunt: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/209754-standard-evidence-post.html | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/08/16 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2016Congrats on baby 3! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 07:17 PM |
| 4 | Psychotic Shit TestsDoes it count that I just spank her randomly? Is it a deterrent when she likes it? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Greetings! And chill the f*ck out.Scratch that...now it says Previous Sticked Posts, not that the Previous Posts weren't great posts...it just seemed too obvious else why the fuck would we sidebar them and harder to find. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Greetings! And chill the f*ck out.Unfortunately you can only have 2 stickies. BUT The last one is now on the sidebar "Don't fix her problems..." under Previous great posts | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Psychotic Shit Tests1: I think you handled this like a champ. Laugh that shit out the door. It might not always be so overt but most women I know do this shit all the damn time. This is not special crazy. This is AWALT. I just recently reorganized my garage. Really took 4 full days to do so (helps I'm also turning into a man-gathering area so I HAD to). Get super organized with your shit so that next time there's no question. The moment the drill was missing you should have asked: "Where's the drill?" Fuck what tha… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Need helpNote how when you stopped giving a shit about "her pleasure" that the pleasure increased? Apply that to trying to attract her with your gains. Get sex. Get gains. Lose fucks. Besides... women don't value the same things as attractive as we do. Confidence, self control, and a bit of unpredictability or bad boy je ne sais quoi. In a marriage you can't go 100% or even 80% bad boy usually without upsetting the comfort balance, but you have to have enough to remain INTERESTING. A mild case of mystery… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Greetings! And chill the f*ck out.The original idea of MRP was that older Red Pill Married guys would come here after already learning about Red Pill in order to focus our work on the special issues of marriage. Thus, "Red Pill on Hard Mode." Good point I forget about. It was the original conduit. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Greetings! And chill the f*ck out.Short of this man jerking you off every step of the way You've got to draw the line somewhere. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/16 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Do you like your wife?Yes. Did I a few years ago? : Not really. Did I to begin with: Yes. Something tells me you wouldn't have married her if you didn't to begin with. You could also parallel how much I liked myself as well. Now: Yes. A few years ago: Not really. To begin with : Yes. There's going to be things you like , things you don't . Perspective adds weight to each. A lot of your complaints seem to revolve around social dynamics and perception. I've gotta be honest with how women interact in general with each o… | /r/askMRP | 17/08/16 01:57 PM |
| 2 | What is going on here?So help me out here. I'm not a player. I've honestly never been interested in bedding hundreds of women, don't ask why, it doesn't really matter. You don't have to be the guy that plows hundreds of women. Just the guy who could if he wanted to and his wife knows she's replaceable. remold her idea You remold you. She changes her perspective. Good news is: you'll lose the oneitis mentality as well. Welcome. Good luck. Keep on trucking with the material. Getting this info early (in your twenties) i… | /r/askMRP | 17/08/16 01:45 PM |
| 2 | A question about absenseAbsinthe makes the heart grow fonder. | /r/askMRP | 16/08/16 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Appropriate Dread moves?Dodge-ball? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/16 03:49 PM |
| 5 | Appropriate Dread moves?I imagine this time it's too late , but in the future if you're trying too hard to make a point it'll be obvious. /u/bownership 's comment is topkek for a reason: Outwardly NOTHING YOU DO IS DUE TO HER BEHAVIOR Later it'll be more of an internal process. So try to go less overt. If you have choices at this point in your journey I'd make sure every action is easily disassociated from her moods. Whether you're doing something because of her or in spite of her it's still reacting to her. Her shit t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/16 03:46 PM |
| 8 | 1+ year of LTR, small updateSo when you find yourself feeling the urge to REACT repeat: You don't make decisions when too angry. You don't make promises when too happy. This falls on the first. Also now, when you feel compelled to confront, paste this onto the end of your thought : "To what end". Think about how you would WISH and LIKE for this to go, and then throw that bullshit out the window. Think about how it will LIKELY go if you take off your wishful thinking cap. Why did you go out to lunch with so & so and why'd y… | /r/askMRP | 16/08/16 03:34 PM |
| 4 | 1+ year of LTR, small updateRight now: The nuclear beta option is to tell her that I wont be with a liar and tell her to pack her stuff and leave the apartment She blow him with a mouth full of burrito? You are entirely too concerned with what she is doing right now that her eating lunch with a coworker is bothering you. Hell, he may be her "work spouse". You need to be blasting your own self improvement. YOU need to be getting IOI, phone numbers, etc... so much so that she has something tangible to worry about rather than… | /r/askMRP | 16/08/16 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Family and RPI'd STFU, and spend less time with them for now. I'd try to attempt to slow fade back in in any future interactions with them. Taking off anytime they treat you like your old self or shit goes haywire. Baby step it. At some point you'll be able to conclude whether they'll interact with you on the level you want (will help if you steer this right with the slow fade in) OR they'll always have their heels dug in and you'll be the same boy in their eyes always (in which case you manage minimal inter… | /r/askMRP | 16/08/16 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Stuck in this anger phaseAnger is good fuel, but you have to channel it constructively. You find enough good outlets for it and you'll mourn when you then need to find new motivators. Be happy you found out now and not when you were 43. 23 you are in a prime position to change things for the better health, career, and relationship wise. Why would you resent a woman for being a woman? You'll get that one day. If you're still mad about it then you still have more to mull over. Really though, just like that dog whisperer j… | /r/askMRP | 16/08/16 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Quiet sobbing in the other room around shark week.A few days before shark week and she cries instead of turning bitchy? And then you prod her for sharing? Leave her the fuck alone with the prying. Resist the urge to fix her emotions. She'll be the only one able to deal with them and you;d only provide another outlet. Think Ferber method. Now, if you note, she's blue on monthly rotation...and there is SOMETHING you do that typically helps cheer her up or get her mind off of something, nobody would argue you doing something like that. Take her to… | /r/askMRP | 16/08/16 01:43 PM |
| 2 | 20 yr old military. Need relationship advice...and just a final thing to consider is unlike ANY other job. Being in the military : your spouse , the things she does, and how you two interact will impact your record. Why on earth I would put that in the hands of a woman that wasn't interested nor respected me enough to bone me with adequate frequency ... I can't fathom. My nephew who was a marine for 2 tours in Iraq and 1 in Afghanistan married his high school sweet heart. AFTER he got back from the second float. Of course, the other press… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/16 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Appropriate Dread moves?You keep business and pleasure separate. You keep business and O.I. separate. At least as far as she's concerned. She probably wont ask. She'll probably assume. If she does I'd chuckle and say "Yeah sweetie, I always make important business decisions because you had a black cloud over your head one day." | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/16 01:21 PM |
| 6 | 20 yr old military. Need relationship adviceDoesn't matter how perfect the roof and window treatments are if your house doesn't sit on a solid foundation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/16 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Need advice on improving myself to lead wifeYou've thrown your wife into a new environment. If she is surrounded by a bunch of career or top-hen driven women I'm sure it's driving her comfort level into the gutter. If you are trying to help her integrate in some new social group by all means suggest game plans. I take my wife to my high school friend gatherings and their wives are a mixed bag. We have a standing rule that I'll check on her every once and a while and we have cues. Just like I check in on my daughter around all my old frien… | /r/askMRP | 15/08/16 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Overheard my wifeWe all can't be lucky enough to have (or had) moms who had our back. Still, if yours doesn't have yours...less time with JR. Anyway, you're new. Please take advantage of reading and digesting our sidebar material before you're picked to shreds for posting /r/TwoXChromosomes topics. | /r/askMRP | 15/08/16 01:45 PM |
| 1 | So I screwed up and what I should have doneLot of good coverage on the rest..so I'll just focus: I was hiding minor butt-hurt from little stuff the last few days and I am working on it. I loose frame and admit that her game just isn’t enough to get me to have sex with her either. I really have to get to a place where I can make space for us and don’t look at her with feelings of contempt, but I digress. I get it, you get it. I run into similar as bitchiness is my dick's kryptonite. But she's changing this in her head. Wives are going to … | /r/askMRP | 15/08/16 01:39 PM |
| 2 | How can a wife help her husband? (x-post from askTRP)Sheesh, conditional charity isn't really all that charitable. What's with the time condition? Regardless, you can try surprising him with it once everything is set up. Could also be that he's dreading the treatment itself if it's something like chemo. That shit still sucks. Best way to get off a band aid is rip it off. On the flipside, as shitty as this sounds you should start (very obviously) getting your life set up to fully support your family without him. It might also help shake him out of … | /r/askMRP | 12/08/16 06:25 PM |
| 6 | That dead feelingYou'd be better off spending quiet time doing mindfulness meditation. You've got a boat anchor planted in your past you need to pull up. /u/Scurvemuch already pointed out this is 100% sunk cost you're dwelling in. At this point, even if you got rid of her, if you didn't learn how to move past this then you would still not progress. Quiet introspection is called for in some cases. Quiet mindfulness to allow for living in the present in other cases. We all have a hangup or focus point hurdle to ov… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/08/16 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Advice on developing OI, Abundance, Frame?I want to find other rewards like things that are worth talking about. (not-boring). You have to start somewhere. Any victory is a victory. Rebuilding the foundations will allow for the decorations later. But until you have it... Keep it light or keep it sparse. Then , when the time is right, you amp it up. Or shake it up with something severely interesting. I could tell, a few months in, and not just from her saying similar things...but you want a "Hey, who the fuck is this guy and what has he … | /r/askMRP | 12/08/16 02:59 PM |
| 2 | How to get PASSION back in my SEXLESS marriageSo I think some key areas of concentration for you may be how to initiate. Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. Or go watch some PUA videos and try methods on your wife. How are you initiating? "Hey, let's have sex" or let me rub your feet to make you happy, then you'll want to have sex with me. Do you take any no as a hard-no? Or do you test the waters a little further with amped up foreplay? How did you successfully get into those pants to begin with? Try to recreate some of that initial interaction… | /r/askMRP | 12/08/16 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Advice on developing OI, Abundance, Frame?So I think she did say something here worth dissecting: "You don't talk to me, you just either don't respond or mock me" as it appears to be venturing into comfort testing. You want her to get the message. BUT you don't want that message to mean she has 0% chance with you as that's where failing a comfort test will drive her into learned helplessness mode. It can go from good A.A./A.M. to resentful "You're a fucktard and fuckoff" where she'll feel she will be able to mentally disengage from even… | /r/askMRP | 12/08/16 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Wife interrupting me while I'm talking'Commanding' respect through a dress down only works on subordinates. She clearly doesn't believe you are one. Attraction and respect. Two things that can only be inspired and not negotiated. If a chick is being disrespectful, knows it and continues? You're not in a position to say dick about it without coming across as whiny. If she doesn't realize it, sees a look from you or you turn to go and she stops you to make a point of apologizing or back tracking...gets that she made a mistake. But fir… | /r/askMRP | 12/08/16 02:10 PM |
| 3 | Am I The Safe Bet After Wife Had Wild PastWelcome. OK, so , you've got a long road ahead. I'd stop reading any of the crap DB has you reading and stick to our sidebar. Maybe read it later for laughs. she never initiated, not a single time, and aside from the sex, there is no other sexual acts. So first off the bat. While digesting the reading sidebar. Stop giving a fuck or waiting for her to initiate. You will plan to initiate always. The insane thing is, once you adopt that mentality, get your shit in order, you may start being treated… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/08/16 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Nice night out, wife storms twenty paces in front of you on the way home?Even if it was , the reaction should be the same. A weak willed man (lacking frame) is put into a frenzy of worry that his lady is upset. He can't possibly be OK or even happy if m'lady is upset or unhappy! He must fix her unhappiness at once or be trapped in despondence. If she throws out this simple test and he responds, he is demonstrating a weak will. That will make her MORE UNHAPPY! How can I trust my man to not be weak willed when I *REALLY need him to come to my aid!* And on OP's Delibera… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/16 07:36 PM |
| 6 | MAP as a covert contract?Not every MAP is a good MAP, but it is your MAP. or The MAP/FRAME Creed. This is my MAP.There are many similar MAPS, but this one is mine. My FRAME is my best friend. It is my life. I must master it as I must master my MAP. My MAP, without me, is useless. Without my MAP or FRAME I am useless. I must adhere to my MAP truly. I must maintain FRAME more than my wife who is trying to break my frame. My MAP and myself know that what counts in this life is not the times we demonstrate Outcome Independe… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/16 06:34 PM |
| 12 | Nice night out, wife storms twenty paces in front of you on the way home?Use it as a teaching opportunity to your son on how to deal with a woman acting silly. DGAF. Better yet. Slow down to a nice slow stroll and start looking at more of the scenery. Why is she doing it? Why do ducks quack? You used to play into this behavior. The longer you did, the longer it will take to go away. And if it doesn't... keep on laughing. Maybe she just wants you staring at her ass as it swishes? | /r/askMRP | 10/08/16 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Flirting with Brother in LawTruly the only real course of action. FTW | /r/askMRP | 10/08/16 01:45 PM |
| 12 | Pump and dump rule #1: Always send text after.Not sure a text from you to her could constitute anything , especially if she doesn't respond. There's an old rumor that Chuck Berry would take Polaroids of him and girls that were dtf with them naked and smiling before he'd have sex with them. If I were a celeb I'd take this route if screwing fans. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/16 04:01 PM |
| 3 | [ADVICE] Failed Shit TestI have been keeping busy around the house. Dog poop, dishes, mowing the grass, laundry, anything else that I can think of. We mean actual hobbies. If you need ideas: Models (glue, snap together, trains...doesn't matter...) New or repurposed wood furniture or furniture restoration. Memrise or Duolingo and learn a new language on your phone. Maintain your own car. Learn an instrument (or a new one...or increase your ability on one you already know). Study and get better at a game of skill like che… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/08/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | The most responsible teenager doesn't want to leave the amusement parkWell, now that you're recognizing your mistakes you should really try to dial back on the alcohol. If I recognize my wife has had too much, and is getting foul I disengage. The only way to get ahead of that is not be around her. If at any point >I< was inebriated as well I wouldn't be able to handle it and fail. Save tying one on for guy's nights. +UBER or a cab. I recently had a big slip. Earlier in the evening I had a minor shit test which I shut down. Thought it was done and that once the kid… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/08/16 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Speak Translation Service.Love it. Another way to view it: women are the ultimate wizened eastern Buddhist monks and ALWAYS LIVING IN THE PRESENT. All emotional speech , regardless of apparent verb tense is 100% relating or pertaining to the present and should be viewed as such. I celebrate the fact that my wife is the ultimate realist. It's all concrete. It's all right now. I never have to try to start FRIEND level conversations about deep things with her. Back before I knew better I'd get frustrated by her lack of inte… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/16 02:26 PM |
| 1 | I am tired of being so insensitiveBuy flowers. Ask her what she's thinking, and then follow up with sharing all of your fears and weaknesses. It'll bring you closer guaranteed! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/16 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Fogging exampleshttp://c2.com/cgi/wiki?FoggingTechnique I like this breakdown as well. I also like to think of fogging like blending in martial arts. You aren't actively resisting the attack, you're moving enough that it removes its power... then you can redirect the energy. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/16 11:49 AM |
| 3 | Update on my journeyI'll take what's behind door #1, Monty. And to elaborate: I'll cop to a constant struggle whereupon I think somehow if I drill something home verbally it'll mean anything or have any lasting impression. Words don't mean words to women. Words are a temporary complex sound wave or typed text to convey or stimulate emotion. Action is the only thing that translates. They're entirely too used to be able to say whatever they want and mean the exact opposite or only have it mean what's convenient at th… | /r/askMRP | 02/08/16 06:13 PM |
| 7 | RP Early Days: How to initiate morning sex in bedWomen find the half-hearted "begging without speaking" approach to be a turn-off. Good way to phrase this. | /r/askMRP | 28/07/16 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Asleep shit test9 out of 10 doctors agree. I'd be one of them if I were a physician. | /r/askMRP | 27/07/16 05:11 PM |
| 0 | Don't let her girl game turn you into a betaLove is awesome. Oneitis-love = unhealthy obsession. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/16 05:04 PM |
| 3 | I know no one talks about fight club but..We see this type of question and reasoning a lot. It always comes back to NO. Those that still don't listen... we hear about later. A short answer is: you want her thinking these changes are coming from within. Also inviting her into this world is approval seeking behavior. Totally opposite of what you're trying to accomplish. If you're on a journey of change, start with this as the first change: You're on your own. | /r/askMRP | 27/07/16 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Shit test? or more?I responded with "I hope my side chick doesn't feel the same way" That's some bang up A.A. Well handled. She also text me after we spoke at lunch today and said i'm always nagging her... but I dont think I am.. She texted you. To nag you that you're nagging her? Well. Ask her less questions. If you're letting her do too much decision making, this can come back as nagging. Even stupid crap like always asking where something is instead of looking for it. You know, things you'd see on a sitcom. Eas… | /r/askMRP | 27/07/16 01:00 PM |
| 1 | I already know the answer...If after the divorce she wants to bump uglies as a plate and you can keep your emotions in check: Go for it. But, now's not the time. She filed. Adios. Build a new life with her as an ex. Don't help her keep all her options open after she's already made the "final" decision. | /r/askMRP | 26/07/16 05:39 PM |
| 1 | MRP AffirmationsI have several thoughts that go through my head at certain times depending on the situation. I've got one life. And this one is amusing so I have to laugh at it. In a 100 years no one will remember this. In 10 it wont seem important. In 1 it will probably seem a lot longer ago. So right now why should it bother me? Or to shorten: Take the long view. I'm sure I could absorb all of that angst and emotion. But it's not my torch to bear. Don't be a DEER in the headlights. Is this a real question? Or… | /r/askMRP | 22/07/16 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Advice on InsecurityI know too much about his woman's dating history. You care too much about listening to her dating history explanations. Watch her. Watch her actions. Read between the lines and plate her for a LONG time if you must. Give less fucks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/07/16 03:10 PM |
| 1 | I disowned my daughter. And after receiving ~300 man-hours of insightful comments I deleted the original post, because I am a big gaping vagina.Supporting single moms is fun. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/07/16 03:06 PM |
| – | Mods Help PleasePerhaps you should message us on whatever you other username is? Look above moderators and click message the moderators. | /r/askMRP | 21/07/16 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Teach responsibilityThat's why I said consequences that don't have am impact on you. They clearly would. You may have to get creative with having her absorb the costs of hher failures. There things she likes to do that cos extra money? Sorry hon, cant afford that right now with your increased premiums hitting us. | /r/askMRP | 20/07/16 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Teach responsibilityIf you're shielding her from the consequences of poor action, and it's making her a worse person... I would get out of the way. You don't need to apply your own consequences if they exist already. Likewise you can try to minimize their impact on you which may provide further consequences for her. Some things she also might just not be cut out for being responsible for. "Why do you always step in and do X?" "Because you don't and it hurts the family" "Why don't we do X anymore?" "Because you keep… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/16 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Constant Hard Nos9 years ago how was it? Did you give it this much hard thought back then? Or were you two less adversarial and more fun together. If sex is the only focus, sex will be the prime focus and currency. Does she want to fuck you or have to fuck you? Do you care? You've won the battle of who could care less. Now where do you go from here? No caring at all or dialing back and making something different or closer to the beginning. I'm not saying there isn't a balance or time for dread. But in this case,… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/16 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Is it bad form to provide the r/MRP link to r/DeadBedrooms when OPs need to improve themselves to improve their DB situation?If you strip out the jargon , our message to men is just as effective AND it wont summon the white knights and purple haired flabbies to come spray their estrogen fueled fervor all over the place. Also one of their mods is essentially a card carrying BP member now. PMing works. Most guys there are already fed up with the bullshit that pointless gynocentric "counsiling" and Oprah approved methods of 'talking' your problems away since it never works and just need to be shown that we exist. Sometim… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/16 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Feel terrible & broken hearted & ashamedLeave | /r/askMRP | 20/07/16 01:18 PM |
| 7 | I've disowned my daughterYou speak from a closed vantage point, so I'm not sure you'll be able to hear what those of us who strongly disagree with your approach are saying. The lesson you think you are teaching is not the lesson she will learn. 18 What did I know at 18? When did I start to appreciate what my parent's did for me? Mid to late 20's? She's a baby. Whatever your ex has fed her, you're feeding from the other side. Rise above it. You don't have to support bad habits. You don't have to furnish (nor should anyon… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/07/16 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Divorced With Kids: On Being a Part-Time Parent.I've seen a lot of examples. I seen where two people (including the woman) rise above it and you co-raise your kids in as ideal of a situation as possible. I'd try to do everything in my power to be a part of my kid's life and not buckle because an ex wants to create drama. Again, there are limits. I also have a friend who I recounted his story a while back. . . Can't find it, in a nutshell: his wife is medication level crazy, accused him of child abuse..stole kids, drained money, moved a state … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/07/16 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Divorced With Kids: On Being a Part-Time Parent.Definitely no one template fits all here. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/07/16 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Explain or not to explainNope. STFU. Repetition makes the message clear. I have enough shit to do that I never need an excuse to go somewhere and can make it productive. You also want her to put the two and two together (I'm being ugly...he's not around) for it to stick better. And just as a side note...because I comment on this so much... it may read like I leave at the drop of the hat from my comments. But I'd like to point out I usually try to lighten the mood with a.m. first. I like giving anybody the option to choo… | /r/askMRP | 19/07/16 02:02 PM |
| 1 | off my chest, need advice pleaseI dont trust her. All you need to know about her. And the last thing you need to know about her. People are here bemoaning good situations that turned shitty... and you're starting off with a shit sandwich and wanting someone to tell you how to make it palatable? NEXT WITH EXTREME PREJUDICE. CUT OFF ALL CONTACT. Plate girls until you find one you want to settle down with if that's your goal. | /r/askMRP | 19/07/16 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Update & Financial Qtoo much detail on my part, DEER-y Good catch. Sometimes at first it isn't so much about doing the right thing as be able to start recognizing the wrong things. Now you'll be more alert not to. "I'm really glad you are getting the results you want." Nice loaded way to phrase that. Not saying she was, but a lot of wives saying that would mean not necessarily results she wants. And while she may have meant that as a negative, it actually signifies her recognizing you are doing things to better you… | /r/askMRP | 19/07/16 01:46 PM |
| 1 | WifeAs others have pointed out I see this as a bit of humble-bragging... validation seeking. The only way you would hear something to be alarmed about out of her mouth is if she has 0 respect for you. Is TRYING to get YOU to feel jealous if she's been feeling a lot of it lately towards your new behavior, OR she knows she's left a clue you're going to find and is trying to head it off at the pass with a trickle-truth. But the last case would happen after something like you seeing a pic on social medi… | /r/askMRP | 18/07/16 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Just started, she wants cakeMake something verboten or taboo and you increase the pull. Buy a small quality cake. Or even deluxe cup cakes (one for each person). That way once the birthday is over there aren't days of eating it afterwards. I'm partial to Publix fancy cakes. Are they're tiny. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/07/16 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Roosh V, say it is not so! My RP fantasy destroyed.I hate black/whiting things but I always saw life journey ending as two ways successfully as a man. Option 1 The old guy sitting on his boat surrounded by a few honeys. Didn't marry (or stay married) , probably didn't have time for kids (but if he does, they visit occasionally... this guy was straight out of the Cats in the Cradle song) but had a life of adventure...full to the top. Option 2 The old guy surrounded by family. Kids, grandkids...etc. Head of his household. I don't judge either way … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/07/16 03:25 PM |
| 1 | This place is a revelation.Porn isn't a problem for me There you go. If it becomes a problem for any reason (killing motivation, not leaving enough gas in the tank to want to game wife...etc)... stop. But if it's no problem it's no problem. Not sure if there's a 100% consensus. I play an instrument (...) but I can understand how they come across as Beta Does not compute. Playing in even little local bands got me enough attention to be worth the investment. Unless it's a Clarinet.... Well, even then you could find a local … | /r/askMRP | 14/07/16 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Update & Adding Value QSo you're behind enemy lines, get handed a backpack , and think the best thing to do is just sling it on your back and run out into the DMZ. You have to really learn how to use what tools you're given to you before you start amping this up to 11. I do miss the kids. You are in control of this. Play with them. Do stuff with them. "Give mom a spontaneous day off" out by just grabbing them on a weekend morning and taking them out all day (leave a note so there's no amber alerts). This'll look like … | /r/askMRP | 13/07/16 03:19 PM |
| 1 | A Nuke, An Argument And A DNGAFSo instead, I walked in the room and told her that I will not tolerate her slamming doors or calling me a fucking asshole in my house. She crossed my boundary so, FULL ON ENGAGEMENT. This would have been good time for O.I. , definitely not confrontation and arguing. If my wife is that amped up and tantruming. Nothing I say will have any positive effect. And the difference between anger tantrum and lack of comfort spiral is running away from you vs. chasing after you. I recently fucked up and got… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/07/16 08:02 PM |
| 2 | On being funny and getting laidFunny has always worked with me. It works to varying degrees on different female types. If you get the bitchy-challenge style of shit tests...works wonders. Also, you have to tailor the humor to her level. You come in and start cracking high brow humor to a 9 or 10 (who also rates the same number in IQ) you better stick to simple stupid humor. Also you have to be very careful with self-depreciating humor. You can think it's working but you can actually be disqualifying yourself if it comes acros… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/16 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with expectations and unacceptable behaviorAnd that I expected my wife to behave in a decent manner around company and to let me know if that can be done. If you were to say anything you should have stopped with the first part of that sentence. The second part invites discourse. If you're laying down something important , it's not up for engagement. The rest is just dickering and you just should have stopped it rolling. You don't argue with a teenager. Don't dicker.... dick her. And her cuddling up was time. Something tells me you laid t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/07/16 08:10 PM |
| 2 | After going on DeadBedrooms, a kind fellow sent me the link to this sub.Just don't do overdo it with rewards. 1 good sex session over a year of nothing <> immediate plying her with massages and other shit. Paying before , or paying after is still on the beta side. Good for balance, but not when you're on the other end of the spectrum fighting to get back. and I found a blue one that's much nicer...told her she should be happy to be getting a new car period. She flips out and says I should want to make her happy, etc. Thoughts? I'd give her two options: Take the blue… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/07/16 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Time to Start Lifting...and in the meantime: burpees | /r/askMRP | 11/07/16 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Leaving as retributionA while back in the turnover phase , I got the shut down, it was early on a weekend night. I wasn't going to just sit around and watch a movie. Well we were going to originally after some 1 on 1 time. But that's when she called an audible and said no. So I prepped to leave told her I wasn't ready to veg and wanted to go do something fun as I now had excess energy to spare. She then changed her mind. But SPECIFICALLY told me it wasn't to keep me from leaving. It wasn't star fish, we both had a go… | /r/askMRP | 01/07/16 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Holding Off On SpunkGood to know I'm not alone. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/16 09:26 PM |
| 24 | Husband Out Of Control<Male perspective by request> First off: https://www.domesticshelters.org/ Find one near you and have a good exit strategy. This will get worst unattended. He has a problem. He is out of control. A serious problem that is escalating. This is the appropriate time to get kids and relocate next time he goes out. He needs to get help. You need to protect yourself, kids and lawyer up just in case he doesn't. Establish restraining orders if he gets violent. Again , I'd check out all the resources at t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/16 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Holding Off On SpunkSometimes an unused tool will just rust. If I start to lose interest... then flog the noggin', the next day: renewed interest. Go figure. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/16 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Music to Make Love to Your Old Lady ByThank you, Automoderator. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/16 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Has this come up? I'm at a lossDEER: I'm from the 80's and on reflex dick jokes occur. I'll admit sometimes they're a stretch. Of course, sometimes they're an erect. | /r/askMRP | 30/06/16 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Wow. My Red Pill ExperienceTraditional conservative and ... weird fems. Feminists? Samoflange? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/16 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Holding Off On SpunkWhen I was young I had to always keep the chamber unloading or I'd last about 2 minutes. Then I reached an age when if I fapped too much , it'd leave less gas for the woman. Now I'm at a stranger age where I have to balance, nothing...so I leave plenty of gas... but if I have a dry week or two I have to unload or >I< lose interest all together. WTF, father time? There's a sweet spot though where I get a lot more motivation, and positive interaction with the opposite sex and I just try to ride th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/16 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Has this come up? I'm at a lossWhat is dead may never die. | /r/askMRP | 30/06/16 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Has this come up? I'm at a lossI would have told you to eat shit on going to a gay guy for advice on how to look like a muscle headed blue collar guy. But I saw two guys that looked like lumberjacks kissing at dive bar a few months ago and I'd have to eat crow... or dick? | /r/askMRP | 30/06/16 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Has this come up? I'm at a lossI am now trying to figure out what she was thinking all along. This is a mental and emotional dead end. The quicker you stop trying to "figure this shit out" the quicker you'll realize what it actually was about. Because in this moment your mind will construct very elaborate scenarios and reasonings... all very complicated... and wrong. After my first marriage failed. I went down this pointless path. Wasted a lot of time and energy on it. Until finally I said :Fuck it. I'll never know and that's… | /r/askMRP | 30/06/16 01:45 PM |
| 8 | Wife compared me to Donald TrumpMy wife came back from a visit with her in laws last week, and has been a cold iron bitch ever since. My money's on that she talked to her parents about the recent change in the household dynamics. And they've given her some wonderful ( :-/ ) advice on how to "handle" you. Or is completely bolstered by family recharge time that she needs to be treated like the special snowflake she is. You act like Donald Trump! Would immediately bring me to laughter. Stay on game. Stay on point. Outlast the rec… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/06/16 05:32 PM |
| 3 | The Bitch FactorTime. It's like belly fat...the last to go. But even after you start improving in all other areas... you still just have to stick to the principals. Another way to put it is my wife has a "temper". Or as a friend of mine says: a wife that requires a lot of skill. I can be sailing along the seas of doing everything I should and all it takes is a few triggers to set her off. If it's directed at someone else and they don't deserve it, I'll step in, separate and tell her to take a breather. Or as I … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/06/16 02:12 PM |
| 6 | I've read quite a lot already the past 2 weeks, but I finally need to write this shit out and get my stupid questions out of the way.We could give you a lot of good advice. But unless you get your drinking under control first, you'll have no ability to maintain and follow through. So really stop crying about her, and cry for you. She should matter 1% in all of this and I'm being generous. All the rest is window dressing. became her favorite person again by treating her like royalty I think you're painting this incorrectly. I'd imagine your best new quality was being reliable and sober. Pedestalizing a woman by treating her li… | /r/askMRP | 29/06/16 01:26 PM |
| 1 | FR: POLL: Where we are atHer mothers mother and father. That was confusing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/06/16 10:55 PM |
| 3 | FR: POLL: Where we are atShe needs friends. And So Say We All So say we all! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/06/16 06:37 PM |
| 9 | Gaslighting responsesIf she knows they're not true, then mocking them isn't going to make them seem more true. Only DEERing gives her reason to suspect her free-jazzing ideas of why she's unhappy or bored at the moment makes her think she is hitting the mark. She's throwing out everything-plus-the-kitchen-sink at the canvas (you) and sees what sticks. Make a face. :-/ when you A.A. There's a way to say "Oh my God, you're right, we never do." and make it sound like you're in agreement, or pointing out how ridiculous.… | /r/askMRP | 28/06/16 02:28 PM |
| 1 | A few questions...Or should I stay the course and let the frustration be channeled into something positive? I ask because I'm older and if I have an orgasm, I can't have sex, should it come my way, for at least a few days. You answered you own question. Also treat yourself as your first self-improvement experiment.... see what happens. What you get done with that kind of motivation. | /r/askMRP | 28/06/16 02:22 PM |
| 3 | FR: POLL: Where we are at2+ Years? Where I need to be. Depending on the situation. Probably holding steady at 2. I don't need to move past it at the moment. I've probably gotten between 8 & 9 when things were at the beginning. Coming up on anniversary 11. Well. I get it when I want it, and it's quality. My wife has only come close to star fishing me once in the past 2 years. And it was 100% me not being on game and trying to phone it in. Still, I punted, fielded a shit-testy FILLED day the next day, and then after the d… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/06/16 02:05 PM |
| 6 | LTR GF Lying about Vacation (X-Post from askTRP) - Update + Need AdviceYour recounting of her delivery and revelation to you about this 'amazeballs-trip-opportunity with my slutty friend that ends up near where a higher branch lives" speaks volumes. So do you with trying to generalize and apply "healthy relationships can do x" hamster. Fuck that. We're not biologically the same. We don't same-sex friend vacation the same. Your gut is telling you something. Your brain is rationalizing why your gut is wrong. When you have to take this many bullet points to try to rat… | /r/askMRP | 27/06/16 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Body Hair Removal?You know, the quicker we all stop trying to look like pre-pubescent boys the quicker these fads fade. The actor Paul Blackthorne goes proud. I do as well. Although it is a must to keep the ears and noise clear of aged-professor strays. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/16 06:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you not get bored?aka humblebrag | /r/askMRP | 27/06/16 02:50 PM |
| 0 | The Epiphany Phase and Baby Rabies Never Used to ExistI get the most hate and negative feedback from this sub When? I'm not sure what your benchmark is, but all I see is double digit and up for post submissions. You have a few comments here and they're sitting at 1. Most comments here, even good ones sit at one. I, for one, hope you keep posting. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/06/16 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Sex for saleHer reaction. | /r/askMRP | 24/06/16 02:09 PM |
| 1 | premature cork popperI know this could possibly be a medical issue If it takes 15 seconds from interaction from her, how long does it take you to self muster? Can't be longer than a couple of minutes. Go unload in the bathroom. No one has to know it's a pump; not a dump. | /r/askMRP | 24/06/16 02:02 PM |
| 1 | My Journey with Alcohol and a Way OutI'm an everything in moderation kind of guy, and I've always been grateful that I didn't have issues. But I can see where my own brain works against me from time to time. What does that Rx do for the taste? I REALLY ENJOY THE TASTE OF BEER AND WHISKEY. I almost think I'd drink it still for the taste. Sometimes I'll get just a sip or two of whiskey (not even a finger) just for the bit of caramel and burn. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/16 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Conflict between Comfort Tests and HobbiesGood Christopher , that's just textbook shit-testing. Not a comfort test. Evaluate better. Comfort test isn't a situation where you need to always be coddling her. You define it as an action where she actually is scared of losing you for good. They come from blowing through shit tests for so long she actually thinks there may be nothing she can do to keep you around any longer. Ie. when you may be overselling it , or actually lose interest in her. "My wife didn't want me to go hang out with frie… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/16 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Husband no longer desires me...and I was in the delivery room. Stayed back towards her head (what she wanted) but still got some views that were explodey. Didn't really impact me. My only advice is : what are you doing other than waiting around for him to kiss you to get him going? A person who never acts sexual is a bit hard to see as a sexual object. And you need to act like it in a way HE sees and understands. Not just a coy smile. When my normally sexually submissive and introverted wife occasionally goes out of her wa… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/16 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Husband no longer desires meIf you're going to do the legwork, /r/redpillwives or /r/redpillwomen is the place for you. We're more appropriate for helping him turn things around. So try to figure out how to lead him here. Him->horse Us->water | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/16 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Relationship Mission StatementDear Diary: Not my thing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/16 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Online profiles, a burner phone, and fake email addressesI even can't think of cheating; I wouldn't be able to look her into the eyes. It's not cheating once you're divorced. All your answers are in sidebar reading material. Cuck, troll or sap. We're seeing quiet a few. | /r/askMRP | 23/06/16 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Online profiles, a burner phone, and fake email addressesThat's certainly one way to do it . I knew a guy who found out his wife was cheating and took 10 months playing good husband while he systematically built a case for alimony,primary custody and draining her small trust fund. It was straight out of something like revenge porn. I worked with her. I can't say systematically destroying someone is great karma, but if it had to happen to someone ...once you met her , you wouldn't have felt that bad for her. Royal nasty power hungry bitch at work, can … | /r/askMRP | 23/06/16 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Is Dread Working?Even if it would hurt you financially? I don't think the problem here is so much that she planned it is that she's emotively spending money they don't have. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/16 01:35 PM |
| 2 | High SMV Male Dealing with Low SMV Wife Increasing SMVI think such an advanced goal of having a DMT like release and trip from meditating can actually hamstring your perceptions of what it can or should accomplish. And like you describe, you end up getting frustrated. Ideally it should accomplish quieting. I'd stop trying so hard to Astral Travel, ya psychonaut (I'm totally enamored by the idea of doing so myself ...so that's a jab at me, too). Like I said : Headspace seems to be a good little app for simplifying meditation and making it more of a … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/06/16 03:38 PM |
| – | Should I End my Marriage for Trivial Reasons: UPDATEFan of Andy Kaufman are we? Why are you here? To not do what the advice here dictates and then post a play by play? Based on some of your comments I have to assume you're either A) Not worth helping B) a troll....(most likely) C) a willful dumbass D) into negative attention Bye bye. | /r/askMRP | 22/06/16 03:04 PM |
| 1 | High SMV Male Dealing with Low SMV Wife Increasing SMVGood for her! This is what we want right? Lazy husband gets his ass in gear and wife follows suit. I'd suggest working on giving less fucks that it's not all for you. My wife is also upping her workouts as she approaches some age milestones. I applaud and support her effort. My only practical advice, to pivot off of /u/NaturallyMasculine is to install HEADSPACE. Start meditating. 10 minutes a day is nothing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/06/16 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Confidence and Wet Panties- My Tale so FarYep. I briefly used a separate account , but for me found that to not work either. If she wants to spy in the locker room ... that's on her. It also keeps me from posting things on a whim I wouldn't also say IRL. WYSIWYG with me. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/06/16 09:50 PM |
| 2 | LTR checks ex's Facebook almost daily.. should I be concerned?Ha. | /r/askMRP | 21/06/16 03:16 PM |
| 3 | How do you manage a newborn in the house?Dude, it's been a month. You could even give it 2 or 3. The one thing TRP tries hard to NOT do is work against biology. Your wife is being subjected to the primal level of biological bombs. Go easy and enjoy spending time with your kid, now's the time to highlight your super-dad abilities... it's easy when they're a blob of crying slobber. I like babies, they're easy to entertain. Phase this shit back in gradually after few months as needed. | /r/askMRP | 21/06/16 03:13 PM |
| 6 | How do you manage a newborn in the house?Dude, it's been a month. You could even give it 2 or 3. The one thing TRP tries hard to NOT do is work against biology. Your wife is being subjected to the primal level of biological bombs. Go easy and enjoy spending time with your kid, now's the time to highlight your super-dad abilities... it's easy when they're a blob of crying slobber. I like babies, they're easy to entertain. Phase this shit back in gradually after few months as needed. | /r/askMRP | 21/06/16 03:13 PM |
| 4 | LTR checks ex's Facebook almost daily.. should I be concerned?So she has an Alpha zombie. Beta's guard , Alpha's disregard. Unless she's contacting him and setting up meet and greets then give less shits. Might be worth monitoring, but that's it. Might also be a wake up call to you to BE MORE INTERESTING AND WORK ON YOUR GAME. We live together and have been through a pretty rough year this past year. Not exactly an ideal time to cement this relationship legally. So: Don't confront Why propose now? Work on you. | /r/askMRP | 21/06/16 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Is Dread Working?She decided we were going to Disney on vacation. So how did this convo go that led to an argument. When harmful frivolous spending is suggested...and I think it's more than just saying desires outloud, then I like to offer choices. "Sure we can go, so long as you don't mind putting off school until we recoup the cost. You're call." You're setting the boundaries as the leader, but delegating the decision. And you already know what the answer will be, but I feel it's good to always offer the choic… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/06/16 02:54 PM |
| 2 | BillsOne thing they don't teach you in Home-Ec is that wives will frequently (awalt) budget including the husband as an inexhaustible renewable economic resource (HIRER). Good life insurance also means that your expiration will not affect you as a HIRER . You not getting to be able to retire is also of little economic concern unless your retirement will affect the cash flow. Cash flow = all that is important to maintain lifestyle quality and being able to keep up with the neighbors. | /r/askMRP | 20/06/16 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Why is someone a ~~faggot~~ Bernie?Growing up in the 80's. Fag and it's variants totally have 0 to do with sexual orientation. Probably disqualifies my vote. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/06/16 04:07 PM |
| 1 | BillsUse auto-pay when you can. Try to set up reminders. I'm an anal accounting fuck when it comes to tracking things and I still forgot my mortgage payment this month. She's getting on my last nerve with this shit and nothing I say to her will get her off my case Work it out some other way if you must (exercise, getting a breather, etc.). Just carry on. You know you could turn it over and the bills would be paid and accounting would be good. But the arguably more important part of thrift and saving … | /r/askMRP | 20/06/16 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Disappointing Father's DayThis has Nothing to do with their acknowledgement (they are too young) or the fact that I'm in the military Glad you see this. If he's preschool or even early early grade school (just going by the Playdoh playing) he's got like 0 frame of reference of what this could mean to his daddy. My dad died when I was really little, and he career military. I miss him severely that he wasn't around , for better or worse and appreciated 1000% what he did for us. He was a textbook strong enough father figure… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/06/16 03:50 PM |
| 4 | Why is someone a ~~faggot~~ Bernie?I'm so conflicted. I like Bernie. Can't we just call people retards or midgets? You know... socially acceptable words. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/06/16 03:40 PM |
| 3 | [Update] "Main Event coming up tonight"Going to just echo Spex : "I know you are trying, and I don't want to discourage you - but dude." But Dude, indeed. Talking about your MAP and frame is not the same as creating one. At least you got her acceptance by telling her all about it though. :-/ Expect worse shit tests now that she can anticipate this is some sort of new fad. An hour later she is giggling again. Oh yeay! Happy wife happy life! Can you see where you're glee over this is 100% the wrong mindset? You've essentially told her:… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/06/16 03:36 PM |
| 1 | [25/m] Due to particular circumstances, ex of recent LTR is moving back in with me for a few months. How do I game her back?Sure is a good thing that a guy like you is here, available when she needs you, to bail her and her little kid out of an uncomfortable life whenever she needs you. I'm sure sex is so important and special to her that she wouldn't sleep with you and lead you on to get a decent place to crash for her and her said spawn this summer. It's practically unheard of that a woman could even convince herself that she's so enlightened as to not be following her baser instincts of trading what she has of per… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/16 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Feels like I am drifting from wife after TRPTFA nailed it, but for my late 2 cents...this is one of those posts , where after you write it, read it as if someone else wrote it and what you would say to him...and had a moment of: Holy shit, wtf am I doing? And rushed out and bought a pack of condoms. If she's not going to cut it: divorcing now with no kids and her working will go a lot better for you. I had one of those early on in life and it only cost me about 100$ in paperwork (minimal court fees and paperwork we did ourselves) and pick… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/16 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Moving with 2 jobs - update & new challengesNope Nope Nope Nope I knew a guy a while back whose fairly rich boss (married by the way) would pay rent on an apartment and his favorite stripper would get to stay there. Provided that she provided him sexual favors regularly. If other girls stayed there, there was the expectation that when he came over and brought friends , they'd ALL need to party or GTFO. Is she a 8-10 & hot enough to be stripper? Are you rich and this is fun money going towards the apt? Are you having 3 ways with this other… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/16 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Man in the ArenaHa, I love yoga pants! Well at least on girls who can pull them off. Plus I'm an ass man so... she is safe with me and she doesn't need the security blanket any longer That's good if she's looking good. But too much and it'll go from diminishing returns to negative returns. And beyond the normal "safety" you don't want that sliding into "complacent". Or another way: A compliment is a good thing. Continual verbal reassurance to tease out comfort...maybe could backfire. Anyway, these are tiny fine… | /r/askMRP | 16/06/16 08:35 PM |
| 2 | She acted unattractive. Denied her sex...and you know I picked up on that because I sometimes suffer from the same affliction. So it's definitely taking one to know one and I say the same shit to myself if I get caught up in talking about something worldly and we disagree or her eyes glaze. | /r/askMRP | 16/06/16 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Man in the ArenaLess talk. My wife was wearing a dress night before last. Kid's getting ready for bed and as we're sitting on the couch I just start naturally playing with the legs. After some point she says "I guess you're going to want to be getting upstairs pretty quick." and instead of saying anything direct I just chuckled. As soon as the kid was in bed we went up. So yeah, no compliments. Just notice. The difference between a guy wanting you and a leer is THEIR feeling about the guy. Stare, touch, kino...… | /r/askMRP | 16/06/16 06:21 PM |
| 1 | She acted unattractive. Denied her sex.Q) You know what I don't talk about much with my wife? A) Political things we disagree on. Agree to disagree , learn how to handle she has a different opinion, and then later fuck the shit out of her. It was an excuse to not have sex. And a weak one. I'd suggest some exercise to work out your demons. Stop pornin' and fapping if you are. Get in a better mood and loosen up with the wife. She'll be more attractive to you when you get out of this go-nowhere-type of stupid convo about world events th… | /r/askMRP | 16/06/16 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Should I end my marriage for trivial reasons?Bleep bloop, do not replace Countpudbot 6000 | /r/askMRP | 16/06/16 02:01 AM |
| 8 | I got fat! 34(f) married to 38(m)I thought goat meat was lean? Never understood how trolls could get that big. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/16 07:02 PM |
| 1 | I got fat! 34(f) married to 38(m)Just a healthy reminder to everyone about Poe's law. Anyway: Why are you here on a men's help forum? You'd be better served in /r/fitness | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/16 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Seriously, get your fucking Vitamin D levels checkedAlso , you could go ahead an get a bottle of 1000-2000 iu's and just start taking it every day. It's pretty cheap. Really helps with works outs if your joints aren't killing you or doms doesn't last a week. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/06/16 06:30 PM |
| 16 | Don't communicate; leave -- Communication is validation-seeking behaviorI always wonder why communication is always seen as synonymous with verbal communication or directly addressing questions w/o fogging or a.a/a.m.. Agree and amplify during a "serious" question = communicating she needs to lighten up and drop it. Leaving during shit test = communication. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/06/16 06:01 PM |
| 2 | I just left my wife in another city because she couldn't stop verbally abusing meNow because she has a major emotional attachment to this show, she wanted to do it right. Attending DC shows from Baltimore can be really sucky. If you get there late you won't find parking, and you'll wait in line forever. So she asked me a few weeks back to take the day off of work or at least get off really early so we could get down there and enjoy ourselves. I knew immediately that this was a bogus deal. I would forgo good money only to still be late for the show because of her endless dawd… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/16 03:14 PM |
| 6 | Current state of my relationshipJust want to check your hindsight in your hero's journey: The beginning of our marriage she became disrespectful, basically making me feel like less of a man and that I couldn't make her happy. She tested you, whether it was fitness or shit...and you failed time and again. So she amped it up and you kept responding incorrectly and reaped the shit-harvest. I try to shut her down right then and there telling her Try doing this less by words and more by action. Just leave maybe with a parting "Have… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/16 02:49 PM |
| 2 | Main Event coming up tonightI never understood the glee with which some unplggers tend to anticipate the main event I think a lot believe it signifies some sign end point to the discomfort of changing your marriage dynamic. The problem with that thinking is that main events don't have to be solitary and can ONLY be identified in retrospect since it's just a sort of historical ranking of all events. They are the most mobile of moving goal posts. They're the extra hard mode shit test boss levels. Sometimes there's one, somet… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/16 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Main Event coming up tonightThis isn't a main event. This is her dictating when to dress you down or have a dominance contest. Abort. Go to the gym tonight. Go do anything else tonight. Or just say no like Nancy Regan. Paradoxically I think things go better in the long run if you just let her hamster run and get super pissy from your executive branch shut down. I'm going against the consensus here where people don't agree with your kid duty choice, but a good first mate would have anticipated your delaying your workout and… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/16 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Life just went into hard mode.Paragraph breaks, muthafuckers....paragraphs! We are staying at my dads right now .. When me and my wife get into a little scuffle in front of him he takes up for her. So right now I'd have to sit down with dear old dad and ask him if a condition of you living there is having his husband interfere in your marriage. If so your only choice is to move the fuck out or nut up and make them through you out. If he answers "no-of course not", then tell him and his man you're going to hold them to it. Do… | /r/askMRP | 10/06/16 08:22 PM |
| 1 | 1 4year LTR Future-wife would be "Perfect", but I have serious attachment problems.It's almost like ... like a ladder, on like about the tenth rung. It's sad but sometimes I just assume none of the prereqs have been absorbed. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/16 08:14 PM |
| 2 | 1 4year LTR Future-wife would be "Perfect", but I have serious attachment problems.Fuck dude, clingy is easy to fix. TBH this is the ONE area where just sitting her down with a talk would work. "Hey, I love that you love me so much you're like a body sock. But you're driving me away with it. When I tell you in a second I need space. I just mean, physical, and mental about 25% more than what I get. I need space." Then you give them the "rubber band" speech that wont crush her ego that it's about you being a man and having testosterone so it's why it's important so that you can … | /r/askMRP | 10/06/16 06:15 PM |
| 3 | 1 4year LTR Future-wife would be "Perfect", but I have serious attachment problems.you need an alt handle for this over_60_with_boner. Ha . We all want Op's girl, too now. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/16 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Levels of Powertalk: From the Book "Outliers"Been sitting on my kindle , I have to get around to reading it. My favorite would be: *7. "..." no talk. Or grab, spin up n' go. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/16 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Looking for a videoThis guy has two sketch rp videos. Also these guys have sketch type videos , but are much more oriented towards MGTOW. And of greatly varied quality. Let's face it. Creating a youtube channel is easy if you're totally MGTOW and only responsible for yourself. Turd Flingling Monkey SandmanMGTOW Thinking-Ape Howard Dare CS MGTOW | /r/askMRP | 10/06/16 02:46 PM |
| 1 | The Queen of DenialReally just roll with it. To me, if that was the only way things were going to happen and that method of interaction didn't do it for me (being all 50 shades all the time), I'd have to drop her and move along. Maybe doing it with a woman who enjoys pleasure in front of her would satisfy some other kink? Who knows, I'm pretty old school and not into the bdsm so it's off my radar. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/16 03:18 PM |
| 2 | The Queen of Denialjust ribbing him a little. I just see he's doing so much over-analyzing his wife and instead of self-improvement and having her follow him naturally he's trying to "figure her out" and work everything into making her happy...even if that is purposefully making her unhappy? Too much trying to get into her head. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/16 01:52 PM |
| 4 | The Queen of Denialno longer whine when she doesn't want to get busy. Good. She loves to be asked for sex I'd say based on your description that you mean "told it's time for sex". So is the synopsis that you are working with her kink and that you feel like RP helped with this? OK. Not sure where you're going otherwise. As a side note you may want to shy away from saying your wife's main goal in life is to make choices based on denying herself something...she did marry you right? What self imposed denial do you rep… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/16 01:41 PM |
| 4 | What am I missing?Ok this is a little all over the place but here we go: Wife showing more interest in me, constant banter, she's flirty and instigates play fights with me often but when I initiate during she is quick to give me a hard no. I grab her ass in public, smack her ass, say and do what I want without her objection until I try to initiate. One thing I'm starting to differentiate in my life is dominance verses sexual play. You've ever seen a female dog hump another dog? It's not sexual. You slapping her a… | /r/askMRP | 08/06/16 06:44 PM |
| 3 | TheRedPill Example. These people dont love me, last words of a dying man.Sorry about your cousin, man. You give something away for free (everything in his case) and people will associate it and you by proxy as worth absolutely nothing. When I played in a local band for fun, sometimes we'd get to open up for a larger group coming through. Locals generally would give a lot of their merch out , including cd's t-shirts , etc. The pros who would come through would always sell them no matter how small an act. Not sure if anyone remembers the band "Hot Action Cop" , they we… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/16 05:46 PM |
| 5 | "You're making me miserable"I like introspection. Good owning that you were the catalyst. so I'm I'm sulking like a sullen loser rather than making general chat She picks fights. I'm back in a good mood, and suddenly, she's back in a good mood too. Amazing how that works. I find if I notice I'm in a shit mood things are better all around if I find somewhere else to be. While we can (read: need to be) be stoic/amused in the face of a bad mood from our wife...they can't/won't when we're in a bad mood. I've noticed if I'm in … | /r/askMRP | 08/06/16 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Welcome 8,000 Subscribers to Married Red PillI try to under-prime to avoid bottle bombs. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/16 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Talk to me about "The Wall."She's 35. Yay that she's an awesome looking 35, obviously takes care of herself, but wall? I don't have any reason to believe she was some crazy ass hooker in her youth and is trying to change her ways, There's always a reason. Whether it's a confluence of events...or she's different now. Like specifically different because of the wall. but I do wonder why no one has pulled her off the market yet. One mentality I'd try to avoid at all costs is the "I like this car, someone else at the dealership… | /r/askMRP | 03/06/16 02:49 PM |
| 4 | Welcome 8,000 Subscribers to Married Red PillMy daughter will probably never know that she grew up in a household with 2 parents instead of a split household because I found the toolbox here. Kudos all around. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/16 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Welcome 8,000 Subscribers to Married Red PillI'm not sure why , but I think my flavor is beer. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/16 02:12 PM |
| 3 | The Practicality of ProstitutionIt's one way of looking at it, and an A for effort and thought. For the topic of prostitution itself ...in a vacuum... I always go back to George Carlin: Selling is legal, fucking is legal , so selling fucking should be legal. Then legal sold fucking could then have ample regulation to ensure that activity is safe as can be for all parties. But it's not yet...everywhere. [EDIT] out of respect for OP and effort, I'll kill the bulk of this text and add it to a separate post. My comments are really… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/06/16 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Vacation with a Main EventWell, so far as money decisions go: I've run the gambit of how to handle: did it first then informed her (with expected outcome), but I was at a nuclear stage. Things weren't at an improvement point. Told her I was going to do something major, then did it. Hoped she'd be on board , but it was in an area of which is under my sphere of responsibility so I saw it as more of a prep for her. Got some tests out of it, but eventually everything worked out as I demonstrated I was being competent and not… | /r/askMRP | 01/06/16 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Call girls are the only way to keep sex in a marriage healthy & aliveYeahhhhhh no. So where's the crosspost to bp and whiteknight subs as if this is the shit we actually say? It's lagging. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/06/16 02:17 PM |
| 2 | FR: Vacation Shit TestNot taking it is the cake. A.A. /A.M out of it is icing. You'll get it, once you compartmentalize and get less reactive. The only real difference is you end up less frustrated and she returns to 'normal' quicker. One thing that can bite you along the way is that as things start improving, you tend to expect less childish behavior out of your wife. You may even have long periods of few to no minor shit tests. But it will always be there. So when it occurs , you can get surprised and react in a wa… | /r/askMRP | 31/05/16 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone here taking cold showers?Cryosauna locations! what I like about it(the thought of anyway since I haven't done it yet) is apparently having a cushion of air around you , you can drop the temp a lot lower. Air vs water it's actually a lot less painful but triggers the same response. See there I go already trying to make it comfortable. Even discomfort. Ever submerge a sore foot/ankle in an ice bath? Work's great. After a few minutes the ice cubes feel like shards of glass. Supposed to do it for a max of 15 minutes. Tough … | /r/askMRP | 26/05/16 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone here taking cold showers?I want one/to try one of those cold chambers that Joe Rogan talks about all the time. There's something to be said for controlled distress in our constantly comfortable world. I had a friend who swore shit went downhill once air conditioning was invented. | /r/askMRP | 26/05/16 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Postpartum continued through 2nd pregnancy.Now, the sex did die pretty much the moment my wife found out about her first pregnancy. After annoying her for sex I realized I needed to get by on my own. I felt selfish for my needs and so I turned to porn. I really felt this was the best way to take pressure off my already stressed out wife. Well, she confronted me on it, I openly admitted what I was doing. BUT.. she informed me she considers porn cheating because I'm "lusting" after another woman. I tried explaining to her that 1) they mean… | /r/askMRP | 25/05/16 04:00 PM |
| 3 | "What are you thinking" ltr asks"What are you thinking" = I'm bored and am trying to make some banal conversation, and I've heard this in every romance book, tv show and movie I've ever watched and am fairly unoriginal at starting conversations so here I go repeating it like a parrot. Sqwuuuaaaak. "You can handle how deep my thoughts are. They're like in the Marianas Trench deep" and then distract with something else more interesting. OR Play into the dynamic and say "This" and kiss her. | /r/askMRP | 25/05/16 03:10 PM |
| 4 | Caught wife on Dating site, found out she is seeing someone.So I only really see one question real here, rephrased twice. Like I said, I know its over but I still hang onto hope. Why am I hanging on? and Why can't I just let her go be miserable with this beta? Emotional investment inertia and a case of oneitis Besides, I don't think you're going to have a choice in the matter at any rate. So better leave with dignity and on your own terms. To be fair: there's guys on here who've gotten over a wife's affairs while they were beta. They may chime in, but I … | /r/askMRP | 24/05/16 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Guidance needed...Yep she doesn't deserve someone as good as me At this point it's got an obvious direct translation into man-English: I look at all of your features on paper and you're who my friends would chide me about not being grateful to have. But you're unattractive to me and I don't understand why. ie. No alpha tingles. Gotta bring the alpha tingles. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/05/16 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Lifting Progress / Progress ReportThanks! My thoughts exactly. Down but not out. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/16 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Lifting Progress / Progress ReportNot sure yet on the prognosis, my pcp is referring me to a surgical center dr for confirmation and I guess a game plan if confirmed, waiting on a callback. I broke rule #1: stop aging. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/16 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Lifting Progress / Progress ReportJust got diagnosed with a hernia (right after leg day) take THAT underachievers. FML Seriously. Push but: stretch, keep proper form , and don't lift when you're super angry. Listen to your body. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/16 04:31 PM |
| 6 | Why are vacations a minefield?You're a captive audience. Forced mundane interaction. (the long drive or plane ride) The need to equate emotional experience with vacation. Established vacation patterns of interaction. You have to start getting crafty, things I'm starting to integrate: 1) Have audio books/ podcasts ready for long drives. Also verbal games/time passers to keep you from getting sucked into "important" conversations. 2) And just be ready for the inevitable captive conversations with AMPLE fogging, AA, etc. Be pre… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/05/16 06:30 PM |
| 8 | Overtly discussing using sex as a weapon?she is worried that we don't have anything in common anymore Shit you hear when they have a serious flagging interest in you and they're fishing for reasons you are sub-par. It's a self defense mechanism they employ. "It's not that I made a bad choice in you... you've changed/ we've 'grown apart'" b.s. Your smv is still in the gutter. Of course she's pissed a guy way below her smv (in her eyes) is requesting sexual favors. Friends and subordinates don't do that. Her actions are telling you quite… | /r/askMRP | 18/05/16 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Is she shit testing or have I moved too fast?My wife is starting to get really pissed off and frustrated with my attempts at amused mastery and agree and amplify. The moment you stop trying to do or not do things just to please / avoid angering your wife, you'll probably see an uptick in displeasure and angering. Guess what? Give less fucks. You're in her frame. Now looking back, the angrier the wife gets and the quicker I just remove myself from the situation, the quicker she's back to normal. Later on the "old and ugly" could be a comfor… | /r/askMRP | 16/05/16 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Did I let her get away with too much for too long for her to even botehr changing? Trying to change her but seems fruitlessYou're changing you. Whatever her history, that's for her to work out and through to keep up. ... or not. You have to stop thinking about this in terms of her. | /r/askMRP | 16/05/16 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Wife has agreed after next child I will be seeing other women. Advice for those that have been or are in similar arrangements.Um. I'm going to ... you know.. On all of this. Simplify. Start with the mind. Then possibly with your marriage. There's being smart about a situation. Then there's being borderline Asperger's cerebral about it. | /r/askMRP | 12/05/16 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Insufficient boundaries or absence of attraction?Since at this point just about every other guy out alphas you to your wife, if your wife is attractive she'll get hit on and will respond. If you're not actively engaged in an animated flirty convo with someone else start working in a.m.o.g. diffusion tactics. 3 - 6 for your situation.. | /r/askMRP | 12/05/16 10:58 AM |
| 1 | BJJ tryout, does it gets better?Find a Gracie certified school that teaches combatives. Its instructor led and you go through each class -(26- of them) 3 - 4 times. THEN you test for blue belt. THEN if they think you're ready they turn you loose in master cycle where you free roll. | /r/askMRP | 27/04/16 11:19 AM |
| 1 | I gotta spit this out.I'm afraid of dying without having done anything that means anything to anyone. What does that actually mean anyway? Eventually everyone you know, who knew you personally, will be dead. If they have pleasant memories of you while alive... great. People that knew you that regale tales of your greatness will eventually be dead, and those that heard it may forget. It certainly wont survive a few generations unless you're that fraction of a fraction of a percent that does something monumentally memo… | /r/askMRP | 21/04/16 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Beta Ex - Fiancee wants to see for coffee?"One last round down loser lane? That's actually a good idea, I need to do that,too, before we tie the noose...I mean knot." She's going to do what she's going to do. You, however, don't have to fucking marry her. If you found yourself here before marriage, then you better be sure you have a quality woman before you solidify the deal. If she wants to start playing with hanging herself before you legally commit...then you just feed her rope and see what she does with it. In the meantime if YOU ha… | /r/askMRP | 21/04/16 07:38 PM |
| 0 | SO dragging 3 day long temper tantrums, me at the point of giving up.The longer you play into the fight, the longer it lasts. My wife complains now that any time she wants to "communicate" ie, argue with me for something (usually resource based). I leave. If I stay there and engage with 'verbal' communication then things inevitably get worse. I have to admit, sometimes I don't always want to have to leave so I engage a bit , if she doubles down ( I can tell it's strictly a shit test and aa/am isn't working or I'm actually letting her get to me), then I have to pu… | /r/askMRP | 18/04/16 03:00 PM |
| 2 | [FR] of I installed spy software on LTRs phone.Good breakup pr0n. Set up new fb account. Refriend all friends and family you just want to use for contact management and dump your original FB account. Then only use if for keeping in touch with them. Don't post shit to it. Don't add new people. Fuck Facesmack and all it has helped do to retard any and all social growth. | /r/askMRP | 18/04/16 01:54 PM |
| 2 | "Are you having an affair?"Every self-improvement change we do has the added side effect of checking off every item in the "is he cheating list" you'll find in every other issue of Cosmo. | /r/askMRP | 14/04/16 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Being Chad let me see thru their eyes what being with a beta can be likeGrab the Kleenex. It's why I never wanted to double team a chick even in my partying of party days...too much risk of FRIENDLY FIRE. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/16 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Status update and request for advice in leading wife to be more positiveNegative attitudes can only be slowly brought around if they're going to happen. The good thing with negative friends is you can just slow fade them. Or with family just limit exposure. The brother or sister you see on holidays if at all. If the negativity is new , it's a good sign it's malleable. Worst case scenarios you can't get them to shake it and you have to bail. But you start treating the behaviors like the friends you could cut out. It really does break down to training terms. Reward po… | /r/askMRP | 12/04/16 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Learned that ltr is alcoholic. Lives with me. What's the best way to handle the move out after the break upPODS make this easy. And I think cheaper. Also, I'd probably go ahead and separate out all of my stuff and change the lock on my new bedroom door. It may sound paranoid but spurned women have broken no stereotypes in my limited exposure. Even the breakup from the mildest temperament of woman led to her pilfering a few a my things... another one who I trusted drained my bank account... you just never know. Essentially set everything up like you would with a room mate with a few temper tantrum saf… | /r/askMRP | 12/04/16 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Signs of a cheaterGotta agree with you there. | /r/askMRP | 12/04/16 01:17 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to wife when she's triggered and throwing out ultimatumsThe kids and i are washing our hands of u What does that mean exactly...just kidding, we know it means nothing and so should you. And I appreciate you posting your wife's amusing tantrums. This is so much obvious fishing on her part and supplied with the weakest of bait you bite. Stop at all the texting. Stop all the talking. The whole "I'm being stoic", beyond being a "Defense, Explanation, Excuse or Rationalization (DEER)" is like saying "I'm not participating in this" while you continue to pa… | /r/askMRP | 07/04/16 01:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond to this comfort / shit test? (LTR)Ah, an emotional high maintenance moment. I'd send her this pic with ..."hey, you know I'll love any woman back that digs my new look. What do you think?" | /r/askMRP | 01/04/16 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Overweight Newbie in LTR: How to handle a buff dude visiting home.She does not respect me much in front of these guys and usually makes fun of me in front of them(shit tests). You know an easy cheat to help out with self improvement confidence boosting goal setting is to kick a nasty bitch to the curb and do it solo. I'd start there. Ie. you're thinking about this wrong. You wont need/ will outdistance this type of chick once you've gotten 1/3 of the way through your MAP. She ain't worth the new you where you're going and will probably attempt to sabotage your… | /r/askMRP | 01/04/16 01:26 PM |
| 1 | At me end, not sure what to do.STFU completely undone by talk talk talk. If you're wife is big enough that her pushing you is an issue, you need to work out more and you need to hide her bonbons. She basically blamed me for her pushing me. The best that merits is a raised eyebrow. We all know that argument hold 0 water because "Your honor, she bitched at me until I HAD to slap her." is never a winnable defense. Ridiculous statements like that just indicate you entertained a emotional purge zone, you have to disengage, shut it… | /r/askMRP | 31/03/16 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Progress Report: Dropped the MicI told the wife what I was going to do. You gotta stop that. It's approval seeking even if mild. Even if you don't realize it. I got the same shit from my wife about beards. This comment or that. In the end it doesn't really matter. Ironically one time I mis-trimmed and had to really take it in...she then complained I looked weird with it so short. Stop talking: do. Or do not. Yoda-muthafuckers! Fyi: I use beard oil when it gets long and a little frizzy. Bear oil prices are a rip off. Buy a 4oz … | /r/askMRP | 31/03/16 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Blog post by a surprisingly self-aware woman theorizing on how to handle her shit testsMan does she do some couching to enable her self-noted-enlightened empowerment. "If you can't handle it" , so this is what she tells herself when she's a raging bitch and her mans leaves? That he can't handle it? Funny. My take on her bullets. 10 Don’t resist it. Don't care or need to handle "it" and by "it" we mean you going to hormone town. I'll fuck off to do something fun now. 9 Know that it won’t last forever. Well, that's good if you like me being around. Subset: "You should try being on t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/03/16 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Does she actually enjoy giving BJs?The thing to ponder : do you like receiving them? And if one must rationalize (why lord, why): There are a billion and a half things we do back and forth for our spouses that are for their benefit only. So even if she doesn't there's some equivalent or combined equivalent gestures you do that come out in the wash. Once you stop thinking about these things as occurring in an isolated vacuum: the easier it is to jettison a lot of the ingrained queasiness you may encounter if you think too much wit… | /r/askMRP | 28/03/16 02:18 PM |
| 5 | Are any of the MRP guys happily married?Its kinda the whole point of this place... and why we stick around. To get shit on track so happiness CAN occur for both parties. We're happy ... now . And I don't think you're reading a lot of mrp posts if divorce is the only thing you're seeing, Sunshine. | /r/askMRP | 27/03/16 03:59 AM |
| 1 | "I'm going to the gym" - aka How I fell into her frame of control.You certainly can't remind her of the last time she did this Nope. No need. You adjust. And if she doesn't then she doesn't get to tag along. she accuses you of playing games and? The trick is you don't have to respond to every statement. Here's where fogging, agree & amplify, and amused mastery will deflect until she gives up that path of naggery conversation. Employees have to answer their bosses every query. Ask yourself why you feel compelled to answer every statement with a D.E.E.R. (defens… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/03/16 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Dressing better when you have kidsSpeaking of linen, someone just recently pointed me to my cuban store. I dig the beach wedding casual. I've been trying to dial in some beach gruff drifter lately since now I've got a full beard. Got a Peter Grimm drifter style hat seems to work with darker plaid button downs (short sleeve) with shorts or jeans. I think the hat thing is to get one that you like that fits your head/style and then >own< it when you wear it. Fine line between it working, and it looking like you're trying to get it … | /r/askMRP | 24/03/16 01:07 PM |
| 0 | "I'm going to the gym" - aka How I fell into her frame of control.Well, you gave her an opportunity to come along. Next time: don't. Chicks always push the how long will you wait around for me. It's a low ball power game so don't play. Scale-able tactics depending on the situation Tell her it's X amount earlier than it really is if she' consistently late by X time. Tell her to meet you there. Don't invite the next time. [Edit] I'll stick to my plans regardless of any kicking or screaming. And really, this should be how you look at everything. Flexibility comes… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/16 07:35 PM |
| 4 | Got the long term covered. What about short term?I don't do it as much as I'd like, but I can't second taking a meditation breather enough. And not all meditation need to be sitting in a room with candles and a buddah statue. Other ways to reach "meditative and calming reflexive states" fishing hunting staring into a good fire bird watching or staring at any moving water or wildlife building something out of wood that takes more art than measure ...see where I'm going here. Find your zoning-out alone activity and go full bore. The more basic a… | /r/askMRP | 23/03/16 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Gf shit test , response to this ?I'm pretty sure that if I a answer this wrong she will give me shit. So what? And define "wrong". I hope you're not thinking as in "wrong as it won't appease and sooth her suspicions". Wrong would be NOT A.A or A.M. answers. If she wants to use this as some bitching point then go o.i. | /r/askMRP | 22/03/16 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Quick question: I play the guitar, thoughts on singing semi-blue pill songs to GF? Good, bad?Songs don't count. They're words not actions. It's if you are good and sound cool doing it. I submit to the Jury: Bruno Mars-total bp songs to begin with. But he's cool, sounds motown, traditionally that's cooler than cool. And the mofo follows up with Uptown Funk. I imagine Bruno Mars...not wearing a snorkle or scuba gear , could actually drown in pussy. And to me the most BP of BP songs that annoyed the hell out of me was James Blunt's "Beautiful" . So saccharin. And he inspired not tingles bu… | /r/askMRP | 18/03/16 02:24 PM |
| 3 | GF Broke up with me because I fell asleep and didnt answer her texts shit test.Dude. Why are you here and not on RP juggling plates? Regardless, your text game needs to come up. Where the fuck is the agree and amplify or amused mastery? If you aren't high enough on her list to be a dick occasionally or fail a comfort test of words and feels... you aren't on your game. You're low value. "While you were sleeping" she was via text working out whether to keep dating you or not. That choice was pretty much made when you came back online and while she took her last gasp you sat … | /r/askMRP | 17/03/16 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Looking for guidanceTough situation. There's a few here who have sprung back from being cucked. But to me the choice isn't so much between whether to keep or ditch her based on what she did, but whether to keep or kick based on how it affects you mentally or to be cheesy...your overall spirit. 1) Do you give a fuck? Enough fucks that you can't control so much so that it'll always be the 3rd person in the room? Do you think it's permanently damaged her perception of the level of bullshit you'll forgive? Do you think… | /r/askMRP | 17/03/16 02:51 PM |
| 4 | Gaming Your Wife For DummiesRandom acts of senseless make outs. When things are old and stagnant. Even if beta. You treat it like you're a guerrilla warrior. Go in for your normal goodbye peck? Hold it. IIRC, 10 seconds is a MMSLP thing. I pay more attention to reception than time. You either hit a lip melt point or a stiffening. If she starts stiff then melts then mission accomplished. If she stays stiff or gets that way after the disengage if she hasn't already. Crossing paths in the hall. Block hers and plant one on her… | /r/askMRP | 16/03/16 01:32 PM |
| 1 | menopauseI can't speak to have been through it, but because of certain genetics I'm actually preparing mentally for it hitting my wife fairly soon. I expect : A LOT more random shit tests. I will handle as I always had. She'll be feeling the accelerated aging effects so a.a. and a.m. or ribbing her about looks will be on hold. Cut down on quantity time and be scarcer when the mood swings are bad. Also : more lube. More maintenance and less excitement tingle driven sex. Probably a lot more lmr or hard nos… | /r/askMRP | 15/03/16 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Morbidly curious what started all this for you guysSometimes you have to thank fickle history that your misdeeds are forgotten. There were so many men, women with toys and various farm animals there that day and every day for years. Like the Tomb of the Unknown soldier, all of those unidentified, such as yourself, are memorialized on plaque by action and memory if not name. If memory serves correct the plaque reads "Here layeth uncounted dead sperm left in around and on the floor of the abode of Fidesphilio's mom, the biggest whore in the world … | /r/askMRP | 14/03/16 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Morbidly curious what started all this for you guys;-) | /r/askMRP | 14/03/16 02:55 PM |
| 9 | Morbidly curious what started all this for you guysI can actually tell you the exact moment it started for me and many more of us. I'm actually from a really small town and had very few choices of dating partners. A lot of cousins and inbreeding mostly for the locals. As you could imagine I grew up without any interaction or intimate relation with the opposite sex. One fateful (as far as my rp life is concerned) day I heard from my good friend /u/SorcererKing that there was a chick just screwing every boy/guy (or animal as it turned out) in town… | /r/askMRP | 14/03/16 02:28 PM |
| 12 | Why would any woman complain about MRP?The jargon... it's all about the jargon. Oh and Chad's are supposed to just be born, not created. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/03/16 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Don't tell the wife about MRP???I really need to keep this handy so I don't have to hunt for it every time. My experience. | /r/askMRP | 09/03/16 08:23 PM |
| 3 | x-post from relationshits - Ianwood with the hard truths.Archived link in case they take the post down: https://archive.is/CTdyH Ian's the man. Note (my well hedged wager, please correct me /u/IanIronwood if this isn't your intent) this is for the audience's benefit. He's not seeking to reform her thinking. She's looking for the next branch and acting as expected given her husband's lack of leadership. He's simply highlighting the hypocrisy. And there's nothing better than when someone goes to relationshits expecting rousing enthusiasm and support for… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/03/16 03:01 PM |
| 1 | LTR Had repressed feelings that she let out earlier need help on how to react.Let's look at it as an ascending crap ladder with you stepping into it with your first foot. Ladder rung 1: She calls me Jump off point: You let it go to vm. (which from now on you're going to do going forward) You check said vm to see if it's something important or an arrangement to meet somewhere. No? Call back tomorrow or a lot later. Ladder rung 2: You somehow get drawn into a banal, friendship level , boring phone conversation where she's airing her ideas out loud. Jump off point: "I've got… | /r/askMRP | 09/03/16 02:48 PM |
| 2 | LTR Had repressed feelings that she let out earlier need help on how to react.Exactly, I'm reading this and going : engaging this level of hamster and not even married? WTF? | /r/askMRP | 09/03/16 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Question regarding monk modeI see monk mode as being when you essentially have to withdraw from outside stimuli in order to focus inwards. There's many paths to this, but you start by disengaging from habitual ritual. Ie. you two always watch tv together at night until you fall asleep? Nope, now you're working on a hobby. You're cutting the quantity waste time out of your life and replacing it with anything and everything that improves you as a person. If sex is a contention and used against you a lot...it's out for the ti… | /r/askMRP | 09/03/16 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Handling Shit TestsEchoing the chamber here: forget about it. Give less fucks.. nothing to see here. You're dialing back the orbiting. She'll buck the new trend. You handled it well, you just have to keep it up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/03/16 02:48 PM |
| -1 | [FR] Placating enables shitty behavior - don't do it.Fun with the in-laws. Strikes a familiar tune. I get along great with my m-i-l but I know it's primarily because I wasn't one of her latch key kids. I also know to take any noises coming out of her mouth as mostly random noise. I see my m-i-l at the emotional development level she was capable of reaching ... which is pretty low and with a lot of narcissism. So while I can step back, joke with her (m-i-l) , a.a. , dismiss and we get along great... my wife takes all of it to heart and has no such … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/03/16 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Shit tests using Kids behaviour?Sounds like you need to turn your phone off or take longer to text back. Don't use texts for conversation. Coordination, emergency and simple yes/no's only. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/03/16 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Complimenting my wife as part of gaming?Before I start down the path of anything I always check to see if something is broken before I fix it. Does it work? [EDIT] and I didn't really answer your question on my thought on compliments in general: if I'm going to make a compliment to my wife first: everything should be going well,and it's something seriously deserving of a compliment. My wife is pretty confident in her looks, so a compliment on them would be pretty low ball. My most recent compliment to her was how flexible she is becau… | /r/askMRP | 08/03/16 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Ok, But What About Love?She's currently who she is now thanks to how you're behaving. But your oneitis is self imposed... it has no bearing on a healthy love. It's a desperate clingy , chick-turning off kind of love. A girl that knows she's the ONLY girl for you (or that you'll get) quickly will get the idea she got duped into being the one saddled with someone nobody else wanted. Now... if you were a raging angry ball of hate you'd need to learn to accept her...while you work on yourself. Personally, post the whole pr… | /r/askMRP | 07/03/16 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Field report and a question?You're setting the tone. It would be unusual for you to have low testosterone at this age , so I would talk openly and honestly to your doctor about your libido being low. Also if you're "athletic" is it from a lot of calisthenics/ sports? IMO it's very important to still do weight training and push the heavy weights to keep your test up. But still..talk to your physician about that. Good job not caving and allowing sex to become an element of barter. There will always be push and pull to this. … | /r/askMRP | 04/03/16 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Men of MRP. How did/do you gain abundance mentality when in an LTR or marraige with your oneitis?Personally, all I have to do is meditate for a few minutes on impermanence then take a look at all the bazillion women in the world. Ever since I STARTED dating in high school (I emphasize started, because I had a time getting that first actual date compared to my peers.... as a junior in high school). I've never been single for more than a month unless I decided to take a break. That on it's own is kind of fucked up so I'm not bragging. Because I never got to really pursue anything without the … | /r/askMRP | 04/03/16 03:18 PM |
| 10 | Calling out disrespectful MIL and SIL after movie and comments about sexy leading man did I over step?I'd just like to go on record saying that if you one uses the words "Calling out" and that you think by "Calling women out" on shit it makes an iota of kudos/irl-karma... you're gonna have a bad time. It's like the opposite of trying to stfu. They may defer to what you say in shock of the dagger you just put in their fun but in their heads it's a tick mark in the "this guy just got his back up over something innocuous." Seeing their crap called out they shut right up. Soooooo not all silence = m… | /r/askMRP | 03/03/16 03:08 PM |
| 1 | CinemaUm... other regular dates. Dinner, seeing bands, going to a bar/dance club. Movies aren't generally my thing either. It's not "shitty and lasts for an hour and a half" it's "shitty and the previews take up 30 minutes, if you're not there before they start expect to sit in a shitty seat, then the ride there and back." It's like a 3ish hour amount for me. And other theater goers get on my nerves. Last movie I saw was the new Star Wars... with my adult nephew. If my wife wants to see a chick-flick … | /r/askMRP | 02/03/16 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Need advice/guidance pleaseStart working on the art of S.T.F.U. I maintain frame for a good 20 minutes You stood there while she unloaded on you for 20 minutes? The longer you sit around taking it the more you're setting yourself up to fail, especially in the early phases. You need to have some O.I. plans you can always go do. | /r/askMRP | 02/03/16 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Assertiveness in shared householdSo you've got it on two fronts. The guy you're not sure how to handle socially because in cave man days you could have hit him with a stick until he was a pulp or picking the lice out of your hair AND since you don't know how to handle it your wife giving you the stink eye until you do. First off : is what he is saying really worth any or all of this attention or has your wife got you amped up pulling your strings? Give us an example of some shit he said. Is he basically outwitting you and makin… | /r/askMRP | 29/02/16 02:48 PM |
| 1 | How do you handle sex/initiation, *while* you're improving (which means that 'you're not yet improved' -- which means "she doesn't want it from you.")I think a good angle to help break the ice is to revisit how you were when dating. It having been many moons ago I had to really shake the dust off but I remember not only needing a hard no, but pushing it and pushing it with getting her amped up. Until she was either changing her mind from foreplay onslaught or hit the a.s.d. wall that night. Fast forward to now... once I got out of the initial anger stage I really readopted my devil-may-care attitude around her. And even though a lot of it was… | /r/askMRP | 29/02/16 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Blind...need help seeing the lightPossibly. The problem I see is where he's at in the process... the beginning essentially. I'm probably biased because going full monk/shut off at the beginning of my MRP journey really shook my wife out of her 8 year ingrained patterns. My total withdrawal to regroup had the side effect (dread) of making her forget her attitude that she knew how to read me like a book. Then when I came back with initiation after the reset, she was all over me like white on rice without me having to hardly initia… | /r/askMRP | 28/02/16 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Blind...need help seeing the lightCurrently your wife has friendzoned her beta husband. While you work on your map, I'd slow fade any and all feels from her. You're getting shit/easily shut down for trying to initiate, she needs to get little to nothing of friendzone time from you. I say slow fade to avoid direct confrontation or talks since at this point you may have trouble fielding them. Be less available and fill up your time elsewhere. You really need to get her to see you in a masculine /non-friend light. You'll never be a… | /r/askMRP | 25/02/16 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Any experience with ignoring valentine's day?We get asked a lot : how do I OI without looking butthurt? Sometimes it's just waiting a short span of time. Couch= a few minutes. Valentines = that day. | /r/askMRP | 13/02/16 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Thank you. No really, THANK YOU.No...thank you! Seriously, if we can help one guy turn his marriage around, it's a victory for all. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/02/16 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Any experience with ignoring valentine's day?Well , we don't really know where you're at in the process. So, in a vacuum: think of Valentines as a nice reflection on your relationship. If it's bland and just barely checks the tick marks, so should your present be. Ie. get her a nice bland card and a cheap box of Whitmans sampler chocolates, maybe throw in some grocery store flowers. Then continue with the map tomorrow. If you were really at the anger stage, 15 years and 3 deadbed... and she hasn't responded to any improvements the answer w… | /r/askMRP | 12/02/16 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Questions on some observationsDo you routinely have a guys night out or hobby that takes you out of the house weekly? <start here> Are you upping your physique and wardrobe? Every chick goes for different levels of touch, but to me the head on chest would have come across as a "reward" for being a "good beta boy" in not pushing your desires on her. No thanks. Definitely mix it up. Going to bed at a different time is good. Initiating at different times during the day. It's not a straight track. More like a sailing to a specif… | /r/askMRP | 11/02/16 03:24 PM |
| 1 | MateguardingTwist: Ucad was the rock climber looking for another married plate. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/02/16 03:04 PM |
| 4 | Questions on some observationsSeems like things worked out. Just don't know if I would have referred to the first incident as OI. OI is essentially having a backup plan and not being hemmed in to her interaction. You actually didn't demonstrate that with sticking around and giving her warm and fuzzies after turning you down (the head on the chest). You didn't get what you need , but she got the feels she needed. But it's macro/bigger picture so if you're getting what you need usually and this is a blip you don't go hard core… | /r/askMRP | 11/02/16 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Did I overplay this dread? It seemed to work great and I wasn't intending on anything to happen.Mild dread occurred, just by you being confident you, not self-stopping harmless flirting and getting a free shot. Got mate guarding sex. Where is the problem? Ride each wave as they come there will be troughs. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/16 11:16 PM |
| 2 | [911] I mate guarded and the guy told my wifeLate to the party... but my 2 cents are: Probably would have been better if you had this conversation with your wife instead of him a la "It's not appropriate. Let him know or I will." But it didn't go down that way so what do you do now? It's a bit beta when this shit happens , but the lesser apes are going to test the Silverback, that shit you have to laugh off and watch your wife for her reactions, BUT IMO this guy has his own wife, so his fuckery and sneakiness is less normal or even slightl… | /r/askMRP | 10/02/16 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Stay at home, or am I just being delusionalI've had a friend who got a buy out package about 15 years ago. Has been a sahd ever since. His wife is a bigwig at a tech company in CA. He's never looked back, does what he wants, pretty natural alpha. I don't see a problem with it because he doesn't. Any restrictions with investing the money you end up with? Would they see money management as work enough to cut it off? Stocks, etc? Investing doesn't necessarily mean brick and mortar, but taxation(hence the state) will be involved unless it's … | /r/askMRP | 09/02/16 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Wife HATES the ass slap.Just seconding: Next time... maybe a few weeks from now... aim lower and go lighter, Popeye. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/16 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Super Bowl halftime showWhat I meant is your replies to any negative comments indicate a defensiveness ego hurdle you may want to investigate. So when you reply with something like... "Ahh yes, heaven forbid anybody who posts here has any issues they need to work through, real or otherwise imagined by the moderators or "flaired gods."" It means you think that somehow we value flair over content. Consistently good content is what gets people flaired but it doesn't dictate who can post. Anyway... a real sidetrack here. J… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Super Bowl halftime showI love it when bitches, the state you're clearly living in, bemoan heavy handedness when clearly we're just letting you throw a tantrum. Kinda like if you can't laugh at yourself expect others to do it for you. If youre having problems killing your own ego and come in here showing it all to us like a flasher in a raincoat ,you shouldn't be surprised we're calling you on it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/16 12:38 AM |
| 5 | Super Bowl halftime showMy kid was in bed. Was a school night. I liked Coldplay, Beyonce is badunk, and Bruno is funky (even though he writes some of the most bp drivel, it gets him pussy in the truckloads...difference between being an entertainer and orbiter, I guess). But that wasn't the song he was singing...I'm a big time fan of James Brown , Morris Day and so I loved the throw back even down to the call and report at the end and then Coldplay retrospective where he mixed in other lyrics. This is some MGTOW, butthu… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/16 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Aren't they gonna show his wife?I know the reason, I don't care about the reason Sums it up. Ducks quack. Dogs bark. Women ask femcentric questions based on the false elevation of status based on mate choice. It is interesting to note, they probably rank the sport of locking down ballers as tough and as competitive as the actual sport. Ergo, in their eyes, she's an equal achiever. The measuring stick is always held to his achievement. I see it as a sign a maturity I don't ask the loaded questions as well. Serves no purpose whe… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/16 06:06 PM |
| 7 | Struggling with the abundance mentality re my exYou're not really at abundance mode time. You're at restructure after a massive paradigm shift time. Friends, hobbies, activities with your kids and time-passing is about it. Once you're familiar with the routine and over having that band on your finger (figurative in your case) you'll be ready for the next phase. Stay busy. This phase...like your LTR is only temporary. | /r/askMRP | 08/02/16 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Introducing BPP's book: Saving A Low Sex Marriage: A Man's Guide to Dread, Seduction and the Long GameWTG, Prof! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/16 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How to encourage change, if she disagrees? (Physical, workout wise)That was it. In a nutshell: if your business is X , your spouse should not be the antithesis of X. Else people will view you with skepticism. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/02/16 06:46 PM |
| 2 | How to encourage change, if she disagrees? (Physical, workout wise)I have to say from an observer side: my BJJ instructor / NG Aikido instructor has an unhealthily fat wife. He's fit. She's a squat fatty. I've seen their marriage pic, she was hot back then. Now she's 3 kids in and 20 + years married. From my observation when she's around she's the captain and he always defers to her. Everything he does (up to owning his dojo) appears to be "because she allows it". It severely impacts my ability to take him seriously when he's lecturing the class about something… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/02/16 05:30 PM |
| 1 | I'm having a rough patch and need some insight.Next time she says im nagging i want to bring all this shit up about all the shit she asked me to do, which i did, and sex is the same. Sounds like you've back slid/ regressing. Definitely fight all urges to do anything the way you would have pre-rp. Remember stfu. Less words more action. You see a resurgence of resistance every once in a while even after dramatic improvement. I chalk it up to getting too familiar with the new things. It's when you know it's time to change things up. Keep it int… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/02/16 02:39 PM |
| 7 | Frustration and Impatience.Life can be looked at as a comedy of errors. This time you supplied the punchline. Laugh at what happened. Next time request alternate release...or if you're up for it, just start right next to her. I'd highly recommend mixing in some meditation to your routine if you haven't already. Or yoga for flexibility (but also helps to calm you so you're not prone to ... go off half(self)-cockkkkked). | /r/askMRP | 02/02/16 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Found out my wife is a *supreme* bitchYeah, if I had any doubts you were a troll before, I appreciate you clearing that up. 'Yeah guys, I totally kicked that bitch out for her Reddit posts." | /r/askMRP | 01/02/16 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Found out my wife is a *supreme* bitchno way I'm going to tolerate her attitude around my kids And that's what we'd tell you. Honestly RP, BP.... it's all fucking jargon. What's important is the message. We (MRP) use the jargon to more easily convey ideas. That's all. You could call it by the Matrix name, or anything else. You could be confused because tbp is just a satire area. Mix that in with what people consider a real self-help sight and then you get your wtf moment. For us, we aim to transform guys in shitty marriages into lea… | /r/askMRP | 01/02/16 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Step One: Get Past Victim MentalityYisssssss Stop being who others have categorized you as. Even if that means your own ego. Only recently have I seen so much light rain down on how there are benefits to your sense of self and others by being a victim. So much so that people seek this status out, and wrap themselves with it and the comfort of others patting their shoulders with sympathy. Those that have been truly victimized win their life back by overcoming and perseverance. Becoming victims-no-more. If anyone needs a hard look … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/16 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Found out my wife is a *supreme* bitchThrowaway for very obvious reasons Because... bp troll post? TBP does nothing but attempt to lampoon rp, mrp and the related. Their job is to 100% hamster and take out of context and always take the straw man victim rp wife's side. So your wife posts to a sub, that does nothing but monitor these subs. I hate to say it but I have to monitor that cesspool for brigading and while I see nothing but obsessing over our posts I don't really see "about how awful men are". Just how awful WE are. If you w… | /r/askMRP | 01/02/16 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Please help me learn to respond to this type of questionPaging /u/theultmatecad | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/16 03:11 PM |
| 3 | A literal example of captain/first mate not working.Sorry ... All woman are the same. ... Which they aren't. And many people think that's what awalt means....which it doesn't...check the recommended videos. There's a good one illustrating the point. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/16 09:14 PM |
| 12 | A literal example of captain/first mate not working.Awalt <> awats My wife can navigate well. Sounds like a situation where you need to adapt and apply leadership to the whole instead of the niggling details. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/16 04:13 PM |
| -1 | **New posting rule**Yer a real double edged sword there, J10. I love your FR breakdowns, but is stopping while you are ahead a typical problem for you? I think we've got your ire and opinion on the matter locked down. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/16 09:36 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Critique, evaulateIMO Scheduled nookie is perilous and totally not rp. Not unless you make the schedule that second for that minute. Sets up something you should be doing spontaneously and freer as a bartering chip, defined chore and currency. All things to avoid. I go so far as to not even hint that it's time until it's time. The more setup my wife gets , the more shit tests and lmr she has to think up. It's either do or don't in the hizzy. And, like the rest have hit on...STFU. | /r/askMRP | 28/01/16 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Smart, or just a cop out?You get out what you put in. keep walking on eggshells and avoid a fight? Why do this? You can't live life in fear of upsetting your wife. If anything, the occasional upset is good for you. Are YOU where YOU want to be and your relationship where you want it to be? | /r/askMRP | 28/01/16 03:22 PM |
| 0 | **New posting rule**what you had in mind to replace it. The idea that is what you lament and that already exists: askmrp I admit I didn't highlight askmrp as an area for this in my frustration, because I want to start taking that as read that subscribers are aware of that. But that does put my big ass in assumption which I should not do. And I'm probably very wrong about that. I've unstickied this to see how votes rate the issue instead of my dogmatic apporach and taken it to the other mods asking what you have hig… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/16 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Back rubsWe all have varying levels of stamina when it comes to what battles we're wanting to take on at the same time. Not everything you want to change requires talk or a direct address. If you're feeling overwhelmed by all of this, are finding that implementing all at once or even moving enough steps in the right direction is causing you to juggle to distraction then start implementing tools of slow fade, postponement and "sucking at it". Start sucking at back rubs. Or when she presents her back. Tick… | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Back rubstell her with a grin that yours is blowjobs while you rest. beat me to it <shakes fist at screen> | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 08:07 PM |
| 2 | **New posting rule**Some take 'set your own goals' very much to heart. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/01/16 07:07 PM |
| 0 | **New posting rule**I knew this had to be covered before. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/01/16 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Handling transition from shit to comfort test vis-a-vis withdrawing attentiononce she is in “go to work” mode initiating has never worked in the past So it may be more about not setting yourself up for failure. I think a missed opportunity when the frequency is regular is better than a botched one. This doesn't mean you don't try when A) your back eyeballs are floating in all the backed up baby batter or B) things have been going so well that a setback (if it occurred) would hurt you much. Hell, I'm not even sure any choice is a bad choice at this moment, so you could be… | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 04:32 PM |
| 4 | Pretty new and had a quick questionModeration is always the key. I feel like any leisure activity is good/not good based on if it's interfering with anything. Before everyone had a console and CoD the act itself was seen as a bit poindextery by I think that stigma has lessened tremendously. I see it as an "escapist" flavor of leisure (reading a book, watching TV solo). So that can seem to have more negative impact if not self-policed. | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Handling transition from shit to comfort test vis-a-vis withdrawing attentionGaming is good, I'd just be leery of doing it so much that it becomes a constant smp boosting validation machine for the wife. Ebb...and flow. Keep it random enough to not become common place. Sounds like you're starting to read her a little better with how you should react. It's good to leave them hanging and wanting more from time to time. So ... what was the question? | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Throwback - that Vision thingAmen. I'm as alpha as I want to be. In as much shape as I want to be mostly (except for this damn knee injury.. working on that). Get as much sex as I want / need. Hint, not all of us need 7 times a week around here. Screw as many chicks as I need (...it's one right now, and I happen to be married to her). Have a little less money than I'd like, but enough to be content and enough to try to make more. A wife who makes me happy 90% of the time and is pleasant to be around. And yes, I let her bala… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/01/16 03:34 PM |
| 1 | How to pass this shit testand a followup to my comment: what money is she living off of? If she has none of her own, since she's prone to pull this type of disappear tactic, I hope for shit it's not on your dime. You need to cut off all access to your funds. Move them. Set up a new account and switch your direct deposit. It may take a week or two, but don't lose your resolve. Have her on an allowance. Set up a p.o. box or separate address to keep this in the dark as long as possible. She'll only have legal recourse to ge… | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 02:53 PM |
| 0 | How to pass this shit testThe best way to ensure that pirates, hostage takers and terrorists continue to exhibit the same behavior and tactics is to give in to their demands. I captain a competitive sailing team which races on every sunday with the exception of Christmas. I'm usually by the boat at 11am and only back by 6/6:30PM. This obviously takes a toll on my wife, as it means that most weekends in the summer (Australia) are spent where we live, rather than having weekends away. She brings it up every now and then, b… | /r/askMRP | 27/01/16 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Edging the Main EventReally depends on the tone. You'll have to decide. If she has that crazy look in her eye, if you're close enough to t.m.e. (or in it). Might be time to bump with a comfort blanket, then light a.a. for relief laughs. "I don't know who you are anymore. I don't think you even love me anymore. Why are you such a jerk to me?" Come in close for a hug. "Hey, babe. Sometimes I know its hard to see the big picture, and I know things might seem different or rough, but I want to make us last the long haul.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/16 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Edging the Main EventWell, it's probably good movement overall , one thing you may have done differently is if she complains she didn't get off. Tell her she only needs to wait for <insert your refractory period here>. Treat it as an invite to go round 2. Even though we say certain things like she's up to managing her own O's or emotions , you don't verbalize it. It's best done with actions (or inactions). So the "babe ultimatly your pleasure is your problem" was too direct and verbal imo. You also seem to need to p… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/16 08:52 PM |
| 1 | I don't care about dressing up (but I guess I should). Opinions?I try to dress age appropriate and that covers most of the bases. Over 40 and wearing an ironic t-shirt? I'll know to ask you where the next Magic-the-Gathering meet up is. Bumming around the house it's hard to care to dress up. Working in the yard it's whatever is weather appropriate. I live in a land of golfers and polos. So shorts and a Polo is highly acceptable around here. No one voluntarily wears long sleeve shirts for most of the year here, and unless you're going clubbing a sport coat is… | /r/askMRP | 26/01/16 03:24 PM |
| 1 | In a relationship? Keylog the bitch and meet your girl. It won't be pretty.I think it's a good exercise if one needs to Help with de-pedastallizing women in general, if you can't help but think they crap out rainbows. Asset protection during an unstable time, or just every blue moon to ensure status quo. The equivalent of randomly deciding to come home early from work, or for lunch when you normally eat out...etc. Someone's acting shady. Also a good litmus test for when you're newly unplugging and implementing. One day, you may come across a woman who has finished with… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Wife went through my phone, confessed, apologized profuselySo lets get this out of the way: she wasn't apologizing for going through your phone. She was using her going through the phone and a subsequent "apology" to try to get answers and a conversation out of you on your recent behavior changes. They will do this to undercut dread. You should understand the dread was working to the point where she decided it was better to do something bad to get attention instead of trying to work within the new framework, right? It's like a kid who would rather be in… | /r/askMRP | 25/01/16 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Were my actions unwarranted?So you ask her a question and she goes on the offensive? What does that tell you? But still, it's academic at this point because there were no control measures or proper expectations set in place. There was some guess work. No point in crying over spilled milk, but allow this to spur you to decide how you want the finances to go and take the emotions out of it. Have a clearer definition of a financial plan or divisions and responsibilities. Going rp meant my wife went from full access to all fun… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/16 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Advice on a SituationI make it a hobby of NOT having a hobby being concerned about family drama. I make an assessment so that I can tailor my interaction then stop thinking about it, completely. Chaos begets chaos. Chaotic people suck others into a whirlwind around them to fuck up everyone else' lives (and your frame) to the point where they're always at the eye of the storm reaping whatever the fuck they wanted (or don't even know they wanted) but subconsciously design to get. Be it money, attention or just the con… | /r/askMRP | 25/01/16 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Group MRP Challenge: 60 Days of DreadHere we go, (had to give some thought to these) Fitness The past year has been quite a challenge to me physically. Right at the height of my becoming a badass (had doubled my squats and was dead-lifting like a mofo, seriously on my way to 400lb which I was proud of not having started lifting until 40) I got a weird knee/ankle combo injury during an Aikido test (amped up bb candidate flying scissored me, corkscrewing all my weight plus his on my leg). The end result after 3 months of P.T. Xrays i… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/01/16 04:52 PM |
| 1 | LTR Found out I reopened my old facebook account.Any answer other than "Because I wanted to." or fogging/a.a. is a d.e.e.r. . If unsure I tend to go with the honesty of "because I wanted to." "But why did you want to?" "I don't know, sometimes I'm a mystery even to myself." "That's not a real answer." What is real? Why wont you answer me? That's a good question as well. You're an ass I know, how do you put up with that guy? | /r/askMRP | 22/01/16 03:55 PM |
| 3 | HobbiesYou have to keep on doing what you like. The moment you start letting her dictate your hobbies and interests she moves from being your wife to your mom. I had one of those. Don't need/want another. | /r/askMRP | 22/01/16 03:50 PM |
| 3 | How can I work to accept that I am, as a man, disposable?Don't confuse replaceable with disposable. And I make that distinction because disposable hints at an item with no value. We make our own value. We find our own value in others. But it isn't men alone: EVERYONE is replaceable. And before anyone says "except parents/children" I've seen children renounce their parents as adults (especially when they have surrogates like a step parent or close friend's parents). And I've seen both a man and a woman abandon their children with 0 remorse. Now, once y… | /r/askMRP | 21/01/16 08:36 PM |
| 6 | Need advice. 7y LTR with shy high-quality girl. Break up or keep going?My main issue is that she's really shy and insecure. Her main issue, not yours. So? Shy and insecure girls seem to really cling to outgoing and secure men. She hasn't met almost any of my friends in our 7 year relationship but neither my family. She has interacted with them less than a dozen times. She has no friends. Honestly I care less the older I get if my wife wants to hang with my friends or not. There's certain functions she needs to attend as some are my surrogate family, but other than … | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 07:54 PM |
| 4 | How I Blew Up My Whole Life and Saw EVERY Redpill Truth Play OutSo while awalt, not awalfs (lazy fat slobs) in reaction to having a guy go (or be) beta. You know what she does when she gets comfortable. Even if you plan on never letting that happen again , you know this lazy fat slob is still in there waiting to come out. Let some other guy keep her on her toes or buy her cupcakes. I actually think this is harder slide for guys to get over . Them just letting themselves go physically. Rather than say, they just get bossier or turn into a nag. Now you can pla… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/01/16 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Lots of things going on...not sure if it's the right path.That it may be overwhelming for her and the family And specifically on this: You dial back when you've found you've reached your goal/equilibrium/satisfaction. This is where you may need to post or engage in a specific issue as they come up if you're not sure how to handle it. Ie. don't borrow trouble. Your changes are internal and pretty tame, so I can't see how anything is going to overwhelm anybody. Just the opposite. If she feels like she can count on you to be a good leader/rock/unflappable… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Lots of things going on...not sure if it's the right path.No matter what she does you should filter through the same lens and act accordingly. ie. shit tests are still shit tests, you still treat the same. My wife will still (and always will) inspire me to O.I. where I have to knuckle down and leave (sometimes quite the inconvenience, but I have a lot of things I can go do rather than put up with an emotional rant). On the flipside sometimes she'll inspire me to go out of my way to do something nice. Either way it's "What do I want to do about this." N… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Lots of things going on...not sure if it's the right path.Doing well. Internalization is the key. I think a lot of guys may experience a flush of excitement from their wife/ltr due to the surge of novelty. You start to switch over (even gradually) and they suddenly have more to deal with emotionally when it comes to you. It's like press for the famous. No press is bad press, when coming from a place of despondence or apathy no emotion is bad emotion. Just to touch on this: The vets here talk a lot about taking it slow. I do believe for a lot of the cas… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 04:31 PM |
| 7 | [FR] [Advice?]The problem with having girl-style conversations with your wife is that she will talk to you and treat you like just a girl/friend. This is the shit they say to each other. "Thinking of mmf with this guy" What a great time to remind her you're male: "Just 2? What an underachiever! I need a train of female sex slaves. One to sit on my face, two to be doing 69 in front of me (when I come up for air), maybe one on each big toe, one for each hand. While I'm getting a massage...still not sure how to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/01/16 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Why did/do you want to have kids?I believe in legacy. Granted it doesn't have to be genetic...but that helps. Also, I like to think that of the few things I'm sure of we we're supposed to do... procreating is one of them. I'd like to think my particular subset of genes are worth passing on. Also... I think it's the most important answer: Because I just wanted to. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/01/16 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Is controlling your women by telling her what to do a "redpiller" trait.If your wife/ltr starts doing things that you feel like she needs to stop, yet is seen as controlling to tell her to stop directly then you need to ask yourself why she's doing it and address the root-cause. Hint: It's usually you. I say usually and not always because there could be some lingering baggage like a bad relationship with her family or shitty boss, but there's some driver. And if you've set up a good relationship she should be able to work that out in your frame. If not, there's some… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Another thread on Frame - frame control in the marriageHalf (or more) of management is being good at delegating tasks. It's the same concept. Micro managers suck and are inefficient, so are captains who to the same. | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Specific situation I'm not sure how to handle.Anything that's a competition to her attention will be something she'll pick at. They test how invested you really are to it. They'll pick poke and prod and chip away. If you flinch then it indicates to them it's not so much about the club than it is about getting away from them. From her perspective somehow that shades a neutral activity BAD instead of a part of who you are. From your perspective neither of which is wrong. There's some shit I do to just get out of the house, and there is shit I… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 02:45 PM |
| 3 | I hate to answer my wife with a yes when she 'advices' things I know. What's the right way to respond to such things?Look at it this way: when she won't stifle, you both know you aren't really agreeing to anything. You're just making different mouth noises to play the game. She seems good at carrying the burden of giving shits....let her keep on giving them about inconsequential piddly things like this. You win the war... she can have a battle or two. | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone have an iCloud option besides Dr. Fone?You've been around a while. You still need to at this point? Or are you just used to being able to track her every move and are addicted to it? When tech fails you need to fall back on your social engineering skills to get through security. Theres pay apps out there that'll monitor bit they charge a nice monthly fee. | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 03:28 AM |
| 3 | I hate to answer my wife with a yes when she 'advices' things I know. What's the right way to respond to such things?"Yeah, yeah" "OK" Then do the fuck whatever you want. LCR back in the hizzy. Come on, you know you just need to blow her off. I seriously hope you've scaled back the interaction since last time. | /r/askMRP | 20/01/16 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Broke frame, then caught wife in a lie. Play dumb, should I ever let her off the hook?I've said it before and I'll say it again for other guys. If he's truly just an orbiter and you stealth verify (at least within 99%) that nothing is going on other than she gets validation and orbit/beta feels from him through texts then you ignore with impunity. Confronting gives her the drama she craves and it puts you in a position of giving too many shits. It sucks she's lying about it. But women will lie and justify it if she thinks You're quality and she'd lose you (hint, if this was the c… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/16 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Can dread game work on somebody with extreme body image issues?Something tells me she'll have a hair trigger. So if you have a valid reason for getting her attention in this manner move slooooowly. Also, she needs to go see someone about her eating disorder, but don't sign up to be her therapist. If you want to use your powers of dread for the light side of the force , maybe use it to steer her into self-help land. If you think , minus these issues, she'd be a good ltr. Otherwise, why are you staying L-T with a girl with issues? She's got a greater statisti… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/16 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Wife complains about lack of attentionI think it's the double edge of your demeanor. You help in a sharp to the core way but I see you get frustrated quicker whether it's with new guys or old in how they deal with new guys. We differ, I guess, on noobs that resist, but I suspect you may invest too much emotionally in your opinion and are getting a long macro feel of apathy. Newly unplugging gonna newly unplug. Can't let Joe Creampuff keep Jim Granite standing in line behind him from getting the advice he needs. Society has bred a se… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/16 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Wife complains about lack of attentionThe problem is the people who bullshit themselves the most will gain the most attention from those that just want to slap some sense into them. /u/whinemoreplease , like the rest of us, doesn't write this shit to work out some sort of personal demon. He's a surrogate for the personal demon that should be sitting on your shoulder. Telling you to toughen the fuck up and stop deluding yourself. Ask yourself why does what he say strike such a chord? We don't tone police specifically because tone can… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/16 03:07 PM |
| 1 | I Broke Down (victim puke?)Find an outlet or learn to walk off and get mad out of sight. | /r/askMRP | 18/01/16 11:47 PM |
| 1 | I Broke Down (victim puke?)You Victim Puked but in a worse way than to us, you did it to her. You did act butt hurt with that comment with the hard no. You have to act flippant as if you don't give a shit and annoyed it doesn't happen....but not emotionally affected. You probably set yourself back a few pegs, but just get back on the horse and resolve not to fall off again. Never break the cardinal rule of STFU. So you should have stfu. I get the impression you're still bouncing too much of this off her. The counseling se… | /r/askMRP | 18/01/16 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Identifying Shit Tests nipping Passive-Agressiveness in the budJust right off the bat: Catch yourself if you start to D.E.E.R (Defend explain excuse or rationalize) in any convo. Learn how to be good and O.I. and assume everything is a shit-test. Only AFTER you start blowing through them do you need to worry about figuring out which are comfort tests. Divorce your mindset from equating her emotional levels with your success levels. You can piss her off to high heaven and still be breezing through a shit test. It's the day after and macro that's important. | /r/askMRP | 18/01/16 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Wife complains about lack of attentionHer: "You don't give her as much attention as I used to" You It may seem that way. I'm a man of many interests. Don't worry, you're still my favorite... currently. MRP is a multi-pronged approached. Not only should you be improving your O.I. and interests you should also be improving on how you handle test and g.l.f.s. what's she's caring about when it's just whining. | /r/askMRP | 18/01/16 07:19 PM |
| 1 | How and when do you talk to your wife about shit she does that is pissing you off?De Nada | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/01/16 04:44 PM |
| 3 | FR, progress from noob and a beard shit test.My wife used to criticise my beard all the time. One time recently I accidentally fucked it up trimmin and had to reduce it , she complained about that. I realized I had only slipped in pointing it out. Beards (not the faggy hipster ones...sorry) real ones, seem to inspire double takes and eye fucking from a different subset of chicks than I got before. Be an awesome dude and she'll associate the beard with awesome. Also the less you talk about it or respond the more she will realise you dgaf an… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/01/16 04:33 PM |
| 5 | Maintain MRP's StandardAlso note, we're trying to limit non-subscriber voting. I think mrp is generally an older more mature lot than other areas. So while they let he voting fly, we are waaaay more judicious. This allows brigades and the more emotive lot to skew out the genuine mrp opinion. We need to try (myself included) to worry less about evaluating if someone is posting for validation as I think we're very hard on it , it rules out a lot of upvotes. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/01/16 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Wife told me to shut up todayReally depends on the situation. Even when going nuts , there's pretext to a "shut up". Kind of good to know what led up to this for a good answer. Something tells me you two were arguing which is already a failure to disengage or put a punctuation mark on the conversation. A couple generic scenarios In the middle of talking to the kids I'd continue talking as if she never said anything and maybe hold up a finger if she's trying to interrupt. Then when finished , I'd look at her pointedly and te… | /r/askMRP | 12/01/16 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Recurring Pattern That Concerns MeI'm a total ass man. Boobs are really take or leave , they should just be proportional and not weird. If you just aren't up to saying some variation of: "I'm alive, I like asses, I am happy with your sweet one as well, hon." You could go with Bill Burr's twist I heard in a recent podcast (can't believe I actually found it. ) Paraphase he says if she catches you checking out another women a good thing to try is immediately say "Look at that, I think you could pull those/that outfit off better". | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/01/16 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Deardaddy video posted by wifeIt's just your wife maintaining street cred FB is all about street cred for your s.o.. Entirely a realm best left to them for that and not participated in. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/01/16 03:19 PM |
| 3 | The alpha chihuahua, a retrospective.Good observations. Just to touch further on the AWALT I think AWALT is summed up perfectly in the beginner viewing right about >here< . And if anyone hasn't watched the whole short video I think it's worth 6 minutes. ie. AWALT doesn't mean AWATS (All women are the same). AWALT does mean, given a certain set of behaviors by you or around you plus basic biology means that you will get your girl's particular flavor of how she responds to that situation. Given enough time with a wife one should know… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/01/16 03:02 PM |
| 1 | So long, MRPTomato tomato. MRP is a scale-able set of tools you tailor to fit your situation. I'm pretty sure we're explicit about that. Finding the shoe that fits. Finding the tools that work. So you cherry picked the wrong tools for your situation. You overdid it with what? You just say : "Too much has MRP turned me" too much of what? Sounds to me like totally losing frame and not owning your shit. Yeah, if my wife fusses about some laundry and I go dread 10 - 12...I'd be an asshole. Is that rp or me? Not… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/16 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How and when do you talk to your wife about shit she does that is pissing you off?You rapist, you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/01/16 06:50 PM |
| 5 | (separated) wife agrees to get a drink next week.Go in knowing that she is setting this up for an official 'papers' talk. Be cordial and laid back, but also cool and aloof. If she mentions divorce (or has papers papers) act relieved and promise to do the best for your kid and complement her on thinking of how important it will be for the two of you to put aside your differences for the kid. Then talk to a good lawyer. And break down at home if you must. Never let her see any sadness. If it ain't about this, then keep it light, flirt , and make… | /r/askMRP | 08/01/16 05:32 AM |
| 1 | (separated) wife agrees to get a drink next week.Don't let typos determine your sense of self coolness. Also, some dogs aren't scary, maybe you just haven't met the right ones? | /r/askMRP | 08/01/16 05:26 AM |
| 1 | How important is own social life outside of marriage?Yep! And a definite yep. | /r/askMRP | 08/01/16 05:11 AM |
| 3 | How important is own social life outside of marriage?Definitely what she wanted to do. She used to do crossfit and started yoga (I think) as a kind of counter balance. She crossfitted her c4 (or maybe c5) into a bulging disc. So after a lot of PT , she's a lot smarter about how she throws herself around (she was like 5,5 125 throwing around a 30 lb kettlebell) and yoga has seemed to appeal to her on many levels. And like any exercise program I've seen her do: she doesn't do it just a little, she turns fanatical and turns it into a self-identifier … | /r/askMRP | 07/01/16 03:54 PM |
| 8 | "Wisdom" from theultmatecads wifeI sense you're working on a companion book: IASNAWTFITGT by ucad (I ALWAYS say no , and what the fuck is this guilt thing?) | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/01/16 03:00 PM |
| 2 | How important is own social life outside of marriage?I say it's counter productive to NOT have a social life outside of your marriage. For both sexes. I do martial arts as well, have a standing guys night every week for the cigar club, and then we mix/vary it up. The wife is a yoga mom so she's got at least 4-5 classes, does pta, hangs out with chicks from both outside of that. So it works from a rp standpoint and it works IN GENERAL from a life standpoint. | /r/askMRP | 07/01/16 02:49 PM |
| 2 | My wife is naming red pill as evidence of emotional abuse in our divorce. How can I respond? My lawyer actually laughed at me saying I should name Jezebel or Cosmo as emotional abuse. This is serious, I need help.Your lawyer already told you all you need to know about this claim. If her lawyer supports her, then they have a lot of fucking nothing to go on don't they? The fact that she's trying to claim emotional abuse should tell you she isn't trying to play fair or by the rules even if something as silly as that seems like grasping at straws. She's set a highly confrontational tone with this. From here on out, I'd document and limit interaction to the business of child duty sharing and logistics. Also f… | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 09:44 PM |
| 7 | Hit a critical point. Stay or go...She says she will leave if it is what I want, or take a break, but this relationship can't go on indefinitely with me repeating this scenario. It's just another level of whining on her part. And worth the paper it's printed on. But if that's all it takes to get you in line then she can get back to her old norm. In a relationship there's always going to be things you do together and do separate. Offer, and if she doesn't take you up on it , don't let it stop you or you'll always be standing there… | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 03:58 PM |
| 4 | 2 months in, not seeing any bedroom improvement.It's easier to knock people down than keep up. It's the same thing people do when their s/o starts dieting and they purposefully buy more shit food to keep around. Keep doing your thing. At 20 years you have a normal and this seems like a blip to her. At some point up the ladder she'll have to start paying attention or get lost in the dust. My personal situation: before I found rp I started upping my exercise and trying to eat better. I got every criticism in the book from mid-life-crisis to the… | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 03:45 PM |
| 3 | She's Letting me goDon't you love if when they realize things for you? No, that's a crock, she just doesn't have it in her /no desire to satisfy your needs while you meet hers. Be glad to be out of a one sided relationship where you were on the shit end of the stick. Honestly she seemed to be fighting this tooth and nail from the get-go. She'd rather be right while wearing the pants than work it out. Wish her luck and help her pack. Don't repeat the same mistakes next time. Vet your future chicks more carefully or… | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Some sort of Illness or Injury or general not feeling well every dayMinor type of ailments like this evaporate once you up your SMV and she actually has to put in some effort to not just be a lump around you. | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 03:28 PM |
| 5 | 2 months in, not seeing any bedroom improvement.Rome wasn't built in a day. 20 years of established behavioral patterns take a lot of heavy lifting to change. Are you ramping up and attempting more sexual initiation? Or just changing externally and hoping she'll jump on the dick because you're all swole and positive now? You slowly work up the dread ladder and you wont have to time it. She'll either come around or be gone by the time you get to level 12. At which point it's paper filing time. | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 03:20 PM |
| 1 | [Lessons] Decent amount of money lost/stolen due to wife's haphazard handling, and my own laziness.I really would have thought Japan had the tech bank arena nailed. Learn something new every day I guess. Still, you handle the big cash for bills or you're painting a target on your woman and setting her up for failure. | /r/askMRP | 06/01/16 12:30 AM |
| 2 | [Lessons] Decent amount of money lost/stolen due to wife's haphazard handling, and my own laziness.To me this is a dipshitty way to handle money. You could do all of this >virtually< online, with multiple accounts/budgets and not take on the same amount of risk. I don't care where you live, if you have sums of cash laying about I'd assume it's cash you can afford to lose. So since there really is only one question here: I wouldn't have had that much cash laying about in the first place. Seeing as how her loss is coming in as a one time mistake : raking her over the coals seems out of proporti… | /r/askMRP | 05/01/16 09:03 PM |
| 6 | Apparently I fit the profile of a wife-beater...criminal police investigator with his office located in the redundant office of the redundancies? Low ball shit test of your nerves. Laughing it off was a good play. "Tell him slapping your ass doesn't count." Next time she's in the way of where you're walking/going say "Holy shit , I'm telling OFFICER-RELATIVE you're false-imprisoning me". If she touches you for any reason scream "STOP ASSAULTING ME! Call OFFICER-RELATIVE" Make every action into a law-breaking exaggeration joke. If you don't hi… | /r/askMRP | 05/01/16 08:49 PM |
| 5 | How and when do you talk to your wife about shit she does that is pissing you off?One of my friends was molested by an uncle as a kid, had an alcoholic mother and father, eventually at 12 he just left after his mom went on a binge after his dad went to prison. He then stayed with some neighbors who took him in, she essentially said good riddance and wallowed in self pity until he was in his late 20's after had a kid of his own (of course she found Jesus, cut back the drinking and begged to be let back in his life). He lets her and his brother visit, on a short leash, while th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/01/16 03:09 PM |
| 2 | "Initiate anxiety" with my wife.Get over it once, and it'll be easier to to the next time. We can't nut up for you. You need to find that inner reserve on how to give less fucks if things don't go well. One thing she'll sense for sure is tentativeness or fear so you can be assured of some lmr. Whatever puts you in a great mood do first. Or be in the progress of first. Make sex, in your head, an inevitability of how things will turn out. Make out for a while, really just overpower your own inner demons with the physicality, and… | /r/askMRP | 04/01/16 08:39 PM |
| 3 | How and when do you talk to your wife about shit she does that is pissing you off?You could replace DRUNK with ANY total vacating of your place as the man and leader: drugs, depression with it's either apathy component or sadness component. Even grieving excessively without moving on. You're making an agreement that has no enforceable boundaries because you wont be in a position to do anything about it. Sure it's a sliding scale of risk and danger. And sure you can choose to pay the price later, but no point in bitching about it that she didn't follow the agreement. OP's less… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/01/16 08:20 PM |
| 16 | How and when do you talk to your wife about shit she does that is pissing you off?Here's a disgusting shitty secret that will ruin your future false perception of what will constitute some good times: You can never be drunker than her in her presence or rely on her to take care of a drunk you. The moment you plan to tie one on and expect her to be your d.d. (even if promises are made beforehand), expect to end up in a shitty situation 9 times out of 10. I fell into this trap a lot because i occasionally like to tie one on. The problem is you're leaving her in CHARGE and plann… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/01/16 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Tummy Tuck?Dude.... is this another "test" post? Are we being tested here? Just eat less or care less. I'm from a land of hot chicks with dudes with beer bellys, so it makes it easier to ngaf but still. Eat every other day. Fuck it, you ain't going to starve. Seen and heard a lot of people get past hurdles with intermittent fasting. If your bmi is 25% it should drop fast. Going to probably try it soon myself for fun. | /r/askMRP | 04/01/16 12:50 AM |
| 2 | LTR GF's brother threatened me. Handled it like a pro. GF did not. I need your help.was ready to sacrifice my life in order to fight for her (more like fight for my honor really), but her loyalty to me is miniscule in comparison. Psssshhhhhtt, and? Such is woman. Whats there to get butthurt over about that? You need to read No More Mr Nice Guy. Like immediately. That's the oldest worlds biggest covert contract of men to women. The woman that throws herself in between a bullet and her man tripped while trying to turn around. It's OK. It's how it is. It's why you have to value yo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/15 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Unattractive naked text pic: Shit test, comfort test or neither?A little is nice, a lot a cry to constantly feed the validation hamster. If you like getting them: give a thumbs up to the good ones, ignore the bad ones. If you give 2 shits, stop responding. Treat like you would to encourage or discourage any behavior. Make sure to store for fun later if you break up. | /r/askMRP | 29/12/15 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth fighting for? (Puke, puke everywhere)I think , based on the history, give no shits that she treated you like this because you let her...but you still have to next this chick. But , now you know and can plan. So talk to a laywer on how to extricate yourself as best as possible. Unemotionally get your shit in order, then serve papers. Sounds like she's easy to get her to say and do shit you may want to document on video that may help your case. I would think you shit the bed on the adultery angle since you agreed to it, but if you on… | /r/askMRP | 28/12/15 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Is it worth fighting for? (Puke, puke everywhere)I once knew a guy who moved from an exciting city to the most boring-as-far-as-you-can-move-and-still-consider-it-a-suburb podunk town in order to "bore" his girlfriend into moving back home with her parents. It took 6 months but she finally left. Took non-confrontational to a whole new level. | /r/askMRP | 28/12/15 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on boob job for wife?Being in a rp frame now: I see cosmetics as a strict financial decision and if I also feel like it enhances our marriage. You think you'd like her new tits and the money is no strain? Have at it then have at 'em. If there's any other strings attached (either from your covert contract feelz or her doing this to make herself more attractive to branch swing ... If you ain't cutting the mustard) I'd say it's a no go. Guns don't kill people... People kill Blah blah.... Likewise new tits don't kill ma… | /r/askMRP | 23/12/15 03:43 AM |
| 7 | Shit test or comfort test?I see no shit test here with what you've provided. Sometimes shit happens and you lead / adapt. You can't go for valid reasons. You're helping facilitate her helping her family... sounds like the right move. | /r/askMRP | 23/12/15 03:36 AM |
| 2 | A MRP'er seeking wise counselYou're the only one who can decide what you want out of life. If you turned shit around, why would you want to dump your wife? Seeing as how the past failures were on your lack of leadership? What a bunch of bullshit whining. Get your head out of your ass. | /r/askMRP | 23/12/15 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Possible silent shit test?You know how that kid made the spoon bend in the Matrix? "There is no spoon" or in MRP land "There are no shits to be given" Do it or don't, worry less about how she is coming or going and it'll sort itself out. The rest of this is entirely trying to figure out HER frame instead of establishing your own. | /r/askMRP | 21/12/15 07:01 PM |
| 4 | My Wise is a bitch on my birthday...again. Advice?You probably have a glaring blind spot as to why this happens. ie. you could act more like a gleeful idiot on your birthday you could open yourself to butt hurtedness in the guise of it being your birthday so therefor she should...insert the blank... and when you aren't treated special you act hurt. She could just misinterpret things FOR you because it is your birthday and assign butthurtedness when there was none. But in the end. It doesn't matter. She's acting like a jerk, you punt on plans an… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/12/15 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Overtime is overrated.The question really is why is he working overtime and not that one is working overtime. Is it to cater to and support her unreasonable lifestyle with her being calling the shots? Or because he has a vision and passion and is setting himself up for a better future with what he is doing now? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/12/15 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Gf saw me browsing through FB and saw I had some chick added (she prolly only noticed cus she's hot), shit test?Dude, you waffled and backpedaled THEN tried to A.A. which comes across worse than just no A.A. "why do you have her added? She's not your friend ." Ha, she is now. I like to remember the chicks faces I have on blow-rotation. We're like besties. We share needlepoint patterns. <rolling eyes> I can't alienate my fan-club. Too funny, she was just asking why I have you on my friend list. Why wouldn't I have her added? Oh noes, is she a sexual predator, moms? It's really my fat friend named Phil. He'… | /r/askMRP | 21/12/15 06:31 PM |
| 5 | Self destructWell, she certainly doesn't sound worried in the slightest you'll leave. Does she not care or is she not worried? She doesn't sound like someone who's had a guy pull a turn and start acting like he's about to bolt. She's happy sitting on the couch watching 70's reruns by herself. And what should she be doing instead at that moment? My wife watches tv, too...and we like different shows so it usually ends up being separate. She fat? She not fuck you with enthusiasm still? from an old post: The har… | /r/askMRP | 21/12/15 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Self destructYou've been around for 4 months it looks like (at least posting not sure how long lurking). So I'll give you some assumption you're trying some things. I'm assuming she's one that just isn't responding? Passing shit tests makes no difference? You're fully outcome independent, doing well with her or without her? Improved your life in all other areas? So for just this moment: one thing I'll put out there is the old adage "never make promises when happy or big decisions when angry." This time in pa… | /r/askMRP | 21/12/15 04:25 PM |
| 5 | Wife found MRPMy experience, summed up to date with that, in two posts, this one and the one it links to was the original when it happened: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/3teawd/vampiresquids_husband/cx5qybx | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/12/15 02:15 PM |
| 9 | Wife found MRPHey , my wife snooped for a whole month,printed everything out, highlighted passages. Made notes. . . It just ends up being another shit-test. Just might not want to prepost any game plans you may be thinking of. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/12/15 11:56 PM |
| 4 | Shit test help needed"I'm selfish? Please explain" Don't do that. So she was acting better and improving up to this moment , then nuclear pushback? So addressing the obvious first: Do you track her calendar? If I don't at least keep an eyeball on what week it is, I can take a standard PMS bad day too seriously and make it worse. My wife really has a few days out of every month...not so mysteriously a few days before she complains about bad cramps , where she'll blow a gasket. When that's the case I just plan on havi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/12/15 04:57 PM |
| 1 | How much RP is too much?Who said she had to swallow? I should be swallowing cum? Wait...your wife has twigs or berries? Man, there are so many more questions here... Fuck me or fuck you because you won't give a bj seems excessive. We're in OP's map here. It appears to be important to him. And come on. Comparing vagina o.t.r. to regular bj? You think that's apples to apples? That's some ppd logic twisting there. I enjoy eating at the Y, there's many fluids going on there. Not all are probably run of the mill vaginal flu… | /r/askMRP | 10/12/15 07:11 PM |
| 1 | How much RP is too much?Actually the blue is a byproduct of it being a hyperlink.... | /r/askMRP | 10/12/15 06:59 PM |
| 25 | Wife Found Me on TinderJust to give you some perspective, I had a virtual dead bedroom in January. So did you create you Tinder profile in January? This is what I'd point out. Either way: "Hey, hon. You're right. This is stupid. Back in January we and I were at a low. The total lack of attention from you made me want to test, in what I saw was a harmless way, my attractiveness. I got a bit addicted to the validation was enjoying the attention [EDIT: Good call /u/rocknrollchuck]. But that validation comes at a cost to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/15 05:03 PM |
| 1 | How much RP is too much?A lot of people , in general , are shitty gift givers. When they're really invested in you (or trying to earn a sort of equal investment from you) they'll take the time to care what you like, and give it to you. When they're partially invested in you, they'll do some sort of gift , but something that doesn't take a lot of thought or effort. A shitty gift giver gives, low or no quality gifts that are about the least amount they have to sacrifice to appear to have gifted you. Almost everyone think… | /r/askMRP | 10/12/15 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Going through one month separation after a long shitty summer. Need advice from some vets.So what jackten said. Not a lot to add to that. Only thing I would like to peanut gallery point out though (and you'd probably get this on your own once you're more into the reading material): I've noticed that she still wears jewelry that I have bought her (which wasn't always the case when we were going through the "summer of shit") This...means...shit-all. If you're a witness to some emotional attached jewelry, she may use it if she sees it has an effect on you (hint: really give less shits).… | /r/askMRP | 08/12/15 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Am I not supposed to EVER GET MAD?Sure, anger for good reason is never an issue. I think amusement, disappointment and maybe exasperation are all more applicable when we're talking about shit tests and the like so that's where you probably get this impression. And when you're mired in beta blue land, you tend to get angry over every little thing. If you're more in control of yourself then you can be more certain when there's a true time to be truly angry about something. If it's a situation that you could look back on and go "Fu… | /r/askMRP | 08/12/15 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Physically abusive soon-to-be-ex-wife hintsGet some double sided tape and a voice activated small video audio recorder. Place somewhere where you usually have physical run ins with her. Make sure it has a good shot of the room. Read over this for ideas. Also download bambuser for your phone. You can set it to one touch stream to your account. Free. People use it when cop blocking in case they confiscate and tamper with the phone. You can set it to still be recording when the screen is off as well. Document all of that. Whether you get th… | /r/askMRP | 08/12/15 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Regeneration after gymIf you're over 40 you can try Creatine. Didn't make a bit of difference when I was younger, but I really notice when I don't take it now. And just the no-duh things like : cut alcohol and caffeine, drink more water, dump any refined sugars or processed food and ..... get enough sleep. | /r/askMRP | 07/12/15 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Update from Vamp's HusbandSo because she knows about rp , you should totally d.e.e.r.? Since she knows about rp you should put up with debate on how you're going to be as a husband man. No dread:wtf? Here's another hint. To make another allusion to the matrix: there is no red pill. There's acting like a man, and then there's acting like a "sorry-mommy" boy. Stop arguing over your behavior. Stop explaining why you do things. Take window dressing/jargon off of the actions. You think just because she says the magical words … | /r/askMRP | 05/12/15 12:49 PM |
| 4 | LTR's mother is Chad.A girls relationship with her parents was there long before you, set in the stone of who she is. You can try to steer interactions, but the overall macro has to happen between her and her mom. The more you intervene the more flak you'll catch in a situation like this.Even becoming a scapegoat and outlet for the others. The biggest thing you need to not exude-from-the-pores (if you're choosing on sticking with her) is making her feel worse for a bad decision that she probably feels helpless (lear… | /r/askMRP | 04/12/15 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Coming up on a year of separation/u/Sepean has some good analysis. In the end this one may require you win the battle of caring less. And at that point, she sounds like she adds 0 enjoyment to your life so you'll next her. And there are high rungs to the dread ladder you may have to climb on that others don't for being at your wits end. Have you hit 8 on yet? Sounds like you have the O.I. and self improvement down. Now you may need to take the final steps of things need to change or you're done. | /r/askMRP | 04/12/15 04:15 PM |
| 4 | Wife Told Me Its Over Yesterdayit's been suggested that right before divorce that you 'get depressed' and lose your job. Too funny, I thought about mentioning this but figured my cynic quota had been reached for the day. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/15 08:44 PM |
| 14 | Wife Told Me Its Over YesterdayShe told me that it was over six months ago and has been trying to stay together for the kids. We have financial difficulties since I lost my job, but in the interim I have been working at a low paying job and still looking for gainful employment. Wow, I thought they were supposed to stick by you thick and thin? You see guys getting into financial trouble and their women finding a reason to dump them. She has been pulling away for over a year and has made new girlfriends, most are divorced. Shou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/15 07:42 PM |
| 8 | Branch swinging wife, Update 2One quick way to adopt her mindset and frame is to read her private conversations. This old flame. Totally sucking up the emotional blood like an emotional tampon. This: NIGHT BEFORE OUR WEDDING. she responds, 'I will always love you'. He texts some confusion and that was that. You remember where we say : Believe what she does not what she says? Yeah, he was confused. She was floating a verbal consequenceless hook in (she thinks to her) to always keep a line on this guy as a backup. I would say … | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill SextingI think it works for some women, but you have to know your audience. AWALT in all women like some buildup, but not always respond via text. | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite RP youtubers?beige Phillip His interview with Gavin is pure RP. I remember posting about it. | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite RP youtubers?Crap, there's my Pixies fandom creeping in. Yes. | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 04:07 PM |
| 1 | [PSA]- How to easily learn a swipe passcode to an Android phone (without watching).There's been a few posts lately about phones, and snooping. It's good stuff to know, and just starting out it can be good for checking if it's too late or if your frame/map is having intended consequences. Any time I'm on another relationship sub, and sumdumguy is whining his wife is texting at 3am and he appears as blue as his balls are probably, sure, I'll tell him (or her) to snoop because...they're no where close to living the life of someone in charge of not only their relationship/family b… | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 03:53 PM |
| 3 | LTR looking at craigslist personalsGive less fucks. Give her less reasons to fuck around. I think people look at all sorts of shit on the internet, fantasize about a lot of things, and keep entirely too many old-flings on Facebook for nostalgia. But whatever... exclusive relationship with this girl for 6 months now How long were you together before that? Can you dress better? Have you stopped hanging out with your friends? Have you dropped hobbies? Have you tempered goals to make sure she fits in the plan or does she mold herself… | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite RP youtubers?Comedians are great for this like Patrice O'Neil / Black Phillip show Bill Burr (moreso prior to getting married , but still good) Quasi-comedic Joe Rogan (depending on guest) Gavin McGinnes Sargon of Akkad For game RSDTyler | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Who are your favorite RP youtubers?I listen to Sargon over Thunderfoot as well. Thunderfoot rambles, isn't that funny and mumbles. Sargon edits well, delivers well and picks fun material. | /r/askMRP | 02/12/15 03:08 PM |
| 4 | Found out Chad is starting to sniff around my wife. Wife might be setting up her branch to swing to.Like /u/Archwinger said: Make sure you get your shit in order and document but my take is the following: How many of us were the orbiter / beta-ear girlfriend in the past? Where did that get you? She ever let you touch her boob after listening to her complain about CHAD for a while? I have multiple real life examples I lived from my sad sack nice-guy days in h.s./ college and even after once. And I can tell you...it never worked. How many guys end up at the red pill because "All the girls compla… | /r/askMRP | 01/12/15 07:03 PM |
| 1 | How do you do something genuinely nice without getting marked as a Beta Bitch?It's not what you do, it's why you do it. You want to help out your in-laws? Go ahead, that's a good thing to do. If she then shit tests you, you pass her shit test. And her bitchiness may have been totally unrelated. What you do and why you do it are seen as a sum. ONE nice thing isn't going to label you as a covert contracting "nice guy" for the same reason you can't just do something considered selfish and immediately spark the bad boy tingles. It's behavior patterns. | /r/askMRP | 01/12/15 06:48 PM |
| 2 | How much dread is too much?One way to look at it: It's better for her to wonder what you're up to than the other way around. And if you think she may have strayed in the past, keep her busy with trying to keep up with you. The dread ladder is actually more of a yes/no flowsheet. Is 1 working and getting what you want? No? Continue to 2. Is 2 working and getting what you want? No? Continue to 3. 3 Works. Does dropping back to 2 net an increase of shit tests or decrease in sex? Back up to 3. Ad nauseum. A lot of the lower l… | /r/askMRP | 01/12/15 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Direction NeededGoing to go back in time and fix this for you: I say (...) I say (...) so I say See ? In martial arts when we're free sparring if I get focused too much on wanting to do one technique instead of having the empty-cup mindset it's easy to miss an unexpected throw and dodge into it. You are super focused on being dominant and when she threw you a slight curve you stepped the wrong direction and took one on the chin. Go more with the flow. Also , some chicks don't dig the super dominance all the tim… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/11/15 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Reading MMSLP, and I looked up Athol Kay. Seeing his picture I lost a little faith. Is there something I'm missing?Right , it should just emphasize to OP how important a frame and map are. | /r/askMRP | 25/11/15 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Gynocentric fools"Some of the underlying possible causes such as changes in intra/extracellular fluids" Body tides. | /r/askMRP | 25/11/15 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Gynocentric foolsIt's no joke people really start acting squirrelly as balls around a full moon. Long time friend of mine who's been am emt/medic for years says they always get the most calls during full moons. | /r/askMRP | 24/11/15 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Why did this piss me off so much?I see any time I get angry over something non-life-threatening as a failure on my part (or a sign I've had not enough sleep or too much coffee). There's really shit-all to get ANGRY over. Mildly irritated? Sure! Then again maybe I'm just moving the goal post. | /r/askMRP | 24/11/15 05:05 PM |
| 4 | What kind of knot works best when tying up a woman who is begging you to stop?Blooperjuice, blooperjuice, blooperjuice . | /r/askMRP | 24/11/15 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Why did this piss me off so much?Ha, I like how mine was nuclear, /u/alphabeta49 ! And here I thought that was being pleasant with "Good morning" + "babe". Explains my radioactive leaks. How to calm down: Don't get mad. (jk) When you feel yourself get mad, disengage. Mentally go to a happy place. Physically exhaust yourself. | /r/askMRP | 23/11/15 09:05 PM |
| 14 | Why did this piss me off so much?I get it. Been there. It gets annoying and fuck and easy to press the buttons to have planned something for someone to whimsically chunk a wrench in it. Too much back and forth. She was 0% invested in the prior planning but wanting to have a free winging moment of input. Would you mind driving by [location C] on your way home? If it is free, it would make a lot more sense to go there [instead of location A] and then walk to [location B]. Me: "Good morning! Time for changes has passed, babe. See … | /r/askMRP | 23/11/15 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Suggestions for Bingeing and AddictionSome people just unfortunately seem to have that addiction/hole they can't fill with something. Problem is you could make a suggestion , but unless he feels that "something special" that draws him to do something to excess (like you're suggesting) he'll probably not follow through. I'd wager if he doesn't find out a way to moderated <insert activity> if he starts becoming a gym rat he could take that too far as well. I guess there could be worse things. Maybe tout the workout HIGH you get from h… | /r/askMRP | 23/11/15 04:49 PM |
| 2 | (FR)Deadbedroom to sex 5 times a week, thanks to RedpillYes, thanks doc! Never break the cardinal rule of becoming predictable which equals BORING. | /r/askMRP | 21/11/15 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Need feedback on my gf pinching the shit out of me sometimes.Some alternates to your flesh. | /r/askMRP | 20/11/15 08:22 PM |
| 1 | (FR)Deadbedroom to sex 5 times a week, thanks to RedpillI don't see why the icing to the cake isn't a possibility, but I'm a moderate in most things, so I'd enjoy the rare super awesome moments and the nature of them being rare keeps them from becoming stale. If you ate caviar and drank Louis the XIII every day it'd get old eventually. | /r/askMRP | 20/11/15 08:20 PM |
| 3 | (FR)Deadbedroom to sex 5 times a week, thanks to RedpillSo why mess with success? I would love to have her so hot for me that if I was about to leave the house for a few hours that she would get on her knees. More times if I wanted her to do it, she would tell me to wait until tonight. I'm pretty sure even Channing Tatum's gf would eventually stop doing that once he committed to marriage. I'd venture to say that level of amped up sexual arousal isn't going to be maintainable. Correct me others that live in this world. So what's your end goal, because… | /r/askMRP | 20/11/15 07:41 PM |
| 1 | She's on to me at every turn, like she knows of the matrix better than I ever realizedIt's hard to figure out if this is iambic pentameter or not without the quatrain's broken out for me in a diagram. First off "YOU MUST CHILL". Stop your overactive thought train from derailing anything you are doing or creating a flurry of distraction. Some women are saavy, some women snoop and know what you read. It doesn't matter. You don't change via her input or approval. And you don't NOT do things because she "appears" to beat you to the punch or be "better" at it. What's your goal? What y… | /r/askMRP | 20/11/15 03:21 PM |
| 5 | GF wanted space, now she wants me (kind of)"I only told you i needed space becouse i was abit down/weird. I want you to say". Why we always say watch her actions not her words. This is what suprised me, another girl comes in and starts talking with her, i eye her abit and she doesn't give me any big IOI's. (But i'm abit clueless in that department) When she leaves, my GF starts kissing me heavily. Then she says come with me. She takes me to the bathroom and fucks the shit out of me That tells me there was something she picked up on that … | /r/askMRP | 19/11/15 09:51 PM |
| 1 | [PSA] She Will SnoopYep and here's what I just posted of how it panned out after. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/11/15 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Neg Hits in Marriage: Amused Mastery on Hard ModeIf I am wanting it and let her get this far into her routine that would be my fuck up. So in my case the best way to get through lmr is to stop it before it happens. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/11/15 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Did I pass a comfort test?Developing a thick skin may require more callouses. Just consider it an extension of a rough olympic bar. If you can't take our rough shit to heart how are you going to survive a marriage? Compared to what your wife can do to you this is a baby tap. Just see it as an gap , take a look at how you reacted to us, and the trolls on tbp (going so far as to DEER in their shitbox). Look at it impassively as an outsider and evaluate your susceptibility as just another thing to work on. | /r/askMRP | 19/11/15 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Neg Hits in Marriage: Amused Mastery on Hard ModeOh damn, neg hits are a constant. Then again my wife is pretty fucking confident and aware she is attractive and in shape so it's not like I feel like I'm going to kill her self-image. You also have to judge the air in the room. New to rp is cloudy skies and probably best avoided until you're back on track. So I always try to neg playfully and in good humor. Plus my wife has some fun go-tos: barely existent baby toe Grandma-ish getting ready for bed behavior. Like slathering all sorts of magical… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/11/15 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Vampiresquid's husbandMy wife found and read all my earlier field reports. HERE is my victim pukey post on nmmng right after it happened 10ish months ago. So yeah, I was pretty down about it. But after an uncertain month, I really just kept at it. She came to me and told me she saw mrp as "my guy space". Like we always say ACTIONS won out over words and I kept at it like a pack mule. One day, several weeks later, she symbolically shredded all the posts she had printed and swore off ever reading what I post. I guess s… | /r/askMRP | 19/11/15 03:15 PM |
| 3 | Did I pass a comfort test?I have had no intent to dog pile you since you're not exactly getting it, but just to point out: How does he know what I've read? It's called inference. He's inferring based on your lack of internalization and misapplication. To get your back up and act butt hurt because we don't pull punches also shows a serious lack of understanding what you and we are here for. It may be hard to grasp, but reading ALL you write, then taking the time to write LONG RESPONSES back isn't just to exercise some ver… | /r/askMRP | 18/11/15 09:37 PM |
| 2 | LTR, comfort testing, not sure how to proceed"Take or leave you where? The park? Next time just ask me if I want to go the park. " Her : "Stop being silly, this is serious." "What? Oh , OK , you mean like the mall or shopping. I don't like going to the mall so yes. I will leave you at the mall." Or, look mock pensive: "Deep down, don't you know, who isn't replaceable?" She really, really , really needs to know that you COULD take her or leave her. It's just tacky to point out. And it's typical hamster talk and romance whimsy. We are all re… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/11/15 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Update - Urgent advice neededI told her (...) and said not to listen to my words but look at my actions You know that's not how more do/less talk works, right? Too much talk and it becomes seeking for approval or praise of what you're going to do. Just stifle it and do it. The fattest/cream puffiest people I know all crow every time they decide to hit the gym for a week. | /r/askMRP | 18/11/15 02:33 PM |
| 5 | Text shit testYes, but from OP this doesn't sound like it's a common occurrence. The reed that does not bend...breaks. If she said "You need to get the ladder or no bjs this week" well, that'd be an obvious thing to avoid. But this just sounds like her version of play and something she thinks is cute/gives her an ability to act sexy. | /r/askMRP | 18/11/15 01:47 AM |
| 3 | 'We Need to Talk' and other ways of controlling the flow of information for power.I break down two types of "We need to talk" my wife will throw at me. I'll usually have an inkling of what it will be. Scenario 1) If it's an obvious result of some nuking of a previous shit test I've just laughed and said "No...we don't" and then left (o.i.) if she turns on the harpy. Not pretty. But it gets the point across that I don't retread her losses in order to help her make wins. Scenario 2) If I really have no fucking clue I take a s.t.o.g.t.f.o. angle as suggested above as in: "so tal… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/11/15 08:33 PM |
| 1 | BlowjobometerYou gotcha self a bwok bwok , chicken chicken, bwok bwok , chicken head. Don't look a gift horse (chicken head) in the mouth. Probably hard to do so with your her face in your lap. | /r/askMRP | 17/11/15 07:28 PM |
| 22 | Text shit testSometimes a cigar is just a cigar. And not every request is unreasonable. I mean , she's going to wear lingerie for you doing something you would have done anyway? Why not. This may be her way of initiating via text. Roll with it. Sometimes you've got to dial back the analysis. Text her back a wink. And then leave it at that. | /r/askMRP | 17/11/15 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Lifting questionYou push muscle fatigue, you don't push twinges a la joint/connective tissue pain! I could never do certain exercises for my triceps without weird snapping/ and sore elbows later , I just avoid anything other than cable pull downs if I ever need (debatable) to do an isolated muscle group exercise. For your body you may have to work around certain movements. Also if you're not stretching add some stretching! I'm out of squats for a long time (lcl + high ankle sprain) and have just been lex-extens… | /r/askMRP | 16/11/15 09:06 PM |
| 8 | Elevated Level of Dread /Open Flirting QuestionHa, she just went for blunt force trauma derailment. All the others already covered the standard replies. "Are you trying to be charming?" "This is why we can't go to nice places, Alice" "I love it when you do play by plays" Ones to follow a smile and just talking to your waitress "She get's cranky when hungry. Don't take it personal." "It's like having your own personal town crier." "You better get to the other tables before she pees on my shoe." | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/11/15 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Withdrawing attention is covert and my wife called me out on itI don't like when I steal I go to jail. Negative outcomes in response to my negative choices suck. If my wife is nasty, I remove myself from the nastiness. It's not about punishing her. Her solipsistic worldview only allows her to see it that way. Semantically it's about me removing myself from the presence of an unpleasant person. It could be her, it could be a barking dog. I have better ways to spend the time. If anyone wants me around, be pleasant, being a wife doesn't get you out of this req… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/15 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Wife has begun apologizing. Give me some of your good responsesWait. I read the post 3 times, I'm not sure why all the comments are about dirty talk. I've had my coffee today. What gives? Maybe I need more vitamins. She replies "ok and then I expect some understanding of what I'm dealing with in return" Is that an apology? She muddied that up with some compliance contract over understanding her bad behavior is due to stress? It's ok to kick the dog. IMO when you have mud, clear it up. Respond to sincere apologies with acceptance, and yet the understanding s… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/15 04:29 PM |
| 24 | How do I regain standing with my wife after brutal takedown by hot neighbor?Fuck, man. So you're seriously calling a lady that came to your wife's aide while she was being cruelly belittled by her husband in front of a social group a cunt? What do? Well, you were a dick , what do you think? It was a public show of dickery, I think a public show of humility is in order. This isn't just a you and wife issue, you have a social tear to mend. First off, you may have felt an adversarial bile rise when a hot spinner took you to task , but she shouldn't have had to in the first… | /r/askMRP | 13/11/15 04:14 PM |
| 1 | She wants "space", but still wants a relationship.Right. So I'm afraid we're not really here to entertain or have you police us. We actually steer the "few" pregnant/ depressed and sick wife OPs in directions other than you propose we do. You can "learn" about your husband here or on marriedredpill without really derailing any more OPs by posting. If OPs want non-rp female advice they can hit / r / relationships . | /r/askMRP | 11/11/15 09:28 PM |
| 9 | The ignore game? How do you handle when she ignores you?"I don't trust you." "You can't even handle taking out the trash." Damn that's quite the leap. Don't take out the trash = DESTROYED TRUST! If she's freaking out this much over trash , you're still in the throes of turning things around. Did she marry you for your trash taking out ability? I get it, we each have our chores and duties to perform, but over-reaction indicates it ain't about the trash. In general to silent treatments? Free O.I. quiet time for you, buddy. Go do something. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/11/15 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Freak outs during drivingThe worst habit my wife has when I'm driving has nothing to do with her complaints. She has this thing where she'll see something that interests her and suck in her breath in such a way that it sounds like someone seeing something bad about to happen. It literally hits me in the "oh crap we're going to die" nerve and causes my heart to leap, my adrenaline to surge and reflexively I may take my foot off the gas and get ready to brake & sometimes look where she's looking taking my eyes off the car… | /r/askMRP | 11/11/15 04:31 PM |
| 12 | Freak outs during drivingSince I'm a fantastic driver, yet get the micromanagement sometimes depending on her mood (FYI: my wife drives distractedly and tailgates, she has no room to criticize), I'm going to assume you're an OK to average driver. Depending on if she has a heart condition you could do what I do. If my wife comments on my driving I (within safety limits) "enhance" the driving experience. <Sometimes prefacing with "Like THIS?"> Going too fast? I slow down to a ridiculous crawl. Going too slow? I check my 6… | /r/askMRP | 11/11/15 04:20 PM |
| 1 | ChainHa, no, I didn't do that one. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/11/15 04:06 PM |
| 2 | ChainYeah that was my tag tweak. Check his comment history. dip·lo·mat ˈdipləˌmat noun an official representing a country abroad. a person who can deal with people in a sensitive and effective way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/11/15 03:00 PM |
| 3 | Holding frame at work after oneitisEvery time OP posts I think of the girl "Sunshine" from Harlem Nights. Her P contained seduction magic. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/11/15 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Struggling to NGAF about some of wife's shit testsI love it when I head always and never. Half the time I'll usually just say "Yeah ALWAYS" or "Yeah NEEVER" whatever eternal word she used. I'll just stress the word. You don't even have to address what she's talking about because there's no way it can be true even. I'm sure the negatives that she compares you to your parents on could be applied to a myriad of other people as well. Just ignore the baiting until you really dgaf. My only caveat is if it happens in a social situation where she's dis… | /r/askMRP | 10/11/15 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Dan Bilzerian Sleeps With Bodybuilding.Com Founder Ryan DeLuca’s Wife...and posts it on instagramA while back a girl I found out a girl I was banging was still dating the guy she said she broke up with. Normally I wouldn't have gone out of my way, but the guy was in Iraq and she just wanted to play while he was away. You just can't let them get away with that shit. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/11/15 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Received novel of a text at work. Might not be the Main Event, but yikes."OK" Is a good response. It says a lot. It says a little. Since she's painting an abstract art piece then your "OK" is your abstract minimalism that she can interpret in whatever way fits. Alternate: "I hear ya." Clearly she's just wanting to tick that mark off. If it's a constant volley "this is a lot to digest" then just put the alerts on mute. She's Kandinsky, you're Frank Stella. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/15 03:09 PM |
| 1 | First TRP stance assumed. STFU, lift, walk out if needed. Wife seems to mirror behavior. What do?Ok #1) STFU. You are in the early early stages of addressing your own problems, and you are trying to work this out AND have her act like you're the new man you aren't already. I'd immediately drop the trip thing. She can go, she can have whatever reason she may have wanted , maybe just to get away from you and the kid. Who the fuck knows? At this point you're trying to fight a battle and you are still not even ready for a skirmish. You worried she'll go and cheat on you? Nothing would stop that… | /r/askMRP | 10/11/15 02:58 PM |
| 2 | "You have a bad attitude. Other people are pulling me aside and noticing it"Shit , for all you know she's the one wondering and she's using "My friends are asking me" tactic instead of asking you directly. I had this "friend" back in college who sold <insert drug of choice> and told me...blah blah, when you know it was them. Come on that's the oldest line in the book when someone wants to ask you something but not appear to be the one doing the asking. Either way her friends are not your problem. She can explain anything she likes to to them about her personal life. She… | /r/askMRP | 10/11/15 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Struggling to NGAF about some of wife's shit testsMy guess is that somehow she can pick up on it still get's to you. When you let it finally go, and not give a shit, either way it wont mean anything. Pretend you're watching that harpy on Everybody Loves Raymond and laugh along like's you're part of the canned laughter anytime she acts the part. Detach yourself as the subject. Start really trying to hone your wit about it as well with funny A&A. Search youtube for comedians handling hecklers. That's all your wife is at that moment. A life heckle… | /r/askMRP | 10/11/15 02:22 PM |
| 2 | Time for Divorce. Need Advice.So hopefully you've talked to a lawyer already. If not , that's step one still. If you don't live in a no-fault state, gather as much evidence as possible. Although I think it's a good idea anyway no-fault or not. Paternity test. Keep that shit under lock and key. HIGHLY INADVISABLE BUT LET ME TELL A SITUATION OF APPARENTLY COLD-CALCULATED REVENGE. A lady who I used to work with's ex husband found out she was cheating. She was reaaaaallly nasty personality wise at work so I had 0% sympathy for h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/11/15 04:11 PM |
| 5 | What's the diffrence, doing chores and leading?A lot of it is mindset and making sure you're not slipping into choreplay land (the covert contract that is ENCOURAGED by such wonderful outlets like Cosmo that doing MORE chores than your fair share somehow gets you more into her good graces). Do what you think is your fair share and what you have time for. And what falls under your sphere of responsibility. If you have more time and want to clean/work on a house project ...have at it. and i see dudes doing all kinds of work at home, fixing thi… | /r/askMRP | 09/11/15 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Wife is a planning drinks with a single guy, how to respondLots of unknowns. I see it working only with the right delivery. When in doubt I always go the least amount of words as possible. | /r/askMRP | 06/11/15 09:52 PM |
| 3 | A PSA on LanguageAlso, I know it's different for different regions of the continent, looking at you Canadians, but don't end UP on a sentence that is supposed to be a statement. It turns every statement into a wishy washy pseudo debatable question. Most of the women at my job now and the previous one (minus 2 directors and our CIO) all end every sentence in a meeting with an up inflection like it's a question. "So I'm going to finish up priority 1 and then work on this as priority 2, then we can meet in a week t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/11/15 04:16 PM |
| 6 | Wife is a planning drinks with a single guy, how to respondI know I give off a hippyish kind of IDGAF , but I have some deal-breakers. This would be one. My wife stating this intent I'd take as she is committed to oath breaking and rubbing my nose in it as she feels like she's got her hand on the next branch and there's shit all I could do. I plan to tell her I'm disappointed she thinks meeting a man for a date is appropriate for a married woman. Sun Tzu would probably tell you: You don't attack from a point of weakness. You think she gives a shit about… | /r/askMRP | 06/11/15 04:07 PM |
| 2 | If my wife does X, I will get a divorce!!Sure. Mainly saying examine how you handle it. Maybe prep IN ORDER to not dwell on it if that's what matches your persona. Plan if there are things you can plan for, but back off of the mindset of always expecting it to happen so always adding contingencies to everything. 2 further examples: While I was rearranging finances , I didn't put her on the new account. Later on added her to it when things were easier going. Either way if it went to court she'd have had full or 1/2 access so I shouldn't… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/11/15 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Resentment, Clarity, or Butthurt?My mantra is always: "No kid's , no problem". ie. If you're married but in a childless marriage I see no reason not to dissolve the marriage if it's not what you want out of life. I'm actually on marriage 2 (10 years now). Marriage 1 we got married in our early 20's and divorced late 20's. No kids , no contests, we both worked. We went our separate ways never to meet again. Actually did our own paperwork and filing. I think the whole thing cost 50$-100$ to do. She's not what you want, and by def… | /r/askMRP | 05/11/15 09:35 PM |
| 2 | If my wife does X, I will get a divorce!!I think I worried about this a lot more before I found mrp and changed my outlook. A lot of guys cope by having an exit strategy. I can see the value in that. But, on the other hand I'm pretty adaptable. Nothing I do now would improve that situation should it come to pass. Nothing would make me feel better about my child coming from a divorced family. It's just the sad fact. Yes, if I found out she broke any oaths I'd file. But I'm not going to plan on it. So either I'll be married till I die to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/11/15 04:26 PM |
| 4 | If you want sex, you need to be nice to me...You know , the quickest way to trade sex for a conversation is to talk during sex. Dirty or not I just avoid talking like the plague once foreplay has started. We can get into (and several have) on the problems in the crap you said, but I just say back it up a step further and since you're vulnerable to verbal digression just stfu. Social interaction is nothing but transactional. Give less shits about it. And you get stuck in this dumb situation again if she want to test during foreplay about ch… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/11/15 04:09 PM |
| 1 | I feel like an idiotRight, starting over isn't always the right option when going from beta to red, as you tend to take your problems with you. BUT, in this case she's got her own set of problems: history of getting away with dishonesty with you & her 2 kids you're investing in. Punt. Work on yourself. Find a better woman with less baggage and start from a better foundation. | /r/askMRP | 05/11/15 04:00 PM |
| 7 | Higher SMV and confidence causing wife to lose sleepHigher SMV and confidence causing wife YOU to lose sleep Ok, number one , don't establish the "awaking me for conversation" is OK. If the house isn't on fire, the conversation doesn't happen until you're awake on your own time. That's just rude , and a tactic to get you in a weakened/confused state. There's a reason that sleep deprivation is a torture technique used to try to extract info from prisoners. I personally never expect my wife to understand the way I speak to my friends in texts, and … | /r/askMRP | 05/11/15 03:54 PM |
| 2 | vacation momLead. If "more" is never enough, it pretty much outlines the fact that YOU need to set the baseline and expectations. If she knows she can apply pressure and get you to do something, she knows she always just needs to nudge-till-you-budge. I can see by your post history you're kinda all over the place. Besides worrying about entertaining her all the time, what are you doing for yourself? Are you at some sort of no-man's-land one foot in and one out where constant entertainment is her cure to you… | /r/askMRP | 03/11/15 09:06 PM |
| 1 | What would be a good book for me to read next?IMO never hurts to read things with broader focus as well. Helps with the meta/bigger picture outside of just chicks. How to Win Friends and Influence People The Art of War /or/ the Tao of Jeet Kune Do Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance The Art of Happiness Find a good autobiography of someone you think doesn't put up with shits and does things well. | /r/askMRP | 30/10/15 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Let's Talk Body LanguageIt's a crime that his You Are What You Eat[2] post is not on the sidebar. And now it is. Along with this one. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/15 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Let's Talk Body LanguageHa ha, gotta love Bas. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/15 12:54 PM |
| 3 | Let's Talk Body LanguageEver since I discovered the contrapposto it's my default if I'm standing around. Open up. With friendlies and chicks. BUT , learn how to get your hands up if you need them without looking totally like a wuss in a situation where conflict may arise. I like Rickson's brushing off the hands. Comes in handy at bars. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/10/15 07:15 PM |
| -3 | Morning Shit TestHard to see if you stop looking at your phone e'rry time she beeps. | /r/askMRP | 28/10/15 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on working wife vs SAHMMy thoughts - Once the kids go off to full time school, wife should go back in the workforce. Until then, though, I'm somewhat ambivalent towards either approach. I had those thoughts , too. Turned out to be longer than just "they hit first grade". My wife still adds enough value in other ways that we don't absolutely need the income (what she's making now actually just goes to our vacation fund), but she's got a degree so if things went south I'd expect her to go back to work, or we'd have to d… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/10/15 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Why do we stay with our wives?So being married put's rp on hard mode. Sorta. Definitely for walking away and cutting your losses. But with respect to fixing a ltr because you went beta there is a bit of an advantage to having a captive audience. While divorce court wont screw her like it will us, it's still be a dread she wont want to face either. If she likes her present lifestyle, that could go away or be diminished. If she isn't an idiot or in the complete throws of emotional vindictiveness, they usually can realize that … | /r/askMRP | 27/10/15 06:14 PM |
| 4 | A man in the midst of custody battle is interrogated by CPS over every minute detail of his life in attempt to find evidence of bad parenting.I had to stop watching when the land whale tells him how to feed his kid. The entire thing is a fishing mission. | /r/askMRP | 26/10/15 06:16 PM |
| 2 | It's ok to stop and reflect for a moment.Uc , you keep on keeping on. I chuckle at any of your nay sayers and applaud how many feathers you ruffle. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/10/15 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Should I stop initiating?I don't think so. Never expect her to initiate, enjoy it if/when she does. It's managing your expectations and jettisoning the boyish need for her to ... so give less fucks. In the grand scheme of things , you wont probably initiate for ever, every day. She may then have the space to IF that was what was needed, but no. Don't play these mind games with yourself to test her and by reflection what you PERCEIVE as her interest in you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/10/15 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Wife back to work/ welching on sex promises/ considering monk mode.Ok, so she has to return to the workforce from being a SAHM so no surprise that her demeanor changed as a result. I imagine hand in hand a lot of responsibilities were rearranged to make this happen. Not to mention a shift in sleep, increase in her own perception of moving into a co-captain chair ... has an effect. You may have felt like you handled that well but still she's now got more captainish responsibility. Also I think you can plateau, there can be this midpoint after transitioning where… | /r/askMRP | 23/10/15 07:23 PM |
| 16 | Wife back to work/ welching on sex promises/ considering monk mode.I know you're waiting for whinemore, but I gotta slap you for no paragraphs. | /r/askMRP | 23/10/15 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Is it good or bad that I'm becomming more like her dad?I get along great with my wife's step-dad (she's not in contact with her bio-dad). And we are similar in a lot of ways and not so much others. If she wants to think we're alike , it's a compliment to what she thinks of him since she married me... and if she values him I take it as a compliment to me. Beer guts are totally in your realm of control. | /r/askMRP | 23/10/15 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Should I stop initiating?Please post in /r/askMRP for maximum answerification. The short answer is: Initiate when you want sex. Don't initiate when you don't want sex. Don't expect her to initiate, but if she ever does then don't turn her down. AND what purpose does this not-initiating-to-see-if-she-intiates-serves other than some validation-seeking from her? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/10/15 05:53 PM |
| 4 | Is it good or bad that I'm becomming more like her dad?Her family has been buying me these goofy joke tshirts lately that they think are hilarious. I only wear them around her family to make them happy. You know that encourages them right? Stop wearing them if you don't like them. I think if girls have a good relationship with their dad or step-dad, they may look for those qualities. Although I've also seen where girls with shit-dads are attracted to guys like him. Who knows? Be you. Wear less stupid shirts. | /r/askMRP | 23/10/15 05:22 PM |
| 4 | Comfort Test responseyou think I am just your maid! You're just MY maid? That's so maidsclusive of you. Not 'just' , honey. Never 'just'. Maid? Such an unpc term. It's environmental engineering specialist now. I know, right? What a jerk that SDSAM21 is! Oh. So do you always talk to your employer this way? I thought maids were more quiet. That is entirely inappropriate dress for a maid. We're going strictly French Maid attire from now own. A maid eh? I've got some cleaning duties for you ... in my pants. Such a stran… | /r/askMRP | 23/10/15 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Beta at work...No matter how alpha you are, if someone is your boss... they're your alpha. You like the job? Play smart. Alpha the fuck out of your subordinates and coworkers. [EDIT: let me amend that, it really depends on your job and industry, sales yes, code monkey / service no, I'm still a "nice guy" to my coworkers...to a point] You still show your boss your throat. You wait for your moment to move up. Don't like this dynamic and realize it'll eventually cause you problems? Work towards being your own bos… | /r/askMRP | 22/10/15 07:28 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Time to Pay Up!Also make sure to take a week off (or working rest week) from time to time to not tax your CNS (central nervous system). Large compound movements (deadlifts, hang cleans, power cleans ie power lifting) over and over again week after week can really sap your reserves coupled with dieting. When you start to get that drop off, it's a good indicator to take a step back. It's really easy to get so excited you forget to break once in a while. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/10/15 07:04 PM |
| 3 | 2/3 chase Rule vs Covert ContractsOne Friday I got 3 hours of sleep the night before. We were coming off of shark week and I was jonesing for rogering. I announced to my wife I was drinking Turkish Coffee in order to be wide awake for festivities after the kid went to bed that night. She's familiar with the term covert contract (hates it because I call her on it when she does it). I acted like a town crier Hear Ye Hear Ye (tongue in cheek) "LISTEN TO MY OVERT CONTRACT. I'M DRINKING THIS NOW BECAUSE WE'RE DOING IT LATER!" | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/10/15 06:57 PM |
| 0 | How to handle: Occasional Biting / Violent / Cruel Sexual Behavior from wife? OI? Shit Test? IDGAF?She wants wrestle sex. Learn to wrestle. You know the old addage people are generally bad gift givers because we tend to give out what we would really like if the present was for us? Well , I'd take it she's doing that to you. Up to my wife I've never thought of any kind of choke play as anything sane or normal. She occasionally really responds to it. There's plenty of mildly crazy shit you can ease into to gauge responses along the way. She's probably eased off because she sees you being creamp… | /r/askMRP | 22/10/15 06:48 PM |
| 3 | Is staying married setting a bad example for my sons?The marriage culture sucks for men on a lot of fronts due to the legal liability we face as men that has been creeping up in ridiculous proportions over the years. With that in mind, and for the protection of my sons I would advise them the same. However I think a lot of things in society swing like a pendulum, I >hope< this changes over time making the prospect of a marriage not quite so unsavory. Chances are still good at some point your sons may marry no matter what you advise. I'd make sure … | /r/askMRP | 22/10/15 02:31 PM |
| 3 | ExRedPill Dating Guide is RedPill... Discussowning your shit thread. I think that's the fundamental problem and clear distinction with a lot of those that end up there. They don't want to own their shit. They want change AND to be blameless. ie. NOT AWALT, you just got a bad egg, kiddo. Psssshaw, she only acted nice at the beginning to entrap you. It has nothing to do with you devolving into a sad sack with a dad bod. Right. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/10/15 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Discovered an anti-Red Pill Sub and had to postThese places make me ill to my stomach. Them: We're not going to tell you anything new, just the same old crap that doesn't work...and if it doesn't work you should just learn to be ok with it. A nice life isn't for you. You just need to learn to make others happy. Screw if it comes at a cost to your self worth. RP? Oh...but don't listen to those guys. It only works because it's MANipulation. It's icky. It may work, but if it works it's just because...abuse. Their s/o's aren't happy. even if the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/15 07:08 PM |
| 2 | [LTR] Does any of this shit work if she's depressed?she has to act right or she's gone... I like to call it cutting the entitlement cord. They're either feel the sudden slack and grab on, or plummet back into the sea of Johnny Schlebs to start the process over again. | /r/askMRP | 21/10/15 06:09 PM |
| 2 | How to act towards wife after ridiculous argument?/u/whinemoreplease comment is really the only answer. Anecdotally and me personally? I treat crazy like crazy. I worked in a mental institution for about 8 months. I give them wide berth. Explicit instructions if I need something. Repeat if necessary through the crazy. Keep eyes open for more acts of crazy, and otherwise continue about my day. she doesn't really ever shit test yet let me outline this shit test. Hamsters gonna ham. | /r/askMRP | 21/10/15 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Injury Threw Me Off MAP/MRP, Have a Few QuestionsYepperz. And maybe have something in mind (quip) but, imo sometimes just a mischevious playful attitude is more important when initiating handys than having the right thing to say. | /r/askMRP | 21/10/15 03:12 PM |
| 3 | The Main Event [FR]Also: don't forget: She may have done this because she was bored. Women will stir up some drama in absence of it sometimes just to alleviate the boredom. If you've been on a new path, yet now predictable path...maybe vary it up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/15 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Injury Threw Me Off MAP/MRP, Have a Few QuestionsThere is no shortage of A&A I can think of for handys. Talk about a golden opportunity. You're right, I'm injured. I need a nurse. A naughty one. Unless a piece of me has a cast on it, it's game for play. My injury is spreading to my brain where all the baby batter is backing up. I need immediate pressure relief before I blow a gasket. Was just watching little house on the prairie. Mom Engle started milking a cow and it gave me an idea... Nothing can make you feel less manly than getting injured… | /r/askMRP | 21/10/15 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Injury Threw Me Off MAP/MRP, Have a Few Questionsbut wife hasn't even offered to help me out Why are you waiting for an offer? You need to expect to initiate any sexual act whether it's full on or just a handy. Adjust that. Tell her to save up some arm strength for tonight. Or better yet, next time you two are together and the time is right just initiate. Also side note: fat=diet, if I knew I'd be ooc on exercise I'd start changing my diet to avoid swell. | /r/askMRP | 21/10/15 01:56 PM |
| 4 | The Main Event [FR]and? That may have been one of the thoughts that's been going through her head. Based on her response though I think it was more of a "are we divorcing or not" zit-popping, and she couldn't handle not knowing. Even if all his previous words indicated all was normal, she was reading his actions of O.I. differently. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/15 01:35 PM |
| 3 | The Main Event [FR]So , could have been a culmination comfort test (seeing as how she changed once you stated explicitly you weren't going anywhere). She probably had her hamster in full spin on whether you gearing up for it or not and just decided to rip off the band-aid to see what was underneath. She had finally no clue as to which way the wind was blowing. IMO they may, at these massive turning points pull a massive comfort test like this, or a massive shit test to see if there's any chance they continue to we… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/15 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Never Take a Woman Fishingor death metal shows or sci-fi conventions or Doug Stanhope when he comes through town | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/15 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2015Going to override the Automod here new account limitation. Quality improvements. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/15 01:47 AM |
| 1 | XPOST: Found this on Deadbedrooms. Nice Guy documents his attempt to have sex with his wifeAll of it together pushes it into joke land for me. Individually all of the key pieces fit into a typical moment or two of bb land, though. Still. Never say never, if a guy did do all of this, in this exact manner, it would be no wonder to anyone familiar with MMSLP, WISNIFG, NMMNG, RP & MRP why that dudes spanking to a catalog. | /r/askMRP | 20/10/15 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Does (slightly) drunk sex mean anything?And don't say anything about the sex. Just keep your mouth shut and pretend it didn't happen. Then try it again soon. Absolutely. If you (op) is wanting to, that's some beta shit creeping up on you (at a time like this). Note it, push it down, and continue about your day. If you two were going at it like Jack Rabbits all the time , nothing wrong with an observation about a session, but in this time period it'd come across weak. | /r/askMRP | 20/10/15 08:05 PM |
| 2 | (X-post asktrp) Love you! From BrianUpdate: she talked to her coworker and turns out he was trying to text his wife with a similar name to hers but accidentally sent to her instead and she could not find the text yesterday because her phone has been acting funny Yeah, that makes total sense after pretending the text didn't exist. And now does exist because she thinks she has a load of shit you'll buy. How's that shit sandwich taste? Next or plate. If anything I'd get a nice feeling from just plating her... if and only if she'll dr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/10/15 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Wife doesnt feel lovedI loooove that books necessary addendum. Language 6 : fucking. Really can skip 1-5, the way to my heart is through my dick. Anything else are too many complications between my heart and dick. I know... I'm a romantic. | /r/askMRP | 20/10/15 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Followup: Owning my shit, baby's sleep trainingHere's a question you need to ask yourself and answer honestly: If you could have magically sprung a boner to head back in for round two, would this shit have flown out of your mouth or would you just have gone back to town? As I got up to take a shower she turns to me. "Where are you going?" "I'm taking a shower" I replied with a smile. "I diden't come" she replied, getting quiet for a second before adding on. "Well, lets go again." I find if I stay in the bed, keep messing around with her, my … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/10/15 03:36 PM |
| 10 | Is it okay to divorce?This is a dip-shitty question. And now you've reached your puke limit. You sound like a ranting teenager. In my head I hear a large whale of a blue haired bp female troll speaking in Contralto mimicking their world view of RP MALEZ. I'm labeling this as a BP example as I think it's more that than puke at this point. I have no idea if you're a troll or not. Because yes, I have a dipshit of a relative who thinks a lot like you and would probably consider himself a reaal maaaan, but go read. Do som… | /r/askMRP | 16/10/15 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Friend's Wife Scared of MeNext time you see her say "Boo!". Have your neighbor dress like you for Halloween. Stop carrying a chainsaw with you when you go ask for sugar. Wear a really crazy Hawaiian shirt next time you'll be in her presence. If asked why say you're trying to cultivate a less "dangerous" air. Then he'll get into an argument with her. Then he avoids me for a couple days, comes over and brings me a beer and we're good. He's not passing shit tests. You just happen to be a catalyst. If I ever see a wife henpe… | /r/askMRP | 16/10/15 03:33 PM |
| 6 | Guy who rescued a deadbedroom after stumbling onto RP tactics is now angry and getting propositioned by hot young womenIt's tough to let go of resentment about the past wasteland. I have no fucking clue as to how I have. What I have a tough time letting go of is bad money /life path decisions I made because of pressure from whatever female I was with at the time. The no sex? For some reason I'm totally solvent with the fact it was all me emotionally and mentally. At one point in my life I wanted to be a cop. Female pressure = nope. Thought I might take it to the FBI level then after college. Female pressure = no… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/10/15 02:47 PM |
| 4 | AWALTproblem is now im waking up im realising my unicorn is just your typical 25 year old woman... How is that a problem? Everyone in some fashion is typical. You included. Now you just know how to steer things better and you've leveled the playing field a bit. She has a crush? BFD. Women think lots of crazy shit they never act on. Work on you and she'll soon lose her focus on Johnny Outofreach. Or not. You leave chicks for cheating on you (well I would anyway). Let her fantasize a way so long as it'… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/10/15 02:22 AM |
| 12 | How do you stop a partner from cheating?Yep. I'm sure this one is sobering to many. If a guy really grasps this it'll help him let go of a lot of shit outside his area of control anyway. Be the best you can be and the rest'll take care of itself. And if it doesn't in the way that you wanted then you adapt and move along. Life's a fucking parade of people coming and going. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/10/15 02:14 AM |
| 1 | My wife is....different. I would like to hear brutally honest opinions.Hey, is she competitive with her sisters though? They'd be good ones for overtly seeking platonic feels from since you already seem to be able to complain to them. I'm not saying go out of your way to spend time with them, but when they're around try to elicit some of that womanliness from them. Don't do it by continuing to complain about the wife to them. That's over. All the better when it's right in front of her. Work with a lady who's kind of a mommy? See if you can get her to cook you somet… | /r/askMRP | 15/10/15 03:13 PM |
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