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| 0 | This "treat me like a human" thing that women repeat is something men could say too.What do you mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish.Sex is not a need, it’s a want. You won’t die without sex. So is love and relationship, they’re not need but “wish”, as you say. You won’t die without love or relationship, so you’re not entitled to it (following your own logic) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish.Are you asexual and trying to shame people for wanting to have sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish.Woah woah woah, you went full bazookas with this. And prostitutes? What are you even talking about? Is English your first language? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish.What does that supposed to mean? If I love someone and we can’t have sex, me leaving that for that doesn’t mean I don’t love them. Simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish.I want both love and sex, and I have a right to leave a relationship if I can’t get at least one. It’s not lying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 01:25 PM |
| 0 | Guys who say “I want to REALLY be desired” and “I just want consistency” often reveal that they see relationships as the cost of sex, not the goal itself.It’s totally fine if she had hookups in the past and now wants to take it slow and know the guy better. Just don’t ever mention you had hookups, and I won’t mention mine, especially when I won’t be asking about that kind of stuff. Making the guy wait while she used to fuck other dudes immediately in the past is fine, making the guy wait while used to fuck other dudes immediately in the past and TELLING HIM ABOUT THAT (“oh yeah, I was attracted to other guys so much I could fuck them right away, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 10:34 AM |
| 3 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?That’s a whole ass cactus | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 09:52 AM |
| – | Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons?Literally the top comment… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 05:41 AM |
| 5 | What is something in a woman’s control that makes her higher value to you?Being smart, interesting and open-minded. I want a partner that can initiate engaging conversations themselves, not just react. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Women end up hating the Men they create.Men end up hating women they create. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 01:57 AM |
| 8 | Womens behavior results in the spread of STDsThose are the exact type of women who spread STIs. And those are the exact type of women you’re specifically going after. It’s completely your choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/25 06:16 AM |
| 2 | It’s not unreasonable to ask your partner to stop watching pornOf course it’s not unreasonable to ask. And it’s also not unreasonable for him to break up with you if it becomes a dealbreaker. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/25 09:47 PM |
| 6 | Would you date someone from the purple pill debate reddit ?🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Paper Abortions are not ethically analogous to AbortionsI would agree with you but only if you base your argument from a fetus viability standpoint, not bodily autonomy standpoint. Viability standpoint allows women to have an abortion up until the fetus is viable (i.e. capable of surviving outside of the womb), or if the fetus poses and imminent threat to the mother. The bodily autonomy standpoint allows women to have an abortion all the way to the third trimester, even if there’s no imminent risk to the mother. Because if you base your argument from… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Paper Abortions are not ethically analogous to AbortionsSelling your own organs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Paper Abortions are not ethically analogous to AbortionsSelling your own organs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: How would you react if you found out your wife had a child that she gave up for adoption before you two met?You have a private investigator for your partner? 😳 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Dating for breakup is perfectly reasonable nowadaysPeople who scream “compromise” and “respect” are the ones who compromise the least and are the least respectful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 04:40 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)Wait, aren’t gold diggers hypocrites? They don’t have money themselves but are only going after rich dudes. Also, even if we differentiate being a hypocrite and being shallow, would you then agree that men who go after low n# while they themselves have high n# are shallow? If you’re fine with calling women who go after money while they themselves don’t, shallow, you can say the exact same thing about men who go after low n# while having high n#, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 04:33 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)You sure men don’t call those women gold diggers? I’ve heard a ton of men calling them that and that they’re shallow. Or guys calling them shallow for only wanting to date 6 feet and taller guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 04:13 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)The idea of “women becoming whores when they have sex” stems from their insecurities. They think the woman is gonna compare his dick size and be inevitable disappointed, since she’s more likely had a bigger dick. And telling them that big dicks actually hurt women or that the skill matters more won’t change their mind. Their whole masculinity is bound to their dick size and it being the one that “deflowered” her, i.e. “she’s never been used before”, or “her first guy took her virginity and passe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 02:14 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)Gotchu | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 12:49 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)Would you say the same thing about money then? If a woman cares about men’s wealth, then it’s not hypocritical since men don’t care about women’s wealth, right? When one side dgaf it stops making it hypocritical, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 12:48 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)It doesn’t stop making it hypocritical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 12:39 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)There’s nothing hypocritical about desiring a woman with a low n# if you have a low n# too. It is absolutely hypocritical if you desire a woman with a low n# while you yourself have a high n#. Simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 12:31 AM |
| – | Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it)They’re just selfish and lack self-awareness. The more they have sex with women, the more they increase the number of “whores” in the world, and then they complain that the world is filled with whores. But then they justify it by saying that “well if I don’t fuck her someone else would fuck her anyway”. It’s like complaining about climate change, and then throwing trash on the ground and justifying it by saying “well someone else is gonna throw trash here anyway, so it better be me”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Why do you only swipe right on the minority of men?Oh, I thought by “Don’t have a list of what you aren’t looking for in your bio” you meant don’t have something like “not looking for a serious relationship right now”, or “looking for something casual”. But yeah, the list you provided is indeed mean and condescending. Even from the pragmatic standpoint it’s just counterproductive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/24 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do you only swipe right on the minority of men?But if a man is looking for something casual, isn’t it better for him to be upfront and honest about it in the bio, rather than hide it and eventually deceive women? I feel like your #3 is counterproductive and disadvantageous to your filter. Like, it would be the same if I wanted to date women without children, and said “Don’t write in your bio that you have children”. I actually want them to write it in their bio, so that I can weed them out in the earliest stages. Nothing’s wrong with having … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/24 09:40 AM |
| 3 | If a man's only interest is having sex, why do some insist on treating a lady to date, hoping to get it?That’s the reality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/24 09:38 AM |
| 1 | If a man's only interest is having sex, why do some insist on treating a lady to date, hoping to get it?Man’s gotta eat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/24 08:35 AM |
| 4 | If a man's only interest is having sex, why do some insist on treating a lady to date, hoping to get it?Many women are open to casual sex without the condition a dude buys dinner. Not to the degree that men want to have sex. That alone creates a discrepancy. Men just want to have sex more than women. Even if all the men in the world who just want casual sex suddenly become honest about their intentions from the start, not only they won’t get more sex (because women don’t want to have casual sex as much as men do, at least not with the majority of men), but they will actually get less sex, because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/24 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?Who is “them”? Who are you showing it to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 10:56 AM |
| 26 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?Thank you for the honesty. It’s so much better when people don’t lie to themselves, it makes life so much easier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/24 03:28 PM |
| -2 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?“Show them” to who? For what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/24 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?Hottest to who? What being hot gives you? You’re not gonna get anything from another woman thinking you’re hot, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/24 03:09 PM |
| – | Feminist hate and lies helped Trump to winKk, can’t argue with that. But are you still comfortable with a liable for sexual assault president? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/24 03:43 PM |
| – | Feminist hate and lies helped Trump to winA president that was found liable for sexual assault. Does that sound better? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/24 03:26 PM |
| 6 | Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single MomsThat’s why some men advocate for paternity tests for the same reasons. They don’t want to raise someone else’s kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 11:13 AM |
| 5 | Women hate sluts more than men doYeah, like using a word incel towards people who are not actually incels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 02:57 AM |
| 1 | When you're dating a guy who's a long term / serious prospect, how do you decide whether to hook up with him first or delay sex until you're both serious/exclusive?Oh, so they’re mutually exclusive for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 10:23 PM |
| – | CMV: Porn isn't much different than real life nor is it the cause of body image issues.A pill that increases the penis size does not exist. Otherwise every male on the planet would be taking it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 01:40 PM |
| 0 | Would you prefer your son to be a genuinely good person who can't get a date, or a sexually irresistible asshole?You’re gonna be such a good and loving mom 🥹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 09:49 AM |
| 4 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentFirst of all, I’m the last person who you should be accusing of that. Second of all, I can see how you didn’t notice the explicit “/s” at the end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/24 12:10 AM |
| 5 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentWhat’s the difference? The only difference I can see is the information bandwidth. A person who thinks porn is cheating would think that erotica and imagining other people is cheating too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:43 PM |
| 7 | How are women able to walk away from a guy so easily?Yep, limerence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:35 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentHaha gotchu all g 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:34 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillment😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:32 PM |
| 3 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentOP saying masterbating, you saying mastorbating. Why is it so hard to say masturbating? 😭 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentRight? 😂 I’d rather be single if this was the standard lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:29 PM |
| 4 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentNowadays? I think most people are now accustomed to jerking off by watching porn, even those who are not addicted to it. Asking them to stop watching it is like saying “well you can send a message via pigeon, so don’t use a phone to communicate”. The only way I can see it work, is if my partner is fine with filming sex videos of us having sex so I can jerk off to them when she can’t have sex with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:25 PM |
| 3 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentRight? I want to be in a monogamous relationship so I want my wife to always wear burka. If she’s not, then she’s cheating on me by showing her face to other men and imprinting her face in their mind so they can later jerk off to the thought of her. Am I wrong for wanting to be in a monogamous relationship? You do whatever you want. You can be in an open relationship by not wearing burka, and if it works for you - totally fine. But I want to be in a monogamous relationship. /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:22 PM |
| 4 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentThe only way I can be fine with not watching porn, is if my partner would have sex with me every time I’m in the mood. Otherwise, if she’s not okay with me jerking off to porn, then we’re incompatible and we’ll part ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:17 PM |
| 6 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentModern standards has changed. And if you don’t like it, maybe a better solution would be to find a person with compatible sex drive, not force your higher libido partner suppress their sexual desires. Because nowadays, no man would put up with that when they can either fill the gap with porn, or find a person with a similar high sex drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:13 PM |
| 7 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentWould you be okay with your partner masturbating at all? In what case is it okay for them to masturbate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:10 PM |
| 6 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentMonogamy only works when both partner’s sexual desires are fulfilled. It’s much more unhealthy if one partner has to substantially suppress their sexual desires compared to them watching porn and fill that gap. But if you’re uncomfortable with that, maybe you shouldn’t be with that person in the first place and find a person who has compatible sex drive to yours. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:08 PM |
| 35 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentIf you’re uncomfortable with your partner watching porn when you can’t fulfill their sexual desires and consider that cheating, then you probably shouldn’t be with that person in the first place. It’s immoral to force your partner to suppress their sexual desires when you can’t fulfill them, so maybe you should go and find a person with the similar level of sex drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:06 PM |
| 13 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentPreach! 🙌 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:03 PM |
| 1 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?Oh shit my bad 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 04:12 PM |
| 4 | The real pill that explains modern dating in the WestYou said that if a man wants to have casual sex, he needs to date down in terms of appearance, right? But if a woman wants to have casual sex, does she also need to date down in terms of appearance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 08:56 AM |
| 1 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?You’re basically saying you don’t like communicating and be explicit. You sound like the type of people who would find explicitly asking for consent a turn off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 08:40 AM |
| 1 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?Alternative expression for the word “economy”? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 08:18 AM |
| 6 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?Yes, and what’s wrong with just wanting to bang? If they’re honest and upfront about it, what’s wrong with being sweet? Wanting only to fuck and being sweet are not mutually exclusive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 08:05 AM |
| – | The fear of being used for sex is really about insecurity and validation.If you’re in a relationship with him and cheat on him - that’s a fucked up thing. But if you never got into a relationship with him, you can’t “cheat” on him if you’re not exclusive. And even then, some men would get mad when the woman sleeps with others while they’re not exclusive (both sides are not wrong). So at the end of the day, it’s all about the compatibility. If a man wants to be exclusive from the first date - he should communicate that clearly (and also accept the fact that some women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:53 AM |
| – | The fear of being used for sex is really about insecurity and validation.While those kind of women are frowned upon because of that in reality (unfortunately), it’s the men who are frowned upon because of that in Reddit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:14 AM |
| – | The fear of being used for sex is really about insecurity and validation.Mfw sexual compatibility matters and people have dealbreakers in bed, so they cut it off with you because of that without hurting your feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:10 AM |
| – | The fear of being used for sex is really about insecurity and validation.Preach! 🙌 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Every man should live the fuckboy lifestyle if they can at some pointWait, who said anything about no protection? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 04:37 AM |
| 9 | Telling struggling men to be gay is not a valid solution.Just like there are women who have hookups and casual sex with people they just met (which means they are attracted to them only physically), there are also men who can have sex with women who are they physically attracted to. It’s just that men’s baseline physical attraction standard to women is lower than women’s baseline attraction standard to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?How is it “being in the right place at the right time” when there is a discrepancy in how much men and women complain about not having enough casual sex? If your assumption is right, then it just means that either women want casual sex much less than men, or that “being in the right place at the right time” is a skill, and only a small subset of men have it. I would bet to assume it’s the first one, which would mean that men naturally have higher sex drive than women. And apparently it’s not abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 05:31 AM |
| 3 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Yes, but she’s not attracted to him as much as she would be to a hookup partner, that’s why she wouldn’t consider him as a hookup if they didn’t know each other. But she’s attracted to him enough to give him a chance to know him, so they can build a deeper emotional connection. But that’s the fact, she’s not attracted to him as much as she would be to her hookup partner, and that’s devastating and feels pity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Wait, so to make sure her partner won’t pump and dump her she would choose a guy she’s not that attracted to? That is so sad, for both parties. It’s like saying to your partner: “I know you’re ugly enough so that you won’t run away”. And the woman being with a partner she’s not that physically attracted to. I’d rather be alone. If you think that I will “pump and dump” you, then don’t talk to me in the first place. I’m not gonna force people who think I’m a fuckboy talk to me, we’re not compatibl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 11:11 PM |
| 5 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Is that being bitter? I just commented that “yeah, that’s highly improbable so you should know that. But hey, you do you.” No one is stopping you from looking out for virgins, just be informed about your chances and that’s it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 10:13 AM |
| 3 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?I didn’t belittle him. I just pointed out that finding a hot virgin at 25 who’s willing to have sex on a first date only with you is very improbable, but finding an 18 year old virgin is less improbable than that. So he’s either a top 1% and very lucky, or he might be going after younger women, that’s all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 10:05 AM |
| 4 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?So it could be just… anyone? As long as they’re present? Even if you’re not physically attracted to them? I somehow find it really hard to believe, considering how most women aren’t into casual sex and their abundance in choice. But you could be unique. Most women definitely choose a guy for a ONS based on the physical attraction. That’s why most “fuckboys” are attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:58 AM |
| 6 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?My point is you can set any high standard for your potential partner as much as you want, regardless of gender. Just know that your dating pool would be substantially shrunk, whether it’s wanting to date a billionaire or a hot virgin at 25 who would have sex on a first date only with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:23 AM |
| 4 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?How do even interpret it that way? The higher your age the more likely you have more experience. It’s not that complicated… On average, older people have more experience than younger people, simple as that. And no, not being a virgin doesn’t make you a “hoe”… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:16 AM |
| 7 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?You know that’s highly unlikely to happen, right? Unless you’re dating 18 year olds, to which then I have different questions… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:46 AM |
| 4 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Yeah, what’s wrong with having sex with people on the first dates? That means she dates people she’s physically attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:43 AM |
| 2 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?On today’s episode of how all men are different… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:41 AM |
| 5 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Wait, why is your profile pic inverted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:40 AM |
| 4 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Okay, then what is the standard for you to choose who’d you fuck on a one night stand? Physical attraction, right? Then why wouldn’t you be with a person who you are physically attracted to that you’d have one night stand with them if you didn’t know them, but also build a deep emotional connection with them? It’s not one or another, right? If you tell your partner that you wouldn’t fuck them on a first date if you didn’t know them, you’re just blatantly telling them that you’re not as physicall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:39 AM |
| 4 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?What makes that “fuckboy” good enough for her to consider to fuck him? His looks, right? Then why not be with a person that she’s both physically attracted to AND have deep long-term relationship? It’s not one or another. I’d only be with a partner who’s physically attracted to me that she still would’ve had a one night stand with if we didn’t know each other. I don’t want my partner to compromise, that sounds like pity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:33 AM |
| 2 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?It’s like saying to a woman: “You’re not hot enough for me to want to fuck you right away, but you’re a kind and thoughtful person with a good personality and that makes you a wife material”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:25 AM |
| 15 | CMV: Hooking up as a man isn’t the same as hooking up as a womanThis is what some men also feel about women’s much better sexual past. Like “Oh I’ve had much better sex and much more compatible dicks than yours, but I love you” kind of stuff. That’s our worst nightmare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 06:08 AM |
| 22 | If women are allowed to divorce their husbands for wanting paternity test, then this guy is justified in leaving his wife for wanting to look at his phoneThe thing is, almost no one judges her for looking at his phone, they even blame it to the “hormones”. And more than that, they accuse him of wanting of having an “out” at any given moment. But the moment a guy wants a paternity test, they say he’s accusing her of cheating… The lack of self awareness is astonishing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 03:03 PM |
| – | It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test.If I’m wearing a seatbelt, am I accusing the driver of being a horrible driver and that we’re definitely getting into an accident? Wouldn’t it be an insult to them? If I trust them, shouldn’t I not wear the seatbelt? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 01:16 AM |
| – | It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test.Because maybe the biological father is her rapist and a potential threat to the child, and she’s self-sustained enough to raise her kid on her own | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 01:01 AM |
| – | Women who have been promiscuous in the past, how do you expect men to take you serious?Having a preference in terms of body count and shaming someone for the sexual experience or the lack of it are completely different things. You can have a preference for dating virgins without shaming people who are not, and you can also date people who are experienced without shaming virgins. Simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/24 06:43 AM |
| – | Women who have been promiscuous in the past, how do you expect men to take you serious?Women don’t care about a man’s body count Are you a woman to make that bold statement? And even then, women are not a monolith | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/24 05:00 AM |
| 2 | Question For Men, Which Of These Women Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With?Haha height supremacy let’s gooooo!! 😂😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 04:38 AM |
| 3 | Question For Men, Which Of These Women Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With?I’m pretty sure standards for relationships and sex are different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Question For Men, Which Of These Women Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With?For relationships - of course! For sex - who needs them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.Yes, it is not a basic need for survival like food, water and shelter. Just like how families and friends are not basic needs for survival. You’re not entitled to sex, just like how you’re not entitled to friendships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 01:13 AM |
| 91 | A Woman with ''No Kids and Not Fat'' is actually a high standard compared to the average manI don’t know about the US, but in Japan (where I live), the percentage of women who are not overweight or obese is 77.7%. And the birth rate here is one of the lowest in the world. Even more than that, around 30% of women in their 20s here have never had a boyfriend.. So I guess it’s not as bad and unfair here as compared to the States. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Men, would you date an obese woman if you loved her personality?I don’t live in the States, I live in Japan. And the average BMI for women here is 21.8. With the height of 5’7 that would put the weight to around 140 pounds. I’m more than happy to date women with the BMI way more than the average, and even in the overweight category. But that would be my limit, I wouldn’t date obese women. I’m 5’9 and 135 pounds myself, and the limit for a woman I will date with my height would be 200 pounds, which is 65 (!!) pounds more than me. But for a woman who has an av… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Men, would you date an obese woman if you loved her personality?When she’s old - you’re both old. And you’ve already had your fair share of sex. You both entered a stage where you both don’t need sex as much as you needed when you were young? But why enter that stage when you’re still young and have a huge libido? Why voluntarily be with someone who you’re not sexually attracted while you’re in your youth and want sex? Of course there’re rare or temporary situations where one partner is not able to have sex (post-partum, ED, etc.), but in most cases it is im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 03:14 AM |
| 2 | Men, would you date an obese woman if you loved her personality?“date any woman” and “fuck any woman” are completely different statements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 03:09 AM |
| 10 | Men, would you date an obese woman if you loved her personality?Wait, so it’s you who’s shallow, not other commenters. People usually make friends based on their personalities and shared interests, not on how they look. You said you won’t be friends with a person you’re not attracted to. You’re a woman, right? If there’s another woman who matches your personality and has a great sense of humor and has shared interests with you, you won’t be friends with her if you won’t find her attractive? That’s the definition of being shallow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 02:59 AM |
| 0 | Why do women go after older men?For the same reason men go after younger women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 06:42 AM |
| 0 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toSee? They might think they’re relationship material, but you don’t think so. Would you behave the same around a guy who you now KNOW that he’s attracted to you? You might think that every nice thing he does to you might have an ulterior motive. My husband was one of them. Yet now you’re married to him. What about other guys that caught feelings towards you while you were friends? Should they still be friends with you and suffer every time they see you knowing that you’ll never be with them? What… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:26 AM |
| 0 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toSurvivorship bias. These are exceptions, to the rule. Most people who catch deep feelings for their friends usually ruin them, because their friend never agreed for the conditions of the friendship to be changed. Now they would feel bad for rejecting you, and they might feel like they’re doing something bad to you (even though they shouldn’t). Or even worse, they might feel coerced to date you and make things worse, because they’re not actually attracted to you, which in the long run breaks your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toI hope you’re fine out there… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toBut then would you be able to move on if you’d see them frequently? Would you be able to find a new partner and still be friends with a person you have feelings for? Is it fair for your new partner? And is it fair to your friend? They never agreed to conditions of a friendship to be changed. Now you potentially ruined your friendship and broke both of your hearts. It’s just not worth it in the long run. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toAnd that’s fine! There are still great people out there who you can be friends with! If you want the drama in your life and want to risk a broken heart - you do you! No one said don’t. But just know that you’re inevitably gonna break someone’s heart, and/or your heart will be broken. But if you want actual friendship with no ulterior motives from one side, it’s better to be open and honest. No need to hide your feelings and then suddenly surprise them. Or be friends with people you’re not physic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:14 AM |
| 0 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toIs it not possible to express your attraction to them but still seek friendship with them at first? Does it always have to be a secret and then surprise you later and inevitably hurt you when we’re already close friends? Do you want that drama? If you’re not gonna be friends with me even after I expressed my attraction to you, then you’re not worth being friends with anyway, cause I want to be as open as I can and remove every leverage of power dynamics that can occur later in a friendship. I do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toBut you can reduce the chance of being hurt by not befriending people who you are attracted to. No one said the chance of you catching deep feelings for them is zero, but it’s much lower than if you befriend people you’re physically and sexually attracted to. It’s not like there aren’t other people you can befriend. Why risk it if you can still be friends with other great people anyway (the ones you’re not attracted to)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toYou are basically saying that as men we should never befriend 90% of the female population that we interact with - excluding the elderly, obese, children, and the ugly of course. And that’s fine! You shouldn’t feel forced to befriend every layer of intersectionality of a demographic, especially if it requires more effort and you don’t share as much in common. Somehow men don’t complain about not being able to make female friends, or that their friends see them as objects. Because men have plenty… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 06:03 AM |
| 0 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toWhile it’s not impossible, it’s much harder to develop a physical attraction towards a person you’re not initially attracted to, it’s much more common to develop an emotional attraction in that case. It’s especially common amongst men. you can wait some time and then be friends again, it's not like you die after confessing your love for a friend. You get it out of your system and move on. Some people can move on, some people can’t. For some, it’s gonna be even harder to move on if they’re consta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 04:07 AM |
| -1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toNice straw man. No one talks like that. Even when you make just friends, you don’t tell them right away: “Hi! Nice to meet you! Do you wanna be my friend?”, unless you’re in a kindergarten. You can just say to them after a quick conversation and introduction: “Hey, I really enjoy spending time with you and I’m attracted to you. I’m not looking to rush into anything, but I’d like to get to know you better and see where things go. If you’re comfortable with it, I’d love to stay friends and see if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toOr maybe you can still have friends and socialize with other people, but only with those you’re not physically or sexually attracted to. Now you’re just gatekeeping friendships and making the issue worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toHaha, maybe it’s true for more emotionally mature people, but my target demographic is usually people in their late teens/early twenties, cause I am myself in my twenties. Maybe it changes later in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:48 AM |
| 0 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toOkay, let’s say you get in a relationship with someone. Would you now stop sexting your best friend? What if your partner would be uncomfortable with you being so close to your best friend in a really non-friendly way? Would you cut ties with your best friend? Or forever be single but with your best friend? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toI didn’t say if “you meet someone”, I said if you meet someone you’re attracted to. You can still meet other people you’re not attracted to and easily become friends with them. While it’s true that some people DO develop feelings for their friends they weren’t initially attracted to, it’s not as common and less likely. You’re more likely to develop romantic feelings towards people you’re attracted to, and you’re more likely to confess to them in that scenario. In the rare case where you DID deve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:42 AM |
| -1 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toIf you are the kind of person who doesn’t get hurt if someone stops being friend with you the moment you reject them, then I can see how it can work for you. But most women do get hurt in that situation and can’t help themselves but think that said friend only wanted them for their body and only sees them as objects. And since men can’t tell if you’ll get hurt or not in thy at situation, it’s better to not risk it and not befriend a someone you’re physically attracted to. It’s better for both of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:33 AM |
| 3 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toYou’re much less likely to “catch feelings” for someone you’re not physically attracted to. Even if you do develop a strong bond with them, it won’t go anywhere, because you know you’re not physically attracted to them. A healthy relationship requires a physical attraction as well as the emotional connection. But if you ARE physically attracted to them, then don’t befriend them, because there’s a high chance you might “catch feelings” and hurt them with your feelings. Simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Why you should never be friends with someone you’re attracted toThe important distinction is that you should be upfront with your intentions. Not befriending them without expressing your feelings, and then ghosting them right after they reject you after your confession. Communication beforehand is important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 03:25 AM |
| 12 | Which women are allowed to be picky?What’s the problem with being delusional? It would only be them who would suffer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 11:56 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?This is the most level-headed and reasonable response that I got here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 12:33 PM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Would you date a guy who has a receding hairline? (not bald, but balding). And let’s say a guy with a receding hairline wears a cap on a date with you, would you stop seeing him the moment you find out about his receding hairline? Let’s say he has something like this (on the top): <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 10:41 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Why do you think that’s the case? Is it more prominent amongst traditional/red pill guys and how’s the situation for the more liberal guys? Would you personally date a more traditional/red pill guy or a more liberal guy who does actually care about women’s insecurities? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 10:37 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?🤦♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 10:30 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Gotcha. But would you be hurt though? Now it’s not about the right of the individuals to their preferences, but specifically about your feelings. How would you feel in that situation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 10:19 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Of course everyone has a right to their privileges. But I’m asking about a specific situation. Let’s say you’re having a ons and using bra pads on that day (just play along, even if you don’t do that usually). You’re making out and about to have sex, but the moment you take off your clothes the guy sees that you’re using pads and he bounces off immediately. What would you think about that guy? Would you be hurt? Would you consider him shallow or an asshole? Or would you think it’s a fair play? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 09:12 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?So where do you think we should be heading towards in the future? Should men stop sexualizing women with small breasts and be more picky about their preferences? Should they be more unforgiving of women’s insecurities? Or should women be more forgiving of men’s insecurities and not care about the balding men as much as they do? Or should we keep it the same as it is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 09:07 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Why do you think this is the case? Should it be changed? Should men start being more unforgiving of women’s insecurities, or should women start being more forgiving of men’s insecurities? Or should it stay the same? Should we be heading towards a more equal dating culture where men and women treated equally as human beings, or should we endorse traditions, accept that men and women are not equal and treat men and women differently depending on the situation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 08:47 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?What? You think every discussion is about the guys trying to get sex from women? I’m in a relationship, so I don’t care about if other women want to sleep with me or not. And I’m not bashing on feminists, I’m genuinely interested in how men and women treated and seen differently (or similarly) in a dating scene. If you think men and women are different and should be treated differently then it would be consistent if you say that insecurities are treated differently depending on the gender. But i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 08:18 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?I would honestly prefer he kept it on. Even in bed? You want your ons partner to be fully naked but have his cap on? That would be even more true had it happened to me. Although that's one of the many reasons I'd never wear pads with a potential date/hook up. Understood. That’s pretty reasonable. But to be fair, I don’t think there’s ever going to be a man who would leave the moment he sees in bed you use the pads. So the comparison is probably not realistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 08:08 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Let’s say he has something like this (on the top), but manages to carefully hide it under the cap. <image> Personally I would think of him more highly than had he stayed. Would that be true if that happened to you? Let’s say you have a ons and use the pads. But the moment the guy sees your breasts he finds an excuse and bounces off. Would you think of him more highly than had he stayed and had sex with you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:56 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Why do you think men are more forgiving (or don’t care as much) about the insecurities than women are? Does it make it harder for men to date than for women because of it? (since most people have some amount of insecurities). And if that’s the case, what do you think we should be heading towards in the future? Should men start to be more unforgiving about the insecurities that women have and be more picky? Or should women start to be more forgiving about the insecurities that men have? Or maybe … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:46 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Gotcha. Im not talking about bald men, but specifically about balding men who have hair but with a M shaped receding hairline. If it's the first scenario, I'd prolly find an excuse and bounce. Ouch, but appreciate the honesty. What would you think about a man who would bounce off the moment he sees the small breasts under the pads? Are you bald/balding OP, if I may ask? I am indeed balding. I usually wear a cap, but I’m already in a relationship so I wont have the ons scenario. Have you used pad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:32 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?I understand. Where do you think this disproportionate hate comes from? I’ve never seen a widespread hate towards women with small breasts (thankfully) as towards men with receding hairline. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:27 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?And some women like their heads bald. But I’m asking in a general sense. What would you think most people would think about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:21 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?What if it’s not a toupee but a cap, for example. You wouldn’t know if they’re balding until they take it off before sex. Just like with pads. Would you still have sex with them with a receding hairline or suddenly stop and go home? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:20 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?So it’s not about the insecurity after all? I’m not talking about the breast sizes per se, but the insecurities that stem from them. Men who can be attractive bald might be considered unattractive if they have insecurities about it and try to hide it. So people usually say it’s the insecurities that make them unattractive, not the baldness itself. Even if most men don’t consider small breasts unattractive, would they consider the insecurities about them (and the use of pads) unattractive? Or wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:17 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?I consider bald men unattractive. If it's an ons I wouldn't mind a toupee, especially if he looks better with it on. For a relationship I wouldn't care about hair transplants either as long as they worked, since he's now not bald lol. What do would you think about a man who says this: “I consider women with small tits unattractive. If it’s an ons I wouldn’t mind a pad, especially if she looks better with it on. For a relationship I wouldn’t care about breast implants either as long as they worke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:11 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Glad you think that way. But I’m asking in a general sense. Even if you personally think that way, what do you think most people think about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:05 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?We can agree that that’s true amongst conservatives/traditionalists/red pillers of both gender. But do you think more liberal and feminist women would have a more equal approach to it? Or they would still have the same attitude towards the insecurities just like with the red pillers? But they do get annoyed at any alterations seen as "lying" or "unnatural", even if they're more attracted initially due to larger breasts. Doesn’t the same applies to hatfishing? If a guy has a receding hairline and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:02 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Understood. Would you personally date a person who hides their hairline? Let’s say you started to date a guy who hides his hairline, but you didn’t know that. Would you stop dating him the moment you find out about it and his receding hair line? Or wouldn’t care about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 06:57 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?Even if that’s the case, we can agree that generally speaking, makeup is widely accepted amongst people and most men don’t care (or even find attractive) women with makeup. In fact, the makeup community on YouTube and other social media is one of the largest communities out there and even in pop culture you can frequently encounter women doing their makeup. Your example is an exception, not a rule. I’ve never seen a piece of a media or a movie where men hide their receding hairline or use hair p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 06:50 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?We can agree that that’s the case amongst the conservatives and traditionalist. But is it the case with women who advocate for gender equality and feminists who want to make the dating experience similar for all genders? For example, women who complain about men only seeing them for their appearances and bodies, would they themselves consider balding men with hair but receding hairline unattractive and less likely to date them? Or are they consistent with what they preach? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 06:47 AM |
| – | If men who hide their baldness are considered unattractive, are women who use bra pads considered unattractive as well?We can agree that a bald head can only suit some people, not everyone. But I’m specifically talking about a balding head. A head with hair but a receding hairline, and M shaped hairline. Would you consider men with a receding hairline who try to hide it unattractive? If that’s the case, why is it different for women who try to hide their breast size and make it seem bigger than it is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 06:43 AM |
| 2 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesYou do rugby, right? Do you do it for women? No, you do it for yourself, right? That’s what we agree on. But do you go on dates with women and demand they pay for your meals because you play rugby? Of course not, right? That’s what I’m trying to say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 09:03 AM |
| 2 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesIt’s a logical AND, if you ignore the latter part, discussing the former part is meaningless. I brought a condition where both variables are true. I never said that men don’t do things for themselves. I actually totally agree with that. I have hobbies and interests that I spend time on without ever needing women’s validation for (gardening, 3D printing, VR and etc.). But you completely ignored the first part which made the whole premise meaningless. Yes, there are men who do things for themselve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 08:58 AM |
| 1 | "Ok now swap the genders"Just how you’re allowed to not want a woman who has a lot of sex, women are also allowed to not want a man who “spreads his seed wide and far” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 08:02 AM |
| 3 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesFirst of all, I didn’t just say “does it for himself”, I said “does it for himself AND simultaneously demands that women pay for his dates”. I specifically emphasized the AND, so that I don’t get these kind of messages. I’m talking about both things being done at the same time, not individually. And second of all, why do you think men compete with each other and like to dominate other men? Just look at the animal kingdom. The male that dominates other males gets all the females, that’s why even … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 07:27 AM |
| 1 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesYeah, but where did those women get their idea of attractiveness? It doesn’t appear from a vacuum, right? It’s a feedback loop between women trying on different things and men validating them, spanning for millennia. Btw, it’s not limited to women only. Men also go to gym, work out and get muscular because their idea of what’s attractive comes from women’s validation, even if they’re doing it for themselves. Or even if they get compliments on their muscles from other men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 07:22 AM |
| 12 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesDaaamn, the mental gymnastics are crazy 😂 No guy goes to gym, works out, gets muscular - then says he does it for himself AND simultaneously demands that women pay for their date because women benefit from their self expression on the date… because gym membership and proteins are expensive 😂 I actually like what Aba and Preach said here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 02:49 AM |
| 2 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesBut why do you do it for yourself? To feel good, right? Why do you feel good? Because you think you’re attractive, right? But where did you get the idea of what is attractive or not? You weren’t just born and knew what’s “attractive”, right? Your idea of what’s attractive is based on male validation. When you do makeup or dress nicely, you get more looks from men, or get hit on more frequently. So even if you truly do it for yourself, your idea of what’s attractive is based on male validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 02:38 AM |
| 5 | CMV: women get dressed up and wear makeup ourselves - not for malesTo think that a specific outfit or a makeup is attractive you need feedback. You’re not just born and suddenly know what is “attractive”. It’s men who give you feedback on your looks, even if it’s unintentional. You get more looks, you get hit on more frequently. So your idea of “what is attractive” is solely based on male validation. Saying otherwise is just lying to yourself, which is frankly more miserable than admitting it. Sure, on some days you might do it for yourself to feel attractive o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 02:32 AM |
| -2 | What's wrong with women making rules for some and breaking it for others? It's just common senseThat only works your way if the woman is top 20% too. Why would a man waste his time and energy on a bottom 80% woman who makes him jump through all these hoops when he can find another bottom 80% woman? Men who are complaining about the unjust standards compared to other men are talking about the top 20% women, not the bottom 80% women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Where is the line between wanting something and acting entitled to something?I will go even a step further. Telling other people that they feel entitled when in fact they’re not and weaponizing that is actually dehumanizing them and delegitimizing their experiences and feelings. No one talks about that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 11:38 AM |
| – | Moral character has no bearing on sexual successTo make them realise that they could be fucking Gandhi abd it means nothing. Means nothing for what? For getting sex? Yes, 100%. But it’s not why teach people to be nice. We teach people to be nice because it would make the world a better place. That’s why Gandhi is a remarkable persona. Being nice has nothing to do with feeling entitled for sex. That’s not being actually nice. If your incentive for being nice is to get sex, you were never a nice person in the first place. Period. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 06:11 AM |
| – | Moral character has no bearing on sexual successNo choice can be made in a vacuum. You don’t randomly choose to be nice. People are nice because their parents or caregivers taught them to be. People interact with each other and learn the certain traits from them. You learn, you teach (sometimes even unintentionally). We should be teaching our kids to be nice and thoughtful, because we want them to live happily in a society. And why specifically young men? I’m talking about people in general. People would be much happier if everyone around the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 03:45 AM |
| – | Moral character has no bearing on sexual successYeah, we shouldn’t be incentivizing being nice with a possibility to have sex, everyone then would be trying to show themselves as “nice” and be deceitful. But it also doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t teach our kids how to be nice. It’s a trait that makes our society a better place to live for everyone. People who complain about them “being nice but still not getting sex because of it” are not actually nice, they’re just being deceitful. So I’m not following what you’re trying to say with your pos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 03:03 AM |
| – | Moral character has no bearing on sexual successSo the only incentive for people to be nice is to get sex? That’s literally called being a “nice guy”. You know some people are nice just because they’re nice, and they’re not expecting their sexual success to increase because of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 02:17 AM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic man“I don’t want my kids to inherit autism”. Imagine swapping the word “autism” with a specific race.💀 Suddenly you become a racist. But they’re comfortable with spewing this about autistic people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 01:47 AM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manNice delegitimizing autistic people’s feelings. You’d shame them and say they’re entitled EVEN when they’re not feeling entitled. That way you can feel better dehumanizing them 🥰 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 01:40 AM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manLet’s goooooo! They think they’re eugenic-ing us? No! It’s us eugenic-ing them! 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 01:25 AM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manYeah imagine if someone has a racial preference and doesn’t date one race and that’s it. But imagine if that person comes along and explains “why it’s fine accepting that some people won’t date your race”… Like dude, we all know people have all kinds of preferences, but you don’t have to come here and make excuses for them, it’s borderline discrimination. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 01:16 AM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manSo you said you’re autistic. If you’re gonna have kids, they would probably inherit your autism too, would you be okay with that? And if they do, would you be comfortable telling them what you said on the post? That they’re not owed anything from anyone and shouldn’t feel entitled? And that no one wants their kids to have autism, so it’s natural that it’s going to be almost impossible for them to find a partner. Don’t you think they’ll think you’re selfish and feel resentment towards you for bri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/24 01:12 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?Only sex workers can provide “free sex”. Normal women don’t give “free sex”, they just have sex. And if you’re viewing having sex with no financial incentive as “free sex”, maybe you’re a sex worker? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 06:39 AM |
| – | Question for the ladies. Are you animals still, or equal human beings? Why are men still expected to "Chase" her. "Men are the hunters."You can’t choose when you should be “treated as humans” or when “treated as social animals”. Either one or another. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. That hypocrisy would cause resentment in a lot of people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 06:03 AM |
| 2 | This sub is all negativity and debate. Post what you admire, appreciate, and enjoy about the opposite sex.Haha, imagine a similar comment towards women 😂 “There’s nothing special or unique about women other than a couple of body parts and that’s what I like” 😂😂 You’d be crucified for sexism 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 10:23 PM |
| – | Women settle down with and seriously date lesser men, but still hold toxic men from their past in a higher regard.But why would she stay with a person that is not the most sexually compatible with her? That would only make the partner feel inadequate, even though it’s not his fault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:37 PM |
| – | Women settle down with and seriously date lesser men, but still hold toxic men from their past in a higher regard.For him, he feels that he’s sexually compatible with her (because he hasn’t been with someone that is even more sexually compatible than her). But for her, he’s not the one that is the most sexually compatible with her. Knowing that you’re not the person who the most sexually compatible for your partner is devastating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:28 PM |
| – | Women settle down with and seriously date lesser men, but still hold toxic men from their past in a higher regard.You can, but there’s a limit to what you can learn. Some people are objectively better than others in what they can naturally do and naturally have. That’s why sexual compatibility exists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:16 PM |
| 3 | If promiscuous women are so low value, why would you still want to have sex with them?I think there’re three steps: People who you find gross and repulsive. People who you’d like to fuck but not date. People who you’d want to be in LTR. Women usually are looking for 3, but if they’re horny enough, they can go for 2. Men’s horniness is so high that sometimes they would fuck a 1, just for the sake of having sex, when there’s no other option (and often times regret it) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/24 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Is the objectification of sex just an inevitable part of life?Most americans do not want to make porn illegal. Thankfully | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Is the objectification of sex just an inevitable part of life?Clothing is not inevitable as humans have survived for millennia without it. Air conditioners, iPhones and computers are not inevitable as most people have never bought them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 09:22 AM |
| 0 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?Haha okay, then you’re consistent. I guess if the today’s dating world has changed so much that you have to explicitly tell your partner not to cheat, otherwise the opposite is assumed, in which case you’ll be the one to blame for not telling your partner to not cheat when they do, no wonder the loneliness epidemic is so much prevalent today… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?If my partner tells me they had sex with other people before meeting me, I would be totally cool with it. But if they say that while we were dating each other she was still fucking other dudes, I would be hurt. I personally won’t be having sex with other people while I’m seeing someone. Not saying that now we’re boyfriend and girlfriend and should act as such. Of course there’s no obligation to be exclusive, but if I like someone after our first interaction, I would try to hold on sex with other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 09:45 AM |
| 2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?See? Why though? I’m coming from the same logic. If someone is monogamous they don’t have to explicitly say that they want a monogamy. But someone who’s poly has the responsibility to explicitly state that they want a poly relationship, right? “Hey, I know it’s our first date, but so that you know, I’m not into monogamy. Would you be okay with a poly relationship?” Why doesn’t the same apply for non-exclusivity? “If someone is exclusive from the first date they don’t have to explicitly say that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 09:36 AM |
| 2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?That’s why I was expecting comments such as “once the OLD has become a thing”. Because I understand that since the OLD has become prevalent, people who you would go on date with are total strangers (rather than someone you know from your friend group), and it make sense to be more efficient and date multiple people at once to find a good match. And OLD has become prevalent for general mass something like 12-15 years ago. But I’m still hesitant about the sex, because just like you said, since now… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 06:21 AM |
| 6 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?I guess my main issue is fucking. I didn’t use this angle because people nowadays don’t see the difference, so I didn’t even bother. If a person I was seeing was also going on dates with other people (not fucking), I would at least understand that. But if she would be fucking other dudes while seeing me, that’s a total no no for me and I would definitely break up if I find out about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 06:07 AM |
| -2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?so many men here have such narrow views on thinking there's exclusivity after a single date. Oh, you think it’s a narrow thinking to not want your potential partner fuck others while you’re dating them? I would not at all care if they had sex with others before knowing me, but once we’re dating I would consider it at least disrespectful if I’m not enough for them. If I am truly not enough for them, I would appreciate it if they cut things with me and then have sex with other people. If I want a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 05:48 AM |
| 1 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?Do you think it’s important to discuss cheating if you don’t want your partner to cheat. Let’s say he asked you to become his girlfriend, and you agreed, but you two didn’t have a discussion about the cheating. In that case, if he cheats, would it be your fault since you didn’t have a conversation about it? Like “if you didn’t want me to cheat, you should’ve said you want monogamy and explicitly stated it. You should have a conversation about what you want.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 05:20 AM |
| 4 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?Interesting, I always felt that exclusivity when you’re seeing someone is the default state, and it’s a nice gesture towards your potential partner. Since for me and people around me exclusivity after the first date is considered a default, I would be pretty hurt, and potentially break up with my partner if I found out that they were having sex with other people while we were having fun with each other on dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:54 AM |
| 2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?I see, so where you live non-exclusivity was the default. I guess there are generally 3 types of dating: Hookups and one night stands. Non-exclusive casual datings Serious relationships. You said that with number 2, you don’t need to be explicit, since it’s a default state of relationships where you live. What about the number 1? Should I be explicit about it? If yes, why do you think that only number 2 is the default state and doesn’t need to be explicitly stated, whereas number 1 and 3 should … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?In a place where I live, people are not super religious, but they still consider monogamy and exclusivity (I know they’re not the same thing) a default state for any relationship. Maybe not murder, but let’s say cheating. If two people entered a relationship, and let’s say the boy asked the girl to become his girlfriend and she agreed. Does she need to explicitly state that she doesn’t want him to cheat? Because if he does cheat without her explicitly stating that, would you say that it’s her fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:42 AM |
| 3 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?It’s odd to assume exclusivity from day 1? Since when it’s considered odd? That’s my initial question from the post. For me personally, If I’m on a date with a person who might become the love of my life for the rest of my life, I would at least not try to have sex with other people while I’m seeing them. Not saying it’s a bad thing (considering the current dating world), but morally speaking it is considered a good thing to not make them feel like they weren’t good enough. If they’re not a good… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:35 AM |
| 2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?I don’t think the timing of the sex matters. Even with people who are seeing each other but are still waiting until the marriage, they don’t go out and date multiple people at once. If things don’t go well, they cut it off and go find another person, because they don’t want to risk hurting feelings of a person who might become their life time partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?No, I’m not talking about the arranged marriages. I’m talking about the normal dates. Interesting, I personally have never experienced that and people around me considered an exclusivity a default state too. I don’t know, I personally would feel like, if not cheating, I’m at least not caring about the feelings of a person who potentially might become my partner. I’m not talking about the rules, just morals. But if my goal is hookups and one night stands, I would definitely be explicit about it, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?So, for you having sex with other people after you went on a date with one is considered the default even 10-15 years ago? I’m curious if the demographics matter. Me, personally, if I go on a first date with a person with the goal of potentially being in a relationship, I wouldn’t at least go out and have sex with other people, but that’s just me. But if my goal is just hookups and one night stands, I would be explicit with that person so they don’t hold any expectations. Not saying I’m obligate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?So, if you went on a first date and that person still had sex with other people after that, would consider that, if not cheating, at least a betrayal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:16 AM |
| 2 | In dating, as a man, it's demanded that you be confident and socially skilled. Meanwhile, women are allowed to be as neurotic and anti-social as they pleaseThis is the way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 05:58 AM |
| 7 | What advice would you give to average and below average men who want hookup and not be in a monogamous relationship?Haha what were you thinking about? 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 04:47 AM |
| 5 | If we can agree hypergamy is realWell, if we follow OPs logic, a woman finding her best man doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not settling. He can’t find his best woman, because she went for a man who’s in higher league than her. And his woman also went for a higher league, which means she’s not the best woman he wants. But since he’s desperate he’s obliged to settle. Btw, I’m not agreeing with this hypergamy bs, so it doesn’t matter anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 04:04 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.I do watch porn and my partner does too, but I don’t want my partner to be involved in porn. But I don’t think of women involved in porn poorly or denigrate them. Does that make me a hypocrite? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:33 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.Just because you don’t want your loved ones to be involved in some activity doesn’t mean you think lowly of people who do. I don’t want the male figures in my family and friends to be involved in the military, but it doesn’t mean I think lowly of people who do. Why is it that hard to understand? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:10 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.If a woman watches porn but doesn’t want to date a person who was involved in porn (as long as she doesn’t speak lowly or denigrate them), is she a hypocrite too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:08 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.So it’s okay to watch porn and not wanting your partner and family women to be involved in porn as long as you don’t speak lowly of the pornstars? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:02 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.I enjoy it. <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 05:53 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.Yes, I do watch porn but wouldn’t date a woman who does porn. Yes, I’m a hypocrite, so what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?Thank you. At least you’re consistent there. So a woman who chose to bear a child herself when she could easily adopt one has no moral high ground over the guy who cares about his biological proximity too. They’re both egotistical. Even if she’s totally fertile and can easily conceive a child. The pregnancy and labor has so much downsides and pains that you really have to be egotistical to justify going through all those sufferings rather than adopt a child who needs a family, right? And since i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 01:46 PM |
| 6 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?Well, “ego”might be a vague way to describe it. Am I putting a password on my account because I have an ego, even though it’s not life-threatening? Is it my ego that my money is safe in a locked bank, and I’m not just taking it with me, even though you loosing your money is not life-threatening? Is it your ego that you’re divorcing your partner who cheated on you, because it’s not life-threatening? You can assume “ego” to anything and it would lose its meaning. And even if you’re right with the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:41 AM |
| 4 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?For me personally, I’m more afraid of my child not being my biological than my partner being abusive. And it’s not about the ego. I’m totally fine with consensually adopting a child who’s not my biological, but if you can run away from the abuse, you’ll never run away from the fact that the child you raised and loved is not a biological part of you. Women don’t have that instinct because they literally give birth to their own children, and I’m not expecting you to understand that either. I know … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:55 AM |
| 13 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?“If you have no reason to believe your partner cheated”… why can’t the same be applied for go-bags? “if you have no reason to believe your partner is abusive”? Tf is that logic? Both imply the lack of trust to your partner for whatever reason. Whether you actually think they’re a cheater/abuser, or just afraid of statistics, or have read a whole bunch of bs on forums and now are paranoid about it. You can’t eat your cake and have it too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:31 AM |
| 8 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?Haha the audacity 😂 What gives you the ground to not trust a person you married? Statistics? Okay, then the same can be applied for a false paternity. Yes, I’m going to be petty just because these exact women would instantly divorce a guy who does a paternity test, because “he doesn’t trust her”. But if she does something that shows she doesn’t trust him, then “he sHoUlD mAkE hEr FeEl sAfE”. Gtfo of here with that bs… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:24 AM |
| 10 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?And also tell a girl you’ll do a paternity test in case she cheats lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Men have "fetishes", women merely have "preferences"They meant the women herself is 5’1” and dates men 6’5”+ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 07:42 AM |
| 3 | Men have "fetishes", women merely have "preferences"Haha it’s like saying it’s biological to like young women, because they have higher fertility 😂 Do you think most women want tall men for something serious and not just sexual? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 07:40 AM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.Nah, she’s probably just a hypocrite who uses pro-life conservatives’ talking points and the same sex shaming tactics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:51 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.It’s a means to shame woman for having sex. Don't leave your sperm where it may conceive. Oh, TIL sex shaming can only happen to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:42 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:30 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.The thing is, women who want to “trap” you won’t tell you they’re pregnant until it’s too late. So you’re only punishing and making it worse for women who genuinely trusted the guy which they agreed upon that he’ll be there to raise the child together. Those who want to trap will just shut their mouth and surprise you by the sudden child you have to take care of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:19 PM |
| 6 | Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix datingWhat if I’m not secure? What if I do have insecurities? Does it now mean I don’t have a right to have preferences? Does it give you a right to mock me for my insecurities if I don’t judge people? This whole stigmatization of insecurities and mocking people for them is the reason why a lot of misogynistic men won’t engage in the abolishment of patriarchy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix datingBirth rate being below the replacement rate doesn’t mean all 8 billion people will disappear tomorrow. It just means that in 50 years most people will be old and there would be not enough young force to take care of them/pay taxes for their pensions. Which includes you. Look at Japan. Old people vote for the laws that benefits them, and they take a substantial chunk of the population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexHaha, imagine not peeing at home just to not clean the toilet. Well that would be a new level of retaliation 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 07:52 PM |
| -3 | How low would autistic guys have to set their standards, if women only date up?Having any child is not easy. Autism just introduces the new way of interacting with them, which the parent should be aware of, not swiping it off as a loud child who “just didn’t have proper parenting and some ass whooping”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 06:06 PM |
| 1 | How low would autistic guys have to set their standards, if women only date up?Did you mean ND? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexConsent to have sex is the exact same as the consent to clean up the house. Enthusiastic consent from both parties is fantastic, and if one party doesn’t consent, the other party doesn’t have the right to enforce any activity onto them. I don’t have the responsibility to have sex with my partner, it’s an activity I enthusiastically participate, but my partner is not entitled to my participation. The same applies for the chores. But my partner has all the rights to break up with me if I don’t hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexIf your partner has problems with your frequency of wanting to have sex and you think that he should break up with you if he’s not comfortable with that, than you should also break up with your partner if you’re not comfortable with the frequency of his cleanings. The onus to break up is on the party who’s not comfortable with any standards the other party has. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 04:03 PM |
| 3 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexLet’s goooooo! This is the answer. I have the moral right to prevent you from having sex by naturally not having sex myself. Otherwise you having sex would be considered either cheating or rape. But what a scumbag would I be to make them go through this and make them suffer from the enforced abstinence and not breaking up with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexI never pee standing at home. So not a relevant issue for me and my partner. Which means we definitely don’t need to clean it every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 03:54 PM |
| 6 | If a man is a late bloomer wouldn’t it be more natural for him to date down in age to where he would be more likely to find someone closer to him experience wise?Young desperate men who can’t even find anyone to date definitely would do. There’s also a huge category of milf porn quite popular amongst men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 06:07 AM |
| 11 | If a man is a late bloomer wouldn’t it be more natural for him to date down in age to where he would be more likely to find someone closer to him experience wise?You’re right. Just like how men don’t want to date late bloomer women, women also don’t want to date late bloomer men. So they both got shot with younger people. Late bloomer women dating young men who are desperate and want any affection, and late bloomer men dating young women who don’t know yet they got better options. But apparently women don’t want to date younger men, even though it’s a solution for their loneliness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 05:44 AM |
| – | Is it hypocritical for self-described feminist/egalitarian women to expect men to pay on dates? Why or why not?I’m in Japan, and it’s mostly accepted to pay 50/50 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Better to lie to Women than be honestI mean, yeah, your incentives are for that guy to not get any sex at all than getting some by deceiving someone. But that guy’s incentives are getting some even if that means deceiving someone than not getting anything at all and being sex deprived for the rest of the life. Just like how your incentives for the starving guy are rather for him to stay hungry than deceiving you and using coercive means and manipulate you and steal your food to not starve. But he doesn’t care about your incentives,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/23 02:49 AM |
| 0 | Better to lie to Women than be honestI agree. And we’re not entitled to food either. But we do everything to acquire it even if that means deceiving someone. I guess some people who can’t get sex with being honest, trick and deceive to get some. Still not entitled though, but if they get it - you can’t really blame them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Better to lie to Women than be honestThere are plenty of women who want just sex or something casual I guess probably not as many as men who want just sex or something casual. So there’s a deficit of woman who want that and those men who’re left alone have to lie to women to get what they want. Still shitty though, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 12:53 PM |
| – | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsRight? Like, just tell the woman you want a paternity test for your children before getting into a relationship with her. Just like if a woman doesn’t want to date a man who watches porn, just tell him you don’t want to date a man who watches porn before getting into a relationship with him, right? 🤦♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/23 04:35 AM |
| – | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsTrue. Just like how some women don’t want to date men who watch porn. They know that if they’re upfront with it, it will shrink their dating pool substantially (since almost all men watch porn), so they either suck it up and put up with it, or bring it up later in a relationship where the guy just gets better at lying and hiding watching porn. If it was normalized too, I think men would also opt out of society cause they’ll see it as an attack against men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/23 04:15 AM |
| 0 | Women now want to be paid 6 figures for being stay at home momsDo you think you should be paid for being an SAHM 24 hours? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 05:33 AM |
| 3 | Why does the media not say rape or statutory rape when boys are raped by women?And you seem unempathetic toward rape victims | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Why does the media not say rape or statutory rape when boys are raped by women?Only in Un*ted Kingdom | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a man who has slept with 100 women?What if this guy is not into casual but has an n-count of 30 (all of his relationships ended fast). Would you still date him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:12 AM |
| 3 | If sex is water, women have to survive on the ocean, men in the desert.Reddit is not necessary to survive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 12:33 AM |
| 1 | If sex is water, women have to survive on the ocean, men in the desert.See? It’s okay not being attracted to the majority of men. It’s not something you can control and shouldn’t be compromising to spare some men’s feelings. But the fact that most men are attracted to most women and most women are not attracted to most men really shows the inflated standards and high expectations. But again, that’s fine! Just acknowledge it and move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 12:25 AM |
| – | The age limit for porn performers should be 21Why the age should be based on US standards? Most countries sell alcohol from 18. In Germany, you can buy beer from 14 if you’re with you parent. Does it mean you should be allowed in porn from 14 if you’re with your parent. Of course not, because we shouldn’t be basing the age on one specific country, but the average age of most countries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 09:24 AM |
| 1 | If you've ever called a man an incel, you can't really claim there's nothing wrong with being a male virginJust like if you’ve ever called somebody a slut, you can’t say not being a virgin is okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Women get away with far more awkward and shitty behavior than menr/NiceGirls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 06:21 AM |
| 5 | Women get away with far more awkward and shitty behavior than menYeah let’s all die lonely and miserable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 06:16 AM |
| 10 | Women get away with far more awkward and shitty behavior than menTrue, but people are much more charitable to a woman’s social anxiety and excuse it by saying “well you made her uncomfortable now” or “now you ruined her night”. But with guys there’s no excuse for their social anxiety when they reject. They blame him and tell that “now you ruined the atmosphere by acting all awkward, just pretend it didn’t happened and act all normal now”, or “now you made her look like a creep, she feels guilty now” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 06:12 AM |
| 19 | Why are woman so annoyed by men finding their promiscuity unattractive when these same woman will invariably judge a guy that uses sex workers?True. It would also be heartbreaking if you’re not able to get the woman you want because you used sex worker services in the past. Not everyone is accepting of both sex workers and their clients. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 06:36 AM |
| 2 | Why are woman so annoyed by men finding their promiscuity unattractive when these same woman will invariably judge a guy that uses sex workers?Then I guess not wanting others to have casual sex and not having any casual sex yourself also means following the rule then, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 06:30 AM |
| 0 | No one is telling women to have sex with anyone they don't want to have sex with.The red pill sun shut down because Destiny killed it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:21 AM |
| – | PurplePill: Women cannot maintain eye contact bcs they think it makes them "less".No one owes you an eye contact. Just like how no one owes you a handshake if you come up to them. The reasoning doesn't matter. Just suck it up. You ain't no main character. No one gives a shit about a stranger. Try to live in Japan and you'll get it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 03:45 PM |
| – | PurplePill: Women cannot maintain eye contact bcs they think it makes them "less".Saying "I'm no autistic dude" is one of the most autistic things to say out there 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Am I wrong in saying that if a person has a requirement or preference that he wants a virgin partner but he himself is not a virgin that is not hypocritical?Haha it’s true though that getting laid makes you less insufferable 😂 gotta let go off that steam somehow 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Am I wrong in saying that if a person has a requirement or preference that he wants a virgin partner but he himself is not a virgin that is not hypocritical?Trueeee. The moral weight of a virgin woman wanting a non-virgin guy is exactly the same as a non-virgin guy wanting a virgin woman, just for different reasons. If you say that a non-virgin guy wanting a virgin woman is a hypocritical scumbag and asshole, then the same can be said for the virgin woman wanting a non-virgin guy. Either they’re both okay, or none of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:36 AM |
| 2 | Am I wrong in saying that if a person has a requirement or preference that he wants a virgin partner but he himself is not a virgin that is not hypocritical?I’m curious if in future you get married and both of you and your partner lose your virginities, would you change your flair? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to womenThat’s why you gotta be a psycho 😏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 02:23 AM |
| – | For those that worry about being the “best she ever had”…One time is enough. If the guy is the one asking, then he's at fault for being dumb and looking for trouble. But if my partner brings it herself without me asking, even one time would be enough for it to poison our relationship and inevitably build up resentment. I would never tell my partner that my ex was better than her at something, even if that's true. Just keep it to yourself. You don't need to belittle your partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?Research on the effects of body exposure found that eating-disordered women reported more negative cognitions and thoughts when looking at themselves in a mirror. We did not find gender effects for the control body. It's women hating on themselves, not men hating on them. This is from your own study. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 06:55 AM |
| 11 | For those that worry about being the “best she ever had”…Would you be okay if I said that my ex was much more beautiful than you, but I love you more overall? Or that sex with her was so much better than with you, but I love your personality more. You might be, but I'm pretty sure a lot of women won't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 06:20 AM |
| 6 | CMV You will never get pump and dumped if you make a realistic pick of men when you consider youre Partners.The problem is, even if they are really desperate to a point where they won’t pump and dump no woman that will have sex with them, if they get into a LTR with them, their standards will go higher, because they’re not desperate for a pussy now. The red flags that they ignored when they were desperate, suddenly come up and make them uncomfortable. Now they notice all the downsides of dating them. Because they’re not desperate for sex now. That might be awful for those women, but that’s how those m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 10:39 AM |
| 6 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.Oh my god that’d be a disaster 😂 I imagine a lot of relationships would tear down, even with people who say they don’t care… Once you see the explicit shit on screen, that’d be really rough to not dwell on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Do you think that in the age of equality, we should push for a 50/50 dating culture?Traditional women didn’t want to pay for dates from the beginning. You’re projecting onto them what egalitarians and feminists has told you. Women are not a monolith, just like men aren’t. Women who complain about men not paying for dates would also be okay if the guy would become a sole provider of the household. They’ll uphold the patriarchal standards that has been out there for millennia, and they’ll happily be a SAHM. Men who complain about “traditional women complaining about not wanting t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Do you think that in the age of equality, we should push for a 50/50 dating culture?to weed out men who will pump/dump Wait, that is the worst and counterproductive filter lol. Or you’re just lying to yourself. Exactly the people who want to pump and dumb would more likely pay for the first couple of dates to increase their chance of “pump”, and then dump them. A small investment for a quick sex, don’t you say? People who want to engage in LTR and invest more into it long term would like their partner to be on the same team, they want them manage their financial situation toget… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Do you think that in the age of equality, we should push for a 50/50 dating culture?And I think it’s mainly women who choose a guy that won’t bring her to an orgasm while engaging in casual sex and fake it, and men are fine with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?I had sex with all kinds of gross guys I'd never show my friends and family If that's true, then it's not about looks that are compared in ONS and relationships, but social skills. Sure, an ugly dude with incredible social skills can have a ONS with you, but you wouldn't date him (because your standards in looks for relationships are higher than for ONS), but a handsome guy with "not ideal" social skills (and maybe even a little on the spectrum) has a higher chance in dating you if he's much mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?Oof, that felt personal 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Given the status of the dating market it is completely acceptable for men to lie/use immoral means when it comes to datingThen it’s acceptable for women to lie about their n-counts (or even virginity) and sexual experiences. If she had one of the best sexes with the biggest cock with a hookup, and always thinks about it even when she has sex with you - then it’s moral for her to lie about you being her best, but secretly thinking about that guy and masturbate with the thought of him… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 03:57 AM |
| 4 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?Not as much as men wearing makeup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.Haha trueeee! But yeah, it does feel good to vent sometimes. Helps to sweep away the built up resentment and move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.True. But I guess it affect all kinds of brackets of women. Some men would think that an older woman is "desperate" and have really low standards, so they also might cast a pretty wide net over them and feel entitled over all older women which is quite annoying. Because "I'm dating down, so be grateful that a man like me is even considering dating you". But that's how the dating field works. You can't really change the minds of those men, so you kinda have to accept that annoyance and just get u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.I don't think they're advocating for you to finally starting be attracted to older guys. The issue they're presenting is that you're only allowed to be attracted to and date older guys if you're above 25. Which is of course absurd. You don't suddenly get attracted to older guys once you hit 25. If you are - you are, if you're not - you're not. The arbitrary age of 25 doesn't change that. But if you are attracted to an older guy, it's heavily stigmatized if you date them unless you hit that arbit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 01:19 AM |
| 2 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireThe overgeneralization of "Johns" is what harmful to both sex workers and thoughtful customers. You can't ascribe this evil image of "John" to every customer and justify the scrutiny against sex workers. You are literally taking away their job opportunities (for some it might be even their only job opportunities). I know you are not for arresting sex workers. SWERFs are not advocating for that. But you are taking away the autonomy from sex workers by deciding to who they can give their consent. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 02:09 AM |
| 2 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveI agree. But if you've been lied once, and you're an adult, you pretty much know at this point how to handle those stuff. If you're believing every new guy's promises and sweet talks - then that's on you. You should know at this point how to vet those guys. You put hurdles and see if they're committed enough to go through them. Most men who are out there just to hookup won't deal with that because it's inefficient for them. It's not what they're looking for. And that would leave you with guys wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:58 AM |
| 4 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveTrue, this conversation and post are meaningless. But it's okay to vent if you want. We're here to listen to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:54 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireSee? That's why I'm saying it's a dogwhistle. Duh, of course nonconsentual sex is rape, no one here is trying to defend that. If two consenting adults have sex under any premise they choose (money, fame, status, pleasure, etc.) and they both know it, and you still call it a rape - that's the reason I call it a dogwhistle. Because it nowhere near resembles rape, and more than that - it cheapens the actual meaning of rape and takes away the pain and suffering that actual victims of rape went throu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:40 AM |
| 3 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveI think it's important to realize that we're just not compatible. No deceiving from either part. If what we both want from our partner doesn't align with them, then we should just part ways and find a partner who does want the same. Both lying to get sex is bad, and both shaming people for wanting to have sex is bad. Just part ways and that's it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:21 AM |
| 3 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveThen don't have sex under a premise of promised commitment. Either have sex without any expectations (so you can't be lied to). Or don't have sex at all until the commitment part is done. I see no problems here. It almost feels like you want to be vengeful just in spite of it. And you like it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:17 AM |
| 5 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveYeah, and I think it's probably something like 90% of women can get a dick appointment within an hour in their apartment for free. And probably something like 10% of men can get a pussy appointment within an hour in their apartment for free. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:12 AM |
| 3 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveIf they don't think it's harmful, your Reddit post isn't gonna convince them otherwise. Because they've heard that a million times but still won't believe that because of their own perception. It's like teaching an ant to play piano. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:10 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireYeah, the moment you promote "self-control" or "abstinence", I lose all interest in engaging with all of your talking points (even if you're hiding it with "meh all human beings need dignity, women are not your property" dogwhistles). Because it makes it indistinguishable from any other Abrahamic religions, and I stopped being a religious person specifically because of those indoctrinations (and I'm not getting back to that abstinence bs for your wants). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireNo one said it's nonexistent. I'm pretty sure it feels huge for you and you might be wanting to have sex everyday multiple times. But compared to men's sexual libido it does seem nonexistent in comparison. That's how massive it is. It just depends on which relative point of view are you looking from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 12:36 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireDon't be condescending, that's just rude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 12:27 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireWhile I agree that there are almost as many (if not as many) women wanting to have sex just like men do, most of them want it exclusively in a long term relationship. Which leaves a disparity in numbers between men and women wanting to casually hook up. But not only that, even if women are horny and dtf, they vet the potential hookup much cautiously than men do. That's why you see such an unbalanced hooking up dynamics in dating apps: any woman can download the app and within an hour have a hook… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsThat is one of the most helpful advices out there. Too much people here in Reddit care about other people’s approval for any activity they’re about to do. As if they want a peace of mind for whatever they think is unacceptable in their worldview. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsBecause they can have sex anytime without having to pay. And men can't. That's the equivalent of shaming someone for the natural disadvantage they have to gaslight them into accepting the same conditions as the other party have. It's like saying: "Well, men don't need the free pads for menstruations, so why should we be giving them to women? Why should we satisfy their wants?" And the moment you point out the biological differences they have, you get blasted for misandry and infantilizing of wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 07:00 AM |
| 0 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireAnd blue balls is a condition that affect a human being too. Sex is not a health issue, lack of sex is. At least a mental health issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 05:15 AM |
| 2 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsNo one should have a right to sell their bodies, and no one should have a right to buy someone's body. That's why selling and buying organs is illegal in most places. But any person should have a right to provide any service they choose, to any customer they choose. If I go to a massage therapist, I don't "buy her hands to satisfy my feet", I don't "objectify her hands". I'm only buying her services that she provides and with a customer she chose (even if she wouldn't massage me for free, we all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 05:11 AM |
| 3 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireMaybe his wording was somewhat disregarding and condescending, but what he probably meant is that there's a much more demand for sexual encounters from men's side rather than women's side. So it naturally creates a "supply/demand market", where women can choose at any time when and with who they can have sex with, but man can't. Hence the disparity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:59 AM |
| 0 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireIt's like saying, "even if we understood what women experience when they go through periods/pregnancy, we don't have to accommodate or defer" lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:54 AM |
| 4 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsI agree. And thinking that sex workers are commodities is being a SWERF or a misogynist, depending on where you stand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsIt's pretty interesting that we're heading into a society where it's okay for a woman to satisfy her sexual needs, but it's demonized and seemed as disgusting for a man to satisfy his sexual needs. No wonder there's a huge pushback from the other side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:19 AM |
| 4 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsYeah, let's eat our cake and have it too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Would you consider dating someone overweight or obese?Overweight - yes, obese - no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Promiscuity in women being viewed as unattractive is not a double standard. Lack of sexual discretion is unattractive in general. That's the standard for all genders.I’m actually curious why those women who are slut shamed by those men care about it. Like, would you want to be with a man who thinks you’re dirty because of your sexual past anyway? That’s not the type of partner I want to be with. And an understanding partner won’t care about your past even if other people gossip about you. That’s actually pretty self-selecting. I know it sucks being annoyed by strangers you’re not planning having anything with, but why would you lament over the fact that thos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Promiscuity in women being viewed as unattractive is not a double standard. Lack of sexual discretion is unattractive in general. That's the standard for all genders.Women care about men caring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”?Sex with a bunch of random dudes you don’t know is not mutually beneficial. Should sex only be mutually beneficial? And if it’s not for one party, is it then rape? Here’s an example. Let’s say my girlfriend tells me she wants to have sex with me, but I really do not and I’m not in the mood. But for the sake of making her happy I compromise and have sex with her. Did she rape me? Because I wasn’t willing to have sex and I only had sex with her to fulfill only her desires. See? It’s a pretty slipp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 07:48 AM |
| 2 | Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”?Is sex under any premise other than “willing to have sex” rape? Not only money, but like for the opportunities, children, pity, fame, boredom and etc.? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”?By your logic, you can’t make promiscuity ethical, no matter how much you all try. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 04:58 AM |
| 3 | Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”?Haha, yeah, this is the ultimate version of double standards 😂 It’s like “I had the opportunity to have shit ton of sex, and I used all of them. But men who used their opportunities to have sex are inferior to me. And I can’t see why other men see me inferior for using my opportunities. But I do other men tho 😂😂” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”?Wow. We’ve made a whole circle where “not wanting to date a sex worker for whatever reason” is hugely condemned, while “not wanting to date a person who uses sex workers’ services” is a normal take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 04:34 AM |
| 0 | Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”?Sex shouldn’t be something that you “bring to the table”. Sex should be something that you both enjoy with your partner. If “the ability to have sex” is the only thing you value in yourself in a relationship, then I’m sorry these type of men don’t want to put up with the entitlement and rather use the sex workers’ services. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 04:27 AM |
| 3 | Men today act so feminine“Because modern women are not worth doing all that” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather have sex with a fat 20yr old or a fit 50 yr old?Fat 20 year olds. Idk, but I’m pretty turned on by the fertility 🥵 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Is it worth it for average guys to get good at bedroom maxxing?But why not do that in a long term relationship? Why does it have to be a casual sex in order for her tell her friends and then perpetuating the casual sex machine? In LTR your partner won't tell their friends how good you are in bed, because they respect your privacy. But in casual sex the other party don't care about it, so they would tell their friends. It would create a chain reaction of friends of friends and so on... knowing that you're good in bed. And that would only perpetuate and promo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Is it worth it for average guys to get good at bedroom maxxing?Surely they won't tell their partners how they're (Blank)maxxing to get/keep them? They're just asking on a meta level if it's a good idea. They're not asking if you think your partner telling you they're (Blank)maxxing is arousing to you or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 04:05 AM |
| 1 | What is the big deal about submission?Then it’s the minority of men you’re talking about. Sure, you can ask them this question, but I don’t know what it’s going to give you since it’s not a representative of the majority of men. Maybe asking this question in BDSM subs would yield higher results then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Men dont NEED casual sexWait, are you really saying that friend and family are “needs”, and casual sex is just a “want”? I’m not saying they’re the same thing, but you’re in no way entitled to your friends. If me and you were friend, I have a right for whatever reason stop being friends with you, and you’re not entitled to have me as a friends. Heck, you’re not even entitled to know why I don’t wanna be your friend. And it applies to any of your friends. You’re not entitled to them, and you’re not even entitled to know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Men dont NEED casual sexNo not at all. I just brought an example as casual. But it as equally can be sex in a relationship. The reason I brought up casual sex is because it's pretty inflammatory to bring up for these people. Because if you ask the OP "are men entitled to sex in a relationship?", or "is sex in a relationship a need?", they would reply with the same answer as in the op post. It doesn't matter if it's a casual sex or LTR sex. It's all sex. People have different lives and in their different stages. Some ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 05:23 AM |
| 3 | Men dont NEED casual sexHaha, I love this topic. Because the moment I bring the parallel analogy y'all get triggered lol: People always act like not having friends is the biggest problem. Friendship is not a need it is a want. If you compare the lack of friendships to real problems like poverty or sickness a lack of friends doesn't seem like a legitimate problem. Not having friends may make you feel undesirable, but that's about the extent to the impacts of having no friends. I think people should stop complaining abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:50 AM |
| 1 | The bald mans handicapYeah, if you're not zoomer or a millennial you got pretty much no problems in that department. Because a bald head is just a one type of hair styles that some women in your dating pool like/don't mind. But if you're a zoomer, older women won't date you because you're too young, and younger women (who are at around your age) won't date you because no young woman likes a young bald/balding guy. It gives an old guy vibe, or potentially remind them of their fathers. But yeah, I don't see no reasons … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 02:13 AM |
| 1 | The bald mans handicapbitch im back & my ass got bigger, fuck my ex you can keep dat... What did your ex do to you? 😭 Did he cheat on you or didn't appreciate you and was abusive? 😢 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 02:03 AM |
| 1 | The bald mans handicapWell of course in your 40s it would totally normal to expect women seeing 40 year old bald men as attractive if they're fit (and/or have a beard). But if you've started going bald when you were 15, yeah, your dating life is basically dead. So you gotta do what you gotta do. Either taking meds that'll decrease your sperm count by 90% in hopes of sustaining what you have (not always works). Or getting a hair transplant or a hair system in order to "deceive" women to at least starting dating you an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 01:56 AM |
| 2 | CMV I believe that beeing a Step Dad is one off the most humilating things that a Man can do to himself.The problem with the new alpha in the lions pride is that the new alpha kills all the puppies of the previous one. Nature is sometimes brutal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/23 01:44 AM |
| – | Should men only seek affection if they earned or deserve it?Trueee. Most of the times it's not about if you 100% earned it and got exactly what you earned, but if you were in a right time and a right place and got lucky. Of course some baseline attributes should be met (like not being a serial killer or animal abuser), but it's mostly luck that can describe your partner being a "higher tier" than you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 06:33 AM |
| 0 | A woman being promiscuous benefits men more than herselfI agree that if in FWB situation only the man orgasms, it's generally not beneficial for the woman (unless she loves him and secretly want to be in a relationship, in which case I'm sorry for her for being in such a miserable situation). And even though in a lot of cases women do NOT get as many orgasms as men (sometimes not at all), would you agree that in those cases where they DO get orgasms as many as men (and potentially even more), then it's fair to assess that they're both getting benefit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 05:43 AM |
| 8 | Women don't hate nice guys because they storm off after being rejected, women hate them because they create a secret, transactional relationship without the woman's consent.You're painting it as if ONE woman saying both of these contradicting statements and just being a schizo for not knowing what she wants. But in reality, it's completely different people with completely different approaches to interpersonal relationships. People are different, even in the same identity group. You can see the main discrepancy between tradcons and feminists. They have completely different and contradicting approaches, but you somehow manage to attribute those views to ONE imaginary… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 02:03 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women must feel like they are going crazy when most men are willing to sleep with them, but only a handful would be interested in a committed relationshipI don’t think you can determine that kind of person based on their attractiveness level. Because pretty unattractive person might be willing to only hooking up with you, and a pretty attractive person might be willing to date you. It’s more have to do with their personality and character than attractiveness. And you’ll be able to determine if a person is willing to date you or not based on experience. It takes trials and errors to understand that. Just like how guys have to approach a lot of wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 10:18 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women must feel like they are going crazy when most men are willing to sleep with them, but only a handful would be interested in a committed relationshipwhile not also shooting themselves in the foot by settling for a relatively less attractive guy It's a struggle that everyone has. You'd never be able to determine if a partner you're in a long term committed relationship with is the best you can get. If you try to minmax and find the best partner that is willing to commit to you, but right below the point of attractiveness where they would pump/dump you, then you're doomed to fail. Because real life doesn't work like that, and the grass is alwa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever had a close, heterosexual male platonic friend before ? If so, how was it ?Did you use ChatGPT to spice up your text by any chance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 11:54 AM |
| 4 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?Ahaha, they 100% do... ime... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 11:47 AM |
| 2 | How often are women marrying men they have little sexual desire for (or far little compared to other guys they’ve been with)? Are they cognizant of the long term effects of such decisions?Yeah, I hate this kind of people from the bottom of my heart. Just tell me what to do and we can share the chores equally. Not everything is based on your standards. For instance, you could be taking showers once in two days, but my standards are that it's grossssss if you don't take at least two showers a day. See? Our standards are different, and the only way we can resolve the discrepancy in our standards IS TO TALK. I CAN'T READ YOUR MF MIND. Or maybe I think it's gross to not shower right a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 11:37 AM |
| 2 | CMV: it’s a huge red flag for a western guy if he can’t handle girls in Western apparel and liv e in the westI don't think it's inherently bad to be repelled by your own culture and be in favor of a foreign one. It can happen sometimes. For instance, if you were born in a Muslim country, does this mean it's a huge red flag if you don't like all women being controlled and all of them wearing burkas? Muslim people would say yes, but if you move to the US no one would judge you for that. In fact, they'll welcome you. But Muslim people would still ostracize you for even moving there and say you're scum. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 11:14 AM |
| – | CMV : Women need to follow the example that you can wait longer now to settle than ever as to avoid failed relationships with men they don’t loveI mean, it's not that easy to make "an extra 450k". The whole point is that in order to make that much, you'll have to sacrifice a lot. You'll sacrifice your time that you could spend finding a compatible partner and bonding with them, having a meaningful time together. Now, I'm not saying it's bad per se, but it's clearly not with its own downsides. So, by the time you're making 500k, you might be 35-40 with 0 experience on how to find a compatible partner an 0 knowledge on finding red flags (w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 06:11 AM |
| – | CMV : Women need to follow the example that you can wait longer now to settle than ever as to avoid failed relationships with men they don’t loveI, personally, as a man, would rather have 50k and in a relationship with a woman who meets all those other prerequisites of mine, rather than having 500k and not being able to find a woman who meets all those (because my standards are now higher, since I'm a "high value" now). If you wanna talk about being single or not per se, then sure, having 500k as single is much better than 50k as single. But if you weigh in what's important for you in life, then the picture changes a little, and now you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 05:31 AM |
| – | CMV : Women need to follow the example that you can wait longer now to settle than ever as to avoid failed relationships with men they don’t loveOh, now you're shaming them for not getting married yet? First you shame people who get married too soon, now you're shaming them for getting married too late. What if they don't get married at all and enjoy their time together? "Red flag"? If you're gonna build your relationship based on if there's a risk of a baby during sex, then I don't think you're ready for a mature relationship yet. Mature couples✨🌈communicate🌈✨with each other in real life. Risk of getting pregnant is EXTREMELY LOW, if ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 05:07 AM |
| – | CMV : Women need to follow the example that you can wait longer now to settle than ever as to avoid failed relationships with men they don’t loveImagine thinking you're owed a top notch man who has a deal breaker that doesn't match yours. Why would you force anyone who wants a biological child to be with you? If a homeless guy comes to you and you refuse him, can he say "imagine thinking you're owed a successful man who makes 60k a year and refuse to marry a homeless guy. Wild"? See how the parallel goes? If you're gonna start your pet topic about "you're not entitled to [insert anything]", then yeah, you're not entitled to a man either.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 04:48 AM |
| – | CMV : Women need to follow the example that you can wait longer now to settle than ever as to avoid failed relationships with men they don’t loveDo you think a man you're with would cheat on you or not depends on how successful you are? I really doubt that. Sure, you can go as high as you want, but the number of men you're be willing to date will only decrease (since your standards go higher). And at some point there won't be enough of men who would meet all of your prerequisites. Imagine when you make 50k a year, you're willing to date guys who make the same or more. There's a decent chunk of them. And the chance you might meet someone … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 04:39 AM |
| – | CMV : Women need to follow the example that you can wait longer now to settle than ever as to avoid failed relationships with men they don’t loveI understand your good will, but this looks more like a psyop. People should have freedom to marry at any age they want (as long as it's not too young, and there's no huge power dynamic). Framing a marriage as something that will deprive you of those things that you described is a little disingenuous. Yes, there are abusive marriages, but it's not all of them. Just like there are women who've waited till 35, but now can't find a compatible partner and now are alone. But not all of them. It's rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 04:30 AM |
| 2 | Q4A What female body type do you find the most attractive?2 and 7 are both good but for different reasons. 2 has more of a western type of attractiveness, where her hips are curvy (which I like), and her hips to waist ratio is also big (waist being slim), and 7 has more of a Asian type of attractiveness, where her “tits to arm ratio” is really big while being moderately slim and having an “oneesan” type of aesthetics. The least I guess would be 4, but not by a huge margin, they’re all pretty high on a scale. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Do you prefer slim or curvy?Daaaamn flexing here left and right 😏😏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I mean they wouldn't know, so it would be meaningless to ask them that question. The more important question is to ask that girl, if she's willing to lie and be in a relationship, or be completely honest and be forever alone. And if she's willing to lie, would she be able to endure a burden of a fact that she's lying to her partner. Would she take that lie to her grave? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I agree, but a lot of people do, even if they love. Maybe because they don't want to face the consequence of being alone, or maybe they're lying to themselves too. It could be anything. But for you, personally, would you rather lie to a person you love in order to be in a happy and loving relationship with them, or would you be honest to yourself and them, and facing a heartbreaking break up and forever being alone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I see. So your answer is keeping your integrity and being completely honest, but be forever alone. Rather than lie about something (e.g. your past) but be in a loving and caring relationship, where you can have an emotional/sexual intimacy (cuddling, spooning, hugging after sex). Interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I mean, as long as you're able to hide it and your partner doesn't know about it, you can ensure you're in a actually loving relationship (like how woman hid the fact she's not a virgin, or how a man hid the fact he's raped someone in the past). As long as you're able to endure the burden of a lie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Does this count as forever alone? Yeah I think it does. If you could lie about something from your life, and that ensured you getting into a sexual/emotional relationship, would you lie? Or would you keep your integrity but forever being alone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I see. So your livelihood and happiness depends on how good you're able to lie. Do you think if your livelihood and happiness were independent of you lying to other people, would you still lie to get something even more, or keep your integrity and stay with what you have, but being completely honest? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Okay, I see. So we've established that you'd never date a rapist, no matter how remorseful they feel. Knowing this information, would you rather hide the fact you've raped someone in the past and take that info to your grave, or tell your future potential partners that you've raped someone in the past, but being forever alone? I'm pretty sure a lot of rapists rather hide that information. I'm curios what your choice would be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I don't think most people would admit to that, but if it came up in conversation, then I don't think I'd be able to hide it. So you won't be able to keep it inside of you, because you think it would eat you out from the inside and make you feel guilty for hiding it? So you'd rather keep your integrity and be forever alone, then lie and feel guilty but be in a loving relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:36 AM |
| 0 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?rapists are usually narcissist I completely agree. But there have been cases in r/confession where guys would confess anonymously and feel remorseful about it. but I guess yes you should tell them? If you truly feel remorseful you should accept the payback Oh, so you do think they're obligated to share that information. Even if it's in the past and doesn't affect them and their current partner? Like, if not being a virgin is ostracized in a community where the woman in a hypothetical was, should… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Oh, so you just won't mention stuff that doesn't affect you or your partner, right? Just like the woman who's not a virgin won't mention that fact, because it doesn't affect her or her partner. Let's then imagine a situation where you've raped someone in the past when you were young, but feel remorse now. Would you not mention it to your current partner, since it doesn't affect her and you? I'm curious about your answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I would imagine if it's an insecurity or low self-esteem, that might be applied. But something that is objectively repelling (like you mentioned, pedophilia). Or let's say you've raped someone in the past, but feel remorse. Would you hide that fact, or eventually tell your partner and risking them breaking up with you (which is highly likely, no one wants to date a rapist)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?No one would shame you for being single. I'm just asking if you'd be fine with lacking romantic and sexual intimacy for the rest of your life? Or would you become desperate enough and hide some aspects of your life in order to get into a relationship? Let's say you have a strange fetish (zoophilia, non-consensual fetishes, etc.). Would you hide your fetishes and date people normally, or be completely upfront and repelling every woman, risking being forever alone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Okay. So what about a strange fetish. Let's say you have a fetish, where no one would date you if they found out about it (e.g. necrophilia, coprophilia, etc.)? Would you hide your fetish and date people normally? Or be upfront and explicit about it, but repelling everyone and being forever alone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:12 AM |
| 3 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?I see. What do you think women lie about themselves in order to get into a relationship (if they do)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:07 AM |
| 4 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Yes of course. They won't care about your past as long as you're willing to pay them. And they would never orgasm with you and won't feel good having sex with you. It'll be their job and duty to get you off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Not necessarily. As I stated in an example, a woman can lie about herself being a virgin and live a happy long life. But it might eat her out from the inside, because she knows her relationship is based on a lie. So if she's able to endure that, then she can ensure that she'll be in a happy relationship (this only applies to religious communities). Or let's say a woman used to be a sex worker in the past. If she's able to hide it, her dating pool would be normal. But if she's explicit about it, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?Forever alone in terms of a romantic partner who'd you have a sexual intimacy. But in terms of friends and family, it won't affect their opinion on you. Let's say you not being a virgin guarantees you won't be able to find a person (or maybe you have some niche fetish), that wouldn't change how your friends see you. But no woman would be willing to date you. Would you hide the fact that you're not a virgin (or have a strange fetish), or never be in a romantic relationship (but have friends and f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather be forever alone or sugar coat (lie about some aspects) of yourself in order to get into a relationship (no matter how stable it is)?most of the time It implies that you might lie by omission about some stuff that you think your partner might consider a red flag? Of course if it's a deal breaker it would be harder to hide, but if it's something "not preferable", would you rather hide it and be in a relationship (e.g. you partner wants to date a virgin, but you're not a virgin)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 12:41 AM |
| 4 | Jonah Hills situation is proof why men cant win. He was insecure, they broke up due to his insecurity and somehow he still needs t be condemnedHow can you get mad when you go to a club and see a woman dancing and french kissing other guys, dating her, and then get mad she's still french kissing other guys while dating you. If you wanted a conservative woman you could've easily done that but you chose her and tried to change and control her not kissing other guy. How dare you. --------- Can't you see we have different standards and behaviors when we're single and when we're in a relationship? Her wearing a competitive suit (which she di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 12:31 AM |
| 7 | Jonah hills situation shows the hypocrisy of society, 'communication' only matters when it benefits one partLet's say I enter a monogamous relationship, and then midway change my mind and want to be in an polyamorous one (for whatever reason). Would it be fair now if I communicate to my partner that I either want to open our relationship or break up? They have full autonomy over which one to choose, and either is fine. Do you think it would be fairer if I don't provide them with no other choice and unilaterally end the relationship? Providing them with an alternative is the least I can do. (Btw consid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:50 AM |
| 5 | What dating advice would you give to women?Women from 50 years ago would be in awe too. But we're building standards based on modern people, not people from the past. Because we live in a completely different world, and we gotta adapt to it. Otherwise you'll get burned trying to change the system, not yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 01:16 AM |
| – | What dating advice would you give to women?I mean, they're right to a degree. But the things most people burn over are not usually said in these advices. The problem is - these advices are meant for neurotypical people. These advices imply shit ton of arbitrary rules, where a lot of things are "obvious", and "literally no one asks this question, everybody knows that". But the truth is, there's a middle ground. You have to carry a balance between being pedantic and puritanic. And it's gotta be genuine. Most people don't kick stray dogs, t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 01:11 AM |
| 2 | What dating advice would you give to women?Don't fight over semantics and wordings. If you understand his intend, there's no need to fight over how he said things, because most of the times he didn't have an ill intent of hurting you, he's just not experienced with nuanced answers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Trueeee 😂 Imagine people saying eat the women 😂😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.And that was my whole point from the beginning 😂 It’s because women don’t want casual sex as much as men do. So it creates a supply/demand issue. Which would give easy access for sex to women. But men shouldn’t be hating on women just because they have the easy access to sex. The reason they have the access to it is because they don’t want it. If they did, there wouldn’t be the supply/demand issue. Just like high libido lesbians (top) struggle with finding another high libido lesbians (bottom). … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Finally! Now we’re getting to something more fundamental. My whole premise of the analogy is that we agree and accept the free market concept. And the reason I’m not a communist is the same for why I don’t want the mass distribution of sex (I guess you know what that means). You own a valuable asset. And you were born with it. And you didn’t earn it. But does it mean others can take it from you and distribute it to everyone? Of course not. To some aristocrats their capital is more fundamentally … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Well, you made it out of the hood and became the rich kid yourself. Now you have your own toys (access to sex) and don’t have to hate on other rich kids. Life is good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys."Men don't hate women for the ease access to sex, but hate for choosing only the minority of men". Well now we have a problem here. Since it's only their rightful choice to choose who they want to exercise their access to sex with (share the toys to play with), you can't blame them for choosing anyone. If the rich kids were only choosing the minority of poor kids to play with (for whatever reason), I would understand the jealousy and resentment from the other poor kids. But the rich kids are not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Ok. Maybe I wasn't clear enough: Being born a female is something that you can't choose. It will give you value, but it's inherent value, not something you earned. And being a female gives you easy access to sex. But who gave you the easy access to sex? Your gender (something you can't choose or change). Should we blame your gender? Of course not! Being born in a rich family is something that you can't choose. It will give you value, but it's inherent value, not something you earned. And being b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Well technically yeah, it's similar. If the poor kid breaks the rich kid's toy accidentally, he won't be able to reimburse it (because he's poor). Or if he breaks it intentionally - he would be put in jail/do public service. The same applies for sex. If a man accidentally breaks the woman's boundary during the sex, he won't be able to reimburse the trauma he did towards a women (nothing will undo her trauma). Or if he intentionally breaks the boundary - he will be put in jail for rape. But I agr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Why did you brought up the parents issue? Of course parents are not responsible for other kids. And I'm not blaming parents. You don't choose your parents, just like you don't choose your gender. If you were born in a rich family, it's just you got lucky, and no one's here to blame. Just like if you were born a woman, no one's here to blame. Now, after you've acquired the desirable thing (toy/access to sex), you can either choose to share it with a specific person you want, or not share it at al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.But even if we remove the issue of razors and STDs in toys, it still wouldn't change the sexual interactions between men and women. And the main reason I brought the analogy with toys, is because I wanted to ignore those health/safety issues and focus solely on value. Because most people understand the implication of health in terms of casual sex, and we've talked about it a lot. But we rarely have talked about sex solely in terms of it's value (mainly due to emotional responses), because if we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Yeah, I guess there's an extra layer of shame and marginalization of LGBTQ community, especially in terms of sexual interactions. But as a general take, it's usually harder for lesbians to find casual sex than it is for men. Even without all the shame and stigma. Simply because generally men have higher libido. And I know there're of course exceptions to the rule, outliers. Just like there're low libido cishet guys, or high libido cishet women. And especially with age it would also come down for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.The analogy is not quite right there. Your analogy implies that the fat man is wasting the food that he could give to the poor people. He first bought it with his own actions, but then threw it away. Women on the other hand, don't choose to have easy access to sex (buy the food). They have it from the start. And with food analogy, they don't throw it away, they just don't eat it and keep it in the freezer up until the moment they want to eat it with someone else. You analogy would be right if th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Yeah, see? You even had to put a disclaimer there. Because generally people would get emotionally triggered and from that point it would be impossible to have a rational and productive conversation. Because, would you argue with a rape victim about the consent? Or the possible ways men could be manipulated. Or maybe discover what were the actions they did that potentially led there? Of course not! And anyone who does is a heartless and apathetic POS. And I genuinely think so too. But it doesn't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Well, obviously. Easy access to sex with the gender you're attracted to. Because technically men have easier access to sex with men, than women have access to sex with women (because generally gay men have more sex that lesbians). So if you're high libido lesbian - you're fucked (metaphorically, not literally lol). Or if you're low libido gay man, then you're quire literally and metaphorically fucked too. Since all men generally want to fuck you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Of course I'm not equating sharing toys with having sex. I'm just comparing them in order to draw a parallel in similarities. Comparing =/= equating. While I understand that having sex is more personal, and relates to your health, and has other issues too, I brought up the toy example to show mainly the value of sex, not it's consequences or health issues. Because most people generally understand the health related stuff, but they don't get why we still value them differently. I'm pretty sure yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Oh I gotchu. Yeah I think it's pretty intuitive and might even be applied for lower libido guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.broke in down in the way I did What do you mean by that? Can you elaborate? Edit: I asked ChatGPT, is it right? 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:51 AM |
| 2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.That's what I'm implying. Just because the guys see it as something really valuable and desirable, doesn't mean it has the same value for women. And not only because of the orgasm gap. Even if women were getting the same amount of orgasms and it wasn't as risky as it is for them now, the dynamics in sexual interactions still wouldn't change. Mainly due to discrepancy in standards and sex drive. Which is not huge, but still enough to create a supply/demand market for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:46 AM |
| 1 | Why RP men say that teen love is important, but at the same time, only want virgins?isn’t worth the effort That's the actual problem. You don't think it's worth it to raise someone else's child. Not yours. Because most guys do want to have kids, but their own ones. If the reason for most guys not dating single moms is because they don't want kids at all because it's not worth it (bio/adopted), then the humanity would be extinct long time ago lol. But most guys do want to have children. Just bio kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Good for you! Now that's and example of a healthy mindset. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:39 AM |
| 0 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.I would agree with you that the rich kid would at some point become aware of it. But imagine this situation. Let's say he's from a rich family, but he doesn't like to play with toys. Even though he has the ability to buy them, he just doesn't like them. Would it be fair for the poor kids to resent him for the privilege that he doesn't even need or want? He'd be like "I'd rather be born in a poor family and not experience this resentment from the other kids, especially when I don't want this priv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:38 AM |
| 2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Do you think that the rich kid is OBLIGATED to share his toys with everyone? If not, then he would still want to share it with someone to have fun together. If his preference is tall poor kids - so be it! Because it's his toys. He can do with them whatever he wants. Because if you had the toys too, you would do the same thing too! The kids would call him a racist if he chooses friends based on their race. But if he chooses friends based on their personality, or on how nicely they treat them (and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Well that's from the poor kid's perspective. He thinks that the rich kid is a Chad, and he's just mid. But from the rich kid's perspective, they're both around the same. He's just never thought of his privilege of being rich. He's always had it and it seemed to him as something obvious. But when we grow up, we realize that, and either develop empathy towards poor guys, or use that knowledge as a leverage and abuse our power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:24 AM |
| 5 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Jealousy is completely natural and fine. But it's also important to acknowledge that it's not their fault and that you don't have to resent them because of it. That way you'll be able to build relationship with anyone and actually be happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Well, first of all, the rich kid is free to share or not share his toys with anyone he wants. He's not obligated to do that. But of course he chooses to share it's toys because he wants to play together and have fun together. He might have some preferences in terms of who they make friend with and share toys with, and there might be kids who look intimidating to them, so they don't share it with them. Even though it's his full choice, if he chooses kids to play with based on their race (e.g. onl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:15 AM |
| 0 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.If you want to phrase it like that, then yes, he lacks self-awareness. Just like we lack the self-awareness to acknowledge how lucky we are to have two legs, or being able to breath. When you have something from the start, it's an obvious thing for you. The disabled guy will resent you for lacking the self-awareness of lucky you are to be able to run and jump and do all these stuff... But you're complaining about the stairs, or how you have to walk to your school 20 minutes everyday. Is he dumb?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 06:08 AM |
| -2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Well, I mean if you're fine with cutting off potential friends (shrinking your dating pool), and avoid befriending rich kids (most attractive women), then you do you! But I think it would be much healthier and productive to accept the differences in your values and perspectives and befriend those kids (date non-virgins). If you're able to accept the reality and not let the resentment eat you out, you'll be able to have fun and find a lot of new perspectives! Maybe even later inherit the rich guy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 05:55 AM |
| 0 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.You can definitely ask women on how to get access to sex. But they won't give you a useful advice on how to get some, just like how rich kid won't be able to tell you how to get rich. Because it both cases it's not their achievements, it's something that they both had from the start. It's obvious to them. Asking the rich kid to donate the toy is the same as desperately asking a women to sleep with you. In both cases they might comply to you or might not. But it's clear that in both cases they wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 05:27 AM |
| -2 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Yes, because the rich kid sees both of them as equal, and both of their struggles as equal too. It would actually make more sense that he sees it like that, because if he thought that the poor guy has it worse, it would mean that he acknowledges the fact that they're not equal. For the mature adults it's fine, but kids shouldn't be thinking of other kids as inferior to them, especially when it's not their own achievements. it’s best to just tell the rich kid to stfu That's what will create the r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 05:08 AM |
| 2 | Why RP men say that teen love is important, but at the same time, only want virgins?Yep! I think it's mostly the difference in experience that would create insecurity for one or another partner. If a virgin marries you, they might feel that they might be missing out and potentially end the relationship. But if it's you, who are a virgin, even if you might not feel like you're missing out, you might feel that your partner is not satisfied with you, since you're inexperienced and was a virgin, so it would make you insecure. That's why I think it's generally a better idea to date … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 04:31 AM |
| 3 | Why RP men say that teen love is important, but at the same time, only want virgins?You definitely can. Some people regret on missing out opportunities in their youth, and now feeling insecure or ashamed of their inexperience. You can't tell people to wait when you can't guarantee them a happy future if they do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 04:23 AM |
| 0 | Why RP men say that teen love is important, but at the same time, only want virgins?I think for some guys it's knowing that her future boyfriend/husband will know that he wasn't her first, and that would make him feel superior to that guy in his eyes. Even if for the woman it doesn't mean anything. It's like how some men feel about other men raising their children. Bio father would know that the step father is raising what essentially his work, and the result of his actions. Even if the kid doesn't care about it and doesn't feel about it in any way, for the bio dad it would be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 04:16 AM |
| -1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.I don't want to bring examples with men/women situation, because it will inevitable trigger feelings in both of genders, and that would make them unable to draw the parallel. That's why I use the examples with toys. First of all, it's okay to first feel resentful towards a rich guy for his toy. Because deep down you know you wanted the toys too. But since you 1.can't have it, and 2. won't ask to share, since it requires you to admit that you're below him, the only way for you left is to shame th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Men hating on women for the ease access to casual sex is like when poor kid hates on rich kid for the ease access to toys.Nah, poor kid asking to share wouldn’t call him names. Asking to share is a pretty good think, which would mean you accepted the fact that you don’t have it, and willing to have fun together on equal terms. But the resentment would come from the fact that you don’t own it. And since you think that you’re not equal in your perspective, you don’t want to admit it by asking to share. You would just call him names and shame him for being materialistic and shallow. And that toys wouldn’t make you hap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 03:42 AM |
| 0 | Would you break up with your partner if she put on 25-30kgs/55-66lbs?“Your comment was removed for coping too much” 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 10:14 PM |
| 0 | Would you break up with your partner if she put on 25-30kgs/55-66lbs?I never intended to phrase it as a gift. Yes, I do it mainly for myself, and not for them. But on a meta level, I understand that they would prefer someone who’s fit and aesthetically pleasing, just like most of us do (not saying it’s necessary). It’s like my work. If I’m passionate about it and consistently do it, it will inspire my partner to have a passion. And as a consequence I will earn money. But if they slack all day without any passion - that will show their character (which I wasn’t in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Would you break up with your partner if she put on 25-30kgs/55-66lbs?Short answer - yes. Long answer - it wouldn’t get to that point. Because I would break up with them not because of the weight per se, but because of their character. I’m inherently dating a person who inspires me, and whom I inspire. And if they see how I work out in the gym and gain muscle weight and improving my aesthetics, they’ll feel inspired by that, or at least a little pressured by that (in a good way) to work upon themselves too. But if they don’t, that means I inherently chose a partne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Girls aren't lying about their preferences, they just don't know guys can improveYeah, I guess I'm just saying that you don't consciously measure people's attractiveness and evaluate their number. But unconsciously your brain will do it for you. It doesn't mean it will have a great impact on how you interact with them, but the more attractive they're to you (1-10, unconsciously), the more likely you would consider them as a potential partner (it's a spectrum, not a specific point). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Girls aren't lying about their preferences, they just don't know guys can improveWell, the scale means if there're 10 guys from 1 to 10, and you had to sort them based on their looks that you prefer, you will sort them from the least attractive to the most attractive to you. But in reality, you don't have that kind of relative point of reference for all the encounters you have with guys. Sometimes you might be in a group where the average attractiveness is relatively low, and the guy who you might consider 5 with the point of reference, now suddenly seems ok and datable (esp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 05:12 AM |
| 6 | Why even start a family where both parents are working?Oh, so only rich families can have kids? Sure, kids need their parent to be around, but they don't require you being with them all the time (especially when they get older), and they generally can socialize with other people too (friends, school). Kids are not like pets who are dependent on you 100% of the time (not only food, but socialization), they grow and learn from the world, they're the same people as you. At 12 I was already craving to try and live all by myself, cooking all the food and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 04:33 AM |
| 2 | What places are acceptable to approach women for a date?Yes, just don't. In this day and age "arbitrary rules" won't save you from getting ostracized if you're unlucky meeting a person who'll freak out by your approach. The risk has elevated so much that it's just not worth it. But it doesn't mean you can't meet women at all. Even though approaching strangers = big no no nowadays, you can easily try approaching women from your social circles, friends of your friends. Or the other option is to meet them in OLDs. I won't recommend Tinder, since it's mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?Trueee! Other people thinking your actions are shallow shouldn't affect you. If a person thinks you're shallow for being a sugar baby, so be it! It doesn't affect them and their opinion doesn't affect you too, so you're good to go. If a person thinks someone wanting a virgin is shallow, so be it too! To each their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?Who you have sex with is a choice you make Ohhhh, judging people for their sexual past eh? I thought we agreed that sexual past of a person doesn't affect your current partner and it's not about them, and it shouldn't dictate their standards and preferences... But if you are going to say it matters, as long as you are not being hypocritical, than you should be consistent to those values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Women’s easy access to casual sex is not a privilegePrivilege doesn't imply 0 risk for everyone in the identity group. Is it riskier for all women to engage in casual sex? Yes. But are there women who engage in it without any consequences while simultaneously benefiting from the privilege of accessing it easier? Of course. To bring a parallel, here's the example for male privilege. Men are physically stronger than women and that gives them a privilege. But are all men going to benefit from that privilege? No, because people expect you to be stron… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthAnd if you want to be nit picking, saying 20% of women meet that standard is the same as saying that women only want the top 20% of men, who are earning more that $25,000, and the other 80% are fucked: I Got Standards Bro - Female Delusion Calculator | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthAnd here, I didn't add NO additional traits like "not married, or 0$ income", but still got narrower standards from women: I Got Standards Bro - Female Delusion Calculator | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthOkay, now you're being disingenuous by adding extra conditions (single, childless). Because we're not talking about other traits, only obesity. Here's the actual amount of women who are not obese: Male Reality Calculator - I Got Dreams So, around 60% of women are about the average standard that average man would have. I'm pretty sure women have much more narrower standard than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthEven on that site they clearly state that a moderate weight is 18.5-24.9, and obesity starts from 30. Where am I being disingenuous? <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with health <image> Do you think she has a (top margin) BMI of 24.9? Heck, even OP said she's 33. So who's now being disingenuous? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthThere are more thin men dating obese women, than thin women dating obese men... Think about it... 🤫 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthThat is NOT the average. And presenting it as it is just disingenuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthYes, and if you manage to go through THR and simultaneously work-out - you can attack the issue from both angles: speeding up your metabolism with meds, and speeding up your metabolism with muscle gain. And the cherry on top would be a calorie deficit, while staying on high protein diet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthNot with THR | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with healthShe's the exception to the rule. Of course not all thin people are going to be healthy, and not all moderately overweight people are going to be inherently unhealthy. You have to understand that people like Ash Pryor are a minority. And frankly, she doesn't seem obese to the level of most men not willing to date her. Often times obesity and unhealthy behaviors come hand at hand. But if you manage to have a healthy lifestyle while being moderately obese, at that point no one's gonna whine about n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:07 AM |
| 2 | The two types of rejectionsNo one teaches these young men that it’s okay to be rejected and move on. Often times it results in resentment and ruins their romantic life deep into their adulthood, just in spite. It’s unfortunate that no one supports them in those moments and they eventually get vengeful about every gender interaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 11:59 AM |
| – | Average guys typically shouldn't expect casual sexDick size than looks 👀 Black pill vs White pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 04:50 PM |
| 1 | I present to you my pill: The Final PillNah yeah sorry | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 02:15 AM |
| 3 | I present to you my pill: The Final Pill“Too long didn’t read”, so explain in couple sentences | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 01:16 AM |
| 3 | 40 percent of Japanese men in their 20s have never been on a dateI think the US and Japan has different type of gender wars. Where as in the US it's more about getting more equality and fairness, in Japan it's more about traditions vs modernism. Women here are generally more traditional than in the US. Meaning that they tend to want to keep the traditional gender roles and behaviors. And specifically with behaviors, they tend to be more feminine/submissive in a traditional way than in the US (not saying it's a good thing or a bad thing). And those type of wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/23 12:59 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Well that’s the risk of any type of cohabitation It's not. If none of you own the house and you both pay the rent to a third party LL, there's no such risk. Only in cases where only one party owns the house, such risk can occur. I'm not saying you should co-own your house with someone. It's your own property and you bought it. I'm saying that in this specific scenario you're creating a breeding ground for a potential abuse. And it doesn't happen in any type of cohabitation, only in this specific… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 08:18 AM |
| – | CMV: Women with high functioning autism have it easier than menYes. It makes it harder for diagnosis, and we should focus more on that. But in terms of partner-seeking, it has much of a less effect on women's success than it is for men. Because the threshold for creepiness for guys is really low (they can sniff it out from a kilometer). And so rejections would put a guy in a feedback loop of creepiness/unconfidence, unless someone takes them out of that loop. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 07:13 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?I also agree with that. But for relationships, you should also weigh in the financial situation of both parties. If a guy makes 6 figures and a woman is on minimum wage, it would be an asshole move for him to expect her to pay half of the date expenses. The same applies for the rent, if she's a rich landlord who makes 6 figures, and he's on minimum wage, it would be an asshole move for her to request him to move in and ask him to pay rent and profit out of him. It should be only him who would pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 06:50 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Meow meow meow!! 😭 (I can't get over your pic, I adore cats 😭) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 06:43 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Gotcha! In that case it's dangerous for the guy to make his partner a LL. Cause that would create a power differential between them. And frankly, knowing that my partner has some power over me, it would unconsciously affect my actions in our relationship, so they'll inherently be disingenuous. It's like when an older guy (35-40 y.o.) holds power over a younger woman (18-22 y.o.). Power differentials are a scary thing. 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 06:32 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Yeah... we're contagious as fuck, we spread like disease 😏 I could only see a viable option for paying the rent to her is if it's me who enthusiastically requested to live with her and pay half the rent. In that case I know she didn't have any incentives to profit out of me. So, if you want your partner to pay you rent, you should wait for them to request to move in with you and them paying the rent. If it's ME who invited them, then I can't request the money too, cause then my request to move i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 06:27 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?If you don't have any personal connections to a LL, then it's completely fine, and the tenancy protection is a good thing. But let's say you're your partner's LL and they're your tenant. In case if they cheat on you, you'd still be unable to use cheating as a legal reason to kick them out. Because they have a tenancy protection. Do you want to be forced to live with a person who cheated on you? And they can do much more horrible things to you as a partner, but still be innocent as a tenant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 06:13 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?That is the problem. If you break up with him, or let's say he cheats on you, you still wouldn't be able to kick him out legally. Do you want to be forced to live with a person who cheated on you? Because cheating cannot be used as a legal reason to kick someone out if they're a tenant. u/-Shes-A-Carnival's right. It's a really dumb thing to do. He can use that legal loophole and do horrible stuff to you as a partner, but be completely innocent as a tenant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 06:06 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?As a possible solution you can either: Sell your house (which is not viable based on OP) Give out your house for rent to someone else (which is not viable base on OP) Continue to pay your mortgage, but move in to your SO's house. Don't live together. First, find a roommate, and then try to make out with them. I think the number 5 is the most viable one, because you first present the premise of a transactional interaction (thus, being honest), and when after you make love with them, they would kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 02:25 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?doesn’t mean it’s good enough of a relationship to put them as an owner under your property I never said you should both own the house. I don't think OP should co-own her own house that she bought, with anyone. That's her property. I don't ask my landlord for the equity of the house I'm living. It's their property. There're several problems here. Firstly, the dynamic of a landlord/tenant is purely transactional from the very start. The landlord honestly states that they want to benefit (and earn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 02:21 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Ahaha, it reminded me of this post lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 02:06 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?If you start charging your SO for taking care of them while sick or for a foot massage you’re on a nice fast track to a breakup, this is just ridiculous ahaha. Are you in a relationship? See how it sounds? If your partner is charging you for anything you derive a potential benefit from, that's just them being an asshole. Because you could easily hire a foot massager and pay them for that labor, but your partner was willing to give that labor to you for free, because they love you and care about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 02:01 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Because there's a much less of probability of being kicked out by a random LL, rather than your GF. The only thing that matters here is stability. I want to be sure that my interpersonal dynamic with my GF doesn't affect my livelihood (or at least mitigate it). So creating that power differential between you and your partner creates a potential for abuse, regardless of if you want it or not. And frankly, that fact will always be behind my mind, knowing that she holds power over me, so that will … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 01:44 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Exactly this! 😂 I don't want her to think that I want her to move in only because I want to make it cheaper for myself. It's like a bang-roommate 😂 If I want her to move in with me, I want her to know that it's only because I love her and want to be more intimate with her, not because I'm a cheap fuck, who's looking for a convenient roommate, and simultaneously creating an inherent power differential between us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 01:38 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?It creates a power differential between you two. Having that power differential with an unbiased third party is fine (just like there's a power differential between you and your boss), because all interactions are kept professional, and thus stable. But you inherently can't keep interactions with your SO professional. You have highly private interaction with your SO, and that creates opportunities for your vulnerabilities (which you don't have with a third party). And if there's any power differ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 01:15 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Then don't live with them in the first place. If the dynamic of a landlord/tenant should be professional to keep things stable, then don't put yourself in that dynamic with a person whom you already have really unprofessional and highly private dynamic. If you want to live with someone, then outsource that professional dynamic to a third party. Find a separate landlord and become tenants together. But if it doesn't work for you (because you already own a house), then just don't live together unl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 01:04 AM |
| – | Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant?Yeah, I think at the end of the day the intent matters. If your SO is trying to profit out of you (which OP said they don't), then any side can be an asshole. If a guy is trying to profit by not paying his part - he's an asshole. If a woman is trying to profit by making him move in and pay the market price or above - then she's an asshole (paying market price per se is not a bad thing, it's the intent to make him move in solely to make it cheaper for herself, not because she wants to live with h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 12:55 AM |
| – | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?The statement above was implying that you're impure, filthy and dirty. And that it's and objective truth. It's a passive aggression. Again, you can have any type of value you have, but expressing it to other people (especially those who don't hold those values) in a passive aggressive manner is just being an asshole and trying to prove to everyone that your values are "the actually objectively right ones". You can totally have no threats or suggestions of violence, but you can be making fun of a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/23 02:23 AM |
| 3 | If men are inherently driven by the obtainment of sex, and the lack there/in search of effects their thoughts, feelings and behaviors about themselves/towards others. Would it be better for society if men held less power and influence in society?Men have overall higher sex drive. But it doesn't mean that at all times it's higher. Women momentarily can have much higher libido than men in specific timeframe of their cycle. But just like u/eefr said, judging men for their higher overall sex drive would be the same as judging women for their momentary higher sex drive during a timeframe in their cycle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/23 12:32 AM |
| 0 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?Okay man. If you're adamant with your view that women definitely cheat more than men, then there's nothing we can argue here. Our perspectives fundamentally differ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 08:12 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?Man, I don't know where are you taking this information... If it's "I personally know guys", or "I've seen posts about it", then it's all just anecdotal data and doesn't prove anything. You can clearly see here that men cheat more than women. If in your world these "nice" guys are being cheated on by women, then there are much more "nice" women who are being cheated on by men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 07:53 AM |
| 0 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?Oh, so you wouldn't have any negative feelings if he said something like: "it's crazy for me how these women show off their face and hair. I mean, they can do that if they want, and be as promiscuous as they want by showing their face. You do you. But I value chastity and purity, and respect for my future partner, so I would only be with a person who also values chastity and purity, thus wearing burka". If you don't feel any type of way by this statement, then I have nothing to say and I have co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 07:49 AM |
| 2 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?Yes, you're right. The same way of some people say to women to "stay pure", or "not lose their value by having sex", or "keep their hymen intact". That would make a lot of people "feel some inadequacy", because those people project their values onto them and shame them for not adhering to their values. For instance, a Muslim guy can come to you and say that you're a "whore" for not wearing burka, because you're showing your face to other men. Cause "women's beauty shouldn't be cheapened by filth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 06:27 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?While I agree that luck plays a huge role in finding a partner, it's pretty disingenuous to say that all "good" guys are getting fucked by promiscuous women. Usually, people find partners in their own social circles, or from OLDs. If you're not much into the casual sex, you probably have friends that share similar values with you, and those friends might have female friends with similar values. That's how you would usually meet them. If your social group consists of red pill guys, or pretty prom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 06:15 AM |
| 2 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?Ahaha, good luck on finding a meaningful and loving relationship with that kind of attitude towards your potential partners. You'll find women who would treat you the exact same way you treat them. And that would even further strengthen your belief that all women are "whores". It's a self-fulfilling prophecy and you're in a feedback loop. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 05:41 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?What makes her to stop being able to love? The number of how many times she has orgasms? Or just plainly how many dicks does she let inside of her vagina? Because for both cases, the same can be applied for men. Do you think that the more a guy has orgasms (to the point of porn addiction), the less he is able to love a woman? Or the more women he fucks, the less he's able to get attached to only one (because his attachment tool has been wore down by letting multiple women fuck with him)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 05:25 AM |
| 0 | What do you think of the concept of ‘true burning desire’?get married without that type of chemistry is crazy to me Are you shaming them? Two consenting adults can do anything they want to, as long as they're not hurting anyone. It's fine if you rather be single in this case, but shaming other people for getting married for whatever reason they choose to - is exactly like when people shame women for engaging in casual sex: it's "crazy" for them how the woman can be such a "slut", or a "whore", and can't imagine why she can't "close her legs" and be "so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 05:17 AM |
| 1 | If it's insulting that someone wants you after they've had their fun in their youth, would it be even more insulting if they still didn't want you?Oh, I'm curious where are you from if you're heading to the US. Are you from a country that needs to apply for a visa to go there, and did those employers that you found provide you with one (to get a working visa)? And if you're comfortable with sharing, what kind of work are you planning to do (like programming, etc.)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 01:48 AM |
| 2 | If it's insulting that someone wants you after they've had their fun in their youth, would it be even more insulting if they still didn't want you?It's definitely much better to be rejected. Cause that means they're staying consistent with their standards of attraction. Settling down doesn't mean going for someone who is less attractive than you want them to be (or have less desirable traits), it means that now you're looking for traits that are compatible with staying in a LTR. I would definitely feel insulted if I wasn't rejected by a person who would reject me in their youth. I want to feel wanted at all the times of both of our timelin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 01:43 AM |
| – | Women getting upset over the fact that Men like younger women is mainly irrationalIn OP’s story she’s 20. I replied to the person who said that only from 21 you’re considered developed (and from 21-25 there’s only marginal development). This person said it’s only okay to date her if she’s 21, but she is 20. I replied to that, saying that not only it wouldn’t make sense and be creepy if he “waited for her to become 21”, but also a 20 year old person is an adult, who have a full autonomy and can consent to any type of relationship. If they disagree with this, then we should pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/23 07:40 AM |
| -1 | Women getting upset over the fact that Men like younger women is mainly irrationalWait, so any guy that is attracted to you is inherently a pedophile? 😳 I’m so sorry for you that you think that way (even if he’s attracted for other reasons). It’s like being a billionaire and thinking that any girl attracted to you is a gold digger. While it’s true that most girls are, it’s really saddening if you think there’s no single girl that would be interested in you and your personality, not your money. I guess you have a similar situation 😢 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/23 07:32 AM |
| 0 | Women getting upset over the fact that Men like younger women is mainly irrationalIf you don’t see a difference between a 16 year old and a 20 year old, then there’s nothing to argue with you. You’re condemning a 27 year old dating a 20 year old (saying that they’re a child), but would you be okay if a 20 year old dated a 16 year old? (since in your eyes a 20 year old is still a child) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/23 07:16 AM |
| – | Women getting upset over the fact that Men like younger women is mainly irrational“justify fucking kids”. Is 20 year old a kid? 20 and 21 are not much different. It would be much creepier if a guy would “wait for her to become 21”, i.e. to become “legal age”, that’s basically grooming. If we agree that a person from 18 is an adult (especially 20), then condemning other adult having a consensual relationship with them would only make it harder for those adults, especially when they’re starting exploring relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/23 07:11 AM |
| 1 | Men need to lose the psychological battleOf course. But we don't stigmatize women for not wanting to be objectified. It's actually the opposite, we think it's empowering and liberating. Not only they're free to pursuit the type of relationships and partners they want, but no one shames them for caring about the emotional connection and meaningful interactions (rather than just sex). But for men, if he cares about the physical aspect of the interaction, and wants sex more than the emotional connection, then he's considered shallow and a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Men need to lose the psychological battleThank you so much! How many times I've addressed in this sub that people often stigmatize and ostracize the cravings for sex and physical intimacy, and no one seemed to mention it as well (as if we socially accepted that sex is disgusting by default, and you have to make a huge effort for it to be at least "acceptable") | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 01:58 AM |
| 1 | Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationshipsYeah, but for the vast majority of the population it's not doable. I also used to live with my friend for several years and it was fun, but I was still lacking the intimacy part that I'm having rn with my partner living with them. At the end of the day, you can't really substitute the true romantic intimacy you can have with your partner with your friends and family (I don't cuddle with my friends, or spoon them, or deep kiss them). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationshipsThe problem is that we currently don't have other types of interactions that are successful. If nuclear family is failing us and we should abandon it, what is the other way of living that actually works and makes us less lonely? I don't think we have anything else in our minds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 04:41 AM |
| 5 | Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationshipsI agree that romantic relationships are unique, and trying to substitute them with family and friends is just a coping mechanism. I don't deep kiss my family, hug or hold their hands for a prolonged time, cuddle with them, spoon them, let them sit on my laps and etc. Even though there's nothing wrong with love you share with your family and friends, there are still things that I can only do with my partner (beside sex). And frankly, my partner is going to be a person that I'm going to spend the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Most of the times, yes. If you give them an option of having sex with a random person only 1 time (and having an ability to choose another person), or having sex with the same person multiple times, most of the guys would choose the latter. Because the latter would imply that there's more attachment to that one person, than just "an object for sex". That's why most of the times with FWB, it's actually the guy who would get attached to the girl and become clingy. Complaining about "the lack of ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Your view on the opposite sex and how you think it affects your sex and dating lifeGotcha, then it makes sense. Cause usually I interpret "don't like" as "having negative feelings towards", not "having no feelings at all". But maybe that's just me. E.g. "I don't like natto, cause it stinks", or "I don't like doing my homework, but that's my duty". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Your view on the opposite sex and how you think it affects your sex and dating lifeDo you mean "don't like" as in neutral, or as in have negative feelings towards? Cause it also might mean "dislike", so I'm curious what you think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Your view on the opposite sex and how you think it affects your sex and dating lifeAnd you also want something from the other gender, where as the members of that gender don't want that from each other. Duh, it applies for every gender in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Your view on the opposite sex and how you think it affects your sex and dating life1 for both. I generally have faith in humanity. And it's sometimes fun getting perspectives of different sex on their own experience of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.If someone is married and the love is there in the marriage, but because of circumstances they cannot have sex, it is understandable that someone misses the sex and not the love (because the love already is there). In this situation, it's either that the couple has been for so long, that their love has evolved into a different type of love (attachment type of love, the kind of one you have with your family), or it's a hyper niche situation where either the woman has vaginismus, or the guy has ED… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.I never vouched for sex without love. That's a different discussion. But saying that if you have love you can't complain about lacking sex is just ridiculous. Yes, we don't have sex with every person we love, but the type of love we share with out partners is different than the one we share with our family and friends. I don't deep kiss my family, I don't hold hands with them for a prolonged time, I don't hug them randomly, I don't cuddle with them, I don't spoon them, I don't let them sit on my… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Yes. And I agree with that. I never compared the two, or said that they're equal. That's a different discussion. We can both talk about women's problems of how they feel unsafe in our current society, and talk about men's problems of how they feel the lack of sexual intimacy both at the same time. We're not downplaying anyone. Just because one side's problems are bigger, it doesn't mean that we can dismiss the other side's problem and completely ignore them. That would only perpetuate the hate a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Why does it have to be this extreme? Can't I have sex AND love someone at the same time? Why is it when someone complains about the lack of sex, you're quick to assume that they DON'T CARE ABOUT LOVE, HOW SHALLOW THEY ARE!!! You can both complain about having sex and lacking love (often times with women), and complain about having love and lacking sex (often times with men). Neither are irrelevant and neither of them is more important than the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Have you heard of r/DeadBedrooms? A lot of women are complaining there too. While we can agree that there are other ways to be intimate with someone without having sex, and that the problems with the lack of sex on r/DeadBedrooms are more have to do with the lack of intimacy, I'm curious what do you think is the percentage of people in heterosexual relationships who DO experience intimacy without any sex. If it is possible to experience intimacy without sex, then what is the point of having it i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 12:49 AM |
| 0 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.It's like saying to an African poor kid from the western standpoint: "If you're so hungry, why don't you just work harder? You're not entitled to our food. We work hard to make this food, and here you come with your eNtiTlemEnt to this food. Especially when you steal it from us." Even though we both have our own problems and struggles, just disregarding one side's problem as "entitlement" is just dismissive and ignorant. We just have different problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Then why are we dating, getting into relationships, getting married? Why don't we just make friends and live happy lives without any drama from relationships? Why it always has to be these two extremes, where if a man expresses his frustration about sexlessness, then he's a superficial animal who doesn't care about the woman. You can both love someone for who they are, and both want sex at the same time. I know, sounds crazy right? Why is there a sub called r/DeadBedrooms? And not only men, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 12:19 AM |
| – | CMV: Too Many Sexual Experiences Ruins Sex for WomenIt could be a complete selection bias for you. Or just the simple fact that... this is all anecdotal experience. No matter how many women you've heard telling you how they got worse at cumming the more they had sex, you would never be able to use that as solid evidence that ALL 4 billion women would have the same experience (cause your sample size would only be limited to max couple of dozens women telling you that, if you're lucky). Simply put, your anecdotal evidence can not in any way be mapp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/23 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Describe the "modern man"If you’re married, did you sign a prenup? Or if planning to marry in the future, are you going to sign it? Im curious if it’s considered normal and somewhat modern, or is it still stigmatized? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 03:28 AM |
| 1 | CMV : Women underestimate the sheer effort and time towards looking like a big muscular gym bro, which is why they say they don’t like gym/muscular guysThere’s always aesthetics to thinks, and it doesn’t matter how much effort you’ve put into your looks. I would still not be attracted to a woman who technically put A LOT of effort into her looks and overdid her makeup and injections (like lip or cheek fat) The important thing is not how much effort you’ve put into something, but how aesthetically pleasing does it look. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestWell, OP specifically pointed out that he just doesn’t want to experience pain and suffer near a friend who rejected them. Yes, it might be immature that they can’t develop coping mechanisms to deal with their feelings, but we can’t blame them if they can’t, and just want to run away. It should be okay for people to deal with their emotions however they like, as long as they don’t hurt other people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 04:23 AM |
| 3 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestI’ve never heard a man seriously saying that women are not worth anything beside sex. And if you had a horrible experience based on that, then I’m sorry for you. Men are definitely not like that. Both men and women develop romantic feelings and have butterflies in their guts. We’re much more similar to each other than you think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 04:20 AM |
| 5 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestSo, for you dating = access to “hole”? I could still date them without any sex completely fine if they’re not ready for it. Do you think that any romantic feeling is based on “wanting an access to hole”? What about women then? If they develop feelings for their male friends, are their feelings now contingent on stick access? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestYou put sex too high in a priority for men. We’re not animals that need only sex and turn down a friendship for it. Relationships are not sex. If men only needed sex, they could either use sw services or just hook up on apps. It is just stupid to lose a friend just because you wanted to get your dick wet. It’s not how feelings work. And frankly, if sex is the only thing I need from my friend, them turning down on it wouldn’t devastate me. What is the reason for me cut all contacts with them if I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 03:47 AM |
| 0 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestAnd also, I think a lot of people here think that the only difference between a friend and a lover is sex. It’s not only more than that, but ESPECIALLY if I develop feelings for specifically my friend, most of the time sex is not even in my head and has one of the lowest priorities. I can even wait till marriage if I date a friend that I developed feelings for 😂 Most of the time, falling in love with your friend is not because I want to have sex with them. Most of the time what I want to do is c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 01:23 AM |
| 4 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestSo the only thing you see valuable in your romantic partner is sex? Do you think the only difference between a friend and a lover is sex? Do you cuddle with you friends? Do you hold hands with them? Do you hug for a prolonged time? Do you spoon them? Do you let them sit on your laps? And most importantly, do you deep kiss your friends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestIf you can “end your crush”, it only shows how shallow your feelings were towards them. Especially when you’re near them and witness how that guy is kissing other girls and potentially sleeps with them (which is totally fine, and they have all the rights to do so). If I express my feelings, but not only I get rejected, but even FORCED to witness how they kiss other people - that’s like living in a nightmare, and I can’t imagine how you can just “end your crush” there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestBeing “pretty” is not a qualifier for me to become friends with someone 🤔 All those qualities that you mentioned, those are for people who are looking for a romantic partner in the first place. Making friends is a spontaneous and reciprocating thing, you don’t “choose” your friends, you just randomly make them. And sometimes it so happens that one party develops feelings, and it’s definitely not because they’re pretty or handsome or beautiful. And it’s exactly because I’m friends with them, I de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 01:04 AM |
| 4 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestDaamn, that hit hard after I read this 🥲 Hopefully you’re in much better place rn buddy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 12:50 AM |
| 9 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestYou thinking that a genuine friend became a “hole” in the eyes of a man says a lot about what you think about them. And frankly, I don’t wanna be friends anyway with a person who thinks I’m seeing them as a “hole” now, after I developed feelings and expressed them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestEven if that means that I AM emotionally immature, so what? Now you’re gonna shame me for that and blame me? We thought being emotional and immature is not necessarily a bad thing, especially if you’re open with them, and not hiding them and suppressing them. Friendship is a two way work, no one “deserves” a friendship. If someone for whatever reason at some point decides that they don’t wanna be friends with you anymore, they have a complete right to do so, and you shaming them or blaming them … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 12:19 AM |
| 125 | Men are showing emotional maturity and skill by leaving friendships with women after expressing unrequited sexual interestYeah, I think a lot of people here live in a world where they think that if I guy cut contacts with a friend he had feelings for, then he definitely had intentions to “get” her and pretend to be her friends from the very beginning. In their world, they can’t even FATHOM, that a guy was genuinely a friend with her, but the more he knew her and her personality, the more he liked her for who she is and got attached to her, so he naturally developed those feelings. But the moment the girl rejected h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Men don’t see unattractive women as humanI think it depends on the type of treatment 🤔 Men probably tend to be more honest and straightforward with their slurs and harsh words. But women tend to be more “snake-y?” and hypocritical. Like they might treat you “good” in front of you but then shit on you behind your back. I don’t know which is worse, hearing all those harsh words firsthand and in front of other people and feel ashamed, or having a “decent” treatment and having a good impression of someone, but later having it crushed and y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Men don’t see unattractive women as humanYeah it’s generally true for both sides. I think everyone cares about the looks to a degree. And I’m pretty sure there’re men who had to go through the same experience as you had, if it makes you feel better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 08:05 AM |
| – | By the way this is who you are arguing with. Part 2Yeah I think this is the case. It’s like if they’re trying to perpetuate their ideology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 10:11 AM |
| 0 | Men that are called trash by women are actually attractive enough to get women to give them casual sex in the hopes of a relationship in the future.She’s literally beautiful and hot. What are you even talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Men that are called trash by women are actually attractive enough to get women to give them casual sex in the hopes of a relationship in the future.And I like it. We both can get some action on the side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Gotcha! I’ll be careful next time! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:31 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Yeah I guess I need to be careful of people thinking that me saying it's a "need" means that I'm implying that I'm entitled to it. Where as I didn't have that thought nowhere in my mind. I'm curious why would they think so. Is it because of the incels? I would understand if that's the case, but as I said before, incels no where nearly represent the majority of men, they're just a LOUD minority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"I think in most cases people get triggered by it because they tie "need" with "deserve". "Need" =/= "deserve". Even if I need something, it doesn't mean I deserve it or I'm entitled to it. It's just a craving from my body. I think the main reason why some people use the word "need", and why some people have a problem with them using the word "need", is because there's a spectrum between "want" and "need", and I think sex lies somewhere in between. Just like I pointed here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"What? Why are we suddenly talking about banning and legislating? Nobody's trying to ban neither sex nor meat. You do have access for both meat and sex, but you're not entitled to neither of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"I don't imply it with my definition. But if it makes you uncomfortable and makes you feel like using this word would put a burden and responsibility on other people, then I would understand why it might bother you. I don't think when people usually use this word, they imply that it's something important for their survival. Because I don't think anyone here thinks they will die if they don't have sex. I guess there's a spectrum between "want" and "need". Where as something that on the extreme of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Okay. We agree now. Now we can work from here. We both agree that sex and meat are not "needs", they're both "wants". And we're not entitled for either of them. Now, if for whatever reason I didn't have access for meat, do you think I should be ashamed for ranting about not having it? Even if it's my responsibility to find meat? I think it's counterproductive if we shame people for ranting about their frustration. Everyone would close up and never share their feelings because of this fear. Even … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Nothing should be legislated or changed. I think the "rules" out there are working just fine. And government doesn't always step in for other "needs" too. If I can't make friends and "need" social interaction, government won't subsidize it and help me find friends. I have to do it on my own. Same goes for sex. And it's the only right way. What I'm saying here is that this "need" is never a responsibility of others, I'm saying that it's okay to rant and vent if your "need" is not being fulfilled,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 08:57 AM |
| 2 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"It's a 100% need, no questions. And come on man, why would you come here with bad faith, making men look bad. The question itself is ridiculous and has to do nothing with the topic. The bodily autonomy right is undeniable and unquestionable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"I would probably assume that when people say "sex is a need" you might think they're saying they're entitled to it. I only want to point that we can both agree that "sex is a need" just like a "meat is a need", and that no one is entitled to anyone's body, just like no one is entitled to a dead animal's body. If we agree with that, we can move from there. Now how we deal with that is a completely different problem, that in my opinion, might require just a little bit of compassion and understandi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 08:46 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Then we agree. And I think we both agree we're not entitled to both. But do we at least have a right to be able to vent our frustration because of a lack of those, without facing any shame and ostracizing from anyone? (if we don't feel entitled to them) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Yeah just try to get used to the weights first and then increase them gradually. The most important thing is consistency, because if you overdo it you'll unconsciously start to hate lifting and eventually drop it. Do what is the most comfortable to you at first and try to build a habit out of it. Gotcha! Yeah be careful with it. I'm curious if it's because of your thyroid that eventually lowered your metabolism and saved fat, which then suppressed your natural estrogen production, or just geneti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"I would NEVER want anyone to compromise their autonomy, and especially government forcing to give up your autonomy, either bodily or financial (abortions, rape, etc.) The only thing I want is for people to be able to rant, without any shame from people. I don't want people to shame their sexuality, their sex drive, telling them how they're "shallow", and "only want sex", and "seeing their girlfriends as sex objects". If there's no entitlement, why is it bad to just vent your frustration? You don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 07:47 AM |
| 2 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"I see. I think in long term hitting the gym worth gaining water weights, since eventually you'll cut on fat weighs. You'll be able to then later cut the water easily. I even take creatine so my water weight gains are even higher lol. But if you do hit the gym, I advice you to work more on bigger muscles, like your legs and back (barbell squats, deadlifts, pull ups). Because bigger muscles would induce more growth hormone, which would then help burn fat (don't believe in that running bs, it's too… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 07:29 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Hahaha true. I just vented here so the issue itself might've been obvious from the beginning. I agree with you that wanting something and having it doesn't mean you're entitled to it. Just like when you want and eat meat, it doesn't mean that you're entitled to it. In your case, you would've shrugged and switched to veggies, but there would be people who would vent about not being able to eat it now. Even though they're not entitled to eat meat itself, I think they're at least entitled to be abl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Yes. Thank you. You have all the rights to tell people that sex is not a need. Because you're consistent with your values. When I said "happier and more fulfilling", I meant it for people who are omnivores and already eat meat. They're used to it, and won't substitute it with other accessible sources (in western countries). Otherwise, they would've became vegans a long time ago if it weren't making them more happy and fulfilling to eat a dead animal's corpse. Just like asexuals won't be "happier… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"Thank you. At least you're consistent with it. Now we can have a good faith conversation from here. About your diet... I'm not sure what to advice, but my partner eats rice mixed with shelled grains to lower the speed of the carb absorption, in order to make the insulin spike low and consistent. You definitely need to take daily amount of calories (could be 1500, but not sure), but how you take it is important. And taking those calories with slow carbs is generally a good idea. But about your es… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"And you also won't die without meat. But you're still paying for the dead animal's corpse. How would that make you look? But hey, at least I'm not judging you, I just brought the argument vegans would usually use. And I don't care what you eat or how much you pay to eat that. Again, I never came with a take that sex is a right, and that you're entitled to it. I even specifically stated that. So when a man comes here and just vents about his frustration *without* any entitlement Feeling entitled … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Only Vegans can say "sex is not a need, it's a want"I don't care if you're vegan or not, and you're free to eat anything you want. It would just be hypocritical if you come with a take that "sex is not a need", if you're not a vegan yourself. But again, I'm not judging you, just observing the hypocrisy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 06:34 AM |
| 8 | What do you think of "No Pussy, No Work?"Even further, it's gonna make women to be even less willing to have sex with them lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 05:55 AM |
| 0 | Y'all pushed us this far.We cracked the code!! Now we can indefinitely feed each other with orange bells 🤣 Haha but I guess the more you use it in this way, the less dopamine you'll get cause of the tolerance lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Question for men: do you think your life would be better if you were less horny?Oh of course. Just like if I were less hungry I would spend less time and money on food. But since we do have what we have, it's really bad when some people shame us for having high sex drive and wanting to have sex. Imagine if people would shame you for being hungry and eating all kinds of food, i.e. "you only care about your taste buds, you superficial gore. Don't you think of feelings of chefs and cooks who made that food for you? Or don't you think of animals that were killed in order to sat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 04:16 AM |
| 4 | Y'all pushed us this far.Omg I get you so much with the orange bell. And I just gave you a dopamine boost with my orange bell 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 04:04 AM |
| 2 | What makes women attracted to men?I don’t know why, but I always thought it was a German shepherd on your profile pic until I zoomed in 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/23 05:18 AM |
| 68 | 'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not ConservativeShe said it herself. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Although there ARE left guys who would still be willing to have their "masculine and traditional" roles, it's not something that you can demand. If you're lucky to get it, you get it. But you CAN'T force a guy to be like that. The same would apply for guys who are looking for left women but prefer them to be more "feminine and traditional". If you get it, you're lucky. But you CAN'T demand a woman to be more "traditional or feminine". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/23 05:21 AM |
| 1 | What are the most effecient ways to improve SMV for both men and women?Better have huge dept than be the average bald outcast Trueeeeeee. I will admit though that the older you are when you start balding, the less effect it's going to have on you SMV (e.g. in your 40s). But if you've started balding at 15... yeah, your dating life is basically dead (because most women don't like bald men, and you going bald will make you insecure, which is another thing in and of itself that women wouldn't like). But yeah, going bald young (at 15) alone will make your SMV decrease … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 07:36 AM |
| 1 | What are the most effecient ways to improve SMV for both men and women?but NW-3 with a combover is though 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 05:46 AM |
| 1 | What are the most effecient ways to improve SMV for both men and women?hair transplant or hair piece unironically the best advice ever 😅 though you gotta have some money for the ht | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 05:38 AM |
| 0 | How many people on this sub actually want casual sex?Even if that's the case, what's wrong with that? I don't understand why people are trying to put sex (an activity) to a pedestal and reserve it only to married/coupled people. Or ostracize enjoying it without taking other risks (getting married, getting into a relationship). As if sex is a tool to get people stuck with each other, even if they don't enjoy each other's company. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 08:28 AM |
| 1 | How many people on this sub actually want casual sex?Yes, but saying that drugs and alcohol are THE REASON for mental health issues is disingenuous too. They can exacerbate the issue, but they're not necessarily a starting point. There're a lot of people engaging in drug/alcohol use and hookups in a healthy way. If you want to ban/legislate hookups, than you should ban/legislate alcohol/cigarettes too (which never worked). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 08:25 AM |
| 1 | How many people on this sub actually want casual sex?It's really fun. You get to know new people, socialize more, improve your social skills (and others too). And if you're a young guy, you can work through your anxiety of being near women who can potentially be a romantic partner (female friends help a lot too, but it's a different type of dynamic. First and foremost, they're your friends.). But you gotta be careful with your expectations and not put too much hope on any particular individual, since it's a number's game and a low-investment (emot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 07:57 AM |
| 2 | Female women, what was the stupidest reason that made a guy break up/reject you?Oh, you mean the title lol! I didn't even noticed that part and was confused. 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 04:00 AM |
| 3 | Female women, what was the stupidest reason that made a guy break up/reject you?but w/e? What does w/e mean? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 03:12 AM |
| 1 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversYes. It is THE only acceptable reason. Because at least it stems from your feelings and insecurities, which can be worked through and are only YOUR problems. Your idea of women having high n-count being INHERENTLY inferior is just not a reality. I don't know why you use that argument as if it could be true. All this cope reasons where guys would bring this: "that paternity fraud, that comparison, that pair bonding, that divorce probabilities, that mental issues, that stds" All of these... I don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 12:40 AM |
| 9 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversYou are actually THE source of harm towards men. Yes, your rhetoric is harmful towards women, but it’s obvious that it is. They can see you. But more importantly, your rhetoric is harmful towards majority of men who are silent. More women will tend to think that majority of men are like you, when in reality it’s just a loud minority. No one has a right to be mean. You WILL face consequences if you’re mean towards someone without a reason. And your vengeance mentality only breeds hatred and perpe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 08:47 AM |
| 10 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversSee? That thought process in and of itself is straight up mean and dismissive of people with high n-count. ESPECIALLY when it's delusional. If women had a delusional idea of "short men being beta and cuck", would you be offended by that idea if you were short? Of course they can have any preference based on anything, but just saying that short men, or bald men are INHERENTLY cucks in and of itself is just being and asshole. You can have a virgin preference, and that's COMPLETELY fine. But saying… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 07:18 AM |
| 10 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other lovers"that paternity fraud, that comparison, that pair bonding, that divorce probabilities, that mental issues, that stds" I might understand why it might feel for you that way, but there's NO ACTUAL DATA that would indicate even the correlation between these things and the n-count. But I get why it would feel intuitive for men. This is the study most redpillers cite. They can't even analyze it properly themselves. You have all the rights to feel any type of way you can, and even have the preference … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 06:44 AM |
| 20 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversI think men should bite that bullet and admit that in most cases it is. The problem is that it's not wrong to have that insecurity. The problem arises when that insecurity makes you shame women for having high n-count, or make you feel entitled for a woman with low n-count. None of these should be the arguments men have. Cause they shut down the conversation. And rightfully so. If we agree with these, then we can have a conversation about is it okay to have that preference? Even if some may say … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 05:53 AM |
| 7 | For guys who want an active woman, why and what does that mean to you?While obesity plays a huge role in what people usually mean by that, for some people it might also be a type of lifestyle they have. They might be going to different and far places pretty frequently, and while their partner might not even remotely be obese, they might have a heavy breath after a little walk. And also, most importantly, they might also loose their breath during sex, if they're not usually active! Which is a huge turn off! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 09:00 AM |
| 2 | Which guy would you want to be?He probably meant the frequency, not the one woman part. I think he probably meant like having sex with one woman once a week is fine, but I can't imagine having sex with her every other day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:50 AM |
| -1 | Which guy would you want to be?I don't even know what to tell you man. I'm not saying that I believe in that idea. But the stereotype DOES exist, and it's pretty prevalent. Just look at the red pill. They claim that men want to have sex with as many women as they want. And some women even believe that. While I do agree that it's a generalization and not an actual representation of every individual man, the stereotype DOES exist for a reason and I only mentioned that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Which guy would you want to be?I'd guess you're focusing more on the frequency part. Imagine the option 1 is AS FREQUENT as you'd ideally want it to be. Option 2 has the least frequent, but still tolerable enough FOR YOU. And the 3rd option is in between. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Which guy would you want to be?In this specific example you'd be dating a woman for a month, and would have sex with her 10 times during that month (I'd imagine 2-3 times a week). So you'd be dating 10 women a year (ignore the part if it's possible to find women that frequently and consistently). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:38 AM |
| -1 | Which guy would you want to be?I said "extremes". Even though I did generalize (as I said they DO stem from somewhere), I still wanted to hear individual opinions on the topic. It wasn't my conclusion about men. It's a general consensus and stereotype about men that DO exist around our circles and specifically in PPD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Which guy would you want to be?Ignore the specific numbers. I wanted to know what matters more to you. The consistency and stability, or variety and novelty? And to what degree? For me, the third option combines the fine balance for both, and can fulfill new undiscovered desires in human interactions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Which guy would you want to be?It means you have sex once in two days. It's the most frequent one. I'm also curious how much is the frequency important for you. Would you compromise on other aspects (looks, character) if it means you'd get a higher frequency in sex that would match your libido in a committed relationship? Or would you compromise the frequency? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Which guy would you want to be?You know option 1 doesn't sound that bad for all the romantic simps who just really really like the girl to the point where even being around her is enough for them And yet they're the first on the line to become toxic and abusive after they "get" the relationship. How many cases have we heard where the guy is "simping" for a girl, and the moment she dates him he completely changes in terms of behavior. Or if she refuses to date her, he also turns 180° and starts shitting on her. I'd recommend t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:24 AM |
| 0 | Which guy would you want to be?If you think I'm in bad faith, you could address it. But it would be silly to ignore there's no stereotypes around gender dynamics around sex. Since both men and women DO view sex differently. Of course it would not excuse any toxic behavior, just explain it. But it's important to realize the differences and not just virtue signal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Which guy would you want to be?Cause +- men's take would be around the same, but I would still want to hear some takes. Where as with women it could be either completely different, or surprisingly around the same. But since I don't know their experience I'd like to know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:07 AM |
| 3 | Why do so many men here want casual sex?On an instinctive level, men usually want to "spread their seed" as far and wide as possible. So in current age it manifests in casual sex with as many women as possible. But we're obviously not completely controlled by our instincts and have consciousness, so a lot of men DO commit, and the level of commitment might differ depending on the culture (e.g. abrahamic religion societies value faithfulness more than, for example, Japan) For women, there are a lot of risks and not that many benefits (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Dating as a “mid” woman isn’t as easy as most men make it out to beI don't think it's unfair. It's just a matter of what you want. Both attractive men and women would get what they want, and the less attractive they are, the harder it gets. Generally speaking, men would prefer casual sex more than the committed relationships. And women would prefer committed relationships more than the casual sex. There are exceptions though. So, if you're an attractive man, you have more opportunities for casual sex (something that you want), and the less attractive you are, t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 05:26 AM |
| – | "Waaah OLD is a boyfriend vending machine for chicks!" But let's actually hear it from the women here?On a surface level that sounds reasonable. But what exactly is unattractive? Having a high sex drive? Or being specifically explicit about it? Like... I might understand if you would say that focusing too much and allocating most of your time on sex might seem unattractive. But just being honest about your intent to hookup... Since both genders DO hookup... And, if the guy manages to hide his "thirst for sex" up until you start dating, and suddenly shows his high sex drive, would you still find … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 10:24 AM |
| – | "Waaah OLD is a boyfriend vending machine for chicks!" But let's actually hear it from the women here?Totally agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 07:07 AM |
| – | "Waaah OLD is a boyfriend vending machine for chicks!" But let's actually hear it from the women here?Being thirsty for sex and DEMANDING for sex or sending nudes have to do nothing with each other. Even though they corelate a lot with men. But stigmatizing wanting to have sex per se damages both sexes and even worsens the issue of sexual frustration for both sexes -> thus increased demand for sex and manufacture of nudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 06:48 AM |
| – | "Waaah OLD is a boyfriend vending machine for chicks!" But let's actually hear it from the women here?Why being thirsty for sex is a bad and undesirable thing? Especially if you're being explicit and upfront with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solutionIt does sound convincing if you're inexperienced. But that's too much of a thought projection onto women. Even if the outcome does seem similar, women do not operate like that internally. Otherwise our civilization would've died out the moment women gained all the legal rights as men had. Doomerism on the internet has never translated into the real world, and has rotted the minds of young people who gave up on the relationships really early and became so called incels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 06:12 AM |
| 6 | Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solutionI was referring to Fresh&Fit's Myron's book "Why women deserve less". Never mind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solutionMyron found your alt | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 05:36 AM |
| 4 | Women are ultimately hurting themselves when they refuse to approach and caution guys against approachingYeah, I think it IS directly harmless, since no one is entitled to anyone's decisions or preferences. Now, you might say that indirectly it is harmful, but then it's not women's responsibility. Is it harmful for obese women that a lot of men don't have them in their preferences? Indirectly yes, but it's not men's fault or responsibility to have those preferences. I don't think we should blame people for their preferences, because it wouldn't solve the underlying issue, but try to build systems t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 05:27 AM |
| 3 | Women are ultimately hurting themselves when they refuse to approach and caution guys against approaching100% this. At the end of the day it boils down to this, everything else is arbitrary or overinflated on the internet (looks and wealth). In real life people engage differently. Which not only means that neurodivergent people are fucked 😂, but even if they are hyper attractive and hyper rich, they would still be considered on a lower level than socially skilled people. And neurotypical people dating them would be either out of pity or "settling down". Neurodivergent people have a hard time findin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 04:46 AM |
| 4 | Women are ultimately hurting themselves when they refuse to approach and caution guys against approachingYeah, I think it's pretty accurate. And I hate it. But everyone's free to create any filter they want - as long as it's harmless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 04:24 AM |
| 5 | Women are ultimately hurting themselves when they refuse to approach and caution guys against approachingThat's the worst enemy for neurodivergent people. Not only there are ARBITRARY RULES (not explicit), but also a requirement for EXTRA social intelligence TO READ CUES. For people with the same level of social intelligence this might be a normal interaction, but if one person has less social intelligence, it gives the other one more leverage over the narrative and extra layer to protect themselves, which in turn creates a power differential.I hate these power differentials and dynamics, so I'd ra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 04:18 AM |
| – | Why are men so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?I don't think you're broken. I actually think that your level of consciousness and empathy is higher than of your instincts. You care about people no matter if they have a biological connection to you or not. You would help them or care about them without any expectations that they would do the same to you. That's actually pretty noble of you. As a human being you've achieved new heights that most people would never achieve. But as an organism, you kinda failed 😅 (nothing's wrong with it though) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 02:27 AM |
| – | Why are men so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?Because women can assure their children are 100% biologically theirs, and they don't have that type of issue to complain about. Let's create a hypothetical scenario, where in hospitals nurses would shuffle the babies, so now there's no 100% chance that the kids is yours. I'm pretty sure a lot of women would complain about that too and would choose to give birth at their homes. And that's when the hypocritical men would come and say: "It's so much safer and cleaner to give birth in the hospital. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 01:51 AM |
| – | Why are men so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?Thank you. At least you're being consistent here. Then your title shouldn't be "Why are men so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?", but "Why are people so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 01:39 AM |
| – | Why are men so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?Then the obsession with IVF should be alien to you too. If a woman discovered she's less fertile than others, why can't she just accept it and adopt a child? Why is she obsessed with having her own biological child? Actually, why should ANY woman care about if her child is biological or not? There're thousands if not millions of children who are parentless, but your decision to have a biological one is just as egoistic. Rather than being obsessed with getting pregnant, you should adopt a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 12:52 AM |
| – | Why are men so obsessed with carrying on their bloodline?I'm not sure about the "family name" per se, but the drive to carry on your genes to the next generation is pretty self-explanatory, since it derives from our instinct to reproduce. In lions' prides, the moment the alpha male lion is switched by another one, the first thing the new alpha does, is kill the previous alpha's puppies, so that the mothers stop carry about them and become ready to procreate again. Pretty rough and terrible, but that's the least organisms can do to ensure to procreate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 12:31 AM |
| – | People who say "Sex isn't a need" don't know how it is to be the average manThe part where they indicated you being bad faith is when they said that, even tough the STIGMA is a social things and NO ONE would ever know what you do in private, the feeling that comes from stigma ALONE can be a huge factor even in your private behavior. Like doing OF, or having high n-count. Even though they're not immoral, they're highly stigmatized in our patriarchal society. If a woman comes and says that she intentionally keeps her n-count low because of the societal stigma, you wouldn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 02:22 AM |
| – | People who say "Sex isn't a need" don't know how it is to be the average manThen I agree with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 01:01 AM |
| – | People who say "Sex isn't a need" don't know how it is to be the average manI agree that no one is entitled to either sex, or someone else's body in any context (sex or abortion). But I have never encountered someone on PPD saying: “sex is a need” phrasing is that many seem to use it to proclaim that access to another person’s body is somehow a human right. Maybe on some misogynistic incel groups, but I don't follow them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 12:31 AM |
| – | People who say "Sex isn't a need" don't know how it is to be the average manYes. That is EXACTLY what they did. They even said that SEX IS EVEN MORE IMPORTANT THAN FOOD. /s Jeez, why you gotta pick the worst bad faith strawman out of this? Let's then not talk about food or housing, let's talk about something like videogames, or drugs, or alcohol. You're not tEcHNicAlLy entitled to them, but there's nothing in this world (except some countries' legislations) that could stop you from getting them. You can do the same here and shut down the conversation: "aRe yOu enTiTLeD … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | what's worst in a marriage, paternity fraud, or Child Support?The whole premise of the conversation is that it's BAD to cheat on your husband and become pregnant with another man. But you suddenly brought the entitlement issue, and that a man is NOT entitled to pass on his genes, which has nothing to do with the conversation. Imagine your loved one goes outside and gets killed by someone, and you're grieving about it. But then someone comes to you and says "yOU'rE NoT EnTItLeD tO SEcURiTY!". Like... does it have to do anything with your statement and grief… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 11:35 AM |
| 1 | what's worst in a marriage, paternity fraud, or Child Support?I agree with you that just marrying someone doesn't automatically gives you an entitlement to pass on your genes. You're not entitled for that. But marrying someone binds you in a contract which obligates you to not cheat. So, consequentially, a man is not entitled to pass on his genes, but a woman is also obligated to choose her husband as a biological father for her future kids (if she wants any), or get his consent to otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 04:26 AM |
| 1 | what's worst in a marriage, paternity fraud, or Child Support?No one is entitled to anything, especially the bodily autonomy of a person. But would you say a woman has a right to choose a biological father of her child in a marriage beside her husband, without his consent? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Would artificial wombs end the struggle between genders?They probably meant something like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 02:25 AM |
| 2 | No one ever seems to want to acknowledge that women consistently go for abusive, bad natured men. If you bring this up all they do is shame you to silence the discussion, and this is probably the most prominent example of gaslighting in dating/gender dynamics.Yes, if that's what they implied - that would be judging, and I condemn that. Preferences are limited to your choice whether to date someone or not. But if you go out of your way imposing your preference on someone who is not even willing to date you, and just being mean to them by saying they're not worth dating, that is just being rude and judgmental. Which would be if they implied that a woman past their "prime years" is not worth dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 01:00 AM |
| 2 | No one ever seems to want to acknowledge that women consistently go for abusive, bad natured men. If you bring this up all they do is shame you to silence the discussion, and this is probably the most prominent example of gaslighting in dating/gender dynamics.Even though I completely agree with you that it's wrong to judge like that, I think the whole premise is that it's okay to have a sexual preference based on looks. It sounds like you’re completely dismissing womens’ personality in favour of looks. Sounds similar to "Why are you only dating hot and bad guys? I'm nice and kind towards you! Why are you judging me based on my height!" We can all agree that no one is entitled to force a preference for someone to date them. If a woman cares more about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?Absolutely if you’re talking about protecting yourself - you should definitely ask women about it, because they know the most, and have experienced all the nuances. Women have adapted methods to protect themselves and only they can tell you that. Men cannot even fathom those methods. And if you view sex as something that you should “protect”, something to “give”, not “have” - then yes, obviously you should ask women on methods to how protect the sex, and “give” it only when it benefits you. But … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?If you think that a guy who has sex on the first date can’t be considered potentially good partner for YOUR marriage - that’s completely fine! I personally wouldn’t judge a guy’s potential marital qualities by how fast he has sex with a woman. There’re MUCH MORE important indicators for me, like if he’s nice, if he respects me, if we have commonalities or similar worldviews and such… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?Forcing a guy to wait indefinitely Forcing... yeah, probably another word would fit here. But if you're okay with shrinking your dating pool substantially and manage to find a guy who passes this test, I hope it was worth it. Cause I don't know how that would be a reliable test for faithfulness. Just because you had sex on your first date, doesn't mean that you're promiscuous and would be unfaithful to your partner in the future. But hey, everyone has their own filters and dealbreakers, so feel … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 07:16 AM |
| 3 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?I don't think that's an healthy approach. Saying that women don't have males' best interest at heart would only give more fuel to the redpill guys, saying that guys shouldn't listen to women and only listen to the alpha males. Obviously, to know how to talk and approach women, you have to spend more time with them and have female friends. I can't see why the same can't be applied for women. Of course if you ask advice from the guy who potentially might want only sex from you, he might say that y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?I agree. Having sex on the first dates doesn't deprive you of your "value". If you're uncomfortable, of afraid of the potential partner - that's completely fine to wait and know your partner more. Sex only adds more information about your partner. You get to know them more than you did before you had sex. You get a chance to have a physical intimacy which could add even more meanings to your interactions. You know more what they like, and you get a chance to fulfill their desires, simultaneously… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:42 AM |
| 2 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?"At least"? That's a great thing that he's honest. And nothing wrong with wanting to have sex on the first dates. People's preferences differ. If a woman told a guy: "I've had ONS before, but now I decided to wait couple of dates to know you before we have sex", and the guy said: "At least you're honest" - that would indicate that, even though he appreciates the honesty, he wouldn't consider to continue to see the woman. Which is completely fine, but that reveals his motive. Saying "At least" me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?Yeah, I think if you take the average, that'd be around 3. I can see how it could be shocking for people to find out, who have a much higher number of dates until the first sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?You've had THAT many dates? Wow, and you haven't found a decent guy? I think you care too much about the sex or lack thereof, and that might affect how guys view you. Don't worry, you'll find a guy with a similar worldview sooner or later. There's nothing wrong with having a high or low n-count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 06:22 AM |
| 3 | It makes perfect sense to wait for sex if you want a long term relationship.Yes! At the end of the day honesty matters! If a woman wants to weed out those guys, she should be honest and straightforward, rather than finding out deep into the relationship. Why would you want to date a guy who judges you because of your past? If you won't be honest to him and won't tell him, you would never know if he would accept you, would you? The same way if a guy doesn't want to date a woman because they didn't have sex on the first date. Why would you hide it and resent the woman for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Are 'outdated' preferences towards men also misandristic, while the same towards women are deemed misogynistic?"I'd argue that your opinion about someone is not inherently important, as long as you don't explicitly express it. You might hate short men, or you might just genuinely not be attracted to them. As long as you don't say you hate them or don't say they're not real men, it's totally fine. The same applies for men hating women who don't shave. Just say it's not your preference. Optics matter here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 07:14 AM |
| – | Cheating TENDS to be worse for (average) MEN than (average) women...I agree with you. And I think your case is specific enough (your sex drive is higher than your partner's) for you to understand cheating from men's perspective. You have a higher sex drive than your partner, which means sex is a bit more important for you than for your partner (e.g. your partner would be more okay than you to a 1 sex per year). Which means you value sex more (not saying it is the only thing you value). So for you to resist a temptation to NOT have a sex is a much bigger sacrific… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Which would you prefer: a partner who experienced ample love and companionship before they met you or who lived a life of mostly loneliness and frustration?Interestingly enough, that can be interpreted as such even if you switch the sides. She had so much better relationships which didn't work out, and now the only option she got is me. But the lonely one rejected so many guys and finally chose me, which means I got something that others don't. She has a liberty to choose to be in any relationships (which she did before), and out of all the possible choices that she could go for, she chose me. But the lonely one never had any, and was SO desperate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 01:47 AM |
| – | I'm convinced that about 5-10% of men ruin it for everyoneI think Tate stuff is pretty niche, and you would "sniff out" a Tate follower pretty easy. The problem is not that the current role model for young men is Tate, the problem is that they didn't have it for the longest time. I would agree with you that it doesn't have to be that way, and that this cycle should stop somewhere. It would be much more unhealthier to teach women how to deal with toxic behavior of these resentful men that got like this because of the rejections, rather than teach these … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 12:16 AM |
| 1 | The elephant in the room is the libido gap between men and womenI'm curious what are those "ways"? If you're referring to toys like "Tenga", or porn, or sex work, then yes, they did, to some degree. But they are either just emulating the actual stuff that people want, or not available to the masses, or perpetuating the patriarchy. I would guess the only "way" it could be done without actually harming women is immersive VR that is indistinguishable from the reality. AI's like ChatGPT simulating human-like responses, and BMI's like Neuralink putting us into ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 08:24 AM |
| 1 | I'm convinced that about 5-10% of men ruin it for everyoneWell, you're not wrong. But that's a different topic from what you said at the beginning. Generally speaking, it's mostly men who approach and inevitably get rejected, it's just a numbers game. And that is why most of them are traumatized specifically from rejection. Not saying that women aren't per se, but not from initiating. Women are more traumatized from the relationships themselves. So it's kinda ironic. Most nice women are inevitably going to traumatize most men (which is ok). But those m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 07:10 AM |
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