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I would assume
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 03:56 AM
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Antibiotics cure a lot of stuff and are harmless. Id get my kid treatment and listen to his reasons later. If you dont hear him out, then you are seeding distrust. Always consider why he believes what he does, and have him go through his reasoning for it. Consider how you would feel if he went behind your back and be cautious because you will be seen as wrong. If your using this as a proxy for qovid then you might want to check out the sudden preschool rare liver failure disease that blew up int…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 03:53 AM
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If someone is codependent hard enough, they can make one. Almost happened to me. Basically worshiped me to an insane level and the only way to get any peace was to aim to destroy the other person’s heart to make them give you 5minutes alone. As their tolerance increases, you have to fight ever harder for increasingly shorter times of rest away from them. Because they always forgive everything and push their way back in to smother you again, even apologizing for doing nothing wrong just to get cl…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 10:29 PM
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It means be stable, mature, rational, and not obsessed or needy of someone else to fix your problems. It's knowing how to take care of you and make your own happiness. A husband won't make you not depressed or not jealous and insecure anymore. That kind of stuff. It's not a fairytale. Its work. You have to know how to uphold your end of the work. Being single forces you to grow up mentally and take care of yourself, for yourself because you will learn what you actually want when someone else sto…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 03:18 PM
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Better to know now than after the wedding that he wanted out. You did good ending it now and knowing for sure, but not being a placeholder
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 06:41 PM
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Im so happy for you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 05:17 PM
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Cold shoulder it, but dont leave yourself room for a backup plan with him, or string him along. Set a deadline to phase out within that's not negotiable, and short. If the new guy helps keep you off the bad guy, don't let yourself rebound. The bad guy is not a plate to keep spinning, hes a broken one you toss out. It's tough to do, and im in support of the new guy,, but remember that being alone is better than being dragged down. You have boundaries that tell others what you're worth and how to …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 06:19 AM
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I had a virtue signaler at work that would dump half her work on me so she would look faster. I did this. I would do her job, but I'd never do it quietly anymore. I'd hand it back explaining how easy it was and how fast I did it and if she's struggling to get it done let me know ill always be able to advise even if I don't have time to help. Loudly. It shamed her into stopping. The more she points out what's bothering her, the more you know what to brag about. The harder she leans into that jeal…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:23 AM
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2 weeks is like you got a cold. I mean actually ghost. For your own sanity. That's an addiction and you're his therapist or hobby. Potentially just a girl he practices his moves on to find out what works. I have a friend who can't be bothered to text me, and checks in every 8-11 months. Even that much contact, she thinks she's still my best friend. Uh, no.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 02:32 AM
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Just..dont answer? Its not like you need him in your future, and there's no reason to be too polite and carry on lengthy goodbyes
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 08:42 PM
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So many dangerous lies
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 04:55 PM
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Because people talk about his work like he's a mad man. But his actual work is just calling out their laziness and self sabotage of their own goals. People don't like responsibility. And a lot of figuring out you Do have control over a large portion of your life includes hard choices to change what you can.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 01:05 AM
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Are you holding it against you? He took you back. He accepted the detour. Even Kate Middleton was put in time out for awhile.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 08:53 PM
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I hate to say it but Jordan Peterson really helped. I just followed his Instagram and the little bits of professional psychology advice is perfect. That man has suffered so much and always talks directly to causes of issues and not just surface advice. He can fix a lot
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 08:51 PM
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So are you thinking this is going to fall apart, there are too many doubts, is it already not working? or are you just listing all the flight paths that make you the flight risk (you think that he thinks that) you are? If you're 100% with his 100% then whats the issue?? Because it takes 2 people at 100% to make it. It doesn't sound like you're one foot out the door, but rather barely opening the door looking back over your shoulder and browsing for options and escape routes before you even step …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 03:37 AM
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Us 6 uk 10 but im also 5'10 so that looks very different than on 4'10
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 02:13 AM
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Are you okay with skelecature? Is that the goal?
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 06:08 AM
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Do you know how long it takes to overdo bulking muscles?!? No woman is in danger of accidentally doing that
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 12:02 AM
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Our minimum bodyfat is like 10% tho, and a man's is like half that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:59 PM
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Ive tried to say this for years, but babies are heavy, and grow by the daily. You gotta be lifting 10lbs kettlebell babies every 5 minutes through a wide range of motions at all hours all day and night. If you expect to do that without even more extra back pain, you gotta get lifting now. The confidence of new moms really comes from the strength of being capable of taking care of things and feeling stronger every day lifting heavier babies every day. Not saying anything about actual kids, you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:57 PM
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I mean, sounds like he's waiting on inheritance and already retired. He's only seasonally hobby working out of boredom or to keep his parents off his back to stay in the will. Its almost 40. If he can't walk a dog, he'll never change a diaper.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 05:54 PM
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If you're concerned and hadn't thought about him as marriage material for 3 while years, why yall still together?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 04:49 AM
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He's not going to level up reguardless of how much money he may or may not make later. He is using you for sex, housing, food, and more company than you want around. Giving you threats, grief, and abuse. You cant make him successful. He's not hvm.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 01:46 AM
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I think you're confusing all forms of responsibility with masculinity. When you're single again, you have to do everything again, plus kids. You're single with kids. The only way out and to never lift a finger again is be a gold digger and marry as high as possible and refuse a prenup and take half of everything. These days, this century, you won't find that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 07:41 AM
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Also, I noticed he volunteered to help but only After you do all the work of bearing a newborn. Nope. He is making future promises he's not willing to uphold to right now. He won't grow up and do it in the future, overnight, when called to make life changes...like...ekhem..It will be the same no motivation and deflection of responsibilities he has towards his health.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 07:49 PM
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Have a savings for the eventual end. Have life insurance. You make a quarter mil together. You can figure out how to hire a maid and a nanny on much less money.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 07:44 PM
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Yeah, the biscuits around here were all thicc teens, but that waist hits at 25 and no matter what
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 02:10 AM
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6/8 is where I see this line on my body proportions. I get a lot more stares at the 6 and almost none at the 8. Thats the line I've fluctuated over for years and has nothing to do with my style or attitude as I've been athletic and the same person the whole time. Back at a 6 for now, and the long looks are back, even from people who saw the entire cycle. Im just nicer to stare at as a 6. Makes me uncomfortable, but yeah.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 02:07 AM
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So you have plates but he can't? You're afraid of being used but are using multiple men? You love him, but know he doesn't and are willing to call it off because you can't get money out of him anymore?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 01:02 PM
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Recommendation*
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 08:09 PM
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Vulnerable meaning what exactly
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 09:25 PM
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This is really helping you mature before you marry which is good. At least its not a complete realization you actually are using eachother for sex and aren't compatabile. That happens to people.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 04:23 AM
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I had a friend who would "thats unfortunate" everything everytime. It is so dismissive to have a catchphrase that doesn't even sound engaged and universally apply it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 04:16 AM
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Does that mean hookup with an ex haha
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 02:39 AM
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"I hear you" is very corporate for "f your dumb ideas" so "we'll put that on pause" and "get back to you" We dont talk stale to our relationships
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 08:04 PM
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We need more information.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/22 10:17 AM
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Society is rapidly burning itself to the ground like its a race to the bottom. Having conservative values doesn't mean what it used to, as you said, perfectly normal if this were the 50s. But now, anything not extreme is 'repressed' or ''conservatives ew" and honestly a lot of these values just protect people from abuse. This is why most people skew conservative as they grow up. You're not alone. We've witnessed a lot of abuse and how badly things CAN go, and realize what would protect people th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 04:41 AM
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Wow
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/21 04:10 AM
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If you want a man I'd work to keep the Husband you already have, who has been extremely patient with this issue
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 02:27 PM
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I can point to plenty of sahm that look terrible and are always late and busy at busybodying, without being productive. They think they do it all, but they do a 4th of what these working women do, and still can't keep their life together. Its personality. Its up to you to know what you can handle. You probably just can't handle it if thats the attitude you have towards them for doing what they have to do.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 05:40 PM
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Be honest if he asks. If he doesn't want to know, don't tell him. If he wants to know, he will ask. Most guys don't want to know.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 11:21 PM
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Guys don't wanna know how much you think about your ex. When it comes up, fine.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 08:04 PM
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Have another upvote.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 11:40 PM
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These aren't values. They're a wild and chaotic response reaction. The behaviors are conflicting eachother. Seeking attention, avoiding attention. Its very much a standard response but also shifted into the feminist view of selling yourself is powerful.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 07:30 PM
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Sounds like she was molested as a child and thinks her value comes from being sexually available to everyone rather than a prize to be won. Thats a good reason why she doesn't do beauty standards herself, she doesn't feel beautiful and has no desire to draw attention to herself unless she invites it. If she makes herself "ugly" noone will want her without permission. The aggression and violent streaks comes out of abuse and seeing a lot of it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 11:32 PM
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bf is 💯 Thanks for the convo. Sometimes I gotta remind myself too why I made these decisions. Its easy in absence to forget how bad they truly are and think better of them than they ever behaved. There are a lot of us kids, and you're never alone in feeling the grief you have. Gotta be nice to ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 09:20 PM
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Conversation is not a monolog. Your thought train isn't a Conversation or a good time. If someone is really sad and consumed with bad stuff it can be a nice time filling distraction, because they dont have to participate at all and you're on your merry way. But if they're wanting a relationship their input is being steamrolled. Introverts and quiet people are polite and will not interrupt your longest most pointless story. They have to wait for the coast is clear before venturing out to speak-an…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 05:37 PM
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Mine squished into a new family and is trying to parent a kid when he never parented me. I get it. Even if he's spending time doing homework with that other kid, and being the "good parent" ...I know that kid is suffering with his lame attempts of bullying them through an assignment and trying to make it all about how great of a helper he is...when he didn't pass school himself. Just because he plays the part doesn't mean he isn't a problem for them too. But now, He's not MY problem. I was jealo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 12:05 AM
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Educate yourself so youre not hollow. Personality is vain if there isn't any character inside.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:50 PM
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Sounds like my sil. Send help. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 03:21 AM
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Assign it a day so he stops asking, for awhile. Give yourself a break. If he knows when it Will happen, he isn't hanging on endless nos
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 10:12 PM
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I did the same. Im into my 30s and it still stings, but less every year. Probably worse if something did appear but he doesn't have my new number. Gotta remember if he's a jerk, it's better that he's a jerk somewhere else bothering other people and out of your life. Nothing is sometimes better than something, especially when it wasn't good. It was supposed to be good, but it wasn't. At least over there, its not actively hurting you more. Peace is priceless. You could give yourself a closure part…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 08:25 AM
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Not at all. Grief is hard. And cyclical, so you'll get angry and get over it in a cycle for as long as it takes to grieve it all out and stop caring about what a lowlife creep said or did or didn't do. Create your own closure. I changed my name. Do whatever you gotta do to say, no, I'm me and not his. I dont need his approval and he doesn't deserve mine. I will be fine from here on out and ill do good for me and my future despite him, inspite of him and maybe a little in Spite of him. 😄 You're n…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 12:24 AM
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Heres the upbeat version.. Truth is, you have the power over your own life to change bad behavior and mistrust and learn good behavior and to trust. Find people who you admire and find friends you can look up to. They exist. Recognize your baggage and awkward trauma behaviors and dump it. Build up yourself and raise yourself like you're your own parent. As adults, a lot of us had to raise ourselves, reparent, or reprogram what our parents did. You can be however you want. There is plenty of ther…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 12:11 AM
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If it helps, picture him dead. If he's dead, and you won't get those answers, what you're like is now up to you because whoever he was doesn't matter. Identify what you dont like, and adapt to be the person you want to be. Daddy be damned. I can promise you that nothing he can say will make it all go away. He doesn't have the power to erase all the hurt he caused. He doesn't have any power over you anymore in either way. He can't help you for sure, and he can't hurt you any more. Find a way to g…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 12:02 AM
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Sounds like that whole family is not great. These are all people you're going to trust you potential kids with? I couldnt.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 09:56 PM
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I feel like maybe he saw through a false front you've sold him to see how you are when he's not around. He is considering if there is a facade and you're really That person.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 03:20 AM
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Try wit, not cutting down others. If there is a victim to your sarcasm you're doing it wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 03:17 AM
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They expect it because "ugh.. men" "men are so dumb" and thats just "how they are". They don't expect more...they just criticize them for being scum and dont actually have standards. Men bite back and become what their expected to be...abusive. The men who accept being caled toxic and being put down constantly to their face, online, and behind their back arent exactly winners.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 03:16 AM
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This is so cute and he's so kind to not use you. He does have some maturing but his heart is in the right place. What is "the one" to him? What one is he waiting for? Why does he think it has to be the "one" like a magic trick and not "the one I choose to commit to"
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/21 08:44 PM
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Raising kids in anger and resentment isn't healthy. Kids won't distract from a bad situation. They tear apart a good situation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/21 07:03 AM
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Make sure this is the best father before making him into one
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/21 07:01 AM
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A hobby is something you want to do. This is a list of indecisive categories of things you dont actually like or have interest in...just feminine stereotypes. I'd have to say go back to your painting if you enjoyed it. You dont have to be good to practice. That sounds like your best idea. Everything else Is really expensive if you don't know why you're doing it. Sewing is functional math and engineering skills and will take over every surface because it can't be stored easily or finished quickly…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 09:21 PM
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Be feminine and you dont have to rely on dresses
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 03:49 PM
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Every time I got short hair when I asked for a small trim, I was told it was professional and the same. No lady, it's Karen 2.0 and not what I asked for.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 04:43 AM
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Defining your worth on what other people will spend on you is dumb but natural, but problematic. Self confidence and self worth need to stem from yourSELF or it's too brittle to serve you well.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 04:31 PM
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Replace that need to do something with a better something else thats actually productive. And, as a tip from an exana, dont make rules around food or place your abuse on this new substance. As much as I'd love to be sober from food, food is necessary, and doesn't need to be made into your replacement disorder crutch. Fitness however is the perfect crutch with no downside to overdoing it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 06:46 PM
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Wow not even low value. No value.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:08 PM
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I have people with duplicate names called all sorts of things in my phone to tell them apart. She probably already has a "your name" or just didn't remember it
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 11:13 PM
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This
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 11:11 PM
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If he's dead weight and you're already looking for something better, you can dump that weight first. I applaud the quest for healthy weight. Obease health risks start at 25% fat for most races. Fit and trim feels better. I just shed 15% of my starting weight and its amazing how much easier everything feels.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 10:36 PM
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Friends are your future, meet new friends with hope. More importantly. Block him. Do. Not. Go. Back.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 06:34 PM
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The motorcycle thing is infuriating
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 12:14 AM
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Their target audience is youth and that gives them what they want while still being somewhat truthful. Telling youth to not be jealous ahats and grow up and have some decency is a lot harder. You have to tell them they have it all before you tell them they suck.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 07:02 PM
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The jab made me have a 2nd period a couple days after my last real one ended. Next day. Blood. I have been ruined for at least 5, and dont trust that im okay. The subreddit for this issue was removed because it doesn't fit the narrative
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 06:54 PM
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Ive always come away worse than when I started, or even new injuries. Cant imagine a mental therapist doing that to me. Good luck on your hunt!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 11:20 PM
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You said you were better. Thats an all clear. Try "not great"
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 10:07 PM
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I cant even find a physical therapist that will research my injury before I get there, and not send me home with the first google image of gym exercises that involves that joint...that isn't appropriate for injuries.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 09:02 PM
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Have you made expressions in a mirror so you Know if it translates well? You can also film it to see it from another perspective
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 11:59 PM
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Spam
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 07:29 PM
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Woah woah hol up. If the guy is worth marriage, he'll understand fertility issues. If raising kids is the goal, there are plenty that need adoption. If spreading his own seed is his only goal, and not actually raising the kids...that's a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 04:25 PM
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Thank you. I was exaggerated with it, so yeah, I keep woman friends these days too. But that was just about impossible during the matchmaking years when all the women are catty and petty. The men im still friends with are all married now, and I see no issue with friendship. Its situational, but it isn't hard if you have mutual boundaries and respect.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 12:24 AM
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Be careful to not get murdered.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:31 PM
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I treat men like humans and they are my friends. I don't flirt with my friends because I know what is leading them on, and dont. I wouldn't flirt with my women friends either. Dont test out flirting on friends. Men respond to that. Cutsie baby voice and being a feminine or dumb friend is flirting. Use your real voice and have a spine and an opinion backed by facts and they dont get confused. Friendzone yourself and stop playing games. Men love an inside resource into a girl brain, and ask advice…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 07:23 AM
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This
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:24 PM
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Anything he does with "not his girlfriend" he will do with "not his wife"
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:24 PM
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Enjoy the freedom and im so proud of you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 01:12 AM
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I have to say the opposite. I dont have any desire for kids at all but a husband better be the best father material or it's a no. I think its more important to vet for a husband/father than a owner/driver. But I also have never seen a driven person not be irreparably self centered and destroy their marriages, of either gender. Family minded people make better families, even if reproduction isn't the goal. When the kids fly away, you're stuck with that choice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 12:57 AM
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Im so proud of this comment right here. You got that right! You're a treasure to be treasured and admired and protected.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 08:48 PM
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The bf is free to have variety, but he can't come back. Have all the variety he can find, but not with me. He won't be as successful as he assumes. Especially once he doesn't have the regular-sex fall back option when they all reject him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 07:23 PM
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You didn't fail if it wasn't your behavior. She failed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/21 12:32 AM
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How many people on the planet have the same name? Sre you going to kill them all so you never hear it again? Many words sound the same and are spelled different. Change her name in your head to the dumbest spelling and get over it. Or she gets to take from you everything everywhere everyday because she exists. Thats immature and a waste of energy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/21 02:48 AM
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The beliefs and foundations you dont like are producing the quality men/humans you do like. Sometimes the result is worth the discomfort of the methods that raised him. Truth finds a way
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 06:13 AM
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Quarentine is a test run for retirement. This is not the person you want berating you in your old age about everything you did wrong over 60 years and blaming you for spending the last of his money.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 06:09 AM
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I think there's a misunderstanding. Im a scientist and men find that something they want to compete with rather than appreciate. Not a dumbass is one thing, but having intellectual pursuits is intimidating. I did model for awhile, so that ain't it. If someone's only adjective is Sweet, they're empty headed, but men desire to protect them. But if people describe you as Smart, you are 'more brains than bimbo' and men don't think thats a romantic partner...unless you work really hard to prove it or…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 04:01 PM
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I'm not part of your relationship and I dont live in your brain. You were asking for opinions. You cant police the opinions you get to always skew in your favor. You have to extend the same kindness you show others to yourself. Noone deserves unconditional praise. Tbh. What things look like from an outside perspective is very different than they are. If my bf was a bigot I'd know he was capable of being bigoted towards me at some point. Doesnt mean he ever would, but it is in his character to be…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 05:18 PM
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By actions, not words. He's listening to how you tear into yourself and knowing that is how you will attack him about his tiny failures. If you cant even be kind to you, you're ging to destroy him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 04:31 PM
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Sadly, also not an attribute men seek out. Falls under the degree category. Ability to lecture is a quirk that needs a specific (also intelligent) audience to appreciate. Hows your style? Hows your kindness and friendliness?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 04:25 PM
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Are you throwing it away because it doesn't match yours
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 04:09 PM
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Pass your exams. Stay in contact.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 03:44 PM
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Thats a nice way to ghost. Yeah sure sounds great uh-huh yup 👻
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 02:01 AM
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Hol up 🤣 i had seen that post. The same one that wanted absolutely nothing is mad he stopped giving her things?!?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 05:38 AM
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So glad you're ok. Guilt is another self esteem thing. Thats where I'd put the efforts. Making habits that make you happy, even if you're just happy its done, like laundry already folded. When you find what you needed, you can thank yourself for having done it already. It truly is the small things. The more reliable you are, the more you trust you to do good and self esteem blooms because your proud of the person you are. If he gifted before, he will again. Dont worry! Its not a repayment system…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 11:45 PM
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What is the question? Why is he not doing these things for you? He isn't that person, if he's not doing it. What can you do to inspire spontaneous things? Nothing. He has to be a spontaneous person on his own. If he has tried before, and now doesn't anymore, maybe you were bitter about his methods or the gift and made him quit trying. Its good you've asked him about yourself. Self esteem is hard. What can you do or accomplish that would increase how much you trust you? Do something that will mak…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 11:16 PM
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More successful than if you hand it to everyone, FWB style. You dont yet have a relationship to have sex within.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 01:45 AM
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Get out with your bigotry
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 01:42 AM
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https://news.yahoo.com/man-taken-aback-fiancee-manipulative-140820129.html
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 10:08 AM
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How do you bring it up to men? This is important. I hear horror stories of 1st dates saying "I wanna stay home, a million dollar home on the lake, and have a luxury collection." Meaning "antagonize me im a child with sugar daddy expectations" aka "run"
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 09:50 AM
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Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes! You know exactly why we protect ourselves. Never take the picture has been my policy. A stolen phone could do the same as sharing it with one guy you trust. The internet has made it not safe at all. Once that picture exists, it is accessible to everyone on the planet for hundreds of years, at least. It is not bigoted or even sex-negative why we have these standards. It is because people cannot be trusted with something so valuable. It will ruin their lives. For anyone thinkin…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 03:51 PM
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Treat them like a brother, but first of all a human being, and it will go much better.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/21 04:00 PM
9

JP also explains this well. We like to entrust the most proficient leaders with more power so they can lead the best..but that never lasts long because even tho our intentions are good for empowering the brightest and best, they arent perfect amd certainly humans arent eternal! So they either turn evil with the power we gave them or someone evil does something evil to take hold of that power and use it for evil. There is no other human outcome when power is concentrated. We do it in friendahip, …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/21 05:19 AM
1

Ask the partner you're moving in with. Treat it like an engineering project. Manage it like those 6 employees you have.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/21 12:06 AM
1

Youve accepted a lie
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 04:20 PM
10

They say they are while in the process, but when you ask them 10 years after that phase, they regret it or really didnt enjoy it. It was born of insecurities or what they thought they had to do. Whether they hit that phase at 20 or 50, give um 10 years...
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 04:17 PM
20

Just be friendly and kind and look at men. Have some eye contact. Most students are looking at their phones.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 02:49 PM
16

Learn some self-affirming behaviors/rewards to boost your self by yourself. Keep in touch with those you're leaving physically. Seek new local friends. Go pretend to "work" from coffee shops to soak in the atmosphere and get out of the house. Make it a safe place for him to breathe. Dont ambush, even if you've been alone all day. Commuting is frustrating. Allow him an extra commute time after he gets home before you dump all your burdens and frustrations on him the moment he walks in. Be kind. B…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 11:34 PM
4

Reasons change every day for why you want something, as long as You want it, you will achieve it. Sometimes it takes awhile, and your efort will pay off. If this guy isnt the one, you're still doing it for your potential, and your future health. I would only be concerned if you found a 'feeder' bf that would be angry at your trying to be healthy. Or someone trying to sabotage your progress with sweets. Anyone who cares about you wants to make sure you live long-term and healthy for all those yea…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 10:23 PM
2

Very true. The debt to usefulness is vastly dependent on using it to get a great job. For me as a worker it was the best thing I could've done, especially being a top o the class nerd, and using it after. It cemented all the validation I needed to complete a stem with honors, without having to be competitive with other women or catty. If nothing else the proving it to oneself is important. If it's a social degree for certification sake then, meh. That debt is no joke. I did my bs in 2 years so I…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 06:08 PM
35

Personal responsibility doesn't sit well with losers. Traditional anything offends the woke. We dont actually go against any of them, but they hate our guts. Guess inclusive only means what they like is forced upon everyone else. That's how you find evil, the intolerant army.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 03:56 PM
5

If you quit the bachelors you'll feel like a failure after doing all that stressful work of getting 100. Just aim for honors, not perfection. NO ONE has ever asked my grades even for my bachelor degree-noone actually cares about whether you barely passed or aced it. The degree is itself the thing you did, and i think even as a sahm you'd want to show the kiddos your diploma on the wall. That Kind of drive doesn't leave you. But its also not worth stressing over. Responsibility is where you learn…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 02:04 PM
7

The repeat of this conspiracy is boring and unresearched.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/21 04:54 PM
11

I didn't say want more. I say accept it when it is handed to you gracefully and with gratitude and Thanksgiving. Wanting and demanding has never entered the chat. If you cannot accept what is freely given to you you will push him away. Be self reliant. Be gracious. Be open to joy that is bigger than you anticipated. People are only upset when you take what they generously share with you, turn your nose up at it, tell them how much they wasted their money and your time, and throw it away and turn…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:10 PM
2

Its called gaslighting.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:04 PM
8

Do you plan to eat one meal and never eat again, because you say "i am full" and "i am well provided for"? No. Do you plan on having sex once, only on the honeymoon, never again, because you checked off the todo list, am satisfied and fulfilled. no! You have a huge capacity for joy and love and enjoyment of life. You're life will overflow with love and joy with this man. If you say you are satisfied, that is fine, be easy to satisfy.. but do not become angry when he wants another meal or another…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 09:57 PM
6

Vacations. Providing good experiences for you that you may not have had the opportunity for before. And yes, a wedding is a gift-of celebration of YOU joining his family, in front of all your family and friends if you want them there. It could be small, but every celebration or birthday or holiday or vacation or physical present or show of affection, time spent together, and conversation....are all gifts he is trying to give you. If you turn them all down you're turning down every method of ever…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 09:40 PM
9

If you're considering leaving you probably know you should say no even if he does propose. If its rocky now, the after won't be happily ever.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 09:26 PM
15

Being ungrateful or even put off by nice things he obviously plans to provide will be more off putting than a gold digger to him. Nothing is worse than being rejected for kindness. You have to accept his financial gifts as his love language and not shut him down so often.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 09:23 PM
13

What has he said tho?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 02:06 AM
4

Why haven't you shared it..unasked?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 10:40 PM
3

Do you follow any males on social media?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 10:18 PM
-11

Put on some yoga pants and a Hoodie to fit in, since that is your goal. Save the dresses for the office. Play the part. Uni is not the time or you Are a try hard
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 12:34 PM
10

:) you added some there that i reeeally relate to. You never have to be nice to mean people. Set boundaries not to serve disrespectful people, even socially, without becoming a jerk that lashes out. "No" is a full sentence. But taking care of yourself is 100% necessary unless you plan on...relying on slave labor. Which is what you're afraid of becoming. if you participate in a wholesome family dynamic where everyones helping eachother it is amazing and noone is ever treated like trash. Its the e…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 06:49 PM
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This isnt a feminine problem. Its a childhood problem. Challenge yourself to grow up, take care of yourself and your chores no matter where you live. Take control of your life by learning the skills to be independent and dependable rather than worrying about parties. You shouldn't be going off if you aren't capable of doing your own laundry and shouldn't be going out to eat if you cant make yourself food. You obviously skipped steps.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 06:35 PM
3

You cannot expect him to keep up with all of your lies
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 11:08 PM
12

The most confident kiddos who want to cohabitate and make babies because they know they'll be forever together are often being used by noncommittal men for breeding without risk of legal binding contracts....if the commitment is really there, paperwork wont stop them. If they plan to bail after or dont comprehend how challenging tiny humans are to a relationship, you are not the only one who suffers that broken trust if you jump straight to kids with no net
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 11:05 PM
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Get the paperwork, then the sexy time, then party later. The marriage license protects the kids. Dont have kids if you arent willing to protect them legally. You never have to host a party. File the papers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 11:01 PM
3

What if they start selecting for gender like india, or sexuality or hair texture...i know that we Can, but we really Shouldn't be. The testing can cause mutations too, after the sample is collected.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 01:50 AM
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If he doesnt want to look after a disabled kid, he wont look after you in a tragedy. Remember all his feelings towards disability wont go away just because it's you. I bet he expects you to take care of him if need be. Never kill a child of yours because the man doesnt want his half of it. He can take a hike. Murder is not a small disagreement.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 01:45 AM
1

You already own the things you are now paying for. You've built with it. You probably could have saved it. But now you owe it, because you bought it already. Paying into the debt hole is paying back what you owe. Its not a waste. You already saw all the benefit of that debt earlier.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 04:15 PM
2

Not at all. The only problem lies in thinking that it completes you, you require it, or you're too perfect to grow. Pride aside, always improve yourself married or not. Watch for red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/21 09:38 PM
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6 years ago you were a teenager that wasnt finished growing into a womanly shape yet. You've gotta be nicer to yourself! At 5'8" i weighed more than 120 when i was anorexic, literally dying to get below that. Its not a numbers game. And weight isnt a game you wanna start playing. Shape matters a lot more! Curves dont happen without weight behind the muscle. Your bmi can be in the "obease" range and have 5% bodyfat if you lift = bmi is a liar too. I look my best at 150lbs of built curves. Noone t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/21 12:09 AM
1

Oh sorry, was responding to the other comment, not OP post 😁
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 11:57 PM
8

raising children correctly and being a decent human being requires being effective! The be-a-lacy-skirt-wearing-doormat idea of feminine has to die. I do have to say that during the evenings (usa time) you'll get a more mature and level headed response. Ive quit posting in this sub in the daytime(usa).
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 11:37 PM
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This is why equating feminine to skirts is harmful. Its not hard to be feminine with pants on. Knowing your body type and dressing well for that shape (not the shape you'd rather have) is all you need.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 06:53 PM
3

They're not his at all if there aren't papers
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 05:38 PM
8

he lets me Full Stop. Your problem is with you doing something that makes you uncomfortable. Dont do anything that makes you hate your own behavior and therefore him because he lets you get away with it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 05:00 AM
9

Your social status only dies if you boast about your luxury "do-nothing" sahm lifestyle or become a snood that puts down others to try and bridge that assumed gap or lift yourself up with snark. But thats more to do with your social pitfalls at maintaining friendships than being sahm. Same if you suddenly bail on all the working moms or dont schedule around their jobs. If you are not a friend to others=you will have no friends.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 03:55 AM
13

Or just want you to breed them a hoard of kids they don't want anything to do with
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 04:45 PM
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None whatsoever. I keep hearing how they love useless sexy idiots. You however need your act together because you may never find one or he may die young and leave you to your own retirement alone since we do live longer than them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 03:48 PM
10

Right. Men can express their true feelings. Women can refuse sex. Women can rufuse sex from a trusted and loyal friendzone. Doesn't matter if he sticks around for another round or not, its a n count +1 and what looks like huge risk of reliable cheating to a real ltr potential. Guys typically dont like the bride smashing the best man or the waiter on their wedding day. What happens when that friend continues to hang out around the huband? Thats gonna be some dramaaa
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 04:26 AM
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Marriage to a friend is the greatest. You like eachother before sex, and after sex. You are a good pair. It's perfect as its gonna get. This guy doesnt want commitment. And women here like marriage and commitment, and dont want to be plates.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 08:16 PM
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Ltr is not anything to do with value. Singles would even have higher potential or market value than anyone already in relationships because they are flexible and available. Fwb is not dating and there is no end goal for marriage. People who want that, do that. They aren't less human or less valuable as people. Ltr arent always the goal but they are promoted on this subreddit, and getting trapped in a free sex on demand relationshipish sexualized friendzone reduces your availability and willing p…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 08:13 PM
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He wants no commitment sex with no risk. He's likely got other side chicks, risking stds. I'd be so disrespected. He thinks your cheap, or like a free sex buddy. He wants to lower your ltr value.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 07:28 PM
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Self improvement doesnt take time off but is a conatant progress. I would suggest grief and loss counseling information not only to better understand how/what will be helpful to the relationship during his grieving, but the ○nly time you can learn about grief is during the good times...if you wait to learn loss-proceasing until after you lose everything your brain isnt able to learn to cope while handling and adapting to the loss at the same time. Its easier if you have habits down before things…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 05:04 PM
2

Only public information or profile pictures, very stale or corporate. Nothing that could turn up 10 years from now that an angry ex would use.. But I also wouldn't store on my phone or send sexy pics at all. Thats my boundaries. Only for the husband, and you ain't him yet.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 06:59 PM
2

I do have to say that's when the shop keepers turned on me and started lecturing me on how to use my debit card like I'm 90...I can do it thanks if your machine would work.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 09:28 PM
2

So it moved from a situationship to a toxic situationship
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 04:01 AM
1

Well are they still also having sex too? Because sounds like he doesn't even have to trust a warm body to F it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 02:34 PM
1

You're good. Everyone has an off day. I hope it all works out for you. Be kind to yourself when you have off days and expect respect. 💙
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 02:15 PM
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Dont gaslight yourself to adopt "understanding" in place of much needed boundaries for someone who mistreats your feelings just because they overreacted. He is hurting you too here. You said it once and corrected. He's continuing to be mean and ignore the apology. You handled it well, and he got his apology. That should be enough. Remember this red flag when he explodes about the next little thing. Its probably a pattern of behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 05:27 AM
2

Thank you. Im so glad you found your dream guy. God provides.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 05:10 AM
2

Morality comes from an objective moral standard or law. We all hold varying degrees of compliance weather we know the law or are figuring it out ourselves the hard way. The compliance to it is where they are weak. Christianity shows the simplified moral law and the moral law giver. Failure of compliance is all that sin is. They have sin and its increasingly obvious, the more closely you hold to morality...you'll find it in everyone. It's disappointing but you're totally onto something there. She…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 10:44 PM
5

If someone has no faith or a weak interest in spiritual whatevers, it won't matter to them what you think. If anyone actually cares, that's what you base your morality and foundations on...and its the most important thing you can match on. Its how you raise kids. Its what your schedule looks like. Its a foundation that establishes a person to a set of morals that you can focus them back to if they get sloppy. Specifically Christianity calls the man to lead his family and inspire you to better un…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 10:33 PM
3

No.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 12:59 AM
7

Smart kid. Sorry your mom wasn't there for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 10:17 PM
1

Too many women means 7 of those cannot have their own man. Men now have lots of desperate choices and higher standards. When there are more men than women, women get to be very picky because they have more options. 7 is a low number imbalance, but usually men die younger, in dangerous jobs and worse working conditions and medical care. So that 7 quickly gets higher once you're not 20 anymore and the wall kind of kills off any chance you had had. And the only men not taken are dead.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 07:30 PM
2

Female. Dont misgender people. Ew. And thats correct. Your happiness is you own fault come death day. Ignore all the advice you have gained. Yolo The wall is going to happen either way
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 03:42 AM
2

This is the way to unhappiness but go for it. Burn your one shot to the ground by the fuel of your ego
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 03:31 AM
0

If literally everyone is telling you that he isn't good enough, hear out their reasoning. An unamitious guy in college is not a good sign. If he's not taking cate of himself he has personal stuff he needs to sort himself. If you want kids-he will not do better for them than himself. He likely won't father well. Are you going to be able to change his fundamental personality of apathy? No. Its going to cause problems. Does he treat you good. Yes. But my coworkers treat me good too. Thats not a rom…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 03:55 PM
2

I tried the "have it but dont use it" approach and that seems to work best, especially when you still see these people and "have to" "keep up" with conversations about what they posted. Or vital info is being blasted out and you miss it all. When I went off to college things changed. All those people dropped me. And I felt even more lonely because the people I was following were not even my friends. Like you said, noone called or texted. Noone kept up with me. I started posting actual content ju…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:36 AM
7

Is this your 1st real boyfriend?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 11:09 PM
11

Tried to date young once, theyre controlling and cant get anyone their own age...hoping we're desperate old washups that'll settle for abuse AND fund their dream careers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 11:09 PM
6

Unless you point of view is as narrow and weak as the ever changing fashionable ideal...this is a useless goal. Especially to base a marriage on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 02:06 AM
2

Can't think of one that wasn't mandatory
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 06:47 PM
1

Really sorry, most media only show bad relationships these days. I'd have to say, go back to the black n white shows to find healthier dynamics to imitate
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 04:33 AM
0

If you're asking this question you need to delete your profile. You aren't ready for this stuff if you can't know what you need to do here.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 03:50 AM
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You said he also said it. You're basically married anyway. You withheld nothing and have no room to barter. If you want it, now you'll have to do the whole removal of things (making him angry and feel rejected) and risk being alone to then barter with him for commitment just to go back to the way things were before your sudden outburst. You got nothing left to bait out that commitment after 14 years. This is why "sex after marriage" works for most girls. Its not archaic tradition but to prevent …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 11:58 PM
15

Youre ignoring your own standards. hold to them. If you want stable, he better be stable. You tiny , and you're young. Go get a real man! Confidence in your abilities will sell your style over your look. We look at what people show just as much
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 12:49 AM
2

Oookay no, a bank tapping to check your score does. Got confused.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/21 08:54 PM
2

Stop rubbing it in his face. He asked you to quit. What good is checking the report -when the act of checking it lowers it? You're setback a lot of money. Let him grieve. And don't bring it up or gossip about his slip up to everyone you know. Its not going to be a "remember when" kind of thing, and the more you push the "feel better" the more he hears "you put us in a bad spot because you are stupid." His failures are his secrets. Its like him telling you a new dress doesn't make you look any fa…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/21 04:12 AM
4

Not the right sub. And makes no sense.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/21 03:32 AM
2

Is that what you want normalized for your possible children? Is that the strong father image they deserve? If he is escaping life in this way that young, what happens when life hurts him? I mean, if he feels like he has to escape now, if things got really hard he is highly likely to suicide or leave you during hard times...and if not...you will hold the difficult burden alone because he is off escaping somewhere drunk and you have to deal with it by yourself. Lots of men will fufill you emotiona…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 06:16 PM
7

Ive tried to date that young. He wants you to provide for him like a mom/dad. He wont be able to lead anything and drinking at that age is way past college-drunk. Thats regular drunkard. Watch for narcissist traits and also anger problems. Violence is at the door, especially if he feels like you provide for him. Honestly 30min is not a big commute.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 04:52 AM
8

They're traditional because they work. Every generation has refined the methods but the traditional approach outlasts all the trendy fads of behavior. Its not oppression if it gives you the best chance at success! You have to have some aspects of conservative life if you want to conserve your life. Liberalism wastes life, chasing things that don't work or haven't been proven in order to maintain "progressive" status. Once you burn all those bridges and come up empty, you start conserving valuabl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 02:14 AM
1

💯
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 01:51 PM
20

Misplaced worth is probably causing depression. Also, make sure your meds aren't needing an update. Sometimes you have to change the dose to feel better
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 04:39 PM
3

Yes thank you.. Education and sustainable careers is a baseline for a lot of men. The ones who care that you're not after their money and want an equal of mind and ability and not just a hot chick they'll replace when you get ugly. Someone to talk to after the good years are gone. Education really gets the boot around here in favor of straight up breeding. Its frustrating, especially for us who did the work and got there with good partner qualities like dedication and goal oriented planning. It …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:35 AM
3

Lead them both on and continue to use them for money?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:11 AM
6

This is abusive and manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:10 AM
3

Twitter is about 6-12months ahead of reddit downfall
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 06:37 PM
2

Doesn't happen on reddit?!? You don't do much traveling here. Half the groups are instant bans from the other half
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 06:30 PM
2

Ooh I also recommend the step aerobics to replace treadmill. That can actually be really fun but you've gotta go all out and dance it
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 12:37 AM
12

2x week i workout everything that isn't still sore from last week or last session. Go heavy and the resting muscle takes care of the fat %. No treadmill boredom for me!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 11:31 PM
7

Ive been grilled so much of first dates its like a judgemental roast without any indication of weather im "passing" the test or not. Huge no.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 08:07 PM
1

I know a lot who wouldnt line up forsure, but for how picky women are in exaaaaactly what we want..its a bit relaxing to see such simple demands. All the fussy things we focus on are entirely the wrong things, the fluff things, that have nothing to do with character. Its nice to hear that men dont require knee length floral skirts and wont dump you for wearing out of season trendy makeup shades. We get so caught up in gritty garbage to roast eachother on, and all men want is a solid reliable gir…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 03:29 AM
2

Only if widowed and no ex. Dont become the other woman. Also no, because having a baby is a huge bonding experience and process that takes a full year with the love of his life aka not you, and now I'd just be the babysitter for his ex's little monster. Adopt together, fine. Ill raise a stranger's baby just fine. Widow? Great. Never an ex's baby esp if she is still around to criticize me over every decision and turn them against me for taking away their real mommy...because regardless of the sit…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 05:33 AM
3

Babies at 19 is waaay easier than in your 20s and especially 30s. You actually recover if you're young. And a baby will cure any immaturity you have if you dont wallow and take on the challenge of raising a good kid. Sounds like you are on the right track. Anyone telling you to dumpster your beautiful baby is not your friend.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 01:04 AM
6

This list isnt even hard
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 10:21 PM
3

Just do something. If you mix it up and dont get stuck on one do, you wont get as much damage from repeating the same damage over and over. Find what you like, and the confidence is what sells it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 05:41 PM
8

Im pretty sure he meant "at the same time as you" and hes doing 3s behind your back. Its definitely a bucket list thing for him. He will cheat if he hasnt already
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 05:07 AM
1

What is uncomfortable is your "point" [not plural] is defending the use of derogatory language. I was just trying to help you out so you dont bully people on an antibully post. It's a bad look.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 10:44 PM
4

Im getting old hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 10:34 PM
0

Allow yourself joy or you will be miserable by default.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 07:58 PM
10

What is a "hot girl "? Lol a ho?
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 07:50 PM
6

The psalms woman kicks a and we need to be strong support for a real alpha. The submissive role is meerly not taking ultimate responsibility away from a man. Its his problem and responsibility if his leadership sucks. Its only our role to keep ourselves in control so he can steer the ship and not be picking us up and coddling our insecurities all the time...exhausting his energy to lead well on petty things we should have under control ourselves. A. Be a good human. B. Ultimate judgement will be…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 06:41 PM
1

It is a derogatory word. And it is not a description of an activity someone can do. I found some helpful Information on the subject for you to consider. https://www.aruma.com.au/about-us/blog/two-words-you-need-to-remove-from-your-vocabulary/
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:43 PM
22

Yay! So happy for you. This is not nearly as hard as it sounds. I too am a tomboy. The feminine roll is more of the putting down competition with him and stopping putting others down. Its being a team player. It is not dresses and fluffy stuff. You can be a tomboy and hot at the same time. Its the attitude of accepting and securing solid boundaries for others and yourself. It's nurturing. Its self nurturing and growing out of insecurities so you can help him grow out of his. Dont be a doll. Dont…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:34 PM
1

You used the word. Using that word is wrong. I didnt change the word. That was your word. Woooow
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:04 PM
3

This was my concern. "Feeders" dont think they deserve their spouse and it keeps you down. What it sounds like, since thats not it, is you were on the lanky rail side of skinny and now that "pudge" gave you enough fat to live in a healthy weight catagory. Bones arent feminine is i think what he meant.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 12:34 AM
6

There are plenty of men with all of his good qualities minus the crazy addict ex, and right now you can snag a man while he is still young and hot and you two can grow and learn TOGETHER as a couple and not get dropped in the middle of a fullblown-crisis-responsibility situation you will be expected to FIX. He will paint the most beautiful picture of his magic life he's baiting you into. Youre the one who has to see it for what it is. Also. When your 50, hes 63.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 03:56 PM
2

Being able to truly Focus on dicipline is a life changer. Doing what you know is right will turn your life in a great triedandtested direction that works. Dont let yourself down by choosing the easy way, and dont fall for the hormones. Hormones lie to you so much and only gets harder in your late 20s. Be the good you want to see and all that
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 03:47 AM
15

This. This is all he is after.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 09:20 PM
8

Its less important what you pick as it is furthering your own maturity and passions. When someone has a passion its always fun to hear about what theyre up to even if its boring...because they enjoy it so much. Cook/baking. Knitting. Reading! There are a million book clubs! Collecting something fun. The household stuff works well, while simultaneously keeping eyes on toddlers at every moment. It gets easier to be your own person as they get older. Just make sure you make it for you and not cater…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/21 04:55 AM
21

The only thing that prevents me from staying friends with friends once they get married is them losing all sense of self and every bit of personality. Only being capable of holding conversations about diapers and marriage or complaining about the life you chose. Oooor bullying me because I'm single. I know this wasn't really a plea for advise, but if you can gain a new hobby that is just about you, for you, that will give you a massive edge in social networking. Never ever think that you're done…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/21 01:05 AM
3

Crucial Conversations by patterson And a heck ton of learning what emotions feel like, and identifying them. Then recognizing when they are hormones and fake chemical eruptions and when they are real and psychologically bound....meaning that there is a mental belief that you need to identify like insecurity or pride that needs to be addressed rather than just controlling the fleeting emotion. Just because the emotions pass doesn't mean you cured you brain of some lie you're still telling yoursel…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 06:16 PM
2

Spending money wont give you results. Pick a few minimal items and learn them well. Go for natural looks with a few products. Eyeliner doesn't actually look good on everyone, and the brush/pen/pot/crayon/ink/size/angle all matters- not everyone can use every eyeliner. I do it with eyeshadow.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 01:05 AM
2

And none of the male peers would get sympathy for doing the same. And thats what male soldiers do by duty and then get harassed for it. Male cops do that every day. Men get leveled and are expected to overcome fight it off and protect while doing it. They call it a cool story not a tragic abusive assault like on a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 01:42 AM
2

Men get a shit bill too. Its just a different pile. Switch over? Is that what this is actually about? Spend some time in the men's room with outright physical bullying and you'd quit in a drip. Their expectations are harsh and their mental health and safety is a joke to the public. Be a masculine woman. Be a strong woman like p!nk who nurtures babies while on tour. But dont think for a minute that anyone for 2 seconds would support a man in that same roll.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 12:07 AM
1

This
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 12:01 AM
7

I really needed this thank you. Im so tired
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 06:18 PM
0

Being* one We all like weird music. Things that aren't pop princess stuff. We all like alternative choices and thats normal
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 12:54 PM
3

not like other girls
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 10:40 PM
1

You can learn good family skills from a lack of experience too. Not every person that is good has the ideal past through 2 generations. Those ive seen, take it for granted and are more likely to stray with the confidence that they will always have what they want with anything that moves
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:00 AM
3

Yes! So much this! 10/10
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 07:12 PM
2

Obsession is not caring about someone, its codependency and hurts them and you. They push you away because it's harmful to them, or worse, use you until you break down and then blame you for not caring enough.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 07:05 PM
0

This!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 07:02 PM
6

Every life choice is a hard road. Do you only want husband+kids because its a "life todo list" to check off or because you actually want the diapers and homework kind of kids? you were "encouraged to get married"...does that mean you wanted him at the time or are you trying to blame-shift the decision to pressure? You said I do, not them. Kids come naturally with a man. Trying to get pregnant with a woman would be harder and require a man's "input" regardless. If you're scared to be single you a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 10:35 PM
3

Look at the men in your church and pick one you'd like to lay down under. Thats why women don't have options within the church either. It's not that the men are not evil enough, but that they replace all forms of personal gain with the value of being saints...fat, lazy, prideful, disheveled saints with egos about being good on the inside. Nothing to be found attractive without a long term commitment to dig until they find it. Gotta step it up. A good heart is no cure for staying unattractive.
/r/RPChristians10/04/21 05:04 AM
5

The more you try to keep it pretty the less useful it is. Just do it functionally and see if it helps and as you realize if its a good tool to you, you'll figure out more visual cues that you add to make things distinct or in categories. I liked rose diagrams [plotting tool that is round] for the month at the beginning of each month and would color them in as I succeeded for the day. So I could analyze that I just don't do anything Tuesdays ever and adapt my schedule and expectations to that tre…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 01:10 PM
6

He is providing nothing of value and taking away all the benefits of being single at the same time. Its a quote. Anyways. Single at 25 is a lot better than bitter at 30 and "wasted my youth on this jerk" and blah blah that riddes this page of people who actually are getting to the end of their fertility 40s and starting over. You could be chosing single-forever because of a failed first marriage, but at least you dont have kids yet!!. But violence is a solid no. Thats not physically safe. Your s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 03:11 AM
2

Stealing your solitude without providing companionship? Toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 02:03 AM
6

Pay attention. If someone tells you they are bad for you believe it. If they get angry because you dont know something, that's stupid. If they want in your pants more than they want to know who you are, you're an object to them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 12:47 PM
7

Wombs do seethe. Like, why? Im not even one for babies but wombs don't care. Wombs want babies when you hit 30
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 10:44 PM
1

Positive to negative interactios in a healthy relationship is 20:1 so don't focus on the 1 as if it canceled out the other 20 good things. In a fight its still 5:1
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 03:59 PM
2

Didn't think it would be? If she's smitten its best to wait it out and make sure he is too. What guy will turn down a girl throwing her love-eyed self at him blindly? If nothing else she becomes a placeholder to practice relationships risk free until he finds someone to wife
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 12:34 PM
7

He has to say it first because he'll just go along with what is convienent and easy (you) even if you're not what he wants. If he doesn't lead, he doesn't want you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 05:19 AM
4

Everything heals faster when you're younger. You're still developing until about 25, then physically it's all maintaining what you got so it doesn't get worse. Not for babies, but my surgeon said at some point that you stop operating on elderly because its better quality of life to live broken and unable, than endure surgery risk infection. You don't wake rested. You dont process alcohol very well. You can't eat like you used to. You stop digesting food properly. Everything stops working correct…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 03:15 PM
5

More money more options, and she'll find someone better. He's scared because he knows he's not good enough to pull that kind of deficit
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 05:07 PM
37

When he finds the right girl, he'll want to marry her instead. I see placeholder in this
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 02:05 PM
14

Because working on yourself takes responsibility. Slapping on a popular hip shade of nail polish is publishable advice. Most "be a good woman" advice is just "be a good human" basic skills
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 02:52 AM
3

Threats equal intent, even of it's not carried out which would be violence. This is a red flag. She will destroy your possessions, possibly kill your pet and neglect children if taken to the extreme, which isn't out of the ordinary for people who willfully destroy your things. She highly values the material things or she wouldn't threaten to take them away from you. She's materialistic or that wouldn't even be a punishment against you. Consider what she would do if you said the same thing to her…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 04:17 PM
1

Do you know what infantilizing is ?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 01:03 PM
-3

This is the first hope I've heard of as someone who is a non-motherly stem type. the "girly" and INFANTILIZATION tropes is all i see hyped and it's disturbing. I dont want a man interested in immature no-brainers to rule over them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 05:04 AM
3

My hair is longer (knee) and its the same advice to get a short "professional " bob and bleach it like Literally everyone else. Do. Not. Listen. 99% of it is jealousy. 1% of it is truth= you dont do anything with it. And it's blah. Short wont change blah. Its just shorter and more boring blah you cant do buns with. For long hair to be amazing long hair you have to do fun things like you've lived your whole life bald and woke up with so much to play with! Do braids, buns, crowns, poofs. Keep it f…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 11:30 PM
15

You're the same guy paying her not to have an abortion...miscarriage is what the pill-abortion does. She had the abortion and still wants your money. This isn't something god did. She killed it with the pill.
/r/RPChristians24/03/21 04:33 PM
15

That's just school. Get through it
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:33 PM
2

Do you think we're on the line of friend vs competition and any "effort" is a threat? Or is it like, we're always competition no matter what and the jealousy is what makes them mean?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 03:28 AM
14

No. Women get really cruel when I dress up. Men aren't any nicer than usual.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 07:34 PM
0

Deal breakers and enough to get a take of how you speak. Not enough to fill a first date and no guy ive ever talked to actually read any of it. They just swipe until you swipe back.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 04:24 AM
3

What
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 06:10 AM
21

Its an attitude. I only have sex with my husband. Not married =no sex. It's your standard to maintain. Every man would love to be your only. Its a great chip to use to get a ring too...
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:14 PM
4

By extention of his cheating, your sleeping with strange women you haven't met. You know this man is trash. You deserve better. Learning to love another one is better than being abused by the same one
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 08:33 PM
8

Rpw is not trp
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 07:46 PM
1

Looks like your focused on the miniscule micro interactions of regular everyday life, and trying to find a way to take them personally. None of this is slightly aggressive. Your placing impossible expectations on others that you probably had to live under, but dont become your parents.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/21 08:25 PM
1

Agreed
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/21 08:22 PM
3

The mechanical can opener. So long forgotten noone knows what its even there for unless it's the only option left
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/21 08:15 PM
23

So when your face cracks he is allowed to dump you, because you stopped being attractive. So when he gotta buy you a new car for the one you totalled he can just leave you while you're in the hospital. Oh, got cancer? Bye girl. Thats who you're being right now, that guy. Life happens. Children die. People get hurt. If you cant handle him at his worst you dont deserve him at his best.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 05:14 AM
0

I need to see if a man can cry and what it takes. I want a soft heart that can love. A hard shell is just cold and unloving. If you cant feel anything you can't accept love either and that will fail. If you blubber bawl because you have a cold or didnt get your way...that's a big no. Thats different.
/r/RPChristians23/02/21 06:50 AM
3

Yes, you are, and his true love is you but you're chasing ghosts.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 05:56 PM
2

I did runway for a minute. Thats what we called it when you hike up your knees for no reason or clop around like the front legs of a horse. You shouldn't make the shoes look heavy or like you're struggling or doing the cancan
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 05:52 PM
4

You can't choose where the fat goes. It'll happen. Work out. Build the body you want. Muscle and fitness are the good curves. Most of the time fat just looks unhealthy unless you hit the genetic lottery. If you lost it the first time, where you carry weight in fat wasn't doing you any favors or you wouldn't have lost it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 07:09 AM
13

what bothers me is that I'm being scolded for this by a male. I thought to myself, 'Why does he feel so comfortable expressing his thoughts like this? What does he have to teach me?' Not all teachers and mentors are women. You have to learn to take wisdom from all humans, and not just those just like you. A husband will critique you and correct you. Relationships sharpen a person and the sharpening is painful. He was probably only making conversation. But, It wasn't his question that you dislike…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 06:58 AM
2

Spend alone time improving yourself and making girl friends to hang out with. Use the opportunity to do what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 04:14 PM
8

Always walk like your in heels aka going down hill and no stomping like a horse or high steps or any action as if you're going uphill when its not. Dump all flip-flops in the trash. Stand straight and tuck your butt under to get the "lean back" casuality and leisurely stroll long strides. Every step is on a catwalk.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 07:20 AM
2

That's called skin. Calm down. You have wispy fine baby hair because you are not a man. No man will even consider that to be actual hair because its not coarse think and super long. If you shave it it'll just grow back with blunt cut ends and feel stubbly.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/21 07:42 AM
-2

Weightloss is not a journey. You can put it on at the same rate you gained it or faster. Thats up to you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 05:44 AM
1

Why do women judge? Thats the big question that would solve world peace. Competition for a short answer. Insecurities and trying to measure up. Our value isn't in success or tangible work-hard-earn-money kinds of value, but it's all perception so even if we aren't valuable...if we lie with makeup and scheme enough we can change the perception that maybe we aren't the worst and raise our value. If We're really desperate, women tear eachother down. Under that kind of pressure, women dress up so ot…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 07:15 PM
11

Just a point: the patriarchal standard is men fighting against makeup, requesting we use less or make it natural if at all. We do it for women to not judge us as harshly, increase our social standing/comparison among those women, and for insecurities. The difference it makes to men is negligible unless you are a catfish level of makeup. They don't care. We care. Women are the drivers of fashion, and men are not.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 02:14 PM
2

It will fluctuate naturally and you're coming off one of the bigger highs. It's still there. But if that is where you focus [the lost %], you may become a flat personality without the high quality traits that make you a good lifelong partner, which develop now and throughout your 20s. The kind of good time that doesn't get introduced to his parents and the live in gf that never gets a ring. Becoming a quality person should be your next phase, but that doesn't mean you can't rediscover your new s…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 11:31 PM
1

Get in touch with your actual capabilities and fortitude in life as a woman who doesn't rely on sex to feel like yourself. The 20s are hard. You are preparing for that time and its normal to not be a giant raging hormone once you leave the teens. You gotta survive now as an adult. Don't worry, because it will come back twice as strong when you hit 30. But having perseverance, being dependable, emotionally strong, and self confident in your self outside of your sexlife will serve you better than …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 09:56 PM
2

This is injections in your face, not shaving external hair and not even ripping out hair. This is extreme, even if your entire culture says its normal-it isn't. This is a population localized fad of about 30 years that we already learned doesn't age well. I lost 5 years from my face in about 2 months due to pain. I panicked and considered it myself, but no amount of fake filler will give me my look back, only a crafted/fake look, especially 20 years from now when it spreads out to places that wi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 09:46 PM
8

Essentially they will make you feel as if you cannot be loved because they deny you the right to become who and how you want to be. Let's break that claim down into simple sentences, because each one is a lie. 1. Their opinion is what makes you unlovable-they make you feel. 2. You cannot be loved. 3. They have power to deny you rights. 4. You cannot become who or how you want. All lies. You seem to think unlovable is a thing and you must be it. What is actually true is that you will never be abl…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 11:46 PM
6

Apologies are a fantastic 1st step! I would be careful on a vague term like jealousy as a goal. Make sure it's manageable and aparent when you succeed the goal so you can celebrate your progress!! .Like when you have jealousy, observe kindly the person you're jealous of and identify why that emotion happened. Is it rational? Does the feeling of jealousy in the moment come from trauma or your past you can identify- is it a sore topic? Is it something you can achieve for yourself or just something…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 11:51 PM
54

First, you found the problem and wrote it down. Awesome! Second, noone can motivate you other than you and if you have no willpower...chances are thats why you still have traits that make you insecure. List the traits you wish you had, realistic ones that don't change your body structure or surgery or anything stupid, and then make a plan to resolve one at a time starting with the one that you despise the most. List physical, mental, emotional problems and try to resolve them all. Work on it lik…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 07:47 PM
1

Chubby hubby
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 07:37 PM
1

I dont have a future like that unless I hit oil trying to find water, and even then it would have to be on my own property
/r/RPChristians03/02/21 07:34 PM
4

Get your plan together
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 04:56 PM
4

What other job would you be able to pay back dr loans with? That's a couple hundred grand invested in even getting to that job they trained their whole life for.
/r/RPChristians03/02/21 04:54 PM
-3

YTA Calm down its just some dude on the internet. You don't even know if you like him yet. Crazy
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 01:30 AM
2

You dont have to list every evil or remember everything that goes against God. You can look at the 10 commandments to know what goes against God and is considered sin. But lying envy and hate is something we all have done. #1 is putting idols in the place of God. We all have need of salvation. But if you want a relationship with God, just tell him so in prayer. He will lead you in how to live. You dont have to know everything. My prayer was more like- i know ive messed up and im sorry, please fo…
/r/RPChristians31/01/21 05:26 PM
2

Everyone has a different idol they consider to be their god, like money or nature or women or just a false view of who God is. How do you define God now?
/r/RPChristians31/01/21 05:17 PM
2

Everyone will be judged in the end, and yes, we all have committed evil and have evil in our hearts and desires. The only difference is if you have ever honestly trusted God will forgive you of your evil and turned away from evil, towards God. Jesus can forgive because his sacrifice covered the debt of our evil. But it's not a given that you are forgiven unless you believe that, and want to change, and ask for God to save you from your own evil ways. Make that decision and accept the salvation b…
/r/RPChristians31/01/21 05:14 PM
11

Find a blind Christian woman
/r/RPChristians31/01/21 12:59 AM
7

Save it for when she aborts the kid anyway (with the money) and sue to get reimbursed for her lie. You are now in a verbal contract that is only valid if she keeps the baby. Actually, make her sign a contract for this child support money you offered. And, see if you can make a child-fund with it to prove she doesn't neglect your kid and spend it on herself and her 1st toddler only. She doesn't care if it lives and that won't change when its born. You're basically in divorce mode right now and ne…
/r/RPChristians30/01/21 03:52 PM
2

I am a woman. Just talk to her. If she's worth marrying you're going to have to trust her to be a half decent human being. If you cant tell if she's scum or not, you chose wrong.
/r/RPChristians28/01/21 01:28 AM
2

"Gaslighting" is when a person is lying to you and making you believe lies about yourself
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 07:35 AM
8

You could actually talk to your fiance or girlfriend about it.
/r/RPChristians27/01/21 07:21 AM
3

Its pretty good
/r/RPChristians27/01/21 07:19 AM
1

Use the hard head to stop accepting the flaws, and use the drive to fix it. Done.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:47 PM
2

I have mostly opi so that is the brand of base/top i use. Its optimized for their own brand, but you definitely don't need to brand-match to get a huge benefit from it. Some brands flake in large chunks, so find the ones that sand off or chip smaller pieces. Some colors aren't as good or you find a "bad bottle" of it. 🤷‍♀️ some other random stuff i learned: I have a peel off base from ünt (when you need glitter for a party but dont want to struggle) and a matte finish top from Essie that I found…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/21 08:35 PM
1

So its more a personality issue to you, if it is more of a risk if the person has good quality character. Without experience is still the greater preferred option overall, as long as it doesn't stem from those closed off qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 06:49 PM
15

No. A man will always be sad about your past, even if he is strong enough to carry that burden. Most guys hate finding out and will complain about it to others. Experience is more fun with the same person. Experience with one person doesn't mean you will be any better at it with someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 12:46 AM
5

Very responsible! I wish more people would think about the result of sex and not just the feelings. Making babies..makes babies. Its not complicated. And I agree too that having made a baby, by baby making, I couldn't just kill the human being just because it was convenient. Often you lose the ability to conceive later, and if you do, it haunts you that the first one never got to explore the world. It's crippling
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 12:18 AM
10

As you worked out below, it was not the op claim. But I too saw a repeat of a thousand rpw saying that a man is needed to complete them and they are more capable to be their best selves only in the shelter of a man. Not true. And likewise, I know a lot of women who stayed single longer and self-improved longer. The married-young group typically either grow together in hardship with their man OR give up self improvement completely and stagnate their own development because they "achieved" what th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 11:50 PM
18

Quality nail polish should last a week or more (bottom and top coat every time) and dont remove until it chips noticeable from a distance. Little flecks are gonna happen so that cuts out a lot of time. In clothing, I found flattering tops in flattering colors so there is no mix and match and try on and take off and decisions decisions. It's all one cohesive grab and go. Not really how you were feeling today? Better luck at the grab tomorrow. You look fine in all of it. Just get on with it. Gold …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:30 PM
5

Blocking out trauma is a huge get yourself to therapy moment. Please heal yourself first before jumping into relationships or old habits. The ex might not be as great as you remember when you get the healing you need. Sometimes pain is comfortable, and we will seek abusive people to feel "normal" but pain isn't normal.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 02:06 AM
7

That's actually a good way of setting standards and letting them vet themselves, as well as reassuring you are capable of meeting your own standards. So many guys bed 10 and then expect to marry a virgin. We see right through that.
/r/RPChristians20/01/21 01:49 AM
14

Woman here. You need to lift man, I got better stats in high-school. A kinda-virgin or not a full-virgin is talking about the backdoor and not the front door. Dont include kissing at all in virgin-ness. People kiss their parents and friends too. Learn what a virgin is. I know a ton of virgins who after 20 realized creepers target them and stopped advertising that feature. At best, if you ask a virgin directly, they think they're getting date raped if they say yes. Women don't go into dates telli…
/r/RPChristians19/01/21 08:46 PM
13

When you're comfortable and trust they're good enough and stable enough to be a parent, make babies. If you dont want to be a single parent, don't make babies. When you have sex too soon in a relationship, it can ruin 3 lives.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 11:47 PM
3

Thats not redpill, thats jealousy and anger, and viewing all interactions as some dominance game. Not every girl wants you in bed. Not every girl is using you. You can have friends who are girls. Just because you are aware of the terms doesn't mean they apply to all situations and relationships.
/r/RPChristians17/01/21 09:19 AM
9

Why not 6.134? It's not a math problem. It's a generational gap problem and a predator problem. And, specifically talking to a 19, a 24 isn't necessarily an issue, a 40+ is.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 08:02 PM
7

Wives, mothers, and hos hate me lol 😆 just cuz someone is married or birthed a human doesn't make them less jealous of a hot single with standards.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 05:24 PM
28

Naturally 3-5 years, never 20. Teens are girls too
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 01:23 AM
2

So I have 1 issue of men turning competitive against me when I expose my education or intellectual job. When everything else is feminine why is somehow being smarter some kind of kick switch to aggression?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 03:41 PM
5

I was just answering for "look" for like photos and stuff, yeah if their personality is childlike or immature that's going to scream teenager. I always think its best to improve your insides first, then the body, then the clothes. If you go out of order it definately becomes a mask or something you lose when you take it off.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 08:51 PM
3

Squats. Lunges. All leg exercises you can google. Cardio is not your friend. You can find tons of Thin to Fit transformations, but the main idea is EAT with lots of protein to fuel the muscle gains and workout as often as you recover from the previous workout until you like your look. Diversity in your training routines works much faster. Research bodybuilding basics because guys have already perfected this. Slim fit pants(esp leggings) and shorter skirts will expose too much. Fluffier bottoms w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 08:44 PM
30

Gaining some muscle tone and fitness curves (strength) in the rear/legs would help more than dressing with bows as someone suggested. Bows are not often mature. Womanly would mean more classy and less youth-trendy-seasonal clothing. Petite and childlike is not terrible. But getting rid of the teenager stick straight legs will help the most.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 04:27 PM
1

No I get the "intimidating" or "im not that smart" and then guys becoming competitors or frustrated jerks after confirming exactly what I put on my profile is true. Like im not hyping myself to catfish a better man. Ive tried to do the "weaker" approach and avoid my accomplishments but it comes up eventually. A lot of my friends are guys (now married) that try to set me up a couple times. I can keep male friends, who want me married to their friends. But I can't find my own.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 01:18 PM
1

I got a dog myself. Smartest dog ever and doesn't leave the seat up.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 05:09 AM
3

Woo congrats on the house! And the job! Maybe we should find some stray cats
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 04:58 AM
2

Oh no my pool is really smal 😂👩‍⚕️
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 03:52 AM
7

Do not test the spirits. When tempted, jesus did not jump from the roof assuming angels would catch him.
/r/RPChristians07/01/21 03:00 AM
3

I can't do shots or wear contacts. I black out. Not for any reason except a very annoying neural response.
/r/RPChristians07/01/21 02:57 AM
8

You already know you dont want it and its not good for you. Be the responsible adult and listen to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/21 03:25 AM
9

Old people are the best! They care, are smart, know how to keep friends. And second the pole dancing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 10:15 PM
5

Then why do all the guys have one blurry picture up their nose of being bored/disgusted in a oversized hoody like surprised reverse camera face
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/21 04:54 AM
2

NTA How is it ungrateful if its not a gift? How are you cheap if you didn't agree on the menu and weren't consulted beforehand? How does a person expect you to fund their lavish party and yet still feel like its providing a generous grand service if they're expecting payment for it... I like the other option. Eat before, bring your own wine, and Dont Touch a Thing! Edit: when it comes out to a round number like 50, you can guarantee he rounded up and you're paying for his share too.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 05:43 PM
2

Cool. It gives you more control over the outcome and is a more honest measure of a person. A good person is always a good person no matter how outwardly successful, but a jerk that loses everything is now just a broke jerk that could even be a handicapped jerk. I think that self-empowerment has to come from empowering the self to be self-sufficient and good with who you are on the inside no matter what you currently have stewardship over. Then nothing external can disrupt that power because it c…
/r/RPChristians26/12/20 05:22 PM
1

Cool! I just find those directions given to salon trainees on Google images..and my mom is a little demanding about the idea and very gracious at the attempt. Ive now gotten her into some midlength styles that are easier on me haha https://images.app.goo.gl/sSw93s7F5gCYPjxAA I wish I had curls! My brother has perfect 1" spirals and keeps it too short for them to form 😭 I just have waves and kinks that won't let it curl. I would look up "diva cut" if thats applicable, kind of working more with th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 04:56 PM
4

Money doesn't make you useful. Being useful and thoughtful does. Grow your self worth on intangible traits like dicipline because I guarantee life can and will take away everything that you earn and the only way you get back up when that happens is if those things didn't define you-job, car, tax bracket, house...what will define you are your choices and dedication when it all goes wrong.
/r/RPChristians26/12/20 07:23 AM
1

What do you mean by low maintenance?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 07:14 AM
5

I cut my own hair and that of close friends. I google charts and videos of professional styling and beauty-school methods. It's sooo easy any idiot can do it. And I've saved a luxury bag's worth of money over the years (i think it was in 2008) that I've not touched a salon, wedding styles included. It's just a $50 pair of quality sheers and being able to visualize instructions. I've been complimented more since I took over my own hair cutting, and people are never assuming I did it-theyre always…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 07:08 AM
1

It's more about growing up and old together. Finding the marriage balance before either of you are so set in your ways that it's difficult. Setting up a life with time to live it. Not that that means fast, but the "older" men once you hit 30 or 50 start being actually just cranky old men. They stop trusting women and are hard to tolerate in their bachelor pad lifestyle that you aren't going to break just because you fall for them. Looking to grow old together is way better than just being old to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 12:38 AM
1

The 3-5 is a good maturity gap standard. Too high, and they're the ones who never did mature and cant get a girl in their own age group and prey on young idiots who will accept their failure. But the 20s is a rough age..noone has really been weeded out yet. BUT while you can still nab the needle in a haystack mature guy your own age while he is still young and hot..dont overlook that opportunity! The % of mature guys doesn't improve with time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 08:19 PM
3

Same. youre stable and secure... it's the single curse. No massive flaws or desperate need for a man to fulfill the gaping hole in your life or spare you from your own stupidity. The rationale enough to not fall for dumb jerks or masks, and the understanding of your own value to wait so there remains no baggage. Expecting a reasonable man has done half the work you've put into yourself. Buckle in, its a long wait.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 03:03 AM
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Youre not married are you. Sounds very single man problems. A woman IN a relationship is the one doing 200% so she wants a 100% man before she throws away her entire life future and takes on a burden that will sink her if he's unreliable.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 08:32 PM
3

Looove this! The weight posts have been bugging me lately too. Its not about the numbers, any of them. Its about behavior and healthy behavior makes a healthy body.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 09:41 PM
14

Thankful you are recovered and doing well!
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 09:39 PM
1

They're crazy. That's awful. Glad you're okay now and didn't develop any bulimia because of them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 04:19 PM
1

A lot of people will applaud a sudden weight drop "you look great" to encourage you not to lose more "you dont even need a diet". "You're so skinny (already)". It's backwards but something i was only told once i recovered. People thought if they approved of how i looked i would STOP where i was or gain some back, not continue to seek even more approval and continue dying/dieting. People were scared for me, and still complimenting my problem hoping i would get better. People don't actually know h…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 07:10 AM
2

All people should be strong. Feminine is how you flaunt it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 07:03 AM
3

Im so glad you turned it around and are still here! It's such an easy thing to keep going further down that trail to death and never see it coming. Guys don't want to date a thin pile of sticks with no squishy bits. We're meant to have curves and softness! I only stopped by trading bones addictions to muscles, and now I've recovered my mind-so im not exorexic either ..not that I got that far. But it is a mental state. If you behave anorexic you are one, even before the "she looks ill" sets in. A…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 06:59 AM
3

Healthy is the only thing that matters! To them, and to us!
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 06:40 AM
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Bmi is a bad indicator if fitness. Im fit and most attractive when Very Fit. I was also my heaviest when I was most attractive and bmi was nearly "overweight" even though my waist was tiny tiny. Muscle weighs a LOT. I dropped 2pants sizes and at the same time gained 15lbs! Asking for a goal weight or bmi is dangerous as it is not an indicator of attraction at any normal size. Its just mass per length, which is quite pointless for analyzing curves. Also as someone who used to have an ED, the lust…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 06:55 PM
1

Well, now you're hot, so I don't see your future being ruined.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 05:24 PM
10

Only share when you're close to them and discussing marriage and the deepest stuff. Be engaged. You should be confident that they knew beforehand and still married you, not fearing the husband finding out.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 02:16 AM
2

This.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 01:50 AM
21

Guys look. Doesn't mean anything. If anything he's not a leader and cannot take charge enough to approach.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 09:34 PM
7

He doesn't even want (you) just a placeholder until he finds a new one, finds a flaw in that one, and tries you again in the future. You're never second choice or the backup plan to a half decent man. He's really childish and scummy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 06:58 PM
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Sounds like he's used to getting everyone he wants, when he wants them, and not when he doesn't want them. Ex for a reason. Dont catch a rebounding rebound off his old rebound as his re-rebound. Let him keep on bouncing so you don't catch all their diseases.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 06:50 PM
1

Please understand that you can't stop a suicide. If he thinks that way it will always be something you might come home to no matter how happy or successful or better they seem. I've seen it. If a man says they dont deserve you, trust their judgment on that fact before you trust them with your entire life.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 04:22 AM
2

By 30 you will physically hurt for marriage due to hormones, but if you cannot make yourself happy, you won't find happiness in a man either. Relationships are stressful. You have to be 100% of you, and they have to be 100% of them. A relationship takes 200% to function and some days you have to be all of yours and some of theirs too. Its hard. You just hope they're strong enough to pick up your slack on your bad days in return. After 30 your hormones lay off and ease up. You will survive the hu…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 04:01 AM
15

I have met 3 who were so insecure they became evil. 2 were single strong-feminist professors that looked the masculine part and competed with students who were perpetually 18, while they watched themselves age. Yikes. 1 was a very feminine woman who had a husband already and no reason to be jealous. She was much worse, but didn't have power over my grades. Was just an acquaintance. They're just insecure catty idiots. There is nothing you can do but cut them off.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 03:48 AM
5

There is a r/rpchristians Dont use the normal rp those aren't the standards Christian women are looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 07:33 PM
1

Is that the point of the passage? Rebel against bad government laws? It is that none of the men who accused her were perfect either. Academics brings richer meaning, but you don't need to be an astronaut physicist to enjoy and comprehend the sun and moon. You do not have to start reading only after a lifetime of original language and middle eastern studies. You build that knowledge after understanding what you read. We do not avoid teaching kids the basics just because they can't yet comprehend …
/r/RPChristians04/12/20 05:23 AM
1

Huge set up. Left it to be found.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:35 AM
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It's cringy he is using trust God as a reason, when God tells us to marry. Especially if you cant keep your hands off eachother, assuming you are Christian. He is using the authority argument and using obedience to God as a weapon against you so you will submit to the bf's desires even when his desires do not align with what God would be telling you. That is redflag manipulative. He is putting his intentions on the same level as God's commands, demanding respect for his decision making even thou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:33 AM
0

Academics are the ones blowing it out of proportion like its impossible to know. It is written in simple terms from the perspective of the poor and farming life. The metaphors are only hard if you have an easy life and cannot relate to planting season and harvest time. People who suffer understand it more than we do.
/r/RPChristians04/12/20 04:21 AM
3

Sounds like a troll to me
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:10 AM
1

Thats the most entitled thing I've read in a while... Nieve is a good word. Was waiting on the /s but no I think you will find that hope doesn't fulfill itself. The universe doesn't protect you from yourself or care about your happiness or life. Things don't happen without a cause, and just thinking positive and wishing will let you down. Any success you have with manifestation is based on confirmation bias and lack of experience that doesn't luck your desires. Privilege goes a long way to confi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 07:38 PM
1

There really isn't. Most people are not compatible and not all the world's people fit together in perfect pairs. I really hate the "I bettered myself so the universe gave me the perfect man....you should work on yourself" Like, no... you didn't earn him and it's not because im not good enough. They certainly aren't. Ive found the faster you get married the less mature the couple and the more challenged and likely to fail.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 07:24 PM
2

Has anyone told you this directly is because of your weight specifically or are you self victimizing? I don't see this as a size issue. Thin friends tend to Want to bring a chubbybuddy along if for no other vain reason than to appear above the "lower" average of the group as you said, so if that were true-then you arent competition and would be invited. I cant imagine this is a thin-only group unless they're all 18 and going clubbing and dont think you can physically keep up...you'd still get in…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 05:44 AM
3

All feet look weird. That's how feet are. Hands are subjective but some nice jewelry or polish is the equalizer. If they don't stop your lifestyle and aren't causing pain...it's a good body and you should enjoy it while it lasts before joint pain sets in and not criticise it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 04:04 PM
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No. And it's a cliché as insulting as "a man will appear when you are good enough for him" and a thousand other messages given to singles. That's not how life works. Yes, when you are relaxed and yourself and not uptight and desperate you attract better attention. But it's not some kind of thing that just happens to you. You didn't find the big secret. It is not helpful or useful. "Stop looking" or "give up" is really terrible advice.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 03:33 PM
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Outdated morals?!? What is actually outdated is the oldest profession which women have worked tooth and nail to NOT be seen as a B for Fn. Modern men cant win over a strong independent woman who know their own worth so the easiest way to get laid is to just convince them to roll over and get F'd. Why? Its psychologically harmful. It's physically harmful. It's sexually harmful. It's reproductivly harmful. It's not a career that can sustain you long term. We've learned not to do that to ourselves …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:57 PM
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It's your business where you are from, but as we've discovered, men from a lot of vague countries and regions suck. Haha Find one you like! Whatever that is! Foreign is fine. There should be foreign dating pages but im not sure a good quality man would use them either..idk But i spent years telling everyone i would not share my preferences and scared that i was not actually attracted to men! Turns out my family was so toxic that i don't like men of my own race/region, and university reinforced t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 10:30 PM
14

I tried once and got stubble and felt so masculine. Took forever for that to be replaced by soft fuzz again
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 10:16 PM
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Troll? Edit, no actually a really young teen with a lot of strage post history. Hi. You are fine as you are. You don't have to hide in a burka or anything. Watch what the other girls your young age group wear and then choose nice looking outfits. The rule of thumb is only show 1 third of you at a time. Only your arms out with long pants. Only your legs out with long sleeves. Half of both = short sleeves and medium shorts. Find shorts that are bermudas or the legs at least as long as your hand. N…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 06:11 AM
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A month and a half. Just dont move in till the wedding or you've become the ringless fake wife thats trapped being everything for a do-nothing bf. The dating should leave the house and find out who he is before you get fiance level attached. You went straight to the bedroom, cant really go out because he's broke, and he wont attend to you either direction. He has not yet worked for it, or proven who he is in actions, and while that doesn't bother some people, to my knowledge thats what makes it …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 08:14 PM
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Sounds like hes getting it for free and never without drinking involved
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 07:58 PM
3

NO.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 05:21 PM
2

Its not about the arrangement, but the guy. Id love an arranged marriage with the perfect guy. I would despise the thought of freely chosen marriage with any other incorrect guy. Marry Him is about not setting impossible standards, noone is going to be everything, but not removing all standards out of fear of failure either. It doesn't sound like your ready, at least for this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 08:38 PM
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I dont think i understand the culture. Is it arranged? Are you confident in your own ability to live or desperate for a supporter spouse? Not every guy is the last chance. The possibilities of what you deserve and want is the goal, not just what happens to wonder by. Im just concerned that the ex said you were the only one talking to him. That showed no care for you and a lonely man seeking someone who wont reject him. What you want is a loving man who is seeking someone to love among all the wo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 04:45 AM
24

Dont mock autism.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 12:00 AM
10

Be good at paying bills on time and general life maintainence skills. Be friendly enough to handle making friends constantly to fill the spots of the ones who marry off and drop you. Be a better person. But that goes for married life too.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 05:17 PM
4

Every skin has a red that works wonders. Find the perfect red for you! It's a classic beautiful color
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 05:22 PM
2

From my brother's perspective, a cold cut is the only thing that is the healthy choice. A "never" and followed through on it. Because if they won you over once enough to date, then with time they know they can wear you down and convince you back into it. Maybe the time was bad, but you will change your mind if they change enough or outlast the other guys who come and go. We can always have male friends, but if you cross that line, you have to be extreme about the end. You must lose the friend. T…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 05:01 AM
4

Just be straightforward. You aren't what im looking for. We dont have the chemistry i expected. Im not interested. Then ghost. stop being concerned with someone who doesn't matter. Their opinion doesn't matter. You dont even want them. Dont stand there and hold the door open for criticism and negotiations. Just walk. You don't owe them anything You cannot be a friend with an ex unless both of you are mutually over it. Ive heard feom a million guys that if a guy is interested or has won you over …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 03:32 AM
4

What if someone doesn't get tingles like a standard assumed thing people do. Many dont. What then?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 04:41 AM
0

Thats a bit absolutist about my opinion. Its just an opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:43 PM
6

The Internet is noncommittal and hes testing the waters. We just have a word for it. Ive heard it straight from guys offline that they do this just because. To fill time. Because it doesn't mean anything. To make them feel better. Because their girl isn't what they want and to put a foot put the door before they jump ship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:30 PM
5

Just buy real clothes in your new size. That way you can feel nice before you get down (if ever) to your old size.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:27 PM
-2

He's practicing his game, not actually interested
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:24 PM
2

Am woman. Truth doesn't care about your feelings. You have to ask these questions. A "practicing" Christian is a devout agnostic going through social requirements and a pew warmer. A real Christian is known by their fruit and character. Lip service won't heal your soul. If you think its a hat you can choose to wear sometimes, is convenient, or any religion is swappable or equal...you don't know who or what God is yet. It's not about moldability of pretenders. It was an honest question for the in…
/r/RPChristians15/11/20 10:23 PM
5

Before i had surgery i was the gym rat that was too scary to approach because i clearly worked out. Even though I didn't expect the same. Noone even asked. It was just assumed i wanted a bodybuilder too. Im just above average-guy height so I scare a lot of insecure guys who aren't even short.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 10:12 PM
1

Ive given up on being treated like a woman. The closest i get to attraction, is the assumption i get around 🙄 Being one of the guys is all i have. And a hornone-attack broke that exterior. Id been fighting with the manager all week over dumb stuff so i just exploded in tears at my desk and accused him of taking shots at my work ethic when it was bad humor that i usually roll with like a proper guy. We all joke. Its always dumb and harmless. I had one of those pms all the world hates me days and …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 10:08 PM
3

His fantasy is digging up yours. If you tell him he will make sure it happens so its what you want and "cant say no". If you are not willing to do that for him, don't talk about it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 06:38 PM
8

Ive always been one of the guys. It's fine. Then i had a breakdown at work where i was overstressed and irrational which i checked immediately and made sure i hadn't caused any problems, but it was too late. Im now the 3rd gender of a dude they cant respect and noone is nice to because im not a 5'2" chipmonk child. I don't think i can gain it back. I just want to be treated like everyone else. Being treated like a guy is infinitely better than this limbo crap.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 06:35 PM
16

Hang out on this sub and apply the hard truths
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 04:12 PM
11

Now attends church converted because they wanted you or heart-to-God converted because they acknowledged their need for God
/r/RPChristians14/11/20 08:51 PM
5

If Single is your goal or future learn how to BE a friend. People who can be a friend always have someone to talk to. Think of it as passing time not alone because most people don't know how to be a real friend back. You find one of those, and you won't need to marry. Its a game of odds. Only downside is you run out of time for other singles. Otherwise in the next 8 years All of your friends will sequentially marry off, become baby obsessed, go on a power trip because kids actually listen to the…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 03:48 PM
10

Advice without listening is blind and unhelpful. "They have no idea what they are talking about."
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 03:27 PM
1

I try to pull guys to my half of town or at least the middle ground. If they're not willing to drive or rude enough to demand gas money for having to leave their bubble..PASS. If they know the staff as a paying regular, fine. I got a "break up with him" look from the waiter once, so it actually helped me out!!!!!! Being a trophy is the least of my problems, that would be an obviously irritating but benign PASS and I could maintain polite for an hour. Try to think of places or situations that you…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 05:55 AM
2

First dates should be free /coffee some kind of neutral meetup with no financial obligation. I've hiked, coffee/donuts/icecream, people watched at community music events, festival type walkabouts. Skype or zoom at this point! I would not meet alone in the woods/trail. Go for anything expensive/not pay my way. And never alone or private. No house calls. No ambushes. No restaurants where the guy is a regular or knows the staff. I also don't give personally trackable information like a phone number…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 10:18 PM
1

Hanging out at the mall and walking is a date for a teenager. Expect actual places to go when you graduate. Doesn't mean a hike isn't a great idea a couple times over the years, but the parkbench warmer isn't a high quality partner.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 07:19 PM
11

I had profesors who were outgoing, but true women. Being refined and reserved isnt silent and stunted and restrained. It's knowing when to speak vs listen. Knowing how to allow others space to flourish and not engulfing the room with your voice or opinion at all hours. It's more love and less attitude. Your presence people can feel, especially introverts can feel the subtle shifts in your mood even. If you ask "how was your day" and check out during their answer...we know, even if you're smiling…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 02:32 PM
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Do you think women should be removed from their jobs so as to not tempt and run away with their coworkers? If you said no, then why aren't women allowed to have friends they aren't attracted to? If he maintains coworker relationships he can maintain other types of relationships with boundaries. Women aren't stupid and men aren't animals. Not everyone wants your boyfriend and not everyone wants to have sex with everyone that breathes. You need to address the insecurities inside you rather than po…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 06:17 AM
9

Gaslighting is not a future you want, especially when you're prone to doing it to yourself...you've already been trained to accept blame and neglect
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 07:52 PM
4

I may be one of the few who think that way. How did you get anyone to respond? And what guy would persue a relationship knowing marriage may possibly be sexless or less than they want?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 07:48 PM
5

Not a good idea
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 02:09 PM
2

Well thats comforting
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 04:40 PM
5

Child porn isn't allowed in this house
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 03:44 AM
11

Rebounds dont stick to anything.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 04:39 AM
2

Made fun of my (impossibility in the future) wedding colors, season, and dress shape preferences, because she "would do it differently". She already had a wedding. She doesn't get to be bridezilla again in place of all her friend's too and plan out our lives. Hers is a mess so im assuming it's just reaching out for control, but if you cant sort yourself out your advice is vain. If i do get married i cannot even invite her because i can already hear the comments and loud sighs of disgust and cond…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 04:36 AM
1

Understanding how people work doesn't have anything to do with which one you like.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 08:39 PM
13

I have a friend who is a nag. Literally will tell me i should wear flats, so i do, and tells me i should wear heels. Will tell me to straighten my hair, i do, then tell me i should leave it naturally wavy. Every move i make is wrong. Every time I take her own advice, she doesn't like the result. She is a nag. We are no longer friends. Nothing she criticized had any importance. But she was endlessly telling me what was on her mind. She was incredibly judgemental and catty inside. It wasn't that i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 04:21 PM
8

You can never change a man, or their potential. And you cannot date their perceived potential or the pedestal you put them on. You can only date they guy they currently are. And im glad you see this one was no good.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 10:52 PM
2

Im sure it has more to do with the professional side who really made it their lifestyle to profit by deception. It seems to correlate with some real mental issues. Knowing your audience is key. If you're concerned about them, you're not the a horrible person haha
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 12:36 PM
4

It might speak to how crazy the girl's inlaws might be, but men are directly judged because you never know how much mom is still taking care of a grown boy at home
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 01:44 AM
2

No, but.. Ive always had a special hatred for magicians as they abuse the trust of children and then call the victim a fool for being deceived. If you play for adults, you are fine. They're old enough to grasp it's a trick. You should know your audience. You might be learning social skills, but you can crush a child/teen's budding social skills. It's not evil, but i dont know many magicians who dont live by "i fool you-youre the fool. I can't fool you-youre a no fun jerk." I run into a lot of ma…
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 12:15 AM
2

"Is there something in all of us that wants to sin?" -OP The sin nature wants to sin. Free will allows us to choose and be responsible for our choices. If we remove the chains of sin, free will is easier to align with God's will. I was going after the root of the problem rather than the symptoms of giving in to a specific kind of temptation.
/r/RPChristians11/10/20 02:27 AM
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At the first sin, in the garden, sin entered the world and we are all fallen and are born with a sin nature. When we are saved by grace through faith, God gives us a renewed heart/clean soul and we cease to be driven by sin- we are still tempted though. We still fail temptation and sin against God. All types: pride, anger, lying, doing things we know we ought not and refusing to do good we know we ought to do! We are not in heaven yet-so close to God that sin is unthinkable, but it's good you ar…
/r/RPChristians10/10/20 03:38 AM
0

Prioritize what is in front of you, not on a phone. A text is not a phonecall ..more like short form email. They can sit. Read it, but dont respond for at least an appropriate time. 2min-hours even next day depending on their urgency. Rank your tasks.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/20 04:03 AM
1

Cravings are super helpful. If you want cheese you probably need the calcium. No one however needs every desire met as if it is a relationship-proving game at 3am to send the guy out for cake. Thats total nonsense on all levels. This might be the last time they get to be irresponsible, but 90% take it too far.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 12:43 PM
8

Thank you. I see so many young girls just become totally immature the moment they become pregnant. That baby doesn't weigh 80lbs and the self-hate they have for their "pregnant whale" body isnt going to bounce back when they suddenly have no time for selfcare. I get the "pamper me, im growing an entire human" phase is natural, but dont go all shreck-swamp-princess about it and then complain about those decisions for 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 01:18 AM
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The young ones are very accepting of your flaws. Typically big softys. However, the ex name tattoo/LV/gang stuff is not a good sign. What they choose means more than if they have them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 02:18 AM
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Don't alter your body, get clothes that fit your body. Don't dress the fashions, dress your shape. You don't have to wear form fitting clothes to look great, and sizing your chest and letting the clothes drape over your hidden waist reproportions you to be more average more "respectable" since that is your fear. Don't be afraid to size up. And no tight fitting pants. If you dress for show, it shows. Then again, "modest" necklines backfire on shirt-busting chest sizes, find the balance. Dont dres…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 03:49 PM
1

Thanks for the other tag, i don't get directly tagged unless it's off my original comment. See, this makes more sense. Competition and exclusivity upon commitment. That really would motivate a guy.. knowing they don't own you over a coffee meetup. It's just a conversation and they have to try. I get a lot of duds thinking i agreed to meet therefore I belong to them and must be in love with their mere existence. Eyeroll. I guess i kind of do actually date this way but none have ever overlapped an…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 06:26 PM
1

What was the benefit of seeing them during the same period of time that you could not obtain by seeing them sequentially?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 08:01 PM
10

American and also confused. I guess it comes from a loose set of values and covering all the bases, but anyone i would date would not be in a relationship aready,
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:34 AM
4

Why is this a dichotomy?
/r/RPChristians26/09/20 11:48 PM
7

You're fine. Noone really 'gets it' unless you go through it, and noone should have to. Enjoy every mobility you have and use every muscle you want to still use when you're old. You're a long way from old. Best quote i found was: "No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable. Socrates " It helped me to read some replies and feel less alone. All grief is valid. All …
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 11:45 PM
5

Following. I had a traumatic major surgery and lost 5 years when i found a mirror two months later. I don't know what to do about these feelings of waking up significantly older with my first permanent "wrinkles" the creases of intense pain
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 06:57 PM
21

He's only a cheater if he gets caught too. Second family who?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 11:06 PM
-2

You can if you think with your brain
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 01:11 PM
1

It was a process for sure. I saw the intermediate/advanced class during my intro class and swore those people were nuts and i would never do anything that hard. I was just here for fun! I had no interest in stunts. 1 year in, i learned my first "advanced" skill and saw the same look of horror on the new people waiting on their first class to start. And I'd realized I'd become the nut doing the hard stuff and maybe it didn't look as awkward as it felt. They ease you into it, and you get addicted.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 06:17 PM
2

Do it! Way more fun! I came from kiddy soccer so i was still out of shape, just athleticly shaped and coordinated. Makes a big difference when your trying to figure out which foot is left and how to move it "up" when your flipped over or spinning. Lol I am naturally eating healthy choices, but i did eat a lot more to keep up with the muscle gains or id feel like crap at work. I got smaller and fitter but i gained 20lbs of muscle above my starting weight and had to get new pants to fit my new rea…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 03:58 PM
2

I was athletic person originally which is why i jumped into lyra easily and silks, but i was toned and more importantly impressing myself with skills in 6 months. You have to be prepared to gain muscle mass and earn some rounded shoulders and can feel masculine when your arms are no longer noodles but have curves...but i also grew a butt that doesn't run in my family so...everything balances out femininely too. I was not swinging in a yoga hammock I was doing the circus stuff like retired gymnas…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 01:15 PM
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Ive done some of these aerialist stuff and people tend to panic when they find out (assume horrible things) and figure out ways to intentionally tell or show people you haven't told just so they can gossip and put you down as something you are not. Even family. If you can show them it's PG and fitness, they back off, but don't go spreading it around because 10 years out people i haven't talked to still only remember me for it. Though I have convinced more people than i ever imagined to join me, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 01:09 AM
1

Hypocrisy: "the practice of engaging in the same behavior or activity for which one criticizes another. In moral psychology, it is the failure to follow one's own expressed moral rules and principles. " This is moral hypocrisy. both of our examples are the same.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 04:06 PM
0

Did you even read my comment?
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 03:19 AM
2

Misreading isn't helpful. I was explaining the other comment, so go yell at them instead if you don't like their opinion. I said no such things.and Im not shaming anyone for their modifications. Since you both struggle with examples I have a direct one that it to the point we are making here, and not your wild exagerations to the crazy land of tolling. Here is a real example: Girl hates her nose. She has the same shape nose as her mom's nose. Mom says girl should love her natural self. Girl feel…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 03:18 AM
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Edit: this had not been any criticism. My braces and surgery went over 10 grand and many many years to fix real issues. Surgery for fun and such things when not required for health is such a first world problem that it makes me wonder how people consider it to be some standard they must do in order to have any chance in life. Its sickening. Confidence is better than looks. No matter how pretty you are, the insecurities will make you ugly. Need braces? Get braces. I even said to do it if you can.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 10:44 PM
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Because if you tell a kid to love their natural self, but change your own face, that is hypocritical. If you tell them to do something and dont do it yourself it is a bad example. "Do as i say and not as i do" is hypocrite parenting.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 10:29 PM
0

They can regrow back to original size, that can be a side effect
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 10:24 PM
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Anything beyond the normal skincare is high maintenance. If you have to have someone do it for you, it counts.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 10:23 PM
1

Were they wife material "chicks" dating a self proclaimed hoe?
/r/RPChristians14/09/20 04:45 AM
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Lots of good advice here. Ive seen couples in their 40s, 50s, both never been married, find eachother "late" and be perfect fits BECAUSE they learned how to live independently and work together with a spouse for a common good and not play games. Two complete people united. Not two broken people trying to hurt or prove things against eachother. I second the fact that men highly value virgins, and not one man will say he wishes she had slept with more men first. But also it is hard watching all th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 04:28 PM
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Exact opposite. Your type cant be anything with a pulse. Thats what desperate is. Noone wants to be 5th choice in a small group of women who already rejected the guy. At that point you're just the last option not what he wanted, or settled for, or settled again for, or guesses he might as well ask, but bottom tier.
/r/RPChristians13/09/20 04:03 PM
1

This. I want to know where i can find that guy.
/r/RPChristians12/09/20 05:23 PM
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Same with "your (degree/looks/confidence) is intimidating" during dating. They know something you dont, and for now theyre warning you to run because they already know you deserve better than they will treat you
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 01:58 AM
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Thank you. This. He's more concerned about the other man than if she'd even want him with that attitude.
/r/RPChristians09/09/20 04:46 AM
2

No
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 08:21 PM
7

Trust yourself more, date the guys you're attracted to, and be the kind that is worthy of that trust. There are known issues with having sexual exes so sparing yourself that pain is wise.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 04:32 PM
1

If you're looking for an excuse to slack off, there's your sign.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 11:29 PM
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Sounds like those virginity rings everywhere 20 years ago. It is only going to keep away the nice guys who could be better options. You're still going to get looks. And it's only a commitment on your side, isn't it... guys don't stick with these promise rings long. It is just to label YOU as taken so he has no reason to commit. And yes, it does feel good to think you are, but it limits your chances and he will feel ownership without effort. Safe from competition, without providing anything to yo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 05:02 AM
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I did a 4-8am "night" nap and 1-5pm day nap for a year straight when i was exceedingly depressed and it made me feel so productive and rested! I used my tiny double days to do "enjoyable" busy things knowing i was never far from another nap. It was not healthy but i was awake when working family was home and noone really knew... It is comfortable but so is sunshine and a regular schedule. Use the upcoming daylight savings time when everyone is cranky about messing up their sleep schedule and swi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 04:50 AM
3

Full cover on full chests doesn't do the same for us. It just looks like you might bust a shirt. Turtle necks are the worst offenders. Midrise is the only solution
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 04:25 PM
4

Have the confidence of a queen without the attitude of a princess 👸
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 10:22 PM
2

Best advice i got was that i don't have to be attracted to me, someone else will be. Do your best and you will be your best.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 10:21 PM
4

You serving papers while he's away is the safest. You may feel safe, but he already thinks he owns you. Once that dominant feeling is shattered he might try to hurt you or property/animals. You did not believe he was cheating until you saw it and im glad you believe your own eyes. Dont give him the chance to do harm. Protect yourself in every way possible.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/20 03:03 AM
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Dont pretend to be the "right" woman. Be yourself. Because just like any dating, whatever you bend or twist to make sound better/feminine will come out as an endless argument in marriage that they didn't sign up for. You can't uphold being someone else forever and are trusting them to be honest with what they also want and who they are. I think arrangements cut through a lot of garbage and the limbo of "meeting expectations" slowly falling apart from dating. Don't try to force or sway him to pic…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 03:02 PM
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Your problem is not the girl, it's your bf and he is not good for you
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 02:53 PM
2

Super simple and a basic skill to know
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 10:50 PM
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There is a threshold where they become really bitter again if they think you out-fem them. Its exhausting finding a balance between what people like and accept vs will be savage for the same reason.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 12:39 AM
5

Not once youre out of school
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 03:28 AM
1

Asics are feminine
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 03:26 AM
0

So the whole "better to have loved and lost" thing is just people trying to feel better about bad decisions?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 11:12 PM
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If you dont want to be a hookup buddy dont let yourself become one.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 10:42 PM
2

Deep dive into that research! Its going to hurt a little. But make lists of what you find and remember that is not you. It's him, and what he taught you to respond like. You have perfectly rational reactions inside, but were trained to overreact to certain cues. Anyone who lives with a narcissist does...it.is.survival. for us, and you can heal. Here is a comedic introduction that is exceptional and accurate to how they think. If that sounds like your entire childhood, there are solutions to undo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 01:53 AM
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Narcissist parents have that effect on everyone else. They teach us to walk on eggshells and then can blame us for not noticing the slight changes in their tone. I wish i had that advice sooner! But i disowned my parent before i knew how to live alongside them, still, would never go back. If you suffer extreme anxiety disorders, that is also a symptom of narcissist parenting.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 01:38 AM
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Worse than single?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 04:16 AM
1

Very much this
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 04:15 AM
1

A good perspective
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 04:08 PM
14

Yeah, this guy made me so mad. It's his own sperm
/r/RPChristians18/08/20 03:05 AM
6

Goodwill
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:03 AM
5

When you're 53, hes 67. Think about that
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:55 PM
18

Yeah seems like she's only talking to him because he's taken like that other post and neither one should be involved here
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 02:51 PM
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When someone needs scolding, do it. Being feminine is not being a doormat or a punching bag. They're crossing so many lines im angry for it. Trying to look feminine while you take abuse won't make them stop or learn. That is not the time to be concerned about appearances. Being submissive to dangerous people will cause them to hurt you more because they can. That's a human thing regardless of race. Evil people will act more evil the more you submit. Good people will correct others. Quality peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 05:15 AM
8

Never heard that. Wouldn't that be the solution
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 10:36 PM
8

Rash young bitter women who feel inadequate unfeminine and ashamed of their own bodies and questionable parenting decisions and trying to take you down with them. X1000 The hormones are no joke and the whole world is telling you you're doing it wrong on top of there being such a wide variety of correct thats so individual that tricks from your first wont help at all with your second! I even caught myself giving advice once but they were already doing that so i then thought for the first time the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 03:28 AM
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You haven't heard anything until you see how petty mom shaming is. You clearly dont care at all for the health and safety of your baby because blah blah blah and if you do you're evil and if you dont how dare you be so ignorant when a little life is at stake you monster Aka every person you talk to as a new mom.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 03:05 AM
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Yeah, i dont see where that was going but it sounds unhealthy. The others ive heard. I see a lot of people mix the two especially if youve seen bad leadership inaction and brutality. A lot of bad apples claim to be dominant when they mean violent to dress it up and sound less wifebeatery. But dominance can be rock steady security and strength in leadership and listening and being a fair judge and it can be in full benefit of the submissive one. It doesn't mean purely forcing your own way but bei…
/r/RPChristians13/08/20 02:56 AM
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Learn your own hair and let it do what it wants to, only better. If you have curls but you fight against them you'll lose every time and spend 4x as long to look half as good as if you help them be awesome curls. Extrapolate that to your own hair type/color/style.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 11:55 PM
1

What is tears vs dominance
/r/RPChristians12/08/20 11:49 PM
1

Good insight. Hadn't related it to how we relate but intellectually. The long comment below was me too working out the logic.
/r/RPChristians12/08/20 09:36 PM
1

Not about feeling special. I meant a rare sight
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 08:44 PM
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Don't do it. It's safer these days but almost more special* not to Edit*Rare. More rare. Bexause most people have them at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 04:09 AM
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Where you talk about exposing oneself, you are talking about a dynamic of threatening and then him becoming embarrassed they didnt spook. Emotions are on an equal playing field not an assault/predator event. Totally different environment from a dark street, but it's not ever going to be the case-ever- that a woman would lust an assailant/predator in the first scenario. Ever. Which I guess was your point. But it got lost. And oversharing our entire lives for likes is a super common way of life fo…
/r/RPChristians10/08/20 06:52 AM
1

False equivocation. No idea how you jumed that gap
/r/RPChristians10/08/20 05:13 AM
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I'm the same. I've always been nice as possible. It backfired and I've been targeted too. I cant even say I disagree with something without being reported to the manager for being mean, because I was such a pushover even normally rocky conversations not in 100% agreement were seen as having an attitude. It got to the point in my yearly review I was criticized for being too nice to one person (who is friendly to me) while being nice but not equally nice to someone that had been lying to my face a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 04:45 AM
4

That is a good reason. The more you discard the abuse and take it and smile the more you're saying to them that it's ok to treat you like that. You said you idolized them. Bullies feed on kicking people who are down or whoever they can, especially since you put them mentally in a place of power to do so. Some people are just evil. You cannot expect them to act as you would if you were them. They like being mean. They wont change.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 02:06 AM
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That is a good reason. The more you discard the abuse and take it and smile the more you're saying to them that it's ok to treat you like that. You said you idolized them. Bullies feed on kicking people who are down or whoever they can, especially since you put them mentally in a place of power to do so. Some people are just evil. You cannot expect them to act as you would if you were them. They like being mean. They wont change.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 02:06 AM
2

Work. On. You. Alone.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 08:39 PM
5

This is what the marriage will look like. Do you want it like this forever?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 12:18 AM
2

Never give up thinking. Many do.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 02:37 AM
2

Np. 😄 It's a small cult of thought that's been gaining traction recently. Always question what you choose to believe, or things that seemed normal, because a lot of things being passed off and taught as societal and moral standards are radical movements and dangerous.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 06:49 AM
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Womens rights is often mistaken for either bp feminism or pure hatred of all things masculine or male. So to even have male friends is a disgtace and betrayal of the female gender. Its telling of the ignorance and academia /social circles they come from.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 08:42 PM
3

Might need to define femininity for yourself first. because all I caught on from that was that you've got to be unstable and needy to qualify as a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 12:41 AM
2

The most important relationship you will have is with God. I suggest online modern Christian philosophers like Frank Turek who runs CrossExamined.org and has youtube clips to watch on just about everything. Very entertaining, deep, and you will find him very honest. Persue a book called "The Case For Christ" as well written by Stroble a detective who wanted to disprove god and only found evidence. You have listened to all the other philosophers and they follow, as you have discovered, things ver…
/r/RPChristians31/07/20 07:52 AM
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Be glad you didnt marry the garbage, and end up still crying after 15 years. You can restart at every age but right now you gotta get your own life sorted. It doesn't matter what trash he moved on with because you already vetoed him because he wasn't right for YOU. It wasn't that you were not good enough. He wasn't.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 03:27 AM
0

Read more posts on here of people who have gone that route.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 01:08 AM
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Until you know you have the right choice. And equally are his right choice. Any sooner and you'll get a nasty surprise even if it is on some magic timeline
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 10:49 PM
1

If you're talking "manifestation" garbage, it's making bets with evil. If you're looking for the wide path, you know where it leads.
/r/RPChristians29/07/20 05:23 AM
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Seriously it would be the same post if you just left it at "I'm 28". That's just how 28 feels. All the above. Relax. Be glad you aren't in custody battles with the ex and you get to start from exactly where you are right now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 06:37 PM
6

It's very very different from redpill (for men)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:47 AM
0

I think it was purely because he ducked out at the most scummy moment and is horrified you think he scammed you. I make sure the 1st internet based "date" is a meeting of equals in public before going on an actual date where I would expect him to pay. But I've got issues with guys not understanding the difference between buying a meal and buying a person. I worry about the appearance of a possessive man buying ME as a date. "I bought you food therefore you need to..." kind of garbage. Especially…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/20 07:26 PM
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You're not a child size idiot, and hes not a pedo for wanting a tiny doll. They're being stupid. He is still taller than you so unless he dumps you and says your too short is the reason stop caring what others think.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 03:56 PM
1

How did you manage the age gap?. I'd like a younger-than-myself man but even the older ones are less mature
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/20 03:18 AM
2

Dont be in a hurry to marry. Vet the guys really well. You're chosing the person you want to have 20,000 dinners with and be the closest person you'll end up arguing with the most often. How you and him communicate together and independently is important to get past life's guaranteed hard times. After the first round of marriages of the most need-to-be-married group at 18-20 ( dont be them, they rarely chose well. Most are just doing what is next but not what they want) there is a group that kno…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 02:53 AM
1

I dont understand the lust thing people talk about. It's not due to the spectrum. We're all experiencing the world differently.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 04:32 AM
1

My sisters bachelorette party was a huge regret. Don't worry it can be worse and more drama if you do go than if you dont. Not going because of the reason you are married is unbelievable and unacceptable. I have a feeling you got married quickly among your friend group. Some people watch every friend they have marry and when they finally get to celebrate their own...noone show up? Hurtful. I'm not saying go. But check your reasons so you don't sound like a jerk
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 04:27 AM
6

You can't undo salvation. We're bought with a price that can't be returned. If she quits christianity or is in a newly popular post-christ phase, she was following the herd and hasn't known god if she's still looking for god. Do not have kids. She left you already. You may go in peace. It is better to be alone than to live with a quarreling woman. Please vet better candidates in future.
/r/RPChristians08/07/20 04:16 AM
3

Actions speak louder than words
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 03:32 AM
3

Does he care at all or are you ok with less than low effort
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 03:05 PM
2

Dont question the vision? Some people need glasses
/r/RPChristians06/07/20 11:09 PM
3

Mega cringe
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 10:19 PM
1

Thanks haha It just is so obvious that he plans to make her insecure and possibly jealous of his Other plates to keep them all spinning and putting out
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 05:12 PM
14

Nooooooooooooooooo Edit: run. Block. Avoid. He's pressuring you and in the long game because he knows you've never given a hard no or set solid boundaries. A "not this month" answer is not a no. He is not an option. He will happen to have a friend over for your date night and oopsie a threesom youcantsaynoto becauseyouhavenospine happens... You need some nun mode. You aren't seeing straight. No man trying to bed you in his rotation is going to give you confidence. He'll string you along with his…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 01:50 AM
1

The ponderings of farmers in the British countryside, the uneducated, are university level readings only taught in seminary because they know God and were picking the details out aome centuries ago. That should be the laymans level of understanding
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 01:02 AM
1

Pretend he has a boyfriend
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 03:44 PM
16

Why aren't we meeting in fields and parking lots distanced, but together.
/r/RPChristians30/06/20 05:33 AM
9

Extroversion and introversion are not gendered. Try working on being consistent with who you are and not who you're with.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 05:00 AM
3

Gonna be awkward when she's single again on her 30th picking out preschools.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 12:16 AM
11

I was reading OP thinking the weed is the least of the red flags
/r/RPChristians27/06/20 04:06 PM
8

Go to the hardest places now, dont wait. Get emotional or stressful discussions flowing and dig for the answers you NEED before commitment. Either way, you'll know and be relieved by the knowing and not wasting time. You'll gain security of a good decision on a good man, or security in leaving a bad situation with a disrespectful man. I figured these were sensitive topics that were concerning. I'm kind of more concerned that a fowl reactions was from normal topics. Always learn about yourself to…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 12:15 AM
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If it's consistent it is a flaw to really watch for. Marriage is choosing the person you want to fight the most often with until you die. If you cant even have pleasant discussions on sensitive topics you might not be compatable at a very basic level. Things get sticky over time and resentment builds. 20 years later you're gonna wonder why you didn't catch this flaw earlier
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 11:11 PM
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Just talk to him. Take these directly to him. You should be able to hash out this stuff beforehand, and talk about awkward and sensitive topics. That's what marriage councils do, but by the time you've committed you've got crazy blinders on and don't heed their advice. Find out now, not later.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 08:14 PM
11

Disagreement IS marriage so it's more like choose your fighting partner and make sure you reconcile in the healthy way
/r/RPChristians26/06/20 08:10 PM
6

Even the person who slept with half the city can make that choice to wait. Noone is obligated to give sex to anyone
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 02:12 PM
2

Been thinking about application for that age, and be sure you're introducing real solid ideology first and waving huge red flags about any contrary ideologys that have to be brought up. I can guarantee one kid will ignore the entire thing except latch onto some lie you addressed, and ignore why it's bad. Bad theology has to be discussed, but you aren't responsible for their salvation, only that they are given the information to make their own choices. God saves. You teach. If you can take questi…
/r/RPChristians20/06/20 04:32 AM
5

I've seen it. Hi5s around the table of a bible study for most-men slept with.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 04:38 PM
10

Teach and Promote intelligent behavior and logic, reason, emotional intelligence, kindness! Take value from the stuff you create for and within yourself, not approval of variable opinions which can change quickly or slowly over time. Be punctual and be proud that you are valuable and reliable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 04:37 PM
4

Apologetics will do it. Dont water these things down. These kids are bigger thinkers about who God is pre15 then they ever will be again without some sort of tragic experience.
/r/RPChristians18/06/20 06:58 PM
3

Well, usernames aren't always accurate, but in my case it is
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 07:07 PM
3

She also expects you to stay for life and divorce would end her ability to love anything after all that and a failed marriage
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 12:32 PM
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I came accross thos today: "People who virtue signal, are actually just signaling. Here are the top seven virtues: Temperance, Charity, Chastity, Diligence, Patience, Kindness, and Humility. If someone isn’t DOING any of these, they are not displaying any virtue. Having an opinion, right or wrong is not a virtue. Everyone on earth has an opinion, right or wrong. We should stop saying “virtue signaling.” It’s a misnomer."
/r/RPChristians11/06/20 01:02 AM
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Someone who listens and learns, rather than speaking her piece and planning her next rant during your going-to-be- interrupted turn. Someone who can Dialogue and not monologue. I find the rest of the attractive qualities stem from that type. A person who can proudly "converse with a brick wall" is not good with people.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 03:29 AM
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Anecdotal. Comparable to "I'm sad, but I've never had depression, so just stop being sad."
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 07:04 PM
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Yeah that worries me. Stress isnt a masculine emotion. Its human. And kids are tough to deal with
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 04:19 AM
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Just because you store it well doesn't mean you can't lose the weight and tone and shape your shape to be slim- fit rather than slim-wide. A-line hide a pear but if you're hourglass Ndo Not overcover with turtlenecks or popping buttons. Size for your chest and be a bit of a potato awhile longer until you find what works as classy. Form Fitting Is Not Your Friend- even jeans should fit looser and have movement. Do not wear "slimming " pants which look painted on and throw out the leggings. All th…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 04:05 AM
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Silence is how people bond. Chatting his ears off to fill space and maintain "on" is dangerous and might be considered mindless and pointless nagging. Without "off" "on" is meaningless. Calm down. Let it rest. He isn't complaining. Read a book! Let him miss you and start a conversation. Dont have an attitude about it if it takes awhile or he'll think you got mad. Ease into being easy going and he'll perk up and be more present
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 12:35 PM
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Amazing to find those churches! Im searching for one right now and its hard. Im afraid many are dead or ive even heard one female pastor in a "postChristian phase". Yikes.
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 02:38 AM
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Wow! Thats so awesome you're leading well with vigilance. I can't express how concerned I am for the church accepting mystic views and promoting yoga and such. Do you have resources you follow or just a good church?
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 02:08 AM
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What they learn is great dicipline! Be aware tho that there are eastern religious teachings and new age beliefs woven into some martial arts studios by teachers. Some people dont notice, but for some kids it can be confusing and can hurt their faith.
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 01:34 AM
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Wait until the microblading tech gets better. Dont try to fix what isnt broken. That stuffs expensive. Research bad reviews not just the good ones they promote to you and choose your limits before you begin so you must stop at a certain point and not "well, maybe one more" yourself into looking worse
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/20 06:49 PM
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You cannot have the top prize woman without the risk. You need to be able to handle the responsibility . No woman and no child deserves that, slimeball.
/r/RPChristians25/05/20 10:02 PM
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Consider if once married she gets assaulted by another man. Are you going to leave her for being attacked? You will raise the rape baby she conceives in that one attack as your own with equal love to your own biochildren because they are hers. That could have happened before you get married or before you met. You need to understand a huge difference between a slut and a nonVirgin. A lot of women who feel as you do have to wrestle with " becoming a slut" to their husbands eye after marriage and t…
/r/RPChristians25/05/20 09:53 PM
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Strut your stuff. Treat everywhere as a runway and GO for it. Own it. Dont devalue your conservative wardrobe because theres nothing wrong with you choice of fashion expression, and dont change for others. SHOW them how confident you are, and they will be feeling the jealousy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 10:46 PM
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And think of all the money we've saved! Haha
/r/RPChristians19/05/20 08:25 PM
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Then take it like the arranged marriage it is and build that connection by trusting eachother and investing yourself. Those are the ones tht last.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 05:09 AM
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So eager! Yes! I quit salons altogether once i finished highschool. That, and mine is "the thickest hair I've ever seen" aka they are gonna go into playtime mode, waste 3-5x the time it should take, and have no skills to work with it =short 'sophisticated' bob/mullet. You either have to go to the most absolutely beautiful person at the salon who also happens to be a person who takes instruction well hahahahaha or just diy. Ive saved SO much money, and do professional color for myself and family.…
/r/RPChristians18/05/20 10:49 PM
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Shielding is just feeling threatened by proxy. I think we all do it if we have to. You will always find a getaway friend if you approach a woman while being followed by a creepy man. Oh no BEWARE the girls who like to set people up and be matchmakers to the point of lying they are shielding for the guy, not you. They know a guy and want him laid and you are fodder to make him happy. Same with makeover friends- if someone wants to change everything about you* they're insecure *and want to tell yo…
/r/RPChristians18/05/20 03:13 PM
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Women are used to constant abuse so we shield eachother from it and even help them get ahead. Totally separate from competition.
/r/RPChristians18/05/20 03:49 AM
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No one is fully perfected in this life. Yes, God pushes us to grow at our max rate of change and will accomplish wiping sin behavior from our lives until then. It takes a lot of time for us to be comfortable enough to let go of old sin, especially in cases of sexuality where that choice is also our primary relationship, household, best friend and someone they deeply love. I have seen a Christian man have to divorce and leave a child and all he built in his life because he felt led to not be gay.…
/r/RPChristians17/05/20 02:54 PM
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Be careful saying someone isn't saved or doesn't believe just because you disagree. There are Christians on all sides of politics and topics. They can learn, but don't expect anyone to change outside of God doing the teaching. Im in an area where Christians hold to really dumb things because if the traditions that aren't biblical or even real or proven... it's just because they were told as a kid that's how things work. They will straight up drag you in public if you point this out and of course…
/r/RPChristians16/05/20 03:40 PM
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Start with the focus on God. Then see what he leads you to. Also, a woman is likely to file for divorce both ways because a cheating man will continue a double life forever until he wants to remarry and has to file. A woman won't sit there and waste time if shes cheating she leaves and files quickly to dump his name.
/r/RPChristians16/05/20 12:48 AM
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All my friends that i keep, and most of the churchgoing groups I've seen. Most ended up married though as everyone does in their 20s. There are still plenty out there single to find. I've known only a few girls who really do intend to sleep with a new guy every time they go out but that does mean they get aaaaaarooooound so basically it seems like a lot more of them than there are. It's just Erica. Cheaper than her fake blond hair. Making us all look bad...because everyone has known her or of he…
/r/RPChristians15/05/20 12:39 AM
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[Woman] I get the same from guys. They're low quality. Move on.
/r/RPChristians14/05/20 02:39 AM
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I've scoured it since i got off work. Great advice for not acting like a child but nothing about what this energy is. I give up.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 01:01 AM
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Awesome! Start small, find what works for you, and build any body you want!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 04:09 PM
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Movement. Lift weights. You require good posture to do any lift and then gain the muscle strength in your back/chest/shoulders to hold yourself up. Don't try to corset yourself to a contraption and expect it to help without a lot of underlying work. Proping up rounded slumping wont give you beautiful shoulders like a little toning and and building will.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 03:50 AM
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Pause. Reflect. Rethink. Respond. Getting a joke out quick to hit a punchline doesn't say anything about your personality. Leave work at work or save it for later when you write. Pause and Think. What does that person mean by what they say? What part of themselves is being exposed? Do i agree and if so, how do i show them i care? Silence is where people connect and feel understood. Speaking too qiuickly is where they put people off. They might feel you were waiting on them to shut up to stuff a …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 03:34 AM
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Id be upset too if i was forced to believe a dysphoric phase was my new reality, based on pc culture. I want ALL my options amd some guidance. If i was a councillor, id have to limit my clients to Christianity so as to have a similar starting point and not risk my job by giving conservative options in there too.
/r/RPChristians12/05/20 03:16 AM
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So you wanna dump him because hard times aren't ideal?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 04:24 AM
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Be extra careful to love those kids. They learned how to treat people in the first 2 years and it'll bite back x1000 in their teens
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 03:23 AM
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Find recipies with few ingredients. Learn what goes in and why it tastes like that. Taste or sniff your ingredients when it's safe to do so-before you dump it in because a recipe said so. You're in charge. Dont follow the rules if you dont like the rules. Figure out what part you dont like and dont add that spice or add more of certain spices you do. Best advice::::Start a recipe book and ONLY add recipes You have already cooked and like and will make again. A book full of unproven papers is dau…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 11:16 PM
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Thing that helped me the most: You dont have to be Your type. You dont have to think you're the most perfect face or body you can imagine on your self. You dont even have to like you. You aren't responsible for what others think either, but the one who IS attracted to you will think your great as is. Whats important is you make effort to be approachable and hygienic and do some maintenance like everybody else.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 08:18 PM
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All other sin is done to others and you at least think you somehow benefit in the short term. But this is done to your brain/body/soul/expectations so not only do you harm yourself now, but also later. And your chosen experience defiled your expectations so you lower the chances that it will be a healthy one next time as well.
/r/RPChristians05/05/20 06:23 PM
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I think you might wanna see this. Its a girl with cancer, but it really changed my perspective on hairloss https://www.instagram.com/p/B-LeBhbJAO_/
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 02:19 AM
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Pick a shape of stone and a style of band and let him decide price. Look through every pintrist until you get excitrd about seeing a particular style. I hated all the classic solitaires. Anything $10 is a disgusting red flag-agreed. I could smell a divorce comig off a $200 SET of rings, as well as anither woman who demanded cubic zirconia to have a 5ct equivalent....ring shopping is full of red flags for personality issues. 3months salary is crude and outdated. Price is company dependant so use …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 04:11 AM
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Jersey is sweaty even if they are soft
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 03:53 AM
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Dont worry if "weight" as a number goes up. Muscle is heavier and smaler but will burn the fat for you. I gained 15lbs and went down a pants size at the same time. I threw out the scale and built the body i wanted with muscles and toning them. The fat naturally didn't stick around after i had enough muscle to burn it off. All movement counts. Everything adds up. Don't overwork past burnout. Be safe and careful with all movements.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 08:38 PM
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Women dont bulk up as quickly or as much as men. So lifting is even more important. It is the resting metabolism that keeps small people small, and building that baseline takes lifting to increase muscle %. Atrophy of muscles is the easiest way to pack on fat.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 08:31 PM
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Invest in pre-30s wardrobe that you can wear and grow into. Pair structure with fun so you dont have to do an overhaul in 5 years of your style. You should know by now what looks good on you and your colors so start building quality pieces Edit. The teen stores aren't for your 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 07:08 PM
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I think here the pill is used for improvement and there the pill is ised to know how to game the system according to those rules. Likely, rpm and rpw don't match well. Like the other post said, real life good men just DO these things and arent talking about it. If you are a Christian, the rpchristian board is the ltr men who understand rp but throw out the abusive tactics. It is heavily faith based to not follow the easy road.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 06:52 PM
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I come from family where taking things is bad. Taking things set out for whoever wants it is arrogantly presumptuous and so selfish. Fruit bowls are decorative, but friendly, but dont touch them. Snacks will spoil your dinner. I only found one article a decade ago that it was a fashion in pre-westernized asia, korea i believe. Not where im from, but there are many similar cultures. The post-war greeting was "have you eaten today" rather than hello. It is rude NOT to offer snacks to those you inv…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/20 11:49 PM
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(Woman) There is not a singular fit man sans gut that I've ever seen in a church that wasn't already married with a wife that couldn't look away. All the heavy ones are left alone because they apparently can't look after themselves. Christian women are told to settle for a good man they aren't attracted to and then are criticized for not being able to fake interest in the unappealing man. Im not even talking muscular. Just not overweight is still above the low bar average in churches. Outside th…
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 06:57 PM
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And its poverty in san San Francisco, but most of the country is not rich and that would be a very high income in a lot of states and for the other 85% of the US... for the rest of us... its literally watching the 3rd deviation on a bell curve complain about not being privileged enough. Not that it's happening here, but they are the most vocal majority when income is discussed.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 12:27 PM
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First Baptist Matthews just got a new guy. Calvary has been highly regarded. I wont dox my church tho, but those are solid. Visit all you can online. Keep your mission by finding a good preacher. Dont choose your guidance by finding an array of women
/r/RPChristians28/04/20 08:25 PM
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Thank you. Tired of seeing a top tier income stated as so so or about average!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 06:46 PM
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Not everyone needs or wants to be married. I think you're serious and if baby fever hasn't obliterated your ovaries by now, you don't have that kind of procreate-at-all-cost goal that a lot get long before they date. If marriage is something you want, is that really how you imagine yourself in retirement? Think about it like a tattoo- are you going to like having it when your 80? Will you regret not getting it?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 06:04 AM
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He might be the one riding and doesn't know how to tell you. Projecting happens a lot when someone feels guilty.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 05:38 AM
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He's not mature yet. He likes you looking like painted on clothes because he likes to look. That's it. Never dress for someone else. If dresses are you, wear them. If heels are you, find some proper fitting ones that have room in the front or risk bunions!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 10:24 PM
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Ok, now i have a question. I have to be independent because I have no man. And ive been told im intimidating because im so put together and pretty (does pretty=stupid?!?) and im also sure they're looking for me to be a hidden psychopath underneath. My recent dates have all failed since becoming employed and secure and confident in myself. How do you cross into the new-boyfriend territory from having to be it all all the time for yourself while giving off the "come save me/i need a man" bait? I a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 12:46 AM
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It is. Ignore them. The long term mental disorders are worse than any short term benefit
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 03:17 AM
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Which could keep him more accountable for his actions
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 09:13 PM
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You're allowed to be resentful. You're gonna either cry now and find a young new man or wait 20 years until your 45 and cry because the manchild left and the dating pool is more "leftovers" just like him
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 10:23 PM
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Family stability and safety is more important than financial stability to children. If you aren't classless you have every chance. Don't dress too far out of your own income or appear as though you are looking for a bank to fund a lifestyle upgrade. Ive seen MC men marry unemployed SAHM. I blend in well with MC but UMC tend to have no comprehension of any suffering, tend to only relate to 1stWorldProblems, and a real aversion to little poorfolk habits and things i take for granted like boxing up…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 03:38 AM
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I lost everything last year. We might have to wait until heaven to get answers. But i know that God understands pain and every emotion, and holds me through it all.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 03:24 AM
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Would you treat a child that way? They don't know anything at the start and you have to patiently listen to a lot of crap and not be too overbearing. Most people barely graduate high school and never read another book while forgetting everything they memorized purely for a test 25 years ago. You might be smarter, gifted even, but you got that way because someone was patient with you until you could learn on your own, and Practice. At some point we all should surpass our parent's knowledge if we …
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 05:34 AM
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So is the wage gap, but here we are.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 11:15 PM
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