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While not gay, you simply don’t like women, other than as a source for sex and affirmation. The solution is to hire an escort. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:52 PM
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Overwhelmingly, the best women are locked down by 25 by men similar in age range. Make your life decisions accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:37 PM
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Attractive people, no matter the sex, typically rate themselves accurately. Unattractive people, no matter the sex, overestimate their attractiveness. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 08:37 PM
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That is it. And also when men are friendly with all women, not just the hot ones. Women have radar for a man’s behavior at the gym and elsewhere. Guys like this have learned the secret code.
/r/seduction01/04/26 04:21 PM
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Correct. But the BEST ones don’t want them. They prefer their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:48 PM
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I have 2 sons in their 20’s. Does that count? Both are doing extremely well. From my observation of them and hundreds of their friends, the best women get locked down by 25. They are the happiest, prettiest, and most loyal. And the vast majority of those best women end up with a man close to their age. Are there exceptions to this? Yes, so don’t come at me. But men who play around, thinking it’s going to be great pickin’s when they are in their 30’s and even 40’s are often disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:32 PM
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Yes. Never cold approach. Warm approach over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:54 PM
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Running races. Tons of fit, friendly, fun women everywhere. If you don’t run, volunteer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 12:18 PM
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Become a runner. Sign up for 5k, all the way up to marathon. Volunteer at the races. Join a running club. Tons of fit, fun women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:20 PM
6

It changes again towards age 60. With a few exceptions, men age exponentially, and can’t even get women in their own age group
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:53 PM
0

Yawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 12:03 AM
2

Clearly they did. Hence her success.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:24 AM
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You and I are in agreement. Except she wasn’t shy. She had IT. He may have been the better person in every way- except - she had personality and he didn’t. It’s an underrated gift .
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:19 AM
6

Ok. Prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:45 PM
1

Go back and read the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:34 PM
4

You’re missing a potentially important component- charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:20 PM
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7% of all. Yeah lots of women getting cash and prizes. 3% to men. Also getting cash and prizes? Very temporary. Not much in the way of cash and prizes Didn’t read the articles I guess. Overwhelmingly women are way worse off financially after divorce. Facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:10 PM
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https://www.modernfamilylaw.com/resources/alimony-essential-insights-before-you-consider-divorce/ https://group.legalandgeneral.com/en/newsroom/press-releases/the-divorce-gap-women-see-their-household-income-cut-in-half-in-the-year-after-a-divorce 50/50 split. Alimony awarded only 10% of the time. 7% Men to women. 3% Women to men. And overwhelmingly temporary. Just a few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:58 PM
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Cash and prizes? The statistics say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:45 PM
4

You can absolutely approach women at the gym. Just don’t cold approach. Play the long game.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:35 AM
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Loser.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/25 03:48 AM
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This is Reddit. Does not reflect real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:52 PM
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Correct. And as it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 06:56 PM
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This is the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 07:18 PM
2

Yup. My Ex is an excellent conversationalist. Good listener, charming, asks great questions, self deprecating. Has no trouble getting dates and angering into relationships. Now keeping those relationships is another story….lol.
/r/seduction17/07/25 08:51 PM
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Disagree with all. My husband and I are rippingly fit, athletic Boomers who have a couple of Zoomers. I ran a marathon last month and can kick both my son’s asses in a 5k. We are financially set (neither of my boys have college debt), and gave them wisdom, discipline and love. We will make spectacular grandparents.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:52 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:38 AM
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It is. No question. And contrary to belief, in much older women as well. Any woman who keeps herself up always has the advantage in the dating market. It isn’t fair. Not sure talking about it over and over again will change things. What is the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 08:50 PM
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This is the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:28 PM
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Dad bod, which I consider “soft”, not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:38 PM
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Yes. Mine cheated, moved out, told me he wanted a divorce, but didn’t file. It was all his decision, but my name is at the top of the paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:24 PM
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That’s a different question. In this case, there already was a relationship from the very beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 10:16 PM
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Legally yes. But the man should never sever the emotional ties. For anyone with real character, it’s the right thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 09:45 PM
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Yup. My Ex dumped me when we were both 59. He thought it was going to be hot women all the time and a rich social life. Turns out it was me that had all that. He is now struggling, because he wasn’t ready for reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 09:09 PM
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Shouldn’t this sort itself out by the time everyone gets to be 30?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:26 PM
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He’s highly successful already at the age of 21, handsome, and charming. Also very confident. His girlfriend is smokin’ hot. The point of the original comment is that all types can have success in the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:08 PM
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Nope. He’s awesome! And he sure knows it from his Mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:02 PM
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Weight loss almost always plateaus after 2 years. Side effects will become more prominent over time. Let’s address this again in 5 yrs and see where we are…..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 12:23 AM
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In theory, there’s nothing wrong with doing things separately and not spending a lot of money. In reality, what woman have learned is that (often) men just want a fuck buddy without any effort toward being a true partner. That’s where things go off the rails.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 11:17 PM
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I hear you. Just not been my experience (and my peers) at all. And we are way past 30’s. I would say it’s even more difficult for men now. Sad, because I think men are pretty awesome overall. ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:41 PM
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As an older woman, I will tell you that’s a myth. The only women who struggle are the ones who are extremely difficult in one way or another. The rest of us are still inundated with attention from men. Nothing changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:09 PM
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Here’s what nobody tells men - when they get older sex often becomes less important, secondary to warmth, friendship, caring, and cuddling. For some even, the desire (or ability) goes away almost completely. Younger men think this will never happen, but it does. Yet older men won’t admit to it, nor council the younger generation. Being besties with your partner is the way. If sex is still on the table, fantastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:14 PM
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This is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 09:58 PM
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Short beards, well groomed , are smokin’ hot. Clean shaven as well. Anything as an excuse to be lazy is a no go.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 09:18 PM
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Men want women who are “superior” to them in looks, emotional intelligence, moral character, kindness, nurturing, giving, caretaking, warmth, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:11 PM
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Optimism. Someone who is genuinely happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:28 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:04 AM
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Yup. Reddit men are convinced they are dating down in looks. All the studies show that men over rate themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 08:46 PM
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People who cheat have poor character and moral standards - therefore never will be high status.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:04 PM
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Both in college, so THEY would say no such thing as female hypergamy. Women majoring in engineering and accounting. Very good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:36 PM
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Same. I have one D1 football stud and one 5’9” 145 lb complete gamer nerd. Both have no trouble dating and attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 09:24 PM
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No. Not necessary for attraction. I prefer him to save it for when we are a committed couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 11:34 PM
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I’ll put out some good news: 1. Older women still have the upper hand in dating in relationships. I’m 61f - we are inundated with attention from men, including younger (though most of us prefer near to our age). 2. Older women end up not giving a damn if some people think they are irrelevant. We are having way too much fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 04:38 PM
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I can tell you’ve thought deeply, very deeply about this. There is a solution. Don’t date or interact with women who wear make up. Better yet, just avoid all women. Problem solved,
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:39 AM
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As a female in that older age group, this just doesn’t happen. We still have an overwhelming amount of men pursuing and continue to have a lot of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:20 PM
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Female. Fiscally conservative, socially libertarian. Conservative men FTW every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:13 PM
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Same. All the females I know (except for those who are batshit crazy) at any age seem to have no problem finding men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:05 AM
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TBH- I would jump up and ask him if I could get him anything. If he insisted, I would acquiesce and request a glass of water.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 10:48 PM
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“most people are simply not good partners.” This is so well said. Most have no clue what it takes to be in a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 10:43 PM
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Nope. Most women (with some exception) are in demand in 50’s, 60’s and beyond. Then they start outliving men and it becomes harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:32 PM
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This is the answer. Completely acceptable among men. Huge turn off for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:10 PM
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This is well said. We can never take our partner for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 01:01 AM
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I had no lack of options either at 58. The wall is a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:12 PM
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Over time I’ve changed my mind on Pre-Nups. They should just be part of the marriage process. Protects both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:59 PM
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This the answer. And I can’t believe it needs to be explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:41 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 11:53 AM
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Yes to all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:21 PM
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I counsel older men. You’ll understand better when you get there. For the most part, men are lost without women in later age. It’s not just care taking, it’s an emotional need.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 10:39 PM
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“his wife leaves - even though the husband seems to do everything/anything with her” The key word is “seems”. Often times things look one way on the outside, and are very different privately.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:09 AM
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Those men are no more cheaters than everyone else. They choose women that are also top tier and commit to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:13 AM
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This is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:58 AM
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Most are. And most have a good social circle so they get would they need. Men don’t have that. It’s why older men are either in a relationship or desperate to be in one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:24 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:19 AM
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Women all remember how grossed out we were by old creepers. At least in my experience, we are just as in demand in our 50’s and 60’s as we were in our 20’s. It never changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:46 PM
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Business. Any form. Corporate or entrepreneur.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:16 PM
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60f here. No wall. The women that were successful in dating and relationships at 25 are also just as successful at 65. The ones that struggle post 30 - struggle for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 10:52 PM
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Truth? Men need women more than women need men. Especially as they age. (For the record, I think we are all better off coupled up). Men suffer depression and die earlier when alone. TBH, it should be talked about more amongst men, but I don’t think they want to admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 10:36 PM
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Can confirm. Nothing changes. I am 60. Single for the first time in 32 yrs at 58. More dates than I could handle and the same for my single friends. We all are now in LTR’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 11:54 PM
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Here is how you learn: show interest in everyone. Make conversation with guys you don’t know. Talk to women that aren’t potential girlfriends (too old, taken, unattractive, whatever). Show an actual interest. Listen. Ask questions. Cultivate your “reading skills” in those situations. Social skills and reading the room are universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:22 PM
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Effort does not necessarily mean cold approaching. It means having hobbies, joining activities, getting outside IRL every day, going to events, parties, shows, concerts, dinners - anywhere that you can meet women. ALL women. Not just those you are interested in, but all. Work on your charm, your charisma , your conversation abilities. If women are constantly in your sphere and you are reasonably social, it will happen organically.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 08:20 PM
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Yes it can happen to anyone. My Ex left me after 32 years of marriage, 35 together. He thought it would make him happier and cure all of his depression. It didn’t. It’s too late for us now, but we are friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 06:04 PM
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This. Is the answer. It should be the answer for every dating thread on Reddit. Paragraph 2, every damn time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:54 PM
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You said this exactly right.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:31 AM
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Go to the airport or mall, or an event. Most couples are matched up well, be it average or not. The men (or women) that struggle seem to underestimate the looks/value of the people they are shooting for, and over estimate their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:24 AM
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In older age, men definitely need women more than women need them. Older men don’t do well without a partner. Younger? Equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:20 PM
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Couldn’t have said it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:58 PM
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The guys that are the most charming, and the best at flirting are the ones that hang around ALOT of women. Not necessarily even women they are interested in. Find ways to be with all types of women - young, old, attractive, unattractive, etc. Just be in their presence. It will teach you all you need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 06:57 PM
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Men aren’t better. They’re just different. They have aspects that are an asset, and so do women. Thinking that women are a sub species isn’t going to go well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:17 PM
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Married 32 years. My Ex left me. I think everyone goes through some tough transition times in their lives and often will blame the spouse for their own issues. We are still good friends. I still believe my Ex and I could have worked things out and made it. But I have moved on with someone new. My Ex now has regrets. It’s so sad. But it’s too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:03 AM
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Median is a better indicator than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:47 PM
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Yes, but some women are attracted to shorter guys for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 12:03 AM
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Have you ever had a friend that thought a woman was pretty but you didn’t? Why? Because people’s attraction varies. You are perfectly entitled to not be attracted to a woman. Height is the same, Some find tall attractive, some don’t. Women are not required to be attracted to a shorter man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:47 PM
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The inconvenient truth is men need women way more. Even in older age when sex is not a priority. Old men do not do well without a woman in their lives. The reverse is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:00 PM
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Older women aren’t bitter hags. A percentage of both men and women become nasty and bitter as they get older. Ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:29 PM
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Swipe right on A
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:46 PM
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Go to a mall, an outdoor event, an airport. Average men having great success with average women every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:30 PM
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Ah, that’s great! People who are willing to chat with everyone give off positive vibes. Typically can see that a mile away and have no problem interacting. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:30 PM
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Do you talk to unattractive women? Or are they not worth your time?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 08:22 PM
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Here’s one that may also apply- I always have to “think on it” for 24-48 hours to know if there is actually attraction or not. Men seem to know right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:59 PM
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It’s perfectly ok to have preferences for either height or weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:16 PM
0

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 08:30 PM
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Agree with this until about age 60. Then it gets back to even and sometimes the other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 07:00 PM
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The men that are truly boring are the ones that talk about themselves the entire date. So, be curious. Smile. Ask questions. Listen a lot. Bring up some of your own passions and interests. Give and take. If she’s the type that talks only about herself, then she’s not the one for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:28 PM
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Never approached. Not even once. Never needed to. And for the record, the vast majority of men are good guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 10:52 AM
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Men love women who make the first move. Men love to sleep with women who make the first move. Men tend not to attach to women who make the first move. Which is why women don’t make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 09:39 PM
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5’4”, unfortunately. 😆 Wish I were taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:49 PM
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Yup. I got back out there at 58. 110 lbs, very fit. Absolutely inundated with attention and dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:31 PM
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You betcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:11 PM
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A man who truly likes being around women. Outside of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:24 PM
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I agree. The ICK is strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:08 PM
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I’m older now and have observed many old people that have come before me. The ones that “make a stand”, insist they love being alone, and always will stay that way, are the ones who are usually already unhappy and will become more so as time goes on. The people who are truly comfortable alone are content, but open minded to whatever the future holds. That said, much older men do not do well alone. At all. Women end up fine. Not sure why this is, but it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 12:10 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:02 PM
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He needs drive, ambition, and making right around what I make, give or take. A desire to achieve (whatever form that takes) is number 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 02:14 AM
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Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:39 PM
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Absolutely yes. Every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:53 PM
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Absolutely not. I would never leave a date unless they were abusive or threatening.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:27 PM
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Yes. They are completely charming in some way. Unexplainable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:23 PM
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No. Pure fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:22 PM
4

He chose poorly. Totally on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:04 PM
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Women are definitely weaker physically (except in very long distance running or famine) but not intellectually.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:49 PM
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Don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence means the ability to speak well, put others at ease, and plan/execute life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 06:10 PM
4

Many enjoy being single. Until, later age. Especially for men. Close to zero men over 60 happy being single. Not as true for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:32 PM
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Find a way to play the long game. Join groups that meet on the regular so you can actually get to know a woman. Make friends with all sorts of women at those groups, not just the ones you are interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:58 PM
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So just come out and say it- you don’t like women. Ok with us. Move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:33 PM
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Yes.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/23 10:20 PM
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You said it. Most men don’t know how to “behave” around women. Zero social skills or charisma. They don’t need game, just the ability to communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 09:17 PM
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No. Get off of social media. Get out IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:05 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:43 PM
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In my case, my Ex left me. I agreed to work it out without going to court and we agreed to everything up front. The lawyer filing the papers put my name at the top, which technically means I was the one who filed. That was far from the case. Not sure how common this is- just my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:44 PM
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Running club. Enter races, or just volunteer. Tons of great looking, happy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:45 AM
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It IS true. I can confirm personally. As can most of my friends. Aging does affect us all. Women and men both. But the advantage is always with women, even at very advanced ages. TRP will tell you otherwise, but it’s wishing. Men get lonely, very lonely, as they age. Find that really great loyal woman and lock her down.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:22 PM
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Pro tip- there is no “post wall” for women. Any women that is decent looking and fit will have gozillions of men in her age group after her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:35 PM
1

This. Is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:55 PM
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This. Is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:35 PM
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No. I have 2 brothers. One wildly successful in dating throughout his entire life. The other- complete opposite. Has never had a LT relationship and likely never will. He is better looking. It’s always ultimately about charisma, charm, ability to make the other person feel good, and self awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:15 PM
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Agree. I got back out there after a very long marriage, wondering if the wall was a thing. Nope. Tons of dates with good men, and in a permanent relationship within 4 months. I’ve observed the same in the majority of women (whom aren’t batshit crazy) of all ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 06:44 PM
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Replace the word “girl” with “guy” in OP’s statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:40 PM
1

Dated all types, so there are no rules. However, preferences are: tall, educated, libertarian/fiscally conservative, optimistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:50 PM
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And then….they get old. And incredibly lonely. And desperate for love, intimacy, friendship and emotional support.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:53 PM
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Rizz IS the answer. Charisma and charm are what actually make a man attractive to a woman. Looks may be a part of that but they are a smaller part of the whole package.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:36 PM
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Long term it’s an absolute W for men. They don’t do well as they age if they are alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:25 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:47 PM
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No offense taken. Still, it wasn’t my experience. Almost all of these men were wanting to find a partner for life, and overwhelmingly someone in their age range. Did it help that I was feminine, friendly, and rippingly fit? Yes. I was only on the market for 3 months. We are now going on 2 years- getting married in the fall. Tons of great men out there. Women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 08:14 PM
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😊
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 03:54 PM
5

Don’t have to. It’s the truth IRL.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 07:54 PM
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No.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 09:34 PM
0

Sounds about right. Life is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:25 AM
0

Tall. Clean and well groomed. Optimistic. Totally hot for me. Financially stable and fiscally conservative. Emotionally stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 10:12 PM
1

Florida has the most fit, feminine, and friendly women ever. Just sayin’.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:41 AM
2

Gently- sorry, it’s just not true. The nice men are finding the nice women. We are all living happily ever after.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:49 PM
1

I never expect a man to pay for a date. I always offer, and yet, have never had one take me up on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:54 PM
6

Except- it isn’t true. Decent looking women always get tons of attention, no matter the age.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:23 PM
14

Most likely you are wildly overestimating the attractiveness/personality of your friend. Ask the women- see what they say….
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:13 PM
6

Had lunch with a matchmaker/dating coach. His take - “women have a too long list of requirements but are less focused on looks. Men have almost no list of requirements but think a woman who is actually a 9 is only a 6, and they are in her league. They are not even close.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 08:22 PM
-1

Yes.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 10:47 PM
13

Yes. We do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:33 AM
1

Would not want to be married to a billionaire, so the rest is moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 09:55 PM
4

This. OP is missing the nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:38 PM
1

No.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 09:31 PM
0

This. Is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:53 PM
2

Optimism. Fiscally conservative. Emotionally stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:24 PM
1

You lost me at “It is well known…..”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:02 AM
5

This. Is actually the answer. It’s just something to do, like playing Candy Crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:54 AM
15

Because it means you aren’t out in the real world. Go to the airport, the mall, a concert, a boardwalk. Couples of all shapes, sizes and levels of attractiveness.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/22 08:10 PM
1

This statistic doesn’t pan out IRL. What women say they “want” vs what they choose are totally different. Spend some time at the airport, mall, concerts, outdoor events. Look at the couples. There’s your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:34 PM
1

Totally true on women. Society has fed them the lie that they can have it all, and that they should be strong, in-your-face, and not give AF. This attitude fails them over and over again, but they don’t know how to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:28 PM
2

The wall exists I believe, but not for most of us. My level of popularity was the same when I got back out there at 58 as it was in my early 20’s. Same with most of my friends. A bit surprising based on what we were told. I am now happily off the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:27 PM
7

Who? The sour, bitter, negatives? Yes. Me? No. Truly, almost every date was good, and I met my fiancé in 3 months. There are great men and women out there, at every age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:01 AM
49

No such thing, really. I got back on the dating scene at age 58 and was overwhelmed with attention, messages and dates. I do see both men and women that are “post bad LTR/divorce” that are incredibly sour, bitter, and negative. That is “post-wall” IMHO.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 10:30 PM
3

A matchmaker I know said “Women like tall men, however looks are not as important. Men like 9’s and all think they deserve them.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:41 PM
1

Absolutely true. “Pretty and classy” has way more success than “hot and sexy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:52 PM
2

This is easy. Go to a boardwalk, mall, or large event. Watch all the couples walking around. Now check how many men are not 6 ft and are coupled up.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/22 11:35 PM
-1

This. Everyone needs to understand their market value. You are not “dating down” or “lowering your standards”. You are accepting that what you have to offer is lower than you thought.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/22 12:55 AM
1

I thought so. But after being newly divorced and on the market after 32 years of marriage, I was stunned at the attention and options available to an “over the hill” woman. The RP propaganda isn’t even remotely true.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 01:34 AM
1

I hear you. But not demands. Not at all. Just qualities that I would definitely appreciate. A man who wants a LTR looks for exactly those same qualities (other than gentlemanly) in a woman. Looks and status are of equal importance to both men and women. However we all have different definitions as to what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:45 AM
1

Female here- and you said it exactly. Yes, of course we want someone who is nice to us. Not a bad boy. But definitely LEAD. Be the man. It gets us every time.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:42 AM
6

I reject your first sentence. No, we all do NOT know that women find just a tiny percentage of men attractive. It was one study, that was most likely substantially flawed. Go to a concert, sporting event, etc and observe. Couples of all shapes, sizes and levels of attractiveness. Also, I’ve met tons of men that were confident, nice, kind, and caring. They were great in their own way, but didn’t necessarily mean they were a good fit for me. I was also looking for humble, smart, sharp, optimistic,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:37 AM
22

Here is what I would say- The way you feel now is perfectly fine. You won’t feel that way a decade from now. You won’t feel the same way a decade after that. Relax. Things will change. You don’t have to have all the answers right now.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 09:54 PM
2

Men do it too. Part of the mating dance. Enjoy.
/r/seduction01/12/21 08:38 PM
4

Gosh- please shout this from the rooftops to all the dudes convinced it’s all about their looks.
/r/seduction24/11/21 10:50 PM
1

Absolutely yes.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/21 10:01 PM
2

Yeah that would be me. You can find me competing in Spartan races, lifting, doing martial arts, skiing, scuba diving and shooting lead down range. GILFS are hot.
/r/seduction24/10/21 11:35 PM
4

Yes we do.
/r/seduction22/10/21 03:12 PM
3

Yes. It’s actually ridiculously easy. Spend 80% of your time asking questions, listening, and then asking follow up questions. The other person will think you are the most interesting person they have ever met -lol.
/r/seduction22/10/21 01:09 AM
3

Couldn’t have said this better!
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 01:45 AM
4

Lot of guys out there that aren’t that great looking but are still having lots of sex? What do they have? Charm. Totally underrated here on Reddit because it’s something you have to actually work at.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/21 02:11 PM
2

So well said.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 10:22 PM
4

This. Best advice ever.
/r/seduction30/09/21 12:48 AM
3

Exactly this. It really was never an issue for me, because I filtered them all really well. My current guy and I never even needed to discuss it- he was instinctively waiting for me to let him know when the time was right.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/21 10:11 PM
24

She is stunning. That just shows you what men think is “average”.
/r/ExRedPill24/09/21 11:46 PM
1

Exactly right. I am quite fit, but have found that fit men to be too looks obsessed, both with themselves and me. All surface, no substance. Met the perfect guy, Dad bod, a little extra fluff - he’s perfect for me.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/21 11:08 PM
1

I have met so many men while running. More so before and after, obviously. Warming up, cool down walk, collapsed on the ground, lol. Decide that you are just going to meet PEOPLE. Comment on how hot it is, ask their advice on new shoes, mention that the run was killer today, whatever. Talk to whoever might be around - old women, other dudes, good looking women, doesn’t matter. Do it with no expectation, with genuine interest, and just to be friendly. You’ll get very comfortable, and your positiv…
/r/seduction04/09/21 10:46 PM
3

Charisma is the perfect term. The people who cultivate it are wildly successful in all aspects of their lives.
/r/seduction04/09/21 09:53 PM
3

This. Is exactly right.
/r/seduction18/08/21 01:09 AM
2

I would say- he’s in good shape, successful enough, and NORMAL. But he’s a fantastic and active listener. Let’s them talk, asks great questions, is really interested in what the women have to say. It’s like catnip.
/r/seduction28/07/21 11:19 AM
1

My ex has women pursuing him like crazy. (We are on good terms and talk about our dating lives). Once he makes a match a has a first date, they are incredibly aggressive, possessive, and want to lock him down.
/r/seduction26/07/21 08:39 PM
1

Nature makes men want to judge a woman based on how she looks. It’s ingrained in a man to do so. Nature makes women want to choose a man with resources. Does that necessarily mean a gold digger? No. She wants someone that can be relied on to support a family. Wants someone who isn’t sleeping on her couch and mooching her food.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/21 12:05 AM
16

So sorry for you. I can tell it breaks your heart. Can I ask how old your Dad is? I will tell you this- I am newly single (58f) and have so many men after me I’m a bit in shock. What your Dad thinks he knows is completely untrue. Know that your Dad is in the MINORITY. There are so many lovely older men and women out there making great connections and relationships. Try not to let his negativity affect you. HE is the one with the issues. You are going to have a wonderful life, with your boyfriend…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/21 03:36 PM
16

I’ve long since hit the wall- and yet, I have more guys asking for dates than I can handle. So the red pillers can talk about it to their heart’s content, but in reality it has no meaning.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/21 09:41 PM
3

The problem is you are generalizing. Women not only come in all shapes and sizes, but, surprise surprise, they don’t all think the same nor conform to society in the same way. Take every woman that you meet as an individual, and quit trying to put them all in the same box. Once you think of it that way, it will be great fun getting to know them all!
/r/ExRedPill19/04/21 06:27 PM
2

Ah, you should have given Jake a chance. The rest.....let them go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:45 PM
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