Some Questions

Im_Vinea · 2020-03-24T09:03:53+00:00

Takeout isn’t always bad, but I don’t recommend doing it too often. It’s usually full of sodium and cholesterol. I’m not a great cook either but I can still eat well at home by putting together a simple meal (rice, fried eggs, sausage, wontons, miso soup, salads, etc.)...this is for your general living situation...not dates, right?
I have one hobby I need to go out frequently for (ice skating) but I have others that I stay at home to do like drawing, gaming, yoga, etc.
I don’t think it sounds that terrible. Podcasts can give you a greater perspective on different topics, discuss current events, ideologies, whatever. It’s still a good idea to have more of an “active” hobby (good for your physical health)

Umm...lots of women work full time and still come home having to cook and clean, even for themselves...don’t make your SO do all the dirty work. That’s the thing about relationships: usually someone is taking and the other is giving too much...

Hey, everyone makes mistakes and not everyone can keep everything in check at all times. What’s important is the positives override the negatives. Say you’re dieting and you slip up, eating some junk food. As long as you spent significantly more time on the diet than off, you’ll probably be alright. Yeah? Hobbies can be a little annoying to juggle with work and classes but when I’m actually doing them, I enjoy it. Some I only do whenever convenient like art and gaming. However, nowadays because of COVID-19. I have more time to myself now hehe
I’m not out searching for men...they usually find me? Sometimes I’d spend time before or after class on campus with some friends just chatting and someone might approach. College club organizations (people with similar interests) are places to socialize and “meet people”. Your idea for meeting women “organically” seems like a good idea if you were ready for a relationship (doubt). You don’t want to be the guy attending events just for picking up chicks. If you’re just looking for a sck and fck, at least be straight forward and honest. This helps clear up any miscommunication and will spare even more misery caused by feeling ‘led on’. Definitely DON’T attempt asking for her number or ‘getting to know her’ in the middle of the night under a street lamp. Even if there isn’t a street lamp, don’t do it!! The gym isn’t a great place either...

ivy176 · 2020-03-30T00:55:19+00:00

This would be a big issue for me. I think all adults should know how to cook some basic things. Getting take out is fine, but living off it isn't. It's understandable if someone works long hours and uses ubereats or meal delivery services to make life easier. But I think everyone should be cooking at least some of their meals. My boyfriend used to cook a big batch of something and freeze it before we got together. If he lived off take out then I'd view that as immature and someone who wastes money. It's an essential life skill, not some optional thing. Also I'd expect the meal delivery to be actual nutritious food, like seafood/chicken/whatever with salad or vegetables of some kind, not someone living off McDonald's/KFC/pizza.
The only hobbies I leave the house for are exercise related. I don't expect a man to have loads of hobbies. I work hard and have health issues, I enjoy spending time at home.
No that doesn't seem bad, so long as you're not lazy or completely inactive.
No I find it difficult to manage. Trying to be high value is not always easy.
I met my partner at work.

AyemHerself · 2020-03-27T04:10:30+00:00

not watch porn(I think?)

This is worrisome.

not like I just live off pizza rolls or something, I just don’t cook. Is that ok?

The main trouble with a takeout only diet is it's difficult to eat well. And if you're not eating healthy food your physical health will suffer. It's also costing you more to eat out all the time. So you're neglecting your health and your finances. You're definitely better off learning to cook some simple things. You don't need to be a 5 star chef, just know a few easy recipes. The women you date will appreciate it too.

do most of you have tons of hobbies you leave your house for? what do you do?

I leave the house for a run a few nights a week, and long walks on alternate days. You could consider doing the regardless of how in shape you are. Even if it's putting on your podcast andwalking around the block for an hour, adding physical activity will do well for you.

I guess to me it seems really difficult to work full time, cook, clean, exercise, maintain hobbies outside my home, and do everything else inherent to a relationship.

Welcome to adulting.

Is there something fundamental I’m missing here? Are you guys managing that balance without trouble?

I avoid doing everything every day. Try setting aside one day to do cleaning, one afternoon for a hobby, etc. Meal prepping for one afternoon helps too. You can put on a podcast to do other things too.

People speak ill of OLD on the sub but it can be a good tool for you. Especially since most of the complaints we have about dating apps come from trashy dudes.

Without knowing more about your interests and hobbies it's hard to get specific, but consider a hobby with a more social element to it. It'll get you out of the house and meeting people.

Remember this won't happen overnight. Good luck!

2020-03-26T08:36:17+00:00

If you can't (oh, sorry, "don't") cook you are a child. Grow the f up.

Title	Some Questions
Author	throwawaythrowawa567
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Date	March 22, 2020 6:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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