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LESSON LEARNEDIridescentSpirit/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:28 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEIridescentSpirit/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:48 PM
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Thank you. That's my experience as well, that the quality seems better at least...still hasn't lead to anything long term but it's still a world away from Tinder in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:58 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:07 AM
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I think sometimes it's because they do have kids, but also I think sometimes it's just men are purely lazy and only answer the bare minimum questions. Depends on the site or app. If it allows you to skip questions or not or allows for nothing besides name and age for example to start using the site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:14 AM
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Wow. Your post came at the perfect time. I just posted a bit earlier asking what FDS thought about men with kids, and even though it's not my preference should I give them a chance? Lol. I'm 31, never married, no kids. I usually don't match with men who indicate they have children. But wow, I never had an experience like you had! But if a guy was honest about having kids (and the reason for not being with the mother was acceptable to you) would you be fine with that? Seems you prefer to avoid it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:08 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Interestingly after I posted that I saw a discussion post about how divorced men may not be that bad so that shed some more light for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:51 AM
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Oh hell yea! This is great! Everything they say about us can easily be turned around against them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:39 AM
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Interestingly, her comments are turned off for that specific extreme cleaning of her boyfriend's mom's bathroom video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:26 AM
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I follow her, but didn't see the story unfortunately. Seems like people were making fun of her personal life choices/relationships. Someone wrote about it was a shame that it was women "doing this to another woman!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:24 AM
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What does FDS say about dating a man with children? I don't recall seeing that anywhere. I'm 31 and it's becoming more common now to see men with children who are looking to date. It's not my preference, but sometimes I wonder if I should give it a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:06 AM
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I do agree with you there. I'd rather a guy be up front and I can decide how I want to proceed rather than be mindfucked, get my hopes and get ghosted over months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:58 PM
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Wow. Just wow. No words. Glad your friend is doing ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:40 PM
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Aw, that's so awesome. Yeah, admittedly OLD has made me think if I don't get a certain number of likes/messages, I'm doing something wrong. But that's not true! Patience with dating will be a new goal of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:38 PM
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It'll be interesting to see how OLD in general changes after social distancing phases out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:34 PM
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Those are exactly the reasons why I prefer Bumble. So I think I will continue to stick with it, I just need to vet better. Also during this pandemic I'm realizing thanks to this sub that I need to be extra careful if I want to even use OLD during this time. Maybe I can at least use it to work on vetting and rejecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:33 PM
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Lucky you! Do you live in a big city or more of a small town? I'm thinking cities suck for love...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:29 PM
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I've had many failed attempts in the past - took a while to get to this point. Thanks lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:28 PM
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Thank you for sharing a positive experience! I feel there's less fuckboys but still a lot of LVMs on Bumble. I still welcome so much less fuckboys though. But I do live in a city, not a big one but definitely not rural. So I think that's why I still haven't had success. I may have to move lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:41 PM
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Haha, soyboys 😅 Okay, they're hotter...but did that lead anywhere? Tinder is even more of a hook up app, isn't it? And that saying, "Let's match and never talk" happens sooo much. Maybe if you just want a FWB it's helpful...I mainly get gross messages from guys on Tinder or men who never initiate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:30 PM
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Thanks for the feedback
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:01 AM
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Thanks, I read the chapter posted on here about being Dumb Like A Fox, that was pretty cool. I'll have to check out the rest! I'm doing okay all things considered. Hope you are, too. Thanks sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:00 AM
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Lol. I find if I give in to that urge, I also wanna keep seeing what he will say back or I wanna know he at least read it before I blocked. So I decided it's not worth to even go down that rabbithole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:57 AM
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Found another thread on here that said we shouldn't even do OLD during this time. Only LVMs are on it. And someone brought up a good point even about virtual dates - you just end up being their camgirl. No thanks. I'll have to rethink how I use OLD during this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:49 AM
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Ugh I've been wondering about this myself - men who want to meet during this time. Yep, the ones that push for actually meeting are trash. I messaged a guy earlier tonight that I was only doing virtual dates right now after he asked to meet. He wrote back "don't you miss a big dick in your wet pussy." I immediately reported his profile and then blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:22 AM
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I hate the dropping of the mask. It's so disheartening. Thankfully this quarantine is forcing me to take a break from dating so I have more time absorb the info in this subreddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:30 AM
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It's a shame we don't even realize something good because we haven't had it! I've tried Match before but it seemed like no one was on it...only much older guys messaged me or men out of state. Maybe that's actually better that barely any men in my age range who I found attractive messaged me because it saves time wading through LVMs. I was used to getting hundreds of likes on other apps, but I realized that doesn't mean anything if 99.9% don't even lead anywhere. Maybe I'll try Match again and j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:20 AM
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At least you did not invest more time in him! That's so funny, I was just writing earlier today on another post how I recently realized how important consistency is to me now after years of dealing with these LVM since my last serious relationship ended. Consistency is at the top for me now when it comes to standards. Now I see inconsistency is an immediate red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:05 AM
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I realized recently consistency is what I want so much. It never used to be on my "list." Now I think about it so much. So glad you found him! Now please tell me which dating app did you use?? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:13 PM
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Yeah, good point. Assume they are lying sociopaths. 4 to 6 months in? Oof. I'm too new to this for that to even sound possible, even if I have multiple guys I'm talking to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:59 PM
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Wow, he pretended for months? And there were no red flags? Sigh. Even when it seems we're doing something right (waiting for months) it still didn't work out...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:55 PM
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Thanks for responding. I did a search for anything with the word Bumble in it in this community and I read through some of those. I see some ladies even still use Tinder but have a strategy they've developed. I've tried Hinge but it seems worse for me. I guess it also depends on location. Then I saw a woman who said she met her husband on Bumble! But I guess there's always gonna be some positive anecdotes even from the shittiest dating apps. Like you said, even if you meet someone through friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:00 PM
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Him just existing is gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 02:10 AM
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Omg I actually really like her channel, but just for the minimalism tips. When I listened to her more personal q&a vids, I was shocked to find out she had been with her bf for soooo long. She even said they never planned on getting married because of repercussions on their taxes....okay, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:53 PM
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Thanks! Ironically a guy I was dating for a short period showed me this community...he probably has been a male lurker on here and may still be. I knew early on it wouldn't work. We didn't have long term compatability, which I told him and he accepted it. At least I found this community out of it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:50 PM
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