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I appreciate this community a lot and want to continue to see it succeed. I do think the mods are overwhelmed. Perhaps we need some more mods. Or a mod schedule — the ones we have are engaging with abuse 24/7. It can’t be good for their mental health. They likely don’t have energy left to engage in thoughtful discussions with us at the end of the day, and that is okay. They are human. I would be happy to help coordinate. Mods, feel free to reach out if the idea of a mod sked appeals to you. Or m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:44 PM
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Ugh. I’m angry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:44 AM
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I didn’t say slam the door on conservative women. I said, conservative culture has no place in this space. I meant what I said and I said what I meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:04 PM
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The gun argument made me almost absolutely lose it. A message to the podcast ladies: you let her slide on a lot of stuff that you would never let a scrote slide on. There was a ton of doublespeak. You know this. Please make it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:37 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:35 PM
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This is the best comment to sum up the issues with Elle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:32 PM
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I don’t come to FDS for both sides-ing. I am listening but already feel I won’t make it through the episode. Conservative culture has no place in a woman-only space. That’s what I know through my experience. ETA: I also support through Patreon. This should be the last of Elle on the regular pod or bonus content, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:21 PM
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Felt the exact same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:19 PM
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You forgot MY NECK MY BACK LICK MY PUSSY AND MY CRACK that’s how it goes bud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:59 AM
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“I’m not a good person” “I’m an asshole” “I’m fallible, I’m replaceable” All things said to me by NVMs and all ended up being entirely true. Yes, believe them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 08:02 PM
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This is really good. I feel like Laci did a pretty good job hosting our ladies, but I swear I could detect a tone of amusement at the end where she said “if you want to know more about their strategy” or whatever. Also she sounded really out of touch a couple times. “So you really think all that most men want is sex? Really?” Lady, have you been outside lately? Like? Tf. Reaux, Savannah and Lilith killed it though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 08:00 PM
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I wished I would have gone to this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:37 AM
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“Service me” this guy needs to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:54 PM
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Stg ladies this kind of thing scares tf out of me. If you don’t play it just right they will do this shit to you — that’s how I feel. Like I’m constantly on guard. I’m just so fucking glad I have an actual strategy, now. That’s what’s empowering — not “sex work,” not hookup culture, not OnlyFans or anal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:16 AM
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Software engineers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:21 AM
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I remember the college thing made me feel so torn inside and I hoped I would never make that mistake. So far, so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:55 AM
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I had someone start in with the “I think it’s actually tough for men out here” the other day. Someone I work with at my second job; we were out having drinks. I was like nah, I gotta get up and leave if we are going to go this way with discussion. Another man at the table said “oh so you think (other man) and I have easy lives?” 🙄 that’s not what I said if you were listening. But you’re a scrote so you weren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:16 PM
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It ranges from the bigger, heavier stuff, to the smaller things. Have sex when I do not want to. Consent to sex without a condom because it feels better and mUh PeNiS. Be unselfish. In life, in my career, in my personal time and hobbies. Not ask for raises in the workplace because others have families to care for. Date. Get married. Move over for other single men on the sidewalk. Laugh when a man makes a joke — no matter if it’s funny. Smile. Give men attention. Watch porn. I may edit this and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:38 AM
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Mods, if you can use some Patreon money, may I recommend the transcription service temi. It will allow you to easily share the transcripted audio to members. And is fairly affordable, as far as transcribing services go. Or I’m willing to do it for a nominal fee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:47 PM
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Same. I hate seeing women torture themselves over bottom-barrel scrotes. Which, this guy clearly is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:45 PM
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I love, and am so fucking proud of, my home state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:17 PM
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This is 💯 the summary of this story. Well done sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:07 PM
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Cool Girl alert!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:58 PM
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It was my senior year of college. He was in law school, a 3L, when we met my junior year. He got a job in big law in NYC, which made him miserable. Long story short, one night he said I wouldn’t have to worry about him anymore because he would be gone soon. I worked at Planned Parenthood as a teen, as a peer sexuality educator, so I would teach classes to other high school students about sexual health. It was a really great program. In that program, I became a mandated reporter. Meaning, if anyo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:01 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:26 PM
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Like. I’m happy for people if it works for people. I guess. 🤣 idk I’m pretty set that the way to enlightenment and happiness is work that benefits the world, and working on yourself. Like, while you’re sober and awake. So yeah psychedelic tea seems like cheating to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:58 PM
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Couldn’t get past 12 ayuasca or however you spell it, trips. Hate people using drugs as a stand in for “enlightenment”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:14 PM
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The music. The whole thing. Everything about this is cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:40 AM
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Maybe it is. But all I know is she’s had guests she’s dated before on her show, and it didn’t work out; she literally asked them “why won’t you date me???!” In the highest-pitched voice ever. And then we all just wait for the answer — it’s so awkward and awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 01:10 PM
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Great snooping. Thank you for sharing your methodology. And, nice save — you just saved yourself so much time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:07 AM
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Nicole Byer? The…one with the podcast called, “Why Won’t You Date Me?” (Yes, I’ve listened. So cringe.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:56 AM
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My mornings are pretty spartan — glad you can just take it easy, there, champ. ETA: I found the tweet and the replies are HYSTERICAL. One guy said “my mornings are pretty Spartan. If one of the kids is looking the slightest bit peaky, I take them up to the nearest hill and just let them die.” 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:37 AM
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Damn, this cut deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:16 AM
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Truly. I will try to remember to refer to it often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:32 AM
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And I hope they still do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:44 PM
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Got news for him, too; that ain’t singing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:44 PM
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No worries. And she is. I meant it as a compliment to her — I remember seeing the list of requirements and thinking, wow, my friend could totally do that! I told her, and of course as a woman, her first response is no no no, I can’t! So frustrating. So I just thought, when I saw this clip, how funny she would doubt herself at all. Clearly the folks at NASA aren’t the brightest rocket ships, anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:32 PM
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I was raised to be a gentleman… And I think … So he basically co-opted some stuff he was raised on and then added an ending of his own — pay for dates, but only til you get tired of doing so. Then demand she pay because, equality. Scrotey McScroteface over here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:11 PM
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Sure. I just meant, you are capable of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:00 PM
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This is the part that gets me. Girl, if you’re reading this, know I was in a similar situation. The guy was my age, but still abusive and the relationship was shit in general, after a while. It’s even worse that your dude is 28 and you’re 20. Spending your 20s alone is something I can’t recommend enough. I wish I could prescribe it for all women. Shit, maybe I’ll say that after my 30s, too! All I know is this: I spent my 20s looking out for no one but myself and nothing but my career. It’s benef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:01 AM
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I have never seen this before and it made me cry. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:37 AM
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Found this story: https://www.statepress.com/article/2018/11/spmagazine-multicultural-center-at-asu So, on top of the fact that many of you pointed out; that these guys were clearly there to make trouble — it sounds like the center could be new to the campus. It also sounds like uni mgmt took some convincing — not at all easy to do. It just became a safe space, and these dickheads are going to show up and invade? Pieces of garbage. I am so sorry for your friend. If anyone starts a GFM or anythin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:28 AM
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Lmao. One of my two bffs from high school is a civil engineer. She’s a bad ass. I told her she could work for NASA. no, I couldn’t, she said. I just sent her this vid and said “I rest my case”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:13 AM
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I relate to a lot of this. I never wanted to be one of the kids who didn’t talk to their parents but I haven’t in a few months now and I’m doing great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:47 AM
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Because you may not want it right now. Maybe it’s more of a bother to make the commitment to date, etc., than it is to not. That’s what it is for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:34 AM
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This. It will never be different. Your guy isn’t special. You aren’t special. Build yourself, instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:30 AM
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Lol no. They don’t appreciate it. They see you as a chump and a half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:07 AM
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TLO (transunion) and nexis are great for this. Find friends (who are journalists, or other professions with connections) and they can sometimes swing a favor for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:08 PM
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“Nature walk” every fucking walk is a nature walk. Bugs and plants and hot sun do not for romance make, okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:59 PM
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Oooh, I didn’t think of this. No doubt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:12 PM
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Using this 💯 thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:08 PM
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I remember when a group of girls from my office paid an insane amount of money to go to her Lemonade tour. I remember the pickme-est of the group being like “oh, you don’t like Beyoncé?” in the most judgmental tone ever. I was thinking, sorry for not pretending to love this crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:33 PM
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I told a guy recently I didn’t know if I wanted to get married or even cohabitate with a man. He said: “Oh, I don’t like that. So what, if I go homeless, you’re just gonna let me be homeless?” Why the fuck are you even thinking that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:28 PM
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THIS. when he got up and went to the bathroom, I told my coworker “he can go now, though” 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:21 PM
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Men who propose on hikes 👎👎👎👎 big no from me dawg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:10 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:54 PM
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Started watching this morning before work. Had to stop bc it was upsetting me but I will finish it later tonight. Policing in this country is so fucking pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:56 PM
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I value this two cents to infinity, and thank you for sharing it. I agree, building more conversation around this topic is a great idea. I also felt really enlightened after reading u/Inspection-Critical’s response, as well. Many of you shared so many gems of wisdom, today, and you gave me a place to turn for positivity and strength instead of wallowing, or even making another mistake. (Reconnecting or connecting with another LVM) I thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:51 AM
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I want to go for men at my level. I tend to go for who I’m attracted to, physically, though, and those two don’t always match up, you know? Sucks. Hoping therapy and continued work on myself, and maybe just maturity, will change that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:13 PM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:36 PM
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Thank you. This was powerful and well-written, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:58 PM
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For sure. I can see now how it is unclear, but that is actually what I meant in my post, I just phrased it wrong. I am indeed so incredibly far out of his league he would need Jeff Bezos money to go out on a date with me. And he certainly don’t got that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:38 PM
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Yes. For context, everyone, I am in therapy too. Yes, troublesome relationship with my dad, and all that. I’m sure in my case they’re related — that history, and my deep feelings of inadequacy when rejected by men. Although he will bullshit and speak differently on it, my dad truly believes a woman’s place is in the home and with kids. So me, as a career woman with no intent to start a family, is his worst fucking nightmare. So naturally, I fucking love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:29 PM
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Thank you so much sis. Needed this this morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:27 PM
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💯 THIS. It is so unsafe for women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:58 AM
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Yes, this. It’s not being sustainable or woke, it’s being cheap and filthy. I do have some respect for people who live a nomadic lifestyle bc I like showers and beds too much. I don’t even like camping. The one van-life couple I know of (one of my boss’ daughters; she’s a major pickme) — they basically live at his moms place. That’s where they do laundry and stay when they don’t feel like sleeping in their vans I guess. She says she doesn’t know what she would do without his mother, because his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:54 AM
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Just to be clear: you don’t have to be disagreeable, aloof or a cranky bitch, but if you want to be, that’s entirely your right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:38 AM
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Absolutely terrifying. I think the “van life” lifestyle is a huge gathering pool for LVM because, so many reasons. It’s really easy to be low effort, and you can apparently use it to just disappear a woman. What the fuck, ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:36 AM
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I needed to read this for my own situation, and it’s also great advice for OP. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:01 AM
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I got my degree by doing two years at community college and finishing at a top-tier public school (in the states) — I would never ever do it another way. The first two years at university can be a real ripoff. There are benefits for socialization and other reasons, to go all four years, but in the end in the real world it makes no. fucking. difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:59 AM
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“Your job can’t make you coffee in the morning” Really? It did buy me a coffee machine I can set to make it for me though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:48 AM
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I didn’t finish reading. You know. And I’m here to tell you you’re right. You can do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:48 AM
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I remember in my pickme phase I, too, dated someone I thought was model-grade good looking. A friend of mine met him and asked if I was really serious about him. I said, probably not. My friend (who is a man, and gay) said, good. He wasn’t as cute as you are, I thought! — Lol! edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:57 AM
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It’s gonna be a no from me dog. Actually living with a dog would be better than you. And I’m a cat person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:22 AM
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I just want someone (er, if I want someone) who rarely if ever games. That’s where I’m at, and I just have a Switch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:54 PM
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💯 couldn’t agree more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:08 PM
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The outfits they suggest are ridiculous often both in style and cost, I might add.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:45 AM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:59 AM
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Yeah. This is a group trip as well. They said they don’t care if we pay them back but it’s obviously more fun if more people go. No big though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:22 AM
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Oh yes. Yes ma’am. I was never considering not going. I am bummed she isn’t coming but glad he isn’t. 🤡 I do wish she were less of a pick me. Hate to say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:53 PM
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I totally encouraged it. She said she’s exhausted and wouldn’t at 100%. They did just move, so it’s understandable. I’m bummed though bc I like her a lot. He’s a drag. If ya couldn’t tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:47 PM
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Decided she didn’t want to, either. Said she is too tired, which may be legit. She seems to do all the cooking and general housework in their household. It was just inconsiderate of her bf to sign up to work when we knew we had plans. And if he wanted to go I think they would both be coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:54 PM
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I’m sorry. Don’t let him ruin all journalists for you! There are still some good ones out here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:10 PM
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If anyone thinks abortion (or even plan B) is an easy form of birth control, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:04 PM
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Make a list of all the shitty things he said and did. Then pull it out every time you start missing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:54 PM
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The few times I did them I had bad breath and was pissed bc I was hungry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:49 AM
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I’ve heard men justify cheating and porn use with “I deserve it” like what the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:12 PM
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I think things for the house are even spoiling him. He also gets to enjoy not worrying about having to dress the baby or buy the clothes for the baby. He also benefits from her treating her self because he gets to look at her every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:07 PM
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She’s going to have to learn the hard way. She already hinted that they disagree about how to budget money. Also he games 3-4 hours a day and she said at first it bothered her but she realizes that’s time she gets to spend to herself. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:08 PM
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This is the message. And her eyes just gloss over as she says “but we are in love and I trust him and marriage is fOrEvEr”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:59 PM
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“It ain’t you is it sis? It ain’t you is it?” 😂😂 and NO MA’AM IT IS NOT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:34 PM
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Yes, my thoughts exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:29 PM
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They got married when he was 53, she 18. It gets even worse: “In Wyman’s 1991 autobiography, A Stone Alone, he was more forthcoming. “She was a woman at 13,” he wrote. “Everyone accepted her as an adult without question.” The film is even more circumspect about the most improbable aspect of this story. There’s no mention that, in 1993 – the same year Wyman divorced Smith – his 30-year-old son Stephen married Smith’s mother, who was then 46. (That couple split two years later.)” 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:04 AM
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TLDR: no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:27 PM
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I feel like it’s always trying to create false intimacy too. Like texting me this a day or two after we started talking, trying to get me to think I’m on your mind first thing in the morning. I haven’t had my coffee yet let alone have the energy to be annoyed by this (I agree) low-effort shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:26 AM
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Wow, brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:07 AM
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Some level up-dates! ☺️ I started keeping a yearly and monthly budget spreadsheet to track spending and see where money is going, and to help me pay off my credit card debt more quickly. It’s already helping. I am now seeing an aesthetician and using professional skincare products. I’ve struggled with acne all my life and idk why or how I waited this long! I had a really stressful start to this year and it’s finally calmed down somewhat. I’m getting back into a workout routine and it feels reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:14 AM
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James Holmes, the Aurora, CO movie theater shooter, idolized the Joker, as well. There are news stories to back this up. Perhaps link her to those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:56 AM
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“Good morning” 😂 thank you for including this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:50 AM
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So true. Two of my coworkers are together, a man and woman. He walked up to her today and asked her when she made a dish, so he knew it was ok to eat for lunch. He had already brought it, number one, and number two, she’s given me the whole “I like to cook and he’s terrible at it, anyway” speech, which I always think is a lie, or the very least an excuse (and a poor one at that) for a man’s absolute inability to take basic care of himself. They can’t even do basic shit like cook and clean. How w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:49 AM
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Made me lol, thanks queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:44 AM
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Yeah, how did I miss that. He also shouldn’t be allowed to care for a dog imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:42 AM
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This is disgusting on so many levels. Where to begin, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:41 AM
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Just followed him. What a great organization that he works for. Wish we had a similar one in the states. (Do we?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:55 PM
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Yep and yep. They’re both porn addicts and they know how I feel about it, which created some distance. My dad gets drunk and texts me to tell me I’m a failure — FDS gave me the strength to block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:28 PM
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I am not upset or raising an issue, to be clear. I just was curious! I definitely ain’t mad at a good, accurate, sassy tiktok 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:07 PM
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Totally; I just always thought MFM meant text-only posts. Or that’s what it seemed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:47 PM
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What happened to meme free Monday? I love this one though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:52 PM
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Yes. People harangue me each time I say I live alone and have for years, about money. But I don’t want anyone weighing in on or restricting or even at this point anyway, affecting my decisions and what I do. It’s just never been who I am. I fucking hate being told what to do and men always do that. At some point or another, the man-splain happens. Idk how I’ll ever have a relationship/live with someone. I’ll miss this so much. Maybe too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:34 PM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:32 PM
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Same!! That part made me lean over and laugh! I love it and will be using it. Thanks queen 👑 so happy for this mama and her boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:23 PM
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“Omg” he was really expecting it. Who is raising these lil boys??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:37 PM
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He’s gross anyway. His music is all I need to hear to know how he feels about women. One of his music videos is of him surfing on his own ejaculate after it goes in a woman’s mouth. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:28 PM
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“I thought I might be coming down with a cold” How could you not know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:34 PM
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This breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:43 PM
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Kids are 10 and 12 so they don’t cost much anymore. College, bud?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:46 PM
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Yes, the best energy and advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:09 AM
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This episode was one of my absolute favorites. She was great to listen to, talking to our favorite ladies, and I love her energy. 10/10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:07 AM
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Thanks queen 👸🏼 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:10 PM
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Two douchey ways to spell fire. Fyre, and this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:56 AM
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Yeah, that’s sort of what the ETA is for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:23 PM
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All of this. If a man proposed to me in the same place I can get a mosquito bite, just NO, DAWG!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:55 PM
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I’ve considered it for a spot that’s sort of dented in (an abusive ex once made fun of it) on my forehead from a car wreck. I’m not even sure that it would be the right thing to use, but I would like to look into it. I just don’t know where to start. FWIW, I agree; male* gaze bad. Everything else we want and we do, good. Thank you for opening this topic up ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:32 AM
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This is how I feel, too. I can’t imagine getting a roommate — even someone I really liked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:23 AM
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No use crying over spilled milk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:45 PM
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“What would’ve you done?” I will not be the grammar police. I will not be the grammar police. I will not be th— 😶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:01 PM
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Ugly, fat, and entitled. The scrote trifecta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:35 PM
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💯 this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 06:31 PM
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Everything about this!!! 🙌 yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:46 PM
1

Seems like quite a few things are being violated re FDS standards here. Did you read the handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:47 PM
88

Men who idolize/idealize Bukowski or love him to death 🤮 they’re telling on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:45 PM
43

Any indication of violence. One guy would pull back while we were making out and say “I want to bend you over this couch and fuck you” or “I want to throw you up against the wall and fuck you.” Also just a general and constant attempt to touch you/kiss you/be sexual with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:56 PM
46

This needs a TW at minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:22 AM
27

I wish they would just call it porn. Call a spade a spade, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:53 AM
4

I wouldn’t just because men love any excuse to get violent or angry. Just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:16 PM
4

Love this post. Thanks sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:06 PM
5

My mom always scoffs and kind of makes fun of me when I say I’m scared of childbirth. It hurts me deeply, especially because I’ve broken my back and hip, previously. She acts like it’s just a thing I should be able to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:04 PM
12

Just want to FYI, here: this is a copyright violation and we can get busted for doing it — easy way for scrotes to get this sub taken down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:41 AM
25

“In general it’s best to live your life based on the bad activity of scrotes” is not advice I’m ready to wholesale endorse. Don’t walk alone in a dark alley at night, okay, but don’t limit your own everyday liberties either. You should be able to work on your laptop on a plane and not get harassed. Just want to keep the focus here: men are the problem, not women doing work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:30 AM
29

My first thoughts exactly. “Wow, this man hates this woman”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:43 PM
3

Get your career. Long, and sometimes lonely nights, yes; but it’s a more reliable path and plan than anything to do with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:54 AM
180

Right, not subconscious, just overtly weird and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:35 PM
3

I see it’s deleted, now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:56 AM
19

Think about her coming here for support or inspiration, and reading your comment. I feel uncomfortable reading it, honestly, and it’s not because of the content of the message. It’s the delivery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:59 AM
35

Me and my kitty, who was recently also sick (and got better!) send you good vibes. Might I suggest small amounts of baked or grilled chicken breast, cut up into tiny pieces, if you are not already doing a special diet of some kind. I still feed my girl some reg cat food mixed in so she gets all the vitamins and minerals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:52 AM
4

I had a friend (who’s moving from Austin to Houston to be closer to a guy, and this is after a really bad divorce where previous guy cheated — idk why she’s taking this jump for a dude, again, as she moved for a her ex husband, too) recently try to change our video call hang out to a phone call while she was driving. Insulting. I just calmly said no, I prefer a video chat, so let’s find another time. I hate that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:13 PM
28

I lived my entire life, up until very recently, being family therapist. It is so tiresome. And listening won’t help them act right. My suggestion would be to try setting a boundary. Then, when younger sis is old enough, get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:55 PM
30

Omg, they treated you like an equal?!!! 🙄 lord almighty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:33 PM
7

Came up with a couple more: How to stop doing all the emotional labor in relationships Why women are so exhausted (see above, lol) bc we are expected to do it all — even if not in a relationship — and how to fight that/change the mindset instilled in all of us; to Be caretakers of all things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:50 PM
6

💯 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:43 PM
58

Lol this makes me feel better about what I consider to be my “unproductive” days, where I still get laundry done while watching movies or documentaries or reading. Lol. Thank you for the perspective! (I tend to be very hard on myself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:48 PM
16

I love the podcasts and hosts. A lot of what I would say has been said here. But. How do we embrace radical feminism and FDS and not hate the world? And every man in it? I know we’re not supposed to but WOW it’s hard. Especially when you are pretty damn smart, and can see right through people within 5 min. There are so few genuine people out here. Appreciate any advice on keeping a realistic worldview, but also finding a way to be happy/content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:15 AM
19

I told a guy about how I may want to be committed but live separate, and he goes, well that’s not going to work either. Are you just going to let me go homeless? I was like…ok bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:09 AM
6

Yes!! Mine is a massage and facial, and they do candle-making at this spa, too 🥰 I’m doing all 3!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:05 AM
110

Made a budget, finally Booked a long-weekend getaway for myself. Includes a spa day and a place where I can hole up and read and write, and take my cat, and see beautiful countryside/mountains Big one: stopped talking to my father, because he gets drunk and sends me mean texts, telling me I’m a failure and I need to just deal with the problems that come my way (ok, I will, and always do; have not asked them for a cent)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:38 PM
10

I got a tiktok for her and jowodaa basically, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:14 PM
41

Also how do you ever know what’s legal or not legal? How old the performers are? Who is paying for what, or if their boundaries/consent were pushed too far?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:43 PM
5

Used the NY Post story on this bc it has the screenshots linked at the bottom. Otherwise, not a huge fan of NY Post, generally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:03 PM
7

“Broke boys don’t deserve no pussy — I know that’s right!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:38 PM
56

Yes, everything she has accomplished is praise-worthy! But you do not have to go to Harvard, or any Ivy, to be great. They’re filled with problematic men and practices and admission qualifications.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:32 PM
62

This really resonates!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:22 PM
14

Love this mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:11 AM
2

Possible! Her caption doesn’t say anything about warning her fellow woman tho. Just sth about “second hand embarrassment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:10 AM
0

Possible! Her caption doesn’t say anything about warning her fellow woman tho. Just sth about “second hand embarrassment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:10 AM
117

Either that or smoking a bunch of weed or ramming women in video games with cars. Must suck to be a man, honestly. Glad I’m a woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:23 PM
44

Also whyyyy is she making a tiktok to joke about it? It ain’t funny sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:01 PM
216

Seriously. How tf did we get here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:40 AM
11

I think every man I’ve ever dated contributed to this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:02 PM
12

Thank you for this update, and for all you do, mods. I have been so so so enjoying the podcast while working my second gig (nights at a local bookstore, spent shelving and cataloguing — it’s so soothing! Especially with the FDS pod in my ears 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:01 PM
46

Dennis Quaid “it never comes up” lol do you mean your d*ck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:54 PM
5

I liked it, too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:43 AM
29

I picked up a second job recently to offset some hospital bills. I would never ever consider getting a second job just to go on vacation with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:27 AM
42

Eating too little has really gotten me lately. Good food prep takes time and I haven’t been giving it to myself lately. I’ve eaten well today though, and with that, I think I’ll go make some risotto to help get me through the week
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:14 AM
33

Happy recovery 👍💕 my little baby girl kitty is my everything, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:02 PM
30

Wow, damn. I could have easily thought it was a bunch of different nightmares…nope, just one big nightmare!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:00 PM
13

💯 what a beautiful board, and I love this mindset!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:49 PM
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All of these ladies just made me so happy that I’m single 💕 I know that’s not the point, and I don’t mean to say I don’t have sympathy for them. But I always see these kinds of posts as cautionary tales. ETA: oh wow, this is all just one woman’s posts. Hope she finds us soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:34 PM
10

Honestly. The last guy I dated seemed to never brush his teeth. I have impeccable dental hygiene so it was quickly over. I remember covering my mouth and nose one time when we were cuddling. Awful. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:22 PM
22

Goodness, I love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:56 PM
23

I love this, thanks for sharing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:39 PM
17

Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed is excellent life advice, too. Thanks queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:11 AM
95

It’s gonna be a no from me dawg (of course the pun is intended)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:01 AM
14

🔨 nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:19 PM
3

I’ve been single for most of my life. You’ll be just fine! Better, even!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:57 PM
8

Best. Part 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:49 AM
1

God I just love her so fucking much. Basically got a tok to follow her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:49 AM
14

Uggggh fuck. Also, men who text me “good morning” right away get dissed. I hate that shit. So fake and so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:38 PM
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Yeah I fuckin hate this question the most because they NEVER EVER EVER want to hear the actual answer. I have started just honestly giving it to em. Snapping my fingers and everything, and asking “do you see a man around here good enough for me?” puts hand above eyes, looks around, like a sailor “because I sure do not!!!” Shuts them up, usually with an uncomfortable laugh. And I get a little kick because oh, you have to uncomfortable laugh — for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:54 PM
69

Agree with this whole post. It’s the ultimate “why we don’t build-a-man” tale. Every woman must watch. I would say men should watch too, but they would not get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:53 PM
7

Just binged this and feel so bad for Betty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:46 AM
4

This song is life and I’ve had it on my “power” playlist for months now! “Please proceed to light this b*tch up, life ain’t fair you fight for your cut”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:37 AM
10

Lol, respect. Dickglove ruined my day too! Like man sometimes, with satire, it’s like okay, but did you really need to go there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:13 PM
10

Ah, alright, alright. I’ve only seen Burnam’s newest special, which I loved! And I’ve seen other queens on here say great things about him. So I saw this, and wondered if it was something from earlier in his career. But satire makes complete sense; duh (to me) that’s basically his entire style. Thanks for clearing it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:35 PM
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🙏🙏🙏 for saying it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:57 AM
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I’m not sure what else to say besides I hate it ETA dickglove is disgusting ETA2: I realize now it’s satire. I’m not that familiar with him but of course, makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:37 AM
3

🫖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:22 AM
7

Saw that post 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:40 AM
56

I’m here to give the not fascinating perspective. I am excited to never be exhausted by chasing a small person around — and then giving them what they said they’ve wanted all day, only for them to tell me that’s not what they want. I am excited to not have to feel badly about a post-pregnancy body (come on, in this society, it’s gonna happen unless your self-esteem is that of Teflon). I am excited to have all my money and time for me. I am excited to spend it how I want and need to. I am excited…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:29 AM
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I’ve switched to reusable and refillable personal products where I can. I’m a part of a CSA and try to grow some of my own food. I compost. I recycle and try to reuse plastic bags as many times as I can before actually throwing them away. I donate to climate research and buy products that in full or at least in part support clean energy, the oceans, clean air, preserving our forests, etc. I support small businesses, so as to decrease demand for big box stores and hopefully, someday, shrink their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:23 AM
45

How did you meet, if I may ask?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:13 AM
27

This is also a good example for us ladies whose fathers completely failed to be good partners to our moms, and resent us for how much she depends on us. (I mean, my dad also resents and hates me because I’m more successful than he ever was) My dad is an alcoholic and porn addict, and I’ve carried the weight of listening to my mom complain and deal with those things for my whole life. My brother, who we recently found out is also a PA, has never fucking had to deal with or listen to her or any of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:19 AM
19

Always!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:03 AM
54

The dudes who bitch and moan about condoms are just so fucking ripe. Sometimes literally!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:10 PM
12

That is ok! My knowledge may have limits bc I am in the States, but hopefully I can still find a way to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:39 PM
16

Heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:34 PM
11

Followed this TikTok account (the one providing commentary, NOT the MRA douche canoe) and glad he’s out there spreading the gospel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:27 PM
7

DMing you. I work as an investigator in the US and would like to try to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:21 PM
8

Watched the GRAMMYs with an ex pickme friend. When Megan performed, she was like, blown away. “Oh my gosh! I didn’t realize how thick she is! Good for her!!! Nice to see some representation!” And I was like yeah. It’s not that empowering to women though, it’s all still for the male gaze. She goes: “Yeah, but like, isn’t there something empowering about the fact that like, women are choosing to do it and for their own reasons?” Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:10 AM
8

I choose vanilla bc I want the ice cream cone. Idfk what the rest of it means (I do, but play along) and if a scrote says any of those words to me I will simply scream like a banshee and run. Bring me ice cream or bring me nothing, males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:43 AM
9

Ditto
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:37 AM
19

Can’t wait to get here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:32 AM
61

I legit downloaded it a couple days ago and am only following the accounts I find through FDS or other like-minded posts. Makes it so much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:24 AM
13

You just do Context: was in a car accident when I was 18; we’d all been drinking. Still, I was shocked to find out that the girls in the car with me (I was trapped in the backseat and the driver was also pinned in) got out, and called people from the party to come and get them. They never called me an ambulance. Someone at the party, a close friend of my brother’s, called one for me. I’ll never have trouble cutting people out of my life again. And I’m almost grateful for it, you know? Silence an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:16 AM
11

Yes. This TYT guy keeps fucking negging and interrupting his colleague during this whole thing. Making fun of her saying “cards on the table” brings that up 10 million times. Makes a joke at the end about how his wife should have known better. He’s a scrote and she’s thinking “well, I mean, dinner WOULD be nice every once in a while…” dinner from her man is probably a can of cold baked beans and some spam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:06 PM
5

F U C K. T H I S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:40 PM
15

I was explaining why I don’t date much to an older, married male coworker once. I said I need a man who brings value to my life. He literally just looked at me, empty-eyed, and said, “what does that mean, though?” In Paid For by Rachel Moran, in discussing the pornified culture we live in now; she says “men and women have lost each other in all of this. How is it not clear that we have lost each other?” I had to read that line like 10 times just bc it hit me so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:38 PM
112

Yes, but FDS is problematic. Totally, makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:30 PM
3

Yeah, I watched this Oprah interview today, too. I felt so bad for Betty. She’s still hurting. And Oprah was so critical in some of her questions. Lay off, Ms Winfrey; the lady is fucking sitting in prison as you are questioning her. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:38 AM
5

I have an ex-pickme friend who changed her career path and decided to go to law school herself bc her man told her that her old career path wouldn’t be sustainable. Then, she’s moving to the city where he’s doing med school, after she graduates law school. She doesn’t even want to live in Alabama but she’s doing it for him. Before I cut off contact because she criticized one of my tweets while I was going through an extremely rough time (so much shit I can’t even fit in parentheses), she told me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:36 AM
6

Love this image 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:49 PM
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Well if he doesn’t have money he sure as fuck isn’t going to have the rest of that shit she listed. Men are not happy and able to give until they reach their maximum male potential — that’s just how men work. And for them? Max male potential means making as much money and or having as much power as they can accumulate. You cannot convince me that this is not true of any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:47 PM
34

“Maybe I am a feminist” Oh, honey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:18 PM
3

Ha..hahahaha..hahahahahahahaha…hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Aha. Men don’t need anything but something to stick it into, for it to work for em. So many have actually said this, too. Men need to feel desired. Tf out of here. Men WANT to feel desired and NOBODY CARES ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT. well, I don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:35 AM
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Hi sis. We are glad you are here, and we don’t want you to hurt yourself. Things WILL get better. We are here to help. Lots of great advice about talking to lawyers. I would start there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:18 AM
7

Yes, sister. I can’t wrap my head around it either. My apartment is a mess sometimes when I work too much, and I don’t get to cook for myself as often as I would like, but having a dude around would not even help with either of those things — most likely. Til I find that HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:49 AM
16

Good point. I guess I’m leaving the door open, just a crack, in case there is someone out there who’s good enough for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:24 PM
25

It’s nothing more than saying “I think I might like to stay alone, actually” when people ask why I haven’t been dating. Or saying, “you know, I don’t see the trouble in just not participating, and enjoying your single life on your own!” when women are complaining about life on the dating apps. I’m also vehemently against porn, and don’t fear speaking up about that. It’s also fairly easy to counter the “sex work is work” arguments or any other libfem BS. I’m usually met with stunned silence. That…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:12 PM
39

I am becoming increasingly vocal (to friends, parents, brother, bosses, coworkers, Twitter, lol) that I do not desire a man in my life, as a fixture; and I don’t want to have a man’s children. I’m also transparent about why — for what reason? Unless I want that, there isn’t one. People are either immediately uncomfortable or immediately hostile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:54 PM
5

Oh. Hello SIR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:49 PM
32

Pretty sure I’m gonna get tiktok just to follow all the queens I see on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:47 PM
11

Fine, let ‘em win in that way; there’s less of a pool of nudes for them to steal from/exploit/JO to*. If they’re body-neutral and for self-love for you that’s cool, but it doesn’t matter once they’re in the hands of a scrote. And right now, there’s no way to 💯 prevent that. ETA: *fixed too to to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:55 PM
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Life is so much better app-less! ETA: I just finished Swiped the doc on HBO about OLD. It’s very much in line with our perspectives; great watch. I love the editing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:01 PM
104

I would advise never taking nudes. Not in this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:59 PM
10

Thank you for sharing your story and being here with us. Welcome and I hope you find strength here, as I have! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:58 PM
10

I do not disagree with you on that part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:52 AM
34

The second graf, the last sentence: that part 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:45 AM
11

I’m not a huge fan of the grammar policing (and I work in a job where I write for a living) Lots of times, poor grammar or spelling can indicate a lack of education — and I try not to always assume that a person chose not to have one, you know? Just don’t like tearing down people for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:43 AM
108

Easy to see why you are a disciple. Thanks for cutting through the BS and giving it to us on the real-real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:39 AM
62

Thank you. I wish it were always safe, too (and though I felt mostly safe, I did look over my shoulder twice. Never safe enough.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:32 AM
32

No, I’ve made just the one and it’s just for my wife 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:27 AM
214

A man “hey baby how you doin”-ed me on the sidewalk and there were enough people around for me to feel safe, and I was not close to him, so without looking at him, I put my hand out to the side, with my palm facing down, and pressed it in a downward motion as I shouted “NO!” And just kept walking. Drew some stares but made me feel incredible and shut him right up. Idk where the gesture came from, but it felt right. Like I was squashing him like a bug!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:20 AM
64

“Perfume, body lotion, blah-blah-blu-blu-blrrrrr” killed me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:51 PM
13

“I would absolutely do it again, totally worth it to check on my fellow human being” okay robot chicken Jesus Christ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:17 PM
4

Bosses too bigtime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:49 PM
18

We are glad you are here with us! I lurked for a loooong time too and am just about to hit 40
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:32 AM
16

So just letting you know now! How considerate and sweet xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:31 AM
3

We are here for you. Let us know how it goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:41 AM
1

Ditto this. 💗 glad you are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:14 AM
14

That is one sexual act I am so repulsed by, and that’s not a knock on gay culture. But this guy’s story is exactly why I am so grossed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:45 PM
201

This is a fact. I taught sex-ed for a while and we used to teach this, only in the interest of keeping MSM safe. If anyone engages in any behavior they should fully know the risks beforehand, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:32 AM
63

Was thinking the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:24 AM
9

All the men should have to read it. And reckon with what they think is harmless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:21 AM
1

Simply, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:35 PM
13

This!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:38 PM
21

Ah sheeeit, will look for it and change! Thank you!! ETA: wow there’s a search box in the flair selection prompt. Woo boy, can you tell I’m not one of the youngins?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:35 PM
35

Im so sorry, sweetie. You’ll be alright. Hope you have good support system of friends and family? We’re here for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:10 PM
10

Oh, gotcha! ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:06 PM
1

Hey sis, can you send me a DM please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:05 PM
12

Yep, that’s what I wrote! Did I do something wrong, here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:59 PM
2

Amen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:14 PM
7

A cop! Shocker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:10 PM
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I maybe heard about this book here, in the first place. Or maybe it was a goodreads recommendation. Anyway, I was so shocked to see our beliefs in print somewhere, honestly. And that she has been pushing this message for so long, with such a story to go with it; and still look at where we are. Imagine how many Rachels are out there who don’t speak out. It breaks my fucking heart, my sisters. Can’t recommend this book enough. ETA: mods, I know you have so much to do already. Maybe if you get a mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:08 PM
12

Just so glad to find this community and the solidarity 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:39 PM
25

Oooh will watch! Thanks sisters ETA: watching now and what did I just witness on the first date with daniel and Catherine. There was nothing genuine about that. Or him. He’s the worst ETA 2: god, this doc is making me hate OLD ETA 3: the woman laughing about Alex’s fucking 5 women per week on Tinder and saying “and then he met me” I am just disgusted by what a lot of women put up with in dating these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:38 PM
2

This! Thanks for explaining sis. I agree wholeheartedly. Almost asked him like ugh then why do I get happy and more flirty when drunk..? But remembered FDS and didn’t waste my time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:50 PM
23

Gorgeous, and on point! Love her natural makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:49 PM
38

“How many times have you felt the need to overachieve because you want to be taken seriously as a female employee?” WOMP hit me so hard. Thank you for this post sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:40 PM
95

I just don’t understand waking up and devoting your life to someone else who is not your child 🤷🏼‍♀️ like just why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:30 PM
1

Hey, apologies if it came off that way. I just got the impression you were managing how you look for the other person, and I guess you are! I guess that’s part of a relationship ☺️🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s just not for me. ETA: again; just saying here relationships are not for me. You do try to look nice for the other person, right? Whether at home or going out. And that’s fine if you want that! I just don’t. I guess this is what kind of baffles me about everyone’s need or desire to be in a relationship. There…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:51 PM
15

Men who refuse condoms, or throw a fit about using them = trash. Unequivocally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:46 PM
66

One guy I was seeing recently, while we were out for the second time we went out with some of his friends, he got drunk and mean with me. I walked out of his apartment. The next day he texted me he’s “not good with the drink” and “I’m sorry if I was a jerk” You’re sorry if you were a jerk. Number one, I was done before he said that — honestly just went home so disappointed and had turned off my phone, forgot to block; number two that’s not a damn apology. NEXT NEXT NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:44 PM
2

“We agreed” — you have to agree on what you wear..? “We like seeing each other in” — you have to like seeing each other all the time? Remind me why any of you enter relationships? Too much for me ETA: I just want to be clear here that I’m pointing out the drawbacks of a relationship or living with someone — you DO think about how you’ll look all the time. I’ve lived alone for so long I cannot imagine that, that’s all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:57 PM
7

Reason number 1827474 I’m staying childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:09 PM
16

When people ask me IRL if I use OLD, I always use a line I saw somewhere (maybe here??): We all know OLD is trash. Do queens play in trash? (Gestures to self) no, we do not. A brief moment of silence — I assume for all the men I refuse to date — usually follows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:08 PM
15

We love to see it!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:55 AM
12

A man used the words “I am not marriage-minded” with me recently...they know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:49 AM
9

Yeah but FDS is tOxIc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:23 AM
13

Yeah, this! I mean if there is no “dating” to be done, what are we wanting to actually do, here; you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:15 AM
10

This works, can confirm! Prevented me from texting a mega-LVM until I was over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:02 AM
14

“I know a lot of women who do -thing-” (when I allege women struggle to do -thing- due to systemic hurdles)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:57 AM
29

gets quiet Begins sentence with, “you know...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:56 AM
7

💯 💯 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:50 AM
3

💯 my sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:43 AM
56

Drinking that 💯 juice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:48 PM
18

No. Stop at “do not marry” is what I’m saying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:45 PM
13

And with making those faces while doing it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:32 PM
77

I will be living longer because I’m not getting married!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:13 PM
68

Reading her “suggestions” traumatized me — thanks libfem for empowering women for another day! ETA: the emptiness in her eyes when she says the fruit snacks thing. Woof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:41 PM
1

I make $10 an hour entering books into a cataloguing system at an independent bookstore owned by a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:45 AM
4

I had to stare at the fries and cheese for a while. I don’t even know why. I guess the audacity, even in food 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:52 AM
108

I fucking love it when men call me difficult. Or argumentative. Or that I have an “attitude.” I don’t say the quiet part out loud, but it’s this: I’m not and I don’t. You’re just not used to women who do anything but laugh and bat their eyes at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:43 AM
40

I think I love you?? Gonna borrow this response. Thanks queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:18 AM
68

My dad is this. I just keep my success from him now. He’s honestly just mad that I’ve done what he never could have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:49 AM
17

The ones who do kiss are HORRIBLE at it, like they’re excavating in your mouth for something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:27 AM
94

Right! Enjoy your laughter-less island, I guess. Also without Legally Blonde, it’s feminine power-less, and who wants that?!! (Oh duh. Jim does!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:58 AM
89

I hate that moment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:50 AM
16

Also drives a massive truck or noisy ass car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:09 AM
3

You mean every guy I meet? 😝😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:52 PM
18

I’m reading Lolita for the first time, finally. And whoooooaaaaa my god is May 2021 a TIME, to be reading it for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:50 PM
12

I just did this for this reason about a month ago. It’s been tough. You did the right thing, and so did I.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:29 PM
25

💯 I still go out for beers with coworkers I enjoy talking to and shooting the shit with. There are def some pickmes and LVMs in there, but some HV people too. I just monitor how much time I spend out with these groups, and make sure my cup is always full. I notice when I skimp on my self-care and home care (cleaning, taking care of plants, etc) I am more likely to go out and drink too much, and I choose spend more time with energy vampires, even if I know that’s what they are! It’s like the whol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:11 PM
26

She is supremely not giving a fuck and I’m all for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:18 PM
5

Lol, it is intentional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:54 PM
6

Hate it when dudes claim condoms suffocate or strangle their dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:24 AM
4

Taking power back, and saying things such as, “I don’t like that” and “I don’t appreciate x or y behavior” (though you should not have to do this with HV people anyway, we all sometimes have to do this — and have it done to us, to be fair) and being direct is so empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:23 AM
10

So happy you are here 💕 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:20 AM
24

Got yelled at twice this week standing outside of/getting out of my car this week in my neighborhood. Can’t wear a sundress without mentally steeling myself to get verbally attacked later that day. I swear to god one of these days I’m gonna lose it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:55 AM
19

Sweater god, this is all that’s out there. At least where I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:51 AM
53

Ngl, thought this was a joke at first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:00 AM
15

So simple and spot on, love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:11 AM
10

This is beautiful and I thank you for writing it, and reminding me of all that I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:08 AM
7

Yes hunty 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:34 AM
5

On the other side of the same coin. There are some men who just smell so good — don’t know what it is, the soap they use, the cologne, the combination, pheromones?? — it drives me absolutely insane and it doesn’t even have to be someone I’m attracted to. But then sometimes, and oh shit when it is, it is. Anyone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:07 AM
10

I like it when people kind of smirk if you mention it to them in confidence. Oh. You think you are better than having standards, hmm, how is that working out for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:44 AM
51

It’s so surreal to have a man choose porn over you. I had it happen recently and just like...fuck. You know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:41 AM
2

I told em not to several times and they did end up convincing me. I fell over after fainting (federal Walgreens vax clinic, so not the best after-care) and did hit my head so it was best I got evaluated. However, wish they did not give me 2 Epi pens, which automatically require an ER visit afterward, and an IV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:14 PM
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True. Also though. I minded my finances so well. I fainted after getting my COVID-19 vaccine and had to take an ambo to the ER, which set me back about $3k in debt. Lots of small businesses in your community are going to be dealing with an onslaught of people soon. Get out there and get that money! TLDR, no shame in second and third jobs and fourth side hustles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:08 AM
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At that point I was like okay. Is this fake? I fear it is not but that detail made me go 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:50 AM
3

Well. As a fun twist on this, for you. The issue of porn came up between my NVM father and me, and I expressed my opinions for it. He is so low and disgusting he accused me of being a “cold fish” to the men I’m with. He’s a closet racist, and I’ve dated several men of color. So, I said: “Oh. You should see who I call daddy now 👨🏿‍🦱” and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:37 PM
3

We talked tonight and she said she has thought about leaving. I don’t know that she ever will (she has said it before; she knows) but she is disabled, and likes the house they live in too, etc. but I always support when it comes up. ETA: I thought she was clueless. She apparently is not. I knew she knew about his habit years ago; didn’t know she knew about the most recent stuff. She does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:07 AM
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It’s not that the news hides it — it’s that people care more about sports ball and money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:46 AM
20

Same, and her makeup; she’s gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:36 PM
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My dad watches cam girls all night. It’s disgusting. I just confirmed this a few weeks ago, so I can never go stay in my parents’ house again. My mom is clueless and I’m basically just going to have to make excuses — I am never not fucking ever having this conversation with them. My dad gets drunk, violent and mean, so I’ll just pass on seeing my parents very much. They have super abusive tendencies and I basically raised them, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:34 PM
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Ask me again why I don’t use the apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:32 PM
1

Stillnogf Why though Phil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:27 AM
1

This is why everyone should live alone for at least a year. At least. (Going on year 7 and it’s still not been long enough)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:11 AM
3

We don’t support sex work or p0rn or prostitution here. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:37 AM
1

This. Can’t stand talking about porn or anything else, really, with other women. At a lunch with coworkers the other day, one told me she sent a guy friend screenshots with time stamps from our work CMS to prove she was doing what she said she was doing. I was like honey, what??? No. You don’t need to prove yourself to that man or any man. She brushed me off, “I know, I know,” but in an almost eye-roll-y way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:08 AM
2

Not rude at all, sis. I fully agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:06 PM
1

Countless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:24 PM
1

Herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:02 AM
31

I used to go on dates just bc I thought that’s what I’m supposed to be doing. So great to be relieved of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:31 AM
3

Last guy I was seeing (short-lived) would pull back while we were making out and say shit like “I want to bend you over this couch and fuck you” or “I want to slam you up against the wall and fuck you” it took me out of the moment 💯 and made me just go quiet and stop moving, and then say, “well, I don’t want that.” Then he leaned back and nodded vigorously as if to say “I get it. Don’t worry, I won’t.” When porn came up, he sort of bragged about watching, and I never saw him again. He was also d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:32 AM
3

Tell me you’re a porn addict without telling me you’re a porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:27 AM
1

If a dude can’t do candles he’s out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:17 AM
1

Please don’t encourage the private/incognito option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:14 AM
4

Would it be too much to suggest a guy who asks you “what’s your fantasy?” is 99.9% likely to be pornsick? No, right? Last time a guy asked me this (he was dismissed shortly after), I said, “I want someone who shows up consistently and treats me with respect. Someone I respect and I can trust. How’s that for a fantasy?” He just didn’t say anything. I knew he wanted me to be like “oMg AnAl LoL bAe PlZzZZ!!!” Haha. Haha no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:23 AM
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She is incredible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:51 PM
3

The timing, the jokes, the presentation, the edit, the everything. 100/10, thank you, miss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:17 AM
12

My dad is an alcoholic who is retired now and drunk by 3pm, if not sooner. He watches porn all night long. My parents are still together but idk how. He has hit her, verbally and emotionally and financially abused her. I mean I do know how they’re still together; she’s always felt like she has no other options. She never got the chance to go to college so she has always been pretty dependent on my dad. Pretty sure I don’t need to say what I learned from this example, haha. I just know now how im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:44 PM
2

Always loved this movie and it was always one of my favorites!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:08 PM
2

This is the 🫖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:29 AM
1

Fav comment of the night 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:37 AM
1

And she’s just parroting lines someone fed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:44 PM
1

Translated — it’s not wrong I hate it, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:17 AM
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