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All of this. I tend to believe the old adage is true; “men know fairly early on if they want to marry you/build a life with you”. So for him to be this unsure about any concrete intentions with OP after almost 4 years is a major red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 03:37 PM
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Guys like it as much as if a woman was told by her husband/boyfriend that he committed to his “silver prize”. I don’t think his is a gender specific reaction, essentially being told you weren’t first choice for your partner. Everyone wants to be seen as unique/special/irreplaceable/first and maybe only choice by their significant other. This is probably more heightened with men who tend to be more competitive in nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:32 PM
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Hmmm. Spoken like a true sociopath.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:01 PM
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I mean , sure. If I were a single guy in his thirties and pursuing a relationship, it would make sense that I would be more attracted to “pre-wall” younger women than older “used up, damaged goods”. But I would also understand there is a time based “wall” for men; not for looks but for what wealth/economic success they should be reaching based on their age. Women start out with their SMV being the highest while young then declines with age, for men their resources/status are expected to grow as …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 03:13 PM
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Safety issues and social consequences aside, IMO having sex with the same person, with whom you share sexual chemistry and an emotional bond is much better than endless one night stands with strangers. Especially if those strangers don’t care about your sexual pleasure during the act.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:17 PM
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I would disagree. Prolly the minority In this doom and gloom sub but men are desirable and needed in our society. Sure, times have changed for women to be able to live independently , but that does not make the importance of men in our society redundant as a whole. Aside from being builders and providers, men also play father,leader,protecter, life partner and various other supportive roles. There is still the desire for a strong intimate romantic connection and creating a family/tribe with a pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:57 PM
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Men could always just choose better sexual partners, who are on the same page as them about unexpected pregnancy/birth control? Just like women can, if they want to avoid being single parents? Or there’s abstinence, vasectomy, using condoms 100% of the time? It’s funny how some men act like they have NO control over impregnating a woman. If you don’t want to get “baby trapped”, you have sufficient options to avoid that outcome. No one’s forcing you to “nut” inside an evil scheming baby-crazy har…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 05:17 PM
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Yeah same. Our lifestyles being compatible matters more to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:42 PM
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Look, there are risks in every relationship. Men can leave you for a younger woman, if given the chance. Women can leave you for a richer man. The person you settle down with can potentially abandon or betray you at any time. If you’re going to marry, do as much vetting as possible to ensure they are marriage material, and hold the set of values you want in a longtime partner. The age at which you marry isn’t going to very much affect this mitigation factor. Accept that there’s always going to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 12:13 PM
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No need to change OPs view. Women are the gatekeepers of sex. We are supposed to be picky about our mating partners; above average looks are primitive indicators to us of better genes. Men’s biological imperative will drive him to try to have as much sex with a variety of women to spread his seed, but he’d probably be a bit pickier when it comes to committing resources and settling down for one woman. Water is wet. Life isn’t fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 12:55 AM
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Ahh, I’m actually looking forward to seeing this come on the market. I am also interested to see if it will be well received and hope it comes with very little side effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 12:44 AM
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I think it’s projected defensiveness if that’s even a word. I think as long as no one’s engaging in anything illegal, or taking part in prostitution (because human trafficking is most likely fueling that kind of trade) in other countries, more power to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:47 AM
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I don’t think red pill (the school of thought so to speak) is evil. It’s a description of how men and women’s mating strategies are, driven by biological imperatives we developed for primal survival of our species. What both sides can be naturally driven to desire is what it is, and doesn’t always nicely fit into our contemporary views on “what is right/wrong/nice/mean/legal/illegal”, etc. The people who identify as “red pilled” advising an audience (or digesting the concepts and deciding) to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 04:40 PM
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I think more men should just experiment with a fake female profile and experience OLD from a woman’s perspective themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:00 PM
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I would agree that having both money and status trumps good looks alone. Any of these values individually are attractive and responses to them will of course vary depending on the recipient.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 06:24 PM
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Really? Because that article states: The share of marriages where the husband is the primary or sole breadwinner has fallen steadily in recent decades, driven mainly by the declining share of marriages where the husband is the sole provider – this was the arrangement in 49% of marriages in 1972, while today that share is 23%. The study alludes to egalitarian households where the spouses both make between 40-60% of the household income, is more of the norm today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:55 PM
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I would say straight up 50/50 presuming we are an unmarried couple without kids and both employed, unless: -One person is moving into the other’s existing home at thar partner’s behest and its at a disadvantage to them to do so(much farther work/school commute, COL and rent is significantly higher than your previous living situation, etc). -we both have agreed upon a different arrangement Edited to add: marriage and children and the salary disparities that come with that obviously would change w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:47 PM
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When a man says he loves you, what he really loves is what you provide for him/what value you add to his lifestyle. OP’s point about human mating strategy is not gender specific. Both men and women usually love their mating partners conditionally, and for good reason. True Unconditional love is usually seen in a parent/child relationship, not in romantic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 03:31 PM
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I disagree. There’s a huge difference from a partner loving you and conducting the relationship differently with you, because obviously are are not the same person as their ex, and someone not desiring you. People usually get together because there is a strong enough mutual desire to do so. also, having been married 15 years so far, I honestly have and still could care less if my husband thought he “settled” for me. What truly matters is how we feel about and treat each other in OUR current rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:11 PM
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When I see this tired argument rehashed from men over and over I start realizing something: These kinds of men battle with insecurities and/or narcissistic impulses that drive them to feel entitled to being pedestalized by women, being made to FEEL better than all the other previous competition. Regardless of gender, Holding these kinds of expectations of essentially being worshipped by your partner is irrational. I wish more people would stop chasing after getting validation from others instead…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:18 PM
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I think it’s a good thing, if you both intend on starting a family unit with children to take care of, especially if it’s mutually agreed upon that one spouse will need to financially depend on the other (which may happen when you start making babies and while raising young children). But regardless of a marriage in place or not - the quality of the relationship totally depends on both partners consistently putting in The work to make the relationship healthy and enjoyable. Dead bedroom, growing…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 03:38 PM
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Lol no. You earn my submission when you’ve shown yourself to be a comprehensive, reliable long term partner with sound leadership qualities. It’ll never be my job to serve it up on a platter at your demand beforehand m just to show good faith. Men who can’t even lead themselves to success, bitching about how women won’t submit to him will never understand that it is NOT a woman’s duty to submit. She would naturally be submissive under his frame if he qualified. If she doesn’t, he is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:19 AM
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Yep this exactly. It’s interesting to see how people post up here trying call out the entirety of one biological sex and be completely unaware that other side is just as likely to have problematic behaviors. Talk about a whole bunch of pots calling the kettles black.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:34 PM
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When I was in my early 20’s I dated a guy like this. Didn’t work out for too long because he insisted on telling me what to do when he had not earned my Submission. And sure, leadership doesn’t equal who makes all the money. But I’ll be damned to let my life partner completely take the wheel of my life when he’s not providing for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:54 AM
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Creepiness is subjective to a point for everyone, but usually always comes from unwanted, abnormal social behavior being directed towards you. A person interrupting me mid set and trying to flirt? Rude maybe but not creepy. That person continually directing attention towards me (prolonged staring, continuing to try to talk to me, following me, taking shots of me while exercising) after I indicate I’m not interested in engaging with them? Yes, creepy because the social norm would be to leave that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:57 PM
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Im pretty modern so that’s the way my relationship works. We both bring in money, we both pay for things, we both clean/cook, raise our kid. To play devils advocate, I’ve run into a lot of BOTH genders who desire to cherry-pick the benefits of both modern and traditional relationship roles and not have to carry the burdens (i.e. a man who wants a girl to make her own money but still wants to be the “leader”, a boss babe who doesn’t want to play housewife while the guy provides for her lifestyle,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:39 PM
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I think alimony should not be due to the other spouse, the only support a divorced spouse should give would be to any children whom are legally dependent to them. And of course, any assets accrued during the course of marriage be split equitably. Yes the SAHP does suffer an earning potential loss when they leave the workforce and return, however (imo) they are not entitled to still financially benefit from the provisions of a marriage that is no longer in effect; they are now a single parent and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:06 PM
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Sounds like this can be resolved by casually bringing it up with him. Get some clarity from him about if he has any underlying concerns about you not being invested in self growth / expanding on your own skill set and values, or if this is his way of trying to be playful with you. Let him know how you just want to make sure you’re perceiving it as it’s intended, or not. Remember It’ll take time for both of you to learn each others communication style in this relationship so this might just be a …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 04:22 PM
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FTFY: People are not self aware on how badly men can be treated in society. And people view each other’s value differently. Men = success objects / women = sex objects. Also, ever seen Men bully other men, attack/violate each other, and push the ideal that strength comes from being stoic or controlling/hiding one’s emotions? The perpetrator is not limited to one gender. I do have a question - why do guys like these seem to be so focused on trying to lay blame with their unhappiness to women spec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:34 PM
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Lean (preferably 15% or less) Muscular frame, shoulders and back wider than stomach and hips, manly features indicative of high testosterone(deep voice, face and body hair, jawline, etc). Somewhere between 5’ - 5’10”, good posture, no outer signs of malignant health or severe birth deformities. When shit is going down he needs to know how to take control of the situation and not break down. And for some reason if he is doing a manual labor task(building/lumber jacking, hunting) ooooh boy. Idols …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:34 PM
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“Real life”? How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:16 AM
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2; one for a little over 3 years and one for 17 years and counting. I’m 39.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:51 PM
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Married for 16, together for 19years at this point. But I do realize in lurking this sub and many others that issues this generation has with finding relationships are influenced by factors wildly different from my era.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:48 PM
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I can only imagine they may be finding solace in fat positivity echo chambers online, orbiting around men as the hopeful friend zoned “fat gal pal”, buying cats, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:38 PM
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I’ve got to disagree that generally women find men who’ve slept with over 100 women as a good thing. If anything I’d correct this to say straight men think this of other men. I would say that women in general don’t care as much or get as strong of an “ick” factor by it compared to straight men at women with 100 n counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:41 PM
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Eh, if you find someone you connect with well in another country, all the more power and blessings to you, man or woman. I never get women who complain about “passport bros”; even if it’s a mail order bride situation as long as all parties are consenting and legal age, not my or anyone else’s place to voice unwarranted judgement or opinions about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:09 PM
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No one is ignorant of the fact that Average looking PEOPLE are often not portrayed as the romantic interest characters in any kind of targeted media. You see this many times when the gender of the target audience is reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:37 PM
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From watching the behavior and dynamics of my female friends, and from my interactions with men in real life. I would say red pill describing a woman’s and man’s mating /socializing behaviors at a primal level are generally true. Red pill itself is just a school of thought, it’s not saying “woman bad, man good”, just describing human nature which is not always pretty (on BOTH sides) but designed for our survival as a species . The incels and men who become hateful towards or devalue all women af…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:45 PM
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Yeah. Look at most men in power who have celebrity status/wealth/looks. Not surprised to hear about their infidelity scandals or their questionable dating requirements
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:07 PM
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mini golf if your area has a place, or adult arcade (like Dave and Busters), comedy stand up show. Or, if your area has a shopping outlet/strip mall / “old town city center” designed to let people walk around in, head there just for coffee or drinks, if it goes well enough expand to dinner?
/r/seduction29/09/22 09:36 PM
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It is very hard for the average American man. Which is why he should earnestly maximize the attributes he can control (IN PERSON social skills, character/intellect, interesting skills/hobbies, grooming/hygiene, fitness, fashion, career/finances) to make it less hard. Many aspects of life are hard. Not to sound like a broken record, but If you want anything in life you have to do the work that will get you what you want. That does not include making an online dating profile then sit back and wait…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:05 PM
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Not okay, because regardless of there not being any societal repercussions, there are other risks involved that the non-lizard part of my brain recognizes. Will the guy be a good father figure and active co-parent, especially since we haven’t formed a cohesive household ? Will I be able to provide optimal parenting and environment settings for raising children to be successful adults? If either of these are a No or even a unconfident Yes, then I would refrain from giving birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:34 PM
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My comments are centered to OP’s subject about American men going to non-western countries to find women who are presumably more traditional/ ie not like the modern American woman. I don’t pretend to know what men want. I am merely lending my personal knowledge of what women who grew up with “traditional values” tend to seek out in exchange for what they offer to men that’s different from “modern” women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:02 PM
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Individuals are different, yes. And with the downward trend of college attendance and workforce population rates with men in the US, I foresee that more of the average modern American man will no longer be qualified as a “traditional” partner if this keeps up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:39 PM
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I assume op is talking about foreign women raised with strong traditional values compared to western society. These women are usually looking for a traditional man in kind. So if you can fully play that part(sole financial and comfortable lifestyle provider, you heed to and get approval from the in laws, she is the boss in the house, child free is not an option), then have at it. Source - my super traditional Korean mom. ETA - to answe the question, no I don’t think American men seeking out fore…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:12 PM
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Ooof, this is not a question that has the same majority answer. And I would caution any incel guy trying to poll this from the internet as information to assess interacting with women in real life. If a dude attempted to degrade or dominate me during sex without my explicit request, I’d walk right then and there. Even my man, who is very dominant and rough in the bed, which I enthusiastically constant to, is extremely cautious in ensuring that I’m giving him the green light in the play and it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:45 PM
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This is the best response imo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:53 PM
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As a woman I’m gonna have to disagree; you are Looking at this with the assumption that age affects mens and womens attractiveness the same way. There have been studies showing Men of all ages are attracted most to the same age bracket of women (early 20’s when we are most fertile) whereas we are usually attracted to an age bracket that closely correlates to our age at that given time. Also, while we find the “young tall dark handsome alphachad” most attractive for making babies with, our instin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:50 PM
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I think it’s called weaponized incompetence? Either partner can be guilty of this, and the real life examples I’ve seen were from adults who were either overly coddled and not forced to do their own life up-keeping tasks by parents, or people with self esteem/confidence issues who shutdown after trying to do/fix something on their own because they’ve already decided they’ll not do it right. Another thing I’ve noticed with my early relationship years and in other couples - if you’re any type of “…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 03:56 PM
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Yeah, if OP means that your examples of the general descriptions are what my son would most likely experience in life (minimally harmful fuckboy, beta hubby not being desired by wife), then I’d want him to go with what made him most happy. If he’s happy (responsibly) living the bachelor life and not tied down, then great. If he loves being a family man and raising a family and ok with mismatch of attraction with partner, then also great. I just wouldn’t want my son to have the extreme outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:56 PM
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Can you give some descriptions of the fuckboy and beta hubby type? I imagine that a “fuckboy” runs around treating women like poop, and making them into single mothers. I’d be really disappointed in raising a sociopathic, self centered and reckless adult who left a trail of destruction behind him. I imagine when you say beta hubby, you mean a man who is getting dicked over/used & abused by a manipulative partner? Both of these sound terrible honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:35 PM
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It matters to women, just to varying degrees and whomever tries to say the majority of us don’t care about that stuff is lying. Majority of men on the flip side , if they were given a choice between a group of potential partners who all had great compatible personalities, the younger, more attractive one is going to be chosen. Women like security and superior genes, men like youth (because fertility) and beauty. It’s not ALL of what we are looking for in partners but we are instinctively vetting…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:01 PM
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1,4,9,8,7,5,3,2,6 Personally I have a thing for stocky but muscular, manly looking short guys. Feminine traits on/in men are a big turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:38 PM
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trying to define the profile of a red pill man is challenging. IMO, An ideal red pill man is an alpha, master of his universe, he has a (or several) mission(s) he’s actively set out to achieve. Focused, has leadership qualities, rational, has a persona that garners respect from his peers, and decisively moves in a way that provides the best outcome for what he wants out of life. Whether his goals are harmful to others or are based on his integrity and morals(or lack thereof), make defining wheth…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:03 PM
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Ah yes because getting abortions are as easy/painless as ordering something through a drive through fast food place. I love how a man expertly explains to a woman how easy and convenient medical procedures he’ll never encounter as a man are. Men have control over their reproduction just as women do, outside of rape. If you don’t like the possible consequences of your actions (making a baby from having sex) you can always abstain. Or use your own condoms/have a vastecomy, unless you think those o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 01:02 AM
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I hate this whole “dad bods are hot” movement. Dad bods were originally supposed to be muscular, strong guys who have an average amount of fat cushion, more than your gym rat bodybuilder or fitness model. Now it means obese guys who have never lifted or done any laborious work in their lives. Just like how severely obese women have taken over “BBW or curvy”. I can get behind the original meaning of the word, but not it’s current .
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:57 PM
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Honestly, as long as everyone’s of legal age and consenting, my opinion or anyone else’s opinion about what they do in private doesn’t matter. It’s weird to me when I see a very young adult with a much older person and I can imagine there might be something nefarious going on, but I’m not going to presume there’s a “victim”/“predator” dynamic to it off the cuff especially since I’m not in their relationship. And it’s really none of my business .
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:47 PM
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I think we have to consider that men and women have a tendency to settle for what they can get. We are social creatures and generally crave relationship bonds. Although we all want the best, most of us will settle for the best we can get if a relationship is that important to us. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:11 PM
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That’s the premise, sure. If they decide to have sex beforehand, pray their birth control is effective enough to prevent parenthood and that they are vetting sexual partners , as all men/women should be doing if they want to lower the risk of accidental reproduction. And if a child is still made, they deal with those consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:59 PM
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Underage rape and production of children after the fact afflicts both girls and boys. The child parent is faced with dealing with the outcome of the rape in both genders, even as victims. Taking off a condom during sex and finishing inside a woman against her consent happens as well. She still has her own responsibility in using her own method of birth control to prevent pregnancy as much as possible, because again, regardless of everyone’s intentions, everyone is ultimately responsible for thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:24 PM
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I completely agree, child support is for the housing/care/expenses of the child. The mother should not be attempting to use it as a form of “alimony “. I do see lot of guys arguing for no child support because they believe the US courts mandate too high of a support level. What they need to understand is, kids are not cheap and what they’re paying/supposed to pay does not usually leave excess funds for the custodial parent to take advantage of. For the custodial parent, normally the courts will …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:48 PM
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Although many pregnancies have been prevent by the advent of modern medicine, birth control is still not 100% effective. There will always be a risk of pregnancy and ultimately birth of a child after having PIV sex. Both men and women take on that risk regardless of their intentions or desires to not procreate. If a man is worried that this risk is high of getting saddled with financially supporting children he made but doesn’t want, he should maximize control over his own reproduction (vasectom…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:31 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you are able to feel the guy out for intentions and for chemistry; I was more so referring to when women aren’t feeling the guy out and just making an arbitrary “he has to wait until date #3” rule around sex. Sex should come when you want to have it with the guy and are comfortable with engaging into it, regardless of whether a relationship comes out of it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:34 AM
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When I think of a simp, I think of a pitiable guy who lacks the confidence and self Esteem to enforce good personal boundaries and look out for his own well-being. Also, If your method of attracting women is to throw money and your servitude at them, it would make one think that’s all you really can offer to another person (not because of how awesome you are as a person and partner). Reeks of desperation. However I don’t think a guy is a simp for putting his neck out for girls or guys in his lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 02:42 AM
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I think it’s a fallacy that women hold in our rationale when trying to implement dating strategy to successfully find a relationship. Perhaps she goes into dating and realized that men pumped and dumped her, and thinks that giving up sex is the causation for the “dump”. What she doesn’t realize is that most likely the guy never has intentions in the first place to stick around. So instead of properly vetting a guy for his intentions first by watching what he does and say, she thinks withholding …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 02:28 AM
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This reminds me of that American dad episode where Stan proves to Francine that she married him for his provider abilities, and she proves he married her for her looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:07 PM
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I think everyone views the importance of marriage differently; your girlfriend may value it not just for religious or legal reasons, but for the societal value of it as the “ultimate commitment” people can make to each other. Society also still negatively view women who have children with a man outside of wedlock, and she is in many ways burdening many of the risks herself by committing to someone without the legal protections a marriage could afford her. All in all, you both really should have …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:34 PM
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Oh this meme with Pete got me good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 02:36 AM
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The fact that you made a post to whine about being called a racist shows how narcissistic you are. You find a specific ethnic group of women disgusting. Cool story, not sure why you thought it was important to announce to internet strangers. Thanks for announcing your dating preferences, which no one asked for In the first place. Put your stuff out on a public forum, expect to get comments about your character you don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 10:06 PM
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This happened probably about a year ago, I was waiting in line at Walmart and a young guy passed me then circled back to try hitting on me. Told him no, I’m married (ring obviously out in the open), then he tries to get my instagram because he “wants to get to know me as a friend “. Refuse again, then he whips out a pair of old dingy looking car keys and tells me he’ll give me his BMW if I go on a date with him. Honestly suspect that he was recording me or something to try to see if I’d act like…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 04:34 PM
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The cold approach dilemma for women and men are one of the issues caused by our society transitioning to modernism, and there’s still some confusion as to how long which “traditional” customs are going to remain acceptable or not. As women take on more traditionally “masculine” roles, and more men taking on feminine ones, in society, their expectations and responsibilities will continue to change along with that, not without causing temporary conflict between the genders. It’s only a matter of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 03:07 PM
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I’d say this is pretty spot on. I’ve heard common stories of step parents (both men and women) raising step kids as their own, until they start producing biological children of their own. Then it become painfully obvious that the step kid’s bond pales in comparison to their half siblings’ biological bond to the step parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:41 PM
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A year after I graduated, my senior year French teacher got arrested for a 4 year long sexual relationship with her 17yr old teachers aid student. I think at the time she was in her mid 30’s. A few years later, my old track team coach/history teacher was arrested for several sexual misconduct allegations; he was mid 50-60 at the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:02 PM
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When I turned 11-12; ironically i still looked like a young kid until I was 15. I distinctly remember how adult men, especially those close to my fathers age at that time, began aggressively (like parking and getting out of their car, or following me, trying to touch me or grab me) soliciting me if I was ever out by myself. A lot of times on my way to or from school or at the mall or grocery store. I’m very thankful that I was raised by my dad and there were strong healthy male role models (gran…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:20 PM
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When I was single and younger, yes. Because I didn’t do casual sex, and it may indicate to me that he had commitment issues, higher likelihood of cheating, or may have children with one or more baby mamas which could be it’s own bag of issues. Also, reputation of the guy. I did not want to be associated with a “player” or “f*ckboi”; because I didn’t want to be someone’s body count conquest. It’s not the end all be all, because people mature, grow and change and their priorities shift as they age…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:57 PM
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I would’ve thought MGTOW and FDS were better comparisons on who has the more bitter/toxic community to be honest. redpillwomen is a better comparison for TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:26 PM
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I don’t care so much as to how my guy handled himself in past relationships, unless they are detrimental behaviors that have bled into our current relationship and are causing issues. It if you’ve decided that he is relationship material on his current merits, then why dwell on the past? People change, grow, learn from their past relationships. Just because he plastered a perfect fake image of how his past relationship was on social media, doesn’t mean it didn’t have issues you probably didn’t s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:05 PM
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She tries to reach out every few years to me or my sister but mainly to see who will give her money and house her for retirement. She’s a classic manipulative narcissist and compulsive liar; I would be willing to forgive and mend our relationship but she doesn’t ever change, so have to keep her out of my life for my own mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 02:03 PM
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No, average men cannot get as much casual no strings attached pussy thrown at them as average women get with offered dick. Our lizard brains tell men to “pump and dump” as much and many women as possible to spread their legacy while spending the least amount of resources, and for women to gatekeep sex and seek the best we can get in terms of superior genes, resources and protection(even if we are already with child from other men). This makes sense since from a biological standpoint, sex tends t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 11:11 PM
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As a happily married person of 15/16 years I would say no it is not worth it. The odds of divorce are too high, and it often economically ravages both partners. The only time I would recommend it is if you plan on starting a family and one partner is going to be completely financially dependent on the other. I will also say there are financial benefits (health insurance coverage, joint filing taxes) to marriage but those alone don’t make up for what divorce will do to your finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 07:38 PM
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When I was young (5ish), my mom cheated on my dad, filed for divorce then automatically won custody of me and my sister. We lived with her for a few months, watching her boyfriend beat the living crap out of her and even after several police interventions she still had full custody of us. Dad went to court a few times to try to gain custody but failed even with this happening. She relinquished it and gave us back to Dad so that she could move overseas with him. Never paid a dime of child support…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 05:55 PM
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It is for certain groups(conservative/religious/tradcon) of women and women who are wary of “fuckboys”. It’s often used as an indicator of their likelihood to cheat, if they have relationship experience(or is their love life just a string of casual partners?), likelihood of them having children and multiple baby momma’s. At least in my personal experience, when I was in my teens and early 20’s, I and my girlfriends did not want to be known as one of the many girls the popular “players” bedded. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 11:58 AM
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It’s never a good idea to, but it’s common because the workplace is one of the very few co-Ed places where you’ll potentially socialize and connect with people on an almost daily basis. In our society, we spend most of our younger years at work, or in college/trade school, so it makes sense. It’s how I met my husband, but after we started dating we no longer worked directly together to prevent the appearance of nepotism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:55 PM
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Married for 15 hrs here - the fact that we can work together as a team and talk out our issues are probably the two things I think are instrumental to a successful partnership . We have similar values and are on the same page for the most part when it comes to things like finances, family/parenting, supporting each other’s reasonable future endeavors. Other things, which I think are the hardest to maintain , not getting lazy about being attractive, intimate, and affectionate towards each other. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 06:57 PM
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1 - I’d say I’m at an 8. 2 - I’m 38, and am much happier now than I was in my 20’s. Mostly because I have a better sense of who I am as a person and what I want out of life. 3- I really don’t know. I think happiness is so individualized, you can’t draw comparisons by gender. I would think other kinds of measurements, like your economic status, quality of life, etc would be a better way to compare which groups are happier than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:42 PM
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Awww did I trigger you sweetie? 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:58 PM
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Unless it was rape, Home girl should use her grown woman sense and vet potential relationship partners better before having sex, if she’s going to be that upset that it doesn’t work out after sex 🤷🏽‍♀️. I’m an equal opportunity victim blamer. We are all ADULTS, living in a world where you might encounter shitty people who may use you. Yeah, they suck, but we are all personally responsible for creating good boundaries and practicing due diligence in vetting the other perso. before getting involve…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:50 PM
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I dunno, I used to lurk at the old redpill subs and especially in the “asktrp” one there were many more guys interested in getting advice on how to straight up be life/soul/money-sucking sociopaths towards women than not. They were definitely not following red pill self improvement edicts but still, they seemed to represent a good chunk of that community. They definitely seemed like that male version of what you describe FDS’ers to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:45 PM
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Such an internalized victim mentality. Let me guess, all women are bad and whenever a guy realizes he’s a loser in life, it has NOTHING to do with how he is, but instead it’s the woman’s fault!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:00 PM
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No, this sub is skewed in that the women and men experiencing bad stuff happen to them(or what they read somewhere online) are the most vocal about it. People successfully having relationships and friendships with the opposite gender aren’t up here posting on a community filled with bitter losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 11:38 AM
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If a guy is being used by anyone he thought was a friend, guy or gal (because mooching knows no gender), he needs to make a big boy decision and stop allowing people to use him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 11:35 AM
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And? Being obese is bad, and weight is controlled by caloric intake for the most part. Not doing any exercise is also bad, and has very little to do with affecting overall bodyweight, on its own. I think you are assuming I correlate exercise with controlling weight, but I did not as you can see from my initial comment, which was saying that Op is wasting his time trying to concern troll fat people, which his post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:23 AM
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I didn’t say anything about exercising = weightloss. Exercise is needed to maintain your body’s fitness level. Humans do need some form of regular exercise, for cardiovascular and heart health as well as maintaining mobility and bone density. You can hate it all you want and suffer whatever disadvantages you get from it as well. Enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:17 AM
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Op, this topic is a lost cause. Majority of people who are fat, know they are fat and know what disadvantages/dangers they give themselves being fat. All you’re gonna get from them are excuses and resistance. Let them be fat; if they miss out on love or life from it they have no one to blame but themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:12 AM
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Full time working parent of elementary school children here. You can find the 1-1.5 hrs somewhere in your day a few times a week to hit the gym, if you really wanted to. Most people do not make the time, because they do not want the benefits badly enough. I find it consistently 6 days a week. I’ve been lifting consistently for close to 10 years now, and I look and move so much better than my female friends at the same age, who can’t find the motivation to work on their fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:02 AM
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Honestly i would think, “well, that sucks that they moved on but I understand why”. Because we are not exclusive and since I do not want exclusivity from him when he wants it, I can’t be upset that he changes his mind about me and drops me like a hot potato to go chase after another potential relationship partner .
/r/seduction07/11/21 01:24 AM
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She doesn’t owe you more of her time and effort though just to see if you’ll change your mind down the road. No one, in any situation, will. I hope maturity takes you out of that mindset, or you are going to have a whole lot of disappointment in any future relationship endeavors.
/r/seduction07/11/21 01:02 AM
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You are wrongly believing you are entitled to expect her or anyone to keep you up on a pedestal after you’ve refused agreeing to the exchange in which they were putting you up there for, in the first place. Neither of you owed the other person anything especially after the refusal for exclusivity, regardless how unreasonably early she pushed for it. She doesn’t have to try to keep winning you over, it’s obvious she changed her value assessment of you. Swallow the butthurt and move on.
/r/seduction07/11/21 12:49 AM
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Ok that clarifies a lot. 2 weeks is universally a bit too quick to be seeking exclusivity, so if that’s her cutoff before she moves on, she is going to have a hard time finding a relationship. I would personally say 2-3 months is generally enough time to vet for exclusivity. It sounds like you are not innocent about the game playing; expecting someone to try harder to “win” you over after telling them “I dunno”, is manipulative as fuck .
/r/seduction07/11/21 12:16 AM
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You’re no longer perfect everything when you tell her you don’t want to commit to an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. You being butthurt when someone pulls away girlfriend benefits when you refuse to commit to the title, is ridiculous. Next time, expect the same thing to happen when a girl asks for exclusivity and you don’t say “yes”. People will not wait on you to change your mind and move on. She gave you benefits in hopes you’d commit, you did not commit so don’t expect those benefit…
/r/seduction07/11/21 12:02 AM
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….if you’re out fucking other chicks, and you are not ready to be exclusive with just her, why are you upset that she is doing the same?
/r/seduction06/11/21 11:54 PM
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Treating customer service or wait staff, or really anyone for that matter, poorly. Immediately a no-go.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:31 AM
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Both men and women risk unplanned pregnancy every time they engage in PIV sex. Abortion is never a guaranteed choice/option, contraception is never 100% reliable , so that ability to consent was never a definite. If you have heterosexual sex, you take on a risk of becoming a parent. Plain and simple. There is no “forcing” parenthood on anyone unless they are being raped and a child is conceived from the act.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 02:02 AM
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Same with guys and the girls they’re fucking/in an relationship with. Your point being?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 10:09 AM
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I can certainly empathize with guys or girls who are not successful in an important aspect of their lives, even when I don’t share the experience. I think what you are seeing is lack of sympathy, not empathy. And frankly sympathy or pity isn’t something that everyone , girl or guy, gives to another person especially if they don’t share an especially familiar, emotional or intimate bond with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:47 AM
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Exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 11:38 AM
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I suspect a lot of shorter guys use it as an excuse or cop out for not being successful with women. Height is just one of the variables; there are plenty of good looking, fit, charismatic and productive short guys out there winning and tall guys who aren’t.
/r/seduction03/08/21 04:49 PM
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Care to Give examples as to how we “change the system” to avoid inequalities in the dating market? Because I personally can’t think of enforceable ones to change human behavior across a whole group of people, unless you start burdening the government with intrusive and frankly unrealistic mandates on who can date who.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 03:28 PM
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Eh, we may not be wrong in the criticism, but we are wrong to assume or expect that the majority of men today would continue to play the outdated societal roles that define them as “masculine” while we no longer play the “feminine” ones. The changes aren’t a bad thing; it’s good that we are breaking glass ceilings in the workforce and in education, etc, but with that we have to accept that we now might be playing “masculine” roles while male partners play “feminine” ones in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 02:39 PM
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I got no problem with porn. Watched it regularly when I was younger, a few times with the husband even. Certainly don’t mind that he watches porn content . I can see it be a problem when it warps your expectations of your partner, or when you find it difficult to get aroused in real life because you’ve been watching progressively extreme sexual content. And if you’re a younger person and porn is your main reference of what sex with women is like , then reality is going to be a rough adjustment f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:07 PM
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Sounds pretty reasonable, hahaha. If Any one objects to that , well at least you dodged a bullet up front.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 04:02 AM
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I agree. Sexual incompatibility is not something you can really hope to fix without drastically changing the dynamic of the relationship (going from a closed to an open one) or self work on one or both sides to recapture sex frequency lost due to reducing libido or attraction towards each other. If you realize you’re incompatible in that respect early one, it’s probably easier to end things then and move on to someone who matches your needs. No one enjoys a dead bedro relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 04:00 AM
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I think the whole struggle with unpaid work within a relationship can be resolved with simple vetting of the right partner before cohabitating /raising a family with and also learning to communicate expectations to your SO. In my 15 years of marriage, both my husband and and I have each taken turns playing each role of stay at home parent / breadwinner, part time worker &student&home parent / full time earner, 50/50 dual income full time workers. We found a compatible life partnership with each …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 04:21 PM
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This is my favorite part of OP’s update. I’m very glad she had an effective and very constructive conversation with her husband. I suspected from the first post that this issue was simply from a lack of having that conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 04:57 PM
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Pretty much this. /post
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:27 PM
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I actually like and appreciate when a guy stranger goes out of his way and tries to genuinely help me with something. Last week at the gym a guy stepped in to try to take a plate off a barbell for me( I was keeping it on but he didn’t realize that) and when I repeatedly declined I could tell the lightbulb switched on and he thought he was offending me. I came by his area to reassure him that I really appreciate what he did because guys are often scared away from offering help with good intention…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 12:02 PM
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I dunno, I’d still want to work towards getting a house for me, if it happens to make me more attractive along the way cool beans. I simply can’t imagine only having life goals focused around gaining the validation or attraction of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:58 PM
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Is it just me or is it a bit sad reading from some of these replies that a guy’s whole motivation for doing anything with career/life improvements are centered around women? No motivation to want to do it for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:33 PM
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If you are connecting the example Of standards that OP copied here from that other post as “top tier” partner material, then the folks that feel as you do and fear not getting a good partner should reevaluate what value they bring to the relationship table and consider working on improving upon that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:49 AM
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I was and am will forever be a fan of everyone pays for their own stuff, except for special occasions or situations where the other person is insisting on covering your tab or treating you out for an event. This is how I operate with friends when going out as a group; I see no reason to change that dynamic during a date or outing with a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:11 PM
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Re read my post in that it is responding to PP’s point that “bad guys” are tattoo having gang drug lords. I am pointing out that bad guys can seem Like well put together, attractive productive members of society as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:45 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree that people are able to exercise caution. OP is complaining about people exercising caution 🤷🏽‍♀️. The factor that Op is not considering is that it is completely reasonable for any stranger to exercise caution around another stranger, regardless of red flags or external indication of threat. OP is complaining that good guys are entitled to the trust that some women give to guys who turn out to be bad. Op does not understand that guys good or bad are not entitled to anythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:38 PM
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Before they were outed, they were perfect examples of predators hiding in plain sight. Not toting tattoos or drug lording or known to be in a gang as you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:44 PM
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.... why don’t you Google search what some caught rapists, killers and abusers look like......🤣. Last I checked, Ted Bundy was a handsome well dressed and spoken fella, and Brock Turner looked a blonde haired blue eyed all American bachelor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 03:15 PM
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This May come as a surprise to you, but People who roofie their dates or strangers in public, become that abusive spouse, end up to be a serial killer or rapist at the end of the date, hardly ever give off whatever immediately glaring red flags OP is assuming they do. The victims in those cases probably assumed the attackers/abusers were the nice/good guy. If we can call victims stupid for not protecting themselves and becoming victims In the first place, we need to stop complaining about how an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 03:06 PM
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And yet here OP makes a post complaining about women safeguarding themselves against “niceguys” like himself. Can’t have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:32 PM
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I would want my partner to find me physically attractive as well as enjoy spending time with me and sharing our lives together. I know I’m not the prettiest or hottest woman he’s been with / can get and I don’t delude myself into expecting him to lie about that to me . Eventually his and my looks will fade but I do expect that we will continue to try to remain attractive for each other , in ways we can control like personality, life missions and achievements, staying fit and healthy, effort in k…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 03:30 PM
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Oh man, I’m glad you didn’t get seriously wounded in this situation and I know the girl certainly appreciated you and the neighbor and security guard coming to her rescue. I think I’m that situation you have to make split second decisions based on instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:32 PM
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No. I think as human beings, if you see another person regardless of gender in a dangerous situation, you should do what you can to help them get out of the situation. But at the same time, you are personally responsible for looking out for yourself; you should not endanger or sacrifice yourself just to physically protect a stranger. Calling the police, offering to accompany another person on their walk or to their car or give them a ride, etc is going to be much more effective than jumping into…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:27 PM
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I’m a fan of accepting the unflattering parts of our human nature and not pretending we are so far removed from the same mating behaviors that have perpetuated our kind for hundreds and thousands of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:44 PM
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Well, If a woman isn’t attracting suitors when she wants, then she isn’t part of the “desired” club. Undesirable people have to work harder than their more attractive counterparts in order to get who they want, especially if that person has options. Girl or guy. Something some *ncels here refuse to accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:31 PM
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Nature gave women the baby making uteruses and thus the responsibility of being selective on who’d get them knocked up/carry on the next generation. They are not approaching the men who are not at the top of the genetic pool. These men are the ones who will have to chase and peacock for desirable women in order to get their genes passed on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:08 PM
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Nature gave women the baby making uteruses and thus the responsibility of being selective on who’d get them knocked up/carry on the next generation. They are not approaching the men who are not at the top of the genetic pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:06 PM
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I just want to say, this is an amazing solution that fixes the whole “she’s just damaged goods if she’s not a virgin “ whining incels have In this sub. Buckle up and bend over guys! Problem solved!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:05 PM
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The first things that come to mind given this sub would be: -over the age of 26 -divorced/ single mom not a Virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:22 PM
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There have been many instances Where men who gain power/wealth/status and have options, will trade in (if he fails to successfully hide the affair) the fatter, older, haggard wife and mother of his kids for that fun, tight assed 19 year old with less mileage. Again, if men have the opportunity, they will act upon their nature just as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 08:05 PM
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I wouldn’t blindly agree to that; my 40 yr old male incel friend struggles with dating and finding a relationship. he also only wants to date his ideal partner , who’d be a sub 25 year old Asian model/actress with exceptional pale skin and long black hair. Of course this is not the common expectation of every guy, but I wouldn’t say men don’t have high expectations for relationship partners. If that was the case many of them in this sphere would not be highly against or picky when it comes to co…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 07:06 PM
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I’m curious as to why men seem To focus exclusively on women’s hypergamy and view it as some evil thing that makes women all bad. Men are hypergamous, for different factors(youth, beauty, etc) when/if the opportunity presents itself. Big whoop.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 04:21 PM
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Yep, I remember an article bringing up this effect in a primary school environment; the good looking children were less likely to be punished for being bullied or breaking rules, and often got better grades from the teachers compared to their less aesthetic cohorts who performed the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 11:24 PM
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Here’s the thing. You are going to encounter both Men and women who have a goal of using people, regardless of how the interaction happened(you chasing them or vice versa). The only way to lower or mitigate the risk of getting involved with this kind of person, is by spending the time to properly vet them before getting physical/emotionally attached, and pay attention for red flags in the course of getting to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 12:32 PM
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Ugh that sounds unpleasant to deal with. How does the online conversation usually go before you decide to meet up in person? Sometimes you can kind of glean a person’s intentions from the way they initially converse with you. If they steer the initial conversations towards your looks / body/ anything directly sexual and don’t make an effort to talk/ask about other qualitative factors about you or themselves, that’s usually a big red flag for me. The guy being average looking doesn’t really filte…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:36 PM
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That’s pretty much how we did it in the 90’s with low income class minorities when crack cocaine was all the rage 🤷🏽‍♀️. But now it’s middle and upper class with the opiates “epidemic” and all of sudden they should get help instead of prison time 🙄 But to answer the question, for the sake of what should be done to actually remedy the situation is to stop focusing on putting blame on either party and instead look at the source of the symptoms driving the dynamic to exist. I think some Guys up her…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 01:52 AM
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Yeah, If there’s a wave I just can’t get behind in most aspects, it’s 3rd wave. I wouldn’t oppose taxing or some other regulations, just as we do with other controlled substances. Especially if it makes it harder on abusive pimps and child trafficking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:55 PM
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Exactly. I generally don’t agree with feminism but this type of subject kind of highlights how we as a whole society tend to put the responsibility of gender identified issues mainly on women when both genders are collaboratively creating the “issue” or situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:27 PM
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1 - don’t think this entirely counts, but I’ve been on a handful of dates with men who were significantly (10+ years) older and fatter (40+ lbs) than their profile age and pictures, so I call this “old fishing” and “fat fishing” than being a completely different person. It happened to a good 1/3 of my first dates when I was on OLD. The guys would fess up to in passing during the date, but I rejected a 2nd date because lying to gain others’ acceptance is a ginormous red flag to me. 2 - I don’t th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:07 PM
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So long as a profitable demand exists in the market, someone seeking profit who can supply, will. You speak about accountability but only complain about the suppliers, not the population who demands and pays for it. I wouldn’t blame fast food places for existing or put it on them to moderate their customer’s consumption of their products; I would blame the adult obese customers negatively impacted by their personal decisions for whatever consequences they face from eating too much fast food.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:51 PM
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I and Most of my friends are mid 30’s to 40, married (first time and for 5+years) and about half of us have kids either from marriage or in a blended family format. I don’t know that homogeneous social grouping is a good indicator of romantically successful people; I feel like everyone’s got that perpetually single friend who’s a welcome part of the friend group.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 03:44 PM
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I don’t mean to sound harsh but this doesn’t sound at all like a “alpha widowed” situation. If this is real and not a troll, I’d say OP has no/poor vetting abilities and quickly fell into infatuation with someone based on their “quirky “ novelties. Exactly what kind of advice are you seeking?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 03:25 PM
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I’ve never viewed vetting as the fail-proof mitigator of ALL risks that the other person is not a good match. Even with great, extensive vetting, There’s no way that you’ll prevent yourself from getting hurt 100%. There’s a risk of failure with every relationship; proper effective vetting just helps lower that risk a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 02:40 PM
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I could see that; like I said everyone’s perception of “fit” is varied.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 07:40 PM
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I never said shredded(bearing contest stage ready, extreme grainy skin and inserts, etc) . If you’re truly sitting at 15% or lower, you will be at a level where you have pronounced muscle definition, including a six pack (unless you have exceptional amount of loose skin or genetically store alotnof fat in that area). People are often hit with a hard dose of reality when they get a body comp test to see what their levels truly are at.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 07:39 PM
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Everyones perspective on what’s fit or not is different, I think. As a fit woman, when I think of a “fit” guy, I imagine a man who is MUSCULAR (yes, lifting heavy consistently with a supporting diet to accrue lean muscle mass), with a level of leanness that shows definition(inserts, vascularity, v taper, etc) , usually sitting at the 15% body fat level or below. My female friends (they are all obese so that my skew things) have told me they imagine “fit” guys are just dudes who are not land whal…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 05:36 PM
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I’d say try meeting women at your gym or if you join any fitness related social circles (like a running/biking/hiking group). I know that the gym is a little more “off limits” for that, but if you’re good at game and not coming off as desperate, creepy or aggressive and are approachable, you’ll do well. Also, location plays a part; you’ll probably find more fit women in higher cost of living areas, metropolitan cities (the rich parts anyways) and in general states that have lower obesity rates. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 04:48 PM
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The article doesn’t give specifics such as what the bill prescribes in cases of incest, rape, situations where birth could be significantly risky/deadly to the mother, and all it requires is just the man to claim he is the father, no DNA testing to verify. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 10:24 PM
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Nah, I’ve never believed in the generalization that currently men on a society level don’t respect women by default because of gender here in the U.S. And perhaps the women who see this happening in real time is due to the woman in question not garnering or earning the respect from others. People tend to have their own varied individual requirements to give respect to others M, usually based on character and personality traits, not so much what kind of reproductive organs they have. That being s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 12:49 PM
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Exactly. As I said earlier, life is not fair and that’s just reality. Most black people I’ve grown up around acknowledge racism but don’t act like victims. Actually The most “fuss” I’ve seen made about racism as of late has been from suburban middle to upper middle class white kids who’ve suddenly realized racism still exists and didn’t magically disappear with the abolishment of slavery and decided it was cool and made them felt involved in something important by posting black squares on their …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:59 PM
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I believe everyone is hypergamous, but those desires are rooted from the differing biological imperatives of the genders to ensure successful sexual strategy on either end. Lizard brain in Women pushes for her to choose the very best genetics(looks, height, health) as well as secure that partner as a protector and provider for her and their offspring since childbirth and rearing leaves her vulnerable. Paternal confusion is also a tactic she might use to ensure someone protects and provides for h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:50 PM
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Racism in America is a unique, complex issue. Do some people take advantage of its existence to feign victim hood? Yep. Are black Americans disproportionately affected by an institution that up until recently made it legal to limit their ability to amass generational wealth such as owning property in desirable neighborhoods/gaining small business loans/same treatment by our judicial system and police offers as white criminals? Yes. Should affirmative action exist? No, but neither should all thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:36 AM
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That loser/defeatist/forever victim mentality is the same across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:20 AM
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That’s hilarious. I’m a person of color who was born into poverty, a broken home and to a single dad who worked his ass off making sure my sister and I had a decent life. The very first thing I learned about life in general is that nothing is fair, and bitching and complaining about it does NOTHING. I doubt that I’d grow up to be a little chunky bitch boy in mommy and daddy’s basement with my video games, covered in Cheetos dust and BO crying on Reddit about how chicks don’t want to guzzle my ji…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:21 PM
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The MGTOW community up here on Reddit is 5% actual Men going their own way and 95% angry incels and failures who obsess over women and their inability to make them want them. I refer to the latter group when I say that group of MGTOW losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:45 PM
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Incels and the whole MGTOW crowd of losers too 👍🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:17 PM
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You’re not entitled for your desires, no one is. It crosses the line when you start blaming or direct anger at other for not being able to fulfill those desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 07:31 PM
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My point was, who cares about the lack of casual sex men generally get? There was no argument aside from why men think casual sex should be a concern studied at a societal level in the first place. Guys and gals who worry/gripe and bemoan about lack of sex or satisfactory relationships are usually not attractive enough (physically, emotionally, intellectually) to garner the quantity and/or quality of partners they are thinking they deserve. That’s usually a “you” problem, that needs to be fixed …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 07:01 PM
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Bigger question - Why should anyone care that men, on average, don’t enjoy casual sex on a more common basis? It is a self-serving venture, not an activity that serves a mass benefit to a community. And NSA sex is something that is in much more in demand from men than it is from women, hence why it’s not easily and frequently obtainable. It will never be women’s/society’s responsibility to make a man’s casual sex/dating life “satisfactory “.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 02:14 PM
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He knew up front that a) she intends on waiting until marriage before sex and b) she’s looking to marry. If he needs sex before marriage and that’s why he’s holding out (which it doesn’t sound like the case here)then he would be effectively stringing her along since he insinuates he’s on the same page as her. OP stated her boundaries, she doesn’t have to give him sex or negotiate such values that are important for her to get a partner to marry her. If that’s the case, she would need to find a pa…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 05:55 PM
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Stop matching and getting to the dating phase with horrible men 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 07:48 PM
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....so getting rid of all potential matches who may have great characteristics and chemistry with you but have enough self respect not to Bankrupt themselves on every possible girl they meet, while at the same time allowing possible “Niceguys” and/or predatory guys a shot just because they are willing to bait you with money is a good Step One? You really need to reevaluate your definition of “loser”. I recognize there might be some underlying bad history / experiences that have shaped your think…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 07:41 PM
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The moment you frame yourself as having a price tag for dates, you imply that all a guy just has to do is spend enough money on you to establish that his expectations on reciprocal sex are well founded. No one pays my way, or for my attraction to th, nor can anyone pay to take away my own agency or will. If I or a prospective guy are really interested and aligned on intent, that can be shown through actions outside of spending on/requiring money from the other person. If you are dependent on vet…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 07:31 PM
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This is not something comparable for gender sake. Just like guys, not all Women want the exact same things when it comes to sex; there are some out there looking for relationships, some only looking for casual sex. The women you describe above are probably the group only looking for casual sex and are experiencing a mismatch of expectations with their partners based on poor communication. I swear some of y’all are getting REAL autistic with your theories:opinions about the opposite sex. 1) sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 05:52 PM
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I think it has something to do with our base/primal mating strategies. women are usually the gatekeepers of sex so it makes sense that they are pickier than men. When Women start aging and bearing children, their marketability to single males and overall mating availability drastically declines. There’s a long term downtime from pregnancy and child rearing. Then eventually there is menopause and loss of youth/aesthetics (biggest lizard brain sexual attraction factors for men). Because her mating…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 05:47 PM
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Hmmm, I agree that would be a common response, but I would also still want my partner to be flexible of my requests where they are reasonably warranted, If the shoe was on the other foot. I think that what it comes down to, is that I don’t have to fully understand and agree with the rationale of my partner asking for a DNA test, I just need to understand how important it is for him and depending on other circumstances, be concerned of the implications for his requests if there are any outside of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 06:55 PM
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I would see it as this way, if he wants the test, why not get it done? Even if it looks irrational to me, I’d rather give the person that extra piece of mind because I have nothing to hide. And if it is based on him questioning my fidelity, well that’s the bigger issue that needs to be properly discussed and resolved. If it comes down to the fact that he’ll never trust me despite seeing me consistently exemplify trustworthy behavior, and constant barrage of tests and unfounded accusations are pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 05:34 PM
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I’m not seeing why a distinction between the two behaviors of the genders needs to be debated. Your significant other may leave you for someone better, given the right situation. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 11:31 PM
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There is a difference between momma’s boy and a man who is close to his mother. Momma’s boys are created when the mother becomes emotionally “incestuous” and creates an unhealthy codependency with her son. I suspect you see this happen more often in single mother situations, where the son is often guilted into believing that he MUST become the “man of the house” and surrogate spouse(in terms of emotional and physical support, NOT the sexual aspect ) or else he fails at being a good son for not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 03:26 AM
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Incels wouldn’t get shamed if they kept the inceldom to themselves. When they go out of their way to troll and take their rage out on random women, they open themselves up to the backlash.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:22 AM
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Sounds like More of a comparison with MGTOW
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 03:22 PM
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Ugh I guess you have me there. A musician who looks like a 14 year old girl and the one who looks like a pimply faced scrawny burnout from the 80’s , so hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:24 PM
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Nah, I get the tingles for manly men. Not for pretty boys who look or act feminine, because I’m heterosexual. Although I do hear some other women in my social circles regurgitate nonsense on how they would have no problem choosing soft, fat, effeminate, fragile Emo men with no body hair over a gymbro/ alpha Chad / muscly lumberjack with full beard age, and I really can’t understand why.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:02 PM
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Yep, exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 01:54 AM
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Ok, so you “can’t have a relationship” because you choose not to do the things the actual average people do to get into one. Cool story OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:43 PM
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Sure sounded like one, which is why that comment got deleted. I mean, if doing the things(including the non-aesthetic stuff like hobbies and social skills and knowledge/life experiences ) that attract potential partners is “not worth it”, why be surprised/concerned about the outcome of that decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 02:16 PM
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According to Wiki, AOC of Mexico is apparently 12. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 05:09 PM
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Does Denmark promote teenager/older adult relationships in particular? Or the vices that would normally throw a country in chaos (rape, murder, Robbery, etc)? Genuinely asking because I’m clueless to how their society works
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 05:05 PM
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Ephebophilia (sexual attraction towards mid-late teenagers) i think is the more proper description, and quite common. I don’t think it’s a perversion; but moreso the age range when a girl is sexually developed body wise and is at the true height and beginning of their base sexual attractiveness to the opposite sex. Such is the lizard brain’s sexual mating instincts. but in an evolved society where we cannot have a functioning society if we acted on all our base instincts, it is gross and very in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 04:06 PM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic What a lot of young, lesser experienced guys don’t know, is that most women do not achieve orgasm through PIV (penetration in vagina). This is why it’s important to UNDERSTAND your partner’s (both sides) sexual needs and making sure you are compatible with each other sexually. For instance, I’m part of that majority who achieves orgasm through clitoral and never through vaginal penetration. My partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 03:09 PM
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Yes. Exactly this. Ultimately I also need to get off, at least most of the time, in order for me to want to come back for more. You can look like god’s gift to women, but if we aren’t sexually compatible and I’m rarely/never achieving orgasm from sex with you, I’m not sticking around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 02:52 PM
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Nobody’s blaming him for having his very human and selfish desires. His proposal is not in her interests, and that’s all that matters in this post. We are not here to pick sides on who is “wrong” (neither is to want what they want) or to defend OP’s boyfriend’s fee-fees in this matter. This is about OP and what is best for her.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/20 02:14 PM
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A very quick permaban from their community from what I’ve experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 02:20 PM
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Question - has anyone got successful tips for whitening their bathtubs? Strange that this disturbs me so but it drives me Crazy. I’ve tried most brand name cleaners including CLR, using bleach, tried baking soda and vinegar, scrubbing with hard brushes but to no avail. The surface I believe is the modern hard plastic, not porcelain. Any advice much appreciated!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 06:21 PM
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Ah, yes. As a woman married 14 years running a successful family unit sharing a bedroom that’s still quite alive with my hot husband, I just can’t begin to understand her interests 🙄. It’s certainly not as if my experiences could lend some perspectives on the risks she faces or to reinforce why her desires are certainly in her best interest. And no, not putting any thing in OP’s words.these are very real risks for OP even if she’s not expressing immediate concern for them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 09:06 PM
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Reread my post for better comprehension. And like I insinuate, marriage is appropriately desirable to her benefit in a situation when a family is being created, it’s not some flippant desire for a title given what OP has shared about her boyfriend’s desires and position. You could do well to tone down the histrionics.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 07:48 PM
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Lumberjacks. Woof.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 07:36 PM
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Or, she could value protecting her own interests instead of only considering his. Unless he is a narcissistic sociopath, he understands wanting wife and family benefits while skirting lockdown to marriage is incredibly selfish of him. Her interests being avoiding becoming an economically destitute single mom of 1+ kids who has to try to recover/rebuild her career from taking a step back to fulfill a mommy role, while being the primary (or only) caretaker of children and fighting to get sufficien…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 07:11 PM
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In essence, OP’s boyfriend is wanting OP to take all the risks (bear children and potentially put herself in a single mother situation) and provide him “wifey and family” benefits without the legal protections provided by marriage. When OP is giving away free milk, of course her boyfriend isn’t going to go back and buy the cow. This is why you should never give someone the “wife” experience when they don’t intend to make you one, with legal protections for the family you intend to create with th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:40 PM
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I rarely agree with XtoDoubt up here, but I see his point. OP I think you confuse basic cohabitation responsibilities as things you’d specifically do for a romantic relationship. Simply Being a contributor to the household in terms of cleaning and paying bills does not necessarily translate to the ways a partner grows / maintains the passion and foundations of the actual relationship. I’d say what does is maintaining overall attractiveness, doing bonding activities or showing affection, sexually…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 07:01 PM
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The bigger question for me is, the moment she started talking about mental illnesses, why were you still interested in a meet up?
/r/askTRP02/12/20 04:35 PM
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Oh, haha. Gendering aside, I think my post offers an applicable answer/my opinion of why you see this occurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 06:47 PM
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I think that if your observation is from the men who are approaching you, your perception is going to be skewed because low value / unattractive people in general have to put themselves out there more than their higher value / more attractive counterparts. High value men and women are rare. It’s our nature to desire and seek the highest value first before settling for someone comparable to our own value. I also believe that if you as a woman are only attracting low value men and are seeking out …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 06:40 PM
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You need to lift heavier honestly and probably fix the diet to support muscle repair and synthesis, if that pic is recent and shows you at 1 1/2 years of consistent weightlifting.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 05:48 PM
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Found a NIH study on meat intake to semen production: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4180710/ What I inferred from skimming this was that eating large volumes of hormone enhanced and/or processed meat in your diet negatively impacts sperm production, possibly because of the hormones and chemicals used in popular commercially available meat sources. Th sure fire way to boost testosterone levels is continuous and consistent strength/resistance training. Having a varied source of prot…
/r/askTRP01/12/20 01:07 PM
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Personally, I would lose respect for A man who generally doesn’t have his life together(working towards career and/or education, has financial independence & stability), is disorganized in most aspects of his life and cannot plan for anything to save his life, and doesn’t have a game plan for or ability to execute on long term goals. Also, if he is lacking conviction or a spine to stand up for his beliefs and exemplify his code of ethics. I am a great sidekick and support system to a leader but …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 12:23 AM
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If this is happening a lot, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate how you’ve been choosing your relationship partners. Sometimes we subconsciously choose guys with incompatibilities, or simply the kind of men who are non-committed or bad relationship material in general , for a variety of reasons (a poor relationship with your father growing up is a common one). I’d recommend that you block them so they can’t make their rounds again with you. And for the future, really make sure you are vetting for the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:07 PM
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I would also be interested in seeing if it has in our general population and has any correlation to the rise of inceldom or attributing to the social disconnect in the dating market. Or perhaps it’s been mis-diagnosed for decades?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 12:34 AM
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LOL I’ll do you one better. Married here with children and about to hit our 14 year anniversary this upcoming May. What’s with the post delete OP? That mentality is STILL entitled and reminiscent of most incels today. Sit the fuck down with your “I got to the engagement” stage. Edited to add: you are cheating on your fiancé. Nice! Good luck on avoiding being part of that 60% divorce rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 04:06 PM
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Yes. And even if more women were chaste, it doesn’t guarantee in any way people like OP will find their preferred partners. It’s usually their own marketplace value/quality that holds them back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 01:38 PM
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Ugh. Look, if you want a virgin or low n-count girl and want to go only for that, you go do that. You don’t need the internet’s permission to. This whole “women should do this” attitude you silly incels have reeks of entitlement over how other people choose to live their lives. That is not a normal mindset to have, and it’s why you fail at being socially accepted in the dating/sex/relationship market. The real truth is - No one fucking cares about your particular preferences in women. And how yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 12:54 PM
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Unfortunately low libido a common side effect of hormonal birth control. You’re not going to successfully “dread her into wanting sex more” if the issue is medical/hormonal. Explore different birth control methods, and figure out her erogenous zones and how she climaxes(usually there’s more than one way). One possibility is that she’s also no longer enjoying your performance in bed, which may lead her to not be eager about it. Is she getting off before you?
/r/askTRP20/11/20 06:24 PM
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Yeah, traditional home ownership is quickly becoming a thing of the past because it’s no longer affordable. The housing market has become so ridiculously inflated in comparison to wage inflation, and now most young folks are entering the workforce 20k-50k in college debt right off the bat
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 06:01 PM
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There’s no denying that appearances matter, and yes, our society tends to treat attractive PEOPLE better in general , which can lead to people becoming entitled and having a poor demeanor like your Stacey coworker, or Chads/f*ckboys. But know that the attention she gets is likely from lower value men. She may initially catch the eye of more potentials, but A high value person is going to uncover those red flags in their vetting process and pass on contemplating a relationship with her. So yes, l…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 12:36 PM
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In this age, traditionally “male” chores are defunct. Those chores were centered around owning a house with a lawn or some acreage; young people are increasingly moving into the cities in apartments and condos and/or simply turning away from home ownership altogether . Women are equally present if not moreso than men, in the workforce so the “provider/homemaker” dynamic doesn’t really apply to most couples now. Even in a traditional home setting, our home appliances and vehicles are quickly beco…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 12:04 PM
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This is probably the best example of normal people mating in real life within our society. These silly debate posts insisting that an entire population conforming to the sexual behavior that OP prefers is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:01 AM
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Men: “Ladies, you need to be low N count in order to have a chance to marry us.” Also men: “we’re never getting married because it’s a sham.” Also also men: “the nerds and socially awkward low N count guys as marriageable men(who still aren’t gonna marry because it’s a sham).” Also also also men: “my triple digit N count sluttery and inability to stay in a committed long term monogamous relationship makes me the guy all women want to marry(which I’ll never do because it’s a sham).” OK fellas.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 11:40 AM
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There are a lot of men AND women who are lazy and make poor contributors to a marriage/family unit. This is why it’s really important to properly vet your life partner and discuss expectations with each other to ensure y’all are on the same page, especially before you start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 01:26 AM
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Does it really matter? If a guy wants to be a bachelor and believes he will be better off as such, I don’t get why anyone needs to interject or argue or try to change that person’s mind????? Sometimes we just need to stay in our lane and worry about our own lives and getting what makes us feel happy, fam. Bachelors and bachelorettes , live your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 11:47 PM
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Yes, that is very true. I’ll hear of not-too-uncommon dating stories of people who’re ghosted finding out the other person disappeared because of literal ghost mode or a sudden traumatic life changing event.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 07:05 PM
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Hmmm, I think the level of misandry and misogyny is different depending on which platform you are on. When I’m on Instagram and see the comment section on posts from the females I follow, especially if it’s about accomplishing something that men also do, oh boy, do those trolls come out to demand she get back in the kitchen and make them a sammich.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 02:26 PM
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I think ghosting after you two have been intimate, or have had 3 or more dates is shitty. But then again it’s like the other person is doing you a favor - you are given a glimpse of their maturity level and communication skills up front and hopefully not having to learn about those deficiencies months/years later into the relationship. If you both are only looking for a one night stand , then I don’t think there any expectation of continuing anything afterwards. But in any case, when I was datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:49 PM
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I’m not sure exactly how it could be executed, but i think we need to tweak how marriage and divorce works with most state courts, or replace the institution altogether. The way our society works has changed over the 350 or some odd years of the marriage license being around; we can now do DNA tests to determine paternity for inheritance concerns. We could further change laws around other benefit privileges(health insurance coverage, medical decisions, etc) so that length of cohabitation is the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 03:08 PM
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Maybe because im older and my perspective is that not everything is supposed to be cut 50/50 equal all the time. Biologically it makes sense that the differences in our genders causes inequalities in various aspects of our lives and the way society works, but we were made to compliment each other, not to operate the exact same way. Watch how disgusted some “woke” feminists act when their first date wants to split the bill or expects them to pay, or when they’re in possible danger or getting hara…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 06:06 PM
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I can agree with the study’s findings. I love masculine men and their nature. I’m sure at least some men feel the same about feminine energy and our nature; and that comes with some degree of tolerance of each nature’s’ “imperfections”/differences, including the sexism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 05:59 PM
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I think what would matter most would be the mutual interest, chemistry, compatibility and matching intentions being there, not necessarily that they are physically involved with others before exclusivity is established. Then again my viewpoint will probably not be popular because I’m polyamorous and don’t necessarily view monogamy as a requirement for a committed loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 02:20 PM
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Are you sure you’re responding to the correct poster? I’m only identifying the incel comment, I wasn’t the one who made the post he was criticizing? I didn’t state any preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 02:06 PM
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Look up a few common complaints found in inceldom. This poster is using one of the fundamental ones in incel culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 02:01 PM
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I don’t argue or reject that women (and men) go for an attractive and good person over just a good person. I point out it’s hypocritical for him and other incels to be upset about this very human feature when they are wired to do the same, just like any other human. The lacking self awareness is comical.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:57 PM
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Found the incel. It’s funny how y’all lament about women choosing who they’re attracted to and turn around to exclusively chase Instathot Becky and simp for her OnlyFans account.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:30 PM
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Because obviously your are not entitled to your own personal concerns of safety when it could possibly offending the other person. And should you overlook your own safety measures and end up getting raped, well, you must’ve not been cautious enough, or it was obviously just regret and not real rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 07:10 PM
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Loved that movie, only stumbled upon it recently and it had a lot of hilarious truths to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 01:53 PM
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It sounds like you are conflating non-monogamy and cheating as one and the same, and assuming people in the Non-monogamy community would be accepting of cheating? They usually are not. People in the consensual non-monogamy community generally look at cheating just as monogamous people do; and you CAN cheat in those types of relationships as well. Regardless of monogamy, if the behavior wasn’t agreed upon, fully honest and transparent, and respecting of established boundaries of the relationship,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 07:19 PM
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Not comparable to cheaters. Polyamory and swinging is consensual non-monogamy. Everyone involved is aware and very much consenting of the situation. Cheating lacks those very important distinctions.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 07:16 PM
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We are not mind readers of the men you interact with, nor can we speak on behalf of men and what the general male population would see as red flags. To me personally, if I’m looking for a relationship partner, and that partner was complicit in unethical relationships then I would see it as a red flag. If I’m just trying to have a one night stand or hookup or other kind of short term casual fling, I imagine I would not care because I’m not considering that person for relationship potential. Thoug…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 07:13 PM
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Also, who is a lot? Are you surrounded, in real life(not on the internet), by these women? Have you actually experienced this specific behavior in interacting with women in real life?m
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 02:37 PM
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As I understand it, your spouse takes on the debt and economical damage as well if the situation goes the other way(business fails, accrued debt, etc). If they took the risk with you, they reap the rewards/consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 11:21 AM
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Who fucking cares how the woman or the man feels about the ending of the interaction? It’s done, move the fuck on. Neither party is responsible for the other’s closure or to go into a deep dive of understanding why one has rejected the other, how they feel about the rejection, etc once the acquaintanceship has ended. If after a few dates I reject a guy because there’s no chemistry, and he ghosts me in response, ok cool. On with our lives. I am not owed a convoluted exit interview from the guy gh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 11:07 AM
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Quite a bold statement and presumptuous of you, who’s never been a woman, having to reject men on occasion throughout his life. Here’s the problem with communication breakdown: You -“why do you women do this?” Woman -“because this is my experience and so I do X to achieve Y or to avoid Z” You - “ Well I don’t think your experience really happens since I don’t experience it, so I’m going to assume you’re all narcissistic self centered autistic wretches instead......AWALT “ If you ask the question…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 10:14 AM
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I am quite all right with getting ghosted as a response to me rejecting someone. I don’t put expectations on near-strangers to continue engaging if one of us wants to end the acquaintance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 10:07 AM
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It’s not about his feelings or respecting him. It’s sometimes just about the woman being able to exit the situation safely. Unfortunately you Never know how a guy is going to react to rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 02:33 AM
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It’s to placate the possible rejection rage the guy will respond with. No well adjusted individual thinks their offer of friendship is some gift from the gods bullshit. I’ve straight up told guys “no thank you” without any friendship offering and have dealt with, on separate and multiple occasions, an angry and beligerent (but luckily not physically violent) reaction to the rejection. Edited to add - girls do not owe a guy anything other than a cordial notice that they wish to end things. Guys d…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 02:06 AM
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I swear this has been and answered a good number of times. IME, friendship after rejection is usually offered to soften the blow, not really expected to be taken up on. That being said, I don’t date women. How many times are people actually experiencing this, in real life though? Or is this another echo in the ole’ chamber?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:57 AM
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I’m referring to OP stating that the discussions starting 2.5 years ago included clearly stating to him she wanted to get married soon and that there have been several serious conversations about her being upset that she’s not engaged yet, to which boyfriend responds it will be a surprise. I get the need to talk further about this to alleviate OP’s worry though. I think he needs to give her some confirmation/ his “word” that he does still intend to propose to her, and that OP needs to choose a d…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 05:51 PM
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How far away is the “The upcoming event”?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 05:24 PM
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OP stated this was already discussed.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 05:23 PM
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This is the best way to approach he situation; you’re not playing any games and also respecting yourself by reinforcing that your needs to be met in this relationship for it to continue .
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 05:20 PM
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Unless there’s violence or abuse going on, I think if both are willing, attend counseling to see if it’s salvageable. If not, then most likely it’s better to end things; having happy, divorced parents is much better than living under two miserable ones. The only circumstance I can think of where I would stay, if counseling and all other relationship improvement attempts don’t work, is if my ex and I Were both mature and level headed enough to divorce but still cohabitate, or the one who moves ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 11:48 AM
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Looks are deceiving. Not to say we experience the exact same struggles, but I was a very fat and painfully shy introverted tomboy and late bloomer, bullied through high school, only had one or two friends, etc etc etc. then I stopped be a little bitch and realized I was going to have to put myself out there, be uncomfortable and make some changes. I’m still struggling with the socializing with strangers in real life, but I try even if it’s awkward, because I want real life friends. And I learn, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 04:15 PM
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Online dating is most successful for classically attractive men and average to good looking women. You need to actively work on looking for possible partners in real life instead of focusing on apps since you don’t have aesthetics as an advantage to you. Start socializing with men and women in real life. Don’t set yourself up for any expectations, just start talking/interacting , if anything you gain confidence and possible new friends, and network with guys and gals who may help with matchmakin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 04:01 PM
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We would more info as to why you are unsuccessful with having a conversation with women. Are you only approaching attractive women and possibly ignoring ones that would be receptive to you? Do you have good social skills? How do you normally approach and escalate with a woman you’re interested in, or are you passively hoping she will take the lead and escalate for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 03:45 PM
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I feel the same; If I could get ever get my husband on board with it, I’d love to at least try and adopt or foster in the near future after our sole child is a bit older.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:12 PM
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I wish we could override our selfish biological imperatives to do this, but unfortunately we highly prefer creating our own to pass our genes on versus sacrificing resources for a child that is not biologically ours. One of my couple friends are infertile with 5+ years and over 20k wasted on IVF. They are dead set on continuously sailing this sinking ship over adopting a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:03 PM
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Definitely from my parents and his. I asked my dad about why he wanted to see a grandbaby from us so soon, and he said something about how parents of adults feel like progeny failures if their children do not produce grand children for them to parade around to their peers. In my and my husband’s case, we got married pretty young (around 23/20) but waited 6 years before settling to parenthood. Our parents started soft inquiring around year 2, then ramped up the urgency from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 05:54 PM
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For the address of user satisfaction with finding the right person with dating apps, I’d be interested to see this experiment exercised with real users and what the results are. But the problem ultimately is human and I don’t think we’ve found a way to effectively circumvent that with technology. Removing ALL filters is just as bad as having too many ineffective ones. We all have superficial preferences ; maybe if we started tweaking the filters to be more lifestyle/interests focused and get rid…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 12:15 PM
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She can get the STD’s you catch and pass on to her. The social perception of sticking with a guy who’d cheat on her is not a positive one either. And no marriage /family minded woman wants to mistakenly choose a dude who’s more likely to bring baby mama drama her way, or have to share resources with a surprise pregnancy from her LTR’s side chick.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 09:00 PM
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I’m so triggered over here! Pathetic 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 05:10 PM
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Awww am I offending you? Did this subject touch a nerve for you? 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 04:53 PM
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Because it serves no purpose to go online and whine about it, unless you are asking for advice on how you can improve yourself to better attract what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 10:59 AM
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Not at all. I find obese people physically unattractive. That is why both my husband and I stay fit, not just for all the exponential health benefits, but also because neither of us have ever been, nor will ever be, sexually attracted to land whales. Being physically fit, or at very least not obese, is a universal signal of attractiveness, and something most people have 100000% control over. Watching a sweaty torso resembling a skin sack of jiggly shit thrust and gyrate during sex must be horrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 12:50 AM
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People can have whatever preferences they want. Just stop complaining about how your preferred targets aren’t interested in you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 12:41 AM
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Ooof. If I were to swap genders and mating strategy, given the same level of physical attraction and similar features but for men, I would probably be in trouble. It means I would be a tan skinned , buff little manlet, which will make me for the most part undesirable to the women I want for casual sex unless I’ve amassed impressive PUA and seduction skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 07:00 PM
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What advice are you exactly seeking here?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 01:31 PM
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Women like the traits(confident, risk accepting, confrontational, dominant) that make men an effective “winner/protector/conqueror”. Unfortunately , these traits are also usually found in assholes. They set off the tingles. The lizard brain wants what it wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 06:16 PM
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Lol that’s what I was about to say. We are just about to reclaim the 150-200k range after a decade of changing careers/me finishing my degree, but then again we live in DC/metro area, where everyone’s single income is already expected to be $80-120k per person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:10 PM
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Bored wife here. I like to lurk FDS(banned for daring to disagree), general dating/relationship and the red pill subreddits as well because I find this “warring “ disconnection between the sexes interesting and enjoy reading about people’s perceptions and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:33 PM
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Don’t rile up the Terpers. They are so very dependent on that dream that they’ll someday have you and all your fellow naive bright eyed young phillies lifting their beer bellies to lick their sour, wrinkly gray haired ballsacs and dingleberry filled assholes over their younger counterparts if they continue buying enough red pill PUA books and subbing to Alpha max manly man success YT channels.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:25 PM
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Ah yes. Because we’d rather have an instrument that is naturally toxic to sperm and eggs embedded in us, and commonly cause flood-like elongated and exponentially more painful menstrual periods. I can’t wait for male birth control to come out and see all of y’all whine about “muh possible side effects” but insist on continuing the sex with strangers part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:19 PM
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I don’t think it’s so much just the age with him. He’s severely focused on getting all of the dream girl characteristics in one package. And the handful of times he’s actually pursued a girl that was close to his ideal, he goes autistic on her. It’s a shame cause he obviously has and still does attract a lot of equally attractive women, and if he had more confidence and charisma he’d probably succeed with the ones he’s pursued in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:14 PM
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That would be the logical conclusion. But to an incel, they shouldn’t HAVE TO do all those time consuming, challenging improvements to get what is owed to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:40 PM
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Can confirm. I attended a male revue back in the day and several fist fights broke out with the drunk women over getting first digs at the dancers when they made lap dance rounds on the crowd
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:37 PM
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Hahaha this meme is true though. Physically attractive people cannot relate to their unattractive friends and give them solid pick up advice, based on their personal experience because the friends don’t enjoy the same looks privilege. As humans we subconsciously assign “good/bad” at first glance to a stranger’s appearance. Even if Chad is acting like a total bag of dicks in approaching a girl off the street, she will more likely be less guarded around him than she would with a more disgusting lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:34 PM
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I have a friend in my social circle I’ve known for the past 15 years. Educated, funny, nice, law abiding , gainfully employed and mostly financially independent, personable physically fit guy who over the years ignored ALL the decent looking(and I mean attractive looking women who have plenty of options), equally educated and personable women who practically threw themselves at him. 35 year old, having recently chosen to lose his virginity to a prostitute. His main problem? He completely ignores…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:26 PM
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I am referring to the ones (both men and women) who promote their selfish mating strategies but at the same time attack the other gender for doing the same. And calling them hypocrites. It just so happens that men in this subreddit tend to be the more common perpetrators of this hypocrisy. Getting their panties in a bunch about FDS existing but totally okay and actively defending the same kind of unhealthy agenda promoted by the other side’s community. The message here being : If your fragile sn…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 06:30 PM
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Did you actually read through my posts and comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 06:10 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 06:06 PM
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They are not, no. RPW is a more suitable comparison because they push for both self improvement and self protection for women with the understanding of mating strategies between the two genders. But they lack the toxic attitude found abundant in RP communities. That attitude however is what makes FDS/TRP communities similar IMO. Have you been ignoring the great Incel migration occupying TRP/MRA/MGTOW communities?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 02:46 PM
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I’m not pushing any narrative. I personally don’t completely agree with any pill-based community nor do I believe that they model evolved, healthy relationships that us normies enjoy and experience. I’m simply pointing out the hypocrisy with the mindset behind this one recurring complaint that is popular in this subreddit. And yes, if there’s a woman on FDS who is ratchet whining about not finding a handsome alpha Chad atm machine and provider for her 3-5 kids from assorted baby daddies, she’s i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 02:29 PM
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Replace “FDS” with “TRP” and you can make the same case about the climate of the communities. Men’s ideal mating strategy focuses on obtaining low n-count/virginal, young and pretty subservient women in their prime for relationships in which they control and set all the rules for. In the meantime, they will pump and dump /plate spin lower value girls for sex. Each gender has their ideal mating strategies for sex and for relationships, naturally made to compete with the other gender and obviously…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 01:32 PM
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No. I speak of the DMAU trial study,where 82 of 100 completed the study to little to no adverse reactions. LOL at you for complaining about possible men’s side effects being the same as women’s. Probably in the same crowd that would flippantly suggest “wahmen” get over their side effects and suck it up to continually be the responsible (ie “paying”) party using birth control. https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/104/2/423/5105935
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 11:55 AM
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Sounds more like a enrage-the-girl-as-a-first-date-impression strategy. Yeah, that’s why i gave matches a timeline of meeting in person within two weeks of talking to them or dropping them. And keeping texting to logistics only. I imagine it saved me a lot of time otherwise wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 11:45 AM
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I think you have to add a bit more context in your OP. I would imagine if she’s already“your girl”, she’s proven to be someone you’d be inclined to show appreciation to and be entitled to it because she’s bringing value into your life. If she was someone you’d just started dating or still getting to know, obviously no one should be “expecting” gifts or above ordinary displays of appreciation just for existing. And meh, everyone up here is circle jerking about FDS and their hate for the sub; in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 11:25 AM
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You want What’s considered the “male ideal” for relationship strategy, i.e that mythical youthful chaste virgin, whom your peers competitively vie for, that chooses to only be a slut for you. Conversely, Women’s relationship ideal is that mythical Alpha Chad who steps off the pussy carnival and chooses to settle down, commit to and provide for her. Either gender needs to understand at least that the “ideal” is going to be a rare find. Women are obviously going to pursue their ideal before failin…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 04:48 PM
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Perfect example of male hypergamy right here actually. Men generally will choose the hotter, younger, less “used” female if the opportunity arises.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 07:34 PM
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Hmmm I’ve seen ALOT of dudes here complain specifically about women’s hypergamy as being the problem in Western culture, denying that their gender is also hypergamous (usually tied to looks and youth).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 07:28 PM
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I auspect you’re worried about it because even though it’s legal, it’s pretty cringey in society’s eyes to sexually pursue barely legal girls when you’re considered old enough to know better. I imagine what you said was pretty bad enough for her to get a screenshot and for you to worry about it all the way to this point. Learn from your mistake and stop saying and doing unsavory things especially on a format that can be easily recorded. If it’s not unsavory to you, then stand by your behavior an…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 05:03 PM
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So by your own reasoning, you’ll probably cheat on that low n-count LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 09:58 PM
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I can’t understand the mentality. If you KNOW you’re being deceitful, what makes you think you’re going to “win them over” when you meet in real life?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 07:48 PM
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Apparently this strategy is popular with the fellas too. When I was using OLD, some guys were straight up fatfishing, oldfishing, lifestyle-fishing. And not by a little. I was way too nice to entertain staying on the date when this happened, and it happened quite a few times.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:59 PM
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I’ve been mansplained before, a long time ago when I was working in retail mgmt under one of the major cellphone providers. My tech was trying to explain to an irate customer that we could not reset the enterprise server controlled screen password on his company provided blackberry, which he had locked out himself by forgetting and trying too many times to guess the password to. Had to intervene and explain WHY we couldn’t override the enterprise server settings ( I mean, they’re up there for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 04:21 PM
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Meh, if a hot guy rejects me, maybe I’ll be just overall bummed about it and need to step away from dating altogether for a bit to mentally/emotionally recoup, but that isn’t going to specifically make me bitter towards every guy who I rate less physically attractive than the one who rejected me? Why take it out on the next one?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 03:40 PM
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Yeah I agree and can see the similarities
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:34 PM
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I think that red pill attracts guys who fail often with social situations/ interactions that directly impact their sex/romantic and platonic relationships/becoming a leader or successful in other aspects of their lives. Not automatically linked to autism and could be from a variety of reasons(trauma, restrictive upbringing, natural introverted personality, conditioned by blue pill culture, etc). I’m not too familiar with all of autism’ behavioral tendencies as I’ve heard it really depends on whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:08 PM
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Meh. I don’t particularly like tall men. I like men who are fit and strong and bigger than me, because of my primal desire to be protected especially if I’m in the vulnerable position of bearing children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 06:36 PM
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Perhaps; luckily never have been in that situation myself but I imagine there are some folks out there who have masterfully led two lives and got over on their otherwise observant victims .
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 07:47 PM
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I think it’s important to distinguish that TRP school of thought does not endorse a “Men are Wonderful “ message. The reader community, many of those members already having skewed perceptions about women from personal trauma/experience, are susceptible to coming to that conclusion because they lack self awareness, ignore or avoid doing the self improvement Work TRP harps on (because it actually does recognize that men are not perfect either), and are more comfortable with blaming others before u…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 05:13 PM
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Just to wanted note, these are excellent boundaries to put in place!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 05:04 PM
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If I’ve vetted my partner well enough, I imagine I won’t have a whole lot of fear entering into a relationship with him. The fears I’d have that are usually realized after some time into the relationship/dating someone would be: -are they going to mooch off me all the time? I tend to be a giver and that sometimes leads to me attracting people like that. -are they just using me until someone younger/prettier/better comes along? Even worse; am I the side chick to a guy who’s actually married? is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 04:21 PM
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I mean, outside of extremes (30+ year old virgins and triple digit body counts), is the judgement really coming from the opposing gender? When I think about judgements cast in our society surrounding our sexual behavior, I often find examples of judgement from within same genders moreso than seeing it come from the opposite. A lot (not all but way too much) of judgement on women’s bodies come from other women, unfortunately. And I dunno, I imagine guys feel they have to inflate their N count and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 02:47 PM
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Others pretty much harped on you to move on. Just want to add - Flirting with coworkers, especially when touching is involved(even if she’s the only one doing it to you) is very risky especially for a dude. This is a HR sexual harassment/MeToo accusation waiting to happen. I get that the easiest/most plentiful place to socialize with women is at work, but At the very least, KeepAny/all flirting and escalation attempts outside the workplace and off the company hours.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 04:06 PM
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Yep, because I imagine a lot of them will stay married and try to spin some plates on the side of the opportunity arises. Breakups and any resulting lawyer fees, alimony and child support expenses can act as good deterrents. I used mother-son as a universally common example of unconditional love for the comparison, why are you reading it as the one and only comparison? I’m not shaming either gender, men and women both have expectations in the relationship and will leave when such expectations ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 02:44 PM
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You miss my point almost entirely. Sex is not the only difference between parental and romantic partner love. Men (the fundamentally more romantic gender of the two) expect that a woman he loves will unconditionally love and stay with him because once you’re in love that’s all it takes and love will conquer all (ie the blue pill fantasy). Why not? He was raised in a feminist society that tells him all he has to do is “be himself” and if he finds the right one, it’s happily ever after. He goes on…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 10:37 AM
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I think both women and men are progressing towards choosing long term cohabitation over marriage. Most western couples who are looking to start a family intend on operating with two incomes anyway and can provide for themselves in terms of healthcare coverage. the only situations where marriage had utility in my opinion is if you intended on long term partnering and raising children with a homemaker/stay at home parent, and/or the tax benefits and having medical decision authority made it worth …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 01:02 AM
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Pretty sure if a mom tries abandoning their child and is caught, they are gonna face jail time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 07:16 PM
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Men believe that women will love them unconditionally like a mother loves a child. Your sexual partner is not your mother, nor is your romantic relationship supposed to look like a mother/son relationship. Romantic partners are going to expect a mutually beneficial relationship with you, on the condition that you also bring value to make them stay as they bring value to make you want them in your life. Mothers can raise the shittiest human beings to adulthood who go in mass killing sprees and wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 07:06 PM
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Do you mind me asking; how many kids, how much total would you average you’re paying out of pocket on average, and what does cost of living look like for her in the are she’s housing the kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 05:52 PM
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Although I understand that the courts do whatever they deem is in the best interest of the child, I can’t get behind them mandating child support simply on the premise that this guy happened to be present in a child’s life. Any support that the guy chose to give during the relationship should not give legal precedence to putting him on the hook, unless he actually is the father or had legally adopted the child. That logic bewilders me honestly. And I definitely believe no one should put birth co…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 05:13 PM
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Do you mean in cases where you’re married, your wife has a baby outside the marriage and you are automatically named the financially responsible father, regardless of biology or her testimony asserting the child is someone else’s? If so, I was grouping that into being fucked up in all situations where you’re paying for a child you don’t share DNA with. I would hope that a paternity test would hold weight to appeal a court ordered decision like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 04:56 PM
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That situation is fucked up and I personally feel for any poor guy getting dicked over from paternity fraud. Even if you’re married, you shouldn’t be financially responsible for kids that are not biologically yours, unless you go through the process of adopting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 04:41 PM
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Actually check out pg 83-84 of the pdf sidebar. Maybe you’ll stop embarrassing yourself 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 04:28 PM
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...you didn’t read that sidebar and it’s showing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 04:18 PM
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TRP has no moral implications. It also explains that you deal with/ own whatever consequences comes with your decisions in life. By all means, you want to be a deadbeat because you don’t like being financially responsible for the children you create, you do you. Stop this petulant bitching about equal rights. Biology makes it so that Men and women are not equal. They will never be, across the board, so whining about the spots where women seem to have it over men (which they still don’t because b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:57 PM
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You take the risk of having PIV intercourse, plain and simple. Mitigate the risk all you want(or eliminate it by practicing celibacy); ultimately if a child is born as a result, you are responsible for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:47 PM
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“Why should I pay for a kid my sperm helped create when I’m not personally benefiting from the arrangements of said creation”. Yes, please do talk about entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:27 PM
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Actually I meal prep for my family and we rarely eat out. We have 3 yrs full combined annual salary in liquid assets because we’re both frugal as shit. LOL at you thinking we fit the description of the average Gen-z’er or Millenial. We choose to live below our means. You couldn’t defend yourself about not having actual parental experience and talking out of your ass. Typical Redditor. We are straight HECKLING
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 01:48 PM
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We still giggling over here 😂. You have no concept of parenting and ALL of its costs and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 01:34 PM
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Ok so 250 out of 430 just covers the food part (strictly cooking at home). $180 (or just for the covering of half the food, around $310) for everything else is MORE THAN enough to pay the remaining half of necessities for the child per month. Right. Do you even parent? Because I do, for one child with my husband/father of the child. Your ideas about child costs are HILARIOUS. I’m showing my husband these posts and he’s fucking chuckling at you right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 01:29 PM
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If the custodial parent was not working, or solely responsible for both full time childcare and financial providing of the child, I imagine the child support burden from the non-custodial parent would be that much higher, and rightfully so. LOL at you thinking 200-250 covers fast food and restaurant meals for one child for a month unless the kid is eating a $2.99 happy meal, 3 times a day for 30 days per month ($270 right there) LOL at your assumptions for the child care tax credit (1200-2500 ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 12:35 PM
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I think that until you actually have children and have custody of them, you won’t understand or “see” how money goes to them for support . A lot of people don’t pay attention to those less visible expenses ( daily food, clothes, school supplies, health insurance, the fact that renting a 2 bed was $200-250 more expensive per month than 1 bed/studio, toys or electronics) and all too easily assume that their $430(average monthly child support payment according the census bureau) a month or so is su…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 11:51 AM
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Alimony yes, but Child support isn’t really a societal punishment though. In or out of marriage, you make a baby, it falls on the parents to house, feed, and raise them. And if you’re the custodial parent(usually the mom), you are usually the more economically disadvantaged parent since you’re doing most of that daily child rearing, paying for living expenses and a higher rent/mortgage for having a multi-room dwelling, and caring for the child. Sending some money, a birthday card and hanging out…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 11:04 AM
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Thank you for listening and defining the rule in respect to the nuances.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 01:44 PM
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Oh man, is this article based on my situation ?!?!? It’s no surprise that a lot of working parents are having this problem. I’m currently juggling playing computer tech/teacher with my child virtually attending 3rd grade at home, while knocking out my deadline driven telework assignments. Thankfully my husband is an essential worker but has to work outside the house, but he hasn’t really changed his overall level of involvement with the house/parenting while mine has been turned upside down. I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:28 PM
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Just came here to repeat...mommy mcbangmaid
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 05:30 PM
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I would say the days where age gap relationships motivated by economic reasons are going away because women are now in the workforce and getting higher education. But an age gap relationship because of life stage / maturity compatibilities is still going to exist. I don’t know if it’s all that common still, but stereotypically men will want to start settling down later in life compared to women who have similar future life plans (marriage , starting a family, etc), so that makes me believe the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 04:33 PM
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Breakups, especially one from your first real LTR are always tough. It’s going to take time to get over it. Going no contact, unfollowing her from social media, and filling your time with self improvement/moving on are good first steps. You ARE going to want to try to get back with her, not because it’s a good idea (terrible idea because you both obviously had mismatched life goals) but because you were comfortable with the status quo, its a familiar warm body to lean back on for reliable sex, a…
/r/askTRP15/09/20 04:25 PM
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Look up r/nonmonogamy or r/polyamory subreddits for specific advice to your relationship lifestyle. From the sounds of your situation, They are undoubtedly going to tell you to run like your a$$ was on fire away from this relationship. ethical non-monogamous relationships have a foundation built on mutual consent with everyone involved (not born from coercion/apply dread on each other), full transparency, and agreed upon boundaries. You don’t have this, obviously. Gain some agency over yourself …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 03:01 AM
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If one parent can afford to stay home, sure. The one who does, even temporarily( just up until their children become school age) , usually experiences significant loss of their earning power or potential upon rejoining the workforce. And if you’ve vetted the correct partner as a co-parent and possess higher than mediocre communication skills, the workload issue surrounding who plays which roles is easily fixable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:52 PM
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That’s a great idea actually! I’m looking for any posted events near me online but not looking too good. I think i might see if can throw a social distanced trunk and treat myself if I can find a good location and enough families wanting to join in
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 04:31 PM
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Don’t continually beat yourself up. it’s in the past and you can’t change what happened. We’ve all acted like a fool at least one point in our lives; it’s good that you have introspective awareness over this . Trust that time will help you move on.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 04:07 PM
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As a parent myself running a two income household with my husband/child’s father, I would disagree with your notion that one being a SAHP is the “proper” way of rearing children. Parents don’t automatically make excellent teachers to young developing minds or even caregivers; that doesn’t necessarily mean the kid will be doomed with poor development so long as the parents are sufficient in teaching life skills, being good character examples, and giving them attention/doing family activities toge…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 11:30 AM
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MGTOW is completely fine. It’s when you have a community full of angry men claiming MGTOW but instead of being/following MGTOW they obsessively focus on, talk about, blame all their issues on, rage at women, is where it goes wrong. Ie incels with rage. Essentially, incels with rage lost their own community(rightfully so) and started infesting other similar spaces to claim as their own and continue to rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 02:26 PM
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I’m hoping I can find a social distance friendly Halloween outing for my little one; we worked on a homemade costume this year and last year she really enjoyed walking the neighborhood with her girl squad to collect candy. Obviously can’t be the same this year especially with touching things/people grouped together implications of it
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 02:07 PM
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But doesn’t that fit into the scheme? Spin plates indefinitely, never commit to a ltr/marriage because societal decline and all that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 11:04 PM
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Who said everything you put forth energy/effort in your life has to be for the purpose of attracting women? Find validation outside the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:00 PM
2

I would hesitate to promote low effort, and instead say low cost first dates are the best way. You can plan a fun, low cost date with some effort that is more valuable/meaningful for both of you than a high cost one
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 10:54 PM
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Usually a tactic that is believed to make a first date hookup more successful for someone looking for casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 10:50 PM
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I think single parents are justifiably a disqualifier on either side. It’s reasonable that you don’t want to take on any parenting responsibilities with children that are not your own; if the relationship were to become serious you would have to accept your SO is a package deal and you’d have to become a parental figure to that child. Of course there’s also baby daddy/mama drama, the single parent has less resources and free time and you will always be a lower priority than their children (as it…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 06:10 PM
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If female celebrity equates to high value, it makes sense. Promiscuity tarnishes a woman’s reputation, even in current times. And women generally don’t seek out casual sex as much as their male counterparts would on a broad scale. They are going to find greater difficulty securing a similar or higher value man for relationships, unless they date down like men do. Scarlett Johansen is an example of this that comes in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 02:18 PM
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I would LOVE to see a subreddit group picture of sorts, or even a post where everyone shares a link to an unfiltered recent selfie (blurring of eyes or face features optional for privacy) of themselves. I’m always curious of getting an idea of what people with certain opinions look like irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 02:08 PM
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Happens with Same sex, heterosexual infertile couples, and currently not uncommon with heterosexual single women(some men) who can afford a surrogate. MJ was one of the first widely publicized examples of this, 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 02:45 AM
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Ummm, that happens? Michael Jackson?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 02:32 AM
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Yes yes yes yes yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 01:36 AM
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I personally don’t find high N count men more valuable based on their count alone. At best, I won’t disqualify them solely based on it, like some men would to work . The guy simply could have attractive qualities about him that have made him very successful with women. Or he could just be a good looking or smooth talking dumpster fire of a hot mess. The high N count would prompt me to verify which one he was.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 01:36 AM
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Ugh I love studio ghibli. And it does not take hormones to make me cry over one of their movies. I bawled like a baby through most of Graveyard of Fireflies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 01:02 AM
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To a certain extent, sure. My comment was Specifically about the role that the man would have to conform to in order to still be chosen for that marriage. Many guys who quote what you’ve parroted don’t seem to factor in that they’ll have to become that beta provider doing a monkey dance to win women over, slave away at a company early on so that a wife and kids can suck you dry, governed under a court system that favors women for alimony and child support - all things that are currently complain…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 11:19 PM
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I wonder, for the sexually frustrated virgins, if a tradcon society would actually work better for them. If they’re unable to successfully conform to their traditional gender role, which some of those roles produce attractiveness even in today’s society, they may still face the same outcome in the end. I think that a tradcon society would have much harsher rules/expectations for men to live up to in comparison to today. If men struggle to cope in a more lax society now, I imagine they’d be disas…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 06:21 PM
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For a tradcon society fantasy to work, men would have to also play into traditional roles including becoming the sole breadwinner/ ATM machine, being physically manly and strong, and returning to full effort on old fashioned courting of women. Hookup culture goes away too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 04:41 PM
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I agree that everyone should just pay their own way, both men and women. There’s a good amount of us women who prefer to go dutch / pay for ourselves on dates and in general. I personally had no problems with non-food dates or Dutch dates, and never go on a date with the assumption that He is going to pay my way; I’m financially independent so there’s no need for that. However, both sides need to stop making it transactional if they don’t want to be treated as a free meal or a cum dumpster. it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 04:25 PM
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Yeah, I hate to sound like a pessimist but I’d wager something similar will happen to this guy; she’ll love the attention he pays her, but she has immediately and permanently friend zoned this guy before even meeting him irl. And yes, it’s certainly true - a guy who takes her up on her offer will appear to be an asshole because he’s being advantageous. Acting like a good guy is not effective for quick hookups. It will win you relationship points for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 05:10 PM
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I guess my question is, although she shows interest because of him “acting like a gentleman “, how do we know that this is going to successfully translate into sex for this guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 05:03 PM
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You can explain to her that you were honoring her need for some time to get over it, then confirm if she is over it or does she need more time to get this tantrum out her system? ....which is something I would do because I really don’t reserve any patience for this kind of BS, but a more diplomatic response I’d personally give is to greet her like you normally do, at this point text just for logistics to talk to her in person. Refrain from engaging in her continued lashing out via text. In perso…
/r/askTRP24/08/20 04:35 PM
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Ok, just something to take a mental note of for future recurrences. Ignore(“give her space”) until she reaches out again; you don’t want to set the precedent that bad behavior gets rewarded with attention. And don’t feel guilty about it. As adults we are all expected to manage our own emotions and not make others responsible for our feelings. That includes her.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 01:26 PM
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Oh man, the ignorance is hilarious; this kind of ignorant attitude towards STIs is why 14 million American adults contract HPV every single year(a lot of them unknowingly). Do you even get tested bruh? Or do you just practice a 3 second “junk check” and conclude you’re all good?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/20 11:02 AM
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Does she do this a lot, and how do you usually respond?
/r/askTRP24/08/20 10:48 AM
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Herpes and hpv(wart strain) are both contracted via skin to skin contact
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/20 10:36 AM
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When someone is acting like this with me, I just ignore and carry on with the other interesting stuff goin I’m in my life. She’ll reach out when she’s done being emotional.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 12:34 AM
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For the last two months, dwelving into mixology and learning how to make whiskey, bourbon, gin, rum, vodka cocktails.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 12:14 AM
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I wouldn’t see that gap as something that would raise flags. If you were say, going after a 17 year old at 30, then yeah, you’d look like a predator. I would say in your age bracket, 10-15 years would be where you’d get some side eye; when you’re older that gap can widen a bit because generally after mid 20’s you’re considered to have developed most of your maturity and mentally a full on adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 08:31 PM
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Absolutely, ready for a life partner and ready for children are two completely different things and should be treated as such. And some people will never be ready for kids, and that’s okay. We didnt really try to have kids until year 5 into our marriage, then had our one and done kid at year 7. Get all Your selfish, youthful, expensive hobbies out of the way beforehand because you’re probably not gonna be indulging in them until you shove your adult kids out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 03:50 PM
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If you have a decent lunch bag and some ice packs, I’ve found that yogurt cups, string cheese , raw veggies and fruits as well as other things posters have mentioned(wraps/salads/sandwiches, cooked grains) will stay good for at least a couple hours . If you are worried about getting in a higher protein source, I would do a flavored protein powder.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 10:57 AM
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Sorry that you’re goi g through this, breakups are tough and realistically it may take you a few months before you fully move on. If you haven’t already done so, block her number and from all forms of social media . You are going to be tempted to continue engaging with her, maybe even try to pathetically get back with her, so you need to prevent yourself from doing that. If you do find yourself vulnerable to reconnecting with her, remember why you broke up in the first place. Throw your focus ba…
/r/askTRP20/08/20 11:14 PM
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Lol, one of my coworkers once told me his reason being “i just want to climb a mountain or a tree, because it’s an accomplishment “ or something like that. I suspect it looks good to others when a short guy has a tall statuesque woman on their arm. Just like Tom Cruise and his ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 06:39 PM
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I can see how plastering your Social media with your boyfriend/girlfriend, only to have to go back and delete things, or answer 1000 times as to what happened to him/her when you stop posting about them a few months or years later, can be messy. I know that younger people are more used to sharing every single aspect of their lives online, but some people just personally prefer not to. Could also be a job/career related reason. I don’t put my husband on social media because he’s a private person …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 06:33 PM
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Was never brought up really(but then again I had maybe 2 boyfriends before meeting my husband). 6’1” husband and I have an 8 yr old daughter. She’s trending to come out to be around 5’3” after puberty according to the pediatrician. Then again husband’s parents were both 5’8” or under, there’s no especially tall people in their bloodline, and yet my brother in law is 6’ 5”. Genetics can interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 02:39 PM
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I think not just power dynamic, but matching maturity level creates the attraction as well. One of my guy friends with Peter Pan syndrome was always attracted to the youthful late teens/early 20’s girls in his late 30’s. He bagged himself a 18 yr old, and we had an intervention with him about how bloody creepy he was being for dating her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 02:09 PM
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4ft 9inches here, always had a thing for short guys. Short guys always told me their preference was someone taller than them. It always seemed to be talller guys 5’10” and higher went after me because they liked the size difference; petite women made them look “bigger”. So yeah, OP if you’re getting “disturbed” by seeing a tall guy with a small woman, it’d be stupid of you to think it’s just the woman targeting for height.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 11:07 AM
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Ok that makes better sense, your post says “doesn’t “ workout for the guy example. Yeah, those women who are delusional and shooting beyond their value match (demanding the 6/6/6 and whatnot) are usually forever single or getting used for casual sex and nothing else. You point at issues that are, well, created by your fellow men. Who is giving all those average/ugly women attention? Who is “simping” for these pretty girls with no substance?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 07:16 PM
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Yes, Men have to work harder when they are shooting for women above their own looksmatch. Men also tend to overestimate their physical attractiveness. Yes, being taller, looking masculine, having good social skills all make you MORE attractive than your competition. Just as how being Caucasian or Asian, having a more feminine body frame or hip to waist ratio, and being young makes a woman MORE attractive than her competition. Doesn’t make the competition completely unattractive though, they just…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 06:02 PM
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I don’t discount your view. My point was , for this poster using N count as a relationship Disqualifier, not just as something to consider in vetting for LTR, his method is flawed. He has proven that his N count doesn’t disqualify himself; theoretically a high N count person could be LTR material.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 05:51 PM
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It matters because it proves his method of disqualifying long term partners is flawed. His GF, if she has vetted him correctly, proves this flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 05:30 PM
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....have you actually had any extensive experience in a healthy long term relationship? To back up this broad assumption? Or are you just going off what the internet tells you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 04:30 PM
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What does that have anything to do, with anything I’ve said?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 04:15 PM
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I don’t think high N counts particularly attracts women who are looking for a relationship, or denotes them being higher value when combined with the same red flags exhibited that men believe High N count women will have associated to their promiscuity. A woman versed in vetting for relationship partners would probably be wary of the implications/baggage of a man-whore (poor impulse control, inability to pair bond or promise commitment, propensity to cheat, STDS, possible children and baby mama …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 04:02 PM
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This i can see as a reasonable expectation; I always silently chuckle when I hear a man or woman list of their LTR/sexual preferences or requirements, that they themselves can’t even meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 03:39 PM
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It’s interesting you use promiscuity as a disqualifier as it signifies the person is not good relationship material......you don’t consider yourself in that pool?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 03:36 PM
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I can agree about the part where you’re purposely acting cold and ignoring the other person for the rest of the date; that further shows that the person is “butthurt” in a way for not getting what he wanted. But if the person backs off, and continues acting normal but not making moves on me after I’ve rejected him the first time, I would respect that behavior and that would give me the space needed to decide if I want to go forward with anything that night.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 01:05 PM
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Not seeing how this point is contesting majority opinion. If a women is truly uncomfortable with going further or for any other reason wants to stop the escalation, this is the most appropriate and really safest response for both parties. The last thing you’d want to happen is that a girl feels “coerced” into it because you are raging at her, exploding over rejection, or worse, you are physically forcing her into the act(ie raping her). Anyone throwing a hissy fit and start acting like a jerk/as…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 12:50 PM
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Question for OP - have you ever been in, I dunno, a healthy mature relationship before?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 06:11 PM
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Body positivity, outside of people with genetic disabilities/disorders, acquired diseases, or disfiguring accidents, is a joke. Obesity, which you voluntarily and knowingly put yourself into, has no place with the movement. It’s really sad that BoPo is now just overrun with these land whales and have taken away the spotlight from legitimate members.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 01:47 PM
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This sounds like either a “you” problem (you dislike pair bonding or being in a relationship in general) or a “you” problem ( you poorly vet your girlfriends). Nothing wrong with being the first one; you can always spin plates or just one plate, but you might have to compromise on one or more of those preferences you mentioned. You said you don’t like “sluts”, don’t want to wear condoms, and I imagine you have an aversion towards surprises pregnancies and STI’s. Something would probably have to …
/r/askTRP15/08/20 07:52 PM
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You’re probably eating more than 1000-1500, and I truly don’t mean to discourage you by saying that. You’re doing decent progress; you can prob go lower on your actual calorie intake. Everyone starting out overestimates how many calories they burn during exercise, and grossly underestimate the calories they consume. If you were truly eating at that caloric level, you would be seeing a ballpark average of 3 lbs consistent weightloss every week, 12-13 lbs per month, 150 lb weight loss in a year . …
/r/askTRP15/08/20 08:43 AM
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You need to be in a CALORIC DEFICIT at the same time as doing strength training, in order to lose excess bodyweight from fat.
/r/askTRP15/08/20 01:13 AM
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I’m sorry that happened; that would make me believe she was possibly a bit of a narcissist, and I can definitely see that being a common kind of behavior with those kinds of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 05:21 PM
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Yeah I agree that offering up an open door towards friendship when you don’t plan to follow through is pretty deceitful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 02:29 PM
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Yeah I can see that too. If a guy initially comes at me from a sex/dating angle, I don’t even reach as far as to offer friendship as a consolation, because of this. It would make me uneasy that a guy not actually interest in a friendship, is putting on an act around me, covertly expecting something from me that I didn’t indicate I was open to giving, to him specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 01:25 PM
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Do most women really flip out when guys respectfully turn down a friendship offer after being rejected romantically though? In real life as a common occurrence? Or is this an assumption coming from an echo chamber, online? Honestly curious because I’m not a guy and am in an older generation. I always hear and have personally experienced guys flipping out in response to rejection from a woman’s perspective, but the friendship offer was usually offered only to soften the blow, not really expected …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 12:44 PM
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My personal opinion is that the current trend is to be “woke” and offended by behavior that seems to play into “traditional gender conforming”. I’ll hear comments here and there from my social circle, but it’s usually because the other person is insecure about that particular aspect of their own life. I just nod, chuckle, shrug and change the subject. I do what I do (look nice, indulge in “feminine” hobbies, etc) because I like the results of my efforts, not for anyone else.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 12:09 PM
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She could be a private person, or have a career that is especially sensitive to any potentially negative social media publicity and avoids posting about irrelevant shit online altogether. She told her real life friends about you, so I wouldn’t immediately suspect she’s trying to hide you. Just continue to be cognizant of any inexplicable unusual behavior.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 11:12 AM
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Yikes. At the end of the day, you just simply can’t be responsible for other people’s feelings or manage their issues for them. She’s got to find her own way to fix what makes her broken because if she gets into another relationship, same problems will pop up. You can not fix other people; the only thing you can do is react to their behavior and hopefully act in your best interests for safety and happiness. Next time, vet your potential LTR a bit harder before committing . I’m sure she was givin…
/r/askTRP11/08/20 07:36 PM
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I wanna know too so I can meet and observe these types of women in action. Maybe a generational thing. I’m older (36) and throughout my acquaintances and friendships, have rarely ever met such highly narcissistic, sociopathic succubi that these guys describe as “all women”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 05:24 PM
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In the context of relationship material, a decent valued woman who knows what she wants is probably going to negatively judge a guy’s poor impulse control. I doubt she’s gonna say “I don’t care if he’s gonna cheat on me throughout a possible relationship and give me the clap! Must make him my forever BaE!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 05:03 PM
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Not sure if that is convincing enough for me. Growing up, the guy that was known around town as the player/man whore wasn’t particularly sought after for a committed relationship by women who had their shit together .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 05:00 PM
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I dunno, a dude rolling around sticking his dick in every hole he can find, while trying to keep his 3 or 4 baby mamas at bay is not exactly enticing relationship material for any decent woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 03:42 PM
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I don’t think most of the men on the RP boards wanting ONS are the same ones demanding virginal LTRs. As maturity sets in, I believe that higher N count men/women are less stuck on their respective partner’s N count as an immediate fail/pass measure for entering into a committed relationship. Lower N count / virginal men and women will still probably prefer someone with similar body counts, if they are “saving themselves” for the right person. I’ve had catholic female friends, who were virgins o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 03:39 PM
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The relationship market does not run the same way as the casual sex market; genders play opposite roles in each. Men are the buyers in the relationship market and sellers in the casual sex. Women “pay” in a similar way with respect to their N count/ LTR viability/“reputation” when partaking/buying in the casual sex market.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 10:35 AM
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Yes, but being born a player/man whore isn’t required to obtain sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 05:47 PM
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Casual sex is not the only way to have kids or a family though?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 05:41 PM
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I think OP is pointing the rubbing in to the sexually frustrated guys who are upset that they are not getting the casual sex they think is owed to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 05:40 PM
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Yep pretty much. And dread is that much harder to cultivate when you move in together. Almost a guaranteed dead bedroom situation unless he can employ it.
/r/askTRP10/08/20 11:46 AM
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Lazy excuses. You can control the shit that goes in your mouth. You can do some push-ups, pull-ups, go on a run or do some fucking jumping jacks or jump rope, deadlift some heavy furniture around your place.
/r/askTRP09/08/20 09:55 PM
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Not everyone is into the prospect of only having emotionless sex forever and ever, and that’s okay. Some people don’t find sex worth it unless it’s with someone they have significant feelings for, or prefer to only see one person at a time whether it be for casual dating or while seeking relationships. We are designed to be social creatures after all, and that sometimes comes with the desire to pair bond. Do what makes you happy, and what is conducive to your goal (finding a relationship, just s…
/r/askTRP09/08/20 12:49 PM
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That is a lot of attention you’ve given her; when people are excessively needy like this, they usually have some apparent narcissistic personality traits, and/or extremely low self esteem to go with it. Translates into her thinking you need to revolve around her to satisfy her internal unhappiness, or her having unrealistic high expectations from you that won’t ever be fulfilled because she feels entitled to being treated a certain way.
/r/askTRP09/08/20 10:34 AM
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Nope, don’t ruin the rest of your evening by opening and responding to her messages. When you give her the attention she is demanding by acting this way, you teach her that she should act out like this every time she wants attention because you will react by giving it to her. Enjoy your weekend, and when you’re recharged mentally and enough time has passed where emotions should be cooled down, reach out to lay out terms of how this relationship is going to work out going forward. If you agree th…
/r/askTRP09/08/20 12:10 AM
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Politely end things, and resume going to The gym at your usual time. It’s on him if he decides to make a scene about it; usually narcissists refrain from showing poor form in public so. I wouldn’t worry about him making the gym a war zone for You. If anything he might ignore you, but oh well. You don’t owe him inconveniences to your own schedule just because it didn’t work out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 05:33 PM
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He sounds like it, or at least lying to you about the “playing games” part amongst others. He sounds inconsistent and as if he’s trying to instill dread in you to say the least. I think your gut is spot on and what you’re observing are red flags. If I were You, I wouldn’t be considering him for anything outside of casual dating.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 03:59 PM
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whatever you decide to do, get that drinking problem fixed. a quick gander at your post history makes me suspect there’s a couple things going on in your life not stemming from issues with your STBX wife. Long running Alcoholism tends to make one’s life miserable in general.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 01:46 PM
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Looks and/or money are extremely important for guys wishing to entice women(who are open to hookup culture, cause not everyone is) to give him casual, hookup, no strings attached sex. He can still get it, to a less successful degree(and probably with a girl he might not find particularly attractive) without these two things, if he has strong social skills(confidence, persuasion skills, natural ability to connect with people and make them comfortable in your presence). But if the guy is physicall…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 01:38 PM
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Oooo I will check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 04:55 AM
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Thanks for the references!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 06:27 PM
5

Thanks! I’ll try experimenting with gel nails. Do you usually keep a wavy/ curly /straight hairstyle?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:59 PM
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I have what I think is 3c hair, I texturize it with a mild relaxer. Have you ever tried acrylic/gel any overlay type colors and if so did you find any technique that stayed on with all the work you do with your hands?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:56 PM
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I wasn’t actually looking for advice about my workout routine and it’s effects on my body’s attractiveness. Your examples don’t apply to me, and it’s quite obnoxious for you to suggest physical workout changes to anyone you don’t really know in terms of physicality, and with no references to actual expertise in physical training.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:52 PM
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Looking at it from a biological imperative view, I think men are becoming too feminine, which turns women off. It’s not so much about just grooming/fashion. Being muscular through engaging in physical labor or fitness, being aggressive or making the first move and “hunting” In general for a woman, having high testosterone that gives you a square jaw amongst other manly traits are things Alot of guys don’t have or put effort in. And I would argue that it’s not 100% their fault. Western society is…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 02:23 AM
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Similar lifestyle to mine when it comes to physical fitness Have a mission and actively working towards it Emotionally and mentally stable, communicative, and mature minded ( I realize folks can’t help having depression or a mental illness, but they are still responsible for managing it) Big ones being - independent and financially self-sufficient. I bring these things to the table and then some, so I think it’s pretty reasonable to expect this from a committed partner / LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 01:59 AM
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They are usually narcissists
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 03:42 PM
2

Exactly all this. Was raised similarly and I feel it made me develop decent social skills/character to be generally successful in life and relationships I otherwise wouldn’t have done. I sometimes see other adult women in my social circle who are raised with the “I’m a princess because I have a vagina” mentality and it’s a shit show.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 03:41 PM
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I know right! It took me 2 solid years of coaxing to get my husband to embrace lifting weights; he started to get really insecure of my transformation and weightloss and tried to get me to stop with threats of finding me unattractive. When he realized I wasn’t stopping and was now finding his 3rd trimester beer belly unattractive, he decided to join me 😁. Suffice to say We’re good now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 12:27 PM
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It’s amazing you both found each other and function very well in a healthy relationship. It’s a shame that for some people here, this sounds unobtainable or fictional, when in fact this is how most decent people function when in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 06:12 PM
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Oh, honey. I stopped reading after the “who’s the biggest slut” game she was crushing her friends at. Take this as a sobering teaching moment for what happens when you put your SO on a pedestal. Anyone, including your unicorn LTR, has the capability to break your heart, disappoint you and most certainly develop into a person you didn’t think they were capable of becoming. She exhibited some obvious red flags (depression, pulling away, telling you she was Bi) spelling the end of this, that you fa…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:08 PM
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Depends on how important fitness is, and/or aesthetics is to the girl. Everyone is different, there are some girls who prefer “soft dough boys” or dad bods over jacked fitness models/body holders or vice versa. You’ll never be able to completely control how attractive other people find you so worrying about that is a waste of time. Instead focus on improving yourself to your own personal preference / satisfaction. Other people’s opinions on your body don’t come before your own. If you struggle w…
/r/askTRP01/06/20 02:10 PM
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DC metro area; northern Virginia to be more specific, In the middle class income suburbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 10:30 AM
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I think many women have similar experiences, where older men who should know better go after prepubescent/ underage girls reaching puberty. I remember from ages 11 and up running into increasing instances where older men touched me inappropriately while out at a store/food place, stopped me on my walks home from middle and high school and try to offer me a ride, and running behind my dad for protection because an middle age guy was following me around and leaning about trying to look under my sk…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 11:34 PM
2

I don’t get offended/disgusted if a guy approaches me and they are not my type. If I reject a guy and they don’t take the hint and keep coming after me, obviously I’m not going to think too positively about them and depending on their offensive behavior I will consider them a threat or a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 11:27 PM
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It is more than not; it’s significantly harder to maintain a healthy level of dread and also excitement/ desire in a relationship. Also, it leaves you in a vulnerable situation especially when you don’t intend on marrying that person within the next 6 months/year. So many people jump right into cohabitating with someone who is a bad fit for long term; when shit hits the fan it’s messy getting out once you combine living spaces.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 09:53 PM
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You need to understand the WHY for the dead bedroom(yes, moving in was a huge factor to this) and the shit tests. Take a hard look and see if any of this is happening: -realizing you overlooked significant red flags while vetting for ltr -becoming comfortable with each other and slacking off in relationship efforts(also common when living together and seeing each other everyday) taking each other granted / acting unappreciative of the other’s efforts becoming physically unattractive to the other…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 04:09 PM
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I don’t know why people are downvoting this. Picnics with store bought alcohol and finger foods are low cost but high in creating a great dating ambience similar to a fancy restaurant. The OP wanted low cost date ideas and this is a valid, low cost, and fairly easy date idea to pull off. If you’re downvoting because it shows “too much effort”, I imagine that same mindset is holding you back from getting any recurring dates with desirable women. Nothing wrong with going higher class (while keepin…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 12:46 PM
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Yep; and I think this is the healthiest way to go about in dating and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 01:28 AM
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If I remember correctly, the institution of marriage came about to ensure the man’s children would inherit his wealth, by assigning a wife as his property and children she bore to him as his legitimate heirs. It also provided a woman benefits so she wouldn’t go destitute from divorce since women didn’t work outside the household and were financially dependent on their spouse. In the US, Women now make up at least half the workforce. Most households with both parents / childless couples who cohab…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:54 PM
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I think it’s great. We need to get away from the outdated tradition of requiring marriage to define us as cohabitating couples/family units . Marriage should really only be In cases where it’s absolute legally necessary, and/or one spouse is financially dependent on the other(breadwinner).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:38 PM
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This is a great list. I take this as a list of things you need to be working on as part of your self improvement before you jump right into dating and finding a partner. Goes without saying We’re not going to be masters in every aspect of the list and shouldn’t expect to be before dipping our toes into relationship searching,but should be cognizant of these goal posts and have a baseline in each nonetheless
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 03:49 PM
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Good advice, but gotta say that Plan b is not a contraceptive. It’s a “oh shit I fucked up “ drug /last ditch effort to stop conception. Enjoy the option while it lasts; if I’m not mistaken our current administration is doing a great job in dismantling its availability and planned parenthood altogether.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 11:49 AM
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Can you not read the sarcasm in my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 02:51 PM
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Without intertwining any moral implications, the answer is that simply You act/react based on your target’s nonverbal cues/behavior, not just their words. If they like you and welcome your advances, you pursue. if they don’t, their body language will tell you and then you would stop escalating. This holds true regardless of her relationship status. On then flip side, She could be single and simply not like you; it doesn’t mean you would keep on escalating.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 02:24 PM
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I mean, somethings gotta fuel the market demand for divorce lawyers. Think of all those poor legal professionals who depend on your marriage’s demise? Eta because apparently it’s needed : /s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 12:37 PM
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I’ve been married for 13 years (together for 16 1/2) to an awesome life partner and we don’t plan on ending that anytime soon. With that said, Marriage is outdated and unnecessary for the most part. It offers very little administrative and legal benefits in comparison to the potential harm it does in the event of divorce. both spouses get economically wrecked and it’s just downright ugly when children are involved and the marriage ended badly. Unless one spouse is a stay at home dependent of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 12:29 PM
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Think of this like stock: It’s reasonable that a company in its infancy will gain some initial investors, but in order to get more it has to prove its performance over time. People who got in on the ground floor benefit the most for taking the risk in the beginning though. Should later investors who now see value in the stock be excluded from shares? No; they would just have to pay for the higher current value of that stock because it’s price(or the person’s dating standards ) has risen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 05:10 PM
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First thing I’d look at is: what has changed about me and/or her that affects sexual desire? Straying from your mission/goals/applying soft dread, Weight gain, becoming generally lazy and unmotivated, depression, taking the other person for granted, slipping on personal hygiene, and/or foreplay - these are all things that lead to dead bedrooms. So first assess the root of the issue, then fix said issue. If it’s a legit medical concern on her end, she needs to get that checked out. If it’s truly …
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:33 PM
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I certainly don’t see why not. In my social circle, the guys and most of the gals are nerds, geeks, cosplayers, fans of anime/board games/D&D and they have for the most part decent social skills and no problems having gotten married or successfully date and find relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 01:36 AM
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Absolutely Nothing wrong with having geeky/nerdy interests. You’ll find women of all kinds of fitness levels have similar interests. Personally for me, it’s the socially awkward, immature guys who have universally unsavory traits or off-putting personality that I would avoid, good looking or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 11:43 PM
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It’s not even about keeping it in your pants. It’s about not being a fucking idiot and learning to pass on red flags. What did you think was going to happen when you bust a nut up in bipolar thot Becky who happens to be pro-life and thinks you might be her soulmate?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 01:03 AM
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Nah, if you decide to poorly/not at all vet your sexual partners and have risky sex (which we all know has at least a small chance of conception, with or without birth control) with someone who might not be on the same page as you regarding what happens during “mistakes”, you are responsible for the possible outcome. Own your shit and enjoy the child support rape for the next 18 years. To add - if you really are against any possibilities of becoming a daddy with your plates/ltr, you can always g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 12:26 AM
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I’ve personally never seen that specific advice in FDS during my lurking there, so I’m not sure how valid that is. I’ve seen the “keep your options open and date(not fuck) multiple men” but they have a pretty vocal PSA to not give sex for at least 3 months. I doubt that they are, in the same breath, advocating you to sleep around. That’d fall more in line with “pickmeisha” behavior that they loathe so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 11:39 AM
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RPW: if you can’t get a man: -it’s your fault -you need to change -here’s how to do it If anything, red pill women is a more appropriate comparison to the men’s red pill community. FDS is like a fragmented offshoot gone wrong and driven by women who’ve been burned and hold a grudge against all men ever. It’s kind of sad that FDS gets much more attention as being the “go-to” side for women when it comes to mating strategies, but that’s because ratchet behavior draws more attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:54 AM
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......I think you’ll find the advice, if they suggest sleeping around with other men at the same time, is similarly acceptable to men seeking RP advice? i.e. Spinning plates? And it’s called competition anxiety. If they are advocating that in order to make men compete for you, you can directly equate it to a woman’s version of dread. Although I don’t care for FDS as a whole, if you support Red Pill for men, you can’t turn around and bitch about FDS. Both offer strategies that are amoral, sometim…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:35 AM
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I think what’s missing In this equality debate is that unpaid labor, while done in most relationships, isn’t quantified/measured similar to a job. But really, if you get to a point In Your relationship where you’re at each other’s throats trying to keep score, tit for tat, with arguing about “who does more”, you headed for a breakup anyway. You take on whatever you can in order to support the relationship; if you’re getting encumbered with too much “work”, then you should work with your partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 02:43 AM
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In terms of youth and bad choices catching up to them, sure. But who wants a 30+ yr old man in the same predicament? There’s still a transactional relationship implication with those foreign, submissive, feminine women. They expect you to play your traditional role (provider, protector, fixer) in exchange for their submission and commitment. Western men are not by large raised to develop these roles/traits, or live up to these expectations. They are used to dual income lifestyles, social accepta…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 08:29 PM
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Well, IMO that’s because hookup culture, 3rd wave feminism and social media fueled narcissism has really become prevalent with the current generation of adults 30 and under. And while you see the negative effects on women, let’s not feign ignorance of how western culture has shaped men for the worse. They are, on average, significantly less respectable than their previous generations, just like the young women if we apply your viewpoint. This is not a gender exclusive problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 08:03 PM
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This is kind of one of those universal truths; anyone complaining about not attracting the type of person they want needs to accept that their value is not high enough. You might only be attracted to Chads and Stacies, and Attraction can’t be negotiated, sure, but one thing you CAN control are traits you possess that others may find make you more attractive (personality and social skills, hobbies/interests, level of fitness, grooming, education, career, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 07:49 PM
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I personally don’t find anyone calling another person “nigger” or other slur socially acceptable. I don’t go around calling white people “crackers, honkies” or Asians “chinks, nooks” or Hispanic/Latino people “wetbacks”. They all similarly have a negative, derogatory meaning aimed to verbally attack someone based on their ethnicity. Childish immature friends might “neg” each other with this banter, because there’s an implicit understanding between the two of meaning no real harm. Pulling the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 04:01 AM
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Yes, and implications such as low education rates and higher rate of poverty make that end result more viable. It’s no secret that institutionalized depression has played a part in reinforcing those implications. But Apply that to any homogeneous group of people of any ethnicity and results will be similar. It’s because of the environment and the situation, not because the skin color.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 03:22 AM
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Nah I’m good. I don’t associate with your kind in real life. You probably look the way you treat people. Disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 02:11 AM
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Oh no! There goes all my self worth, from you calling me the N word! Real classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 02:07 AM
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And my point is made 👌🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 02:05 AM
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Why not make the child white? You continue to spread a popular stereotype that black men dont stick around to raise their children. My black father did just that, especially as a single father raising two daughters all on his own with 2 jobs, while my gold-digging egg donor decided that parenting wasn’t her thing. There’s plenty of shitty white/Asian/Hispanic/etc guys out there who run away from their responsibilities, yet you never see them used to illustrate this kind of joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 02:04 AM
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Fucking racism is disgusting. Way to keep perpetuating your low value, gentlemen 👍🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 01:38 AM
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Depends on your lifestyle needs. If you don’t mind shared space, have a reliable trustworthy housemate(never with a LTR though) , and you have a financial mission, go for it. But having your own place to yourself is awesome if you can afford it, especially if you’re an introvert. That’s always the preferred choice.
/r/askTRP09/05/20 10:35 PM
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Damn, she must’ve won garnering the attention she wanted when someone else is fussed enough to make a post about her, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 03:09 PM
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A plate for 3 months sounds like it’s getting long in the tooth to be honest. It’s not uncommon, at this stage for them, to be checking to see if there’s anything more between you two. You’ve described someone obviously incompatible for anything other than a plate to you. Do you have others in rotation, or have you been filling your funnel with prospects? If not, get on that immediately. If you’re trying to keep her for a bit longer, remind her that casual is all you’re looking for. If she decid…
/r/askTRP09/05/20 01:03 PM
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That’s how I saw the poster’s issue. When you look at the grand scheme of things, this seems like such a small hill to build a war out of. Perhaps this was just one of the many instances of MIL overstepping boundaries . But at a glance this reads as a control issue; it seems like such a huge amount of effort and mental space to worry about something like this to be honest. if that’s all that MIL is doing to “overstep” and MIL doesn’t have malicious intentions, I’d either welcome it, and work my …
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 06:46 PM
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I think your post is mixing up two main markets SMP and RMP . Sexual Marketplace (buyers market) - there’s alot more men(product) filling this market, for a longer part of their life, than there are women(buyers). It makes sense that a woman can be choosy, is goes with the best product for sex. Not her fault that the most desirable product is available to her to buy. The other inferior products (looks,game,sexual performance) are going to stay on the shelf, plain and simple. Relationship Marketp…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 05:53 PM
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If you’re the average 20ish American guy who’s between 25-35+% body fat(everyone underestimates how fat they really are), and have a good working knowledge of how calories and macros work plus consistently following a decent strength / resistance training routine that uses Heavy weights, you’ll see changes within the first 6 months - year. “Jacked” is subjective. You talking about professional athlete, bodybuilder or fitness /underwear model jacked? Closer to 5-10 years, with PED’s. Doing it Nat…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 10:55 AM
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What is really sad, is if he fucking LIFTED some weights he’d probably look great instead of, well, this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:43 AM
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Yes, men act on their fee-fees, irrationally and a lot. Women do it too. It’s usually based on the persons maturity level. And men tend to be develop maturity at a slower rate than women the same age too. You act as if hypergamy is non-existent in men. Men chase after and trade-in for younger, prettier women all the time, regardless of being in a relationship. You’re not making a valid argument here or pointing out how women are actually worse given just their nature. Sorry to break it to ya, “M…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 09:00 PM
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You guys also do a stellar job of acting mentally challenged when your ego is bruised and becoming irrational due to baser primal emotions and your fragile fee-fees. You give men too much credit under the scope of their performance in relationships compared to women. A PERSON’s ability to maintain a healthy relationship is dependent on their individual character and personal baggage, hardly indicative of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:43 PM
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You make it sound as if female nature makes them horrible human beings who are evil in comparison to the innocent gentile men. Grow the fuck up. Men’s nature is just as cringeworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:26 PM
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Women care as a reaction to having said rage directed at them personally. Something that “Chad” rarely has to worry about. I normally wouldn’t give two fucks about incels and what they do, until they start sending me message requests with “hi, messaging you out of nowhere to let you know that you are probably a shallow cunt! girls like you never give guys like me a chance, blah blah blah. Send me nooooooooods!”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 07:47 PM
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HATE itself is a strong word, and I imagine most folks might form a negative opinion over an entire gender based on their limited interactions with them. But for those genuinely hating the entire gender, there’s gotta be some long term trauma/abuse/mental illness and disordered thinking that cultivated that hatred. When I worked in customer service and in mgmt, i dealt with plenty of horrible human beings, both men and women, rich or poor, under influence of some substance or completely sober. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 01:04 PM
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You make it seem like intelligent men cannot also be charismatic, charming, confident and/or possess other strong social skills that make him attractive to women? There are smart, attractive men out there who do just fine. Any guy who acts like a socially inept asshole, packed to the brim with intelligence or not, will turn away women, men and children all the same. Social skills matter, whether you’re cognizant of this or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 12:57 PM
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Yep. How everything should be viewed as honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 08:14 PM
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This is great universal advice. I would tweak it to say don’t OVER-INVEST in any of that instead of attach. It’s good to have healthy balanced relationships (attachments) with others and things so long as you’re not sacrificing a crucial element of yourself or resources in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 06:02 AM
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He is saying whatever he can drum up to prolong a nonsensical “debate” out of you, even though he’s incapable of defending and maintaining his opinion/idea. It’s his M.O. here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 04:28 PM
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I think in that situation there’s an opening for hurt caused by miscommunication, where manipulation isn’t at play. If someone tells you upfront they are looking for more and asks if you’re looking for the same WITH THEM, then manipulation is possible if you choose to lie to them (including omission) about your intentions. The person could be dense or an asshole If they choose to ignore suspecting the other person wants more, but that other person still has a responsibility to voice their desire…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 03:05 PM
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I agree; to me Manipulation is when someone uses coercive or disingenuous tactics to get people or ask them to do things for their benefit, where the person would not be inclined to otherwise. If a person decides to “simp” or be a “pickmeisha” or doormat expecting guaranteed sex or a relationship, all that they’re doing is setting themselves up for failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 01:36 PM
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Great post. Denial, An over-inflated ego, overestimated SMV self-assessment , and defeatist mindsets make it hard for people to help themselves by fixing their problems with the above mentioned , though. I’ve engaged an incel from time to time around this same idea, but what I notice every time is that they are virulently dead set in the belief that a)it’s just too hard to change themselves so they give up. b)said changes won’t work so a waste of time , and/or c)they shouldn’t have to change to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:20 AM
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I think the socialization differences between genders play somewhat of a part. Women connect by talking, sharing secrets/intimate information, social bonding . Men usually connect by doing things with others, not by sharing their fee-fee’s. Mental illness and any precursors around it is a well known stigma for men, not so much with women. Hence women are more likely to discuss it freely without as much social consequence. Unfortunately Both genders suffer more/less from certain types of disorder…
/r/askTRP27/04/20 07:57 PM
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I would be fine with it. His past preferences do not define him now, especially if they’ve now expanded to include someone like me. I get that you’re insinuating that a woman should feel insulted at the prospect of being settled for, but I don’t think this thing really comes up as an offensive dealbreaker in normal healthy relationships. Maybe Bob just wanted to spend his 20’s-30’s busting his nut into the cream of the crop. It’s his life, he can most certainly live it on his own terms. If Bob s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 01:58 PM
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3 months is a bit long in the tooth, even for basic vetting on whether he has similar intentions for a relationship, and if there is enough chemistry to explore a relationship together. If you’re diligently observing his actions/behaviors and getting to know his traits and personality, etc, then you should base your “wait time” on how much you need to make a decision based on your observations, not some arbitrary number/date/milestone. And last I checked, sexual chemistry is a major factor for b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 06:18 AM
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And those women having such strict requirements were never a viable dating pool for short men then. Can height change? Nope. Does that mean you are relegated to only dating degenerates? Nope. Does it mean you’ll have to adopt new dating strategies and spend more time seeking potential partners? Yep. Is it easy to give up or blame your shortcomings at the prospect of having to work harder to find a mate, than to actually shut the fuck up and put In The extra work? Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:58 AM
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Not saying they don’t; I’m not a guy so I can’t opine on what they face in the dating world. Just sharing my observations from real life about the height preference going in both directions. My original point was that not all women have strict height requirements, just like there are some guys and gals out there that are fine with conventionally “unattractive” physical features. Sometimes we have to change our target market when the current one isn’t allowing you to penetrate it with what you ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:29 AM
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If it were simple to get and stay in shape, the majority of our population would and it wouldn’t be such a prevalent issue in the dating market. Fat logic and general denial are strong coping mechanisms for overweight and obese people. And people who currently or previously struggle with weight can all agree that the largest hurdle to changing behaviors and lifestyle is admitting there’s a problem and cultivating the willpower and discipline to actually make the changes. Throw general lack of nu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:00 AM
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Curious; What source supports your opinion that marriage satisfaction increases when the man is “tall”? And How tall, or by how much in comparison to the woman’s height? Were other factors considered as variables for the satisfaction observation? And How were they determined to be immaterial?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:52 AM
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I don’t think all of them do. It was certainly a “trend” I noticed growing up and interacting with shorter men. I remember having an interesting conversation with a coworker after he fawned over a tall girl in the store, and I picked his brain about the dynamic. He explained that it was line a challenge to achieve and gave him validation to “bag” a girl despite a significant height difference. But I Also know plenty of guys and gals who prefer that the guy be taller than the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:41 AM
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FWIW, there are women out there that value physical fitness and might not have a problem with height, however they might not be the ones you’re targeting. I remember at a young age I’d chase after short boys(always found shorties like myself attractive for some reason and still do), but a lot of them were only interested in “climbing that mountain/tree” so to speak, possibly because getting a tall woman was a status symbol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:31 AM
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If a women agrees to operate in a society where she cannot become financially independent or competitive in the workplace, and would have to rely on men to provide, which I believe I saw you were advocating in another post, how would that requirement after divorce work? What about cases where divorce was necessary because of domestic violence? By the way, I’m a fan of removing alimony and pushing for 50/50 custody . But only because today’s workforce climate allows for both women and men to fina…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:53 AM
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In your suggestion, do you think you’d have to get men to universally agree to ALL aspire to be the “provider/family father, husband and protector” role they need to do in order to support this kind of society? What about the fear of divorce rape / alimony, or men’s desires to write their own destinies? There’s a growing group of men who don’t ever want to marry, or co-parent/be a father figure to the babies they help create. There are those who just want to focus on becoming financially success…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:42 AM
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Yes it does unfortunately; while it’s good for anyone to be aware of the potential negative aspects of being in a relationship, he will sink this ship if he’s assuming off the bat that you will “screw him over” or that you’re a bad partner without provocation. This is something you should perhaps have a discussion with him about to address the source of these concerns; are they from valid observations or his insecurities?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 02:55 AM
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Any concerns on OP’s N-count is on OP’s boyfriend to properly vet for before asking her to be in an LTR, since it seems like a potential issue for him. Also, why would OP’s boyfriend try to verify by words instead of being cognizant of her actions/behavior? Unless he’s seeing some red flags with OP, he’s not doing any of this right.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 02:32 AM
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In general it’s bad to ask the target audience what attracts them . You’re better off asking other men who are successful because they’ll give objective advice that women may be unaware about in their nature. I certainly didn’t really “know” the ins and out of what men did that attracted me to them when I was younger so I’m sure any dating advice i’d give to a guy back then would be terrible. I’m sure the same goes if you were to ask a guy the same; they wouldn’t admit to or even be aware of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 11:15 PM
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Thank you for posting this. While it’s nice if your man likes your fashion choices and certainly fine to consider certain looks you both enthusiastically like, ultimately your choices should be based on what you like and are comfortable with first and foremost.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 12:53 PM
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Have you gotten the Vaccine? From what i understand, it’s approved for women and men 45 yrs or younger now, usually covered under most insurance plans and I believe the Gardasil 9 protects against the 7 most common cancer causing strains and 2 common ones that cause warts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 12:15 PM
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Louder for the incels in the back
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 04:08 AM
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I imagine to OP’s point that the feeling of disgust some women feel towards bisexual men who are potentially sexual partners is the same as men viewing non-virgin women as “tainted/devalued”. Why? Maybe there is something to the saying that dick in itself is abundant and low in value; anyone(man or woman) suffers a reduction in sexual value having sex with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 11:22 AM
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Stop ordering food. Stop buying shit ad bringing it back into the house. You can’t binge on junk food at home unless you’re doing doing those 2 things. Make it so that if you want any snacks/desserts/junk food/meals outside of cooking it, you have to walk (not drive) to go get it. Weather is bad or it’s too far for you to walk? Oh well, guess you didn’t need it that badly. Learn to cook food if you haven’t already. If you’re not hungry enough to eat those greens/raw fruit/lean proteins, etc star…
/r/askTRP19/04/20 12:38 PM
2

Social skills count immensely in mating strategies. I don’t know why incels/blackpillers try to ignore this, unless they are in denial or unaware of their own failures in adopting social skills. Looks only carry you so far in terms of actually having committed relationships. If you are lacking in terms of character and overall personality, then no, you probably won’t succeed, regardless of your looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 11:55 AM
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Why do you limit your social circle to women of a value level that you’re not interested in?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 02:04 AM
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I don’t think men would “hate” open relationships nor would they feel forced to be part of one. Husband and I date others separately, we are also both heterosexual, opened for 2 years now, total 12 yrs l married and still love and fuck each other. It works because we already had a strong relationship, are both communicative, on the same page and mature. We also both take care of our looks(staying fit, groomed, etc) and have decent personalities and qualities, so attracting and keeping partners i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 09:58 PM
2

Reduced texting is a godsend in my book. Pay attention to her in-person interactions with you, not by how many random, idiotic, hourly LOL texts she sends you. If she starts changing up her actual actions around you, then that’s a better item to pay attention to. Everyone gets comfortable to a certain degree in a secure relationship , that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Save quality communication for time spent in person.
/r/askTRP17/04/20 06:38 PM
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A person can choose not to have sex with a partner they no longer find attractive. Another perspective - If your wife/girlfriend gains 150 lbs, and you realize you can’t get it up at the sight of her until she fixes her obesity issue, that’s not manipulative . People who act like a child or otherwise make themselves abhorrently unattractive should expect negative side effects(lost sexual intimacy) until they fix their problems. OYS.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 10:37 AM
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It’s more of a “if you’re not pulling your own fucking weight in adulting (which includes cleaning up after yourself and sharing general chores)your partner is probably going to be turned off “ situation. This is like asking if guys get “turned on” if their girl starts paying for her own shit where she was relying on him to always pick up the tab before.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 10:29 AM
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If your friend is accurate in that multiple girls feel uneasy after interacting with you, that makes me believe we need more info for context here; it’s difficult to see what your friend is saying when we weren’t there for the interactions. -show us a convo you had with one of these girls; it may not be an issue of lewdness but maybe the way you say things rubs people the wrong way. -have other women outside with social circle said the same things about you? If your social skills suck, you could…
/r/askTRP14/04/20 04:20 PM
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Do you live a city center or larger metro area? If so, I’d say give MeetUp a shot, join an interest group and try to meet new people that way. For example, I’m into fitness, so I’ll participate in obstacle courses or do group fitness/technique classes,and if I were in a bigger city I’d probably join a running/cycling group. A lot of opportunities to strike up convo with people who share your interests.
/r/askTRP14/04/20 02:07 AM
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I’ve been married for 13 years and my partner is great; we are highly compatible for long term cohabitating,Coparenting, and are the same page on financial management and career management. That being said, I would not recommend it unless you absolutely know that your would be spouse is someone you’d 1000% know and trust isn’t going to screw you over during a divorce. You do enjoy some specific benefits(discounts and ability to put spouse on insurances, medical decision making) but really all th…
/r/askTRP13/04/20 12:22 AM
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Oh but it’s true. Men’s and women’s sexual strategies are amoral, selfish in nature, and designed to be quite successful in the continuation of our species. AF/BB - The generations-old stereotype that “girls like bad boys” wasn’t whimsically imagined. Does it apply to every man/woman? No. “The turn” - we are not a species originally designed for permanent monogamy, be it dating to marriage. The fact that both women and men usually have more than one sex partner throughout their lifetimes prove t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 05:13 AM
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This is where you and a lot of other women get it wrong when you look at TRP. Read the RP sidebar to understand what RP is about, before you start blindly concluding on what it is/does. I see a lot of us women having a double standard on stuff like this: we are totes fine with toxic masculinity, AMALT talk in feminist communities but we sure do clutch our pearls should there be a community doling out the same kind of locker talk about our gender. What you and most women are angry about is that R…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:42 AM
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Oof, i would vehemently disagree. I believe there are certainly a few common masculine traits that are positively received by both men and women. -men and women alike gravitate towards alphas(leader like skills - charisma, confidence, communication skills, ability to strategize and execute). -men and women both find a guy who seems honest, authentic, not a people pleaser(aka disingenuous little bitch) , and in general doesn’t shy from conflict more trustworthy than the alternative. -men and wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:52 PM
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Thanks for posting this. The hourly “all my self worth is in banging slots....what do?” posts are getting old.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 04:31 PM
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She was teasing/goading you to create sexual tension. In sexual play, she probably likes to play the “brat” role(maybe also likes to be “prey”), which pairs well with a dominant “brat tamer” partner(and maybe predator). She’s probably also dominant in personality but very submissive in bed. It’s not what turns you on, so you responded just fine. She took a somewhat risky move hoping you would be into it. Not everyone is going to be sexually compatible. Onto the next.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 12:50 PM
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Hmmm, I’d say you’re responding well to these people shit testing you. If they can’t respect you, they shouldn’t be part of your life. Now, one thing you might consider is how accurate your shit-meter is; if you’re perceiving conversations or actions incorrectly (the person isn’t actually being disrespectful/challenge you) then you might be going overboard and nuking potentially valuable relationships with people. Like others mentioned, don’t waste your energy on responding to people who don’t m…
/r/askTRP09/04/20 06:03 PM
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It offers a false sense of “intimate connection” that you don’t get from porn. Hence why the desire for nudes from a girl you’ve actually interacted with is much higher than just going online and finding one of the billion plus free nudes out there.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 05:56 PM
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Yeah, we’re seeing the upswing of 3rd wave feminism affecting modern society and the way our young male generation suffers for it, and social media replacing most of our real life social interactions. Depression and other mental health issues are on the rise for younger folks too.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 11:24 AM
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If most of the women you’re chasing after and bagging have BPD / serious personality flaws, that points at a problem with you and your vetting capabilities. You should look into why you keep going after toxic/low value women.
/r/askTRP08/04/20 05:49 PM
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Question - is she an actual LTR/established exclusive relationship, or just a plate at this point that you want as a girlfriend? If she is just a plate, your concern about her “cheating “ on you is gonna be invalid; she’s just a plate and technically free to see other people until you both decide to make it exclusive. If she’s an established girlfriend, like any relationship you are not going to be able to monitor your partner’s every action, nor is it sane/rational to automatically assume that …
/r/askTRP08/04/20 01:20 PM
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Thank you for voicing the rant, 100% agree.
/r/askTRP08/04/20 12:57 AM
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It sounds like you’ve vetted her long enough, are cognizant of potential issues with a good workaround and you’ve gotten a taste of what cohabitating could look like with her. so as long as nothing drastic changes by the time you’re ready to make the leap, I’d believe you’ll be fine. Like an other poster advised about not getting lazy on leading the relationship; it’s really easy to slip on this over time when you decide to cohabitate. Just keep that in the back of your mind.
/r/askTRP08/04/20 12:54 AM
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I mean as the woman “wiping the man child’s ass”(taking care of him as if she was his mommy), which I see quite a few times in real life, sadly. There’s a female version of this too, I’m sure, like a bratty daddy’s girl who never mentally grew up and expects her partner to coddle her and put up with all her immature antics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 06:33 PM
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IRL I see a lot of gainfully employed women who prefer their men to be at least as financially successful if not moreso than themselves, while they both share childcare and/or household duties. In that situation, where two incomes is usually a necessity , I think the expectations are reasonable. Of course there’s going to be a group of women in the population that aspire to be a stay at home mom/homemaker while their husband provides financially , but really that’s becoming very unattainable in …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 04:53 PM
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Listening to women list off requirements instead of watching their actual actions is the problem. I might say I only want tall dark handsome chads with underwear model looks and cushy CEO gigs, but if that cute, flirty, couch surfing dude working the Burger King drive thru window gives me the tingles, well....... Just kidding! But not really. Confidence, charisma and great social skills goes a long way with everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 02:54 PM
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You asking for advice about this situation in itself is beta. Why engage in this immature shit? Are you her 12 yr old bestie or something? You ignore and are indifferent to what is going on with her and her BF. I personally wouldn’t pursue someone who’s attached, but you do you if you believe her pussy is worth the drama and effort.
/r/askTRP07/04/20 12:48 PM
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Desperation acts accordingly.
/r/askTRP07/04/20 12:41 PM
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It seems that you associate RP as being incompatible with LTRs, and that’s not the case. I personally see a lot of people pedestalizing the a committed/long term relationship, expecting it to be this all-or-nothing magical venture that becomes the center of your universe which you’ve enslaved yourself to. A relationship is as valuable and enriching to our lives as we make them, hence why the good ones require constant effort and work to maintain. no platonic or romantic relationships is forever;…
/r/askTRP07/04/20 11:57 AM
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It’s not bad in every situation; it’s just usually bad more than good. It’s a common mistake to not vet roommates properly before living with them. If you’ve known the girl long enough (more than a year minimum), no red flags, and she’s on the same page as you about the relationship then it’s less risky. but always be prepared in the event it all goes to shit. And prepare to adapt to the relationship changes along with the living situation. Any attraction based on mystery/time apart/effort in go…
/r/askTRP07/04/20 11:15 AM
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Glad someone posted this.
/r/askTRP06/04/20 12:54 PM
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Just taking steroids will not magically transform you into a ripped god, it heightens the ceiling of your performance/muscle growing potential. You Still have to train extremely hard and eat a diet conducive to your goals to get results with drug use. If this wasn’t sarcasm, I’m honestly surprised that people would think that any performance enhancing drug just works by itself to turn you into an athletic god.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 07:03 PM
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Oh but I’m not. By the way, waist circumference is not as reliable an indicator for Fatness for women as it is for men. But body fat percentage is a reliable indicator for both genders if you’re trying to make the deduction you’re claiming in your post. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2647766/ Blame what you want. Doesn’t change the simple truth that women are going to choose a fitter man over a fat one , regardless of if men are more apt to settling for fat chicks in comparison. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 06:11 PM
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Of course it doesn’t. Weightlifting or strength training in general on a caloric surplus entices your body to use those extra calories to build muscle rather than use it to store fat. Body composition along with overall level of body mass(weight) is significantly important in terms of assessing “fitness”. You can be “skinny fat”(normal weight/not eating at surplus but high body fat percentage because of sedentary lifestyle) which is equally unfit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 03:40 PM
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I would clarify that when I speak of obese men being more unattractive, I am not talking about large men who are fat and also carry a significant amount of muscle mass. There’s still hints of masculinity in that build that will carry some marginal level of attractiveness. I see a lot of guys describe themselves as having a “dad bod” but they look like absolute shit and have never lifted anything heavier than 10 lbs in their life. There is absolutely nothing physically attractive about a guy who …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 02:41 PM
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Oh trust me I wholeheartedly agree. If This post was specifically making the same point towards an Obese women’s attitude(which I think you hear about moreso than men), I’d make a rip at those salty triple-chinned landwhales all the same for the overall fact that both genders are equally significantly less unattractive in comparison to their healthy weight counterparts. Addendum to the moral of my story - EVERYONE needs to lift heavy and get off their asses, stop eating like assholes and quit th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 01:59 PM
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This is common knowledge. Women have higher essential(minimum for survival) body fat percentages than men too. For primitive survival, this makes complete sense. Women =shorter, physically weaker, child bearer who uses calorie storage to produce a baby then keeps them alive by breastfeeding. Stores more fat because she needs it during a famine in order to keep babies and herself alive. Men = taller, physically stronger, protector of said progeny he creates(at least until they are old enough to i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 12:37 PM
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If after several years of “mastering game”, you assess all women like this, this would lead me to believe your game does not attract higher value women (in terms of personality and developed character). If the immature and narcissistic validation obsessed women are all that you’re chasing after and getting, then of course the juice won’t be worth the squeeze. Who continuously enjoys a low effort game where the prizes are shitty?
/r/askTRP03/04/20 10:57 PM
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Yep. This is applicable in both platonic and Romantic relationships, for either gender tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 06:08 PM
2

A general ratio of 40P/20-30F/40-30C works for most, depending on your training needs you’ll probably want to go higher on carbs if you intend to keep the cardio up. Bare minimum 1 gram protein and 0.3 grams fat per lb of body weight, the rest you can fill with calories from carbs up to your caloric limit if you want.
/r/askTRP01/04/20 03:27 AM
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After you reach your goal, I’d suggest doing maintenance calories for a few weeks then ease into a Slightly increasing caloric surplus, with enough proteins and fats to support muscle mass repair. Cardio is great during a cut when you’re trying to lean out and not suffer such a heavy caloric deficit, but lifting heavy or doing challenging enough resistance training is the key to gaining muscle over body fat while in a surplus.
/r/askTRP01/04/20 03:09 AM
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Slipping in the gym due to schoolwork is a weak ass excuse. Start owning your shit and fix the things that are hampering the sexual attraction. Move out and get a job to support yourself . Get back to lifting or body weight exercises/not eating like shit. Cultivate a more productive lifestyle. If changing your very controllable circumstances seems too inconvenient, enjoy the eventual slip to dead bedroom. Gotta be honest here, you’re not sounding like much of a “prize”. And everyone seems to be …
/r/askTRP01/04/20 02:32 AM
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I think the answers/opinions shared on your question will be colored by other’s past experiences(or inexperience) with relationships. I’ve had Both great and not so great relationships; if I were single I would certainly miss the benefits of a good one because I’ve had one before and can appreciate it. It’s also important to KNOW that any relationship(platonic romantic or otherwise) does not define my happiness/worth/me as a person. I am the source of all that; relationships only have the abilit…
/r/askTRP28/03/20 03:37 PM
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Id call her a dumb ass for agreeing to let a loser nut unprotected in her when she knows damn well she’s equally being reckless. She’s just as responsible for vetting the dicks that are granted access to her vagina. You are aware of the social stigma that comes along with being a single mom, especially if she’s got multiple baby daddies? And no, I am an equal opportunity cold hearted bitch towards stupid people who make bad decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 02:40 PM
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Irrelevant. As a grown ass adult you can choose to ignore people, divorce spouses, hell ghost them as well. Spoiler alert - You can also choose who you bust a nut into. Decide to nut unprotected in a crazy ass bitch? Play stupid games, you win stupid prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 01:56 PM
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Due to nature, not everyone in life is going to be “fair” between the genders in terms of biological events. Men have lack of control over a pregnancy In exchange for lack of actual enforceable burden of the pregnancy itself. You don’t technically have to do SHIT while the girl is pregnant , only when/if your proven biological child is born. After the child is born, it becomes a whole other world of implications, where still, both the woman and man are ultimately held responsible for the results…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 01:59 PM
1

Yep, Apparently I can’t read and thought there was an “un” before the Circumcision word In that article.
/r/askTRP24/03/20 12:22 AM
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Obviously, just pointing out how vulnerability to infection isn’t solely based on frequency. Edited to remove incorrect opinion.
/r/askTRP23/03/20 04:14 PM
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You see it for what it is. In terms of the sexual marketplace, it’s not fair for guys. And that reality can be very frustrating and demoralizing, especially when you’ve been taught the opposite of how love and relationships and female nature works. Vent, get the anger out in constructive ways, but don’t languish in it. Learn to accept reality for what it is and focus on using what you have control over(yourself) to accomplish what makes you happy.
/r/askTRP23/03/20 04:09 PM
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it actually comes down to anatomy; a woman’s vagina is a rather large mucous membrane and potential point of entry for bacteria/viruses. Men don’t have that big ol’ gaping hole to worry about.
/r/askTRP23/03/20 04:03 PM
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No, she shouldn’t unless he’s got an addiction that negatively affects the relationship and/or he is choosing Porn over her, or expecting her to emulate what he sees in porn and she is not game. But they both should be concerned about a dead bedroom. No one likes the feeling of being sexually rejected. No one wants to feel trapped with a spouse whom they’ve lost attraction for. in order to keep the passion alive, they both have to keep feeding into the relationship. That means yes, the “work” yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 01:55 PM
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I think the “I like things the way they are” and the “why” is the best answer to give her; it’s direct and honest. I wouldn’t do much look for ways to skirt around the issue if it keeps popping up. If it’s only been since February, she probably isn’t going to poke at the issue again until a bit later, but i feel that dodging it when it does come back up will backfire and make her bring it up even more. When it does come up, tell her that you will let her know if/when you offer anything aside fro…
/r/askTRP23/03/20 01:24 PM
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Men are competitive and territorial, which is why they tend to get more jealous and overall negatively react to competition anxiety. I’be always been fine with my main partner having a soft harem, but he struggles with jealousy every time I or his significant others date someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 05:04 PM
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I’m a huge fan of acting like a professional robot at work. You do not call out or respond directly at all to a coworker having an emotional outburst. Silently walk away and refuse to engage further with the employee. Then go make a statement about what happened (only talking about facts, leave your feelings/assumptions/etc out of the statement) to HR Just to get documentation on it, even if nothing becomes of it. Proceed to Refrain from engaging with that person about anything outside of necess…
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:29 PM
1

this x 1 bazillion
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 11:31 PM
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I think the “injustice” being brought up/seen is based on the common trope of a 250+ lb, uneducated, underemployed, bipolar, post-wall single mother living in a trailer park demanding her prospective partners to be nothing less than six figure making, tall dark handsome underwear models. While conversely a fairly attractive , college educated, mentally stable, middle class earning guy who may not be 6 ft tall or have a raging shredded 6 pack or 6 figure salary can only hope to bag himself “damag…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 11:16 PM
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I agree with this phrase. I keep harping on this, but sex should never be used as a “bargaining tool” for a relationship, and I think that’s the common reason why women withhold it. “If I make him wait, he’ll give me a relationship” mentality which is very flawed. By all means, if she always takes her time in getting to know the guy before getting intimate, then that’s completely fine. It’s on the guy to decide whether he’s cool with waiting on her or not. Man or woman, I think you should Have s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 10:31 PM
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Let’s say her story is true. Even if it is, There’s a ton of red flags here about her reaction. 🚩you mentioned her having history of sexual abuse;has she been to therapy about this? If not, she’s probably damaged goods(emotionally). 🚩your post indicates she has been in this kind of situation before. Is she getting inebriated/high and not sticking around safe friends? Why does she put herself in a vulnerable position? 🚩with all of the above, her response of not telling anyone is a huge problem. E…
/r/askTRP16/03/20 12:30 AM
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With the dumbbells: Turkish getups, swings, windmills, cleans, snatches, man makers or renegade rows, lunges, squat jumps, knee to squat jumps, any shoulder exercises No weights: Wall walks, planks, handstand push-ups, push-ups, crunches, tuck jumps, high knees in place, burpees, continuously walking/sprinting up and down stairs, jump rope. But for real, I’m not gonna stop going to my gym until they shut it down. Don’t know about y’all but I refuse to live in a fucking bubble over a new goddamn …
/r/askTRP13/03/20 04:26 PM
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If she’s working 10 hrs a day I doubt that she’s got a lot of free time to coordinate a sidepiece. She’s most likely burnt out and doesn’t see sexual release as a stress reliever. Did she recently change any medication that has hormones in it?(like birth control?). Is she dealing with a recent life event causing her extra stress? Is she upset with you? Are you switching up the sex or doing vanilla missionary every time? And lastly, is your foreplay actually turning her on? A lot of men don’t kno…
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:57 PM
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Sounds like you don’t understand how to properly value other people for qualitative relationships.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:50 PM
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Well, that’s because the guy is mate guarding and knows what you’re most likely trying to do, and/or how she is incapable of enforcing boundaries.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:41 PM
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I can agree with that. Usually selective single Women are in “gatekeeper” mode. Be it from past experiences or from society’s teaching, they might learn that they have to Rambo Reject you if they’re not interested and be super protective of themselves. In a lot of cases, Attached women can let those guards down and simply believe there’s no harm in socializing with/ befriending people of the opposite gender. I’ve heard a common gripe amongst attached women where an initially friendly guy turns i…
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:38 PM
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Yep. I think that, while we can override these urges by choice and restraint, for the most part we are naturally inclined towards nonmonogamy. Sure, monogamy/monoamory/exclusive pair bonding is good for periods of our life when we are starting up and raising a family, but outside of that it really doesn’t make sense to remain or enforce exclusivity for either side. the only thing that enforces exclusivity are our jealousy/insecurities and propensity towards competition anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 01:05 PM
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She’s a plate.......The fact that you made a post about it is already way too much investment on the matter. Ignore her since she incites drama, and exemplify that her ex is a non-issue by not acknowledging his existence.
/r/askTRP10/03/20 06:46 PM
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IMO I think they know that chances of meeting irl is slim to none. but when you get the girl noticing you and liking the message back, or giving you a low effort “thanks hun” response, it’s 1000 times better than the risk of trying to approach/compliment a girl in real life. You get an instant little hit of dopamine for winning a bit of “approval” from that gurl you admire, with very little risk. Like a game, or a coping mechanism to the bleak alternative. Even if they block you it’s not the sam…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 03:47 PM
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-didn’t really pay attention to it because never looked specifically for long term or becoming a parent at this stage, so didn’t matter. The 2 guys i dated in my twenties (including my husband) was met with a “let’s see what happens” expectation. -good idea! Ill see how my sexuality(level of need, etc) impacts the future. -I’ve never put much stock in classically handsome, model-like men; nice to passively look at, sure. Looks fade over time, IMO men’s “beauty” is a pretty useless factor in term…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:03 PM
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get salty about not having been born a woman then. 🤷🏽‍♀️. Wahhhh, I wasn’t born Caucasian and from an upper middle class family . Do I get to fucking bitch about about that blonde Karen or Stacy being more privileged than I am now, and blame becoming a ratchet-ass single mom with 3 different baby daddies with no education or decent job on them? I mean, with your mentality I guess I could?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 01:10 PM
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Personally I’ve noticed that as I get older my perception on what I find attractive in men significantly shift. 20’s - young, strong, risk taking, dominant. Not particularly looking to settle down at this stage. 30’s - strong, masculine, dominant, matching emotional/intellectual and high sexual compatibility. Generally Looking to have a life partner and adverse to NSA sex arrangements. 40’s - I’ll probably be that lecherous cougar vying for a soft harem filled with 20 year olds 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 01:02 PM
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You’ve gotten my point essentially. But it’s not blue pill to be aware and accept that as a woman I do have an advantage as far as garnering attraction for casual sex in comparison to men. I accept it because that is how nature is designed. Men need to stop hating on the design. They must accept that they HAVE TO compete to get a female mate, and female’s nature is to decide who’s the best mate to copulate with. Men also forget that they also have a sexual advantage - we statistically produce 3 …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 12:44 PM
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1-What exactly is the girl doing? 2-is she in your frame? 3-during this time having met her, have you been maintaining abundance(both with general life and with potential sidepieces )? If 2 and/or 3 are a “NO”, I’d advise to for now, don’t feed her attention for her antics and let it roll off your back, and act like normal. Don’t even worry about revenge tactics or trying to “teach her a lesson” because it will fail. Then correct #2 and #3 immediately. Once you fix those, you might even see that…
/r/askTRP09/03/20 11:18 PM
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That’s the perfect way to look at it and a healthy mindset to have in general. when I was dating around, flaking and getting stood up made up for 60% of my confirmed dates. On to the next one cause no one has time to wallow about hitting a dead end. Consider it time/emotion/resources saved in the long run and opportunity to focus those efforts elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 10:32 PM
1

I mean, from a sales perspective it makes sense, to “follow up on dead/dried up leads for renewals/closes”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 09:04 PM
5

Zombie is when someone comes back out of the blue, usually several months after ghosting you. It usually means their prospects dried up so they’re running down their list to see what they can drum up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 08:41 PM
2

I define ghosting as having already met in person and intimately touching each other or having dated several times without any indication of stopping; anything beforehand there’s no expectations IMO. I’m a fan of discussing intentions up front to try to prevent it, but I’ve been ghosted then zombied on more than a few times. I’ve “ghosted” someone after a bad lay (zero sexual compatibility) and by his apologetic behavior, he knew I probably wasn’t coming back for seconds.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 08:21 PM
2

Man, I’ve counted a good 3-4 edits In your responses to me under 10 minutes. You mentioned I would not feel this way if the world was FAIR(now removed). But There there, I’ll leave your triggered ass alone, boo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:58 PM
0

Yep, my husband is one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:45 PM
7

Haha read the whole response next time. And yeah poor you for being a disadvantaged man? Want a violin?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:41 PM
9

You say this to a woman of color who’s grown up in the south, having lived in spurts of poverty growing up raised by a single father who got divorce raped by a very manipulative gold digger aka my mother. LOL at your assumption that I’m some privileged little blissfully ignorant princess and your ill conceived notion that things should be “fair”. Trust me, I’m very aware of how the system and our culture benefits me and also does not benefit me for my gender and ethnicity, two things I absolutel…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:37 PM
12

Who said Mother Nature or life in general was or should be “fair”? That is blue pill logic. And yes, salty angry chumps should work on doing what needs to be done for acquiring their harem goals instead of getting mad at the other players of the game. It is not women’s or other men’s responsibility to empathize or “make shit inclusive” for the losers of said game. Females are designed to be gate holders of sex and choose who to mate with for optimal selection of genes to pass onto their progeny …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 05:12 PM
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No, there is quite a portion of men who align with RP believing that women’s hypergamy is the devil and at the same time pushing for one sided “open” arrangements ie polygyny or defending cheating . They are never OK with women’s hypergamy being existent in the first place, even though it technically is simply an amoral sexual strategy. It’s an RP truth just like men wanting to fulfill narcissistic fantasies of owning a soft harem exclusive to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 03:21 PM
4

I can do either, if there’s allowance to have committed , deep relationships with my small harem partners. If not(they’re only casual sex partners) then I’m happy with just one partner in a serious relationship. Im ok with quantity so long as quality is prioritized. I’m a polyamorous woman for context.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 02:38 AM
1

All it means is that sex is on the table, should you convince her to have fun with you. Facilitate a great vibe, get her to feel secure enough to enjoy herself with you and escalate at a speed and level that she positively responds to. And hey, if it doesn’t happen that night; no worries. you’re laying in the groundwork to unlocking her for next time.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 01:56 AM
3

Great explanation about what frame fundamentally is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 12:51 PM
2

Yeeeeesssssssssss. This is it. Right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 07:07 PM
3

Yes, definitely don’t fuck any of them. Or at least wait until you’ve put in your 2 weeks notice or about to be promoted/moved to a new dept.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 05:16 PM
2

I just don’t know if believe that these milestone-centric strategies are really natural for us. When you’re in your 30’s, I feel like mentally, emotionally and lifestage wise, both sexes are getting to their prime for casual sex or going back to a bachelor/ette lifestyle. Not for looking at settling down “forever” with one person and starting a young family. I almost feel as if we were more meant to spit out our progeny in our early 20’s, when you are in your physical prime to attract the best m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 05:44 AM
2

Just saying, claiming to girls that you have no STD’s is a grey area simply cause you don’t show any symptoms; that’s the main reason why they get passed around so frequently. And also, Not for you make a decision on which STD’s your sex partners should be worried about, stigma based or not. Some people still want to know whether you have herpes because they don’t want to catch it/want to make that decision for themselves.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:05 PM
1

Remember that standard STD panels don’t test for everything. You probably have every strain of HPV and herpes under your belt , both notoriously asymptomatic to most of the hosts they infect.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 01:00 PM
7

Exactly.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:24 AM
10

Sounds like he never had a strong frame to begin with regarding her. He moreso worked in her frame and willingly got used hoping that she would love him the way he does her.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:22 AM
2

It is idiotic for you to assume “mutual respect”, loyalty, things that are expected in a committed relationship with a fuck buddy situation. Sounds like you’ll want to avoid casual sex with that attitude. If you want a respectful girl who is exclusive to you, you should not be spinning plates or fucking around with FWB’s and instead looking for someone of relationship material. OP is not talking about a potential GF, but of a “friend” he’s fucking casually.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:54 PM
3

Aside from the advice around looksmaxxing, another thing to keep in mind: know your target market. If you are trying to attract women of a certain set of values or a caliber, you need to try to figure out what attracts them and if you offer it. I’m talking about factors beyond looks (personality, hobbies/interests, financial stability, overall lifestyle). While “leagues” are a myth to a certain degree, like still attracts like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 01:52 PM
3

No. The jacket is lost forever. Move the fuck on.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 03:36 AM
8

“The one” is a myth. “Your turn”(be it a few fleeting weeks or spanning many decades) is very much the reality. Why would you assume there is no value in experiencing a relationship for what it is? Just because something isn’t perfect or permanent doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. Humans are neither perfect nor permanent, we are ever changing, constantly growing. You make childhood friends, grow apart due life in general; does that mean you should have never made friends in the first place because…
/r/askTRP02/03/20 03:17 AM
2

I think it’s hard to really gauge what would have been appropriate given we don’t have a good enough context of what happened in that situation. I don’t think it’s wrong to challenge someone when they’re attempting to neg / attack your GF, especially if she gives you a cue to step in and help. Just make sure you’re not reading too much into the interactions your GF has with her friends/co-workers. Also, she is a big girl and is responsible for standing up for herself. If she can’t, her doormat b…
/r/askTRP02/03/20 03:00 AM
2

Ah yes, cope by also being hypergamous manipulative. But claim in the same breath that men are still principled at their core because gender. Hey, going after those hot 19 year olds when you’re 40+, fat and balding instead of settling for your age and looksmatch? Totally not hypergamous. “Strategize” by using DEER or forcing LTR’s to accept your “naturally non-monogamous” nature, or the ever popular Deny everything defense when caught in a lie? Totes not manipulative. And again for the record, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 04:08 PM
1

What are you disagreeing with? I said that, in the red pill community, the advice given to seekers (mostly comprised of men) is self serving, not egalitarian or based on principles that enforce the fairness of both genders. So what OP is arguing is false, both men and women are motivated by self interests because it is within our human nature to do so. For the record, i agree with most RP edicts, but OP is talking nonsense if he believes that the entire male sex is by nature selfless while all f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 01:29 AM
17

Sounds just like what a SJW feminist would say given the gender swap.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 09:24 PM
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What you’re describing is the human condition. Gender is not the distinction for this type of behavior. We are selfish and opportunistic, selfless and principled at times, because we are human beings. Go to any red pill community, which is mostly comprised of men, and any advice post, do you think they’re giving advice about dating/sexual strategy/relationships that is egalitarian and fair to both sexes? Hell no! They are talking about doing things and acting in a way that serves their personal …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 06:07 PM
0

It usually doesn’t. For some reason FDS and women of that mindset(aka gold digging chicken heads) unwittingly reinforce that sex and dating is a zero sum transactional game and that access to their body comes with a price tag by selling it for lavish dates and meals. They think they will somehow “convince” a man to be in a relationship if they pay for the money spent on them with sex. They don’t realize that organic, healthy relationships aren’t obtained this way, nor can you measure someone’s i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 01:02 PM
1

There are plenty of women out there that would be cool with paying for their half though. Just set the expectation up front, doesn’t have to be awkward or anything. A lot of decent, date able women have a job and are financially responsible and can pay for their own meals/drinks. If you are trying to date a girl who reacts negatively to paying her own way, it is probably a good thing that you don’t date her, since you don’t want that kind of dynamic? No one is entitled to your time, money, resou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 02:22 PM
3

I don’t think that women withhold sex to alleviate any guilt of their past sexual behavior. It is usually used as a somewhat successful strategy to weed out men who are only looking to smash and dash, whereas they are trying to find a guy who also wants to be in a relationship with her. Unfortunately the strategy is flawed and insufficient on its own for this purpose; men who only want casual from the start aren’t gonna suddenly change their minds if women make them wait for an arbitrary number …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 01:45 PM
3

So you didn’t see The results yourself? So you’ll never know if he was actually telling the truth. Trust but always verify. But othwrwise, it’s your relationship. It sounds like you’ve made your decision on how to handle it, I hope it was just a false alarm somehow and that he did not lie to you. But know that his actions sound somewhat suspicious. And let’s be real here. You don’t know a person’s character and propensity to lie / cheat / behave poorly well enough at less than 2 years. I hope yo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 10:34 AM
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I’m amazed at how tightly you’re grasping at straws of self doubt should the evidence show he gave you the STI. Is your self respect that deeply rooted in this man you’ve been with for not even more than 2 years?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 01:36 AM
1

I don’t think it’s normal to constantly struggle for power in a long term relationship? Usually two people find a working dynamic within a relationship, ideally they “fit” in each other’s lives and have already established boundaries and generally know (or are capable of learning)how to negotiate(in a healthy way) with each other on needs within that relationship. Are you talking about a power play as in she’s constantly shit testing you and disrespecting you. Or is she losing confidence in you …
/r/askTRP23/02/20 08:07 PM
5

Grown or buzzed looks 👍🏽 to me, I didn’t think your hairline looked bad at all. Like others suggested, leave a short length instead offull on clean shaven. And run some windex on that mirror, you filthy animal
/r/askTRP22/02/20 05:49 PM
3

You’re getting true RP and incel-infected trolled RP confused. RP simply talks about the unpopular but fairly accurate intersexual dynamics of our species and offers amoral sexual strategies to be successful in navigating around both men and women’s innate behaviors. People who use these strategies either do so with or without morals, and their results are reflective of that. The guys you describe and see in the community are not what I’d consider red pill because if they were and read the sideb…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 01:39 PM
2

I do t think the moving in is such a problem as much as OP fears he will lose his autonomy if he enmeshed his “home” with the stbex gf. But what OP doesn’t seem to see is that he is already enmeshed ‘-she cooks for him, they split bills, and have been committed to each other for 4 years. Op should do what he wants, which is hold his ground /boundary of not sharing homes. Let her go so she can find someone on the same page, hopefully OP can as well. But He must also be aware that living together …
/r/askTRP21/02/20 05:08 AM
2

Why would complimenting her when it’s due be a loss of power on your part? In an LTR, your interaction with your partner should feel and BE natural. Your male energy is dominant and her feminine energy is submissive, but not inferior because there’s value in both. It’s not a power struggle. It’s making a team that works together and has love and respect for one another. If you think taking a girls virginity and you both fucking for long enough is how to vet someone for relationship material, you…
/r/askTRP20/02/20 12:57 AM
1

It could be that she doesn’t trust herself to let go with you because she isn’t trying to get emotionally attached. Oxytocin is a crazy drug. Since she is a plate, I would not broach the issue if I were you. The arrangement is just sex so as long as the plate doesn’t break, you just do you and enjoy it for what it is.
/r/askTRP20/02/20 12:49 AM
1

I think any type of serious infidelity made in a relationship can be forgiven so long as the action is not a symptom of an offending partner’s dysfunction(poor coping skills, addiction, mental health issues, etc) and the partner is able and willing to correct the behavior that lead to it. But if it is part of who they are and they are unable or unwilling to change, then it is up to you to decide to stay/leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 04:18 PM
1

I think both “natures” are viewed in the worst light possible here. It does make sense that women be opportunistic with acquiring the best choice mate available to her to pair bond or reproduce with; if there are men who get upset about this nature and the fact that they are not “the best choice”, then they need to take it upon themselves to improve their SMV/RMV to go after high value women, not tight-fistedly hold onto their anger phase and blame all women for not being attracted to his low va…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 04:04 PM
1

Sleep and recovery. Probably the one most important thing I still struggle with getting enough of in my 7 years of heavy lifting. the diet has and will always be key . Get off machines and have a strong foundation of compound lifts with free weights/barbell and overall majority of bi/multi-lateral exercises in your workout routine.
/r/askTRP19/02/20 04:37 AM
6

Yeah, if you’re at a point where you no longer enjoy what you’re doing, take a break from the plates, go into monk mode and re-focus on bettering yourself. Casual sex is fun, sure, but connecting with good people makes the interaction so much better. Continue developing hobbies and interests, travel and accrue meaningful experiences. Expand your social circle to include high value people(which will help you access higher value women), attend professional social day events/mixers/conferences avai…
/r/askTRP19/02/20 04:20 AM
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Subtle isn’t enough a lot of the times. How exactly are you responding to the pet names, constant texting, etc? Are you engaging/responding to them? If you only want casual, you’ve got to: -stop responding to her constant texts. Only text for logistics. -avoid taking her on dates or hanging out with her in a social setting; only meetup to fuck. -any other activities that a boyfriend or even a friend would do for her, you avoid doing. Never set the precedent that she can depend on you to rescue/a…
/r/askTRP18/02/20 06:10 PM
3

The majority of porn out there narrates that a woman will explode with endless orgasms if you pulverize her fake breasts around your penis, 30 seconds of cervix jackhammering , make her choke and gag on your dick, and 10 seconds of raking your rough, dry fingers over her clit in a valiant effort to start a forest fire and then mindlessly stabbing them into her vagina. It doesn’t work that way, fellas. Guys who actually have sex and know how to please their female partners probably understand how…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:39 AM
4

Looks like you have a history of going Rambo when you perceive someone might be giving you a shit test; I suspect that your “teasing” might’ve led her to believe you were actually going to deny her an orgasm. Also from your post history 4 months ago you weren’t together....now she’s back and sending you engagement ring pictures? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/askTRP17/02/20 04:58 AM
1

Neither do I; that’s why I say it’s more effective to change the man’s behavior, not continue to add restrictions on the woman when she already has to play gatekeeper in the first place. Men suggesting that men change their behavior is an unpopular notion, so I can see why you’d continually make this a problem for women to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 03:38 PM
8

Rational - not at all. They are driven by their “feels” more than women (ego/pride,jealousy/insecurity,disillusioned romanticism). We’ve taught men not to cry as an emotional response or show vulnerability to sharing feelings. They still act cray cray in various forms when the feels hit them though. Socially avoidant? See the Rationale argument. Being a sexual person hardly translates to knowing how to be sexually pleasing for your partner. There is a dire lack of experienced men knowing how to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 07:57 PM
6

Here’s the problem to the anecdote of attempting to sexually restrict women. Men will no longer get the casual sex they seek. Majority of Young men are not exactly trying to be in a relationship with every sexual partner. When it comes to sex in our society, Women are usually have to play gatekeeper, because every Tom Dick and Harry is offering free dick to anything with a hole, driving value of men’s sex down. The more effective approach to the issue you’ve noted would be to get men to stop dev…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 07:04 PM
-1

Switch the genders and #2 with either 1 or 3, the statement would be just as applicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 06:55 PM
3

This is my interpretation of it. I personally have issues with the “amoral” attitude that is promoted in developing strategies of getting what you want; I’d like to believe that for the most part, you can achieve what you’re wanting while still being A “good human being” to others. What really draws me to the RP is empowering push towards self improvement and debunking the whole “True love will conquer anything/ I should live as a cuck doormat for other people“ mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 12:30 AM
3

Usually the posture is erect and shoulders generally stay properly stacked, not slumping. When someone is walking, the way the feet land and how evenly the power is distributed between the hips. The little muscles that control these aspects of motion get stronger along with the majors so I notice these things that an unfit person may not exhibit when moving normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 02:34 PM
0

Yeah, I can detect a fellow lifter just by their posture and gait, even in loose fitting clothes. Mmmmhhhmmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 01:33 AM
3

Lol, this guy. He’s been on a tirade in asktrp with posts about this girl for a straight month. OP needs to get out of this and ANY LTR and work in his insecurities and self sabotaging behavior.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 07:16 PM
1

This. People tend to forget that TRP is also about accountability for your own actions.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 07:12 PM
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I think that if a woman is “turned off” after discovering you have money, it’s likely because she’s intimidated. I was in a somewhat similar situation l, where I went on a few dates with a wealthy guy, we were intimate once, and i ended things shortly after, wished him well, etc. Part of the reason Why was because of how insecure I felt seeing someone who was so far out of my income class. Sounds irrational, but It made me feel like a failure as someone who was just middle class and still grindi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 01:23 AM
4

Exactly this. With the mentality that you’re making these improvements for YOURSELF, not in hopes of getting another girl. Increased female attraction is a byproduct of improving ourself.
/r/askTRP09/02/20 05:42 PM
1

I’m glad someone else is perturbed by the viagra dependency. Nah my friend, it is NOT NORMAL to have to take erectile dysfunction medication to counteract the effects your amphetamine usage (abuse?) is causing. At 19. Sounds like the sex life is least of his worries.
/r/askTRP09/02/20 12:38 AM
8

As a woman can confirm. But to caveat, I read similar things in asktrp all the time, “got this ltr who sucks and fucks and cooks and cleans whenever I want, showers me with affection is basically my little bitch slave. but my 9/10 bipolar meth-head ex came around so I told my LTR that we need a one-sided OLTR or I’m leaving. So I get back with my ex and oh noes! She still ducking crazy! “ Coming from dudes who are trying to find those unicorn good girls. Neither gender ever really does what they…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 05:45 PM
1

I know a lot of ambitious, successful(career wise ) women who have coupled up with a chill guy who makes less than them career wise. The point of attraction was the emotional , or physical or intellectual chemistry instead of the man being able to financially provide. I suspect that the changing tide from education levels and percentage of workforce being higher for women versus men will make that stereotypical desire for a career/high earning guy to decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 05:21 PM
1

Get yourself tested; most people who have chlamydia are asymptomatic . People who do get symptoms usually were infected 1-3 weeks beforehand. And going raw with multiple plates without regular std testing is retarded on your part.
/r/askTRP04/02/20 12:54 AM
2

As a woman I simply don’t understand forcing yourself to withhold for 3 months. Unless you are really bad at vetting someone for a relationship and you need a full 3 months to do so, assuming your goal is finding a boyfriend and not getting used for casual sex. If I was trying to vet for LTR material before sex and I didn’t see that possibility in him after a few dates, I’d probably just move on. What a waste of time for both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 02:18 AM
2

Welp, here’s a German psych study essentially backing that psychology today shit up: https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.00544/full
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 12:23 AM
5

You should learn how to support your opinions appropriately; it’ll make you more convincing when sharing opinions and attempting to convince others that there is actual weight to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 12:19 AM
1

Proof of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 12:15 AM
9

Nah, men tend to overestimate their level of attraction; women don’t. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/201507/when-men-arent-good-looking-they-think
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 12:12 AM
2

The problem with this concept will always be that the NON CUSTODIAL parent doesn’t seem to ever understand that the kids are expensive to HOUSE, INSURE, FEED, and provide for; the bulk of these costs will always burden the custodial parent more than what child support mandates for the other parent. I would say end child support when there’s a requirement that each parent has 50/50 custody and the financial obligations that go with that. Leave it all on the biologically responsible parents to pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 05:54 PM
1

Not sure that my “priority list” changes given the situation. I need to be physically attracted to the person in either situation. His maturity level, financial independence, overall level of stability and having his shitntogether are all traits that affect my desire to invest any kind of time with a guy. Our respective intentions in the relationship/arrangement is what will dictate whether what we have is something that can go from casual to committed, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 09:01 PM
1

I’d say neither gender should give second chances unless it’s a special circumstance; TRP advises for men to equally avoid taking back exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 08:53 PM
4

I think more-so nice but not to the point of being a doormat . But yeah, being in bitch mode 24/7 is off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 08:50 PM
1

Yep, balance is everything
/r/askTRP01/02/20 08:32 PM
2

Caveat to say that for an LTR, there’s some give and get, you can’t go galavanting like a self centered piece of shit who puts absolutely nothing into maintaining the relationship and being emotionally supportive partner. You could be this way with plates, but not if you want to keep high value partners for something more than that. Obviously in either situation you can’t ever be a doormat. But yeah, most incels up here are gonna be like “hurt durr having EQ = being a beta cuck “.
/r/askTRP01/02/20 08:15 PM
-1

True, There are equally as toxic women-run subreddits demonizing men and patriarchy alive and quite well on Reddit. But I think maybe the quarantined subs had an actual post or two or three from extremists/trolls that wanted to incite actual violence, and thus Reddit reacted to that. A few bad apples spoiled the bunch per say.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 06:24 PM
2

I suspect that the making out session might’ve been the deciding factor for why she didn’t want to go further with you. Next time, pay more attention to her nonverbal behavior towards you, before during after kino. kissing was the test and for some reason you failed it; she sounds like she was being nice by waiting for you before leaving, but not sexually interested.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 04:25 PM
2

I immediately thought the same. I’m notoriously bad at remembering to breathe through a heavy lift, and being in any position other than upright will make me dizzy during.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 04:06 PM
1

Hmm, I kind of disagree with the general consensus in this and would advise for you to just be more observant of her actions moreso than her words. It sounds like She could’ve been simply cracking a sarcastic joke with no intention of actually starting drama since she hasn’t done so for 4 months so far. Her historical actions should give you a better perspective of if she’s a drama instigator or not(if you and her are in the older crowd, women tend to be a little more mature and less dramatic th…
/r/askTRP31/01/20 03:55 PM
1

Women do this, especially when her fiancé is a chump lacking any control over the relationship and doesn’t give her “tingles”. But OP at one point probably did, so there ya go. This is simply her seeing if you are an available branch to swing back to (for sex or emotional support or ego boost). One of my long time guy friends had this happen more than once, not sure how he replied but he would refrain from engaging in convo and validating the chick’s ego any further. If I were just leave her on …
/r/askTRP31/01/20 03:49 PM
2

Nothing wrong with what your gut is telling you; you’re in the stage of your life where you might be doing the most exploration and self development you’ll ever do. Usually an LTR is not conducive or even recommended during this stage. If she’s hardcore monogamous, you can assume that offering an OLTR will end with a breakup, but judging from your post that doesn’t sound like a bad thing. I’d advise against attempting to keep her by demotion to a plate; start anew with fresh plates.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 01:52 AM
3

Yeah this. It’s universally unattractive to be lazy and I mean, you don’t do shit with your life day in and day out and don’t progress on any long term goals or missions cause you’re too lazy/unmotivated to do so. I suspect that’s the kind of lazy that got Op dumped.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 12:43 AM
2

Pretty much this. Some dudes focus way too much on emulating a IDGAF attitude that they end up breaking the plates themselves.
/r/askTRP30/01/20 12:02 AM
3

A high value LTR would already know to act accordingly. If you ever have to tell your LTR that they need to disassociate from people posing a direct threat to the relationship, that’s a red flag right there.
/r/askTRP29/01/20 06:56 PM
1

Pretty much this; it sounds like she’s doing a good job so far.
/r/askTRP29/01/20 06:50 PM
13

One of My high school teachers said it best when talking about having a failing asshole student, something to the effect of: “Not every student is going to model excellence or be a mind that I can mold/teach. That’s okay; I’m grateful they’re letting me know upfront to not waste my energy on them. Everyone’s got a place in society. Someone’s got to make my McDonald’s order. “
/r/askTRP29/01/20 06:45 PM
1

Just a thought to add- go get checked by a doc if you can to make sure you don’t have underlying medical issues. I worked with this guy who had Addison’s disease; he had a lot of stress which exacerbated his already chronic low appetite. In his worker states he’d look like a walking skeleton.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 07:52 PM
3

-acting like a little bitch. I’m a fairly direct, strong willed, and somewhat dominant woman. The minute I sense you can’t handle me like a man should, get intimidated by me, or have too much feminine energy about you, I dry up faster than a desert and lose any desire to copulate with you. -attempting to treat me like a low value pump and dump. Be it a casual or committed relationship, I usually look for someone reliable and recurring and disclose that up front. Usually it doesn’t take long to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:05 PM
3

You don’t. You want out, get out and leave the trash in the dumpster. Work on that lack of abundance and build a rotation with fresh plates. Even if she were to agree to just be a cum dumpster for you, You’re going to get your fee-fees hurt when you’re still fucking with her and realize she’s getting dicked down by other dudes now as your “single” and free ex.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 04:45 PM
4

Being a baby daddy on the hook for child support to a low value plate is probably undesirable too, I’d imagine. Be responsible for your own reproduction and sexual health.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 01:28 PM
6

You might’ve caught some other shit that doesn’t always present external symptoms (like high risk HPV, the non-wart, possibly cancerous type and HSV type 1,2 or both, in which only about 30% of infected actually get breakups.). If you live in the US, These two most common STI’s don’t even get tested on a STD panel; usually you have to specially request them.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 01:24 PM
1

Grandpa has a point though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:12 PM
1

Good point!
/r/askTRP27/01/20 05:52 AM
2

Yep; I think the entitled bratty young women(usually white and from the upper middle class burbs) is a common stereotype everyone’s familiar with. I’ve also encountered, irl, a lot of obnoxious, cringey “princes” who come from an upper middle class income family, were raised to have an over-inflated sense of self/ego, and don’t think twice about shitting on “commoners” and throwing their parents money in everyone’s face. No one really seems to bring this also very common stereotype up, and I hav…
/r/askTRP27/01/20 04:26 AM
-2

Age/fat/cat fishing is pretty pathetic. Starting off with lying will never work out well unless you plan to just pump and dump as many chicks that allow you into their snatch. Pay for the feature to hide your age if it’s truly the problem. Or, you know, try to meet women outside instead of relying on an app.
/r/askTRP25/01/20 05:23 AM
5

Your whole situation sounds.....wow.
/r/askTRP24/01/20 07:20 PM
2

Pretty much this.
/r/askTRP24/01/20 07:18 PM
2

Nah I don’t think you should do what she did and ghost other girls when this happens again. It sounds like her ego got hurt when you couldn’t drop everything at a drop of a dime for her, so she nexted you. Would you have really wanted to deal with a problematic plate like this anyway?
/r/askTRP24/01/20 07:11 PM
17

If she’s high value LTR material and she also views you as high value, she will chase you for commitment. There’s no real length of time to go by; most plates will remain plate or at best FWB material so it makes no sense to try to “monitor” who else they’re talking to. LTR material will make it known by her actions that she’s ready to commit to you by dropping other guys and giving other green flags. But you need to ensure that you are giving yourself enough time to properly vet the LTR. It’s n…
/r/askTRP23/01/20 01:08 PM
2

Nothing, and these kinds of arrangements are proven successful in our species. That’s why we statistically produce 3 females and 1 male for every 4 children. It doesn’t make sense to have 1 man / 1 woman pair in a permanent monogamous arrangement. Socially, it’s advantageous for several women to marry/bond with one successful, high value man who can provide them security and support his many resulting offspring.
/r/askTRP22/01/20 11:59 PM
2

I believe it does. Cross pollination helps spread the variety of superior genes around. But then you have to factor in the satisfaction/“fee-fees and fragile egos” of the population if polygamy was the default in our society. for high SMV people, they’d be the most satisfied group in this outcome. but obviously lower valued men will feel that they are on the losing end of a polyamorous relationship/polygamous marriage unless it’s one-sided(polygyny). I assume both high value polygamous men and w…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 02:23 PM
4

The reason why it rarely ever works, is because whatever was making the relationship dysfunctional (cheating, insecurity, trust issues, mental illness, shitty personality traits, etc) has unlikely been addressed or fixed. So you end up repeating those behaviors and crash and burn again. Sometimes time, self improvement and maturity will fix these behaviors, but if this breakup was recent, it’ll likely fail. But hey, sometimes we need to do it anyways and experience failure before we learn our le…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 02:01 PM
1

Monogamy is a relatively new concept for humans, only having been popular amongst our species for the last 10,000-12000 yrs or so, so Ive read. Once we started moving away from hunter gatherer and into agriculture and owning property, we needed monogamy and marriage to help pass on our property and wealth to legitimate children. Naturally, I think we can “pair bond” for a number of years, to raise up produced children to an appropriate age of survival, then the oxytocin wears off and we start wa…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 01:47 PM
1

Everyone needs mental breaks and a healthy work/life balance to work towards their mission and be happy about it. Look at your progress towards your mission in the big picture: are you on track to complete it in the timeframe you wanted to? Do you allow yourself enough time to have life experiences and maintain valuable relationships with others during this time? All this stuff is important too, along with your main mission. Don’t beat yourself up for needing a little downtime on a daily basis o…
/r/askTRP20/01/20 12:40 AM
2

This situation sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Get someone else to do the paperwork and then plate her. At this point with her already sending your nudes, you should disassociate any and all professional ties with this chick. How invested are you in getting this small business launched successfully?
/r/askTRP20/01/20 12:32 AM
3

Trump is.....interesting. He certainly has proponents of red pill mindset. he knows he is an alpha, it is not something he fakes or questions. He understands the game he must play in order to gain real power, and he plays it very well. He is smart and and excellent strategist, and when he decides to take on a mission or goal, he will make it happen; he doesn’t flake nor is he bogged down with indecision. If anything he is a perfect model of these aspects of RP; I personally admire these traits h…
/r/askTRP20/01/20 12:24 AM
1

Have fun! Make sure she’s having fun too.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 01:37 PM
2

Guys who say they want low n-count/virgins might understandably be looking to see if you generally make poor impulsive life decisions or have self respect issues. I know that I would think the same for a “fuckboi” especially if I was looking for a relationship; ironically guys don’t understand that putting your dick in every hole available to them can lower their RMV too. This is always a problem with how women understand sex and relationships. We make the mistake of seeing sex as a tool to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 08:43 PM
2

This is great advice
/r/askTRP13/01/20 11:44 PM
1

Skyn is pretty good. Trojan/magnum bareskin another good option.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 11:40 PM
3

Dread doesn’t really work on girls who’ve yet to build any real emotional investment in you. You should be gaming other women if you haven’t resumed to do so by now. She doesn’t really sound worth the chase. Do you want to keep wasting time/effort?
/r/askTRP13/01/20 11:38 PM
-2

Since it’s an LTR, I think you should sit down and talk to her about why she feels the need to go clubbing. Is it because her friends are doing it, and she wants to bond more with her friends over a shared activity? It is it more if a red flag reason, like she wants attention/validation and she knows she’ll get it from the ogling thirsty guys in the club? Once you uncover the real reason she’s pushing to do something she knows you’re not comfortable with, then you can proceed from there in HOW y…
/r/askTRP13/01/20 07:33 PM
10

You are as valuable now (moreso still because single moms are hit harder on the value scale) to high value women as a single mother is to a high value guy. Sorry but thems the brakes. Your RMV/SMV takes a hit after you’ve had a child. A lot of high value women and men who eventually want to start a family aren’t going to settle for damaged goods(single mom)/baby mama drama and reduced resources(child support paying single dad). There was this commercial a little while ago where this guy is stari…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 05:46 PM
1

You’re building the muscle mass; you are probably just high in body fat to start off with, which can get fixed when it’s time to cut or go on maintenance/recomp. Judge what you’re seeing in the workout performance and mirror. If it doesn’t look like you’re improving on either front for several weeks, consider dropping the calories to slow the weight gain but not the strength gains. Another thing to remember is the first year or more of dedicated lifting, you’re not going to look like a fitness m…
/r/askTRP13/01/20 05:21 PM
1

Treat her birthday as you would with any platonic friend. Happy bday text on the day of, and maybe show up to a friend group outing to celebrate that someone else setup for her. The only thing you should do aside from that is fuck her. Anything else beyond that(gifts,flowers,paying for her food) is going to send mixed signals so don’t do it. It’s silly for grown ass Adults to expect material bday gifts from platonic friends anyway.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 04:55 PM
1

Good job for protecting your sister. He is abusing her and you should at least talk to her about it to see if she needs help getting out of the situation. Unfortunately, a lot of women will stay with their abuser because they’ve been groomed enough to feel worthless and feel they somehow deserve the abuse. So don’t expect your sister to outright accept any help; she may have to “hit bottom”(usually he tries to kill her for the first or fifth time) before she leaves him. Otherwise, document insta…
/r/askTRP13/01/20 04:32 PM
1

Nothing wrong with being hopeful with this girl. But do not use the word “unicorn” until you actually have spent enough time really getting to know her. Avoid letting dopamine, oxytocin, and codependency/self confidence issues convince you to rush into commitment and ignore red flags. We all put on our best show during the start of a new relationship, and we all go blind to red flags during the honeymoon phase due to infatuation. Keep her around, enjoy each other and vet her objectively for LTR.…
/r/askTRP13/01/20 04:16 PM
1

I think the problem with shaming and restricting rights is that we will end up with a society that turns to violence, rape, and enforced religious edicts on the entire population. Human trafficking will get more popular or at worst legalized, because there will still be a demand for promiscuous sex (hate to say it but by mostly men). Uptick in Infants being killed or abandoned may also happen with women facing a heavier social stigma on being a single mother. Look at the social climate of extrem…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 01:52 AM
1

Obese mode with a fupa, ultra progressive feminist with blue armpit hair and a butch mullet(ie too masculine) who doesn’t shower regularly?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 01:31 AM
1

I haven’t really followed up on all the “changes” Roosh has made after the fall of ROK, but if these books are genuine in their description, I gotta actually commend him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 01:27 AM
0

Oof, you many want to deduct 3 more years from that figure. Times a changing real quick ☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 01:16 AM
2

That’s the spirit. I’m sure the idea of this post was for the age old trope that all girls in the dating world want ripped chad’s, etc. just for vanity reasons. In reality though, in terms of looks only, both men and women tend to settle to accept their looksmatch. Like your situation, my husband and I stay fit. as much as we enjoy each other’s aesthetics as a result, I’d probably say the biggest part of attraction comes from sharing a fit lifestyle(working out/doing races/bike rides/long hikes …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 01:08 AM
16

Yes, a thousand times yes. But a lot of guys who go to red pill for help don’t read or follow sidebar advice. So many things can be fixed by shutting up and lifting for example. But I bet you if we were able to see the lot of red pilled men, they’d be some fat ass Twinkie munching motherfuckers who’d making up excuses/play victim in order to avoid shutting up and lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:54 PM
2

1 - depends on what I’m working with as far as looks. If I’m considered near Chad looks status as a dude, add a little funny, cheeky, but charismatic asshole game . Keep a few as plates, but pump and dump the rest. I’d be aiming for just below my looksmatch. Have a few dates in social settings where I’m “harmlessly” flirting with the hottest girls in the room so that it stirs up competition anxiety. Be amazing and attentive in person but aloof in between or on text to keep the push and pull in c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:50 PM
2

You be selfish in that you make yourself, your goals, your mission, first priority, throughout your life, with or without friends/loved ones. Do selfless acts (gifts, acts of service, taking care of someone) because you want to, doesn’t come with strings attached, and it does not compromise your priorities. Example - you have a LTR, but got the job of your dreams halfway across the country. In order to reach your career goals, this job is the best bet. You should NOT give that up to stay with th…
/r/askTRP12/01/20 10:14 PM
6

I think you just answered the issue that prevents you from finding the kind of chick you need in a ltr. You’re attracted to damaged girls, for the excitement it brings you and your “bond” over that. Reprogramming yourself out of that pattern is going to help you start finding better quality women that are going to be more fulfilling to you. I heard it takes an average of 3-6 months to get over a breakup. When you’re ready to explore a relationship with a woman again, try to avoid going for the h…
/r/askTRP12/01/20 02:22 PM
2

Thank you very much for contributing. I think you have one of the most balanced viewpoints about what a man should do in this scenario and also what should be fixed in our society (controlling welfare incentives that tend to promote single motherhood). As much as it was voiced in this discussion about women ultimately have the power and therefore the responsibility, a lot of those voices don’t acknowledge their own responsibility over their body and where they “spread their seed “. Outside of ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 01:08 PM
1

You bring up some good points, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 12:46 PM
1

Pretty much this. Make a decision and see it through.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 05:46 PM
1

Good and I hope you succeed in self improvement and reaching your goals and moving on from the stage that you’re stuck on. There comes a time where you’ve read all you can from a resource and now need to execute/experiment with what knowledge you’ve obtained in real life to realize what works for you and what doesn’t. Doesn’t hurt to chime back in and share personal successes with implementing a RP technique.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 05:39 PM
2

You control as much as you can by: -making sure you are using protection. Also, Maybe look into male BC when it comes out in market. You can always ask the woman to do the same but you can’t really rely on that to be a sufficient safeguard. -don’t stick your dick in crazy, vet for sex partners who you can reasonably trust not to be insane and highly irrational/emotionally unstable. -only consider plates/LTRs/all sex partners who are on the same page with you about creating unwanted children(abor…
/r/askTRP10/01/20 05:28 PM
1

The face is not so important; I don’t care for pretty boys all that much actually. He needs to be my “fitness” match though. I stay very fit, have an athletic body and low body fat for my gender. I also like to present myself as well groomed, smelling nice, and “classy”. his body needs to be close to aesthetically on my level, and he needs to regularly bath/groom himself. Unfortunately that leaves me with mostly young, immature guys and your stereotypical chads as far as looks go.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 02:01 PM
1

You said you still have two years, right? Can you transfer your credits over to this university so that you graduate under them? That is what I did; 2 yrs of CC and then once I earned the AS I transferred to an out of state university to finish with a bachelors under their name. Saved me thousands and No one looked at or required any information from the community college.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 08:29 AM
1

“Free unchecked love” however is needed for the sexual nature of red pill strategy to work. How would shaming women for participating in promiscuity be a workable social construct with a red pill man’s imperative of “spinning” multiple plates and not looking towards marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:56 AM
2

This sounds like a terrible idea OP. Even if you decide to end things sexually with her and treat her as a work colleague only, you obviously can’t trust her to separate her emotions from her job in properly evaluating you for the work you do there. The only way this could work is if you keep fucking her and pander to her feelings, she doesn’t try to escalate to a relationship and you don’t try to rock the boat and upset her, and this work assignment is short term. All in all way too much effort…
/r/askTRP10/01/20 02:00 AM
67

OP, I read a bit of your post history and see that you come from a very traditional and conservative upbringing. This culture teaches men that in order to be good leaders in their household, they must also care for those they lead, be problem solvers, and be dependable for support. If you’re too exhausted to perform a duty for him, he should’ve tried to get to the root of the issue and work with you on resolving that so that you are not too exhausted to do something you’d normally have no issues…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 08:46 PM
1

Technically very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:06 PM
2

Thank you for lending your opinion on personal experience. That’s one thing I didn’t factor; we push to have the right for abortion , it’s remaining legal status would be a valid argument to rebalance welfare given to a single mother, which I imagine would make the ones purposely gaming the system reconsider.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:55 PM
3

Great points shared, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:49 PM
1

I updated my post - I’m just creating a specific situation setting since we know that abortion could come to play whenever a pregnancy occurs but what if that’s not an option all together?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:32 PM
2

I was looking for what the red pill would directly recommend as a course of action for the father/guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:30 PM
1

Only in a certain way. As I’ve understood it, Polygamy is a man OR woman having more than one spouse concurrently. Polygyny is the “harem” setup specifically, where a man has multiple women(“gyn”) as sexual/romantic partners, but they aren’t allowed to be involved with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:17 PM
2

I think most of what TRP sidebar is accurate . The problem is all too often men take that information and proceed to believe that women are horrible creatures for it. Yes, women are hypergamous(ability to provide and protect, status, looks). Men are too, just for different things(youth,beauty,motherhood/nurturing capabilities). That’s why you hear the all too common stories of creepy old men chasing young pubescent girls and why most red pillers tell you that women over 25 are “damaged goods”. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:56 PM
1

I think you’re worried too soon. You’ve only been with her 6 months. I read where you are looking to head towards marriage and kids; you really need to be focused on assessing her personality/demeanor/character(ie her overall RMV, not just her SMV) as well if you want to accurately vet this “LTR” for that goal. This chad sounds like he’s a hot mess; is that really comparable to you? You sound like the overall better prize, just need to actually convince yourself of that. If she’s of any high val…
/r/askTRP08/01/20 05:07 PM
1

Is this the first time she’s gotten a skin reaction from you? Wtf is that about? Edit to add: she needs to go get that checked out instead of blowing up at you for a skin reaction after having some fun before work. Don’t feed her tantrum but tell her to take care of that shit (go see a doc or something) if it’s causing her to react like a toddler at you when you do resume communication instead of acting like nothing happened. Only reason I say not to ignore the cause of the tantrum is because sh…
/r/askTRP08/01/20 01:35 PM
3

No one takes std panel tests every month; you’ll be hard pressed to find a doctor who will approve that kind of frequency and this be covered under medical insurance for a test every single month, unless you present actual symptoms of an std. Not baseless, just an educated assumption. You lie, you’ve proven that’s your character; your response to me doesn’t clear the air or correct my assumption. You dont take std panels every month. Don’t get butthurt for getting factually called out.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 01:33 PM
1

Yep, I doubt he’s taken a test period. And that is the problem right now with how rampant STDs are becoming with the rise of casual sex. hopefully OP is at least wearing a condom with his plates, unless he just DGAF.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 01:19 PM
1

Do a night of Board games? Start a weekly DND group. If you have a place like Autobahn near you, do some go-kart racung/axe throwing. If your mates are somewhat smart, go do an escape room together. Sign up for an obstacle course race as a team(when it gets warm).
/r/askTRP08/01/20 01:13 PM
1

Oof. Sounds like either Round 1 didn’t leave her wanton for any future rounds, or she might be feeling guilt for “acting like a slut/being used for sex” and wants assurance you’ll treat her better than just a hookup. Best to focus your effort on Filling your funnel up with other prospects; if she comes around, she comes around.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 07:18 PM
1

That’s how I read this study.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:03 PM
1

You didn’t set the logistics though, so she is trying to set it to make the date work. I swear, some of y’all need basic socialization skills before trying to date other adults.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 02:53 PM
1

Exactly. You should never have to mate guard or worry about cheating if she truly is LTR material.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 02:40 PM
1

Meh, it depends on their attitude/interests. Plenty of people all ages still go on simple, coffee/drinks/dessert dates. If she’s worried about being too long away from kid, this is actually a better option than trying to go for a longer dinner or movie date. If you are trying to do something out of the norm that isn’t costly, check out a museum, zoo or art gallery nearby, they are usually free if not low cost and usually more fun than Just sitting and eating in front of a stranger.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 02:30 PM
2

A FWB is a plate. So she’s already a plate. But if you are expecting that your plates are gonna be loyal/exclusive to you, you’re in for a bad time. Always assume girls that you are seeing in any casual capacity to be seeing other people aside from you, she probably assumes the same of you. If this was a LTR scenario, obviously expectations would be different, but it’s not.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 02:12 PM
1

I would suspect that her love language is “words of affirmation”, or she’s seeing red flags from you making her question if you actually mean it when you say you love her. If it’s her love language, then that’s the cause, simple as that. If not, I’d recommend Objectively Analyzing your own behavior and how it’s changed in the course of the relationship. If something has, that may be the source of the “test” she’s giving and she just needs assurance that the behavior change isn’t because of any r…
/r/askTRP07/01/20 02:03 PM
4

Eh, I don’t think you should try to intervene your roommate’s “game”. He’s an adult, we all learn from failure and hopefully he learns from his own mistakes. If you are not the texting kind, don’t start now and if your plate brings it up again, just tell her no; you’re not inclined to do it just because someone else is doing it. You control what level of effort/attention you give her, it’s on her to accept that or move on. Now, if you are truly looking to LTR your plate and her complaint is stem…
/r/askTRP07/01/20 01:57 PM
3

In my personal case, I grew up with a terrible mother who abused then abandoned me and my sister(moreso than me) at a young age. As adults, I think my sister, with extensive therapy, came out more well adjusted than I did when it came to forming friendships with others including women, though she still suffers from anxiety and bouts of depression. I however do not trust women because of my childhood experience, thus I’ve never had more than one or two fleeting friendships with another woman grow…
/r/askTRP06/01/20 02:06 AM
1

Sunscreen like your life depended on it. Retinol and hyaluronic acid moisturizers(found en masse on Amazon). Once/twice a year, go get an acid peel, it makes your skin generate collagen and new skin cells, helps fade old scars/dark spots too.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 06:57 PM
1

I’m very sorry for your loss. Like many others said, it’s perfectly human to feel and work through these feelings; you’ll get through the mourning and it certainly does not make you “weak” to feel the way you do about another human being. You hear several stories all the time about people losing close loved ones to suicide having never suspected they were suicidal. Some people are very good about hiding their pain and putting on a mask. It’s not your fault.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 03:48 AM
11

Which the boyfriend should have discussed with OP before committing to an exclusive relationship with her since he’s been having sex with this other girl for longer than their relationship. This guy cheated, point blank, regardless of if he wanted to be in an open one or not. There’s this erroneous assumption that cheating doesn’t exist in open relationships, which is false. An open relationship requires everyone involved to be wanting of the same relationship setup, aware and consensual of what…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 02:43 PM
1

I personally am like you, preferring only to text for logistics. And I don’t see reason to stray from that unless you personally desire becoming a “text-heavy” person. I usually would give the person a heads up that I focus on real connection building in person and am not a big texter just so they knew I wasn’t ignoring them. When in person after exchanging numbers, I’d suggest a ballpark schedule to look into getting together so that your communication surrounds getting that setup. but if the g…
/r/askTRP02/01/20 07:58 PM
3

Invite him into your social network and offer to wingman. Offer advice when asked. leading by example will probably offer the most effective learning opportunities for him. Honestly, he will need to resolve that self esteem issue surrounding sexual performance on his own; it’ll take some time but he’ll figure a way to get over the mental obstacle.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 03:23 PM
1

Dammit, femininity! My Autocorrect as apparently too progressive/politically left for my typing .
/r/askTRP31/12/19 03:46 PM
2

You sound like you still have a bit of scarcity mentality and insecurity/trust issues. The only way to recover is to address those problems and recalibrate your mindset. Time, maturity and learning to trust but verify will fix some of those. You’ve got some good things going on with your life outside the relationship, so keep focused on building your career after school, keep lifting, and build some abundance with garnering female attention to keep a lite and healthy level of dread in the relati…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 03:40 PM
5

Your fear about the situation and her ability to hurt you sounds accurate. General Strength means close to shit compared an advanced, trained fighter.
/r/askTRP31/12/19 03:15 PM
4

I suspect that this might just be OP’s case; why else would he be concerned?
/r/askTRP31/12/19 02:37 PM
2

There’s at least redpillwomen; they do a decent job in promoting the art of femininity , as well as general self improvement, good relationship/dating advice. Ironically of course, is they’re also inclined to avoid the majority of men who are following TRP looking just to pump and dump them.
/r/askTRP31/12/19 01:56 PM
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Very true, in fact I’d say neither gender is attracted to a partner who eschews regard for their own self respect / dignity. But being a doormat isn’t the same as acting ethically or treating your partner as a fellow human being, both of which can be practiced alongside instilling red pill edicts about self improvement. If you actually read what’s posted daily in FDS, most posts are actually just examples(albeit a few extreme ones) of how and why to avoid low value men, with a sprinkling every n…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 09:29 AM
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Oh apologies because I didn’t see you speak on TRP, only poorly of FDS. And frankly, I cringe more when perusing FDS than I do with TRP simply because I live by and exemplify morals and don’t agree with using manipulative or abusive tactics in dating/relationships. And I agree with a lot of the main theories discussed In the RP sidebar info about intersexual dynamics. Unfortunately the sub is riddled with incels and MGTOW exiles that ignore said sidebar and want a place to revel in their anger p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 07:17 PM
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I see the same of TRP; and I hear a lot of RPers argue “well redpill is AMORAL strategy so concern trolling over ethics/morals not allowed!” I’ve never seen someone from there rooting for egalitarianism. So you are in a way proving OP’s point; you don’t see how similar the subs are because you are too close to one of the sides and cannot/will not see beyond constructed echo chambers and the solipsistic shit party to realize what other rational, undamaged people observe when viewing both of these…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:55 PM
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I would think every woman has their own preferences in where they naturally lead, and where they need the man to lead in aspects of their relationship with one another. For myself as example. Husband and I have one young child together; I naturally lead in managing the household/keeping the ship functioning. My husband struggles with that kind redundant, detailed work and really shines in setting us up for tackling major life events, executing on the big tasks, also a great protector, very engag…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:24 PM
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Of course happy, successful relationships exist. The people harping about never experiencing one don’t usually know how to find the right person and function as part of a successful healthy relationship though. Low value men And women rarely ever have the necessary skill set to attract a higher value person to maintain a good relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:10 PM
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Good; from what you’ve described I would assume that the environment isn’t primed for her to be unfaithful. The only way to enforce boundaries without looking insecure is to do what you’ve warned her you would do, should she cheat. Drop her. And don’t take her back.
/r/askTRP28/12/19 07:13 AM
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I think you have to consider what you know about your LTR and her personality as far as whether she’s cheat on you or not. Maybe considering the following factors will either put you at ease, or clue you in on what will happen so that you can prepare yourself. -Does she have the tendency to be easily swayed to behave the same as this one girl? Aside from her codependency issues, is she currently actively seeking out attention/validation from other people/guys? -is she known to have poor coping s…
/r/askTRP27/12/19 07:37 PM
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-Camp trip/obstacle course race(maybe when warmer though) -go-kart racing/axe throwing -night of board games / movies -lifting session at the gym(maybe they’ll get into it if in a group setting and you’re showing Hergendon some basic exercises to do) -go see a comedy /improv show /local concert/strippers(?) -do an escape room together
/r/askTRP27/12/19 07:00 PM
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All that your friend can really control is what he’s putting into the relationship, and how he manages his own overall value. He makes boundaries on what he will and will not accept in the relationship and sticks to them, contributes to the health of it by being a good partner, and continues to improve himself and work on his goals. He maintains and heightens his value this way which naturally increases his abundance. He should also keep “orbiters” by showing off his charisma and confidence to o…
/r/askTRP27/12/19 05:36 PM
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Hmm, maybe that is a sexual hypergamous directive you’re experiencing? You’ve “secured and sampled” one partner, now you’ve got to see if you can get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 05:18 PM
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Female heterosexual here. Almost daily, usually when I think about my bf, because we have really good sexual chemistry between us. We see each other twice a week, and I do not masturbate or watch porn for context. I think you end up thinking about sex more when it is scarce and you perceive it to be valuable/pleasurable when you do get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 02:40 PM
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Does she do this a lot/has this behavior increased? What overall value does she bring in the relationship with you? If everything else is going great aside from this problem, bring it up to her and (respectfully but firmly) tell her that her getting sloppy ass drunk and acting like a fool in public is unacceptable. It’s her decision whether to fix that shit in order to keep you around. If there’s other issues/she doesn’t bring much value to the relationship, then you should look into better pros…
/r/askTRP27/12/19 01:58 PM
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Pretty much the only thing OP can do at this point. That, and if the girl seems open to hanging out again, try to specifically get her in a one on one situation, like a date.
/r/askTRP27/12/19 01:46 PM
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Good Advice already given but just Gotta give compliments where it’s due. Great job on actually executing on the improvement. You are doing what most fail to do. Keep doing what you’re doing; some insecurity about the loose skin as you continue to get leaner will happen and how you deal with that is up to you, but so long as you’re not slipping on the mission, don’t feel like you need to go into monk mode.
/r/askTRP26/12/19 07:46 PM
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Are you talking about recurring dating in the situation where relationships are being sought, or just casual dating for sex? In terms of attributing to success or failure, Classic physical attraction is weighed differently in these two different scenarios. That and if we are talking about failure after having sex with someone/having dated for a while, it can be assumed that physical attraction wasn’t a factor in the failing of the recurring connection and instead alludes to behavior, sexual/inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 10:37 AM
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In all honesty, we can control our level of fitness, and that helps with being “hot”. Being physically fit versus looking like an uneven sack of bloated shit, and keeping yourself groomed and bathing regularly versus living like a homeless dude changes your attractiveness level significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:29 PM
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Man y’all are fast with throwing out labels. My bf and I didn’t solidify our status until after month 4 of dating. Aside from checking in every now and again on how we felt about us continuously seeing each other, we just enjoyed each other’s company and took time to vet and get to know each other. The title is just a title at the end of the day and I feel like too many folks are focused on the title instead of the quality of the connection and overall chemistry with the person in front of you .
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:06 PM
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Personally I’m a fan of treating this on the same terms as you would with a friend; Take turns or go dutch. IMO, only pay for someone’s meal when you really feel like doing it and you don’t expect anything back from it. If the person has a problem with paying their own way, they should not be agreeing or should try to make plans with you that they can afford, plain and simple. In this day and age, paying a for the woman on a date all the time makes no sense, we are fairly equal as far as potenti…
/r/askTRP24/12/19 07:07 PM
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You say you’re negative because of your failures in being successful in things you’ve pursued. Why are not learning the cause of your failure and what you need to do to succeed? No one enjoys hearing negativity from people who talk about nothing but negative things and don’t think about solutions, change, improvement. If you’re not capable of changing focus upward to change/improvement instead of continuously circling around failure, you should just keep it yourself because it serves no purpose …
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:34 PM
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Yes, exactly. So many try to just skip all that and “go through the motions” of how to act like they are improved instead of making real changes with themselves and adopting the mindset. Inner game will always trump external game
/r/askTRP19/12/19 05:31 PM
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This comment is priceless. I feel that The end all goal for TRP isnt to be successful with women, but successfully become the man you want to be and am proud of being. That extends so far past attracting the fairer sex.
/r/askTRP19/12/19 05:22 PM
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But what if he no longer resembles himself and she wants to get laid, cause YOLO? 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 04:18 AM
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I guess specific preferences obviously come into play. Personally, for me, I identify that attribute of being athletic/fit as sexy in itself, hair , height, and face aesthetics not nearly as important or even a factor really. Then again, I’m the type to find bald, grumpy looking, silver bearded jacked guys hot as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:25 PM
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EXACTLY. And whenever I see a ripped grandpa in the gym, pretty sure he can get it with any woman in a 30 mile radius regardless of age. Lifting/keeping an active lifestyle is legitimately the fountain of youth, and fixes so many things in your life(health,aesthetics,functional strength, confidence, stress relief).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:06 PM
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Yeah; if I remember one of the major tenets of red pill, which I think should apply to both sexes really, is to shut up and lift, amongst other self improvement tactics geared to improve your fitness and overall attraction. But very few guys actually follow that tenet and instead are “baffled” at why they aren’t swimming in a sea of that barely legal pussy at age 40+,fat,balding,sloppy looking, since young, beautiful, fit teen girls are supposed to be flocking to them in droves for emotionless c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:49 PM
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I feel exactly the same; sex and commitment are separate factors in my opinion. I personally see sexual chemistry as a requirement before engaging in any kind of ongoing relationship, so The only wait time I have is when I’ve determined I’m comfortable enough, the level of mutual interest is high, and frankly I talk about sexual/bedroom preferences to suss our if we are going to have chemistry or not. I don’t believe there’s a true hard correlation between how early you have sex and how likely y…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:56 PM
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I believe the post stated that the anxious attachment style women reported higher N counts, and the avoidant was lower?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:39 PM
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If you go to any gaming or anime conventions, it sure is. Usually a symptom that tends to accompany socially recluse guys who are either unaware of their own hygiene state, or they don’t care to correct it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:09 AM
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Honestly I think you handled it best you can in the situation you’re in. You approached him(which is the absolute opposite of looking like a bitch) to clear the air, kept the exchange respectful, and I assume you haven’t been engaging in shit talking/mud slinging and going about your day and not let it derail you from doing what you’re doing. That’s what a mature man would do. He’s the one looking like a bitch, so good for you being the better man.
/r/askTRP08/12/19 01:44 PM
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Hmmm, I would say it’s generally difficult, especially when we have biological factors at play telling our lizard brain that the taller guy with broad shoulders who is bigger than us will be more apt in protecting me and our offspring, and therefore more attractive. I’m fairly petite, but don’t particularly find tall guys more attractive. Being 4’10” and 110 lbs, I do however need the guy to be at least my height and not physically weak. I’ve always been drawn to short guys, but they’ve never wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:51 PM
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Yep, I definitely can see that. I had a convo with a guy about the prevailing transformation of traditional gender roles, both toxic and amoral behaviors alike being swapped between men and women now. Interesting times, I’m very curious to see what this will all look like In the next decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 01:49 PM
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No denial that FDS certainly also has its issues. But acting as if being a “kept man” (when the asktrp poster acknowledged that it was really the girl’s father’s money he was pilfering) is cool and is viewed positively as an “manly” accomplishment is problematic. It hurts the long standing argument that women who are users and gold diggers (which is brought up a lot in MGTOW and red pill) are low value and should be avoided at all costs. You can’t really be taken seriously if you think it’s exce…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:47 AM
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Yes. All of this. I know OP isn’t trying to switch gyms, but this girl sounds like she is not going to leave him alone if she still sees him at the gym.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 04:31 AM
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If I had a son, I (and most importantly his father/my husband) wouldve hopefully raised him from childhood in a way that he could embrace his natural male traits, aspire to self improve and also promote confidence, dignity and self worth. thus hopefully this whole situation is avoided come adulthood. But really, boys need that male role model in their lives to be taught how to be real men and not those adult shitheads running around with no values/manly traits, shit is getting pathetic..... the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 04:04 AM
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 12:26 AM
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Hmmm, sexual technique can be learned if the person’s willing to be lead and taught, and you’re a communicative teacher and know how to lead her. If you think she’s worth putting in that effort, work on it by giving her cues(such as verbal instruction or using your hands to put her in positions) on what she needs to do to please you. Set the speed and level of passion by modeling it during sex so she can follow. We are not mind readers.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 12:15 AM
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Not hat fished but boy have I been fat fished and age fished. The worst was this guy who I estimated to be 60+ lbs and close to 20 years older than his pics. He was adamant about me sending him new pics of myself for verification, and continued using old pics of himself in kind. When he showed up he was layered very well including wearing a scarf and ball cap that he wouldn’t take off until we went back to my place. And when he took off those layers, I unapologetically kicked him out. He was pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 11:46 PM
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I think a large factor in what a guy may see as just fun night material is whether he personally is looking for anything deeper than that. If he is looking/open to commitment, he may not have seen any emotional/intellectual chemistry between him and a woman he’s been intimate with, thus he assigns her as only “plate/hookup/casual fun” material. The only thing we can control in this situation is development of ourselves and qualities we want to enhance with ourselves, not so much focusing on valu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 06:50 PM
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Very true, and I wonder why the younger inexperienced guys are so quick to dismiss this. A major part of the attraction for women(works both ways actually) to men is their abundance. Who ISN’T attracted to a man/woman who has options but chose you out of all of them? Compersion is a real thing, moreso for women than men. That’s why it’s important, in an LTR, that both partners work on maintaining abundance(staying fit, groomed, gain meaningful life experiences, continually work on bettering them…
/r/askTRP02/12/19 04:26 AM
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That must be stressful and frustrating; I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I think for those who assign their purpose/some of their value into their career, this is frightening territory to be in. Take a step back from anyone/thing that’s stressing you out right now. My husband was in a similar boat last year. Sudden directional changes in a company he thought he’d be a lifer with basically initiated an eventual shutdown of his entire department. He got out due to the extreme stress it was caus…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 05:21 AM
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That’s too early. Wait until you’re closer to your availability(like two-three days out) before planning a date.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:02 PM
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As a 36 year old who recently got out of actively dating others and recently going into a relationship, the guys I went on dates with my age were mostly intelligent, stable, career focused guys who’d divorced, may have kids. They took reasonable care of themselves for what it looked like. I also had the pleasure of meeting guys my age who were “Wild” and unfocused in their twenties but took control of their lives and turned themselves around by their thirties(similar to my boyfriend now). And th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 09:00 PM
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Never heard of him before but I’m new. According to Wikipedia, he’s a far right white nationalist who hates non-whites and Jewish people. Anyone who practices hateful speech of groups of other people based on their ethnicity and/or religious beliefs isn’t viewed highly by me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/19 08:31 PM
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Don’t engage; it’ll just end badly all around. Let them wallow in their insecurities. And really, if they’re constantly downing other people in order to feel like they’re elevating themselves, it’s time for you to find better company.
/r/askTRP27/11/19 05:19 AM
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That was my immediate thought, hahaha
/r/askTRP23/11/19 03:20 PM
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Seriously, Well put together post. Being informed about your and partner’s Sex health status is important for everyone; there’s a lot of stigma and ignorance surrounding STI’s and a lot of preventative measures people don’t take to protect themselves. The only thing I’ll mention is that don’t believe Hpv is a “forever” virus like the other ones you noted; https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm There’s over a 100 strains of hpv and most sexually active adults will be infected (and cl…
/r/askTRP22/11/19 05:58 PM
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Excess skin will shrink back to some degree based on how elastic it is and how long you were obese for; its usually gradual and takes a few months. Afterwards, any remaining excess skin you can help reduce by filling with muscle, and/or looking at cosmetic surgery. Common reason that people are skinny fat(low weight, high body fat ) is usually because their nutrition combined with their lifting strategy is shit. Regardless of you cutting/maintaining/bulking, You have to train heavy in a way that…
/r/askTRP22/11/19 02:58 PM
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“No”. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 01:55 PM
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I don’t know many women in real life who wouldn’t attempt texting / keeping in contact with someone they were really interested in seeing again, especially if they’ve built some sort of rapport and have been on dates with the person that’ve gone well. Unless it was pretty clear the person ghosted them. If so, it’s not a question of “why they disappeared “ but more of “why’d they reject me?” And in that scenario, it’s never really conducive to keep trying to get a response from the other person, …
/r/askTRP22/11/19 10:36 AM
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Try to fix your mindset on what made you mad about her shit test; becoming disgruntled over this was the reaction she probably wanted out of you in hopes that you recognize the need to “lock her down” or pedestal her because of how many worshippers she has. You should not care, and thus not become bothered/upset what any of her beta orbiters are saying. You are a high value man who is secure in your worth and when you exude this mentality, she will stop. Not to sound corny, but recognize that yo…
/r/askTRP19/11/19 06:48 PM
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From a purely pragmatic standpoint, marriage in the US offers many financial benefits; for instance taxation is generally more advantageous when filing jointly(income tax/limitations for capital gains for instance). Car and health insurance for couples/families are discounted. Spouses of retired military also gain certain special social security benefits. In medical situations your spouse can make decisions on your behalf. Of course, these are all great benefits if you marry the right person. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 06:21 PM
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I think the danger for us while working through anger/resentment/bitterness is falling into generalizing that “all men” exhibit the same toxic behaviors we’ve dealt with from past relationships. It’s hard not to avoid developing a skewed perception on an entire gender during this phase; so it’s prudent to be self aware of any biases we might create while learning from the valuable advice here about spotting and responding to red flags/toxic behaviors while dating and finding worthy relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:08 PM
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Not at all; I value real sharing of theories , opinions and information based on reputable proof. I actually intend on adding this to my casual reading list as I find this constant struggle/“warring” between the sexes and perception of love and relationships from people aligning themselves with any of the gender based movements fascinating. I do however note that you make a lot of assumptions for someone asking questions that are noted by the general stats of the aforementioned subreddit the Op …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 01:25 PM
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Got any valid scientific references to back up these red pill facts and findings that mgtow’s movement was founded on those facts? Please do share the citations, preferably ones stemming from credible studies by professionals/verified subject matter experts in their field.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 11:45 AM
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Why are you obsessively referencing about a different sub? A sub that has a pretty minuscule subscriber count might I add? And how is that sub’s “influential harm” different from other gender exclusive subs on here(mgtow/trip/etc)?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 10:55 AM
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Yesssss. Back when I was being stupid and trying to be the “cool nice girl”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 12:24 AM
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What do today’s standards have to do with an opinion about the social temperature of the past? And I hope you were not implying that the subject of infidelity/cheating was synonymous with “activity between consenting adults”; the unaware/non-consenting spouse or partner makes that gesture invalid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 02:12 AM
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Thank you for posting this. So many entitled people (men and women alike) want the instant gratification of getting the laurels of hard work without doing the damn work. And then complain about “chad” having it so easy, but refusing to acknowledge that “chad” actually executed the necessary changes to self improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:56 AM
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A man was encouraged to keep his cheating under wraps, never so much as to not cheat. If he was found out, the woman was encourage to rationalize the infidelity as partly her fault and to forgive him to keep the family intact. while if a woman were to do the same, she’d be vilified.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:19 AM
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FDS has a lot of good general advice on avoiding men exhibiting red flags and working on improving yourself, similarly to red pill. The general purpose and main ideas of either sub produce decent advice IMO; they’re just exclusive to their respective hetero genders. Even some of advice from RPW is valuable; if you spend some time there you’ll most of them actually advocate against falling into abusive or toxic situations and that women should improve themselves to attract high value men includin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 05:31 PM
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Funny how this person repeatedly groups all feminists to one extremist but won’t acknowledge it the other way around. Both sides have extremists. Man up and admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 10:05 PM
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The problem with this entire debate lies in there being expectations or ulterior motives attached to sex and taking someone out on dates. Some Guys here expect sex after “investing in wining and dining” their dates an arbitrary number of times. Too many girls in general view sex as a tool to convince a guy into commitment/a relationship. All these strings attached leads to disappointment on both sides and some bitter ass broken people who take it out on the next prospective partner. Paying for s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 11:40 PM
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For the ladies in the back 🤣. It is truly hilarious how “red pilled” trolls stalk FDS which has a fraction of subscribers. I mean, if they were really following red pill edicts and not clinging on to that MGTOW anger obsession with women, they wouldn’t care that FDS exists. But they do. Case in point the creation of this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 03:50 PM
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I don’t think it’s a woman’s only issue; it’s often a societal one. Someone did studies on young school age children and found that the more attractive children received more positive attention and leniency for bad behavior than their average or less attractive peers from teachers. We can see the same kind of subconscious treatment across both genders as adults. Attractive people are treated better and forgiven more in our society because we tend to consider their looks in Gauging their characte…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 12:11 PM
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I’m just flabbergasted that she said this entire dating,vetting, “relationship” all occurred in just over a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 03:45 PM
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Damn, Alabama. I feel for you 🙁. Yeah, I wouldn’t say looking in another country just yet, see about realistically relocating to a different part of the country where there’s more active people. I’ve had guy friends relocate (one to Baltimore from conservative Virginia) and another to Taiwan, and they’ve both said their dating prospects greatly improved from slim pickings before.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 02:01 PM
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I actually really hope that soon there’s a widely available male BC method with minimal side effects so that guys have more equal control of their reproduction. I really hope the stigma surrounding the idea that it’ll make you “less of a man” dies because at the end of the day I can see this as being a great step in the right direction when it comes to unplanned pregnancies. Less baby momma/fucked over or deadbeat dad situations, especially if they target contraceptives to the lower income porti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 01:52 PM
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Oh, ok I get you. What part of the US do you live in? If not already near a big city I wonder if your luck would change with your location. I remember going down to Atlanta and as a fit woman with an OK face, my dating choices were ridiculously plentiful (I was told that there weren’t many fit women in the South) compared to my home in the DC metro area, where there’s a lot more fit people here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 01:40 PM
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I think your standard is perfectly fine. We all find healthy people more attractive, and a person’s level of physical fitness is a very immediate external indicator of that. Sadly, most American adults, men and women, are overweight/obese. If you haven’t already gone this route, I would look at your local active/outdoor social groups to find fitness minded women(like MeetMe biking/hiking/running/workout groups for instance). I noticed you mention your options were either a butterface fit girl or…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 01:21 PM
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I think the best thing you can do is focus on leveling up your life and in turn finding quality men who fit more of what you’re looking for instead of trying to “turn the tables” on a guy who is obviously working on living his best life and sees you as side entertainment. Take a note from him and do the same for yourself . Sex is fun and all, but that doesn’t mean you NEED to force any kind of emotional attachment to the guy attached to the dick, hon. Have your fun when its convenient for both o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/19 10:58 AM
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A lot of guys who are uncles and/teen dads do it, which I don’t immediately find suspect. I do however think it’s in poor taste to ever have full faced kids in your dating profile pictures, man or woman and personally I don’t include pics of my daughter in my dating profile. Blurring their face is fine with me. Having kids is a big deal in the datingsphere, so it’s logical to see profiles denoting that aspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/19 10:48 AM
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You focus on yourself and move on. Deny him anymore headspace and continue on with doing things in your life to make you happy. Take a break from the club if you need the time to compose yourself but don’t quit just because you might see him there. You can’t be bothered to get all bent out of shape by this person who’s no longer in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/19 08:41 AM
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Sexy black cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:21 AM
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If you’re talking about using a bio electrical impedance scale, or self applied body fat calipers, they’re known to be wildly inaccurate for measuring body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:04 PM
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Did you do a dexa or something to confirm these statements? There’s no way that a 5’4” female adult, who is not taking performance enhancers on top of a rigid weightlifting routine is not obese at 190 lbs. While some people have genetic advantages in regards to muscle potential and size/proportion on their frame, women are biologically not geared to building enough muscle to not be overly fat at 5’4”, 190 lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:35 AM
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It’s because he’s made his first important impression to her solely about her being sexually pleasing for him, based entirely on her stereotyped ethnic features. When looking for a relationship, whenever a prospect goes right to talking about your body/physical attributes instead of taking interest in your person and sharing about who they are, it’s a big red flag. And as a person of color, it can downright offensive to assume anything, positive or negative, about a stranger solely on their race…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/19 12:02 AM
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I’m going to actually say I agree with what I think you’re trying to get at here. We could say “just teach thieves not to steal” or murderers to kill. At the end of the day though, we tell victims/general public that they should take precautions because as much as we can educate people, some of them are still going to do it, and do it easily with victims who are not guarding themselves. And to her point, these are reasonable precautions to take with a stranger. You don’t really know how safe you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 02:30 PM
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Great job! I think every married person makes the mistake of getting complacent with their own personal growth/self care because they’re under the illusion that it’s no longer needed since they can become codependent on their significant other. We should never stop working towards making ourselves better nor should we lose our sense of independence.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 11:14 PM
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I wonder why the “accosted” sides (both jilted men and feminazis alike) automatically go to blaming each other for these issues that are frankly brought on by poor social etiquette. It’s not a gender specific issue. If anything, it’s a personality/character issue, maybe at best correlated with maturity level or one’s overall personal development. Like I said, the guy’sprofiles can be just as horrible. Do I believe all men ever are to be permanently typecasted as fuckboys? No.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/05/19 10:26 PM
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Lol, all this bashing on a vapid, immature, shallow person and associating these qualities to all women ever.....yikes! Gentlemen, I guarantee you it’s looking the same kind of shitty on our side of the app.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/05/19 01:52 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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