tl;dr Girl was putty in my hands, and all I had to do was to keep it simple, be myself and apply simple seduction techniques.

So as I have stated in the past, I'm not a ladies' man - I don't approach and I don't game. I started using tinder out of curiosity. Some time later I matched with this hot girl, talked for a bit, built some rapport, and she soon agreed to a date (she chose the place, though). She specifically wanted for us to keep talking until the date, so I kept talking to her, no biggie. I like this approach more than what is common ground on this sub - "only text a girl to set up dates", this way I can build more rapport, character, prepare myself better, and lower my anxiety. Also, i really dig and nail texting, so I'm playing with my strengths here. We kept messages to a low amount (maybe 10 messages exchanged per day).

Date day, I arrive at the place, a smoke shop/hip-hop place. She arrives a bit later (I'm not that into hip-hop or weed, but w/e, they had really good sandwiches!). I had no idea a place like that even existed so close from my place, the atmosphere was amazing, the DJ was really nailing it (being a DJ myself, I pay more attention to technique and music selection, rather than the music itself), and I felt like I was starting to get high from all the passive weed smoking around me.

We ordered some drinks (basically coke and water, we weren't drinking alcohol for medical reasons, she did a few puffs on a blunt, though) and went on to know each other better. She said that she was once married, but for compatibility reasons she got separated. When she said she was on tinder to make new friends, my frame faltered. In the past I'd just lose interest and slowly drift into silence. Thanks to this sub I learned the importance of reframing, all I had to do was to calm down and keep my objectives clear inside my head, and keep it going.

When we touched the subject of past relationships, I said I was sexually inexperienced (which is true) despite being 27, and when I said the last time I kissed someone was two years ago (also true), she made a pity face and said "awwww" (take notes on this, friends, be honest, but keep a tone of confidence so you don't come off as needy). From that moment forward, I knew she'd be mine sooner or later, which really boosted my self-confidence.

Keep in mind that I've been drilling her eyes with mine, and every few phrases, I'd look at her thinking "girl, I'm SO going to fuck you". Her eye contact was strong too, which made this all a walk in the park. Our conversation was going really well and we went into really deep topics, like personality, past, future, dreams and stuff.

As for kino, she was a bit timid at first, but when she got emotional when she talked about her parents, I saw the opportunity to grab her hand and show a bit of empathy. She had a positive reaction, so I kept going: brushing her arm while making a point, rubbing my leg onto hers below the table, and such. Ah, yes, stepping "accidentally" on her feet and saying "sorry" while caressing her leg is a good starter (not to be overused, though). When I least expected, she started kinoing me too (touching my arms and shoulder)! I kept escalating. When the music started to get louder, I sat sideways from the table and faced her, intertwining our legs (we were sitting side by side). When I realized, our heads were so close that, at one point, when she went for the kiss, I didn't even had to move my head.

She complimented me on my hair (I have long brown coiled hair, think about Sirius Black), and said I was a really cool guy that deserved a little bit of affection.

We made out for an hour or so, then we decided it was time to run (she had work the next day). I gave her a ride home, and before dropping off she said my gaze was too strong and piercing, she just couldn't resist me. We made out for a little bit more. I feel I could have F-closed if I kept escalating, but I decided not to.

Baby steps, my friends. I never considered myself an attractive person. I have a sense of style and lift my weights, but I never felt like this was doing any good. I'm very introverted and I'm working on my sub-par communication skills. She was attracted to me beforehand, so it was just a matter of not screwing it up. I didn't need to neg, pull/push, or any other attraction building technique, it was just so simple, and I had a lot of fun.

I wish the best for all of you. Keep fighting, boys.