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Because what if she said stop and you didn’t? Men are bigger and stronger and it’s scary for a woman to deal with men. It’s your responsibility to check for consent and you didn’t.
/r/MensRights13/12/25 08:52 AM
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Why do men dismiss what their wives tell them? How come what she says is not at all important to you. For years.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:14 PM
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I think you mention the problem here Men considering what women say ‘little things’ Minimising our feelings Refusing to hear our needs when communicating If a woman is living with an unloveable brick wall that keeps hurting her. What is she supposed to do? She cannot control anyone else besides herself. Men need to understand you have been trained to dismiss and ignore women’s words and course correct
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:12 PM
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Was it out of nowhere? Walk away wives usually talk and talk and tell and tell and their husbands never listen or take what we say seriously. Still categorising the divorce as ‘out of nowhere’ suggests you still refuse to take responsibility and accountability for your actions
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:08 PM
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True. One friendship it was boyfriend, but I still saw her lots. Then dog. Friendship hours reduced. Then husband. Then child. Friendship hours maybe once per year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 01:50 AM
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Yes. All my hens nights I felt like we’re friendship funerals and I was right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 12:01 AM
60

Aloneness. This is lovely. I too have been lonely so long I’ve grown into my aloneness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 12:00 AM
46

Thank you for mentioning the true love of women that radical feminism offers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 10:16 PM
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I’m doing an art project which revealed to me the fact that until the late 1800’s the legal age of consent was 10. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:15 AM
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I enjoy dick monster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:27 AM
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If you like horror movies and want to watch one about the horror that is dating for women, I recommend the movie Fresh. It was cathartic for me to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 12:18 AM
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In a way she is exercising her boundaries by testing them on you. Encourage this behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:23 PM
12

Notice how women talking to each other does not benefit men and so they label it ‘gossip’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:43 PM
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The bonds between women and also the bond women have to ourselves is precisely what patriarchy destroys in order to enslave us and it’s also therefore precisely the connections we must nurture for the revolution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:39 PM
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Men would rather murder us than read a single book on women’s rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:22 AM
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Beauty is a red herring. What men covet is total power over a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:14 AM
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It’s only 30 years since we got the right to not be raped in marriage. Women’s history isn’t taught because if it were, it would be a clear cut thing for women to stay away from men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:40 PM
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Yes this. My self esteem is in the gutter from having zero support so when I turn to women who have some, the greatest gift they can offer me is to build me up. I ofcourse will do the same. We have to help each other where we can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:08 PM
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Men beat each other up for less disrespect than what we endure. I wonder what it does to our sense of dignity to endure humiliation after humiliation and having no real recourse for restoring our self
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 06:13 AM
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Also why tF are men taking style inspo from the Taliban?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 09:19 AM
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It’s because it’s male privilege
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 07:40 AM
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No one knew - this is false. We had feminist campaigning against pornography since the 1970’s at the least. That’s 40 years of no one listening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:18 AM
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Yeah sure dude. First we ban prostitution, porn and pornography and then we can discuss women’s sex toys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:37 PM
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I’m still dirty about the fact there is finger lube for guitarists. They fucking will learn how to use their hands when they want to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:18 PM
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I realised I kept dating musicians because I wanted to be a musician. So now I am one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:25 AM
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Porn has disintegrated male minds now to the point it is glaringly obvious that relationships are supremely physically dangerous and we can no longer be gaslit by the fear of being alone when our survival is on the line. It’s like asking us why we don’t jump into a volcano.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:30 AM
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It will be a painting but I’m in the journaling stages so I’m using pencil and marker to try to figure out what I’m going to do. I’ll check out thepulpgirls thank you for the recommendation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 06:22 PM
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I’m currently working on an art piece in the hopes it will help my healing. Off topic but if anyone has any art that they found cathartic please show me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:10 AM
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Waves high to fellow lurker that utilises that sub as birth/man control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 11:46 PM
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It’s the fact that our surrounding culture is so intent on making us feel worthless that needs changing too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:49 PM
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Why does he use the taliban as his style inspo? reads profile Oh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:24 AM
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Maybe we should in fact swipe right on Everyman just to be reminded of the unwashed masses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:26 AM
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I think you really pin pointed something regarding safety here. It’s pick me behaviours yes, but for those of us with long term repeated trauma from male violence it can feel like a safety respite and the task of constant vetting ruins that extremely comfortable delusion of safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:34 PM
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You are so young. Figure out now who and what you think is awesome and become that. It doesn’t matter if you have no foundation in the thing you wanna do. And that goes for anyone of any age. If you can conceive it you can achieve it. The only barrier is death. The rest is limited thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 11:22 AM
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I started learning piano aged 33. Completed a diploma in electronic music production aged 36. I’ve had several songs on local radio and life continues aged 38. It’s never too late. If you’re breathing you can do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:22 AM
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I’m excellent at languages, budgeting, sound design and reading. I’m very self aware and unafraid to openly be myself and share my creativity. I’m inquisitive and sensitive as well as blunt and daring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 05:16 AM
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I agree with you on your parthenogenesis theory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:44 AM
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Getting an abortion IS DEALING with the consequences. Men aren’t even forced to pay for half (although I personally think they should pay entirely).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:13 AM
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These same people don’t think they have to deal with the consequences of their own behaviour because they all go seek medical care when contracting Covid after being anti vax and anti vaccine. It’s just existential fear mixed in with blatant misogyny because men only identify with the fetus and not the mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:12 AM
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Great seeing white educated men spout the exact same ideas as the taliban
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:31 AM
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You know I recently realised with all these car metaphors. They legit write us off like cars as well. Whether it’s “damaged goods” aka disclosed shes a survivor or simply aging we get a few years as a sex object and then completely worthless. We are never seen as human and it makes me so so so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:40 AM
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I realised it’s all a fucking lie when I found out men have invented finger lube for playing guitar. They can learn and figure out what they want to. They just don’t care about our sexual pleasure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:40 PM
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That’s what I realised is the main thought process with men. That they only work for money and women have been trained to work for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:18 PM
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Yeah same advice here in Australia. I’m spending just over 40% of my income but live alone and am inner city working in accounts so I’m lucky. We too are having housing issues as my state WAS doing quite well with Covid however we are in lockdown now. I’m the only one of my girlfriends that live alone so yeah it’s rare. In fact now I think about it. I’m the only one of my friends that lives alone, even my guy friends share house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:01 PM
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Exactly. I feel tired and wonder if it’s a sort of hangover of my ancestors. I also have trouble dreaming and believing so the few role models I do have I cherish. I also am a huge watcher of bravo real housewives to see other women living life on their own terms. I’m 38 so high five for late thirties freedom women! Big love to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:47 AM
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I pay over 30% of my income in rent but I’m still saving money because I’m in complete control of my finances and my food costs are low even budgeting for luxury food so it’s still a win win for me with high rent living single. The weirdest thing for me is adjusting to the freedom like that’s what my mind is struggling with. I wonder if it’s like. Historical memory that as a woman I’m the first in my line to me nearing 40 and completely alone without man or kids. I have no frame of reference for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:33 AM
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I guess in a weird way online pornography is allowing women the knowledge that may have previously been hidden from us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:00 AM
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It can be to escape his control. Not because they don’t want the money. Just because they don’t want to deal with the man anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:20 PM
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I think the girl from the Ring is a great costume for women that is just terrifying and not at all sexualised
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:05 PM
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Point 4 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:38 AM
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She could pippi long stockings it up and skate all over the castle with scrubber brushes for shoes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:31 AM
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Dial a dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:27 AM
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It’s another patriarchal reversal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:24 AM
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I’m childfree. I take it as a huge responsibility to bring life into this world and I’m not up to the task. I want to live my life in pursuit of my own potential
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:19 AM
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I imagine the scenario where women create films where men love love love getting their dicks cut off with knives. We spend our spare time orgasming to these videos and spring knives on any man who gets naked with us. Imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:02 AM
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It’s sort of like playing reversies. Like if you desperately feel like you need attention from someone else, that’s a sign to pay attention to yourself. Your emotions will tell you what you are craving it’s a matter of remembering this thought and going hmmm I crave this I need to give it to myself. And then actually do it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:28 PM
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Vibrators girlfriend. I have the satisfier Pro and if I get touch starved I go get a massage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:26 PM
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Another form is secrecy about his financial situation. It’s a huge red flag if you ask him about finances and money and he doesn’t answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:56 AM
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Herstory is completely full up on men robbing women whether it was via religion, occupation or law, men’s history of oppressing women when it comes down to it is a story of theft. We are owed reparations. We are so so far from that reality that we have women here calling their husband ‘independent’ for his act of stealing her money. Protect your money and understand the theft we are still suffering from. We have millions of women not even alive on this planet, their lives taken in service to a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:12 AM
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I want to know their porn watching habits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:35 AM
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Sisterhood High Five
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:23 AM
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Thanks for this. It’s so difficult when we are constantly surrounded by a non zero level of misogyny that it’s hard to take “small” infractions as seriously as they should be taken. I appreciate you sharing your story and reminding us. Yes it’s serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:55 AM
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We do. It’s the same commercialisation and objectification of women’s bodies as in prostitution. It’s the Madonna side of the Madonna/whore dichotomy that seeks to refute women’s humanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:21 AM
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Thank you for this. Truly. I’m sorry that it’s the case but it’s nice to know our fantasies of ‘maybe if I was pretty enough to be a model he would respect me’ is just that. Fantasies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:59 AM
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Men like to think rape doesn’t affect them but this is the end result of us knowing who men really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:13 AM
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Honestly I think women are supposed to live in groups and men can come visit once every 3 months or something. I miss my friends so much. They all get taken one by one by one to be a mans broodmare which leaves no time for friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:35 AM
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I think the reasons behind celebrity worship should be examined. For myself I like to notice who I admire and why and that gives me clues as to what goals I want to pursue. But the guys who collect women’s IG like baseball cards (or Pokémon? Am I showing my age hahah) are to be avoided. It speaks to a high level of objectification of women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:49 PM
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The pressure from friends can be indirect pressure. When you’re in late 30’s, and every other friend of yours is run off their feet busy caretaking children and husband, womanhood can be isolating even staying away from men. The overwhelming majority of men do not do their share so women who do have family have no time for their single girlfriends and it comes to a point where it’s a very very easy thought to think ‘can’t beat em, join Em’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:23 AM
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KAM
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 08:08 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:26 AM
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I think the first problem is mens continued refusal to see women as anything other than objects that exist for his sexual needs. The dehumanising of women by is rampant and revolting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:06 PM
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Hold on are you suggesting girls should not even be born because men are pedophiles?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:01 PM
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Even your flipped example is less creepy because you’ve removed the age difference inherent in this instance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:58 PM
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I’m Australian and happy with this agenda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:42 AM
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This reminds me of what Dworkin said regarding how hard men went in to deprive us of rights. They have had to do a lot to chain us down and do it continuously because the truth is we are happier healthier and better off by ourselves or with other women. We need to stay focused on our fight for liberation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:51 PM
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This. It is robbery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:45 AM
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Put yourself first. What you think is Cool IS COOL. Say No to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:16 AM
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The only time men grasp feminist concepts is to use them against us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:23 AM
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Yasssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:16 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 men wouldn’t last a single day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:16 AM
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Men aren’t putting down their feminist books to go bash other men about their treatment of women. They are just knuckle head idiots. I’ve realised lately men would rather die of loneliness than read a book on women’s rights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:56 PM
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That’s not a good life in my opinion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:01 PM
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Yep. The double standards are meant to stop us from having any self worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:26 AM
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I got given the flair I don’t know why and don’t know how to change it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:25 PM
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I’m sort of on the other end of this. I have been so traumatised by male violence I’m now trying to pick for signs of safety. Is there a subreddit more for my situation because I know the answer in FDS is counselling but I’ve done that. I’ve been single 5 years. Worked on myself. Worked on becoming who I want to be. Have money. Have independence. Live in my own place. I’ve met someone and I’m just basically terrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 11:02 AM
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Men can fail upwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 10:55 AM
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Yes this. It’s a hellscape I can only exit via death
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 10:52 AM
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The best one is the one where guys assume because your pretty that all the other guys are “simping” and doing you favours and being very nice. So they send you awful things to compensate. But the thing is. It’s only guys “compensating” all the time so end result is as a pretty woman you just get treated like less than dirt all the time. Then men turn around and wonder what’s wrong with me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 10:52 AM
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This. It’s not a two way street. It never was. Stop pretending it’s 50/50 when women are terrified to leave their homes at night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 10:49 AM
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Yes this. Men are encouraged. Complimented. Given space to grow. Women are put down. Silenced. And then dismissed as crazy for pointing it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 10:47 AM
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Hold on isn’t the wife being cheated on???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:11 AM
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Sad thing is they could have us if they could respect us but many would rather die by suicide from loneliness than pick up and read a book on women’s rights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:19 AM
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Basically they were compiling pics of women in porn who had so clearly disassociated from their body that their eyes look ‘dead’ you know that stare off into space look from trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:34 AM
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First time I saw a man on his computer with his dick out my stomach dropped and I lost all respect for him in that instant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:14 AM
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It’s pathetic but worse than that it’s literally killing us. The poor girl in Belgium. I read about her last week and it’s retraumatised me since. I cannot deal anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:13 AM
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I was about to write a missive about how because the woman is smiling men don’t realise it’s the worst time of her life but then I remembered the subreddit deadeyes and realised they know. They know. They know it’s the worst time for us and they love that about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:11 AM
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They aren’t just losers they are actively watching rape as entertainment AKA they are rapists by proxy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:08 AM
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I just can’t with Reddit hey. Like this is a haven but elsewhere it’s a whole bunch of men joking about raping their own daughters and defending porn because ‘production looks good’ it’s so triggering they don’t care they actively seek to harm us every fucking minute every day it’s impossible to survive mentally well as a woman in this hellscape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:08 AM
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The Love Witch. A Question of Silence. The Heat. DIETLAND.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:10 AM
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You raised a very interesting point about the connection between excess flesh and sex. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:09 AM
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Women can see way more colours so if anything it’s men who should be going out of their way to visually stimulate US
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:54 AM
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Even if it’s family. Which is tragically needed to be said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:01 PM
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You know I found out that there exists a product called ‘finger lube’ that men buy in order to assist them playing guitar. They could easily please a woman if they wanted to. They learn guitar don’t they? Men pride themselves on skills yet somehow women’s bodies are just not on the ‘badge’ list. I agree it is a turn on for men to deprive us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:58 PM
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What the F are pant liners? In my world they are called panty lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:29 AM
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Yes I narrowly escaped death by the man I loved the most. Instead he simply suicided and was nice enough to not take me with him. Disappointment isn’t the right word. Survival is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 03:03 AM
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And women are learning men won’t be there for that either. So why should a woman sign up for a life with a man when it means disrespect, increased chores, and no one to look after her when she’s old? Many women including myself who are heterosexual are now forgetting about men and strengthening our female friendships to get through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 11:25 PM
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I agree with OP completely. Why do the men here also not realise we women are oppressed and that has psychological impacts. We are raised with a history full of men, tv and movie full of men, politics full of men. And these areas having no women and the fact that patriarchy is real makes women develop not only a male point of view but we grow up with an absence of our own female point of view. So we engage in casual sex because men love it, only to find that in fact it isn’t fun and we might get…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 10:26 PM
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You just forgot to realise that men making casual sex so bad and uninteresting for women isn’t pushing us to commit. It’s pushing us to stay single. Happily
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 10:19 PM
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It’s a plea for women to remain single. My sex life is 100 times better, more fulfilling and safer when I’m single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 02:30 PM
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They wouldn’t last a single day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:33 PM
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It’s such a grift. I’m so over the social pressure that not only comes from men but all the women around me who partner up and leave their girlfriends in the dust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:18 PM
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It’s bad news in my opinion. I attended an online feminist conference about sexual abuse dolls and it’s not limited to women. There are girl sexual abuse dolls and it’s very clear that that is not okay. It’s that old myth that if we just cater to mens sexual fantasy then they will not attack women and girls. This is not proving true. They already have a billion dollar porn industry built on the bloodied bodies of women and girls and rape is simply skyrocketing. These sex abuse dolls are a contin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:01 AM
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There is a film out called ‘The Assistant’ by Kitty Green. I haven’t seen it yet but I loved her earlier work. Maybe that might be helpful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:29 PM
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It’s rage. Mega mortal rage that we are trapped in a lose lose situation designed specifically to create a false dependency on men. I complained about the sexist accountant at one of my last jobs. Several instances of making women in the office cry by his degrading treatment. I was leaving the job anyway so finally had enough after watching HR do nothing and put it in an email, cc-ing my colleagues and bosses. I was immediately given a warning and told an investigation had occurred and my accusa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:26 PM
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Don’t forget it’s also very fulfilling to make sweet and tender love to yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:18 AM
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Reframe your observers as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:54 AM
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It’s high key FGM it’s just that it’s requested from a woman brainwashed into wanting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:53 AM
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Guess what? Being single I get to have my pussy as hairy as I want. I orgasm every time. I eat what I want when I want. I watch what I want when I want. I’m not caring and getting abuse in return. I’m not having to educate another adult on women’s rights to not be degraded. I’m pursuing my dreams and building myself up with no one around me who tries to tear me down because my success is somehow degrading to his manliness. Men gotta understand that if they just be dragging us down, we’re gonna f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:47 AM
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Interesting he pinpoints the 90’s. The same decade where rape in marriage was made illegal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:43 AM
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This song is so rad!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:41 AM
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I love this movie! I also recommend Death Proof & The Exterminators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:35 AM
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You made me realise some things especially the part where older women in your family cherish a degenerate loser man over any woman. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:09 PM
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I think the 50/50 split isn’t actually ‘nature’. Nature is better suited when females outnumber men significantly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:44 AM
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Men truly believe that it’s an honour to be desired by them. Lol. As if
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 01:03 AM
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I completely agree. I feel like suing my government for the fact they have openly put me in harms way for allowing pornography. I feel like suing my government for openly creating a 50% population of people larger than me who are obsessed with rape. I feel like suing my government for the violence men dole out to women in the course of what should be normal dating and they do nothing. It’s a crime against humanity. Our humanity. Women and girls humanity. And I want justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:07 PM
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We are literally at the beginning stages of the fight for women’s rights. We are being murdered globally on a scale that rivals the pandemic. We are in a war where one side is murdering and the other side is brainwashed into mothering the murderers. It’s completely fucked and we need to get militantly serious about how we go about righting these wrongs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:55 PM
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I think men assume the majority of men are kissing up to women so they attack us to ‘even it out’ not realising that all other men think the goddamn same way so all we EVER get is attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:34 AM
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I love your idea of a ritual to overcome assault. Do you have any ideas as to what that ritual might entail?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:31 AM
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It’s because our bodies are so powerful that they are attacked. It’s because we are magnificent that we are degraded. The attacks and degradation are coming from outside of your body therefore it is not your bodies fault. Being a woman is a blessing. We have a rich history and culture and I pray that you stop internalizing the attacks upon you and start externalising the blame. Think about just how powerful we must really be, for the onslaught of attacks to be so huge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:29 AM
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You are doing so great to realise this injustice so young. I’m proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:26 AM
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I feel abandoned too. Dads and husbands seem to have more time for their friends after marriage and babies which means the wives are not only overworked but us single women are lonely as fuck. I avoid men but they still be fucking up my live vicariously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:04 PM
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The husband from the TV series Medium is a dreamboat imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:59 AM
6

There’s nothing logical about how he’s acting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:28 PM
6

Playing instruments is how I realised men are being maliciously bad in bed when they claim to not know how to please a woman. Yet they learn and practice and put effort into learning instruments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:07 PM
12

It’s very hard to come over to the ‘he’s doing this maliciously’ side but ask yourself, how many times do you need to be told if your partner asked you to do something in relation to how you touch them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:04 PM
6

You are a normal woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:02 PM
3

Sleepwalk is an excellent way to put it. I just am so over men’s violence towards us and so far it’s a battle to just stop women from running towards the fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:10 AM
0

Stop giving birth to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:58 PM
5

Apologies. It’s more an insistence on how crap in bed men are than a judgement on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:56 PM
1

I think it’s just we think men are awful in bed but you know that too so shrug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:41 AM
-5

Can I suggest that perhaps you’ve never had good oral? You think they are bad at sex? They are even worse at oral but if you find a man who eats you like a thirsty man in the desert it’s the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:37 AM
7

Just skip the hassle all together and get good toys and massages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:36 AM
2

Hahaha this would be one hell of a plot twist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:27 AM
15

I too believe in the humanity of women. And wish no woman or girl on this earth is prostituted by men. I had this goddamn argument on FB the other day and I just felt like I was arguing with people who wanted sex slaves so then I just deleted their comments. I refuse to even engage with men on the topic anymore. It’s not worth my time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:26 AM
20

It’s the new priests. Men in dresses forcing fake ideas in our lives and if you don’t believe then you are excommunicated. Same shit different century.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:19 AM
3

I’m interested to hear more of your ideas especially about hosting small whimsical events. What do you have in mind there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:57 PM
16

It’s not too late for you. I studied a diploma in a completely new field at 36. When the will is there, you will find a way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:18 PM
11

My man never even proposed because I don’t need a piece of paper. I don’t need dates. I always go to see him at his job and just stare at him through the window. I don’t even need him to know I’m there. I’m the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:51 AM
1

Focus on skilling up. Figure out who you think is awesome and why, then copy them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:38 AM
1

It’s the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:37 AM
1

Safer implies it’s safe to begin with. Which it is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:37 AM
26

You have won the Internet today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:35 AM
92

Lucky for you to realise this at 30. Go study now. Reach for your dreams now. If you are reading this comment, that means you are breathing and it’s not too late for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:45 AM
10

We have to form string sisterhoods. How? How can we do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:28 AM
25

I think it’s also about the body keeping score. Women override our physical desires in service of men’s physical desires. Do that too many times and your body starts rebelling before your mind realises it. We have to be committed to our vulvas and listen to them. Advocate for their rights. Protect them from people who do not care for them. Yes I’m personifying my vagina but I think it’s helpful to consider her as someone under your duty of care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:36 AM
3

We are treated as potential victims of rape our whole lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:46 PM
6

A cabin in the woods cabin preferably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:41 AM
33

It’s still setting a subset of women in risk of harm to save a seperate subset of women and the difference is money / class. Maybe some sort of online bot that romances him could be better because that way it’s actually no one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:25 AM
21

What I don’t understand is why there are so few men willing to do the work to learn to respect us. Women want men. We don’t want to need them. We want to love you dumb fuckers but we don’t want to be abused in the process. Why don’t men see the light and come to a place of respect for us? Why don’t they see that we are the same as their mothers or their daughters and deserve respect automatically. Why is disrespect and abuse the go to from them for women, but if a man does that to ‘their’ women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:23 AM
19

I do think it’s a form of desperation on behalf of the mother. Robbed of any meaningful power in her life, and robbed of true respectful love from men, her son is a proxy for both. Finally a man who truly loves her. As well as a respected member of society that she can show to the world and say ‘look at what I made’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:50 PM
2

Thank you. I am super grateful for your hella supportiveness 🤗🤗🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 03:37 AM
2

Omg you call me successful! I hadn’t thought of it that way! Thank you. My last significant relationship was incredibly crazy and included the police and ended with his suicide. It really knocked the wind out of me and realised that my life is for reaching my potential. I choose me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:37 PM
30

I’m a 37 year old spinster hag who is learning piano, producing my own music that has gotten on local radio, working in the arts and about to buy my own place with my own savings. None. And I repeat. None of this would have happened with a man in my life. I know because I spent my twenties propping up men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:30 PM
106

Honestly I feel that all women should be rioting right now. The US has 3 women dying per day. My country is 1 per week. No country offers women safety from male violence. Nowhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:16 AM
9

I’m feeling a whole bunch of depression too. It’s exhausting having to choose safety and isolation all the time. Men are such a huge problem to us but act like we are the ones who need to earn their attention. And the only solution I can think of to bring real true lasting peace on earth is the antithesis of non violence and therefore women just won’t do it. So we will only see this situation worsen with the growing millions of men adding to the problem, and the missing millions of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:32 AM
7

Just goes to show they know that the current conditions of society is prison like for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:11 AM
1

Yes that balance is what I’m advocating too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:43 AM
34

Yes. Equality is becoming the rapists. Becoming the child abandoners. Becoming the greedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:33 AM
7

The fact the child loves their mother is part of what makes it traumatising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:16 AM
10

What mothers don’t seem to realise is that’s vicariously traumatising. Because I love my mother. I love her so much. So hearing about all the ways she was hurt was and is traumatising. Intrusive thoughts. Flashbacks in imagination of her rape. If that’s what you want for your kids I can’t stop you. But as a daughter I really wish she didn’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:15 AM
44

Guess what? Telling your children about your abuse is a form of abuse. I know because that’s what my mum did. I had to listen to every detail of her abuse and act as her therapist although I was a child myself. Don’t do that to your kids. Make another strategy to protect them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:33 AM
6

I share this sentiment too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:45 PM
10

There is an international women’s strike every year March 8th. Find us on Facebook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:53 AM
84

It’s such an abuse of language. In what world is actively enjoying videos of women being raped sex ‘positive’. They just throw the word negative in there to give the association of ‘bad’ but we all know who really is supporting bad things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:09 AM
56

This was probably a business transaction in the background. Big Porn Inc doesn’t want any negative press
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:07 AM
16

Sometimes I feel angry at all the women staying in miserable relationships because it takes them away from us women. If we all stopped tolerating disrespect, we could have so much fun together. I stay away from men but they still impact my life by taking away my friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:27 AM
77

Does anyone ever conceptualise young attractive men servicing older lonely women in all this talk of ‘sexual mutual aid’ or is it only girls who must suffer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:55 AM
97

Articles like this are a major cope. Like we all can see the signs NOW but in the real world we cannot. She could clearly see he was withdrawing but if she said to ANYONE in her life that she suspected he would not only murder her but her two daughters as well she would have been considered insane. The truth is Women 👏🏼 cannot 👏🏼 control 👏🏼 men’s 👏🏼 violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:43 AM
11

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:34 PM
3

Yes I cannot believe the mental gymnastics people go to in order to blame some woman. Also see : Amanda Knox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:45 AM
15

Even gang rape. Singular. I always wonder how that conversation goes amongst men. Amongst women, we stamp out any thoughts seemed socially Unacceptable right quick. Yet somehow men converse and can find huge groups of other men who want to join them in a terror act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:42 AM
16

I’m not sure how but I believe it’s related to the fact men think we are objects whilst also having a very poor sense of object permanence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:21 AM
5

No. Not worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:20 AM
7

This is covert abuse. He knows what he is doing but gets to hide under the cover of plausible deniability. He knows he’s hurting her. That’s the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:42 AM
5

Can we be friends in real life? 🖤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:24 AM
5

This is what people in general don’t understand about how girls are raised and the long lasting effect it has on women. We can get sexually assaulted and NOT EVEN REALISE IT. I’m not talking about being passed out, I’m talking about the epic amounts of brainwashing that leads US to believe we are nothing and no one and the the surrounding culture that leads us to believe ourselves as sexual objects with no say in the matter. It’s brainwashing that’s so profound, it literally feels like waking up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:21 AM
8

All the things that show we’re human....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:42 AM
16

The truth is we can never be sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:40 AM
32

Aileen Wournos was acting in self defence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:23 AM
3

She’s such an incredible actress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:13 AM
2

Mama Joyce is that you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:51 AM
-2

What? No. I will not debate the merits of Kandi’s bossness. She’s a complete boss. The end. Every year she sets herself a new creative goal and achieves it. She turns the worst parts in her life into the greatest. From creating the ‘mothers love’ play to creating the burlesque show after Porsha’s false accusations. She is a boss and I think it’s horribly sexist to deny her bossness on the actions of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:21 AM
5

Do you watch the Real Housewives? Kandi from Atlanta is a total boss. And the housewives franchises in general have women living life, succeeding sometimes, failing other times, and then picking themselves back up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:57 PM
26

How about we women who are tired of being abused Do spend our life alone, together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:42 PM
2

It is productive to reflect on the past and analyse it to see where you went wrong in order to not repeat those mistakes. If you feel bad about some things you let slide, now you know not to let those things slide in the future. It’s progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:41 PM
8

You nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:30 PM
40

I’m sorry. I’m just so sorry. I can’t believe we as women have to function in a world that finds our worst moments ‘entertaining’. I’m just so sorry for you and for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:27 PM
3

She’s written a book on surrogacy too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:55 PM
7

Gah she’s such a genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:55 PM
8

Watched American Murder last night. Shannann wasn’t given no chance to fight back. Herself and her two babies annihilated by a man wanting a pretty woman. There were NO warning signs. Men don’t have to fear this shit like we do. We could legit fall in love with a nice dude who seems so much better than the abusive dude and still end up in a shallow grave in a desert, your babies bodies in an oil drum. It honestly doesn’t seem worth the safety risk to ever be alone near men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:42 AM
27

It’s a terrifying thing to be aware as women in the hellscape we exist in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:04 AM
6

Now he’s going to keep doing what he wants because she’s outed herself as a sucker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:04 PM
4

This is a hell nah from me. It’s a terrible situation that she will lose in. She’s better off share housing independently than moving in with this dude, at least share house mates won’t make her feel obligated to do all of the cleaning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:49 AM
6

It’s about remembering who you are, trusting in yourself to handle life and remembering that no ones coming to save you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:38 AM
11

You feel like you were brainwashed because you were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:38 AM
1

This is the false idea that if men’s sexuality was just catered for then they would behave. Newsflash. Men’s sexuality has been the driving force forever and they are just getting more and more entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:35 PM
35

Men: Sexually proposition us from the time we are 11 onwards Women: men scare me and seem to see me as a sexual object Men: NOT ALL MEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:29 PM
1

It’s great to focus on yourself, and it’s great to be healthy. The thing I think women have been denied the most is our soul food. Skills. The time to pursue our passions. So for me, it was a matter of figuring out who inspired me the most and why, and then being brave enough to try and become that. It meant starting to learn piano & music production. I want all women to believe in their dreams. Health is one thing, but I believe the way we are conditioned as children makes us behave as if beaut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:12 AM
26

It’s so bizarre because it sounds like contempt. Oh that’s right. Men who don’t even know who we are personality wise hate us for being women. That’s hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:52 AM
8

Shoulder check with a passion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:14 AM
14

Yes this massage thing. I swear by it. We need massages to get warmed up enough and relaxed mentally enough to orgasm. I’m certain it’s related to the stress of patriarchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:20 AM
4

Yep. It’s like there’s no light behind the eyes. Another tell is failure to make eye contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:49 AM
15

This is an important element that we need to understand better as women. We as women are oppressed and oppressed in so many different ways. The level of oppression is so full on, you have to deduce that women - free women - had to be pushed down violently in order to service men’s needs The more we escape, the more this system of oppression is going to push us down. I don’t have the answer. But we need to be aware of this as women anywhere in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:37 AM
1

Sometimes I like to imagine a world where men have interested in women learned to do a professional blow out. Can you imagine how convenient that would be? But has it ever happened ? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:34 AM
2

Tell him to send you money for the flights and then block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:32 AM
4

We shouldn’t hand out cookies for bare minimum behaviour from men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:28 AM
6

Congrats on leveling up! You’re going to be so much happier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:20 AM
6

It’s reparations. Men have been stealing women’s labour & land for literal centuries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:03 AM
5

Yeah it was a really sad time for TwoX because we knew it would be overrun with men, but only the women there at the time would know this, creating a situation where women would go to TwoX with sensitive topics and not know they were basically asking for empathy from women to a group of sexist men. It’s created this nightmare scenario where women who’ve been assaulted to go a women’s subreddit to discuss it and find a bunch of men blaming her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:55 AM
4

Okay so if you click on the reddit icon it brings you to a sort of ‘home page’ where subreddits are shown that are default. Sort of like a new person that hasn’t customised the site to their interests would go and see things like science and tech posts because those are default subreddits. TwoX was created and was a nice secret women’s space but then under the guise of making women ‘welcome’ the head honchos decided that TwoX should be made a default, which means any Tom, Dick or Harry who finds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:41 AM
6

There’s already an imbalance of men to the tune of tens of millions. We desperately need less boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:37 PM
2

You are a person. Build it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:32 PM
3

https://www.gaildines.com/the-porn-crisis/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:30 PM
2

Sometimes to make people empathise you need to place them in the position. Ask the person how desperate for money they would need to be to let 5 men fuck them in the ass on video?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:29 PM
13

This deep fakes thing terrifies me. There is just one upside I can see where perhaps if actual real revenge porn of a woman gets posted now she can claim it is a deepfake. I dunno. Just trying to calm my farm because men and deepfake technology is truly terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:25 PM
6

He’s not even taking responsibility for himself. My mum’s a narc but I’m not on meds. His decision to medicate is his own personal medical decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:19 AM
9

The lie of male superiority is to blame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:56 AM
27

Yep. TwoX hasn’t been safe for women for years. Pretty much since it went default. Because men can’t shut the fuck up anywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:27 AM
11

Yep me too. 100% straight yet not attracted to unkempt hobos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:21 AM
43

Yes this. I have a specific type of look I adore on men. Is there a porn category of it? Nope. And lol at feminist porn. What an oxymoron. Like a feminist beating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:19 AM
15

This is depressing but at least he was stupid enough to be upfront and you get to stay safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:59 AM
11

All publicity is good publicity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:56 AM
108

Perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:54 AM
6

Your comment really resonated with me. It’s like porn is water and we are slowly drowning in it. It’s creeping up and up and up on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:40 PM
9

Fully agree. I have no sex life whatsoever because I just can’t take the risk of assault. I just won’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:38 PM
102

Wow. This is excellent. Thank you. So interesting to me that it was within the HOUR?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:34 PM
6

And understand once you’re through the fog that you likely didn’t notice the abuse because you were ALSO abused in your family. This as women is a tough one. The abuse often starts as children. We know nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:21 PM
1

Here is a song that I think is just the coolest and maybe you can dance to it in your new home with your new found freedom https://youtu.be/RP0_8J7uxhs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:19 PM
2

Accountability is believing in yourself and chasing your wildest dreams. Accountability is the daily habits that will get you on the journey to your best self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:52 PM
9

We have to learn to protect her, stand up for her, and love her. An exercise I love to do with my friends is to have an art afternoon and draw artistic representations of our vulva. Just a way to notice how we feel about her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:04 AM
13

Yep I’m banned from AITA for being riled up on that woman in labour who was yelling out the names of her deceased ex and father. All the men in their were like ‘how dare she not consider your manly feelings whilst grieving and giving birth’ Unbelievable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:56 AM
4

Don’t be hopeless. This community is growing. Women are growing and the more women we see who up their standards and prioritise themselves, we can only hope that men will raise themselves up as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:53 AM
3

I don’t think it’s too much to ask from life, but we have to realise the political context we are wanting that in. It is a greatly diminished chance now thanks to the ongoing increase of patriarchy driven via pornography, prostitution and male hoarding of resources. We are not in a good ‘time’ for that very simple and normal expectation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:51 AM
1

Then you’re holding onto a fantasy that will only destroy you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:45 AM
69

True. I lost a bunch of weight, and my first boyfriend after losing that weight left me for someone heavier, who was completely submissive. Made me realise the weight thing is a red herring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:03 AM
19

I honestly think it’s a form of flaunting their male privilege to be accepted so unkempt. Also it’s sexually signalling to other men how much they don’t care about appealing to women. It’s homoerotic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:51 AM
18

And here I am, doing all I can to become Morticia, and no Gomez in sight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:48 AM
110

Interesting how it’s also the same demographic targeted sexually by men of all ages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:27 AM
2

Yep. Mines the husband from the show Medium. Hot tip. Don’t watch the last season of Medium 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:23 AM
62

Men will never know love if they don’t stop this incessant need to dominate others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:24 PM
1

Police are killing black people where I’m from. Australia. Yes it’s nothing like the US. But I’m seeing similarities. Like we as women don’t know if a man is a good or bad man so we are always on edge for our safety. We are murdered on the spot by men just because they hate us. We aren’t given any justice after the fact either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:20 AM
9

If your past actions make you cringe, that means you’ve levelled up. So be thankful you no longer relate to your past self, and be thankful you’ve levelled up! You cannot change the past, but you have changed you future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:41 PM
16

It’s not women’s fault that men are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:58 PM
2

Yes this gets to me greatly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:31 AM
9

I save heaps of money because I am in full control of it More orgasms more frequently and no having to negotiate my way to even 50% orgasm equality Gross bathroom occurrences are shameless Eat what I want when I want because who cares what men think I look like Watch female centric media all the time without complaint
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:24 AM
65

I’ve started giving men unsolicited advice on being more beautiful. I’m sick of them being disheveled and accepted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:49 AM
1

I know the protests are happening in the US, but my post never mentioned that, and I’m not from there. Police are patriarchal everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:20 AM
1

It is heavy. I want you to know I’m not only surviving but thriving. I started learning music, I threw aside any inhibitions relating to my dreams and I’m living my best life with an extra layer of trust that I can handle what life throws my way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:26 AM
1

I’m glad you reached out. It’s an interesting club that’s for sure. It’s made me grateful to be alive but also very aware I’m one man away from fighting for my life again. It’s made it very very clear how women have no control over whether a man decides to target us and it’s a terrifying but true thought. I think we all want to believe as women that if we just behave then we will be safe. Stay indoors at night. Dress modest. But it’s not true. We have no power to change men. Only men can. And cu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:25 AM
3

I do think there is some merit to the idea that men are like dogs and women are like cats. Men are gross and need daily walks and are dangerous where as women are independent and need security and are cuddly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:04 AM
5

This is what grinds my gears. That the women who do value themselves (us) are mostly lonely because so many women are busy propping up men who don’t deserve it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:39 AM
5

And if you don’t find a HVM who knows how precious you are, it doesn’t make you any less precious. The best thing about being a woman is that other women know we are fully fledged human beings who are wonderful and funny and that the size of our thighs is the least important thing about us. I need women to stop giving their time to men who don’t value them and we all need to start sharing our time with each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:38 AM
12

My take on men paying is REPARATIONS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:16 AM
39

I’ve been here. I only managed to escape because he killed himself. Men are terrifying. I’m so sorry he is doing this to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:12 AM
3

Which town? I have norway connections, perhaps I can help?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:20 PM
3

Sex dolls is something we as women should be fighting to end. It’s not going to be good news for us. It’s going to further entrench men’s idea that women AND girls are objects for their use ...and disposal. Honestly I implore you to do further research. This isn’t going to decrease rape or sexualised violence. There are billion dollar industries catering to mend sexual desires and it hasn’t decreased rape or sexualised violence and sex dolls are in fact sexual abuse dolls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:52 AM
45

Yes this. As an Australian woman it is an example of just how deep misogyny is embedded in our culture that other men coach the entire world that it’s okay to use that word here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:08 AM
25

Intimacy is about connection and respect. Intimate sex is sex that you want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:22 PM
12

Nooooo. This ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:21 PM
35

It’s so depressing. Don’t men think we have eyes? And what’s with all the beards? Are they inspired by the taliban?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:43 AM
28

Imagine if across the entire world women watched mens dicks being cut off. Not only watched it, but masturbated to it. Not only watched it and masturbated to it, but made billions of dollars making the videos and sharing it with other women. Not only watched it, masturbated, and profited off the videos of women cutting men’s dicks off, but when men ever even mention perhaps feeling not great about these videos, we told them they were insecure. This is the hellscape we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:10 AM
7

Truth is we’d settle for a fucking candy bar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:58 AM
18

Like this would literally make me cry tears of joy. The cost is so low but the thoughtfulness is so high. Yet still. This has never happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:50 AM
27

Don’t tell men how much you earn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:15 AM
28

This is fantastic. Also true is the negative male projection. What they accuse us of doing is what men are. Sluts, gold diggers, shallow and stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:46 PM
8

Nah I support them for several reasons. Number 1 they have created a piece of culturally relevant art. Number 2 they are honouring a part of being female that is often shamed and that is the wetness of having a healthy vagina. Number 3 although hyper sexualised, all of the women in the video look like women, not teenagers. Number 4 Megan Thee & Cardi B have given out 1 MIL to women via cash app after the success of this song Number 5 Black Women are at the forefront of culture. They are cultural…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:22 AM
2

Reproductive jealousy. Men cannot deal with the fact women control life. They get anxiety because if women chose it, we could end them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:52 PM
38

Just goes to show men KNOW marriage benefits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:46 PM
7

I love Madonna. She’s just turned 62 and still living her best life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:28 PM
18

Currently we are. We need women like you who realise this situation to go on the offensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:53 PM
52

We are brainwashed into not protecting ourselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:00 AM
3

Gah I need a rewatch of the movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:25 AM
12

Stop prioritising men & love relationships. Start prioritising You and friend relationships. Skill up. Dream big. Become the most amazing woman. Impress your child self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:21 AM
50

Why do men go to such great lengths to oppress us? When women are free, we don’t want anything to do with men. We realise they drag us down. But women need to have rights to escape men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:14 AM
15

Stop giving men the benefit of the doubt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:00 AM
34

Alternatives Start a website where you sell Ebooks Or online courses Write books and self publish Install Adsense on your website Sell your crafts on Etsy / FB / your own website Please keep adding alternative ways for women & girls to make money in this economy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 08:07 AM
29

In the hellhole that is tinder, a disturbing trend I’ve noticed is that the occasional couple profile that’s on there looking for the unicorn woman for a threesome. The guy is Fugly and the woman is a perfect 10. So somehow not only has this fugly dude managed to get with an immaculately polished beautiful woman, but he’s not even satisfied with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:02 AM
8

I do think about the house as a macro example of the earth and how it’s treated. And we are all living in a million man sharehouse where they do live like picture 2. Imagine if it were a million woman sharehouse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:55 PM
4

Gosh and they accuse us of being incapable of logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:46 PM
15

Single is the better option though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:33 PM
2

Yeah that’s a mega violation on the part of the therapy group. Can you provide that feedback to them? And I’m sorry your email got compromised. I’ve been through it and it’s such an important asset that you don’t realise until you have to go and change everything connected to your email. I now have four addresses. It’s easy enough to have 4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:57 PM
1

I don’t regret reporting only because I used those reports to file for victims of crime compensation. The reporting only made things more dangerous for me in the interim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:41 PM
1

Or ‘where do you live’ ?? Earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:40 PM
2

It’s absolutely crazy that women are expected to expose ourselves to even more risk via reporting when we know that a) we will not be believed and b) suppose we are believed and he is convicted, it will be a slap on the wrist and now our future self has an even angrier man to deal with in the 1-2 months time he gets finished with his rape and attempted murder sentence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:39 PM
2

Also this is a reminder to be very very guarded with your address - your email - your workplace. General answers only to questions about where you live and work, and create at least two different emails so that should he turn out to be a stalker, your primary email address is not affected. The police will not help you so we must use as much caution as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:37 PM
30

And please keep in mind when discussing suicide to not assign blame onto a woman for a man who decides to suicide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:56 AM
5

Yeah she doesn’t offer you any empathy and it sees clear you two grew apart. Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:10 PM
20

I went through this. It was so heartbreaking for me to lose her to this stranger. How did you cope with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:31 PM
6

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:37 AM
12

Yes as my confidence grew men disappeared. Showed me what they really covet wasn’t youth, or being thin, those things are just more common with low confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:37 AM
1

Oh I didn’t realise Shelley Lubben had passed 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:58 PM
8

No! We are better off knowing the truth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:46 AM
11

Terry Crews has been open about being sexually assaulted but also he has thrown black womens under the bus on Twitter so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:37 AM
7

They even do this with successful women. It’s subtle but the idea there is only room for one woman makes us women feel hopeless as we know we will never be “the best” at everything in order to meet the increasingly unrealistic standards made up by men to be “the one”. We must remember that there is room for all of us. Being mediocre at something is worth it. Beauty is a red herring for our time which is better spent at skilling up and once again, if it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing it poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:31 PM
1

Grimes. Her name is Grimes.
/r/askFDS24/03/20 01:32 AM
4

Yes you need to tell her. We must prioritise other women’s safety
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:10 AM
9

No you do not do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:06 AM
34

This is some incredible disrespect on his part. I wouldn’t laugh this off if I were you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:05 AM
3

Ugh the endless monologues. Do men never learn how to summarise? I am not going to read your novel dude. How do they come to believe their words are so goddamn important. In fact I may have answered my own question. Male god worship has created men who can’t summarise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:03 AM
3

TL:DR
/r/askFDS24/03/20 12:51 AM
20

Plus it’s a blatant lack of knowledge regarding history. Do they imagine the male run government just gave us shelters? Nope. Women had to literally squat in houses and sell drugs to fund them. Women fought with their lives for them. And now men just wanna walk right into them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:07 PM
19

I watched my mother be worked into sickness by being a single mother of 3. Just watching her made me so tired Iegit developed glandular fever and chronic fatigue syndrome and resisted growing up because I thought her fate would be mine. Instead I have simply never had children or committed to a man. This has meant I have time and energy to care for myself. Both of my brothers have gone on to have families. It shocks me that they did not seem to see the work and stress that family put on my mothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:24 PM
40

I didn’t like how she left him the game. That’s practically giving him a present for being a cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:36 PM
1

Also there is a range of difference when it comes to what women find attractive. I have a type and it’s absolutely nothing like my friends types. There’s simultaneously no one AND someone out there for you, just like there is and isn’t for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 06:56 AM
1

It’s not even true though. The more attractive I got, the less men hit on me. I found a sweet spot of being overweight and pretty face was the time I got approached by men. Now I’ve aged out of the acceptable age bracket and my sex life is dead, even though I’m still somewhat attractive. Men have no idea what women’s sex lives are like in reality. Life isn’t porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 06:49 AM
38

If men are such visual creatures then why do they claim to not see the mess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:03 AM
1

I believe we actually have a duty to follow our dreams. I believe it is the purpose of life. I also have figured out a way to figure out what your dreams may be. As I spent a long time feeling very confused on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:39 AM
2

Yes that’s great! I started learning piano at age 33 and it’s been a real big learning experience on determination and self talk. You are lucky that your fingers have 5 years of muscle memory in them! So rad!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:32 AM
3

Yes and it’s a weird thing but mindset and being proud of yourself is like more than half the battle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:22 AM
48

We have all the responsibilities and none of the rights. Men have all of the rights and none of the responsibilities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:33 AM
11

My struggle was feeling proud of the progress I’ve made. I never could feel proud and then that mindset would then lead to me not progressing. I’m still trying to get this mindset thing right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:28 AM
4

Let’s say man and woman earn the same and pitch in 50/50. He’s gonna eat more. Sooo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:44 AM
50

Your dad needs to spread his philosophy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:17 PM
33

I studied in a male dominated field. Shocked the bloody hell out of me watching other men anticipate and meet another male students needs. No words said. They observed, thought and acted in seconds. They are smart. We cannot attribute stupidity to their inaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:33 AM
79

I like my men with skinny arms and gigantic tongues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:58 AM
11

You’re a great friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:24 AM
8

Lots. The answer is lots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:05 AM
41

Investing isn’t hard. They just use big words to make it seem scary and put off people. Women are better investors than men. Read books. Acquire coins!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:54 AM
19

Easier to manipulate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:45 AM
2

Is Portlandia real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:36 PM
11

And to undo the mind melting effect of patriarchy that tells us we are no one without men. That’s the hard part I think and it’s why we are still so vulnerable to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:54 AM
10

Don’t even tell your doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:52 AM
11

You might not realise it now but you are doing better than girls with dudes who drag them down. And it’s easy to get into that to start with. It’s more than common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:33 AM
7

Agreed. It leaves out the majority of women 30 and older
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:32 AM
5

Also your whole life is meant for fun and building yourselves up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:31 AM
19

The way I look at it is we are lucky we CAN be single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:13 AM
11

Yes me too. I also have no emergency people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:11 AM
14

I also think of the betrayal of the mother. A woman trusted this man so much she risked pregnancy and birth with him. And now he’s gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:43 PM
10

Guys who give the finger. Like what is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:08 AM
12

Women spoke of their lives back in the 60’s to men and revealed the massive amounts of rape and beatings we were suffering, in the hopes that once men ‘understood’ what we were going through, that they would change. They didn’t change. Because they were never ignorant of how abuse affects us. Don’t for one minute think he just needs to ‘understand’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:03 PM
25

I think since birth control for women has a non zero fatality risk - we should stop taking it. Aka stop risking our lives for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:54 PM
3

She did not steal Kanye from Amber. Nope no way. That’s blatantly false. Also the sex tape is a misnomer. It was revenge porn. So you as a woman want to blame another woman from capitalising off revenge porn instead of silently enduring it ? I just disagree with so much of what you’re saying here. Sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:56 PM
2

Thank you. Yeah I have the mom bug and have to check myself before I wreck myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:54 PM
1

Yeah that’s it. I write as well and even though there is such a thing as creative writing from another’s perspective. This just seemed like gratuitous violence to seem ‘tough’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:53 PM
3

I would like to - it doesn’t even rhyme - but I’m afraid male lurkers will then google the words and link him back to this. Stupid men ruining everything again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:52 PM
3

Living your best life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:08 AM
17

Stay safe. Remember that information is safety so keep your new address out of his knowledge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:02 AM
2

It’s not fair to blame women regarding the double bind of the beauty regime foisted upon us. Kim K is going through a process of self actualisation. On tv. In a show watched by millions. I’m all for supporting her. And if you actually watch the show, she’s also the loveliest person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:49 AM
10

Have you heard of the Vogons? Their poems are better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:46 AM
1

I feel like as a group women are the adult elephant being bound to men by a rope we can break. It’s just time we realised we are strong enough to break it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:45 AM
18

Look maybe that thread was enjoyable but I saw women being way too frikken nice to men who said they provide the bare minimum Also. My struggle right now is family related. Is there a female family strategy board? Can we have one? We know relationships is worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:17 PM
18

Yes they know. We have to understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 10:46 AM
39

Yes! Men don’t believe me when I say I can tell. But it’s in the eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 10:48 PM
3

I love this. Why have we never asked for pictures of their bank statements!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 08:07 AM
3

Correct. Vanguard ETF’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 08:05 AM
39

The grandma who gave up her art career 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 08:41 PM
15

It makes for a lonely life for those of us women who are chasing our dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 08:40 PM
2

In my country women are raped and killed by strangers for the crime of existing while female. Whether you acknowledge it or not. I live in a place where women are not safe. Based on being a woman. Because men are so crazy that’s apparently enough to want to rape and murder us. So yes. I am in borgnanistan or whatever you want to call it. It just speaks to your overwhelming ignorance of women’s lives that you had to make up a name instead of choosing well basically ANY fucking country on the god …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 10:25 AM
1

No because that’s assuming the exact same roles biologically which isn’t the case. Women desire security first and foremost and being physically incapacitated during pregnancy is terrifying. In this world. Money equals security.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 10:23 AM
1

Bad grasp of history.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:01 AM
1

I too think a little make up and some toning would do men a world of good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:00 AM
1

No we have stopped going outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:00 AM
1

Thank you. The skill and time it takes to not only buy and select make up but use it in a way that’s actually flattering is a skill that is completely ignored by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:52 AM
1

I literally love you - signed a Radfem
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:51 AM
1

Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:45 AM
2

That’s not even true though. You’re being like. Delusional man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:43 AM
4

We women might start liking men if so many of you weren’t screaming into the internet about raping and killing us. Or taking away our right to have a bank account. Or our right to have a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:43 AM
2

Men where never supposed to be 50% of the population. This feeling of being discarded is simply because men have controlled reproduction for centuries and favoured boy children due to setting up the economic system to favour men. It is men’s fault there are too many of you now. Men are not supposed to be 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:39 AM
1

I want Rape to end yesterday.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:37 AM
1

Why doesn’t the fact there are extremely bad countries for women to be in count? Assuming all else is equal (which it’s not) this still creates an inequality of travel opportunities. Also how do you know there isn’t women and girls from Saudi Arabia here in this thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:32 AM
2

Radical feminism is a philosophy. It’s major tenants include the fact that there is a war on women and this is made possible via the legal / medical and education systems. This also includes a campaign of sexualised violence against women that is currently so successful that young women are being told it is normal. The purpose of this control over women is to control reproduction and capital via sons as heirs. Radical feminism is a way to wake up as a woman. Be unapologetically woman focus (and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:31 AM
2

I’m probably on the more bitter end of town and I react by completely removing myself from the dating scene and indulging in my own personal fantasies like becoming a musician. Also my vibrator gets me off more than a man ever has and it has 0% risk of killing me unlike men so I’m quite happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:24 AM
1

Love this. Hahaha. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:23 AM
2

Actually no my hair is not more expensive than my make up. I never said I was a victim. I have repeatedly said I don’t even desire to date men as I’m all abused out and over the idea of risking my safety for some mediocre dude to not satisfy me sexually. My dating life is over because I value my life. The fact that my male peer group is full of violent pornography users is a function of the time I’m living in. The point of the matter is. Men desire beauty but are completely ignorant to the lifel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:20 AM
2

“Naturally attractive’. This is my point. Men are unashamed to blatantly desire beauty from women. But if a woman wants a man who values her and can prove it with money? Then it’s shame town. It’s the double standard that bites
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:14 AM
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I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you are unleashing your fury on idiots like this. Truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 02:28 AM
1

By the way. As a man I’d love it if you researched just exactly what make up is needed and then go to the local drugstore and calculate how much it costs to have a basic made up face. I’m a minimal make up girl but I still use Eyebrow pencil Eyeliner pencil Eyeshadow pallet Mascara Lip gloss Highlighter stick I don’t use Lip liner Foundation Setting powder /primer Contouring. If I got my dream makeup set every 6 months like “women should”. My expense would be around $500 bi annually. Or $1000 pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:33 PM
2

That’s what is talked about in FDS. Increasing our self esteem as women in order to be happy in ourselves. You’ll actually find a lot of women in FDS have given up on men and dating. I have. I am there as a guide for younger women who are still navigating that field. I don’t care what men want. I want women to value themselves. I care about women’s lives and helping them avoid the same costly mistakes I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:29 PM
5

It is not you. Well. In one way it is you because for me, I had low self esteem and it showed. It taught men that I would tolerate shit because men are like children, constantly boundary pushing to see what they can get away with. I learnt that way too late. So that’s the only mistake you might be making. Dating with an incredibly low self esteem. As for the men. It is their sense of superiority and entitlement that leads them to that behaviour. I learnt to stop in a very difficult way. If you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 08:25 PM
10

I’ve definitely never met a high value man. Instead wasting my precious time in the lowest of the low where not only was me going Dutch expected, dates didn’t really happen and I wound up paying for them to live. Huge huge mistakes on my part because I’m one of those women taught to be a grateful pick me even to men who didn’t work and had less than nothing to offer me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 08:21 PM
1

That’s unkind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:43 PM
2

I think FDS main goal is to get women to value themselves. In their life. And how they relate to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:43 PM
1

As a woman I relate to none of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:41 PM
2

One stick of eyeliner costs $20. That’s half a meal. Time invested to learn how to apply it. That’s more like 5 meals at least. Total costs of appearance upkeep is high for women. You men want beautiful women? Women want a man who is generous. Not because of money. Because of kindness. If a man values us. Because women aren’t raised to value ourself. It is something we must learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:37 PM
5

I’m extremely beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:31 PM
14

I’m here from FDS. I find it excellent in informing me as a woman as to how men think about and value women. Having had several long term relationships crash and burn, the last one being particularly firey, I find the FDS strategy would have saved me a lot of pain and heartbreak. Would it have possibly screened out all men to me? Yes. That too. I also place this idea in the larger context of helping my fellow woman feel valued. The fact of the matter is. We risk Netflix and Kill. We can’t afford…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:30 PM
55

I love how most men can not grasp that we don’t care about getting laid or what men think about how we look. I’m not even trying to date. I’m just here because I’m a Radfem and trying to analyse how I could have handled my love life better, having survived DV and a series of ex boyfriends who seemed to get more and more violent over time. I can now see my issue was - extremely low self esteem coupled with the typical female socialisation of ‘give him a chance’. It shouldn’t matter if he has a jo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 12:24 PM
10

I definitely have the anxious attachment thing but people in my life have never stopped leaving. I now spend most of my time alone and have no desire to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:55 PM
13

It is crazy how men from different continents and different lives all do the same thing when harassing / stalking us. This reminds me so so so much of the man who stalked me. It’s crazy how similar it is. The anger / love bombing cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:35 AM
10

Because women are taught and told and shown from a young age that we are worthless so we end up begging for some tiny scraps of love shaped things. We are now waking up up the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:24 AM
17

Madonna is a queen and is still breaking the rules and kicking ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:21 AM
3

Also learn about investing. It isn’t that hard and can set you up for financial independence. The younger you start investing. The better. You can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:56 PM
30

Moids coach each other to anally rape nowadays. And laugh about it. It happened to me. Had to go to the doctors about it too so yay for that being on my medical record. I found when I was the most depressed. That is when men tried to ass fuck me. When my defences are the most vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 11:00 AM
20

Madonna wrote a great song about this called LoveSpent. Her whole MDNA album was basically a fuck you after her divorce to that English guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 11:42 PM
15

Yeah hence the lack of women in creative arts. Women who have no sense of self. Women who haven’t ever had the time to find out who they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:18 AM
10

Men make spreadsheets of that sort of information. If you have posted that sort of stuff. Start again. I’m serious. It’s not worth your safety to stay in this same account for ‘points’. Then when you come back either say nothing or say false things to obfuscate the truth and keep yourself safe. There’s a lot of creeps out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 12:46 AM
11

Domestic violence IS terrorism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 12:17 PM
3

I so agree. I can’t believe the standards have gotten so low that women believe they need to fight a guy on his hygiene instead of just leaving straight away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:00 AM
3

Because they are everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 12:50 AM
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I learnt things about men from my past. Each boyfriend was more violent than the last. At this stage. My safety is my number one priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 08:06 AM
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I have thought about this too. Especially in relationship to child bearing. I wonder if trios would work and I choose trio of women because that would create 8 hour shifts per day in regards to the child bearing. That would be so much better for women then this 24 hour shit we currently have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 01:04 AM
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My issue is also that my girlfriends are now in nuclear family units that take up the majority of their time. I wish there were more women like me who I could hang out with. In the mean time I am pursuing my passions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 01:01 AM
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I suspect. Back in the day. That women were bigger than men. And men culled the big women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 01:00 AM
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Yes if I were to create a Wishlist it would be Attractive - I like skinny men with long hair Has a job Has a hobby Is kind Doesn’t control me Gives head like a thirsty man in the desert 7 inches or over If this seems insane then call me crazy. I’m just over settling and then being mistreated by someone who doesn’t even deserve me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:59 AM
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I think women are naturally pulling away but I am concerned with mans race towards artificial reproduction. Even in the MGTOW thread, they discuss how unnecessary we will be once they have perfected that technology. It’s scary to me that the combination of devaluing the life of women in their own right could meet the step in technology where men find us ‘unneeded’ It’s really quite offensive that they believe us to be a ‘vessel’ for men? What? We are human beings in our own right. Just like they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:50 AM
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I’m saying I’m never left wanting and even the amount of orgasms is higher. When I get into sexual and loving relationships with men my orgasm ratio is like 90:10 and I’m also dealing with ; Negotiations with him as to why I’m so unsatisfied Pregnancy risks Constant shaving and beauty rituals Insecurity resulting from lack of sexual satisfaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:45 AM
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I’m here because I’m wondering if I’ve been doing something wrong and trying to see where. For example. I’m scandinavian. We fuck straight away. However my parents immigrated to a different country and I guess here that type of behaviour makes men see me as worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:44 AM
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I love this idea. I want a best friend living situation and outsource man times so they don’t know where I live. It’s the perfect situation. I completely agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:42 AM
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You can learn how to make money by yourself. Men have only ever cost me money. So much so in fact I received a 20k compensation payment from the government due to the fact I could prove how much time off work I had to take to escape domestic violence. 1.5k was given to me as compensation for the actual assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:41 AM
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For some reason I guess men haven’t gotten the memo that good sex is SLOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:39 AM
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Jackhammering in my opinion is from porn. The vulva is sensitive. I’ve had enough sex now to tell men to slow down but even then they speed up and ugh I’m just exhausted. So much work and for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 02:40 PM
12

I’ve had one dude try to make me his ‘mummy’ as part of some sec fetish. Like no dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 02:39 PM
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I mean. I know what you are saying about sexuality not being a choice or I would try out lesbianism. My point is that even though I desire men, sex with them leaves me always unsatisfied. I have more orgasms alone. I wish for a world where men centred women’s pleasure but that’s not this world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 02:38 PM
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