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This may seem pedantic--but the difference between a well-optimized schedule and a poorly chosen one can be as much as a week's worth of custody under the right conditions. What's another week with your kids worth to you?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 05:15 PM
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I admit to my own detriment I’ve almost gotten to where I’m more comfortable talking to chatgpt/gemini/grok than to most people.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:24 PM
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Still shouldn’t be an excuse. Marriage used to be for richer or for poorer/in sickness and in health. You didn’t just get to throw out your spouse because they weren’t attractive to you anymore. I’m sure modern no fault divorce was created picturing supporting poor helpless moms whose highrolling sleazeball husbands left them for that hot secretary at work, but it wound up rewarding women for being the ones cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 04:20 AM
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My wife left me for a guy 20 years older than me (she was 9 years older than me). Yeah, if she can’t be comfortable with herself, you can’t do that for her, no matter what all your power of love kids cartoons said. If a girl expects me to treat her well that’s one thing, but if she expects me to make her feel good about herself, I’m calling that a red flag from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 04:15 AM
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Immersion has increased. Compare TV usage in the 70s to modern doomscrolling, in terms of screentime
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 04:09 AM
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You can't beat their own insecurity. I once told my wife (now ex) that I didn't start hanging out with her before we dated just because of her looks. Of course I meant that between her personality and what kind of person I thought she was, I saw her as special and fell in love with that--something you couldn't just trade up for a "10". Her take, of course, was that I was unattracted to her and never found her attractive, which is simply not true. I don't chase every woman I find attractive. In f…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:18 PM
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The problem with social media is we often aren't comparing ourselves to 10s, we're comparing ourselves to demigods. And in these relationships, a lot of damage can be done even if only one person falls for this trap.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 07:52 PM
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IANAL First off--if you are suggesting being dishonest, flinging made-up accusations, and manipulating judges, I want you to take a really good look in the mirror and ask who is actually the bad guy here. No--the game is largely not fair. Instead--I'm going to give you NOTES that can help you out, because not every lawyer who is juggling two dozen other cases is going to catch everything for you. ASK FOR ESPO: First off--if you live in a state that does not default to 50/50 and your stbxw does n…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 08:26 PM
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In my particular case--the optimum solution was to have a 7 day period starting on 5/23/2025 and a 23 day period starting on 7/8/2025. My ex gets two of my weekends otherwise--one from one of these periods and another being one of my normal weekends, and I have the father's day weekend time and 1st/3rd/5th weekends normally per Texas possession. Even with my ex's deduction, my time is north of 50% for this period. My solution was a total of 2 hours shy of the maximum possession time I could poss…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 01:28 PM
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Women on their way out often play it down. Divorce is WAR. She can act all kind but at the end of the day if she walks into that courtroom and throws you under the bus and the judge bites, you'll be out massively for time and influence over your kids and future earnings, and most of all--you TRUSTED her to stick it out with you on an OATH that said "until death do us part". Her seeking separation/divorce is breaking that oath. If she can break an oath like that, how can you trust her on ANYTHING…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 01:14 PM
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Mine leaned hard for mom and recommended SPO. By sheer luck shortly before mediation I discovered ESPO was a thing and asked for that when it became clear 50/50 was not going to be a thing and I got it. If I had even heard of it going in--I would shout it from the rooftops--IF 50/50 IS OFF THE TABLE, ASK FOR ESPO!!! I did get one important thing with respect to my own case--we homeschooled, and I had physical proof that before filing she spent only 1 hour a day on the kids schooling. After I fil…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 01:08 PM
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The custody evaluator, someone hired by the court or privately whose job is to evaluate the fitness of each parent for custody. If you get one that’s fair this can prove that you’ve got a solid handle on taking care of your kids. The other is a guardian ad litem. I haven’t used one, but well, the custody evaluator focuses on custody itself. The guardian ad litem focuses on the best interest of the kids, and likely does an actual investigation into the lives of the parents.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 10:42 PM
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First off--REMEMBER YOUR KIDS NEED YOU! No matter how dark things get, don't even think about taking your life. Second--was a Custody Evaluator or GAL ever requested? They can also be biased but that may strengthen your argument for an appeal down the road. Courts need a change in circumstances to change custody, so you need to make sure one happens to justify getting this back into court--there's a very good chance you may need to change jobs and move to do this. Get advice from a lawyer for a …
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 09:32 PM
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The same one as backseat driving. Since they aren’t doing the work, they feel guilty, so they critique your work to feel like they contributed something to lift themselves up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 04:15 PM
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So in this scenario you can't face counselling because you can't take criticism. Sorry, I ain't buying it. My "love language" is quality time, but I don't cease to function as an adult if other people don't give me quality time, nor any of the other languages, and above all, I don't put divorce on the table over that. It's nice but you aren't owed it--ideally you receive it in a healthy relationship, but requiring it to function basically is codependency, which is inherently unhealthy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 09:22 PM
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Forgive me, but I just don’t buy the love languages thing anymore. Sure if you’re unhappy by all means work it out get counseling and find out where you stand with that. But this whole thing about throwing in the towel because you’re bored or unhappy really makes the idea of marriage being until death do us and through sickness and health lines meaningless. He spends all his time with you, but doesn’t give you enough words of affirmation (not enough clever love notes)? I’m sorry grow up and addr…
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 12:35 PM
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You see where you said you thought you were "doing a noble deed"? Look up a "PHIL". Narcissists target PHILs. Men who are Patient, Heroic, have Integrity, and are Loyal. NEVER marry to "rescue" someone. Marry someone who has their act together. I'm not saying this to insult you--I'm pointing out that you're essentially throwing the most important relationship of your life under the bus, and so many of us men make that mistake. You can always do charity, but you are NOT responsible for making som…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:04 PM
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You do raise a valid point. I was thinking this would be something that would be open to all divorces men or women, but then you have to trust people to be honest with the details.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/25 12:28 AM
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I almost guarantee you when she got that job she found someone new she wants to impress. With that mindset, you are now an obstacle. She's already mentally checked out, so she only sees the bad in you as long as the good keeps coming. It's time to set some hard boundaries.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 07:48 PM
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