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| 2 | Going to the club tomorrow, how do I actually approach girls this time?Can you? Can you not? Depends on the mood. It’s a dance, not a mathematical equation or a computer where you can systematically do the same action and get the same result from ebery woman. The point is doing what you want as experiments and detaching yourself from the outcome. Being ok with whatever happens, and to prioritize aligning yourself with the action that you want to do even if it leads somewhere you didn’t want or expect. | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Going to the club tomorrow, how do I actually approach girls this time?The question is not what do you need to do to get an outcome, but rather what do you want to do even if you don’t get an outcome. What can i say to start dancing next to girls? Nothing, because you are not there to request their attention ,you dance because you enjoy dancing alone without the girls and if they join you great, if not you keep dancing alone on your own because you love it. Because the moment women feel that you only dance if they join you, thats when you become repulsive to them. … | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 10:56 PM |
| 39 | Trying to recognize "hints" from women is always a nightmareThat’s because you don’t actually need hints or signals or any guarantees to do what you want. You learned to be a pussy before you act but that doesn’t mean being a pussy is obligatory. You can choose to act simply because you want to without giving a fuck what the outcome is. | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 09:51 PM |
| 10 | What’s wrong with me? There are girls into me but the ones I’m interested in are not interested in me?Because your behavior changes. With the ones you don’t like you are being yourself which is attractive. With the girls you like you are performing and trying to win them over instead of expressing yourself naturally the same way you would with girls you don’t want. When you base your behavior not on the natural expression that you feel like doing without caring about outcomes, but on trying to get something from a woman your vibe becomes transactional and performative. You don’t think consciousl… | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 07:21 PM |
| 4 | How to change your mindset around very attractive women? + FRYou are there to see if you both mutually connect, not to see if you win her over or to prove you are fun. You are there to express for your own need of releasing and getting thighs off your chest, and forget about the outcome or verdict that your self-expression has. The idea is you flirt not because she will like it or accept it, but rather because you feel like it, and want to align yourself with what you feel and act on it as soon as you feel it, simply because it’s what your heart or body w… | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 07:05 PM |
| 69 | How Do You Flirt and Build Sexual Tension?Your job to start creating the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes you feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal you are feeling for real internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of light-hearted sexual … | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 11:36 PM |
| 2 | How do YOU hookup at clubs?Yeah i wrote this book about it, where i expand on this with the same style | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 11:01 PM |
| 1 | How to date without drinkingNo. I’m an average looking guy, like a 5/6 maybe a 7 on a good day if i put a lot of effort, 175cm tall, brown, and no girl gives me signs to approach them, i have to walk up to them without any guarantee or signal that they will respond well and when i was in high school amd college Inwas always getting friendzoned or turned down or given looks of disgust or annoyance by the girls sometimes. I simply had no idea whay i was doing amd was also massively insecure | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 10:47 PM |
| 1 | How to date without drinkingI have never gone to a bar for a date and have never drunk alcohol on a date. And it hasn’t stop me from getting laid. The belief that alcohol must be involved to get laid or anything is just a self-limiting belief created by social conditioning. You don’t need to go to a bar at all. The only reason guys want to get alcohol involved is because they want a trick to losen inhibitions but when you naturally are good at flirting and connect with the woman naturally you don’t any trick like that to l… | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 10:38 PM |
| 37 | How do I not look like a loser in a club?well mate, other guys sing and dance on their own because they want to, and if the girls dance with them or not is irrelevant to them, they’ll still dance on their own and have a genuine great time. Their “fun” isn’t dependent on what the girls do. Their vive is magnetic because they were already having fun without the girls and don’t need any attention at all from girls to enjoy themselves. But you however don’t sing or dance because you want to. You only try to sing or dance with a girl and if… | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 11:51 AM |
| 1 | What's a good approach to this?You are too focused on what she wants rather than on what you want. You do what you want and forget about the outcome. Because the stakes are not actually about whether she will say yes or no, the real stakes are about whether you do what you want or you let fear stop you. You have to lead and give her the option to join and be ok with whatever her answer is without going into a personal crisis if the answer is not Women want men to lead and the moment you base your behavior not on what you want… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 07:29 PM |
| 1 | What's a good approach to this?Your mistake is that you are not leading, you are asking her to lead and women want you to lead. Leading is about being decisive about what you want to do and either she joins or she doesn’t. What you are doing instead is to ask her yo tell you what you can or cannot do. Instead of saying “i’ll call her because i want to” like a decisive man does, you are saying “does she want me to call her or not” like an insecure indecisive man. It’s not her job to tell you what you have to do, she is not you… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Girl asked about me. Need to DM asap😊Cold approach is done in person face to face. DMs are not cold approach. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 02:56 PM |
| 52 | Why do women lose interest when I start actively pursuing them?That problem was already solved in seduction decades ago. What you describe is the fact that a high value man who has tons of options, wouldn’t just waste his time with any random girl, because his time is limited and has too many options, hence he would naturally be picky and selective and only those women who have more to offer than her looks would deserve a date with him or any sign of interest form him. But if the girl senses that the guy was not selector or picky at all, it would make the g… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 02:18 PM |
| 12 | What do you reply to "how's your dating life/seeing other girls?"“I’ll let your imagination answer that” | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Escalation in clubs for hookupYou are not expressing your sexual desire to them in an intense obvious way, thats what you are doing wrong. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 01:49 PM |
| 1 | CoffeeThis dumb questions should be removed from this sub. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Been snapping this chick and it’s going well, but she’s not gonna be back until ThanksgivingJust because you request a date two months in advance and she says yes doesn’t mean she is actually committing to it. So thats pointless. Many guys think that if a girl says yes in a situation like this, she is signing some type of social contract where she obligates herself to commit to a date, and when she cancels or forgets the guy acts all upset demanding that she honor her “promise”. That’s because the guy doesn’t understand that when a woman says yes to something she only means it in that … | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 01:32 PM |
| 8 | Am i a second choice or a bestie?You are thinking about this with the wrong mindset. It doesn’t matter what she wants with you, what matters is what you want. It’s the difference between being reactive and being proactive. when you are reactive you base your actions and decisions based on what she does, says, or might feel. ur constantly adjusting, analyzing, and waiting for signals, trying to avoid rejectiom, disappointmetnt or losing her approval. Os you are always dependent on her responses, instead of being rooted in your o… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 12:19 AM |
| 1 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…That’s the point you shouldn’t care about her perspective on “your flaws”. Your worth, or your adequacy as a man is not something that’s up for debate mate. If she gets upset because you don’t care about her perspective on “your flaws”, that’s her issue, not yours. You’re not responsible for how she feels about your self-acceptance lmfao. Here is another response you can give. Her: “You are fat” You: “I know and if that’s an issue, you can leave at any time, it’s cool ;)” You didn’t ask for her … | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Will reading classics novels help you with flirting?Any Bachata and Salsa song | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 11:19 PM |
| 0 | Anybody else Use ChatGPT?Well no offense, but there is a reason most reasonable people will disapprove, and it’s because you are being fake and dishonest by letting a bot talk for you and then tricking the girls into thinking it’s you who they are talking and supposedly connecting with. And who wants to be friends or date with a fake and dishonest person? Nobody. It’s no different than catfishing, or you talking with a woman who has pictures of herself being slim and fit, and then it turns out she is obese and ugly as f… | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 08:10 PM |
| 14 | Will reading classics novels help you with flirting?They don’t need to be classic novels. Any modern novel, song or poem will have emotionally driven language incorporated into it to describe how the protagonist, singer, or poet feels about things. | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 05:36 PM |
| 1 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…If they dry out is because you have no social skills to continue the conversation. So that’s what you need to fix. | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Any INTJ's here? How have you been able to succeed in game/seduction?Yeah me, i even wrote a book on how to get girls to like us and date them long term . DM me if you want it | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 12:15 PM |
| 1 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…I’m just there with a girl to have fun and maybe get laid, not to have a personal crisis and spiral just because she mentions something about me. I’m not there to negotiate either, or engage in serious discussions about my flaws or justifying myself because i’m not looking for anything and I’ll simply not allow myself to be on the defensive with a woman. If she has a problem with my qualities she can leave the date any second, i’m not stopping her, but i’m not gonna entertain any convo about my … | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 11:25 AM |
| 1 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…That’s only a story you are telling yourself. It only becomes real if you choose to buy into that frame and take it seriously. I have had women calling me that and then we had sex anyways, simply because i just laughed it off and didn’t take it seriously. What a woman says and what she ends up doing very often tends to feel contradictory. You need to be careful with trying to apply male logic to woman’s behavior because thats the easiest way to misinterpret her, since women often communicate thr… | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 02:45 AM |
| 25 | How do YOU hookup at clubs?Your job to start creating the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes you feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal you are feeling for real internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of light-hearted sexual … | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 02:10 AM |
| 22 | First date nerves and what actually helpsWhen you stop going on dates with the mindset of: “i need to get something from her” or “i need to sell myself to her” or “i need to convince her that i am good enough” or “i need to impress her”, or “i need to get sex from her”, “i need to make sure i don’t offend her or upset her” And instead you focus on expressing and exploring if you even like her personality, her vibe, and enjoy the connection for what it is now rather than for where it leads… Then, all your nerves disappear. | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 01:25 AM |
| 0 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…So based on that, wouldn't it be best to just move on too a different girl after she lets you know she's not interested? She didn’t say she is not interested, did she? She just said “you are young” which is an observation, that “she doesn’t usually date guys with x characteristic” which is just sharing her experience until now. She is not rejecting you, she is just giving random information. If you interpret that as a rejection or as her saying she is not interested in anything thats your interp… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 11:11 PM |
| 9 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…Yes exactly! 😂Agree and amplify! | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 10:47 PM |
| 7 | The mindset shit you need in order to respond properly when a woman says you are very young, too old, too fat, too short, too (insert any “flaw”)…What she wants is irrelevant, what matters is what you want. You are not there to fit her script on how you should behave. Whether they say it as a joke or as a serious thing is irrelevant, the point is that you are not gonna take it serious regardless. Because if you start thinking: "oh if she meant it as a joke, i'll play, but if she meant it serious, i'll defend" you are already putting her in the drivers seat where she controls the energy and you react... And once you react you are again neg… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 08:31 PM |
| 14 | Is it a shit test?If you wouldn’t do it for someone you didn’t want sex or a romance with, then don’t do it for her. So just tell her: “Go get it yourself, or “what do i get for doing it?” | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 08:09 PM |
| 1 | When to Let It Go? Ghosting From Dating AppsIt's much simpler than that what is that you want? Do you want a "fuck yes girl" or a "maybe girl"? If you believe you deserve a "fuck yes girl" because you are a "fuck yes guy" you will not settle for less than that simply because you know you will eventually find a "fuck yes girl". If you don't believe you deserve a "fuck yes girl" then you will always cling to a "maybe" or anything that isn't an "absolute no" like most desperate guys do because they believe they will only find worst than that… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 06:28 PM |
| 1 | The whole dating system penalises men so much. My god!!!This is just a story you are telling yourself mate. Dating is just as easy as making friends for me. Many women also feel that dating is impossible. Ultimately, it’s a case by case experience where each particular person feels different about it. The grass always seems greener on the other side. But the reality is that many men won’t really resonate with your message at all because that’s not their experience at all. Heck you even talk about the pain of rejection as if it’s unquestionable that r… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Tired of the game, I want to go back in timeWasnt expecting you to be offended by it. Oh well | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 03:57 PM |
| 0 | 2 weeksWhen a woman doesn’t respond you move on. You don’t start chasing and insisting like a desperate loser who can’t take a hint. If you chase women who are not telling you “fuck yes” but maybes instead, you are essentially communicating to them that it’s ok for them to ignore you becuase you will still be after them, and so the girl cannot respect you when she realizes this. Now it’s not your job to tell them “hey bitch respect me, don’t ignore me” because that’s ridiculous and petty and ironically… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Tired of the game, I want to go back in time• I used to be a nice romantic guy inspired by the movies, now i am a pick up artist” Nah, in reality you were a domesticated needy wimp who thought being an obedient puppy dog who went out of his way to be a people’s pleaser with girls made him nice and would get rewarded with a cookie because the movies sold him that fantasy. And now you are a manipulative, calculative, performative player still stuck in the old fashion tricks from Mystery and Neil Strauss who prioritizes the outcome over bein… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 10:57 AM |
| 8 | Men of Reddit, how do you feel when women ask “What are you looking for?” on dating apps?I didn’t say you are demanding amything. I said that when it comes to answering her question, my advice is to just say what you’d ideally want but without making it sound like it’s a demand. To not try to overthink or manipulate her by saying what you think she wants to hear or what you think will trick her. Just be honest, simple as that. | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 01:23 AM |
| 6 | Men of Reddit, how do you feel when women ask “What are you looking for?” on dating apps?Just communicate what you want without being attached to whether you get it or not. You don't have to overthink, you jsut have to be honest without demanding that a particular outcome has to happen no matter what. | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 01:18 AM |
| 14 | Men of Reddit, how do you feel when women ask “What are you looking for?” on dating apps?When you simply express what you want and are completely ok with letting women who don’t want what you want walk away, then you are just being authentic and honest and you also don’t waste time trying to convince a woman who doesn’t want what you want into wanting it. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to negotiate. You can say what u would ideally want if everything was perfect, but also say that you don’t really try to script the future amd that you prefer to let things unfold naturally and see w… | /r/seduction | 27/09/25 01:00 AM |
| 3 | How can I change my mindset and approach women I actually find attractive?You need to start making peace with the idea of being rejected by someone else without acting like you are inferior or lesser for being rejected. Deep down this is not about the reason as to why you get rejected and not even about the likelihood or chance of getting rejected, it’s about you not wanting to get rejected, because you are terrified of rejection. And that’s the root of the issue you have. If rejection simply didn’t affect you at all in any negative way, you wouldn’t give a shit if on… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 09:39 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep yourself motivated?By actually learning how to seduce women? Once you actually learn the fundamentals of seduction and attraction. Women will ever tell you again something like “let’s just be friends”. If you still get told that thing it means you really have no clue how attraction or seduction works, and that’s your fault for not researching something that has already been discovered since at least the 90s and when you are literally posting in a sub called “seduction” where all the material is already available b… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 04:36 PM |
| 3 | 21M Virgin Struggling with Performance Anxiety – Help Please…Sex is not avoit doing it well, or showing off how great moves you have. It’s about having fun and not taking yourself or the activity so seriously. It is like children dancing for fun… kids don’t dance because they are great dancers and want to impress people, they dance because they feel the music, and the body is asking them to move and express themselves in any way the can. With sex it’s the same concept, you are not there to show off some crazy moves you watched in a porn video, or anything… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Posting pictures on social mediaSome might find it hot, some might not care. Every girl is different. If you post photos and expect every girl to love you for it and be super interested in you, then yeah lower your expectations. There is no magic tricks in dating. So what girls like or not is not universal. If you do something that you don’t really want to do hoping that it will do some magical effect in your resulta, the reality is it probably won’t. And by probably i mean that most will not care, but a woman here amd there m… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 11:00 AM |
| 2 | Cell phones are the death knellThe problem is you assume if they look at you first your approach will always be received well and if they don’t look at you our approach will always be received badly. That type of logic often fails in dating because the reason why a girl looks at you might not have anything to do with signaling you to be approached or being interested. Sometimes people look at others out of curiosity or even accident, not out of potential romantic interest. And women who don’t look at you don’t necessarily are… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 10:57 AM |
| 38 | Cell phones are the death knellLack of eye contact does not stop me from approaching who i want and inviting them to get to know each other. If they accept the invitation to get to know each other cool, if not also cool. I’m fine either way. No need for signals when you simply do what you want. | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Neccessary tools to be a successful player?You forgot creating sexual tension by expressing your desire or else you will be friendzoned. Also, you don’t really need to have each thing or do every thing of that list you made to get positive results with women. There is no need to be perfect. | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 09:52 PM |
| 5 | Broke deadbeats who pull beautiful women...how do they do it?i guarantee you that there are also guys who are alcoholic losers who have nothing to offer, and yet they don’t get laid at all. So if you are thinking “do i need to be an alcoholic loser to get laid with beautiful women” the reality is no, and it won’t work for you. Because that’s not what determines the results he has.. Women are humans first of all, and what they are drawn to naturally is guys who make them feel positive and intense emotions. You said it yourself, the guy is somewhat handsome… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 09:50 PM |
| 20 | How do you realize is time to stop chasing a girlYou know it, when you simply don’t cling for less than what you actually want. If you believe that you deserve a “fuck yes” from girls, then you won’t settle for a “maybe” and will quickly move on without hesitation and never look back. If you however believe you don’t deserve a “fuck yes”, then you will settle for a maybe or anything that isn’t a clear “absolute no”. Those who have scarcity mindset , are needy and believe a good opportunity only comes once in a lifetime will tend to struggle mo… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 09:37 PM |
| 4 | What book changed your dating life?..(for the better)2 books in particular Mode 1 to learn how to pick up girls ain a direct and straightfoward way to get sex without beating around the bush when you really want nothing more than sex and without having to go on dates or pretending like you care about who they are as a person. A book that's perfect for nightclubs to create rapid sexual tension with a woman without manipulation. Daygame Code to learn how to pick up girls in any social situation during hte day in any context to cmake sure you don't j… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else feel like they struggle due to their lifestyle or style in general?I recommend you read this book Daygame Code to change your narrative and how to actually have actual real confidence in yourself despite any flaws you thinkk you might have step by step. It also teaches you how to deal with rejection, how to deal with anxiety how to connect with women and why do women behave the way they do so you understand them once and for all. | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Does anyone else feel like they struggle due to their lifestyle or style in general?People here are always quick to shift blame into external things or things beyond their control for their poor results and avoiding all responsibility for their actions and choices when interacting with a particular woman. Many people also want to reject themselves before the woman has a chance to do it herself because their fragile egos can’t take a woman turning them down so they’d rather tell themselves that if they don’t date any woman it’s because they never even tried in the first place. O… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Stop making dating about your worth as a person. Dating is about inviting self-expression and connectionThose are things that are happening but the story as to why it happens is a story is subjective. • I’ll put an example: Chad thinks he is pulling a girl because he is so attractive. The woman however just wanted to sleep with someone that night because she felt both horny and lonely, and he just so happen to be one who show interest, and so she went along with it because she wanted sex, not necessarily because she finds him attractive. • Another example: The guy thinks he is so attractive and ma… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Stop making dating about your worth as a person. Dating is about inviting self-expression and connectionNot necessarily. There is tons of external reasons why a woman might turn you down that have nothing to do with your looks or behavior. | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Is a female “friend” ever convertible in a girlfriend?You did not understand the comment i made. The point is that if you are in the friendzoned and no other girl likes you it's unlikely you will get this woman to see you as a potential partner because you are just not that attractive. If you however are capable of attracitng more women then there is bigger chance you are attractive enough and so the chance of this girl potentially finding you desirable is more likely, although still not guaranteed. So it's about whether you are attractive or not w… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Advice for a 21 year old virgin?Step 1: Lose your virginity and realize you didn’t miss much because sex was better in your head than the actual thing, and can finally relax and stop obsessing over getting it. Step 2: Make out with a baddie in front of your friends and family to show them that you also can do what everyone else can do with no problem and feel at peace knowing that you have demonstrated to everyone and to yourself that you are also worthy of being liked by a girl. Step 3: Constantly post couple photos or storie… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Stop measuring interest by how fast she replies. It's ruining your dating life.• If she can't match my energy fuck her. She can be with the one who replies after 3 hours too when he's interested. Well to that i said. Fuck texting. If every time i ask her out she wants to meet me and have sex, but refuses to text, who gives a shit about how much she texts? I have met women who are great in person, and in texting super cold. If i were to measure their interest level based on their texting habits i would have missed out on the amazing dates i had. • No one is TOO busy. True. … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 08:57 PM |
| 7 | Stop measuring interest by how fast she replies. It's ruining your dating life.Not necessarily true. And the reason i tell you this is because i know first hand that some women might not text fast and then she can be all over you in person and have sex and date you and have perfect time together. So if your theory about when she should in texts were true, then her behavior in person wouldn’t be possible. It’s like two different people. In person she is supper into you, and in texts she is super cold and distant, and yet every time you suggest plans she says yes, but she st… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Stop measuring interest by how fast she replies. It's ruining your dating life.The problem is you still don’t get it. You still want control and certainty. A person can disappear for 6 days and then show up on the 7th day, then another time they will text you constantly everyday. Then the week after, he might disappear for 8 days and show up on the 9th. And your problem is that you want consistent patterns, where every week that person has to at least show up x amount of times and if one week he doesn’t show up that amount then you feel like giving up because you think the… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 07:39 PM |
| 8 | How to buildYour job to start creating the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes you feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal you are feeling for real internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of light-hearted sexual … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 03:13 PM |
| 5 | What’s the WORST advice you’ve been given?You cannot be yourself even if you tried when all of the behaviors that you do with women in particular have been programmed by social conditioning, low self-esteem and an approval-seeking mindset. Do you think you were being yourself when you were doing what the church groups were telling you to do? Or what your mum or female family members were advising you to do? Not really. You were being domesticated and you didn’t realize. All that “good relationships are founded on long lasting friendship… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 03:00 PM |
| 3 | I feel lost and don’t feel confident that I can pullYes. It goes against rule 4. | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 12:28 PM |
| 3 | How do you guys start conversations at the gym with pretty women?Women are not all the same. And “staring” is not the same as having polite conversations. | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 12:19 PM |
| 2 | I feel lost and don’t feel confident that I can pullYour job to start creating the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes you feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal you are feeling for real internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of light-hearted sexual … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 10:13 AM |
| 5 | I Got My Gym Membership Suspended and Banned from the Shopping Mall for cold approaching women IRL. muh "just try offline bro, online is not real life is huge cope. online is real life."The mall is not the problem. You are the problem. Yes women can respond well to a cold approach and most respond well when you do it right, but that's the key "when you do it RIGHT", your approaches are all aweful. Cold-approaching requires social intellgience which you lack completely but you don't even know that you lack it. Cold-approaching does not mean asking random questions to women without giving them first context as to why you are even engaging in conversations with them in the first p… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 10:00 AM |
| 3 | I feel lost and don’t feel confident that I can pullThis comment goes against the rules of this sub. This sub does not allow comments or posts that try to tell others whether they should or shouldn’t engage in casual relationships or long term relationships. Your opinions about that are irrelevant to the topic of this sub. It’s not a sub to tell people if they should avoid having casual sex or for you to give morality lessons about what people should want or judging people for wanting just sex, let alone calling them names like pathetic. | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 09:28 AM |
| 3 | Is a female “friend” ever convertible in a girlfriend?Those guys were friends first by choice, not reluctantly. They also didn’t struggle with getting women to like them. When we talk about guys who get friendzoned, we talk about guys who usually can’t get any girl to like them and they obsess with one particular one. Guys who are not in the friendzoned by choice, but because the woman “put” them in the friendzone. It’s one thing to start as friends knowing you can effortlessly sleep casually with other girls any day, and get girlfriends etc,… And … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 09:10 AM |
| 15 | girls ghosting me/dry texting after hanging out and acting like a ouple for 2-3 monthsStop acting like you want to be their boyfriend simple as that. | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 09:10 PM |
| 228 | Is a female “friend” ever convertible in a girlfriend?Sometimes yes, but only if you usually can sleep or date other girls effortlessly. If you are the kind of guy that struggles to get girls to date or sleep with him then it’s highly unlikely. | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Women ghosting me/dry textingTry to do that in the first hangout instead | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Logistics when living at homehave sex in your room even if your parents are in the house? Do you actually think nobody has ever done that? | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 07:00 PM |
| 3 | Day game tips?1 - Tell them that you think they are cute and would like to get to know them. Don’t just jump into asking them random questions without giving her context as to why you are there. 2 - Don’t go for mumbers. Aim to have a 10 min conversation first at least, and then if the vibe is right try to suggest going for a quick coffee or drink right there on the spot in some venue whereby where you approach her. Many girls are spontaneous and will go with the flow of the moment, so you don’t wanna waste t… | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Why does this girl resist all physical affection?A woman can know you want her and still not want to fuck with you. | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Why does this girl resist all physical affection?Usually when a girl resists it means she is not attracted, some guys overlook that and try to pressure her and thus they begin harassing the girl because they simply can’t get it through their heads that the girl is not giving the consent to cross that line. The guys then think “well why else does she want then?” and the answer is so obvious, to just be friends… But she is touching my biceps and giving me a condom… Apparently a friend has to have a specific type of behavior that the guy decides … | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 12:59 PM |
| 13 | If you want fast results, the club is the only realistic optionIt’s not a script to copy paste mate. Adapt… if she tells you she is not aries, then say that whatever her sign is even worst. You need to improvise and be spontaneous, you cannot just go there hoping that a script goes exactly the way you want it to go. | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 09:49 AM |
| 2 | I'm thinking about just asking directly. What are your experiences?Yeah Models is good. It goes in line with those two books but they might more practical and straightforward. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 11:13 PM |
| 4 | I'm thinking about just asking directly. What are your experiences?That’s called mode one in seduction and natural authentic seduction. You can read about it in this book and this other book to learn how to be more direct and straightforward but in a way that women actually resonate with and done in such a way that maintains your authenticity. Telling them that “_you want to talk to them because you find them cute_” isn’t even supposed to be an option, it should be the default simply because it’s true and you are not there to pretend otherwise. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Advice NeededThe problem was probably the conversation you had before you asked for the number, but since you didn’t elaborate on it and just mentioned it briefly, can’t say more. Momentum stays alive if the conversación in person is emotiaonnly intense and not just a surface level. So it’s not about what you do after you get her number, it’s about what you do before you get her number. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Your best nightgame verbalsYou’d be surprised how simple and natural it all can be when you simply learn the core fundamentals of seduction amd how unnecessary the convoluted methods are. You can even kiss girls as soon as you fist see them within minutes or even seconds depending on the context. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 04:46 PM |
| 3 | When you ask a girl out and she says “we’ll see” is that just a nice way of saying no?Well that’s because women like things to feel more spontaneous. In october she might have already met some other guy. If you are busy you are busy, but she is not gonna be waiting for you if she has other options. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Your best nightgame verbalsYes. You don’t need to say those lines. Most people who get girls naturally don’t say any of those lines. Lines are not what gets a woman to feel attraction for you, it’s your ability to make them feel emotions like sexual tension, and learn to connect emotionally with them. Emotions can be triggered in many ways, not just the lines or scripts you read in a book. When you treat every woman like a computer, you simply are failing to understand that the way you say things, tonality, timing, delive… | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 03:32 PM |
| 5 | Your best nightgame verbalsYou are treating seduction like a Pokémon videogame, so it makes it impossible to connect with women when you are so rehearsed, so in your head, and so performative. The girls don’t engage much with you because (with all due respect) you come across as a dancing monkey; performing superficial tricks, over and over. And when that doesn’t work you keep looking for new tricks instead of going at the core root of the issue. Your approach to seduction is based on treating women like they are some typ… | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Help regarding a friendWho told you that feelings are something you have to suppress, instead of express? Who told you it was your duty to manage what someone thinks of you? Who told you feelings are something you chose to have or not or have? Who says you have to apologize for feeling what you feel? feelings are not sins mate. You are allow to express them, what you cannot do is make the woman feel pressured to responda in one way or another or to request for her to give you clarity about where you stand with her in … | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 10:47 AM |
| 1 | What are your seduction unpopular opinions and hot takes? Things you truly believe, but would get downvted?Thinking everything is entirely about luck only shows a lack of accountability for your own actions and choices. Outcomes are never fully under your control, of course, but they’re also not entirely random. They’re a mix of circumstances and the decisions you make. If you are a manipulative douchebag who smells like shit, acts like a weirdo, and thus women get turned off,… You can’t just say it was bad luck. It was you being a smelly weird douchebag. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 07:35 AM |
| 2 | Help regarding a friendJudgment goes both ways. If you assume she is flawless and that her approval defines you or your value, then you should also assume that your approval also defines her value. She can’t get a free pass while you keep trying to prove your worth. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 07:07 AM |
| 3 | Help regarding a friendWhy do you want to be friends with someone who can’t accept the real you? If you tell her something and she stops being your friend as a result, it means she doesn’t accept you anymore. Thats just normal, it’s called not being in the same page anymore. What you are trying to do is to repress a part of you for the sake of maintaining alive a friendship no matter what, by being fake and what’s the point of having a friendship based on you having to be fake? A friendship lasts whatever it has to la… | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts? Girl watches movie but gets surprised that I made a moveHer purpose of coming over was simply to watch a movie. It was you who told himself the story that a woman wanting to watch a movie has to have some hidden ulterior motive and that the end goal cannot just be watching the movie with a buddy and nothing more. You say that she should have known that you were gonna make a move, but that’s not necessarily an obvious universal fact. A woman can just simply trust that you will be acting platonic since thats whay you said, and take your word for it. Th… | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 06:23 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with brutal experiences 25You are taking opinions of others about yourself too seriously and having such a thin skin. It seems like you want people to validate you to feel good about who you are. Choosing to believe you are only good if other people say you do rather than simply believing you are good because you say so, and whoever doesn’t see it that way is wrong, has bad taste and do not even belong in your life. Not everyone has to approve of you, and if they were giving you validation then you’d feel good about your… | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 05:39 AM |
| 5 | High interest girl vanished ?Women can be interested in you in one moment and be uninterested in another moment. This has to do with their mood swings, rather than your actions. Your job is to assume you did everything right, and be completely unperturbed, letting her come at her own pace since the ball is in her court. If she really had a good time with you and was so invested she will miss you and reach out eventually, and if not it shows that she was just too high on the novelty and you better move on anyway. | /r/seduction | 21/09/25 10:42 PM |
| 4 | I can't get it through my head that a girl actually likes me.You need therapy because the problem of not believing that a girl likes you when she does is that you actually sabotage yourself and what you have with the her. Because yes she can leave you not because you are not good enough but because your unresolved feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy. What you do wrong is precisely the fact that you try to not screw up. You are making the mistake of focusing on the outcome instead of aligning yourself with your true essence and being ok with letting the … | /r/seduction | 21/09/25 06:29 PM |
| 19 | What girls actually want you to text them (3 examples that got me laid)Smart guys are using free AI to practice flirting conversations now, for example, role-play sites like Chatvisor. You can run through different scenarios and practice your responses. It’s basically like having a dating coach for $0, and you won’t look like an idiot while learning. You made a post to sneak in an AI crap advert? Lmfao. | /r/seduction | 21/09/25 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Your classmates and friends aren’t getting girls because they are better looking. They just don’t care and don’t try to get approval.There is no overanalysing here. They are behaving as themselves and woman may or may not happen to like that and they are ok with it either way unlike other guys who want to avoid rejection at all costs, by being whatever they think a woman will like except being real and authentic. At work is a different thing because you are there to be a professional, not to hit on girls. So, they deliberately chose to obey a boss,over being themselves in exchange of money, which they don’t do when it comes t… | /r/seduction | 21/09/25 10:48 AM |
| 4 | Your classmates and friends aren’t getting girls because they are better looking. They just don’t care and don’t try to get approval.To be honest, the justifications women give as to why they wouldnt date or sleep with a guy are mostly irrelevant. Women do things based on feelings & then they justify those decisions based in logic after the fact. Most of what women say as “reasons” is just post-rationalization. Attraction isnt a checklist, a woman might say “he’s too short” “not hot enough” or “I don’t date guys who…” but thats not the real driver, it’s her body and emotions deciding first. The explanation comes after to make… | /r/seduction | 21/09/25 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Text game- My friend asked me specifically not to bring him in convo Her: "Who are you? How did you get my number?" You: Begins the whole thing with dishonesty. Off to a great start, huh? If you saw a girl at a restaurant just go to that restaurant again and walk up to her to introudce yourself to her even if you already got her number. Your friends are not supposed to be the ones you her number. It's her. And don't just for a number, have a conversation face to face with her. A conversation in which the… | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Made a mistake of chatting too much about her child (single mom late30s)It’s very simple tell her that you are not looking for anything serious just to be upfront with her and learn to be ok with her answer. | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 03:59 PM |
| 6 | Girls flake even after a good first date – is this normal?That’s because you only have certain control to some extent. You can’t never have full 100% control. When you do a good date thats only like 50% of what can determine the final outcome. The other 50% depends on her, her circumstances, her feelings, her preferences, her values, her rhythms, other guys she might also be dating who also did things very well, etc… You also fail to recognize that just because you think you did everything well or made enough things well, thats still a subjective and b… | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 02:19 PM |
| 3 | When a friend says he’s not into a girl — then starts subtly competing for her attention. What's the approach?1 - He is not your friend. Friends don’t compete with you for the same girl you expressed interest out of loyalty. So maybe it’s time to stop treating every person that you get along with relatively well, as a friend. 2 - You take too long to actually make things happen with a woman so, at a certain point it’s almost like you are begging for other guys to compete and take the girl, and most importantly you are begging for the specific to go with him or other guy. instead of you because of how mu… | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 01:19 AM |
| 1 | How to escalate on first date?There is a good reason why people tell you that you need to stop overthinking and that you cannot simply dismiss with the excuse of "this is the way i am"... And it's because when you overthink so much, you start to be calculative, manipulative, and ironically you stop being yourself because now your actions are not based on what you would naturally want to do if the result was guaranteed to be the exact same result no matter what actions you did. So when you say "this is who i am, an overthinke… | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Negative voices in the mind...u struggle with accepting rejection. u are trying to get a guaranteed outcome, and because your body knows there is absolutely no fucking way to get a guaranteed outcome then you freeze until u figure out a way to get the guaranteed outcome which is something that will never happen. that's why i often say, that you need to forget about attachign yoruself to the outcome and just aling yourself with what you want to do no matter the consequences. So it's about verablizing the risk and then doing i… | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 11:38 PM |
| 1 | I (19M) think this girl in college likes me back — how do I move things forward?- because I'd def skip volleyball if I liked someone. Well this is not good. If you skip something in your life for a woman, she is not gonna respect you. THis is needy behaviour rooted in the fact that you lack options and os you prioritize women over your own life. No women can respect a man who does that, no matter how much you like her. So if i were you i would get rid of this needy pathetic midnset where "Oh a woman likes me nad i like her? Oh better to make her priority number one in my en… | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 11:35 PM |
| 1 | I understand dating is like salesIf it was like sales, the difference would be that the man is not supposed to be the seller, but the prospect. And the woman has to be the seller where the man just has to decided whether she is what she wants after extensive proper screening and vetting which requires not being sold on her from the start until she earns it.. Failure to set this frame early on in the interaction means you are chasing her and thus repelling her, instead of attracting her and thus you simply won't date her. Men th… | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 10:57 PM |
| 8 | Should you avoid calling attractive women cute?The problem is not the specific word "cute", the problem is compliments in general. They say nothing about you and all it does is raise her ego. A compliment¡s purpose is to recognize someone's virtues or positive traits or qualities so that they feel good about themselves. The problem comes when men think a compliment is flirting because it's not. Fliriting is about epressing to the woman desire, or how an specific thing that you like about her, affects your body or your mind. So it's not "i li… | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 10:23 PM |
| 2 | I think this sub's time is passing awayI'm so glad i never took seriously to people like you (because yes there are always people like you who have been saying very similar stuff forever) when i was hopeless in my teenage years because then failure with women would have been a self-fuliflling prophecy where i would have keep failing due to my own internal beliefs that it's hopeless. Thankfully, i managed to put my life in order, get laid, get girlfriends here, kiss girls in clubs and things that when i was a teenager i would have tho… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Simplistic, 10 step guide to cold approachingIt's 2025 and people still think getting women is about memorizing scripts that you repeat over and over no matter who is in front of you until one says yes, fml... Basically your guide is just playing a numbers game. The whole 10 step post can be summarize in: "Carrots huh? Wish I valued my eyesight that much... Yeh anyway My name is x, what about you? Oh Marta? Cool Nice to meet you... Do you grocery shops here all the time or occasionally. Oh same same. Anyway, why don't we exchange numbers t… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to keep the spark alive or mantain her interest because it's performative and rooted in neediness.You’re confusing attachment to outcome with having intentions. Of course I have intentions, otherwise I wouldn’t even walk up to her. Intention means you act in alignment with who you are and what you want; attachment means you contort yourself to chase approval or results. So the difference is, I don’t hinge my value, my mood, or my behavior on whether she responds the way I want and i don't base my actions because on what each particular woman would want me to do because that's an impossible g… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Have plateaued with conversations. Soliciting feedback on routine to get more phone numbers.u/subnautthrowaway777 Like the problems i see with your scripted approach are: Opener: The directions line is polite but sterile. It frames you as a stranger with a transactional bullshit excuse, not as a man genuinely curious or drawn to her which is more authentic and builds far more sexual tension from the start which is what you need. Flirt/tease: It’s clever, but because it’s pre-planned, it doesn’t respond to her. You are not riffing off her vibe, just delivering a canned line and canned l… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Have plateaued with conversations. Soliciting feedback on routine to get more phone numbers.Seems like you are not being honest about your intentions and are massively scripted. This is problematic because it means you are not connecting with women during your approaches and when you don't connect the results will suffer as a consequence. Your real job is to express what she makes you feel yourself in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal you are feeling for real internally, so… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 04:11 PM |
| 8 | Cold approaches in shopping malls are hard as fuckIt's not that malls are hard places to approach because they are actually quite easy since most women there aren't on a rush to go anywhere and they feel relatively safe in such a public place. It's more like you are the one who is full of anxities, fears, that paralyze you. Ultimately the problem you have is that you are in your head, having a battle with your mind over what you want to do on vs what social conditioning has taught you to do. Social conidtion is what triggers that anxiety and he… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you guys read off of a cheat sheet or from your phone while out in the field?I don't understand why would anyone in 2025 still try to remember all those scripted routines and fake DHV stories and continue to act performative and being someone completely fake just to make a weak attempt at trying to get llaid with a woman? Specially when all of that has been proven to be unnecesary and even counterproductive more often than not. It's funny you say that "you put sincerity into it" when in reality you are not disclosing to women the fact that you prepared them and that ever… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Need guidance on what to do with this girl I'm seeingWhy would it be a wrong setting if kissing her is what you feel like doing? If you knew the world ends tomorrow would it still be a wrog setting to kiss her then? It might be your last kiss before everything ends so would it still be a wrong setting? Always assume the future does not exist or that the world might end tomorrow when you are on a date with a girl and act based on what you feel in that moment. And if she says "you shouldn't have kissed me so soon, or in this setting or context" so b… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 05:53 PM |
| 3 | How to tell if someone is just being friendly, or if there might be even a chance at all?The ball is in her court now. You already offered an invite and they did not respond. If they are itnerested they know they have to respond. You don't insist. You don't say anything until they reach out. And if you invite the girl to have dinner or anything, frame it as something you will do with or without her. Such us: "Im going to this x place to have a dinner, it'd be cool if you joined". That's how you frame it making it clear you are going even if they say nothing or they say the can't... … | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 05:40 PM |
| 5 | Need guidance on what to do with this girl I'm seeingWhen you just start taking someone on dates, you are not really in a monogamous relationship at that point. there is no commitments from neither of you and there cannot also be expectations, let alone expectations that you've never specified to her clearly. You cannot expect someone to date you exclusively when you haven't even asked for that. Not that you should because then it feels like you are pressuring and trying to lock her down into a commitment that doesn't feel natural or right when sh… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 05:34 PM |
| 8 | How to tell if someone is just being friendly, or if there might be even a chance at all?You don't look for signals. This is a wrong mindset to be. You act because you want to, not because you think she wants you to. The only reason you need to go for who you want is the fact that you feel the desire to act and as such it's irrelevant if the action will lead to where you wanted or not. You offered to have dinner and they did not take it? Cool so be it. You did well in inviting them simply because that's what you wanted to do, to invite them to have dinner. You don't invite her becau… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 05:17 PM |
| 3 | How do you keep the “spark” alive after the first few dates?- Letting go of the outcome is harder than it sounds when you actually like someone. I like my friends in a platonic way and i let go of the outcome. I like a woman romantically and the outcome is all that matters. Why the difference? With a friendship we know it's all about connection and living the moment But with women it's like you have a secret timeline of milestones or stages to accomplish in a given time. Hence you feel pressured and as a result make her feel pressured because instead of … | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 04:20 PM |
| 8 | Push or pull?When a woman pulls away and you already reached out once, the ball is in her court. You don't text anymore. If she had a great time with you she will feel nostalgic and reach out again. If she doesn't reach out it's because the expereince wasn't that great or worthy of another one, from her point of view. Seduciton is not about chasing, so if she already distanced herself you keep meeting other women while she makes her mind up. You don't sit waiting for her and you certainly don't try to play T… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Questions to askQuestions to ask to build trust and connection? Simple ask "how does it feel?" or "how did you feel" or "How do you feel about that" or "what's the feeling like?". You ask those things about literally anything that she does, likes or experiences. And you also express how you feel about the stuff you like or experience, describing with detail the sensations of how you felt with metaphors, and descriptive language, not just vague quick straightfoward shit like "it felt nice". That's how you connec… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 12:07 PM |
| 25 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?What a woman says she wants or doesn't want is something that matters in the moment they say it, not later. If she says she doesn't have sex on the first date she means in the moment she said it. Once the date is happening that can change if she suddenly feels like having sex even though a few hours before she said she didn't have sex on a first date. And vice versa. Just becasue she said she wants to have sex before the date, doesn't mean she will still want it once the date is happening if her… | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 10:36 AM |
| 1 | Questions to askQuestions to ask to build trust and connection? Simple ask "how does it feel?" or "how did you feel" or "How do you feel about that" or "what's the feeling like?". You ask those things about literally anything that she does, likes or experiences. And you also share in detail your feelings about everything you do, like or experience, describing every detail or sensation of how you felt with metaphors, and descriptive language, not just vague quick straightfoward shit like "it felt nice". That's h… | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 11:23 PM |
| 113 | How do you keep the “spark” alive after the first few dates?You don't keep the spark alive. It's always the illusion of action from men...Thinking they have to do something to get an outcome. They just can't let go of the future and live in the present. You don't hangout with a male buddy and think "how do i keep his interest so that we hangout a second time" or "i need to make sure we hangout a second or third time to make sure our friendship is solidified and he doesn't lose interest in forming it"... But with women somehow you think like this, right? … | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 10:48 PM |
| 7 | Met this a cute chick at work but I rarely see her how do I ask for her contact without looking desperate?It's a fallacy to suggest that being interested in someone automatically makes you desperate. | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 08:23 PM |
| 12 | I sent a message, but the girl just liked it and didn't respond, what should I do?Nothing, the ball is in her court. If she is interested she will respond if not she is not interested. Your mindset if you are not needy and desperate should be that "if it's not an absolte yes then it's a no". However needy desperate losers do the opposite they think: "If she doesn't say a clear absolute no, then it's a maybe and i should keep trying until i receive a 100% clear straightfoward answer that she is not interested." Hence needy guys would keep trying until the girl either blocks th… | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 07:00 PM |
| 0 | Coffee date etiquette?- I don't know what the expactations on her part will be. It doesn't matter, what matters is what intention you have and then act and frame the whole thing based on that intention. You don't act like a friend and then hope she tells you if you can or cannot act like a lover or a guy who hits on her. You hit on her on the date because you feel like it period. You do it no matter the outcome and you don't apologize for hitting on her and you don't shift into acting strictly platonic if she tells y… | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Seduction works best when you drop itI would rather escalate because it's how i feel, and because i feel arousal or the impulse to escalate that's the only reason i need to do it, not because i think she wants to, but because i wanna be honest with where i am no matter the outcome. So for me it's i verbalize the risk: "If i escalate now, she might lose interest or react badly" and then i say "and yet, im going to do it anyway" because that's me in that moment, it's what i want, and because i want it, I act. Because im not doing thi… | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 05:32 PM |
| 3 | What happened to u/HistorianOk2573He is here: https://www.seducciononline.net/here-is-what-happened-to-u-historianok2573/ | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Matched with a tourist and we clicked. What should I do to move forward if she lives across the country?So, you are saying that you or your female friends love starting long distance relationships from scratch without having dated first in real life, and where months or years pass by, without touching their partner, without going on dates, without being there for their partner, without sex, worrying if their partner is seeing someone else in secret and desperately trying to keep things alive through something as dull as text messages and calls? You and your friends are weird then. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Picnic first date?About the 13 year old thing… The guy asking this is literally a teenager, so yes seems suitable for a date what i described. You sound like a 40 year old woman who has forgotten how to have fun, and thinks that a movie like Notting Hill is the peak of romance and that being too serious to be playful on a first date is somehow masculine behaviour. What’s wrong with holding hands if you like the person and the feeling is mutual? Yes holding hands in a bench, and flirting and looking into each othe… | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Picnic first date?They downvoted the best answer lmfao. This sub is terrible. | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 06:46 PM |
| -3 | Picnic first date?Weird to go on a picnic with a person you barely know. You have watched way too many romantic comedies. It’s too much and cheesy… What’s next? A bunch of musicians playing a romantic song in the background too? A chocolate box, and some flowers? This ain’t the 19th century. It’s a first date, it’s a stranger, not the 10th date and a person you have already kissed with. Better to just ride bikes together or play basketball or something more casual, but bringing food, drinks, plates,… The kind of … | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 06:44 PM |
| 2 | This is GOLD. This guy I let talk and he laid out his game. Women are usually all over him.I came here expecting gold. It turned out to be shit instead. Time wasted reading this crap. | /r/seduction | 05/07/22 10:34 AM |
| 4 | How to get fit fast if you can't do any sport?Like others have said this isn’t the sub to ask for fitness advice. Yes we are aware that fitness can help attract girls, but you aren’t asking about girls you are specifically asking for workout routines and diet tips. And this isn’t the sub to talk about that. Like others point out, money also helps attract women and yet this isn’t the sub to talk about making money. Having a good career or job also helps attract women and yet this isn’t the sub to talk about career advice or writing CVs, beca… | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 02:08 PM |
| 1 | I meet a random girl on the Train yesterday and got her contact. Now what?Say an inside joke, which is to call out the most memorable moment that happened when you two met. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 07:33 PM |
| 5 | How to assume attractionAssume attraction means that m you go around acting like you are sure that you are desirable no matter what other people say. Now while this sounds like deluding yourself, the reality is that when you talk and act like you are desirable with conviction, then people feel attracted to this attitude. It’s as if the fact that you delude yourself, can make other people to delude themselves that you are attractive and desirable. Basically what you believe ends up manifesting itself. This works both wa… | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:39 PM |
| 5 | why does she keep saying this?She is saying it because you are just friends and nothing more and feels weird that people think you are her boyfriend when you are not even having sex or anything | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:34 PM |
| 2 | why does she keep saying this?She is saying it because you are just friends and nothing more and feels weird that people think you are her boyfriend when you are not even having sex or anything | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:34 PM |
| 16 | I meet a random girl on the Train yesterday and got her contact. Now what?Texting you need to skip formalities like “it was nice meeting you” “how are you doing today” etc You need to be fun, say humorous thinks like they are humorous thoughts said o muy loud, inside jokes, funny anecdotes, tease her. You want to get her to laugh, feel emotions, etc. It’s about playing with her and skipping boring generic talk | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:33 PM |
| 13 | I always get held back by myself when I see a really pretty womanIt’s not about being good enough. Ask any woman how many losers they dated, and they will say pretty much 90% of them, meaning that those guys didn’t need to be good enough to date her. It’s about making her feel sexual tension, getting her to feel positive emotions and connecting. Seduction is not about measuring up to her standards, it’s merely to get her to feel emotions about you. Nothing more than that. So a rejection doesn’t mean you are not good enough for her, it just means you failed to… | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | No matches on Tinder in SwedenAgreed! | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Not sure which sub to upload this to but this is why men shouldnt argue with girls, utter waste of timeNah, he truly did get owned and it’s quite clear he doesn’t get laid, his ego shows. Also you are replying to a girl mate. Pretty sure any random girl gets laid more often on average than any random guy. | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Every example pick up line/compliment I've read here is so cringeworthyyou don’t need to be shakespeare to pull girls, you said it yourself, most guys who get laid aren’t the smartest or the smoothest they don’t say anything super special or super witty, they say those things or even more simple stuff and ti works because it’s about the vibe you convey when you say it. Also the context in which those lines are said matters too, if you haven’t shared a word with a girl and the first thing you say is that it probably isn’t good, however if you have been talking for 2… | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 01:24 PM |
| 1 | How to keep in touch with a girl that you approached?Wrong. Compliments only make you lose value if they are focused on physical appearance… If they are on personality traits they are actually high value because it shows you have high standards, that you are picky, that you don’t just go for a girl because she is pretty, but because she has more interesting stuff going on for her, which are all signs of high value male. Obviously she has to have demonstrated those traits like intelligence, funny and outgoing, or else she will not believe you. But … | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 11:36 AM |
| 3 | Text game with this girl on Insta?Say something funny. If you want a girls attention you need to say something humorous, something that would get her to laugh with you. Show your sense of humour | /r/seduction | 20/05/22 09:10 PM |
| 0 | Should I keep faking my personality or go back to my old selfBeing overly serious and quiet will not get you any girls, being a clown will also not get you girls. You need to find the right balance of humour, but without going full clown. There is this great book you should read to find the right way to be fun and attract girls. It teaches you how to be have better flirty and fun conversations, so you skip the interrogation mode, serious mode and can build attraction through conversation because girls want to have fun with you. | /r/seduction | 20/05/22 10:17 AM |
| -1 | What's the best way to ask if she wants to date ?You should not be asking her to be exclusive if you haven’t even kissed with her first at the very least and even asking her to be exclusive after your first kiss would be rushing things too soon, you should ideally sleep with her and have sex for like 1 or 2 months and then you may wanna think about being exclusive, she will probably be the one to ask you for exclusivity after you have been sleeping together for a while. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 04:04 PM |
| 2 | What to improve in my text game?girls don’t validate themselves that easily, they know game by intuition, and their frame is quite solid. | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 06:24 PM |
| 30 | First approach during daytimeNext time talk to her for 10 mins before you ask for her number | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Dating In CollegeGreat advice! | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 03:26 PM |
| 2 | relationship adviceGood advice | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 10:52 AM |
| 1 | relationship adviceTerrible advice jesus 🤦🏽♂️ | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 10:52 AM |
| 2 | Why do women reject you if they’re attracted to you?Exactly. The girl doesn’t feel qualified which is a very common mistake. | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Movie with a surprise +1I agree 100%. There are better places to have a first or second date with a girl you barely know well enough. A walk in a big park, or a pub, or a coffee shop, or any casual environment where the girl doesn’t feel pressured to stay there, if things get weird or awkward between you and her. A place where if things get uncomfortable then you take one drink and call it a day, rather than being forced or stay there for 3 hours, dying to leave the theatre and go home because the vice just was too awk… | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Movie with a surprise +1The cinema has been found to be the worst place for first dates. Article: Why you should never go to a cinema on first dates Another article: 3 REASONS WHY THE CINEMA IS A BAD FIRST DATE IDEA Another article: 11 Science-Backed First Date Tips To Make Your Date Great. Avoid formal dinners and the cinema. So, yeah, if there is one clear thing you need to change is where you are having dates. A date is supposed to be about talking with the other person, getting to know each other on a personal leve… | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 07:21 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]The problem with confessing feelings, is that it’s not properly justified if you haven’t at the very least kissed, or if you haven’t had sex with her. You can’t say to women you are in love with them randomly out of nowhere, just because you were friends. And if you want to let her know that you are into her that’s fine but it’s not done by saying something like “hey i really like you for a long time and i was thinking if we could be more than friends” that kind of thing doesn’t work, and it’s n… | /r/seduction | 13/12/21 09:38 AM |
| 1 | How do I approach a group of girls.Presumption, not assumption, because you literally said, “one wrong word, and you are done” and that “saying x or y thing is risky”, which highly suggests you walk on egg shells, afraid of her reaction or your comments backfiring. I don’t care about her reaction or the result or anything backfiring, i care about having fun. | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 04:01 PM |
| 2 | How do I approach a group of girls.Because part of the fun of seduction is taking risks. And, the point of teasing is that it can be risky because you are deliberately trying to get a reaction from them. You however are going for the ass kissing route of “you are so hot, like a bond girl, you are the prettiest of the group and i like you , blah blah blah”… Which is too much validation for a girl and you put yourself beneath her if you aren’t just as hot as her which is more often the case than not. In my experience teasing works … | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 03:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I approach a group of girls.Dude, it’s just an example. You are trying to rationalise too much all of this, in the heat of the moment she will know it’s a joke because it’s pretty obvious when someone is joking if he has any sort of control of his own social skills, body language and voice tonality. seems like you are walking on egg shells when you talk to women, i would just say it to have fun regardless of the result which is the right mentality to have anyways when teasing girls. | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 03:38 PM |
| 22 | How do I approach a group of girls.Nah, the first one from the other guy was good because it’s playful and challenging for the girl and allows for a flirty game… However yours gives away too much validation and relies too much on her liking you just because of looks, plus she isn’t likely to say that she is gonna go out with you because she doesn’t know you. You are literally an stranger who wants to go out with her only because she looks better than the other girls. Meaning that if another one was more pretty then you would go w… | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 03:26 AM |
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