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No. It wasn’t something that was offered. Personally… I didn’t care… I just wasted my ex wife gone. She can post whatever she wants…I can care less. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 04:01 AM
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She got a boyfriend….There’s no going back. Do yourself a favor and let her go. Trust me… you deserve much better!
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 09:20 PM
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Alimony in NJ is wild. Lawyers are still pushing Lifetime alimony, 50 percent of the difference of income for marriages under 10 years. Even if the other spouse has a decent job where they can support themselves easily. The laws in NJ do not have a specific calculation which means the scum sucking lawyers will drain your pockets until you’re almost at trial.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 04:48 AM
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Women today are relentless and will destroy fathers at all costs. lawyers use this as a bargaining chip for crap loads of child support and lifetime alimony sentences.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 05:07 AM
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Wonder how comparative the incomes are. Sometimes if it’s within 10,000 it’s not much.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 02:19 AM
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Even if a prenup is validated or whatever, The scumbag lawyer and your ex will challenge it. Lawyers just love running up legal fees even when it’s in black and white! Good Luck! PS—- A big FU to all those lawyers that fight hopeless causes just to rack up those legal fees!
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 04:00 AM
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I did but only for the children. Probably would have sold it if I didn’t have them.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 05:39 PM
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This 👆… never ever get married again!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 03:00 AM
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You are correct with her paying but some lawyers are pushing the burden of responsibility based on income. Her lawyer will try to stick him with it a 100 percent since he’s the only one working however most judges will assign an income of what she could be making if she worked.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 05:47 PM
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Significantly better for me… I will never get married again…. Too risky! I’ve never relied on my ex financially. A Big FU to all the women out there that are vicious and think it’s ok for their ex to live in a crap hole without their children while they live off thousands of dollars of alimony and child support. I’ve heard the horror stories on here and it’s terrible. We need better laws to protect us men.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 05:36 PM
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Never ever get married again! My ex did the same thing but I settled. I have the kids and accepted no child support for 5 years. Going to take them to Disney with all the money I saved. FU to all those shitty ex wives out there!
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 02:24 AM
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Good for her… move on. U deserve better than this.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 02:08 AM
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I think I heard you want a criminal lawyer for these types of things. Now if there is clear evidence like pictures and videotape… it gets complicated from there. Good luck! I’ve seen protection orders being used improperly by both women and men. Crazy
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 08:30 PM
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You are going to be on the hook for a lot of alimony and child support depending on the parenting plan. Her lawyer will try to go for the moon… like lifetime alimony and 50 percent of difference of income. Learn up on your state laws and lawyer up. She sounds like she’s gonna be nasty…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 05:34 PM
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Wha state are you in? Plan on splitting all assets close to 50 percent which includes the house, retirement accounts, cars etc. Alimony should be clear cut but there are states like NJ and CA that suck. Negotiate directly with your ex wife… don’t provoke her and make a deal. If you leave it up the scumbag lawyers, they will drag the process out and suck all the money they can from both of you. Good luck. NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN…Women suck… PS avoid single moms and single women in their forties w…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 10:30 PM
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Just another reason to never get married. Really effed up.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 04:47 AM
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Al Bundy had a group called ‘No Ma’am’. I suggest we start one
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 11:57 PM
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Ah nice. The good life
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 10:01 PM
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I’ll re-double my efforts to never get married again. I don’t care if I live alone for the rest of my life… better than getting hosed by some greedy, narcissistic jerk.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 10:01 PM
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Agreed. Sure, I could have fought but at how much? The lawyers were licking their chops hoping for more mediation and a trial! My ex wife was going to take this to a trial…. I just knew it. I got the kiddos about 85 percent of the time however, I had to give up any claim to child support. Well so be it… I accept your offer! I ended up buying a new truck a few months after the divorce. men would have been held accountable for taking a pay cut and would have to pay what our past W2 stated.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:54 PM
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lol. Hate to be an asshole but women get everything and more. Settle and settle quickly and move on. If you are in a state like NJ… get ready for her lawyer to calculate alimony based on future income, 50 percent of the difference in income, 50 percent of the bonuses… you name it. Us men need clear cut alimony laws and we need it now. By the way… did I mention she took a paycut right before she filed and wanted permanent alimony based on that new salary because her commute was better???? Oh and …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:51 AM
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I told my kids pick out stuff at dollar general and i paid for it. I did it all for the kids since they asked to get her something.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:53 PM
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Practically impossible unless you both had a change of circumstances like you losing your job or she getting a job comparable to your income. Sorry… alimony laws are terrible especially to men.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 10:02 PM
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Keep me mind you will probably pay a scum sucking lawyer 20,000 just to recover your 40,000.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 12:17 AM
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That’s not right. They should be entitled to something with the house.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 12:43 PM
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I guess it won’t be long before a scum of the earth lawyer wins a case in court and gets their client half his assets and alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 12:42 PM
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👆 right here is a smart man! 46 years old and I too enjoy my freedom. I can see for some guys but I was always independent and never relied on the ex wife for anything including taking care of our kids. PS - No way will I ever get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 03:15 AM
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All my cards were in my name so no issues there. I did get a zero percent offer on all purchases for 1 year on my citi thank you credit card so I purchased new living room couch and bed. I ended up with the junky marital furniture. Fun fact: my ex wife opened all kinds of credit cards and racked credit card debt on new furniture including her legal fees and expected me to pay half of it in the divorce. The balls on that bitch!
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 06:59 PM
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Marriage is just not worth it anymore. No loyalty
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 01:32 AM
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What a mess. Feel for you. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 10:10 PM
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And the kicker… she took a new job that resulted in a 30 percent reduction in salary right before she filed. My ex wanted her permanent alimony and child support based on the new salary.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 05:46 PM
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These women today are brutal. My ex wife wanted lifetime alimony being married 10 years and having a job with income that was comparable to mine. I hope my daughters are smarter than my ex wife. I will never get married ever again! FU marriage!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 05:31 PM
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Most states have no fault divorce. Many men on here have had to pay thousands a month in lifetime alimony while the affair person moved in their house. Be careful…. Woman are crazy and the courts shit on the men all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 02:46 AM
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It’s terrible. A good thing to note: the lawyers in NJ are snakes. My ex filed for divorce and took a new job that came with a huge pay cut. Her reasoning was it was closer commute and I had to pay her lifetime alimony on that new salary for being married for 10 horrible years. Her fat ass lawyer went for pendente lite using the new salary based on a union contract and not W2s. When it came to the final settlement we found out she made a lot more. All you need to do in NJ is lie and hide and a m…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 01:26 AM
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The don’t have to work in a blue state. In fact they are encouraged to be stay at home moms.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 10:01 PM
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Probably in a blue state. They file motions after motions getting their clients legal fees. Courts don’t care if the man lives on the street. Blue states are terrible to get married in. One or two years married and those crackhead lawyers go for lifetime alimony
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 10:00 PM
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There’s special circumstances and now the little young lawyers are exploiting this in front of judges now. Excuses for Lifetime alimony: public school teacher (like mine), stay at home that wishes to continue to stay at home. Alimony laws need to change
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:21 PM
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Good! She doesn’t deserve you. Focus on yourself and those kids You are going to be happy in a few years. Trust me!
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 04:18 AM
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Lifetime, permanent alimony? I know states NJ and California award permanent alimony for marriages more than a year.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 03:54 PM
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King baby!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 02:49 PM
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Oh I agree! Unfortunately my kids teeth look like a train-wreck so I had to get them. Always stay in network and try to go to multiple dentists to get prices. To the OP…it’s not medically necessary.. I’d check your MSA… it should outline what you are responsible. She could try to use ‘out of pocket expenses’ clause but the lawyers should have worded it ‘mutually agreed out of pocket expenses’. That should keep you out of court if that line is written like that.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 02:50 AM
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Dude… it’s for ur kid. I certainly don’t want my kids growing up with effed up teeth and then getting blamed for it. I’d make your half of the payment directly to the dentist and not to ur ex. Do not give her the money
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 07:13 PM
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That’s some effed up story. Please leave her ass. She’s a terrible woman and will do something like this again in the future.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 04:55 PM
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Agree! I never thought the person I married would be such a piece of shit in the divorce. 10 year marriage and wanted lifetime permanent alimony of 50% of difference of income. Ex wife had a job and took a substantial paycut right before she filed… rung up almost 80 grand in credit card debt in her name a s demanded 100 percent of her legal fees paid. She got nothing like this at the end but it costed a ton in legal fees for both of us. Get out of the marriage and Never get married again… don’t …
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 09:08 PM
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I suggest starting something cool of your own. I went out and bought febreze warmers for the bathrooms and fake plants to put around the house…. Bonus.. no watering! I got rid of the some the old furniture from the marriage and got what I wanted. I even bought those robot vacuums with a mop for the house. It’s so great… I just tell Alexa to clean my floors now. I love being divorced!
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 03:27 PM
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Exactly. Well said
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 04:28 AM
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You will be paying alimony. You will also need to provide medical benefits until she is in the position of getting it on her own They don’t care about the past. The judges don’t want her out on the street at the end of the day. Again… I strongly say it. NEVER get married! Too much liability when your significant other is a loser.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/26 02:30 PM
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Colorado alimony (spousal maintenance) rules use a statutory guideline formula based on combined gross income, but judges consider many factors like marriage length, property division, and earning capacity, plus new considerations for domestic abuse. The formula generally takes 40% of the higher earner's gross income, subtracts 50% of the lower earner's, and divides by 12 for a monthly amount, with duration tied to marriage length (up to 50% of the marriage). This is what it should be but it dep…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 02:41 AM
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Typically the scumbag lawyers start at 50 of the difference in marital income and then get you to agree close to 25. It’s a tactic they all play.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 01:52 AM
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Surprised her lawyer isn’t pushing for 50 percent. Also if you were paying for her benefits, her slimy ass is going to ask for alimony to cover that and any out of pocket bs. I swear… after my divorce, I will never get married again. Women are such pieces of shit when it comes to divorce. Just take what’s entitled to you…nothing more!
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 01:32 AM
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Look at your MSA. My jerkoff ex’s lawyer put verbiage that alimony and child support continues in present form even if she got remarried. I also had issue with having alimony adjustments in the event she got disabled… her piece of shit cousin purposely went on disability and got an alimony adjustment in her favor. Almost went to trial to get that removed!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 01:03 AM
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Better be careful… her lawyer can come back for alimony adjustments to compensate for the increase in income!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:12 PM
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Women and their lawyers are the scum of the earth. I know many men living in their parents basement after they get done with them! Don’t worry… she’ll shack up with another man to provide for her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 09:11 PM
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They don’t work in blue states.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 04:36 AM
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Must be a blue state and she must have settled early. Most judges would never allow that.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 04:36 AM
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Dude..I’ve seen more women get alimony even when that woman made more. True story! Women had to get medical and it was thousands per month and a judge awarded 1,000 a month alimony for life. The laws suck for men and we shouldn’t get married anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 12:05 AM
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Get familiar with the laws in your state. Have to be honest… once you get the scum of the earth lawyers involved, they will make shit worse. Your lawyer will claim you owe nothing while her lawyer will claim you owe her a kidney! You both will fight for years while those scumbags will drain all your assets. You both need to look at the laws and see what you both are entitled to in reason. You shouldn’t try to screw her over and she shouldn’t either. Save your money and move on. Think of this as …
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 11:58 PM
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Washington is a blue state which means you are screwed! You left out how much you make. Most likely have to shell out more than half of your paychecks in alimony and child support until she gets on her feet and even then alimony adjustments are rare. Any lawyer she gets will nail your ass to the cross with alimony and child support. A lawyer will also compel you to pay your wife’s tuition as well. Lawyer up!
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 08:46 PM
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Depends on the lawyers you get. Oh I can just see her lawyer going after permanent lifetime alimony and all bs until you waste money on mediators and other crap.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 01:58 AM
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Did you have to hire a lawyer? Bet that costed some money. Crazy
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 10:23 PM
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Absolutely agree! I do not like the idea of marriage anymore. Ive seen both men and women get financially destroyed by their significant other. Child support is weird in NJ. Supposed to be by the guidelines but more lawyers are now arguing for more based on circumstances.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 09:59 PM
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Oh yes you can! Women are entitled to 50 percent of the difference of marital income in NJ. Lifetime alimony but your lawyer has to prove those extreme circumstances.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 05:39 PM
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Yea. My ex-wife blamed me for her 80,000 in credit card debt (have no idea what she put on those cards as I could never ask as it was considered controlling.) I confronted my wife who left extra early each morning.. she claimed she went to a gym… when I asked her why she didn’t tell me…I wasn’t supportive. Oh my…thank God I’m divorced!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 12:47 AM
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It won’t get better and she will never change. I’m a big believer in not getting married! I wished my older self could go back and slap the shit out of me. Good luck. Hope whatever you do works out for you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 04:21 AM
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What county do you live in? I suggest you go with a lawyer that knows the county family court inside and out. The lawyers tend to know the judges and how they will rule on your case in the event you go to court for anything. The lawyer I used may not be a good fit for you if you are outside his service area. Let me know.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 01:20 AM
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Sounds like your ex wife had a great, scumbag lawyer. That’s way too much! Good luck with the modification…. If you are in a blue state, it’s really hard to get this changed. You will need to convince the judge and hopefully you can. I wish the scum of the earth lawyers would stick with the child support guidelines…. Its a simple calculation
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 04:46 AM
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Honestly, almost all lawyers will try… how much will you spend trying to defend it? I’ve seen lawyers rack up tens of thousands in legal fees trying to contest this even if the agreement was ironclad. I think most judges will force you to mediate before you head to a trial on the agreement. Lawyers are the scum of the earth and will do anything to drain your bank account.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 03:22 PM
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Yea… it’s definitely terrible in NJ. You can obtain a temporary restraining order without physical violence. If you get into an argument with your spouse, they can get a temporary restraining order on the grounds of harassment and take the kids away until you duke it out in family court. My ex wife was terrible with the help of her scumbag lawyers! She really tried hard but failed at the end. Took a lot of money to fight it but it was worth it… our kids live with me now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 02:28 PM
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Probably NJ. The scum of the earth lawyers here love frivolous motions so they can collect their legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 02:13 PM
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They still do. Men should never get married. I literally had my ex demand 50% difference between my last year of income which was the highest to my piece of shit ex wife union contract vs her W2. Almost went to trial over her bull shit.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:09 PM
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lol! True! My ex was a hottie 20 years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 10:47 PM
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Rule number one: NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN! So much money down the drain now with lawyers and courts. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 06:06 PM
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Agree! The kids are the biggest asset.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 05:04 AM
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He was fine.. her lawyer was terrible. You can’t force someone to do the right thing. Judge ordered things during the case management conference and she disregarded those orders. We came to the point that the lawyers were writing briefs for a trial. A trial in NJ for a divorce is unheard of… you never go to trial! I had enough and settled. Sometimes is easier and cheaper to settle than spend shit loads of money in legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 04:22 AM
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It’s rigged when the other party lies and drags the shit on without any regard to the costs. My ex would withhold documents… she couldn’t even agree to what she made when she actually produced her W2. Give me a break! This should be clean cut and done. I ended up settling because she would have went on forever. She didn’t even produce discovery for crying out loud! She had 80,000 in hidden credit card debt and I had to pay for half of it without her providing statements.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 03:19 AM
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That’s crazy. She probably just settled instead of running up all the legal fees. She’s a smart girl…. She’ll come out on top in a few years while her so called man mooches off someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:20 AM
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this would cost tens of thousands of dollars. It’s easier to walk away and save that money used on legal fees and use it for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:19 AM
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We both have joint, legal custody however I have the majority of parenting time.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:06 AM
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I didn’t give a crap at the end. Probably would have costed more to litigate in court. I got the kids… a little bitter because she isn’t picking them up for visitation and her weekends. Any man would have gotten hung for what she tried to do. Having the kids is amazing and that’s what matters.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 09:54 PM
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I think so. The warning signs were there and I ignored them. Shame on me! I’ll know for the Next time
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 08:45 PM
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Yup. That’s how it goes. Men get shitted on in a divorce. My ex wife secretly took a new job that came with a huge paycut in salary right before she filed for divorce. I had some alimony exposure because of this and ended up with the kids the majority of the time. I ended up having to give up any right to child support in order for her not to get alimony payments. At least I got the kids! Men should never get married!
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 08:22 PM
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So you don’t pay spousal support? Did you do a trade off for no child support? Good for you. I have the same arrangement.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:11 PM
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Hope you didn’t get screwed like others I’ve seen. I can’t imagine having to pay lifetime alimony to a cheating pos.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 06:48 PM
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Oh and if you covered the medical, some jackass lawyer will try to get you to pay it moving forward. I will never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 11:05 PM
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Lol. Better be careful… if she took a huge paycut, and didn’t tell you… ur on the hook for alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 11:03 PM
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Disagree- NJ is getting more liberal with alimony. Married for 10 years and they were trying to get me to do lifetime alimony of 60 percent of the difference in marital income.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 03:01 PM
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It’s crazy! I personally will never get married again. The amount of exposure you have when your ex spouse is a loser is insane.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 06:01 PM
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Congrats on that! Be careful and double check the Marital Settlement Agreement. My Ex’s scumbag lawyer tried to add wording in there where alimony can be recalculated due to future success. Her lawyer stated that she supported my career (she didn’t of course) and therefore deserved alimony recalculations to benefit off my future success. This is now becoming a thing now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 01:19 PM
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Oh boy… another reason for never getting married! In blue states, Everything has to be split down the middle including pay. Alimony is calculated like this. Your salary - her salary… take the difference in income and divide by 50 percent. Lifetime alimony will also probably be thrown at you. You will also be on the hook for child support. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 01:41 PM
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Yup… mine did the same thing. Full custody…They use the kids… except for me… I was the one taking them to school and picking them up for years before she filed.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 02:46 AM
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Pre and post nuptials are rarely held up in court. Judges send you both to mediation until you hash out a deal.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 05:27 PM
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Never get married! Will never do it again Lawyers are the scum of the earth! Had to spend a lot of money to fight what the law was. My ex tried to get alimony for life on a ten year marriage with alimony recalculations every year
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 03:49 PM
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Be careful and stay strong! Many young, stupid lawyers are boasting lifetime alimony of 50 percent of the marital income these days. It’s not law but they do this to capitulate on those legal fees! They love to jerk around! Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 03:15 AM
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lol. These stories sound like mine. I WILL NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN! I love my freedom!
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 04:06 PM
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And don’t forget a money hungry lawyer to come back and file modifications for alimony if you get a significant pay increase!
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 07:43 PM
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Better not piss her off!
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 11:42 PM
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Sorry! I paid him already. 7 grand. I brought him on for the divorce and was dealing with her lawyer head on before. Two motions for pendante lit
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 02:02 AM
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Agreed! Female judges are the best for a male. Male judges seem to think the man is still responsible for taking care of the woman.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 01:27 AM
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They are the worst! They insight their client to waste their money on bs. My lawyer was great and told me what she was entitled to… we ended up having to agree to some of her crap because that lawyer was aggressive. She owes her lawyer 20,000 and I owe mine none. Enough said!
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 01:24 AM
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lol. Dual income… her lawyer was holding me to lifetime alimony. Our incomes were identical but she took a paycut right before she filed for divorce which ended up 101,000 for her and 130,000 for me… her lawyer proceeded to trial to get 15,000 per year lifetime permanently alimony along with me having to submit my W2 every year for an alimony adjustment.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 12:50 AM
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Men do not get alimony. Alimony calculations for women are insane. I had her lawyer telling me that she was entitled to 50 percent of the difference in marital income for life on a shitty 11 year marriage. She kept threading to go to trial and I was going to pay for her legal fees if I didn’t settle immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 09:59 PM
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I will never get married again. There is too much exposure and the lawyers are nothing but scum
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 08:36 PM
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I love being divorced! Married for 11 years. My ex was reckless with money and hid crap behind my back. I am 44 and enjoying my kids which live with me. Love it!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 08:20 PM
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Mine did the same crap. Sucked at first but I am happier without her anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 03:35 AM
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Sorry about that! Terrible to use the kids as a weapon. Another reason to never get married or remarried!
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 03:26 AM
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They are crazy in NJ. Half the marital income and lifetime alimony. Law says it’s limited but the lawyers can get lifetime for anyone.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 04:02 AM
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lol! If only that was my problem!
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 04:22 PM
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Marriage settlement agreement. It gets filed with the divorce decree
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 09:30 PM
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Modifications are hard especially if it’s not written in the MSA. This is something your shitty lawyer should have put in there. A automatic recalculation by the guidelines every 3 years or something like that. Your ex-wife sounds like a demon… mine tried that bullshit when she filed a restraining order on me for harassment… made up some bullshit I screamed in the kids face and threw my other kid in the bed.. dyfs got involved and found nothing. Good luck… ur not the only one.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 08:24 PM
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Not always. Mine knew the judge and was friends with him. With that being said, he was scared and was by the book with timelines while my wife’s lawyer was screwing around and got away with crap.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 07:55 PM
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Yikes!! Sorry about what you are going thru. Another reason to NEVER GET MARRIED! Good luck! The laws seriously need to be changed.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 01:12 PM
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Hypothetical…. I want to make sure my future girlfriend doesn’t eff me in the future. I’m a little scared from my ex wife. I had a temp restraining order from my ex wife based on me ripping her new asshole for letting her family use her credit cards over text messages. We got to the FRO and she was denied…. I then divorced her ass. No physical contract or anything like that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 01:54 AM
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I love being divorced. Never will I marry again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 01:37 AM
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Men do not get spousal support period.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/25 01:36 PM
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I will never get married again either! They use the marriage as a weapon at the end. Alimony is insane
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/25 11:44 AM
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Be careful… you need to put a lot of distance between each other if this is totally false. Do not attempt to reconcile as she or he will do this again. I had this happen to me and let’s just say I was lucky because my children stood up for me and they live with me full time. NJ will grant restraining orders to anyone. I’ve seen men and women use it as a means to bully their partner. Me ripping my ex spouse a new one over text messages for allowing her family to use her credit cards was what gran…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/25 03:24 AM
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Good luck! She’s going to ask for everything and drag the process out courtesy of her money sucking lawyer! Mine asked for the moon too and got nowhere.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 06:51 PM
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I was upset at first but at peace! mine filed because she got pissed off at me. She was vicious with her demanding lifetime alimony for a pathetic shitty 10 year marriage of lies and what not.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 07:27 PM
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Yikes! You still care for her which is normal…. Your life will get better once you are over her. I was in your position…. Put yourself first and don’t look back.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 06:01 PM
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We have kids and I am the custodial parent with 85 percent of the time. Her bitch of a lawyer was brutal. She was asking for like 3,000 a month in lifetime alimony. Her lawyer kept insisting to use her union contract as the basis of alimony which was 82,000…. Had to get the judge involved for her to hand us over the W2 which was insane. I spent more money having to go to court because she wouldn’t cooperate on documents. There should be an automatic rule, no alimony without a W2 to verify income…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 11:17 PM
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Married for 11 and I settled for 8 years limited duration alimony at 35 percent in difference of incomes. She was 100,000 and I was 130,000 so it came out to 11,000 a year. Laws in NJ mean nothing if your ex spouse has aggressive lawyer that wanted to go to trial.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 03:50 AM
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Your ex must have had a young, legal fee hungry lawyer! lol. I literally had to have my ex wife’s 2024 W2 subpoenaed and still didn’t have until the judge in the trial yelled at her lawyer about not providing it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 12:16 AM
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My lawyer claims he has seen stay at home moms get lifetime alimony but this was first for him.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 11:31 PM
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This particular young dumb lawyer was using exceptional circumstances as the grounds since she was a school teacher and wouldn’t make what I made. Mediation told her limited duration but decided to go to trial over it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 11:17 PM
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lol. Moral of the story… laws can be challenged in NJ…. Didn’t get lifetime alimony but had to spend lots of money to fight it. Never get married!
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 10:30 PM
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I agree but you know lawyers…. They love to try! Bottom line… lawyers know it costs money to go to trial and most people will settle. I will never get married again especially the bull shit I got from my ex’s dumb lawyer. Lawyer tried to get me to pay permanent alimony for a 10 year shitty marriage in NJ… not only that was ridiculous… she tried to get me to provide alimony for half the difference salaries and based off of a contract instead of a W2 for her client. Mind u I’m the one with the kid…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 02:30 AM
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You are so right! Many lawyers will try to challenge any prenup and the legal costs alone is astronomical.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 11:11 AM
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Leave. Mine was like that! I confronted her with credit cards and screamed at her. Family and her called it abuse. lol
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 12:26 AM
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This is true. Spiteful men and women get protective orders all the time which is terrible. These laws really need to be looked at. Real evidence should be used instead of heresy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 12:24 AM
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Excellent advice!
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 04:41 PM
8

Woah… sounds like my ex wife. lol.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 04:39 PM
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Nah… we finally settled but it was no where what she asked for in the beginning. Her POS trash lawyer dragged the process out completely. Her lawyer also wouldn’t provide the 2024 W2 and was using a union contract as the basis of support. She claimed she made 82,000 but when she finally provided a W2 it was well over a 100k. A total waste of money.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 05:26 PM
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Thanks! My lawyer seemed to be a big wuss. He was more afraid of the judge than me or her lawyer. Her lawyer was so demanding… she was demanding me to split my retirement accounts while she got to keep hers. She wanted me to sign over a car that was procured and paid for before the marriage, she had a substantial amount of credit card debt that I didn’t know about and she wanted me to pay 75 percent of it. and she wanted child support not by NJ guidelines.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 05:18 PM
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Thanks! Her lawyer is claiming exceptional circumstances since she will never be able to live the marital lifestyle. Also a provision her lawyer added was if she was disabled or lost her job an alimony recalculation would be required. My lawyer also stated going to mediation would force her to accept reality. These lawyers are the scum of the earth.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 04:13 PM
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From what I understand, judges have discretion and can award more than normal if the argument is compelling. My spouse’s lawyer was very compelling during the Matrimonial Early Settlement Panel and they recommended open duration permanent alimony and claimed many judges in NJ are now awarding this with all divorces now
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 01:02 PM
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Lawyer said it’s not true however she will never make the marital lifestyle ever so a judge may feel she’s entitled to that. NJ has very vague laws when it comes to alimony and now many lawyers are pushing for half the difference and permanent lifetime alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 02:02 AM
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Confronted her about her family using credit cards, Cops were called and she asked them to remove me from the house… they asked if I hit her and she said no… she left for a few hours and the cops came back later with a restraining order for harassment. Mine literally went crazy after our second child. Her family is crazy…. 45 years Mine was brutal towards the end.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 11:07 PM
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Oh wow. Did we marry the same woman? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 01:50 PM
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I kept the marital home so it made it easier for the kids. She does get to pick up the children two times during the week for dinner. I offered every weekend and her reply was ‘so I can’t enjoy a weekend off’ enough said! lol! I’m hoping she’ll take more days when she’s off from work/vacation. I will not fight… if she wants to have them… she is more than welcome! I want to see the mother in their lives. My ex wife I think is going thru something and I hope she has a change of heart and wants mor…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 09:29 PM
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I work from home and can transport to school easily… I’ve done it all their life. She works a lot and she wanted me to pay for child care etc. she really didn’t fight me at all for the custody.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 08:10 PM
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My wife kept hiding stuff like huge credit card debt and other stuff. I confronted her and she got pissed and defensive. Told her we would have to get a divorce if she couldn’t tell me…. Got served with papers and everything. Finally divorced! I have my two girls about 85 percent of the time and I love it!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 03:18 AM
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lol. You married someone’s problem! Good job!
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 05:10 AM
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Some of us got burned like myself and that’s why I gave you that response. The mother of my children left me with the kids and demanded a ton of alimony without paying child support.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 01:51 AM
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Make up with her and move to Texas…. Then divorce her ass in a year. Blue states are brutal with alimony
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 03:44 AM
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I was here…. Now I’m like screw it… I’d rather be the eff alone
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 04:04 PM
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Leave her. Same with me. Met in high school and very toxic. Pissed her off one day and I got a temporary restraining order on harassment and divorce complaint. Got to Court and it was thrown out. Reconciled but i really shouldn’t. Three years later I got another divorce complaint and she wanted like 2 grand in permanent alimony for 11 year marriage in NJ.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 06:23 PM
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Agreed. Half his pay will go for permanent alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 06:19 PM
2

I saved them for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 02:53 AM
1

11 years. When she filed we made the same amount. She took a paycut. We made the same amount during the whole marriage
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 08:02 PM
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In NJ, My ex’s jack off lawyer tried to get me to pay alimony 200 a week for 6 years. She made 100,300 and I made 130,000.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 06:20 PM
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I don’t care…. It’s like I left my mark on her for other men. lol.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 06:17 PM
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That’s terrible. 👆This right here is why I won’t reconcile with my wife. She filed for divorce and now doesn’t really want to go thru with it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 03:05 AM
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Damn. In NJ you would be on the hook for at least 8 grand a month in lifetime alimony (she can claim a huge income disparity for life and they don’t care about infidelity). Ugh… good luck… hope u catch a break. Women are crazy
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 09:05 PM
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I’d be happy. The shit I had to go thru with her was incredible…let someone else deal with her craziness
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 01:06 AM
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It’s tough and I agree. I had my kiddos Christmas eve and day, I put the decorations out, and played Santa as a single father. Loved every bit of it. Very fortunate the way things worked out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 11:07 PM
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Be careful with lawyers… get yourself a real practical one and not one that is a pos that ramps up the bill. My ex had a lawyer that dragged me into court for pendente lite and it costed me thousands to Fight back. In the end she got nothing because she was dishonest and her lawyer knew it. You can’t quite a job and take less money and wait support based on a future salary.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 12:09 AM
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Correct. Your lawyer should have requested statements for anything he claims as marital debt. Make sure to have them ask for 5 years.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 12:00 AM
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Perfect. No alimony and we split the house. She wouldn’t produce her credit card statements which saved my ass. I believe some of that credit card debt was from her parents.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:01 AM
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It’s fucking weird… my ex comes over for her visitation and I’ve gotten a few quickies every now and then.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 04:03 AM
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Everyone has a different time table. The fact that you have no children is great. You’ll be fine!
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 02:39 AM
4

Mine was hiding 70,000 in credit card debt.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 04:34 PM
2

My wife was an ass. 3 months until I got into a routine. I have my two girls about 90 percent of the time. Hardest part was watching my 4 year old cry and miss her mother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 02:46 AM
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Not true! My in-laws were not divorced however my wife was a huge loser because they condone everything and anything she did.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 04:30 PM
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Lol. These women are crazy. Mine only cheated financially… seriously who knows if she cheated. Do yourself a favor and move on. There are billions of other people out there…. Give one of them a chance!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:29 PM
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This right here 👆.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 07:23 PM
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If you have no kids you are way ahead of the game. I have two and I have them the majority of the time. With my job and kids, I’m not able to get out and play the game.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 07:22 PM
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lol! Dude… she honestly sounds like a keeper. I seriously would try to do something to try to save the marriage. See what you can do to reignite the love you both had together.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 03:23 PM
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lol. Don’t matter….ive seen a lot lawyers promise the moon but all they did was drain their client’s retainer. My wife ended up with nothing but paid for countless motions that go no where and pissed off the judge in the end. Try to get an experienced lawyer who is old school.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 02:56 AM
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Just wait until a hungry lawyer gets a hold of her. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 02:03 PM
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Nah. It was total hell with her for the last 3 years. 3 years ago she whipped up a restraining order based on harassment. Who wouldn’t rip their spouse a new asshole if they gave credit cards to their family to charge on. Again… good riddance! This woman was a complete nut job after we had my 4 year old. By the way… her excuses were menopause… Covid.. you name it
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:05 PM
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In the beginning had to watch my 4 year old girl cry each time her mother dropped her off. It was torture! I never wanted the divorce and it came out of nowhere. Unfortunately, the children are better off with me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 07:35 PM
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lol! That’s exactly what’s going on here. There’s no yelling or bitching.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 06:09 PM
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The fool had her credit cards and everything going to her parent’s apartment. The monthly statements were a joke and made her look so bad
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 05:49 PM
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She literally gave them to me. We agreed on custody during the divorce proceedings and it became final. I little background… I work 100 remote and can work anytime I want and was primarily there for them the whole time. My spouse worked but had to travel a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 05:47 PM
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Terrible. You will be fine. I myself was blindsided probably like everyone else on here. Get a custody plan in place now and fight for as much time as you can offer for your kids. The gym and putting extra time at work does wonders.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 02:24 AM
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Hell yes! It was always me! She never took ownership of her hiding 60 thousand in credit card debt or the unaccounted time she was out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 04:56 PM
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lol. Screw them! Menopausal symptoms are not an excuse. My wife was a lying dog and hid everything and when I found out she filed for divorce. She used menopause… Covid… kids… you name it!
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 04:48 PM
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