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I think it's more things rooting in gender roles. As men are as you said physically stronger, they were expected to execute most shit and protect. Women were expected to take care of children and manage/support shit. Human beings love to get control over shit id they can (dudes usually through physical threat, women through emotional manipulation, as they have less other means. Women were more dependant on others to survive). women often got their freedom stripped and live like a kid or dog unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:50 AM
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Women do this too yet people don't react the same way to those scenarios. It's just that it happens less to women because they don't want sex as strongly and can have it more easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:28 AM
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Yeah love can't be friendship+sex, because there's planty of asexuals who aren't aromantic. I don't feel romantic affection to any hot woman I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:26 AM
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..Kids didn't go through puberty? Since when did you here about overly horny teenage boys before they were 10? Shit changes. A "need" gets added.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:23 AM
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Companionship comes in different types. People with good friend companionship still often have the negative effects of only having had bad family relationships (or just too little at all). Same goes for the other way around, you may love your family but at school nobody wants to be around you, so you will still feels shitty about it. Romantic relationships aren't as high of a need, but they're still a different need that fall under companionship. It feels different and satisfies a different aspe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:22 AM
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it does kinda feel like food or sleep, only you indeed don't need it to survive. See it like having a bunch of bars in a survival game that need to be filled up to keep staying in a sane, healthy, top condition. There's a reason most dudes masturbate, the chemicals cause a higher desire to let it out. though with masturbation they can only fill it up so much. You constantly desire this to some degree even if not conciously, but it's not something you hold that much value for It's just something …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:07 AM
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It's way easier to act like you lost nothing and blame it on that thing sucking anyways than to realize you did lose something not black and white and were inadequate in some kind of area. People also tend to lash out at a surfy "source". Instead of confronting themselves deep down. Yeah, it's a pretty natural way human beings show frustration. There's healthier ways, but what's going on below is not what's going on in the surface.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 06:58 AM
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I saw mumkey jones his vids on him. There was way more wrong with that dude due to his shitty upbringing than with most dudes who have trouble dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 06:49 AM
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It's normal to expect normal things if you did the same things as normal people. ESPECIALLY if people often tell you you will find someone because you're a good person. Especially when you follow the advice they give you yet people not doing it do better. Sex is such a basic facet of life and constantly impacts our body and soceity. All normal people have it at least once, or can get it at least once. The expectation is pretty normal. Thinking you absolutely always should be getting it, that's e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 06:39 AM
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He's just describing a feeling of disappointment growing into frustration, and venting it outwards. It's not the most healthy way to handle it, yeah, but common and doesn't necessarily mean you felt like you absolutely owed/deserved it. You had just thought it would happen and, wanted it and was disappointed you didn't get it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 06:33 AM
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At the very least, the body getting rid of excess sperm is a physical need I guess. I mean hell it sometimes does it automatically through dreams if it gets bad enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 06:22 AM
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Then that's their problem, not yours. Yes, it's discouraging and frustrating and happens a lot, but you should still improve yourself mostly for what you think would make you a better human being. If objectively speaking you're not doing anything that's actually hindering someone yet they still act like you're not good enough, fuck em.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 09:46 AM
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I'm all for this haha, good name
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 09:35 PM
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I get ya, hope it didn't seem like I was trying to go against ya it was more a question to the general discussion inspired by your comment. Anywho, to elaborate, I think when men try to "man up", it feels to me like they're trying to pander to what they think women want instead of improving themselves for themselves like they claim to. Because if it was the latter, maleness would be irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 08:23 PM
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Why not just.. better yourself? Why make it a gendered or age thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 08:09 PM
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Trial & error aside, I'd like to know myself :').
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 02:27 PM
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Those friends of yours may be missing out because they don't look at it the way you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 10:20 AM
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I mean it IS escapism. Which they started to do more oftrn because they couldn't get women
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 10:17 AM
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The better Indie shit and japanese aaa titles aren't any worse than how old aaa games were (but a lot is different). Plus there's tons of old games still available.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 10:00 AM
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Are the video games to blame, or them not getting much of an initial chance and the effort to get something anyways simply not being worth it lt? Maybe a bit of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:52 AM
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The girls have more options available for relationships and while 1 girl breaks up the same dude can get another. The average dude can get a girl because the girl realizes the hot dude either doesn't want to or isn't good for something long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:49 AM
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Wow where did you find such a controversial book?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:47 AM
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I'm pickier when I see photos for some reason. Even though they're usually not an entirely accurate representation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:41 AM
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I play penis controller supported VR hentai daily ama
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:38 AM
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I saw an older man reading a book on the train lately and I was reading one too and we had a small conversation because of it. I wonder if any impression would be different if it was a girl. Would it suddenly be seen as me just wanting to get into her pants?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:34 AM
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I suspect the fact that a lot of us are growing up with all the hardcore porn we want at our fingertips now doesn't really help this kind of scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:29 AM
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I guess porn is like the microwave food you ate because you didn't have enough time, money and skills for something better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:22 AM
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That's true though let's not forget that's when they haven't talked to these men or seen them in real life. Their initial attraction is also based on body language, tone, the things they do, the things they say, etc. When on a dating site People give less people a chance. They skip more and try to get the best they can get. The key would be to get a chance to show you're interesting, but it's hard to do when they find so many men unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:16 AM
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It's hard to really call it content :/
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:13 AM
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Seems like PPD is used 6 times in the "jargon" page but I can't seem to find an explanation. If it's not there maybe it could be added for people like the dude above. If it is there and I just didn't see (I skimmed hard), never mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 09:11 AM
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I think the negative responses are also increased by it only being a term on males. Toxic femininity never really became a used thing, so it's easier to see it as an attack masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 08:53 AM
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It's interesting how much I'm agreeing here with bloops (I lean red). (Am I allowed to make useless comments like these? I dunno I just wanted to say thanks for articulating it so well)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 08:52 AM
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Factually/literally, what Chris said is wrong. No love is completely unconditional, and men and women both have conditions. Even my mom who loves me most would stop loving me if I'd do something despicable enough. And you're right, there are men who love under the condition that they get sex or the woman is good looking. They do want different shit from each other. But I think what Chris is trying to say in exaggerated joke form (or maybe I'm misinterprrting) is that women, children and dogs are…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 08:36 AM
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I'd have days where I'd be completely insane with my anger phase shit where I'd tell myself I hate almost everyone, and then the next day (despite still being angry right before work) I'd proceed to go to my female dominated workplace just fine and had a pleasant time, where everyone was mutually kind to each other and I genuinely didn't want anything negative to happen to them. What I'm trying to say is, I think you're right, even for the people who are just acting a certain way with hidden int…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 08:01 AM
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Judging from me having fallen in love with a tumblrina who I had a really close friendship with for a long time, I think that before they mention any gender stuff they'd get along. They're basically two sides of the same coin, or like a mirror. If they then become good friends , maybe after a while they'll not go crazy when discussing something gender related and even understand each other MORE than they normally would. If you let them discuss right away though, I think it would be a clusterfuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 07:56 AM
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I know right I've seen some hilarious stuff in hentai.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 07:51 AM
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I think men want to love just as much as women, but also fuck more than the average woman. I don't think it has to be one or the other (not that you said that but just trying to add my 2 cents).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 07:45 AM
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I mean it's hard to discuss gender dynamics at all if you don't make generelizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 07:42 AM
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You can still wank cry yourself to sleep so it all balances out
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/19 07:35 AM
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Fuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 09:44 PM
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Yeah a lotta weirdos don't go out as much it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 10:34 PM
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It does seem to work better, I like those fellow weird people more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 10:28 PM
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Normally I want to debate, today I wanted to complain+get a an explanation. Boo hoo. Go ahead and delete the thread mods. Or ban me for all I care. Fuck it I don't really fit in anywhere anyways and kind of want to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 08:02 AM
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Kinda. I mean I can't do it anywhere else. Feminists are hypocrites, Incels are obnoxious, redpillers just go too far, mgtows can get just as weird, mra's don't really care about romance. I don't expect something comprehensive. Reddit does this all the time "Be the best version of yourself you can be" already works a lot better than "be yourself" and all they did was add a few words.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:51 AM
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Try talking to bloops that are friends or see random youtube comments/forum posts that don't self identity as bloops. They definitely make it sound like it, along with "Just be yourself".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:09 AM
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That's what everyone always says. Somebody says x "we don't mean x". Yet it seems like the people who they usually tell it to are the type of people who wouldn't know what it means without clarification. And then the people get blamed for misinterpreting when the people giving advice are awful at communicating and parrot the same exact phrases without change in words to make it clear. Now, with the redpillers the "don't put them on a pedestal" yet still do all the other shit, has always been cle…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 06:58 AM
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I don't think treating women normal normal has made any positive difference whatsoever, it just negates a potential negative one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 06:46 AM
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I don't see the point in making them to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:39 PM
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I don't know the personal motivation, but subconsciously rough stuff IS more masculine than smooth stuff (smooth resembles children and women more), people associate rough with masculinity. Biologically keeping up with appearance in that kinda way isn't as necessary to stand out for potential women. He's the chaser to begin with, and he had more shit to do rather than look. On top of all that as women do it all the time soceity is thought to associate it with women. But as you say we live in mod…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 12:08 AM
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If I'd suddenly turn into an asexual but she has quite a sexdrive? ​ I mean If I'm monogamous (which I'm assuming I am) why would I ever wanna share my partner? A threesome maybe? I guess that's it, but I think I'd find it too awkward regardless if my lizard brain would find it hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 08:02 PM
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Nah they're just not TOO ugly, have the chance to show themselves, and know how to trigger the right feelings in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:45 PM
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Yeah I often ask myself the same thing. But let's be real here 90% of the time the guys who do that are like this precisely because other people keep denying the advantages of women and certain disadvantages of men. The pendellum starts to swing back to the other side. Meanwhile the others who tend to do it about women do that because modern feminism is so widespread. The only disadvantages and advantagesall people are willing to actually admit are physical ones. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:37 PM
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About as much as it takes to live a comfortable, safe life without every working a job + some more, so I can do whatever I want without worry and do something with music, Japanese, youtube or acting. I kind of do wish I was a woman, but the thing is, most of that relates to relationships..as a woman with men. But If I'd want to be a woman I'd want to be a lesbian one, and that negates like half of the perks I'd get, and meanwhile I'll be getting a bleeding pussy every month. I would get a chance…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:27 PM
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I don't get how you get from that premise to this conclusion. They're very different even in your own explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:49 PM
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Same, unless I'm cranky or angry, but I can say the latter about most people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 01:39 PM
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Somehow it sounds much more amusing when you call it fook.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:06 PM
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Your flair is good advice. Treat your anime pillow like a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 04:07 PM
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https://youtu.be/iEosfpqDaKc Street interviews on the topic have similar results. Ofcourse, interesting answers tend to be picked and a certain type of people want to answer. But still, English comment sections keep being shocked and the creator agreed it's pretty common. It fits with how the Japanese always try to prevent conflict to keep harmony too, you'd see someone communicate an issue even less than here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:22 AM
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Hmm, sees like it's based on a comic. Might wanna read that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:20 PM
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People tend to get a superiority complex when they feel like everybody is against their views. Thinking people are jealous is a pretty obvious cope. It's kinda depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:18 PM
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But I love being triggered because I can use it as escapism from the dullness of life :(
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:12 PM
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Are you guys as dickish and snarky to people in real life as you are on here? Do we secretly love each other on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:08 PM
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I think it's good you have confidence and a good track record. I just responded the way I di because I get the other responses but I kinda get where you're coming from as well. Yeah I know a lot of it is just banter but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:01 PM
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Responding to how RPs doubt these kinds of claims so hard
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 04:55 PM
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How can you act like it doesn't exist, it's a pretty generic feminist line.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 04:49 PM
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I mean you may be right about your case, but there's plenty of people who said similar shit and it ended up the same as anyone else. Plenty of times there's no way to know that shit in advance. Things can always go wrong to anyone no matter how good things look, but ofcourse that's no reason to not stay confident in your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 04:44 PM
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I mean it's not like that's a feasible goal in any kind of capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 04:42 PM
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Different cultures do encourage/discourage different behavior and cause people to develop differently. But yeah, the grass really isn't greener anywhere else, and human nature remains human nature. It's like how Reddits system promotes circlejerking, but people like to circlejerk to begin with. When I hear manosphere folk hate on modern American women and cite asian women as a better alternative, it sounds absolutely ridiculous. If anything the hypergamy they complain of would be even worse, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 04:38 PM
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They're complete generic reactions of most women, including the advice adults give the same dude. Keep in mind, these women often like the dude platonically. So in her mind, he doesn't need to change, she assumes other girls that want him will come by as long as he has confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:21 AM
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Alcaholics are often sick of alcohol, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 12:14 AM
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The reverse happens a lot too. Only for this scenario I can say it's definitely a damn thing women say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 12:10 AM
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The women that are directly giving advice to beta orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 12:08 AM
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Hahaha, interesting. It's okay, I saw a cat fuck a cat plushie because he thought it was real. And meanwhile I wank it to anime girls. Your nature has a broad interpretation of opposite sex, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 08:59 PM
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It has nothing to do with attraction, but it does have to do with compatibility. So it's not necessary for getting together, but without it it's harder to sustain a relationship. If somebody hates everything I'm interested in, I'm not gonna be able to converse with them as easily or relate as easily. I'd say some other points of compatibility are more important tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 06:34 PM
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Never doubt master Atlas
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 06:16 PM
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Actually I think most men are into submissive women because I'm one of the few dudes who doesn't like feminists but has no problem with the ''bitchy'' behavior. Even excluding feminism and the likes, dudes complaining about their wives which have always been around sometimes complain about shit I actually kinda like. Seems like they liked women in spite of those traits rather than because, even though I find it nice. Meanwhile sexually I think men just want women that give them a lot of sex rega…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 04:32 PM
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Or fuck each other despite being straight in the past (prison). Or even fuck male children sometimes (priests). Men's sex drive can get insane.. Then again without it we probably wouldn't have this big of a population.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:49 PM
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When I read this kind of thing I honestly start to think most of the non I just wanna fuck you guys are invisible (dating wise) to you gals in the same way really unattractive looking women are invisible (dating wise) to a lot of men. Not like rejecting them, but not even considering they are a dating option at all and forgetting to remember them when talking about dating topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:46 PM
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It would be an Incredibly logical explanation if true. I find it interesting how negatively average people tend to react to these kinds of explanations though. Asif they can't accept we're just a bunch of animals with a rational mind attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:34 PM
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I already have a hard time imagining normal people arguing on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:31 PM
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Biological drives for romantic companionship and sex? Even if you go your own way, depending on the person, the loneliness may still persist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:29 PM
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Flair checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:28 PM
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I question it too. My mom n sis always do their stuff because they were gonna do it anyways. I don't think dates have much of anything to do with it, they wanna look good when outside to begin with. So why consider that an extra payment and effort for dates when it's already a default for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:27 PM
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Men do tend to highly prefer or notice women with makeup even when they claim they don't because they often don't even notice who has or doesn't have makeup on unless excessive. So their opinions can get contradictionary. But this shit necessary to attract these dudes if you're already noticed? Fuck no. Especially not the nails part, I don't even think dudes like that shit. If I genuinely find a girl pretty with makeup, I'm gonna find her pretty without, unless she used some professional makeup …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:19 PM
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Yeah, sounds annoying, but asif you need THAT much. Just have your hair not look too shitty and put on minimal makeup. I get the complaint of makeup costs/time when it's required for your job, but otherwise... If women all decided to stop wearing makeup for 3 months men would get used to it and then not require you to wear makeup. You know why? Cause men have always liked women. They're just not used to seeing a normal woman besides their sister or wife anymore. But no everyone has to pretend wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:14 PM
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Ah okay I guess you are then, my bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 12:54 PM
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Desirable men look for validation all the fucking time, just in different ways. They just don't let their entire self worth be dependent on it. The Validation makes them feel good, but a lack of validation makes them feel neutral. It only becomes a problem when a lack of validation makes you feel worthless. Validation in itself is a very common thing people seek do that isn't always harmful. And even when it is a vulnerable flaw, ya can't always be 100% reliant on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 12:52 PM
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Most of those BFS are decent human beings overall. But they're not the people pleasing, passive, humble ''nice' of the rejected ''nice guys'' nice. ​ --Different peoples different intepretations of Nice, and also the Halo effect play a role in this gap of reactions. I think defining what people consider ''nice'' in different contexts is a whole other can of worms so lets get into the other point. - Both nice and non nice people can get laid. Women keep saying niceness is a base requirement. Yet …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 12:31 PM
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​ I find it hilarious people are puzzled by men expecting sexual attraction from niceness when WOMEN made them believe that. Dude asks how to get a girl, girl says things like Niceness, respect, listening to her, not being forward with sexual attraction, treat her like she's special (which conflicts with the ''just act like she's anyone else thing, but both don' work anyways), not do what all the assertive and masculine guys do, etc. And no it's not down to misinterpretation, it's down to the gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 12:12 PM
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I tried to talk in Japanese. I do notice it's a bit easier to get girls to respond but they do tend to have less in common with me. Interesting how different demographics react differently. Thanks for that observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 01:42 PM
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I don't think most women become ego filled from it even if it happens. I do think a good chunk attempts to feel validated by seeking validation, but the feeling doesn't end up happening. It's like an addict chasing a high but getting diminishing returns. I think they get a lot of validation but just ignore it, Don't believe it or brush it off. At least girls/young women.The standard for needing to br validated becomes too high. The amount of girls insecure about their looks despite tons of dudes…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:16 AM
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What do you usually talk about on there? I'm trying to use language exchange apps to talk to Japanese people but convos quickly die out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:10 AM
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You can easily have a good ltr without marriage. Took a long time before my neighbors got married. The marriage part didn't change anything. In my experience, women just hype up marriage a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:08 AM
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Judging from the comment about how a married girl still flirts with dudes, I don't think non spergs are much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:05 AM
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I called a suicide hotline once recommended by a doctor after finally taking up the courage and then the reponse I got was so disinterested and useless I was so shocked I stopped feeling bad for a while because I was so busy feeling shocked. Ironically it helped me. For the wrong reason though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 10:53 AM
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I understand the implication of being lucky for having it is annoying when most of it just brings annoyance to begin with. In fact it'd probably be kind of infuriating. But I think this whole conversation stems from how men have a lot of trouble with dating more specific to them that women don't really seem to acknowledge much especially because they're supposed to be the proactive ones and instead it goes to the classic thing of men just needing to suck it up, get blamed and try to change. Even…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 10:34 AM
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Sure. But I don't think it's irrelevant to a lot of women because I don't see them only have such dudes and I still see them have more dating options. Also the effort comes more in wading through dudes than how they act when they find a dude. A dude is often doing a buncha shit to convince he's better than all the other dudes and that can get equally exhausting. So as long as she has more "normal" options, it's an advantage to me. I guess at this point it depends on how we disagree on how many n…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 09:23 AM
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Because the guy usually has less suitable options and needs to put more effort into getting them. It's having the internet and tons of music albums available, having to wade through a lot of shit to find gold vs the pre internet days where a lot of your gold couldn't even be found at all even if it existed. Also to me a good chunk of the dudes who just want a quick fuck are pretty easy to identify. The others are manipulative about it sure but still. The thing I'd agree on though is how dangerou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 09:08 AM
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I don't even think it's the social skills themselves, more that the extroverted woman (or even man) more easily manages to make herself seen and stand out, causing dudes to see them instead of the others as it's simply easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 09:03 AM
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I hear the "yeah but dating for romance is still harder" all the time but it just doesn't hold up to me because what is a "good man tm" in their eyes is often a standard I just find kinds silly and I see girls easily have options of decent men too or at Least ones sincerely crushing on them yet they act like they can only find douches who want a quick fuck. Hell, I have a fat (though pretty good looking) friend who after breaking up had no issue immediately getting with another guy and she actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:57 AM
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People don't expect a return asin some kind of reward. People just don't expect to have groups of people react WORSE or put you in a worse situation when trying to put in effort to be better in ways that they think co-incide with what people say would be better to do. It's not the lack of a new positive that pisses them off, nor even the introduction of a new negative. More that something that used to be neutral or positive suddenly becomes negative. Besides, while it shouldn't, social encourage…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:44 AM
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Thanks. It's been kind of difficult to not gloss over comments actually attempting to give an explanation like these when the others are purge week tier answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:37 AM
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It doesn't really work, in fact it makes it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:35 AM
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I can say the same thing about other things average people wouldn't ask that on if someone shared some kind of frustration to vent. It's not about owing sex I mean btw just to make thst clear. Why do people owe being treated like a decent human being when in public?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:34 AM
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Sounds pretty damn sad but I guess it can't be helped... Though, if you're a cute girl I think you'd get validation more easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:59 PM
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I don't think that's always wrong to desire occasionally?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:48 PM
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Kinda? It just always seems to instead go to devolve to "it's not important, do something else", "lol (not in a mean way)", "It's your fault and you need to do x" or "suck it up".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:43 PM
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That when someone brings it up they don't get blamed and dismissed? People vent about things all the time and get acknowledgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:40 PM
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I guess that makes sense. But If it's seen as not a big deal when alone, I don't see why suddenly people understand it's a big deal when together. At least on the womans side they care. The dudes side of the dead bedroom tends to not be considered much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:38 PM
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Because I see people take shit seriously all the time? At least they show empathy. And I'm not specifically talking about the self proclaimed incel dudes who are so rude it's hard to try to empathize.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:36 PM
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Which you're often told not to do, lacks intimacy, is often mocked, and is quite risky in many places.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:34 PM
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That it's not taken seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:30 PM
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Since when don't personal problems deserve to be taken seriously when brought up? And it's not like every personal problem is entirely your fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:30 PM
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This just proves my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:27 PM
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Are you trying to say it's not a commom enough thing? Cause I usually just see the first in jokes/ridicule an the latter I can actually find articles/advice on how to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:09 PM
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I mean he can hate both options equally
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:03 PM
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Aside from there being more dudes who just want sex, same shit still applies, it's just keeping the dude that's the harder part. But people tend to put in less effort to keep something than they do to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:00 PM
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Just because 1 person has feelings doesn't mean they can't have a platonic relationship that works. The guy would just rather have more. But then again, I'd also rather be able to fuck a buncha people I know rather than just talk to them but ya can't have everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 09:47 PM
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But what if they become lovers?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 09:44 PM
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Then why are you on this subreddit, we're not even the cool men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 09:27 PM
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Because they live in the sahara fucking desert. Little water, but a high drive to get water.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 09:15 PM
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But it's women who directly say this shit in real life tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 11:24 PM
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While I am on the nice guy side, I do agree with this. They often assume anyone who the girls are actually into is automatically an asshole. Even though most dudes I've met are pretty fine people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 10:44 PM
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Guess why he's talking about deserving a woman because he's so nice? Because in the past women told him "Oh but you're such a nice guy! I'm sure you'll find someone!"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 10:36 PM
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PPD has actually been the only place who understood my frustration with the nice guy mischaracterization. It's actually how I became a purplepiller with red leanings, not because I've never had a relationship. It's how the "nice guys" get villified by the people who created them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 10:33 PM
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Not feminism specifically, but more the type of advice feminists and people with feminists tendincies tend to give to friends and family. Just treat her like a normal human being/friend, Just be confident, don't do anything that could make her feel uncomfortable, be yourself, be nice, be respectful, don't be like these sexist pigs who just want sex (insert a lot of whining about things not to do the pigs do here), do everything for her, listen to her, Don't be assertive, etc, and you'll get a gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 10:28 PM
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But the issue is, they act like the dude was always pretending to be nice just for sex before that or something. No, he's just really emotionally immature and had unrealistic expectations placed upon him all his life (usually by feminism), eventually causing him to irrationally lash out at the source of his heartbream frustration and confusion at how he's doing worse than people who didn't do things as soceity told them to. Far from okay to lash out, but the dudes usually aren't just acting nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 10:08 PM
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Funnily enough when I read the question I assumed you meant some kinda scenario where both of them would give me permission to do so. But as that doesn't seem to be the case at all, fuck no. I ain't gonna be that much of a scumbag just because I wanted to feel good for like 10 minutes. How selfish can ya be. I may have never had sex but I ain't that desperate. My friends aren't there to be betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 09:11 PM
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Purplepiller here. What is a true purplepiller?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 09:02 PM
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This one seems to depend on the circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 08:48 PM
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Yet at the same time we have all missed a bunch of opportunities because we thought they weren't interested even though according to others they had "obvious signs". I actually think that those scenarios feed the "Oh I guess she's interested" thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 08:36 PM
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I like you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 08:34 PM
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Well, most of the red pillers were relatively unsuccesful dudes right? Chances are they were nerdy and feminine pre red pill, so what they attain to be is succesful and the opposite. Also, they're very much against feminism, so it's kind of the pendelum swinging back, that goes more for the mgtows. The manosphere has been feeling like they're being shamed for their masculinity, so it gets a sense of pride. On top of all this, femininity doesn't get a man anywhere in this society. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:48 PM
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Yup, that's above a fourth, enough to be cautious regardless of how much you trust someone. Plus people ain't always honest with their survey answers .
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:43 PM
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Until they get baby crazy and want someone to help provide
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:20 PM
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Even if not it's way too common
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:16 PM
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I find it impressive how rage can make the simplest thing ever sound fucking badass, yet also finds a way to make it sound unique despite the limited nature. And Tom definitely has a way with Rhythm. I rarely listen much for the bass and drums, but now you say it you're right, it's just servicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 01:22 PM
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Of course not, I think you're taking me a bit too literally. I'm just trying to say the traits I mentioned above won't increase attraction, and will instead usually decrease it at least somewhat if pronounced enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 08:52 AM
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I like this, reminds me of body count(both sound like crossover+hip hop) and urban dance squad. I totally get your dad. While a lot of people have a pretty rigid idea of which bands they call punk (I used to have that too) ratm totally captures the punk spirit with a different more groovy style. I find it silly when punks dismiss rage simply because it got mainstream. It's often tagged as "rap metal" but I don't hear much metal in there. I also like how weird Tom Morello sometimes gets with his …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 04:14 AM
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Still on a never-ending quest to find all decent non scenekid post-hardcore band ever. This time I found a canadian indie rock style one: https://northofamerica.bandcamp.com/track/soft-geometry
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 12:07 AM
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And as a punk fan, I love the punk energy, too. Not surprising considering zach used to front a hardcore band.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 12:04 AM
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No, they're women in general. Even my mom, who has always gone for nerdy dudes, and is married to a depressed man, likes to have man who stands up for himself and such. Which is ironic because unintentionally she raised me to be the opposite, but whatever. These kindsa requirements you'll rarely see men have for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 11:45 PM
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Because women, while they claim to find such things attractive, actually find it very unattractive. On top of that, soceity hates weak men, sometimes to irrational degrees. Whether these traits are good or not depends on the degrees and how, but usually they remain unattractive to women regardless, as they associate it with weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 11:34 PM
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A combination of what makes sense in my head, my personal experience (Mom used to be very feminist, though still honest about her female nature, and nowadays she's a lot less feminist) and other posts by people with similar experiences. No I don't have sources, I don't try to find sources for every belief I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:57 PM
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A higher ratio of men who are too polite, agreeable, inexperienced and passive to be sexually attractive or romantically interesting to girls, as well as more feminine behavior(also unattractive) and insecurity in their masculine side.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:01 PM
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''Just be confident'' is commonly suggested advice girls give when they like the dude platonically. At least in my experience. Asin, to these people I'm already cool enough, if I'm just confident someone will like me eventually even if its not them. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 03:03 PM
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People who have an annoying way of talking. Like, they might be saying things that make complete total sense but if their delivery irks me too much it kinda fucks me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 02:36 PM
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You can pull parallels with things from a lot of things. And well..The parallels are there, it's just a more complicated videogame. I don't see the problem with the mindset if it doesn't really change what they're saying, more how they say it and how much they wanna attain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 12:04 PM
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Why does the vocabulary matter when they essentially mean the same thing? Why approach? I think it's because we're on purplepill debates, where there's a buncha redpillers. And redpillers were folk who couldn't get laid, and then wanted to get laid and tried to do so. A.k.a. it doesn't happen naturally to them, they had to consciously set out and do it. And hell, a lot of things human beings do are scripted and stupid. It's just that the amount of variables and scripts that exist make the script…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 10:13 PM
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I don't think anyone, including women themselves, knows how the female mind actually works. In the completely accurate sense I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 10:10 PM
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I see a lot of people confuse this phenomenon for ''personality''.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 10:08 PM
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It doesn't help these kinds of quotes often go paired with some contradictory shit. ''You're a nice guy, you'll find someone in some time''. ''Being nice is just the bare minimum'' (Even though a bunch of shitty people have no trouble getting laid). I think people in general suck at giving advice. They always say the same generic thing that sounds nice but ultimately only works if you interperet it in once specific way, yet they often can't tell you they're interpreting it in that way yet assume…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 10:03 PM
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Your mileage may vary, ya kno
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 03:16 PM
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I mean, I kind of..Desire to desire things when I'm depressed tho. You desire meaning, but can't feel it. Or desire to feel..alive. But because you can't and the state sucks, you start thinking death is the only way out. ​ In terms of the topic, as long as your life without romance is already fulfilling enough, and you wouldn't know what you were missing nor desire its outcome, it could be positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:28 PM
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..Not a woman but..I just wanna calm down my mind, focus and accept things?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:23 PM
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I mean is it really the same when girls tend to have way more options
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:22 PM
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'' If your goal in life is to find a relationship'' Back when I ever told people I wanted something along this line, they acted like I was fucking insane and that it's unhealthy. Both in real life and the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:14 PM
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If you never desire anything, it could mean you're content with the way things are, which is pleasant. You wouldn't mind not having the desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:09 PM
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Yes, but only if I'd forget what it's like to desire it. Can't know what I'm missing. Sex I don't place inheret value on at all despite having a relatively high drive. Romance I place more value on, but it's risky and feels arbitrary. And also only because I don't think I'll be able to find love at all anyways unless I get really lucky. All romantic and sexual desire are doing is making me desire something I can't satiate anyways. I've been unable to satiate it for what, 12 years now?..And I've …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:05 PM
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Tbh that just delays it instead of accepting its there, moving on and eventually kind of forgetting about it. It's just distraction instead of confrontation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:03 PM
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And boredom, and escapism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 12:59 PM
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Because your goal would just be to live for someone else and you'd have little of your own? Because other people are incredibly unreliable and romance can only happen when arbitrary requirements of attraction are met that have nothing to do with being a good person?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 12:58 PM
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Well, if I've seen a video where 2 Japanese men on some random youtube video made the same distinction with cute and sexy as I did, I think the idea is pretty prevelent, it's just that people confuse ''sexy'' with ''what I find more sexually attractive''. I do think plenty of people disagree on what is what. In terms of pure looks, Cute = more youthful features, that unconciously trigger that ''protection'' instinct. More suited for romance when talking about attraction. and sexy = features asso…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 04:06 PM
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Cute in looks. I can appreciate sexy, too, but cute ends up giving me the whole package of feeling romantic affection and sexual attraction more easily. Girls who act too cute can turn me off though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 04:00 PM
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That just because nothing is physically stopping you from doing something, doesn't mean the social stigma isn't a relevant thing to bring up? I mean, if it wasn't the case, the mras, red pill, mgtow and stuff likely wouldn't even exist, or at least be much more mild instead of so overly villainous towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:25 PM
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..I kinda don't? I thought it's just the general ''Don't stick your dick in crazy'' thing (not women in general), or men quickly thinking women are nagging (something I don't actually agree with). Okay, maybe I don't think they're free of any criticism (especially not when they go outside gender roles, just like men), I just think there's more that's a no go to say in conversation, and that the woman will quickly be seen as the victim and the dude will more quickly be seen as sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:23 PM
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I could say the same thing about any social issue in Japan ever, yet those people very much know what is and isn't the socially acceptable/''right'' thing to say and refrain from saying much outside it in fear of backlash. But eehm..I guess they could say it? Here we can be more open, but what's socially/morally acceptable currently here also has a bunch of stuff, and many complaints about women are basically just accepted in forms of comedy. The issue I have is that just because I hold the ''wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:13 PM
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I mean, they are, can't argue against that. We all get fed bullshit about relationships/the opposite sex, as well as life in general (you can be anything you want to be if you work hard, you'll get a good job if you do school well unlike the cool kids, yadieyada). But I've heard shit about men their horndog, cheating nature all the time. In fact I was often like ''Yeah, fuck that stuff''. The only times I hear it about women was when dudes were salty and everyone hated on those dudes for being s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:07 PM
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I used to be part of this friend group where a buncha girls dated the same dude and everytime he cheated and they all got pissed off at him. Which is kinda funny because while he is good looking and kinda smooth in one sense, he's also kind of a pathetic dork at the same time. My sister's last boyfriend didn't even try to hide the fact that he was cheating yet still insisted he didn't. The more opportunities they get, the lesser the chance they control themselves. It just feels kinda shitty that…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:59 PM
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That works both ways though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:53 PM
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Only one is morally acceptable to complain about and the other isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:49 PM
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I did read at places women conform more to social norms and feel more peer pressure. I don't think original thought for them is impossible at all, but man don't they put a lot of effort into showing they have it sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 09:13 PM
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I don't think you realize how hard it is for most dudes to put themselves into a situation where they have an actual good chance of romance happening if they are themselves. If I act like myself, I don't go outside much or talk to people much to begin with. I find most social gatherings boring and tiring. I also wouldn't do any escelations because I'm shy and passive and uncomfortable with most things, even though dudes need to make some kinda move as they're most of the time expected to do the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 08:58 PM
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The type of answers here are pretty typical for when someone presents a scenario that doesn't fit their strong beliefs. Sure, there's probably dudes who just use it as an excuse because they're bitter. But while you can find how the Red Pillers villify it bullshit, hypergamy seems to happen because biologically speaking women want to take care properly of their kids/household and want to live a stable life. I don't see that as a negative thing for humanity. I don't know about marrying higher cla…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 01:50 PM
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But because there's not many of those women, far from every red pill dude will be able to get one. Imagine if there was a street with 30 people but only 5 houses. On top of that, it can be hard to distinct who is and isn't hypergamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 01:38 PM
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Well, people do lie a ton to themselves. It's not all that possible to know whether something is accurate or not, because you can't crawl into somebody's head, but neither can the person in the head know whether his observations are accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:29 PM
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And that's how the ''Nice Guy Tm's'' Feel
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 12:15 PM
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Am I allowed to make a comment that agrees? Anywho, Sex and relationships are literally what keeps humanity alive. It's what lifeforms strive to do. It's seen as one of the most pleasurable things, yet if can also be one of the most traumatic. It effects motivation. It even effects most interactions we have with people subconciously, and without it the romantic relationships themselves wouldn't have become a thing (Yes, I know asexuals exist but that's besides the point). How the fuck can someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 10:23 PM
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All people who are starving will make something out to be a bigger deal than it is. I don't suddenly become happy when I eat a steak, but to someone who struggles to find food everyday that shit is valuable. Priorities change once you can finally satiate a need. But before that, the next need on the heirarchy will always seem more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 10:14 PM
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You could say something similar about any piece of entertainment ever...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:34 PM
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I think he's implying that IF you want to bang, acting submissive really wouldn't help. However if you are submissive by nature, aren't just looking to bang more and happen to find the rare person that likes that shit, then by all means go for it. The chances are just low. It's either get lucky or force yourself to act dominant to get more of a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 03:01 PM
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It's like trying to make an FPS game on an RPG engine. It takes more effort, doesn't perform as well and has its limitations, and the core will always be different from an fps engine. But you can still make it function like an fps game with enough effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 08:14 PM
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Unless you have autism, like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 12:15 PM
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