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I'm sort of in the same situation as you (early/mid 20s and virgin) and generally, that sounds like a reasonable first date experience; short and it helps you gauge if you'd want to go any further. Once you start dating more, the harsh reality sets in; it just isn't worth trying to get to know some people because your core values/ambitions are so different. It's important to date multiple guys at the same time for this reason; it can be a daunting prospect at first but it works great once you ge…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 04:14 PM
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Men do have the same visceral reaction; they just express their reaction differently and are likely to not report because they don't want to be discussed, ridiculed, or patronized. The aversion is not about the touch, in my opinion. It's about feeling cornered, unable to escape, or given no option. Given that men are typically physically stronger than women, it's unlikely for a woman to initiate or aggravate a guy in that manner. There is a running commentary on men being raped in prison; whilst…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 01:12 AM
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Very, very common. My mother was very, very, very protective of me so I was never touched by anyone until I reached the age 17. I was never social so I never got groped in parties or at outdoor places. I was sexually assaulted (inappropriate touching in genitals) and indecently assaulted (inappropriate touching excluding genitals), aggravated and otherwise by colleagues, employers, supervisors, landlords, and various others in between. This does not include sexual harassment, I.e: individuals wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 12:53 AM
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Never been in a relationship but currently dating and have dated a few older men. I'm in my mid-20s. Statistically, age gap (unrelated but also interracial/interclass) relationships don't last very long. Most relationships rely on people having similar values, aspirations, pace in life, etc. and you're more likely to have that with someone of a similar age (and person of the same culture/background). Women from lower socioeconomic backgrounds and poorer education are highly likely to use their l…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 11:34 PM
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Hair was one of the hardest thing for me to figure out because there is a lot of variation in hair. I feel like I have enough knowledge on hair (especially mine) to write a book on it. I think it's important to know the following about one's natural hair. You should determine the following: hair density (how many hair follicles per area of skin) thickness of hair shaft hair porosity (how easily does it absorb water) hair pattern (curly, straight, etc.) natural hair colour (dark, light, graying, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 11:20 PM
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I've used an epilator and hot wax on various parts of my body and I could not do it for my pubic area, despite my high pain tolerance. I generally, strongly don't recommend doing an at home Brazillian; I've heard of professionals messing things up; ripped skin, burns, infection, etc. ​ The first time is painful, there will be some blood, and the hair grows in different directions so it helps to know which direction to place the wax and pull. The last thing you'd want is to have placed a waxed st…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/19 06:12 PM
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Generally speaking, men are designed to respond to physical touch more; it has the potential to incite every emotion from rage, sadness, admiration, etc. On the other hand, women respond to a lot of things, which renders physical touch not much importance. To generalise things vastly, a woman is more likely to be very affected due to a lot of little things and a man is likely to be affected by physical touch (or absence of). ​ It's not an equal playing ground for either sex. I can't speak for ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 05:51 PM
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Everyone has challenges unique to themselves and what they're trying to achieve. Life isn't easy; if it is, then you're not doing enough. ​ I think the deepest challenge that I can truly empathise to is complacency; rejecting any form of self-improvement whilst striving for an arbitrary form self-acceptance. The whole "be yourself" idea. ​ The crux of the problem I can identify with is the following: There's a lack of good, agnostic role-models and counsel for men; the education system and teach…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 04:48 PM
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The following is my personal opinion and stuff I'm doing for personal exploration; I don't consume mainstream media (hate Hollywood-based flicks), don't watch porn, and don't purchase any visual stuff that depicts the male body. I don't like accepting favours from men and I don't have male friends whom I rely on for favours/appreciation. I'm also not sexually experienced and not sexually active; recently, I also stopped any masturbatory related activities. ​ I've only just started dating and as …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 03:47 PM
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I don't really care about height. If I had a preference, I'd say around my height but that's a tricky metric. I don't go out with a measuring tape. Due to my lanky build and heels, I can look like I'm 6' tall despite being only 5'7''. I've recently made it a practice to sit straight and keep my head high and I feel like I look taller than most people who hunch, when seated. ​ My preference is for men who have a stocky build; strong, thick forearms and calves look great. Typically, they happen to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 03:09 PM
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A good leader is many things; he helps a group achieve a particular objective. He understands that at times, there're going to be a clash in needs and it's OK to make a decision that might temporarily forego some people's preferences over others. There might be some hurt feelings at the moment but in the grand scheme of things, everyone is going to appreciate you for doing the right thing. ​ There is nothing more endearing than a guy who is a good leader but also makes small concessions for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 02:38 PM
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I'd say try practicing the stuff you'd want to be good at; cook nice meals, learn ways you enjoy organising and decorating your current living space, meet people, etc. Adjusting to a new environment and workplace can be challenging; try talking to someone or engage in communal activities to feel more conncected. Volunteering, if you've the time, is a nice cathartic thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 11:43 PM
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I've been on a vegetable "steak" thing recently since I got an electric grill pan; cut large, thick slices of a vegetable like cauliflower, eggplant, zucchini, sweet potato, etc. and soak it in your favourite marinade and grill until your preferred texture. I also like beans/pulses so if they agree with your digestive system, soups/stews/chilis/curries with beans instead of meat can be quite nice. I also like cooking my beans in large batches and make "burger" patties with leftover beans, some g…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 02:06 PM
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I've recently been gifted books written by Marie Kondo and I like her tips for organising. I've actually tried following her tips and I find that it's a lot better than any other previous organising methods I've tried; I have hired a home organiser before and it never quite worked for me because it was just too much label-maker and plastic boxes. Due to the amount of stuff I had, there were many things that I could not access. It takes a bit of time but the mindfulness and the overall method is …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 02:00 PM
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I'm not sure if I'd agree with this idea of dressing. Some people can get away with dressing more provocatively simply because they are leaner with less curves. A lot of clothes which seem extremely sexy on the rack look a little more modest on me because I don't have a pronounced cleavage or a large derriere. On the other hand, curvier women tend to need to be a little more careful with their clothing, in order to seem more conservative. It's also important to wear colours that works best for o…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 01:39 PM
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I'm actually thinking of saving a little bit of money each month and by the time I reach age X and might get tired of using my usual avenues, I'd go with a matchmaker agency. I do worry about using it right now because I'm a little younger and based on my chat with the matchmaker, a lot of the men using the site are a little older and sometimes, with kids. I think the price itself would be a huge factor; it seems like an amount only someone who is serious about looking would spend. Glad to see y…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 01:10 PM
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I'm not sexually experienced and given my current dating habits, I'll likely be sexually inexperienced for a while. That being said, I'm not too fussed about high n-counts. The men who are obsessed over my non-existent sexual past are not necessarily men whom I'd want to be with. I prefer guys who are honest about their sexual lives than guys who just agree/pander to my perspective; I find that most guys who pander to my perspective end up being a little... weird about sex and are often very ope…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 01:04 PM
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I think people who know how to cook well can be quite picky with food; I refuse to spend money on food like sandwiches, soup, salads, fast food, etc. because I know I can make it better at home for cheaper. I'm quite happy to have a protein shake, cereal/oatmeal and fruit, etc. if I'm busy but I refuse to pay exorbitant (relative to cost) amounts of money for a shitty salad. I also watch what I eat and that makes me very picky when I eat out. I've seen a lot of people eat very plain food because…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 03:57 PM
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I think the art of cooking and traditional homemaking is a bit lost. I may sound a little snobbish when I say that opening jars and cans, dumping stuff together in a big pot and stirring isn't cooking to me. It works in a pinch but it's not actual cooking. I am lucky in the sense that I lived with a very traditional family; not only was there homemade hot meals everyday, there was also fresh baked goods, homemade snacks, and a full pantry of food in case there was surprise guests and my mother n…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:40 PM
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I'd probably say that we're in similar positions, on some regard. I think having really, really high expectations with regards to your private/personal life as well as your career is fair but it can be overwhelming to think of it on a day-to-day basis. I think it's important to have general coping mechanisms in your everyday life that helps you to deal with overwhelming thoughts; I meditate and exercise, in order to reduce the anxiety I have with regards to the future. I also enjoy cleaning, org…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:06 PM
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I see the point in your premise; a career woman would be one of the more challenging types of people to date. That being said, not everyone develops a single-minded obsession for their career/improving finances. A career takes a woman away (time-wise) from the household and a person/man that expects a woman to do every aspect of the household/childcaring duties should not be with a career woman. On the other hand, being under a financial strain or strict budget can be very stressful and women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 11:10 PM
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I used to think that it was an act of benevolence and charity to entertain any individual that showed interest in me, despite my finding them unsuitable. Upon deeper meditation, I realised that my so-called "benevolence" comes from a place of fear; I feared rejection and I coped poorly with it. I have been lucky in my life to have mostly dealt with reasonable success that reflected the amount of effort I expended. Dating is one area where effort does not match results; when viewed as a game, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 01:32 PM
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Thank you (again) for the insightful comment. My personal upbringing/beliefs/practices with regards to fraternising with the opposite sex is very conservative and it doesn't reflect the current practices. I find it useful on an everyday basis, working/studying amidst mostly male peers and colleagues; I spend a fair bit of effort fending off people/keeping relations professional and that may have bled into my dating life. Since this post, I have been recommended and found some material on flirtat…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 06:54 PM
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I understand that it does not conform to the modern reality and norms regarding sex. My upbringing and personal beliefs/actions are more conservative with regards to sex, therefore I do expect some degree of adhering to celibacy and abstinence in the process of it all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 06:37 PM
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Thank you for the comment and the material on flirting. You've mentioned things that I have definitely overlooked and not considered enough.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 06:29 PM
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I don't know which religion you're in so I can't figure if claiming the title is a significant part of it. In some religion, there is no distinction between respect and practice; not practicing implies lack of respect. As long as there are no significant and extended interactions between both parties, you could get away with playing mum or feigning ignorance...?
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 09:24 PM
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I think I'm starting to understand that I am neglecting the physical aspect of dating too much; I do have some apprehension that I need to think about. I will need to reconsider my approach to physical touch. As of now, my time is spent working, studying, and on various self-improvement endeavours; gym, climbing, yoga, grooming, etc. It's not highly attractive pursuits but I need it due to years of neglecting my appearance. My actual hobbies are solitary pursuits which keeps me sane. I'd like to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 09:14 PM
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I think I do need to find a way to not broach deep stuff and have more interesting fun things to talk about. I don't socialise much but I do try more and I'm currently living with a housemate, which helps a lot. I wait a fair bit before I'd agree to kiss someone... it might seem excessive based on your estimate. I think it's something I need to rethink. I am lucky, in the sense that I can find people willing to go on first dates quite easily. Whilst I look feminine, I've been told that I look a …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 08:58 PM
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Thank you for the comment. I think I have not considered much of the physical aspect of sex; I wouldn't claim to be very comfortable with sex and I do have some apprehension, given that it is unchartered territory. I should find some way to be OK with touching but also find a way to control the escalation.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 08:28 PM
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It's more than a lecture; I've listened to over 200 hours of his lectures, interviews, podcasts, and ebooks. A bulk of the hours involve me re-listening to the same few lectures. I am not omniscient enough to determine the fairness of my pursuit/inspiration to people who do not yet exist (to my present knowledge). Personally, I do not find the need to justify it past the statement of "I want it and I'm willing improve myself, within reason and physical limits, to obtain it?" What, in your opinio…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 08:20 PM
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My motivations have altered after I started listening to Jordan Peterson; I want to constantly aim to be better than to accept my status quo as the best possible outcome... My problem is that I never tried and I never got any internal or external motivation to try dating and be better at it. According to Jordan Peterson, one of the higher pursuits of humankind in a society is creating and sustaining a monogamous relationship. I think it would be a system that encourages me to be better and I cou…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 07:20 PM
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I should mention that I've yet to enjoy dating or any social interactions. I always presumed that I would enjoy it at some arbitrary point at my life... but that never happened. I think enjoying company requires some effort, for me. Dating and meeting new people has become a little easier and I have improved in many ways; I learn more from dating than doing nothing at all. I do take short breaks from dating, especially when work kicks in and I have other duties... but I often find it daunting to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 07:02 PM
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I got some feedback from acquaintances and people I've discussed dating with. Social interaction is an area that I am very weak at and I need some criticism and outside perspective in order to improve; I'm aware that the feedback may be misplaced hence my posing the question here. I apologise if I seem to use my autism as an excuse. I am not obsessed with telling people that I am autistic, I only do so to people whom I could potentially be in a relationship with. It is important to me because I'…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 06:40 PM
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I always never knew when to mention it and after talking to a few therapists, it seemed fair to bring it up early on, especially given that I can be oblivious to some normal social cues and require some time to acclimatise to people; sometimes, I can seem malicious/mean/arrogant when I'm just clueless. I've gone from wanting to be alone forever because it's easier to giving trying to be a better person in order to be in a good relationship; I would rather be single than be with a guy in a bad re…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 05:43 PM
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Mid-20s, live in a medium sized city. I work and study in the tech industry and that takes up all my time. I mostly date people who work in the industry (engineers, analysts, enterprise/solutions architects, programmers, developers, etc.).
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 05:21 PM
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I think my problem is that I am intense, direct, and I can't relax in public. I'm working on relaxing but I can't tolerate small talk for very long; my maximum is 5 hours and I felt numb and got a terrible headache. I can't really do much about time because... I have work commitments and so do the people I date. I try my best to communicate my interest by text but I can sense some frustration in the process. I also worry that I may like someone and later find out that we are significantly incomp…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 05:15 PM
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That is great progress. I love my Fitbit! It is an amazing tool for keeping me accountable, especially with my fitness stuff and helped me navigate my calorie intake and stop me from interesting on some days!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 04:14 PM
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I have hosted before (usually 10-15 people) and it is not easy. Cooking large volumes of food involves high risk; things could get undercooked/overcooked, soggy, burnt, split, underseasoned, etc. Apart from that, being a host is difficult; cleaning, decorating/arranging location, mingling, etc. can be a lot of work. Your menu has a lot of stuff that needs the oven and that seems daunting. For me, the first hour of a dinner party involves appetizers and drinks. A couple of boards of brie/camember…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 02:52 PM
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Religion may not seem important at first but it will become more and more important as people age and their relationships mature. Things like weddings, children (and what you'd want to impart to them), funerals, etc. all revolve around religious beliefs and their respective cultural norms. The problem can be with the fact that religious people can do/say things and behave in ways that may seem disrespectful to someone who is secular and a non-believer. This can be hard to tolerate and is somethi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 01:32 PM
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I think constant maintenance is the key. Good physical health, exercise, healthy diet, mental stimulation, and good mental health are the foundation. Without them, everything else will falter. I have always favoured a plant-based diet that with minimally processed foods and adequate supplementation; a healthy macrobiotic system in the digestive tract is my starting point. I believe in inversion (going upside down to get blood to the face/scalp), yoga, and Pilates-based exercise to educate a pers…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 12:57 PM
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I find that it is important to talk about things like ambition and finances; I find that asking about recent purchases, vacations, etc. is a good gauge for these things.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 04:34 PM
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I did not say it was OK. Personally, I'm amoral when it comes to marital fidelity and Idgaf about the bible. The point of the situation of mistress is that it is far from the wedded bliss you described for the younger woman, which is a highly unattractive prospect. An individual trapped in an unhappy marriage has few options and out of the lot, infidelity is the one with the least negative consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 03:58 PM
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I've asked around about this and I think there is some legitimacy to the preference. Some guys prefer "girls with no makeup" due to the time commitment they are sucked into, making accommodations for their girlfriends who are made up. There're certain constraints on planning and engaging in activities, when it comes to dating someone who likes and wears a lot of makeup. Same goes for women who dress stylishly and wear heels; it encumbers the woman and some men finds it intolerable. Hence, the bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 08:32 AM
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No one should ever be with someone that sucks them dry. If you're in a relationship where you contribute more than necessary and are not appreciated for your contributions... it is not a fulfilling relationship for either. Whether it is an older man throwing his money around for a young, beautiful wife or a woman being her husband's slave/doormat, it is not ideal. Also, you trivialize divorce and children in your example, which is not a fair reflection of real life. A lot of men prefer having a …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 08:20 AM
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Under certain circumstances, yes. I'd say that makeup and plastic surgery is deceiving on pictures/social media. If someone is making their decisions on appearance based on your made up, highly posed pictures on social media or dating apps, they may experience some degree of shock in real life. Minimal plastic surgery and makeup isn't really a big deal to me; I have had extensive dental work which improved the appearance of my jaw/lower face and I have a regimented skincare to preserve the shape…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 08:06 AM
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"Just be yourself" is good advice for someone that has gone through an outlier experience that has made them doubt their character, contribution, etc. and/or isn't sure on where to begin with their new endeavours. There're times where trying is better than not trying. Otherwise, being yourself is poor advice. It is not constructive and forces the idea of accepting negative attributes that are worth changing. Women are approached a lot at times but most men do not have the desired qualities, ambi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 07:58 AM
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Self-esteem relies as much on your environment as it does on yourself. You can't improve your self-esteem with a non-supportive environment; that would only be possible if you're delusional. RP values are a great rule of thumb for relationships but still falls back on the fundamental values of decency, reciprocity of kindness, etc. Once things breach those values, then it starts resembling a toxic and abusive relationship. RP just elaborates that things do not always work the way women/men might…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 05:38 PM
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I'm sort of in the same boat as you and I often find myself having more in common with slightly older men vs. men in my age bracket. I'm not looking to rush into a relationship and I find that this gives me a fair bit of option with the men I date. I think this year, I'm working more on my posture and overall fitness. I'd like to be a little leaner and overall, have a better physique. Diet-wise, I could always have less sugar and less processed foods but I've been pretty good last year so I'm ju…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 05:24 PM
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I'm terrible at flirting but these are the few tips I got: Make eye contact and hold it for a while. Smile when you make eye contact. If they end up talking to you, give them a compliment about their appearance/demeanor. Someone once told me that even in the past, men are only used to approaching after the woman gives them a sign, for instance, the proverbial dropping her handkerchief. A surefire way to get a man's attention is to ask him for help/advice/suggestions and if he's very curt about i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 05:06 PM
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I don't know how I would react to someone telling me that I needed to wear more makeup; I think it's a difficult thing to swallow at the best of times. I don't know what you look like and in general, I'm someone that goes for and prefers no makeup. There're some easy ways to go for a no makeup-makeup look but the cost can be prohibitive; microbladed eyebrows, eyelash extensions, lip-line tattoos, eyebrow tints, etc. all help women get ready a lot quicker during the day and wake up a little more …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 04:58 PM
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I would recommend trying to find people with your same type of aesthetic instead of steering towards being ultra-feminine or Stepford housewife. I get as many, if not more compliments in a white tee/black jean combo vs. dresses/skirts. First and foremost, the length of my hair makes me look decidedly female from a distance. I have hair that comes down to the small of my back and I wear it down most of the time, so that helps. I think learning to walk in heels/wearing heels is the most feminine t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 04:36 PM
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My exercise routine: Yoga/Pilates every morning and some evenings. Weights 4-6 times a week. High intensity cardio 0-3 times a week, if I'm in the mood/feeling anxious. Otherwise sedentary lifestyle and I skip workouts if I'm being active that day (bouldering, cycling, hiking, rowing, etc.). I would say 80% of my fitness is food-related. I control my food because I don't want to exceed a certain weight; I find that I look heavier past that and I like being in a lower weight range because it make…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/18 01:31 AM
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It was based off the traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 11:19 AM
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I grew up in a family where my mum did all the housework and my dad did all the yardwork, car maintenance, appliance maintenance, etc. When my dad died, I took up all the other stuff because my mum just wasn't good at it; she would spend hours trying to get something simple done and would often spend way too much on unnecessary parts or get ripped off by tradies. The reason my mum chose to do more was based on the tradition of career improvement; my mum encouraged me to focus more on our studies…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:28 AM
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To me, love is a promise. There can be circumstances where it's too easy to keep that promise but there will also be circumstances where the promise is hard to maintain. I view love as a shell/membrane that encapsulates similar objectives/higher purpose, loyalty, respect, and trust. In romantic love, it also includes fondness, good communication, and good sex. Without any of aforementioned components, love could simply an animated corpse bloated with lust and optimism; the decay rate has begun t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 08:29 AM
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I can't speak for RP suggestions but I've received a lot of Blue Pill suggestions (and this is why I disagree with them) There is someone out there for everyone, so just be yourself. (The above implies that there is no need for any sort of critical self-assessment and the respective improvement. Instead, a person should choose the path of least resistance. Apart from that, there is the perpetual idea that a person should accept/appreciate anyone that "accepts" them, which is in itself, a stupid …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 08:11 AM
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To me, the only benefit marriage offers is if a couple intends to stay monogamous in order to raise children. I wouldn't recommend marriage for any other reason, relative to the risk of separation/divorce. There is a natural trend towards serial monogamy where people spend a chunk of time with one person before they get tired of their old relationship/wish to enter a new phase in life without compromising the needs of their partner and this trend would cost a lot to someone who has gotten marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 07:30 AM
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I define a "clingy person" as a person who doesn't give enough time and space (and sometimes, respect) to their partner to respond to their requests/behaviour. The expectation of clingy person is for the other person to fulfill their needs/requests as quickly as possible; if they don't get their way immediately, they resort to emotional manipulation to guilt the other person into bending to their will/whims. To some degree, everyone has moments where they're clingy, especially when they're reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 07:04 AM
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I live in a city where things are quite expensive (but salaries are higher), so my costs do add up. I'll also add my justification for my expenditure below, for anyone who's interested. Fitness - $3000-ish per year. This includes good gymwear, towels, personal training/physio, yearly gym membership, yoga classes and other recreational activities. Apart from that, I also require some supplements such as BCAA, a really good protein powder, and some vitamins because I have a hectic lifestyle, I don…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 08:08 AM
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There're many reasons for a person to remain in an abusive relationship. First and foremost, an abusive relationship revolves around isolation and control. When someone chips away at your autonomy and puts you in a circumstance that makes you lose perspective, it can be hard to think that you need to leave; a lot of people can see that the relationship is bad but they wait for an escalation, so that leaving is "justified". Part of the thing a person loses in an abusive relationship is the third …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 06:12 AM
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This is an issue that I've found intriguing over the years; I believe that the issue is more of a question of physical dominance..? I'm 5'8''-ish but on the lower end of the BMI and this is quite rare for a woman my height. Typically, if the woman and men are of the same height, the woman could be more physically overpowering than the men in their relationship, and they see it as undesirable. I think a more accurate rule of thumb another woman said is that they wouldn't want a man who weighs les…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 04:39 AM
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One of my mentor's is an established professor in psychology and also a relationship counselor; one of the most poignant things she has mentioned is what I call her "I could eat" rule. It basically goes, if someone says "Hey, would you like to go out for a meal/get pizza/etc." and you know that you would've generally enjoy the meal/person's company, but don't want it at the moment, just say, "I could eat." First and foremost, a lot of invitations are not invitations to do a certain activity, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 03:11 AM
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Not all 30 year old bottles of wine are great and you could make some amazing stuff with milk, when you understand the how to age, ferment, and process it well. I think that in terms of looks, men value a youthful beauty more because it represents a fertile female. On the other hand, women don't necessarily consider a youthful man to be the pinnacle of attractiveness. That being said, in the rubric of choosing a life partner, a youthful beauty isn't necessarily the be-all-end-all. There're other…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 01:07 PM
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Banana bread in the morning does wonders. I often bake banana bread for people and my neighbour constantly comments on how amazing my house smells on those mornings. I'd also suggest something with chocolate like brownies/chocolate chip cookies.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 12:54 PM
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I have a similar background to you; conservative family, fairly well-to-do parents with a working class attitude, emphasis on tradition but I'm very independent and career-oriented (though I'm in the tech industry). Personally, I meet a fair number of men who have dated extremely liberal women and are moving towards wanting someone more conservative/traditional and I get asked out by this category of men a lot. A lot of men may claim that they are happy with an extremely independent, career-orie…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 12:51 PM
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Thanks a lot for the advice. I tend to be a bit of a planner, especially when it comes to things involving people. I find dealing with men easier when I'm uninterested in them but I'm not really sure what I should do when I see some sort of potential. I'm hoping that I'll be able to communicate effectively... he's a serious talker and I'm naturally quieter, so I hope things don't get misunderstood.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 12:39 PM
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I'm 23, about to be 24. Thank you for the advice. I think he is quite different from men my age, which has its benefits and negatives. I am a very independent person but sometimes, I can come off as "too independent", which I'm not sure how to control, especially on first dates. Based on your advice, I have agreed to meet him at the gallery and I'll try to pay half, wherever possible. Thanks for the advice again.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 12:32 PM
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I'd suggest nightdresses that slip night dresses/chemise; get the satin/silk ones and they're really very comfortable (and good for the skin). Otherwise, the cotton ones are really quite cute and you'd definitely get used to them. Also, tank top/camisole and boy short panties.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 01:05 PM
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Style is personal; it is something you curate by paying attention to your appearance, mannerism, and personality. I wouldn't suggest following a style first, especially if you don't have a whole lot of money to spare. Firstly, hair. Find a hairstyle that works with your face, body, and personality. It's worth splurging to find a good hairstylist and be honest to them about the amount of effort you're willing to put into your hair. Next, grooming. Clean fingernails, clear skin, bright eyes, good …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 11:56 AM
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Most women find themselves thrust into a world where there's an abundance of attention from the time they look like they've hit puberty. I was in a girls' school and I've seen girls chase it like a high. Imagine being a 14 year old and having someone three times your age, ten times more accomplished, and just more in every facet of value... give you the power of completely destroying their life for the sake of something that said a barely pubescent girl hasn't quite come to appreciate/understand…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/18 08:51 AM
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I'd say that it does depend on your style; I recently just got into jewelry and it took a fair bit of trial and error. I have a warm undertone and dark hair, so I mostly go with yellow/rose golds and/or deep green stones. For me, on an everyday basis, the best is to work in pairs; I'd go with either a necklace and hair ornaments or earrings and hand ornaments. I have strong, angular features so delicate jewelry don't quite work on me; I tend to go for bolder pieces. That being said, my style is …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/18 04:57 PM
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This post is sort of my realisation about two years ago; I love to run but my diet wasn't the greatest so my body went from being skinny to skinny-fat. Using calorie-counting apps helped a lot in terms of nutrition. I've also recently started incorporating more weights into my routine and seeing the results is what got me completely out of denial and thinking that I didn't need to go to the gym. I'm female and the world is currently full of BS about women and weight; I'm lucky that I made the co…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/18 09:34 AM
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I think it's a woman's responsibility to achieve her orgasm(s). I've never had an orgasm until I was 16-ish and after that, I did my research and during this period, I realised that most women don't really know much about how to orgasm and they're not too fussed about it. Based on what I've read, if a woman is not healthy and active, she may have a problem similar to erectile dysfunction which makes orgasming a lot more difficult. Low estrogen, poor mental health, and poor circulatory health wil…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/18 09:20 AM
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I wouldn't go with something that's very abrasive; most good brands are quite fine (not anymore abrasive than a toothbrush) and they work pretty quick. Also, electric toothbrushes, if you've not gotten them.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/18 05:53 AM
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I do intermittent fasting because I move around a lot during the day and eating healthy meals during these period isn't feasible. It also makes me a lot less hungry and I can feel satiated despite dieting because I get to eat high calorie meals.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/18 01:21 PM
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I can't upvote this any more; tracking helps for long-term. It's a record of what you're doing now and it helps you monitor any change that you're making. Also try cronometer.com; the computer version is free (need to pay for the app).
/r/TheRedPill07/01/18 01:19 PM
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Try a tooth polish; it's a powdery-thing that you can get from any store and you rub it on your teeth once-twice a week. I find that it works on stains. If you've splotchy-stains on your teeth, it's fluorosis; switch to a non-fluoride toothpaste and tooth products, and your teeth should get better.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/18 01:10 PM
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I had 3 years of braces and the before-and-after is immense; it looked like someone gave me a new jaw and smile. Braces doesn't guarantee veneer-style teeth; it may correct any overbites/underbites you've developed over the years from odd oral fixations (sucking thumb, biting lips, grinding teeth, etc.) and help ensure that there're less cavities/issues from having odd gaps. I've never had anyone say that my teeth were too perfect, yet.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/18 01:06 PM
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I pretty much don't disagree with everything you say; I can/have the ability to admire decisions that I may personally disagree with, if it shows signs of dedication/genius. I'm quite OK with most of the thing women do with one notable exception; I don't like it when some women (or any group, for the matter) try to silence others and enforce rules that prevent others from allowing their opinions to be voiced and received with fair consideration. Personally (imo), being a herd animal these days s…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/18 12:58 PM
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My aim is to look good naked and with a bare face. I work out and eat based on macros because I prefer to ensure that my weight is controlled. I take a lot of supplements because I eat vegetarian/vegan; Omega 3s, Vitamin D, Vitamin B12, Glucosamine + Chronditin (I run so it's preventative care for joints), Iron tonic once a week, hair tonic twice a week (too much can cause breakouts), and a multivitamin if my lifestyle's hectic. I eat 1200 calories on days I don't workout and 1200 calories + pro…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 10:19 AM
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Do something more at the gym; if you're in a complacent place, you're not going to feel like you're doing much. Wherever you are, try to improve yourself and earn respect. Next, haircut, dental work, and skincare (based on what you think you need). Hair grows quick, so try out new styles. They can change your features a fair bit and improve your look. If not, try growing a beard and keep it neat. Also, groom your eyebrows. Most male models use eyebrow gel and clear mascara to improve the appeara…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 09:37 AM
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Personally, I don't think it's much of a conversation because most people with personality disorders don't go very far. Those who lie in the category of "high-functioning" are far and few; they are only as dangerous as how pathetic the victims are, if it's something intentional. I say that as someone that was constantly in the "victim" position; I made myself seem like the perfect victim and now, I've taken myself out of that position.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/18 09:18 AM
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From my experience in life and on this website, men are more tolerant to being aggressive/pushed around/hurt. Women seem to be more sensitive, therefore it's easier for them to react to being hurt. This sub, albeit it having a reputation of being "extreme", is actually super-tame with the exception of some stray weirdos. On the other hand, you see women discuss men and very easily mention castration, ruling over men, running the world, etc. and feel nothing about it.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/18 07:27 AM
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I've seen many women/BP-men go through their declines fairly quickly as the years have gone by, especially in this day and age where "body acceptance" is a thing. I was bullied in school by women who then, were good looking. I've met some recently and they look like they've aged a lot and terribly. It's mostly from a diet of "treat yourself" and the wine-and-Netflix culture that has permeated the world. Don't buy into that culture and let yourself be someone that gets into a steady decline. Age …
/r/TheRedPill05/01/18 07:22 AM
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Personally, I don't like it hard. I want things optimised. I want to work the least for the most benefit, so for now, I'm going to try to do all the thinking and planning. I like playing with odds; if I know the odds are against me, I know that I'll have to work harder on that thing, to be competent. If I know that the odds are for me, I'll work harder on it to be excellent. If I find a pursuit to be pointless, I end it and try again. It's all about doing things, enjoying the process, and most i…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/18 07:07 AM
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"Psychopaths" or people with ASPD aren't all the cold, calculative individuals depicted in television. They're some of the more impulsive people you can meet, at times. Most individuals with ASPD end up in jail or die young. On the other hand, there're people with high-functioning ASPD. These "psychopaths" are people who intend to keep others around whilst tormenting them; they need things that can be used as leverage. People with ASPD can be made to understand and empathise what others go throu…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/18 12:24 AM
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I'm in my twenties and a female, but I find this post really useful for every person that intends to follow the RP way of life.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/18 08:16 AM
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Personally, I think the U.S. legal system is fucked; there is a huge lawsuit culture that exists there which doesn't make sense to the rest of the world.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/18 08:01 AM
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I don't think one's control over their circumstances is as absolute as you make it be. Sometimes, shit happens and you meet a rapist/someone with malicious intents. Personally, I think women need to separate "disgust" from "fear", in terms of all the "harrassment" cases. Lonely men can be depraved beings but they're pretty harmless and I don't agree with the misandrist beliefs about men being rapists/aggressive. I think women are as bad as men, especially with groping and such but men just don't…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/18 07:49 AM
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I think there're general studies on exposure to heat and decreased sperm quality; this includes hot tubs, saunas, etc. Cooking on a stove is something that exposes heat to the pelvic region, so that's the general logic of that. This is especially true for when people had wood/coal stoves and had to crouch on the ground to make tend the fires whilst cooking (something that was a common occurrence over 60 years ago). I can't say I've any legitimate sources on the feminising effects of cooking; it'…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/18 07:25 AM
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(This is my first time posting on this type of thread but I thought it'd be interesting to track my progress, subjectively) Fitness: I jogged 4 times this week. It was more of a relaxing activity than for fitness, so I didn't have any PRs or improvements. I can't complain too much here. I'm struggling to motivate myself to lift. It's just not something I've done and I see so little progress in my upper-body lifts. Ordered headphones after Christmas to help ignore people in gym. It works. Food: I…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 01:43 AM
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My mum always told me that women are far more vicious than men and to always be careful around women; they will ditch you once they used you and they will come back when they see that they might need you. I got this advice after she saw me being bullied terribly in an all-girls' school. She told me about how women will tear other women down so that they are constantly on top of some arbitrary list. This is true for any group, no matter how unicorn-rainbow-happiness-sisterhood they might seem on …
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 01:16 AM
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I'm a woman and I find that apologising in this situation makes it awkward/worse for both parties. She has already rejected him. If he goes back to apologise, she might think he's pursuing her and feel even more uncomfortable. Just move on, who cares if one woman finds you unattractive. Cut your losses, ignore her, and pretend things never happened.
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 12:32 AM
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From personal experience, every BP-er will try to act like a RP-er, at some point or the other, especially if they've had some alcohol or are desperate. I didn't know what was going on at first (also, I'm autistic so it doesn't help) but a lot of BP guys tend to act (or react) when a girl rejects them or shows disinterest in them. I tend to be quite verbal about things (again, autistic) and I've had many BP guys, who on the good day, would be fighting for women's rights and worshipping feminists…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 12:28 AM
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Love is a meaningless word; it means something different to each person. I also think that "care" is a meaningless verbal expression; an individual is either invested in the well-being of another individual for their mutual benefit or they're not invested in another person's life. There is no altruism. There is no higher/deeper feeling. People who think that there is are simply delusional individuals who want to find new ways to pat themselves on the back or praise themselves. People of RP will …
/r/askTRP01/01/18 03:42 AM
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You're not demanding respect here; demanding respect would be to constantly ask her to treat you well and expecting her to change. It's similar to blue-pillers constantly asking people to do stuff for them but never quite taking action to remedy things for themselves. My solution involves taking action (which you conveniently ignored to bold): "I'm not going to spend my night with a person that doesn't respect me". Then ask her to leave. What you do with that sentence is a simple notification of…
/r/askTRP31/12/17 02:13 PM
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Any girl you date should be devoted and treat you well. It's the minimum requirement, not the maximum. This is your relationship, something that doesn't involve outside opinion. You shouldn't be consulting other people on what you should do. You handled it poorly, plain and simple. Too much talking, not enough action. "Give her an inch, and she'll take a mile". If you were really a RP follower, you would've told her that she was playing with fire the moment she disagreed with you on the whiskey.…
/r/askTRP31/12/17 07:08 AM
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You have a slight advantage; she really can't do much given that she doesn't speak English in a English-speaking country. Police reports are serious stuff and she could get herself into some serious trouble if she faked stuff. If she threatens you again, tell her that it'd take you 2 minutes to make her homeless and it'd take her 3 months to even get close to getting any sort of legal aid. If you really want to show her your dominance, when she's out, change all the locks in the house and keep t…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/17 06:30 AM
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I come from a very traditional family and typically, cooking is discouraged for men because it's said to have some feminising traits, especially if done on a daily basis. Cooking, exposes heat to your nether regions, which over time, affects your sperm count. For that reason, my great-grandmother has never allowed her sons or any of her male grandchildren (including my dad) from learning extensive cooking (apart from making salads and stuff like that). If I'm not mistaken, in large tribal cultur…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 09:13 PM
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I'd agree with everything you say, except in cases where prostitution is legal. Prostitution is legal in my city and every brothel needs to be registered, therefore every prostitute that works there needs to be registered as a sex worker. I think the government discourages prostitution, still, in the sense that this information makes it more expensive for a prostitute to get private health cover or to press charges in court (because once you're a prostitute or even sex worker on public records, …
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 08:47 PM
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Hygiene, grooming, skincare, haircare, and weight are key pillars to looking good. Then comes style; clothing, accessories, makeup, and maintenance. Personally, I never cared about looks. I'm autistic and I had a lot of issues, understanding the world and trying to stay OK. I was happy with "just enough to get by". I never caught a break; I'd have one trial/woe after another. I started reading more, as therapy. Somehow, I ended up on TRP (for men) and reading their experiences made me think of h…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 07:42 PM
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I don't typically do resolutions, but I have 1-year plans, 5-year plans, and 10-year plans. I change them accordingly, each year. The changes I'd like to implement are: Learn how to dance, in heels. I'm not a graceful person and I've been told learning to dance will help me develop a rhythm to movement. I think it will work to my overall benefit. Learn German I plan to visit Germany at the end of 2018 and I'd like to improve the little German I have to basic proficiency. Grow my hair extra long …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 06:44 PM
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I have been assaulted in the past and I'd suggest therapy. No one on the internet is qualified enough to give you the appropriate response or help you deal with the effects of the advise you choose to practice. Having a neutral, confidential person to listen and encourage you to explore and overcome fears is necessary if you intend to feel OK again. How people perceive you can vary; some people prefer not to deal with a person that has a terrible past because they are emotionally fragile and can…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 12:26 PM
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I agree with OP, though not in entirety. I don't get why people on this forum are disagreeing with him. If anything, he has barely scratched the surface of selfishness. Everyone keeps worrying that if they are selfish/care about themselves, then a woman will: a. Ditch them b. Be unhappy c. Be a robot/non-inspiring person. All of the above is blue-pill ideology. A woman knows what she wants; I don't know how this sub could forget that given the current uprising of feminist movements. If a woman i…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 11:19 AM
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I understand what you go through but unfortunately, I am autistic. I would agree with the general advise of not engaging with people. I still cannot manage small talk and so, my level of engagement is typically close to zero with people who enjoy small talk. I've been called lucky many times for being autistic and female; I would take more caution if I were male, especially if outnumbered and with strangers, because it could put you in some sort of danger.
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 10:39 AM
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I'm the textbook definition of a savant; a knowledgeable idiot. I guess I was hoping for some advice that would help/benefit my ex-employer as much as it would've benefited me... he is an intelligent, talented, and creative man and it's rare to see that in society. Unfortunately, he seems slightly blue-pill. He is currently resorting to means that is devaluing his position and I was hoping that this wouldn't be the case.
/r/askTRP29/12/17 10:19 AM
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I have only experienced it with women colleagues and myself, thus far. This is also an observation of several acquaintances with high-functioning ASPD, who approach women. I am not a man so I can't speak for men. In this forum, I don't see grand declarations of eternal bond so... I'm assuming that it rarely happens?
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 01:57 AM
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This reminds me of one of my statistics lecture, where there were people questioning the purpose of knowing an unfortunate/uncertain truth. My professor responded with the following: "The truth is often painful and inconvenient. It leaves you uncertain and unsure about your current assumptions on life but this truth is the only thing that is worth pursuing. Most people run away from these truths. They alter it to fit their assumptions, paradigms, and beliefs. They abuse the truth to their conven…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 01:45 AM
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I was in a Catholic girls' school and there is always this assumption that women don't have sexual desires or if they do, they are in complete control of it. Both are false. I don't think women have eliminated or evolved to overcome estrus. There're enough studies about this and it's noticeable enough, in real life. At best, a woman can manage it, if she's clever enough to first accept it and then strategise. Most religion don't give either men or women the liberties to accept themselves as huma…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 01:30 AM
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Anyone who has high-functioning ASPD can tell you how to do this. You understand what fairy-tale they are into and you pretend to be the prince. For instance, some women have a martyr complex; they need to fix a broken man and be the reason he succeeds. Others want a rogue knight. A bad-boy who will see a woman and decide to completely change for her. She is important, special, and worth changing for. The one thing that ties all of this together is that it's unsustainable. It's fantasy. These wo…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 01:08 AM
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I don't think there's any specific literature written on this (if you are autistic) except for books on general human psychology and books on communication. Read everything and whenever someone makes sense to a situation that you face, keep that with you. I am autistic and like you, no friends and no relationships. There is one big difference, I am female. That being said, I have other social disabilities that make me very different (in a bad way). The first things that I found were important to…
/r/askTRP29/12/17 12:44 AM
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I honestly don't know. I did some reading on the nature of these relationships and trying to see things from a RP/RPW perspective. I think that if I accept it now, for what it is, I would be a gold-digger or a plate. I don't want to be either. I have declined the offer with the aforementioned reason, thinking selfishly.
/r/askTRP28/12/17 11:42 PM
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I'm sorry, I did not see the last two sentences of your previous comments. I must've missed it, in my hastiness. I did not mention it to anyone yet because it's Christmas holidays and my counsellor won't take appointments until mid-January. Most of my acquaintances are from university or at the gym; my conversations with them revolve around academics or exercise. The only people that I know that knows this person is the career's office at the university; I need to wait until the first week of Ja…
/r/askTRP27/12/17 11:33 AM
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Thank you for your advice. Personally, I don't really see how my disability is being used against me. I am not good with people and the offer is, as you've mentioned, quite generous. I am not being forced in any way and my contract ends in January and I think I will be able to secure a job in my university then, so there is no financial blackmail. It is just a proposal for marriage. I am not sure if I am missing something that you see. I wish I could call my father but he passed away when I was …
/r/askTRP27/12/17 10:37 AM
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