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| 1 | Should this be bothering me this much?My Dude, there is nothing sexual about a 6 year old wearing a hoodie. The fact that you think there is anything sexual about a child wearing a piece of clothing because her mother wears that clothing makes me doubt your mental health. Get some therapy! Your daughter needs her father and if you are obsessing about clothes instead of being present to what she actually needs. Get over yourself and start paying attention to things that actually matter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/26 10:35 AM |
| 6 | Should this be bothering me this much?Dude. She is 6 years old. She likes the hoodie because she likes the way the fabric in that particular hoodie feels for some reason. It has nothing to do with it belonging to her mom's boyfriend. She is 6 years old. Her life has been disrupted by her parents splitting up. Children find comfort in some clothing, or stuffys or blankets. That is just what kids do! She is finding comfort in a particular piece of clothing and your only question should be - how do I find a similar piece of clothing so… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 12:52 PM |
| 1 | 20+ years of marriage, last year was tough, now found out about infidelityGo to couples counseling with the goal of having a peaceful divorce. Use the sessions to talk through the difficult decisions related to selling the house and dividing everything up. It will save you a ton of money because fighting with lawyers will bankrupt you. It's over but it doesn't have to be made worse by being nasty. Your kids will thank you for it if you can rise above the need to fight. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Lawyer asked about discoveryA lawyer has to recommend discovery or they aren't doing their job. All they really need to know is your debts and assets on the date of marriage and date of separation. It is likely if you go through discovery you will find something. Most spouses have some level of non-disclosure in the marriage. Odds are you will find out she spent way more than you ever imagined on something dumb and never told you about it. Unless she was using your martial assets on drugs or gambling or to take cruises wit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/26 12:07 PM |
| 2 | Judge’s Pretrial Recommendation in My Illinois Divorce Feels Extremely Unequal – Am I Missing Something?This sucks and I don't understand why the judge would say no maintenance for you. The only reason I can think is that the judge does not believe that you are really trying to get a job. Sometimes that just happens, a judge simply doesn't buy it that someone is trying in good faith to get a job and just isn't landing one. I think gender bias in this situation is not out of the realm of possibility either. Have you asked your lawyer about the possibility of having a vocational evaluation done? Thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/26 11:25 AM |
| -9 | The "I checked out a long time ago" excuseAfter years of telling my husband I was unhappy and things needed to change I checked out. Then when I asked for a divorce he was blindsided. That is what I have seen happen in many marriages. It's a very common pattern. I don't know what happened in your marriage but I have observed a lot of people (not just men) who were blindsided by their spouse leaving. When you ask their spouse they will say they told them explicitly many times that they were unhappy and it was dismissed. Blaming the one w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 10:17 AM |
| -16 | Alimony for life? Is that a real thing? Is anybody unfortunate enough to be in that group right now?Marriage is a lifetime contract. If she left the workforce on a promise from you that you would take care of her financial support for a lifetime, you can't just bail and leave her with no support. If she was out of work for 10 years then you would probably have to pay support for between 5 and 10 years. She needs time to make up for the lost earning capacity she experienced from not working all of those years. She may also need time to get additional training or education to re-enter the workfo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 05:23 PM |
| 16 | Wife told me she wasn’t in love with me and wanted a divorce end of march. I moved out 3 weeks ago. Tonight she cried and asked me to move back inSome people have this weird idea that they can leave or ask their spouse to leave, take legal actions and then expect a reconciliation. It's totally baffling. My friend's ex dragged him through court for 3 years, ended up spending all the money they had on lawyers. She refused to let him even have the dogs. She accused him of being a serial cheater and trashed him daily on social media to all of his family and friends for those years in court. Then a few months after the divorce was finalized...… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 05:12 PM |
| 12 | Why do men seem to always try and heal and be on there own and woman just instantly jump into dating or monkey branching?Um, jumping to the next relationship immediately is not an exclusively male or female thing. I literally know dozens of men who found a new partner before they left, some full on cheating some just flirting or emotional. Men do this all. the. time. I've seen the same thing from many women. Some people just need to be in a relationship to feel ok with themselves. It's not a male or female thing. It is a human thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 05:02 PM |
| 1 | If you started divorce with a mediator and switched to a lawyer- what was the final straw, and did you regret it?It sucks that she is dragging her feet but I promise you that the courts in Ontario are not going to be faster. If you start calling lawyers today, it will be a fqew weeks to get an appointment. The lawyer is going to need all your financials (recent pay slips and last 3 years of NOAs, all account statements for all bank accounts, RRSRs, TFSAs and everything else, from the date of marriage and date of separation). Then it will take a few weeks for them to complete your application. It will take … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/26 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Ex will be moving two blocks awayYes, you should delay signing the final agreement because you don't feel comfortable with it. Also, she might not get that house, which would be a bonus. People sometimes think it is a great to move close to each other for the kids but in most cases it is a bad idea. I knew a couple that were very amicable and bought houses on the same block. When the dad got remarried and had a baby with the new wife it got complicated. Even though both parents were dedicated to being peaceful, it just got mess… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/26 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Early separation with a baby - wife wants full custody and near zero visitation. What should I be doing?There is absolutely no reason for her to have sole custody. It doesn't sound like there are grounds for her to be able to move with the child. Be very vocal, in writing right now that you do not agree to her relocating with the child. Talk to a lawyer immediately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/26 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Breadwinner WifeYou are entitled to half of the martial property, child support and likely spousal support. Do not walk away from your entitlements. You can still have a peaceful divorce and remain friends with your ex AND not give up your legal entitlements. It's not one or the other. You may choose to accept a little less than absolutely everything you are legally entitled to receive, in fact most people do. There will be some give and take in the settlement process. But you need to talk to a lawyer to find o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Reasons to get divordedYour wife has mental and physical health issues that make her not want sex. When that happens it's repulsive to force yourself to have sex, even when you dearly love the person. It's hard to explain if you haven't experienced it. But it's emotionally debilitating to just do it for the sake of the other person. At the same time it is equally emotionally debilitating for you to just push down your feelings and go without. It's critical for your mental, emotional and physical health to have sex. It… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 11:29 AM |
| 1 | For people with kids......It is natural for you to have feelings of resentment over your son's relationship with your ex's new partner. You are human, of course you feel anxious and even jealous about it. The greatest gift you can give your son is a peaceful relationship with his mother and her new partner. Divorce doesn't generally screw kids up but living in a war zone often does. If you get territorial about the new guy and try to force rules that will restrict his time with your son, all you are going to do is force … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/26 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Am I being unreasonable asking for jewellery to be valued during separation?You aren't being petty but in the US and Canada it is rare that personal property is counted in equalization. Is the jewelry worth at least $50K.... maybe it's worth considering it but probably not. The courts just don't care about personal property. I know in some cultures gold jewelery is considered a much bigger deal, there are expensive gifts of jewelry from the groom's family to the bride and those gifts can be substantial. Yet courts in North America treat it like it's irrelevant. Judges c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/26 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else holding onto anger at their ex years later?What is your anger costing you? You are paying a price with that anger, it's probably harming your health, your relationship with your kids and family, scaring off any new partners and likely it's impacting your career to some degree. It's definitely costing you happiness and peace. Have you ever known someone who was overweight and out of shape for years then they have a heart attack or a major health scare and suddenly they change their diet and work out and totally transform? It's because the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Pre-Mediation TalksI would not die on the hill of the retirement plans. It's simple math, the law is clear and an accountant will figure it out for you, why argue? Get a CPA who specializes in this sort of thing to do the calculation of her share of yours and your share of hers and then equalize it in another way if you really don't want to pull from either account. I would however not give up on the house. She either has to move out or buy you out and that's it. If she is going to buy you out you need a clear dea… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/26 12:28 AM |
| 1 | When to settleNah, it is unlikely the lawyer is worried about getting sued. Lawyers know how to cover their asses. That's what lawyers do best! They make a lot more money when clients go to trial and they became litigators because they like going to trial. If they didn't they would be a tax lawyer or government paper pusher. It's a special personality type that loves to argue and win that becomes a litigator, especially in family law because it's so messy. They live for the fight when it's a good fight worth … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/26 12:05 AM |
| 3 | When to settleI have worked with and know many family law lawyers over the years. There are two different lawyers I know well who are full time litigators who regularly go to trial and fight like dogs for their clients and they have been doing it for a decade or more. Both of these lawyers, when they got divorced chose to settle early and overpay their ex in order to avoid court. These are people who could fight for every little thing and it would literally cost them nothing and they could do it with one hand… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 11:42 PM |
| 0 | What to do?You committed emotional infidelity. She committed financial infidelity. Both of you were wrong but the long term negative impact of her betrayal is a lot worse. Spouses have a fiduciary duty to each other and she seriously breached that duty. Do not gloss over that fact because it could set you back years. Have a consultation with a lawyer ASAP. Prepare for that consultation by having a spreadsheet with all of your debts, assets, income, ongoing living expenses at the ready. Ask that lawyer to a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 11:28 AM |
| 0 | Ex wont wont agree to kids meeting current gf.You had good intentions of keeping things peaceful and focused on the best interest of your children when you got divorced. It's not unusual for people to have an agreement to hold off on introducing new partners to the children until the relationship is serious and has been exclusive for a certain number of months, usually six. This is a good idea in principle but executing it in real life can be difficult. Since it is a verbal agreement and not part of your separation agreement, it's not well … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Accepting you're done with for lifeDivorce is hard on kids. Growing up inside an unhealthy marriage is also hard on kids. Unfortunately OP has to choose which version of hard for his kids. If he leave he will be teaching the kids to choose their own happiness even if it is uncomfortable for others. That is not a bad example to teach them. Sure, some people leave too early and teach their kids that loyalty and promises don't matter. It doesn't sound like that is the case here but only OP knows that for sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/26 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Divorce asset allocation in high earnersThis is how the law generally works: (I am not commenting on if this is good or bad, just how the law functions) When you get married you are entering into a contract. In that contract you are agreeing to share all income, assets and debts equally. In most jurisdictions your debts and assets at the time of marriage are considered separate from your marital assets and debts. Once you are married, everything goes into one pot, so to speak. The law does not generally consider anything as either "yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/26 01:30 PM |
| 2 | DivorceWell done Sir. Don't talk about what happened with other people, stop posting about it online, even in an anonymous way. Fight for a restraining order from her. Depending on your jurisdiction having that can greatly reduce any potential spousal support you might have to pay. It can also make it so there is a rebuttable presumption that you have primary custody of children. A person destroying your property is an act of domestic violence and it is serious. You should treat like she hit you with a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/26 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Question about mediation?That's tough. Mediation can be a huge cost saver and it can make things move so much faster. Lawyers and courts are so damn slow and ridiculously expensive. Sometimes it is worth a try to suggest it. Not just suggesting the concept of attending private mediation but doing a little recon and finding a couple of good mediators, reaching out to them, confirming your case will likely work in mediation and then sending her the names and contact info of those mediators. Then tell her in writing that y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/26 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Dumb QuestionIf you evade service then your ex will have to petition the court for an order to allow substituted service. She will probably have to pay extra for processing servers making multiple attempts and court fees and lawyers fees. That might feel good but judges don't like that kind of thing. You're going to make her a victim of you acting like a child. Not a good move. Have you ever seen a person get a parking ticket on their car and grab it, crumple it up and throw it on the ground? That doesn't ma… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Question about mediation?A private mediator should be able to accommodate both your schedules. One of the key ethical standards of a mediator is neutrality and they are required to be aware of power imbalances. So if one person has scheduling constraints they are required to take that into account when scheduling. They can't force someone into an appointment time that doesn't really work well with their work schedule because for example tthat person might feel pressured to agree to something because they have to get to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 01:02 PM |
| 3 | UK man In an abusive marriage with US woman. Help.This is a serious and dangerous situation for you. What you are describing is someone with addiction problem, either compulsive spending or maybe gambling. At the very least you are dealing with financial infidelity from your wife. This is a serious issue and it won't get better without a massive intervention and serious commitment on her part for recovery. You need to protect yourself. Leave her, maybe she will get help and get better and in a few years you might consider reconciliation but rig… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/26 11:30 AM |
| 1 | 9 months separated and talking to a new romantic interestI agree. Meet her in person and have some fun. You two may click or it may flop. The long anticipation is what will cause problems. If you build up the anticipation for a really long time you won't be able to keep it light and that will complicate things one way or another. When you meet her, your entire focus should be on having fun. The fastest and best way to heal yourself from the last difficult years of your marriage is to have fun now. It's like clearing all the smoke and cobwebs from your… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/26 11:09 AM |
| 3 | Officially DivorcedThere is something about the finality of the paperwork that hits hard. You might find that you are doing fine and then you will realize it is the anniversary of a particular event... either a good thing or a bad thing from the past and it will feel like a sucker punch. After a while those things will happen less frequently and they won't hit nearly so hard. It does take time and it is not linear but it gets better for sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Accidentally over paid my ex. She refuses to give me the overage.If you over paid you can take it out of future payments. Judges generally only care when you don't pay the full amount on time. Be reasonable about how you handle this situation. You asked her to send back the overpayment and she said no. I assume she said no in writing. If not send her a message now reviewing the conversation and ask her if she will send it back. Then a few days later tell her you are going to reduce the next 3 payments by 1/3 of the overpayment and ask her if she will agree to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Minor Victory?People say outrageous things all the time during divorce and separation. It is a highly emotional, difficult process for anyone to go through. People lash out in anger and say stupid stuff. I've worked on literally thousands of divorce cases and it is very rare that someone doesn't threaten the other person with "you'll never see our kids again" or "you'll never get a dime of support out of me". This happens all the time. People usually don't behave well when splitting up. Just because people sa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Honestly, unsure what the best move forward isFind a counselor , make an appointment and ask her to go with you. If she won't go then you go see the counselor on your own. If she sees you are serious she might start to understand the impact this is having on you. If she doesn't go you can use the counseling to figure out if you want to stay or leave. IMO if she refuses to go you will have your answer because it's not about politics it's about you two having unhealthy communication. If she won't rise to the occasion and go to counseling when… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 03:39 PM |
| 1 | PalimonyYes, they should but often they can't prove it and in a lot of jurisdictions if you aren't legally married family law does not apply. So it is civil court or small claims and it is a challenge to prove things in those courts without a written contract. I'm not saying it's impossible to win but it usually is expensive to get a lawyer to represent you and it's not worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Honestly, unsure what the best move forward isHaving polar opposite political views is difficult because politics isn't just politics, it goes to the core of your values and your views on how things should be in the world. When you don't see eye to eye on a particular political stance it can feel like your spouse doesn't value or appreciate who you are. It is tough. The current political climate just amps these issues up. Politics is everywhere and we are all being encouraged to think the worst of the other side. Most people are making poli… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Custody StuffIf you choose to move out of the area then the best you will likely get is summers and holidays with your child. And you may also be responsible for all of the travel expenses for the child to fly back and forth. Your child support is going to be higher because she is going to have the child full time for about 9 months of the year. If the child wants to move to your area when they are older and your ex doesn't fight it, things could switch with the child spending summers and holidays with her. … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Lawyer recomended marriage counclingIf your lawyer is telling you to try counseling, I would listen to that advice. It sounds like you aren't ready to get divorced and the lawyer knows it is hard for them to do a good job representing your best interests when you don't really want a divorce. People who really don't want to divorce sometimes just give in to the other side and get taken advantage of. The lawyer advises against it but the person is hoping that if they give in on everything the other person will want to reconcile. It … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Good divorce attorney in Bay Area?This sub does not allow referrals but I have worked for many family law attorneys in the Bay area and other parts of California. I had my own business as an independent legal researcher and legal writer. There are a lot of great attorneys but there are some that are disorganized and unable to manage their cases well and some that are all about driving up their invoices. Here are some general things to look for when considering an attorney. It will take a minute to get an appointment with a good … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 11:09 PM |
| 6 | PalimonyPalimony cases are generally hard to win but it does depend on jurisdiction. In Ontario Canada, where I currently work common law marriage is recognized and it's not unusual to get spousal support if one person didn't work for most of the relationship or spent a lot of time off work taking care of kids. When I was in California I worked on a few palimony cases and they didn't go far because there wasn't enough evidence to win. The original palimony case, "Marvin v Marvin" she lost and didn't get… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Am I asking too muchThe math often doesn't work to separate until the house is sold and that sucks. You are not wrong for expecting better from her but she's obviously not a considerate person. All you can do is find healthy constructive ways to distract yourself while sharing the home. Also, maybe try to start to have your child hang out with you in the basement some evenings and then encourage her to hang out with him solo while you are in the basement or out with friends one evening. You can start your child to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 08:38 PM |
| 7 | DivorceHe needs to learn how to gray rock ASAP. Find some good articles that explains the technique. Read it yourself so you understand it and can support him in doing it well. I've seen this kind of behavior in dozens of divorce cases. Judges don't like their time to be wasted on stupid things like haircuts and winter coats. Unless she's got tons of money to burn a lawyer won't do much either. Your friend has to learn how to politely ignore this. She does it to get a reaction and if he gets triggered … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Am I asking too muchDude, you need to physically separate as soon as possible. She is being disrespectful and it's wrong but there isn't much you can do about it. Just know that she's acting like this because deep down she knows she's a POS who screwed up and lost her marriage. People act badly when they know they are wrong. You can hold your head high because she only does this because she doesn't like herself so she's trying to make you unhappy too. It is classic bullying. Meanwhile your energy needs to be on you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 02:54 PM |
| 6 | Can my ex retroactively claim our house was separate property? Advice before consulting phoenix divorce lawyerIt is usually very hard to reopen once the divorce order is issued. Typically the only grounds to reopen is good evidence of fraud or that significant relevant information that was not available at the time the divorce order was made is now available and the court is compelled to review it in the interest of justice. That is a high bar to clear. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Cut ties with ex and childAbsolutely! | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 12:50 PM |
| 2 | One good night - ruinedIt's a good idea to talk to a lawyer on your own. Just pay for a consultation to understand fully what you could expect if things did end up in court. A lot of people can work out most of the terms of divorce on their own and then have a lawyer draft the settlement agreement. It's a great way to go when possible. It saves money and a lot of stress and heartache. BUT you need to have your own separate legal advice to make sure you understand the long term consequences of whatever you agree to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 12:26 PM |
| 4 | One good night - ruinedThis is so hard. Living together while separating sucks even under the best circumstances. Sounds like her timing to talk about things is really tone deaf and you felt bombarded when you were feeling vulnerable right after cuddling your child. You are both certainly anxious and worried about the future and that's not easy. If one of you can't move out right now, can you ask her for designated times to discuss divorce stuff? Ask her to agree to once a week at a specific time you will talk about l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Child support question IllinoisSurvivor benefits for other children do not count as income in Illinois. I would strongly recommend you talk to a lawyer who has practiced in your area and has been before the judges in your area a lot. You should ask for a consultation, bring your recent tax returns and pay stubs.and get an idea if there are other ways to reduce support. It is unlikely that you will be able to have income imputed to her with a 9 month old, although that may vary by judge.And if you ask for her to have income im… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 09:03 PM |
| 1 | The kidsYou haven't destroyed your kids'childhood. It's hard having these conversations, it takes a while for children to get their brains around the new life they have. It takes multiple conversations over time for them to grasp it. Imagine if your child was upset about a different change in their life. Let's say your family had moved to a new city for a better job and school district. Your child would probably tell you multiple times that they miss their friends and they don't like the new teacher and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Cut ties with ex and childOh man, this is such a tough situation. BPD is tough and there is nothing wrong with taking time to focus solely on yourself and getting well. I'm glad you are getting help. I would caution you not to 100% cut ties with your child. It is so important for children to have connection with both parents. Since your mental health issues caused problems for your child in the past it may be fine to take a break to focus on getting well. But I would suggest maybe sending a message to your ex that you wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Divorced dads, have any of you opted for every other weekend with the kids?I didn't realize that women were excluded from participating in this subreddit. I just reviewed the rules and I don't see anything about it being only for men. Someone posted a question and asked about choosing the option of EOW and I replied that sometimes in some situations it can be better for the kids. I outlined many different things to consider like housing, specific needs of the kids, school schedules and work schedules. I've worked on literally thousands of divorce cases as a paralegal a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Need advice. (Non-US divorce)This sounds so difficult. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like your wife has some sort of major mental health issue, like depression or BPD or something. All I can say is that if you feel that having a child with her wouldn't be good, DON'T ignore that feeling. This situation will not get better without massive interventions. She's going to have to get some sort of treatment for whatever is causing her behavior and you're going to have to support her through that which could b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/26 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Emotional detachmentThe desire to just get out is real. Talk to a lawyer, don't just give it all away. You will regret it. I know more than one family law lawyer who got divorced. After fighting in court for clients for decades, when it came to their own divorce they didn't fight. They over paid a little and got out as quickly as they could. I think that's telling because they could fight in court and it would cost them nothing but time and some effort. Instead they choose to give up a little bit to get out. Don't … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/26 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Divorced dads, have any of you opted for every other weekend with the kids?Did I really say "just take the every other weekend" or did I suggest that it can be a better option in some situations depending on the kids needs and constraints around where you live, work and school schedules and other limits. If you think it's better to force your kids to have 50/50 even it it means they can't maintain their friendships, or it impacts their activities or it means life is harder for them go for it! I chose to put my child's best interests above my need to have "my equal time… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/26 01:54 PM |
| -3 | Divorced dads, have any of you opted for every other weekend with the kids?Lots of dads and sometimes moms opt for every other weekend. Every parenting schedule has pros and cons and it all gets down to the specifics of each family. There is some evidence that having one primary home and a second home part time creates more stability for the kids. Not to say your kids will be damaged if they are on a week about schedule or other 50/50 schedule but it is less consistent. Things like one house has one set of rules and another has a different set of rules about certain th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/26 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Divorce MediationMediation with a lawyer advising you is by far the most cost effective and fastest way to divorce. Using lawyers to fight for you or even just negotiate on your behalf costs so much. Negotiate for yourself but have a lawyer explain your rights and obligations, and to let you know what hills to die on and what to let go. I wouldn't worry about the gender of the mediator. Look at their credentials. If it is a lawyer who also mediates it's going to be expensive. A non-lawyer mediator is often more … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/26 07:01 PM |
| 5 | I think divorce reveals how many enemies you haveDivorce is like a truth microscope, the truth of everyone is magnified. The good people in your life show you how good they are and the bad people in your life show you how much they truly suck. These people were always this way but the divorce magnifies the truth of how they have always been and you can't avoid seeing it now. It is hard because some people will break your heart and gut you. Some people will surprise you in such great ways, they will show up for you more than you ever imagined. … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/26 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife asking me to watch her kids.Agreed! OP is not accepting his part in the failure of the marriage. If he wants his own child to have a better life he would make life either for his child's mother and care for his step kids at the same time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Vocational EvaluationDo you have a lawyer and are they advising you to do it? I ask because it does depend on the jurisdiction and also the facts of the case. In California a vocational evaluation is required in order to have a judge impute income to a spouse. My husband's ex agreed to a Gavron warning. Which means she agreed to try to get a job and become self supporting to the extent she could. She did nothing for 5 years, didn't apply for one job ever. He tried to prove she had the ability and opportunity to get … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 04:57 PM |
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