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Just wondering - what made you have the feeling this being rushed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:15 AM
28

UGGHH yes. Its so sad the only guy i knew with a skincare routine was my ex. Every other guy I've dated or guys i know dont really have a routine. They maybe...MAYBE wash their face with whatever and don't moisturize half the time. On OLD one guy joking told me guys dont care about that stuff and he doesn't wash his face...i unmatched real quick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:22 PM
4

I've been "the love of my life" twice to a man and it still meant nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:36 AM
1

I made out with my ex (prefds) and was sitting on his lap grinding on him on our 3rd date and i felt nothing...absolutely nothing. I thought it was maybe just his pants or something. Then when i saw it, it was probably like 4 inches or so...lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:36 AM
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Does it count if my ex for the life of him had trouble finding my vag during sex cause his penis was so small 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:17 PM
53

Probably nothing since I've never been big on it. HOWEVER i do celebrate galentines and im planning small treat boxes for a couple of my girlfriends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:11 AM
51

I bought 5 gme stocks for...fun. Literally. Cause i want the billionaires to bleed money. Thats it 😂. 5 stocks wasn't too much money so I'm ok with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:34 AM
8

I've only dated 1 vegan man. He was probably the biggest outward misogynistic. We dated for 1 month and i realized i needed to get out. He literally cared about animal rights more than womans rights. Vegan men aren't special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:02 PM
3

Any woman who realizes that they keep dating these men that need help/support/to be picked up, read "women who love too much". It'll change your life i promise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:10 PM
4

Theres a difference between someone who watches anime once in a while vs someone whos obsessed and only watches anime. I'd be ok with the occasional anime but not a full blown anime lover or whatever they call themselves Also as others have said, it depends on what they're watching as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:53 PM
42

You literally described my ex, who was actually a really nice person and the reason why i dated him....but just did not take care of himself in the way i want a man to take care of himself. He literally wore oversized basketball shorts almost everyday during the summer while i wore like...little cute summer dresses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:17 PM
6

Yeepppp 👌👌. It was only a 7 month relationship but I'm glad I left when I did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:47 AM
18

Its funny cause pre-FDS even though as a nurse, I still had so much love and energy to give to undeserving men. 😅😅😅 I'm putting a lot of that love into myself and my friends now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:10 AM
22

Preach. My ex had a "friend" he met off tinder before he met me. They went on 2 dates and nothing physical happened (or so he says) He had mentioned this "friend" of his, but it wasn't until 6 months in I actually knew what she looked like and found out they messaged each other everyday. I felt so turned off about the situation but didn't know how to articulate it into words. I wish I broke up with him over it. I mean i broke it off a month later for another reason thanks to FDS. You live and yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:05 AM
9

Because fucking is the goal for men. Most women wouldn't fuck even a random attractive man from the streets 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:10 PM
28

Ugh i dated a student when i was already in my career. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:15 PM
5

My ex told me he stopped watching porn years ago and i romanticized the shit out of that...big mistake. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ it is what it is now. You live and you learn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:27 AM
42

I'm a gamer. I love playing games. I've played games with exes before. Sometimes I hang out in discord with my friends just to watch them play. BUT, IN A RELATIONSHIP? To simply sit there and watch him game?? In person??? And to do nothing else?? Fuck that noise, I got better things to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 07:47 PM
14

I stopped using it years ago. I absolutely hate. LOATHE. When men throw the b word around super casually, and I hate when men think they can call a woman a b to bring her down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 07:42 PM
56

PLEASE tell me ppl told him he's being unreasonable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:30 AM
10

There's plenty to do even during covid times 🤢. Or just....don't date right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:23 PM
5

I have a copper iud and i love it. My ONLY negative side effect is that i spot longer than usual, sometimes 3 days instead of my normal 1 day. But my period itself isnt heavier than normal. Granted I'm not having sex right now so its kinda pointless, but when i was actively having sex, it was a good tradeoff for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:50 AM
53

I cried when i went to breakup with my ex and he literally didn't give a shit :))) told me i was overreacting :))) Can't believe i normalized crying in a relationship so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 06:38 PM
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I think all the men i dated were on some level of "feminine", especially my most recent ex who was a softboi "woke" lvm. None of them actually pursued me 100%. Never again :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:47 PM
26

What the actual fuck 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:45 PM
44

Nice basket, wine, roses, charcuterie board. Doesn't look cheap either. Definitely romantic especially if its a surprise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:49 AM
22

The complete lack of empathy that men have is astounding 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:55 AM
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Literally thought i met the love of my life before FDS...and then slowly realized he was just another LVM disguised under "being woke" and actually having a decent job Past me = 🤡. If it wasn't for FDS i probably would have married him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:25 PM
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100% me. I would never want a male gyno unless it was an emergency. Granted, my first female gyno was terrible. I know some clinics have nurse practitioners who are able to take out an iud. I got mine done by a NP at planned parenthood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:48 PM
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I made it to the 2nd paragraph tbh. Please dump him, read the handbook, and work on loving yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:40 PM
12

I've slept with 10 men, let 2 men go down on me with no sex, 4 relationships. 2/4 boyfriends were able to make me cum, but 1 of them figured it out on his own. The other one needed SO MANY INSTRUCTIONS. And 2 hookups were able to, 1 was first try, 1 was 3rd try. I'm actually so surprised that a hookup actually made me cum the first try we had. So i guess for me its about 1/3 of men. But honestly if they just...took it slow, and actually TRIED to eat me out well, I'd be able to cum. Its just most…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:16 PM
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Morning: Cleanser with the oridinary's hyaluronic acid and face cream, followed by sunscreen of your choice. I'm on the lookout for a new one so I won't recommend my current one. Night-time: Cleanser, followed by the ordinary's salicylic acid mask 2x a week OR the ordinarys glycoic acid toner. Then the ordinary's niacinamide, hyaluronic acid, rosehip oil, and face cream. Hair: Wash 2x a week. Each wash followed by argon oil. I also use the ordinary's hair serum a couple times a week (I'm only te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:21 PM
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I only cum through oral and am very particular about it. It takes me like 15 mins IF the guy gets it right. But if he goes a little too rough then I get oversensitized and then my clit feels numb for at least 30 mins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:30 PM
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I'm so fucking tired of crying while in relationships. Literally cried while breaking up with my ex. I couldn't even look at him without crying. Meanwhile...his words towards me were SO COLD. Called me moody and overreacting while having the guts to also say he loves me. Fuck that shit. Next relationship I'm fucking dipping if the man makes me cry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:51 AM
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GOOD FOR YOU. I am in similar boat, recently broke up with my lvm ex. Keep yourself busy with hobbies and friends ❤ you already came out of this relationship stronger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:19 PM
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I hate when men on OLD answers with "just bored" No substance. No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:30 PM
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Omg yessss, I often rationalize small bad behaviors right at the beginning as well. When I broke up with my most recent ex I wrote down a list of all the things he said and did and I realized...he was trash at the beginning 🤡 Write it down, tell your strong women friends to hold you accountable, be strong. We all deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:16 PM
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Mine is public here and there cause I enter giveaways 😅. But I think a part of having a public ig is liking the attention you get from non-followers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:18 AM
12

And vera wang??? Absolute goddesses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:45 PM
45

Im..sorry...what. I hate how this "daddy" thing started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:39 PM
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What a POS. He did that on purpose to hurt you. I'm glad he's out of your life now though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:00 AM
18

You're not being entitled. A $60 leaf blower is not an anniversary present. It is a "hey you said this and i thought you'd like this" present. If you settle for a leaf blower now, can you just imagine what it'll be like if you marry him? He really doesn’t put much effort into our relationship. This says everything. He's cruising and taking you for granted. Move on sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:22 PM
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He had PE still but he said it was just because of a bad circumcision. I'm wondering now if it was because he was still consuming porn 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:05 PM
6

Your ex sounds casually misogynistic. Yeeeeppp. Took me a while to realize, but I finally did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:59 PM
9

Omg yes :(( I was so caught up on the splitting tab for lack of sex thing that I didn't think about the poor womans face in the video. And these men in the comments plus my ex thinking its funny and ok that a woman was publicly shamed for not going home with a man for 30 bucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:57 PM
10

10000% Took me a while to figure this out. I think that's why my body was having such an adverse reaction to his words before my brain could figure out why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:50 PM
10

👏 I am going to keep reminding myself of this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:43 PM
6

YES. It's a slow progress but I will be doing that from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:40 PM
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YEP. And trash men don't even think about the woman's side. All their little brains can think about is how the man is "losing" $30. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:39 PM
3

Sorry it was a boarding school*. Called provo. In utah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:23 PM
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I watched this last week! I FELT SO BAD for all the horrible things that happened to her. Being abused in the camp. Coerced to film during sex. I'm so happy that she's better now. Its never too late :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:31 AM
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Good, giving, game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:53 AM
17

Reminds me of a guy i used to know who liked to advertise his "Looking for someone who's GGG" when he was a 31 year old overweight crusty ass living at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:04 AM
6

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:23 PM
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Dude...like...do it in your room. Or the bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:12 PM
37

Its weird because he's focused on your looks right off the bat. You are more than how you appear Trust your gut. He is a LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:21 PM
29

I thought movie dates were stupid even before FDS. You just sit there..and don't interact. And its EXTRA awkward since because you don't know the person, you can't act how you would normally with friends or bf in a theatre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:16 PM
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I don't personally see it as degrading as a whole. But its degrading when the man makes it degrading. However its very obviously 1000000% not empowering. Theres nothing empowering about sucking dick. I hate how "empower" is so overly used especially in sexual context
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:46 PM
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24f...had anal for 5 years. Never has poop smells. ....10000% a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:55 PM
6

Omfg my ex. Such a loud snorer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:46 PM
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Its so sad. She also made a post saying that her brother is asking her questions about her sex life in a "teasing" way. It's pretty obvious the younger brother watches porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:23 PM
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For me personally, erotica was just as bad as porn. I had to stay away from it because erotica was making me want to watch porn again. Its a slippery slide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:06 PM
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Yeah but I don't want to get the hate that comes with being a radfem :( I live in an especially liberal city and I'd probably a lot of my friends if I said that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:34 PM
5

Me right now 😭😭 But i am trying my best :) and have great friends to reassure me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:54 PM
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THIS. I used to be a huge self proclaimed feminist when I was in college. But now I never bring it up unless the topic goes a certain way. I don't want people thinking I'm a libfem "sex pos" whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:24 PM
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I'm not sure what post you're talking about? Unless you mean posts where I said I used to go over and cook for him because I've never given my current bf a care package. But yes since FDS I stopped the wifey stuff and he's been stepping up and is a lot more generous with his time and money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:54 AM
1

I'm interested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:25 AM
8

Leave him. Don't even be his friend. He wants the emotional labour without commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:50 PM
7

My last ex i initiated a lot of the relationship. I also mothered him immensely and I left with the relationship with 2.5 years wasted..got nothing out of the relationship expect lost time and money. Meanwhile he got a free cook, therapist, drive instructor, sugar mama, and lots of sex 🙃.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:27 AM
12

Well fds is against porn consumption. So you have your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:58 AM
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"I am accustomed to a different kind of date. If you do not do dinner dates then it seems that we are not compatible. All the best" Then block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:13 AM
62

I will NEVER ever have a male OBGYN. I've read way too many horror stories on male obs assaulting and filming their patients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:43 AM
16

You've known this guy for 1 day. How could he be a HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:21 AM
32

She also cleans their houses. I...don't understand. But...I guess she makes a good amount of money off tiktok views?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:04 PM
23

O god i hope the comments are telling her to break up with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:28 PM
107

Block him. Never spend your own money to fly and visit a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:10 PM
32

I want what i believe in. I value certain things i have myself. I'd want a man who is similar. I don't consume porn - I want a man to do the same. I am health conscious - eat well and exercise often, I want a man to be the same. Etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:20 PM
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"Want to make me dinner" The fucking audacity 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:09 PM
60

If he really wanted to, he would have messaged you first. Block and move on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:45 PM
10

I think I did!! I slowly fell out of love with my last 2 exes. They just stopped trying in the relationship. I remember people kept telling me to help the 1st ex..help him with his life issues at the time...he's a good guy he's just having a hard time etc. I DRAGGED my feet with both of them but I eventually broke it off. I felt almost no remorse after. I remember feeling a HUGE RELIEF off my shoulders. Looking back, I was slowly mourning the loss of the relationship while in it, but I just kept…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:27 PM
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The post got deleted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:54 PM
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How can sex be "immaculate" with no foreplay??? I don't understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:28 PM
9

I think that was the next best response though 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:52 PM
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I think so...? I was a suuuper nice gf to my current bf when we started dating (pre-FDS) I found FDS and toned everything back. And he's only been stepping up ever since. I think ONE of the aspects to note is that DOES HE EXPECT all the nice/accommodating things you've already done and for you to continue doing them? Does does he do romantic / cute things for you without asking for anything in return. I used to go over to my bfs mid work (he's working from home) and make him lunch. During the be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:37 PM
20

would it be bad to continue seeing them even if they don’t want to be exclusive/official? Yes. Ideally the man should be asking/initiating this conversation. If you had to ask AND he says he doesn't want to be exclusive, just leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:19 PM
2

i'm 20 years old, married with a man 30 years my senior and we have a 3 month old baby. I only skimmed after this part. Girl..no, just no. There could be nothing positive about a relationship that started like this other than "he occasionally gives me the bare minimum"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:17 PM
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Don't give him date ideas. Should've told him to decide on a date and then agree if its to your liking. But yes now you know better and to unmatch asap when they wishy washy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:09 PM
2

All my LVM exes were ok with periods surprisingly. My last ex got me some free samples at school and kept then in his room for me incase of emergencies. Glad I've never had a bad experience with men and my period
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:45 AM
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You already established porn is infidelity. He watches porn = he's cheating. I made the mistake of forgiving not one..but two men of their porn use. They are both my exes now. He's already breached your trust. Leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:12 AM
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Me and one of my best friends were also so "chill" in relationships. Not anymore 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:10 AM
45

Her edit.. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:08 PM
20

Not a single HV trait I saw in your post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:11 AM
8

I don't remember the post. Could I get the details? And some of the advice you took
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:39 AM
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"He's such a nice guy" and being scared theres no one as nice as him out there. My first ex was abusive so dating my very nice yet not good looking at all 2nd ex was..a step up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:52 PM
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It's laughable when guys with small/average dicks will ask their gf to call their dick big during sex. One of my friends is currently unfortunately with someone like this. And he's not very good at sex either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:40 PM
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Me over here has dated asian men with the above white men descriptors 💀💀💀 One of my exes used to exclusively wear basketball shorts in the summer despite me wearing cute dresses all the time and me telling him "can you wear those less".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:36 PM
24

How much time does it really take to get a license....smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:09 PM
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Dad bods are NOT attractive at ALL. And I hate how the media has made it a fun attractive thing. 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:23 PM
8

Did you read the handbook. Men are supposed to be attracting you. Not the other way around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:28 AM
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Me too! It's made me realize I'm a lot more anxious than I thought I was. Definitely something to work on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:26 AM
180

Men shame women for being good at sex...then shame women for "being a dead starfish" 😒😒😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:39 PM
59

I always moved on so quick, I thought something was wrong with me for not being sad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:15 PM
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Regardless of weather he's cheating or not. This relationship is clearly causing you more distress than the good it brings. He is not a HVM. Break up and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:07 PM
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Ugh. My boyfriend pays for most things but i will pay the whole bill here or there. But we never split the check in half. I'd bring it up once to see what he says. But if he tries to give you dumb excuses or doesn't step up IMMEDIATELY, cut your losses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:12 PM
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Just stop. Start using your imagination. It will take some time to get used to, but you'll get there Check out r/pornfreewomen
/r/askFDS24/08/20 04:44 AM
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He wasn't toxic, but he became more lvm the more the relationship progressed. He lost his job so i started paying for stuff. He got overly comfortable with having me and never tried to look good anymore. He ended up getting married to someone who's very emotionally and financially dependent on them. Last i heard they was living in his parents basement. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:22 PM
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🤢🤢 i wonder how many people told him he was being creepy in the comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:17 AM
2

Can you elaborate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:43 PM
12

I hope the woman in this situation takes her baby and all the child support she can, because she's going to be a single mom when she realizes he's an absolute ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:56 PM
20

4 years 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:03 AM
87

"My first choice didn't pan out. You're my second choice so here i am"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:26 AM
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The women in the thread saying "im not against porn but against porn addiction" 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 09:54 PM
20

Did the comments tell her to break up with him? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:25 PM
14

Don't go on a hike with him. If you're so worried. Even getting NICE TAKEOUT and then having a meal at a park or by the water is better than a hike. I've seen some amazing picnic layouts recently made with cheese boards, salads, fruits, an entree and dessert. A hike is very low effort (and he could literally be a murderer). Don't worry about anything until he actually asks you out on a proper date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:34 AM
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Please tell me everyone is calling him an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:42 PM
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He works m-f. I work shift work which means sometimes I work weekends. We live 30 mins apart with no traffic. I expect to see him at least 1x a week. 2x is good. But I expect weekend trips every 2 months ish. Granted our relationship is only at 6 months :) so my expectations could always change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:39 PM
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This is why I always try to get a female doctor whenever I can. Especially if i need to undress myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:51 PM
3

I basically planned everything, because he said he slept late and had no energy. Next time a guy shows no effort, block him and move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:31 PM
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If he doesn't watch porn...why would he still follow porn reddits?? It's because he's still watching porn. Cut your losses. I was with a guy who said he'd quit for me. And guess what, he didnt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:45 PM
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This isn't funny at all because there are men who will literally do things poorly on purpose so their gfs or wives will 🙃🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:14 PM
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Sounds like he has his issues he needs to sort out on his own and he is neglecting you. You by no means have to stay with him and help him through his issues. You have needs too. You need a break from this relationship, maybe permanently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:09 PM
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Block him on everything!!! 18f and 26m? He knew what he was doing. He wanted someone young to manipulate. You are NOT his friend. And NOT crazy. He's definitely trauma bonded you. It's normal to miss him because you only miss the good parts. But keep reminding yourself that the relationship was very toxic. Focus on yourself. If you're able to, therapy? Seek support from friends. Do things you've always wanted to do by yourself. It will take time, but you will get through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:06 PM
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Except more from men. Each relationship I had was so disappointing because I always expected so little of men in general. And, expect to be wined and dined!! I dated too many men where I paid for dates/weekend getaways/etc. And it's okay to break up with someone if their mental health is affecting you. Don't stick around for bullshit. And don't let men in my pants unless they showed that they actually deserve me. Don't fall for this libfem sex pos bullshit either. This is definitely the reason I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:00 PM
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Its okay. You're young. Don't bat an eyelash at a single man. Focus on yourself. Focus on your education, your future career. Focus on building on lasting friendships. And hobbies. Travel. Maybe the right man will come along one day. Maybe he won't. The most important thing here is YOU and how you build your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:57 PM
5

Have literally never had angry/hate sex..thank god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:18 AM
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Why isn't it as easy to walk away? Edit: checked your post history. Your husband is literally abusive and you should be working towards divorce him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:04 AM
11

I feel like there's a big difference between self depreciating humour between friends, where both parties know its just a joke and not serious. Versus someone saying that kind stuff publicly online or with strangers. That just seems like they have low self esteem but also aren't doing anything to improve themselves either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:03 AM
59

....is this 8am booty call???? Im so ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:59 AM
79

Men don't need good communication to know to not let your pregnant wife mow the lawn... 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:58 PM
23

Someone PLEASE tell me people in the comments are telling her to break up with him 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:40 AM
126

It's unfortunate other women hate us too, for not being "inclusive" enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:32 AM
2

I think I threw up in my mouth a little
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:30 AM
4

He doesn't to be formally rejected probably. So this way...when you magically love him, you'll ASK HIM out. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:44 PM
14

I used to love reading as a kid...and sorta stopped when I started university. Definitely need to start again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:10 PM
5

He's not your friend. He seems to be hanging on to a possibility that one day you'll open your eyes and suddenly love him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:59 PM
7

S a m e. This is probably why I feel like I wouldn't say anything about a small penis. I've had a different sized partners and they were all...ok? Not bad? Better some days?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:56 PM
17

Queen 👸👑. Wish I had the guts to like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:55 PM
8

A lot of self proclaimed "woke" and "feminist" men use it as a way to get women. Libfems eat that shit up. Look at everytime a male actor makes a vaguely feminist statement. I've learned to avoid men who outright call themselves feminists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:48 PM
26

All 3 of my ex bfs were affected by porn and death grip. They all had SO MUCH TROUBLE cumming. It's so sad that with each new boyfriend, I just got better at navigating it. 😔 Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:45 PM
22

Yeeeeppp. Its even more annoying when its creepy men you work with. We had 1 man at work who would hit on MULTIPLE women at work. It was 100% harassment cause he wouldn't take a hint and didn't leave a lot of us alone. He got fired eventually though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:54 PM
14

🤢🤢🤢 this is literally why I don't even attempt to get to know white men like this. I'm not a fetish thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:21 PM
99

The comments saying "He wAs jUsT WOrrIeD aBoUt tHe HOusE" 🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:12 PM
25

I'm an Asian woman on the shorter side. But I'm not thin skinny by any means, but definitely on the small/average side. Ashamed to say I used to be the woman that loved to get those "wow you're so small and cute" comments. Nowadays if I get comments like that, I'm more 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:23 PM
14

Nope 🙃🙃. People on tiktok are generally younger and...sometimes delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:06 PM
20

Ugh. It's this stupid trend that people have been recreating for likes and views. Its fake cause if you actually look at her older videos, they're already dating. But 🤢 this is not romantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:01 PM
18

Dude was trying to find a free therapist??? Or???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:30 PM
7

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:27 PM
29

I feel the same :( I generally only bring it up when the topic comes up naturally, because I'm not super comfortable having these kinds of talks outright. But any time I'm able to, I will tell people exactly why I don't consume porn nor do I want my partner to either. And I hope that even the bits of information I give can lead to some people looking up the horrors of porn themselves and choosing to abstain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:26 PM
8

Stop watching porn. Stop masturbating for a while. It will take time. Trust. I was literally in your position years ago. Its taken A LONG time to get rid of all the abusive thoughts. I still have them sometimes, but its considerably less. It's definitely still a journey for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:17 AM
3

Ah ok, yeah I get your point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:48 AM
0

I mean...yeah I guess. But we're asian and its common for us to help our parents out with money and such. He's given his parents a lot of money to help with the family home. Literally the only reason he hasn't moved out is because HIS money is in the family home. I'm not going to fault him for being a good son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:42 PM
62

I was the chill gf for...way too long. Didn't want to be like "those high maintenance girls". All that happened was that i got walked all over. Its never worth it. It just leads to the guy treating you not as well as he should cause he knows he can get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:28 PM
21

Yep 😭. Its so unfortunate that after my friends go through a breakup, they lay every bad thing out for us women to talk it over, and only then do they realize exactly how bad the relationship was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:26 PM
1

Its a deal breaker imo if he's happy with his arrangement and has no desire to get his own place (within the year perferably). Granted, I don't know his financial situation. Like when i first met my boyfriend, he had plans to move out of his parents house within half a year. Unfortunately it got delayed due to the pandemic and other family reasons. I'm not going to dive into the details. But for me (26F), I'm completely okay with the fact that he (29M) live with his parents for now. I know he ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:25 PM
31

Omg. I'm taking this for the next time someone wants to tell me not all men or "women can be bad too"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:32 PM
33

🤢🤢🤢 This is so gross because i know someone who used to get frequent BV due to her ex bfs dirty penis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:26 PM
6

Yeeep i have several close friends who are settling for their LVM or friends who are staying single because men are trash and their exes were also absolute trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:50 PM
23

UGH. I'm so glad people are calling him out on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:01 AM
70

No beer: i am an asshole Beer: i am a drunk asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:57 AM
28

Yes!! My bf literally gave me his phone passcode and added my face as well. Literally has nothing to hide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:26 AM
20

Good for you!! I hate self proclaimed "nice" guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:19 AM
15

"Post half naked photos so I can talk to you like an object" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:16 PM
11

HELLA CONTROLLING under the disguise of "caring about you". Trust your gut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:15 PM
1

Sports, videogames, and women...? 😂 Uhhh..memes. and then probably like their day/work/complaining about something. ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:28 AM
30

This is literally the reason why i don't have a single close male friend. Because they all suck. I keep my guy friends at an arms length away, I'll hang out with them in a group or something. But they lack the emotional support and connection I need in friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:52 AM
11

My ex was still a student at the time (which was a mistake on my part from the very beginning). We both lived with our parents so that wasn't a big deal to me. But he didn't have a car AND didn't know how to drive. I actually taught him how to drive with MY car. I bought us food, took us out, took him to other cities/towns. He paid for..some stuff. But overall he definitely took me for granted. Never again 🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️ I have a friend who's been with the same guy, her first guy, for 4 years now?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:26 AM
6

Under "About" in this subreddir
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:56 AM
10

Literally saving this post because its GOLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:35 AM
42

Men are trash. But it also sounds like you didnt vet him properly? Handbook says no drinks for dates. No low effort dates such as a walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:32 AM
37

"Im not addicted to porn bc porn is boring" 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:12 PM
52

He said in one his comments "that stain could have been from anything" But also "im not saying it wasn't from my dick" 🤢🤢🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:09 PM
20

Have you read the handbook? Your ex is a LVM. Sounds like he's breadcrumbing you just enough to keep you away from other men and it's working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:33 AM
27

Dude...go to therapy. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:13 AM
205

I feel this so much. I invested SO MUCH into my ex only for him to not appreciate it and for him to tell me "i never asked for you to do this"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:07 AM
11

Wasting your time. Move on. If he really wanted to be with you, he would know. It's already been 5 weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:26 PM
5

Ambition, taking care of himself health wise and space wise, honesty, empathy, able to have a discussion without raising his voice, ability to give an ACTUAL apology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:24 PM
43

Yep 🙃 This is one aspect I'm still trying to unlearn. I spent so many years trying to not be "those high maintenance girls" 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:12 PM
13

Try different things/hobbies to see which ones resonates with you. Have girls' days and nights. I know with covid this part is tricky. But when things reopen, try looking at Groupon for cheap classes/deals. Yoga, kickboxing, painting, cooking. I picked up embroidering during this pandemic. I've bought a couple of those "paint by number" kits online that I'll do once in a while. I experiment with different recipes. It'll take time to unlearn these past 5 years, but as long as you put in the work,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:11 PM
119

"Grandma vibes" I bet if you actually dressed like a grandma, he wouldn't have swiped right/liked your profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:53 PM
122

When we finally got the bill, he grabbed it and immediately worked out his exact part of the bill Asking for separation bills would have been easier if he didn't want to pay 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:24 PM
17

Do you tell your new asian bf that you used to date white guy? Well according to the handbook, you shouldn't be disclosing any past relationships to the new man. I found FDS a couple months into my current relationship. I will say my bf NEVER asked me about my past relationships of any sort. I have briefly talked to him about my past relationships including being with non east asian men. He didnt care at all. Granted - he's korean but very white washed. I'm chinese. I think if you end up seeing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:26 PM
9

My ex - whenever I used to bring up something he did that upset me, he would take it as an attack and turn it around. Or sometimes hit me with the "BUT IT WASN'T MY INTENT" My current - when i bring up something he did that upset me, he would apologize, and a MEANINGFUL apology, not just a "my bad". An argument is a discussion instead of whos right and whos wrong. Literally just today we had a disagreement and he knew i was upset, and he made sure to tell me that he's not insulting my intelligen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:00 AM
10

I wonder if "Always Be My Maybe" on netflix is one? Someone please correct me if its not. Because the main woman is very "these are the things that I NEED and if you can't be apart of that, then i don't want you in my life" Altho the main guy is definitely not a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:23 AM
4

I get suspicious if they don't have ANY. But IG and snapchat is sorta like..extra socials stuff that not everyone needs. It's not a red flag but I'd tread carefully. I wonder if this guy has a linkedin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:04 AM
4

I make it known usually date 2 that I don't see kids in my future. And they will either agree or disagree with me - so then I'll make the decision to continue or not continue dating. If a guy REALLY sees kids in his future, it's a big nono. Its a such a waste of time..and its so much harder when you love him and you know it won't work out in the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:17 PM
44

What the fuck 😭😭 i hope she pressed charges
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:46 PM
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