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4

He wants a free live-in nurse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 09:46 PM
5

Unfortunately seems to be most men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:23 AM
5

What if she finds this post after he dies? I can't...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:21 AM
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Laziness is one of my biggest struggles and your comment inspires tf outta me, just saying :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:13 AM
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And this is why I recently became a firearm owner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:25 PM
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I do this too but trying to use "they", it's just easier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 10:38 PM
5

Same, I'm glad to see other vegans here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:40 AM
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Reacts poorly when you set reasonable boundaries Crying / complaining about "abusive ex(es)" early in the relationship Conflicts / arguments that go in circles and last for hours and sometimes days Extreme jealousy Slowly starting to isolate you / prevent you from telling people how they treat you Edit: I would like to throw out that for anyone who is currently dealing with or is a survivor of this type of relationship, the narcissisticabuse and bpdlovedones subreddits saved my sanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:29 AM
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Journaling also helps with being able to see things for what they are. I wrote every time my ex and I argued and that made it much easier to stay away from him in the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 10:38 PM
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Always remember : dick is abundant, and of low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 10:31 PM
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This should be higher up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 04:41 AM
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The one about girls close to him hating me is how I figured out my ex was up to some bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 04:36 AM
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Literally reading this as I'm playing with mine😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 04:30 AM
2

This. All you need is the ability to follow directions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:37 AM
2

Now this is just sad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:35 AM
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I love this sub lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:24 AM
6

My lvm abusive ex referred to Courtney Love as a "bitch" early in our relationship, and even then I knew it was a giant red flag...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:09 AM
2

Time to stock up on condoms and plan b just in case...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:52 PM
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Yeah you can't make anyone change but yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:46 PM
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This. "boundaries are a trigger for me" - my ex (yes he actually said this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:23 AM
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And if you do tell your story, they will surely weaponize your vulnerabilities and insecurities against you later on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:20 AM
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This dude sounds like my cluster B ex. He wouldn't stop giving me shit about past partners, and the hair trigger thing!!! I became afraid of joking or saying anything that might offend him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:19 AM
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I ended up having to change my phone number to get rid of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 08:34 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 08:29 PM
3

Don't forget washing the spoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:31 PM
1

My last relationship, with a BPD dude, left me so traumatized. I hope she's careful too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:28 AM
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At this point I'd say he's America's favorite victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:24 AM
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I really hope that's the case. My last ex had untreated BPD. 0/10 would not recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:22 AM
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The "bitch" thing is so, so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:50 PM
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Here to say, me too. I'm barely starting to comprehend how much it warped my sexuality and sense of self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:38 PM
6

Just found a subreddit "dosxxlatinas" but it seems pretty dead :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:05 PM
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Isn't Elena of Avalor Latina? It's a TV show, not a movie from what I remember though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:00 PM
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Protect the interests of the rich and the state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:29 PM
4

Millennial or Gen x?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:46 PM
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I'm so angry I fell for that stupid lie that "looks shouldn't matter". I'm ashamed of some of the men I've allowed access to my body 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:38 PM
18

Nah, Scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:55 PM
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This. On my first date with my nvm abusive ex we went to see this movie and he "liked" it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:31 PM
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Setting and enforcing boundaries. Not divulging trauma. Making them earn your trust instead of instantly trusting them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:05 PM
13

Yes what were all the red flags?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:18 AM
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I get one of those calls literally every other day and I don't even have a car..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:44 AM
6

The Baggage Reclaim podcast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:31 AM
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My ex forgot how old I was. He thought I was one year younger. Even though we had spent my birthday together and he had gotten me a bunch of presents (this had been in the lovebombing stage).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:37 AM
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"pussy pass denied"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:17 PM
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This was my latest NVM ex. Loved to act like misogyny and sexual assault were the most disgusting things ever but he was still an abusive POS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:02 PM
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Don't forget classism; poorer women have less money to spend on taking care of their appearance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:33 PM
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Trying to control who you talk to or hang out with. My NVX was sneaky about this, saying that if I talked to any exes or former lovers, or hung out with friends who were guys (he called this going on dates with guys lmao) he would leave. He also told me not to talk to my friends about the relationship bc it was "private" and "his business". Of course, he turned out to be abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:27 PM
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There's a really good book for people like us called Stop Caretaking the Narcissist or Borderline Also check out the Narcissistic Abuse sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:33 PM
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Commenting to follow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:15 AM
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I should have left the first time you accused me of talking to other men behind your back I should have left when you freaked out after I told you about a former FWB who was still in my extended social circle, and continued to bring it up in every subsequent argument after I agreed to cut him off out of respect for the relationship I should have left when you gave me the sob story about your "abusive" ex I should have left when you told me that boundaries were a "trigger" for you I should have l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:29 PM
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Oh my god, same sis. He called out examples of misogyny and would look down on sexual predators but still ended up emotionally and psychologically abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:43 PM
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Unfortunately the adorable cat guy I just broke up with turned out to be abusive :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:24 AM
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Thank you so much, this does give me a lot of hope. Mine only lasted 5 months but feels like the longest 5 months of my life and it definitely fucked with my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:42 PM
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Okay but why is this exactly what happened with my last relationship smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:35 PM
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Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:46 AM
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Oh yes, "I know I haven't been a perfect person, I've been an asshole in the past", etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:56 PM
2

How are you doing now? I just got out of a similar situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:24 AM
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As someone in recovery I think I've reached the point where I'm adopting this rule for myself. The men are completely stunted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:11 PM
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I totally agree with everything said here; however I think you meant white liberals (not leftists)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:52 PM
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This is why I want a "cat man".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:41 PM
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Yeah that vid was a bit disappointing, her older stuff is better. She has def started sexualizing herself more in recent years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:01 PM
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Fuck this makes me so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:24 AM
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I mean, a good portion of them are rapists themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:22 AM
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That sub has always been that way unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:56 PM
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Or dumbing yourself down!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:15 AM
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That moray eel is lowkey cute tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:06 AM
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Of course it's that font. I was hoping we could leave it in 2019.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:20 AM
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Not gonna lie, I'm laughing because this is so good / genius!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 07:20 AM
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Can't eat knives, bullets, or money, sweaty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:12 AM
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Thank you, shit was cathartic 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:25 AM
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Yup, always sulking and giving me the silent treatment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:23 AM
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Read the breakingmom subreddit and think again about whether you really wanna reproduce with this guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:30 AM
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I blocked my last ex on Pokémon Go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:59 PM
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But don't you dare take longer than 15 minutes to get ready!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:44 PM
2

My ex wore the same pair of sneakers till they were literally falling apart. His feet would get wet every time it rained. And he had the audacity to complain about not wanting to buy new ones. Mind you, he could definitely afford them, so money wasn't an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:43 PM
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This is the future feminists want!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:15 PM
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I wish I hadn't had to learn this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:56 AM
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Wow what field are you in? Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:45 PM
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Come to think of it, the image did remind me of a cat penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:05 AM
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Have you seen/heard her new video/song "Aquí Yo Mando" with Rico Nasty? It's got FDS all over it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:01 PM
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Yup. "I'm sorry you feel that way. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:35 PM
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Why did you make me imagine that 😂🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:04 PM
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Ouch!! How did you heal up? I'm scared of this happening with my cats. And fuck your ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:58 AM
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yOu hAvE tO tHiNk pOsItIvE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:00 AM
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Another fearful avoidant checking in, "worst of both worlds" is too accurate 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:58 AM
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Dude could probably be fresh out of prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:46 PM
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Yes and living in a sober house doesn't count... - me to my former pickme self
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:56 PM
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Block them sis..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:00 AM
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Let my ex try my home cooked food before we even started dating. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:58 AM
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/r/neckbeardnests
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:17 AM
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Just so y'all know Latina / Latinx isn't a race. It's an ethnicity. Latinx people come in all races - Black, white, asian, indigenous, mestizo, etc. I keep seeing it being referred to as race and that muddles up discourse. Edit - it also erases the existence of Black Latinxs especially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 08:20 AM
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Here you go /r/men_of_the_wall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:39 AM
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Thank you for this, this was my most recent ex to a T and you put it into words so clearly and succinctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:57 AM
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Block him sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:25 PM
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This was my ex too. I still miss him sometimes but I do NOT miss the sulking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:12 PM
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How did you mess it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:09 PM
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You dropped the /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:59 AM
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My most recent ex was less intelligent than me in most areas (although to be fair he did have areas in which he surpassed me). I accepted, it or so I thought, but deep down i started to lose respect for him. I think ultimately it was a big factor in our relationship ending. Some examples : He fell for an MLM scheme and I had to spend a good hour convincing him to get his money refunded, and that it was a scam. I would have to define words for him that I used in casual conversation because he did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:20 AM
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One of my new ones after breaking up with my most recent ex is: socially and politically unaware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:07 PM
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Do it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 07:02 AM
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He had leftover bodywash from an ex I guess but when that ran out he just never bought a new one. Holy fucking shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:16 AM
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My ex didn't take care of his skin - no moisturizer, sunscreen, cleanser, etc - and would pop his pimples on purpose. He didn't trim his facial hair often enough and his mustache would stay moist and smell like his vape juice. He also brushed his teeth in the morning instead of at night. The morning breath was disgusting. Just typing this all out is making me mentally recoil at the thought of talking to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:10 AM
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I'm saving this in my phone notes to remind myself to snap the fuck out of it when I'm pining over my ex. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:09 AM
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Planting my garden 🌱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:10 AM
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All of reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:27 PM
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There's a great Citations Needed episode on Bill Gates that everyone should listen to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:26 PM
5

raises hand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 06:26 AM
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Holy shit this one takes the cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 06:23 AM
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My recent ex was like this, the relationship lasted for two fucking years and ended miserably. I had told him I didn't want kids from the get-go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:56 PM
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Another childfree / antinatalist woman here, there are dozens of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:53 PM
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Cooked and served him food every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:13 AM
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I started making my bed every morning, something I haven't done since I was a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:09 AM
2

I'm in the same boat. I've been reading a book called The Wisdom Of A Broken Heart that has really been helping me and that you would probably find useful as well; I highly recommend getting yourself a copy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:10 AM
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I really wish I had read this years ago. Currently in the aftermath of a breakup with a live in bf and shit is spot on, especially that men will take you for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:11 PM
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I'm going through something similar. Much love and hugs to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:17 PM
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Acab
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:02 AM
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Southeast Asia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:17 PM
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Here's a few I learned from my last ex No close male friends - so important. If a guy doesn't have any close male friends who he can confide in this means that he uses all the females in his life for their emotional labor. Refers to women as bitches. Says the n word (especially with a hard r - nope). I got him to stop, but I know to just run in the future. Wanted to spend too much time with me in the beginning. Would get upset if I didn't text him back within a certain amount of time or text him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:13 PM
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Edit : replied to the wrong thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:11 PM
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At least it's illegal in Texas now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:41 AM
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Asking who you're talking to, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:10 PM
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The cooking is especially so important. I really wish I had known all this stuff before getting with my ex who would actually ask me how long to MICROWAVE something several times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:29 PM
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This was my ex. God forbid I did something that irritated him because it would end up ruining the whole weekend. Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:24 PM
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Same here. I'm going through a whole ass shift in perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:31 PM
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