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Ifhes/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 09:43 PM
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It's simple: Get away from everyone who thinks like a red piller, specially content creators. Even of they aren't red pill content creators, if they support it, their content will constantly convince you hating women is the way to go. It's so easy to disguise an opinion as a fact just use half trues, isolated events and cheery-picked data, say something that nobody can ever say it's wrong like "family can be a beautiful thing", and 3 heavily opinionated, misogynistic hate-speech claims, and voil…
/r/ExRedPill08/09/25 11:48 PM
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Red pill made you think relationships are transactional, but are they really? The answer is "depends of the person". Red pill and similar ideas are based on getting validation from other men and women. The only person you need validation from is yourself. If you have a great sense of self-worth, having a hot girlfriend for the world to admire and being an alpha so other men can look up to you, will become irrelevant. All relationships you'd get will be significant because would be based on what …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 10:30 PM
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Yeah yeah, you're proving my point. You're deciding to feel miserable. If what you say is true and you have no positive "character traits", what are you doing to change that? Love yourself, love your potential and eventually you'll love what you'll accomplish. Or you can keep feeling miserable and hating yourself. Your choice.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 10:05 PM
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People will pity you so easily of you that's what your looking for. Soon you'll learn that the only answer to all of your bad feeling is "lack of self-worth". It's not easy to love yourself when you have allowed every bad experience and feeling convince you to hate yourself. If you're constantly measuring what you are compared to others, and refuse to see your virtues and only see what you can't do because of what you consider negative about you (based in arbitrary standards imposed by others), …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 09:50 PM
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If you go to therapy just to be accepted in society, maybe that's what's holding up your progress. You don't have to create a new self to be happy in a society, but it's true that many ideas and practices should change. Feed that version of yourself that can be accepted in society and allows you to feel happy with yourself, and throw away those things that you got along the way and are awful and unacceptable. Therapy doesn't exist to change who you are, but to adapt how you feel and act about yo…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/25 08:20 PM
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Maybe try another therapist and psychiatrist?
/r/ExRedPill25/01/25 07:08 PM
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I've been there. If you ever feel some attraction to be a victim, and have no way to change that, then therapy might be more necessary than you'd like to admit.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/25 02:03 AM
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I don't agree with this. You can dislike some people, even most people. But straight disliking all people seems pathological or concerning. We're social creatures.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/25 02:00 AM
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The secret is understanding that you're a badass dude and that being a virgin with little romantic experience doesn't make a loser, just unlucky.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/24 03:33 AM
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It isn't. Moreso if you are getting it from people red pill aligned that very likely fills your feed.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/24 04:08 PM
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My best friend makes like 3 times more than her SO and they are so happy together. He takes care of a lot of things in the house and pays like 30% of the mortgage of their house while she pays the rest. Their dynamic is awesome, they do a lot of traditional things as man and woman, but it's a facts she makes a lot more than him.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/24 01:45 AM
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It's not a self worth issue Proceeds to confirm it is a self worth issue. Attractiveness is not absolute.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/24 01:00 AM
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Something tells me that when you say "women" you mean "attractive women".
/r/ExRedPill25/02/24 12:59 AM
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I think you have it all wrong. A couple of examples, that you're interpreting being women dating "alphas" and rejecting/mistreating "betas", very likely without knowing the whole context of those cases, but still calling it a "fact" does not validate redpill or their ideals. Redpill is not science, it's not fact. Redpill is an interpretation of reality, a very misogynistic interpretation of reality.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/24 12:41 AM
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It's not illegal, it may be immoral. It is definitely weird and creepy.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/24 04:32 PM
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It's not. But it is to spread the idea that a woman with a lot of sexual partners is, in some way, less valuable as a person for that. You can have your preference, but that's different as trying to make others have the same preference. Additionally, having those and any other preference that you cannot ignore will factually make it harder to find a partner because you're narrowing your options. If you complain about not finding a partner. RP often disguises actual misogyny (ideas of woman being…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 05:14 PM
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r/whooosh
/r/ExRedPill16/02/24 12:15 AM
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Erase the concept of body count. It's cringe.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/24 12:14 AM
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Not a lot of Room to build things to be remembered in history when your sex is being thoroughly oppressed in every sense and you can only be remembered if you come from a extremely privileged family.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/24 08:39 PM
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There are many societies that have no nuclear families. Most tribes didn't have nuclear families. Other cultures like Chichimecas didn't have nuclear families as well.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 06:49 PM
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That's what I found out.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 09:37 PM
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Well, for what I was able to watch in his YouTube channel he often talks about conservative ideologies and how we separated from those. Also speaks about the "7 mountains", which is quintessentially a dominionistic concept.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/24 08:26 PM
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You can Google it. But Dominion Theology is a group of ideologies that seek to build a nation governed by christians and based in their understanding of biblical laws.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/24 08:25 PM
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Related to Dominion theology.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/24 05:44 AM
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No need, life is so much easier when people, including women, cherish you and care about you.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 09:21 PM
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Yeah, this dude seem too dominionistic for my taste. I'm sorry.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 06:52 PM
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I'd have to take a look at this one by one. There's often people here suggesting RP-ish content as a cure for RP.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 05:06 PM
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Yup, I am 30 and a girl in her early 20s wants to have a relationship with me. I like her, but I wouldn't date anyone that young because I feel like they objectively haven't fully developed mentally. I told her that if we're both single when she's 25, then I'd be willing to try it.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 05:03 PM
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Peak how? physically? mentally? why would you think that. Different people have their best years at different ages. Joe Biden is president at his late 70s early 80s. olympic gymnasts have their most successful periods in their teens. I think you have a very narrow perspective of what the importance of people is and you are unconsciouly focusing on dating and sex.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 05:00 PM
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Awww poor thing doesn't know many women and decides to keep this wrong beliefs in his poor head.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 04:57 PM
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It's stupid they talk about people and dating and women as if they were narrating a natgeo documentary.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 04:56 PM
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I don't even know what you're talking about. I never heard about this ever, I briefly investigates about it and didn't find anything other than RP related communities (I am including non-religious anti-feminism pages ran by men as RP related). So I would say this is just another BS claim based in pseudoscience and misogyny (no "article I found would not mention the word "hypergamy"). If you want facts and studies based on science, go to Google scholar, check the authors and peer reviews because …
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 06:11 PM
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I can only conclude OP is a troll or will eventually engage with some people here to promote his new RP podcast.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/24 06:05 AM
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Virginity in itself is a really weird concept. It's not like we need a word to describe people who never ate garlic bread before, do we?
/r/ExRedPill13/01/24 04:32 AM
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It's a couple of content creators following cult-like operation to convince men of ideas that will get them isolated from everyone they love while being willing to spend their money on such creators by buying "education" and other forms of more content that would allegedly get them women.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/23 03:51 PM
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Fr fr. Men tend to be a bit misoginisctic, unfortunately we're still dealing with misogyny from previous generations. These conman take advantage of those ideas and exploit them to enclose you and separate you from most people (because that is what a cult does, separate you from people that will prevent you from entering a cult) and sell it as the actual real I promise TRUTH and how to get all the best women you ever dream having (because a cult always has to have something to offer). They repea…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/23 11:09 PM
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"What even is a bad boy?" Yeah, that's a good question. I think it is whatever fits the stereotype of a guy that is popular with women and others tend to just look for the bad traits in them out of jealousy. "nice guys™" are not actual nice people, but men who social anxiety and failed attempts to date a woman lead them to weird ideas about lack of rizz that eventually evolves in a false understanding that love and sex is transactional. "If I'm nice, I'll get love/sex, and if it fails I'll be su…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 12:59 PM
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Yup, unfortunately there is not a different term for simp that describe it perfectly in the way that you are experiencing it. I am happy I was able to discuss the origin of the term and that you're aware, though.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/23 08:36 PM
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Oh gosh, ain't that pretentious. Calling themselves "artists"
/r/ExRedPill10/12/23 06:34 AM
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Misogynistic desperate self-proclaimed incel. That or Nice Guy™
/r/ExRedPill10/12/23 05:13 AM
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I agree with you, still the word being "sucker idolizing mediocre p-slur for vagina" is too bad of a meaning for me to use.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 09:40 PM
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Not if it's part of your very well talked preferences and principles. I personally don't think it good to perpetuate this antiquated idea that men will try and try to have sex disregarding a woman's word, most modern men would not do this.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 09:19 PM
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Do you know where the term comes from? I heard a really bad one definition. It was an acronym, that's why I stopped using it.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 09:12 PM
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What is PUA? And why is there always another level to this shitty "masculine überphilosophy" thing.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 09:10 PM
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Oh my god he definitely will do as much as possible to push you to have sex with him, which means he has NO regard for your religious commitment.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 09:06 PM
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Yes, this is very sad because they often feel mistreated and don't do anything about it until it is a big ass issue and typically there are kids involved.
/r/ExRedPill07/12/23 07:48 PM
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They are often mistreated and do nothing about it. Also you see how much alcohol they give them and in these kind of podcasts when they get a girl that reply back and doesn't align to the opinion of the guys, they ridicule her. When these girls ridicule the guys back they are kicked out tipically, making a lame excuse.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 06:55 PM
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Just shut up. I am asexual and have many asexual friends who are able to fulfill very wholesome and functional long-term relationships, even with non-asexual folk. You might have self-worth issues, though. I'm sorry to speak like that, but you're talking as if not having sex would make impossible to have "true love". I don't even feel like properly giving advice, I'm sorry.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 11:39 PM
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This paper attempts to study the importance of attractiveness in intergenerational social mobility, not at all what you very generally claim. I don't know enough about psychology to feel comfortable giving you this, so take it as my opinion, but I feel like quantifying physical attractiveness is not very scientifically possible and depends a lot on the preferences of specific people.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 05:25 AM
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Just another hypocrite. Btw, stop using the concept of "body count" all together, it is useless and only exists to deprecate people.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 06:21 PM
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Yeah. But that's not what happened here. He was insuffey like 99.9% of red pillers. That's it.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 06:08 AM
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There is no purpose in the red pill outside of women/dating. Everything is either a competence for women, or a way to "improve" yourself to be more appealing to women. Everything red pillers claim to be part. Of the red pill that is not misogynistic is literally either obvious or coming from a very famous self improvement author (or Andrew Tate, but he got cancelled by red pillers because he became unsalvageable).
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 06:04 AM
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It's just not following the red pill. You're delusional.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 05:59 AM
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Unconditional love? Dude, you have trust issues. At least seems like it.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 06:12 PM
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That's too bad. Society doesn't teach boys how to deal with rejection and instead it treats it as failure. It is not. The good thing is that you're conscious about that now, and that red pill only gave and still gives power to those unhealthy feelings that once made things turn out bad. You have power over your emotions and feelings, you just have to stop feeding the negative ones.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/23 08:22 PM
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Why do you think you're not comfortable showing feeling to a woman? Is that related with the red pill? Do you fear she might see you as less manly because bof that and is that the reason you hesitate?
/r/ExRedPill12/11/23 06:08 PM
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My goodness, look what porn culture can make of a man's mind. I don't even have advice for you since you already know you're thinking something silly. People have different fetishes, some of them enjoy the whole "black men are bigger and a better fuck" thing, so have that in mind, it's not necessarily true, it's just fetish play.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/23 03:07 PM
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Retaining information is not the same as being intelligent. Reading and pursiuing your interests will always make you a better version of yourself. How do you know if a style fits you? How would I know, you know it because it feels right and you like it. I get right now you don't like how you look, but you can still try. How do you know what likes you? You just know. Try things in private, learn to see yourself in the mirror, don't focus in what you don't like, focus in things that look okay and…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 10:57 PM
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Well, as long as you keep repeating that for yourself it will. Stop repeating and it will stop being accurate. Your mindset is the problem, and it can be changed, you just need to try again and again and again. You have essentially infinite tries.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 08:56 PM
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Well, start by stop calling you an incel. Are you giving too much importance to being in a relationship to the point it frustrates you? It would probably get worse and worse with time. It is a cycle, you feel bad for being unable to have a relationship, you get mad, you feel bad, you feel scared to be alone, you try to have a relationship urgently, it goes wrong because you might be acting unnatural due to previous stages, repeat. Break the cycle, work on you first. Pursue your greatest dreams l…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 08:52 PM
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Good for you. Keep it up!
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 08:37 PM
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There are more single people overall. Slightly more men than women are single by gender, however that doesn't mean these single men are lonely, that is something your or whoever made you think that added to the original statement. If your personal experience tells you that, and lonely men is what you often find is because the communities you often visit are attracting them. I don't normally met men that feel lonely because they're single. Under that logic, don't you think RP is just an echo cham…
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 10:42 PM
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That sucks man. Bromances are sick AF, but most men you find in your life are just like you describe.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 07:16 PM
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That is not a small problem my dude, that is a huge problem, yes because of the self-worth thing, hut also because it assumes you should always have women willing to date you for you to feel okay and fair in the friendship, and so your ego is not hurt (it sounds crazy, I know, they're not even my words, I'm quoting you). I've been single for 13.5 years. I do kinda ok on money and I am decent looking, still I stopped caring about dating girls so so much because it drive people away, I only occasi…
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 07:11 PM
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Yeah, that's why you don't go to YouTube or Facebook for that. Everyone should build strong critical thinking when surfing on the Internet and always remember to find MULTIPLE independent sources in multiple different points of view and professionals. Look into scientific data, look into psychology studies, look into articles on magazines of different topics. This is, DO NOT just watch people telling you about those things, got actually read them yourself.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/23 02:13 PM
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It is. In fact, a human brain is not fully developed until 25, before that age, humans are malleable and influentiable. The reasoning of these people is not too far away from the reasoning of minor abusers.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/23 09:50 PM
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That's up to you. Are you actually worried you cannot be "repaired"? Or are you secretly looking for an excuse or a reason to stop caring because it's easier and more comfortable to stop caring and feel bad about it, blaming an immovable force like destiny or the universe or humanity or internet or God know what, instead of actively work in improving what seems to be a mess in your life that makes you feel like that. I've been single for about 13.5 years, but I don't feel any hate or resentment …
/r/ExRedPill27/10/23 08:21 PM
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There's no such thing as "high value man". People will value you individually for what you mean for them, no matter what you are, no matter how good or how evil you are, how poor, how attractive, how successful. If you want to be more successful, more fit, more attractive, do it for yourself and what is better for your self development as a person, not because you want to fit an internet stranger's standards.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/23 03:34 PM
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Yup, and they cinically call those emotion they play "facts and logic". Not remotely close of what it is. If you compare it, the way they use "facts and logic" is not a lot different of how christian use "amen" and anything on the Bible. I'm not trying to say believing in christianity is bad, just that RP is not science, it's not reality, it's belief and nothing else.
/r/ExRedPill26/10/23 01:48 PM
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You have to be careful. Red Pill is bad as it is, but at least is not a cult, many actually dangerous cults work under the fachade of a self improvement group. Be careful, I recommned you to look videos about that to learn to identify potential threats. They say "those who ignore history are doomed to repeat it".
/r/ExRedPill25/10/23 09:47 PM
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There is literally no reason to consume redpill content, you cannot selectively "ignore" the bad stuff, because it is not only the interpresonal relationships thing what is the issue. They convince you that you're not worthy until you get buffed and sucessful. That's not healthy, that's insane. They promote narcissist behavior and have a philosophy of superiority over women and anyone that is different from their ideals, such philosophy will be in everything they say. It's not like they're givin…
/r/ExRedPill25/10/23 09:06 PM
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There are TONS of ways to get self-improvement mentoring. Why ever pick the one that chooses to be misogynistic and constantly disregard you as a "low value man".
/r/ExRedPill25/10/23 08:44 PM
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If you hear people talking about hypergamy only from women then that's misogynistic. Period.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/23 12:27 AM
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Isn't the core message of a pyramid scheme to make you rich? Now seriously, you cannot say Red Pill sole purpose is to improve yourself and become capable and strong. Red Pill tries to convince you that people have an instrinsic value based on their money, their physical attractiveness and look. Even the name, Red Pill, comes from the Matrix movie, and tries to say that you live in a world of lies and by taking whatever message they want you're "waking up" and "knowing the truth". What does that…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 10:26 PM
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Overgeneralizes a lot. Attempts to convince people that a person has an intrinsic value that somehow dictates the sexual hierarchy on the world, which is not only false, but stupid. Most of the speakers make a lot of money from people trying to become whatever they say it's cool (alpha, high value or whatever). Disregards women opinion completely unless their opinion aligns with whatever RP preaches. Objectifies not only women, but men as well, an example is calling the phenomenon of people know…
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 07:56 PM
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You will often feel sad if you base most of your existence in who are you gonna date. Meet people, show interest in a healthy way, deal with rejection by yourself (do not put any of your negative feelings that come naturally with rejection ok the women that rejected you, just respectfully continue with your day and deal with it on your own). Also work on you. And for the love of God, stop watching RP content. Just cut it, it's as easy as making a brand new account to stop the bombarding of RP co…
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 12:10 AM
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Well, if you are afraid to be emotional in front of a partner because they may punish you for it, I'd say you have some major healing to do.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 12:03 AM
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There's not a magic recipe to always prevent being a victim, unfortunately. Everyone will be victim of bad people at some point in life. That is in no way reason to stop living life the way you want. If you want to show feelings or being emotional, do it because you feel like doing it. If you do it because you think it will help you attract women, and the opposite, if you stop doing it just because you're worried women will be repulsed, then the problem is not showing your emotional side, the pr…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 11:00 PM
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An irrelevant phenomenon.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 05:22 AM
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Ok, then you didn't apologize at all.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/23 05:35 PM
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"female friends". Yeah, you can call them "women friends". Don't deshumanize women with terms like female, don't be creepy only calling them "girls" wither. The word "woman" is there to use to describe these important people YOU pushed away. Of course red pill ideals may have caused you to have those toxic ideas about women, but is it YOU the one who acted upon them. Right now as long as you see women as "females that used me for validation and didn't reciprocate attention" you will have the har…
/r/ExRedPill17/10/23 05:34 PM
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It may be partially true, but still very silly to make arguments around it. We are not living in a primitive society.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/23 04:55 AM
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The thing about evolutionary arguments and why they're archaic and should never be taken seriously is that they mostly apply on humans before society, let alone modern society (after philosophy and morals were a thing). So thinking something is somehow more "correct" for making sense (in a very rough way, by the way) in a proto society and this being an argument to apply it today is just silly.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/23 03:19 AM
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Oh no, that's bad. I've personally never experienced any of this in my life with anyone, and a total of 2 friends have been involved in a relationship where the women cheats. If you don't want to fall into the ideology stop consuming it, stop using phrases like "hypergamy" or "high value", or like you did here "high status".
/r/ExRedPill04/10/23 01:49 PM
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The concept of body count as presented by TRP is very bad for everyone. It genderizes a number (men are better the higher the number, women are better the lowest the number) and, despite the attempts to make it look like it's "society's perception", it's a misogynistic idea fueled and empowered by TRP and other such communities. They make unfounded, ridiculous claims like "women with a high body count are unable to commit to a relationship, it's biology" (not a scientific claim at all) or "men i…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/23 03:36 PM
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I enjoyed reading this, but my ADHD didn't let me fully commit to understand and form insights that you deserve for writing it. I did say they claim the intrinsic value because that's something they repeat a lot "high value men, higher value partner, high value woman". Also, I am not sure if you're recruiting me to TRP or simply presenting a context in a very compelling way. Either way I hope I remember to come back to this a comment with a more focused mind later.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/23 05:21 AM
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A person doesn't have intrinsic value. People value each other.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/23 12:36 AM
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Sorry, but "dating market" sound so cringey. Like we people are products or something.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 03:56 PM
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I cringe everytime I read "high value men". It must be one of the must hurtful concepts for people that believe in red pill.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 03:54 PM
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Those usually look for unhealthy validation.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/23 08:13 AM
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The argument that we should live like in the times when everything except getting a house and dying was harder is ridiculous.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 08:15 PM
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You're acting hopeless again. I would suggest therapy because you're blaming yourself too much. For what I see what haunts you is not a matter of skill, or looks, or razz, but a matter of self confidence and self worth and I'm talking from personal experience, I've tried so many things too, I've been single for almost 13 years and started therapy 3 years ago, until then I was prettyuch like you. From all the trying I've done since, I've never been even close to dating someone (I have the added c…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 07:55 PM
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I'm not a woman to be able to help him the way you mention, but I'm sure the reason the red pill is so popular is because it questions the "dating game" as something that you can either win or lose. Now some clarifications about what you talk about. "Talk to women as human beings", you mean "women are human beings, talk to them like that". It's not an strategy dude, it's a petition. Please talk to women properly, they are human beings! (I'm not assuming anything from you or OP, but phrasing is e…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 07:48 PM
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Or you can just keep trying. Dancing classes tend to be very well balanced. Is there any kind of dance you're interested in learning?
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 07:30 PM
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Well, it seems you understand pretty well what I mean, but you decide to act confused and hopeless. I understand you're frustrated, but that doesn't mean you have to act like nothing can be done. Besides, there are a multitude of things to do in this world, coding shouldn't be your limitation. If you feel none works for you, then explore other hobbies that you always wanted to try. Take guitar classes, or painting, maybe join a club. Still, remote activities work. I am Ace, and I participate in …
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 07:26 PM
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Yes because for what I read the only reason you want to start dating is to have sex. Dating shouldn't be all about sex, all your frustrations are because you probably think women are just a little more than sex toys. If you want to date someone, stop thinking about the sex you'd get and start doing you hobbies (and explore new ones), participate in groups and communities to meet new people, don't just talk to strangers and declare your intentions at the first second.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 05:43 PM
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Well, yes. All points can be counterpointed with these: -Height, money, body fitness, as well as many other things are components of attractiveness in both men and women, but being ATTRACTIVE TO SOMEONE is not a list of things you should fulfill. -The 80/20 rule is not based on anything, it's just the red pill being a crybaby about women not immediately summiting sexually to its demands. -Anyone should be as sexually active as they want and are able to, withing the law, among proper age and CONS…
/r/ExRedPill16/09/23 12:32 AM
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Wanting to understand should lead to philosophy, not red pill.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/23 03:27 PM
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He came back lol.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/23 06:33 AM
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So is it cold? Even better. I can wear cool sweaters.
/r/ExRedPill03/09/23 09:48 PM
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Good. I'll be warm.
/r/ExRedPill03/09/23 09:26 PM
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Eh, I've seen way worse.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/23 07:54 PM
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Oh ok, have a nice day.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/23 08:23 PM
9

Sex is so overrated lol.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/23 05:54 PM
6

He probably thinks that men having sex with other women is not cheating and that it is within men's nature. Ask him this: "Do you think a men having sex with other women is cheating?" And see for yourself.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/23 07:32 PM
2

He's doing things and expecting to get his way on everything. He know you love him and you will never leave him. Prove him wrong, he will get mad and you will eventually see who he really is and what marrying him will be like.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/23 07:29 PM
7

It depends of each one. Men is not a monolith same a women. But the point of a relationship has a lot to do with having social interactions and having a romantic relationship often rely heavily in affection and respect.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/23 02:38 PM
8

Don't we all?
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 09:09 PM
10

Hmmm, good idea, but there is not a "very thing they want". It's okay if a woman prefers her partner as strongly masculine while remainings strongly feminine, or the complete opposite. Sure some things are more popular or common. Still, I do this remark because I notice one of the main practices RP and related communities do is to "sell" the idea of what women want, o what men want. The reality is that the world is diverse, and nobody should be expected to fill any set of rules or expectation to…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 07:28 PM
2

Nobody will feel sorry for you feeling guilt or bad if you think you're not a good person, unfortunately. Being a good person and being a bad person means nothing really. What matter is what kind of actions you make, and the ideas that make you act poorly or properly. If you refuse to reflect and really think about how bad those internalized ideas are and the bad consequences they have on others, you will never really get rid of them and they will control you forever. I hope you find a way to tr…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 07:11 PM
3

It's okay, they were self reflexion questions. I am happy he read them and I hope he have them in his mind from now on, since that's what matters when detoxing from RP.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 07:06 PM
2

I mean, why is it so necessary to speak with women? Like, you're looking for them to become friends, or are you going to be meeting women pretending to be friends, but secretly plotting to become something else? Quitting your bad habits and starting new healthier ones is great, but I just can't understand how you expect to improve your life by talking to more women beyond a "hi". Having friends is great, and when your friend group is gender balanced, it's even better, but I just can't begint gra…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 03:49 PM
5

Starting to seeing them as regular friends and not as a separate thing such as "lady friends".
/r/ExRedPill19/08/23 10:05 PM
2

I understand, I've been single for 12.5 years. Still I am happy, I stop caring about filling expectations some years ago and now I am surrounded of people that care about me. Also I am asexual, so that's maybe why I can't successfully start a relationship. I would suggest starting a healthier lifestyle, ONE habit at a time. Never start multiple things, just one at a time, for 3 months, then add other, and so on.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/23 07:08 AM
2

Don't beat yourself up too much. Literally most young men these days end up believing incels are a legitimate thing and not just a weird social phenomenum. "Lack of women" is a very weird concept, if you think about it. Does it mean you want to have an harem, or multiple girls behind you? Or maybe that you just want a loving GF? Does it mean you would like to have more women friends? These are questions you should answer honestly and clearly. If you want a lot of sexual partners, you need to be …
/r/ExRedPill18/08/23 06:09 AM
4

This is like asking what come first, the egg or the chicken. It really doesn't matter, what matter is that being an incel sucks hard.
/r/ExRedPill17/08/23 07:17 PM
5

There's not a good reason to believe in red pill.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 12:51 AM
8

The stigma thing. Doubting her just for her orientation and wishing with all your might she somehow is the "least bisexual possible" will only increase that stigma and feed the idea that your GF, the one you love and care for, is or could be a whore. You cannot truly respect her as a person until you truly accept her for being bi, and for that you need to trust her and understand that bi people is still people.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/23 02:34 PM
1

Why would it matter. Are you happy in your relationship and you feel you care about her and protect her. That makes you a man, not the fact you're her one and only sexual partner ever.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 03:05 PM
1

Yep, waiting too long on a clinging feeling usually makes that feeling grow and grow. Suddenly it's a super mega huge deal and it feels the worst when things go wrong. That's why I say you don't have to wait that long to disclose your feelings. You either act on them or abandon them. Hiding them will just make things worse.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 10:22 PM
4

You might even be on the Asexual and/or Arromantic Spectrum (come to the dark side muahahaha). But seriously, being Ace is a spectrum and it's pretty common that we at some point feel pressured to be in a relationship with someone or that having sex is a way to feel a deep connection and that's utterly false. Significant relationships with people doesn't have to be sexual nor romantic. It doesn't makes much sense you're not happy relating with someone. I personally feel the most happy having doz…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 10:09 PM
5

It took a lot of courage to say that and I respect a lot people that stand up and declare what maked them uncomfortable. Your hate on men is a very valid feeling and of course something that you must work on because it mainly affects yourself. Thanks for sharing this, it's a great show of the kind of damage and toll RP can take on a wonderful person that just want to be happy... ...and yes, we all have an issue with us, some of us are people pleasers, some are just too caring. The fact is that n…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 09:58 PM
1

I don't see that as a problem. I think the real problem is building up expectations for a girl under her nose. This is awful since whenever you act on those pumped up expectations, you have a long time of preparation, while she had next to no time to prepare and up to that point was only able to see you as a normal person and is in a situation where you're taking a huge leap. That's too much responsibility for a person, no wonder they prefer to just escape and say no. That just sucks for everybo…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 09:38 PM
22

First you must realize that you won't be attractive to all woman, no matter what you do or change. Most women would just not like you back, and this has nothing to do with you. Once you are okay with this thought, you must think about the things about yourself you like and other people seem to like and work on make all that shine and show while feeling natural and comfortable. Then do activities where you can meet new people that could like those things you found about yourself, just remember th…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 09:11 PM
2

I was never deep into RP, but I did consider myself an incel at certain point in my life, and would definitely fall for it if the timing was right. The reason I abandoned all this way of thinking is because it started affecting my personal relationship with people I respected and considered morally gifted, then realized I was in depression because of how many valuable people I pushed away. Then I started listening to the other side.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 09:03 PM
3

It may be too soon to worry about that now. What matter now is how she feels right now and what to do about it.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 07:47 AM
1

It's called "gaslighting" and is one of the most silent forms of abuse, in my opinion one of the worst.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 02:09 AM
2

Somewhere else. I mean, they're not complementary. You can have a critical opinion about each of them.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 02:03 AM
2

Harder doesn't mean impossible. Look who's making generalized statements. Sorry, but I think you're playing so many excuses to feel pesimistic about this. This is not healthy and won't help you in any way.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 06:06 PM
2

That something is easier for paople on team Cougar doesn't mean it's imposible to people on team Eagle. Of course genes can be very important to help you develope certain skills, including social ones, but that doesn't mean you have to give up on trying to have an enjoyable life doing what you like. Not because you weren't born 7' tall means you can't play basketball and have a fun time, even competitively. Yeah, maybe you will not play for the Lakers or whatever team you fancy, but that doesn't…
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 06:03 PM
3

Most people fake their size, this has been proven MULTIPLE times (you can give LPSG forum about the 10 inch search a read. It has been years and no one has been able to prove legit they're 10+ in). But besides that, is not only that sex is not all about penetration. Relationships are not all about sex most of the time. You need to convince yourself that different people think different. A bunch of women being size queens doesn't prove all women are, most aren't actually. In fact, most people wou…
/r/ExRedPill07/02/23 01:55 AM
3

I believe in you! If I could make them smaller, I'm sure you can! It's a great start you're here trying to become a better person. You're already on your way ;) Keep pushing!
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 08:23 PM
3

Love can happen at any age. I am almost 30 and I feel like I'm in my golden years for dating. It has been really hard, but I have been working for 3 years on my own personal growth and it's paying off, I have multiple friends and meeting potential partners all the time, even though I am asexual and a weird enby fam that dropped out college. But at least I know myself way better now and understand what people like about me and how to build significant relationship (not necessarily romantic) based…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 08:16 PM
2

:(
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 08:09 PM
2

No.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 08:04 PM
2

Problems are not objectively small or big, all that matters about them is how big or small they are for YOU.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 07:46 PM
1

I would recommend you HealthyGamerGG. He's not actually actively criticizing these people, but he's an actual therapist giving advises for actual self improvement and has a lot of therapy sessions with famous gamers that go really deep into insecurities and trauma and you learn a lot about them and yourself, also you feel like your problemas are not actually that special which makes easier to overcome your fears and actually take care of them.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 07:38 PM
2

Pro advise: don't refer to content creators unless they're extremely well known like Andrew Tate (leave their names for the comment section). In many anti red pill subs I've seen multiple times people seemingly attacking content creators, but ultimately saying "well this does makes sense, so maybe he's not that bad" and posting links to advertise them. Many of us here know this, thus react strongly when it seems this is happening.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 07:07 PM
7

I didn't know this. Thank you.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/23 05:35 AM
3

Do you really think having sex with someone because they're hot and not other reason whatsoever can be called a relationship? At that point having a realistic hot robot to have sex with would serve that purpose just nice. No need to get involved with other people.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 06:54 PM
3

A relationship happen between two people and can be whatever BOTH of them decide. It can be what you mentioned or even less than that. But we're human, most of us look for an emotional connection in our significant relationships, so yes, sex is kinda secondary. Sure it can be important to kickstart everything, but this is not for everyone. I am asexual and I'd be happy never having sex with my SO ever, or ocassionally, or often. It doesn't matter to me, but if it matters to you, that's okay, jus…
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 06:50 PM
2

No, attraction is an emotional response to an appeal when you perceive someone. Attraction is not the same as love. There are many types of attraction, but I think you refer to sexual attraction and I don't think it is mutually exclusive from friendship. They just work at different levels you can have both, either or none. There is also romantic attraction that may or may not be in line with sexual attraction, and platonic attraction that most of the time comes from friendships.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 06:40 PM
1

I will consider the fact that you already have half a life built with him. I don't think it is wise to leave him right now, but you need to know how bad this RP thing is for you and your future, then he needs to know how you feel about it and how important it is to you that he stops consuming more redpill content. Yes, this needs confrontation, and quick, because if he already has this ideas and watches a lot of content, with time it will only be harder to get him out of it. No man that believes…
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 05:02 AM
3

I've been single for god know how much, at least 10 years. I found out I am asexual like 2 years ago and I feel horribly disgusted they claim to "not feel sexual or romantic attraction" just out of pure hate, because that's not something you suddenly decide to do. That said, you can start by stop looking at the dating human dynamic like a market, it is not a place you go and get a date as a transaction, it is, as any other human interaction, just a social activity. You see dating as a market mea…
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 02:54 AM
1

Don't worry, they exist. I've been rejected for being too tall being 6' 1''. The problem seems here to not be your height, but how you think the world perceives you. If you were taller than me, you'd likely still feel too short because taller people exist, and you might feel women would prefer those other taller guys. The problem here is not that you're short (which you're not, you're average), but that you somehow feel you need to fill some template to be accepted by woman. People fall in love …
/r/ExRedPill24/01/23 04:08 AM
3

As I see it, there is no "middle ground" that is not, as you call it, an extreme, for being or not a racist. Since RP and MGTOW all come from mainly mysogynistic ideas and purposes, there is really not a good reason to "agree 40% with them". The ideas you might find on those spaces that are worth to talk about most likely were said by other people in better places, like philosophy books or non-cult religions and non-scam non-cult related motivational speeches.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 09:36 PM
1

As a Latinx, I feel the urge to say "chismecito!?". It basically means "I have bad FOMO and would appreciate to be filled in. Context please?".
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 03:59 PM
2

You're thinking about personal worth as a transactional value you exchange with women to get something back. That's not necessarily it. Self worth is about being enough for yourself by yourself with the help of others, not rely on what other people think of you.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 03:57 PM
1

There is a major difference between being undesirable and worthless and FEELING undesirable and worthless. I think your case is mostly the second and it gets worse because you seem a bit indoctrinated that "women are the prize". For me, you're basing all this text in what you feel is important and you like. Thus, you like women and value they're pretty to the point you think they are instantly rich for being desirable (not true, adult content models have often difficulties getting enough money a…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 03:53 PM
0

u/absolutebeginners u/RedPillDetox, I would suggest adding a rule to forbid doing post promoting channels on any other page like Youtube or Tiktok since it can be a way to circumvent rule 5. Just forbid sharing general channels on posts, discussions about specific videos it's actually a good way to help this community critically evaluate ideas and trends. Thank you in advance.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 07:43 PM
2

Sorry, I meant pyramid schemes, a type or MLM.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 06:04 PM
6

Any source of that so called history not being a Youtube or Tiktok video? No "do your own research" is allowed.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 08:18 PM
0

Erase and edit the original comment. Sorry, it was the wrong comment.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 07:36 PM
12

Your mind is poisoned by the red pill. No woman I know, which is 80% of my friends, ever cheats and somehow emotionally dams herself to the other man. They pretty much act the same as any guy, mostly stay because their relationships are codependent lol. Most relationships are in my group of friends and that's a shame. But the point is that both act the same, it's just that men cheating are socially perceive differently than women cheating, and that messes with the objectivity of the comparison.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 07:34 PM
5

I just have one. Don't ever take most of your life advices from the Internet, specially tiktok and youtube. Have friends, most will be shitty since you're young and I know for a fact nobody teach us to make good friends, but eventually you will find long lasting important caring friendships that will actually care about you (none of them will be redpills) and help you become a better version of yourself each day. Also eat 3 healthy meals a day and drink at least half a gallon of (plain) water a …
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 04:52 PM
11

Better advise. Do not listen to them, they're abusive horrible human beings.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 08:16 PM
7

To start the detox process you need to cut your redpill supply. Start new youtube, tiktok, etc. accounts and consume mainly gaming and your other (and desired) interests. Run from and block all redpill-esque content that you find. If possible, stop talking as much as you can with these "friends" of yours. If you can afford it, consider starting with therapy for your insecurities.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 08:14 PM
6

I was not saying you're a hardcore redpilled, but advising that most hardcore redpills start just like you. Also, of course people say things that are not wrong, that's exactly how they become famous. They say 100 unreasonable utter BS to become viral, then say one thing everyone will agree upon, repeat that clip and use it as "I know this dude says some funny shit, but some things he say actually make sense" and BAM, years later they're making money from all the people that would pay to become …
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 07:31 PM
1

Oh yeah, I was being a bit ironic, the fact is that he was arrested, the rest is just the sprinkles of irony that makes that much more fun, although a little deceptive on the details.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 05:15 PM
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"Adopt what I like". That how most hardcore redpilled men start, moreso if they're young like you. Remember that whatever place you often visit, you will start getting not only what you like, but unconsciously a lot more. That's how easy it is to manipulate ANY person, that's why MLM is illegal. MLM is not directly stealing money from you, but it manipulates you into thinking you will become a millionaire on a model that require an absurd amount of people to not only exist, but to be as naive as…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 04:58 PM
7

And getting himself arrested for a rage reply to an (non-derogatory) autistic girl.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 04:48 PM
3

Is everything okay?
/r/ExRedPill15/01/23 06:52 PM
4

Ermmmm well like everything, even if it looks good or bad, it is okay to have a preference for things like this. It's okay if you prefer someone with a low body count as a partner, but you don't have to be a dick about it, declare it the first second you met someone or to be intrusive asking about someone's body count multiple times. Afterall, you're meeting someone and your intention to become their partner still needs reciprocate feelings you don't know exist. It is frustrating when you met so…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/23 06:27 PM
1

Nobody said they were uncomfortable with men as allies. They don't trust random men trying to use feminism as a way to get close to them and, possibly harm them or abuse them. This is not a crazy idea, but a measure to prevent things like this to happen, which unfortunately is more common than we think. Edit.- So, even if it is not a culture, and is whatever objectively it is, it is a movement of people trying to achieve equality and stop abuse and violence against women. Which people? mostly wo…
/r/ExRedPill12/01/23 12:23 AM
1

I support feminism, I prefer to abstain from calling myself one because actual feminist friends are uncomfortable when cis men try to appropriate the term calling themselves feminists. They feel unsafe when strange men appear on protests and talks. That is why I don't think cis men should call themselves feminists, and it hardly matters if you're gonna support them the best you can anyway.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/23 05:44 AM
1

They can deny their anger issues all they want, it doesn't make it less true. Poor person.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/23 06:19 PM
-1

Cis-men cannot be feminists because feminism is by women to women. Besides that. Haven't you thought that some men spend time supporting women because they think it's the right thing to do? A lot of red pills and ex red pills seem to forget that normal people do things because they think that is correct and not because they want to be noticed by women or get something in exchange.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/23 06:42 AM
4

The biggest exponents of the red pill build their communities more like cults than anythings else. Be in denial of everything, if someone proves you wrong, just act non-chalant and say they are ACTUALLY somehow proving you right, and addressing all strong sources and points with ad hominem arguments. Just watch any cult documentary and see how people used to react to people outside their community trying to help them.
/r/ExRedPill04/01/23 02:58 AM
3

I am going to tell you something that might hurt a bit, so sorry in advance. This kind of questions come from your own insecurities; people, mostly girls, would avoid to interact with you when you ask these questions because they usually lead to a conversation that is less of an interesting, meaningful talk, and more like therapy. Nobody wants to be someone else therapist for free, less so when they're a stranger. That said, what a bunch of women on the internet tell you about their personal pre…
/r/ExRedPill03/01/23 11:34 PM
1

It's better to have real people as role models and not just a concept that is not even well defined and outdated.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/23 04:57 PM
6

Fox news doesn't have or had actual people living in confinement without any possibility to leave.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/23 08:15 AM
2

"Emotional wellbeing" is not a label, it's a concept."Gentleman" is a label and shouldn't be compared at all. One is a property of any entity with emotions, the other is a classification of certain behaviors from men to appeal to women. I don't even understand why would you compare them at all. BTW, who says crying very often is healthy? Where do you get this data? I haven't ever hear that; my therapist says "crying when you feel like crying is healthy" which is not the same and never ever heard…
/r/ExRedPill02/01/23 07:52 AM
10

The idea of a "gentleman" is outdated and even toxic. People should stop looking for labels and titles to fit in and focus on their own emotional, physical and mental wellbeing, that's the most effective way to have successful relationships. It's not healthy to look for some general, intangibles approval by fitting into he concept of a gentleman or alpha or all that nonsense. You need to be the best version of yourself for yourself, not for other people.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/23 09:02 PM
3

It's cool man. I enjoy helping other guys that used to think like me.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/22 05:34 PM
5

You don't have to be married to a pill. Just be critical of yourself, don't let other people's ideas get through your skull, be conscious about what of the things you believe would hurt other's lives nad beliefs. For example, someone might say, "girls wants to get someone with money and looks without offering anything and they use feminism to justify an manipulate nice guys". You've gotta ask yourself, "Is this really what happens? Even if it does, is it common enough to make me hate Lal or most…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/22 06:10 PM
3

You won't ever turn confident from one day to the other. It takes time and work. Work on yourself, what makes you feel so bad about you, your childhood and how it affected that AND how to be accountable today to heal that wound. What about your parents make you feel bad about you AND how to heal that too. Try to be conscious how much time you spend finding excuses to feel bad instead of finding solutions and ways to improve yourself. You'll be shocked how often the first one happen. It's very po…
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 08:09 PM
6

Dating is more than dating apps, starting with yourself is important, and frustration about not being able to date is not going to make it any easier. The best way to make dating easier and frustration to go away is to work in yourself.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 01:23 AM
6

"facts and logic". Proceeds to rant from his bad management of feelings and anger about how everything is harder for him, confusing 3 personal, probably made up experiences as facts and using "Because I say so" as logic.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/22 09:44 PM
2

There is not a general "being attractive". Even if you could shape your body whatever you want, you would never be attractive to everyone, no matter what you choose. You should only fill the physical expectation of 1 person in this world: YOU. Then you can work of refine what you already like about yourself to be more appealing to someone you care about. Just be careful, no matter how you look, nobody is obligated to like you and is not selfish for someone to prefer a different kind of body, as …
/r/ExRedPill30/11/22 12:35 AM
1

When you're self conscious and accountable about the things you say, do and think and how they affect others, specially women.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:34 PM
2

You're in your early 20s, there's plenty of time to learn how to feel better. You will recover. I don't think what you expressed is cringey, I think it is brave you decided to share it despite the fact people would normally beat you down for saying something like that in those toxic spaces. You're not stuck, maybe you just feel hopeless about yourself, but the one that needs help the most right now is YOU. Learn about you, how to love you, what you really like, what you cannot accept and maybe s…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:31 PM
1

You have internalized expectation about both women and men that you're generalizing by seeing some examples that confirm them, but ignoring all the other cases and it makes you think women are one way, when you're judging all women, instead of the couple people that do what you mention.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:26 PM
1

Change and leaving a comfort zone is always challenging. It's normal you feel like that, it's even a good indicator that you're changing, which in this case it the correct direction.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:06 PM
3

The former. Red pill and Black pill influencers are either working for someone bigger, getting views or building a cult like community to scam and sell the "secret to have all the women you want, be rich and do as you please without any effort because men are cool and women suck".
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 09:57 PM
2

The question is "attractive to who".
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 08:53 PM
3

Being similar doesn't mean being super compatible. Knowing someone is compatible with you usually takes months if not years.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 08:49 PM
2

Congratulation on spitting those ugly pills. You had some really great interpretations and insights there, like the fact parties are not a good place to meet someone for a long term relationship, which might not be true, but goes the right way. I'd say that becoming a couple with someone you just met should not generate the expectation that such relationship would be a long term one. Also, bad selfish people exist in all shapes and forms, but there is not enough context to judge her for that. A …
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 08:42 PM
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