Hobdar Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
16	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away		Hobdar	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/25 03:57 AM
5	Lucky but do not feel it - just a deep sense of sadness and loneliness		Hobdar	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/26 09:53 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How do I deal with this rage Leave - find somewhere else to live or do the rock thing (i could not i had the option to leave thankfully) - it completely did my head in being in the same house and living like a couple in separate rooms, but you are not.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/26 04:38 AM
7	Home Buyout Question Go see a lawyer dont do this by yourself.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/26 09:01 PM
3	Something is wrong here. Help your self and do what is right for you - sounds like you need a lawyer quick smart before making any stupid decisions around money or child care.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/25 04:00 AM
2	Something is wrong here. Stop acting like your friends or still in a relationship - cause you are not - you are co-parenting in the same house, but you are your own people now - if she feels hurt cause your not feeding her emotional (her need to be involved) and physical needs (lunch) then you need to create some boundaries - Gray rock i had not heard of but i am doing that out of survival - i co-habituated for a number of weeks and it was no good for my own emotional well being or state of mind - i understand some coun…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/25 03:59 AM
1	Expensive hobby after divorce? yeah i should have read through all the comments - a couple of other thoughts, you could hire a bike, and in my country they have bucket racers - so sub 250cc bikes that race on go-kart track - you may be able to find something like that to fill the adrenaline side of things if thats what your after with less risk and training.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/25 08:15 PM
1	Expensive hobby after divorce? Also i have ridden for years and plan to get another bike once things are sorted. So go for gold but be aware the stats of new or returning bikers, and injury or death is high so take your time be safe learn to ride.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/25 08:08 PM
2	Expensive hobby after divorce? Buy a CHEAP secondhand bike, decent gear, and go on some riding courses. Get a sub 750 cc bike it will have more than enough power for you starting out. Then in a year or two once you have fallen off your bike, and not killed your self, buy a bigger better bike	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/25 08:07 PM
1	Men over 45 after 27 years of marriage I haven't been intimate with my wife for 4 years. Thinking of calling it quits but I am afraid of not finding anyone. How hard is it out there? ok how.....not that i was great at dating when i was single but now i am 55 and just how?	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/25 03:23 AM
4	People asking why my wife left me. i did the same offered counseling and she said no i don't think you would change - still don't know what she wanted changed....but after 26 years similar conversation i am on my own. Working on what to do next 3 months in.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/25 05:20 AM
1	The unanswered “why?” Like chasing a dragons tail - move on you will never know and when you finally think you do you wont. Though bare in mind i am 2-3 months into separation soooo listen to those who have been there longer.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/25 11:00 PM
2	How to stop ruminating Cry - just let yourself cry when you need to. Some days are better than others, focus on the better ones - try new things. I found a kit where you create a bookend (might not work for you) but spent 4 or more hours just concentrating on that - intend to get more and try other things but be your real self. IT is ok to not pretend to be ok.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/25 09:56 AM
5	She’s leaving me. How do I behave now? Your not roommates - don't even try this it wont work, and will do your head in. I did this for 2 months, and it was worse than just moving into my own place - depending on the rules in your country ask her to leave and not come back, arrange a suitable time to pick things up sort things out blah blah blah but do not try and co-habitate	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/25 09:25 AM
1	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away yeah at this point it wont matter	/r/Divorce_Men	13/10/25 08:30 AM
1	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away We wont be getting back on track she is on her road, and i am on mine now, FAFO.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/10/25 08:18 AM
3	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away Thanks all, i very much doubt she is having an affair, could be, don't care TBH, it is not going to change anything. I think she is projecting some of her own issues on me, but the marriage is done. I am slowly disconnecting as much as i can from her, and in my country there is a requirement for a 2 year separation then divorce. So working with my lawyer to progress that, and get what i can. There wont be any alimony as we both have good jobs so lucky there.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/25 01:13 AM
1	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away She has been talking to other people, it is more likely work people or girl friends - not another guy. But who knows.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/25 01:09 AM
1	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away Thanks, our son is 25, and trying to remain neutral. Yeah keeping my head above water is my goal for now, my job expires in a month or so, and once done with the house sale, i have enough to do almost what ever the fuck i like,	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/25 01:07 AM
1	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away She does not trust me, and said i was controlling - or had control issues.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/25 01:04 AM
1	Wife after 26 years, wants to sell the house and walk away No she called my mother a narcissist. And kids of narcissits have issues.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/25 01:03 AM
6	I’m honestly just angry now. More sad than angry at this point.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/25 03:43 AM