| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 43 | Life on the other side | Gribblewomp | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 10:51 AM | |
| 37 | Cohabiting during and after the divorce | Gribblewomp | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 11:34 PM | |
| 23 | Experiences with cohabiting | Gribblewomp | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 12:54 PM | |
| 14 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to. | Gribblewomp | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 04:49 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | Do you want to find a new partner?That may be true. Like a window that opens once but then never again. Like once your leg’s off you can appreciate having two legs but that doesn’t mean you’re going to regenerate the thing! It feels true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 01:08 PM |
| 3 | Life on the other sideIt really does feel like new game + | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 01:15 AM |
| 6 | Do you want to find a new partner?New partners, yes. A new “one,” I think honestly that part of me died; the part that believed there was a special someone for everyone. Romantic love is a social fiction to me now. Maybe I’m wrong; I don’t think I’m wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Life on the other sideI had a few hours of being spooked by the quiet. In fact the first night I went out because I knew nothing good was going to happen to my emotions alone in the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Life on the other sideI’ll tell you this. I’ve got the apps and they just fucking sit there. Every date has been from IRL. At least for me it’s easier to make an impression live than to “craft a profile” and I’m in my mid 40s. Online is always awkward and weird | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Life on the other sideIt’s completely true. I remember being on the futon of banishment in the middle of the night, skin and digestion all fucked up from the stress. Prayer kept me going but I get not everyone’s a praying man. But I knew I’d make some kind of positive announcement when it was over because those were reassurances I needed in the thick of it. Not much could come from family or close friends because most of them were involved in the mess to some degree. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 03:57 PM |
| 1 | When you stop coming here.Congrats on making it brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 10:55 AM |
| 14 | I am way too old to feel this way about a woman (post divorce dating)Don’t forget that you’re a man. Acknowledge your feelings and preserve your capacity to stand outside them when you need to. Women are carried by their emotions; y’all can come at me but this is what I’ve observed. Women have the ability to feel with every nerve and intuit and as a cost their emotions carry them. Most men can’t reach that intensity but as a benefit we can walk by that river without being swept off by it. Enjoy that rush; let it wash over you but don’t get swept off your feet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 10:38 AM |
| 6 | Cohabiting during and after the divorceThanks for the rant honestly. I remember the bargaining at the beginning. I’ve also learned just how much of the basic house maintenance has been me all along despite “you never do anything around here” etc. It was all projection. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Cohabiting during and after the divorceYeah uniquely not awesome. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 12:24 AM |
| 8 | Cohabiting during and after the divorceI just don’t think marriage itself agrees with a lot of women. What they want is weddings. But they get pushed into it by this whole society. I hope in the future that pressure will be less and people who don’t truly believe in / understand the commitment of marriage will be OK without it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 12:21 AM |
| 4 | Cohabiting during and after the divorceThere’s a countdown and a final date on this per the decree but shiiiiiiiit | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 11:44 PM |
| 9 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?Because I believed 100%, 300%, 400% in marriage, making it work, being a team through thick and thin forever. She said “I do” but in the end you never really know, do you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.Well I don’t know what you expect me to say. “You don’t know.” or “You’re completely wrong on several points”. Maybe even “You’re completely right and I’m so sorry ma’am.” Whatever you expected, just imagine it and be satisfied. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 10:14 PM |
| 2 | I’m lostI see you’ve met the soon-to-be-ex Gribblewomp | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 11:51 PM |
| 8 | Why are we telling men to wait a year before dating?I don’t know, even moving in together sounds like real trouble; especially with kids involved. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Experiences with cohabitingYeah I have a favorite chair and a garden and I’m getting a dog. I’ve done love and shit. Not worth it in the end. Edit: The animal kingdom has specials that mate for life but I think humans are more like black widows and praying mantises. The male provides offspring and is then eaten. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/23 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Experiences with cohabitingI believe it but I can’t risk it | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Experiences with cohabitingI have no interest in dating. I’ll flirt back when flirted with but I’m not moving forward on anything because nobody deserves to get roped into this nightmare. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Experiences with cohabitingTwo years good God | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Experiences with cohabitingGod spare us both from that. I hope things can stay civil even if they are weird. I’m a praying man so I’ve been doing plenty of that, and meditation, and pull ups. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Experiences with cohabitingAll good points. I’m gonna go for keeping the house because it’s an assumable loan and so I can keep my good interest rate and take out a loan for the payout. No CS or alimony on the horizon since we’re going for 50/50 but anything can and does happen. I’m trying to let go of attachment to outcome and. endure this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Experiences with cohabitingUgh. You been following me on hidden cam or something? That’s uncanny. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Experiences with cohabitingThanks for that. These are the real world perspectives Im looking for. I’m a professional grey rock. I am also VERY fortunate that her personality is not extroverted or confrontational. So the emotional battles don’t happen but I also know she can be secretive, sneaky, calculating and that’s what keeps me up at night, not knowing how many sharks are under the water and what might happen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 03:22 PM |
| 4 | Experiences with cohabitingGood old couch. I dread the uncertainty. DV libel well hopefully not happen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 01:59 PM |
| 6 | My Ex Hopes the Next Woman Break My HeartYeah that’s a dark fucking wish | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 12:56 PM |
| 5 | It's hard to understandListen to this guy! I wish I could upvote once for every year of our marriage before she “started therapy” and “worked on herself”. The die is cast. It’s over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/10/23 06:13 PM |
| 2 | She's Not Yours, Its Just Your TurnI think so too. Marriage is not for everyone. In fact I think it’s for very few, comparatively because it’s a LIFETIME vow. But we act like everyone has to and it falls apart when they hit 40 and “wasted their youth” or whatever the fuck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 02:41 PM |
| 2 | She's Not Yours, Its Just Your TurnI thought I’d lucked out for a decade and whoops she wasn’t! No such animal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 02:39 PM |
| 2 | The best part about being divorced.I’m simmering in that separated while cohabiting hellbroth with 2 kids in a small house. Barely feel human. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Rejoice! The Ex Finally Moves Out!I can imagine. When my STBXW finally moves out I’m going to sleep for a full week and do absolutely nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 03:13 PM |
| 2 | It does get better“Time to detonate all this TNT under our family and blame you.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 02:55 PM |
| 3 | The cold hard truthWomen aren’t male. When we use ourselves as a template we shouldn’t be shocked that the other gender is different, it’s just that culture is shoving “construct! construct!” in our face about some clear biological differences. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?I think they meant the serenity prayer | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Ex’s new partner ruining our amicable co-parenting by slandering me.It 100% takes two to be amicable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 01:49 PM |
| 1 | After a long enough time here and in my own marriage, I’m seeing other people’s relationships as time bombsYes! Time bombs! I don’t see weddings and move-ins the same way and never will. It’s tragic out there in 2023. Marriage ran its course as a whole ass concept with these modern ladies. “Till boredom do us part” | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.Yeah the “father son” talks are going to have a whole different tone than I thought they would a year back. My boys aren’t going through this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceThanks for the ray of hope you arrogant bastard. I hope to be you someday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 11:16 AM |
| 3 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.It’s hard not to feel like my time came and went and now its ghost is just lingering. I really really believed in love and marriage and all the rest of it and I was committed till fucking Death. And whoops here it is in ruins and I’m approaching my fifties, head still spinning because a year ago STBXW was still in love with me and then she threw the big switch out of nowhere. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.I just don’t have a clue how men coped with this without the internet to let them know they weren’t completely alone in their situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.Thanks. I hate all of it and also thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.It is shocking the amount of social leprosy you get. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Deep in the process and no one else to talk to.Thanks brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Is there a scientific or evolutionary reason so many women are so negative towards their husbands after kids?At the very least that’s a mindset that allows one to own the problem and learn from it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/23 05:17 PM |
| 3 | Is there a scientific or evolutionary reason so many women are so negative towards their husbands after kids?Before my divorce I would have said the exact same thing, with pride in how perfect I had it and how solid our relationship was. Maybe you know better than me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Is there a scientific or evolutionary reason so many women are so negative towards their husbands after kids?If Toyotas had a 50%+ chance of randomly exploding after years of getting along just fine, who would buy one? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/23 04:53 PM |
| 2 | I wish someone told me thisGod; a sliver of hope | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/23 04:58 PM |
| 2 | How Do They Turn It Off So Completely?I agree with all of it except the forever person. That’s who I was sure she was. I don’t think there is one. I suspect women are wired for serial monogamy and our grandparents’ generation is an outlier because their culture basically forced them to stay. It would be nice to be wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 04:51 PM |
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