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I have a vacation coming up next week and I can tell I'm getting a little unfocused. "short timer syndrome" I guess. The vacation will be a bit of a test of my leadership though. I'm going on several hikes where I'm the most experienced and in the best shape and everyone (my wife included) is looking to me to figure everything out. I'm confident I can plan a trip where everyone will have a safe and great time, but I would be lying if I didn't acknowledge that I'm a little bit nervous. It's the f…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 05:24 PM
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Both go from sending signals of your vulnerability to sending signals of your strength and value. Think on that. Very interesting. Thanks for the reply.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 10:22 PM
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A couple of things that happened this week gave me some great insight to being the Oak and maintaining frame. One of my best friends wife passed away a few weeks ago. I've taken it upon myself to look out for him and to be something of his Oak in this time. This guy is basically my brother, and I'm happy to be there for him when he needs me the most. last friday he had something of a breakdown. He was saying things about having no reason to live, no reason to stay living in our town, and no hope…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 06:37 PM
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high value man = inherent dread, you don't have to do shit. of course. That makes perfect sense. I'm going to stick to what I'm motivated to do. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 12:52 PM
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As I have said many times, the ideal level of Dread is to top out and remain at level 5 well before you get to PUA and hard Dread. Excellent. Thanks for the reply.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 12:47 PM
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But...but...but...then what will I blame when I don't make progress as fast as I should?!?! Nah you're right. I gotta ditch that fucking place.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 10:38 PM
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Some women dream about the dread first. We really mean it when we say Dread is unconscious but this one is the apex of that paradigm! You seem to be the dread expert, so I'll take this opportunity to pick your brain about something. I have really only scratched the surface of "active dread", and by that I mean actively doing things specifically to raise her dread level. So far I've mostly just focused on making a more awesome ME. Maybe I'm not at the point where I feel like I "need" to up my "ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 10:27 PM
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Ha! actually my first response was "hmmm…what was her name?" I was going to ask her "was she hot?" but I could tell that this was something that was seriously bothering her.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 09:35 PM
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I feel like I have read so much in the past two weeks I have been learning a lot but havent really internalized everything just yet. It just takes time. Things started really making sense for me once I started recognizing patterns of behavior outside of my own life. You start to see the way people reinforce the social structures we are taught are "correct". Subtle things in words choice that are really manipulative, certain types of stereotypes in entertainment….that type of thing. It's mind-blo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 09:03 PM
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The grocery store is the natural habitat for the ham beast. Holy fuck this made me laugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 08:41 PM
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Thanks for sharing. Gladly. Have you read WISNIFG yet? if you haven't I would recommend reading it next.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 08:27 PM
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Are you lifting yet, bro? Seems like I remember you were doing bodyweight stuff. That's correct. I did bodyweight and walking until I felt comfortable using some dumbbells. Once I outgrew the dumbbells I joined a (kinda shitty gym). I did a month of Stronglifts 5 x 5, then was convinced by a d-bag that works at the gym to try a different program. I'm glad I did it because it convinced me to not listen to d-bags that work at the gym. I just recently re-started Stronglifts 5 x 5 and I think it's t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 08:14 PM
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nice. it's that kind of stuff I look forward to being able to whip out on demand.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:53 PM
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Also, the more Redpill you get, the more the image of masturbating at the computer becomes "weak" I agree about the porn. I quit about the same time I started all this Red Pill Business. It honestly is just kind of turns me off now and I think that if you can't get off without looking at porn then you have bigger problems than just a wife that won't fuck you. However, sometimes the dick starts talking to me, and at this point It's more of a distraction than anything else. It's just some dumb shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:49 PM
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have an extra one for me!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:14 PM
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Downton Abbey That show should be recognized as a form of inhumane torture. I've never made it through more than 1 min at a time. I'll never forget the day my Dad told me he liked to watch it. A little bit of soul died.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:13 PM
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Cheers man (it's coffee since we're both off the sauce for a while)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 06:40 PM
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?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 04:51 PM
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not the kind of games you're talking about, but yes I think games have their place. I play at least one game of chess against the computer everyday. I also have a group of guys I've been playing table top RPG's with for years. It's a huge creative outlet that I doubt I'll ever give up completely. We get together about once a month and its therapeutic for all of us. I also enjoy crusty old text based adventure games. There are like lateral thinking training and totally unforgiving.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 01:08 PM
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I deleted my Facebook and turned off most of my social media. I deactivated my Facebook account back in january. I had to activate it for a few days a little while ago. MAN…that place is a noisy hole of bullshit. When you have been away from it for a while, it becomes absolutely amazing that anyone would tolerate it at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 01:20 PM
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Fatigue - I'm up every morning at 5am to work out, and that's awesome, but I'm crashing every night by 9-9:30pm and I'm missing opportunities to initiate sex by going to bed that early. Also, if I get a hard no, I'm too tired to just leave the house and go somewhere, so I just go to sleep. Then again, if I stay up later, I'll be dragging the next morning. Any suggestions? Keep doing this and quit worrying about lost "opportunities" for sex. never let chasing pussy get in the way of making yourse…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 01:17 PM
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My drinking has become a problem and I need to quit. I didn’t get a DWI or anything. I didn’t get wasted and do something horrible. I didn’t put off something I wanted to do because of a hangover. But all the same my drinking is a problem and I need to stop….At least for a while. Sunday I had a few too many beers. It was nothing major, but it was just enough for me to notice that my “loosened up” attitude was irritating my wife. She threw some shit tests at me and I’m fairly certain I took care …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 01:06 PM
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Each Man has to apply what works for his situation The farther I go into this Red Pill business the more I think this should be rule #1.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 10:06 PM
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The weekends and holidays are weak points in my resolve. It's when I am most likely to eat/drink too much and put off going to the gym. This last labor day weekend was no exception. In the grand scheme of things having a little too much pizza and beer isn't going to undo all of my hard work, but it sure felt like it this morning. I was super tired this morning and totally unmotivated to get to the gym. I haven't felt this physically shitty since before I started working out. I guess I needed a r…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 02:36 PM
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There's not much you're saying concretely about how to fix these problems other than "I won't do that again". Fair Enough. I'll be more specific. In my house my wife and I very rarely eat meals together. If we do it's because we are going out to a restaurant or it's a special meal one of us is making for the both of us. On a day to day basis I do all of my own cooking and my wife does all of hers. It's mostly just a scheduling thing and it works for us. HOWEVER, sometimes I will come home and sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 02:43 PM
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Finally back in my gym routine after a week of being sick and dealing with grieving friends. That week really set me back. The past two days at the gym have been murder and I'm wiped out. BUT.. it's good to be back. I'm struggling quite a bit with WISNIFG. I understand the concepts, I'm just having a lot of trouble applying the techniques to everyday life. If I continue to struggle I may make a post further explaining my problems and ask for suggestions. I just want to make sure I can't solve th…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 02:20 PM
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One of the biggest mental hurdles in MRP is that your wife is "special" or "different" in some way. You know her and you know how to predict her reactions to every little thing, so you talk yourself out of thinking that all this will "work" with her. The point is it doesn't matter. If you really look at the core ideas of MRP the MAIN thing to remember is SELF improvement. Focus on you. She will follow or she won't. That's not really the point. The point is FOCUS ON YOU. If you have a CHANCE of s…
/r/askMRP29/08/15 09:39 PM
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My guess is that she's fishing for reassurance from you. If I were you I would put the financial figures down on paper. If she freaks out again just casually mention that you've done the math and everything will be fine. If she's still freaking show her the numbers. That puts it in black and white that she has to be careful if you are going to make it. This is a great opportunity to show your wife that "you got this".
/r/askMRP28/08/15 11:17 PM
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I've always had trouble running, Even when I was a scrawny little kid. So I have always avoided having to do it seriously. Which means it's EXACTLY what I should be doing. This sounds like a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 12:55 PM
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How long does the whole circuit take you?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 09:24 PM
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I know you didn't ask for all that and your questions were probably hypothetical, but typing it out is cathartic. Thanks for reading my process. I'm already much better. It's what were all here for. I don't have kids and almost certainly won't. But I understand the inability to leave because of them. IF I was in a position like you then I would just stick to the plan of self improvement with a focus on being the best father possible. Kick ass at being a dad. Crush the fuck out of parenting and o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 08:37 PM
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"I'm having to go through a deep reevaluation period because I cannot shake the desire to have my freedom and leave my family." Besides the obvious what is your family keeping you from doing? Is there some lifelong dream you have put off to have a family? Or is it that you want to be a drifter and have nothing to tie you down? Or is it just that you'd like to be able to pursue fucking anyone you feel like? Really look at WHY you are thinking that you are not free. What are you not getting that b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:22 PM
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Simple solution, I put my monitor on a time switch. Do whatever works for you, but I prefer having a timer instead of an automatic switch off. That way when the timer goes off I have to actively physically do something instead of just allow something to happen. It's a choice followed by an action rather than a simple inaction. The difference is symbolic and arrives at the same end result, but I think anything you do to reinforce your control over your life is good.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:15 PM
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number six came around Wow…I'm probably on #6 for the YEAR…I'd say you're doing it right…and I'd say I have a loooooooong way to go… cheers man..
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 07:48 PM
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interesting where the pill lies once you take notice I keep being shocked by where it ISN'T.. one of the big "holy shit" for me was while reading NMMNG. I kept thinking "Jesus this sounds just like me…but holy fuck my Father is SO MUCH WORSE"…sometimes I wonder how the hell I was ever conceived…OH YEAH, Beta Bux….. I love my Dad, but the Red Pill would make his brain melt...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 06:55 PM
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I haven't had sex with her in a week. It's not that I couldn't, or that shes' shit testing, aunt flo, or anything... But she's not initiating. Correct? meaning you're not turning her down either. I ask because I'm kind of feeling the same way. At this point I really don't feel like initiating. I don't have that desperate feeling of guessing "if it will happen" or not. Honestly I don't even think about sex at all much these days. Rubbing one out has kind of become like blowing my nose or wiping m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 06:33 PM
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oh yeah. I had an "apology" e-mail when I got in, and He came in and apolgized again when he showed up. I made it clear that I was only really interested in having the issue resolved. (WISNIFG helped in this case) I have no interest in "making nice" and I won't accept this lapse on his part to continue. This guy has 20+ years more "experience" than I do. He is unquestionably my "superior" in the eyes of the business, but I have to manage him like a school girl. I'm working on writing up a post o…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 01:45 PM
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A couple of things happened early last week 1 I got really sick. I'm recovering, but I'm still not %100. 2 One of my oldest/best friends had to take his wife of 17 years to hospice. she passed away sunday morning. He is totally broken. THE GOOD: I held frame. I didn't bitch about being sick and I didn't let it get in the way of helping out my friend. I was able to be the Oak for him. I handled little things for his business, I organized a fundraiser to help pay for his rapidly escalating bills. …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 12:39 PM
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You're right. I shouldn't care. But more importantly I shouldn't have brought the subject up. I don't need her to confirm or deny anything about her behavior. I just need to get in with the business of improving. Looking behind my shoulder to see if she's still back there just takes my eyes off the path. The "not caring" is harder to control than the "not talking". Which is why STFU is the least anyone can do in any situation. Thanks as always.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 07:54 PM
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I changed my gym routine last week and while I'm not lifting as heavy right now, I think in the end the new workout will help me get past my initial plateaus. Still losing weight from the diet. Slowly buying new clothes. I can see a difference in the shape of my arms, chest and face. Best of all I physically feel better than I have in over a decade. I had a moment of weakness with the wife in Sunday. A few weeks ago I decided to make a "secret date" for my wife and I. I just told her "we have pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 01:46 PM
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Excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 06:53 PM
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Great post.
/r/askMRP14/08/15 07:02 PM
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"Shit's been addressed. It's all good." To me, this sounds like she's the boss. To her she has established that you have lost control and the matter is finished. You can't undo this one. BUT you can react better next time. I would look into mindfulness training to control the outbursts. It's hard as fuck, but it's like lifting for your brain. Also, being "reprimanded" in public seems to be a trigger issue for your wife. If you really felt you needed to say something to her you should have excuse…
/r/askMRP13/08/15 08:23 PM
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I've read a lot of posts here that do belong in MRP. Frankly, i think people are afraid of not getting validation in MRP, so they shy away and think that maybe in the kiddie pool it is safer. This is bullshit that reveals people are looking for validation. you're probably right…and I certainly can't say that I am innocent of this. It's tough to NOT look for validation at first, but I guess that's exactly your point. If it was easy then it wouldn't be a challenge and there would't be improvement.…
/r/askMRP13/08/15 04:32 PM
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The guy was a weird old hippie that did a LOOOOOOT of Psychedelics. SO there is quite a bit of his stuff that stinks of new agey mumbo jumbo….But I think he had some good ideas, and his book Prometheus Rising was pretty inspirational to me several years ago. If nothing else it helped me begin to not take the consensus reality as something that was inescapable…a stepping stone to MRP, even though I didn't know it a the time.
/r/askMRP13/08/15 04:21 PM
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A dude can fool himself into thinking that he has become a "captain", but he's not going to fool his wife….and even if he does it sure as fuck won't last. If a man is determined enough to succeed he will eventually be forced to own his failures and learn from them. In other words, if a guy can't outgrow a sub like askMRP, he was never going to succeed at MRP in the first place. It's not the responsibility of this sub or any other to see that anyone succeeds. That responsibility rests with the in…
/r/askMRP13/08/15 03:04 PM
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Are you familiar with the Robert Anton Wilson concept of a reality tunnel? Parts of what you are describing remind me of that concept. It's basically the "lens" through which you perceive the universe. His whole thing is that there is no "true" reality, but only those we make for ourselves. He has some interesting exercises that help you shift your reality tunnel from your own to someone else's, for the purpose of generating compassion. It's not a RP kind of exercise, but I think it illustrates …
/r/askMRP13/08/15 01:11 PM
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Check out stronglifts 5x5 Edit: dig the name man. Let's hope we all know where our towel is.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 08:40 PM
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Embrace shark week amigo.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 08:39 PM
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HA! This reminds me that about a year and a half ago (way before any RP action at all) I mentioned to my wife that I would like us to learn to Tango. She was against the idea saying that "it wasn't her style". I then suggested that maybe I should just find someone else to learn with. She went CRAZY at this suggestion. I'm not sure she has EVER reacted so strongly to me suggesting anything. So of course I dropped it like a good little Beta. I had totally forgotten about that until I read this pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 04:56 PM
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When I was younger and playing music, I used to practice the surrealist technique of automatic writing to generate ideas for song lyrics. Most of what I came up with was pretty abstract and obtuse but in a weird way extremely meaningful and personal. I think i'll channel some of my "bitching/venting" into this again. who knows? I might start writing music again.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 02:52 PM
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that's definitely the plan. I just reached a breaking point last week. My post actually accomplished exactly what I wanted it to. I feel much better today and I'm picking up where I left off.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 02:47 PM
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It seems like this sub could be treated as a kind of "tech support" while internalizing the prerequisite material. Personally, I have 40 years of programming to detangle so I'll need all the help I can get. So on behalf of all of us that struggle, but are commited to improvement and independence....thanks.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 12:02 PM
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At this point, probably pretty close. When we got together mine was probably higher.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 01:32 AM
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It's been a shitty/frustrating week. The details of why are irrelevant, and it goes far beyond anything related to MRP stuff. The important part... the "shit" part that I am "owning" is that right at the moment I'm incredibly discouraged. I'm not giving up, and I'm not whining. I'm just acknowledging that right now it feels like I take two steps back for every step forward. I know it's all on me. I know that bitching solves nothing. I know that I just need to work harder. I know that I need to r…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 04:01 PM
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thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 02:09 PM
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The "Own your shit weekly" thread is very helpful in the specific case of "I did something wrong, I see that now, here is how I am going to fix it". But I think that some of post that are being considered low value are actually "help me not fuck up" type posts. If you are working your way through the material and a situation comes up where you are not sure what to do. Where else should you go? Personally, I would rather have some guidance from someone that has gone through something similar to w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 01:28 PM
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Man, I'm totally committed to improving myself. In as many ways as possible. I've been completing personal projects that have been lingering for years. I go hiking every weekend. I go to the gym 5 days a week. I eat the best I ever have. I meditate every day. I'm planning a weeklong hiking trip to Colorado. I'm taking major steps towards starting my own business.I bought new clothes last weekend. My wife can see the changes and likes them. Things are better than they have been for years. EXECPT …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 03:22 AM
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Actually, I've seen a lot of changes. Just not in our sex life. I've stopped the bleeding in our financial situation. She looks to me to be the leader. She is impressed with my efforts at the gym. She knows that she can count on me to get shit done. These were all lacking 2 months ago. It may not seem like a big deal, but it is to me. But yeah, I get your point. It's too early for me to really be seen as a sexually desirable person again.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 03:11 AM
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Finally! Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 03:01 AM
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Excellent. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:58 AM
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Hey thanks for the response. The main thing I take away from this is that it's way too early in the game for me to be doing stuff like you describe. But I'll keep it in mind when my SMV significantly rises.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:50 AM
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Fair enough. I didn't explicitly state any of those things and perhaps I should have. And I get that there are shit tons of people that ask questions in here that are looking for that "one weird trick" that turns their wives into porn stars. That ain't me. Not that you had any indication otherwise...but it ain't. Having said that, I'd STILL be interested in hearing your answer to the question.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:38 AM
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I'm just a little over a month in. So I'm definetly still a noob.However, She has noticed a difference and has been deferring to my leadership MUCH more. Things have improved in all aspects of our marriage EXCEPT sex. We get along great, but hardly fuck. And I know it's because she is waiting for me to take the lead, but as I said in my post it's just really, really difficult to undo the programming. She was abused at some point in her past and fear of her damage holdse back too. Anyway, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:30 AM
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The problem I have with all of these sources is that they usually offer suggestions that I'm pretty confident will not work with my wife....again at least not now. I was actually told to wait on SGM because of my wife's history of abuse. So admittedly I have not read that book. I haven't spent too much time looking at stuff on YouTube, but most of what i have found is more geared towards cold approaching. Not for someone in a LTR. I'll search again.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:22 AM
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did you even read my post? Seriously. Yes I am doing all of the things you mentioned and have been. And no I'm not looking for anyone in any of the red pill communities to " coddle" me. I love how people in this community think the answer to everything is "read the sidebar". Guess what? I DID. But you'd probably know that if you bothered to actually read my post. I just want an answer to the SPECIFIC question I asked. "How do you initiate? Give me some examples that have worked for you" THAT'S I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:03 AM
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step 1: Lift step 2: find gay male stylist
/r/askTRP06/08/15 01:49 PM
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OP, you are a badass.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 01:47 PM
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"ok, let me know which 2 days you want off". She said she wanted 3 times a week and I said " I won't be satisfied with anything less than 5 days/week. We can do 3 nights and 2 mornings if you want." Then I walked away." This is awesome. and it's definitely inspiration for me to up the frequency of my initiations.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 02:55 PM
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Japanese porn HAS to be against some kind of international treaty.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 10:30 PM
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As far as weekend outings, all my friends know I track what I eat, so nobody gives me shit about it. You can be social and still be accountable to yourself. Fuckin' A. I should take this as a challenge to execute restraint. All my friends will be chowing down and swilling booze, but I can still have fun and not blow my training. as ususal, the path of most resistance is the correct one. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 06:20 PM
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you're right as usual. If I laid out my concerns in this area it would be a half ass attempt to validate them…and all they are is the squeaking of my man hamster..So fuck it. If the mood strikes, then so will I. "own your shit day" is my favorite day of the week. I feel like I walk away with a black eye and a bloody nose ever week, but I always have a smile on my face. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 06:17 PM
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Very good point. I think doing this will definitely be a benchmark for me…BUT I'm still such a noob at this point, and I went so Redpill Rambo at first that I feel like I need to proceed with caution. Maybe I'm being a chickenshit, but at this point I don't feel like I've "Earned" being this aggressive yet….and I do mean YET. kinda make sense? l've always had good honest feedback from you, so slap me around if I need it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 04:22 PM
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"I don't see the problem in never not initiating." so you're saying I should initiate MORE frequently? Sorry it's an oddly constructed sentence.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 03:00 PM
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japaneese whiskey is better than scotch woah now. them's some mighty bold words there amigo. I've never had japanese whiskey, but now I'll have to give it a shot. (pun totally intended).
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 02:58 PM
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"I told her I don't think it's a mid life crisis rather I feel like I've awoken and realize that I haven't been living up to my potential. I'm making changes to live up to that potential." In my opinion they are exactly the same thing. "mid life crisis" is just a demeaning name invented by society to discourage men from improving themselves. If you disrupt the status quo then you are having a "crisis", but really the opposite is true. You are responding to a "crisis" of complacency.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 01:52 PM
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in that case I would try reading instead of watching TV….and do it away from the kitchen so you are less tempted to eat. reading will help you get sleepy MUCH better than TV…and TV will encourage you to snack with all the bullshit advertising. If you can't focus on reading then do Yoga or some light bodyweight exercises. Really watching TV is probably the WORST thing you can do in this situation. best of luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 01:47 PM
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still suffering from "weak end" syndrome... I eat/booze too much on the weekend. The rest of the week my diet/exercise is going great but I somehow manage to talk myself into "cheating" a little and a little becomes too much. this shit HAS to stop. I'm not shifting blame but part of the problem is putting myself into social situations where I am tempted. Until my willpower/self control are in a better place I need to avoid these situations…which will of course lead to shit tests from the wife bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 01:43 PM
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do you have a man cave? I have a room that is "just mine" and I often sleep in there, sometimes just because I feel like it…she HATES when I sleep in there. If I initiate sex and she rejects my advance I will definitely be sleeping in there. now, I don't go off and sulk in my room..it's just "OK well I'm going to go read for a while then, have a good night.." and then I retire to my cave for the night. I don't have a bed or a couch in there so I just man up and sleep on the floor. I've made it p…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 01:21 PM
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I was already pretty much the "alpha" at my work. After starting on The Red Pill path it's almost comical how incompetent and spineless my "leaders" are in comparison. There is an unspoken attitude now that if I quit, the company is done and everyone will lose their jobs. Since REALLY focusing on leadership in my marriage I have turned a situation where I was respected into a situation where I am viewed as almost a savior. And I have made the fact that I need the job less than the job needs me p…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/15 10:14 PM
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The original comment has been deleted. But this still made me laugh.
/r/seduction31/07/15 04:19 PM
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now this is an interesting idea. It kind of reminds me of the training PR guys get about talking points. You have 5 or 6 things that you want to say about a subject, and whatever the question is you tailor the answer to get those 5 or 6 things across. What I really like about this approach is that it will force me to define my personal frame and KNOW it. Not spew it out as some hollow litany or even share it with anyone, but to truly define and internalize MY values to the point that there is no…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 02:56 PM
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Part of a strong frame is embracing your thoughts, wants, and opinions - not having reservations or letting yourself be judged by the reactions of others. Of course. I shouldn't have worried about it. It seems obvious now that someone else states it. I guess I should amend my "owning my shit" to "still not controlling the man hamster". I need to hit the books again and refocus. thanks amigo.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 02:30 PM
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I did pretty well this last week. Making progress in the reading. Making progress in the gym. Making progress being a leader. A few slip ups I need to own up to though. First one is easy. I got plastered Saturday night. I felt like shit Sunday and accomplished nothing. Solution simple: no booze until I've earned the fuck out of it. The second one is a little more complicated and unclear. The wife and I haven't had sex in over a month. This has been my choice. I've been busy and honestly I haven'…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 12:14 PM
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very, very interesting. I've been thinking about this quite a bit lately actually. In the past I have always gravitated towards "alternative" types of girls. Hippie girls. Shy bookish nerd girls. Gothy girls. Artsy girls. Girls with unusual features….that type of thing.. Sure, I think the kind of woman that "society" tells us to like is attractive, but I've never even considered actually pursuing a girl like that. I wonder if that has just simply been because I'd have a much better chance with a…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/15 02:37 PM
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But boot camps are for volunteers. They're not supposed to come find people. EXCELLENT distinction.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 11:12 PM
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Tell her you want to take a year off. Focus on you. Get AWESOME. Tell her at the end of a year that you'll give her a chance TO WIN YOU BACK. If she fails to meet the challenge she isn't worth the effort.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 03:52 PM
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I learned this one the hard way. It's easy to get caught up in the excitement of feeling like you can actually take charge of your life. But.... you are absolutely correct....you might feel different, but until you put in the fucking work...you're NOT different... Deciding to climb the mountain is step one to the summit... I pushed too hard too soon, but thankfully I was able to salvage things....and honestly it is the hard truths of the veterans on here that set me on the right course. I'm sure…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 12:50 AM
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I suck at controlling it at the moment and not satisfying my inner white night. Look into mindfulness/meditation. It's helped me on the road to defeating my worst enemy…the monkey mind… seriously, it's hard as fuck at first but the effort is worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 08:15 PM
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That quote is golden. I'll be putting some hard thinkage on it. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 06:40 PM
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Thanks man. Always good feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 06:38 PM
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I actually lost frame a little a work of all places. I have ALWAYS been the leader at my job. My "boss" is a spineless fool incapable of following through on anything, I'm pretty much the driver behind all progress/innovation we make as a company. People who have 20 years more experience come to me constantly to solve their problems. Everyone with less experience comes to me to solve all their problems too. At work at least, I am without question the alpha of my pack. But I've never been great a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 02:09 PM
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I really like these things... I try to post in it every week, I totally agree, It's kinda like catholic confession, but MUCH more productive. And I always learn stuff from others.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 01:57 PM
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Thanks. and thanks for making this thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 04:29 PM
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I would heartily agree with this. I tried to make a "list" a few years ago and it was a total failure. It lasted not even one week. Since then I've just been doing what needs to be done and the wife has followed my lead. It's really not that complicated. You both know what needs to be done. Pick a task and start. You can divide things up on the fly if you feel it's important. One thing I do that seems to work well is finding out which chores she hates the most and doing those before she can. I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 02:36 PM
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Even before I swallowed the pill I had given up on covert contracts. Like I said, I enjoy being generous and unpredictable. So while I wouldn't say that my actions are "selfish" I would say that I get something out of making people happy. Really what I'm trying to get advice on is the timing of gift giving. For instance, this week the wife and I had a couple of tense moments. I pointed out some behaviors that i wanted changed. This made her upset and crying/sulking followed. I excused myself and…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/15 06:15 PM
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This. This. A thousand times this. I hit it way too hard the last few weeks and it was meltdown city every night. However when I reigned it in a little, it was like nothing ever happened and she's more flirty/affectionate than before. Finding the balance is a motherfucker at first. Especially when you are dealing with an anger phase on top of trying to live for yourself. I'm not there yet, but I'm getting better every day thanks to practice and info from this sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 02:04 AM
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Think daddy little girl not aloof alpha male This is kind of a breakthrough comment for me. I will definetly be field testing this frame of mind tonight. Thanks as always.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 07:43 PM
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interesting. Especially considering that this is kind of the OPPOSITE of outcome independence. There is more to be discovered here I think. I'll keep digging.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 05:53 PM
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Random gifts question. The wife loves random gifts. Like me hiding a new CD in her purse for no reason other than she likes a band and it's an album she doesn't have….something small..something unexpected…I do this maybe 5-6 times a year…She always appreciates it and never asks for it..(at least in a way I can perceive) . And you know what? I think it's fun. I enjoy being unpredictable and generous. Since swallowing the pill I'm beginning to question this. Should a gift ALWAYS be a reward for go…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 03:59 PM
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Personally, I find threads like this very enlightening. So for what it's worth your efforts aren't wasted on some of us. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 02:31 PM
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Accepting this and killing the manampster is my biggest challenge I think. So far I haven't caved, but I came close last night. My wife was talking about getting a new dog. I told her this was a very bad idea. The last dog we had was a CONSTANT source of friction between us. I told her that right now, when we are going through a time of personal development, is NOT the time to add the responsibility of a new dog. The wife had a major crying meltdown and told me she wasn't happy, that she "didn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/15 01:45 PM
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Ah! the light bulb! she shines! I think this is actually a great definition of RP in general. Yes I am pursuing personal goals for myself, but ultimately my wife will benefit as much as I do. The shit tests are "growing pains" of the process. Excellent distinction. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 05:55 PM
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how did she react? Was her attitude any different after you lost frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 04:52 PM
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wow. Until reading that article I never really realized how much my wife nags me about meaningless bullshit. At a certain point the nagging just becomes white noise, and I comply without thinking about it or being affected by it. These are shit tests I have been failing without even knowing it. The more I know, the more I know nothing... thanks for posting,
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 04:37 PM
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Writing book that rules > Jerking off. it's math, you can't mess with math. Good luck with the writing amigo.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 02:38 PM
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Still struggling with finding the balance between "being a leader" and "being a jerk". I sometimes wonder if this struggle is just a leftover BP reaction to her fighting back against my leadership. The decades of self doubt are hard to overcome, but I'm getting better at recognizing when I'm actually fucking up and when I'm just telling myself I fucked up. Totally blew the diet sunday night. The wife convinced me to have a "cheat meal" and the pizza lust set me back a little. So, no more "cheat …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 02:32 PM
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You have spent time training your body. You need to train your mind. Honestly, you are in kind of a perfect situation. I would say cut yourself off from pursuing women at all and focus on mindfulness training. It will help you control your reactions to things. You will be much less a victim of your thoughts. Then when summer ends you will have more control of yourself which leads to more success in all aspects of your life. And writing isn't lame. Throw yourself into it and it might become somet…
/r/askTRP14/07/15 11:00 AM
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excellent user name.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 07:41 PM
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The Vegetarian thing has been with me more than half my life, so it will be tough to completely let go of. I might bend a little and do turkey or chicken for a while, but I really have zero interest in eating red meat. It's a personal choice I made a long time ago that I still believe in FOR MYSELF. I totally get that it's not for everyone. I just NOW discovered macros and kind of feel like an idiot. anyway, thanks for the program info.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 04:04 PM
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Stats: 40. 6'1 237. Vegetarian 20+ years. Never been in great shape, but I was 60 pounds lighter 10 years ago. I sit in front of a computer all day for work. Back pain. Total wimp….but a pissed off wimp with a shit ton of motivation. My current diet is almond milk with hemp protein, veggie sausages, string cheese, almonds, soft boiled egg, green salad with oil dressing and an avocado. I'm taking a multi vitamin, a joint supplement and I compromised and started a fish oil supplement. I've seen ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 02:15 PM
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This is the best "intro" post I've seen since swallowing the pill. Righteous.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 01:29 PM
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as a hopefully former schlub, THANKS!
/r/seduction08/07/15 06:58 PM
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I had no intention of doing anything but having fun and it worked REALLY well. Again, perhaps a poor choice of words. I've started flirting with every woman I'm even remotely attracted to. I have ZERO expectation OR desire to hook up with anyone besides my wife. It's fun and it builds my confidence. Before TRP I Would have been too nervous to do this, and it's kind of thrilling to get pretty girls to laugh and smile. That's it. I wasn't expecting a response from my wife, but I couldn't help look…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 12:15 AM
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WTF, man, you married her. That's kind of to be expected, not something to be OK with. Not everything is a shit test. If you were in her shoes, would you not expect the same? If my woman left me to go to a bar while I was puking my guts out, I'd strongly reconsider the state of our relationship. Are you like, autistic or something? A poor choice of words perhaps. Let me clarify. What I meant was, she can count on me when she needs me. Not that I'll pretend that I care so I can later get more pus…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 12:09 AM
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Actually become aloof and full of options.
/r/askTRP02/07/15 11:33 AM
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I'm still just flapping my wings, not really flying yet. I think I'm mostly off to a good start but I have no expectations of rapid change. MY SHIT: Having trouble finding the right balance of "being mean" and "being a leader". I can tell my wife likes that I am taking charge and making real changes in our life, but sometimes my way of communicating these messages has been a little counterproductive. More trial and error seems to be the key. Seeing some progress in weight loss, but I'm having a …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 05:45 PM
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"Hope for the best, but plan for the worst." That's where I'm at too. The best part is no matter what. you'll end up better off. I'd wish you luck, but I don't think you'll need it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 05:13 PM
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This one deserves the slow clap.
/r/askTRP26/06/15 05:38 PM
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thanks amigo.
/r/askTRP26/06/15 02:45 PM
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Word.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/15 01:18 AM
1

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 11:35 PM
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I actually just bought a copy. I plan on taking a brutal beating this weekend. thanks, I owe ya a beer or 10...
/r/askTRP25/06/15 06:23 PM
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will do. it may be a bit though, I need to get down the road a bit before attempting. thanks
/r/askTRP25/06/15 06:04 PM
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duly noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:57 PM
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Good idea.
/r/askTRP25/06/15 05:53 PM
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I was just trying out my agree and amplify chops. (I kid) but message received. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:44 PM
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will do.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:27 PM
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I really wish it was. But the fact is that it isn't. another fact. it's not going to be this way long. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:25 PM
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Don't take that as a personal attack. Not at all. I'm eating this up. Ya'll are giving me exactly what I need. thanks
/r/askTRP25/06/15 05:24 PM
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yep. it's nice to be treated honestly.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:18 PM
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roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:17 PM
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roger that. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 05:15 PM
1

"Women are horny my friend, so let that sink in for a bit." A loooooooong time ago she told me that she wasn't "really interested" in sex anymore. I let her know pretty quickly that wasn't going to work for me. She has since back pedaled on that statement, but it has always kinda stuck with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:56 PM
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Your specific question is more about the effect of TRP tactics on a woman with a history of sexual abuse. A woman who has been abused may have difficulty following or trusting a man but that is EXACTLY what she truly wants to be able to do- to be able to relax and trust her man. This makes a lot of sense to me. All that said, there is very little difference between a woman who has been abused and any other woman. You may need to go slow on SGM(!) and be prepared to provide Oak level comfort (not…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:45 PM
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Be that guy first, and see if she comes around. got it. JEEZUS I wish I had TRP 20 years ago. thanks amigo.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:26 PM
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I did!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:24 PM
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You are acting like your wife is supposed to just follow you no matter what. You aren't the captain of your own ship so why should she follow? Do you think she should blindly follow a weak Man? No I don't think she should follow a weak man. I guess what I wanted to know is will my wife EVER follow me. But reading all these responses has pretty much invalidated my question. These are the hard truths I need to hear. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:24 PM
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"You're at ground zero." actually probably more like ground -50. thanks for the reply.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:12 PM
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Definitely don't want kids. Which I think might be my saving grace in this situation. And the general consensus I get is :Fix me, worry about the wife later. thanks for responding.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 04:10 PM
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"I found TRP too late to make anything of my relationship, but you can if you want to." Was it after you split up? or were things just too far gone for TRP to make a difference? I just bought No More Mr. Nice Guy, I'm going to start in on it this weekend. thanks for the reply.
/r/askTRP25/06/15 02:55 PM
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"Have you already decided to leave if you can, or what?" I'm not sure yet. I want the life I want, and I'm going to get it. If that life is incompatible with her, then so be it. I'd prefer it to be with her because we have so much history ...and goddamit…she makes me laugh… right now i'm in wait and see mode…I have a LONG way to go before my SMV increases, so I'm not expecting major changes soon or anything.. I HAVE seen some little changes though. She's already asking for "permission" to do stu…
/r/askTRP25/06/15 01:53 PM
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you are right. I'm not happy with myself right now, but I'm committed to being that way. The job thing is a potential stumbling block for me, because I have zero interest in chasing dollars. I don't give a fuck about things, I give a fuck about experiences and actually making a positive difference in peoples lives. When I take my on path carrer wise, it's going to be a pay cut for sure. But I can't keep pissing away my best years with hollow pursuits. thanks for the feedback..
/r/askTRP25/06/15 01:46 PM
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Thanks! the field reports are some of the most inspiring stuff in here.
/r/askTRP25/06/15 01:42 PM
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It's My movie. I just let ANYONE I CHOOSE to appear in it. This is my new mantra. slightly modified. There are some badass tips in there and a great starting mindset. Thanks amigo.
/r/askTRP25/06/15 01:41 PM
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I am by no means as expert yet….BUT If sex is something she isn't confident about then you need to find ways to encourage her to be that way. It could be giving praise to another woman that exhibits the positive traits. (could be a character in a movie or friend of hers, etc) It could be by showing a decrease of interest in sex. If she thinks you are "bored", but can find what you want in other women then things will change. If she DOES begin to behave the way you want, then you reward her. Thus…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 10:14 PM
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maybe wanting it is what keeps her from feeling it. What you are looking for is a change in her attitude towards sex, correct? Not necessarily her behavior? I'm curious, does she see other women as a threat?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 09:46 PM
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I'm in the early stages of TRP. 2 times a week sounds like a goldmine to me. we all have our own metrics of course, but she sounds pretty horny to this former beta bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 09:11 PM
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maybe, it's JUST POSSIBLE that she was thinking about her job…while she was a work….dunno… Go back in a week or so…if she's more chatty this time ask for her number…if not, move on…There are a shit ton of cute waitresses in the world…they are almost as rare as glass...
/r/seduction18/06/15 09:52 PM
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I would actually take that one step further. You need to define FOR YOURSELF what "self improvement" is. I don't give a shit about having a fancy car or a big house or the stereotypical gold digging trophy wife. I don't need to be in a position of power to define my self worth. Those are the goals that the media sell you. My goals are defined by me, not what society tells me I should be pursuing.
/r/seduction18/06/15 03:37 PM
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I could see why you would say that. Let me clarify... It's really more about trying to be the best you can be, and leading by example. The best way to keep a girl interested is to be interesting. You should be worthy of her attention, not because it gets her attention but because IT MAKES YOU BETTER. If you push yourself constantly and never get fat, lazy and comfortable more than likely your partner will do the same.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:59 PM
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Never. Never stop trying to keep her interested. ALWAYS be worthy of her interest.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:00 PM
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Dude, seriously. You are way over-thinking this. If you approach a date from the perspective of "getting to make out is winning" you will lose. Focus on having fun. Remember the date is for HER also. She will be wondering about kissing too, and if you don't broadcast with a neon sign that it's in the forefront of your mind you might actually have a chance. It's really important for there to be a little doubt in her mind. Basically if she thinks you are ready to hop in bed on the first date you a…
/r/seduction18/06/15 01:46 PM
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stop thinking of girls as only potential conquests. It makes you stink of desperation, and no girl likes desperation. Treat everyone with dignity and respect and you'll be able to do it when you find a girl you are interested. Being friendly to someone costs you nothing. Smiling back is not a marriage proposal. on the other hand, if you only select girls on their looks you probably need to be rich, powerful or hot. You just might find yourself attracted to a "less than perfect" girl challenges y…
/r/seduction17/06/15 02:36 PM
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excellent point. I started getting back into mindfulness training, yoga and bodyweight exercises. Hopefully these will keep me focused on the real goal, self improvement. thanks amigo.
/r/ThankTRP17/06/15 01:27 PM
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I was out of town over the weekend and I didn't "check in" as much. When I got back she suggested we go out to eat and usually I would just say "sure, where do you want to go". This time I said "Maybe" and then later told her where and when we were going. While driving she made a couple of comments about my driving, before I would have become angry but I just ignored her. I also waited until she asked for a hug to give her one. I also made plans for us later in the week. Not "would you like to?"…
/r/ThankTRP16/06/15 06:37 PM
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Reality check duly noted. if anything this has encouraged me to quadruple my efforts. It's nice to have a bit of success at first, but I know I'm still just a student in all this. ANY advice or tips will be appreciated.
/r/ThankTRP16/06/15 04:22 PM
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