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Its bs. Im turning 31 next month and I look like I'm in my early 20s. I have men 10 years younger than me checking me out and trying to pursue me. The men who go on about this crap are simply trying to devalue women and are intentionally trying to oppress them and make them feel insecure.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/22 12:39 AM
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Slander is making false statements to ruin someone's reputation. My testimony ain't "slander", its fact. Only a person who can in some way resonate with this type of evil and is ok with it would have a problem with me sharing my testimony, and not to mention in the respectful manner I did in my video. Good people dont enable abusive behaviour and tell people who have been abused to "try and work it out" with their abusers. They also dont try to silence them by shaming them for speaking out. So p…
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 11:27 AM
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Ewwww misogynist 🤢
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 01:10 AM
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Well you can take that up with him. He was into all that but he was also entertaining mgtow stuff after I separated and used it to play victim. So yes he was into it but if you listened to my video I said it was with wrong motives, so of course it doesn't make sense that he was into it while married but he was. His inconsistency and hypocrisy has nothing to do with me, it has to do with him desperately reaching for anything he could to devalue me and pretend to be a victim. Im just telling it ho…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/21 04:43 AM
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Some of us (including me) were probably married/in a relationship with a man involved in this but we didn't know about it at the time. And like others have said here, some women were probably the pick me women but came to their senses eventually. It's always been confusing and bizarre to me seeing these women on YouTube speaking in favour of red pill and these men while trashing their own gender. I would hope that's why some women are here after turning away from that. That right there is a form…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/21 08:55 AM
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I don't know you but I'm proud of you for not getting completely sucked in and staying true to what is right. I agree with what you said and I feel the same fears about manipulation and cheating too after my husband was actually a part of all this.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/21 08:32 AM
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Oh ffs. Did you even listen to my video before making yourself sound damn stupid in these comments? I said in the very beginning of my video that many of these men are real victims and that YES I'm talking about the narcissists in these groups. I clearly acknowledged the legitimate victims in mgtow, unlike you who is not acknowledging I was. So who here is really the hypocrite??? Your attempt at gaslighting me to make me view myself as the issue and my husband the victim who needs to be sympathi…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/21 03:51 AM
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Why are you so triggered by me sharing what I've been through? I think that's the real question here. Dude no, my husband and I are not the same. Don't even try that. I'm not 'playing' victim, I was a victim. There is a difference between someone pretending to be a victim who was never actually victimised and someone actually being one by definition and those who were one didn't choose to be. Why the fuck would I sympathise with my abuser? What is wrong with you to even say that? If you had of e…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/21 03:45 AM
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Where are you coming up with this shit? Where did I say that him being mgtow was more of a problem than cheating? They are both bad in their own way, and being a part of mgtow to PLAY a victim is the problem I was focusing on with the narcissists in it who ARENT real victims. If you're too stupid to understand this then that is not my problem. You are trying to come up with things that are irrelevant or make no sense to discredit me and the question is why?? Are you just another misogynistic jer…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/21 05:58 AM
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How am I victim blaming by saying that the narcissists who PLAY victim in mgtow prey on the REAL victims that are men? (to recruit them) That is the complete opposite of victim blaming because I'm acknowledging the real victims that are men. SMH
/r/ExRedPill01/04/21 05:52 AM
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Dude kindly fuck off with your victim blaming bullshit. I've made it quite clear why my husband turned to this movement. If you want to ignore it and create your own narrative then good luck to you. I bet youre just another mgtow moron and that's why you're saying this.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/21 10:17 PM
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Wait a second. That doesn't really make sense. Don't you mean, If I DONT have self awareness that's what it means? Otherwise you're basically telling me I am all those good things. My self awareness is knowing and understanding that I got duped into a narcissistic relationship and knowing I played no part in asking for my abuse. To try and imply that I think I'm perfect and without any faults because of that just doesn't make any sense and is irrelevant. And no I don't need to change for people …
/r/ExRedPill31/03/21 10:13 PM
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God knows. He makes no sense. I ask myself the same questions. It's just what he turned to when I separated from him to make it appear as if he escaped me and I was the abusive psycho. That's the narrative he twists and tells people. It's projection
/r/ExRedPill31/03/21 10:05 PM
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You don't have to conform to anything to do your own thing without it being involved in something toxic that isn't good or healthy not only for yourself but others too. Why do you need a label to go your own way and choose to be single? I would think getting involved in mgtow and all their weird cultish beliefs and ways of doing things is defeating the purpose of truly going your own way.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/21 12:35 AM
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Precisely, that's how it was.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/21 08:44 AM
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I agree with all you're saying. I can say too that I agree sincerely hurt men need more help in this world too, there isn't enough out there for them which I can acknowledge. I can also acknowledge and understand what this person is saying about how some of these men might go through a phase of hating all women due to a woman's abuse and such, BUT... that doesn't mean it's okay and that getting involved in a movement that is only seeking to despise and make their hatred for women grow with the i…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/21 03:45 AM
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Yes mgtow and the red pill are different in their different ways but I'm not understanding the debate here. I never said that some of the men aren't in it to go their own way because they have been hurt, I know that's true. I said that not all of them are in it for that reason and that some of them are narcissists that are using it to their advantage. But regardless of why they are in it, it as a whole is still toxic. You don't need that label to go your own way. And to associate yourself with t…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 10:05 AM
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Smh look if you're either blind to what is evident and in your face or dismiss it as normal I can't help you or change your perception and I won't waste my time trying. If you think there's no misogyny in all this then something is wrong with you or you're toxic to some degree yourself to not see a problem here. There is much more than just 'removing themselves from the dating pool' for many of them in this. There's clearly alot more to it than just that. They are literally on a mission to recru…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 08:47 AM
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Wait what. I think you're getting into a whole other topic to what I'm even talking about. I didn't say all the men in it are narcissists. I said it isn't only hurt men but narcissists that are in it too. I would think this is quite obvious to anyone with any kind of discernment, giving the amount of misogyny and everything else involved in mgtow and the red pill. I'm speaking from experience, I know what I'm talking about.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 08:07 AM
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The toxic and abusive kind. People with healthy/normal traits of narcissism wouldn't get into mgtow and red pill and pretend to be a victim when they aren't
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 07:08 AM
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I wouldn't be so quick to assume all these men go there due to being hurt. Not all of them do. Some of them go there because they are narcissists playing victim and hide behind it, just like they do with Christianity. A narcissist will be a part of anything that benefits them. And this benefitted mine.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 06:40 AM
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Yes that was me. Oh cool what is the discord?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/21 03:19 AM
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Yes, he turned to mgtow to play victim because I seperated due to his abuse and control. Hes a narcissist and used mgtow to devalue and lie about me/our marriage
/r/ExRedPill23/03/21 02:53 AM
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My husband who's red pill and mgtow is the same. He claims to be Christian. It's stupid. They contradict each other completely. Some of these comments though 😂
/r/ExRedPill22/03/21 08:27 PM
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Lol omg, well he's already slandering me online, apparently Im already sleeping with other people and a crazy psycho bitch yadda yadda yadda that apparently he escaped and is so happy to be away from because of how awful 'I' was. Yet he still emails me and most the things he's saying is what he himself is or does. This is a narcissistic injury after I've exposed him and refuse to reconcile with him.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 08:58 PM
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No I didn't share his videos. Only mine on here the other day. And that's what he made a video about. He is in America now, I'm in Australia.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 12:59 PM
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He made that video but he's also posted another 35min video slandering me the whole time and having a narc Rage over my video. Wow. Yeah I don't think we have alimony where I am and I have full custody of our son too because of his abuse and him leaving the country to avoid those charges.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 11:38 AM
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I'm separated from him, just not yet divorced. I'm just now seeing that after I posted my testimony of being married to a narc mgtow / red piller and people encouraging me to divorce. He's now posted videos on his own YouTube channel about what the Bible says about divorce and saying I can't do that and stuff. So he's mindset is that I can't divorce but yet he can keep me bound to this marriage while he goes and does what he wants pursuing other women. Of course he doesn't tell these people that…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 07:30 AM
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Thank you so much! I appreciate the advice.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 04:28 AM
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Yeah... I mean they are so hypocritical and make no sense to the point you cant see the logic in any of it really.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 03:28 AM
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I've worried about this. How do I protect my boys from this when I'm a single mum and they have a narcissistic father who when I was still with him, was already trying to brain wash my oldest against me and women in general. I worry for their future. As ex red pillers, what would personally be your advice and words of wisdom from what you now know and understand if you had/have young boys in the hopes they avoid this and still respect women?
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 03:22 AM
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Isn't this one of the red pill tactics? I don't recall what it's called but from what I read it said something about provoking jealousy in your partner or many women at the same time as a way to make your partner or other women chase you and compete for you. And to play more than one woman at a time. I know he has talked to and tried to pursue women, I've seen it online but I think he's exaggerated his success, he always seems to come back to me (via email). I think during my research I read som…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 02:41 AM
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Yeah your comment makes so much sense. That first paragraph is exactly how it seems.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 12:29 AM
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He doesn't really own anything and currently lives with his parents. He didn't work for most of our marriage. I don't know if he is now, last I knew of he wasn't. He's the kind to use and leech off everyone else while accusing them of doing just that, including women. I paid for pretty much everything when we were together. When he did work and I wasn't and was home taking care of our new born baby the way he believed I should have been a stay at home Mother, he was resentful about that and work…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 12:26 AM
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He still emails me about reconciling it's so confusing. He will do that but then when I don't reply (as I'm no contact) he will then go on about going to other women and bragging about how all these other women like him and he has more value then me as a man etc but he won't divorce me. If he wants to go elsewhere why not just divorce. It's like he hates me and marriage yet still wants me tied to him. Let's not forget he's a narcissist too so this could also explain his behaviour.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 11:21 PM
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My husband in the red pill/mgtow wanted to go completely off grid. I didn't know he was into red pill and mgtow at the time.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 10:07 PM
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Aww no you do deserve a girlfriend. I'm so sorry for all you're going through. Who says you are ugly?! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What's ugly to one person may be attractive to another. Beauty is subjective. Another thing, when a woman falls in love with a man inwardly, it does not matter how they look outwardly. They are just a beautiful person all round. I'm saying this as a woman. The women who would judge you only by your appearance are not the types of women you want anything to …
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 12:42 AM
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Aw wow I'm so sorry you got sucked into this at such a young age. That must have really messed you up mentally for a while, which is understandable.The brain washing and programming is strong there with all this. And at such a young age too it can really set you up for life and destroy your potential relationships. But hey just think of it this way, at such a young age you were wiser than most of the older men in this to get out before it actually became who you were. Being in this does not defi…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 05:29 PM
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Ugh I'm so sorry, my husband would make me feel the same way too by saying things like that. I'm glad you found a good man now. What makes my situation worse is that my husband went a step further in his cruelty by actually befriending this narc ex of mine so that they could discredit me together. 2 against 1 makes it look like it was me who was the problem, they both pretend to be victims of me.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 08:18 AM
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I couldn't have said that better myself. Everything you said. That's exactly how it was. How my husband was. 100%
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 01:14 AM
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Aw thank you so much. Both of my exes weren't into redpill/mgtow. It was just my husband but they were both narcissistic. Yeah I just don't understand these men's thought process (the red pill and such) especially when my husband chose to marry me. Why marry me if he had a problem with it and also with raising my son. Then blaming and guilt tripping me for it later. These people make no sense. Lol
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 01:11 AM
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Yeah this was personally hurtful to me because I've been with two narcissistic men that I just so happened to have a child with. I attract these types of men. The second man was my husband who was into the red pill and mgtow. He had pretended to sympathise over my past with the first narc and in the beginning pretended that he wanted to not only be with and marry me but be a step dad to my son. Fast forward to later and when his mask came off I find out he's into all this red pill/mgtow stuff th…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 12:25 AM
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I'm not an ex red pill woman but when Ive observed some of these women who have YouTube channels supporting red pill and mgtow and just with the things they say and the way they present themselves, I just get this really strong vibe that they want to be in the spotlight of being the 'ones approved and admired' by these men. Almost like a competition with all the other women that the men speak bad about. It's as if they want to be that 'pick me' person and NOT be 'that' woman that these men talk …
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 11:35 PM
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You just haven't found the right one yet and that's okay. Your value isn't in how many women you've slept with or dated and don't let these red pill men and such make you feel otherwise. This is coming from a female. I would much rather date a man who was a virgin and has never done all those things over someone who was obsessed with sex and using multiple women he didn't even care about for his own selfish gratification, not to mention the manipulative and abusive tactics they use to do this. I…
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 09:42 PM
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Yeah I understand your frustration. I personally don't like that either. I feel people should focus on one person at a time. Not treat people like an item at a store to choose from. Maybe instead of rushing into things just take things slow with a girl and get to know her and her beliefs and values first before getting in too deep. I feel that all this is maybe why people settle for sex and one night stands. Because they are afraid of getting their heart all invested due to people not taking peo…
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 09:20 PM
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You don't want a girl who sleeps around with everybody. It may be fun for a time to give in to all your temptations and sleep with many but that's only fleeting. Realistically it won't make you happy in the long run, it will more than likely only make you miserable and dislike women because you're seeking out the wrong kinds for that self gratification. Not all women are like this. We don't all seek 'chads' to have sex with. Alot of us just want a solid good guy. I personally am not attracted to…
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 08:35 PM
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Well the red pill way ain't the right way, please just don't. We don't need anymore of that toxicity in this world. Get the right girls by being your authentic self doing your own thing and attract them authentically by not only doing this but being a good human. Playing games and being deceitful to get ahead is just not cool. Nothing good will come from you being a part of or taking the advice of what I believe are many narcissists on there
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 10:15 AM
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Yeah I'm definitely not lol. I think it's ridiculous for not only these men but feminists too to throw a whole gender into one category and blame them all for the behaviour and actions of a few. The only people I don't like are the individuals who have done wrong period, man or woman. I don't hate all men for the few who have done me wrong. It just makes no logical sense to have that mindset in my opinion.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 10:10 AM
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I'm sorry you're hurting over this. Going by everything you wrote in your post here and about what you want and don't want you seem like a good solid guy and so I believe in time you will find a decent girl because of that. Whatever you do, do not sacrifice these good parts of you and your true self to change who you are to try and attract a partner, especially when it comes to the red pill bullshit. GOOD and healthy minded women are attracted to GOOD men so stay good. We are out here but in my …
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 10:45 PM
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Dude who cares what people think. And if they label you a 'beta' it's just so pathetic and childish really. I don't know your age but I will say this, don't obsess so much over sex but rather genuine connection. Im a female that's never been one to sleep around because I know and understand how in the long run living like this only negatively effects a person. I mean gosh just look at the world around you. People can't seem to live without it. I understand men can be different and have stronger …
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 10:21 PM
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That's awesome that you do online mental health crisis support. I've thought about working in something like this myself. I think when you go through abuse or narcissism etc it's even easier for these people to empathise with others. (unless of course they go the other way and become toxic themselves. Wow these men and your ex threatened to kill you? Mine didnt outright threaten to kill me but he did want me dead and subtly tried to make that happen which failed. Then he told me god had wanted m…
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 02:03 PM
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I don't know how I missed your comment. Sorry about that. Only just now seeing it. I respect your honesty about your narcissism. And even how you admitted that the red pill fed it in ways and you were attracted to it because of that. It takes courage to admit that. And I also respect the fact you are staying single while you acknowledge your not healthy enough right now to give a woman what she deserves. That's awesome that you at least have this self awareness that I know many narcissisits have…
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 01:10 PM
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Gosh there was just so much that happened I don't really know how to break it down. I explained it the best I could in my video and even shared one of his emails talking this talk.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 01:00 PM
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I don't agree. What your saying is actually a form of victim blaming. Maybe you should do some research on that to understand how your comment is harmful. I don't have a victim mentality. I WAS a victim, and not because I chose to be one. No one is proud to be a 'victim' but it is what it is. And by definition I was. I'm also not toxic or anything like a narcissist for stating a fact that I dealt with one and that the menosphere is toxic because it is.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 12:37 AM
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Okay I'm seeing TRP stands for the red pill. No the red pill doesn't work. Not when we are aware of what is actually happening. I find it repulsive and I'm not attracted to men like this. I wouldn't call pretending to be something you are not and deceiving a person in the beginning as the red pill working. It's simply a person being misled and unaware of what is really going on. Once I caught on I was out of there.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 11:24 PM
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Yes I'm still married but separated. I will never reconcile with him and be extra careful and studied up on all this now to clearly see any other men like this trying to approach or pursue me. I'm glad you got out of it! Good for you!
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 11:00 PM
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What is TRP? I married my husband because he pretended to be completely different in the beginning. That's part of the manipulation.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 10:56 PM
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Oh my gosh it sounds like your describing me! Apart from the last part haha. Mine also told me I was demure! Funny that.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 10:55 PM
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Yep I agreed with some of my husband's beliefs too. Because there is some truth and valid concerns they have when it comes to radical feminism and such, the problem is when their so narcissistic themselves and are only in it and voicing these things to cause harm to women and their partners, their concerns become irrelevant at that point because the hypocrisy is real. Mine also had no concern for my feelings. I feel you there.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 10:44 PM
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I'm so glad to hear that for you! Many of these men are so far gone there is no going back.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 10:23 PM
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Yes isn't it strange how they attempt to brain wash us by having us watch certain things? Mine was so obsessive and repetitive with the things he said it felt like he was trying to reprogram me and my mind.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 10:21 PM
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Thank you for your comment! I appreciate you sharing your own story too. I've felt quite isolated in this situation as I don't hear much at all either from those who suffered from it. And that's another reason I wanted to make this video so that people like us feel validated and heard and not alone. Thank you for listening to my story ❤ Wow they sound very much alike. It makes sense though I guess. They all follow this same rule book!
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 09:00 PM
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That all sounds so familiar ugh. If a woman is loved properly then she will naturally serve the man, it should never be this weird forceful, demanding slave thing. It's their disrespect like that which only repels us and makes us want to do the opposite.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 08:56 PM
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Gosh that's hard I'm so sorry ❤ I couldn't even imagine having to go through this with a parent.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 08:53 PM
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Yes so true. I guess they don't. Either that or they just don't care. And thank you, it's actually very therapeutic for me to know people are hearing and listening to my story and my truth. I had been quiet for a long time.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 03:00 PM
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Yes!! I literally mentioned that in my video. I have noticed they PREY on vulnerable and hurt men and try to recruit them. My husband did this. And it is just so wrong and more damaging for these men 💔
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 02:40 PM
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