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Thanks. I've had to learn the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 04:00 PM
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1) Stability- make sure your core needs are being met (food, water, shelter, and physiological needs). 2) Your mental health and defining who you are for yourself 3) Building relationship with the kids and creating rituals and routines for being at your place. Also, being present with them.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 04:58 AM
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Worth the risk. Not the first time lol.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 04:35 PM
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I held down the majority of the weekends thus far. Don't do it. She needs to figure it out. As someone who has not had a full weekend to themselves in MONTHS, you need to look out for you. With everything that happened (see my post "The Tide Has Turned) this week, I took the opportunity and ran with it. After Tuesday, they are with her for nine days because I have to travel for work and I split this weekend to even this month out. Yes, I know it is Father's Day; however, I had them on Mother's D…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 04:21 PM
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She is too prideful to seek those resources. I, on the other hand, am not. She chose to end the marriage when she was making the most money and I was back to part-time freelancing. She goes back to work the end of July. My biggest focus is my children.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:36 PM
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She has nothing to squeeze as I have been underemployed for a year and have had to receive assistance myself. Also, she has put the kids in a living situation that they do not feel safe in. Every change that has happened to the kids are in consequence of her choices. Also the judge is going to question why she was unable to fulfill her obligations while making close to $100k a year compared to my $40k.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:34 PM
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The divorce is not super contentious and I'm not in the place to buy the bike.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:30 PM
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I applied for benefits a month and a half ago. She starts her new job the end of July.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:29 PM
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I have them a lot anyway. If I hear of one incident, they're with me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 05:51 AM
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Update: My mind is blown. I've received over $2500 and counting. That's double what I made per check this past semester! Also, I was offered a really cool and lucrative opportunity. We are hashing out the details now and should have the contract by Monday. I am just in shock and extremely grateful. When I've asked for help in the past even for small things like moving help, I've gotten nothing. I did not expect this at all.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/25 12:09 PM
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I told mine that I am not playing happy family with her right now. If there are events that require both of us, we are not sitting together. My children know that I will always be there and I got their backs. I think we will get to that place eventually but that will take years.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 08:54 PM
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I'm in the same place. Don't try to understand it. Just focus on living. That's all you can do. Get out of there ASAP. Also, don't do the "please baby, please." It is what it is. Build yourself up, get counseling, find support in your group of people, and do what you can to move forward. If she completely isolated you, build a new group of people to surround you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 12:32 PM
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Speak you truth. NTA. I'm choosing to be friendly right now.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:13 PM
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Making friends as adult men is hard. Rather than trying to be super social, try to use authentic opportunities and see where they come from. Also, you can use this space to make connections. I'm always down for a good chat and I've connected with people here who have been helpful for me with major transitions.
/r/MenSupportMen26/10/24 02:30 AM
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UPDATE: Thank you all for your comments, war cries, manifestos, etc. I appreciate it. I was approved for an apartment within my meager price range and accepted it. It's small enough for me to manage alone and has space for the kids when they come over. What matters is that it is mine. I'll be paying the down payment next Thursday. I'm hoping to move that weekend if I can get enough money to pay the first month's rent at the same time. Otherwise, it's the middle of the month. I am also working on…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 01:20 AM
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Thanks! I have been the emotional support kid and wouldn't wish it on anyone. I have my crew of people and they know how to keep confidence. When I need to rent, I'll come here though.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 12:20 PM
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Love the vengeance energy. Just wanted to clarify... 1) All money- my income- was depleted from the initial move and I have to cover bills that I did not expect. 2) Because of my PTSD, I chose to rotate to provide stability for the children yet doesn't force me to be in a space that is a 1200 sq. ft. trigger. 3) I am a product of a contentious divorce and that has fucked me up in multiple ways. I am choosing peace for the sake of my kids, which scares her. She was expecting me to wig out and los…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 12:27 AM
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My friend, I empathize with you so much. You have to make yourself a priority. Talk to your fiance about how you're feeling and how her PPD is affecting you and supporting her seeking help. Are your levels controlled? If not, reach out to your doctor about modifying your treatment so it is more affordable. Lastly, reach out to your and her family members to provide you support. You can't be a dad if you're not here. Please feel free to message me to talk, vent, or whatever you need.
/r/MenSupportMen10/10/24 04:47 PM
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Let me put it to you like this. They are judging you based on research about hens. Not wolves. Hens. You are doing exactly what you need to do as a father and a human. They are bringing down what they are deficient in. Don't let it bother you.
/r/MenSupportMen05/10/24 12:28 PM
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