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That's pretty scary (to me anyway). Earlier this year a man who I know works security for the dutch railway (I know that that's not the same as being a cop) wanted me to be his gf on the side....his main gf and him have an open relationship.. and I declined. But it did get me thinking about how risky it could be to date an actual cop. If you have a messy breakup this person could have many more tools in his hands to ruin your life. Regular men can be dangerous and unstable during and after a bre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:40 PM
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I saw a short video not so long ago about obesity being the biggest threat to US national security. Because many people are just not fit to fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:19 PM
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So here's a thought I had in response to women saying they think guys in uniform are handsome; You've probably even heard of women saying they have a uniform fetish right? Maybe men look good in uniform because 1=most if not all army/navy/armed forces uniforms are designed to make the average male shape look better (I'm saying this from a fashion school background). 2=most guys, when they need to pick their own outfit, don't dress well. So if you like a guy in uniform, keep yourself from swoonin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:05 AM
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But doesn't that make you feel bad that he always looks up anything factual you say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:45 AM
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TLDR: consider the possibility that your bf thinks you're not intelligent. ​ I used to have a friend who did that. Turns out she thought very lowly of me. Turns out she could only be friends with people she considered inferior to her (she tried to hide it by saying "I'm just really competitive with my friends" but the truth is that she needed to feel superior), and if I had a skill she didn't have she would try to learn it asap. At first I thought she was just interested in things I was doing. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:11 PM
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I noticed how much better I was suddenly treated when I switched from my own name to a unisex/gender neutral nickname for my yt username. No more men trying to correct me. Suddenly people just believed what I said and didn't try to correct or argue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:56 PM
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Aside from the obvious reasons why he's an asshole, here's my opinion. I don't go to restaurants for the food, but I also wouldn't go to a restaurant which I knew served bad food. I can make delicious things at home, even some things some people think are complicated (indian, south korean, japanese, etc, from scratch) so that's one less reason to go to a restaurant. I can have those things at home and control every thing that goes into them and not spend a lot of money. I go to the restaurant fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:26 PM
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One thing that bothers me is that some (too many imo) men won't even be civil with you in general social interaction just because they think you don't fall in the fuckable category. Some men will spin this into "women forcing men to find them attractive" which is really missing the point and reveals so much about their thought process. Some men will argue that what I am describing doesn't exist or that I'm complaining about men not being super nice to me. Enough men have been honest about what I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:15 PM
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I'm very happy to check up on my plants every day. I say "how are you doing today?" and check if they need water and pick up anything that may have fallen onto the soil. I also felt a feeling of victory because I was able to grow and expand the mint plant I bought in the grocery store whilst the downstairs neighbor couldn't. He was so sure the grocery store did something to those plants (in the herb section) that made it so you couldn't grow them to be significantly bigger. I don't feel the need…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:27 PM
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I got carrots, mint and chinese cabbage up the wazoo but my lavender seeds won't germinate. I even went through stratification and still nothing.. Having said that plants are definitely more worthwhile than men. Just the aesthetic value that plants contribute to my apartment is enough for me to consider plants more worthwhile than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:36 PM
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All in all I just hate it when you say "no" to something and are very clear about it, but then the guy tries to sneakily manipulate you into doing what you said no to. This is such a good example of the fact that he doesn't respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:52 PM
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What you describe sounds like at least a few female characters in movies. Male fantasy crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:48 PM
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I do like high quality anime. But that's a short list so you're soon through that list. "Giving gaming related gifts to someone who isn't passionate about it is so thoughtless." I wholeheartedly agree. I wish I had seen it for what it was sooner. We live and learn. He spent our relationship either keeping me low or tearing me down, and I built him up. I have it on good authority that he's miserable now. But I'm willing to bet he doesn't see that as a direct result of his actions but is blaming m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:34 PM
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The bf in question has what she suspects is autism spectrum disorder. She thinks his hurtful behavior is explained because "he doesn't understand social norms". I have classic autism and I think he's just an ass. He wants everything his way and has tried many manipulation tactics. He even treated her pretty well for the first 3 months (which is how he reeled her in) and then slowly became less nice to her and yet expects her to stay even with his bad treatment of her. IMO he understands social n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:28 PM
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I hope it helps to avoid all of the negative men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:36 AM
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Like we're supposed to happily start watching Bleach or whatever shitty anime he watches, meanwhile they'd never even consider learning about fashion/art/any stereotypically feminine hobby. I laughed at this because it's true. My recent ex tried to get me interested in his interests. I had to sit through at least 10 episodes of "one piece" before he begrudgingly accepted I wasn't into it. I knew after 3 episodes. I'm not much into anime to begin with though. At most I watch one series a year. Mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:33 AM
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if you would like music or games(male interest) they would tell your music or games are dumb and less intelectual, cool than theirs. This is very recognizable. All my exes did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:08 AM
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This is very welcome reading material, I've downloaded it to my desktop. Thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:06 AM
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Very true. I'd prefer a guy who restores old furniture over a gamer any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:02 AM
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it can also be a sign that the man has serious narcissistic traits He definitely was. He also attempted to gaslight and manipulate me into accepting his bad behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:01 AM
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This was very insightful, thank you. I've never been on OLD. I started to want to give it a go in January just before the epidemic became known. I ended up not making a profile. I've been absorbing and learning so much from FDS and discussing it with a female friend who I knew would be open to it. I look at heterosexual relationships in a different light now. I started thinking about everything surrounding that topic, even heterosexual relationships in movies. At times I'm stuck between thinking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:59 AM
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This has become my homewear style lately, especially since lockdown started and I live alone. I don't even understand my past self anymore who would wear jeans and a bra when home alone. I now like everything stretchy, soft and breathable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:43 AM
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Good point. If a woman likes a men's hobby she's not genuinely interested, not as good at is as a man, or doesn't understand it like a man does. For example the "fake gamer girl" and the reactions women get when they like repairing cars or something like that. The ex before the most recent one thought he was better at repairs/home improvement because he was a man. I wasn't allowed to do it because he said he would do it. As a result nearly nothing got repaired in the first place and stuff would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:04 AM
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This confirms my suspicion. Many thanks for the links, I've added them to my watch later list. I've noticed guys complain about movies that have a female lead who is kicking ass and taking names, and they call them "female wish fulfillment" or "pandering to the female fantasy" or something along those lines. If you bring up there are plenty of movies like that for men, always have been, you got trouble. Plenty of movies where the average joe gets to play the hero/adventurer/spy and then gets the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:52 AM
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This was really impressive. I honestly don't have much understanding of politics and society. Lately I've been asking myself if I even want to put myself back into the dating market. The global situation and lockdown has given me a very easy excuse not to go back out there so I've had plenty of time to think about things. On one side I'm thinking I want to give it another go because I'm a new person on the inside (with the self confidence and self worth that has been growing over the years, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:44 AM
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The Netherlands, in a very old house (I live on the first and second floor, so technically what is called a "maisonette apartment" aka 2 story apartment), and the insulation situation is like a glorified cardboard box. Leaky and very cold in winter, autumn and spring. I will be moving when something suitable comes on the renting market.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:28 AM
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Great points. I didn't change for him, and even sometimes stood up for myself when I didn't agree with him. This made him very angry, likely also because at the end of the 8 year relationship I was no longer the pickme low self esteem woman he had started the relationship with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:15 AM
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I wonder why some men keep insisting on keeping this big divide between what is considered the things of men and the things of women. Did this big divide come from a sexist society, so the men are so afraid to be seen as feminine that they keep this structure in place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:01 PM
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Men have us coming and going then. Because they consider calling a woman manly an insult, and a woman who is into manly stuff is not a real woman, but if she likes feminine stuff it's also weak/inferior/frivolous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:58 PM
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Thanks to the comments in this thread I'm starting to realize that is likely the case. What makes me a little sour then is that he had no problem asking me to make and fix items for him (I made plenty of sewing projects for him, and when something needed repair I was naturally the person to take care of it), despite it being "an inferior hobby". He didn't even ask, he took it for granted I would do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:56 PM
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I never understood how gaming and watching movies and tv series for hours on end as beneficial to one's life or well being. I agree. I call those passive hobbies because they don't produce anything other than entertainment and escapism. The ex and I are broken up and I caught myself thinking "doesn't he miss the sense of accomplishment and fulfillment with his hobbies?" but now I realize he may still get those from gaming and watching movies. It's just not me who gets those from those hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:50 PM
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Do you think they are negative towards your interests because they're your (a woman's) interests? So maybe; -if a woman likes feminine interests it's dumb because they're feminine interests and they're not as good as men's interests -if a woman likes male interests it's dumb because she isn't really genuinely interested, doesn't understand the hobby/activity, isn't as good at it as a man would be and can't appreciate it and see it like men do (for example the response to "gamer girls" or women w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:45 PM
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I’ve had so many guys I’ve dated tell me that they want to see me in sweat pants looking frumpy. My ex did that too. I started doing it on sundays. I dressed in cotton leggings, fleece leggings over the cotton leggings, one regular pair of socks, anti-slip "home socks" over the regular socks, then a t-shirt, followed by a long sleeve shirt, followed by a fleece jacket with a zipper, and then my hair in a clip. Bare face, only skin care on. Then I liked it so much that I started doing it every su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:36 PM
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I read "round of applesauce" and didn't get it until I listened to the song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:26 PM
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Has anyone seen the tv series "Äkta människor " or the UK version "humans" https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4122068/?ref_=vp_back Because that is one way this could go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:37 AM
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I think seeing this was helpful. Also the less I am actually entertaining the thought of dating men (I also have the option of dating women) the more it makes sense to me that the man should pay. When you pay for dates you're courting me, showing you are invested. When you pay for stuff when the relationship evolves past the dating phase you're showing you are invested by providing for me. When I first read the FDS handbook the "men should pay" bit did not make sense to me. Or at least I thought…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:44 PM
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Men are praising traditional gender roles, and fetishizing russian women because of it, until they hear they have to pay and provide. But then they also complain about manly western women who pay for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:28 PM
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I feel this, but not from a porn perspective. I'm pretty short for my country's standards at 1.64m, but my musculoskeletal frame (the build of the skeleton and the amount of muscle) is pretty wide with wide shoulders and wide hips so I look sturdy and not petite/dainty at a healthy weight. I lost weight so I was in the lower end of my healthy weight range but that didn't make me look petite/dainty either. That just made me look like a wide coat rack. It was hard for me to accept that I will neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:33 AM
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I use "red flag" with the meaning "something might be wrong here". Kind of like a pre-warning. Sometimes a red flag turns out to be something innocent. But that's very rare with men imo. There are things that are at least partially out of someone's control that might prevent them from forming relationships. Like mental health for example. In that case I would say staying single whilst taking care of mental health and working on yourself is the best thing to do, until the time where you are able …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:15 PM
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I would even say a man who has never had a relationship at age 30, despite wanting a relationship and trying to get one, is a huge red flag. That means all of the other women he encountered voted "no" on him. I've never met a woman who never had a relationship at age 30. And if they hadn't, despite wanting one and trying to get one, I would consider that very unusual and a sign that something went wrong somewhere. So yeah, red flag there as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:23 PM
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I don't know if the pool of gay/bi men is bigger than the pool of bi/gay women. Just that the pool of gay/bi women is tiny compared to the pool of het men. Would be nice if the pool of gay/bi women increased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:20 PM
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Good point. The wlw dating pool is a small stagnant pond. It's tiny compared to the amount of hetero men. If I went looking I'm pretty sure I'd have trouble finding a woman (bi or lesbian) who is around my age, in my tiny country and my type and still single. I'd have to fish in the right places and have a whole lot of patience. Meanwhile bi women are still getting approached by lots of het men. And people question it when bi women end up with men, they say "you weren't really bi then, just doin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:09 PM
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I hate it when I get approached for threesomes. Luckily I have not put myself in the position where this could happen often (I've never gone on dating sites). I'm immediately offended when I'm approached for this purpose. The women choose someone that isn't so beautiful that it makes them insecure, but not so ugly that their man won't want to fuck em. You're only there to "rekindle" or "save" their relationship, most of the women aren't into women. You're just a sex toy, a third wheel, so the gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:45 PM
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I agree. But I would also say it tends to suck a bit less imo. When women are pushy it's annoying, but they don't bother me as much as men have. When women are aggressive I'm not as scared as I have been about men. Many of the things people say that annoys them when dating men/weeding men out I've noticed with women too. Things like not taking no for an answer (so you have to block them), low effort messages "wyd?" and making things too sexual too fast. Some just come off as predatory. I'm not o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:17 PM
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Things like this make me wish I didn't want anything of men. Luckily we learn a thing or two about red flags after suffering through our past relationships. I wish you good luck at your work place. See what can be done about the sexism on the work floor without you being bullied into wearing something you don't like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:43 PM
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Good point. What good is it if they can but won't. Meanwhile men who love you will go above and beyond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:41 PM
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Being able to cook goes with being an adult imo. I won't date a man who can't cook. Both of my exes bragged about being able to cook and tried to impress me. Neither of them were any good at cooking. One of them even managed to melt a vintage plastic colander of mine. I also know how to sand and repaint old furniture. I'd respect a man with full on carpenter skills though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:35 PM
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Thank you for the fun anecdote. Something I've noticed that I find weird; I've always had stereotypical feminine interests (sewing, knitting, crochet, fashion, cooking, flower arranging, interior decorating, etc), even went to fashion school. And I'm pretty sure it's been my "performance of femininity" that attracted my exes in the first place. Two long term relationships that used most of my twenties and all of my early thirties. 4 years and 8 years relationships. But then they complain about s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:10 PM
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I don't know why men are so often like this, but I've noticed a trend in men having only passive hobbies (hobbies that don't produce anything. Like watching series, movies, gaming etc). Nearly all of the men I've known from my generation only have passive hobbies. And it is boring as heck. Whilst the women in my life all do something worth while. Like gardening, sewing, knitting, crochet, cooking, painting, fermenting their own vegetables, flower arrangement, home improvement, making home made p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:44 PM
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Are you looking for a body scrub or a face scrub? If it's for your body I highly recommend what's called an "italy towel". This is a south korean exfoliating washcloth that is very effective and budget friendly. I've been using it to eradicate my keratosis pilaris with great success. You can use the italy towels with the milder abrasiveness levels on your face too if you're careful. I do. https://www.apartmenttherapy.com/italy-towel-korean-skincare-how-to-use-255900 ​ I use the yellow (highest a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:20 PM
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I think you should put this question on a subreddit dedicated to home made skin care. Maybe an oat based scrub could work for you. My skin is dry/normal so I can't really give you tailored advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:43 PM
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Beware that some of these types can be very "edgelord" and think they are smarter than everyone else. You'd pick up on this quite quickly though since these guys brag with their edginess, so if it feels good and no red flags you can proceed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:42 PM
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I have classic autism and let my ex live with me for 3 months for free, plus I did all of the housework. His income was 3 times as much as mine. The asshole in the story is just a stingy bastard who sees everything as transactional and hasn't heard of generosity or hospitality. Sometimes bad people are just bad people, no other diagnosis needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:29 AM
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Mostly I want to avoid getting into a situation where I'm forced to spend hours 'negotiating' and get manipulated into giving him another chance It's best to break up in a way where he doesn't have the opportunity to negotiate/state his case/say his say. I hate it when guys think it's somehow up to discussion and they have some power over the outcome. I've had a meek guy go pretty crazy after the breakup, so it's a good thing you're considering all the possible scenarios. My first concern would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:39 PM
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Thank you. I like the actual me. It's done wonders for my self esteem. I can now freely be a "girly girl" and am very unapologetic about the amount of shoes and bags I own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:29 PM
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I realized that because of years of long term relationships (4 years, 8 years) in my twenties and early thirties, and me bending myself/molding myself around them, doing stuff I wasn't comfortable with or enthusiastic about for them, under the banner of loyalty, for the sake of the relationship, "just keep an open mind" etc. I had lost sight of who I was and what I liked. I've been single for over a year now and it's like I'm getting to know myself (adult me) for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:19 PM
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I'd like to see (or at least open the discussion about) a post/handbook entry about safety regarding online dating. There's already websites that discuss this topic, but I'm interested in the FDS version on this topic. Some points to talk about within this topic might be -when should you agree to go to his place for the first time -the safe sex talk -are you being filmed -is he who he claims to be on his profile, and how to find out -common lies on OLD profiles and in messages -physical safety d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:09 AM
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During my last break up (8 year relationship), which lasted longer than I wanted because there was a lot of practical stuff that needed to be taken care of, I took the advice of "just communicate with him" and wrote an email explaining why I broke up with him since I felt like he didn't get it. It was a pretty long email. His response was dismissive, like I was the bad guy. It seems like in his story I am the bad guy and that I should have just accepted all of his boundary crossing behavior and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:58 AM
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he sent me a video of an extremely skinny emaciated girl (clearly anorexic) getting slammed repeatedly throat first onto a horizontally suspended thick metal chain by this huge guy Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:29 PM
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I hope that you will find as much support in the recovery forum (and the "sex and relationships" forum) as I encountered there. There are some people there that really care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:52 AM
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I have seen clinically obese men look their normal weight partner up and down if she gains even 3 pounds from being around him. This is what happened between me and my first boyfriend. I was 17 and a healthy weight when we got together, he was somewhere in his mid twenties and quite obese (big round gut, looking like he was 15 months pregnant with quadruplets) and also ugly, balding but with a long ponytail, jobless and also not getting an education so he was doing nothing all day, he was living…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:43 AM
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I think this is rooted in control because it's easier to control people with weak bodies, I've seen men write they prefer thin and frail girls because they can just pick them up and carry them around if they wanted to. I also think this is rooted in the obsession with women's youth. If you starve yourself and shave your pubic hair you look more like a prepubescent girl. Your breasts get smaller, your curves get less pronounced, you lose your period and usually also your libido. As you starve you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:02 PM
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I've seen posts on the forum a few times where a woman who battles an eating disorder goes from severely underweight to only slightly underweight and her partner starts making comments about how fat she's getting. "I am starting to think my bf has a type, and he only likes me when my bones pop out". And this happens even when the partner knows they're trying recovery. The guy says "I support your recovery, but recovery isn't an excuse to let yourself go" to a girl who is still underweight, just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:04 PM
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I found this on a eating disorder recovery forum I visit frequently. I wish I could say that posts like these were very rare. I am glad I am single and I am glad I was single when I started recovery, because who would want something like that on top of everything else that's already going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:46 PM
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"Simp" is used in different ways now, depending on who is doing the talking. I first encountered the word in the manosphere, where it meant any man who treated a woman well. Now it seems to have gotten into mainstream usage and people who aren't in the manosphere tend to use it to mean "someone who keeps chasing someone who is clearly not interested" or "someone who puts in a lot of effort for someone else who clearly does not reciprocate their feelings". As such there can be simp friendships as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:38 PM
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Some people have taken what you did for them for granted, now they complain about you being "selfish" when you don't bend over backwards for people who are not doing anything for you. I'm glad that you feel better now, are not depleted and feel joy. Have a greet week and weekend!.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:23 PM
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It seems we're in the exact same place in our lives when it comes to men and relationships. You are, imo, asking all the right questions. " is it just because I feel my value goes up because I do these things for him? " That could be it, but it could also be that you just love pleasing people you love. I love cooking my mother meals she enjoys, I love buying my best friend gifts she enjoys and would never buy herself. But the problem with men is that, apparently so I've learned, men and women ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:18 PM
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I recognize that type that wants to be babied. The first guy I mentioned (4.5year ltr) was also into diapers and ageplay. I kept an open mind because I loved him. But now I am just repulsed when I see most kink and bdsm type stuff. I just put in so much emotional labor, effort and time at the expense of my own quality of life in the past. I don't look down on women who like to boss men around, as long as they actually like bossing men around for their own sake. " I would never cook or clean for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:05 PM
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TLDR incoming; I didn't like having to play domme for 2 of my partners who liked to sub. I felt just as used. I have a very negative opinion about bdsm, doms and subs now. I've had two long term relationships (4.5 and 8 years) with guys who turned out to be really into BDSM, and they both preferred to be subs. I'm not into BDSM. Never have been. Don't see the appeal. As the dutiful partner I wanted to satisfy their "needs", but every time we had a session it was me serving them (as I played a do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:20 PM
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