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I second this. I told my husband I would love to see Cody Johnson live and a few weeks later he said he wanted to take me! 🤭 He thinks he came up with the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:48 PM
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Same for me too! The pill killed my drive but now it skyrockets during ovulation week.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 07:13 PM
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I’m a little confused by the MOD comment. I understand the rule, but OP asked for opinions when she said “what would you do?” And I would leave. I didn’t say she should….I said I would. I have certain standards I require from a relationship and there only being one man and one woman in it is one nonnegotiable.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 09:59 AM
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That’s very true! That’s why I love Mrs Midwest. She’s said from the beginning that if we are to celebrate all women, then let’s celebrate all women and give them the choice to do what they want. It’s been fun to watch her grow and change too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 09:56 PM
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YES!! I was watching a video the other day about how it’s our jobs to be our husbands helper. I thought she was going to give practical advice. But really she spent the whole video talking about how we need to stay home and do what our husbands need to help them. But my thought was “what if my husband wants me to work?” These people that harp on one way of living really big me. Just because you were called to stay home, doesn’t mean that’s the way for everyone else and we all have to do it or el…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 09:07 PM
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I love this! The first character that comes to mind is Molly Mcleish in She’s Out of My League. I think she’s very feminine, even running her own business. There are also YouTubers that I like to watch. (Mrs Midwest is a personal favorite.) But I have to be careful with those as a lot of women that talk about femininity and share more RPW ideals are very much about staying home and that’s not an option for me and it makes me feel bad if I consume too much of their content.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 04:28 PM
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Same here. I was also on Tri-sprintec too. I got off it to prepare to TTC and found out I’m so much better without it. I will not be going back on it!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 03:27 AM
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I am not a Dr, but I’ve been through the same thing. I would get sad and not know why. My tolerance for shenanigans was 0. I inadvertently found the solution when I got off hormonal birth control. I feel like a different person. Even my husband said I’m happier. If you’re having major it might be worth looking into to see if that helps. Again, not a dr, just sharing what worked for me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 11:43 PM
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As someone else has said, you can’t force him to change, but you can open the space for him to step in. First, I would NOT tell him what you’re trying to do. Just do it. Then I would read The Empowered Wife and implement. Not all will be useful right now as you’re not yet married, but it will give you an idea of how to go about this.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 11:52 AM
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I think it depends on the guy. I wanted to get my husbands initial, but he didn’t like the idea. So I got the initial of my married last name which is close enough for me. I think if you want to do it, then do it, but don’t do it for the guy. ETA: or just mention it and gauge his reaction.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 06:08 PM
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I get this. My husband is maybe an inch or 2 taller than me, but he’s not a small guy. Played catcher growing up, so thick legs. Big frame. Was into weight lifting, so has residual muscles. It makes up for the height. Also was in the military so I feel very safe with him. He does not mind me being taller in heels and I feel like he’s masculine and (for my taste) “manly looking” enough that it doesn’t bother me either.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 09:26 PM
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SAME! I’ve asked him when wearing heels if it bothered him and he said no, it doesn’t. I’ve also found it helpful to look at other couples where she is taller, like Keith Urban & Nicole Kidman, Zendaya & Tom Holland, Sophie Turner & Joe Jonas, and Rosie Huntington-Whitley & Jason Statham (my personal favorite).
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 03:18 PM
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I would to play devils advocate on the phone thing. Sometimes people are so talked out and tired at the end of the day that just sitting together and enjoying company is sufficient and they don’t need to have conversation. My husband and I usually watch a show while we eat bc if we didn’t, it would be pretty silent. We are just happy to be sitting beside each other.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/24 12:49 PM
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I would be envious if I saw a man being affectionate to a woman and I wasn’t receiving that same treatment. Most men don’t do stuff like that, especially for the way modern women treat them. I’m curious to know what Red Pill things you try to implement in your relationship to get to this point.
/r/RedPillWives22/04/24 09:47 PM
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I know this feeling. Last month, we had to put down our Lab. The dog that my husband got right after he got home from overseas. The dog that got my husband through transitioning back to civilian life. His best friend. It was hard. Seeing my husband’s pain was harder than losing my sweet boy. But I’m so thankful I was there to be the one to hold him up. I hope I helped him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/24 02:22 PM
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I would suggest reading The Empowered Wife. It should help you set up the relationship to be able to drop the girl boss at the door when you get home. I work as a staff accountant/team lead and get so frustrated and overwhelmed at work having to manage it all, but being able to leave that at work when I’m with my husband is so nice. It gives me a break. I am in no way the breadwinner, but still have to put on some “masculinity” when at work.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 05:34 PM
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Have you read The Empowered Wife? I would start with that. It’s all about letting him lead and releasing the reigns.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 08:24 PM
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The comment before was talking about if you aren’t in a relationship and being afraid of not meeting a good man bc one doesn’t dress girly. In that case there is no man’s opinion to take into consideration and the individual should dress like herself so she attracts a man that likes her general authentic style.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 10:09 AM
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My thoughts are that those that get on social media claiming all men cheat are the loudest, not the majority and not necessarily correct. Those in stable, happy relationships don’t feel the need to go out and talk about how all men are great. They are at home happy and enjoying their life. There is no need for them to be loud. Those that are loud are unhappy and trying to let everyone know it. Just because someone/a group is loud, doesn’t mean they are right.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 04:19 PM
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Don’t get me wrong, it’s not perfect. My body loves low carb and that has its own weight loss benefits, like I’m never starving on it. My blood sugar stays stable, so I don’t have to think about calories, etc. I do, however, obsess about the number of carbs and sugar I consume, so it has its own unhealthy issues if I don’t keep it in check. I do step on the scale each morning when I’m doing low carb. But I also keep in mind how my body fluctuates during my cycle and as I go down, the numbers wil…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 09:50 PM
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Very well said! Thank you! I needed that reminder.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 05:30 PM
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I am very much like you. I am the same height and was also very thin when I was young. The gained weight after college/mid to late 20s due to lack of exercise and poor eating habits. In all fairness the eating habits were always the same, it just caught up with me sitting on my butt for 8 hours a day at work instead of walking to classes and doing things. In the past 4 years I have gained and lost anywhere from 30-50 pounds and am back on my way down. It’s very hard when you are used to being th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 12:54 PM
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I think it depends on the man. After our conversation, it seems that the elegant/feminine style is what gets him aroused. I mean obviously there would be some reaction to a more revealing outfit, but he was very enthusiastic about the elegant and feminine style.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 09:52 AM
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lol! Mine love braids.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 02:02 AM
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That’s a very good point. In my experience, more weight is put on what others think. I don’t know why. Primal social acceptance so you aren’t left on your own, perhaps? I don’t even like today’s beauty standards! Everyone looks like a cookie cutter version of a Kardashian. Why happened to unique beauty and owning what you have?!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 12:46 AM
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Same! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 10:49 PM
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Wow! I feel like that may have been quite the experience to discovery! And I understand your point. It would be less work to wear less makeup like he prefers, but then the comparison comes into play I feel kind of ugly. I do know that is a me problem and I am working on it. I’m now intrigued by what else he has “told me” that he likes/dislikes and I’ve brushed off or chosen not to listen.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 10:33 PM
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Interesting. And I get what you mean. It is kind of exciting and interesting to learn the specifics of what he finds attractive, but then there’s the part where what he finds attractive isn’t what makes me feel attractive. Especially when I’ve compared myself to people that I think are attractive. It’s kind of hard to balance. I guess in theory his enthusiasm should make up for the lack of confidence, but that doesn’t always happen. It’s an interesting dynamic to navigate.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 09:38 PM
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Not disagreeing, but it’s not what’s reinforced in the wild. We only see the results from external. Also, can you elaborate on what exactly you mean by internal standards?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 08:34 PM
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I guess so. That was how I felt when we were talking.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 04:56 PM
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It’s really selfish….I just want to be wanted. 💁🏼‍♀️🤣
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 04:42 PM
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Agreed, but I think some people will take anything to hear these days and it’s only getting worse.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 03:23 PM
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I said this on another comment, but it fits here too. It’s hard for women when they want to feel blatantly wanted and the only way they see to get that reaction is dress in revealing clothes. It’s hard not to feel less than when these internet women showing it all and screaming for attention are getting it. We are told “this is sexy” and we’ve bought into it bc it gets reactions. Not saying it’s right…it just is.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 02:38 PM
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Also, I think it’s hard for women to feel sexy and attractive when surrounded by these women that flaunt it all and get attention. Not necessarily attention from our man, but we want that kind of attention from our man and that’s the example we are given to get it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 02:33 PM
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Thank you for the perspective. The whole “what makes others think your partner is valuable” is a very interesting way and helpful way to put it. As someone in a long term relationship, I think it’s fun to give him what he likes to see. It adds a little spark to something that can seem dull sometimes in the midst of boring daily activities.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 02:30 PM
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I just try to do my best. And Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:56 PM
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Agreed. Not all men are into the same thing. I think it’s so import to be yourself and live your life and you’ll attract what fits.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:47 PM
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I understand what you mean. You can’t disagree with anything nowadays without being a direct insult on whoever you are disagreeing with. Like to simple say “I don’t find that attractive” turns into “you’re a _____” fill in the blank with whatever negative adjective fits the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:46 PM
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Ha! Isn’t it crazy!! I always knew men had different opinions on what is attractive, so I don’t know why this shocked me so much!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:34 PM
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Apparently so! The internet really does mess with your mind!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:32 PM
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Oh no! I really wanted to know! I want to look attractive to him!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:32 PM
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Really tho! I don’t know why I didn’t think of it sooner! I told him how surprised I was and he said “well you never asked!” 🤣 he’s right!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 12:41 PM
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I think stealing one of his t-shirts or hoodies with little shorts or just panties is attractive to men. Edit: just realized someone else suggested the same thing. Oops. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 12:28 PM
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Well that sounds emotionally exhausting. Lol!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 12:54 PM
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IMO, girl needs to chill. The fact that she thinks she’s entitled to get a quick response from someone, or a response at all, shows how she feels about herself and I feel like would be a turn off to a man…as it appears was the case since he didn’t respond. Personally, I would have been more worried about his mood and let him know that he if he needed to talk, I’d be there to listen. I feel like that’s more RP. Also, at the risk of sounding old, what is this new thing called “situationship”? Is t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 12:08 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/24 02:42 AM
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That’s all I know to do. It doesn’t feel like enough.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/24 02:40 AM
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He always said that I was his battle buddy, but Jack’s the real hero here. We wouldn’t be here without him and I owe him everything for that. Jack loved lizards. He loved chasing the lizards and pulled on out of the window from behind the screen once. Tore a hole right through the screen. Not sure what I could do with lizards, but I’ll have to think of something.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/24 02:39 AM
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We got married in our 30s. We already built habits and organization regarding our respective finances. We kept our separate accounts after we got married and still pay our own debts, etc. He makes double what I make. He still takes me on dates and pays. He pays the bills. It’s just how we’ve gotten used to doing things and it works for us. Things might change when we have a kid, but right now, we are fine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 11:19 AM
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I second all of this. And would like to add: We are going through Psalm 119 and there is so much wisdom there for this situation. I believe God is not at fault for how you were raised, the enemy is, but God uses everything for His good and good of those who love Him. So while your start may not have been what you wished it to be, you most likely would not be where you are if you had a different one. Regarding the issues with relationships, we are not guaranteed an easy life. We are called to be …
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 12:05 PM
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Thank you!! ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 11:15 PM
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Practice the pause! Pause before responding. My issue is that I usually feel less intelligent when I am impulsive with my words. I will regret what I say. By working on pausing before any response (good or bad) I can really think about what I’m going to say. I think the key is practicing pausing before any response. Then, when it matters, it will be a habit. Edit: grammar fix
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 06:56 PM
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Oh, I like this 😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 08:37 PM
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My husband lets me know what he likes on me and what isn’t his favorite…but he would never tell me NOT to wear something or stop me if I wore something that he didn’t like. Personally, I would never tolerate someone trying to tell me what I can or cannot wear. That is too controlling for me. Being submissive and choosing to wear what he likes is one thing, but being forbidden to wear what I like is intolerable.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:27 PM
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I think it bothers you bc he has something you want….marriage. That’s neither good nor bad. It just is. If he was the right one for you, you wouldn’t have broken up. And you don’t really know what he was thinking. He said she was crazy, but maybe that was him trying to convince himself. If he really thought she was crazy and didn’t like her, he wouldn’t have entertained that first meeting with her.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 01:49 PM
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Ah, I get it. My brother is into them too. We aren’t super close, so I don’t have to hear about it that much, but I can see how that would cause issues.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 10:54 PM
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You have to do what makes you happy. You cannot live your life for someone else. Just understand the reality of going after the life you want. What about your brothers? Could your family have a relationship with them and their families?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 02:33 AM
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I was in your shoes. Dated 5 years before engaged…still not sure what took so long, but engaged at 29, married at 31, just turned 33 and about to start trying for a family. In my experience and he’s the one, confirm he does want to get married and then wait it out. You can’t force him to do anything and the more you try to force it, the more he will dig his heels in for spite.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 03:19 AM
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Yes! I was reading The Empowered Wife and kept thinking “that’s my mom” throughout. I knew then that I needed to change or my marriage would end up the same…which is nonexistent at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 02:40 AM
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My thoughts are….You said yourself that the only reason it would be your business was if it was negatively affecting your relationship. If you really believe that then you would let it go until you saw proof of that. Definitive proof that you can nail down. If you did not mean that, then you shouldn’t have said it and it should be addressed correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 02:39 AM
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Honestly, I watched my mother not be one and knew I did not want that to be my life. Our home was very tense and I want a loving, peaceful home for my family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 01:35 PM
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My body responded SO positively to getting off it. My anxiety almost completely went away!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 11:49 PM
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Awareness. I think just being aware will help slow it down. It takes a little time to get the hang of, but try practicing pausing before answering any response from anyone and that should help be more mindful and come off more feminine! If you do slip up, just apologize for being so abrupt. “Sorry, that was rude, yes, I got oranges” sweet, simple, to the point! Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 01:43 PM
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I recommend reading Laura Doyle’s The Empowered Wife. Not everything will be applicable since you aren’t married, but you can come away with a lot of good insight and practical tips.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 12:03 AM
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I think by learning to appreciate what they offer. If you are pulling the masculine weight, then what good is a masculine man. By leaning into your femininity and becoming more receptive to what masculine men offer, you will appreciate it and become more attracted to it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 07:47 PM
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Everyone else’s suggestions are great! I do just want to let you know that the question I keep asking women I know of all ages is “when do you feel like an adult?” And the consensus has been that you don’t. You just learn to take care of things and get better at “adulting”. I wouldn’t worry so much about feeling like a woman as that comes with experience. The more you learn to do, the more you feel like an adult, but we all are just winging it. I say just work on your confidence and finding out …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 03:29 AM
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Same! Sometimes he’ll bring me flowers and/or chocolates to be sweet, but I’m not upset about it if he doesn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 10:12 PM
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I read it back before we got married but didn’t take it seriously until I started rereading it this month and I’m already seeing a difference.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 10:37 AM
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I’ve only read The Empowered Wife. I’m actually rereading it now. My understanding is The Empowered Wife and The Surrendered Wife have very similar content, but I think the Empowered Wife is more recent and updated.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 12:45 AM
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In addition to all the excellent advice, I want to reiterate self care! Making sure you take time to do things you enjoy on a daily basis does wonders for your mindset and mood. It will help you break out of the go-go-go masculine mode you feel in. Self care and nurturing are very feminine things. By simply slowing down for a few min each day for yourself, you become calmer and happier which will help your femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 11:40 PM
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I was going to suggest Laura Doyle as well. Girl friends to vent to. Self care. Look for the evidence. It all works together to make things better!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 11:31 PM
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Yep! I highly recommend the book The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. Everything may not be applicable if you aren’t married yet, but it still has a lot of valuable insight that is transferable to premarital relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 02:28 PM
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I struggled with the idea that my husband does things he doesn’t want to for me. I’m a people pleaser myself and don’t want him to be unhappy. But after reading in the Empowered Wife, I realized that yes he doesn’t want to do those things on his own, but he does want to make me happy which means doing those things. He’s not unhappy bc I am happy and that’s all he wants. (He has told me that before) I think you should trust that he is doing things bc he loves you and wants you to be happy. If he …
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 12:48 PM
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I had an ex that would text me NOVELS on occasion telling me how he missed me, etc. I never responded..to any of them. He eventually stopped.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 05:52 PM
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Congrats on your 6 years of hard work. I did not find this group until about 7 or 8 years in and didn’t start implementing until now (9.5-ish years). If you haven’t read Laura Doyle, she has wonderful advice. I am currently rereading The Empowered Wife by her and I’ve heard others mention The Surrendered Wife. My understanding is they have similar things, so I just stuck with what I had. Either way, I highly recommend as she has practical tips and very relatable anecdotes and stories. It’s like …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 01:31 PM
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Oh cool! I’ve never met someone with a crystal ball…what else can you tell me about my future?!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 04:55 PM
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The way he treats you says something about him, NOT YOU. My advice is to keep working on yourself. You’re 26! I didn’t get married until I was 31. Stop comparing your journey to others or what you think should happen. Just go enjoy what you’ve got. By living your life and loving it, you’ll attract attention in a good way. It’s also a good way to meet people. Don’t let this jerk win. Don’t stay down! He’s not worth it. Edit for spelling.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:34 PM
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I think it’s an affection thing. Like how guys rag on each other, but the subject matter changes depending on who he’s talking to. I think its one of the ways he shows affection, but playfully. He also is very sweet and loves to hug and cuddle and hold my hand.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:29 PM
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This was very well explained. I feel like the main issue with the original comment was that it left me feeling like I needed to defend my husband rather than hopeful for resolution on the issue. In that sense, it was completely unhelpful.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 07:13 PM
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You are correct. I do take it as a criticism. I don’t think it’s meant to be one. If I didn’t, then it wouldn’t bother me. And I get what you mean about giving him what he wants. In that case, even if the comments don’t stop, they have potential to go from a criticism to a compliment in a way.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:56 PM
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I can see the looking for a reaction. He complains it’s so much harder for him to get a rise out of me anymore bc I’m so used to his attempts. This is something he does to his mom too…using different subject matter of course.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:17 PM
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I agree with everything you’ve said. I absolutely agree they are disrespectful and I told him such last night. I’m currently re-reading The Empowered Wife and trying to work it into my life. There is so much information and actions to take! I like the idea of providing a signal word that shows that something is not ok, but “ouch” feels a little weird for me. Not sure what else to use. I definitely think he’s making “dude jokes” with me and could use more guy time. Sadly, it’s not been a lot late…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:57 PM
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I guess I just was there and continued supporting him. For example, one time the basement, which is where his “apt” was, flooded and he had to shop vac it up every hour through the night and I stayed with him. He told me he couldn’t blame me if I went home, but I stayed. I may have fell asleep, but I didn’t get annoyed when the vacuum turned on every hour. I just kept him company and he told me he didn’t know of any other girl that would stuck that out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:23 PM
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Thank you for this. 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:05 PM
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In all fairness to him, he has directly said it in the past and it’s not my favorite thing to do, so I kind of did nothing with it. Edit: Also, he’s got a very silly personality in general and I admire him for it. He’s been to war and seen death first hand and he can still laugh, make jokes, have fun and not take everything so seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:32 PM
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That’s a good way to look at it. He gets kinda of annoyed that I don’t react to his jokes like I used to and it’s harder to get a rise out of me. Maybe he’s also just pushing the boundaries to see what will work…and I’ve given him the cue he wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:29 PM
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Thank you for responding. That’s so interesting that he never noticed!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:24 PM
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Oh, I guess I wasn’t very clear…He wasn’t making jokes when I was upset, it kind of came out of nowhere. The chapstick comment was about me not letting my lips get chapped so I can give him head since I’m on my period and neither of us want to have sex during it. And I should not have said “no woman does”. That was very hypocritical and unhelpful. I see that now.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 01:56 PM
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I’ll try it! Now thinking about it, could the jokes (which are usually about getting head) be his “cryptic” way of telling me that he wants more it?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 01:25 PM
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Unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 04:37 PM
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I looked too and she is cute!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:44 AM
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Everyone feels a little less than when they feel like someone is better. Perhaps you could just use the things you listed as ways you feel inferior (maybe not the ones you can’t change) as notes of “hey I should work on that”. You can always become more feminine and learn cook or whatever else you note.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:41 AM
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Here is a question….if you didn’t feel inferior to her, would you have the same reaction? Like if he said that about a friend or something? If you still would feel the same, then perhaps it’s worth discussing. If not, then it’s probably just a you thing and perhaps you should work on it. It’s ok to feel jealous, that’s just an emotion saying that someone else has something you want. Emotions aren’t good or bad. They are a form of communication from ourselves to ourselves. But if it’s an continuo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:10 AM
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You need to get in a good headspace to date, not lose weight. There are all kinds of men out there that love all kinds of women, but low self esteem is universally unattractive across both genders. You can absolutely work on yourself. You can lose weight, learn makeup skills, find your kibbe type and dress better, but if you still think poorly about yourself, you’ll still feel bad. And that’s only something you can work on. Also, time is not running out. I didn’t get married until I was 31. I kn…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:02 AM
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Oh! Random thought…if you haven’t checked out Mrs. Midwest’s blog and YouTube, she has blog posts and videos about using the skills from The Empowered Wife book and how it’s affected her marriage. Also she’s so cute and sweet and entertaining! She’s actually how I found out about the book!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 04:35 PM
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That’s so sweet! That is for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 12:54 PM
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Thank you! 💜
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 10:48 AM
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Thank you! Truly! I’m so nervous about the journey! Nobody ever expects issues, so I’m trying to mentally prepare for it not to be easy. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 01:01 AM
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Ooh! That’s a good one!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 11:18 PM
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Let me know if you find anything that works exceptionally well….I’d love to give it a try!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 11:10 PM
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Sames!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 11:06 PM
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Perhaps. I mean he definitely sees me as his wife. He told me today that my being his wife still isn’t old. We will be married 2 years in March. It’s just sometimes I would like to hear less gas come out of his butt and him crack a joke about it. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I have been trying to be more agreeable this weekend and I feel like there has already been some change. He’s naturally more affectionate, but it feels like it’s been less reserved. I hope this will continue.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 10:36 PM
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That sounds so nice! I can’t wait to see what happens in my relationship! Also, we are planning on starting to try this summer and I hope it get pregnant princess treatment! That sounds fantastic! LOL!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 10:30 PM
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If you’re already good at it, then you don’t need the tools. I think another tool is learning to apologize. Apologies show that you respect the other person and that’s what men want.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 04:13 PM
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Not necessarily advice, but I’m right there with you. I’ve been with my man for 9 years and he’s always treated me amazing, not once has he done anything questionable. I know I can do better and he deserves better. I agree with the other person about actions speaking louder than words. I wouldn’t draw attention, I think it’s more meaningful when he sees it but wasn’t looking for it. Also, not sure if you picked up any of this, but The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle has been mentioned here as a …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:33 PM
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Thank you! My man is very caring, works so hard to provide, and is thoughtful in a practical way (he did get an engineering degree). I hope that my implementing RP ways will help bring out more affection and connection from him. Sometimes he says thing to me and I feel like he’s talking to a guy friend.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:38 AM
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Wow, he sounds amazing. You’re very lucky! And thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:29 AM
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Thanks for responding. Could you elaborate on what you mean by he’s met the RP standard? (Sorry, im a little new to this)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:21 AM
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I hope that’s the case for me!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:26 PM
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That sounds lovely. Do you mean more emotionally intimate or physically? Sometimes I feel like we don’t really sit down and talk or connect. I’d really like more of that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:24 PM
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