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| 15 | Response to the “used goods GF” post 👻Lies about his age on dating apps, uses decade old profile picture, has saggy butt-cheeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 10:38 PM |
| 63 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meRight?? I read that and thought, “Oh, bless you for allowing it, asshole.” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:29 PM |
| 4 | Your Friends Are Not Free Therapists😂😂😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:02 AM |
| 16 | Your Friends Are Not Free TherapistsBoundaries have definitely been set. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:28 PM |
| 71 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)I remember being in my early 20s thinking 40 was old as shit. Now that I’m in my 40s, I think it’s funny what we consider “old” when we’re younger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 10:30 PM |
| 37 | Dr. Jess just out there spewing straight facts as usual.His neck blew a bubble. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:31 PM |
| 13 | Reddit hates women who say size matters.Oh my god!! 😰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 10:02 PM |
| 343 | Reddit hates women who say size matters.Also something to consider: a lot of these guys complaining about their small dicks could be overweight. I forget the exact number, but for every 30 or so pounds of excess weight, men “lose” about an inch of dick (it gets buried). A really overweight man insecure about only having 3 inches could conceivably get his fat ass into shape and gain a few inches of dick - and there you go, problem solved. I’ve seen this in reverse. My former husband, when at a healthy weight, was working with an above … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 02:23 PM |
| 14 | The bar can’t be this damn lowIt’s such a shit cycle and I’m grateful for those of us who break it, or are fortunate enough to never get caught in it to begin with. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 05:45 AM |
| 61 | The bar can’t be this damn lowYou know, that’s actually the crux of the issue right there. Someone commented on another post that too many women are raised to hate themselves. I know we rag on pick-me women (and hello, I was the reigning Pick-Me Queen for about 40 years), but it truly is a sad situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 02:59 AM |
| 15 | A HVM won’t be in contact with his exA lot of guys need a harem. It’s “friends” on the surface but if you look closely, it’s usually more than that. There’s a lot of leaking of sexual energy between guys and their female “friends,” and if you try to say you’re uncomfortable with that, you’re labeled insecure or jealous, which is just a shitty way of minimizing your discomfort, and making you the bad guy at the same time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:59 AM |
| 6 | Men: all FeMaLeS are liars, they’re so fake. Damn, they want a guy who’s honest and respects them?!? Wow FeMaLeS are so entitled😤… and then they themselves do this..🤔Being fat AND expecting him to pay. 😱😱😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 09:58 PM |
| 36 | 🔔🔔🔔🔔 You are not a Rehabilitation Centre for Badly Raised Men, so you don't have to tolerate them, sit through the horrible date, look at them, listen to rants, feed them, raise them, finance them, parent them, better them 🔔🔔🔔🔔 Use that energy for You! 💋💄👠🤸♀️💎👩💻🦸♀️👩🎨Yes. Women having to take all the blame for their sons’ poor behavior is getting really old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 09:13 PM |
| 30 | Men: all FeMaLeS are liars, they’re so fake. Damn, they want a guy who’s honest and respects them?!? Wow FeMaLeS are so entitled😤… and then they themselves do this..🤔The absolute worst thing a woman could do (according to men) is be fatter in real life than her profile pictures. I’ve seen comments along the lines of, “Yeah I lied about my height and relationship status, but I’ve met up with women who were heavier than their pictures and I don’t date fat women bla bla bla…” I mean, nobody should be lying about anything, but really? Being fat is the worst thing a woman could do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:16 PM |
| 49 | Absolutely brain dead, outrageous, and pathetic conversation between pickmes and scrotesBeing pregnant and giving birth can be an almost… barbaric experience. Suddenly your body is no longer your own, everything is about the baby, the baby, the baby. You have strangers’ hands inside you all the freakin time, rarely do you have any actual privacy, and anything you want for yourself is seen as selfish. Why in the blue fuck does the actual giving birth have to be a spectator sport?? It’s scary, painful, and should be in the most comfortable environment for the woman giving birth. That… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:11 AM |
| 10 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfJust google the title with “Reddit” before it and you can find the post to read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:47 PM |
| 84 | How to parent a boyI have sons. I’m open and honest with them about pretty much everything. We’ve had conversations about sexism, porn, you name it. Very open conversations. I don’t dance around these issues with them. I also don’t have any traditional gender roles in my house. Nobody is teased or told to “suck it up” for crying. Boundaries are respected. Things like rape jokes are a no-go - and not just because I told them so, but because they know it’s wrong. They can still grow to be men, just without all the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 30 | Support Corner: We have ALL made mistakes in the past which brought us here! Embrace your errors, forgive yourself, and CELEBRATE the fact that you're changing little by little.It’s also helpful to remember that not everyone has the same life as you, the same upbringing, or even the same culture. Every once in awhile I’ll see a judgmental comment in response to someone sharing her past. That’s not cool. Not cool at all. Thankfully, that kind of comment doesn’t happen too often. The last year and a half (or thereabouts), I’ve mostly just seen a ton of women supporting women no matter where they are at in their journey. 🤗💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:47 AM |
| 102 | My friend's mom just told me, "the only anti-aging skincare you need is sunscreen and staying away from men who give you stress"I think we owe our bodies a huge thanks for trying to tell us something was wrong. I mean… acne, hair loss, bv, IBS… definitely a lesson learned. 😅❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:38 PM |
| 182 | My friend's mom just told me, "the only anti-aging skincare you need is sunscreen and staying away from men who give you stress"My adult acne (cystic) completely went away when I cut out all toxic people from my life - mostly men. Stress just fucks your hormones like nothing else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 09:24 PM |
| 50 | Just got sent this from a friend....5’9 not attractive...is he taking the piss?My favorite was always, “I like to laugh,” and, “I enjoy having fun.” Wow, that’s… really profound, Kyle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:53 AM |
| 13 | Why I forget things at his place.I say the same about myself sometimes, but the great thing is, we know better now and we have a place to purge it and commiserate. They were life lessons, and we do better for ourselves these days. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 11:44 PM |
| 17 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueOh hell, most of them don’t even like us. They’re attracted to us and what we can do for them, but so many men have this contempt for women that really shines through in a lot of what they do. They view respect as treating someone as an authority, and they’ll be damned if they ever see wimmin as an authority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 05:27 PM |
| 35 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueEmpathy is my kink. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 05:24 PM |
| 42 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueYou nailed it. I’m never getting married again and I’m almost positive I will never live with a man - he’d have to be the best person on the planet for that to happen - so a man’s income is secondary to all the things you mentioned. What I do care about when it comes to finances: can he take care of himself beyond just scraping by? Can he afford holidays, and all the other fun stuff? Is he prepared for an emergency, and if something happens that totally wiped him out, what is his reaction to tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:06 PM |
| 68 | Don't waste any of your time on people who watch porn.For anyone who consumes porn, there is a high chance you’re getting off to rape. If anyone is okay with taking that chance, they don’t deserve a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:14 AM |
| 41 | The scrote and the stoneA lot of these older fuckers use speech-to-text, so it’s just a giant run-on sentence, full of wrong words and sometimes straight gibberish. It’s hilarious. It reminds me of the screenshot of the old person posting on the Old Country Buffet Facebook page: “Order corn…. Hello?… Please order corn.” 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:55 PM |
| 33 | When it comes to snooping & men hiding things from their SO. The truth hurts! Let us normalize "snooping".Just the disrespect alone, texting an ex-girlfriend from your house. If he wanted to show off his tattoo so bad, he could have texted a buddy. I know that gut-punch feeling and it sucks. You didn’t do anything wrong. You’re allowed to protect yourself. I don’t understand how a lot of people are (or pretend to be) fine with “staying friends” with exes. Years ago, I read a study that basically said 9 times out of 10, if someone is friends with an ex, it’s because one of them still has romantic fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:46 PM |
| 23 | How to Spot a PAThey’re just sub-par humans. It’s all take, take, take with them. Me, me, me, gimme, gimme, gimme. Truly pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 02:35 AM |
| 54 | How to Spot a PAMaking everything sexual, and just helping themselves to your body whenever they feel like it - groping, pinching, things like that. One loser I briefly dated would just help himself mid-conversation - especially if he could see the outline of my nipples through my shirt. He’d just reach over and do this creepy flicking thing. I’d be like, wtf??? He’d tell me to take it as a compliment. I fucking hate it when men just help themselves and to this day, I wear covers over my nipples so the outline … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:28 AM |
| 16 | And they aren’t treated well either!She was smart as a whip, too. But Doug was always doing stupid shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 10:35 PM |
| 307 | And they aren’t treated well either!Does anyone remember King of Queens? They totally played-up the whole “super hot woman married to overweight man-child” trope. I guess some parts were funny, but what soured me on that show was when Leah Remini (who started out at around a size 2) had a baby in real life and gained weight. She was dragged for being bigger than she was in previous seasons. Meanwhile, Kevin James could be as chubby as ever and nobody said a fucking word about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 03:50 PM |
| 38 | Hmmm.. I wonder why this is?“Did you communicate that it’s supposed to feel good for you too? Did you communicate that it’s not all about the man’s penis??” Also, when did it become a woman’s job to teach a man what each body part is for?? (In my case, I communicated until I was blue in the face, describing in excruciating detail exactly what I needed. Made no difference. Men are going to do what’s good for the dick, not what’s good for their partners.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:08 AM |
| 74 | Hmmm.. I wonder why this is?Now I’m not saying she was right, I’m just saying I understand... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:59 PM |
| 208 | Hmmm.. I wonder why this is?Same with my former husband- when I was “lucky” enough to get sex. I’d basically ask him, “How come you get an orgasm every time, but I don’t?” The last time I asked him, he got really pissed off and asked, “Why is it so important for you to have an orgasm??” And that told me everything I needed to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:27 PM |
| 85 | The very famous "sexual compatibility" NVM absolutely MUST check before committing and why it's a bunch of bullI’m in my 40s, and men have been pulling the “sexual compatibility” line for as long as I can remember. They treat it like test driving a car; something they do to a woman - not something that a couple does together. They’re worried about how THEY are going to feel, not how the woman is going to feel. I’ve seen and heard men complaining about how sex is less frequent in their marriages or long term relationships. Their wife or girlfriend just isn’t “in the mood.” And when she finally gives in, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 08:17 PM |
| 19 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!Nordstrom is good, too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 07:49 PM |
| 51 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎“She was the worst gf I ever had.” Translation: “She had high standards and I didn’t meet them.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:46 AM |
| 52 | This is straight up abuse. If you don’t like that she’s a makeup artist on TikTok, you can just break up with her, you don’t have to call her ugly and attention seeking in the process. Guys can never just leave with dignity, they have to make a whole ass mess out of itFirst, it goes without saying: she’s gorgeous with and without makeup. Second: women are allowed to decorate themselves if they want to, and however the want to. Personally speaking, I spent a lot of years tailoring my look according to societal expectations. Now everything I put on myself is because I like the way it looks. I see it as a mini-celebration of myself. Every time you hang a jewel on yourself, paint a nail, “paint” your face, add a little something to your hair, or toes, or wrist, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:46 PM |
| 87 | Women aren’t actually as complicated as men like to pretend we are. Men just benefit more from acting like morons, so they spread this narrative that women can’t be understood.That’s always the first thing they go to! “Oh, equal rights means I can hit you.” No, psycho, you shouldn’t be hitting anybody. 🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 02:16 PM |
| 38 | If he gets a boner when you cry, RUN. That is a Pavlovian response from watching too much violent abuse porn. He has literally trained his brain to be sexually aroused by women's pain.I wish more women would remember this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 12:14 AM |
| 23 | We appeared in public again today. Mods did their job, thank you <3Why do they care so much?? I’m not lurking in MRA subs trying to get riled up. The whole world is like some giant male-centered reddit sub, and we can’t have one little space? Just to save some time: “I would never date a bitch like you.” Good! Thanks for the favor. ‘Preciate it. 😀 “Have fun with your cats!” Aww, thanks, that’s sweet of you. I will! 😊 “You’re probably fat and ugly.” Newp, sorry, not even a little. Oh, and I’m well-off so there goes the gold-digger theory. “Your standards are too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:57 PM |
| 13 | A great way to vet for LV behavior is loudly and enthusiastically complimenting another woman. Then just watch how everyone reacts.He was high on his own ego. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:29 AM |
| 101 | A great way to vet for LV behavior is loudly and enthusiastically complimenting another woman. Then just watch how everyone reacts.I once had a man argue my own eye color with me. I mentioned I liked the shade of blue they were and he said they were green. I said, “No... they’re blue. They’ve been blue my whole life...” He insisted they were green and had the nerve to get annoyed that I didn’t agree with him. 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:28 PM |
| 31 | wow.I do, too. I was this little girl. Unless someone intervenes, she’ll grow up thinking this is normal, “just the way things things are,” that you have to cater to men even when they’re abusing you, and she’ll find an abusive man to pick up where her father left off. 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:23 PM |
| 166 | If you’re broke, just say thatObviously pre-FDS (and I’m pretty sure I’ve told this before), but my ex boyfriend was such a loser. Not only did he get me for thousands, but for Christmas, after I’d spent a lot of effort and money buying his gifts, he had two gifts for me: a shitty sketch he’d drawn, and a framed picture of himself - one that I already had! Like.... how far up your own ass do you have to be to think a picture of yourself is a great gift?? Oh, but he had plenty of money to go snowboarding (or maybe it was skii… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:21 PM |
| 30 | Using "political lesbian" as an insult is a homophobic and misogynist slur.You nailed it. These days, I find it very unfortunate that I am heterosexual. But wherever women fall on the sexuality spectrum, they deserve to be seen and treated as whole human beings and not a means of getting off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:54 AM |
| 77 | If scrotes think we're a bunch of supposedly fat and ugly cat ladies, why are they so triggered about our existence? Me thinks the 'gentleman' doth protest too muchToo right, sis! ❤️👍🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 04:18 AM |
| 28 | If scrotes think we're a bunch of supposedly fat and ugly cat ladies, why are they so triggered about our existence? Me thinks the 'gentleman' doth protest too muchFucking hell 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 04:17 AM |
| 341 | I said what I said.“For 6 months or more, the individual has experienced intense sexual arousal from the physical or psychological suffering of another, as manifested by fantasies as well as behaviors.” Welp, just that one sums it up. This is good to know. Thanks for the heads up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 03:52 AM |
| 38 | The✨mandacity✨That’s key, right there. There is no debating. No exchange of differing ideas or new information. It’s all about dominance for them. I’ve had so many guys absolutely HATE that I could go toe-to-toe with them on certain subjects - in fact, one resorted to screaming at me and drawing a chart with a marker on his kitchen floor to show me how right he was. It’s fucking ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:07 AM |
| 28 | My favorite part of being an FDS mod... 😂It took me a while to be flaired. Before I was, my comments had to get approval before they’d show up. So that’s probably the case with the person you asked. 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 163 | I don’t even know what to title this one... 🤡I was just gonna say.... this is 100% a lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 01:59 PM |
| – | I'm a porn addict, my wife forced herself to watch with me instead of asserting healthy boundaries. Now we are divorcing, she resents me. It couldn't have been the porn. Anyone? 🤡Also, addicts who aren’t actively and consistently participating in their own recovery are some of the biggest manipulators on the planet. They’re so pathologically self-absorbed, they refuse to wholly acknowledge how their behavior effects others. I guarantee he manipulates his therapist. I’d also bet he was crying tears of self-pity as he wrote his post. He just seems so insufferable. I hope his wife gets as far away from him as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:52 PM |
| – | I'm a porn addict, my wife forced herself to watch with me instead of asserting healthy boundaries. Now we are divorcing, she resents me. It couldn't have been the porn. Anyone? 🤡Reading his post and his comments... I can’t believe she stuck with him as long as she did. There were only a few times in their relationship where he wasn’t up to some sort of fuckery. Of course she has contempt for him! All this “poor me” bullshit, making her out to be a villain when he put her through SO MUCH. But he is dumbstruck?? Classic narcissist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:57 PM |
| 114 | I'm a porn addict, my wife forced herself to watch with me instead of asserting healthy boundaries. Now we are divorcing, she resents me. It couldn't have been the porn. Anyone? 🤡Dollar Store Byron! 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:17 PM |
| 57 | Literally every male oppression narrative is just blatantly describing toxic masculinity from the perspective of eternal victimhoodIn women-focused subs, they love to derail the convo. “Men get raped too!” Yes! We know! In fact, there’s an article going around about a female prison guard sexually assaulting a male inmate. Perfect chance to have the male rape discussion, right?? Hell no, it’s men making jokes about it, talking about the video being posted to pornhub, porn references, and more jokes. Oh, boohoo, nobody ever takes male rape seriously, right? “Men are never allowed to talk about these things.” Right, because wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:58 AM |
| 85 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).Or the ones who tell you, “You seem/look high-maintenance.” Maintenance. Like a pet. Or a car. And it hints at “high-maintenance” being a bad thing. Also, if I’m the one doing the maintaining, and I don’t think it’s high, then wtf does anyone else care? I take care of myself. I like good quality things. Maintenance” is only “high” if you’re broke - emotionally or financially. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:41 PM |
| 21 | Once more for those in the back! (Credit: Tumblr user Autistic Abby/Stimabby, 2015)Yep. Just saw some comments talking about how full of hate FDS is and how nobody here is allowed to have a dissenting opinion or we get banned. I was thinking, “Wait... I’ve been reading FDS for a couple years now, I’m happier than I’ve ever been... and that wouldn’t be the case if this sub was full of hate.” I suspect that’s the case for a lot of women here. But then I realized high standards=hate for a lot of people, which speaks to how shitty their lives must be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:22 PM |
| 13 | "I Wear My Heart on My Sleeve" & What It MeansDebris and mini-turds. It’s not supposed to be funny, but I am weeping. 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:50 AM |
| 6 | The lower status, poorer performing men treat women with "hostility." Higher value, higher skilled men treat women better. Once you see this truth, you will begin to see this everywhere.Such a delight. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:51 AM |
| 21 | The lower status, poorer performing men treat women with "hostility." Higher value, higher skilled men treat women better. Once you see this truth, you will begin to see this everywhere.This right here. Had a man say to me, “I think you’re smarter than me and I don’t like that.” His attitude was piss poor after that, always having to contradict everything I said, and even going so far as to debate my own life experiences with me. “I don’t think you’re remembering that correctly.” Trying to debate my own memory with me, something that happened before I even knew him, and it was totally mundane. Absolutely ridiculous. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:38 AM |
| 49 | “It is hard to respect yourself when you are being forced to pick up the garbage of another human being. An adult.”Same, and I’m glad to see someone else say it. We all have our nights to clean the kitchen, split evenly. They clean their own bathroom, do their own clothes, and fix dinner a couple nights a week - just a few examples. I don’t pile too much extra on them while school is in, plus I still want them to enjoy being young, but I’ll be damned if (when they’re adults) they go into a partnership not WILLINGLY AND HAPPILY doing their fair share. Oh, and they’re not disgusted by periods and body hair. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 03:14 AM |
| 18 | Please don't give them any more excuses..Exactly. I had an abusive upbringing and the things I was taught was all “woman’s work.” The things I know now - like home repair, some car repair, and many other so-called manly things - I either taught myself or watched YouTube to figure it out. I feel bad for people who had a horrible childhood, but after a point, not having any life skills is your own fault and I have no patience for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 09:47 PM |
| 10 | The other "female" subreddits are disingenuous.Yes! I am saving your comment because you put it much better. Spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:52 PM |
| 31 | The other "female" subreddits are disingenuous.Exactly. Also, note the language. There are so many “I’ll just let...” “men should let...” type comments. As if they’re granting us permission. Years ago, I was reading a sex advice blog and a man had asked the question, “How do I make my girlfriend orgasm?” The blog author replied, “First if all, check your language, because it says a lot about how you view the situation.” She explained that “making” a woman orgasm is more about control than shared pleasure. Giving a woman an orgasm is a totall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:35 PM |
| 63 | The other "female" subreddits are disingenuous.I like to read comments in the twoX sub just to count how many male commenters chime in. I just read a post by a woman who was in an uncomfortable situation on a train and the amount of men telling her she was wrong to feel creeped-out is just annoying. Sure, explain to a woman what her experience actually was. 🙄 Or some variation of “not all men.” 🙄🙄 Or, “I’m just here to learn, so I’ll let you ladies share your experiences without my two cents.” Wow, thank you so much. 🙄🙄🙄 Or, “Here’s why I’m … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:39 PM |
| 47 | Men force you to speak in order to silence youHave any of you ever noticed that women will often wrack their brains for the specific words to describe how they feel in these bullshit, uncomfortable, off-putting situations? How many times have we seen this comment from a woman: “Omg, thank you! I couldn’t find the right words for how I felt until just now!” And it’s such a huge relief. We are put in these manipulative situations that just make us feel off - whether it’s a sly question, or sly behavior, it’s meant to make us feel off, but at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:47 PM |
| 12 | Online dating strategies (research and warding off LVM)Yep. This is how I found some dirt on a “teacher” I’d been spending some time with. Dude will never teach again because of his record, but still called himself a teacher. No driver’s license, multiple drug related charges and convictions, had done jail time, and had an active warrant in the next state over. But this loser still had to audacity to be angry with me for telling him I wasn’t going to see him anymore. Like, dude, I have a right to make an informed decision on who I want to be involve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:19 PM |
| 35 | The fucking audacity to think porn can fix anything when you already can't get it up for your wife...“Is that a challenge??” - men, probably. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:11 PM |
| 33 | Beyond enraged, advice pleaseI mean... do you really want to waste that kind of energy on someone who isn’t even worth your time? Being angry is normal, but why not re-focus that energy to something productive, something good for you. He probably said that to get exactly the reaction you’re having, or because he feels threatened by you. Any attention you give him is too much attention. He’s obviously NV. I’ve gotten that BS my whole life. I’m totally unbothered by it now. I look at it this way: if someone says I’m a lesbian… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 01:37 AM |
| 287 | Update: I dumped him!It has. “Don’t kink-shame me!” No, don’t boundary-shame me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:06 PM |
| 21 | Are there any successful women here with tattoos?I have four very large tats. I love them and think they’re beautiful. They’re very well done and pleasant to look at. I’m fairly successful at what I do - I say fairly because I’ve been doing this particular thing for less than a year, and I’m guessing by next year I can change that to “very successful.” Here’s the thing: I see tattoos as a way to decorate myself, the way I do with jewelry and makeup. It’s a personal choice and if you like them, that’s all that should matter. I don’t remember ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:08 PM |
| 109 | So a “guy friend” tried it on with me tonightWth kind of 40 year old man wants to be friends with a very young woman?? I don’t want to sound blame-y, especially because that sounds like a traumatic experience, but don’t ever make friends with a man that old. Good god, what creep! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 20 | I have been laughing about this all day. Went to his page and its full of cringey content like this. He talks about going 5050 with women as well. Also, he seems to be very short. Someone please give this broke hobbit some sense 😂😂😂I lost it when I saw the Jimmy Neutron comment. Seriously wept for a solid minute. 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:09 AM |
| 5 | What is the best tool for protection?I’m not sure how to link from mobile, but tacticalgear dot com is a really good starting point. Just search batons on that site. Different sizes, and you can even find a little baton pouch/holster thing. I would suggest ASP Friction Loc baton, or the Talon baton. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:56 AM |
| 10 | I have been laughing about this all day. Went to his page and its full of cringey content like this. He talks about going 5050 with women as well. Also, he seems to be very short. Someone please give this broke hobbit some sense 😂😂😂Fuck 😂😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:41 AM |
| 128 | I have been laughing about this all day. Went to his page and its full of cringey content like this. He talks about going 5050 with women as well. Also, he seems to be very short. Someone please give this broke hobbit some sense 😂😂😂If some Easter Island statue looking idiot ever waved a belt at me, I’d knock him over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:46 PM |
| 14 | What is the best tool for protection?A collapsible baton, tactical. And practice using it. Check the laws where you’re at, though. In my state, the laws are “vague.” I can’t carry one with the intent to harm someone, but if I fear for my safety I won’t get in trouble for using it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:25 PM |
| 53 | Oh hey, another shining example of how a LVM will destroy your life and sanity and how engrained gender roles make women think this is somehow okay.I know for a lot of us, we were literally born into servitude - especially where hardcore religion is involved. You cater to the men in your life while you’re growing up - fathers, brothers, whoever. Family gathering? Everyone with a vagina cooks, cleans, serves. Didn’t like it? Too bad, that’s life. Creepy male cousin make a pass at you? Well, it’s just because you’re so pretty and he’s a man, so... I remember a time I had myself absolutely convinced I loved being married to my asshole of a hus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:45 PM |
| 108 | Oh hey, another shining example of how a LVM will destroy your life and sanity and how engrained gender roles make women think this is somehow okay.I used to feel really stupid for how I allowed myself to be treated for decades. Turns out I wasn’t stupid, I was brainwashed. I think that’s likely the case for most of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 06:51 PM |
| 29 | I saw this and it made me laugh and think of FDSThat seems to be what’s happening, which is awesome. Because same here, I get the full-body cringe when I think of the things I used to put up with up until even just a couple years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 02:14 PM |
| 66 | ‘Studies’ showing dad bods are more attractive to womenMen with child-bearing hips are always the biggest assholes. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 12:39 AM |
| 6 | Doctors/Nurses/Healthcare Workers Really Need to be More Mindful of the Amount of Women Who Have Been Sexually Assaulted/AbusedI think you could be into something. While I like to hope I’ll never be in that situation again, I need to be prepared for the possibility. It’s hard to articulate exactly what you need, or require, when you’re in a lot of pain, and especially if you go into survival mode. I was thinking of maybe making a list on a notecard and keeping it in my wallet. Maybe that’s something a lot of other women should do. In a perfect world, we wouldn’t have to but... well, you know. 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 07:07 PM |
| 9 | Doctors/Nurses/Healthcare Workers Really Need to be More Mindful of the Amount of Women Who Have Been Sexually Assaulted/AbusedI think part of it is the city I live outside of, where the hospital is. There’s a huge drug problem, and a huge homeless situation. The nurse who finally wheeled me back to my room even made some almost joking remarks about how jaded she is, that she doesn’t take anyone seriously anymore. That’s a really problematic thing for a nurse to say. Why even be a nurse if you essentially don’t give a shit about the people who come to you for help? I’m sure most of the time they just want to get people … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 07:01 PM |
| 21 | Doctors/Nurses/Healthcare Workers Really Need to be More Mindful of the Amount of Women Who Have Been Sexually Assaulted/AbusedIt’s so demoralizing to be treated as a nuisance. And I’m so sorry that’s been your experience. As bad as my experience was, I can’t imagine how much worse it might have been if I were a woman of color - and I know this isn’t a suffering competition, but still. It could’ve been so much worse for me. It’s like they have a checklist: Step one: she’s a woman, treat her her poorly. Step two: she’s not white, treat her even worse. I remember years ago when I was in labor. I was in a small sort of wai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:31 PM |
| 29 | Doctors/Nurses/Healthcare Workers Really Need to be More Mindful of the Amount of Women Who Have Been Sexually Assaulted/AbusedI’m having a delayed anger reaction today. I keep thinking of the things I would have said or done under normal circumstances. The pain and the panic just reduced what I was capable of saying to the bare minimum. I wish I could have walked out of there, but I wasn’t capable of walking without a lot of help. I should have just stolen a wheelchair, and I’m only half-joking. Well, lesson learned on where NOT to go in the future, anyway. And also maybe coming up with a plan for possible future emerg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:18 PM |
| 81 | Ladies, take note of the men around you who are saying "not all men". They are promoting a pro-femicide agenda. Don't have sex with them, don't give them your attention, and don't patron their businesses #BoycottNAMALTExactly. A recent example that had me shaking my head was a post on one of the relationship advice subs. The man posting has an adult male friend who was dating a 14 year old. He needed advice because it was disgusting to him that his friend would date someone so young, but he (the poster) didn’t want to be a “rat” or a “snitch.” So the possibility of a 14 year old girl being raped took a backseat to finding a “nice” way of putting a stop to his rapist friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:17 AM |
| 24 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.Gah, the IBS. Same here. Oh, and chronic BV. 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 01:41 AM |
| 80 | You read about us on Vice. She said we hate men; she said we’re no different than the redpill. You were disgusted by us. Yet, somehow, you felt some urge to come here.She is a dipshit. I usually try to give women the benefit of the doubt, but her little article was the cringiest shit I’ve read in a long time. I seriously had secondhand embarrassment for her. I wouldn’t even be here if FDS was all about forced vasectomies or pro male rape. If that “journalist” (using that word in her case is fucking laughable) had spent any amount of time actually engaging with any of the women here, she would have seen the bottom line is self-worth - finding it, recognizing i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:50 AM |
| 13 | This is the double bind society presents women with when we try to speak the truth about male pattern behaviour. If we call it out, it’s misandrist. But if we don’t call it out and end up getting harmed anyway, it’s our fault for not seeing the signs. Head men win, tails women lose. Again.Is it misandry, though? No, more like a sort of collective PTSD. No woman actually wants to have to be hyper-vigilant all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:31 PM |
| 83 | LVM male guide to cheap dating. Watch out for these bright red flags ladiesYes! And annoying as hell. One time I was on a date and the guy only talked about every negative thing in his life. He kept saying, “Let’s see... what else have I been through...” All I could think was, “I’ve got to get out of here before I throw my drink at him.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 09:02 AM |
| 144 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"Block and delete is so helpful. Even if you’re just DYING to tell some idiot what he did wrong, all he does is seize the opportunity to tell you why your boundaries are wrong, OR he’ll keep those boundaries in mind and be sneaky with the shit behavior. I used to be a “this is how you hurt me” book-length texter. It’s so freeing now to just be like, “Nope, blocked.” It saves so much energy and emotion - energy and emotion that can be put toward yourself, your hobbies, the things you love. Teachin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:51 AM |
| 16 | Why is it “gross” for women to have body hair despite the fact that every adult woman's body naturally grows hair, but when a guy has hair on his body and armpits it's okay?In the show Deadwood, the women had armpit hair. I’m not sure I remember the one character’s name... Alma? Anyway, she and Timothy Olyphant were half-nude, post-sex, and she was just laying there looking happy with one of her arms up and I remember thinking it was pretty awesome that they showed female body hair and it was sexy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 04:28 AM |
| 13 | Thank you ladies!I’m so glad I’m not the only one. It was a while back, but I had the same sort of thought: “What am I doing to attract these assholes??” Of course I’d had many pick-me moments, but even after I put in the work to change those traits, I was still attracting these manipulative pieces of shit. I was blaming myself for not noticing the red flags. Sent me into a bit of a shame-spiral. Until I really thought about it: many men are able to hide the red flags. They’re on their best behavior at first. A … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:36 PM |
| 13 | ReminderOh please, like anyone cares what The Shat thinks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:26 PM |
| 37 | Scrotes mad! How dare we value our time and peace. Have you been blocking and deleting people more since you've learned about FDS?Yeah... I’ve gotten similar remarks. I’ve been called “avoidant,” and “aloof.” It’s like... no, after only two or three dates, I find it almost intrusive when someone is blowing up my phone with text messages all day - and not even asking questions or any like that. Just monologues about what they’re up to. I remember one pig-faced “nice” guy was all about texting me all day long, just talking about himself, or sending a “thinking of you...” text at least twice a day. We’d been on two dates. I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:26 AM |
| 136 | "Men don't care about your career, all we want is a woman who is young, reasonably attractive, and with a tolerable personality"Every once in a while, a guy will give me the old “no wonder you’re single.” (If texted to me, it’s “no wonder your single.” ) And I’m like, “Yes...? Considering the sheer amount of losers who expect me to lower my standards, it’s truly no wonder I am single.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 11 | boy BYEHoly shit 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:22 AM |
| 23 | 😂😂Uh... I fucking love sex. I just don’t like shitty sex with shitty people. Guys have that saying: “sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s good.” Because most of the time, they get off no matter what. So to that guy: it’s not that women don’t like sex, they just don’t like sex with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:03 PM |
| 59 | Dating is supposed to be funIsn’t it so weird when guys do that? Use “I really like you” as some sort of proof that you’re being unreasonable? I’ve come across that a couple times. “But I really like you.” Like... so? Is that supposed to be some kind of prize? If you “really like” a woman, you show it. You don’t act like her stating her needs and expectations is some jumping off point for negotiations, like she’s selling something and her asking price is too high and you have to bring the number down. Needs are not somethi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:37 PM |
| 106 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/petYour cat is a pickme. 😂😂🤣That cracks me up. Don’t worry, I have a cat who is a total whore for head scritches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:00 PM |
| 145 | Scrotes are so fucking dumb and obsessed with humbling women and uplifting their own. Who looks at this goddess and thinks yea she looks around the same as him 😂😂 what idiotsMen just aren’t good looking compared to women. Women are just straight-up beautiful. I’ve never seen one man (celebrity, model, or otherwise) who looked as good as an attractive woman. I say this as a very hetero (unfortunately) woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:28 AM |
| 51 | This is freaking scary. We are not even safe at homeHe’d also cut two feet of her Christmas light wire. Dude was either looking to restrain or strangle her. So freakin scary. 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 36 | Dumping his baggage only 5 minutes into the conversationI’ve met a few like that. They’re always bad news. Basically lying from the get-go and you know damned well they’ve taken zero time to heal and get onto a good head-space for dating. Good call on that one. He sounds gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:15 AM |
| 58 | Dumping his baggage only 5 minutes into the conversationYeah, I like that little manipulative bit at the end. What a piece of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:06 AM |
| 23 | I feel like a lot of us have been here- never again.Love that site. The headlines kill me. My favorite: “Woman reveals her kink is men leaving her alone.” 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:44 AM |
| 13 | Have any of you guys done/are going to do single motherhood by choice (smbc)?Sort of the same as the comment above me, and not exactly what you’re asking but maybe I can lend some perspective. My kids’ dad died so it wasn’t a by choice thing, but I will tell you it’s so much easier being a parent on my own. It wasn’t by choice when it happened, but it’s certainly by choice now as I refuse to have any man involved with raising my kids. If I were broke, it might be hard. A couple things you may have to put up with: the stigma surrounding single moms, that we’re always look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:32 AM |
| 21 | Guys with small dicks still have big egosOne of the biggest narcissists I’ve ever met had a pencil dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:06 AM |
| 16 | Appropriate age gaps?Same. I’m 40s and larger age gaps tend to be more acceptable at this point. I’d date a 50 year old if he took care of himself and had his life together. 🤷🏻♀️It’s when the 60+plus creeps hit on me that I’m like, “Back off, gramps. I’m still in my prime.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:48 PM |
| 9 | Let's sing a song: WOMEN🎶ARE🎶NOT🎶YOUR🎶THERAPISTS.I’m fucking WEEPING over Edgemaster General. 😂😂😂😂😭💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:07 PM |
| 19 | Where's the lie?The best answer is no answer. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:07 PM |
| 32 | this angers me so muchMen: “Communicate more! We aren’t mind-readers!” Women: gives step-by-step guide Men: “No not like that! Women are so emotional!” punches nearest wall | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 08:31 PM |
| 25 | this angers me so muchOh boy. I tend to express myself better through writing than speaking - which is fine for a journal, story, or email to a loved one. Not so much when it comes to shitty men and I had the Epic Saga Text down to an art form. If I was feeling horrible over a man (there have only been a couple I was serious about since I was married for over a decade) I thought if I just worded everything correctly, he would see the error of his ways and change his shitty behavior. I put so much time and effort into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:21 PM |
| 32 | What’s the best story you have about “ownership?”This was a while back, but it still sticks in my craw sometimes. Also, this took place in a small-ish city where everyone usually went to the same block of bars downtown, so it wasn’t uncommon to always be running into the same people. Was on a date with this guy when he got a call from a mutual friend. Friend was upset and needed a ride home. So we took my date’s car to drive the friend home and while I was in the car, I was getting overly warm, so I took off my outer sweater and set it on the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 05:07 PM |
| 107 | Congrats on being a single momShe’ll be on reddit soon, asking if she’s the asshole for being upset and she’ll be told that since she never communicated her need to not have her husband gaming while she was in labor, her emotional pain is her own fault because men aren’t mind readers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:41 PM |
| 38 | Pickmeisha on r/offmychestTrying to earn cool points, I see. I bet she only has guy friends because it’s “less drama.” Hope she gets picked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:37 PM |
| 14 | Examples of disrespectThis is such a good point. Something I can’t stand is how a lot of people say it’s so “mature” to keep exes as friends and if you have a problem with that, you’re an insecure piece of shit. I know there are exceptions to just about every rule, but exes staying friends usually means one of them still has feelings - sexual or otherwise. With men it’s usually that they want to keep someone familiar on the hook. Unless there are kids involved and a man is staying friendly with his ex because they’re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:20 PM |
| 99 | Exhibit #59269428 proving men are unable to handle rejection 😂She commented on the IG post that she met him on a sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement site. She said that’s what he meant by her benefiting from capitalism. Either way, he’s a chode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 03:47 AM |
| 16 | How to say Fuck Off nicely?If you’re concerned for your safety, I don’t think there’s any wrong way to make sure you’re safe. Saying “thanks” even when you don’t mean it might feel shitty, but on the other hand, it’s a lot better than having some psycho creep rage on you, or worse. I’m big for a woman. Not fat, just big, with freak strength. But even I know men are naturally stronger. So while most of the time it would be on the tip of my tongue to tell a creep to fuck off (and I have many times) I really don’t know if th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 112 | Examples of disrespectI dated a guy for about a year who had his social media status set as “single.” When I asked him about changing it, he became annoyed and said, “I didn’t know social media was that important to you.” Real sarcastic tone, like it was stupid of me to even bring it up. I was like, “Dude, you’re literally telling hundreds of people that you’re single when you’re not.” But of course it was made out to be my fault for being uncomfortable with it. 🙄Fucking manipulative asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:40 PM |
| 20 | I post a lot of stuff from FDS on my Instagram story, and a male friend responded this. I sometimes forget how radical FDS seems to the real world (because it feels so right to me).I’ve lost a lot of male “friends” as well because of some of my social media posts. I’ve been asked things like, “When did you start hating men?” and have been called “misandrist.” I’ve asked guys to show me which part of my post was wrong and the answers have either been nothing or some version of “not all men.” That’s because there’s nothing actually wrong about my posts. These men just experience a knee-jerk reaction to men being called-out for their bullshit and rather than unpack that feeli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:01 PM |
| 4 | The partnership is about working together 🤗 he's making the mess, and I am cleaning it. But seriously, I can't imagine how harmful it is for the young girls to hear such things said by an authority.Good lord, she talks like a robot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:52 PM |
| 43 | Multiple Shitsonality disorder 💩With my late husband, it was the opposite. He was such a dick when it was just he and I. The second we were around other people (especially his family) he was sooo nice and accommodating. I remember one time, a list I’d made went missing and I was anxiously looking for it. His family was over and he acted so helpful and even offered to go look in the outside dumpster for me in case my list had been thrown out in the trash. His mom and his sisters were just gushing over how sweet that was. Meanwh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:49 PM |
| 10 | When you notice changes in your own behavior...I was briefly “friends” with a guy like this. According to him, his evil wife just decided she was done with him just as the pandemic hit and rather than get his own place, he was paying down some debt, and some other BS excuses that basically boiled down to it wasn’t his fault, it was his wife’s fault. Thing is, he’s on Tinder. I have a burner profile on there and I came across his profile. Not one mention of a wife or how he still lives with her. He’s also prone to bouts of meanness and late n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 12:58 AM |
| 47 | Ex-boyfriend calls to “catch up”. Why?Thirded, and I’d like to add: fuck that shit, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 12:49 AM |
| 39 | Never ditch your friends for a date and never let them change plans on youYeah, I saw nothing about ditching friends. Anyway, what that guy pulled is shitty and your disappointment is justified. Block and delete, and have an Internet hug. ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:56 AM |
| 23 | As a mother of two sons, I wholeheartedly agree. Stop training girls to “take care of their men”. Teach your sons how to be men and take care of themselves and their families. No more raising pick-mes. Queens only.I wish she was my mom when I was growing up. 😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:30 PM |
| 100 | A man who has nothing to hide will hide nothing.I hate that we’re taught to automatically blame ourselves - are we “overthinking,” are we being “insecure” or “jealous.” It’s a shit way to live and it breaks my heart when I see it. Best case scenario: he’s not cheating, but doesn’t give one shit that his partner is uncomfortable with that whole weird situation. That right there is reason enough to tell him to fuck right the fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:26 PM |
| 14 | I just got dumped for being “too opinionated”“Opinionated” is such a stupid word anyway. Literally everyone has opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:28 AM |
| 39 | I just got dumped for being “too opinionated”I’ve straight up had a man tell me, “I think you’re smarter than me and I don’t like that.” They hate it, so they use different terms for it like “opinionated.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsOh, every once in a while, someone comes down from On High to mingle with the rabble. 🙄 What you did is informative and is appreciated. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 06:51 PM |
| 12 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesThe talking over you bullshit. Omg. I just rolled my eyes on your behalf. And no, the “teacher” used to be a teacher. He lied to me about waiting for a position with the school district. He worked as a receptionist and made it look like he was doing that temporarily until his district job came through. I’d at least have more respect for, “Yeah, I used to be a teacher, but I got into some trouble and I’m working as a receptionist while I decide on another career path.” Still wouldn’t have dated h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:25 AM |
| 21 | Delete and Block 💅🏻Yes! The maniacal expression kills me. 😂😂💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:10 AM |
| 43 | Delete and Block 💅🏻I couldn’t stop laughing at it 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:21 PM |
| 66 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesMy favorite (obviously pre-FDS): Bumble. He was mid-30s, teacher, working as a receptionist while he was waiting on a position in a school district in our area. First couple of dates were okay, but it was apparent he was broke as shit. He also had a non-running vehicle so he was always taking the bus or an Uber if he could afford it. I met him at his work a couple times, and he’d always put me on the spot by asking if I’d take him to the store. So I stopped meeting him at his work because I didn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 08:25 PM |
| 34 | Found an old photo of a “gift” my LVM ex gave me :)))))) this was a 35 year old man with enough savings to buy a house in cash.Can I join the clown party? I once took my ex boyfriend on a week-long vacation to the coast (cost me thousands) and he was texting his ex and making remarks to me about my weight gain for most of that time. Then for Christmas, I dropped another huge chunk of change on gifts for him and his gift to me was a framed picture of himself. A picture I already had. Because I’m the one who took it. Then he went on a ski trip with his bros. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:39 AM |
| 19 | Your past is over, so don't let it define you. Forgive yourself and make your future better!Yes! And be kind to each other. No matter what level of growth a woman is at, we’ve ALL had to unlearn a bunch of toxic shit and there isn’t one of us who should be looking down our noses at women who are trying, or maybe haven’t reached the same level of understanding. It’s heartbreaking to see women being cruel to themselves and being cruel to each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:19 PM |
| 38 | Why Do So Many People Want To Legitimize Sex Work?I’m glad you’re out. Big hug to you. ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:26 AM |
| 13 | I lost faith in men. How to get it back?That whole “trust issues” thing is just played-out bullshit. What, like we’re supposed to just run around blindly trusting anyone? That makes no sense. Trust is earned and you don’t have to give it to just anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 09:18 PM |
| 31 | Communication: a rantI was just going to say exactly that! I’ve become very blunt and direct toward men because of the whole “men aren’t mind readers!” thing, and now they just call me a bitch. 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:42 PM |
| 37 | The audacity!It’s like that White Stripes song. They take the effect and make it the cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 04:42 PM |
| 9 | Exactly this.Which is basically half my point. Whether it’s genetics, money, whatever, not everyone is going to look 40 when they’re 60, and that’s fine. Society is youth-obsessed and it usually women who pay for that obsession. As someone mentioned in another comment, aging is a privilege and (in my opinion) comes with benefits far better than possibly “looking good for your age.” A lot of women tend to overlook the benefits because we’re too busy being brainwashed into thinking aging is bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 04:36 PM |
| 54 | Exactly this.Not everyone can age like Angela Basset and that’s perfectly fine. There are so many perks to aging and they’re often overlooked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:14 AM |
| 61 | When Men Assume They Know More: A Short StoryCame here to say exactly this. I don’t want OP to feel picked on, but damn. That could’ve been a whole lot worse. 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 02:05 AM |
| 63 | Unattractive man catfishes women because he feels entitled to have a more attractive woman.No woman should have to apologize or be called “shallow” because she doesn’t want to date fucking Sméagol. Also, he only respects attractive women as “people?” Wtf. I guarantee his attitude makes him uglier than his physical appearance does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 11:21 PM |
| 60 | Drinks = drunk enough for sex with a random girl, movie and cuddle = sex with a random girl, but dinner is too much of a risk in this “current climate” 😒🙄I’m fucking weeping here 😂😂😂😂💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:47 PM |
| 17 | Drinks = drunk enough for sex with a random girl, movie and cuddle = sex with a random girl, but dinner is too much of a risk in this “current climate” 😒🙄Fuck 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:46 PM |
| 238 | Joining FDS, I found it a bit weird that men couldn't comment. Joining r/TwoXChromosomes, I realised how fucking good the rule isNo shit, I was JUST thinking about making a post about this exact same thing. I’ve mentioned it a couple times in comments, but it is so frustrating. A few minutes ago, I was reading the post in TwoX by a young woman who is sick and tired of being ogled and grabbed. There are men in the comments talking about how men can’t help looking at boobs, or saying, “It happens to men, too!” Thankfully, on that post at least, they’re getting called out. The comments I hate the most are the men who subtly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Netflix & Chill (Solo - The FDS Way) - Movie SuggestionI knew about her T2 role, and if I remember correctly, she was the mother on Titanic who was telling a story to her kids while the ship sank. I didn’t know she sold bras, though. That’s an interesting tidbit. 😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:21 PM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Gross. Get rid of him. The “this time” remark was bad enough, but you’re getting bad vibes and questioning, which is your gut telling you it’s a no-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:56 AM |
| 10 | Oh of course, no problem. I believe what you’re looking for is a free whore? I hate it here. Marriage seems unattainable with what this internet has allowed me to see.Dammit 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:51 AM |
| 6 | Netflix & Chill (Solo - The FDS Way) - Movie SuggestionVasquez’s arms are goals! She’s ripped and I love it. 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:36 AM |
| 5 | Won’t Somebody Think of the Men??I like this whole thread. ❤️😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 10:00 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Happy early birthday! I’m excited for you. Your 30s will be awesome, but wait until you hit your 40s. It gets even better! 😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 54 | Sean Connery’s death has inspired the manosphere to start saying the quiet & implied part of their whole ethos out loud.I can barely stomach that sub these days. I just go through and downvote the useless comments from men. “As a guy, I really think...” Man, stfu. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:45 PM |
| 29 | Father teaching his sons to avoid woman.Good! Because unless boys are taught to respect, honor, and empathize, they need to stay the fuck away from women. And I guarantee this “father” is teaching them enough with his attitude alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:43 PM |
| 75 | Types of NV/LVM you meet while dating and red flags to watch out for.The Married Guy: still lives with his wife, but says they’re “separated,” and refers to her as his “roommate.” Has severe anger issues. Passed his prime, but still thinks he can bag the hot young chicks just so he can stick it to his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 11:48 PM |
| 166 | Porn has fried so many brains they can’t even see a cute picture puppy video without mentioning porn.Totally understand. This is sick. Every day, I see something similar. There’s no escaping it, which is why I mostly focus on this sub anymore. Men ruin everything. Cute puppy? Compare it to step-sibling porn. Picture of a tree with a crack in it? It must be a vagina. Woman posting progress pics of her weight loss? Immediately sexualized. Even in the really popular women’s sub, a woman was asking about her large labia and dudes were commenting about her “meat curtains.” It’s fucking ridiculous. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:20 PM |
| 60 | r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡Well shit, then I guess I’m also anti-quicky, otherwise known as anti-being treated like a blow up doll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 12:43 AM |
| 6 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.For those not comfortable with a handgun, I’d suggest a tactical baton. I personally love them. They collapse to about 7 inches, which makes it great for concealing. To expand, just give a hard flick of your wrist. You can carry it in a baton holster, or slide it in your boot, up your sleeve, or wherever makes it easily accessible. I’d recommend shelling out about 100 dollars for a heavy-duty baton, look up a trauma/hit chart (shows which parts of the body to hit for maximum damage), and practic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 10:54 PM |
| 15 | Thoughts....I’ve noticed the contention here and there. I know it’s sometimes really easy to lose patience with people when they don’t see things as clearly as others. I see it this way: freeing yourself from societal conditioning is similar to overcoming an addiction. Addicts can convince themselves of some pretty spectacular things for the sake of getting a fix. “It’s not that bad/this is the last time/this is actually good for me...” Once rehab starts, relapse is to be expected. Relapse is almost always … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 10:13 PM |
| 10 | When you redownload OkCupid and see that your LVM ex has done a profile makeover and writes about how he’s so great and 6” and wants to take you out to eat but you see beyond the facade. Pray for the ladies in my city y’all 🙏Same here. We were only ever in the “seeing each other” phase, so he wasn’t my ex-boyfriend. But I came across his dating profile, saw that he put his age as 44 when he was actually 50. His profile said he was looking for a “unicorn,” but he failed to mention that he’s an absolute drunk, has no driver’s license due to multiple DUIs, lives in a house that’s almost a shack, and has severe anger issues. Total loser. 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 03:07 PM |
| 64 | To sum this article up: being thin is attractive to men because it indicates being young and no previous pregnancy NOT because being thin increases fertility or health. Yepp. Thin not necessarily healthy. I think this article is wrong and it has more to do with porn.I’m sick of these articles talking about what men prefer - and most of the time, these scrotes take some tidbit of info and use it to excuse vile behavior. “THat’S hOW mEN ArE WirEd.” Especially when it comes to “spreading their seed.” 😖 Yet not one of them will mention the studies showing how female early humans were just as promiscuous as the males - possibly even more so - because it was in the best interest of the species for the egg to be fertilized by the strongest sperm. So female early h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Woman calmly confronts her little man baby about following other women on Instagram and inviting her over just to watch him play video games. He resorts to having a tantrum.That poor woman. Dude is abusive as hell. I’m not saying it’s right, but at least back in the day, men would hide their Playboys or lingerie catalogue or whatever they were looking at. These days it’s all in the open because it’s been normalized. If he feels the need to always be perving on other women, he should stay single. Also, I hate how the woman feels like she needs to say, “I know I’m insecure and I need to work on that.” Girl, no. Just because there’s a screen between a man and the wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:19 PM |
| 47 | Scrote only has sex if it means his wife is pegging him while watching the kind of porn he likes. She does so begrudgingly. And he refuses to clean up the poop afterward.Jesus Harold Christ 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 06:05 PM |
| 70 | Man terrifies woman into blocking him on multiple forms of contact. Cue him whining and hundreds of comments calling her a bitch without hearing her side of the story.So instead of just handling rejection like a stable person, he posts a psycho rant on Facebook for his fan-club to kiss his owie all better. Also, he sees the whole thing as transactional: “I did this, that, and the other for her! I deserve what I want in return!” Instead of recognizing she’s a whole human being with feelings of her own. Sounds like they, what? Went out a time or two before he started acting weird and she lost attraction for him. Saying what a gentleman he was sounds oddly defen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 11:29 PM |
| 9 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”Yeah, fuck that. You do you and if they don’t like it, they can stay away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:50 PM |
| 6 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”Oh my god! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:48 PM |
| 10 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”On one hand, I’m glad I’m not alone. On the other hand, I’m sad so many of us have had to deal with shitty sex. 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:43 PM |
| 19 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”You know what, I’m glad you had a good experience sexually with your first boyfriend. You deserve it and you know not to settle for less. 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:42 PM |
| 9 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”Right?? And the bottoms of their feet! It looks like... clay. 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:39 PM |
| 14 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”Men interested in dating me. When I made it clear I wasn’t available, they said that. You’re right, it is gross. And it says a lot about how they think of dating. No worries, I ended those conversations immediately. My annoyance was off the charts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:22 PM |
| 13 | Celebrated my favorite season autumn and one year of being happily single (after an abusive breakup) by cooking chicken khowsuey, baking caramel apple cheesecake bars, whole-wheat apple spice cake for myself❤️🍁🍂 happy autumn!Caramel apple cheesecake bars?? 😳🤤Also, your dish looks amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 02:43 AM |
| 21 | you deserve someone who takes care of you ❤️I believe it. I don’t miss it now. I tried for a bit and I’m just like... what for? I love my life now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 08:58 PM |
| 89 | you deserve someone who takes care of you ❤️This gives me hope. My late husband treated me like garbage the few times I needed to go to the hospital in the decade we were married. One time, my throat had swollen almost shut (from strep). I couldn’t talk. I needed him to take me to the hospital and he yelled at me. I ended up needing to stay a few nights, and when I was being admitted, a nurse saw his attitude and asked if he understood how serious my condition was. He also treated me like crap each time I was pregnant - one was a miscarri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:19 PM |
| 11 | Okay, but I can’t make any promises.Please don’t have five chins... oh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:47 AM |
| 18 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatI expect this behavior from guys, so I’m always disappointed when I hear of women poaching. ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:38 AM |
| 33 | I used to go to Starbucks often & the cute barista would always write my name with a heart on it. I asked once about a little treat that comes w/ coffee and he always remembered it & gave me more than he was allowed. Every. Time. If a random guy can do this ur bf can remember the things you likeBless his heart. 🥺❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:34 AM |
| 8 | Check on a Pick Me Friend Today“I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.” 😂😂 (Well, me four years ago, anyway.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:29 AM |
| 24 | Something I noticed....Or when they do ask you questions, they’re self-serving, like they’re assessing you. “ArE yOu 420 FrIeNdLy?” Is my favorite. Man, stfu. Or, like OP pointed out, the questions are just a way for them to talk about themselves more. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:41 AM |
| 21 | There is way too much wrong in this post. Why do young women allow themselves to be used like this???This is just really sad. 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:53 PM |
| 5 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄Exactly. I’m kind of iffy on that myself. On one hand, I know the effects of verbal abuse, but on the other hand... I’m not sure it should be counted as violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 11:02 PM |
| 11 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄So that’s a good point you brought up. I just skimmed through the study and saw that verbal “violence” was counted toward what constitutes violence. From what I can gather (and I do need to read this more in-depth), it’s basically saying that women are more likely to yell or verbally abuse males rather than hitting, raping, or killing. Males are more prone to physical violence. Maybe this is something we women need to talk about? Purely anecdotal, but my late husband had me backed against the pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 10:57 PM |
| 32 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄They do it to themselves. I’m not saying that to dismiss Female-on-Male violence, because it does happen. However, male-on-anything violence happens at such an astoundingly higher rate... but they refuse to see they are the problem? And they want to bullhorn their way into conversations about violence against women. “Pay attention to me! Pay attention to male issues that males caused!” I don’t even listen anymore. Women are trying to find solutions and all men want to do is whine. Evolve or get … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 07:17 PM |
| 16 | Men can’t make women orgasm because they don’t “cOmMUniCatE”Definitely the latter. It’s difficult for women to have a “regular” orgasm when we’re not relaxed, safe, and aroused, so it’s extra difficult to squirt, especially when there’s pressure or you don’t trust what your partner’s reaction might be, or you’re not even getting g-spot stimulation. I don’t remember the exact wording, but I was reading something years ago about squirting in porn. They put capsules full of something or other (I don’t remember what) in the actress’s urethra so that when she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:46 PM |
| 566 | Men can’t make women orgasm because they don’t “cOmMUniCatE”THEY DON’T LISTEN! That’s the crux of the issue right there. You can explain until you’re blue in the face and they’ll still go back to what feels best for them, or get all butt-hurt when you are vocal about what gets you off. One guy I was dating was obsessed with squirting. He’d be jackhammering like there was no tomorrow, saying, “I’m gonna make you squirt...” no matter how many times I told him it wasn’t happening. I got so sick of it, one of the last times we had sex, he was doing the same … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:18 AM |
| 54 | I.... I can’tYou know... it’s easy for all of us to point out what you should have done, but you already know. This could have been a lot worse, so work on a plan for the future to immediately dip when something is off. Also, I think it’s awesome you and the ex-girlfriend showed support for each other. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:41 AM |
| 29 | Gas me up to drop this manYou’re too good to be rolling around in garbage - which is exactly what this situation is. Delete, block, and focus on yourself. No long explanations to this man, no epic saga-type paragraphs of what you need in the hopes he’ll see the light (he won’t). Cut it off immediately and don’t look back. Then make a promise to yourself that you’ll never let garbage like that invade your life again. Then do something good for yourself like a spa day or even a relaxing bath. Buy a new top. Get a pedicure.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:59 PM |
| 18 | Can someone explain this so called “Nice Guy” phenomenon that men behold?Nice Guys and Good Men are two different things. “Nice Guy” is secret code for “I’ll act nice as long as you do and say exactly what I want.” Men calling themselves nice is like putting lipstick on a pig. And anyway, I think they say it more to convince themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:18 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, if you need some pointers on how to spot red flags: DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER🚩🚩🚩You nailed it. Up until about a month ago, I had waist-length hair. The amount of work that it required was insane. Plus dealing with all the randos saying shit like, “i have a thing for long hair...” I was sick and tired of having long hair. Besides all the work, I felt it dragged my facial features down. I asked myself why I was even keeping it - certainly not for myself. So I went and got it cut super short with an undercut. I FUCKING LOVE IT. It has really cut down the number of strange men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 04:30 PM |
| 137 | Please RUN when a guy says he has mostly female friends. He doesn't have mostly female friends. He has mostly PICKMEISHA friends!!Narcissistic men need their little fan-clubs. I just deleted and blocked one a few days ago. When he first “friended” me, there was no sign of a girlfriend anywhere on his social media. He said nothing about being attached and would frequently try to flirt with me. Immediately after they broke up, he messaged me because he wanted to go out and have “fun.” I was so disgusted. Even more disgusted when I got a better look at his posts and the comments from so many women who were basically kissing h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Online dating stalkers, halp?Depending on your location, you can get an anti-harassment order - I’m guessing you’d need to know the person’s full name and location, though. It’s a little different from a restraining order or no contact order and you don’t need a police report to get one. If you’re in the US, look up your county + anti-harassment order and go from there. Usually the court website will give you all the info you need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:21 PM |
| 21 | What’s a gross habit a guy you dated had?A few years ago (obviously pre-FDS), I was dating this asshole who I suspect was low-key NPD. Treated me like crap, but in a very sneaky way. Total mind-fuck. Anyway, back then I was still smoking and I was out in my front porch having a cigarette and crying over something crappy he’d said. The curtains were closed, but through the crack between them, I could see the fat jerk sitting on my sofa picking his nose. He was in up to the second knuckle. Then when he pulled out a booger, he just sat th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:21 PM |
| 311 | Imagine using this many words to tell the entire world you’re shit in bed.“I will study the issue further.” = “I will disappoint as many women as possible.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 04:02 PM |
| 22 | I need to know if I am dealing with a potential LVM and how to do damage controlIf your gut is saying something is wrong, then there’s something wrong. You’re not obligated to be friendly, or even polite, to someone who makes you uncomfortable. Tell him you’re not comfortable talking to him, and tell your dad the same thing. And please stay safe. ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 04:20 AM |
| 270 | Men want casual sex/relationships, till the woman wants that too. Then suddenly they aren’t so cool with it.Years ago I was running myself ragged putting in effort to try and “prove” that I was worthy of love. Any good treatment I received in return was sporadic at best. After a point (more specifically, therapy), I just stopped giving a shit and started putting myself first. The difference I saw in men’s attitudes toward me was... a little shocking at first. When they see you don’t give a shit, it really messes with their heads and they fall over themselves trying to prove themselves to you. (I’m not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Say it louder for those LVMs in the backReplying for two reasons: You are spot on. I love your username. I loved Tv’s Frank. I was sad when he wasn’t on mst3k anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Radical Directness Feels AmazingGood! You shouldn’t have to be. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:47 AM |
| 50 | Radical Directness Feels AmazingLove this! And yes, it does feel amazing. One time, I was reading a blog post by a male “dating coach,” addressing the concerns of women who say men don’t like that they’re direct and honest. His response was that these women were probably just being “tactless.” Um, excuse me, no. I’ve noticed a lot of men who absolutely hate when women are direct and honest, especially where boundaries are concerned. A couple of personal examples: One time I was meeting a guy for a date. I was already there (a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Be balanced ladies 😂Oh my god, that FUCKING emoji. It’s the calling card of every “just kidding, but seriously” creep out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:46 AM |
| 20 | If this has been discussed elsewhere please link, but wondering what are some LVM red flags in OLD profiles? Both photos and text.Went to the school of Hard Knocks Wondering where all the “real” women are “My kids are my world and if you can’t handle that just keep swiping...” Just a picture, no bio having a shit-ton of physical requirements, but they look like crap “no gold-diggers” (women don’t want your call center check, Kyle 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:14 AM |
| 1 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.“Closed.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:48 PM |
| 7 | I chose to leave todayYes! Be excited! I had the best glow-up ever at 40 - not just my looks, but my life. You can totally do this and be happy, successful, and independent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 12:57 AM |
| 143 | I realized I'm a low value woman and I'm feeling a bit downI’m gonna go out on a limb here and say most of us reached a similar realization at some point or another - and some earlier or later in life than others. I think a lot of us were/are victims of societal conditioning. So I wouldn’t beat yourself up over it. It’s huge that you’re willing to get to work on self-improvement. Don’t be daunted by a time frame. Knock out goals, work on knocking out goals, do what you can. Some of it is incremental. Be patient with yourself. Also, be proud of yourself.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:10 AM |
| 74 | Have any of you gotten over your BDSM kink?Yes. I got over it when I discovered I was using it as a form of self-harm. I’m sure it’s different for others, but that’s what it was for me. I was in what started out as grief therapy and ended up delving into other things and my “kink” was one of them. This was a few years ago and since then, there’s no way I’d allow my degradation to be sexualized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 09:07 PM |
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