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FundamentalsHandsumSquidwerd/r/seduction23/04/21 04:35 PM
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FundamentalsHandsumSquidwerd/r/seduction25/01/21 10:43 PM
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FundamentalsHandsumSquidwerd/r/seduction30/06/21 06:59 PM
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Exactly keep doing what you're doing
/r/seduction30/06/21 08:34 PM
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Was referring more to how in women's dating subs (names I will not mention) they have a crazy strict set of rules that everyone must follow, and a bunch of opinions that everybody must agree with or make even more outrageous. If anybody has a different opinion, or if the power tripping mods just don't like you, expect an immediate ban. Here there's a general consensus that as you said get your shit together, take responsibility for your own life, step out of your comfort zone, be clearer about y…
/r/seduction30/06/21 06:07 PM
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Honestly, you did much better than most guys would have done in that situation. There were actual IOIs that this was someone you should approach, and when it came to it you took action. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes it's no. In your case you just happened to get rejected, which is an outcome everyone faces inevitably at some point or another. Even when you're keeping to the fundamentals, asking a girl out is like rolling dice.
/r/seduction30/06/21 05:18 PM
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Everybody starts off with that mindset in the beginning especially when it's the first person you interact with. Over time you realize that more people fit your criteria than you think, and your boxes change as you mature
/r/seduction30/06/21 05:04 PM
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I used to be like you too in my younger days, super shy around women and would ignore red flags and get attached too quickly. For me at least it was all rooted in a sense of scarcity. At the time I truly didn't believe that I was that attractive to women, whenever I got a chance with a girl I liked I would try too hard to not scare her away because I thought that I would never get a chance with someone like her again. Sound familiar? What got me out was a mixture of experience and reframing my m…
/r/seduction30/06/21 01:40 PM
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Mostly the same things that are red flags for women
/r/seduction30/06/21 01:25 PM
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Not inherently, depends how you go about getting laid
/r/seduction29/06/21 10:55 PM
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Someone give this man some gold for the excellent creative writing
/r/seduction29/06/21 08:17 PM
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A lot of the dudes in this subreddit can be summed up by this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mu3TItD9vaw
/r/seduction28/06/21 10:31 PM
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The main problem with the existing women’s subreddits are that they’re too echo-chamber-y.
/r/seduction25/06/21 06:46 PM
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Those subs might as well just be “how to be a Karen and alienate men”
/r/seduction25/06/21 05:35 PM
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In the most logical terms, from the moment you discuss and mutually agree to exclusivity. From a more moral standpoint, if you have been regularly sleeping with and seeing this person for at least a couple months, it’s only right (and pragmatic) to engage in talks about what your dynamic entails. Communicate and make sure you’re on the same page as the other person, because the point your at is where unspoken expectations can and do form. Don’t leave anything unspoken.
/r/seduction07/06/21 12:48 AM
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I’m all about variety. For my own wardrobe I’d have a mix of hoodies, t-shirts, jeans, shorts, long sleeve t shirts, sweaters, and joggers for casual wear. For more dressed up looks I like button up shirts (long and short sleeve), chinos, Khalid, dress pants, suits, suit jackets, etc. I would definitely buy flashier winter jackets if I had more money, and more leather jackets. For shoes I like a mix of sneakers (adidas boosts are my favourite) and more formal shoes. Boat shoes, Chelsea boots and…
/r/seduction28/05/21 02:50 PM
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Now that you think about it, most of their customers are dorky, nerdy guys who are trying to become better with women. Makes total sense
/r/seduction28/05/21 01:51 PM
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Went through a brief phase of taking girls on first dates to really nice restaurants, and being super flashy at the club. It really starts to open the door for gold diggers and freeloaders. You end up wasting a lot of money. I’m not saying cheap out either, definitely don’t do a date at a McDonalds or cheap casual dining restaurant. Just pick something that’s got a nice “date vibe” to it. I’ve found that you get probably the same amount of success this way
/r/seduction16/05/21 11:39 PM
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Not rich but definitely have money to spend comfortably. From my experience, leveraging your money is not a good strategy.
/r/seduction15/05/21 03:53 AM
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Wouldn’t say I was ever a full on zero but I definitely wasn’t a hero either. I did manage to get attention from women and get dates, but keeping them interested was a different story. I could go on and on, but I’ll focus on what I did. I did two things to change the game for me: I put in the work to make myself a more attractive prospect, and I changed my approach towards dating. Making myself more attractive was the easier part, the first step of that was really just overcoming my ego and admi…
/r/seduction05/05/21 03:59 PM
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There’s someone on /r/AskMenAdvice doing the exact same thing you’re describing. The post seem to come and go intermittently, presumably when the person has free time. All the questions seem to be copy/pasted
/r/seduction01/05/21 03:34 PM
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My best guess is women on average don’t handle rejection as well as men do. In these kinds of situations it’s often better just to move on anyway.
/r/seduction30/04/21 01:55 PM
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It’s not
/r/seduction30/04/21 01:42 PM
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Asking for a friend... sure lol Have condoms on you, don’t carry them in your wallet or back pocket. Bring some lube too. Don’t eat her pussy or ass unless you’re using a barrier. Do your research. As a rule of thumb higher-end escorts and girls who work through agencies tend to go for regular STD screening. Call girls can be hit or miss. Depending where you live there may be able to find feedback online from people who have seen a certain sex worker before. Stay away from girls who are known to…
/r/seduction28/04/21 05:30 PM
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If you use proper protection and take proper precautions, you’re about as safe as hooking up with random strangers in real life.
/r/seduction28/04/21 03:00 PM
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Because Instagram at its core is not a dating app, it’s for the most part used as a personal social media platform. Girls mostly use it to share certain pictures with their friends or family, promote their hobby or business, as a modeling portfolio, promote their onlyfans, the list goes on. Generally speaking they’re not hoping that random strangers who DM them will be their next date/hookup/boyfriend/etc. Also many girls on Instagram are in relationships or are not interested in dating. Of cour…
/r/seduction28/04/21 02:59 PM
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Going to sex workers surprisingly helped me improve with women
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:14 PM
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Been there done that with working girls, it’s hit or miss but some of the best sex and fun I’ve had has been paid for sex. It’s hit or miss depending on the girl, just like pulling a random girl in everyday life. It doesn’t boost your ego nearly as much, and it does feel really fucking weird the first time you fuck a sex worker but you get over it eventually.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:13 PM
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Many do, but I would never eat out a prostitute
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:06 PM
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Accept that no matter who you are you will never be perfect, there is always room for improvement, and always be willing to improve no matter what. A lot of guys here come in complaining about their problems, yet when they are given advice they refuse to put in any work whatsoever. Also, accept that change doesn’t just happen overnight, there is no “silver bullet” solution, and different things work for different people. People who say they have tried “everything” truly haven’t at all, in fact t…
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:26 PM
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Be “outcome independent”. You don’t need to have a girl with you, or even prove that you have options to do this. Outcome independence is not basing your validation or enjoyment on whether or not an interaction with a girl is successful or not. No matter if she goes straight home to fuck, or tells you to get lost, you do not care about letting the outcome of that interaction affect you. Naturally this is easier for guys who know they have options because even in the face of rejection, they still…
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:21 PM
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Part of “working on yourself” is figuring out your problem and learning how to overcome it. Most people here are either just parroting each other, or are terrible at wording their advice.
/r/seduction27/04/21 05:47 PM
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I agree that being a friend under the guise of waiting for your chance is bad, but believe it or not girls do send mixed messages. To many guys, especially more inexperienced it’s not so obvious. I can speak from experience. I met one girl at a bar in university, got her number and went on a date with her the very next week. I was clear from the start that I was interested in dating, she said she was interested too. We hung out a couple more times, but at a certain point she got more distant and…
/r/seduction27/04/21 04:17 PM
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Believe it or not, it does happen. Maybe you wouldn’t do something like that (and good on you for that) but you’d be surprised how many women out there don’t think like you. Trust me I’m baffled by the way tons of men out there do monumentally stupid things that I can’t even comprehend.
/r/seduction27/04/21 03:55 PM
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Basically lol
/r/seduction23/04/21 11:59 PM
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The law of attraction
/r/seduction26/03/21 03:43 AM
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The way I see it is you’re not paying for sex, you’re paying to skip out on the BS and uncertainty that comes with getting sex the normal way. Hookers do come with their own set of uncertainty and BS. Sometimes you run into a sex worker who will make you feel like you got scammed. In real life you get that same feeling when you invested days or weeks just to have things fizzle out, while with a sex worker it all happens in the span of an hour. On the other hand, most sex workers are very nice to…
/r/seduction25/03/21 09:23 PM
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For most of these guys they won’t visit hookers because it’s an ego thing. They basically think that your sex “kill count” is a pissing contest, and that “hookers don’t count” because paying for sex is like “cheating” to get ahead. Yes it’s true that getting laid with women in real life is more validating when you have next to no experience, but after you’ve been sexually active for a while sex just starts to feel like any other thing you do for fun, and it can be very hit or miss depending on w…
/r/seduction25/03/21 02:09 PM
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This is so true, too many guys will settle for whichever woman they can get the attention of because they’re thirsty and don’t get much options. This leads to problems like them lying about wanting a relationship when they don’t leading someone on, being in a relationship with someone they don’t like, being with someone who treats them poorly, and it eventually puts men in a vulnerable position to become cheaters.
/r/seduction25/03/21 01:48 PM
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Attraction and emotional connections aren’t the most logical things in the planet, at least at a first glance. They can be explained with logic, but there’s a huge degree of randomness and nuance involved. STEM people are used to thinking about things that will follow hard strict scientific rules. I did a STEM degree and by far the hardest concept that most people struggled with was probability. Everyone (including myself) hated that course and struggled in it. It’s because to do well in it, we …
/r/seduction09/03/21 06:41 PM
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This right here! “Career, success, etc” is valuable to have for sure but it is not the be all and end all. There are other things to factor in as well, primarily character traits like integrity, loyalty, etc. Somebody who’s a multi millionaire could be a lying and cheating sack of shit (they often are), and while dudes who are rich do have an easier time getting laid, many of them struggle to find partners who date or sleep with them out of genuine attraction or connection; many of them end up w…
/r/seduction16/02/21 03:54 PM
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You’re not going to be able to please every man. The main thing is to keep that in mind. One thing us guys have to accept is that same thing but for women.
/r/seduction16/02/21 03:37 PM
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I’d say that some of the advice you described that’s geared to men applies to women as well. For example, hit the gym, look presentable, be confident. Here’s what I’d suggest for women: Try to make yourself appear more approachable, especially towards a guy you’re interested in. Eye contact followed by a smile, open body language, or if you’re bold even make an approach. You can probably get away with corny lines more than a guy can. On a date, one thing I appreciate is a woman who is willing to…
/r/seduction11/02/21 05:17 PM
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Don’t do it bro
/r/seduction10/02/21 01:09 AM
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Your intent should be “I would like to be with her if she’s on board, but if she’s not that’s okay I’ll find someone who is” It should not be “I must get with her at all costs, I must have her, she is so perfect and so can’t live without her”
/r/seduction08/02/21 10:27 PM
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As long as you’re rich (doesn’t matter your race) you can pretty much get laid anywhere.
/r/seduction08/02/21 01:46 PM
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Honestly I can’t really tell just from a reddit comment alone. I’m not physically there with you to see how you interact with women. From the sounds of it you don’t seem you’re very experienced with women at all. I’d conclude you’re an inexperienced guy. No shame in that just means you have a lot to learn
/r/seduction08/02/21 04:49 AM
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Nice guys think that being simply nice entitles them to a reward in the form of pussy. They think that the world works like it did when they were little kids getting candy or toys for being “good boys”. Charmers bring positivity, humour, fun, or some other energy that actually draws people to them.
/r/seduction08/02/21 12:20 AM
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Waste of time and money, especially with plenty of free advice and videos out there that will pretty much tell you what you need to know. At most I’d spend my money on books, far cheaper than hiring a coach. Use the $$$ you saved from not buying a coach to buy something that will actually benefit you like new clothes, workout gear, etc.
/r/seduction08/02/21 12:03 AM
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Congrats I got a song for you https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o
/r/seduction02/02/21 09:03 PM
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You can also be a “good” person and be great at picking up women and a total POS and get no ass
/r/seduction02/02/21 02:27 AM
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Make moves sooner than later, and be direct about your intentions. Don’t give “friend vibes” Don’t remain friends with somebody who wants to be just friends when you want more
/r/seduction01/02/21 05:09 PM
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Just because you met one woman doesn’t mean that you need to automatically stop seeking out other women. A woman agreeing to on a date with you is not a serious commitment at all. Even if she’s been around for a couple dates there’s no reason to expect commitment.
/r/seduction01/02/21 06:30 AM
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You have an agenda and you can’t hide it: when guys approach girls in the club it’s always for one reason. Just own the fact that you have an agenda. Think of it this way: sometimes the girls have the same agenda as well, or sometimes they will “decide” they’re on the same page as you.
/r/seduction01/02/21 06:24 AM
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I’m indifferent to swearing for the most part, but women who don’t swear are kind of off-putting to me. Especially the ones who get so uptight about it
/r/seduction01/02/21 06:20 AM
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Been on both sides of the fence too, agree with basically everything you said here. At the end of the day it's a learned skillset that makes it feel natural, some guys just happen to learn it earlier and faster than other guys do.
/r/seduction29/01/21 08:09 PM
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It's true that there are certain basic things that tend to be mostly universal across the board. For example: women do like confident men, women do prefer to be with someone they are attracted to, women do not tend to make the first move. With that all in mind all of those "universal" things end up being pretty subjective. Keep in mind that here most of the guys here have limited experience and/or have no idea what they're doing at all.
/r/seduction29/01/21 07:57 PM
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They'll probably be more popular and accepted in the future, but I doubt that they will become the norm in the future. No matter what something like a sex doll will always be expensive to make and purchase, so they will still be very much a niche item. It's inevitable that some women will probably feel threatened by them, but for the most part that rhetoric will likely come from a loud minority like radical feminists, misandrists, and conservative women. I'm a guy so I can't really speak 100% fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 07:53 PM
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Learning this lesson is by far the biggest hurdle men have to learn how to overcome in dating. For most guys once they get over that fear of rejection that's when the magic really starts happening
/r/seduction29/01/21 07:22 PM
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One of the main things about men approaching women is that they're afraid of being labelled as creepy. They're irrationally afraid of that label becoming a badge that they will literally wear on their foreheads for the rest of their life. Unless you're in high school or live in a very small closed off community, the chances of that are slim unless you literally do something so bad that it gets onto the news.
/r/seduction29/01/21 07:10 PM
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Words do matter but not anywhere near as much as sub communication, vibe, and tonality.
/r/seduction27/01/21 02:10 PM
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It's literally over if you let it be over, or it can be the beginning if you let it be one. Choice is yours.
/r/seduction25/01/21 10:48 PM
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Go to your profile page, then click "New Post". It will post directly to your profile. Lucky you being in Melbourne, no lockdown there!
/r/seduction25/01/21 10:45 PM
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Post here and post directly to your user page as well (just in case). I'll totally follow you just to see your progress!
/r/seduction25/01/21 08:50 PM
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I think we need to move away from using the term "Nice Guy" and move it towards something more accurate like the "Self Proclaimed Nice Guy" (SPNG). While I do think that having traits of the SPNG is the root of the problems for many (or probably most guys), it doesn't always paint the full picture. Overall a great post though, I do agree with many of the points and it's refreshing to see the false dichotomy between "Nice Guy" and "Alpha Male" being deconstructed more and more these days.
/r/seduction25/01/21 08:15 PM
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