Exredpills

dharkanine · 2023-01-19T05:18:14+00:00

1) Take care of yourself. Hygiene/grooming, fitness, fashion sense. Eat healthy foods. Make your bed first thing in the morning. Stay off social media.

2) Establish two or three hobbies. You're still in school; this is the last time you'll have 100% time outside of work to actually do whatever you want to do unless you become a millionaire, which is extremely unlikely (though possible).

3) Practice loving the people you know. Figure out what gifts best suit each member of your family. Learn to (wisely) give your time, money, and self. This habit will pay dividends when you're older.

4) Work on learning to maintain what you own. Ask your dad if you can help out around the house and with the family vehicles.

5) Have fun. You only get one life. Make the most of what you have. Share time with family and work to make new friends and find memories where you can. Don't dwell on the internet; this is an angry place and it will all be here when you come back.

6) Get your money right. Learn to save and budget now. If you manage to save $1 a day, that's $365 you have at the beginning of next year. This skill will carry on through the rest of your life.

That's all I can think of atm. Good luck.

Shot-Cellist9635 · 2023-01-19T06:06:24+00:00

Download duolingo and d the libravox audio book app. Both free. Use the internet as a tool but don't be it's tool. Limit your social media usage to 30 minutes a day. Get affordable hobbies that you can carry into adulthood one to do alone and one to do with others. Begin maintaining healthy habits. Learn to enjoy solitude because it will make you selective in who you let in your life. Trust me, it will.

Meat_Vegetable · 2023-01-19T06:39:45+00:00

As many others here have said, limit social media usage, get hobbies, try a bunch and see what you enjoy. Learn how to enjoy being alone, this may sound stupid but no one wants a partner they have to babysit. Make sure you know how to cook, clean, take care of yourswlf, and how to do common handywork. This will pay off in the long run.

Also, don't date purely based on looks, take time to actually learn who someone is. Don't fantasize about a potential life with them, don't think of baby names nor how your kids may look. Live in the now and learn who that person is in the now.

Exis007 · 2023-01-19T13:48:53+00:00

A lot of people gave some good advice that I would have covered, but I am going to throw in two dark horse options.

Become a rockstar at emotional regulation. This is a long process, you can't do it overnight, and it is something you have to work on here and there. But the greatest unsung adult superpower is being able to feel your feelings, process them, and not let them control your behavior. No matter how great or successful your life is, there will be everyday things that make you tired, angry, frustrated, afraid, embarrassed, ashamed, etc. etc. A lot of adults spend their life doing incredible contortions to avoid feeling those things, because they are, indeed, deeply uncomfortable. Generally people's first line of attack is to avoid having to feel those things, by numbing them out or avoiding them or repressing them or trying to control their life or other people in such a way that bad things never happen. That doesn't work. What you generally need instead is a whole toolbelt of healthy coping mechanisms and skills that let you feel feelings, even when those feelings suck, and process them so you can move on. I think this is the single greatest level-up in terms of being adult you can possibly attain. It'll make for happier interpersonal relationships, romantic and platonic, it'll help you at your job, it impacts parenting a great deal, it makes minor irritations like the DMV and calling your ISP manageable, and it's the biggest contributor to your overall mental well-being, day in and day out. Learning it is not easy. This isn't a simple answer. But in terms of bang for your buck, I think it's your best investment.

Secondly, outside of infidelity, the thing I see killing the most otherwise-healthy relationships right this moment is unequal domestic labor. This isn't a sexy answer, but stupidly relevant. Running your life outside of your job, whether you're 16 and relatively unencumbered or married with four children, is a never-ending job. Now is the time to start learning how to do all the aspects that go into running a household as much as you can. Can you mop a floor? Can you clean a toilet? Can you call your doctor and make an appointment? Do you understand taxes? This is a long process, because you won't take on every aspect of this responsibility for a couple of years, but whenever there's an opportunity to learn how the hell adults [insert task here], take it. Learn to clean a kitchen, learn to cook enough to feed yourself, ask your parents how they are grocery shopping and what goes into that process. Learn to change furnace filters. You will thank me later.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-01-19T05:24:22+00:00

Interpersonal skills, look good, mental health, and career.

Royal_Chipmunk_1948 · 2023-01-19T16:42:04+00:00

Everyone gave you so much good advice, i just want to compliment you for being aware enough at your age to end up here, seeking positive advice. Keep it up

Ifhes · 2023-01-19T16:52:49+00:00

I just have one. Don't ever take most of your life advices from the Internet, specially tiktok and youtube. Have friends, most will be shitty since you're young and I know for a fact nobody teach us to make good friends, but eventually you will find long lasting important caring friendships that will actually care about you (none of them will be redpills) and help you become a better version of yourself each day. Also eat 3 healthy meals a day and drink at least half a gallon of (plain) water a day.

Edit.- I have another important one. Respect a good person, specially good women. That means being GOOD, not NICE. Being Nice is doing good things to get something back, like an exchange or transaction. Being good is doing good things just for the sake of it, for you own personal, unspoken, silent gratification. People, women, are living their own lives, some are bad, some are good, they don't owe you anything and you don't owe them anything either, if you do good things without expecting somethign back that feeling of unfairness will go away and you will feel your actions matter because they matter to the most important person in the equation. You.

RedPillDetox · 2023-01-19T09:11:24+00:00

Dress fashionably and don't mind about the comments of your peers. Go to the gym and lift. Get involved on extracurricular activities where you can make new groups of friends, drop those activities if you ain't making friends there. Don't respect people who don't respect you, don't be afraid to tell them outright to fuck off.

Academic_Type624 · 2023-01-19T10:40:57+00:00

As time goes on figure out yourself. What are your values? What do you love doing? What kind of life do you want? And try your best to like yourself.

It takes time to do that and it's completely normal. Late teens and early 20s are about trying new things.

Try to have good people in your life

Dehydrated_Jellyfish · 2023-01-19T21:00:21+00:00

Redpill has good feedback on exercise and finances but not dating. Pick and choose the content.

sickbabe · 2023-01-20T05:24:51+00:00

do you live in/near a city? look up if the local museums have teen programs. I'm kicking myself 10 years later for not going to any in mine.

Stargazer1919 · 2023-01-20T18:58:27+00:00

I would say it's really important to make friends and acquaintances with people. You will need a social circle of good people. It will help you in dating. It will help you in your career. it's helpful for your mental health. There will be many times in life when you're looking for a job, or looking to date, or you need help with something. It's important to have decent people in your life which can help point you in the right direction. Making connections is important. I'm sure you will learn that you can be good company to other people too.

You don't need to be super popular, rich, or hot, or anything like that. If you go to all the social events you can, talk to people like a normal human being, have a sense of humor and be chill, you'll be fine.

Title	Exredpills
Author	boki_1506
Upvotes	8
Comments	17
Date	January 19, 2023 5:06 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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