TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Hera81 Archive

View 0 posts and 22 comments by Hera81 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

Don't go the path of shit-testing your partner with intention to make her feel insecure in the relationship. You have better things to do than doing that, your GF has better things to do than having to go through that. You have identified the real problem, so good for you. Work on this instead: Also I've read about girls finding men who are insecure very unattractive. This is bad for me as I have a lot of issues with anxiety and obsessive thoughts and my GF knows a bit about my issues but I'm sc…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/18 08:55 PM
10

This is not good OP, not good at all. Your GF will sooner or later feel your discomfort, your bad thoughts, your anxiety, insecurity, your cynical thought. You cannot pretend or act like you don't think like that when you are around her forever. At some point the resentment will slip out, or it will manifest in other form, it will destroy your relationship. Sure some people in relationship cheated, but they are way few compared to people who just fall out of love after their partners turned into…
/r/ExRedPill23/05/18 07:26 AM
9

Actually just need to travel a little bit. I have lived in different continents and countries, and the amount of guys who are supposed to be (appearance-wise, financial-wise, able-bodied-wise, etc) in the 80% of male crowds, who are in a happy LTR/marriage are just too massive to say that only 20% of guys are having it all. Most men in this world have never heard about TRP, manosphere or 20/80 rule. They just live their lives, some found someone, some do not. But you do yourself no favor by will…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/18 08:06 AM
2

Just think of the humor side of it. If you go to Tumblr, you will see female version of MGTOW. Basically women who said that all men are rapist or all men are useless or all men are abusers, etc. Basically they are locked in an eternal battle with MGTOW crowds, in an adult version of childish "U!" "No U!". You wanna be a part of that? Think man, think.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/18 10:25 AM
1

You are one of the few lucky people in this world to get a real life example on how a well adjusted relationship is supposed to look like...from your own parents, nonetheless. From a marriage that is being tested by the type of job that your dad has too. Army household is not for everyone and still your parents aced that. You are already being served doses of reality on how a relationship is supposed to look like on a silver platter here, man. Don't let bitter people ranting online sway you. You…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/18 10:56 AM
4

It's great that you have this kind of self-reflection, may it also helps you with moving on faster. People here have given you many good advice, so I just want to add that even if someday you find yourself in a relationship that you really enjoyed, never lose the sense of yourself. Never really merged yourself into one with your partner. I don't mean don't give your 100/100 into the relationship, but have your own 'happy place in mind', is still very important. Have your own hobby, your own inte…
/r/ExRedPill02/05/18 08:32 AM
2

found that most of the 'good advice' they give on there is just common sense shit that every self-improvement guide tells you and what most people should be told growing up. Correct and this is also what I've been told to others who think that TRP is some kind of magic pills. Most of us with healthy upbringing has heard those kind advice of self-improvement, be independent, do things that makes you happy for yourself and not for other people, take ownership of your own emotion, etc.
/r/ExRedPill22/03/18 08:02 AM
27

Erm...dude...I don't think you are in the best place to be with anyone right now tbh. Just judging by how erratic, panicky and rather desperate you have written your message above Personally I believe that everyone should date whoever they want. Don't feel comfortable dating a high count girl/guy? Don't do it then. I personally would have never dated a guy who has slept around a lot. Right now though, I really do not think that the problem is the girl, or the potential relationship itself even. …
/r/ExRedPill13/03/18 07:16 PM
1

I feel very empty and lonely. Cant Talk yo anyone in real life. I think this part should be fixed first before you try to fix your sexual life. Sure some people self-medicate with alcohol, sex, high risk activities to distract from being empty and lonely. You just have to choose which method is more sustainable in the long run.
/r/ExRedPill11/03/18 07:21 AM
16

If there is one TRP theory you should have practised, it should have been 'Abundance Mentality'. Repeated communication not working? Next her. So weird that most TRPers prefer to do the dread game instead of just next the girl like what normal people would have done.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/18 05:55 PM
31

If your partner is someone who responds better to manipulation (dread game is male version of shit-test) and passive-aggresiveness rather than clear, cool headed communication...yeah...you have chosen wrong.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/18 10:14 AM
10

Men or women with 'sin' far worse than yours have been finding love and long term partners. Men and women who butchered and raped children during civil wars, men and women who'd killed others for money, etc...etc. Your biggest problem right now is not getting the mental healthcare that you need. It is not normal to always think that your partner will at some point cheat, manipulate or use you. It gives them massive pressure. Some people still think like that, even after 30 years together, even o…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/18 01:11 PM
9

I don't think you can reach out. Think about it as someone who is new into a cult and thinking that she finally got all of the answers of her questions there. I grew up in a religious society...and the craziest/the most fanatical members are always the converts. They have to learn the hard way first. Usually finally escaping with debts, lots of children, few broken bones and life long trauma. You can try to help from there.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/18 05:41 PM
2

Ah...I am Germany based. But I am also not a guy, just have a lot of friends (in which all of the guys are in a happy relationship and most of those are LTR). Yeah, vegan group can be very intense, just like some enviromental group/events. It is not the place I'd go to. Cold approach in a park or in anything else can work. But it really something you have to feel confident doing and not having expectation while doing it. In my BF's words, "ask them to pass the salt". People in general are social…
/r/ExRedPill12/01/18 09:33 AM
3

From Western Europe here, might be a bit different if you are in the US. Seems like most people I know (including me) found their partners by chance through shared activities/hobbies or professions. Seeing as how many people in the kennel clubs that I know of are ended up marrying other members. Some nerdy dudes really ended up finding women who are genuinely into nerdy stuffs themselves through nerdy clubs/events. But we do know that those 'sectors' are saturated already. If you have time after…
/r/ExRedPill11/01/18 08:33 PM
16

find a girl that is very hard to get Holy fuck no! Girl is hard to get = she really does not want you but does not want to escalate with taking restraining order yet. Never make an assumption that 'a gal is just playing hard to get'. Holy...haven't you learned anything from the whole reports about harassment lately? Find a girl that shows the same amount of interest and enthusiasm to you as you have for her. Be just like any other normal people. This is so basic, even people who can't read and w…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/17 04:05 PM
1

I am very torn about this. On one hand, I am always trying to encourage myself to be more social...so I may sound like a total hypocrite when I say that it is totally okay to adopt the blackpill stance if someone feels more at peace with it. Fact is, despite humans being social creatures that they are, we also have outliers. And so far (in my opinion), our treatments to those outliers have been very dismissive at best and very suspicious at worst. I am thinking we should be more supportive. OP, …
/r/ExRedPill14/12/17 09:49 AM
13

I get heated up because time and time again, I read all of these seemingly very intelligent people getting sucked into some type of cult, either during their transition period or during the time where they don't do very well and lonely. I am just very angry at the predatory nature of some cults. There is one more advice from me. I volunteer for soup kitchen and something like YMCA (I guess?) for family in poor community. In that kind of community, you'd see many anti thesis of many of TRP belief…
/r/ExRedPill12/12/17 08:13 PM
15

But you do know what to do, you've done the first step yourself. You've cut yourself from TRP off. To get rid of the brainwashing? That takes time and therapy. As a start, RedPillDetox has a nice stickied first aid kit in this subreddit. All of them are a very nice read. The next step is for you to decide if you should get a professional counseling. Many other people managed to shake off brainwashing without help, but only you can decide on that. I was unnecessarily harsh in my previous post, fo…
/r/ExRedPill12/12/17 07:58 PM
21

Of course she is pissed. She is just tired of being shit-tested by you. Honestly OP, being around someone who is constantly showing around their insecurities by shit-testing (dreading, trying to make jealous is also shit-tests, giving them different names is a mental gymnastic in highest order) is very, very exhausting. The very first step I'd suggested is trying to be the person you are interested in. You said she is a genuine, positive person that is always happy in life. And you are...this to…
/r/ExRedPill12/12/17 07:17 PM
6

I'm a pretty boring guy into books, study, documentaries and stupid shit like cooking.. Why would you think being into books, study, documentary and cookery is something extra ordinary, so much that you think you won't find women who have similar interests? Many people regardless of gender are into those. Also most top chefs are men, many great documentaries are made by men. Men who are adored by many women. I'm not outgoing, bold, loud, aggresive, and I'm not into manly things like drinking wit…
/r/ExRedPill11/12/17 12:06 AM
12

I know several men who live that 'alpha' lives through my father's social circle. Between running their own business or keeping top of their job performance and socialization/networking and yes, banging pretty chicks, they will not have the time to write those 'field reports'. Let alone hanging around Reddit at all hours. Many don't even have the time for dating ffs.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/17 03:26 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter