Im_Vinea Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
46	Stupid standards?	RANT	Im_Vinea	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/03/20 12:23 PM
0	Proposing to men	DISCUSSION	Im_Vinea	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/20 08:48 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	LVM and their double standards. Hehe I guess men are like that everywhere! Regardless of what race...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/05/20 12:07 AM
1	Proposing to men Well first off, sorry about the divorce. Better single than living with someone you hate. I like the idea you mentioned of setting a mental timeframe but many guys say something similar but won’t pull through. Can’t trust a mans promise 😐 Also, in my post I wasn’t advocating or encouraging women to propose. I’m not saying women should force marriage onto a man who doesn’t want to be married in the first place and I don’t think proposing should be viewed as this sort of ‘threat’. Kind of like: Ma…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/20 11:43 PM
1	Proposing to men Hmm 🤔 In regards to the last part, one of the concerns with women proposing is the idea of ‘settling’? ‘He’s scared of being alone that’s why he chose you’ idea? I’d understand why women think that’s a bad idea to get married with that type of person. Women shouldn’t feel as some ‘second place prize’. Obviously the guy wouldn’t feel great settling and the woman wouldn’t feel great feeling settled for. Everyone’s been jumpin my bones here but I’m not really advocating for women proposing. I just …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/20 10:59 PM
1	Proposing to men This isn’t really advice. I mean the flair said “discussion” so I guess I’m open to...discussion❓	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/20 10:29 PM
9	LVM and their double standards. LMAO Sorry I wanna ask, by any chance are you Asian? I saw in one of your previous comments your were 5ft1in... I’m 5ft2in and yes, Asian. YES I feel you with the double standard ! I was snooping through some Asian subreddits and WMAF (White male Asian female) relationships get TRASHED on a lot of times by the Asian guys over there but they celebrate over AMWF (Asian male White female) relationships. Teehee! What a doubt standard 😃 Men don’t like the idea of “their women” sleeping with other dud…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/20 09:11 AM
133	Why do guys run when you expect them to get to know you? Because they think women are supposed to cater to men. Women are expected give up their own dreams, ambitions, and goals for him. To them, men are INTELLIGENT, CREATIVE, HUMOROUS, CHARISMATIC, etc. etc. Women? Nicee arm candy. Women shouldn’t belittle or disrespect themselves to appeal to them ofc but many do (pickmeshas)...begging for breadcrumbs is disgusting. TDLR: They’re self centered.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/20 08:15 AM
41	What do ya'll think of men who pride themselves on being assholes? Lots of guys say that ‘women only like assholes! They don’t like nice guys like me! That’s why I’ll be an asshole and treat them poorly, because that’s what they want!’ Pretty sure that’s just an excuse. This “nice guy” was always an asshole and just needed an excuse to justify his asshole-ery. This isn’t about ‘giving women what they want’. It’s about revenge. They’re mad that they didn’t get what they thought they were entitled to: women. So, they abuse/harass women for revenge under the disgu…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/20 10:29 PM
23	Some FDS press again over on Unpopularopinion 🙄🙄🙄 Funny...a lot of people down in their comments complain that FDS restricts their precious ‘freedom of speech’ but when a woman posted on r/TheWall, a so called, “satirical” sub of a man aging poorly and a woman aging gracefully, she was banned. Clearly there’s a bias here, hmm? Incels/RP/MGTOW don’t mind dishing criticism but can’t take criticism themselves and have to act like little twats when seeing things through our perspective. FDS doesn’t advocate for violence against men, just the usual …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/20 08:10 AM
272	Can you even?! The standards are too high for women and too low for men :c	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/20 01:03 AM
9	Imagine your boyfriend owning a fake ass and slapping it around you On Twitter I think some m*n carved out a hole into a watermelon his mother brought home from the grocery store to use as a...toy. Not surprised they’d eventually fork over the cash for a fake butt...it’s a better investment than a bunch of soiled melons...but still...😓😓😨	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/04/20 07:37 AM
8	Apparently, men paying for women makes them escorts. Smh. So if a father were to pay for his daughter’s ballet lessons, what does that make her? A gold digger? An escort? 🙄🙄 These m*n are delusional	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/20 11:25 PM
4	LVM in the time of Coronavirus Cheetos...bright orange...his pp turned into a Cheeto?? 👀🤔🤨	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/20 11:02 PM
55	Let’s be real here... A lot of men who claim to hate gold diggers actually love them! They’re complaining because they can’t afford them. If they do get money, what do they spend it on? Gold diggers. Why wouldn’t they love em? They’re attractive, usually young, submissive and don’t talk back. Only men of high status and wealth have access to an exclusive relationship with them. They’re salty because they don’t fall into the requirement of high status and wealth so they blame the gold diggers for their shallowness ins…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/20 12:24 AM
0	Ladies, validation needed! Um...WOW. Him punching a wall is a good thing. Better he punch a hole in the wall than punch you into a coma! I mean, now you know that he’s a violent person and those types of people aren’t great dating material or HV. I don’t want this to come off as victim blaming but drunk sex isn’t the best idea either...he could’ve taken your advances poorly...as in he couldn’t consent...due to the alcohol... People don’t usually make the best decisions while drunk.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/20 08:25 AM
15	I dumped him. You done good :] Some friends do more harm than good and it’s a shame so many m*n can’t separate themselves from the “herd” and stand up for the people that matter...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/20 08:08 AM
23	The realisation there are not enough HVM in society and some of us will likely be single forever and never marry. I’m not an older HVW but I made a pact with my friend (F18) to marry each other if we don’t end up married to men before we turn 40. We promised that even if one of us got married, we’d frequently check up and visit each other. This isn’t sexual/romantic but platonic? Not marrying isn’t the end of the world, I think? I thought the purpose of marriage was for security? Now that I feel secure with my future, I think if I do start dating I don’t have to lower my standards. It’s kind of a win-win si…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/04/20 03:03 AM
11	Threw a full mantrum because i didn't answer his initial message the minute he sent it at 4am. 👍	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/04/20 10:43 AM
19	How can I stop being so judgemental? “...until you’re a decent human being!” YES!! OP should just forget about dating for a longg time! He himself said that he works in a toxic environment and it would appear that this toxicity is rubbing off on himself! Forget about OP being a potential good bf and should just work on being a potential good person!	/r/askFDS	04/04/20 02:08 AM
34	Should men stick to their dating leagues? “...you guys make fun of some visually unattractive men on your sub...” FDS usually doesn’t make fun of men for simply being unattractive. Most of the time, in these pictures there’s a caption or bio with a man making stupid demands/requests/negs. It’s a combination of an appalling physical appearance and a ratchet personality. One that stood out in particular was an older, naked, balding and ugly scrote who asked of women, ‘what they had to offer him’. Entitled much? Not to mention that RP and …	/r/askFDS	04/04/20 12:57 AM
6	HVM Hobbies A couple HVM I know had hobbies...most weren’t “practical” but it made them more interesting people, at least to me. Speech and debate, ice skating, playing the clarinet/piano, archery, etc. Of course...it should be mentioned that a lot of guys pick up hobbies to pick up women. Guys who go to the gym and ‘get gains’, ride motorcycles, playing piano...yeah, don’t even bother with a hobby to pick up women. You should pick hobbies because they interest you and with no other ulterior motive.	/r/askFDS	04/04/20 12:09 AM
45	Growth through serial Monogamy. (Manbaby grows up?) It’s good that you’ve acknowledged your mistakes and how crappy of a person you were then but jeez. I can’t help but feel sorry for those forever girlfriends :(. Ten years is a lot of time and time, especially in the younger years are so precious. They can’t get their youth back that they wasted on you. Besides taking advice from FDS and applying it to your own life, spreading the message could go a long way. Not necessarily that you should make other men aware of FDS’ existence but calling them…	/r/askFDS	03/04/20 11:47 PM
84	Don’t tell the men you know about FDS Hey friend	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/20 06:07 PM
50	MEN ARE INCAPABLE OF EMOTIONALLY SUPPORTING WOMEN THIS 10/10 Bro’s before hoes right? 🤪	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/20 11:25 PM
40	Scotes are getting punchy. A dirty bag just messaged me with the following: “or slave your life paying for the kid?” Uh...or they could choose not to have kids in the first place if it’s such a burden to them...their the ones always trying to get the ‘tip wet doe’ These are the same guys complaining about never being able to see their kids after a divorce. He only wants them around to flaunt and teach them to play catch. Only for the “fun times”. If the kid gets sick and he has to pay up for their treatment, he’s gonna run with his tails between his legs, yapping.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/20 10:25 PM
14	You’d better check your friends! Sisters before misters 👀	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/20 03:14 AM
15	Are men that doesn't make a move LVM? 👋 Check his post history He misses the “attention” and calls her promiscuous for turning to other men after he ignored her. He’s the one acting all cold and should reap what he sows.	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 09:30 PM
21	Are men that doesn't make a move LVM? LVM? Yeah. Purposely ignoring her and wanting her back for the “attention”? Yeah, pretty low value. It’s all about your ego, isn’t it? Ironically, lots of men look to women as “attention wh*res” 🙄 Look up: breadcrumbing And you’ll get the idea Not so mention your anime profile pic and your involvement with ‘incelswithouthate’. Incels are a burden to society and are LV.	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 09:25 PM
7	I want to be a HVM, I'm wondering what I can do to improve. Well, I don’t know about your personality but you have some good hobbies. Volunteering in soup kitchens and caring for the less fortunate is something very appealing to me. It makes you seem kind, mature, and patient. Since you’ve never had a kiss or date, is it because you’re just not forward enough? Someone else mentioned a lack of self confidence. Your job (at least in my opinion) could/would be a dealbreaker. You mentioned working for the Navy? Deployment? Going to be overseas? I’m not sure …	/r/askFDS	30/03/20 09:42 AM
5	Some Questions Takeout isn’t always bad, but I don’t recommend doing it too often. It’s usually full of sodium and cholesterol. I’m not a great cook either but I can still eat well at home by putting together a simple meal (rice, fried eggs, sausage, wontons, miso soup, salads, etc.)...this is for your general living situation...not dates, right? I have one hobby I need to go out frequently for (ice skating) but I have others that I stay at home to do like drawing, gaming, yoga, etc. I don’t think it sounds th…	/r/askFDS	24/03/20 09:03 AM
20	What to change? Why do you want to change? What do you want? There are lots of “chill and goofy” guys but if I wanted a good laugh, I’d just look at cats flipping out at cucumbers or if I wanted to chill, I’d just hang out with my friends. Are you looking for anything serious in a relationship? If you’re just looking to smash and you’re as decent looking as you say, just be straight forward and say so.	/r/askFDS	24/03/20 08:22 AM
3	Long time reader, first time poster, love FDS, and a quick question. You’re right!! I got scammed of my youthh 😱	/r/askFDS	24/03/20 02:20 AM
3	Long time reader, first time poster, love FDS, and a quick question. Sacrifice? I’m not dead...;-;?	/r/askFDS	23/03/20 11:46 PM
1	I feel I missed out and will be shamed if I want the same things everyone else had. I think it's the mods but they probably give such labels based on a combination of factors like the content of the post, responses from the FDS women, and your response...responding to FDS women.	/r/askFDS	23/03/20 10:44 PM
9	Long time reader, first time poster, love FDS, and a quick question. This is probably a troll and not posting in good faith but I’ll bite. cough Incel... Yes, I think love is real but just because I love somebody doesn’t mean I have to put up with abuse. I do think love in unconditional. You may love a cheater but that doesn’t mean you have to stick around. It’s possible to love multiple people. Some people can choose to have children together and treat it like a partnership, sure. Then they can have relations with other people (Open marriages). Just because they…	/r/askFDS	23/03/20 08:55 PM
9	Ladies! It's rough out there, that's for sure. But I know y'all got this. So, what projects/hobbies are you working on? Kill each other... Well that's not good :c. MY FISHIES!! I thought only the males fought other males? Either way, thanks :]! I'll keep you in mind if I do get a Michelle for Vincent	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 03:52 AM
2	How to balance business and girlfriend? "why should he be forced to initiate high quality dates?" Force? What force? He doesn't have to do anything. He doesn't even need to date his girlfriend if he doesn't want to. In fact, he can even date other guys if dating women is too much of an inconvenience for him. He's the one asking for advice. Don't be mad that FDS is answering. Also I said "high effort", not "high quality". According to his post, I'd assume he has a strained relationship with his gf and wants to improve it. I thought he …	/r/askFDS	23/03/20 03:43 AM
15	Ladies! It's rough out there, that's for sure. But I know y'all got this. So, what projects/hobbies are you working on? Honestly, I was a bit of an idiot when I first got him like a week ago. Vincent started making bubbles so I scooped them up...and threw it in the garbage can o.O hahahaha The good news is he started making a new bubble nest in the exact spot where I threw away his old one :'D . Yes, bettas are very beautiful but I think Vincent is more on the handsome end of the spectrum hehe. I think I will get into betta breeding. My friend's father passed away around a month and a half ago and I think her hav…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 02:58 AM
33	Ladies! It's rough out there, that's for sure. But I know y'all got this. So, what projects/hobbies are you working on? 👋👋👋 I was ice skating frequently before the quarantine so that’s put on hold. However, I’m doing more yoga and stretches in my home so I’m still flexible when I get back on the ice 👈😎👈 I recently got a betta fish and named him Vincent. I wanna get him a wife and name her Michelle after this pandemic. He needs some shrimpy buddies too! Caring for Vincent and my cats... My college campus moved all classes except the science ones involving labs online and I took an online test a couple days ago. I …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 01:41 AM
32	I feel like all HVM used to be LVM. Thoughts? Honestly, a lot of places. Some places less likely than others! They’re everywhere doing normal things 👀 Guys who take their pets to the vet, dog parks, ice skating rinks, grocery stores, SOME college campus organizations, etc. Men who are accomplished and humble but not self deprecating = GREEN FLAG!! I don’t think places like clubs and bars are likely to have HVM. Men who opt for self improvement are nice but the gym ones...unlikely? Be wary of the gym ones. Many are probably looking to “impro…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 01:05 AM
131	Wtf is this? What is with the insane shilling of polygamy and letting partners have multiple “lovers”? I’m disgusted I’ve been seeing more and more of these everywhere LMAO 😂 I’m curious how scrotes would react to switching the roles (putting a woman in the center and 2 guys beside her)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 12:49 AM
61	I feel like all HVM used to be LVM. Thoughts? “Do you know any males that are HV from the start?” Yup. A couple actually but they’re quite rare and they don’t make themselves obvious. They exist but they’re difficult to spot. You kind of have to ‘catch them in the act’...the act of doing good things. The ones I know have good relationships with their parents and siblings. They’re well liked by the people they come across but aren’t well known. They don’t start unnecessary drama and can own up to mistakes. They don’t hate women as they have …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 12:31 AM
1	How to balance business and girlfriend? High effort dates? I did a lot of planning for an activities club and I remember checking a lot of people’s schedules to try to get a time that was convenient for as many people as possible. Timing must be considered on these dates. If she has work or classes, a date immediately after might be exhausting. Local restaurants and movies aren’t that bad unless it’s recurring. A change is nice. Consider doing something new. You know your gf better than I do. If she likes flowers, maybe take her out t…	/r/askFDS	22/03/20 08:22 PM
26	Then there’s this flapdoodle . 🤔🤨❓	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/03/20 09:46 AM
5	Am I good enough? Well, maybe not feel too terrible about yourself...yet. At least you had the self awareness and acknowledged that you may not be the best of the best so that counts for something? Even if you are a lvm, I think you might be looking at this wrong. If your gf is significantly better than you, I think you should accept that; be gracious that she wants to be with you and make sure she won’t regret her decision in the future! Take steps to improve and keep up with her pace. Just because you might be …	/r/askFDS	22/03/20 07:34 AM
5	How to balance business and girlfriend? Well that’s the thing. I don’t think they’re capable of feeling love. They’re a bunch of psychopaths who thrive on the misery of others. If it was just a normal man with with some insecurity, yeah. 10/10 should self love. Redpill and mgtow are different	/r/askFDS	22/03/20 03:24 AM
5	How to balance business and girlfriend? “Learn to love yourself” Nainainai Don’t say that. He’s redpill...you know? The ones who hate women and wants to take away our human rights. The ones who “pump and dump”. Redpill/mgtow shouldn’t experience love...from themselves or anyone else. They’re evil and only motivated by their own personal gain.	/r/askFDS	22/03/20 03:14 AM
2	How to balance business and girlfriend? Define “dates”. Are these low effort or high effort dates? Do you put effort into them or think them up spontaneous at your convenience? Netflix and chill isn’t really that much of a “date”. If it is, it’s kind of a suck-y one. If she’s complaining about you being on your phone so long, is it really about social media? It doesn’t matter if you only spend 1 hour on social media if you spend the next 4 watching YouTube-she’d still have a legitimate reason for being upset at you constantly being on…	/r/askFDS	22/03/20 03:05 AM
12	Can I be a HVM if I have flaws? Not a virgin 🙄	/r/askFDS	20/03/20 10:29 PM
6	Need help changing my mindset about my Ex ->took steroids ->”had no balls” UMM...did his testes take a trip to the Bahamas or something?? 🤔🤨	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/03/20 10:30 AM
6	Have you ever overlooked/ignored an HVM (or suspected HVM, in retrospect) at some point in your past before discovering FDS, and what was the experience like? Appreciate the kind words :]	/r/askFDS	20/03/20 10:19 AM
28	Have you ever overlooked/ignored an HVM (or suspected HVM, in retrospect) at some point in your past before discovering FDS, and what was the experience like? Heartbreaking? It wasn’t so much overlooked...I knew he had HV traits at the very beginning. He had a great work ethic, was very receptive, well liked by others, and was kind to everyone. I don’t think he was very smart, or very rich, or even exceptionally handsome...but I had a feeling he’d get far in life. He approached me first at the start of high school and frequently tried to get closer to me. I liked him a lot and we had similar interests but my mom was quite strict and I didn’t want to d…	/r/askFDS	20/03/20 08:24 AM
3	How can i find a High Value Woman? how do i prove my honesty? Then what’s the point of the date? Why date? What’s the objective? If you have all the questions and all the answers on a piece of paper then why bother going on a date? Go on a date. Read the paper. Compatible? Yes? Good. Eat in silence. No point talking about philosophy, careers, hobbies/interests, travel, habits, experiences if it’s all on a piece of paper. I don’t understand the correlation between flying to Paris and lilies? Walking to Paris, at least where I’m from sounds stupid and exhaus…	/r/askFDS	19/03/20 10:41 PM
3	How can i find a High Value Woman? how do i prove my honesty? Maybe there could be too much pineapple consumption...maybe. Maybe there could be too much time spent on gaming...yes. Too much kindness? Doubtful. Too much empathy and compassion? Doubt it but to each their own I guess. Underground atomic shelter as a vacation? That’s kinda quirky tho. You’d plan a vacation without even bothering to tell your S/O? That seems kinda foolish. If she’s a HVW she’d chime in. Lots of women talk about their travel experiences while dating. Why not just be attentive an…	/r/askFDS	19/03/20 09:20 PM
3	How can i find a High Value Woman? how do i prove my honesty? Writing a list is like a cheat sheet. The reason I questioned “to your liking” is because I thought it seemed like an easy way out of being attentive and listening to her likes, wants, and interests. A wishlist?? “It must also be the maximum!” There’s a maximum?? There’s supposed to be a maximum to kindness, empathy, compassion?? Say the woman you’re interested likes flowers. Would you only get flowers on her birthday? (The minimum) What about the maximum? Get her flowers everyday? That seems ki…	/r/askFDS	19/03/20 08:36 PM
7	How can i find a High Value Woman? how do i prove my honesty? “I prefer to pay higher in exchange for certainties” That’s a pretty LV mentality. Writing a list to prove your worth with guarantee of a relationship...to your liking? That’s doing the BARE MINIMUM to get what you want...I mean if you want a guarantee and absolute certainty of the benefits of the relationship while paying the bare minimum, why not order “the girlfriend experience” from a prostitute? Going to college won’t guarantee a job but for many people, it’s a worthy investment; it’s worth…	/r/askFDS	19/03/20 07:31 PM
20	Why dont you like video games? I do? I mean there are some I like and others I don’t...depends on the game, really. Currently I’m playing and have over 1,500 hours on Ragnarok Online... It isn’t as much of the video games themselves I don’t like; it’s the culture that can be problematic. Gaming is supposed to be “male dominated” and in my own experience, tends to be a little misogynistic. For example, if you took a female and a male gamer, same age, different gender, obviously and equally lacking in experience...say both perf…	/r/askFDS	19/03/20 09:47 AM
2	What can a man do to improve, stay high value, or just be productive while the virus is going around? Though Covid-19 has and is still causing a lot of problems in people’s lives, there is a plus side... With the ongoing pandemic, many are staying home/by themselves. It makes for a good opportunity to focus on your mental health. Consider learning how to cook if you don’t know already! In regards to dating and improving yourself in order to become a HMV, perhaps re-evaluate previous relationships? The pros and cons...write out what you have to bring to the table in a relationship and some standa…	/r/askFDS	17/03/20 05:31 AM
105	This came through on r/AskFDS and was just TOO good not to repost. He thinks he’s in the “top 20% of males” and wonders what “we have to offer him” that he can’t get from younger women. 😐 Yes he’s serious. 😐 Check the comments for the OP. “Well I can get that from younger women...” Hahahahahaha, no. 18 year old here and I’d sooner slit my own wrists and drown in my own pool of blood before letting that nasty old scrote mount me. Have a nice day 🎩	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/20 06:31 PM
1	A question from a short guy 5’6 is short? I-I didn’t know that. I’m 5’2 and a guy I knew was 5’4. His height wasn’t what was unattractive to me. From what I can recall, he was a bit abrasive when he spoke and in his actions. Other “short” men have brought up their insecurity with their height...honestly, I usually don’t notice unless they bring it up. To answer your question: Perhaps (some) short men act out in an aggressive manner to compensate or constantly seek validation about their height to the point where it’s off p…	/r/askFDS	12/03/20 11:09 AM