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| 1 | Don't allow language to be hijackedRiiiiiight, because politely asking a man to treat you with respect will always result in him doing so, especially when he's targeted you for disrespect in the first place. I can't tell if you're deliberately being obtuse or you're just really naive. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/20 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Don't allow language to be hijackedYou see it this way because you don't experience man spreading as a man. You buy a seat on an airplane and spend 5 hours with the man next to you taking up as much of your seat as possible, physically leaning on you because they see you as less than, and maybe you'll get how dehumanizing it is to have someone treat you that way. Men don't treat each other with the blatant disrespect of manspreading the way they regularly feel entitled to treat women. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/20 04:26 PM |
| 0 | Don't allow language to be hijackedThe core idea behind feminism IS ABSOLUTELY NOT female superiority, it's equal human rights and opportunities. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/20 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Single mothers and dating expectationsIs she at risk of valuing herself too high and passing guys by who she thinks she can do better? Jesus Christ what did I just read? How does a person value themselves too high, exactly? You mean she has standards? You mean she has self esteem? You mean she wants the best for herself and her child in a relationship? I don't want her to give this guy up. If you think so little of her, what difference does this make to you? You have not mentioned the child's father. Is he a decent guy or is she sma… | /r/MensRights | 26/10/20 03:51 PM |
| 5 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.Ok I'm getting tired, but let me try again. I understand this law isn't everything you want it to be, but legislation comes in stages and is very often not all done at once. This law in particular removes 1 loophole that automatically puts gay teens on the sex offender registry. That's it. It literally does not address anything else about age of majority or consent laws. Perhaps those laws will be addressed later. THIS LAW, however, does not set anything back. It's an important step forward. It'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.I'm pretty sure the fire is dealt with by California Fire whereas legislation is dealt with by legislators, so, not the same people. No point one group stops working because the other is extra busy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:46 PM |
| 10 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.Thank you so much for clarifying this on this post. I'm not even in the U.S.A. and I knew what this bill was about. I don't think misinformation is useful to anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:29 PM |
| 5 | Handling trauma with careSorry you're being downvoted. This reminds me of my ex who literally would never let me out of his sight. Just cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:30 AM |
| 12 | Former Bachelor Lead Justifies Putting a Tracking Device on his Ex's CarLol yes! Let's all watch a show where a couple dozen women humiliate themselves trying to compete with each other over some man that's literally lying to and cheating on all of them at the same time. I would expect nothing less from their fans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 4 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.No, I think they mean that the best case scenario is to have worked through it so your trauma isn't controlling your life now, so you don't need to rely on your partner to help you manage it. If you need them to help you manage it you're really better off getting a therapist. For me, they can know my past but there are still certain things that really hurt me that I still never tell anybody. Maybe at some point if I end up in a relationship where I thoroughly trust him I will tell, but I've neve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 7 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.I just say things along the lines of "abusive family, dysfunctional, better to not have them in my life, no room for unhealthy relationships, etc." and then move on. DON'T go on and on about how you're still hurting or affected by the abuse. If they try to pry, tell them they're not your therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:54 PM |
| 28 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.This so much. I once had a new gay coworker with visible scars where he had gone through a terrifying gay-bashing incident. He opened up to me about the incident, his trauma, his abusive childhood, how he had coped with PTSD from it all, etc. and I explained that I too had C-PTSD and explained some of the things I went through. We commiserated over having so much in common, the first day we met. Things were fine for about a month and then, wouldn't you know it, he was abusively throwing everythi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.The only way you can tell whether or not a man is trustworthy is through time and patience. That might sound tedious and boring but skipping steps doesn’t get you anywhere. Do not allow yourself to trauma bond with a man just because you are looking to cement him as a HVM. Very well said, OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:21 PM |
| 8 | Got my first dating sub ban!I have definitely experienced this online where women act viciously towards me if I say anything along those lines. They're all brainwashed into this nonsense of no boundaries means liberated, and standards are childish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:12 PM |
| 15 | Got my first dating sub ban!Girl, I went to high school in the 80s and this idea was rampant even back then. Somehow, women who have any type of boundaries or expectations are deemed to be "not sexually mature" and there is a culture of bullying surrounding it, although I usually found most of the bullying came from women. I have had so many friends come and go over the years who were either "anything goes, even if it scares me" when it comes to sex, or they would literally date the first loser that looked at them and get … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:07 PM |
| 30 | Scrotes entitlement:Oh come on, this is photoshop. There's no way the guy who lives here would be a normal weight or be able to afford a Mac. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:38 PM |
| 6 | Quick rant about the language used towards the woman a man didn’t choose.If she can take your man that easily she did you a favour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 06:12 PM |
| 8 | This is why you don’t give ugly men chances.Exactly. Been there. All men will use a woman if she throws herself at him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 05:07 PM |
| 7 | NVM's and their superiority complexesYes this is how I see it as well, that he doesn't want to start a relationship just for the sake of being in one, and is waiting for someone he genuinely cares for. I'm not sure why everyone sees him as LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 04:44 PM |
| 9 | “You helped him become the man he was supposed to become, so he could get the wife he wanted”If you have to train him he's not worth it. He either values you and treats you with respect or he doesn't, no sense training him to pretend that he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 27 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.A lot of men think "I love the way you please me" means "I love you." It's the same as me saying, "I LOVE this new handbag!" Sure, I like how it makes me look but I don't actually love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:01 PM |
| 56 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.Another red flag would be him liking things that you don't do, such as, "You never argue." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:55 PM |
| 18 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.Well yeah, people like you and have a connection with you because you have traits that they like. That's how it's supposed to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:53 PM |
| 19 | The amount of upvotes & awards this has is terrifying.NO. They don't want a prostitute because she'll be there voluntarily in exchange for money, which makes her in control. They want a date to do it in exchange for a cheap dinner because THEY WANT SEX OWED TO THEM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:39 PM |
| 29 | The amount of upvotes & awards this has is terrifying.Uhm, my mother, born in the 40s, literally believed all marital sex was prostitution because the man keeps a roof over your head, so you give sex in exchange for that. And my dad was a misogynist pig so I'm sure he agreed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:32 PM |
| 10 | "going their own way"- manipulation, lies and deflection. Sounds like the woman in question has a restraining order against him & he is a crazy stalker. They claim to "go their own way", then harass a woman they claim to not even want a relationship with, while also blaming her & calling her names.Imagine being that upset over $30 not getting you the result you wanted. I mean, I get he thought it was a "lottery ticket" which I guess means he was trying to buy sex from her for $30. What a cheapass. Why wouldn't he just get a hooker? Oh, right, because hookers have self respect and would charge a lot more than $30. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:07 PM |
| 17 | Hollywood big shot started an acting school. Married one of his students when she was 16 and he 51.Her parents basically sold her out. Given her daughter’s age, Courtney’s mom, Krista, had to give parental consent before the duo’s wedding in Las Vegas. "We are totally supportive of this marriage," she told RadarOnline after serving as a witness during the nuptials. Courtney’s dad, Alex, added, "Every father can only pray to have such a man behind their daughter." https://www.distractify.com/p/courtney-stodden-parents | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Dear Men: Your Opinion Holds No Value Here. Did We Fucking Stutter?Yeah, that's why YOU can still get laid and he can't, because YOU are the one that's past it. Right, got it. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 09:30 AM |
| 7 | Men don’t fall in love when you serve yourself on a platterOh yes, definitely. Men will date you for years and years and have absolutely no actual feelings or attachment to you whatsoever. Their "I love you" is literally just "I love having my needs met; it's easier than being alone." But you could literally be any woman standing in front of them and they'd be saying the same thing. And they'll feel no regret or remorse for the pain that finding out years of being used will cause to you. They just don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:36 AM |
| 5 | When you feel rushed into a date and there's minimal effort, a sexual vibe/undertone/hints, he wants to be matched with younger women, chill date, etc. The guy is looking for a hookup only.Yes, like bragging about what a nasty skank he is like it's supposed to impress me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:29 AM |
| 4 | Help from older FDSers: how to not get down about my ageAgreed. When I think back to all of the people I knew back then, so many of them were LVM. (And LVW in the types of friendships I found acceptable.) I was not raised with appropriate boundaries so I had very low standards for the behaviours I accepted back then. I would basically be friends with anybody and not be judgemental at all, so I ended up with a lot of male friends that used me as a pseudo mother where I had to rescue them and fix everything for them all the time. It was like I had a bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:10 AM |
| 11 | Why do some women date such ugly men?“Give him a chance,” Ugh the amount of times I've heard this. A chance to what, all of a sudden become attractive to me? Why am I supposed to ignore my own feelings and treat some random man like his needs and comfort are supposed to be more important than my own? Why am I supposed to pity-date them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:29 AM |
| 23 | Why do some women date such ugly men?Because men have collectively bullied and shamed women into thinking having any sort of standards is a bad thing and makes them shallow. And women have done this to each other so much as well. I've lost friends over refusing to date the first loser that looked in my direction. I'm still trying to figure out when this started. Women used to understand how much we need to protect ourselves from bad men; now a lot of women seem to get pissy when you have standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:16 AM |
| 22 | Saw a post about men who get insecure about pretty boys/hvm who actually care about their appearances. Thought I'd post a cherry on top 😂 (there are 2 images here)Oh please. I grew up in the 80s, also known as the decade "when the boys were prettier than the girls." Almost every musician wore makeup. Hell, almost all of the boys in my class in grade 6 and 7 wore at least eyeliner. This is nothing new. But instead of thinking they're innocuous these guys actually get angry and intimidated by them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:02 AM |
| 21 | FDS woooooooorrrrrrrrks! Yas Queens! ❤️🤡❤️Oh, quit policing other people's language whenever they swear. You're telling her she's so much higher value but scolding her like a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:56 AM |
| 6 | What are the chances?It means he can't afford an internet connection - he's broke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:28 PM |
| 3 | It’s been months and it is still bothering meHe was not attracted to me and insulted my looks at the end of the date for a solid 20 minutes after I cut the date short. I think you're right in that he wasn't attracted to you, or at least not really into you. If he really liked you he probably would have begged and pleaded to give him another chance. But guys will literally date any woman that's in front of them if they think she can meet his needs, whether it be for sex, for household chores, for money, you name it. If they're not seeing an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Which one of you is this?ME! 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 6 | I don’t want to fuck a guy with grey hair.If his house really burned down at his age he still should've had some insurance, or had access to some savings, or a line of credit, or a credit card, or borrowed from a trusted friend or relative. But no, this guy's first instinct was to set up a Gofundme just to pay for a ride, and that's because he didn't have access to any one of those other 5 things. When their first instinct is to mooch, it's because they've been mooching all their lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:17 PM |
| 9 | This is either pick me mentality or a man talkingBlah blah blah wifely duties blah blah prequalifications blah blah corrects you blah blah you do it as a duty or a calling blah blah do it as a duty or normal activity blah blah respect him blah blah good food x2 blah blah submission blah blah blah ~ An excerpt from the How to be a Good Little Slave Handbook of 1764 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:06 PM |
| 12 | I Keep Drifting Into Meaningless Flings. Giving up on dating/guys.he told me that he wasn't looking for anything serious. I agreed and I told him I was on the same boat. I just wanted to have fun with him and no strings attached. and then.... He was treating me as a booty call and an object. He would only text me when he wanted to hookup. and then.... it's difficult to find a guy who wants a real thing You're contradicting yourself a lot here. I'm sorry you're feeling bad but it sounds like you caught feelings for this guy and expected his feelings to change t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:54 PM |
| 24 | Woman's BF "playfully" almost drowns her, cue LVM in the comments saying it's "nOT aBuSIve"Yeah, he became a motorcycle-meets-delivery truck meat crayon. I'm good. 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Why are men like thisNo, he wants you to feel rejected so you'll keep trying harder and harder to please him, which will include ignoring when he treats you like shit. It's conditioning, and all abusers do it. Hell, it was my mother's signature move too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 31 | When emotional labor follows us into the bedroom. A passage from “Rage Becomes Her”I've never faked. Not once. Got into fights a few times because "you're making me feeeeel baaaaad". but I refuse to pretend to be someone else and turn sex and intimacy into a performance to stroke his ego. If he wants a performance he can hire an actress. It's like a mom telling her 3 year old the flowers he gave her are the most beautiful she's ever seen when all he handed her was weeds. It's the way you pacify a child, not a man. I'm so glad I've always had at least that standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 01:39 PM |
| 98 | Woman's BF "playfully" almost drowns her, cue LVM in the comments saying it's "nOT aBuSIve"Holding my head under water, picking me up and running towards an oncoming train, chasing me around a kitchen island with a chef's knife, all under the guise of "fun" and "playing." How is terrorizing me and making me genuinely believe I'm going to die a form of "fun" for him? I'll tell you: he gets to steal my autonomy from me under the guise that this is normal, he gets to set the tone for the relationship that he treats me with as much disrespect as he likes and I have to just take it, he get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 01:21 PM |
| 7 | Sneak attacksOne time the guy even full on licked my neck and side of my face like a dog. He was definitely testing boundaries there, by doing something disgusting and dehumanizing to you and seeing if you'd accept the behaviour. It's negging 101. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Sneak attacksThis is so true. I'm in my late 40s and the guys who are my age seem to have a real problem with boundaries and basic common decency. You could at least find men to treat you with respect and dignity 25-30 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:27 AM |
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