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A lot of women come here after a lifetime of hating men and feeling like any man is below any woman. Sometimes things get overstated here because of wanting to compensate for that belief. Take what works from RPW and leave the rest. The idea that the work of a relationship is all on the woman who is lucky to have a man might be because the women here focus on the womens role more than anything else but that does not mean there is no mens role. I believe men need women to reach their full potenti…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 09:21 PM
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Why don't you practice with us now? It might help us see where you miss opportunities. So if we were at a party and I said: Hi, I'm International_Aioli, nice to meet you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 06:00 AM
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I agree that constant updates of any kind are a bad thing. I was thinking more like a post here and there, if she wants to put one up, could focus on things she's doing that are interesting as opposed to all selfies all the time. Social media is also a great way to connect with people over shared hobbies and get ideas. I don't think it's necessarily putting it in people's faces and seeking validation to post about something. It depends on how you do it!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 01:59 PM
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YouTuber that's like a Disney princess who goes to church) This just made me laugh so hard.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 07:26 PM
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You are not going to like my answer, but most girls (and boys) in your age group are overly self conscious and have low self-esteem. It is unfortunately part of the package of being a teenager, but it will get better. Be patient with yourself, it's ok to feel things and not freak out over those feelings. So you can tell yourself "I feel insecure about my body right now, but maybe I'm not being totally logical about it, and I'm just a little emotional in general, probably everyone else here is wo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 07:20 PM
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Women who complain about things like man flu usually have lots of complaints about their husbands. And lots of complains in general, like another poster mentioned. They probably complain about how their husband loads the dishwasher "wrong" too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 07:11 PM
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For behavior and social media, which I think you are smart to consider, I recommend: Minimal selfies. I would say no more than 1 out of every 10 posts should be a selfie. Post pretty things you like. Flowers, sunsets, anything like that. Post about your hobbies. Do you cook or sew or craft or hike? Post that stuff! Don't post constantly. It doesn't look good to be on social media constantly. Post a couple times a week if you like, but don't post multiple times a day. Keep descriptions positive a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 06:56 PM
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Getting almost everything tailored. So many women buy things off the rack and wear them, but with minimal tailoring everything looks custom.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 06:46 PM
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Whatever your major weakness or insecurity is, work on that. Some women are jealous or insecure of their bodies while others are quick to anger or can't take criticism. Figure out what your thing is and work on it!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 03:29 AM
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This is essentially what I was going to write. OP, you could also look into non-injectable services like specialized facials and laser treatments.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 03:21 AM
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How is other physical intimacy in your relationship? Like do you ever make out, cuddle, hold hands, grab at each other, etc?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 03:19 AM
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When did all this begin? I assume he wasn't always like this and understanding the root cause might help us give you better advice. Something must have happened (not necessarily anything to do with you) that has made him get gradually more negative. Do you have an instinct as to what that is? I'm very concerned about the fact that it seems you have no voice in the relationship. I consider myself RPW in my relationship but I can't imagine my husband completely disregarding all my thoughts and fee…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 03:12 AM
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This is a tough situation! I think you're smart to tread so carefully. Unfortunately I do not think you can tell him how you feel about this. I have a few other thoughts though. How does he feel about his job? Is being an influencer his true dream or does he simply detest his job and think this is a way out? Is there any way he could do something related like work as a personal trainer or something? I'm also curious what the response is from your family and friends as well as the public. Does he…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:59 AM
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You've had some issues, and yes you should work on how you handle stress. However, your boyfriend has also done you a wonderful service. He showed you how he responds when you're not playing the fun girlfriend role, and his response is that he's no longer sure if he wants to marry you and thought it would be good for you to leave and go hundreds of miles away from him. ​ When a man sees a woman as a real potential wife he goes into protector mode. He wouldn't want you to be away from him. He'd b…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:35 AM
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Make sure your furniture is to scale and not too big for the space!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 01:22 AM
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I agree, I like both types of activities in equal measure.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 05:01 AM
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When you avoid things that are hard for you they only get harder. The best way to get better at anything is to do it more, so start getting out of your comfort zone! Maybe you can come up with two hobbies: one you can do at home and one you can do out in the world. Then on top of that try to make some friends by joining a meetup group or two. I myself enjoy book clubs and sewing groups for meeting friends, and most crafting groups are welcoming even if you're a beginner. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 04:58 AM
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These are great! I would also add: get rid of that little voice in your head that's afraid of being too corny or sweet. I'm speaking only of those already in a LTR, you don't wan to put it all out there without commitment. I regularly tell my husband I adore him, the he's my hero, that I love him and admire him. When I do something because he inspired me to do it I tell him so. It's all genuine and not forced, but I remember early on in my journey I almost had an aversion to being too compliment…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 04:47 AM
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I read through your responses here on the thread and your OP and like a few others said your biggest issue here is anger. In addition to being legitimately exhausted you are furious, and I wonder if you are also somewhat angry at yourself for choosing your husband? You refer to yourself as a sucker and to him as an imposter, and I believe you feel that way because you are wildly overwhelmed and so completely consumed by anger. Anger at your younger self for not vetting enough, anger at him for n…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 06:00 AM
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I'm in an advice giving mood today! I have some thoughts. It sounds like you're starting from 0 knowledge which is ok. Before you jump into tutorials I think you should learn what "type" of each thing you have and then work from there based on your lifestyle. What I mean is you need to know your hair. Is it thick, thin, long, short, frizzy, silky, dry, oily? What do you like about it and what would you change? Who is a celebrity with a hairstyle you think you could attain with your natural hair?…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 05:42 AM
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I'm a pretty experienced homemaker and I love decor so I have some tips for you. Making a space look and feel great is a lot like making yourself look great. So with most beauty posts people work in order with the top things being grooming and fitness, then fashion, makeup, etc. Because why work on advanced contouring if you never even shave your legs, right? Approach your home/room the same way and work in order. ​ #1 - Clean and tidy. There is no point in spending time and money on decor if yo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 05:31 AM
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:) Well that's pretty good news! I would try to get through this weekend, either finding another safe and comfortable place for her to stay or staying with her yourself and see how it goes. It may be that your boyfriend is worried about what your future commitments to your family will be going forward, and that's valid as it does affect him. If he needed to move states for work, for example, would you go with him or stay put to be near your sister? That kind of thing. You two need to have a real…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:26 AM
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I notice a lot of "boy man" characters. It's usually 30-something year old guys who somehow don't know how to do anything, can't move the relationship along, are sort of mean to women, and are still playing beer pong and eating ramen/living in filth. Then the woman love interest is a super loud mouth fat chick, but wants to be seen as cutesy and dresses like a 5 year old, but she is also constantly nagging and trying to manipulate the boy man into being an actual man by any means necessary inclu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 01:52 AM
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I have a few thoughts before you close the book on this guy. First, I would think about how much he's had to deal with your family situation so far. I recognize that your family drama is not your fault and that you're doing the right thing, but I would think it has bled into your relationship. Has he been patient up until this point? Has he been understanding until this specific incident? If so, he may just be really stressed out. If that's the case, I would consider trying, just for this one ti…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 02:23 AM
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Yes, this! The wall only matters when you are single and dating. Younger women here get caught up trying to figure out a way to avoid the wall or delay it or whatnot, but the whole value in identifying "the wall" isn't to focus on the after part, but the before part. Being past "the wall" doesn't mean your life ends or your amazing devoted husband suddenly starts going out and having affairs. It just doesn't happen that way if you're both happy in the marriage. The message young women should get…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 02:22 AM
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I think there are! Like you, when I find out the age of other men I always think they look way older and more worn out than my husband. I think he looks really young and he is fit, but I'm sure to a 22 year old he looks middle aged! I think he's the absolute sexiest guy ever.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 02:09 AM
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Late to this thread, but you do sound overwhelmed! There is a big gap between wearing sweats and a ponytail and spending thousands on designer clothing and facials. Most women don't participate in all grooming and styling activities. The number one thing is to stay fit and have nice hair. After that, dress well, but in a way that makes sense for your life. Many women cannot wear nail polish for their jobs, so skip that. Wear your hair down (easier to do when your hair is nice). And create a mini…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 12:21 AM
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I don't think it's that extreme, but I do think there are a lot of very young, somewhat inexperienced women here, who are not married, and who are way way overly concerned with the wall. Almost as if they think they will wake up on their 27th birthday and be old and gross all the sudden? I think it is natural though, the youthful over worrying about something in the future that seems scary to them, especially if they have read a lot of TRP. Once you are in a wonderful long marriage, and take exc…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:57 PM
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I find it hard to watch some of my closer friends struggle in their relationships so much. They are mostly coupled up, but not happily and the men largely won't commit in the way the women want them to. They have issues with conflict and lack of sex and lack of romance. I try to be a good listener and friend but it can be dangerous to give relationship advice unless asked. When I am asked, I always talk about how I handle things, not how I think they should handle things. It is a subtle but impo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 12:00 AM
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I would like to: Lose 2 pounds to get back to my ideal weight. Get better at cleaning on a schedule. My home is clean but I do it all piecemeal and I would like to have a more regular plan. Stretch every day. Add a few more dresses into my weekly rotation. I have a bad habit of always buying date night dresses and not casual everyday dresses. I need to focus on some casual dresses so I have nice things to wear daily. Try a new hairstyle once a week. ​
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 05:19 PM
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He loves that I'm an upbeat and goofy person. We are constantly making each other laugh, whether we are out to dinner or doing a boring household task, we're laughing. He also loves that I don't sweat the small stuff, that I have lots of unique interests and hobbies, and that I always encourage him to be the best version of himself and to pursue his dreams. We have great conversation too. We both read a lot and often have intellectual discussions about what we're reading. He has often mentioned …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 05:10 PM
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I only do mine a couple of times a year because I forget they exist, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 05:58 AM
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Coffee filters, that's genius! I will look into microfiber cloths too, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 05:58 AM
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Does anyone have a good recommendation for dusting cloths that do not leave any residue behind?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 04:21 AM
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Anything that is not in direct eye line. Baseboards, high corners of rooms, that kind of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 04:20 AM
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I work part-time and he works full-time. He makes over three times the amount I make. No. Our division of labor was never a point of contention for either of us and it evolved naturally over the years. At different points we have picked up slack for the one another, but it is not something we've ever argued about or disagreed on. I take care of most homemaking tasks like cooking, cleaning, organizing, social planning, laundry, planning trips and events, buying gifts for family, taxes and money m…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 07:01 AM
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These are all good things to keep in mind. I would add: men like interesting women who can be alone happily. Hear me out! I don't mean an independent finger snapping feminist, I mean a woman who doesn't bother him like crazy if he wants to do something with the guys or wants downtime. And I mean a woman who keeps developing and evolving and working on herself. Men need downtime. It's not your husband or boyfriend's job to keep you entertained 24/7, and if you have your own things going on like h…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 05:29 PM
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Yes, I think you misunderstood me. I also consider all money our money, we only have joint accounts. But that's the point, I don't keep score there and I don't keep score with household tasks. I do nearly everything at home, but it's our home, it benefits us both. My husband makes almost all the money, but it's our money, it benefits us both. My point is that women who DO keep score when it comes to household tasks, never want to keep score when it comes to income. It's internally inconsistent. …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 08:23 PM
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It strikes me as bizarre when SJW types act as if intimate relationships are part of a large misogynist political structure. It's a marriage! It isn't political or part of anything other than what you choose it to be a part of. If you have been with the same man for years and you are completely misunderstood with such a high level of frequency that you feel like you're being crushed by some imaginary mental load, then you are terrible at communication. When I saw that comic my first thought was …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 04:02 AM
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I agree wholeheartedly.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 03:49 AM
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I would check out ASOS because they carry a ton of casual dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 05:19 AM
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I have the same hip type and yes, building out your glutes and toning your core a lot will help! I like midrise jeans too, with tops that hit just at hip level and never long tunic tops. I think skirts and dresses are better for our type. Dresses that have structure either right under the bust (empire cut) or at the waist seem to be best too, and wrap dresses are like magic. I also think we can handle more volume on the bottom, provided it isn't boxy. I avoid structureless bodycon style dresses …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 05:07 AM
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Why are you working two jobs? You say you choose to and enjoy it, but you do not enjoy the side effects. I'm not saying you need to be a full time homemaker, but one job is enough if you want to also have a rewarding marriage. Attitude and approach are everything. I think you should read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and absorb that first. You're early in your marriage and you can change this dynamic easily, but you have to stop being the CEO of the relationship! You need to take your …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 08:22 AM
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I think if you are serious about dating you should consider moving. You can still live in a big city! There are plenty of large US cities with more of a mix of conservative and liberal.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 02:49 AM
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My husband displayed an incredible act of masculinity for me recently, and this is the only place I can brag on him! :) I was out with a few of my girlfriends at dinner at a restaurant several blocks away from our home. It started snowing just as we got there and kept going through dinner and drinks. In our area business owner often do not shovel or salt the outside. When we came outside to walk home the front of the restaurant was cleared and salted. I didn't think much about it and walked home…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 02:43 AM
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If he is not actually doing anything harmful and you are happy, I would say be gracious about their feedback and don't take it to heart too much. Parents will always worry. It's possible that if you were a high powered career woman your mom would be worried about you finding a husband. If you married a man who wanted to be a stay at home dad she might be worried he was taking advantage of you financially. If you dated a guy for years before getting serious she might worry you were getting strung…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 02:36 AM
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I have hosted many large dinner parties. For meat I tend to calculate by starting with 1/4 pound per person. For 35 people that's 8.75 pounds. Round up to 9 pounds. Then I add an additonal 1 pound for every 10 people. That's 3.5 more pounds, for a total of 12.5 pounds, round up again, and that's 13 pounds total. I know this sounds crazy, but I swear I have never run out of food. If you have a lot left over you can always freeze it and remember that some of the women will eat less and some people…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 02:28 AM
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But dear, you are worrying about something that hasn't even happened yet! Just give it a go! Stop thinking you know what will happen and why it will happen and all doom and gloom. Go into this thinking: my life is great now, and it might stay the way it is, but also maybe I will meet someone! It's a win-win. You have beautiful kids and a farm and a business. That's not a bad life for a single mom! Maybe you put yourself out there and go on a few crappy dates and decide to stop trying. Maybe you …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:32 PM
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The fact is none of us knows if you'll meet the one. Don't listen to people saying you definitely will meet someone but also ignore anyone who says you absolutely won't. Just try! Online dating may be the ticket for you. I think first you highlight what you bring to the table in terms of homeschooling your kids, your other interests, that you live on a farm and love it, etc. Most people with a brain will see a 30-something woman with kids and know you are probably divorced. It's not like it'll b…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:21 PM
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I thought of another one that has to do with attitude: never bad mouth younger women. Ever. I don't think anything screams unhappy aging crone more than being resentful of women who are younger than you for no reason whatsoever. I was out with my Captain and a group of couples recently and we ran across a gang of girls dressed like they were going clubbing, they were laughing and kind of loud and tipsy and generally having a blast. I instantly smiled because my first though was heck yeah! Enjoy …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:09 PM
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I think instead of thinking about it like dressing for your age you can think about it like dressing for the life you have. For example, I weigh the same amount I did 10 years ago, so I technically could still wear bandage style club dresses out and about. However, that would be really weird in my current social group of mostly married couples. It doesn't make sense to dress like you're 20 and going clubbing if you are 35 and having brunch. I also think younger women often opt for really fast fa…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:03 PM
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I don't think it's so much that I learned anything new, more that she has a nice presence and it gave me a little motivation, kind of like "clean with me" videos on youtube.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 04:56 PM
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I wouldn't jump to the conclusion the he is depressed. He's going to work and seeing his friends and seems happy. I think there is a tendency when things aren't as we want them to be to diagnose a sort of third-party problem and put the blame there. Maybe he just got a little lazy and lost motivation to be attractive to you! It happens! Some actionable ideas: Plan things for yourself. Are you still going out and doing fun things? You should! Hang out with your friends and go to classes and do yo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 06:36 AM
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We can't help with this amount of information. A man doesn't go buy a ring, get down on one knee, marry you, and then randomly tell you he doesn't want to contribute to the relationship. Either there were a ton of red flags along the way, you have been in conflict for a long time, or something else went terribly wrong for it to get to this point.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 06:20 AM
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My husband asked me for help with his skin too! I bought him some stuff but didn't realize how foreign a skincare routine was to him, and he couldn't keep the order straight. I ended up labeling the bottles A, B, C so he knew the order and he thought it was the. best. thing. ever. So funny.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 06:17 AM
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If it is something easy to change that has nothing to do with his actual looks you should bring it up for sure, but you should tailor the way you bring it up to the individual man. My husband likes direct communication, and has also made it clear that he doesn't want to think about clothing at all. When a shirt of his is looking worn out I just tell him it's time to retire it and that I'll have a replacement for him soon. It's very easy. With something like body hair or teeth whitening, I would …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 06:15 AM
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I am in my 30s so I can speak to that age group and a little older. I have always been fit, but now when I go to events with other women or couples around my age I notice that my Captain and I are often the only fit people in the entire group. It seems like most people really let themselves go in their 30s and I don't know why that is. If you do nothing but stay fit you will look better than almost everyone in your age group. It's astounding. The other thing I notice is people dressing the exact…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:47 AM
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I just posted about this in goals because I didn't see this! I tore through the show so quickly and now I'm organizing like a mad woman. I agree that a lot of the people seemed to not really commit to the process. I feel like a lot of those families needed help from professional cleaners or something. And that first couple, yikes, their energy was so awkward and tense.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:27 AM
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I just finished watching Tidying Up with Marie Kondo and it inspired me to reorganize my whole home. Today I tackled the kitchen and pantry storage and the bathrooms. I still have to do clothing, bedroom drawers, and last I'll do our spare room. I highly recommend the show not only for cleaning and organizing tips but because Marie is such a lovely feminine lady with a calm demeanor and a real natural grace about her. Definitely a good example!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:05 AM
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Good to know, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 02:19 AM
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LOL, thanks. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 07:07 AM
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I will! Do you mix the cheesecake ingredients by hand or do you use a mixer?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 07:06 AM
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Thank you for both recipes!
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 12:24 AM
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You don't have to lie. If that's the issue just tell him "girl stuff, about relationships/makeup/communication/housework." That's 100% true, that's what we talk about. If he demands to see the sub just show him, but more than likely he'll just be like "oh, cool" and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 05:19 AM
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I would love to know more about your prawn recipes and the cheese cake! I have had poor results with cheesecake in the past but I think I am ready to try again.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 05:15 AM
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All the external stuff does matter, it's completely true, but your attitude is 100% just as important. A beautiful well groomed woman who is impossible to please, filled with anxieties, indulgent, never thinks of others, etc. is way worse off than an average looking well groomed woman who is easygoing, kind, etc. Address any and all of your internal issues before you try to find a mate. We all have some little baggage here and there, but it's not your partner's job to fix you, you have to fix yo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 09:45 PM
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Hello! I'm a formerly regular poster here, just now coming back! I'm in my 30s as well (happily married for many years) and here are my recommendations: -Have several good photos of you doing different things you enjoy. One nice face pic that hints at your body type is great for a main photo, but some pictures doing what you like are GOLD--biking, hiking, knitting, cooking, whatever! -You can list your education and professional accomplishments in the fields that are provided for such things, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 04:37 AM
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