2 weeks post breakup, still sad would love your encouragement

Backstory on this man because I think this sub will scream with me: super cute, makes good amount of money, has hobbies, 30 (7 year age gap and I thought he was mature HAHAHAH) - all things that attracted me to him and yet here I was with rose colored glasses for 4 months.

Look at all these red flags: 1. Whenever we got into an argument, the next day he would offer to buy me something expensive ($100+), like excuse me who taught you this was appropriate and a way to fix issues? LVM 2. Refused to talk about his exes/past and shamed me for ever talking about my past - “I want us to just focus on the present” you don’t want to hear what I learned from my past? Guess you didn’t learn ANYTHING from yours. 3. One time I was at dinner with a friend and he told me to “send him proof.” I told him this was toxic and unacceptable. “This is just something I do, you already told me you’re at dinner with a friend I just need confirmation with a picture.” BARF. 4. Alcoholic - let me tell you the dude drank every night and whenever we went out to a bar it was a **** show, he would have 7 drinks back to back and we would frequently fight because he was being dumb. I confronted him about this and told him to get help and he agreed, and was sober for the last 2 weeks of our relationship. “You’re the only person who cares about me like this.” Crazy that someone cared about you wow !!! 5. We ended up breaking up b/c he was supposed to stay over at my place for the weekend (I offered because he was moving places and was going to get an Airbnb instead), but I had seen him all of last weekend so I made plans with my girls for two hours one day. HE FLIPPED BANANAS and shamed me for 2 days about my plans “you’re not supposed to leave me alone in your house that’s obvious,” called me “selfish and impulsive,” said “this isn’t a miscommunication this is you being selfish”, even after I cancelled my plans lol. Half hearted apology from him and I was like nah man, wrote him a text saying he’s a mean person and called to break up and he beat me to the punch saying “we have fundamental differences and have different expectations for the relationship so we should end it” LMAOOO WAT.

So yeah, I’m glad I’m out of there, NC for the last 2 weeks. He was my ideal type so this is hard but fuck if I am going to put up with this abuse. Would love your encouragement though as I move on!