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Don't waste that much time on a first date. No guy is worth all that extra effort, show up being the daily version of you maybe with 10% because if you show up looking your absolute best you either have to maintain that standard or it's only downhill. Save something to surprise him with later if he's worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:59 PM
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Ditto. When single I refused to meet men who did not reconfirm the night before or morning of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:31 AM
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This is why as women we need to be upfront with our expectations when we meet someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:11 PM
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The stories you guys tell make me super appreciate my husband. Thank you for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:29 PM
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When I was dating, I found that by being clear about wanting a relationship and to settle down made the guys who wanted the same to step forward and the guys who didn't went away. We shouldn't have to trick a guy into a relationship. If he wants one, he'll know and will be looking for someone who wants the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:57 PM
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I hope you cross post this in 2x.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:57 PM
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My mom used to tell me women in our family had the "bad boy gene" where we were only attracted to and attracted bad men. After my 3rd abusive relationship she was repeating that advice and I finally lost it. I told her no, this family keeps teaching their daughters to tolerate bad behavior and normalizing it. That's not ok. If you don't want a bad man then learn what one looks and acts like. I took my own advice and am now with a wonderful man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:13 PM
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Insecure men will always treat you the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:21 AM
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Christ. This makes so much sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:18 PM
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100% true. I've said it before, a 30s divorced man who has grown from his experience is 1000% better than a 30s man who had never lived with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:59 AM
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When I was first dating my now husband, I found a small box of tampons in his bathroom. I asked him wtf, is this from your ex? He explained he read somewhere it was a considerate thing for men to do in case there was ever a woman over who needed one. He has some female friends and knows several married guys with wives so once I understood it was fine, but it sure threw me at first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:08 PM
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When I had my first date with my now husband, we just talked for 5 straight hours over beers and mac n cheese. At the end of the night he asked if he could kiss me goodbye. The good men are out there, just harder to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:18 PM
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When I was dating my now husband, the first time I left clothes at his house and I came over next they were washed and either hung up or put in a drawer he had cleared for me. I never even asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:03 AM
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Your so right about us needing to stick together. I've had male "friends" who have left me drunk around predatory men and it really sucked to realize they didn't care about what happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:00 AM
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Thanks, I'm happily married now to a lovely man who matches my libido. I had the same struggles as you though where I wanted sex but so many available men were just not attractive to me that I'd rather go without and be frustrated. It was definitely a lose-lose situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:58 PM
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Proud of you! I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship until I could walk away from guys who were good but not right for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:19 PM
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A gf of mine got shit drunk in a club and a guy she knew barely (acquaintance) waited until I was trying to drag her drunk ass (half carrying her) to our car to follow us. He'd been standing on the periphery of our group the whole night barely talking to anyone. The first time I said, hey I got her thanks bye, he kept following and trying to grab her. The 2nd time I repeated myself. He kept coming. The third time I stopped, looked him dead in the eyes and said very loudly we are going home, you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:36 PM
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For sure. I think we still need to be focused on talking care of ourselves first, and only having sex because we want to, not because we feel pressured into it or feel the need to please someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:21 AM
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I've dated both sides of the political spectrum and never had a partner push for anything beyond light spanking. The stuff I hear you guys talk about seems just completely wild to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:00 PM
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We had internet porn, but you had to download it and it was often just still images.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:58 PM
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Actually, if bears had hurt me physically as much as men have, I'd be famous and also probably considered very stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:13 PM
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I wish you were a bot that autoposted this in every thread about male domestic violence victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:12 PM
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I can't relate to wanting celibacy because I have a high libido and need a lot of physical touch. That said I do not judge anyone else for abstaining and even admire it. In my case I'd have FWBs but if he wasn't putting equal effort in to me then he was out the door. Did this mean I had slightly more partners than others? Yes, but just like celibacy I don't think I should be judged for doing what I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:07 PM
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I don't know who the fuck y'all are dating, but posts like this make me feel glad to be old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:01 PM
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I was ok with men having kids because I had kids but I was super wary that he was looking for a replacement mom/babysitter for when he had his custody time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:55 AM
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I think the perspective that I was desperate hurt the most. It was like yes I'm actively looking for a partner, but also yes I do have standards for men, seemed to confuse a lot of people. Wanting to be with someone does not equal desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:37 AM
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The one I stopped talking to I definitely felt like she thought she was better than me, but I'm not sure if that's because I was single. The other friends were mostly desperate to hook up their two single friends even though it defied logic otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:33 AM
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I asked the married friends why they hadn't left their husbands for the nice guy since he was so great and I got silence. When they tried to push it again later I suggested since the dude was owed pity sex that they ask their husbands if they wouldn't mind an open marriage so they could hook their buddy up. They also didn't care for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:19 AM
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So true. One of my best girlfriends would always ask, but is he good enough? You deserve the best. She was at my wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:11 PM
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I literally sat here chuckled out loud after reading that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:44 AM
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It doesn't make any sense, men don't have more than one dick. I mean there was that one guy, but he's the only one I've ever heard of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:11 PM
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This is so true. When dating I would not respond to men over 40 who had never been married. Divorced men will almost always have better mental growth and increased maturity than a man who has never had to compromiseand be a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:04 PM
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It's in your best interests to literally forget he exists. Distract yourself by increasing your self worth please. Don't waste another second acknowledging he takes up space in this world. All it does is keep the wound open in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:00 PM
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I really liked the movie Queen and was surprised about how feminist it was. Most Bollywood movies make me Nope out when I see the gorgeous woman trying to get a guy who shouldn't have left his mom's basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:50 PM
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That sounds even worse. This woman wasn't even anyone's boss, she was even a level below me, she was just amazing at starting shit and spreading rumors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:14 AM
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My last few months of working there I had as much anxiety as I did while in an abusive relationship at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:47 AM
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I used to work with a woman who chose whomever she felt was the biggest competition with her at work and she'd go after that woman trying to get her fired. I watched her attack 3 women and then she went after me and I noped the hell out of that workplace. Being awesome makes you a target of shitty people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:46 PM
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What do you mean by that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:36 PM
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It's funny how you're taking about them like they're equal partners when the reality is he's a grown man who groomed and preyed on an underage girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:55 PM
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Idk if silencing a victim of a borderline pedophile is the right kind of tough love she needs. What she really needs is an adult in her life who is looking out for her that she listens to and unfortunately she may never find one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:36 PM
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Oooh that makes sense. JuSt CoMmUnIcAtE! It SoUnDs LiKe hE tRiDe tO cOmPrOmIsE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:34 PM
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I've already said plenty here today but I want to share one last piece of truth before letting you be and hoping you find your way to what you deserve. Problems in marriage only to tend to get worse, if it wasn't fixed before marriage then it will continue and always keep getting worse as people get set in their ways. At his age he is beyond change. If you choose to stay, you will at some point have to come to the understanding that this is who you married and this is what the rest of your life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:22 PM
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There isn't a way to talk about this. He chose you because you will be/are easy for him to manipulate. He will continue to watch porn no matter what, even if you lose your mind over it. Porn is honestly the least of your problems but you don't have the life experience to see that yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:17 PM
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You guys, please stop downvoting her. She needs support and guidance right now, not ridicule. She really has no idea how bad of a situation she's in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:12 PM
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I'm hurting for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:10 PM
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Let me make sure we understand. 1. An adult man preyed on you when you were underage. 2. He groomed you to think this age gap is normal before you had any adult experience dating. 3. He lied about his sex drive, which dissapeared once he had legal power over you. 4. He doesn't care about if what he does affects your sense of self worth? Does this sum up everything correctly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:14 PM
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Oh honey....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:11 PM
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In my experience bigger girls take the most dick because they have self esteem issues. Predatory men will specifically go after them knowing they can treat them poorly and the women will tolerate it. It's very sad but I've seen it happen multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:08 PM
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I'm glad you're here now. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 04:29 PM
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Some of us just don't have the time or money or we totally would be in the salon every month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:20 AM
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This was well said. In my relationship I compromised on some things and that's ok. However I never settled (again) for bad sex, disrespect, and neglect. It's important to know what is a nonnegotiable (he must put effort into pleasing me sexually) vs. a preference (he must make 6 figures).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:15 AM
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Hi, are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:13 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:08 PM
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Makes me remember one of the times I've felt the most embarrassed for someone else. Her boyfriend kept joking about forcing anal on her in front of me and my boyfriend. My boyfriend (now ex) thought it was hilarious and started teasing her too. She looked insanely uncomfortable. I regret just sitting there quietly, this was about 15 years ago and at that age I had no idea how to deal with the situation (I do now). I asked my then bf WTF when we left and he legitimately had no idea how fucked up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:58 PM
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Shitty men feel the most insecure and are more likely to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:20 PM
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That I wanted to get married and try for kids within X amount of time so if we weren't progressing towards that then this wouldn't work. What I would and would not tolerate concerning sexual behavior, monogamy, friends, etc. How I expected to be treated in a relationship. A requirement for full honesty. I let it be clear that if anything came up that suggested these weren't happening then I was just gone and this was his single and only 2nd chance. I regret not making requirements about money at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:57 PM
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When we were on a date and he compared my appearance to another woman who was eating in the same restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:35 AM
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When after two years of dating in our late 20s, he said he wanted to save up, for an ATV or dirtbike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:58 AM
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Hi, I hope you do too! He was cute in his online pics, but WOW in person. I messaged him first but he asked me on a date. So many unsuitable guys. It took me over 2 years of OLD to find him. If gems were everywhere though then we wouldn't value them. My strategy was be true to myself and my value. He was the one who wanted us to be exclusive, but I stated my expectations for that and held true to them. I'll just say I didn't do everything FDS says we should do, but I did do the things I felt wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:56 AM
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For introverts like me it was my only way to meet men and OLD is how I met my husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:58 PM
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Hi, if he's shy then he needs to work on himself to overcome that before he's ready to date. It's not your job to mentally coach him into acting right. Even a shy guy will take a chance on a woman he's super into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:56 PM
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When I was dating, I met several great guys. I met maybe 3-4 a year. However they weren't the right men for me, so I let them go. I hope they're making someone else as happy as I am now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:06 AM
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Married to an amazing man. I come to this sub for the pro woman and self esteem posts. I'll say he did not act right when we first started dating, so I broke up with him! I don't normally give 2nd chances after leaving the evil ex and finding my value, but this guy was just different. So I laid down some rules, if you wanna be with me, it's gotta be like this... he thought about it, and I agreed that I am valuable and worth what I wanted. 2 years later I am in the best relationship of my life st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:43 PM
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Did you respond with the "what about men" article?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:45 PM
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JFC I have been sent so many full body nudes by guys. I wish they had more shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:30 PM
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He may just be clueless and need to be told. "Hey Darren sorry but your bathroom kinda freaks me out, can you take care of that before I come over next?" But at that age there's a very good chance he may be past help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:29 PM
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That Robyn song and the other one where she's pushing a dude to break up with his main chick make me cringe so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:23 PM
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Part 1 got removed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:13 PM
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This is how date rape happens. Please don't do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:29 PM
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Reading FDS affirms for me that my husband is amazing and I made a good decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:24 PM
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Hats in every photo, you never see teeth in any smiling photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:54 PM
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I'm overeducated and what many people seem to consider smart. When I was dating I never hid this because that's just something I wouldn't ever do. Men who get scared of this quickly show themselves the door. Men who appreciated it would be proud of it and impressed and constantly bring it up as something they love about me as much as my body or face or whatever. Let the bad guys filter themselves out and you just be you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:49 PM
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This is very similar to living with my ex. The always harassing me to sleep naked when I was freezing hits hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:37 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 07:33 PM
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I don't advocate for anyone under 25 getting married. Your personality isn't finalized until around that age and mens aren't either. You will change and grow over the next several years and might become someone totally different. This why most marriages where at least one partner is under that age fail. If you're in love and it's forever, then there is no reason not to wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:30 PM
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And he will propose between 1-2 years typically if he knows. Guys waiting longer than that are just waiting to see if something better comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:35 PM
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And thank you for teaching me a new saying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:13 AM
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Oh haha. So I met so many crazy stupid men who had never so much as lived with a woman and made it to 35 or older. Some of the ones in their 30s were beyond help, some wanted a partner so bad they were willing to listen and adapt. All the ones in their 40s were beyond help. The worst ones were 100% opposed to sharing incomes if married, didn't want anyone to change their space, didn't understand why having tons of female friends was an issue, were grossed out by things like periods and woman iss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:12 AM
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What does that mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:48 AM
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Not a serial cheater and liar. Those are parts of his personality and can't be changed, especially in men over 25ish, the age when personalities kind of finalize. Simple behaviors though he will change if you let him know they aren't acceptable and he is actually invested in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:24 AM
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When I was dating I would not date men over 30 who had never lived with a woman or men over 40 who had never been married. Men over 40 who had never been married were far crazier than men who'd gone through divorce, learned some lessons and became better people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:16 PM
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Late 30s is still 30s. Guys go limp when they eat like shit and stop working out, age doesn't have to be the reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:39 AM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:17 PM
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Sorry, I'm a woman in my 30s having the best sex of my life with a 30s man. Not sure where you get your info from but maybe you're thinking of 40s men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:16 PM
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All humans can get better, but they have to know what they did wrong first before they can change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:30 PM
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Anyone within 3 years of your own age up or down is pretty much the same age. Seems like most men who will settle down first want to between 28-36 so I think that is prime marriage time for men. Why care if he's 5 years younger if he's the best man and the best match you've found? You may never find that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:19 PM
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I was watching the Madame CJ Walker story on netflix and at one point her FIL asks her husband if he knows why his marriage to the husbands mother lasted so long. The husband replies that it was because she was a good woman and they were in love. His dad says no, I stayed married because I wanted to be married. i.e. don't make stupid decisions if you want to keep your wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:36 PM
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Like me with all my exes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:16 AM
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This is one of my favorite songs of all time and yes, you are completely right. At least she comes to her senses in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:17 PM
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Oh no. I'm sorry. There are good men out there but what's really hard is finding a good man who is also the right man for you. Set your standards, be clear with them, and just know you might have to meet a lot of guys before you find yours. I dated for two and a half years straight before I met my husband. It was so much work and I had to deal with some real bs but now I'm insanely happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:10 PM
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Not only that, if his friends or family question why you're with him by saying anything along those lines of being too good for him then run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:02 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:01 PM
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I just quality vs. Non-quality. Quality equates value as a person without bringing money into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:59 PM
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Sadly the truth is many men will want to use you for sex. However by watching his behavior before you have sex you can hopefully prevent falling for that kind of douche. A man who wants to be with you will respect you, look out for you and make effort to be with you, even without sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:57 PM
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You are killing me OMG 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:53 PM
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Him giving you his number is making the first move, and in a respectful way so you don't feel pressured to give your personal contact info to someone you aren't sure about. Him giving you his number gets him bonus points in my book. Since he made the first move you can later send a "had fun, nice to meet you" text if you want to and he'll pick it up from there. Dating is a tennis game, not wall ball.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:45 PM
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Drugs are like religion and shouldn't come up until you are comfortable with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:17 PM
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Just ask them first. If you match and hit it off, say, I don't want to waste anyone's time, what are you looking to get out of here? If they say "you first" just unmatch and move on. If they answer and then change it after you answer, move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:14 PM
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" I love how I can manipulate you and make you think my fucked up behaviors are normal and should be expected. Also, you're very mature for your age."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:15 PM
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Congratulations! Welcome to your new chance at happiness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:47 AM
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This is pretty much how this conversation always went for me. I'm supposed to feel honored you're willing to lower yourself for me? Fuck right off my week is full anyhow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:01 AM
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Small breasts are beautiful and there's a whole lot of men who love them or just don't care about size. If there's nothing particularly odd about yours (two different sizes, deformed, etc.) Then I'd like to encourage you, with love and respect, to seek counseling first for a few months to decide if this is something you really want or if this is something society has made you feel like you should have. I don't think there's anything wrong with PS, as long as you're doing it for reasons in your b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:03 AM
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Don't go on tinder or hookup sites. Say flat out that you're only looking for a relationship and to settle down. The fuckboys will mostly filter themselves out. I met my husband on old but it took me 2 years of OLD. We're both introverts so there's just no way we'd have met in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:57 AM
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Jesus christ. I really wish this was satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:14 PM
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I 100% support doing this but to be honest when i was dating I did not have the mental or emotional bandwidth to pay attention to multiple men at the same time. I dated one or occasionally 2 at a time because that was all I could handle. Men are often needy and I just didn't have the patience for it and to do the things important in my life like have friends, hobbies, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:10 PM
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Recently on 2x there was a thread about how the bill should always be split on dates. Pretty sure a man posted it. Anyhow so many commenters saying how they were proud to pay for themselves. When I was dating it was the MEN who taught ME that a man will always pay if he is really in to you. I got some downvotes for saying my piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:51 PM
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I hope someone xposts this to 2x. More women should read it and know they're not "cool" for tolerating shitty selfish sex and doing so makes things worse for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:33 PM
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I always advocate for giving feedback once. I think you did the right thing for future women he comes into contact with. I know many here don't agree with me, but I feel it's our duty to look out for other women in this way. If he doesn't have a good man in his life to teach him, he'll never figure it out otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:56 PM
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Absolutely agree. A good man is determined by how he treats you and others, not how expensive of a date he can take you on. Effort > cash, especially in your 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:43 PM
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I'm sorry but it sounds like you don't know or recognize your value yet. You're irreplaceable. Full stop. If he wasn't right for you and he let himself out the door, good. Makes your life easier. If he didn't appreciate you then at least now there is room for someone to come along who can. Truthfully sometimes two good people are just not right for each other too and there's nothing wrong with that. The best thing to do is pay no attention to what he's doing and just focus on making yourself hap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:02 PM
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I agree with you. I came here for the pro female attitude but just keeping seeing the men are trash memes. I'm sorry a lot of guys are shit but I want to build myself and others here up, not waste energy tearing down men who don't deserve my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:22 AM
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Bums me out too as my ex did this 100%. But then I realized, the next guy I date might be awesome to me because he learned from the woman who came before me. In that way she's a hero and I owe my happiness in part to her. I decided if my ex does not put the next woman through the hell I went through then I have contributed to womankind. The truth is adults don't change unless there are severe consequences and his consequence is he lost me forever. I should hope that humbles the shit out of him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:23 PM
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My SO is amazing in bed, but he's also an awkward introvert that is not social, outgoing, athletic, energetic or witty. The most important factors for me were that he listened to what I wanted, rather than those jackasses who would try to tell me how I should like it or just ignored me when I gave them direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:16 PM
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I don't have all the answers but I do know you have to be willing to be up front with your expectations and a good man will be receptive to them. I don't see why a man can't change if he wants to, we've all seen a guy clean up his act after he gets dumped and becomes better for the next woman. But you have to have your boundaries, explaining something more than once to a person is not worth it, and some behaviors are unforgivable no matter what. If you find yourself having to explain shit like w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:10 PM
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I get so tired of the hatred towards single moms on reddit. Like most those guys weren't raised by a single mom themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:51 PM
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Any possibility it was a dude trying to troll and pretend to be a woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:47 PM
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It took me months to pull myself together after leaving my ex and truly realize how horrible he was. I'm so proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:43 PM
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Experience can be an advantage and not baggage depending on if they grew from whatever happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:03 AM
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Men are people and can grow and change. Some men I would have never spoke to in their 20s grow into good men in their 30s. Honestly if over 30 look for divorced men, ones who are not bitter and own their part in the relationship failure, and who are actively working on themselves can be some of the best men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:02 AM
37

My exes mom seemed almost gleeful to have him to herself again when I left. So disturbing .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:57 AM
11

All considerate adults would try to an extent, but there's a scale. Unlocking his door when he opened yours = not a doormat, him expecting you to know what he wanted for dinner when you barely know him = fuck that guy. My point was if he was inconsiderate, before you block you should let him know "hi, this isn't going to work out because you told me to dress up and then expected me to walk through the park in heels for our date. That was inconsiderate. Bye" then block before he either begs apolo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:27 PM
17

I believe in giving feedback, I don't expect either side to mind read. If he fucks up and you leave, tell him why. You'll probably be doing the next woman a favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:12 PM
37

DM her with a link sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:20 AM
16

For real. One of my besties is still trying to be the cool girl. It hurts to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:41 AM
7

You just made me feel super validated with who I chose to marry. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:42 PM
2

So I've been told that theres strong rumors in Hollywood that he's gay and the girls are all smoke screens. Makes sense from that perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:07 PM
25

Everyone told me what a great guy my ex was. Being with him was the lowest point of my life. Sometimes you can only really know someone after months with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:29 PM
1

Every man who says this is just cheating on his wife who has no idea about their upcoming "divorce."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:19 AM
1

I'm 100% with you. If he's not ready to commit by 2 years in and he's over 30, time to move on, he does not value you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:13 AM
2

I'm so sorry this has been your experience. I've met those types too. Thankfully I didn't settle and finally after years met a guy who puts me first in bed. In the meantime, amen to self love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:09 AM
18

What did he do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:13 AM
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