We hear a lot of arguments about how men only care about casual sex, and women want only committed relationships. Even though these are extreme examples with no nuance, they still stem from somewhere.

But I want you to choose from these hypothetical situations. There're 3 guys, and all of them have sex.

In the span of 5 years:

  1. The first guy has 1000 instances of sex but with 1 woman (having sex every other day).
  2. The second guy has 100 instances of sex but with 100 distinct women (having sex every 2.5 weeks)
  3. The third guys has 500 instances of sex but with 50 distinct women (having sex every 4 days)

Any day I would want to choose the number 3.

While the 1st and 2nd options seem attractive for either women or men, I personally view them as with both pros and cons. While you can have a strong emotional connection and improving sex skills with option 1, you still lack the variety, validation, and NRE attraction you first had.

But with option 2, you will have all the variety, validation and NRE attraction, but will lack both emotional connection and won't have enough time with one woman to improve your skills.

The 3rd option combines the pros of both 1st and 2nd option. While you would be dating a specific woman for only 1 month, if you manage to meet her 2-3 times a week, you'd still get to know her and establish some emotional connection and intimacy.

There's one aspect that both 1st and 2nd option lack:

  1. In 1st option, the woman is not dating you primarily because of how good is sex with you - she values other aspect of you (personality, character, connection, and etc.). Which are, of course, important (I'd even argue more than the sex), the guys would still care about the objective sex skills. And long term girlfriends often don't want to be mean and tell the guy he's bad in bed (since they value other aspects more).
  2. In the 2nd option, the woman does not yet know how good you are in the bed, and since you only meet her once, you wouldn't know if she'd want to meet you again primarily for sex, cause you didn't get the feedback.

In the 3rd option, both man AND woman would care about sex more than other aspects, and the man would still get a chance for feedback. If you know that you both are short-term, but she still chose you for the 2nd time to have sex, instead of risking finding another guy - that would mean that she, indeed, DID enjoy sex specifically with you, and chose to not go for another guy (even though she easily could), and she didn't have to compromise for other aspects, since sex IS the most important one for her, and you were THAT good.

I'm curious what you guys think and share your opinions about this. Especially women's take on this topic.