HitchTheThird Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	[FR] How I K-closed my first tinder date		HitchTheThird	/r/seduction	24/03/18 04:00 PM
1	Talking to a girl after years of being oblivious to her interests		HitchTheThird	/r/seduction	16/02/19 05:41 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	Have been seeing a girl for about two months now and haven't done anything sexually. Having trouble making the first sexual move, advice? when I go over to her dorm we just make out and that's it Are you escalating? She's a virgin, you're not. She's expecting YOU to be the one leading it up, as you're the one that "knows what to do" after all! You've been dating her for almost two months. That's enough time to build enough trust. From what you said, she looks like she's 1000% down for it. If you look down at it, this is as easy as it gets. The next time you're making out, use your hands on her. Neck, thighs, around her chest, then…	/r/seduction	11/01/19 03:46 PM
2	Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guys Let me tell you a tale. John started dating a woman - street artist, fake moon landing and flat earth believer, but attractive with a nice personality. They hardly were a close match, but he liked her and wanted to make it work as hard as he could. Two dates later, she simply stopped caring - she wouldn't answer his texts, would answer his calls, but flake on any date arrangements he tried. This is where he mustered the courage to move on. He felt devastated and depressed, like he wouldn't find …	/r/seduction	23/05/18 04:41 PM
18	Interesting success story... from my professor. If it's a spanish speaking country, it's not Brazil. The tourists were certainly brazilian though.	/r/seduction	23/05/18 02:45 PM
3	Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guys Nice dude, congrats! (I bought her Chocolates before hand and then a bottle of wine to share in a pub). I'd say the chocolates were a bit risky. Someone with trust issues might interpret this as "bribing", since it's a highly personal (emotional and sexual) commodity (the wine not that much, since it can be shared), but that's in the past. Did she enjoy it? I took her to a nice restaurant, but she decided to pay as I've paid for lots of stuff before. But I think that's a good sign right? Ehhh, i…	/r/seduction	22/05/18 02:21 PM
2	How to keep a girl interested if you can only arrange the first date in a few weeks? A comment here suggested to wait until 4-5 days before you want to set up the date. That sounds alright. Before that, just keep your presence, don't let her forget you. I think that convos that start with a "remember me?" don't end well.	/r/seduction	21/05/18 06:59 PM
17	How to keep a girl interested if you can only arrange the first date in a few weeks? We'll need more detail, champion. Did you meet this girl personally? Did you date already? Things I found out during my journey (may not apply for everyone or in every case): On online dating, the woman's peak interest level is around your first or second message. From then it'll stay flat for a while (the exact amount varies by girl) before it starts to drop; You'll want to set up a date ASAP to keep that interest level flat for a bit longer. This happened to me when I matched with two girls th…	/r/seduction	21/05/18 04:50 PM
2	Trying tinder again. What do I say to this hottie? You're quite attractive. This girl is not out of your league at all IMO. If you had some nicely taken pictures you'd be drowning in pussy. You see, you've been taking pictures with the front camera of a (probably low-end) cellphone. Notice how the high ISO makes the pictures grainy, grayish and kind of blurred. Get some professional photos (a friend with a DSLR can help), you'll see the difference. You look nice with the stubble, but please, shave the neck. And I'd ask what's her deal with orang…	/r/seduction	20/05/18 08:06 PM
1	Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guys Well, there's a lot of good advice in this thread already, i don't think i can help much more. she decided to lay her cards on the table as a test of how much you could deal with her at her worst It sounded like that to me as well, and since she agreed to a fourth date, it's safe to say you nailed this test. how does she know how to trust me? She said it herself: Time. She's the one who can judge who she can trust, and she said it will take time. Also, her being back to online dating doesn't mea…	/r/seduction	19/05/18 10:50 PM
1	Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guys Nah, she wants to settle, I figured she'd be a bit older. Makes sense.	/r/seduction	18/05/18 08:38 PM
2	Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guys She doesn't trust guys. She says me, but what she really means is guys in general - I've not done anything untrustworthy with her and she's enjoyed spending time with me. Wording. Did she say "I don't trust you" or "I don't trust on what you say"? If she meant "trust in guys in general", that doesn't sound like a bad sign, really. If she's comfortable around you, that's a big plus. Question is, with her talking to me almost everyday - multiple times per day (and fairly big messages) how do I tak…	/r/seduction	18/05/18 08:37 PM
4	Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guys Just out of curiosity... how old are you guys? As for my two cents, there are a lot of mentally broken girls out there man, you shouldn't get too attached. As long as you're giving your all, showing interest and trying to make it work, you're probably good enough for someone. I know, it feels bad to work this hard to see it all fall apart, but sometimes it isn't your fault. Remember: seduction is all about opening more doors, but your personality is what keeps them open. You've got one more shot…	/r/seduction	18/05/18 06:52 PM
1	[FR] How I K-closed my first tinder date I know. I was afraid she was going to ghost me if I didn't. Some girls are attracted by the commitment. If you look like you're just there for sex and nothing else, they'll lose interest. On the other hand, some are just there for validation, which means there's zero interest to begin with. It was mostly small-talk, though; nothing really fancy or detailed. Also, she was the one maintaining conversation.	/r/seduction	24/03/18 06:00 PM
1	Need some tips on building a rapport on Tinder. That's how you set yourself apart, you have experience and creativity - you simply saw the opportunity and took it. Still, you have to account for all the chodes that had the same leads and probably busted it with stupid questions. OP in the other hand, seems a bit too invested and inexperienced. From his example interaction, i can see some flaws: Try to ask questions that are a bit more open-minded. If she can answer your question with a single word, it's probably not a good question; If you're…	/r/seduction	20/03/18 06:05 PM
2	Online game basics Some more points about messaging: Keep her interested in the conversation. Remember that she's talking to a lot of guys, most of which are asking the same questions ("how was your day?", "what do you do for a living?"). Pay attention to her pictures and bio, and try to come with something based on that (for example, if she has a picture in a foreign country, ask her what she learned about their culture, or what was the best place she visited there). Your chance to get a response will most likely…	/r/seduction	16/03/18 12:56 AM
3	Honesty Rules The lesson here is being able to speak truthfully with someone while still keeping a shroud of mysteriousness around you. Omitting is not lying. You're allowed to have secrets. Dont reveal too many things too fast That's where I fail sometimes. I'm an honest person, but I'm too open about myself sometimes. Sadly, knowing isn't even half the battle in this case. You need to be less invested. Don't reveal that you have issue with girls That's paradoxical IMO. You only have an "issue with girls" if…	/r/seduction	10/03/18 11:13 PM
1	The goal of texting a girl is to get her to meet you in person. Here are the 5 super simple steps to do it. This is solid. Could tip #2 be used for unidirectional conversations as well? How do i match the level of investment of someone who doesn't ask questions, just answers them (even if the answers are full-fledged ones)?	/r/seduction	28/02/18 04:52 PM
8	How to recognize between being a second option and genuine busy life ? This isn't difficult, since you have the reasons on why she's less available right now. My tip: Be there for her. This isn't about seduction, chasing or gaming, dates or closing. She's a human being, not a robot. If she's going through all this crap in her life, she could very well be busy (responsibilities being placed on her shoulder), anxious or even afraid. Give her some empathy. Ask if she needs some kind of help. Then, once this is through, you can gauge her interest again. If she's really…	/r/seduction	26/01/18 03:17 PM
10	Don't know if this is considered a cold approach, but holy shit I just talked to the first girl ever on the street Are there no exceptions? I mean, OP said it was raining; Would a girl prefer to be soaking wet than to be near a guy she has no interest in? Isn't it normal for a girl who's not self-conscious to speak her mind to anyone, regardless of interest (i mean, as long as they don't look like psychopats)? I know, i know, "always assume attraction", but this is something that bugs me; I'll give you an example: I'm at a club, alone, enjoying the music and gauging the place. The club isn't crowded at all, …	/r/seduction	19/01/18 12:34 PM
9	Yes, Complimenting Women Works and It Is Attractive Thanks for the follow-up. Indeed, she could have interpreted it in a different way. She's a girl after all, and she must get this kind of shit all the time, even though we were talking about her past and current affairs, she's my coworker and i was complimenting her in a pure analytical way; In all that matters, i don't even mind. But now that I think about it, the wall she's building between us could be more around her than around me, which is enough to make me curious. I might bring this as a …	/r/seduction	09/01/18 07:13 PM
41	Yes, Complimenting Women Works and It Is Attractive Nice point. I used to believe that complimenting girls would only do good (as long as it's not creepy). That is, until I called a girl beautiful (directly, but i used it as reasoning to help her reach some conclusions). Please note that I had zero sexual interest in her and i meant it in a innocent way, but she proceeded to friendzone me 2 messages later. I handled it naturally (easy to keep a frame when you don't give a fuck) and kept the conversation going, but I was really confused, as I neve…	/r/seduction	09/01/18 04:28 PM
3	I've improved a lot in the last 2 years, but I'm still failing to find emotional stability I feel your pain, I'm pretty much the same as you described of yourself - similar history, same age, same insecurities, same outlook on life itself. When I started readding this sub, I finally realized what my flaws were, and what I was doing wrong. I'm still doing it wrong, but at least i'm working at becoming a bit "better" with each passing day. I stopped being so perfectionist; stopped trying to please each and every one of my peers; got into hobbies that i always liked but never had the gut…	/r/seduction	07/12/17 06:57 PM
0	Said she has a boyfriend She could very well have a boyfriend, but she could very well be lying, maybe she didn't want to hurt you? Anyways, sincerity isn't something you earn, it's something you ask for. You could hit her up with a "do you really have a boyfriend? i understand if you have no feelings for me, but i would appreciate if you could be honest in this case.", which would get the following answers: a. She was really lying, and spurs out her real motives; b. She was really lying, but keeps the lie; c. She wasn'…	/r/seduction	10/11/17 05:08 PM