Hiker_Ryan Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
42	Filed yesterday	Getting Started	Hiker_Ryan	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 02:32 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Took Her Less Than Two Months To Find Another Man Taking the time to figure yourself out right now rather than starting a new relationship right away will only help you in the long run. Mine started dating shortly after our divorce was finalized and I can’t help but think it’s a response to realizing she likes being in a relationship and didn’t want to lose that feeling.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/24 12:32 AM
4	Filed yesterday I definitely think social media makes it worse, if not for seeing her and any posting she does (which is not a lot), but for seeing how other people talk about their own relationships. As helpful as this sub is, there are still toxic things about some of what is shared/discussed in here. So taking it all with a grain of salt because only my wife and I truly know our situation.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 10:49 PM
2	Filed yesterday No it wasn't. More along the lines of we have grown apart. We still have a lot in common and like spending time together (at least currently). I agree a friend wouldn't do that, which is a hard thing to reconcile.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 10:47 PM
7	Filed yesterday Thanks for this! I am definitely at the place where I want to work on getting past it quickly. Funny thing about your suggestions - I run (a lot) already and have a bunch of races on my calendar this year so there’s stuff for me to focus on. Helps a lot.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 06:29 PM
3	Filed yesterday I’m not actually. Her work is.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 05:39 PM
6	Filed yesterday I’ve worried about that some. She insists it is nothing I did but she’s been working full time while going to school so I picked up a lot of the things at the house to help her with time/stress. Unfortunately may have led to some of this.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 03:40 PM
6	Filed yesterday Really just hanging with new girlfriends. She was never someone who had a lot of girlfriends so it’s good that she is finding some but yeah it could be a sign. Most of them (maybe all?) are single as well so she’s likely seeing the fun of being on her own.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 03:39 PM
2	Filed yesterday Oh and I’ve definitely thought about the possibility she’s with someone else already. I do trust her as we’ve never had any moments in our history to not trust each other but now that the dynamic has changed it’s hard to be sure. But I don’t want to be someone who becomes angry, jealous, etc and do really want to be friends with her. So I’m trying really hard to respect her privacy and decision while working on getting through this. Whether we can remain friends is to be seen but for the moment …	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 02:50 PM
3	Filed yesterday I did a consultation with a lawyer to work through the forms needed and get good tips on things we hadn’t thought of like writing in we are both responsible for any tax issues related to any and all joint returns we’ve filed, etc.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 02:46 PM
2	Filed yesterday We live in Oregon and they allow you to file as copetitioner if you are in an agreement on splitting everything and there’s not going to be a need for a trial. Since we are friends and are very amicable with each other, this is a good option for us because it reduces court filing fees and theoretically reduces how long it will take, so even though this sucks, maybe we’ll get through it quicker	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 02:41 PM
1	Filed yesterday We live in Oregon and they allow you to file as copetitioner if you are in an agreement on splitting everything and there’s not going to be a need for a trial. Since we are friends and are very amicable with each other, this is a good option for us because it reduces court filing fees and theoretically reduces how long it will take, so even though this sucks, maybe we’ll get through it quicker	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 02:40 PM