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Being comfortable being the centre of attention, being comfortable storytelling, being comfortable teasing people and being teased. Being able to laugh at myself. Being able to be dominant when needed. Being able to be vulnerable when needed. These were all things I had trouble with, and I made an effort to get good at all of them
/r/seduction30/01/19 05:19 PM
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No worries dude. If you're not 21 replace drink with tea or coffee. The setting of the date really doesn't matter its just a place for you and her to vibe
/r/seduction14/01/19 11:34 PM
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Roughly 6 years ago pickup completely changed my direction, gave me a renewed perspective on life and gave me the balls to work up to my first 6 figure salary Hugely indebted to pickup and the skills it taught me I have a different perspective on women as I did when I was 19-20 ish, but the skill set is something I love and have a huge passion for. I think all men should be able to approach and talk to a beautiful woman with confidence
/r/seduction14/01/19 07:33 AM
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Tik tok is where its at bro
/r/seduction14/01/19 07:28 AM
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She likes you alot dude. Just her responses and the fact that she initiates the texts with you I would give her a big hug and then just have a plan for the date. You don't need to follow the plan step by step but just have a plan. For example, if your gonna sleep with her where is it gonna happen? Your place? Her place? How will it end up getting to one of those places? Where will the date start? So just have an outline of how you plan on getting from one place to the next. For example a great d…
/r/seduction14/01/19 07:26 AM
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Check out the rsdnation forums including the field reports section. Multiple guys there slaying 40/50 girls a year-- more than enough content and stories to last you there
/r/seduction03/01/16 09:11 AM
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Sober life. Didn't drink a drop of alcohol this past new years.
/r/seduction03/01/16 09:03 AM
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With the gf-- make sure you guys set expectations for the threesome before you go ahead and do it. Peoples emotions can get caught up and cause alot of unnecessary drama Talk to your gf to figure out what type of chick she wants to experiment with. Then hit a bar and cold approach a chick-- get her to meet your gf and see if theres chemistry between you three Random chicks is a little more lightning strikes kind of thing, I've done it before but its hard to replicate
/r/seduction03/01/16 09:02 AM
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Just play it off and ask her out for food sometime. Trust me, she wants to hangout with you
/r/seduction03/01/16 08:48 AM
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Paying for the girls whole trip is a shitty frame to come from. I usually don't reward girls until after I hookup with them If you have time, spend a night together before you go on the trip together. If not I'd probably call the whole thing off
/r/seduction03/01/16 08:45 AM
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Cool
/r/seduction19/12/15 06:02 AM
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Yes but the point is you're dwelling on it and making it a bigger problem by doing so. If there's milk on the floor what are you going to do? Cry about it?
/r/seduction18/12/15 03:22 PM
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The longer you dwell on a problem the bigger it becomes. This is why the guys in the red pill are virtually condemned to a low level state of hating women and being upset about the state of men. It's because you're creating the type of reality where you care about this kind of thing and most importantly DWELL on it
/r/seduction18/12/15 02:57 PM
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Sure daygame works why not. So next time you see a hottie at the bank, say hi. Next time you go to the sandwich shop, say hi to the cute Latina girl standing there. Add that in with the girls you're meeting off Tinder and that's a pretty good recipe for abundance. You can regret not approaching that hot chick for a whole week, or just spend 30 seconds going over to say hi. Many of my ex girlfriends I met off daygame cause it shows your personality that much more vividly.
/r/seduction15/12/15 08:39 PM
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A great way to fast track chemistry is just completely and unapologetically be yourself. Talk about stuff that's funny to you, be flirtatious, talk to the staff when you go on your date. If it's at a restaurant, make small talk with the servers. This gives a girl an insight into YOUR life. What a girl really wants is to figure out what type of guy you are. If she likes that guy, there's chemistry. If not, theres no big deal. Add that in with some kino and light teasing, you got a recipe for a gr…
/r/seduction27/11/15 06:17 AM
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Listen to Roger Love's Vocal Power
/r/seduction18/11/15 09:12 PM
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Read lots of the seddit sidebar (posts by people like TofuTofu and PuaCurveBall). Wings are very easy to find just make a post in your city's seddit group or RSD forum saying you're looking for wings. You should have at least one person to meet up and sarge with within a week. Watch the Blueprint by Tyler Durden
/r/seduction18/11/15 06:27 AM
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Meet wings, meet girls with your wings. Invite girls to cool shit, invite your wings to cool shit. Get to know your coworkers, invite them out to fun stuff. Cold approach girls, date them and fuck them. Keep doing this stuff until you found a group of people you love being with
/r/seduction18/11/15 05:08 AM
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Be a flirtatious guy. If you're a logical dude, make sure you spend time socializing throughout the week otherwise your social skills will literally go away
/r/seduction18/11/15 05:06 AM
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Read Feeling Good by David Burns. After you've helped yourself, watch the Blueprint by TD and really start to understand the mindset of getting girls.
/r/seduction18/11/15 05:04 AM
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Unreactiveness comes mainly as a result of being grounded in the present moment. If you happen to try out meditation-- you'll see what it means to truly be unreactive. An example is if you're talking to a girl and a glass smashes behind you. Instead of immediately turning and immediately looking at what happened, you continue chatting with the girl. You respond when you want to respond to it, if at all.
/r/seduction15/11/15 05:44 PM
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Jeffy has pretty much nailed it with "The program". Got me a shit ton of results both online and on dates too with my d2 game
/r/seduction14/11/15 07:07 PM
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No problem dude! If you're up for it we have a subreddit called /r/100sets wherr we track progress on stuff like this. I use it as more of a journal but I also post up some of my sets there too
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:45 AM
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Haha yeah funny how we see the same behaviours pop up
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:44 AM
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Ya what u will notice is that as your interests change you will align yourself with different people who are on that same path. Good stuff man
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:42 AM
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Approach girls, get blown out. Become indifferent. Approach more girls, get blown out more. Become more indifferent. Approach more girls, get blown out again. Stop giving a fuck. Approach girls. Hook them. Fuck them.
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:52 AM
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Read "How to win friends and influence people". If you read it already, re-read it. This will give you everything you need to start attractive people to your life.
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:49 AM
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Its a lifestyle. You're used to sleeping with a ton of girls and it's just who you are. This might seem intimidating to a dude who isn't THERE YET but it doesn't take long to achieve It has nothing to do with looks
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:48 AM
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Just be aware of your conversations. If you feel like you're dominating a little bit too much, try and tone it down. Recognize when people start to clam up around you-- it might be a sign that you're not giving them enough of a chance to speak
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:46 AM
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She wants you to fuck her. Don't try to logic a girl into sex. Change her emotions versus trying to change her mind If a girl tries to throw some bullshit my way last minute-- it's a TEST to see if you're going to react to it or not. The right way to be is completely stoic, carry on as if it's no big deal. Understand that girls go based on the moment more than anything
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:43 AM
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You gain respect by first respecting yourself, then holding yourself to that standard.
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:40 AM
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Don't get in your head about it. Start slow. Start at a bar, where people are generally too drunk to notice what you're up to anyway. Start doing kino on guys, the move onto girls from there Most importantly don't keep THINKING about it. Thinking about a problem generally makes it a bigger problem. Take action instead.
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:38 AM
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I just generally try to be a social person. If there's a cool person around, I'll say hi to them. This definitely comes from practice and doing it repetitively until it becomes a habit
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:36 AM
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Treat her like a regular girl. At the end of the day girls love fun and most girls don't want to feel like theyre just being used for sex
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:31 AM
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Make dinner together
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:30 AM
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Good stuff man. The next step is just getting the both of you into isolation, ie her bedroom, your bedroom whatever it may be. A lot of girls don't want to feel like you're going JUST to have sex so it's best to give an excuse for it. This eases her logical mind makes her feel like sex more or less "just happened"
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:30 AM
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If I'm hanging out with a girl and I'm single. She's single. It's probably a date. I also establish it by how I speak to her.
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:26 AM
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Step outside of your box of who you think you are. If you want to meet a shit ton of girls, go into environments where lots of girls are. I guarantee every single day you have the opportunity to open a hot girl. Are you taking advantage of those opportunities, or are you just letting them pass and using the excuse of "Oh, I'm not that type of guy"
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:10 AM
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I think it's a great idea. Inviting a girl into your world has massive value. She gets to see what type of guy you are, what things you like, how you act in different environments etc. I'll bring girls on dates of me just doing RANDOM stuff. I've even invited a girl to come grocery shopping with me or unpack things with me. It's not what you do, its the experience she has.
/r/seduction19/10/15 04:04 AM
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Give value. Your whole post here is not giving any value. It's all about taking value and how can I "get" a white girl. You don't get anything, my friend. You work on yourself and the world gives you these things in return.
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:29 AM
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It's usually up to the guy to make things less awkward. I'll persist with a chick but if she doesn't know how to hold a conversation then I'll move on quickly There are other girls out there that can hold a conversation
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:26 AM
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Feel the fear and do it anyway. You're never going to learn unless you do it. Read "No more Mr. Nice Guy" By Robert Glover
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:24 AM
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Go read the sidebar. It has everything you need. Start to understand why women choose the guys they do, what behaviour they are looking for etc. Read this first before you complain about your looks or race.
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:22 AM
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Yeah, because a scrawny guy has never gotten laid before. Or god forbid a short guy.
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:21 AM
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At this point I usually send a random, value giving text. Something like a picture of what I'm doing I send it and completely forget. If the girl hits me back she'll usually apologize and re-confirm the meetup
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:17 AM
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Yea me too, going to go straight into the gym. Meditation. Meeting women etc. It's a great opportunity to come back to center.
/r/seduction12/09/15 08:52 PM
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Sweet, thanks bro
/r/seduction12/09/15 08:51 PM
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Get them to meet you downtown. Grab a drink and cab back to your place
/r/seduction11/09/15 09:17 PM
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Bottom line I want a girl that's going to fuck the shit out of me. Have you guys ever had sex with a virgin? It's awkward as fuck. They have no clue what they're doing in bed. My ideal girl has slept with 20-25 dudes, understands EXACTY what she wants and doesn't want in her relationship and is willing to give me everything to lock me down. I want a girl that's bold, funny and is all over my dick 24/7. That's the girl I'm going to reward. She needs to be open to new experiences. If she's into ot…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 09:56 PM
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Check out a video by Tyler rsd "how to summon natural carefree headspace". That's the reason why when you stopped gaming, the results came to you. You removed your ego from the equation
/r/seduction06/08/15 09:44 PM
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Welcome to the world of relationships. Pickup is great but being in a relationship is all about opening up emotionally with someone. In many ways, it's about communication and showing your vulnerability with that person. Check out David Grey and other relationship books to learn more about it
/r/seduction11/05/15 05:55 AM
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Yea man the issue is that you can't really change a person's trajectory unless you give then solid 1on1 advice And traditional PU advice keeps saying approach, approach, rejection doesn't matter but in reality rejection is pretty useful social feedback
/r/seduction20/07/14 07:21 AM
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Yeah man keep in mind every girl is completely different. Some girls won't even hug you but will fuck you, some girls will be super sexual and then freak out last minute It just goes to show how utterly random everything is. I remember I had a girl that refused to kiss me but ended up giving me a blowjob. Your best bet is just to roll with it and see what happens
/r/seduction20/07/14 07:13 AM
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Hey man, just go in with the expectation that you wanna meet this girl and figure out what type of chick she is. Don't worry about SDL or anything like that. If you've been working on yourself and have shit going on in your life, trust that you're a bomb ass dude and you're gonna blow her away In general I try not to do anything over the top on first dates. Obviously go physical when you first see each other, and screen her to see if she's sexual, but otherwise it's nbd if we don't hook up on th…
/r/seduction20/07/14 06:21 AM
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Hey dude, the solution is literally just to put yourself in an environment where there are women around. Things like art galleries, comedy shows, language classes, yoga classes, music events, marathons, fundraisers, volunteering whatever it may be. These will allow you to be in a place where girls are. Trust me, you don't need to be a master pua unless you really want to try it out.
/r/seduction12/07/14 04:32 AM
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This is why you remove the number scale entirely. Appreciating beauty is fine but rating it on a scale of 1-10 just has no benefit whatsoever
/r/seduction11/07/14 08:12 AM
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My advice: remove your "number" from your consciousness entirely. If you have a list of girls you've slayed, get rid of it completely. Burn it. You're a new man now. You don't get caught up in the petty bullshit of chasing girls. You view sex as something else entirely; a night cap or time spent screening for a chick you like. Trust me on this. You don't want to lose everything you've worked for. But it's time to let go. Let go, completely. You'll be a better man for it in the end.
/r/seduction13/06/14 10:17 PM
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Alot of pickup is based around the idea that men need to 'build attraction' to meet a girl. This is seen in the constant dwelling on posture, tonality, direct approaches, kino escalation and the like. This can be okay, but the PROBLEM is that it doesn't come from a firm foundation of self acceptance. You haven't really come into acceptance for who you are as a man. You can bang 10, 20, 200 girls, but without understanding 'you are enough' you will never feel fulfilled by it. That's the cold hard…
/r/seduction09/06/14 06:22 AM
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If you view game as actually being an avenue to become a cool, purposeful dude then this all seems like common knowledge. But I agree from the perspective of "losing game" and then "relearning game" it seems like a bit of a revelation. Whats really interesting is the fact that once you got INTO a relationship, your body tended to resort to its most stable configuration. Meaning all the game stuff was lost and you went back to your original personality despite all the work you did to move it forw…
/r/seduction09/06/14 06:07 AM
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Back in the day I read Brad P's diary of a PUA which was absolutely hilarious. Good read. Also I like reading books that cater specifically to me and my own personality or things I'm doing at the time-- I find they're much more enjoyable and easier to read.
/r/seduction09/06/14 05:56 AM
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Dude, are you expecting women to approach you simply because you're looking at them in the eye?
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:41 AM
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Hey dude, it's possible you aren't relating to girls as a person but rather as a "salesman" or as a specific persona. You aren't really YOU when you're talking to girls, you're a pickup manual or you're trying out something that you think will work. This can work, and it might get you laid here and there (with not such quality girls), but actual change will occur when you start putting your personality on the line.
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:39 AM
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i dont text anything weird, just hey wanna go get lunch or something. Usually girls aren't in the same emotional state when you text the next day as they are when you initially meet them (high stimulus environment, maybe they met a couple guys, maybe its a party, they're drinking etc.). It's easy for them to flake on a text because they're tired bored, hungover, forgot about you whatever. OP, it's your responsibility to bring them back into that "fun mode" using humor, joking about shit you guys…
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:36 AM
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OP, my advice is definitely to read the psychology. It provides tremendous insight into how people work and how situations can work better for you. But don't get obsessed with it. Read it, and then forget about it. Try out one or two principles, as an experiment, but don't focus on matching it word for word (you see this with guys who have OCD, for example)
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:31 AM
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The state piece is good but in my experience, breeds transient feelings of power and more long-lasting feelings of "I'm not in state". The issue with state is that it's an adding, rather than a taking away. Relaxation, for example, is a taking away. This is why CURRENTLY you'll see far less RSD material on "state", because I think they realized it was giving dudes inferiority complexes and breeding neuroticism about "am I in state or not?"
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:29 AM
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Definitely. Guys who have "perfect" game can actually be intimidating or very impersonal to the girl. Showing a bit of vulnerability (including nervousness, shyness etc.) can make you more of a human and less of a salesman.
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:25 AM
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Story?
/r/seduction26/05/14 05:30 AM
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Cool, thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction26/05/14 04:59 AM
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Congrats dude!
/r/seduction26/05/14 04:57 AM
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Congrats dude!
/r/seduction26/05/14 04:53 AM
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Try /r/sex, they love dealing with these kinds of things
/r/seduction26/05/14 03:13 AM
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Hey dude, you need to learn how to express yourself in a way that is NOT complementary to the girl Here's an exercise. In your next set, try saying the opposite of everything a girl says. If he says she likes dogs, you hate dogs. If she's from Toronto, you hate toronto etc etc This will get your body used to talking to girls without needing or hoping for their approval. Afterwards you can swing it back to normal
/r/seduction24/05/14 03:59 PM
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Need some examples here, what would you consider being subtle?
/r/seduction24/05/14 03:33 PM
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Bad idea, bro.
/r/seduction23/05/14 05:33 PM
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Yeah man I guarantee you're getting chicks looking your way. As long as your posture is on point, its really hard for a girl not to be attracted to a guy in shape
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:52 PM
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Hey dude, look into deep breathing or meditation. If you're anything like me, you'll find that the source of your anxiety arises from right around your solar plexus or a bit below it If you do exercises that help to calm your nervous system, it'll allow you to become aware of your anxiousness and break the associative chain
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:47 PM
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Do you feel like you're on a tightrope, when you're talking to the girl?
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:41 PM
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Yeah dude I always try to jokingly steer the conversation away from sex, just leads to increased flakiness on the girls part
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:41 PM
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Hey dude, the gym is probably a poor place to look for cool people to big you up, girls to give you approach invitations etc. What I find is in the gym, people are usually going about their business-- trying to get their workout in and get out. Also, some girls might be self conscious if you try to 'pick them up' I'm sure if you paid a little more attention, you'd start to notice chicks ARE actually checking you out. It's just not that prominent at the gym and would be more noticeable at somewhe…
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:38 PM
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My first thought when I read the title was that you're pushing too hard for sex on the first date My advice: Stop trying to escalate, stop trying to get sex, stop trying to 'game' the girl and notice a drastic change in how women respond to you. Especially on the first date
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:25 PM
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Sexting before meeting a girl is a horrible idea. Places way too much pressure on the girl from her POV
/r/seduction22/05/14 09:06 PM
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Cool, I usually just carry my condoms in my wallet
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:45 AM
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There's some seriously good advice in this thread here. But the resonating message is this: you need to realize that women will not give you completion in life. The way you're thinking about this whole situation is that No girl = no completion, something wrong with me, empty cup Girl = complete, fulfilled, full cup Trust in the teachings of wise men and know that without a woman, you are still as strong as you can be. Women can be a tremendous asset to a man's life but in the words of David Deid…
/r/seduction14/01/14 05:45 AM
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Be friendly to everyone, invite people out and go where people are being social (bars, gatherings, nightclubs, etc.) People are usually receptive if you tell them you're traveling from a different country. Use it to your advantage and use it as a tool for meeting people! Mostly though, don't make getting girls the sole focus of your trip-- if it happens, it happens. If you see a stranger, talk to them and get to know them deeply
/r/seduction14/01/14 05:19 AM
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Don't worry about friends with benefits. Go on out dates first and get to know a girl deeply. Ask a girl out and take her on a date or two
/r/seduction13/12/13 11:45 PM
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Either one is fine. Something that always helped me was talking to people on the way to the bar, and talking to the FIRST group of people I see. I would just go out and try it out. Just check and see what happens :-)
/r/seduction02/12/13 03:47 AM
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Man, you just gotta start interacting with women. Throw out all of the theory, cram that into a box and FORGET ABOUT IT. Spend a year interacting with girls and you will forever benefit from it Find your source of motivation. This helped me http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcrhwatDkUM For you, it might be something else Find guys that have similar goals as you and make an effort to get this HANDLED. It seems so daunting and so crazy but once you get started you'll see alot of these "problems" star…
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:34 AM
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Oh just the part about being dead in the water. I used to get testing on being out solo and found it was actually pretty easy to deal with
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:26 AM
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Because you like girls, you like sex, and you're a man who wants to have sex with girls. It's as simple as that You also are the type of guy who goes after what he wants in life. If he sees a cute girl he will approach her because it just makes sense
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:23 AM
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Sounds like she is already envisioning you two together My advice: avoid engaging her logical mind at ALL. When she starts talking about ex-boyfriends or past relationships just give her obvious looks of disapproval. If she starts ranting about how guys are all bad to her you don't even acknowledge it Her: "OMG so many guys have burned me in the past" You: "I like rice. Rice is good. Do you like rice?"
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:21 AM
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No worries dude, I've been there before
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:18 AM
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That wasn't an approach that was a last ditch effort to hand a girl your number with NO form of context whatsoever. Get your shit together dude. Approach like a man and SHOW her that you are interested
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:15 AM
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Humans are social creatures. If you are interacting through this shell of "pickup persona" or "confident persona" what you are unconsciously telling yourself is that you don't actually like who you are. You are putting on an act to cover up that person By being real with people and having DEEP personal connection (where you can truly be yourself) you open up the possiblity to try something new and confront who you really are as a person Are you banging alot of these girls? My advice is to hit up…
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:11 AM
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Going out solo is amazing. After you go once or twice, you start to realize that noone really gives a fuck about someone being there alone and it's actually all in your head Remember that people will always resonate with a person who BRINGS the fun and can contribute something to the interaction. Keep that in mind as you're interacting with people
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:05 AM
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Definitely disagree with your last sentence, but interesting perspective nonetheless I always go to the bar with the intention to socialize and meet new people, never to get laid. I find once you go in "specifically to get laid" it doesn't usually work out
/r/seduction01/12/13 06:03 AM
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The best advice for you is not to start "learning techniques" and "picking up women" it's actually much simpler than that. Start going to social events Take a 2 hour block sometime in your week and check out meetup.com for some local events. If it's a big city there are probably a number of free events going on Figure out what seems cool, fits in your schedule, and probably has both men and women in it. Go to these events 2/3x a week and after a few weeks you'll probably have met some really coo…
/r/seduction01/12/13 05:30 AM
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Go to free events. Go to as many events as possible. Meet people. Screen them to see who's cool. Organize outings. Be super enthusiastic and genuine about it
/r/seduction27/09/13 07:23 PM
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Yeah I don't think this nerd speak is bringing dudes any closer to vaginal intercourse
/r/seduction23/09/13 10:45 PM
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What in the world is an f-close? Do you mean have sex?
/r/seduction23/09/13 04:50 PM
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Yeah dude, check out wingman locators on seddit and other pickup blogs like RSD. Lots of guys do this stuff. Just BEWARE that some guys who are too heavily into pickup can be social weirdos. Avoid these people at all costs
/r/seduction12/08/13 02:28 AM
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I did this in Toronto. The main thing is 1) being friendly to people and 2) INITIATING things yourself. Far too many people rely on others to invite them out and it simply is not going to happen
/r/seduction11/08/13 05:57 PM
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Also, you did very well being with friends. When I was a newbie I would get blown out like CRAZY and my friends would just point at me and laugh. That was when I made a FR thread and started going out... solo
/r/seduction11/08/13 05:54 PM
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Next step: Create a journal or thread where you document all your approaches. /r/100sets is a great place to start!
/r/seduction11/08/13 05:51 PM
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I usually go for tea because its cheap and fits my schedule
/r/seduction11/08/13 03:30 PM
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Theres no such thing as developing attraction. Attraction exists simply by the fact that you are a man and she's a woman When you go out enough in the night time you'll realize that a lot of this shit is extremely random and A LOT of shit doesn't even matter until the end of the night All you need to do is stick with her and relax. Screen for logistics when you need to and figure out a way to be with her when the bar is closing (walk her out the door or other)
/r/seduction31/07/13 04:06 AM
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You need to cultivate the ability to become comfortable being the center of attention
/r/seduction12/05/13 04:53 PM
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Not my greatest triumph, but my most memorable moment I'll never forget walking up to a gorgeous girl, setting my coffee down beside her and not saying a single word I was completely relaxed in my body. There was no need to convey value, I was just THERE and a man. Showing intent simply by being in front of her. It really changed how I viewed the game and how I view male female dynamics in general
/r/seduction01/05/13 06:05 AM
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You should definitely have NOT even fell into his frame in the first place. People like this will keep fucking with you as long as you let them. It's your job as a man to deal with these type of people proactively and set your boundaries firmly As long as you hold your frame and don't even flinch when someone mentions it, you'll be pretty good
/r/seduction28/04/13 10:14 PM
1

Talk less, listen more, don't be DIRECT and make yourself vulnerable to her. If you do this she'll open up and start treating you like she would a friend Many girls are socially awkward off cold approach and I find this is the best way to get to know them
/r/seduction28/04/13 08:53 PM
1

Theres no such thing as failure. Only learning experiences
/r/seduction28/04/13 08:51 PM
12

Being alpha is not being a dick. Being alpha is being a leader
/r/seduction28/04/13 08:50 PM
5

First of all, that dude is a massive white knight. Humor is amazing and I'd laugh in that chodes face like he's some kind of a toddler trying to take away your keys Don't let it factor into your reality. You go out, have a fucking BLAST, and as a result of that you may end up pulling a girl home. It's not a big deal unless you make it out to be If someone asks why you don't drink, tell them you had a bad experience and you enjoy being sober more than being drunk One word of advice, however, is t…
/r/seduction28/04/13 08:48 PM
0

Yep, we have a lair in my city. We constantly update each other on results and frequent the same bars
/r/seduction28/04/13 08:31 PM
3

It's funny, I've seen countless examples of guys approaching like maniacs and not getting laid. I think in the end, you need to have GAME to get girls consistently Although we'd be lying to ourselves to say that the numbers game doesn't come into play. Talking to lots of girls simply increases your odds of getting laid
/r/seduction28/04/13 03:50 AM
1

Need more info here-- give an example of the girl seeming innocent
/r/seduction27/04/13 05:23 AM
2

For unstifling-- make sure you move around! Clap your hands, touch the wall before each approach, go out on the dancefloor and dance like a retard. One of my favourites is to high-five some random strangers or to mess around with my wings
/r/seduction27/04/13 05:18 AM
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Something that made the game extremely fun was making myself laugh after every set. No matter what I would just find something funny about the interaction. For example, if I open a girl and she gives me a dirty blowout I just pause for a second and then start laughing my ass off So many dudes in the pickup community view the approach as this "big thing" and rejection as this horrible outcome. Fuck that! Pickup is super light-hearted and a huge source of comedy in my life :)
/r/seduction27/04/13 05:14 AM
1

I'm interested in reading this book next. Does anyone have a basic overview of what it teaches?
/r/seduction26/04/13 05:02 PM
1

Definitely. Girls are notoriously flaky especially if they don't see an upside to going out and aren't in the same emotional state as when you met them. This is why calling girls is so powerful -- it snaps them into that state instantly
/r/seduction26/04/13 04:23 PM
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I had the same sticking point when I first started # closing. Essentially whats happening is your brain gets a good emotional high and validation off the #. At the same time you dont want to ruin your chances by actually contacting the girl... because you believe (consciously or subconsciously) that you will somehow fuck it up with her. This is very subtle and a form of ego protection The solution? Sack up and contact her. Don't be afraid to fail. You NEED to cultivate the ability to not give a …
/r/seduction26/04/13 03:59 PM
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My advice OP, is don't force yourself to talk about certain topics because you think it would be arousing to the woman. Especially if you don't FEEL like talking about them. Lower your criteria for humor, say things that make yourself laugh and your amusement will be projected onto the girl If you're actually talking about taking things SEXUALLY with a girl, the right way to do it laser eye contact sexual tonality
/r/seduction23/04/13 02:24 PM
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You can be clear in your intent but you also need to have a freedom from outcome In other words, you want the girl but you don't need the girl This is a hard paradox for newbies but it's basically the fact that: you don't want to take anything AWAY from the girl If a girl feels like you're gaming her just to get a phone number, or you're just gaming her just to fuck her, you're essentially taking something away from her The way to game her WITHOUT taking value away is to be free from outcome. Th…
/r/seduction17/04/13 03:09 AM
5

First of all, having a unique name is AWESOME. Most girls will actually be intrigued when you meet them I was also kind of shy with introducing myself, and tried to come up with little nicknames that would work for me. FUCK that! Go full foreign on their ass and be completely unapologetic about it Ultimately, it comes down to yourself and how confident you are with introducing yourself. Ideally, you want to get to the point where you can say "Hi, I'm (unique name)" with a ton of power behind it
/r/seduction16/04/13 11:07 PM
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You need to redirect your focus so that you're not constantly dwelling on her. It's unhealthy not only for you, but also for the girl! You can do this either by: Meeting other women which will help you slip out of the scarcity mindset Focusing your time and effort on goals that you're passionate about
/r/seduction16/04/13 09:05 PM
1

Recently started trying my hand at online game. Looking for any subtle tips/tricks for attracting hotties online I've already tried to incorporate the main facets like having amazing photos or having a quirky profile. Has anyone done any cool split testing that they could shed some light on?
/r/seduction16/04/13 09:05 PM
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The next step is to become a closer. You need to close. Watch Julien's videos on this. Specifically the "permission boy" video and anything where he talks about pulling and handling logistics The main difference between guys who get fuck around and guys who get LAID is persistence and knowing that sex will happen inevitably no matter what
/r/seduction16/04/13 08:11 PM
1

Start slow. Realize where you're at and what it will take to improve. It will be slow, incremental progress not an overnight thing
/r/seduction16/04/13 03:40 PM
1

Good stuff dude!
/r/seduction16/04/13 03:37 PM
1

Exactly. Most guys are judgemental and insecure about something as simple as leading. In a sense, it's the difference between fantasy and reality (what works and what doesn't)
/r/seduction16/04/13 03:33 PM
0

LMAO. Adorable. You're trying to relate to the nervous guys by learning what their little habits are I think a lot of guys have a huge issue with recognizing when a girl is showing interest. My one friend used to get so frustrated when she'd be attracted to a guy, because her version of showing interest would be relentlessly testing him. Needless to say, most guys are either too self conscious or not grounded enough to deal with it
/r/seduction16/04/13 12:10 AM
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You are my favourite type of girl.
/r/seduction15/04/13 11:32 PM
1

CHeck out my response below
/r/seduction15/04/13 08:55 PM
2

Sure. Open strong basically means open the girl with FULL belief. This includes: stepping up to the girl properly, full frontal, and putting yourself on the line. You put your real personality on the table rather than just a "pickup schtick". Also, you're not going up to her to "hit on her". This is kind of hard to explain. You are just presenting value to the girl and saying take it or leave it! Screening for logistics is basically asking the "chode style" questions. You ask the girl things lik…
/r/seduction15/04/13 08:55 PM
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There's a few subtle tricks when a girl is on her way somewhere Say something as soon as you make eye contact Ideally say something when you're 3-4 steps away (so it's awkward for her to walk by you without saying anything) Have full belief that you can stop her Many times guys will not have 100% belief that the girl will stop, and she just flies right by them. You need to fully commit and fully believe the girl will stop
/r/seduction15/04/13 08:28 PM
1

Lol, the funny thing is -- if you ask a girl what she likes she'll list off a ton of things that she thinks she wants in a guy But in reality, what she responds to is in fact quite different. The most overplayed example is the girl who wants a stable, nice guy but keeps falling for the douchey bad boys This is because attraction, on the large scale, is hugely emotional. The thread you listed is a bunch of girls logically describing what they wouldn't want in a man In other words, it means very l…
/r/seduction15/04/13 08:19 PM
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Smile and say "Hi". Point to the direction you were walking in and say "I was just about to walk over there, but I had to come say hi" Opens like a charm
/r/seduction15/04/13 05:10 PM
0

Looks don't matter my friend. The only thing that matters is how YOU feel about your looks because that's projected onto the girl
/r/seduction15/04/13 05:08 PM
2

I used to struggle with this a ton. In reality, none of us really have a "set personality". We have a RANGE of personalities that we act upon based on the environment There are certain triggers that cause us to act a certain way, and to call upon a certain personality. For example, if you're with some very logical friends and watching a documentary--> logical personality. Now you can talk about science and astrophysics and shit If you're with a bunch of people you're comfortable being a goof aro…
/r/seduction15/04/13 04:47 PM
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Yep, this fish is cooked
/r/seduction15/04/13 04:36 PM
1

When I first started out I had no problem operning lots of girls but had a ton of overqualifying behaviours Over qualifying basically means you're trying to convey to the girl ALL the reasons why she should like you. In reality, this is pretty pathetic and most girls get turned off by it The more natural way is to ASSUME she likes you and act based on that. So I had to remove my overqualifying behaviours by doing things like slowing down as I'm speaking. Or not trying to add too much humor all a…
/r/seduction15/04/13 04:33 PM
2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTdk0-bpv90 Process is about 7 mins in. Still can't believe he gave this away for free, dudes a maniac!
/r/seduction15/04/13 04:15 PM
1

Definitely! Super potent video by him, great source of knowledge for anyone looking to drive up their consistency
/r/seduction15/04/13 04:08 PM
1

Well I actually thought it was an actual kid (like a toddler) which would have been much more hilarious You seem to be worried very much about what the girl thinks of you, almost as if you are afraid of being comfortable around her. Think about it this way : what would you do if you were with a friend, and some random teenager came up and spit water at you? The answer to that question is the answer that's correct
/r/seduction09/04/13 11:47 PM
8

LOL! The issue here is you are clearly taking yourself far too seriously. Life's just a big joke man, lighten up and get rid of the ego!
/r/seduction08/04/13 05:44 AM
2

Roger Love is the BOMB when it comes to vocal exercises. His stuff will quite literally change your life forever
/r/seduction08/04/13 05:40 AM
1

Drink less, bang her when you're sober. She obviously likes you, just don't play it up and turn it into a "big deal". Send her a text, see if she's still responding and if she is invite her out for drinks agian
/r/seduction19/03/13 01:21 AM
1

Drink less
/r/seduction19/03/13 12:16 AM
1

One of the things that helped me a ton with rejection is to reframe everything in a funny, positive way One trick I did was to find something funny about every single interaction. This will make your night hilarious in ways you'd never think imaginable
/r/seduction19/03/13 12:10 AM
1

One of my favorites (great for sexual tension) is put one hand on the shoulder and look directly into her eyes
/r/seduction19/03/13 12:09 AM
3

She wants to take things slow because EITHER 1) she's worried about you getting too invested and viewing it as a relationship rather than a fuck-buddy type thing or 2) she's worried about you viewing her as a slut Figure out which one of the two it is, and deal with her objections directly. Also, don't ever lead a girl on just for sex. Be completely upfront and honest about how you live your life
/r/seduction19/03/13 12:04 AM
3

Make sure the girl knows you're not looking for a relationship
/r/seduction19/03/13 12:00 AM
6

Attractive girls don't usually tell a guy "you're sexy" so you have to assume that they know it It's like a millionaire who has a shit-ton of money in the bank. Does he need a person to tell him "you have so much money" for him to believe he is a millionaire? No, because he already knows it. It's already assumed
/r/seduction18/03/13 11:58 PM
2

This is a very common shit test. One way to deal with a shit test is ignore and plow forward. Pretend like she just spoke chinese to you
/r/seduction18/03/13 11:51 PM
2

Nice, love julien personally. His 1 hour pickup manifesto helped me a ton
/r/seduction10/02/13 10:50 PM
1

Keep in mind that the blueprint is about IDENTITY-LEVEL change This has nothing to do with outer game, and is purely for the men who are wondering "why am I bad with women, why am I not socially outgoing, and what can I do to fix it"
/r/seduction09/02/13 06:23 PM
2

No prob man, just contributing value and something that helped me. Not much love from seddit but its all good!
/r/seduction09/02/13 01:30 AM
1

You are getting women flaking because you aren't establishing a good enough connection with them. Get a better CONNECTION with the women you interact with and see your flake rates go down You also won't have to worry about stupid shit like "when can I adequately ask for a second date in order to get her to like me"
/r/seduction09/02/13 01:06 AM
2

Get her to meet you. Gaming does not occur over the phone. Game occurs IN PERSON
/r/seduction09/02/13 12:52 AM
1

People need to get this through their head: Looks DO MATTER if you lack confidence. If you're boring, and if you don't understand female psychology. For people who are confident, who are fun, and who understand how to seduce women, looks don't matter. So basically, to you, looks do matter
/r/seduction09/02/13 12:50 AM
2

Yeah and something a lot of people fail to recognize is you're SUPPOSED to get rejected by a certain number of girls. This doesn't mean hold back on your approaches, but just realize it's all a part of cold approach pickup There are a finite number of cool, single girls on this planet
/r/seduction31/01/13 08:37 PM
2

I'm convinced that all AA is just a fear of getting blown out, plus a lack of references for how the approach would go (fear of the unknown) Two obvious ways of dealing with these would be to 1) put aside the ego and accept that you will get rejected by certain girls, and that it really doesn't hurt that bad. And 2) stay present to the moment i.e do it immediately and unthinkingly
/r/seduction31/01/13 06:24 AM
5

I am an introvert, and I've been dabbling in social dynamics for the past 3 months or so. Being social is a skill, and like any skill in the world there is a learning curve associated with it Think of it as going to the gym, it wouldn't make sense to be a scrawny guy and expect to lift the heaviest weights on your first day. You need to make small missions for yourself and let your body get CALIBRATED to the new behaviours you are trying. That low energy feeling will eventually go away (as it di…
/r/seduction27/01/13 06:25 AM
1

Dude that's awesome, see how easy it is to just be friendly with a girl and treat her as you would your good friend? It shows that you're cool and used to being around new people I can't keep on telling you what to say (hint: ask about her weekend) but I can give you some tips: ask her out as soon as you feel its right don't treat this as "your only chance" to get a girl. treat her as if you would any other friend and be cool. neediness is EXTREMELY EXTREMELY EXTREMELY unattractive to women make…
/r/seduction26/01/13 09:00 AM
1

NP, glad to hear you liked it
/r/seduction23/01/13 10:37 PM
1

No prob, let us know how it goes!
/r/seduction23/01/13 10:35 PM
1

You saying "it does not work" is a negative attitude in itself. Focus on the positives, ie "its slowly working", "im seeing some changes", "i wouldn't have done that 1 month ago". These are the crucial re-frames that will allow you to open up and learn any new behavior In terms of advice, the sidebar has more than you'll ever need
/r/seduction23/01/13 05:41 AM
1

You asking about her boyfriend paints you as reactive. If you were going to plow through the boyfriend anyway, might as well have not mentioned it at all I know girls who have boyfriends they use as "providers" while they fuck around with other dudes. I also know girls who have boyfriends that they really love, but will flirt with guys just for the fun of it. Figure out which one this girl is and knock her off the fence
/r/seduction23/01/13 05:31 AM
2

Come to the next class a bit earlier and try to snag a spot near her. Say "there's no way I'm going to stay awake without a partner in this class" Whatever it is, make sure you just DO it! Bump into her after class (even literally, playfully bump her) and ask her how boring the class was. Be light hearted and talk to her as if you were talking to your best friend
/r/seduction23/01/13 05:25 AM
1

I recently watched this video that discussed some of the finer points in learning the game at different ages. I believe the advice starts at about 4 or 5 minutes in https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=__lAaZOiCqo
/r/seduction23/01/13 05:20 AM
1

I would say the same about building a relationship on temporary feelings of neediness
/r/seduction23/01/13 03:14 AM
1

In other words you view it as if the man is "stealing something" from the girl
/r/seduction22/01/13 09:31 PM
1

There are a number of reasons why these behaviours are unhealthy, but based on your comments I think you will reject my arguments without consideration You view having sex with the girl as an immoral act, almost as if the man is manipulating her into into having sex with you Rather than viewing it in this way, you need to view it as a "win-win" where both you and the woman are gaining something profound from the interaction
/r/seduction22/01/13 01:37 PM
3

The point is that he has an unhealthy attachment to every woman he deals with.
/r/seduction22/01/13 05:53 AM
1

You need to relearn the ATTITUDES and LIFESTYLE of seduction There are no "lines" that you can just say to a girl to get her to fuck you. You need to make people feel good in your presence and contribute value to the situation Get the negative voice out of your head, and start to focus on what you can actually DO to make a lifestyle change
/r/seduction22/01/13 05:34 AM
1

Go sign up for some volunteering events. Go to places like libraries, malls, art shows, concerts, and bars are GREAT especially if you approach sober These are all great at getting out of your comfort zone. You'll find that when you have many things going on in your life there's less time to be worried about silly things like a girl not liking you or a girl rejecting you.
/r/seduction22/01/13 05:23 AM
1

Haha yeah internally I was like, he knows! I just played it off and chatted about it calmly, he was actually a cool dude and I asked him later about it. He said one of his friends was into pickup and he recognized it instantly
/r/seduction21/01/13 09:36 PM
1

Dude come to r/100sets, we got a handful of people on their way to 100. I'm around 75 and my reality has completely changed from 2 months ago
/r/seduction21/01/13 07:27 AM
1

I actually got this question from a dude at a small get together a couple weeks ago. He was like "Can I ask a question... Have you ever read the game?" I was freaked the fuck out but managed to play it cool with the group Probably means I'm still not calibrated in the new behaviors I've been trying
/r/seduction21/01/13 07:24 AM
22

The world is filled with people who don't take action. Hence your "armchair seddit" observations
/r/seduction17/01/13 05:24 AM
3

Jesus Christ this is way too many words. Just say HI IM PUAROOKIE
/r/seduction17/01/13 05:15 AM
2

My two favorites were "on giving value" by TofuTofu and "how I rebuilt myself" by puaCurveball I hope to create something as impactful near the end of my journey
/r/seduction06/01/13 02:40 AM
1

r/socialskills
/r/seduction03/01/13 05:12 PM
2

You view interacting with the girl as an immoral act, almost as if you are manipulating her into holding a conversation or into having sex with you Rather than viewing it in this way, you need to view it as a "win-win" where both you and the woman are gaining something profound from this interaction You must also realize that you are enough, and that she is able to like you just for you. Otherwise your mind will tell you that you are just putting on an act... and that it won't last
/r/seduction25/12/12 08:16 AM
1

Ask questions but don't turn it into a dull and boring interview. Make it fun, that's pretty much the only rule
/r/seduction24/12/12 11:19 PM
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You actually have a massive advantage here, because you are aware of what is "wrong" and what is "right" in a conversation. Many people don't even have this ability! Slowly pick out the things that are "wrong" and begin to remove them from your conversations. Realize when you are being negative, and ask yourself why you're acting that way
/r/seduction24/12/12 10:56 PM
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It's always good to take a step back in these situations. I'll usually say things like "You're naughty. My mom told me to stay away from girls like you" or "I'm scared. I wanna go home" This shows her that you're not a typical AFC who would jump on the chance to bang her. With these types of girls usually you just have to sit back, stay indifferent and don't do anything stupid
/r/seduction24/12/12 10:55 PM
16

Basically, don't be afraid to blow yourself out. Many guys will simply NOT escalate because they are happy with the interaction as is and don't want to "ruin it" by escalating. You can see how this will tend to bite guys in the ass later on
/r/seduction24/12/12 10:54 PM
37

Physical escalation is the key. If you aren't touching her now you aren't fucking her later!
/r/seduction24/12/12 09:45 PM
2

This is great stuff thanks! I'm typically high energy (sometimes to a fault) when I'm out so pulling it back is good advice I feel a line needs to be drawn though, which is that you need to have already demonstrated value before you dial it back a notch. Otherwise she'll simply not be attracted or bored at your indifference. As a newbie I'm not sure exactly how to find this balance
/r/seduction24/12/12 03:27 AM
3

Redefine what you consider as success, otherwise you will continue to fail no matter what. Gain momentum through the ACT of the approach, not the OUTCOME. I'm sure you already know this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j72PZY_rzU4
/r/seduction23/12/12 07:07 AM
2

Dude, I truly feel sorry for you. You feel completely victimized by your short height when in reality noone gives a fuck. No one cares about your height, they only care about how YOU care about your height. Based on your responses in this thread you'll probably passover this information as useless, because you're simply UNWILLING to change your comforting mindset. How fucking easy is it to think "Oh I'm so short no one cares about me" rather than be a man and step up
/r/seduction16/12/12 09:57 PM
2

You have a deeply ingrained VIEW of how the world works. You truly don't believe that women could find you attractive, and as a result they don't either! If you go through life looking for reasons that ONLY attractive men get laid (seriously how ridiculous is this) then you will only find evidence for this. So even if someone tells you that a 5'5 dude can get laid, your mind immediately rejects that information and passes it over it as worthless. Because it's not in ALIGNMENT for how you think a…
/r/seduction16/12/12 09:50 PM
1

Question: how did you transition into cold approach and was it nerve racking in the beginning? Also, a friend of mine mentioned that the point of cold-approach pickup is to structure it in such a way that it allows you to actually MEET that girl. Would you agree?
/r/seduction12/12/12 02:27 AM
3

Oh my, he asked a girl for her phone number! CRINGE! oh no, he tapped a girl on the shoulder! VIOLATION! I hope you realize how ridiculous you sound
/r/seduction11/12/12 04:43 AM
1

Sounds like a blast. I'm in toronto for the next two weeks so hit me up if you guys need a third wing!
/r/seduction10/12/12 11:56 PM
3

perfection is nothing when compared with my manly essence
/r/seduction16/11/12 05:28 PM
1

hey its ___ from saturday. been flirting with many other customers lately?
/r/seduction16/11/12 05:24 PM
1

This is exactly it -- returning the text when you have time. Actually, I would consider replying instantly and often to be "playing games" as I really don't have time for that shit
/r/seduction08/11/12 11:46 PM
1

This post isn't really about the girl, it's more about yourself and setting up personal boundaries for how much time you wanna spend texting random women on your phone. How the girl views it is entirely up to her
/r/seduction05/11/12 11:19 PM
1

A+
/r/seduction05/11/12 11:14 PM
6

Agreed, although this provides a good set of training wheels for newbies (myself included) who might be a little too attached to their phone
/r/seduction05/11/12 06:16 PM
5

I have notes, schedules, calendar events scheduled into my phone so its usually a pain in the ass to wait for a boot-up each time. For people that don't use their phone for anything other than texting, I'd agree to turn it off completely
/r/seduction05/11/12 05:59 PM
1

I truly think that once a girl gives you an IOI and you fail to recognize it, she will view as weak from that point on. I feel like this is especially true for high quality (high self esteem and independent) women. Just my theory, at least
/r/seduction05/11/12 05:17 PM
3

Great job Tofu, its important to have a vision of "your perfect self” when it comes to inner game and projecting yourself as a man of value It's also important that people do not misinterpret this post as "I need to change my life before I can approach women". This is simply not the case. There's no reason NOT to apply some of these changes as you work towards your goal
/r/seduction18/10/12 09:01 PM
0

Meh, this is not for me at all. I'm repulsed by low self esteem chicks and I'd rather keep my word as a man.
/r/seduction18/10/12 02:22 AM
1

Platonic is probably the wrong word to use here, what I mean is that you can be friends and still flirt and have sexual undertones. Do you know a better word for this?
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:17 AM
1

Agreed, I find that the best relationships are built from long-term friendships (doesn't have to be platonic) When people rush into relationships it typically results in them putting unrealistic standards for their partner to live up to
/r/seduction16/10/12 03:30 AM
3

Whoever opens the set gets to pick the girl
/r/seduction16/10/12 03:21 AM
1

You need to be be picky about what material you are using in order to increase results. Many routines assume an ALPHA frame and if you are approaching a woman out of the blue, the first thing she sees is your physical appearance. Seddit is great at ways you can improve your look (working out, accesorising, etc. ) and the main reason this is, is because alot of the material here is catered to the ALPHA male. If you don't project the ALPHA vibe (and you will not if you are a 5-5 skinny asian) then…
/r/seduction15/10/12 08:01 PM
1

I don't think you understood the question. It's basically saying what changes need to be made if you are approaching women as an average guy versus an ugly guy. EXAMPLE: a 20 yo college student versus a 40 yo balding man This gives perspective as to WHICH openers you should be using to achieve the best type of results, allow you the least amount of blowoffs/flakes and increase consistency. There are also other adjustments that need to be made but I dont have time to wrte an in depth post
/r/seduction15/10/12 07:54 PM
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Doesn't seem like breaking any barriers to me. Seems like you got the equivalent of LJBF
/r/seduction15/10/12 06:51 AM
14

This is a great question. If you aren't the ideal match for that woman (i.e. not 6 ft tall, overweight, underweight, non-white, any combination of unattractive traits to the generic girl) the truth is that you DO need to modify your approach. Because you are unattractive, you increase the likelihood of getting screened out by women. This makes it hard to establish INITIAL attraction. Specifically, your approach needs to be catered towards -initially- non-sexual openers. You should focus on more …
/r/seduction15/10/12 06:31 AM
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Here is something that helped me get over people throwing insults at me. Instead of viewing it as a NEG, or instead of viewing it as someone insulting you, imaging it as someone ENGAGING you. In other words, if a girl passed by me and I overhear them laughing like "haha that guy looks gay", I used to view it like they are trying to put me down or they are being assholes. Rather than doing that, however, you can view it as the girls ENGAGING you. In this light, its almost as if they are intereste…
/r/seduction15/10/12 03:56 AM
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You are seeking validation from women, and attributing your self-worth to them. Live a fuller life and notice that women become less of a focus and more of a side-goal
/r/seduction15/10/12 03:32 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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