HappinessHero Archive

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5	This is how you cure nice guy syndrome I agree with the book recommendation… what the book doesn’t tell you, but is, in part, based on Attachment Theory. This is where the real information is that helps healing (in my opinion). But my highest recommendation is to seek a good therapist. I discovered the foundation of my traits were passed down to me before I was born. This is called Intergenerational pre-natal trauma. My traits were epigenetically passed to me. Dealing with this is not a simple mindset change. Good therapy will help y…	/r/seduction	09/04/26 02:01 PM
35	Dealing With Mr Nice Guy Syndrome PART 2 OF 2: Before I continue…. Let’s recap… There’s a good chance that your emotional development was compromised by the time you were 4 years old. This is potentially why you struggle to emotionally connect with others. Perhaps you connect intellectually or through acts of service? You may find yourself avoiding life because your nervous system keeps developing distancing strategies to ensure you don’t attach to anyone. Because attaching to someone will result in them abandoning you. So your …	/r/seduction	17/08/25 06:50 AM
29	Dealing With Mr Nice Guy Syndrome It’s a big deal that you are self-aware enough to recognise there is an issue. Congratulations!! The root of the Mr. Nice Guy stuff is rooted in attachment theory. This is where you will really find the answers as to how you got here! It is likely that you are not connecting emotionally to women. My guess is that you are not a “Nice Guy”!!!! It is more likely that you share some traits and behaviours that Nice Guys also have. The biggest differentiating factor is that Nice Guys employ covert con…	/r/seduction	17/08/25 06:46 AM
2	It feels hopeless. No girl is attracted to me. I second this!!	/r/seduction	15/04/24 10:47 PM
3	How to not be needy The book you need is "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty" by Mark Manson. It specially goes through non-neediness. I highly recommend getting the audiobook version, it’s very well narrated!!!! The second book you need is by Karen Brody and it is about the 7 masculine archetypes and is a blue print of how to be a man. The book is terribly titled and is called “Open Her”. The name is awful as this book is so much more!!	/r/seduction	01/07/22 07:24 AM
2	Why do most guys not need to do any of this stuff to find relationships with women? I totally understand what your getting at OP! This has baffled me my whole life! I have since discovered why I was so different and I could not understand why it seemed so easy for others. The answer is too long to write here, but for me, I got my answers from attachment theory and trauma research. The short answer is that these guys you speak of can emotionally connect with their women. I’m a fearful avoidant and together with complex trauma from childhood, my emotional development didn’t happe…	/r/seduction	13/05/22 10:24 PM
2	Why would she give me her number and not reply :/ May I suggest "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty" by Mark Manson (audio book highly recommended). This is an incredible book!!!! It will be tremendously enlightening!!!	/r/seduction	16/02/22 07:44 AM
12	Don’t be so hard on yourself guys. Sadly, there’s not a lot you can do unless your “Nice Guy” friend develops self-awareness. He is more than likely has an avoidant attachment, more specifically, fearful avoidant attachment. You’ll probably find he yearns for intimacy, but fears it at the same time. His nervous system is constantly creating distancing strategies that push people away. But his body still has needs which is where the people pleasing comes in. He’ll probably exhibit many of the abandonment issues such as being too a…	/r/seduction	04/08/21 06:30 AM
18	I’m 27, a virgin, living at home, jobless, struggling with mental illness. I’m lonely and horny just like everyone else but idk where to start Start with reading “Models” by Mark Manson. The audio book version is excellently narrated!!	/r/seduction	25/04/21 06:42 AM