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| 1 | “Men would love to be sexually objectified”I think we don't need a new word for sexual misconduct/attack, but that's just me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/26 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Why are Men are obligated to pay but women are not obligated todo anything?I mean you're pretty much spot-on but sounds pretty purple pilled to me - blue-pill is pretty much "be yourself, it's all about confidence" when that phrase just has nothing on attractiveness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 05:24 AM |
| 0 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menI think the problem he's mentioning is the 'hold rope on both sides' thing. But yeah what does he expect? "No you're average, might settle down if push comes to shove"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/25 12:03 AM |
| 7 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalFemale sexuality is very complex, when she needs to cope with her man being not tall, wealthy or at least of a high social standing or status. What do you want a girl to say? "I've settled for you so I have a hard time getting turned on"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Why are so many men obsessed with societal norms?Hmm as someone who's oscillated the unattractive-attractive line more than average - my quirks are definitely better received when I'm considered attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 08:17 PM |
| 1 | One of the biggest problems in dating is men *think* they want easy sex.His case is famous exactly because it's a weird case. Attractive people on average marry attractive partners who earn more, are more mentally stable, higher intellect etc etc. Multiply by 9 billion people and variance explodes - but on all else equals being very attractive will absolutely change your life, and usually for the better. Would all men crying on here be happy had they had that? no. Would their life probably be better? yes. EDIT: In terms of anecdotes - the best times for me were time… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 04:56 PM |
| – | Men Should Stop Dating- Sperm Donation Achieves the Same Goal Without the RisksEven if optimizing for seed spread in that manner would feel remotely fulfilling for any guy (hint: amount of guys who consciously care about this -> 0), this is still a bad optimization. No woman in her right mind goes to the sperm bank to find a 5'5 high-school educated ethno-sperm. You're back to square one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 04:52 PM |
| 6 | How are women who enjoy casual sex “being used?”Because unattractive men (read: men who don’t get women) think women are giving sex rather than having it - even when they have a gf she “agrees to give a blowjob” rather than eager to do it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 03:04 PM |
| 1 | In a world where you could easily have casual sex with women, would you still prefer to marry/LTR/commit to a “low n” woman?I think I’d mainly go for someone young, attractive and smart - probably she wouldn’t be the whoriest of sluts, other than that don’t care that much at this point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Women and men behave exactly the same in dating, it’s just women get more opportunity to act cold and selfish so it’s thought to be “their nature”Well yeah, but then this begs the question - why do women have the upper hand, which is easily answered: Men and women behave differently when choosing date partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 04:19 AM |
| – | Women’s Sexuality is More “Selfish” Because Men’s Perspectives Are Baked Into Our Brains From BirthI get turned on from feeling attractive and the girl being attracted to me too.. maybe girls lean a bit more into that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 11:12 PM |
| 1 | What makes a woman want to sleep with a man, regardless of intentions?Interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 06:44 AM |
| 1 | What makes a woman want to sleep with a man, regardless of intentions?But.. how would you know? Don’t some men just.. lie? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 06:41 AM |
| 14 | What makes a woman want to sleep with a man, regardless of intentions?Give their body 😆 Sometimes girls will fuck you if you’re the one available and attractive enough even though they’re looking for something serious. It can take years for her to find someone she wants long term.. you think she’s gonna virginize until then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 06:35 AM |
| – | Women not granting men sexual access is not a “mens issue”Word games. Incels have bad lives, cannot be otherwise - they have an issue by definition. I don’t think it’s anyone’s job to relieve (that’s true for pretty much any “issue” someone has) them but it’s still an issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 06:27 PM |
| – | I think a lot of people going forward have to just get over the idea of sex and relationshipsWhat do you want? Go outside in any decent city - people are out socializing and fucking, wtf you on about? Bottom 25% of men always lost and they’ll continue losing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceThey’re different in that in clubs I’ve made out with (non-drunk) model-looking girls and in apps it’s literally 0% that happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Women look for guys who will entertain them, and then are surprised when those guys bounce after sex. If you want to find guys who stick around, go for men with similar personalities.If I was a woman I’d take my chances with 50 chads running through me before I’d even consider dating… Oh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Today's culture wants the dating market essentially whittled down Tinder swipesWe’re living in a time where neurotics from both sexes have commandeered the internet and not only armchair-psych without living - they gaslight the rest to do the same too. To the point: Most young women want to be approached. Stop listening to hyper-neurotic unattractive women online (anyone who says the word “gaze” is a red flag). My opinion: Men are lonelier because they’re more neurotic and more risk-averse because they’re at home smoking instead of going out and drinking Thanks for listeni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 11:09 AM |
| 7 | You are not a victim just because nobody wants to date you. Loneliness and sexlessness is just an unfortunate by product of free will, which proceeds all other rights in datingYou are not a victim just because nobody wants to give you money. Poorness and homelessness is just an unfortunate by product of free will, which proceeds all other rights in trading You can’t make somebody donate to you, or force somebody else to be ok with you taking their money. Market trades are entirely free will. And nobody literally forced YOU to be the human you are. There are things you can do to improve your genetic hand, and things you can do to improve your skills etc, but your effor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 03:03 PM |
| 1 | If you can’t get a gf/bf it’s prob bcuz you’re unattractive in some way. People stating this are incorrectly accused of “just world fallacy.”People son’t like useless people - to that extent they’re considered “bad” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Single mothers symbolize something deeply painful to a lot of menI know there’s a hierarchy, my reason for not seriously dating single mothers is that I don’t want to tie myself to another person’s children. I do agree your thesis holds for some people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Both genders would be happier if women did the approachingYeah I heard that a lot. Meanwhile my best friend’s best line in college was “you’re the most beautiful girl here, you know that right?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 04:53 PM |
| – | Reasons for age gap relationshipsI use 2 apps, and yeah since turning 35 apps are harder - clubs still work nicely though. But yeah you kinda deserve to be rejected I'll give you that, you've managed to completely rot this thread. Gonna go out to cry about my would-be recessed hairline and jaw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 03:15 AM |
| 1 | I think a lot of men were lied to as kids about love and that's why they're bitterI mean I just don't see how men can seriously carry the lie beyond college.. Sure, in high-school some level of innocence can be maintained - but after college age? Funny thing is - the only reasonable way I can see to maintain this kind of innocence about relationships is being in a long-term one starting young where none of you cheat. On that note - I think experienced men also are jealous of Chads - who wouldn't want to be able to choose specifically the women he wants and have them be excite… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 02:47 AM |
| – | Reasons for age gap relationshipsChadlier Didn't insult - pointed out and offered remedy. Not bald - but more hair in the crown is good or else I need to keep my hair short which is annoying. Yeah chin was recessed - surprisingly I managed to attract cute girls still, but yeah I can't deal with that bullshit so I fixed it - as I offer other people - fix your stuff and stop imploding on social media. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 02:41 AM |
| – | I've tried helping a few younger guys get dates, something is wrong here.So let me get this straight - you're a failed mentor but it's women's fault? I never had to tick any boxes when dating - either they wanted to date me, in which case it usually is fun - or they don't swipe or don't answer my messages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Reasons for age gap relationshipsVery interesting - I have this same dissonance where I could make out with some pretty hot girls in clubs etc, but on Tinder much less so - for me it actually takes a toll on my esteem but you seem to just brush it off - maybe I’ll focus more on real life then. Also the smokescreen comment - spot on, many such cases. Thanks for replying! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Reasons for age gap relationshipsYou’re the one trying to insult, I don’t see where I did.. Chadlier than though is Chad now? I’m just chadlier than thou - especially after HT and jaw surgery but w/e 🤷🏻♂️ Again, I suggest you focus on getting attractive rather than pointing out people who actually live their own advice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 12:43 AM |
| 0 | Reasons for age gap relationshipsHmm - Do you have the same success on Tinder though? I noticed since 34-35 it’s a no-go when I go young | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/25 11:27 AM |
| 5 | Reasons for age gap relationshipsYou can’t make this a math question - this whole thread is directly related to your situation. If you were 35 and had 23 year old hotties banging on your door you’d fuck them, this thread wouldn’t exist and no one would bat an eye. Being lonely and rejected - you instead Don Quixote on reddit yelling into the void. No one is stopping you from hitting on young girls - if they go “eww you’re old” it’s just a nice way of saying “you’re old enough to realize you’re unattractive”. Instead see if you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/25 11:23 AM |
| 1 | An Assertive dirtbag is much better than a super shy guy.Women who are interested in you will sometimes call you a fuckboy/douche/asshole It’s just banter - they like thinking the guy who can get everyone is interested while also checking how you react (hint: you don’t). Dirtbag is a guy who taps into her low self esteem to convince her she wouldn’t be able to do better, or strings her along with false promises, or worse - you don’t seem to be doing any of that, you’ve just bought into incel’s and ultra-neurotic women’s definition of dirtbag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 08:44 AM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Do you actually believe what you wrote? Did you try to imagine how your life would look like if you couldn’t even think of a way to get another person to hug you while naked? What is this bullshit I mean incels are autistic, neurotic and mostly tend dumb - but their issue is definitely something a lot of men fear | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/25 06:06 PM |
| 0 | “just respect women and maybe you will date one” is poor dating advice because it perpetuates an “action-reward” that directly ties to dehumanizing and removing agencyThis is the kind of post you can only make when you haven’t approached a woman in more than a year. Nothing is dehumanizing about having goals - respect or bit either you’re being attractive or you’re not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Why men who provide security are boring ?What about manly men who are into femdom fantasies? Queerdom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Why men who provide security are boring ?You find it interesting? For one, these are not “women” - these are the specific subset you’ve encountered and have had sexual relations with. Two - what’s interesting? Low mate-value women can’t have a man who’s best of both worlds - so they take the hottest men they can get for short term because they don’t commit and commit with someone reliable and less attractive for long-term. Men do the reverse - fuck downwards and relationship upwards (in looks). Nothing here is interesting unless you me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 01:48 PM |
| 0 | Why men who provide security are boring ?How do you know all that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 01:42 PM |
| 6 | Most girls don’t prefer significantly older men36m here, can confirm. I probably look my best right about now, Dating still seemed way easier a decade ago at 24-26 - even at 30 was nice. 36m is either you’re VERY hot or you’re settling by a bigger margin. Question for OP though - how chadly were the guys? I could get hook ups with pretty girls back then and I was no chad, as I said if anything ai look better now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Women, Do You Always Need an Emotional Connection to Sleep with a Man You're Seeing?I engage in casual sex, no trauma, very fun, very bonding, thank you for meta-analyzing 80% of men and 30% of women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Women, Do You Always Need an Emotional Connection to Sleep with a Man You're Seeing?I think people underestimate how fast you can get emotional about someone.. I once felt things for a woman I met at a party in like 40 minutes. After we kissed some I looked at her and she went "you love me" - I think she didn't like that lol - but point is I did develop some emotion by that point. Hell, I even felt a connection to a hooker in Amsterdam - probably felt it for 5 weeks after (only went to her/any prostitute once). So - even girls who say they need a connection - I bet there were t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 10:40 PM |
| 3 | Philophobia is every man's destiny - and curse - as a consequence of daring to trust women. I believe the remedy to this is to never fully trust women, just as women never fully trust men. Instead, take calculated risks. Be aware of the pitfalls, and plan accordingly: just as women do.A lot of people trust their wife, are married, are happy and never got cheated on. Some of the others post shit like this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 07:30 PM |
| – | Dating for women is a swamp. Dating for men is a desert. Neither can ever sympathize with the others complaints, because we (say) we want want what the other has.What do you want dude? Some people are attractive, some are not. There are a lot more girls I’d fwb than girls I’d seriously date. There’s a lot more girls who’d seriously date me than girls who’d casually sleep with me. The optimal girl for me to be in a relationship with is a girl who’d be happy to have casual sex with me and I’m attracted enough to her to want to seriously date her - The more attractive you are the less rare that is - end of story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/25 08:11 PM |
| – | Dating for women is a swamp. Dating for men is a desert. Neither can ever sympathize with the others complaints, because we (say) we want want what the other has.You do realize this is a subreddit for bitching about pool-cleaning, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/25 08:06 PM |
| 1 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?Used to have something similar, then on every calc I’m >95% except western europe which is still like 88th percentile 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 07:06 PM |
| 1 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?For the record, one woman said I’m “medium” but that “large” hurts and mine is perfect, so when they don’t want “large” you have to understand they’re thinking of too large. Also - women and men don’t know sizes so 8” is probably 7”. Me: 6.8x5.5 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 06:01 PM |
| 3 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?According the calcsd this is like 99.9% so yeah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 05:55 PM |
| 1 | The idea that men are intimidated by successful women is mostly a myth.Hmm I don’t know I like smart women - but only if they’re attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 01:33 AM |
| 7 | Why don’t women find effort as attractive as men do?Man here. Prefer attractive woman with attitude to nice unattractive woman. Thanks for listening. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 01:41 AM |
| 1 | As a bi woman, dating women is way harder than dating men.Umm.. so you were rejected but wasn’t rejecting - why weren’t they the one fawning over you? There are women chads? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/25 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Is it common for women to settle for their partners, especially sexually?Do you think really attractive men date her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 07:05 AM |
| 2 | Women On Reddit Chase Validation and Attention By Stating an Exception to an Obvious TruthI think the issue is this: People who like holding non-consensus opinions and behaviors like to talk about them and make as if it’s normal (see vegans). Women who like hot guys don’t respond to “do women like height” - they just go “wtf is that stupid question” and move on. The ones who like to signal their off-beat opinions however - “omg lolz as if height matters - Give me a kind face and an emotionally intelligent guy and I’m walking on clouds”. It’s not that girls don’t care about character … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/25 09:55 PM |
| 0 | Women Have Become Much More Commitment Phobic Now that Social Media and Dating Apps ExistDon’t think I’ve ever been with a woman who didn’t want to be my girlfriend 🤷🏻♂️ EDIT: 1 tourist who had a flight back same day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/25 08:07 AM |
| – | Attractiveness is more than just a number on a rating scaleTake expected value of attractiveness over time and there’s your average subjective attraction to someone. Do this from POV of all opposite-sex people and there’s one’s objective average attractiveness. A good proxy for that is someone’s objective physical attractiveness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/25 11:46 AM |
| 2 | There is no hypocrisy if a guy for LTR wants sex , problem is differentI don’t know about shoulds - I just know that when I can feel her attraction to me I’m much more interested. Last girl I dated didn’t come up but we did passionately kiss and some dirty talk was had - I pretty much fell in love right there. Have the same date without sexual tension and kiss and I have to force myself to call her again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/25 11:32 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Ever cry because a friend confessed her love to you?No, I did feel uncomfortable rejecting - but I was flattered and remained friends with her. As for the woman in the video - neuroticism and attention seeking, nothing to see here Edit: also it’s a humblebrag - as if the main point isn’t “hey someone fell for me” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/25 11:19 AM |
| 5 | If you’re waiting 3 dates (or a month) to fuck someone, you would have been better off having a hookup and fucking immediately.It’s a stupid deal if you don’t want to fuck him - her wanting to fuck me is a precondition for anything happening, let alone a relationship. I never ghosted anyone, nor have I promised a relationship ahead of time - sex is me and her having fun and part of overall checking compatibility - it’s a reward for us both finding each other attractive, not part of a “relationship deal” Women slut shame no less than men. Also yes - some men indeed think a woman having sex “fast” is a bad sign - they’re … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 05:16 PM |
| 3 | If you’re waiting 3 dates (or a month) to fuck someone, you would have been better off having a hookup and fucking immediately.You’re meeting men who have madonna whore complexes and/or have one yourself - stop projecting. I’m more likely to marry a girl I fucked on first/2nd date than a girl who “held off” - Holding off tells me she’s either not attracted enough or playing weird games - both disqualify her from having my serious attentiob | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women?Directionally correct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/24 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women?A lot of not really hot guys have ONS though.. Also the women I’d date definitely have a higher bar than those I’d only had sex with - but they don’t need to be “really hot” - unless really hot starts at like 7? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/24 05:00 PM |
| 9 | Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women?36 years, and only now can someone phrase it in a way that’s both sensible and believable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/24 04:54 PM |
| 3 | “The bar is on the floor” for the men women consider their dating pool, which is always men above themI don’t know dude, I treat women pretty good even when it’s only casual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Bad boys are liked by women only because of their self-confidenceHow many women have you hit on this year? How many Reddit posts/comments have you written this week? That's all you need to know. Also - their main weapon is being extroverted and attractive. Some Girls call "bad boy" and "douche" to every guy who has sex with them but doesn't want commitment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 10:53 PM |
| – | Do you think the idea of the 666 is the sole reason why you, or some men struggle to get dates or sex?I don't see why mom and dad having a long marriage means you don't fuck around.. Both my grandparents stayed married to their first marital spouse, my parents are still married, I fuck around. Also where do people find all these single moms? I'm 36 and I've been on a date with only 1 single mom who's a nerdy director at a tech company and seemed to have too little passion for me to want a 2nd date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 09:07 PM |
| – | Do you think the idea of the 666 is the sole reason why you, or some men struggle to get dates or sex?I’ve been able to attract cute women and I’ve been unable to - being able is better in every way - stop giving them cope fuel plz. You’re able to choose - the others have all those problems you listed + lack of choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 06:21 PM |
| – | Do you think the idea of the 666 is the sole reason why you, or some men struggle to get dates or sex?Most still leaves like what? 20-30% who do measure up and are hot? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 05:54 PM |
| -1 | How did or would you react if your partner said he was born without testicles?But it would bother her - no feelings yet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/24 08:12 PM |
| 0 | How did or would you react if your partner said he was born without testicles?Got it, lie until feelings established | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/24 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other womenI think there’s a difference between 30yo attractive women who “succeeded” in their mating efforts vs average ones who did not.. The 35yo ones you usually meet for dates tend ti be the more bitter ones, while growing old with the 26yo - why would she grow bitter? I’m not saying those men are right and probably more often than not it’s a red flag - but there certainly is a difference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/24 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Studies consistently show that women do not all perceive the same type of men as physically attractive, that a high majority of women prefer long term relationships and that a man’s social status/abilities and economic security are far more important than his looksYeah.. go on Tinder or to your local club. I can clearly see a shift in how women and people behave towards me when I’m more/less attractive. And that’s fine, just no need to sugar coat it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Do women who engaged in lots of casual sex, inherently love the man they wind up marrying, differently than those who did not?If you’re attractive it’s at least the same, except for the minority of girls who have something like a reverse madonna-whore thing. If you’re less and she’s just settling for a relationship (something a minority of girls do, mostly depending on attractiveness and age) - then yeah you may experience less sexual lust from her. Her Promiscuity isn’t the issue - your attractiveness is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex?She’s interested in a relationship.. but a hookup will suffice until she finds it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 07:52 PM |
| 4 | Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex?Where do people ask for your number? If it happens that often you’re probably leaning 8 rather than 7. As for casual - Most of the women I casually slept with were looking for “something serious” - maybe you shouldn’t be so explicit about it and rather charm your way in a bit? Don’t outright lie - just don’t mention it.. Some girls who claim they’re looking for something serious are actually looking to have fun but have hang-ups about being perceived by others and themselves to make it look like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 06:13 AM |
| 1 | q4a: is sex a need?Valid yes, happy probably, relax no. Need no. Take away sex and it's ecosystem and you take vast majority of my life meaning out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 08:53 PM |
| 1 | To women, how would you feel if your partner spent a lot of money on his past partners but is relatively frugal with you?I think most women would be jealous/offended. I also think a woman that does the same does it for about the same reasons: She tried having sex early and dirty and (probably mistakenly) diagnosed it as the reason for relationship trouble. It's not necessarily that she's "disrespecting" the new man by doing things different, she's just trying to optimize her behavior so that the relationship will be stable - in this case a poor attempt the way I see it. Still - if a really attractive guy was to me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 04:31 PM |
| 0 | Do men on here understand why women follow alpha fucks and beta bucks?Do you see why people want to fuck good looking people and extract resources from resourceful people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/24 05:17 PM |
| 1 | If You Became Super Desirable To Women, Would You Be A Player?People think I’m a player even without being Super Desirable.. probably I’ll have my fun first a year or two and settle in | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 10:37 PM |
| – | There is nothing wrong with not being selected by womenYou do know natural selection includes responding properly to adversaries, right? There's no ensuring natural selection without the pressure of the environment - that environment contains "unworthy men" - good luck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Men should approach less and reject moreAll people should stop buying iPhones, why are profit margins so high?! But then again, if you missed the point with women, why do I expect you to realize it for iPhones? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Why do men believe sex is degrading to women? Or they want it to be?I think you're missing the point - the sex is not the revenge, the lack of attention/affection besides sex is. I don't think most women would like that (besides the obvious kink of feeling like that in bed sometimes). About sex itself being degrading besides case in point: I don't think most men think that, maybe some do, and other do sometimes depending on their mood. But sex can be degrading, in both a good way and bad. For example if a girl likes getting slapped in bed, it's not the feeling o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue?They're describing the qualities that'll make her stay with a guy she's already attracted to, not how to be attractive to her in the first place - being attractive is a given, otherwise there's nothing to discuss. How to be attractive? good genes, gym, diet, sleep. injections/fillers etc. surgeries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 02:20 AM |
| 5 | Women Who only Date men who cold approachI think they mean in a more general “man should lead” - i.e even if it’s social circle they want the man to do the first move | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 05:59 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive?The ovulating vs not ovulating seems to be overstated and doesn't replicate well. There is however, a new dual-mating supporting study about infidelity by Macken Murphy et al. If you're interested: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1090513824000710 tl;dr - people tend to cheat up in physical attractiveness (men too) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 01:44 AM |
| 2 | My guy friend told me it’s more common for men to be hooking up with the same woman, is this true?I... I just wanna say I don't endorse his opinions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 07:26 AM |
| 30 | My guy friend told me it’s more common for men to be hooking up with the same woman, is this true?Overall promiscuous people tend to have sex with other promiscuous people. When you bring a girl home from a club, 9/10 it’s not her first and only time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women who have been sexually assaulted are the female equivalent to male virginsYou said "destroys your life", how would it destroy their life without it affecting their long-term mental-state/stability (a.k.a mental illness and specifically PTSD)? The thing happened like 20 years ago, she talks about it matter-of-factly, and it definitely didn't shift her politics on such matters (i.e she thinks metoo was an overkill). She's now married with a kid to a great guy, so yeah I'd say she's mostly fine - not that she doesn't have other quirks about her (she's into coaching last … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 01:01 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women who have been sexually assaulted are the female equivalent to male virginsI said the equivalence is false, why would you answer as if I was comparing it? Also - I do know girls who were attacked, and I know a girl who was brutally raped - some make an identity out of it, some don't. The girl who had it worst seems to just treat it as a violent attack rather than an attack on her sexuality - She says the worst was actually how people around her treated her because of it and made her feel fragile. So traumatic - yeah, by definition - but post-traumatic is optional for m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 12:35 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Women who have been sexually assaulted are the female equivalent to male virginsI just don’t really see why any comparison needs to be found. Low value men face hardships. Low value women face other hardships. Women who were raped face other hardships still and so on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 02:45 AM |
| 1 | It's more socially acceptable to slut-shame men than womenFroth their loins, not inflame. It would inflame if you don't wash your hands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 01:54 AM |
| 12 | CMV: Women who have been sexually assaulted are the female equivalent to male virginsI appreciate the moral bankruptcy, but the equivalence is just false. Most women who've been assaulted just go on with their life, they don't make an identity of it and you won't hear about it unless you really know them and it comes up. If you wanna take the hard-case neurotic ones and compare only them.. Still I don't see the connection except both having lower-value, and in that case you don't need any sexual assault - just take unattractive neurotic women and compare them to incels and be do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 12:15 AM |
| 0 | Women will talk about male "Locker room talk" then go on to write a novel about their sex life to their friendsWhat? I din’t think most women talk in detail about their sex life… Also, she’s more than welcome to tell what we did if she has the courage.. I have a hard time believing women throw “and then he sat on my face” around | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 02:47 AM |
| 4 | Being laid back and uninvested is not what makes men attractive, women are attracted to men who act like that because those men are already attractiveI think people hype up acting uninvested too much. I was sold that thing when I was kid, worked wonders to help me stay introverted and shy while masquerading as aloof. I have a friend who does it well - he talks to girls all the time, showing minimal interest and pulling back - they seem to fall for it pretty hard. As for attractiveness - if you're really attractive pretty much any non-autistic behavior will work.. For me, I seem to be most attractive when I'm acting in a charming way - talking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 02:17 PM |
| -2 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?Say you're hot without saying you're hot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:15 AM |
| 4 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?Why is it asked in 3 paragraphs when it could have been one sentence? I'm surprised any of them will even answer when the question even makes me gag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?She’s one of the most famous singers because she makes people notice her and being “spicy” like that is just one thing she does | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?She’s making a big deal so that you’ll read her interview, in reality no one cares. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 02:01 PM |
| – | Ladies, how come your tastes in fiction, contradict what you say you want irl?Dangerous != bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:56 AM |
| – | Ladies, how come your tastes in fiction, contradict what you say you want irl?That’s a good question, how do you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:18 AM |
| – | Ladies, how come your tastes in fiction, contradict what you say you want irl?Endless scrolling for one honest answer, thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 11:15 PM |
| 2 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.Maybe you're low in agreeableness - but I wouldn't say that's low social skills. Also - you *know* which rules you break, which means you're pretty keen about the social standards. But yeah - the cope is strong in this thread - people don't like to think attractive people get to 'break' more rules | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.Yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 09:24 PM |
| 1 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.I didn't say social skills are irrelevant, I said looks come first and more important. But social skills have their place indeed, and not a small one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 09:23 PM |
| 26 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.Every speed dating study shows physical attractiveness (PA) plays the most important role. Studies show again and again people (and women even more) downplay the role of PA in their decision. There's a pretty new study showing women who cheat, cheat (on average) with higher PA partners than their current partner (surprisingly it seems to be true for men too). Having said all that - sure, you still need to act in an attractive manner, and it can salvage some points if your looks aren't all that. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 01:00 PM |
| – | Women are marrying down, not up.No, in most households men earn more. They might be marrying down in looks but they marry same-and-up socio-economically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 04:01 PM |
| 1 | How do y’all feel about the wade Wilson situationKeywords some and comorbidities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Men don’t love romantically either, they’re just coming from a place of scarcityThey did, it was unrequited. They never had options or went outside enough to see that attractive men are more likely to be in a relationship and get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Outside of sex work your "league" is what you can get.Funny how you got downvoted, probably the only sane post here lately. Also - hoeflation or whatnot might as well be real, just means the market’s changed and leagues have been redistributed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/24 11:39 PM |
| 1 | More women need to practice what they preach when it comes to sex and datingThis seems like you need to find a woman you’re compatible with, rather than “women” you’re not. I don’t know where those standards you talk of exist except in your and some other people’s minds. You like thin women? Good, go for them! No need to announce that fat women are doing it wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/24 03:58 PM |
| – | Only Chads and high tier men get clingy gfs.I know clingy girls, you don’t need ti be a chad for them to cling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 04:32 PM |
| – | The normalization of having your first kid at 35+ is going to decimate birth rates even more, lead to increase autism rates and make things worse for the following generationsOr healthcare will keep progressing, as it has exponentially in the last 250 years, and this period of low western fertility will be a bleep in the past | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 03:04 PM |
| -2 | If women are allowed to divorce their husbands for wanting paternity test, then this guy is justified in leaving his wife for wanting to look at his phoneWell yeah men get more social pushback for pretty much anything.. They get it from men & women. Just the way things are, probably always have been, probably always will be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 08:55 PM |
| 5 | If women are allowed to divorce their husbands for wanting paternity test, then this guy is justified in leaving his wife for wanting to look at his phone“Allowed” Are you suggesting we outlaw no-fault divorce? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 06:31 PM |
| – | Q4w: do you still take female beauty standards seriously?It’s not a losing battle to those who’re winning, but yeah you should choose the path most beneficial to you personally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 01:01 PM |
| – | Q4w: do you still take female beauty standards seriously?Not everything, but firstly and most importantly. People are happier with sub-optimal behavior the more attractive you are to them. Not that I advise behaving badly - but you definitely have more wiggle room for mistakes, a lot more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 12:59 PM |
| – | Q4w: do you still take female beauty standards seriously?Only a small minority of men are physically sexually attractive.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you think men leaving the west for better dating prospect will create a significant brain drain and negative economic consequences in the west? Or will it remain insignificant?Yes it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 09:58 AM |
| – | Q4w: do you still take female beauty standards seriously?What do you mean beauty is a scam? Also, attractive men are definitely treated differently everywhere, not just when finding a mate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 09:58 AM |
| 2 | Why does it seem many Mainstreams dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, paint themselves as "Progressive" and "Female Friendly" yet make most of their money from a large Male audience?They're trying to appeal to females cuz females are hesitant to come - the guys will show up anyway - not to mention they'll show up even more if females are there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 05:35 PM |
| 9 | Do you think men leaving the west for better dating prospect will create a significant brain drain and negative economic consequences in the west? Or will it remain insignificant?Brain Drain? You think men who need to leave to find a mate are somehow higher-IQ? You're being delusional. High-IQ is correlated with attractiveness, height and being married. The only issue with high-IQ is they're less likely to have many children, which will cause brain-drain and negative economy consequences - high-IQ aren't leaving, if anything they're coming in (from asia etc) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 04:45 PM |
| 13 | There are two ways of talking to women: 1) treating them as people and 2) treating them as people you want to have sex withOnly this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 11:59 AM |
| – | Do you actually only find a tiny fraction of men attractive?Why didn’t you sleep-with? I mean that kind of instant attraction is rare.. might as well seize the day? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 02:02 AM |
| 3 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.What's "deep" and "thoughtful"? In my view, talking about what's attractive and not for men and women is very deep and thoughtful, and women tend to like talking about it with me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 11:39 AM |
| 12 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.You don't get to the couch and movie if you're not charismatic and fun - at least not in the way guys here want to get there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Is having an income greater than minimum wage a prerequisite to dating past age 22? Or even past age 23?Hmm, I could be wrong, wouldn't go so far as delusional. Not jealous, not of him anyway. Sometimes insecure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Is having an income greater than minimum wage a prerequisite to dating past age 22? Or even past age 23?I’m not chad, therefore everyone else is. Sounds right. Pretty sure most girls would rather date me than him but w/e | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Is having an income greater than minimum wage a prerequisite to dating past age 22? Or even past age 23?He's not ugly, and probably attractive to some, but chad? comeon | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 11:26 AM |
| 3 | Is having an income greater than minimum wage a prerequisite to dating past age 22? Or even past age 23?I mean.. Unless you're semi-retired and working as a florist for fun - why are you concerned with dating earning minimum wage @ 22? If you've been to college - that's enough time out of there to advance to more senior levels who don't earn minimum (or your degree enables a non-minimum salary from the get-go). If you haven't - you're already like 5-6 years in the job market... Minimum wage at that age means there's a reason for it - either not trying or not capable, both of which are red flags fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 11:23 AM |
| 13 | Rejection is far better than manipulation״Someone will” - I think that’s where you lost most guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 03:46 PM |
| 0 | Self improvement is quite limited for menHmm.. I've actually seen a balding short ugly 40y/o making out with a girl I was afraid to talk to in a club in Krakow, so while yeah - looking good is a lot better, you don't need to be top-tier to find a pretty hot girl to make out with if you're on the lookout. Also, while I wouldn't rate myself an 8 back then, probably I was some girls' type still. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Self improvement is quite limited for menI wouldn’t say I was an 8 before.. Photofeeler 8 isn’t what you’d expect from 8. Might be 8ish now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 01:53 PM |
| 2 | If women are your biggest problem, you don't have enough real problems.lol, none of the “issues” you raised are of any relevancy to the individual.. “Fuck your dating and personal problems, why don’t you deal with amorphic group and civilization issues instead” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/24 08:08 PM |
| – | Redditors really live in a bubble, that's why I would take people's takes here with a grain of saltThe fact that it’s kinda true for specific individuals doesn’t make it generally true. Also - you wouldn’t get reported, probably only (probably kindly) rejected | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 12:27 PM |
| 5 | Redditors really live in a bubble, that's why I would take people's takes here with a grain of saltHalf of responses here are "don't talk to women anywhere cuz you'll get reported for harassment" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 01:09 AM |
| – | Redditors really live in a bubble, that's why I would take people's takes here with a grain of saltThank you for this - I need a reminder every once in a while | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 01:06 AM |
| 4 | Rethinking Consent: Addressing the Complexities of Rape Culture and Moving Beyond "No Means No"I can do CS masters, I can’t read this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/24 03:49 AM |
| 11 | Rethinking Consent: Addressing the Complexities of Rape Culture and Moving Beyond "No Means No"Why would you go through all that trouble... If a girl outright says 'no' - you better be stopping or you're liable for a bad night at the least. If you think she might actually want you but still says 'no' - you better be stopping or you're liable for a bad life - don't mess with these types. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/24 03:07 AM |
| 3 | Men are turned off by women approaching them CMVThe scenario you described isn’t a turn off, it’s an ego boost. I’m not turned off by women approaching me - if she’s attractive I’m very pleased and will def accept. Doesn’t mean I’m in love tonight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/24 04:50 AM |
| – | At what age woman loses all her value?<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Why do *some men, try to convince virginal & low n count women to have sex without marriage/commitment?That's fine, you should then leave the negotiation table. I'm just saying people negotiate, not that you should concede to their wants. You asked why some men do it - they feel like they can negotiate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 01:57 AM |
| 4 | If all men prefer young women what should wifed up women do after the age of 40?I'm not getting out of my way to meet them (i.e I don't usually go out to parties of people that young), And I usually don't match them on Tinder. In other words - they're hot, but it's not that I don't have fun with older girls who're also hot/cute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 01:54 AM |
| 12 | If all men prefer young women what should wifed up women do after the age of 40?Most men date around their age. I date around my age. 24y/os are still hotter on average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Why do *some men, try to convince virginal & low n count women to have sex without marriage/commitment?Keep getting surprised by people trying to negotiate then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Why do *some men, try to convince virginal & low n count women to have sex without marriage/commitment?Why do people try to negotiate about anything at all? They want something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Society and women definitely equate being unable to attract a woman with being a loserAs they should (except the age gap thing - unattractive 30s 40s are even more unattractive than when they were 28.. why would young girls go for them?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 06:35 PM |
| -1 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menActually I feel like overall hotter girls treated me way better than average-less-than-average girls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 06:01 PM |
| 7 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menThe problem is in the word “women” - some women really never fuck fast.. Some women think they never do it but they did it once or twice. Others say they never do it but have done it enough. Others yet are full blown self-acknowledged sluts. It’s not the man that makes the demisexual go slut-mode - it’s usually just a different population of girls treated as one. As an example - Last girl I had sex with fucked me on first date. We’re now friends so we don’t sleep together anymore. Anyway she now… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Your own attractiveness is static, so raising your standards only makes you less likely to find your partnerIt's not fucking static.. It depends on who you are and where you start. I've seen 5 girls go to be 7s, same for guys, 8s even. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/24 11:34 PM |
| 5 | Men who were undesirable in their youth but managed to become succesful and confident and desirable later on in their life are absolutely entitled to go through a "hoe phase"lol, what does that even mean? You need permission to fuck girls? Very uncasanova of you. Anyway yeah I'm now in that phase, and while it's fun - better wake up early and be done with it before 30 (unless you decide LTRs are just not for you and that's ok too) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 07:14 AM |
| 1 | There’s really no point to every man doing self-improvement because women have relativist attraction. There will always be a hierarchy of reshuffling winners and losers even if men have objectively raised the floor....You do know most men don't self-improve though, right? You're not in competition with men living in 2050. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Most women don't even need to go through a "hoe phase" for the 80/20 dynamic to happenI mean.. I’ve had a one night stand with a pretty hot girl. I’ve had makeouts with hot girls. I’ve had fwbs. I’ve had an LTR with a hot girl. I wouldn’t call myself really hot in any of these timelines. I would say I’m pretty attractive nowadays, but back then probably just above average while sometimes managing to be cool and funny when I don’t fumble myself. But yeah it definitely becomes easier the better you look | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: if you aren't able to climax during sex - who's fault is that?It depends - if we know each other and everything's fine then a one-time thing like that is a non-issue. Otherwise I'm rethinking things. It happened only once, was an fwb where other things irked me about her anyway - didn't fuss about it too much but it definitely made me think she's lame at the time. Anyway the next times were better and I never thought of it again until this post. As for fault - who cares? Either I'm inviting her back again or I'm not. If this happens enough so that we need … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 05:24 AM |
| 3 | Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferencesRatio of men to women on Tinder is different than real life. In real life women don't get asked out by hundreds of potential guys per day. In real life girls see you move, act and hear you - giving your more wiggle room than being photogenic or not. That said - there's certainly a good correlation between success irl and on Tinder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Is Chad generally blue pilled?I think if you're the only guy in your group who often gets hit on and gets sex offers, and friend's gfs offer you weird things - you generally notice things. I can't say I've seen too many proper chads in my life to even worry about it tbh, maybe if I lived in the netherlands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 12:46 AM |
| – | What Do We Expect Women To Do On Dating Apps/Social Media?There are no attractive men who can't get a date. There are delusional men, and there are men who don't try. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 12:36 AM |
| 4 | Friends of perpetually single men often have a different perspective than perpetually single men themselvesHmm.. I have an incel friend - he doesn't identify as incel in the sense of having all that jargon, but he's a virgin except hookers (he almost got to be a wizard, now he's 34y/o). tbh he does look bad - overweight and not handsome - but he could look normal had he taken care of himself. Major social anxiety Major general anxiety Depression (diagnosed, mostly untreated) 4a. Very lazy - can't get himself to study or work in anything. Very neurotic. borderline poor Actually high IQ, probably top 2… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 12:20 AM |
| 6 | It does feel like the Blue Pillers here are committed to making men feel like they're never the prizeThe older with younger is usually countered with “yeah the girl is a low self-esteem fuck-up and he’s taking advantage” - as if the rest are stoic 9s with a math ph.d | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 10:55 PM |
| 0 | Self improvement - is the lemon worth the sqeezeIf you’re attracted to the women it’s worth it… Also, even though some people moan about it - some women do like older guys for whatever reasons | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/24 05:51 AM |
| 2 | The biggest issue with modern dating is how technology made dating way easier for a small percentage of men, and way harder for all the rest.I don't know dude, I think attractive guys athlete level had orbiters even before apps. My most attractive friend never installed Tinder - he said he's already fucked in the head so that'll make him totally lose it (btw he's now getting married to a girl around his age, contrary to wall thing). I'd see girls go up to him in the gym and straight up offer to meet though, so he's definitely considered attractive. For me personally, 90% of the girls I had sex with were from apps - So I think there's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Victim mentality to avoid responsibility 101Hmm.. I mean men here do needlessly whine about women's so-called standards. BUT - I do think a lot of women downplay by a lot how much looks matter - not just when deciding IF to date someone, but even in how they react to a person, given his/her looks - which pretty much means you automatically appear more confident/funny/social if you look better. I don't see a reason to whine about it, men do the same whether they see it or not - responsibility is still on the person left wanting - if they t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 12:46 AM |
| 5 | Why Do Women Demand Equality But Then Want Men Who Are Superior to them?90% of posts in this sub are categorical errors. Equality under law doesn’t mean “I want to have sex with my identical twin” You can’t change people’s attraction preferences by appealing to logic or morals - most women are attracted to certain traits and that’s that - either maximize your traits or don’t but no one is gonna negotiate physical attraction, including your morally superior self. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?They want an attractive partner, that doesn't mean they want their partner to be more attractive than themselves. Most good looking girls I know prefer to be the pretty one. But actually now I see where I made the erroneous assumption. Also - I don't know which men have this fantasy - if a girl isn't physically attracted to me I'm gone before she can say "not my type" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:07 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?When an ugly guy hits on her it's not a matter of preference, it's a matter of supply & demand estimation. Also, she's supposed to be cuter - it's called the fare sex for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Self improvement is quite limited for menMy Photofeeler rates went from 7-8 to 9.7 after jaw surgery 🤷🏻♂️ Also before that, my face and posture gained some from exercise - I was too skinny and it made my nose stick out, combine that with bad posture and you’re not really impressive. People say I was pretty attractive before surgery (after exercise) - getting makeouts with pretty hot girls in clubs definitely worked out sometimes - but jaw surgery definitely nullified most looks-related insecurities I had. So yeah I stand by it - exerc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 06:40 PM |
| – | Women in their 20s usually like guys our/their own ageYeah, most early twenties girls don’t go older. Most people are emotionally damaged, so it’s pretty easy to say the one/ who are attracted to older are mostly emotionally damaged. If you’re really hot and look young I don’t think a 24y/o who wants casual would refuse just cause you’re 10 years older but what do I know. Would be interesting if there are mid30s around which consistently match the younger crowd. I’m not on the apps rn, might give it a other try and report to see what happens - my b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Flirting is a learned skill by men.Yeah... The best 'talker' I know (i.e a guy who gets girl going by nonstop talking) is a guy whos parents are divorced, and probably none of them married for love in the first place. He himself plans on basically never having kids and only wants a wife one day so there will be someone to take care of him when old. He's very eloquent, smart and sharp though - tag along with good facial features and he always has 1-2 girls having a crush on him at work. When he's in the zone I can't keep up tbh - … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 08:25 PM |
| 2 | It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookupThen. Also no - My profile says short-term, open to long, I don't make a lot of talk before meeting up, and I escalate fast. I don't talk about my intentions if she doesn't cuz there's no reason to burden the mood with unnecessary comments - but I never lie about it if she asks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Are you experiencing older women competing with younger women more in dating nowadays?...By definition 'Chad' looks so good he gets pretty much any girl.. lets say he 'only' gets 20% of the girls he wants - why spend time with older* girls? Sure, there are the ones who just like older women - pretty rare and mostly unchadly. It's not a no-true-chad - it's a no-true-chad-would. *above 40 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 12:06 PM |
| 4 | Male sexlessness should be taken about as seriously as the orgasm gap.I don't get it.. Why make everything a social 'issue'. "Male sexlessness" is pretty much the same it's been for the last decade (no, don't use that 2018 hiccup - it's back to average after that). Yes, some men are lonely - most are driven by their own anxiety and timidness - and then some are truly unattractive men who'll just have to make due with their circumstances (i.e concentrate on their true looksmatch and/or go to prostitutes). It's always been the case that some men and women are left o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 03:15 AM |
| – | It’s 2024. “Go to the gym” and “be confident and maintain frame” is the new “buy her flowers and hold open doors”Being fit and decently-muscled definitely helps a lot. My shoulders and back really got a good shape lately. But yeah if you don't look good, are short and have a lackluster hairline don't expect girls to be all over you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 01:04 AM |
| 2 | It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookupWell yeah I think it has it’s own set of issues - but if that’s what you want by all means go for it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Are you experiencing older women competing with younger women more in dating nowadays?Rationalizing isn’t regret. All people rationalize to different extents, maybe girls a bit more but I’m biased as I talk to more types of women than men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 04:47 PM |
| 2 | It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookupWell yeah that’s what I usually do.. I don’t know about fairness, and I do accept the safety issue - just saying it would have been fun if it’d occasionally happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Telling women to date men “with potential” is the gender flip version of “If you cant handle me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best”.Most women can't get (a relationship with) a man who's really to their liking. For some of them it's better to try and discern who has enough potential to become that man (while also having enough 'heart' not to let it get into his head). I wouldn't give it as general advice, but it can work really well. Most people should invest in index funds, but some people make huge returns by stock picking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 02:12 PM |
| 2 | It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookuplol "virgin", I just don't get it tbh, I think a virgin girl is the most volatile thing to date in existence. I think a girl who's done mainly good-natured LTRs is the sweet spot for... well... LTRs. None of those "All my exes are assholes" types | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 06:01 AM |
| 6 | It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookupHmm yeah same tbh I mean I'm mainly going for casual - but if I wanted LTR I'd do same It would be fun if I could just say "hey lets meet up at my place", but tbh it just doesn't work that way in vast majority of cases. I do think women aim higher in looks when explicitly going for casual (as opposed to going on a date to see what happens), so I actually think it might be worth it to have those tags. Anyways, you validate my confirmation bias so I approve you this message | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Are you experiencing older women competing with younger women more in dating nowadays?They don't fuck young chads - they fuck younger fine-looking men I don't think most women regret their choices in the manner RP/incels advocate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 05:51 AM |
| 6 | Q4M: Are you experiencing older women competing with younger women more in dating nowadays?The older women aren't competing for the same men, cuz men vastly tend to rather date/have-sex with younger women I know a guy who fucks older women - if younger women would have him as often, he would go for them Older men however are a bit more competition - for instance I know a guy my age who's gf/bf with a 26y/o Anyway those instances aren't common enough to weigh on the market I think - most couples are within 4 years of each other | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 05:49 AM |
| – | Why are incels so mean?You misrepresent his reply - he didn't say incels as people who don't get sex existed only recently - he's saying the group of incels who make this their identity is new - and that they do have their own subculture and memes I personally find their memes ultra funny | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 04:31 AM |
| – | Why are incels so mean?(my period button stopped working, sorry in advance) I mean sure, you can laugh at it in a "no one wants to touch my pee-pee" way - but try (if you can imagine it) to think of a situation where during your whole life, you perceive almost everyone to be mildly irritated by your presence, and every guy you ever thought of romantically either ignores you completely, or gives excuses as to why you can't have any physical contact I'm not talking about a guy who's clearly attracted to you, wants to ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 04:24 AM |
| – | Why are incels so mean?Most don't. Most self-described incels are average-to-below looks-wise, high neuroticism, high risk-aversion and about 30% of them are autistic. You know who else are average-to-below looks-wise? 50% of the population. Now, I'm not saying they should just "take it on the chin" - but as I see it it's either improve yourself, both looks-wise and personality-wise in any way you can and accept YMMV, or indeed take the L. Lashing out at society is a long-shot that would probably just leave you a bitt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: If you're part of the 70% of women who never orgasmed from PIV, are you okay dying without ever experiencing it?But that's pretty much what I'm saying.. That the clit is the important part - even in so-called 'piv' orgasms. I think some women just aren't aware that it's their clitoris being stimulated - I can accept that since the clitoris' nerves go inside they yeah the upper wall could be stimulated and still produce a response | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: If you're part of the 70% of women who never orgasmed from PIV, are you okay dying without ever experiencing it?They wouldn't be able to tell if it's penis on clit or penis in vagina causing it... Just that some women's clit are well-positioned for "piv" orgasms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/24 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible for men to be attracted to women who are 40 plus?Yes. When you're 40 he's 41-44 - not like he's gonna have 19y/o running up to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/24 02:40 AM |
| 4 | Without enforced monogamy, civilization will not last.TL;DR you can’t predict a good chess move but you can definitely factor in monogamy as saving civilization - nice try | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 09:17 PM |
| 1 | If a relationship is transactional, it is not based on love.The “be yourself”, “you are enough”, “love me for me” terrorist organization | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 08:16 PM |
| 0 | If a relationship is transactional, it is not based on love.Dude… You’ve been sold a fairy tale. No one ever loved someone without getting something out of it - money, affection, mere attention | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Women‘s opinions lock men in a mental prisonWho the fuck has a face tattoo? Stop hanging around prisons or prison-goers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Self improvement is quite limited for menWell yeah looks matter.. Extraversion matters too - correlates 0.3 with sexual partner # and independent of looks. I think you’re underestimating how exercise helps with posture and face shape for those who were too fat/skinny. Then there’s surgery - sometimes a small change can be 2 hotness points. But sure, if you’re a genetic no-go it’s an issue - just that most aren’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 07:46 AM |
| 3 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.He didn't say it's extremely high, he said it's high in relation to an average man. The average man has no real prospects and is relying on average women to be like "ok he's nice we'll see where it goes" - so yeah. that guy getting a young fit woman is definitely a commendable achievement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 01:02 AM |
| 3 | A Woman with ''No Kids and Not Fat'' is actually a high standard compared to the average manWell yeah if you're a guy who's gonna stay single into your 30s you better be top form, no shit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 01:01 AM |
| 6 | Men Admit: This Is Why herPast Drives you CrazyFragile male egos - yeah, sound like your ego never got hit by a guy, you're strong. Their business or not - you're gonna hide it cuz you have an intuition they'll feel differently about you if they knew. You wanna moralize it? fine, then go hang out with the rest of the incels on here who only care about who's "right", as if that's even a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Why do some alphas choose the beta lifestylePhysical attractiveness has very little correlation with sexual partner count. Probably most hot men sow their wild oats early and don’t care for the casual lifestyle late into adulthood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellI never said anything about the ugly/mid - just the attractive. Of course everyone wants the best - but the ugly/mids - especially older ugly/mids - can't get the attractive young. Point was attractive girls are attracted to attractive men - if the men are a bit older it usually doesn't change much if they look young enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 12:16 AM |
| 4 | Men Admit: This Is Why herPast Drives you CrazyI've had sex plenty with multiple women, I don't think it doesn't make a difference or doesn't bother people. Sure - OP is exaggerating - but sexual history in the woman you love is an issue for a lot of guys - there's a reason girls tend to hide flings and body-counts. I resolve it for me by just telling myself in advance that the 'purity' sense you get when you love someone is just that - a feeling, and I just never pry on sexual histories. At the same time - I can totally see, if I love someo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 11:42 PM |
| 4 | Is Polygyny the future?Why has this sub become such a blackpill fatalist doomer haven? Every day a new neurotic apocalypse scenario. You do know humans have been around for at least like 200k years and everything's still working, right? You think Tinder is what's gonna break humanities' mating shtick? Women are not men - the vast majority don't think it's cool to be a side-chick to a hot guy - it's cool for some of them for some time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 11:22 PM |
| 19 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellAttractive people want attractive people. If you’re 38 and hot and look 28, you’ll be fine. If you look like a school teacher then good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 03:01 AM |
| 1 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellWhy isn’t he 6’0 full hair and earning 120k though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Women making the first move would solve a lot of the issues with modern dating.Would you suggest female dogs back up into male dogs to solve dogs mating issues too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him?It'd be certainly plausible for it to happen less often to women than men. "No", implying never, is probably not a we thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him?I don't know if proof is the right word but may as well... http://www.lel.ed.ac.uk/~simon/dissertations/saxton.pdf It also found co-variance in the attractiveness of male faces and voices, suggesting that the modalities of face and voice are providing concordant signals as to mate quality. https://www.columbia.edu/~rmk7/PDF/Voice.pdf Two experiments examined listeners ability to make accurate inferences about speakers from the nonlinguistic content of their speech. In Experiment I, naıve listene… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him?Why aren't you making a username per person? How many are you in there? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him?Hot guys have cool voices | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:55 PM |
| 0 | Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him?You mean you find the majority of men attractive to the point of mesmerisation? I mean in my book they're 75% pretty much unattractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:54 PM |
| -1 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?Thank you, arbiter of mentally healthy people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 09:33 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?Sometimes it's borderline. I'm more strict nowadays | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 07:08 PM |
| -3 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?Thanks for proving my point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 07:06 PM |
| -2 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?best predictor of women value is looks ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 06:33 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?"Mentally healthy people" is always follows by bullshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 06:31 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?She's not average | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 06:30 PM |
| 12 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?Wow.. She's very oblivious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Ever feel insulted by the caliber of women who show interest in you?It happens to mid-women or attractive-but-insecure - It makes them consider they're on that dude's level which makes them anxious - also it makes it seem acceptable to others that she's talk to that guy. I have an annoying experience in Tinder where I can sort of expect in advance the girls who'll match - and obviously most who like are those I consider unattractive, not to mention they often look for long-term - I wouldn't say insulted is the words, but it can get frustrating depending on my mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 06:29 PM |
| – | The myth that men are saferMen aren't safer.. they're just not expected to meet with other strange men alone unless gay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 12:35 PM |
| 5 | Women pursue fantasy archetypes not actual men: break the fantasy, goodbye relationship"She doesn't like the real youuu!!! I was promised I can be a cave troll!!!!" Did you ever love a girl for the "real her"? What is the real you/her? If she takes a shower, puts on deodorant, does her hair, puts on perfume, a nice dress, goes to the gym 3 times a week, eats right, puts on make-up, acts nice even when she's a bit annoyed with work. Which of those thing that she did are the real her, vs things she's trying to 'archetype-conform'? Would you love her if she took out those things? "I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 01:51 AM |
| 1 | What would porn made for the female gaze look like?Why are we talking about responsive desire as if it's fact and not hypothesis? (also, is it even falsifiable?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/24 11:14 PM |
| 2 | How do y’all feel about the wade Wilson situationNever heard of it until now, he looks like shit I could care less about some BPD comorbids going for him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/24 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Its insane how much status a beautiful woman can give youIt doesn't sound crazy and it's not crazy - human mating prospects are always a sign of status - it's called trophy wife for a reason. EDIT: In that same vein - When I'm walking with a girl I get stares from almost every girl sitting around, when I walk alone I'm almost stealth mode | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/24 05:45 PM |
| 3 | The reason why women say what they don’t wantUnderrated reply | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 02:45 AM |
| – | The whole “so you want women to date men they’re not attracted to“ is a deflection. Attraction is not static, but rather fluid and relative, and is directly proportionate to your options/abundance.Top guys yeah - but just good looking (7+) won’t be able to be that selective for casual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 11:03 PM |
| 5 | CMV : I Think Some People Missed The Point Of The Redpill = Insecurity PostRed pill was initially about self-improvement and "understanding" how people work. Sure, they got a lot wrong - but at least it was an honest effort - a red pill as opposed to the bluepill copium society (i.e movies, tv) feeds people. Nowadays - it's 3rd wave feminism for men - blaming women for not touching your peepee while you're being a loser. I still stick to the early message (minus the bullshit theory they got wrong) - Get fit, get fashionable, take action (escalate) and learn how to comm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 11:41 PM |
| 6 | Sexless men should honestly take their chances and approach as many women as possible"But an important thing is I screwed up some lucky experiences by telling myself “oh she’s too hot for me”. " Yup, definitely me. I don't get approached often - but when I do she's way cuter than I expect and I fumble badly. Also yes to hotter girls responding better, but I've covered that in another reply. Keep going dude, fuck those guys - Some of them just literally can't believe there are guys on Reddit who have casual sex as it must be such a rare phenomena | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Sexless men should honestly take their chances and approach as many women as possibleDude that is so me - I have literally fat girls go "yeah I'm just not feeling it", and then a 9 (ok 8+ - but definitely best looking in the venue) who I wouldn't think I have a chance with makes-out with me in 3 minutes in a club without even saying anything. I still think there are definitely levels - but you can consistently get +1.5 points probably from whatever you are. Definitely the better looking girls tend to have a better attitude. EDIT: Also yes - the most insulting things said to me w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Sexless men should honestly take their chances and approach as many women as possibleGuilty as charged. I'm a bit hyper-sensitive to stranger's reactions to me - so I really need to be in the mood to approach. I think I'm pretty disagreeable once you know me a bit - but for some reason with strangers I'm a bit stifled. Fact is - I usually get surprised by the good responses. Of course there are rejections, and some are even "ugh, you're interrupting us" - but then there's the hottie who brightens up after you do/say something half-decent and I'm like "oh, this actually works". I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Bruteforce Women is probably best dating approach ever (autist proof)"Do the opposite: see her as a service provider and figure out what she needs from you." Yeah... that's not how service *providers* work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkWell yeah I've picked up hot girls even when I was in the US, Germany or Poland - but w/e keep thinking girls are magically fucking average men if you're not in G7. Take down your RP badge, you're definitely a Blackpill fatalist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI mean.. If you're unattracted to 90% of the population, probably the ones you're attracted to aren't average. Maybe they're the average among those you're willing to consider? Apart from that - Yeah in theory some currently-average guys could be attractive - but most of them won't do what it takes. And I'm not talking about their profiles - I'm talking about the fact that just seeing people on the street, they're mostly unattractive (not ugly, but they won't inspire sexual attraction from their… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkNo - 95-5 is feels good. MEH GIRLS ARE TOO STRICT! This is saying basically that if you're getting 0 dates you're probably not even in the top 3rd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYou do know pretty much every country in Europe isn't English native.. right? I probably speak English better than you, I just forgot the word for subordinate and was wondering whether I'm aiming for subordinates or supervisees. So yeah. good troll radar overall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI think you're overestimating the attractiveness of the average girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Are most women not interested in casual relationships?Oh I never thought that’s the average guy’s experience - but you don’t need to look top 20% either. Girls would bang a 7 any day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Are most women not interested in casual relationships?Women are kinky and very sexual with me, I’m good looking but no one will say “Omg chad is here” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 05:35 AM |
| 0 | Are most women not interested in casual relationships?You’d think - but then you have totally normal guys fucking girls in toilets. Yes - chad’s options are incomparable - but casual is still up for grabs if you’re decently good looking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 05:30 AM |
| 4 | Are most women not interested in casual relationships?I don’t get it, blackpillers are saying this here for tears and get shutdown, and now 2 of these in a row? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 05:25 AM |
| -1 | Are most women not interested in casual relationships?Maybe you do, the girls I had casual sex with, I took the lead 🤷🏻♂️ I usually fumble it when they approach me anyway cuz I’m too surprised Also - you’re a blackpiller’s dream come true - yes the really hot guys famous etc get girls thrown at them - but other good-looking guys can definitely get enough random hookups if they play their cards right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkOf course it's not attainable for a lot of men - it's above average. If you assume men attractiveness is distributed normally around 5 with 2 standard deviation - then 7+ is like 33% of men. Thing is - women are distributed normally around 5 - men are always at least slightly to the left of that, which means (if we still keep sd 2) it's less than 33%. BUT - it's not the top 5% or top 10% or all those crazy things thrown around here, nor is it 6'+ - women are picky, most of them are just not THAT… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYeah the average man is unattractive imo, and the average man on Tinder is even more so. A lot of people here thought I tried to imply women aren't selective or something like that - All I said is that the standards are quite a bit lower than advertised - they're still definitely there, especially online where, due to supply and demand, women are looking for reasons to swipe left and guys are looking for reasons to swipe right. Anyway - What would you consider 'artsy' pics? You've referenced tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI match late20s to early 30s - I pretty much advertise I'm there for casual without being blunt about it - Some are hung-up on finding a long-term partner, but a lot are pretty open to have some fun in the meanwhile. Usually it becomes a casual thing where we meet weekly/bi-weekly, until she either finds a boyfriend or she starts to perceive it's messing with her long-term searching process. If I end it, it usually means I wasn't that attracted to begin with - I try to cut those cases to a minim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkOh I never said women aren't more selective than men, just that they're not as selective as advertised. Also - An 8 man would very rarely fuck a 5 - not when he feels an 8 anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI have a friend who fucked 2 21y/o this year - he's not Leo di caprio but he has a good face I'd say. redhead, too skinny, balding but had really good hair back in the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYeah, I mean I'm 5'11 and I claim 6'0 cuz if you say 5'11 they think you're 5'8 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 12:12 AM |
| 0 | Women's high standards are mostly talki don't get it though.. have you been shamed for just talking to a woman in a bar? At the gym? I see people hitting on women all the time.. I admit I'm a bit shy of just hitting on girls mid-day, but I definitely do it in clubs.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talklol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkDon't hotter guys have an easier times making you feel the vibe? Also - do you not feel the attraction/excitement on the app? at least if the guy is really your type physically? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 12:08 AM |
| 1 | CMV: affluent bachelors who refuse to marry are selfish cowardsDoing what you want is the hardest and most courageous thing tbh. Selfish, not coward. U less done purely from the reasons you stated, but that’s not why I’m or other guys I know aren’t married.. Also you can get a prenup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkAh cool - yeah my issue was usually being on the scrawnier side - right now 140lb@5’11 and going up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkThere are… successful guys… who’re not old and fat. Mark Manson was awesome circa 2011 imo 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Why do you want the man to approach you?She said she didn’t feel attraction, that’s what I was referring to.. Anyway - do you at least signal to those super attractive men? Prolonged eye contact in a bar/club? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYeah, I still vaguely remember the headline - relentless? He was a bit too much for me tbh, can’t take advice from the old fat guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkThere was an actress who said her beauty is the kind that moves (I think in response to questioning her still images or something) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Women's high standards are mostly talkWell there’s quite a difference between no success on apps, mild success on apps and wild success on apps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI’m talking about stated standards rather than revealed ones - my claim is that the stated standards are non-trivially higher, especially online | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkWell if you’re getting approached enough to have a semi-active sex life you definitely should be confident | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkWell yeah if you’re not gonna take care to be presentable and put up a nice profile you have nothing to complain about. What I have in mind is more of the guys who take care of themselves, go to the gym have nice clothes, made a good profile and are 5’9+. Once you’re in that group - yeah you’re not gonna be slaying but a lot of girls won’t pass you up because “omg not 6’” - that’s the idea. If the guy isn’t even aware and putting in the effort I can’t even take his complaints seriously | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkThat’s what I’m saying - they like to advertise as having super high standards, but irl they still go out with whatever turns them on. Btw - did you see a change in matches/attention from lifting? (I didn’t look at your profile so if you’ve been lifting since like 13 I guess that would be a weird question lol) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkWhat I claim is they adjust real time - they announce 6’ while fucking 5’9s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 09:00 PM |
| 5 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI have a friend with 50+ body count, like 90% from work, so I don’t know what to tell you. He’s careful not to date his.. meh, I’m not english native - the ones who’re directly under his supervision | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkDoesn’t “looks matter less” mean a relaxed physical attraction threshold for long-term? I’m not saying the long-term would be unattractive, just wondering if less attractive than short | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:57 PM |
| 0 | Women's high standards are mostly talklol, how the fuck do you know my ‘tier’? I’ve had girls reject me in a “why is he even talking to me” way, and I’ve had girls going down on me hours before going on dates - you’re jaded from watching too much bullshit online and too little actual girl behavior input. Yes, if you want to enjoy casual sex with cute girls you have to be pretty attractive - what a shocker. Bar isn’t that high, but I never said it’s low or that average guys would have much fun along the way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYeah but it’s an ideal like “hot blond blue eyes 9” - when I go home with a “7” I don’t think “too bad her hair is dark” while making out with her.. I specifically chose 7 and not 5 - if something about her is objectively unattractive it will be an annoyance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkIt’s a nice hypothesis, which I fully subscribed to - but it seems to not replicate - maybe it works with some substrata of girls, but not generally. The most obvious case I’ve seen was a slutty bartender who told me and an fwb (after she found out we’re fwb and not a couple) - “There are guys you date and guys you fuck amiright??” Tbh it was quite a mindfuck hearing it out loud back then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkThe only thing I’ve seen changing is they get annoying a bit before blood and get annoyed a bit after blood | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:41 PM |
| 6 | Women's high standards are mostly talkOn Bumble for some reason I have more matches - I always naturally get stricter as I swipe and see matches accumulating. Obviously not near hot girl level but it happens. That’s why I’m sure Chad is not out there fucking 5s - who matches a 5 when you match every 4th 8? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkIs that the old guy who says every girl wants to get bent except your mom and sister? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkWell yeah there’s always the pathological cases | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 08:32 PM |
| 0 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYes, also I think some facial features really mess up pictures but aren't as bad irl. For example a big nose and a slightly receded chin would be a slight "his profile isn't awesome" irl - but on cam it's like "something is definitely off with his face" in a lot of angles. it's also the type of things girls are quick to fix by nose-jobs or fillers whereas guys mostly just play what they were dealt. Would you say your comment is right mainly for long-term things, or apply to short-term/casual hoo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkDamn the zodiac signs - this guy knows. I actually met one very high-IQ girl who likes the horoscopes thing, but eventually she conceded that she doesn't believe it's true but like thinking as if it is. Other than that I use it as a coarse stupidity filter. But yeah good on you for still going out there - a lot of guys get anxious about it online and just self-defeat and stop meeting girls, going "80-20" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 03:12 PM |
| 8 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYes - I'm just here to remind people the advertisement isn't the product - they're less selective than they advertise. I mean there are social gatherings and circles where you can meet women - if you're very introverted and like being at home on Reddit then I get it, there's not much of a 'drive' to go out to such events consistently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 03:00 PM |
| 1 | I think men are being gaslighted when they're told that a man who has his shit together cannot find a younger woman to date.I know both of them - she loved him, he cheated on her. Looking back she's like "he looks like shit he got that swag, I don't know what I found in him". She ended up marrying a pretty attractive guy tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 02:58 PM |
| 0 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI didn't say they're not more selective - I'm arguing about how much more selective they are. They're not hyper-selective as advertised. Also - it's not just because they can afford it - it's also because they can't afford not to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Why do you want the man to approach you?I mean.. even as a guy I see that some (very rare, maybe once a year in my city) guys are just uber-attractive - you never see that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 02:55 PM |
| 6 | Women's high standards are mostly talkTinder is (perceived) as quick and low-effort, gamey 'might get lucky' - it's a casino mindset - you know the chances are against you but maybe the gods will smile. I mean a lot of men are in relationships.. and those who aren't don't make the cut - either cuz they're too cowardly and got filtered by the perceived high-standards so they don't 'apply for the job' - or cuz they're truly below the mark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI don't know if you're a guy or girl but that's pretty much my line of thinking. Indeed there's no downside to setting standards too-high and relaxing as needed - starting out with 'good' and negotiating to 'ok' might cause you long-term losses | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 02:35 PM |
| 1 | I think men are being gaslighted when they're told that a man who has his shit together cannot find a younger woman to date.Has his shit together meaning what? Very context dependent - I know a girl who dated a 10y/o older hair-dresser for like 4 years. He's petty average looking, pretty short, got swag and very outgoing. Shitness-together level: 0 She is considered pretty hot for what it's worth. For comparison I look better than that guy, smarter and have my shit together a lot more, but I don't work in a place where I meet tons of young women and I'm not as outgoing - so getting a 10y/o younger girl would take mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 01:36 PM |
| 1 | What's wrong with being a cuck?There's nothing wrong with it, but thinking makes it so. if you want the evolutionary perspective - to me it signals a male who has trouble keeping an exclusive partner, so he shares upbringing kids who're not his own in the hopes that at least some will be his own. Take it or leave it - but that's probably the true loss of cuckoldry - the loss of parental certainty | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/24 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Ever turned down sex with a woman? What happened?Yes, she cried. I tried explaining that we’re friends but really I just don’t find her attractive. She still tries from time to time but doesn’t cry anymore | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/24 04:44 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to commitment/marriage, Men want chastity and Women want financial stability. There is nothing wrong with either.Yes sorry I mixed up the sides, weird. Anyway still funny women rated PA more in the high budget scenario - though I guess it’s not statistically significant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Describe the average man dating experience ?Median sex partners is around 6, so you can expect him to have sex with 4-6 girls and get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 10:29 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to commitment/marriage, Men want chastity and Women want financial stability. There is nothing wrong with either.Yeah I wasn't comparing it to the high-budget scenario - I was comparing to men. On low-budget it seems women allotted a higher percentage to PA than men - that's pretty surprising I'd say | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 04:11 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to commitment/marriage, Men want chastity and Women want financial stability. There is nothing wrong with either.Am I reading this correctly? women assigned *more weight* to PA on the low-budget scenario? Why the fuck did they color it grey | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 12:32 PM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADOr he just accepts he invests more time and energy... As 130IQ I invest more time and energy studying than 190IQ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 03:42 PM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI don’t know about shoulds, but sometimes it is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 11:17 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI'm a proof of this message | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 02:27 AM |
| 4 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADLooks are most important, but the people whining on PPD showed me how personality can ruin men's chances | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 02:24 AM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADAnd that's suppose to be the blue pilled opinion? Or did I fumble the sarcasm by reading too much PPD for one day? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 02:23 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenYeah again - it doesn't matter how I look like - fact is they're average. 2 is above average. 4 is above average with shit pictures. rest are average, at least one is below. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 02:16 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight Men;) EDIT: I think some girls do like some amount of dorkiness, but he's way overdoing it imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 02:12 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI don't think I'm attractive enough to get swiped, I just get swiped.. not by the hottest girls but by girls my peers seem to be jealous of. And yes I'm pretty sure these guys aren't, not by good looking girls anyway. As I said I expect date2 to be swiped fine, and date4 if he improves his pics. Others are a no-go imo. You mean people overestimate themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 02:11 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenYes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 01:48 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenHe said it himself - that he "doesn't know the rules" of when it's ok to ask for a meeting. He said it twice in different ways. He went on and on in a long conversation fumbling over himself. He's surprised that a date is possible, which is weird. I'm pretty sure most girls would just be "ok he can't take the hint enough with this unconfident bs". At the same time - he's the most (and kinda the only) attractive one of the bunch (4 is ok too). I actually think a girl who'll push through his uncon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 01:40 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenLet me be clear here cuz some guys whined in the comments about me thinking the guys aren't attractive enough to be right-swiped on. Most of them aren't - and they're probably not getting good matches usually. Date2 looks good but is VERY insecure - no way he gets dates like that. Date4 looks good but has terrible picture which means there will be no swiping. Others are 6.5 and below which means no matches or matches mostly with girls people here whine about. Last but not least - I'm sure you co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 01:24 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI'm not a 10, I told you what I think about myself in another comment and why me being attractive or not doesn't change their attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 01:11 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenThey look very normal and decent I didn't say they weren't (except one).. Average guys are unattractive looks-wise, is this new to anyone? Date 2 is actually kinda attractive - but he's way too insecure to be getting dates on Tinder EDIT: 4 is fine too but it's a terrible way of taking pictures and presenting yourself, I'm not gonna edit the rest of my comments so that's the only place where I'll say anything retroactively about #4. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 01:08 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight Menlol I didn't post about going bald - I commented (don't think I posted) about shedding. It stopped since then and my hair is still very much intact - thanks for asking! EDIT: I did post. about shedding. While it is tempting to make you go "oh, yeah you look pretty good" as I tend to be vain, I'm not gonna indulge. I'd say I'm like a 7.5. I don't have a problem finding a woman who's into my looks but w/e. Last but not least: It doesn't really matter how I look, those guys are still not attractive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 01:05 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI didn't say they're 4 - I said they're 6-6.5 (one of them is 5 but w/e). Date 2 is actually 7+ but as I said he's insecure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 12:53 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI'm not a model, they're just a swipe-left imo. I'm actually surprised by some of the people I've seen dating fine-looking women. Hell, I'm surprised at some of the girls I was able to makeout with (at the time) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 12:52 AM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI don't know dude, I know it's said but for me at least the woman being in a good spot academically is kind of a turn on.. Don't wanna turn this too nsfw but being kinky in a dominant way with a psychology phd is hot to me. I think if the girl is very fortune500-career oriented then she's usually not really my thing long-term but other than that I either don't mind or it's a turn on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 11:53 PM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight Men30% is you finding tons of dudes attractive. I probably only see 15% as attractive - and that's in the most attractive city in my country, in the gym! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 11:49 PM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI'm a guy - the guys are unattractive (yes they're average, that's still unattractive). Except date 2 but he's VERY insecure and would be off-putting to pretty much all women except the one who'll tolerate that for a hidden gem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 11:47 PM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI'm a guy - If I was a woman I wouldn't swipe right for any of these guys except for (maybe!) date 2 - and he definitely blew it up numerous times and wouldn't get a date with an attractive woman on Tinder talking like that. So yeah you've shown women can a date with a 6.5 man if they go on Tinder - no one even knows if he'll flake after fucking - but yay she got a date with a 6.5 ! Sure, she's not much better - but that doesn't matter she'll still feel shitty about having to date those men (as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 11:40 PM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenDate 2 is a 33y/o man who still "doesn't know the rules". I think the last time I said something like that was at 15y/o and he managed to say it twice. He's not even unattractive, wtf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Is therapy a valid solution for men coping with dating complexities?Not all anxieties are invalid, and probably a lot of them are rooter in some kind of bad/edgy experience or perception. But I really believe you can't know until you try enough, not to mention about the fact that anxieties stay way after the reason for them is gone. I can tell you I had eras where I couldn't approach any woman, thinking they'd see me as ugly. Fact is - when I did approach, even while feeling anxious - the results tended to surprise me. That's not to say a lot of it isn't a numbe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Is therapy a valid solution for men coping with dating complexities?Well if so much of them can afford to have those expectations the probably there are enough men meeting them - making them very realistic. Toxic and harmful are stories which work on social ‘science’ journals, I don’t subscribe to these descriptions without proper definitions and evidence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/24 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Is therapy a valid solution for men coping with dating complexities?I do CBT sessions with a psychologist - though he’a pretty unconventional as far as mainstream ideas of therapy are concerned. I’d say it’s been helpful. I don’t think anyone thinks girls will be more attracted to you because of therapy.. if anything it might help you solve issues like social anxiety which inhibit you from approaching and attracting. But if you have 0 matches on Tinder then Therapy won’t have girls banging on your door (unless of course it prompts you to get full time gym and pl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/24 05:54 PM |
| 2 | How are men supposed to deal with successive rejections?Albert Ellis approached 100 women, he didn’t get a date but it pretty much cured his social anxiety. So yeah, if you’re being nice the rejections should be pretty soft and won’t leave you with 0 self esteem. Probably you’re over-estimating the toughness and amount of rejections. For me personally, some girls who made out with me I was very surprised they even agreed to talk to me (a post could be made ridiculing the idea of confidence based on my experience) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/24 06:18 AM |
| 1 | How are men supposed to deal with successive rejections?Wat, when does that happen? I mean girls broke up with me, no one disappears 2 months in..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/24 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Which women are allowed to be picky?I think it's reasonable for everyone to (want to) be selective - it's just not a reasonable strategy for a lot as taken to the limit, vast majority will just be left with no partners. The more attractive the woman, the more selective she can be in the starting phases, and the more selective she will tend to be, and vice versa. Sure, there are overly-selective medium-attractive women - it just means they have less tenable options and by the nature of things be selecting for men who tend to be und… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/24 03:37 AM |
| – | How much prevelant is the belief system in rp that "women are not built to love men they can only love children, they only test men". Do you all personally believe it?Oh I actually liked some of his videos, but I think I do remember there being a couple of "hmm, why would he say that" moments. Too bad. I'd say I'm a bit more red than evo-psych research would allow for, but a lot less red than the average RP (purple?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/24 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Men who are sure their woman is loyal, wouldn't let their woman be hit on in a bar, by Chad, as an experiment.Unless he’s way over her league there’s usually no reason to worry - a 9 rarely approaches a 6. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 12:58 AM |
| 0 | A lot of men need to lower their standardsI mean why don’t people just take 6 months and go to the gym? Never saw a guy below 5 in the gym | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 08:07 PM |
| 4 | Do you think women's preferences shift as they mature or do they just "settle" for men they find less attractive because they want to get marriedWomen’s tastes change (a bit). Why wouldn’t they? There’s no real way a 39y/o would land an uprising 27y/o chad - what will she offer? When I say land I mean settle, not have a Tinder hookup (what chad has his filter that high in ages anyway) Men however, might still have some mid20s crowd well into their 40s if they have the funds and looks. So yeah - men tend to still like young hotties, women tend to converge towards sophisticated older men when older | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 02:46 AM |
| 3 | Do you think women's preferences shift as they mature or do they just "settle" for men they find less attractive because they want to get marriedUmm… I totally get what you’re saying, but most girls don’t act like that.. they break up or don’t even get in the relationship.. or cheat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 02:41 AM |
| 1 | I Always Assume All Women Find me HideousOk I was gonna write about how looks are mostly fixable if you have the willpower and (if needed) cash for it, but then I saw your comments on here - you're probably depressed and in need of a psychiatrist - this is not me dissing you, this is me telling you that I just hope psychiatry + CBT can help your case cuz otherwise you're in for a long and boring life | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 12:52 AM |
| 1 | The red pill has gained momentum because a bunch of mid guys who are mad they won't be first choice are trying to logic women into being attracted to them.They're not logicing women into being attracted to them - they're trying to look and act more attractive - that's actually appeal to emotion/lust. I think the problem with the red pill is that it's a lot of bullshit and very little content. The good messages can be summed up as: Fitness & Fashion. Take action and don't be a pussy. Practice communicating with people in an effective manner. The other stuff is fluff or straight out bad for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 12:40 AM |
| 1 | The red pill has gained momentum because a bunch of mid guys who are mad they won't be first choice are trying to logic women into being attracted to them.Dude, peacocking works. If you dress in a way that draws attention - you'll draw attention. You think those blue haired woke guys aren't fucking? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Most of the men who have low standards have them low because they aren't desirable enough to have them high.Why does it need to be said enough? Anyway I tend to agree - to the extent that some hot men really don’t give a fuck and some attractive men really don’t understand how attractive they are and anxiously shoot low. The latter are usually ugly ducklings. It reminds me of unattractive or mid men who’re very proud of themselves for never cheating - yeah dude, try being a c-list celebrity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Women, what percentage of you would "pursue your own pleasure" while your country collapsed (due to your refusal to give up some of your own time / effort to do something that would stop the collapse)?What the hell is this bullshit communist/fascist/collectivist bullshit. I'll have humanity vanish before expecting people to become incubators - some people definitely lost it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Are the gender ratios on dating apps actually skewed?I can just say that I have accumulated matches and chats, and these girls seem to never delete their account. I know of girls who delete, I don’t think for most it’s as often as your idea would demand | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Elon Musk and Talulah Riley: a case study on female hypergamylol dating an older rich guy is breaking the rules? More like textbook boring story | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 01:26 AM |
| 4 | Elon Musk and Talulah Riley: a case study on female hypergamySupport them with.. $300? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 01:24 AM |
| – | Nearly half (44%) of Gen Z young men haven't dated in their teenage yearsThere's a specific survey here with specific numbers, no need to bring your own | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 08:56 PM |
| – | Nearly half (44%) of Gen Z young men haven't dated in their teenage yearsBut it’s 56% overall for the same age, are you implying there are less girls in that age bracket? It’s an arithmetic issue not a behavioral one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 08:04 PM |
| – | Nearly half (44%) of Gen Z young men haven't dated in their teenage yearsWell they're more than welcome to try and date. ime most men who don't date never try - they get rejected once or twice and conclude either that they're ugly or that women are. My first girlfriend was at 21 - Before her I didn't try nearly enough and almost fumbled it with her too. When I say not trying I don't mean they don't care - anxiety can make people not try anything and drive them to cope with some stupid beliefs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 07:42 PM |
| – | Nearly half (44%) of Gen Z young men haven't dated in their teenage yearsI mean.. assuming a 50-50 split and knowing overall 56% and men 54%.. I don't see a way not to conclude women are at 58% | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Desexualization and InsecurityWell yeah now you see who men respond to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 01:14 PM |
| 3 | Desexualization and InsecurityI do too - I actually more care that they’re pretty than big - but girls care even more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 03:17 AM |
| 1 | To the men here who believe relationships = friendships + sexYes, no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Desexualization and InsecurityGirls also care about their boobs more than guys - doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 03:13 AM |
| 1 | The dating imbalance can be explained by one factor: hypergamyDude… I had fwbs, I had a hot wife who chose me, I’m not 0.3% in any way shape or form (much to my dismay). I’m probably not even top 10% except in qualities such as intelligence and income that you classify as beta. Oh - actually my cock is top notch tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Desexualization and InsecurityI mean if my dick was less than 6.5” I’d be kinda insecure about it.. I like my cock, probably the physical thing I’m most confident about. Nah I totally get them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 03:05 AM |
| 4 | Attraction to older women (30+) is more unusual than attraction to legal teensWhy did you have to use only the birthing thing? Also it's way easier to make this idea work with 22-23, why involve political ages like 18? I agree in theory but you've made your case in a terrible way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 10:57 PM |
| 1 | It is always a mans fault if he can't attract women in a majority of peoples minds?No it's the fault of 50% of the population | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Father/daughter enmeshment (being a daddys girl) is as destructive as mother/son enmeshment (being a mommas boy). Why does no one talk about it?Just today I saw this girl who went all in on how she ADORES her father. Adding what I know about her drug abuse, sex drama and such I came to the conclusion that "daddy issues" is just bs - some girls have no father and fuck up, and some have a great father and fuck up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/24 01:39 AM |
| 16 | The porn problem will never be solvedThe real answer is it doesn't work in muslim countries either - they have worse drugs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/24 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Perspective on autistic dating, from an autistic womanYou don't need to explain your standards to anyone, even if you did want to only date 6'1 - if you can get them and like them you should. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Does the modern dating process and relationships quash mens individuality?The fact that men are more variable can only mean one thing - Women's choice varies quite a bit, or else men wouldn't be that varied. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/24 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Does the modern dating process and relationships quash mens individuality?Well if it's good for you, then it's good for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/24 12:23 AM |
| 10 | CMV Dating only becomes easier for men in their 30s because women at that age become more desperate.I don't see a major change in women's attitudes between 28 and 32 tbh. Some do seem to lower their standards for long-term when they 'get it' that the knight in shining armor ain't gonna come, but doesn't seem to me same thing happens for short-term | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 06:51 PM |
| 0 | "You should get therapy", is chasing women all there is to mans life?You do know there are guys who were virgins until 30, decided to handle their social anxiety, went up to girls and had sex with quite a bit of them, right? How do you know your lot if you never even stepped in a gym? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/24 01:25 AM |
| – | This sub is all negativity and debate. Post what you admire, appreciate, and enjoy about the opposite sex.Well I am divorced, but I was jk I usually hear no whispers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/24 01:18 AM |
| -1 | Dating (not "modern dating", dating in general) has been a failure, and is leading to the downfall of societyFreedom has been a failure, and is leading to the downfall of society. Education has been a failure, and is leading to the downfall of society. Monogamy has been a failure, and is leading to the downfall of society. Reddit has been a failure, and is leading to the downfall of society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/24 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Can refusing sex be a valid reason for breakup or divorce?Why are all the lamenting posts so long with no tl;dr? You know the best sign of IQ? Compression. Everything is a valid reason for breakup/divorce, you get to make choices and live with their consequences - great right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 12:36 PM |
| – | If Society “Doesn’t Hold Women Responsible”, What SHOULD Society Be Doing to Them?Society is not a thing, unless you can single-handedly command 50k people. Just try to make your life better, why is that so hard for people to grasp | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Are you aware that the "i don't do casual" is a problematic trend?You said women are screwing up dating.. is that not a complaint..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 02:01 PM |
| 0 | "They can smell your desperation" is just proof that women attribute good personality to attractive people.Keep whining online then, see what I care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?I’m not talking specifically about incel behavior in this sub, I’m talking about how I treat people irl or those who I do know how they look. I don’t tell anyone “you’re ugly, therefore…” - I just give it a good weight when processing their sayings (obviously about social stuff, it doesn’t really matter how anyone looks like if they’re’ talking about pure computer science) The OP proposed people (I’m against this being a ‘women’ thing, ugly men have the bias and sour grapes mentality too) have t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?You said that opinion taken seriously according to women’s appearance is misogynistic- I said it’s not cuz I do the same with men. The post was about making appearances more known.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?What so you mean? If I see the person I know more about them.. a fat ugly guy saying “women only want chad” is not the same as a decent looking 5’11 guy saying the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 07:12 AM |
| 5 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?I actually do it to men too, When talking about this kind of stuff, ad hominem is kind of a must to understand person’s background of experience. This thread is funny though ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Bumble Backtracking is Proof That Men Will Always Be in ChargeIt's at least a mid-wit response, low-iq wouldn't know what non-linear is. This post didn't elicit a high-IQ response from me as there was no need, have a N.I.C.E day! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Are you aware that the "i don't do casual" is a problematic trend?People tell you it's immature, bad and/or insecure because they want you to stop doing it. It's like it with every thing that's considered 'bad', whether it is bad (=you agree) or not. Now you have a choice - either go against the grain and keep going for what you want or fold you hand, but there's no reason to cry about it on reddit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Bumble Backtracking is Proof That Men Will Always Be in ChargeYes, that's exactly what it shows. You're really good at non-linear pattern recognition, someone ever told you that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 04:31 AM |
| -2 | "They can smell your desperation" is just proof that women attribute good personality to attractive people.Learn acting, or just watch an actor in a movie - they emulate whatever you're seeing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 01:09 AM |
| 0 | TRP will not solve your problemsTRP won’t solve your problems, it’ll help with one of them and give you 5 new ones | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Case study: A top 10% man who has it all. Why aren’t women interested in him?Does Jake have a representative Tinder profile? Does Jake go to bars/clubs/work-parties? Is Jake autistic? Is Jake really handsome or actually meh? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 11:24 PM |
| 2 | Do people really go to clubs primarily to get laid?I don't know the situation in Slovenia specifically, but in some places in eastern-Europe, indeed people seem to go to the club to get a table and hang out with their group - it's not like that everywhere but I've seen it happen enough to acknowledge that's just the way it is in some places. You could try and initiate convo with a girl who's in a group but that's be hit or miss - she's with her friends, guys and girls, so it'll be a hard approach. So yeah when people say that they mean 'regular'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 01:20 AM |
| 1 | About dating younger womenYou, You, yours, your - see? You had your choice, other women make other choices | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/24 02:53 AM |
| 13 | About dating younger womenAnswer: Who gives a fuck? If the girl is attracted and is seeing you, and you have enough attention to keep it up - do you really need internet losers to back up your moral claim to having consensual relationships? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/24 02:51 AM |
| 0 | What is required for women to really enjoy sexNo one said it’s about bacteria, but at least now I know you’re not purposefully doing it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/24 03:25 PM |
| -1 | What is required for women to really enjoy sexAre you being purposely dense? <image> Never mind their arbitrary hypothesis - fact remains hotter women get more oral sex done on them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/24 03:14 PM |
| 1 | I think people need to accept the fact women just don't enjoy sex.Many such cases | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/24 04:10 AM |
| -2 | What is required for women to really enjoy sexMeans you’re hot. Seriously, just read a study about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/24 01:23 AM |
| 0 | This sub is all negativity and debate. Post what you admire, appreciate, and enjoy about the opposite sex.I suppose you meant endearing, cuz I think most personality traits endure. I don't think women in general are aspiring the same that I don't think that about men. I do like the average woman MUCH more than I like the average man. The interesting part is when you don't talk about the average, but specifically about ones I like/liked: I like that they're beautiful, I love it when they're beautiful and still manage to be funny and outgoing and not stuck-up. tbh I recently realized I can borderline … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 03:04 AM |
| 6 | This sub is all negativity and debate. Post what you admire, appreciate, and enjoy about the opposite sex.Until you wake up and realize you've been divorced for the past 5 years and she's not there, you gotta move on man. Oh sorry, that's me go on as you were | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 02:48 AM |
| 3 | If you let your girlfriend go on an all girls vacation, don't cry to anyone when she cheats on youWhat if someone just doesn’t care what his girlfriend does on 1 night every 2 years? Maybe sometimes he has his fun himself? A lot of men are very afraid of cheating, but not all are if context is right. I historically would agree, but nowadays I might not care that much, very context dependent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Would women date men who actually followed the advice of frequenting escorts?I actually think there comes an age where if you’re a virgin you better off getting some physical experience but w/e.. Don’t make a habit out of it though, unless you wanna be that guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 09:54 AM |
| 6 | Do you think the rise of redpill content has led to some women changing their behavior?unBEARable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/24 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Do you think most men don’t have a type ?Whatever the consensus is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Do you think most men don’t have a type ?They have to fit into the standard of beauty, attractive europeans fit nicely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Do you think most men don’t have a type ?There are non-europeans attractive people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Are sexual needs a mutual obligation?I was with the same girl for 9 years. Longest we didn't have sex was 2 weeks, then we broke up. Sex wasn't obligative for neither of us, although most of it was started by her. I'd say objectively she's better looking than me, at least back then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 05:16 AM |
| 0 | Do you think most men don’t have a type ?"Most people where I live have a type of the conventional Eurocentric beauty standards" Yeah, it's called being attractive, not a type | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:50 AM |
| 3 | 80/20 rule origins?She sounds wrecked, why does chad date such a wreck? Hint: he’s not chad, they’re just co-dependent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 06:03 AM |
| 3 | 80/20 rule origins?Why would women be altruistic.. Are you? Also, why do you wear blue pill when you're.. not. Yes, when women give up on men's looks they expect to get more of x other traits.. otherwise why even make the tradeoff? just go out with the fuckboy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 02:57 AM |
| -2 | 80/20 rule origins?You mean the biggest OLD site at the time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Embracing the Rise of the 'Soft Guy Era'Or, the changes aren't that big - and old people just think of themselves as more conservatives than what they were | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 02:53 AM |
| 15 | Teenage girl watching red pill content.RP content is for lonely men who want to cope. Maybe it was ok until 2011, back then it was just a side-theory to PUA, people who actually try and meet girls. Redpillers nowadays mostly seem content whining online about women and Chad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 07:28 AM |
| – | [Q4W] Could you be with a man who used to simp for, or get friend zoned by, other women?Haha someone should frame this and save for every AF/BB thread in existence. Not that you're not right in your opinion - just that in reverse people knee-jerk object so much that it's funny | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 05:00 AM |
| – | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?It's because they like being dominated in bed. Choking (lightly) is nothing.. never met a girl who said anything about not doing it. Rimming is what surprised me tbh, I think it's like 50-50 thus far | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 03:10 AM |
| 3 | Can you empathize with the other side?That’s your prerogative | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 11:19 AM |
| 5 | Can you empathize with the other side?Neither do pity fuckers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 10:53 AM |
| -1 | Can you empathize with the other side?No | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Can you empathize with the other side?I think mandating it would just auto-solve problems (it's mandated, nothing to be offended about). For particular cases - if someone's suspicious I'd just take the test without telling her.. no harm done. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trust,_but_verify | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Can you empathize with the other side?Umm no, that's negative attention - make money and pay a hooker - better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Can you empathize with the other side?What is the purpose of it all? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_selection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 04:36 AM |
| 1 | People in PPD, what would you like to change with regards to modern dating and relationships?You're not talking about yourself but you're willing to compare whiners to slaves? You're the one who started the privilege talk to make your point, not me. Good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 03:53 AM |
| 0 | People in PPD, what would you like to change with regards to modern dating and relationships?You're whining on the internet, in a developed country, comparing your non-to-mild-attractiveness to slavery - and I'm talking from privilege. This post is epic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 03:29 AM |
| 1 | People in PPD, what would you like to change with regards to modern dating and relationships?No, it's just the consensus among people who have wishes about uncontrollable market forces | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 02:51 AM |
| 1 | People in PPD, what would you like to change with regards to modern dating and relationships?I'd change people whining - on both sides If only the complaining stopped I'd be so happy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 02:49 AM |
| – | How would telegony proven real affect dating?Before you scream, "debunked pseudoscience" I know of a case where telegony has been proven beyond shadow of doubt with the man and wife both being loyal to each other, going through lie detectors, wife checking if she had been drugged/violated, etc. the end result... I'll answer the question if you cut that bullshit out, I suggest others join in my protest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 01:25 AM |
| 0 | If you, as a straight man, could get sex as easily as a gay man…You make him sound kinda ghey | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 01:20 AM |
| 1 | If you, as a straight man, could get sex as easily as a gay man…My question is ultimately do you only (or at least mainly) seek relationships with women because it’s the only way you can access regular sex? No. …would you commit to a relationship with a woman? Not in the near-future (I didn't plan on committing soon even before that +) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 01:19 AM |
| – | Women say they want social man but it's not what it seemsYou failed breaking it down into rules, and thus it is innate. Impenetrable logic right there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 12:14 PM |
| – | What's your opinion on Donovan Sharpe's "train your wife video"?Oh my god, 2024 RP is so much worse than 2011 RP... and 2011 was bad in and of itself.. RSD headlines "YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS A RAGING SLUT, CLICK HERE TO FIND OUT WHY!" Too bad men are still clueless even though so many good content has been put out over the years... For one - Mark Manson's Models is a very good book - He goes on too much about vulnerability but the gist is right and his focus on taking action and opposing fear is like no other I've seen. Then for evo-psych and data I'd follow date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 01:26 AM |
| -2 | How do you feel about the fact that women aren't really expected to give the same level of care to men's consent as men are to women's consent?Consent education is stupid at it's core. People who're gonna rape are gonna rape, regardless of whatever stupid shit you teach them. They don't rape cuz they don't know about consent, they rape cuz they don't care. For the people who actually care about what society wants to tell them - affirmative consent just takes passionate and well-rounded interactions and tries to makes them into a linear interface prompt - in other words it makes the interaction weird and autistic. Men shouldn't be taugh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 12:01 PM |
| 1 | The story 'She made me wait almost 4 years for sex but slept with him' is proof why blue pill nice guys who say they arent a misogynist, are the biggest misogynists“Everything is vague to a degree you do not realize till you have tried to make it precise.” ~Bertrand Russell You thought you had an idea for a post, then you started writing and you must have seen that you actually didn’t.. must have | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you accept a woman with a “promiscuous past” if all the men she hooked up with were very unattractive?No, I see her hypogamy as a bad thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/24 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Would you accept a woman with a “promiscuous past” if all the men she hooked up with were very unattractive?Au contraire - once I see unattractive men in her past I go “ugh, why would she pick him? Why don’t attractive guys want her?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/24 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Women should make it much more obvious when they are interested in a guy, it is extremely nerve wracking trying to work up the courage to approach strangers and for most people this is their only opportunity.Every time you're one person thinking 50%+ of the population "should" do/don't x - stop and think why you're thinking in a way that can only mean you're wrong and self-defeating. No one is going to change for you, now decide how you're gonna act given that they're not going to make it more obvious for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/24 01:46 AM |
| 11 | The oft quoted “disinterest” women have in most men extends to even those they ARE interested in - you still have to work for it, and even then most of the time she will find some reason to flakeMaybe she's just not THAT into you? I mean definitely not most girls like me - but the ones who do seem to like me a lot.. they're not finding reasons to flake | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/24 02:01 AM |
| 0 | Women, How Often Do You Run Into An Attractive Man In Real Life?Keyword AND And for 1st look attraction. Also, thanks for back tip | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 03:05 PM |
| 0 | Women, How Often Do You Run Into An Attractive Man In Real Life?It depends on what class - I learned CS so naturally most girls aren't that great. On Tinder and under 26 - more than 50% are attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 12:32 AM |
| 6 | Women, How Often Do You Run Into An Attractive Man In Real Life?Probably one of the best replies I've seen lately, actually it's back-to-back for 2 days in a row - is reddit somehow better this week? and the “hot” part usually requires looks + style. Same dude with bad hair and bad clothes would not catch my attention. That's what did it for me - people forget that being hot involves both being hot AND showing it well through your style and grooming | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 12:30 AM |
| – | Women have called men's bluff. What now?What is there to discuss? People who tend to be low birth rate will gradually get weeded out by people who have a high birth rate (all else equals). There’s no bluff and no calling it, just anomalies and corrections - over a long time span this 30 years change means nothing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Disappointed in misleading articles about childless women recently, does anybody why these are being pumped out recently?You're kinda selecting for the women who want you and you want them.. But yeah most women 30+ would want a relationship, at least around here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 02:52 AM |
| 3 | Disappointed in misleading articles about childless women recently, does anybody why these are being pumped out recently?Frankly I don't buy these articles pumped out by conservative affiliated organizations saying that "oh women at age 35 are struggling to find a man" when either I don't know about young women - maybe they can afford themselves thinking they don't want children until later on when it's last chance - maybe some of them even stick to their decision. What I do know - is that I've seen enough 28+ women struggle to get in fulfilling relationships. Yes, they can get a hot guy to fuck easily - they're b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 02:49 AM |
| – | The emergence of men who hate women on social media: why do men do this?It's not men who hate on women, it's people high in dark-triad and low on IQ hating on everyone else. Women do it, men do it, welcome to dem internetz | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 02:37 AM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?Well I'd say he's liked by enough that it shows, I wouldn't attribute volume as a main cause here - but it might be why he's highly trained in being social. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 10:56 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?So I'm whining about their whining? that's interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 09:36 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?I'm almost 5'11 and I don't really think I could just stumble on girls and have them like me, charisma still matter quite a bit - also I don't even consider myself tall, just not short - pretty sure I'm around average height in a club (where usually taller men seem to hang) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 09:35 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?I don't know actually, one of them doesn't even look good.. But they are extroverted that's for sure, guy is a hairdresser. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 09:33 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?Usually I see whining - there's no way the same guys who lift and get semi-famous youtubers to fuck them go on to whine about women only caring about chad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 04:47 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?How short? I mean I know 5'7 guys who're pretty successful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 04:46 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?So... you're aiming for fat? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 04:44 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Luck is everything. Some men are just by default undesirable and there is no underlyting reason whyWait - so you're saying there's no reason you can decipher - i.e it's not looks and it's not behavior, and it's just plain random? I mean you could just look up any study - people who look better get higher quality and more dates, extraversion (i.e behavior) is like the best predictor of number of sexual partners. I mean yeah - you may call it 'lucky' to be good looking and an extrovert - but it's not that you can't tell who's fucking and who's not just by looking at people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 04:43 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?Yeah it does sound like you're very handsome (unless you're very much lowering your standards for these matches/lays, then you're just handsome lol) Would you say sex is usually on first meet with those girls? Are you in college? Also how the fuck do you keep up with so many girls, just hanging with 2 is maximizing my ability to answer texts.. Oh also - do you not keep some of them? it sounds like you're just putting a notch and move on..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:52 PM |
| 0 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?Why do you think you had success? Facial looks? body? behavior? An occupation that contributes to meeting women? I don't think fat women can really get away with it - they tell themselves a nice story and cry themselves to sleep when the latest semi-good-looking guy pumps and dumps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:46 PM |
| 2 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?It's kinda funny - cuz for me it seems A LOT of women who're looking for something serious would consider me a good candidate (and EVERY woman I hook up with does), but just hooking-up seems to be something that's harder to do explicitly - very possible and does happen, but it seems opposite to the interest of the girls who tend to like me (also I'm 35y/o so probably that contributes to the type of girls I'm seeing) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:41 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?Why no need to discuss? It seems here people think it comes so easily to women, yet when I see them talk about it, it shows how much mental and physical and fiscal effort goes into every detail which I wouldn't even see.. I of course agree with your conclusion about it, but there's a discussion to be had as others seem to disagree..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:16 PM |
| -2 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?I'd actually say most women do think this way, they just don't disclose it as much - they feel it with their anxiousness if not logically with their thought (or they're just naturally beautiful, in which case they can afford to be oblivious). Why do you think you have no success? I mean you are an athlete, so I guess body is not the issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:13 PM |
| 3 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?Haha nothing good is gonna come out of my mouth about the majority of men either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:10 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?How old are you? like 32? What do you mean two live-in girlfriends? at the same time? Is it an open relationship thing, or only you're allowed to hunt outside? or am I just misreading what you wrote? Also - you say you could do better - what's better than having easy sexual access to amateur models and semi-famous women? you aiming for A-list actresses? I think there are better looking women just outside anyway..? Last but not least - Would you say you're tall, wealthy and facially good-looking?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:08 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?3 - I've seen women's before after - they're very results oriented - they go from someone I'd reject to someone I'd be intimidated by | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:05 PM |
| 5 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?You practice it just like any other skill. Your brain learns the patterns and the right responses. It's easiest to see with sales people - they don't go on their first sales job being good at sales - they get better at it, they get better at convincing people. They're not faking it, they're forming new habits which will be ingrained in their personality down the line. I don't do sales but wish I had, would definitely make me improve faster. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:02 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually take real care of your looks and practice your social aptitude?I'll answer more later but regarding 3 - the women I described definitely lose weight and hit the gym - and in my gym definitely there are a lot of good looking women (but yeah lifting is mainly men - the women usually go to studio classes, but some are real gym rats) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider a woman having tons of sex with you every single day a way to deter cheating?Meh, might prevent some kinds of cheating in some instances.. wouldn't say it's a good strategy. Some people tend to cheat, some less so - if he's planning on cheating it's gonna happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 04:59 PM |
| -2 | What would porn made for the female gaze look like?Hint: Male gaze is BS. Get a super-attractive guy who's socially-apt, have him sensually have sex with a beautiful next-door type girl - and you have "female gaze" porn. About same thing, standards are higher (as they should be). Also - look-up what women search on pornhub, it's usually pretty rough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 04:07 PM |
| 11 | Women have become increasingly emboldened by our gynocentric society and more often than not are rude and disrespectful for no reason even when you are not hitting on themThat's... what I'm saying.. I just don't get why he does that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 01:09 AM |
| 28 | Women have become increasingly emboldened by our gynocentric society and more often than not are rude and disrespectful for no reason even when you are not hitting on themMakes you wonder though, why does he LARP "I'm an attractive guy" - I really want to believe that, then you just dig around his profile and kill that off... I'm 35y/o but I still have hope that people don't randomly lie on the internets, rookie mistake | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 01:02 AM |
| 6 | Women have become increasingly emboldened by our gynocentric society and more often than not are rude and disrespectful for no reason even when you are not hitting on themOof | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Women egocentrically define "maturity" and "responsibility" in terms of their own gender roleits literally more mature to have long term partnerships with people than to use them for short term pleasure. "Use them" tells me you're a-prior liking long-term and not short-term. That's fine that you like that, it doesn't make short-term inferior to long-term. Short-term relationship means the 'couple' are fine having sex and having fun (i.e watching tv together, drinking, going out) but plan on keeping it casual rather than having plans to stick together. Why? a thousand reasons - to each t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Women egocentrically define "maturity" and "responsibility" in terms of their own gender roleIt's valid that she wants a long-term serious relationship, it's invalid to equate it with maturity - it's just her want and perceived notions of a lot of people. If anything, it's immature to unrealize her wants are not a measure of maturity (re: childish narcissism), but I'm not one to call people immature | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Women egocentrically define "maturity" and "responsibility" in terms of their own gender roleGuy: "I'm mainly about casual relationships at the moment, not really looking for something serious". Girl: "You're 35, grow up" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Women egocentrically define "maturity" and "responsibility" in terms of their own gender roleThere are overly narcissistic people who are stupid. The fact that children tend to be more narcissistic has little to do with that imo. The signal-to-noise of someone saying “grow-up” is around 0 - it usually just means someone doesn’t like how you’re behaving | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/24 02:52 AM |
| 7 | Women egocentrically define "maturity" and "responsibility" in terms of their own gender roleIt's not a women issue, it's a term issue. It's very simple: When someone tells you you need to be more mature, it means you should be doing more of what they want and less of what you want. What they want is mature, what you want is childish. ime that's the whole thing behind "you're being immature", never seen it being said about someone just being childish (i.e not understanding personal boundaries) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Women have more options than men in the dating game until their 50s when the game starts to shift in favor of menI mean seriously, at that point who cares? I’m 35 and I’ll be very lucky to get the kind of attention I want at 40.. at 50 I hope I’ll be teaching my kid chess or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Post-Wall women who date previously looked over men will never be able to prove they love these men.It never was. Or rather, it always is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Post-Wall women who date previously looked over men will never be able to prove they love these men.They already avoided unless they decided it's the best they could get - as they should | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider makeup, shapewear and image filters as false advertising?Even better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/24 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Do you consider makeup, shapewear and image filters as false advertising?Makeup can be worn on the street too, fair game. Filters are stupid - once you go offline it's over - catfishing. I don't know what shapewear means, but if she wears it for the date I don't see the issue. Why is nosejob different? cuz you can't take it off in 5 minutes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/24 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Men who are concerned with lack of women in their life, have you even tried maximizing your chances?You mean sex every other week with a new girl or you have a fwb? You're at the bar every single day? Do you have sex on same night or date her and she becomes fwb? We need details dude, stats! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/24 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Men who are concerned with lack of women in their life, have you even tried maximizing your chances?A lot can, not every, most maybe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/24 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Man doesn't know His Place in Her Life: Enter the WallThe only constant is you: For some reason all the women you know are ultra d-loaded. Most women I dated seem pretty nice overall. Do you just sit there and imagine scenarios or do you a acrually know these women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/24 12:40 PM |
| 23 | Why do progressives/feminists rarely object to grooming standards for men?Who cares what they are "for"? Women know that being prettier is more attractive to partners, and most feel better when they look better. There are whole subs devoted to general and specific grooming and plastic surgery treatment for women-only. No one seriously takes the "objecting" to grooming standards seriously. You wanna object to men's beauty standards? go ahead and be ugly and fat, no one cares. Wanna be attractive? go to the fucking gym and take care of your hair and cloth. Too many peop… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/24 10:54 AM |
| 1 | People used to openly acknowledge that women liked assholes until Blue Pillers fabricated this whole narrative, making it a taboo subject and trying to shame people for itOh I usually meet them at Tinder or when going out, I never converted a female friend to fwb (never tried either) It’s dating a bit -> sex -> fwb | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/24 01:11 AM |
| 3 | The fact that so many women experience hostility when they reject men has less to do with men’s instability and entitlement, and much more to do with women’s delusional standards and inflated egosThe only logical conclusion is that men are largely responding naturally with frustration at the insane level of delusion, unrealistic standards and inflated egos of modern women. "The only logical conclusion" Yes, you finally solved the age-long riddle | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 10:31 PM |
| 1 | A lot of men seem to believe that when it comes to casual sex, avoiding feelings is much easier for the man to achieve than the woman, but the main cause of this is due to men’s manipulation habits when seeking sex."the main cause of this is due to men’s manipulation habits when seeking sex." You're the one making claims, I just have at least 2 examples where that's not the issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 09:00 PM |
| 3 | A lot of men seem to believe that when it comes to casual sex, avoiding feelings is much easier for the man to achieve than the woman, but the main cause of this is due to men’s manipulation habits when seeking sex.Oh - that’s actually clever. Something in there definitely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 02:01 PM |
| -1 | A lot of men seem to believe that when it comes to casual sex, avoiding feelings is much easier for the man to achieve than the woman, but the main cause of this is due to men’s manipulation habits when seeking sex.It’s a nice idea, But it’s not the case. I only do casual and never hide it, usually they catch feelings. Same with a friend of mine, who’s even kinda assholish in addition. But tbh I catch feelings too, I just don’t feel the need to act on them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 02:00 PM |
| -3 | Don't lots of rejections hurt your self esteem?Yes. You need to be realistic about where you are on the ladder of attractiveness. If you don't know where you are, approach 50 women, you'll get a sense. Then you start making fixes - what went wrong? did it blow up as soon as you introduced yourself every time? maybe work on your looks and presentation. Did the conversation just fizzle out? work on making sexual advances (i.e touching lightly, putting arm around her/ on her leg, kissing). etc etc. You can't be porcelain in this game. And yeah … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 05:19 AM |
| 1 | People used to openly acknowledge that women liked assholes until Blue Pillers fabricated this whole narrative, making it a taboo subject and trying to shame people for itYou date normally, you stay casual without grand romantic gestures (better to have no 1-hour phone calls early on unless you already stated intentions), and if asked you say you're not really looking for a relationship but think she's cute and fun - no need to bring it up if not asked. And as for any guy-girl interaction - escalate sexually. Most girls can figure out from my behavior and stories that I'm not in a relationship phase. Some girls need to be reminded even if you already talked about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Women are not the reason dating has become shitWhile I agree with inflation of some women’s self worth - I don’t really think decent looking guys who are somewhat brave (read: able to interact with strangers without anxiety) have issues getting women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/24 11:23 PM |
| 0 | People used to openly acknowledge that women liked assholes until Blue Pillers fabricated this whole narrative, making it a taboo subject and trying to shame people for itSome girls call me a "douche", my friends say I'm the kindest fwb they've ever seen. I think asshole is just a term for a guy who's attractive but doesn't want commitment. Yeah, being honest about it will get you called asshole less often than a guy who just pumps and dumps while promising lies, but you'll get called an asshole as long as you have success with women while not committing. It's usually the less attractive/confident girls who are prone to say that tbh, and usually said with some gi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Alcohol and Parties the Holy Grail of Getting LaidYoy didn’t notice shit, when did you last leave your house be real | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/24 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?Hmm, nice win with husband! Also - what's a 7 to you? is that high? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?Haha, thank you for being honest ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?That is certainly an option, Ms. Barb | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?What does non-sexual relationship mean? Like, you kissed but never had sex or..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?lol it's not weird that you went shopping with him, it's weird that he'd want/agree to it. lol mouth hug - didn't know that was a thing. Poor Jason haha, don't let your husband see it was the best kiss though ! 😂 tbh I don't think you're a 5 though - too much people wanting and preferring you for that, give yourself some slack ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?Isn't it hard to "trade-down" from the 8/10 guy? Also - what's a UMC? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?Haha I mean in your original reply - you said the other guys were like 7-8s, then you said your husband was formerly 7, so I thought he was less attractive than the others - mentioning he was a stripper/womanizer and how happy you are about him would prevent my misunderstanding :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?lol you could have mentioned "fuckboy and stripper" in your reply - initially I was like "well those other guys were 8s and all the other girls wanted them, guess she had to settle looks a notch with husband" All good though - got it ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?I mean, we did kiss, that's it. Haha hookup(no sex) - I thought that means at least bj tbh, so it's good that you mentioned it. I guess Jason was more than kiss..? How come you didn't btw - having him being that handsome etc.. That free meal guy.. so weird to me tbh, especially the shopping part. How many like that were there? Thanks for answering btw! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?I'm surprised this hasn't been asked (or asked more if it has), so many shitty debates about nothing, where women could just say "ok dude my ex is a 5 just stfu". Of course some guy would go "your 5 is chad", which is just dumb (but would be believable with a 7 without proper calibration) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?That's actually great ! What do you mean never had sex? with bfs too? How old are you? (and if above 18 - why not?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:44 PM |
| 0 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?Huh, very interesting, especially the part where you're surprised you weren't attracted haha Thanks ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?It's just the intro.. Also, a lot of men genuinely feel like that, and I've had times where my mindset was adjacent to that (i.e thinking looks for a guy must be spot-on for a girl to be attracted fast). Nowadays I'm still looks-oriented, but I accept that the standard is lower than what I previously assumed for most girls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:15 PM |
| 7 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?Haha it's funny that you even answer seriously to that kind of bs EDIT: Also, empirically on average sexually successful men are LESS misogynistic, whereas least successful are more - it's pretty obvious you'd be nicer to people who you expect to think you're hot tbh - so he's wrong even in the general sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?No problem with no /10 - your descriptions are good ! Why did you think he wasn't your type? You weren't attracted at first? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Women, How would you rate your average ex-bf/fwb/hookup?As I said, it's ok if one or more of the categories aren't relevant to you, can still participate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Do alpha males ever regret not settling down when they get old?“Alpha” is kind of a stupid word, so I’ll just refer to “sexually successful”. Like women - if you fail to get off the fun wagon on time you’re gonna have some less than ideal times. Unless he just doesn’t want a serious partner ever, in which case it’s w/e. But obviously a 50y/o is gonna have less fun dating than 28y/o by a large margin, even if quantity wise he can get more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Question for older guys 35+. What is your experience with the wall?Massive generalizations ahead, These are averages so definitely exact ages and behaviors will vary: They don’t hit a wall, they climb a hill. Around 28-29 marriage-pressure is building up and on average they seem to try-hard at getting serious relationships going (they know biologically and socially time is of the essence). By 31-32 they’re kinda disillusioned so they’re less stressed but also less innocent about it - which is smarter but less cute. They’re still able to attract hot guys, but a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about tables and the evolutionary purpose of sexual attraction.I bet you sleep really good at night | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Men are seen as more creepy doing the same actions as women. Let's debateA man is wearing a hoodie and trying to hide Wa? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 12:03 AM |
| 8 | Should men fix themselves before seeking a relationship?Spoiler alert: no one ever feels complete for more than a week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Measures to get over a crush.I like the old PUA gftow. If you want a more theoretical approach - Realize your feelings mean shit, just brain chemistry that’ll get eaten by worms soon enough and end this little tea party. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 05:02 AM |
| 2 | To the women who have dated or are dating a guy with less relationship experience than you, what is it like ?Not a lot of sex (even if lower drive is from him, people here would call ‘cope’), you said more friend vibe than romantic chemistry which hints at lack of sexual attraction to him. Thanks for answering though! My guess was he’s at the lower end of your exes, seems I was wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 04:52 AM |
| 1 | To the women who have dated or are dating a guy with less relationship experience than you, what is it like ?Sounds like he'd be classified "beta bux" around here, without realizing he's basically choosing this path. Would you say he was less physically attractive than other boyfriends you've had? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 03:37 AM |
| 2 | To the women who have dated or are dating a guy with less relationship experience than you, what is it like ?A virgin with more experience than the guy.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 03:34 AM |
| 1 | A lot of women have an exponential amount of dating/relationship experience in their life, which simultaneously helps them reach their full potential, but men have far more untapped potential that exceeds women when it comes to knowledge in dating/relationships.Oh I was just giving it as an example for an approximation of a seemingly-exponential natural system that is capped (and thus doesn't go to infinity) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 04:43 AM |
| 1 | A lot of women have an exponential amount of dating/relationship experience in their life, which simultaneously helps them reach their full potential, but men have far more untapped potential that exceeds women when it comes to knowledge in dating/relationships.Logistic functions behave exponentially with saturation limits on both ends (sigmoids) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date?Trying to take a human phenomena and squashing it into a linear one-variable issue pretty much never explains a lot of variance. Yes, some women hookup with men they can’t otherwise get some of the time. Other times it’s a man she would be able to get had he even wanted a relationship with anyone. In other times still the woman just wants to have a hoe phase and couldn’t care less about relationships for the time being. Etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date?He was wrong and now shifting the goal post to protect the bluepill, never seen it happen on the wild tbh, only heard of the phenomena until now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 12:35 AM |
| 2 | David Buss and flaws in the Dual Mating Strategy hypothesis"Whenever I want" can range from within 24 hours to within 3 weeks - it really depends on what kind of girls I stumble upon. The quality of girl can range as well. I did makeout with some stacies at clubs (was even married to one), but on Tinder most of my matches aren't that interesting, barely becky-worthy probably. So yeah, compare that to a guy who can basically go on Tinder and consistently find a decent hook-up same-night or next-night - I'm no where near that, which is what I would call c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 11:58 AM |
| 2 | David Buss and flaws in the Dual Mating Strategy hypothesisGirls play around with me, I’m not chad. I think the issue is people think the bar is way higher than it is due to Tinder | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 02:08 AM |
| 1 | David Buss and flaws in the Dual Mating Strategy hypothesis…This was pretty much accepted science until recently (the evo psych version, not TRP cartoon). TRP exaggerated and was being annoyong about it, but the concept was valid to an extent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 02:07 AM |
| 1 | David Buss and flaws in the Dual Mating Strategy hypothesisI have a friend who always had sex with taken women - sometimes the girls went on to marry to live with the cucked guy for years after their act | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 02:03 AM |
| 3 | David Buss and flaws in the Dual Mating Strategy hypothesisRead The selfish gene or the red queen, you’re missing the point widely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 01:59 AM |
| 1 | David Buss and flaws in the Dual Mating Strategy hypothesisI don’t see why when TRP said it it was rationalizing, but evo psychs just do science.. Sure, TRP took it too far, and a lot of idiots took it even further. Now that the evidence has shown weak, now either they change their opinion with evidence or they rationalize “sell out”. Tbh those ideas did fit pretty well (the evopsych ones, not their TRP cartoon version), makes you wonder | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Do you care if there's an age gap in dating?Ummm no..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Do you care if there's an age gap in dating?So good to hear you're so mature and unjudgmental of people's life choices. Also you're probably at an age where you can generalize from "girl dates 10year older" to "daddy issues, trauma, immature, dumb" - that would take me a lot of processing power to even theorize at my advanced age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Women are not picky at all, maybe less so than menThis is such utter bs tbh.. PUAs who look fine and have tons of experience say 10% number close is great, and this person comes here and says 90% no problem. Whatever. Their standards aren’t low, and as long as they can get the men they want they’re right in applying those standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | If the blue pill is correct, why does the friend zone exist?I actually find your answers reward worthy (though I don't pay reddit, fuck that), cheers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:23 AM |
| 1 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelYou’re well within your rights | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:48 PM |
| 0 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelIt's not about being "afraid of commitment", it's about her being stressed about it - girls who are used to being wanted tend to not stress about "seriousness" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:20 PM |
| 1 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelNo it's in quotes - putting it in the bio is a red flag, is what I meant. I'll add an edit to emphasize | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:10 PM |
| 3 | If men want more casual sex from women why do you support/vote for policies that will discourage thisMen who're unsuccessful on the casual sex market supporting discouraging casual sex, on average. It's well replicated in the literature. Since most men are unsuccessful at that, "men" on average today support policies to discourage it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 10:52 AM |
| 2 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelNo, wanting it is perfectly fine and expected (even preferred in some situations). being impatient about it and putting it all over your profile is, ime. See the linked comment. It's as unattractive as a guy putting "looking for non-string-attached" on his profile | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 10:48 AM |
| -4 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelIt'd put me off regardless of what I'm looking for. See this comment: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1besbyf/comment/kuvskco/ Also: I’m in my first ever relationship, navigating a fear of intimacy While it's totally fine to work on your issues, I'd like to avoid LTRs with people navigating relationship issues - "looking for a serious relationship" is a red flag in my book, always has been EDIT: Of course, putting it in the bio and being impatient about it is the red flag - not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:59 PM |
| 2 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelPin that comment plz k thx | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Maybe a lack of third spaces isn't the issue - society has just become more puritanical about where/when this is acceptableOh, I thought you meant most men don't care and just approach. Also: That's just people you know. I think the bias happens because the guys women tend to interact with... tend to approach. You can't just throw my concept back at me ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Maybe a lack of third spaces isn't the issue - society has just become more puritanical about where/when this is acceptableActually vast majority of girls I've been with have been from apps - but that's because I'm a WFH loner with 0.5 social circle. Oh wait, I get it now: Average + loner = incel They think it's only their looks cuz they don't care about their social circle, but actually had they need been loners probably they'd have at least SOME action TBH I'd hate to try and socialize JUST to have girls, but in reality I go to the gym and take of myself pretty high-maintenance pretty much to have girls - so what'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Maybe a lack of third spaces isn't the issue - society has just become more puritanical about where/when this is acceptableWhile I agree with your reply overall, I hardly disagree here: Most people simply don't care. Most people I know definitely care and end up not approaching - it's still their issue. I think the bias happens because the guys women tend to interact with... tend to approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Men's self worth and general perception in society is tied to their success with women.Threat as in more desirable/attractive. Yeah that's what I figured | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Men's self worth and general perception in society is tied to their success with women.Threat as in more attractive, or physical threat? And yeah I probably do that (though the target demographic is pretty much "good-looking 19-35") | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Men's self worth and general perception in society is tied to their success with women.Meh, not all, but in relevant situations yea, it's automatic for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 01:46 PM |
| 0 | Men's self worth and general perception in society is tied to their success with women.Looks - I think you can more often than not tell "this guys fucks" or doesn't when you see someone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 01:07 PM |
| 3 | Why do some men feel the need to “test” you when you state your interests?Normal but a bit uncalibrated western bantering, don't take it to heart | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 07:27 PM |
| 24 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringThis is such BS.. So I was boring, and then I installed Tinder and a week later I wasn't boring anymore? There are tons of reasons why people would be single, boring probably being a tiny fraction of | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Modern men are trying to fill every gap " Toxic " men cause in romantic relationships with womenArmchair sociology. Well actually all sociology is armchair. That's why it's BS, and so is this post - wtf is this? I'm sure you had an ok point in your head - but you did a number on it by expanding and writing about toxic in high value guys. The point is easy - Beta guys make up for their low-mid-value by being extra nice and accommodating - that's not modern, that's your ordinary beta. I can't believe you even made me use that word, gotta wash my hands now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 02:54 AM |
| 4 | The "Wall" does indeed exist, but only for women who have built it themselves.I’ll keep saying it until someone high enough in the cuckosphere hears - it’s a hill, not a wall, and for a lot of women it’s not very steep either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 01:44 AM |
| 5 | Women standards aren’t high, it’s just too many guys are too desperate to not be single.You know it. They're talking about MGTOW, you're talking about not being needy and doing your own thing while still pursuing relationships. You are not the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 06:28 PM |
| 0 | Women standards aren’t high, it’s just too many guys are too desperate to not be single.They see women as a fix it for their own issues within themselves and see what we could do for them at a given moment. You were right on the first part - getting women (plural) is at least partially a status thing. It's a self-worth thing because it's a status thing. So it's not a thing for issues within themselves, it's (partially) a status thing. Men evolved to want to spread their seed, and those who can are usually seen by other men as high-status and therefore have access to better resource… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 06:26 PM |
| 8 | Women standards aren’t high, it’s just too many guys are too desperate to not be single.You're using the same words, you're not talking about the same thing, and no one bothers to point it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 06:21 PM |
| 8 | Women standards aren’t high, it’s just too many guys are too desperate to not be single.I’d rather be single for years than go through that emotionally draining experience of woman after woman not working out. Not working out how? not all women find me attractive, but the ones who do tend to want to stick around. IMO, this is recipe for disaster. Stop caring about being desirable to all or most women. It's disaster only when taken to extreme. When taken at face value - it's just better to put yourself at an advantage to get more of a choice in the market, and to get better "leverag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Passport game is this generation's version of Woodstock.I was sure you were gonna say "it's like woodstock - just a bunch of hippies doing something off-beat the rest of society didn't care about", and then you went on to say how awesome it was. Dude, sure, if you're average and feel like you have arbitrage opportunity over-seas go for it, but seriously most people can't be arsed to move abroad just to get with south asian chicks. If you want something similar to woodstock, imo it's wokeness - a bunch of people doing something off-beat, raising a hug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 03:16 PM |
| 0 | Where are the feelings? Do you just go by checklist and numbers?It's a good question. People get lost in analyzing 'logically', and people not used to that think "where's the emotion though? that's bs". Ideally the analysis should reveal what's under the emotion. Obviously I feel "she's hot", if she's cute I feel "oh she's so cute", if she's consistently hot and cute I get attached and somewhat fall in love. But when analyzing it we concentrate on "why she's not" - well she's hot cuz she looks young, has a good face, not fat and good tits/ass - i.e high SMV.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Female Attraction StandardsHence they have higher standards for casual from the getgo (which allows them even higher standards from simple supply and demand) - I'm not ignoring it, it's the premise of the whole thing. Women either settle on the guy for relationships (about same as men do), or they settle on the type of relationship for a really attractive guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Female Attraction StandardsHence the "also" and "as you said" :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Female Attraction StandardsNah she's fine, also he's a football player - I imagine he gets his don't worry. And the fact I imagine that, and I can only imagine Mark paying hookers, is enough | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Female Attraction StandardsAlso he doesn't need to be hideous, it's enough to be only somewhat attractive - plenty of better alternatives around, especially if he shoots over his league and as you said - acts and comes across lame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 10:51 PM |
| -1 | Female Attraction StandardsIt's not society, it's evolution. A guy with a below-average woman was never considered high-value. Not in our society and not anywhere. Just look at Mark Zuckerberg | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Female Attraction StandardsAlso, men do it out of necessity (otherwise 0 sex) - women can mostly get sex regardless and only need to meaningfully lower standards for relationships (in a similar way guys would) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Female Attraction StandardsStandards for relationships didn't* meaningfully go up, standards for casual sex were always high and probably went up cuz Tinder adds efficiency (women would just fuck whoever was hottest around them in their social circle or local club/bar, now they can scroll through the hottest guys in 10miles radius). *at least not since vast majority of women are allowed to work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 10:41 PM |
| 13 | Why do a lot of straight men have a hard time accepting their partner's sexual experiences (especially when it comes to an extended amount of casual sex)?EDIT: reddit ruined the ability to make paragraphs, wtf is this shit People tell themselves all kind of stories. I don't really care for the stories, as they differ from person to person. "She didn't respect herself, why should I?" "She gave them her body for free, why should I pay for it?" "Why buy the cow if she gave the milk for free?" I mean, I can definitely sympathize with the feeling of wanting the girl to be at least as attracted to me as she was to past partners, so if she waits 3 dates… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 06:37 PM |
| 1 | "Nice Guy" vs "Fukboi" or "Player." Which is better and why?"There's no sense in being precise when you don't even know what you're talking about." ~John von Neumann No one means any specific single thing when they say either of these, this whole discussion of which is better is moot. More to the point - "being yourself" is the most idiotic advice that could ever be given, and it's confusing and unpractical, as if you can somehow not be yourself. You can do things you're not used to doing, and it'll be awkward - and people call that "not being yourself".… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 12:14 PM |
| 1 | One reason why women get pumped and dumped is makeupI've went for only casual for the last 5 years. I never considered any girl a "notch", I have fun with them inside and outside of the bedroom and I'm generally glad to meet them. The only girls I didn't want to keep meeting after first encounter were either unattractive or unattractive&annoying (that has only happened like 3-4 times). I didn't even know I'll feel that way prior to cumming. When I say unattractive I mean "drunkenly fuckable, but would never date" EDIT: To make it clear - I don't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Men who build an alpha male image for the sake of female attention, in fact, simps.Well, as someone who's willing to go to great lengths to appeal to women, as I said, I uber Simp. Is the fact I enjoy appealing to women detracting from my simping? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Men who build an alpha male image for the sake of female attention, in fact, simps.So.. doing something specifically to appeal to the other sex? I workout to look good. Looking good makes me feel good yeah, but if looking good wouldn't have girls mixed in - I probably wouldn't gather the discipline for it. Not doing leg day just looks weird, and you do need your legs to support your new upper strength and weight, + training quads helps releasing the right hormones for growth (or so I'm told). If the trendy way doesn't suit you, it doesn't attract, and is therefore futile - if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Men who build an alpha male image for the sake of female attention, in fact, simps.I started by saying I don't know what "build alpha male image" means. I allowed myself to assume that any behavior that you consider not 'yourself' or 'inauthentic' is thus simping. I'm willing to be corrected, but you have to be more explicit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Men who build an alpha male image for the sake of female attention, in fact, simps.i’m saying if you have to project that image because you want a woman’s attention, or you want women’s approval… you’re no different than a simp. Doing something to appeal to the others sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Why do many women seem to take pleasure in rejecting certain men?Generally women have a more acute and more sensitive disgust response, This has been shown repeatedly. Is this what's going on here? not necessarily. Some women use the over-rejection thing to signal to their friends "omg I can't believe this guy even has the guts to talk to me", when they think that a guy "like him" shouldn't even think he's on her level. I think it's also the younger crowd who pull shit like that, can't remember last I've had that happen. Best to ignore, wish her a good night … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Men who build an alpha male image for the sake of female attention, in fact, simps.I don't know what 'build alpha male image' means, but yeah you can say every time you do something to appeal to the other sex you're simping. Call me an uber simp then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:21 AM |
| 1 | General question for all - and let's discuss honestly: Why do you even want a gf/bf? What is the point? Is it just hormones? Do you comprehend the dept and commitment you are all asking for?Of course you do, it's the greatest thing you'll ever learn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Dear women, how much would you say other women are sleeping around and how they approach the dating market?What do you mean by sleeping around? Most women want long-term relationships. But the road to get there involves dating, and dating involves sleeping with people. Are they sleeping around or shopping for a boyfriend? I'm 35 so probably heavily biased, but pretty much every woman I meet wants an LTR. What tends to happen, is we date, I signal that I'm not after LTR, we sleep together some, and either she breaks it off cuz I don't want an LTR, or she manages to keep looking for LTR while keeping m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?Meh, depends. Would be uncomfortable with it, that's for sure, but probably manageable if I can get trust and attraction issues under control about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 09:31 PM |
| 3 | What advice would you give to average and below average men who want hookup and not be in a monogamous relationship?Below average - get average, people want to feel attracted if they're gonna have sex. If you can't be average you can't enjoy the rides. Average - be very extroverted, fun, and looksmaxx - get your fitness and fashion right - that will also make you look above-average by default. Above all - be bold - go for what you want, if she rejects eject and move on. Go to places where people hook up - bars, clubs, festivals. - If you can't play the looks game apps will be tedious. Also - don't expect to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 09:28 PM |
| 4 | What advice would you give to average and below average men who want hookup and not be in a monogamous relationship?Someone reward her plz k thx EDIT: seriously, probably the best simple post I've seen in this place | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Do you think the Men's First Love Theory is true? If so, shouldn't more women want inexperienced men?My first crush was in 6th grade, in reality the girl is your typical attention whore. My first 'love' with in 9th grade - we semi-kissed once but she stayed with her boyfriend. Then I "loved" another in age 19-20 - nothing happened between us. Then I had sex with a hot girl, and in 3 weeks we were 'in love'. This went on and off for 2 years, then on for another 6-7. It's been 5 years since we've divorced (been maried 1.5 yearas). Who was my first love here? Surely the most intense was the latter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 12:37 AM |
| – | Should We All Just Quit Dating PeriodWhile intuition may lead there, I tend to disagree. It's horseshoe - the extremes are always either idiots, mentally-ill or in the more fun cases- both. I mean take on one of the most ubiquitous claims on the far-left: "Trans women ARE women, sex is a social construct" - gotta really deny some clear biology for that. Also: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-022-00336-x "Independent sample t tests revealed no political orientation differences between incel (M = 2.94, SD = 1.44) and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 02:32 PM |
| 3 | It's rare for a man to be with a woman who likes him for who he is as a human being instead of what he can provide.Rare, new and preposterous. No one likes anyone for 'who they are' - they like them for whatever value they provide. More accurately they like them for the value they perceive they'll be able to get in the future. Don't be discouraged by the word 'value' - fun is valuable, good feelings are valuable, kin is valuable. But if you're not gonna provide those, or at least appear to be - better hit the road. Also - you're doing the same, you're just being hypocritical about it cuz you want to be a spe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 02:21 PM |
| – | "Every woman is unique in their taste in men" no they aren'tSaying they’re the same archetype is like saying thin women with nice boobs and ass are the se archetype. Sure, they need to be attractive, but the tattooed party scene guy is not the same archetype as the young successful lawyer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 10:51 AM |
| – | "Every woman is unique in their taste in men" no they aren'tThere are different types of chads for different types of women. Women like different things, not all things. Some girls think i’m a 6, some girls think I’m 8.5 - they’re not gonna act the same when I approach them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 09:58 AM |
| – | So you are an average guy in the west.... Now what?Have a good career, have lots of friends, be popular in multiple social circles. It's not my niche, as I advocate for being sexually attractive - but if you're not that appealing sexually, you do the above, then you take multiple shots and some will stick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 03:42 AM |
| 4 | Should We All Just Quit Dating PeriodI consider a half-wit as a total fool, as in half the wit of normal. A midwit is someone of average or a tad above average intelligence who thinks he’s very intelligent. Halfwits rub crystals and manifest reality, While midwits go on PPD and say dating is doomed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 01:29 AM |
| 16 | Should We All Just Quit Dating PeriodThere is a conspiracy theory called the Dead Internet Theory. The main plot is vast majority of the content online is made by bots and not humans. Today it is believable, but it took off in 2016. Why am I telling you this? I've come up with a new theory - the Braindead Internet Theory. And this is probably real - plot is - vast majority of content online is made by humans who are midwits and terminally online, and thus indistinguishable from bots and has very little relevance to actual reality. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 12:19 AM |
| – | Everyone has flawsI mean I'm sure some women don't really care if you're doing it for 'sports' - i.e not pursuing another relationships but just fuck someone else on occasion. For most this wouldn't suffice, but some would just see it as 'boys being boys' and not thinking anything of it. Obviously lying about it would undermine trust and thus bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 12:02 AM |
| 2 | A video of a group of girls dancing during Mardi Gras went viral on social media and provoked a strong reaction from some in manosphere. What are your thoughts on the controversy?I think there's a problem of putting every 'manosphere' as RP. Originally RP was just "girls like alphas, be alpha" (whatever alpha means is not the issue - point is it was a 'truth'+'how-to' thing). Now it's like a weird mixture of TradRP, where people want to be both RP and trad - so they 'know' girls are sluts, while also being appalled by it. It's just armchair "the world is burning" bullshit of people who do nothing but whine about it not being the 50s anymore. Anyway, I saw that video, if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 08:45 PM |
| 2 | How should men interested in casual sex go about it?Lately I’ve come to terms, that most people employ deliberate ambiguity, and they do it rightfully. Women say they don’t like casual, or looking for a relationship, but sometimes go to have a fun night with some hot guy or have a cool fwb in times of need. Men say they’re open to anything, but sometimes they just wanna fuck without messing their chances. You don’t outright lie (as in the woman doesn’t say “I never do casual” and the man doesn’t say he’s “looking for something serious”), but you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Late bloomer men should absolutely not date younger womenI never miss a chance for that, it’s DHV - basics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Late bloomer men should absolutely not date younger womenYeah funny thing is I had to convince her I was a virgin, my outwardly cocky attitude tended to make my peers think I was hiding girls behind my sleeve. I think if I didn't know her in advance and thus cared about being honest to her, I'd never mention being a virgin tbh, no reason to enter damage zone - especially in later ages | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Late bloomer men should absolutely not date younger womenThat's... nice to hear actually As my thought tends to go that I should have ended it earlier to enjoy a more straightforward dating experience in my 20s, rather than having a mismatch of me looking for casual and girls my age looking for weddings. Also, younger girls are very hard to match when you're 35. But yeah I did love her and it did feel good at the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Late bloomer men should absolutely not date younger womenI don't know dude, no on else from my non-incel peers had sex at 21. Felt very shy/self-conscious towards girls prior to that. Also been with same girl until I was 30 (but yeah that part isn't so much of a problem as sex-wise we did experiment) - so at least casual-dating-wise I'm very late EDIT: to clarify, they didn’t have sex that late (21), i.e they did it earlier | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 06:33 PM |
| 6 | Late bloomer men should absolutely not date younger womenWhat do you mean by late bloomer? I first had sex @ 21 and went on to be with the same girl for 9 years (doing only casual since) I consider myself a very late bloomer, but I probably have more relationship/sex experience/knowledge than most men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Late bloomer men should absolutely not date younger womenWhile you'd be better off doing things early and often, starting late ain't that much of an issue. I first had sex @ 21, and I probably had dirtier and more fun experiences than most men who started early (and I even dated the same woman for ±9 years) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 05:03 PM |
| -1 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Mom/sister - that's the "fucked-up" shit? I mean I never saw any of that cuz it's fucking boring, not cuz it's fucked up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:24 PM |
| 1 | What's the best strategy for betabuxxers?Have you ever seen a real life pure beta-buxx? Like, have you seen an actual woman say "Yeah he's too dorky for me and unattractive, but at least he can take care of money you know?" Sure, I acknowledge a lot of women go for "sexy" types who gets them hot for casual, and for more 'comfortable' types who're maybe less hot but more secure for long-term - but it's not a strict AF/BB thing, it's more like the slutty bpd party girl who's hard to get, you know you'd feel really good about fucking, but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 05:20 PM |
| 9 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?Because "if she is like that she's not worth it" is the guy's parallel to "he's not worth it honey" - both are usually rejection copes, and not actual things people believe. All else equals you're better off being more attractive rather than less, happy to help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 04:16 PM |
| 107 | Apparently women in your "friends circle" really dislike you hitting on themThey dislike it when they don't like you back. Also, totally understandable - it's not comfortable to be rejecting someone, especially when you care about him otherwise and you know this interaction will have repercussions (for social circle and your relationship). I had such a thing with a girl in 9th grade, she had a boyfriend and was pretty cool about it. We ended up kissing but she stayed with her bf, admittedly I didn't behave in a very attractive way about it I imagine. if anything I was h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Resources and casual sexThere is a kind of girl who's attracted by 'money throwing'. You go to the club, you take the table, you buy people drinks, you're dressed flashy. Some girls are attracted to that, in a way it's "I got so much resources I can literally burn them". Imo the looks/suave game is better and has more self-esteem baked into it (i.e I rather a girl be hot for my looks than for my money), but whatever works I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:42 AM |
| 1 | "If you want to date women who pay their way on the first date, just make that known before you meet up."Be confident, but don't expect it to work - sounds right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 12:27 AM |
| 0 | Does it make sense to expect lust if you can’t authentically inspire lust? Does it make sense to expect your partner to fake lust for you if haven’t made explicit what they get in return?I think it's most often implicit, very rarely explicit - maybe more in fetish relationships where the explicitness is part of the scene or something. The whole problem with whiners around here is that I don't know why they expect women to just "turn on lust" for them, as if they can suddenly be attracted to a fat hobo. "But I'm not a fat hobo!" - well you're still unattractive to them, or in the best case invisible. So yeah you're reducing everything to transactions but there's no need for t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 12:16 AM |
| – | Which is true, you want what you can’t have or reciprocal liking?If you're attractive enough, it's reciprocal liking. If you're not, you want what you can't have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Manosphere contradictionsI think it's 2 different kinds of RP. is the guy wants to be the 'hot guy', and thus won't accept the girl choosing him as the safe option - having sex fast means she's physically and sexually attracted and thus he's the 'hot guy' - actually makes sense if you ask me, when not taken to extreme. is the tradRP - he thinks women should be near-virgins when he meets them and shouldn't have casual. He still wants to enjoy being 'hot' for the 'sluts', but if he finds 'the one', he wants her to be 'tra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:24 PM |
| 1 | If it’s not acceptable for older men to pursue 18 women then we shouldn’t allow 18 year olds to birthday debut on OFIt’s not acceptable for people to use “we” when they don’t represent any “we”. Pursue what age you want, if you can make the market work then congrats, wtf is this post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 02:32 PM |
| – | Men who are assured of their SMV only because of dating success are the same as alpha widowsSo.. you’re saying 7-7.5 is very attractive in men, and I tend to agree. That’s like top 10-15% I’d say so yeah, high SMV | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 02:30 PM |
| 13 | Can men just not be loved for who they actually are?No, no one is loved for "who they actually are", that concept is made up by weird romanticists with too much free time and too low IQ, happy to help. <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel like a lot of redpill or jaded men have undiagnosed neuro conditions?Can't say I checkd | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 06:13 PM |
| 39 | Do you feel like a lot of redpill or jaded men have undiagnosed neuro conditions?It's been studied that the incel community has a higher autism rate than general population. Also, they tend to be more risk-averse (less drinking, smoking, hitting on girls etc) I don't think anyone that thinks he needs step-by-step instructions always means neurodivergent though, sometimes people really lack the experience and the know-how of learning things by, well, experience. Combine that with being risk-averse and afraid of negative social interactions and rejections and you got yours… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 03:07 PM |
| – | Would you rather date a reformed sex worker with a body count of 80 or a regular women with a body count of 80?I mean... at 8, at 10, take even 15 - yeah, some were 2-3 months and some were 2 years. At 80 she's just first-date pump and dump for many guys. If you have no issue with it then you don't, but lets not be naïve about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Is settling a widespread common occurence?and a lot are still pretty content with their choices. As I said, while it's obvious my hypothetical girl would be hot for Ashton Kutcher, she's hot for me too, and (supposedly) loves me - I don't need her to "make me feel, like I'm the only girl in the world". But yeah - if someone goes like "you're not my type physically" or goes on about other cute guys, obviously I'm not staying even if she wants me to. I don't even stay fwb with a girl like that tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Is settling a widespread common occurence?An ex is an ex for a reason. It doesn't matter if they found him/her more attractive, their relationship did not work, they were not a good fit together I don't know if that's always the case. Sometimes the person is a great fit for you, but they don't feel the same way (or vice versa). Sure, you could call that "not a good fit", but the situation is they think they could do better, while you don't. Mostly agree otherwise | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 07:16 PM |
| 3 | Is settling a widespread common occurence?Do drive the car you most want? Do you live in the best house you can imagine? Do you even live in the best city you think there is? You do what you can, and most don't even feel the need to optimize very much, and a lot are still pretty content with their choices. If by settling you mean actually marrying someone you feel isn't a good choice, then I guess that's more rare (but I'd guess more common for women than men unfortunately). If OTOH you mean, "not the best" - then yeah, everyone set… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 07:12 PM |
| – | Have you ever had a date turn out better than your expectations from OLD?What percentage of women do you swipe-right? I mean "good enough for sex" might be 50% for me, if I don't have to put in work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 02:34 AM |
| – | Have you ever had a date turn out better than your expectations from OLD?Yes, but probably only once or twice. Most weren't worse though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Is dating a "free market"?Yes. Question is, are passporting broing a form of arbitrage? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 01:16 AM |
| 0 | You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole.People, but yeah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 11:18 PM |
| 7 | You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole.Yes, cuz when they imagine smart, they imagine handsome too. They take handsome for granted, then other things are taken into account. At the same time - what's your point with this? It's not that she doesn't want him to be smart, she just wants him to be handsome first. Do you see women at school go for the scrawny chess player or the fit football quarterback? I don't see what we're trying to achieve here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 09:58 PM |
| 3 | You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole.I approve of this message, as it quotes my original and rigorous thought. Also I'm a sucker for confirmation bias | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 09:09 PM |
| 17 | You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole.I think intelligence just comes with more self-awareness, and self-awareness of flaws at that, which create anxiety which turns people less extroverted, which is at the highest correlation to n-count out of big 5, winning over body and facial attractiveness at about 0.3 coefficient. Anyway, more intelligent people are more likely to marry and stay married. I don't think hiding behind your IQ for your virginity is very smart anyway, if someone is so smart he should overcome his anxieties | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 09:08 PM |
| – | Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think.I think most whiners actually whine about the fact that being nice doesn't help, and that *attractive* assholes get the girls. The truth is just that attractive guys get* the girls, whether they're a bit assholish or not - and I see no reason to whine about it, as people like attractive people, as they probably should *For LTR average guys have some more chances, for girls who are more in a settle-oriented state | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 05:29 PM |
| – | Hot take: Women would care much less about height if there were widespread awareness about just how little correlation there is between height and penis size (and would also give more short and average guys chance, knowing there might be a pleasant surprise)I mean you look at him, you see tall, and you go "ooh hot", you don't think "oh he'll make me feel small and protected", right..? I mean it's not like I see a 0.6 waist to hip ratio and go "Oh she looks fertile" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 07:47 AM |
| – | Hot take: Women would care much less about height if there were widespread awareness about just how little correlation there is between height and penis size (and would also give more short and average guys chance, knowing there might be a pleasant surprise)Jesus Christ, height is not about penis size, it's about how far your head will fly if he takes a swing at you, very similar to shoulder-width. Good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?They're jealous of being chad (to some degree they should be). Why they take it out on the women is beyond me, if I was a woman I'd try not to hurt people but I'd try to have my pick, get guys who look and fuck good and avoid guys who'll be reckless with my heart tbh. The real problem for men is that it's very hard to be Chadly if it doesn't happen alone by good genes+environment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 07:24 AM |
| 5 | If "Being An Asshole" Was All It Took To Get Women, Why Are So Many Assholes Single?Men didn’t come to this world for a reason, but they stay here cuz fucking and surviving is very important to them (think about what happens to those who don’t fuck and eat) And yes, imo and experience, people usually take on challenges to impress and improve status, and also out of interest (that interest drives them to do things which impress people and get status). You don’t have to feel like a robot in order to know this, you just keep it on the back of your head when you need some thorough … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 09:04 PM |
| 2 | If "Being An Asshole" Was All It Took To Get Women, Why Are So Many Assholes Single?imo those fictions give life less meaning. Evolution makes them more analyzable and therefore more interesting. I think I’d be much less successful in dating without that framework (though it is very deep-error-prone when you don’t have your premises and statistical thinking right) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 09:00 PM |
| 11 | If "Being An Asshole" Was All It Took To Get Women, Why Are So Many Assholes Single?I think also - being very hot tends to make you kinda narc/mach - it’s been established physical attractiveness correlates with dark triad/factor. So yeah, finding a guy who’s extremely hot and also very kind and not seem to be conceited would be kinda hard. I mean even I probably seem conceited to a lot of people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Woman really don't like most men sexuallyI mean, either I'm REALLY attractive since like 22, or you're just wrong. I had a hot girl wanting to marry me since I was around that age, I was very hesitant about getting married but we did get married when I was like 28. Then we got divorced when I was 30, basically because I wanted to experience casual sex. Since then I've been doing only casual. And I'll tell you what - they like sex. Sure, I'm above average, and sure - maybe nowadays I'm more on the attractive side - but for most of m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 11:45 PM |
| 3 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?wtf is your authentic self? Do you think changing your character goes through being "authentic"? It's doing things that are out of character for you on a daily basis, until it's second nature and everyone is like "ohhh you're so authentic". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 11:27 PM |
| 3 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?You're asking people who talk about 'being nice to have sex', to think deeply about the morality of 'nice to be nice'. That's a no-go sir. There's nothing humans do which doesn't have a purpose - what they mean with 'nice to be nice', is they want you to be somehow ignorant of your organism's purpose - if you will, they want you to have low enough IQ to manipulate. OTOH, as has been said by /u/obviousredflag - sexual attraction is the issue, not niceness. Sure, you got to have some sense of be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 06:00 PM |
| 0 | women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where?Who said they are? Some women, in certain ages, go for 'good dad' types - they settle a lot in the attractiveness department to have a stable relationship and a family - some of them even turn out to think it was a great decision, some of them even fall in love with the guy. Most times they're still at least somewhat attracted, any halfway decent guy can be 'not ugly'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 02:12 AM |
| – | If being a nice guy doesn't work, why do guys keep behaving like always losing nice guys?Old habits die hard - changing your character is very hard. I was classic nice guy when I was 15, it was a long nonlinear journey tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 01:01 AM |
| 4 | “Be nice” was NEVER code for “Being nice to women gets them wet for you”. Nice guys lie to themselves."What is the most important things you look for in a guy?" "Kindness, loyalty, good smile" "No one said I want a nice guy!" Get realm I grew up in the 90s, being nice, a gentleman and a white knight was like the epitome of every guy in a movie. I think I'm pretty kind today, but the shy/niceness thing is death for guys tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Men who can reach women's high standards don't have to negotiate the pace of the relationshipI don't know, some women turn really lusty.. Some even do it pretty quick. I've fucked within an hour and within 5 dates - but I think highest lust I've seen until now was one who was after 3 dates, so delaying 3 dates doesn't mean lusting isn't there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Men who can reach women's high standards don't have to negotiate the pace of the relationshipActually almost no one let me know - it's usually on me to lead it there, but yeah asking for sex shows lack of practical knowledge | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Men who can reach women's high standards don't have to negotiate the pace of the relationshipI think you got it really wrong cuz you're armchair doing it. Women know I'm going for casual from 1st or 2nd date. I'm no 6'3 male model, and no woman called me misogynistic for it. Only one was disappointed with me not doing relationship, and it's on her cuz she totally misread the situation. And on another date a woman said she wanted serious, I said I don't and she was like "you have a lot to learn", as if I should have just lied to her or something. All in all women either reciprocate the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:04 PM |
| 5 | Can you explain why it is far easier for women to have casual sex than for men?The explanation depends on the level you want to look at, but they all stem from the same reason. At a purely economic behavior/attitude reasoning - women want casual sex much less than men. Ergo there are much more men available for casual sex than women. Ergo women can be picky. Think if 50% of girls would match you on Tinder, at first you won't be picky, but as matches accumulate you're like "wait, unless she's really fucking hot I ain't swiping, I can't talk to all these girls" Good luck. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 07:33 PM |
| – | Q4W: How much do you value factors like what your friends think or how he looks on paper to other people when it comes to choosing a man?Do you think you're capable of loving a man solely for who that man is <image> No one uttered such useless concepts before the smoking ban romanticism. No one wants anyone for 'who he is' - it's always about value, sometimes we manage to make it subtle enough so even we are blind to it - but remove the value and see the relationship become uncomfortable and/or dissolved. Value can of course mean a lot of things - from looks, to grace of movement, to being a good father - the value has to be ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 11:41 AM |
| – | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?I don't see the issue... she's saying what everyone else suspects pretty much | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 11:36 AM |
| 6 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?A 4/10 millionaire can be equally as desirable as an 8/10 making 40k a year. I wouldn't say it's the same kind of desirability.. One is "it would be hot to have sex with him" The other is "my life will be easier, I'll be able to buy things, my kids will have everything". I'd never want her to choose me for cost/benefit analysis, but for sexual attraction - at least initially (of course if rel is going long-term she should start doing some analysis, but in that case attraction has been establ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 05:25 AM |
| 3 | Dear Women: For the "socially inept" here, what are the subtle cues you find a guy attractive ?Get a room | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 05:08 AM |
| 9 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?Bullshit. This entire thread (and sub in general) is just men complaining about it not being “fair” that they have to jump through hoops for sex while Chad gets it with 0 effort. Lying has little to do with it If it is then they're idiots, they wouldn't jump through hoops for a 4 - that's not 'fair' either. It's always known women go for 'power', which easily translates to money and status. Looks - most women here and on everywhere mainstream don't admit that part, especially not making hookin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 04:33 AM |
| 26 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?imo it's a red flag for relationships. She does do hookups, she just decided maybe she shouldn't. She's having trouble keeping a mate - otherwise she wouldn't need this stupid rule, let alone announcing it. Red flag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 04:05 AM |
| 13 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?It's funny someone actually answered with "fairness" in mind. But I think most people's problem is the lying, not fairness - what you said about men is known, what you said about women is very hush-hush - you're among 3 women I've seen here who acknowledge that. For the record I don't give a shit about fairness, it's obvious to me most people will take what they can, so this behavior isn't surprising given these premises - but it was surprising and discouraging when I was younger, especially bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 04:02 AM |
| 1 | So... how are men supposed to understand women, anyways?You don't understand 'women' anymore than you understand 'men'. You understand typical tendencies of people, and which gender tends to each tendency more, and you improvise and reassess person-by-person from there. "You cannot" - you can, you just can't withstand build yourself up under criticism | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 01:05 AM |
| 3 | If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up?It's not true, and they'd know if they hit up on enough women - constant rejection means you're not on their level. Gym, diet, sleep, style, grooming - a lot of leveling up to be done. Also some people are just plain ugly - surgery? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 03:45 AM |
| – | If girls liked or wanted sex as much as guys, most guys wouldn’t struggle to get laidKids weren't the topic here though, ltr was.. And yeah if deadbed happens without kids, all I can say is good luck - I'd be out of there in 3 weeks (I mean real deadbeds, not "she's literally sick and unable" deadbed) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 03:20 AM |
| – | If girls liked or wanted sex as much as guys, most guys wouldn’t struggle to get laidI don’t look like a model and I had casual sex with fine looking women. Edit: i may or may not look modelesque nowadays, but this has not been the situation most of my life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 02:40 PM |
| – | If girls liked or wanted sex as much as guys, most guys wouldn’t struggle to get laidYou really believe that sub is the normal? I’ve been with a girl for 9 years, sex got wilder not tamer. That’s probably not normal either but 1-2-3 times a week with some rough play has been my experience with all girls pretty much | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 02:39 PM |
| 1 | What is the logic behind dating knowingly bad men?Not people I care about, not in any way that matters. As for total absolute strangers who have and will have no bearing on me - ideally I'd not care, in reality I care but try to work on myself And yeah I agree - psychopathy is not up my ally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 03:44 AM |
| 1 | What is the logic behind dating knowingly bad men?I used to think I'm very nice, and I am. But I'm also pretty high in dark triad (top 20% according to some test), and I actually don't understand why anyone would be low - that's why I didn't see it as dark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 06:05 PM |
| 1 | What is the logic behind dating knowingly bad men?Don't forget prenatal trauma and relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 06:02 PM |
| 4 | Women punching too high in datingI think a lot of people keep repeating it. I also think the reason people do it at the start is not as a gamble but just out of shyness/anxiousness (orbiting at least) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Women punching too high in datingI don't know, not letting me dissect and analyze feels dehumanizing to me - objectifying situations, and thus people in general is imo a very natural and smart thing to do. The dating market itself doesn't dehumanize, it just is - and like any market it can (partly) be analyzed. In the end humans are an evolutionary machine. That's not dehumanization, it's the essence of being human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Women punching too high in datingPlaying the lottery... that's actually a nice analogy. Worst case scenario they've had sex with a cool attractive guy.. Worst case evolution scenario they raise a baby alone, but at least it has good genetics. Yup, very good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Women punching too high in datingFirst video: The like-magnitudes change daily and hourly. When they man and the woman like each other in about similar levels - then sometimes the man wants more, and sometimes the woman wants more - and that's the best deal. I've been in a relationship with my ex for 9 years - I didn't want it the same every day, neither did she - sometimes I felt like I want her more, and other times I felt like she's so sold on me it's becoming too easy. I do agree that if there is a noticeable asymmetry - th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:44 AM |
| – | Do you think the average straight woman feels this way about guys?She might as well seem asexual, but the question is why that is.. How many sane people do you know who're asexual? In a survey conducted by YouGov in 2015, 1,632 British adults were asked to try to place themselves on the Kinsey scale. 1% of participants answered "No sexuality". The breakdown of participants was 0% men, 2% women; 1% across all age ranges This 1% figure (or less, there are 0.4% studies) seems to replicate - Sure, she might be just clinically asexual without asexuality being a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:21 AM |
| – | Do you think the average straight woman feels this way about guys?EDIT: People telling you "you're just asexual" are like people looking at a person who's about to faint from low-sugar and saying "You seem like you might just be diabetic". It's unhelpful and they probably don't know anything about asexuality. Original: I mean.. yeah some people care less about sex. First question is - do you care less about sex, or are you just not able to get the kind of sex you want? You said masturbation is meh, and you didn't specify how attractive you are, so I'm going … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How about women with strong father figure but motherless?The issue is people believing folklore. There’s no daddy issues, there’s low self esteem, low mate value, bpd and high sociosexuality. The issue with daddy is besides the point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Are there any women here who don't like dominance and being rough in the bedroom?I'm 140 pounds, never met a woman who's into me who didn't want me to dominate her sexually. I'll get to 160 one day, I promise | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 05:00 AM |
| 4 | Are there any women here who don't like dominance and being rough in the bedroom?Yup, this. I think some guys didn't have the right kind of experiences with a girl who'll guide them to what she wants, and then they're stuck at this Madonna/whore, loving/rough dichotomy. It's totally fine to do slow loving sex, and escalate it to mild/rough/degrading depending on mood. Learn to switch gears, it's kinda like telling a story - you need buildup. I guess I should be grateful this is one area my overly-micromanaging approach hasn't took over. Which reminds me, I think I didn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Why do majority of women say they want their man to be a confident leader, yet most women today are reluctant to be obedient/submissive?I really don't understand this, and I guess it's a reminder that feminism once stood for something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 04:45 AM |
| 0 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.Sounds right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.Haha I don't ghost, but I get why it's sometimes easier | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.I mean if she fools me she fools me - in that picture it's a definite WOULD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.First pic is actually hot, I don't get how the other pictures are even the same person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 08:57 PM |
| 5 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.I mean I agree, extraversion and courage while looking halfway decent is enough - but it'll get you quantity, not necessarily girls you'd really want (looks-wise) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 08:12 PM |
| 4 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.Can you give a picture example of what you mean by 6/10? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 08:11 PM |
| 18 | Men are having less sex, but women are somehow contracting more STDswhat about chill purposes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 07:19 PM |
| – | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.yeah I don't think we should do the original dated definition - but I still stand that where the majority of people are attracted it's not a fetish. And whether they admit it or not, the majority of men are on average more attracted to younger girls. In this okCupid study, 20 was just the minimum available choice: https://external-preview.redd.it/RaPV5tQUC90ahZXnCpu3ghmIHpyjnBqsXGJPqCGKYq0.png?width=960&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=93b2431795fb3b87be9874a261995cd80ee59e48 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:40 PM |
| – | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.I mean if she takes out a ruler then yeah, but if she just means she likes to feel her man is tall (even if relative to other men and not herself), that's just a preference a lot of women have. If the guy needs her to be 18, and 19 is not doing it for him - THEN yeah it's a fetish, and although I'm open-minded it's a pretty weird one too. But it is a valid question which at least makes this thing be about reasoning and thinking about human preferences and not high-grounding "that's just toxic … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:34 PM |
| -3 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.Pseudophilosophy - That's a big word coming from a communist It's not gross - it's life when you don't have pseudophilosophies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 01:33 AM |
| 0 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.I'm sure he went online to get famous just so he can finally meet Ludacris | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 01:31 AM |
| – | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.Ah, that's legalization, not fetishization. But yeah if 19 isn't doing it for him then that's 18 fetish I'll accept that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 01:29 AM |
| – | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.They're not fetishized, they're attractive. fat women are fetishized. When most people are attracted it's not a fetish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 01:21 AM |
| – | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.I know from personal experience that women prefer That's a sentence you don't see every day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 01:20 AM |
| -12 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.Human beings have no meaning without sex. There, I said it. Also - he self-sexualised, as he should. Can't believe you made me defend fucking bieber | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.Emma watson leaked? I think it's deepfake | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 12:13 AM |
| 26 | CMV- Men who struggle to date in today’s social climate have serious physical, social, or emotional flaws.There are women who hate men, and there are women who enjoy hurting men - does it make sense to put these women into the discussion? Some people suck, some people are great, most are meh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Is there any legitimate argument to be made for the superiority of women over men?Superiority with respect to what? If you mean the dating market it's the very successful and hot men at the top, then hot women, then interleaving steps of men and women, where the more average you get, the shittier it is for men. Women aren't superior as the top winner here are men, but most women are superior to most men in that ladder. I don't know what there is to say about this except "try to be at the top" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 10:29 PM |
| 6 | What women consider “high value man" is symmetrically tied to the amount baby momma’s he has fighting over himI don't know, in my experience better looking and richer people tend to be nicer and more interesting, so I wouldn't say having these implicits shallowness. I'll never forget I once flew business and 2 different non-crew people got up from their seat to try and help me find a place for my luggage. In coach I'll be lucky if they'll let me through to reach my seat EDIT: TEND, no one says ugly people are automatically not-nice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 05:20 PM |
| -1 | Men have "fetishes", women merely have "preferences"Actually your example is pretty bad... A woman who likes ugly men is a fetish too. When the preference is weird - non-majority-preference - then it's a fetish, simple as. No one has a fetish for pretty girls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 02:52 AM |
| 2 | What advice would you give a "high value man" who is struggling with dating?I'll need a picture, seems weird Unless he's really socially stifled to the point of constant anxiousness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 02:34 PM |
| – | ✨️🧚🏻♀️Why are lads personally offended over what a lady does with her body?🧚🏻♀️✨️Men who can't participate in casual sex tend to hate on casual sex. Women who aim for monogamous relationships, especially when unsuccessful, tend to hate on casual sex. It's a regulation mechanism - the market is working against you, so you try to change the market a bit by making it frowned-upon to have casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 02:23 AM |
| 1 | How do you avoid desperation and despair as you get older?I don't get it, you always wanted to settle down and never did - why? It seems like you were doing ok until now? tbh attractive guys who are financially stable don't have a problem getting cute looking girls for relationships... Build a social circle I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 04:08 AM |
| 3 | We do not live in a “hookup” culture and the amount of casual sex going on is grossly exaggeratedNo 2012 is ok, people thought the world is ending so they fucked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 03:02 AM |
| 1 | I don’t understand, it seems like women don’t have to do much work or “real” work to become attractive/ have sex with atrractive men she’s attracted to and sexually attracted toEDIT: lol that last guy you added is like a 20y/o me if I started sports before 28 instead of being a scrawny fuck, for a minute there I thought you were blondes-only. ORIGINAL: I don't know which and why men scream that, I'm 35 so pretty much all women I date are over 25 at this point. I was interested because women 25+ don't usually go for the overly-youthful look but more the 28y/o chiseled look, at least in my experience. Indeed younger girls like the pretty boys (who later, assuming they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 12:48 AM |
| 3 | I don’t understand, it seems like women don’t have to do much work or “real” work to become attractive/ have sex with atrractive men she’s attracted to and sexually attracted toWomen can get sex literally within 10 minutes no matter what. So yeah, they need an extra something to get them going. Do you see ultra-chad having sex every 10 minutes? no right? cuz it's an afterthought for him, if he's not in the mood he'll turn sex down. Now 10x that and you have an above-average girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 11:50 PM |
| 7 | I don’t understand, it seems like women don’t have to do much work or “real” work to become attractive/ have sex with atrractive men she’s attracted to and sexually attracted toHow old are you? these guys look 19..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 11:48 PM |
| – | Women, self-reflection, and accountabilityToo long - I agree some women have this problem, but some don't. If ALL the women you know have this problem, guess what - it's probably a you problem and not a 50% of the population problem. I know plenty of women like that, I also know women who have more integrity than most men I know | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 12:00 PM |
| 5 | Men do not have high beauty standardsThey're treated well if they choose well, and if they lack options - it's back to the same conundrum of the incel | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 11:15 PM |
| – | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingGirls date down on looks - attractive-looking guys are not in abundance tbh. It might feel like girls only date up on looks to guys here, because the average guy is pretty much unattractive. If hot girls honestly rate you a 7 that means you can get pretty much anyone (same socio-economic status) with some smoothness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 06:33 PM |
| 3 | "Enjoy the decline" is a perfectly viable strategyYeah society doomerism is a loner semi-virgin way of life, not for the top 5% in attractiveness. I think you're overconfident as to what can or can't touch you, but I guess you're just making the point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 05:46 PM |
| 12 | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are struggling2 points get you from a 6 to 8, sounds good to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 04:13 PM |
| 7 | Your personality is mostly determined by factors outside your control and changing it fundamentally is EXTREMELY difficult, contrary to what other people might be espousingI mean yeah, changing personality is hard, not to mention if you're older. But I personally went from shy, stuttering 15y/o to someone women I date call 'confident, extroverted, charismatic' - so it is possible (I'm more introverted than extroverted, but it's easy to get wrong when I'm out to impress). I'm of the opinion you should first take care of your looks, as being ugly and developing personality can be hard - people will react poorly even if you did the right move. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 02:28 AM |
| 0 | Why do older women not understand that most guys who end up with younger women are just playing the odds?It's not allowed, and it'd frowned upon by pretty much everyone. I'd drink urine if water wasn't around - thank god for 7/11 right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Why do older women not understand that most guys who end up with younger women are just playing the odds?The post was about 30s and 20s, I don't need to be hit on by an older man to understand going for 13y/o is creepy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 06:51 PM |
| -4 | Why do older women not understand that most guys who end up with younger women are just playing the odds?I don’t know about the percentages, pretty sure young guys are usually worse. But totally agree on last point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 10:42 PM |
| 19 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfI don’t know if never, but something has gone downhill. Also - there’s a large minority, especially in younger women, who are just unstable. They love you and excited, and 2 weeks later it’s over. I think it has to do with bpd/ocd but that’s reaching | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 04:34 PM |
| 5 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggeratedYeah I think the problem is when you go to clubs and meet single women, you kinda pre-select for more promiscuous women, who in turn think promiscuity is more normal than it is. I definitely had that glitch for a long time. At the same time - pretty much every girl has a chad or 2 in her history which was 'just for fun', and that probably what adds a lot to all the chad glory stories (which are glorious tbh) <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Why do some people prefer casual sex while others prefer monogamy?Genetics, epigenetics and culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 06:21 AM |
| 3 | Men want new pussy very quickly after getting a girl (no matter how good the sex is) and they don’t like admitting it because it’s unpleasant. This makes it hard for girls to get validation from sex.I'm not relationship oriented - I ended a marriage to have casual sex. BUT - I did gladly, hornily, have sex 9 years with the same girl. And even in my casual era I had 2.5 years basically having sex with the same girl every week. So yeah, not bored. I do know of that issue with SOME guys, but definitely not all men are like that. EDIT: Some girls who've been with me did say I'm very "couplish" (no word for that in english), and some of my male friends say I'm "best fwb known to man" - so in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 12:22 AM |
| 4 | Men who feel their wives see them as Beta MaleOh I didn't cheat, but we did get a divorce because of that want issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 10:21 PM |
| 6 | Men who feel their wives see them as Beta MaleI bet my ex-wife thought I was a pretty safe option. Sex was great, if anything she's the one who thought we weren't having enough of it (probably right and due to me masturbating, though we did do it twice a week). I turned out to be the least safe option, as somewhere along the way I decided I want to have casual sex with other girls, and I dragged the decision for too long of a time (lesson for girls: don't push a guy into marriage if he doesn't seem like he's up for it, YMMV). Anyway my po… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 05:26 PM |
| 15 | Men who feel their wives see them as Beta MaleI had to double check if I wasn't in some cuckolding sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Casual Sex: Popularity of straight-up paying "civilian" single women for sex?I mean it's called a hookup, but that's where the comparison with hookers pretty much ends usually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 04:02 PM |
| 1 | “I’ll take Anyone at this Point”Very weird indeed. Maybe he should reset his profile or something, sometimes you just deplete your environment.. Like - I didn't get any matches since I got back from LA, and usually I have a few per week, sometimes it just acts up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 03:57 PM |
| 1 | “I’ll take Anyone at this Point”Someone should not need surgery to look and breath good - we don't live in a should world. I fitted some women's attraction standards (as I said some would rate me 5), now I probably fit more. If your friend is even mildly attractive he should at least have SOME matches - get better pictures, the competition is tough but it's not "I'll take whatever I can get" tough | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 03:31 PM |
| 0 | “I’ll take Anyone at this Point”ok Assuming his features go well together sounds good Well I have a friend who dropped everything and went to live in Columbia, so it does happen (he has property here, but he can work remotely) 5'11, dark and handsome? Most wouldn't say I'm above a 7 imo, but some would say 5 and some would say 8. Also I just had jaw surgery so it might go up a bit, don't have new pics yet. Think of a not-so-tall and not-as-handsome Tom Ellis | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 02:50 PM |
| 1 | “I’ll take Anyone at this Point”he wouldn't take anyone, he's just ok with non-hotties. if (IF) he's conventionally attractive, gym and nice photos should get him by easy. LA is tough, gtfo of there I was in LA last month, I had some nice matches actually but I didn't try talking to them so can't tell if they're legit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 12:34 PM |
| 6 | Men of PPD: Do you really find casual sex appealing?Casual sex is appealing. If effort-to-reward ratio is abysmal that's another problem. For me, I usually love spending time and talking with a girl after sex, in days when it's not too rainy and cold we can keep talking and having sex till morning. Actually it's BEFORE sex that I don't really like chatting etc. BUT - I recently discovered I don't like talking with any girl, some girls are really boring and stupid - gotta have some minimal level of intelligence for the talking part to work for me … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 12:22 PM |
| 1 | “genuinely kind guy” is a rebrand of the “nice guy”tbh they're not pulling that idea out of their asses - they learn it in puberty and apply. The weird part is how they're unwilling to unlearn it no matter what, it's like communism - once you're infected it's hard to stop | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingI don't know if there's anything to be so neurotic about, a lot of girls do love it when guys go down on them, even when their cocks are big. As a guy who is well-equipped (not huge) I do understand how it'd be emasculating if that's your only out though - but it's better to make the best of what you have than whine about emasculation when if anything, this attitude is much more emasculating than being the 'good oral guy' EDIT: if anything the major problem for me is that going down on girls… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?No, stupid would be believing most chances are you're gonna marry your high-school girlfriend. I'd put it more in innocent category, as it's hard to blame to poor guy - but it is pretty stupid after all. Mean would be promising that 16y/o girl you'll marry her, even though most chances are you won't. I guess some 16 year olds keep their stupidity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 03:13 AM |
| 10 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?35-45 isn’t late bloomer, it’s a senior wizard. As for started girlfriend, never heard of that term but if anyone is planning to marry their first they’re probably in for a disappointment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 05:34 PM |
| 2 | does social proofing on attraction show how women have lower levels of free will or independent thought?No, but it does help show some men lack deduction skills | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Odds are you won’t be your partner’s “sexist” or “best in bed” - and that’s okayCan confirm, usually if the sex isn't good and on an uptrend by 5th time, things will not be much better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Odds are you won’t be your partner’s “sexist” or “best in bed” - and that’s okayYou don't need to be best, you need to be among best. For instance, I have 2 girls at the top which are hard to compare, and I imagine that number will increase going forward. One was definitely objectively physically hotter - but sex-wise I believe potential was about equal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls tend to arrange social groups in terms off attractiveness, whereas boys tend to do it in terms of interest?Yeah I knew I a guy like that but he never tapped into his potential, as far as gym and finance goes. But he did have a way-above-average sex life still, could have been a monster tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Is it controlling to want your girlfriend to not go clubbing?Some people allow it, some don’t. No one cares if it’s controlling, that’s just the type of thing to say when people want you to not enforce you standards (whether they’re legit or not). I would allow it sometimes. If it’s a weekly thing then it’s either that or me - I’m not gonna stay home and be anxious about a girl’s ability to hold her drink and hormones in check | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 01:56 PM |
| 1 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatWell yeah mainstream got worse, but remember that there’s no alternative in the 90s, mainstream TV is all you have - Internet was just starting and most people didn’t know where to look. I stumbled upon some local PUA forums around 2003, and it was all this “put lipstick on your neck” kind, not the go the gym kind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls tend to arrange social groups in terms off attractiveness, whereas boys tend to do it in terms of interest?Jesus, so he gets hit on every time by randos or is he just extroverted and knows everyone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:54 AM |
| 3 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatI’m a late80s/90s kid - Treating women like porcelain was very much spirit of the day back then already, no MeToo needed. I think some men have that tendency, I’m not sure why | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Is it seen as ungrateful or a bad choice to decline sex?I see, thanks for taking the time Why did you withdraw so.. extremely, If you don’t mind me asking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 04:53 AM |
| – | Love exist only when you are youngJesus, aren't you a happy camper.. OP - if that's the only reason you're alive - as happy here said - people who don't get lots of love thrown at them usually, well, don't get love thrown at them - stop waiting for that virgin maid, and know that even she didn't have 'pure' love, only evolution-made love that's nice to feel and roleplay as if it's somehow 'pure'. I don't think the world is that brutal, it's mostly indifferent, and that comes off as callous sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Is it seen as ungrateful or a bad choice to decline sex?How many times has it happened exactly? are you a movie star? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls tend to arrange social groups in terms off attractiveness, whereas boys tend to do it in terms of interest?I mean, I don't know what age group you're talking about - but guys do assort on attractiveness too. It's rare to see a 6'4 guy hanging with 5'7s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side?I don’t think all, but certainly some. Also - how many times did you see her before sex, or was it one? I like being on that side, good vantage point. I’ll give you a different example - had fwb for 2 years (during which indeed she went out looking for relationship and sometimes fucked me same day before) - but when she found someone she liked, she gave him head on 3rd date and probably sex on 4th, and after 2 more weeks she stopped seeing me saying she’s feeling guilty now that it’s heading som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 09:23 PM |
| 3 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatThe Guy is inherently sexually motivated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 08:24 PM |
| 0 | Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most menI'm as centered as you can get around dating (struggles or otherwise) - most people who know me will think I'm kind, albeit self-centered. I do agree men (and women) on this sub do not represent a good population sample of any normal town/city - but I really don't think the "why" you gave is in any way satisfactory | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 06:18 PM |
| 14 | Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most menI don't agree with the 'havoc' and all that jazz, But I do agree the sample on this sub doesn't represent reality, for either men or women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 06:15 PM |
| 8 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatAs a reformed 'nice-guy', I don't know any guy more sexual than me, pre or post reform. Though from reading some of the 'nice-guy' responses around here, maybe I wasn't a typical one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 05:55 PM |
| 5 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatI wouldn't say it's an act, it's anxiousness with low self-perceived ability to sexually attract (which might be correct or not). Most people don't act all day long, they just feel compelled to certain roles in a given situation. EDIT: also, might also be just bad habits, after for example anxiousness and low-value have been mitigated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 05:54 PM |
| 8 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatOh simps let her know - but first the 'befriend' her, and then like a month or more in they'll go "I think I'm in love with you" or some other over-hyped bullshit that repels anyone within 5km | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 04:40 PM |
| 32 | "They're only being nice because they want sex" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with thatIt's not the only difference. Nice guys supplicate and try to hide their sexual wants behind being 'nice'. It's not nefarious - it's just something they do because of a misperception of women, what they're 'allowed' to do and think, and maybe their own attractiveness. They think they have to be 'chivalrous' in order to get the woman interested, instead of assuming she's be interested out of sheer attention and being sensual with her. Sure, maybe the guy is really unattractive to her - but in tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flagWhat does no friends mean? Like actual 0 people they can talk to? That sounds pretty sad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 11:58 PM |
| 3 | Love exist only when you are youngI don't see the connection between the examples and your argument. People fall in love in a lot of ages, but yes some lose innocence in teens/20s. I don't think love is all that tbh, it's another emotion like fear and joy, to be felt and cherished and moved on from | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Many women enjoy some BDSM kink in the bedroom, what caused your interest?It's not a username it's a flair, lets be civil | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 04:00 PM |
| 1 | How can LTRs last when modern men discard women who reach thirty or forty?lol, fetish.. The cope is strong. On average, men have pretty similar desires - they want to procreate with beautiful, young, fertile women. Why? evolution. On average, women have pretty similar desires - they want to procreate with good-looking, strong, high-status men. Why? evolution. Young women aren't any more a fetish than a hot guy, a rich guy or king-of-the-class. As to your question about LTR: Man doesn't need to ditch his primary relationship to procreate Most men, not to mention ol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 03:31 PM |
| 5 | Do women want their partner to say yes to their wants?If she likes a lot of activities she better get someone who has the money and energy to do them. Most women I know won't want to do new things multiple times a week. You shouldn't say yes to every want, you should examine what you're comfortable with and what you're not, and if you bend see that it doesn't happen too often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 12:07 PM |
| 2 | What made you willing to hook up?If you were on a few dates and not first date - what made it different from any other ‘dating’ scenario? It’s as if every girl I had sex with started as a hookup..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 01:53 AM |
| – | Who even are these “top percentile men” that are allegedly getting 80% of the dating results?They're still top 25% - if the girls are gonna be mildly-cute. Any average+ guy can hook a lonely 5 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Men who constantly surround themselves with terrible women are typically simps.Yeah I didn't realize how loserish some guys could be until I tried talking with one and he just keeps repeating how I'm not nice, exactly because I'm not clingy, desperate, affectionate etc. He literally can't understand it, always a neurotic "yes but" bullshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Who even are these “top percentile men” that are allegedly getting 80% of the dating results?Can confirm ta06 - I have nothing online that's public, never been an issue when meeting girls off Tinder/Bumble. EDIT: I agree it can help with some girls, if you do it right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Who even are these “top percentile men” that are allegedly getting 80% of the dating results?If someone can get casual sex once or twice a month - they're definitely top 25% at least. Only a few guys I know can consistently do that with any mildly cute-looking girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Who even are these “top percentile men” that are allegedly getting 80% of the dating results?You're right, they hardly exist. Well money-wise, if you're not totally broke - you can still pull off short-term relationships as a good-looking muscular and masculine guy. But even those - really good-looking 6ft+ guys, they're a small minority. Girls swipe-right for like 5% of guys, and they're not in agreement on who they swipe on (or else only 5% of guys would get matches). So yeah, the problem is not that 10-20% get 80%, it's that if you want to be this 'hot guy' who gets sex with hot gi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 03:00 PM |
| – | What do you think about female teachers going after teenage boys ?16y/o isn't a little boy - it's a warrior in training. And yes it's surprising that a 24y/o woman would find a 16y/o attractive enough to take a risk, so it's also unsurprising so little actual women go for this kind of thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 01:31 PM |
| 4 | Women in their thirties are way better than many women in their twentiesThey're only (on average!) less desirable looks-wise - character-wise it depends. If she's jaded then yeah her character will suffer too, but that's true for anyone who's been around | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 04:04 AM |
| – | Redpill Men are Usually Right, Still LosingWell yeah, if you count isn't as 2 syllables (is not) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 12:06 PM |
| – | Redpill Men are Usually Right, Still LosingRed pill who isn't willing to fix himself is Black pill in my book | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 11:10 AM |
| – | Seriously, how is the average joe supposed to be happy if he is never desired?Largely depends on your genetics and how optimized is your routine as so far as food/exercise/sleep.. No way to calculate it, better to just give it your best - even 10lb of muscle is a big change in appearance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Seriously, how is the average joe supposed to be happy if he is never desired?Why would you have a happy fulfilled life if your only evolutionary target is not being fulfilled? Even when it is fulfilled you’re likely not to be happy and fulfilled. Average guys can have average success, yes average guys are pretty unattractive. Average guys can substantially better themselves with 8 months of living right and have above-average success. Below average guys can maybe get to average, maybe not. Good luck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 07:34 AM |
| 2 | Why do Western Women believe in casual relationships the most?Why is it that most people in the world, EXCEPT Western Women believe in finding long term relationships before 25 and not gaining body counts over 2 Most people in the world are one paycheck from starving, I don't know if that's the standard we should be looking at. The west is what happens when women have choice (cuz you know, they have jobs and money), and as something close to a libertarian - I'd rather see people have choices than some weird policy of "one man per woman" handed down from th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 07:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Dating for most men gets easier at 30 because they lack the sexual experience to realise , women's standards and desires for a relationship, marriage shift out of necessity.At 30 you can date 25y/o no problem, I don't understand. Do you mean mid-30s? I find it's harder cuz you have to sort through all the "looking for long-term ONLY!" losers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Texting a girl: Keep it short and simple or she will run!I'm very open in person, can talk for hours about things. In text I keep it short, I just hate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Why is when it comes to age gap relationships, people assume there must be an agenda with the couple?Because there usually is. A 1995 book by Yueh-Ting Lee et al. argued that stereotypes are sometimes accurate.[73] Similarly, a 2015 study by Jussim et al. reviewed four studies of racial stereotypes, and seven studies of gender stereotypes regarding demographic characteristics, academic achievement, personality and behavior, and argued that some aspects of ethnic and gender stereotypes are accurate while stereotypes concerning political affiliation and nationality are much less accurate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:55 AM |
| 3 | I think offering money to women is so effective that they make it illegal.That's legal in even more places, and again - no mass prostitution | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:50 AM |
| 3 | I think offering money to women is so effective that they make it illegal.It's legal in some parts, you don't see mass-prostitution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone’s opinion or outlook on certain beliefs changed based on engagement here?Yes, I realized I have nothing in common with most red/black-pillers and that most of them just whine and don't really want to solve their issues. I don't think I changed my mind on women from being here, as I don't see this place as a representative sample of actual women I see on the street/Tinder | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 11:33 AM |
| – | Why do ladies often assume I'm not interested if I don't try to jump their bones on the 1st or 2nd date?err on side of aggressiveness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix datingFor casual debauchery - 1. I think everything else will probably break dating, not fix | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debateNothing in here that can't be said about an attractive guy, move along | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 04:37 PM |
| – | Why do red pill men dislike attractive women?I'm not red, and I don't dislike attractive women (if anything the unattractive ones tend to be annoying). But as for the date9 but marry7 - it's a safety approach - the 9s have lots of attention from very high value men and will be hard to retain as mates, whereas the 7s are more "realistic". I think even I would have some anxiety around being in love with a girl who's considered beautiful-actress-type hot. I think some girls experience some of that when dating a really hot guy - the constant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 08:29 AM |
| 1 | I Think It’s Okay To Reject A Girl Based On Her Weight.“Okay to reject” People looking for morals in completely amoral subjects are making a categorical error and are just full-blown annoying. Don’t like fat women? Don’t go out with them. Here, it’s all sorted now. “But I’ll be judged for rejecting them!” No, you won’t. They’re making a categorical error and being full-blown annoying - ignore/block. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 11:37 PM |
| 3 | How is it not better to be toxic?I'm not toxic (I go for what I want, but I don't outright lie or gaslight about it), and the women who initially want me keep wanting me - they* don't seem to need much rollercoaster. This is right for my ex-wife who I was with for 9 years (last 5 were stable), and it's true for my latest connections in the last 5 years which were all casual. *I accept some women have issues and need a rollercoaster. I'm fine with them leaving me fast, I don't need them in my life for long. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 01:20 AM |
| 5 | Penetration is essential to most women's complete sexual satisfaction.Never seen anyone claiming it's 'for' the guy. I did see people claiming it's not a must. In my experience - girls I've been with aren't fully-happy without good penetration. They sometime say they are, like they say they are satisfied without orgasms - but when they feel comfortable they'll tell the obvious truth - that of course they want to cum. I've been with a girl who went from "doesn't matter, I like having sex with you even if I don't cum" to "Of course I wanted to cum, but what woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 08:23 PM |
| 0 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?I don’t know, for me in clubs I get prettier women than apps. I have the sort of beauty that moves, I guess? I do see less makeouts when out nowdays, but I think it’s my age group not necessarily mentality of world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 04:45 PM |
| – | Should men abandon The Red Pill in 2024?What does it matter how you call it?I call it dress&groom well, go to the gym, don't overmasturbate, read a good book, train yourself socially and err on the side of aggressiveness rather than timidness. Anything more than this is circlejerking to grifters EDIT: and if you have deformities, consider surgery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Is hookup culture accessible to teetotalers?Drink tonic, looks like you’re drinking and you can even let her taste because it’s “gin”. If you’re too cool for that you’re too cool for hookup culture | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 09:42 AM |
| 7 | Everything about the current dating scene makes it far more likely for sexually successful men to become unempathetic and leave women emotionally hurtI don't get it, I just act normal and not needy and they're just fine with me. I don't think I've been rejected for my behavior since I was like 22 or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 01:32 AM |
| 1 | a lot of the problems with dating, standards, and contentment come from how the brain interprets fantasy7-7.5 who matches 5-6-7, and rarely 8. In clubs and in normal life I can get 7.5-8s - wife wasn't from Tinder | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 07:58 AM |
| 1 | a lot of the problems with dating, standards, and contentment come from how the brain interprets fantasyI'm as porn-addicted as it gets, and I sleep with 6-7s all the time. Heck, I slept with sub-5s! Also, was married to an 8, so that's why I assume I can get higher - not because of porn. I don't know, maybe for some men porn sets unrealistic standards - for me it's just an addiction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 05:47 AM |
| – | CMV: As a man if you're incapable of quickly getting a new girlfriend / hookup whenever you want, you cannot hope to have a healthy, mutually beneficial relationship with your current one or the one you're going to work hard to get.General principle I agree, but flaunting options in her face is just stupid imo. It's easily observed by her that you're wanted, she doesn't need to see girls hovering around you all day, that's just not relationship material | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 05:38 AM |
| – | CMV: As a man if you're incapable of quickly getting a new girlfriend / hookup whenever you want, you cannot hope to have a healthy, mutually beneficial relationship with your current one or the one you're going to work hard to get.There's no such thing, you don't override 1billion years of evolution with top-down moral decisions. OTOH - I don't agree with everything OP said, just that "not giving a crap about other..." isn't really feasible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Do women use 'casual sex' as a way to 'relationship zone' men? Or do men and women understand 'casual' differently?It's kinda the same like guys trying to 'be friends' first. Some guys actually want friends, but a lot use it as strategy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 04:08 AM |
| 3 | Complaining about women’s standards while being afraid of being settled for is crazyThey want her to want them. Simple as that, valid want, but not attainable by all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 12:14 AM |
| 5 | Why are people obsessed with having a large quantity of love interests and being the most desirable?https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_selection_in_humans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/23 12:25 AM |
| 5 | Why are people obsessed with having a large quantity of love interests and being the most desirable?Yup, just throw some label on 80% of people, that’ll teach’em | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 10:48 PM |
| 4 | Why are people obsessed with having a large quantity of love interests and being the most desirable?Why are people obsessed with having a good chance of procreating with high mate-value partners? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no oneClearing trash cans is not empowering for men, its derogatory and benefits no one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 10:10 PM |
| 5 | The more you understand women, the less you'll fall in love them.Realizing that a man is likely to cheat on you once mildly above-average options come knocking on his door | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 10:07 PM |
| 21 | The more you understand women, the less you'll fall in love them.- Realizing that a man loves a woman based on how the woman looks, - Realizing that a man's self-preservation comes first before his love for the woman. - Realizing that a man is likely to leave you once better options come knocking on his door. What now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 07:31 PM |
| 9 | There are so many single girls who are great catches!Most people here don't have a problem finding a gf, they have a problem that 'chad' fucked their potential gf on a night out whereas they'll have to pay for dates and be exclusive. In short, they want to to feel sexually desirable by good looking young girls, and they don't. I'm not saying they should or shouldn't be annoyed by that, but I think that's their issue, not just finding one girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Is it actually possible to have a relationship without any power dynamics and head games?Ask the same about friendships or every human relations and you have your answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 09:33 PM |
| -2 | A man who's sexually inexperienced is not a "red flag"I'm a man, it's a red flag. It doesn't mean there's necessarily a big problem, it just means there's probably a problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 10:26 PM |
| 1 | There's a night and day difference in how Reddit treats men's sex life issues vs. women's.What I really fail to see in this kind of threads is - who cares? What bearing does this have on your personal life and relationships? If you have a girl and you have a situation with her - who cares what someone on AITAH thinks? Develop your standards/ideas, enact them in reality, see what happens and revise. Don't build your standards upon 17y/o redditors who're wasting their youth by arguing etiquette instead of having fun with actual people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Why do players keep a harem of girls when he could easily get a girl he wants?He gets sex from the 8-10, chad doesn't mess with 5,6-7 - I mess with 5,6-7. As to your question: Yes, sex is hotter when you're more attracted (assuming everything else equals). But sometimes you want option for variety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 01:09 AM |
| – | Women hate age gap relationships because they are scared of being tossed aside in favour of young womenAsk her about girls who would actually date older men, not girls who were grossed out. They're talking about relationships, not creepy guys annoying 17y/o | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Why do men leave their sick wives?Never heard of this stat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Why don't alpha women date beta simps?She's not a leader, she just says she is. wtf is she leading exactly? a Tiktok channel for old hags? "Leader" Men want hot cool women. She's not hot, she's not cool, and that's all there is to it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 02:44 PM |
| 5 | What public figure would you choose to be a role model for the opposite sex?age-appropriate, jesus fucking christ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:15 AM |
| 3 | To 35+F, what do you think of men 35+M who went on strike against you?What is this? Why do some people think anyone cares about their weird personal choices? It's like walking into Universal Studios and asking random workers "I've been hurt by Universal movies narratives - what do you think if I stop watching Universal movies? would you care?" No one cares dude - if you wanna not date 30+ don't date them, no one cares about your personal vendetta against your age-group. Either be fun and attractive, or get cheated on and be "saved for later", that's all there is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: Women only dance clubs. Genius idea?I think he's trolling tbh. He's gonna bring the picture of the empty women's only nightclub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 01:39 AM |
| 2 | If the man doesn't like the woman more the relationship will never work out. Youtubers and red pill men need to stop telling women to pursue men. Men hate to be pursued and feel uncomfortable with a woman thirsting after himWell then the guy must have been taken or DROWNING in girls, which again, same point - women shoot high when they approach | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | If the man doesn't like the woman more the relationship will never work out. Youtubers and red pill men need to stop telling women to pursue men. Men hate to be pursued and feel uncomfortable with a woman thirsting after himUsually when women approach they shoot high. It's not the approaching that makes him disinterested, it's the fact that he can and does usually get hotter girls. for instance, I think only once in my life was I approached by a woman who I thought was really hot. EDIT: Also, usually I approach girls who I like less because it's mentally easier for me. A lot of times I'm intimidated by the girls I really like - so even if he approaches it doesn't mean a lot. But maybe I'm rare in that sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Women : would you rather be rather be "forced" to work or be forced to marry ?Late stage capitalism is hippie talk. At the same time, women in the workplace isa n issue only for incel tradcons | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Is it that bad for a virgin to have to practice?I heard of people who lost their homes 75 years ago, and are still at war because they want their old home back instead of the one they have now. People don't want "best" or "practical" - they fall to believe a certain notion and they turn full gas at it, or if they're feeling unable - they whine online and if they're lucky make "social movements". My first sex with with a girl who had 2 before me - I gotta say I literally didn't care, and I think she thought I was good (she knew it was my f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Lying to Women is okayIt depends on the context | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Would you allow your husband to sleep with other women?Girls would casually sleep with such a guy and develop feelings - virtually no one wants such an "arrangement" from the get-go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/23 03:54 AM |
| 1 | What is a the bitter truth for men about dating over 30I started dating in early 30s (dated/married same girl for 9 years before that). I think I'd be having easier time if I was 26, but as long as I improve my looks and personality (personality means being fun and outgoing, not nice and complacent) things tend to get better. EDIT: I'm mainly aiming for casual relationships where I don't have to lie about it - not long-term/marriage stuff which would be more easily available for my age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/23 03:31 AM |
| 3 | men only dislike ‘hookup culture’ when they can’t participate in itI didn't have a problem with it when I was a 20y/o virgin, No problem with it 21-30 when I had a gf/wife. No problem since. I always wanted to participate, never seen a problem with it. People gonna whine, let them whine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/23 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Women possess no empathy for men and should stop lying about it.Unpopular opinion: Why should anyone 'posses' empathy for total strangers, not to mention unrelatable is beyond me. I can understand it's sad for unattractive men to be unattractive - been there, done that. But the whining - I just can't deal with that. Get fit, get surgery, eat&sleep right, read a damn book and stop the whine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 12:59 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Most young guys struggle in dating because of the society and time we live in, not because of themselvesI found my ex-wife before Tinder. She is hot. I still wanted to have casual sex and got a divorce. Yes, apps are way harder than real life (in the sense that the available matches are of lower quality). Getting a mid-gf is easy tbh. Getting someone who you actually love is harder. Getting multiple good looking girls for casual is hardest imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that Men „enjoy“ being seen as Sex objects, while Women don‘t?Women want both but tend to take #1 for a given. Men want both but tend to take, well, #1 for a given. You swapped #1 for the sexes - very confusing :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Does the Madonna complex cause relationships to get ruined?Accept that you can't know in advance what kind of girl she is, even if she seems "innocent". Your only-long-term gf might be a raging cheating whore. Let boys be boys - even long-term oriented girls appreciate your passion for them - let her say "not tonight", let her feel wanted if you feel like you want her. You don't impress her by being a coward, you impress her by being bold. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/23 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Does the Madonna complex cause relationships to get ruined?I don't compliment much either, but I touch. Sit close to her, unintended hand/elbow touches at first - then leg, the let your hand stay there. In my experience, even when all the conversation is normal - touching lets her know you're not just there to be a friend. Make sure to kiss at some point. I think in the last 5 years I only told 1 girl she was beautiful, it was after we kissed and she was stunning. ^ I don't recommend not complimenting, just saying it's not necessary | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/23 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Being a good person has nothing to do with how much a man is able to attract womenSo... there's a subset of women who are attracted to violent men, therefore being a good person has nothing... right. Sure, men who can inflict violence are on average more attractive - there are very reasonable reasons why that is. It doesn't mean men who ARE violent are more attractive. Look your best, be strong, be courageous (which means not flinching from social interactions with women) and be funny. Don't wanna do that? keep inceling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 01:09 AM |
| 2 | CMV „As a Man you should never be emotional/weak infront off you‘re Girl“ is one of the most brutal reality’s that a Man has to accept.If you're weak for no reason and it happens more than twice a year - yeah, it's an issue. But a friend dying, as long as you're not entirely losing your shit - you're allowed to show emotions. Sure, maybe some girls have real issues regarding men showing emotions in response to dire events - most normal girls don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Politics defines modern dating.I don't know, my politics don't align with pretty much anyone, but I never had that as something keeping me from dating... Sure, if you're aligned in direct opposition to someone then it can cause at least long-term issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 12:49 AM |
| 0 | Do adult men without social circles really have a chance?My social circle is very limited. Work from home, only have 1 friend who I can go out with without someone raising an eyebrow. Yes - it would be easier to find hookups with a larger social circle - but I don't think that's my most limiting factor. Maybe I'd do better if I had more friends who like to party though. Anyway - I wouldn't count on building a social circle as the main strategy to meet women. You wanna meet women, make yourself attractive and go out to meet women or use OLD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 12:47 AM |
| 2 | Approaching = always creepy? Depends on who says it.I think in most cases it's men being cowardly/socially-anxious and attributing their anxiety to reality instead of irrational-fear. Case study: myself. Sure, some women react poorly and a lot will reject you - but I've been surprised by the caliber of hot women I was able to make-out with by just coming up to them boldly in a club. Sadly on Tinder my matches are of lower quality looks-wise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:59 PM |
| 2 | The men here fail because they refuse to take any risksThat's why you're successful - Q.E.D | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:43 PM |
| 1 | The men here fail because they refuse to take any risksDo you even lift? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/23 11:25 PM |
| 4 | Casual sex is worse for women and makes them sad and untrustworthyCasual sex doesn't ruin women. Ruined women often retort to casual sex. This is not necessarily a 2-way street. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 02:14 PM |
| 3 | You only think women’s standards are unrealistic because you view them as a monolith.Well yeah, physicality wise there are some features a strong consensus exists for. No one thinks a weak chin is attractive for men, but they might settle for it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 03:36 PM |
| 1 | As a male you won't know your true league unless you quit online datingIt's not a true league - it's your low-competitiion-context league. Also - were these (the not Tinder/Nightclub) relationships or casual? Still - good info - your league is context-dependent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 01:48 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating, and women who think like that are red flagsIt would be smart to get a test. It still shows a lack of trust. The mere unpopularity of it shows a lack of trust. Do the test stealthily, calm your mind, problem solved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | The Difficulty of Dating For Average Men is Nowhere as Hard as People in this Sub Makes it Out to BeWhat would you rate yourself as? I think when men say they can't get a date, they mean with someone they're somewhat attracted to - not just any person on Tinder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Dating for men is a race to the bottomIt's not tons of options if the men aren't attractive to her. I can fuck tons of fat women, who cares? I rather jerk off | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 10:45 PM |
| 13 | Dating for men is a race to the bottomI've been in spain for the past 2 weeks - the things men talk about here might be true to some extent in the US, but in here I see perfectly normal couples. Most girls are hot, most guys are ok, cute couples everywhere. More to your pr point - girls have HOOKUP options, but they want relationship options. Average men barely have relationship options, but they're totally lacking in hookup options. Yeah, women are somewhat in a better spot, but not that much, not really and not emotionally. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Women are extremely visual in all other facets of life. It's completely irrational to think they make an exception for men.These are things women do to show their own attractiveness/creativity - not because they adore visuals. At the same time - I agree, women like hot looking guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Real dating life is closer to Instagram/YouTube than it is to reddit.Real dating is nothing like instagram hoes, and it's nothing like Reddit bullshit. If she finds you attractive you'll probably have sex within 1-3 dates. If not then at best you can convince her of a 'relationships deal' which, if she's desperate enough, she'll consider and settle for you. Vast majority of women aren't out there to good food off you, nor are they out there to get money from you. They want to have fun with an attractive guy, most of the time hoping to lock him down for a relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 01:50 PM |
| 2 | This explains a lot: Majority of Women declined sex due to body insecurities, dating app findsYes, it happened to them, at least once - it doesn't mean it happens all the time. sure, one day she's not shaved, another on her period, another she didn't go home yet and is sweaty - but that's it, most rejections are just rejections, stop the cope. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Women judge men based on how popular they are with other women which leads to a cycle where a few fuckboys get to pump and dump many womenThey're a pretty good example of attractive people with an enormous amount of sexual options.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 10:55 PM |
| 1 | The only men who truly benefit from modern dating culture are the tip top percentile of menYeah, but some guys aren't even millionaires | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:23 PM |
| 1 | The only men who truly benefit from modern dating culture are the tip top percentile of menYou said it yourself - only top 5% can manage consistent casual sex. I do think he made a false dichotomy - cuz there IS a continuum between 0 ability for casual sex, going through hard-to-get casual, casual-with-mid-girls all the way to "all the girls want me for anything I want". Surely most men would be VERY happy with just being able to pick up a cute-looking (not hottest) girl once every 2 -3 weeks from a club for some casual fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Women judge men based on how popular they are with other women which leads to a cycle where a few fuckboys get to pump and dump many womenSo it's only for hookups that you want the popular ones? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Women judge men based on how popular they are with other women which leads to a cycle where a few fuckboys get to pump and dump many womenIt generalizes well enough tbh. See pretty much all celebs - always an issue with cheating, or they have an open relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Why are so many men not willing to properly move on from women? (Serious question)it's not wrong, he was wrong - that girl corrected him by his own admission. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menIt's mostly about standards. If you're a hot well-off guy @ 35 - don't worry, you'll have your fair share of hot 22y/o ready to do stuff, whether it's hooking up or dating. But sure - it's probably easier (i.e you don't have to be as attractive) if you're 26. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Why are so many men not willing to properly move on from women? (Serious question)Yes, I was. Everyone makes mistakes, no need to be proud of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 11:43 AM |
| 1 | Why are so many men not willing to properly move on from women? (Serious question)I wasted pretty much the same amount of time, arguably more - I’m just not framing it as anything to be proud of | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 11:42 AM |
| 7 | Why are so many men not willing to properly move on from women? (Serious question)You didn’t. You wasted a decade being scared of women and wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 12:30 AM |
| 12 | Most young men are red pilledYou're working in tech. Everyone who's terminally-online tends red | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 10:43 PM |
| 2 | I asked the women at my work what they think of the rise of AI girlfriends and they’re all supportive of itNewsflash: they’re right. Who cares about ‘men’ or ‘women’? People care about specific issues and people that are RELEVANT to them. If someone is lonely enough to have an AI girlfriend, it’s reasonable to conclude she wouldn’t want him either and everyone’s better off with her not having to interact with him in the first place. It’s reasonable - but it doesn’t mean it’s 100% right - some men are lonely but can get better - it’s still their responsibility and not women’s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/23 03:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: you don’t have to take a girl on a fancy date or spend money on her if she’s into youI don't live in the usa, Normal Drinks around here are are around 15$.. Some people find it expensive, I don't mind it - but if I did I'd just bring wine and go for a walk with her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 04:21 PM |
| 9 | CMV: you don’t have to take a girl on a fancy date or spend money on her if she’s into you35M here, always just go to some bar... Nothing too fancy, just a regular dating bar. Seems fine. It would also be fine if we'd just walked around and I'd bring wine I guess. I think going to a fancy restaurant 1st date is just idiotic. I try to keep it very casual, at least until we have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?Which means you're not handling your own emotions and behavior. Shouldn't implies they will feel bad about it - why are they doing something they will feel bad about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 06:40 PM |
| 1 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?The 'dehumanizing' part seemed moralizing, if it's about a personal distaste that's fine of course | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:39 PM |
| 6 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?Minority doesn't mean few, it may as well be 45%. Sure, some women don't like casual sex - but they're not used, they just don't do it. If someone feels bad after casual and still does it every week - she's not used, she's just bad at managing her own emotions and behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:38 PM |
| 4 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?I had an FWB for 2.5 years, of course if I wanted it could have turned serious, but no one was hurt and she went on to find a boyfriend and stopped seeing me - best ending I could have hoped for, hope she's still with him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?I don't see what the issue is with either of these.. Some women like to be called a piss slut, so? You can hug them after it's over, for the specific moment she wants to feel like a piss slut and no amount of false-moralizing will stop that from happening | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:34 PM |
| 7 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?They're not being used for sex, they're enjoying sex with attractive men. I've had multiple fwbs, probably none of them felt 'used' (unless they really wanted to feel that way in a specific instance ;) I think women who are constantly being 'used' for sex are just not attractive enough for the men they want, so the men don't come back for more, and then you have a woman talking about how men 'used' her for sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:29 PM |
| 1 | This video proves what a lot of guys complain about is real.Yup, my bad. I'll just sit this one out, not important enough to look up the right comment :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 10:09 PM |
| 15 | Why does this sub look at men willing to date single moms so negatively?I wouldn't say he's a red flag, I'd just say his actions tend to implicitly admit being low-value. I say tend on purpose - it doesn't mean he's low value - it's just that on average I'd expect lower-value men to go for this kind of 'deal'. EDIT: I'm talking about exclusively and seriously dating - not hooking up or doing a mini-relationship few months thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 08:11 PM |
| 2 | This video proves what a lot of guys complain about is real.Oh comeon, you see a top 5% girl in any mediocre club in town. Sure, there's only 1 or 2 - but they're there. Not every hot girl goes to work as a model, some of them just go to normal schools and have a normal life, jesus | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 07:57 PM |
| -1 | This video proves what a lot of guys complain about is real.She's barely above average, that makeup doesn't work it only looks professional, not hot. With that in mind - she's either just doing her thing on social media or she really thinks men want her so bad - most girls are not that manipulative or stupid. No one cares about their entitlement - go get your own entitlement. Fact is, if she can get laid by hot guys and that's what she likes - then that's what she can get and you can keep on saying "value inflation" all you want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Discussion : Whats the bigger problem, obviously unattractive guys struggling or above average guys now struggling as much as below average guys?Below average guys always have and always will struggle. Above average guys struggling is not a good sign, but I don't know how much they struggle - it's more that they expect to be able to pull of a 'chad', but they're struggling with that - if an above-average guy wants a relationship, he can certainly get one, at least with an ok looking woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | What does TRP make of the fact that so many women selflessly take care of their Ill and disabled husbands?She's 45, I'm not even red-pilled that much but even I know that's post-wall. Also, yes love is possible, and caring about someone. It doesn't mean she doesn't get sex elsewhere, nor would I condemn her for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 01:36 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Virtually all men will eventually get sex/relationships, it's just happening later than it used toIt doesn't matter, no one wants to be settled for - they want to be attractive, not get lucky once. I bet most incels aren't virgins, just sexually unsuccessful men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 02:05 AM |
| 2 | Why are women immediately turned off by guys who lack experience?Why do you need to ask women? Can't you ask man who've had good experiences? I've had sex when I was 21 - she was attracted to me, then she LOVED me, you could see how hyped up she was. I've since been with others, some were all over me, others less so (or just showed it less). Never have I felt any of them were after any status of mine, not that I have any status apart from being seemingly financially secured. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 12:02 AM |
| 3 | The real reason women hate when older guys get with younger girls: I'm not talking about older guys who hit on young girls. Yeah that's gross. So you're allowed to be grossed out by they don't? How old are you? maybe you're just afraid the older guys will take your girls? I think as long as consenting adults consent, all the rest of you can go fuck yourselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 11:45 PM |
| 2 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendI can see what you're saying. Some women can choose men by potential, most can't. I think the ones who can usually profit, except for cases the guy suddenly finds out his SMV is high now and wants to eat the rest of the cake | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 11:03 PM |
| 4 | 45% of men age 18-25 have never approached a woman in personNext time I'm at the barber I'm asking for the positive feedback look | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:28 PM |
| 2 | 45% of men age 18-25 have never approached a woman in personWell it's out of Alexander's followers - which means it's a lot of forever-online people. But yeah, stats seem about legit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:27 PM |
| – | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?Oh, I thought by 'these men' you meant 'hot stylish men'. I'd say on average the more attractive people I meet are more interesting. The less than average one think they're interesting because they have 'complex issues', but the truth is I don't think their issues are complex and I usually don't see what's interesting about it (beyond the fact that they tend to ignore one of the most important aspects of their issues). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 05:16 PM |
| – | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?Nah if you can make friends with them your personality doesn't suck. Though it is surprising you can't get ANY woman to have sex. I'd understand if you could only get 2-3. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 05:12 PM |
| 1 | If you plan on having multiple simultaneous sexual partners, you should disclose that fact to all of themI mean, this is exactly what religions people tried to do.. It doesn't seem to stop girls from just secretly having sex, and with no sex-ed and thinking condom is a sin they're also leaders of teen-babies. Sure, it might bring promiscuity a notch-down, but I don't see how it's worth it.. My morality is more that of ancient nordic people - which seems to basically mean fuck away. Sure, if you want a non-promiscuous girlfriend you should definitely go for it - most girls aren't that promiscuous … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Many women, by believing in "their worth", believe unattractive men aren't worthy enough, which is kind of a contradictionWho cares what they believe - if they're wrong they'll 'pay' for it by being single and unwanted by the men they want. If they're right and those 10/10 men want them then they're on their level by definition. The only thing you need changing your view about is why do you think other people's beliefs are even your business? Go to the market and see what your worth really is, don't go online and try to hypothesize others' worth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?Sounds like you have some stubborn habits of thoughts and actions. If you're willing to work to change them, I recommend getting a CBT-oriented therapist. Caveat: Most therapists suck - if the one you lands on doesn't fit, move on within 2 months of no noticeable improvement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:10 AM |
| 0 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?I mean.. who openly attacked your illness and called you that? or assaulted you? You mean girls? usually they're not mean if they think you're really that far from being a threat.. I found they're most mean when you're like 1-2 points away from what they'd actually want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?Sounds tough, glad you found other things to do in life. What about hookers? Sometimes there'll be a very short unimpressive guy and I'll tell a friend something like "if I was him I really wouldn't know how to play this game", and it's kind of a mindfuck really. And the friend says something like "if you were him you'd have other expectations, he's done fine" - I guess it's not always fine after all. EDIT: how come it's red and not black, given that... physicality is the main issue you're fac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?So you say beautiful people are always boring and ugly people are the only ones with any character? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 12:54 AM |
| 1 | If It isn't too high standards the reason men are lonely, but cOrN, why would men seek corn to begin with?I don't know, once you called it c0rn I couldn't keep reading | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 12:43 AM |
| 1 | If you plan on having multiple simultaneous sexual partners, you should disclose that fact to all of themAre you going to personally collect 10,000 votes to motivate legislators to do anything about it, or are we going to just whine about neo-norms? In my view, the more freedom you have without fearing someone will blow your head off or take you to jail, the better - that fucking guy can get another less promiscuous (or more cunning) woman and chill. Also - remember he asked if he's the asshole, not if she's the asshole. he's not, he can chill and keep minding other's business | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 12:41 AM |
| 2 | If you plan on having multiple simultaneous sexual partners, you should disclose that fact to all of themWhy do we need a wall of text for this? She was within her right to sleep with others. She was honest enough to actually tell him. He has every right to NOT want to be with a seemingly promiscuous woman. He chose to exercise that right. His friends are simps, and it's their right. He had no right of knowing in advance and you're not under any obligation to disclose anything not specifically asked to a stranger you know for 3 weeks - yes even if you fucked him - unless tied specifically to his … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think marriage for couples who were cohabiting before marriage do not last long.Because those who don't are usually religious. religious people binge and purge their affairs rather than get a divorce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Today a London schoolgirl was murdered for refusing to go out with her classmateHow is this even upvoted.. Your view can't be changed, you're biased beyond repair. That should CYV, but it won't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:07 PM |
| 2 | For redpilled men, what does consent mean to you?I'm scared verbally asking will turn me off | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 11:39 PM |
| 2 | For redpilled men, what does consent mean to you?Entirely after is no less of a troll than short skirt imho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 11:37 PM |
| 3 | For redpilled men, what does consent mean to you? My view is consent is usually implicit, not verbal. That DOESN'T mean you can just throw arms to her breast and pussy, but it does mean small incremental escalations should be tried, and accepted or rejected (i.e small touches > more sexual touches > kiss > makeout > breast > pussy >= "wanna suck my cock?" etc) . When a step is rejected it's time to take a step back, and either try again later, talk about it or call it a night. Consent looks like me going in for a kiss, she reciprocating. no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | For redpilled men, what does consent mean to you?I thought you said you weren't red-pilled ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Red Pillers: What do you actually consider to be sufficient evidence of r*pe and SA?Sufficient evidence is court conviction, or the judge showing how he really wants to convict but can't because evidence is just a bit lacking. One thing is certain - mass social outrage and 3 women people I know nothing about (or know something which makes me think they're lying) is NOT evidence. And this has nothing to do with Russell Brand, I think he's an idiot and a conspirator, and I know nothing about what he did or didn't do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?I'm not old yet (35, I hope I'm still allowed 20s), nor do I think I'll have much luck with 25y/o once I hit 50+. Of course humans regret things, but you said most women who date older men grow to regret it - that's not a trivial claim at all and you know it. Prompting women on reddit for it will be boring for those who don't mind it and a catharsis for those who had something awful happened to them resulting in pre-selection, though I imagine results would still be ok-ish. As for the main poi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 04:31 PM |
| 3 | I feel a large part of the problem with dating is extroverts and a lack of social unity and connection.Video games are very male-dominated, might as well go on Tinder | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?You're right, he probably shouldn't outright say that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?It's not the same guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 04:44 AM |
| 8 | I feel a large part of the problem with dating is extroverts and a lack of social unity and connection.lol this place is seriously unhinged | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 04:13 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are shallow in terms of appearance whilst women are shallow in terms of neurotypeShallow... you keep using that word... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 02:34 AM |
| 0 | The Stat "80% of Women Match with 20% of Men" isn't because of female hypergamy. It's because of the skewed gender ratio.Well... You're oversimplifying to a degree which is not helpful. Yes, the ratio is skewed, but the problem is not a 1 to 1 match with women. They match with a bunch of guys, and date a bunch of guys.. I know a girl who went for 4 different dates in a week when she was seriously looking. Guys:Girls ratio is bad enough, and girls are pickier a-priori and get pickier when they see the options they have on Tinder (supplied by the insane ratio) - this is what causes the effect. Call it hypergamy … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?Straw-man, never said it's the same, and I like the backhanded insult to give me a hint about your juvenile political views. Yeah? show me the meta-analysis of the women who regret it. You don't go out with older men, let people do their own mistakes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 09:04 PM |
| 4 | CMV : There’s nothing wrong at all with modern dating. Women are just attracted to less men.Keep people enslaved... By making computers and having them gather online to exchange moronic ideas? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Why can't people just be honest with men when it comes to online dating? You aren't getting 0 matches because your pictures are bad, you're getting no matches because you're ugly.Sure, some are just plain ugly. But some (a lot) really do take bad pictures, or be lazy about their profile and use low-quality photos from 4 years ago. Improving my profile helped me a lot with both quality and quantity of amtches | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?And if you ask an 18 y/o about the 50y/o? Vast majority will say yuck. Which means age is not the problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.I'll be sure to let her know then, sir | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:11 AM |
| 0 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?I... think I'll leave agency to the 18y/o. If she doesn't understand the meaning of going out with a 50y/o at 18 she won't at 25, it's a futile game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.Rebuttal? You straw-manned me, I claim non of that bullshit you said. Some women go to people's houses to have sex off Tinder, that's just life. Mostly they do it with hotter men. Unless you're the slender hot blonde Icelandic type, I would probably not stutter. If you insist on sending me a photo I might send you one too, probably I'm better looking but I don't know what that would prove | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.I don't know why, they do it though. I see you have an issue with men and cum receptacles, that's on you. Oh, you're even wearing the women incel's movement tag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.If you're 10% match rate, you can establish the meeting's agenda. If you don't want to spend time because you want to sleep with her then this is the wrong sub? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?It's not morally bad. It just interferes with young men's and older women's dating prospects and thus they protest too much. EDIT: not that I know why a 22y/o would date a 50y/o, but that's not more my business than that same girl being into shit play. If that's what she likes that's what she likes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 06:01 AM |
| – | How does the rest of the world view Western males and women?It's not unimaginable to me, there are people like that where I live. But I had no idea Poland is like that.. are you sure? even in Krakow/Warsaw? Anyway yeah if that's the case then it's the foreigner thing.. but it seemed like they're pretty free-spirited among themselves too tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 04:37 AM |
| 0 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.I mean if you can't sit down for a 40 minute drink then settle for those going to your house I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 04:33 AM |
| 4 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.My main takeaway was that one woman will think you're sweet and bold, while another will think you're creepy. ^ this, enough said "I can't go out this weekend because I'm feeling too anxious so I'll come across timid and creepy and not chad enough + broke + not top 20% man so I'll be invisible to all the hot sexy babes who will only sex chad sexual style and not me + feminine jawline + 5'9" + potential rejection scary + don't even wanna go out anyway" Haha this sounds like me on some days | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 03:05 AM |
| 2 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.Some women like it when I approached in bars/clubs. Sure, some of them lash out and most reject - but the ones who're into me really like it and show it. My social circle is narrow, so I'm not ever vouched.. Dating apps are not easy mode - the match is just the start, and if you're not like an 8.5+ you can probably forget about inviting them straight to your house. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 03:03 AM |
| 9 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.I mean if you're hot enough to get 10% match ratio, you're fucking a lot. The guy with a 2% match ratio would have to be a fucking social wizard, not 'hold a conversation' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.He said unless short. Sorry to say but 5'6 is short. Over 5'9 and hot face will be good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 02:46 AM |
| -2 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.Sounds tough, where did you approach? what context and women-tier? Did you try to be more presentable? i.e gym, cloth etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 02:40 AM |
| -1 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.Cuz people are afraid of rejection and got rejected twice when they were 15 and it means all girls want chad EXCLUSIVELY | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather share a high status millionaire or have a low status/earning man such as a cab driver all to yourself? (the cab driver has no ambitions to change his socioeconomic status in the future)Men always get this wrong. Women don't mind sharing high-value when they're FWB - it's not the same as fully investing in a relationship. Also, if high-value occasionally fucks someone else on a business trip - it's not the same as full-blown sharing. Pose the question right, get right answers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 02:36 AM |
| – | How does the rest of the world view Western males and women?Which country is it? I mean I've been around in EE and girls seem to be open to have sex.. They seem to want you to be around (i.e not a weekend tourist) but I'd say most are open to it within 1-2 weeks or knowing you.. Haven't been to russia though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 09:25 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?I believe it, but I'm not mad - if I was a good-looking woman I'd do the same. I think the worse problem is denying it - a lot of women say "looks don't matter", "I never do casual sex anyway" but then add "but one time, I had sex on first date - but he was HOT". ^ That's pretty annoying Anyway, I think if someone is not attractive enough for his taste - meaning he doesn't get enough women - he should try to optimize his looks & behavior, or be mad at himself/parents - I don't see why women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | "Insecure" and "Controlling" are the new buzzwords used to shame men's standards and gaslight them into believing normal boundaries are toxic. CMV.I think men on PPD's biggest issue is they actually care what online fat columnists say about them. Just apply your boundaries and standards and see what happens, who cares what anyone says? it's so stupid and futile. You know what's insecure? caring about what people say is insecure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to womenMy IQ is ~127 (I'm basing it off being top 3% in psychometric test in my country, so expect some variance - though it's pretty agreed upon I'm the smartest guy in every peer group I've been part of) I'm jewish. No, just be a little cocky in an endearing way. I did stay virgin until I was 21, but after that my success with women is above average, and improved even more in last years. I can see why higher-IQ would need to jump some self-conscious hurdles which 'dumber' people can just hop over, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 02:54 PM |
| 3 | CMV : If a man commits it subconsciously communicates to her that you believe she’s the best you can getI think they have an illusion only men are capable of love. Me and my sister though share a belief that men tend to be more sensitive (in some aspects) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:54 AM |
| 2 | CMV : If a man commits it subconsciously communicates to her that you believe she’s the best you can getDunno dude, I married the first girl I had sex with (I was her 3rd). In 8.5 years we never had more than a week without (very kinky and rough) sex, which I'm ashamed to admit she initiated most times (don't touch porn people). We got divorced when I was 30 cuz I decided I missed out on casual sex (do casual sex in your 20s people) So while I can see why you would hypothesize this - The data disagrees, whether because this effect doesn't exist or it's too small to matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:50 AM |
| – | CMV Its very easy to „bust“ a golddigger or a Women that is settling for you.Actually some girls are very light in sex. I was fwb with such a girl, I was never sure if she actually came. She's very introverted and reserved outside of bed too. In my case the lack of dirty and enthusiastic sex is something that would disqualify an exclusive relationship, it wouldn't be an issue. But yes I think you're right that if you have experience with women and can usually attract, it's harder to get played like that. One caveat: If you attract a woman who is way hotter than wha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Anyone here regularly visit sex workers?Stripper who owned three houses in Reno... Is that pre-2008? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?What's your match rate? Yeah I can see how in new york Tinder would be an issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?You can't say you're struggling and undateable while at the same time date a lot of people... I mean you can say it, but that would be pretty weird | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?I mean.. why do so many of your dates rate you? Also, you're preselected with dates - so 6 is weird, dump her. But yeah, those ranks sounds 7-ish, I accept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 10:10 PM |
| -2 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?Nah incels would say his face his chad if he was fucking women, it's only weird AFTER you know he shoot people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?How do you know you're a 7? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?I mean.. if the guy is truly handsome, 'real effort' is pretty much chit-chat on Tinder before meetup and 10% match-rate. 25% Is uber-chad, 1-2% is around average | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:39 PM |
| – | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeI don't get the 'not time to date, best foot forward' thing.. Who is this meme for and by who? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 05:16 PM |
| 0 | Happily partnered folks, does your (heterosexual) relationship seem at all similar to RP beliefs or is very different?Not to be too annoying but isn't your relationship exactly what RP claim? Mildly above-average woman, can get casual sex from chad/lites but not a relationship, settles* for a man who can't get casual sex but who shows her love and devotion. *I don't mean consciously settle in an RP 'all women are sociopaths' way - I mean settle in the sense that if you compare him to your hookups - he's objectively less attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 03:14 AM |
| 3 | “Just Be Yourself” and other passive platitudes about datingAssuming you're not autistic, you have an idea of what attractive guys look like and behave like. From the lifestyle, muscularity, clothing, mannerisms and personality - if I tell you to imagine an attractive guy you have a pretty good idea what that would look and feel like. Try to be more that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:58 AM |
| 2 | CMV: All women will aim for the absolute highest value male within reach first, then work their way down. Men don’t do this."Within reach" "Regardless of their own level" ^ Choose one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:35 AM |
| 3 | “Just Be Yourself” and other passive platitudes about datingBe yourself is the most idiotic thing I've ever seen. Be what you think is attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 12:15 AM |
| 15 | Men are projecting the whole 'alpha widow' thing.Is this even real? I mean, isn't it weird for you that your husband has a seemingly deep fantasy about being with that girl? Not all girls think their ex is an idiot.. some think he's the hottest guy for them but "we just couldn't stay together" - either cuz they didn't fit values-wise or the guy just didn't want anything serious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Let's be honest. Dating for men is an incessantly painful numbers gameOoh yes, playing hard to get - gonna try dem Cargos! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Let's be honest. Dating for men is an incessantly painful numbers gameIt's not man to man post.. It's man to 6 and below. If you're 7+ your numbers game is very decent if you have any sort of social acuity. Yes, if you're 5 and below I'd say the number game can only serve to have a good grip on your rating and see what you can do to improve (wardrobe/gym/height-shoes/drugs/surgery/give-up). Sure, even as a 7 you're not gonna have girls lining up - but if you put in the work you're gonna be aright - + you can too improve via same methods available to everyone. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 06:15 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I don't know about percentages, I'd guess chad is really 5%, as no way 1 in 5 is that hot.. But I'm no chad that's for sure, probably a 7-7.5. Ask me again after I gain like 10lb of muscle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 02:07 AM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?What does that have anything to do with anything? Also, this is delusional. My friends call me "the best fwb ever". Sure, I'm not uber-attractive, but I can attract enough to consistently have casual sex with ok girls if I want, and I'm very kind and honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 12:14 AM |
| 2 | Women admitting the crushing reality for most men in dating, would not change anythingIt's not irrational, the metrics are just different than most people's moral allowance. Facial attractiveness, muscularity, body-fat%, masculinity - all things people, and especially women, are reluctant to say or even acknowledge takes up most of the weight when deciding whether to give someone a chance. These metrics are of course good and well - women shouldn't compromise on what they're attracted to - the lack of acknowledgement of these metrics is the problem imo. It creates a mindfuck fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:15 PM |
| 4 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I'm actually surprised at the amount of women whose first thought is about rape and danger.. I mean you established they were gonna be respectable and friendly, but still this instinct comes up to them - Guess I need to up my comfort game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Women admitting the crushing reality for most men in dating, would not change anythingTo your main point - would you be empathic towards a homeless? I mean I might think about it once or twice in my life, but otherwise I don't care to make eye contact. That's how people treat low-value people, that's how women treat most men - and that's ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Women admitting the crushing reality for most men in dating, would not change anythingeven if moms started aborting males as they would know how hard it probably will be for most of them to stop them from suffering I mean, that would actually help. Less men -> women will be the ones competing. It's an established fact female promiscuity rises and standards lessen when male-to-female ratio is decreased. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:59 PM |
| -1 | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?You missed the point, read thread | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 04:32 AM |
| 2 | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?Ah they do? I see your evo-psych paper is writing itself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 04:31 AM |
| 2 | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?Since steak if tasty why not just stick with steak as it is really good opposed to having to go through a whole bunch of foods? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 10:28 PM |
| – | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?For me pretty much same position (except phase still ongoing), missing for me was variety and feeling wanted by other girls. Actually sex itself was great, and still ties for best place 5 years after ending. I'm 5 years in hoe phase though, with no plan of leaving any time soon - so maybe I'm not the one to ask. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Society thinks independent women die alone with cats. It's actually men who die alone.So you had an FFFM with college students? Is there any reason to suspect you're not LARPing PPD? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 10:14 PM |
| -1 | Are the Red Pill statistics true when it comes to mens struggles?Never had a girl with libido problems, mostly sex was awesome. Women RARELY approach me (I think last time was more than a year ago - but I don't go out much these days, still RARELY). I don't think a girl who's above-average has a reason to show me off to her friends, I mean I look nice but not showoff nice. Non of your type matches me, you're ruined. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 10:05 PM |
| 13 | CMV: What I’ve Learned as an Average Guy Among Attractive FriendsI mean.. if you're underweight or overweight and become athletic - that's a big change in how girls respond.. Sure, if you're not extremely hot girls aren't going to be running over to you and hugging you - but if you're attractive they'll often still accept your advances when *you* initiate. This post can be very blackpilling for guys without experience - but it's mostly irrelevant - a lot of guys can look 7+ with the right lifestyle/clothing/gym, and that's enough to be approaching most girl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Is it ALSO a red flag if a man has had casual sex but never a relationship?It's the same red flag as a woman who's only had casual sex. It's not unattractive, it's just a lot harder to trust and want to have a relationship with. Probably you should say you've dated one girl for a year, that'll make you seem like you can at maintain a semblance of a relationship. Maybe even confess she didn't exist after some time if the relationship goes well - say you were embarrassed that you only had casual sex (it seems like you are anyway). Next | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: If you were suddenly placed in the shoes of an average guy, what steps would you take to get casual sex with someone genuinely attracted to you? How about a relationship?All of my partners but 1 were casual sex, none were treated as fleshlight unless they specifically asked for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: If you were suddenly placed in the shoes of an average guy, what steps would you take to get casual sex with someone genuinely attracted to you? How about a relationship?For you sex is better with those things. Others like the thrill of being wanted for a night of adventurous sex - maybe especially people who're not entirely confident they would be able to get it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: If you were suddenly placed in the shoes of an average guy, what steps would you take to get casual sex with someone genuinely attracted to you? How about a relationship?^ This girl knows. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 07:36 PM |
| – | Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells youbut the 'lonely guys' don't really aim for that -- they have a problem with attracting anyone at all, they are seen as perpetual 'besties' No hot girl would have an ugly bestie. If you're close friends with girls you can probably at least have a mid-girlfriend. In other words average is more than enough to get a girlfriend, even if you have to be more impressive when courting. I don't think not being able to casually sleep with girls is an invalid concern though, but that's for another post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?It's a universal, but most girls are fine with 5'11-6'0. He will need to court a bit more than 6'4 probably. I mean, 3 dates is still courting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?I might send a message to a past partner who I Believe is single, but wouldn't say it's vigorous - a simple one-time what's up let's meet But yeah - I know what you mean, some guys don't handle their emotions well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Oh, you mean one night stand. Casual sex can be multiple times.. I mean I've had a casual thing with a girl for 2.5 years - met weekly and other than that we would talk once a week to confirm the meet. But yeah I agree, if you want casual it's better to not seem like you're gonna take up a lot of her time & energy, especially if she's looking for something long-term while you're at it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Of course she's lying, but she also has an image to maintain - especially if she wants you long-term. I've had casual sex (meaning they knew it was casual) with girls who initially wanted long-term, but even they waited 3 dates a lot of the time. I don't think if I asked that question on first date they'd necessarily say yes, and it wouldn't be cuz they're not physically attracted. I'd love it if there was a verbal way to quickly find out, but unless you're like a 9 I think a lot of girls woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Flexible, yes. Highly - doubtful. Maybe if you mean preferences - I mean I prefer a 9, but I'd fuck a 6. But a 9 is not standard, it's above-standards. Unless rate yourself a 5 or something, I don't know any hot woman who wouldn't occasionally sleep with a 7 if personality+context allow it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?You're missing the point - they're duping a woman who seeks a relationship for sex, and fuck her casually - these guys don't think they're hot enough for on-purpose casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 10:21 PM |
| – | Women aren't attracted to confidence, they hate confidence in men they don't find attractiveI'm not. But "Women would prefer that all men's confidence were proportional to how attractive they found them." They find you less attractive when you're unconfident - you can't know how attractive you are if you don't consistently act confident and try.. There's a reason I sometimes act socially-anxious - it is possible to feel unattractive without it being true, I think a lot of people do that to themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 10:19 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do girls pursue or give signals only to good looking guys?So why do you have flings with average-looking guys? Wouldn't you rather they be... hot? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 09:11 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do girls pursue or give signals only to good looking guys?Relationships, end-up. Not casual-sex, fun, or early 20s. Average guys tend to lack in the sex-for-fun department | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do girls pursue or give signals only to good looking guys?That's actually a great answer. What did the other friends think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Because the hot guys won't commit to a girl who's a 6.5-7. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:51 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Attractive is a wide range - a lot of attractive guys need to court | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?I mean if he's really hot he's got a 26y/o waiting.. But sure, if top 20% is hot then yeah can do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?What does letting her go mean | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Well put | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?He specifically asked about physical attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?If that's the case you're gonna stay a virgin for a long time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?She'll say "no cuz I don't do casual sex" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?I think some women's standards for casual are higher than their LTR standards (regarding looks). Even the ones who "don't do" casual sex have this story about that one time "but he was REALLY hot" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Men lie about their intentions all the time for sex "Yes, I'm looking for something serious, want to be a father". I don't do it cuz I want her lust, not her thinking she's cutting some relationship deal. But I have friends who do it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:41 PM |
| 5 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?I think with somewhat hot girls who have no issue getting relationships, their standards as to men's looks are about the same casual or dating (but pretty high nonetheless), whereas girls who have issues locking down partners might settle looks for a relationship but not for casual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?I don’t think they don’t care, it’s really less acceptable. It used to be an official DSM disorder if a guy wanted to get aesthetic surgery | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?Well played sir | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:32 AM |
| 5 | Do women resent men who are late bloomers?So the question really is... do experienced women resent inexperienced men wanting only inexperienced women? Yes. It has nothing with women (experienced or not) resenting inexperienced men altogether. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Men's complaints about the state of dating all come down to this one inconvenient truth...Well, I do. I don't mean that you should care - just that I can relate - it's very hard to let go of your so-called "ego" and let yourself crash and burn. Sometimes I manage to get myself to do it with honestly surprising results - most times nope. I imagine your mindset around this issue is healthier/more-productive than mine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 04:20 AM |
| -2 | Men's complaints about the state of dating all come down to this one inconvenient truth...How do you see disinterest? Most girls I've made out with in clubs I couldn't get to make eye contact with me before I approached and said something/waved my hand. Some later said they did see me before I approached, but either I don't read the room or they're very good at hiding their looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 11:38 PM |
| 7 | Men's complaints about the state of dating all come down to this one inconvenient truth...Socialization is real, be shy and you got nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 10:14 PM |
| 2 | If only men with no options wife promiscuous women then why do we see celebrity men doing it all the time? Logan Paul, Will Smith, Russell Wilson a few examplesOf course it's abnormal - it's low. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | If only men with no options wife promiscuous women then why do we see celebrity men doing it all the time? Logan Paul, Will Smith, Russell Wilson a few examplesAu contraire. Sex doesn't equal dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't attracted to confidence, they hate confidence in men they don't find attractiveI don't know dude, When I act meekly and socially-anxious - I get nothing - 0. When I act with confidence and take action - some women are attracted, some are even VERY attracted. Sure, if you're unattractive it will be perceived as lack of self-awareness. Sure, SOME women probably think I don't look good enough to be confident - but others are surprised to hear I'm sometimes unconfident. Thing is, your friend is right - if you don't try to act confident you won't know if you're attractive, cu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 04:41 PM |
| 3 | The different types of WomenShe asked about the career ladies, why they get the bad sex box. For comparison - I dated a successful accountant - tied best sex with my myth-ex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Women (most of the time) are REPULSED by inexperienced men.Yup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Women (most of the time) are REPULSED by inexperienced men.So you're talking about average men who for some reason have seriously lower-than-average sexual experience. There's a why question begging to be asked. Anyway, I first had sex when I was 21 with a girl who had been with 2 guys - I told her I was a virgin. She was surprised, we dated for 9 years - so there's your case, she didn't care. Sure, if you're 29 and a virgin it's gonna ring some bells - but shouldn't it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 12:49 AM |
| -1 | Do you feel that joining the pillsphere community has made a positive change in your life?So if someone heard and agreed with 1 red-pill concept, it means he agrees with everything and is to be avoided? In that case you should avoid all evolutionary-psych department, cuz some (some, read that again - some) red-pill concepts are compatible with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 11:36 PM |
| 5 | Do you feel that joining the pillsphere community has made a positive change in your life?"Girls don't care about looks that much". I've known enough women who say that. Girls on TV still say that. You're talking about cum stains yet you're a virgin. Now, I'm not for red-pill, but (classical) red-pill is a lot reality compatible than blue-pill. In my view people do as people do, as was evolutionary sensible for them to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 11:34 PM |
| 6 | Women (most of the time) are REPULSED by inexperienced men.They're repulsed by unattractive men (who, not surprisingly, are inexperienced). Take a hot guy 26y/o, have him tell a girl he's a virgin and she'll laugh in disbelief. Have a nice story about it and she'll be thrilled to be your first. Q.E.D | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 11:30 PM |
| 1 | The Central Limit Theorem, and why it doesn’t matter.Oh I'm sorry for confusing - it says right in the title - this is just simulated points with correlation @ .4 . But studies I've seen regarding PA assortativeness show no more than .45, so it would be about the same.. Sure, you'd have the mean be at 7 - but the spread is so wide it has almost no bearing on your actual results IRL.. I guess at the ends it'd be more obvious - if you're a 3 you're getting nothing, if you're a 10 you're probably dating very high. But 5-6-7 - they're all over the pla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 04:28 PM |
| 1 | The Central Limit Theorem, and why it doesn’t matter.Also, your own perception of your "quality" or mate value is likely SUPER OFF and what you actually can attract is a better hint at what your value is, than what you think you should be getting or who is "in your league". I agree of course that preconceptions worth.. not even zero - they're of negative value. That's exactly why I emphasized taking action - after some time you'll have a distribution of what you're getting - that's your mate value distribution given your current lifestyle, style, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever felt that by not having children you are non fulfilling your biological duty?People who sacrifice for humanity make me sick tbh. I don't believe them and I think they're the most psychopathic individuals I know | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 10:41 PM |
| 0 | Have you ever felt that by not having children you are non fulfilling your biological duty?Do you have siblings? Do they have children? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever felt that by not having children you are non fulfilling your biological duty?P.S I am nihilistic. So don’t believe any life meaning other than biological reproduction. A true nihilist wouldn't call biological reproduction meaning. Biological reproduction is what biologic organisms *tend* to do. It's not about meaning - they just wouldn't be here if they wouldn't do it. What do you mean you can't do that - I thought you said you just don't want to? If I couldn't, I'd feel bad. But if I just didn't want it.. I'd just not want it. Another thing - reproduction didn't n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 10:39 PM |
| 2 | The Central Limit Theorem, and why it doesn’t matter.I don't know if the Ivory-Tower pov always captures the issue, especially when using self-reports and lab-scenarios. Surely counting on internet meme is not better, but in a subject where one's experience is eventually what matters, I presume optimizing your lifestyle, looks, sociability and taking statistically-significant action is much better than counting on research when trying to decide which kind of girl you should be getting. Not to mention the fact that most people can't even derive the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 10:09 PM |
| 3 | The Central Limit Theorem, and why it doesn’t matter.I'm.. not sure the CLT is the issue here.. They just see those anomalies, and report them as if they're normal - and you have availability bias - no one is going online saying "I just saw a couple where both were hot". A girl with a given hotness level will pair-up with a guy of about the same hotness level ON AVERAGE - there's a distribution around her hotness and guys of all kinds of attraction levels will pair up with a girl of her caliber - it's just that most of them will be around her le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 10:03 PM |
| 1 | If you want to understand why women feel so adverse to being approached, try being a somewhat middle class person in a struggling third world country.That's crazy, first time I'm hearing about this. Just read 2-3k are arrested for that yearly, I wonder why Japan has this so prevalently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 09:26 PM |
| 0 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.If you're ugly nothing will work. Vast majority aren't ugly. If you're average you'll get laid - sometimes ok women, sometimes less, the odd hot one - but if you put in the effort you'll be able to get laid. Above average and you can get nice results IF you put in the effort. very Attractive - well, we know what happens there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:26 PM |
| 1 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.Of course they face rejections.. Question is if they can get 3% of them to kiss/have sex. Not everyone needs to be a player, it's ok to just have sex sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:24 PM |
| 1 | If you want to understand why women feel so adverse to being approached, try being a somewhat middle class person in a struggling third world country.Why would he do the same spiel? he knows he has the goods, he can show you if you'll listen. And yes, fuckboys are a dime a dozen, that's why girls sometimes take it slow even if they're attracted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:22 PM |
| 1 | If you want to understand why women feel so adverse to being approached, try being a somewhat middle class person in a struggling third world country.Daily? Well that's Cartagena level - why isn't there more punishment for it? is it just acceptable? EDIT: When I say daily I mean to a specific person who's not living in the worst part of town - not daily as in "it happens somewhere in the city" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:21 PM |
| 2 | If you want to understand why women feel so adverse to being approached, try being a somewhat middle class person in a struggling third world country.Notice the usually part? I've been grabbed too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:20 PM |
| 5 | If you want to understand why women feel so adverse to being approached, try being a somewhat middle class person in a struggling third world country.Men usually don't go grabbing people. It happens, but it's not an everyday experience if she lives anywhere half-decent. And if she doesn't - well you've seen what happens in Cartagena | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 12:24 AM |
| 3 | If you want to understand why women feel so adverse to being approached, try being a somewhat middle class person in a struggling third world country.You're ALMOST right. This is why female feel so adverse to being approached - by low-value (read: unattractive) men. Sure, you're getting set-off by the homeless, beggars and weirdos. But what if an tall good-looking American, well-dressed businessman approached you? I bet you'll have some time to listen to him, wouldn't you? So yes, you're right - women who're constantly approached by low-tier men develop an ick to men approaching - but if/when they're approached by hot guys that whole thing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 12:23 AM |
| 4 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.Oh I know exactly what he did. He approached a higher-than-average looking woman while being average. That can land you in jail in some places, he's lucky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 11:09 PM |
| 2 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.lol? I don't know about normal, but attractive people do exactly that. Either that or Tinder - but then you actually need to take good pics too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 11:06 PM |
| 2 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.I really don't think it's most men. Most of the guys I know who're unsuccessful sit at their home and whine about women liking bad boys, money or they just whine about themselves. When I'm least successful is when I'm least approaching and responding on Tinder. Give me 2 weeks without porn and like magic a lay appears - I find it very hard to deal with fear of approaching when not horny enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 11:05 PM |
| 1 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.tbh I've been surprised by good* responses (read: makeouts) from women who seemed to not be aware I exist before I approached them. I wouldn't advise waiting for the look, it doesn't happen often enough and it's sometimes too subtle to notice. *obviously, expect mostly rejections, but it's sometimes worth it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 11:02 PM |
| 3 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.I still don't get it.. Like.. they lick it? I got licked a lot, still feel ugly sometimes don't worry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 10:57 PM |
| 4 | Being a "good person" or not has zero impact on your dating lifeI agreed with everything until that part: - I would make sure they could see me texting my other plates if we were cuddling For one, that's offensive even for my taste (I've been banned for 30 days here once, my taste is pretty flexible). But the worse thing is - even girls who knowingly dated (read: fucked) me while I dated others would react very badly if I did something like that, it's outright disrespectful. I'd react the same, even if she was fwb. This leads me to conclude the girl(s) in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 01:42 PM |
| 4 | considering what constitutes an "average”I'd say she's about average. Average is not unattractive in women, I'd say average men are unattractive though. <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Selective Empathycares deeply about those within her ‘circle of intimacy’. Those outside her circle are mostly invisible. She will feel some level of empathy for any member of the sisterhood, but the average guy doesn't exist on her radar. The same could be said about me, I'm a guy. Why would you care about someone you have no stakes with? I mean beyond some vague morality you've been fed to at kindergarten. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/09/23 07:45 AM |
| 2 | The average man is shamed when he has standards. How to make someone understand that this is not cool?That the guy won't be shamed? By who? he's not supposed to go on his Facebook page and announce it, just pick the woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 07:42 AM |
| 1 | The average man is shamed when he has standards. How to make someone understand that this is not cool?It's kinda ironic, but it's realistic, and he won't be shamed anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 04:07 AM |
| 1 | The average man is shamed when he has standards. How to make someone understand that this is not cool?I don't think anyone SHOULD be shamed, I just find it funny when it's obviously not gonna happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 03:13 AM |
| 3 | The average man is shamed when he has standards. How to make someone understand that this is not cool?Why would anyone be shamed for his standards? I mean I can see how it's funny if there's no way his standards can be met - i.e a 28 y/o virgin (read: probably unattractive) man looking for a low-count pretty woman - good luck. But tbh short women can get pretty tall men if they're hot enough or if they relax demand for some other features - so that's just preference, not funny. OTOH a 6 woman looking for a 666 man - now that's funny | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 02:24 AM |
| 1 | What is the goal in consuming RP dating content?Original RP content was about teaching guys about women's behavior and wants so that guys can emulate said behavior and change themselves to accommodate those wants. Not the wants of a specific girl the guy is "in love" with - wants of girls in general. Whether their original theory of girls' behaviors and wants is correct or not - it was about teaching guys to try and be an attractive man, for whatever purpose the guy wants to be attractive. Now? I don't even know wtf they're doing.. just a whi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Do TRULY average men actually struggle to date and have sex?If you mean have sex with 1-3 lifetime partners, ending up with someone who wanted others but saw you as the stable available option and (hopefully) learned to love you - yeah, no struggle there. Anything extra and it's a struggle for the average guy - random hookups with pretty girls, being sought after with lust, settling down when you're really ready and not by default, and to a woman who knows you CHOSE her out of many options, and not just settled as well - yeah, good luck. Most people ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Would you consider dating someone overweight or obese?M4F I wouldn't, but sometimes I go for sex if I'm in a low season - usually I regret it and have to end it after 1-2 encounters. If she's very mildly overweight it's fine, if you can see her skin sagging it's over. No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 08:14 AM |
| 11 | CMV: The average man is attracted to the average woman. The average woman is not attracted to the average man.It's a constant battle to upgrade your looks so 'yes' will be more common, and upgrade your behavior so that 'maybe' turns into yes faster and with more probability. Of course you need to not fuck up the yes - but that's very basic "don't be socially inept and anxious" stuff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 04:48 AM |
| 3 | It is not your parents' job to teach you how to attract a partnerWhat do you mean it's NOT their job? Technically nothing is their job except keeping you alive and keeping some minor state laws. Don't worry, I'll teach my son how to attract partners. People looking for someone to blame is not my department | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 02:43 AM |
| 3 | What's the incentive for men not to be "toxically masculine", if that's what most women go for?You'd think body-positivity is catering to women. It's catering to thin women - they have less competition, while men have less supply of viable women. A double win for thin/hot women. Look at the consequences, not at the superficial message | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Why do men not like women "settling" for them if they are doing the same thing?Guys who strike out with women don't invest in those women - they strike-out. Those women (if the guy is not a total simp) got around 0 value from him. Girls who strike out for relationship invested a lot - kinky fast sex, emotional turmoil, time - Things she would not do with the guy she settled for. Of course, if he did get those experiences with her (maybe minus turmoil) then I don't see where the settling is and all is well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 03:22 AM |
| 5 | What's the incentive for men not to be "toxically masculine", if that's what most women go for?It's not 'they' - it's the media. Most women don't give a shit about toxic masculinity or bs like this, unless you're in very specific circles in new york or cali | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?Yeah I don't mind how she cums, but if she can cum vaginally with others and not with me that would be pretty annoying I think. I had a girl who claimed she could cum vaginally, and could only cum from clit with me - she said maybe it's cuz we're fwb and she felt weird about it cuz she only had bf/gf sex. I didn't think much of it and sex was very good and kinky. Anyway after like 4 months she started cumming easily vaginally with me, I don't know if I changed anything about what I did. Was ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?Some women just touch themselves during PIV... if they don't the man can do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?I don't get the casual hookups meaning the man doesn't care, either about the woman or about her orgasming.. I always care she enjoys (and orgasms if possible), and I don't think I ever had sex with someone I really didn't care about (including ONS with a tourist I met at 4am). Sure, I heard about guys not caring - I just don't get it.. If I wouldn't care I think masturbation would be more fun tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 02:33 AM |
| 1 | [Wall Street Journal] Dating Apps Put a Hefty Price Tag on Finding Love [x-post from /r/Economics]Why pay if you get no matches? It doesn't make sense. You pay when you have matches but want more volume. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 05:29 AM |
| 4 | Are women socially embarrassed if they don't have a hot guy?It's not a "you guys" issue - it's a "why are you talking to idiots" issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 05:19 AM |
| 1 | 70% of all younger woman are in relationships where as only 30% of younger men areI think 70 vs 30 is WAY overstating it. Where's the source? I think the difference is like 20% at most | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 01:33 PM |
| 9 | Women not being attracted to their partners - Is it really true?I know at least one woman who said something similar. "He's not my type, but he was so cute". She was gonna end it after 1st date but he was cute on text or something. Sure enough, she took her time with sex - and I think they're together nowdays. I don't have enough knowledge to know if she now considers herself attracted to him - but in my book that's a relationship I would NEVER want to be a part of. But it's ok, I escalate pretty fast so a woman who's not attracted to me will probabl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:57 PM |
| 0 | Women not being attracted to their partners - Is it really true?It's true in that SOME women do it. The red pill takes a subset of women (and different subsets for different scenarios at that), and builds a monolith of women that encapsulates all 'lame' women behaviors. - Saying "I never have sex on 1st" with one guy while going to Chad's house after 30 minutes on Tinder - Fucking Chad while young but marrying Beta when stakes become high (maybe even cheating) - Withholding sex from bf to get other benefits. Some women do this some of the time, even fewe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:51 PM |
| 6 | When women learn men of all ages are attracted to teens, women can no longer look at men the same way.This thread is basically a ban bait as anything by men about sexualizing minors is against reddit TOS, no thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?I’m sorry it’s too long, But I’ll respond to the gist. Notice I said I want to increase the rate of it being on 1st, and being more consistent at it. Obviously some girls are just not gonna do it, not gonna do it that day cuz of period, or some other reason. This is about measuring me, not the girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 05:50 AM |
| – | Nightclubs are not the right place to meet womenlol I don't know, but he had a good business going back then so I don't think that was an issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?I sometimes have sex on first date - I take it as meaning the girl is very attracted to me. Though sometimes it just means the girl was horny that day and I was in her way. That's why consistency matters - if it happens more it means I've gotten more attractive. If I expect ONS to give me compliments.. when? When first meeting? Maybe, if she's the complimenting type or she thinks I'm super hot.. Or if the sex was super hot and she's one to talk about sex she just had. I wouldn't say I expect it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Where do above average but not hot men fall in terms of dating?Handsome is distant enough from average to "always get told", above-average is just ok, not unattractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Discussion : Are you being settled for or a beta bux if you managed to attract a girl primarily because of your personality and chemistry?Sex right from the get go was “fine” but she’s never noticeably into you on a superficial level, at least not like she’s been into other men before. Say no more. Yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?I'll give you both what I think and what happens irl. No noticeable feedback from exes, My facial structure is pretty attractive, but my nose, and specifically nose/jaw combo is very annoying to me - probably like a 7, depends who you ask - any self-esteem issues I have are hanging around there. I'm pretty fit and have an attractive body shape but muscle-mass is a bit on the small side (I'm 68kg@180cm - leg-day??) - probably will be attended to in a year with some good diet/gym/sleep discipline.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Nightclubs are not the right place to meet womenThe hottest girls I've made out with were in clubs (apart from my ex who I met at work) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Nightclubs are not the right place to meet womenMy sister met her husband at a night club, he moved in after 3 weeks - so there's that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Where do above average but not hot men fall in terms of dating?If you're always told that, you're not above-average - you're handsome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | How has your ex partner's life turned out compared to your own?Ok, can relate. I don't think she was bpd, but yeah there were volatile ups and downs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 09:54 PM |
| 1 | What's one of the most profound things you've learned about dating?If you are a man who expresses his sexuality freely (and you should) - some women, some of the time, are going to find you creepy. It’s simply unavoidable. No matter how cool, rich, good-looking and charming you are, at some point, somewhere, a woman is going to be creeped out by you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 11:34 PM |
| 6 | AF/BB is a bad strategy for women.What if she just fucks 10/10 until 27 and then marries the 7, child-free? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Men have been manipulated by women to the point where they can't live without them, so they'll do anything women ask.Who are those men? Not me.. Not most I know... You're living in a sitcom | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 11:23 PM |
| 7 | How has your ex partner's life turned out compared to your own?Why... did you marry a crazy woman and had a kid with a bpd woman? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 11:14 PM |
| 4 | Questions regarding the male gazeGonna get looked at | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Questions regarding the male gazeI don't talk, I don't look - people think I'm extroverted :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:23 AM |
| 3 | Questions regarding the male gazelol your responses are funny pretty much the opposite of other girls here though - you think you're out of norm? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Questions regarding the male gazeHow would you know about an assstare? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Questions regarding the male gazeStay online, it's nice and cozy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Questions regarding the male gazeHow much time is piece of meat feeling? Seriously asking.. or is it the intensity along with the fact you already 'showed him you saw him looking'? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Women arent destroying masculinity, men areWhat if I told you Society doesn't exist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:07 AM |
| 2 | CMV: neurodivergent/guys on the spectrum should seek partners on the spectrumIt is.. no trouble? I mean you're one case.. would you say that's true on average? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 12:50 AM |
| 5 | CMV: neurodivergent/guys on the spectrum should seek partners on the spectrum"Last year, research by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control found that nearly a third of children with autism are severely overweight, compared to 13 percent of typically developing children. " For starters | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 12:49 AM |
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