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also, ‘One-itis’. You’re too attached to this outcome. start talking to other girls. Water more plants so if one fails you don’t care.
/r/seduction30/06/26 02:12 PM
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Delete the apps. Cold Approach is also low effectiveness. (Thousands of day approaches and bar/clubs) Best is going to hobby events. Things you like, or want to learn, and women happen to be there… Dancing: Latin (bachata, tango, etc), Swing. Something where you’re touching her. Cooking. Yoga. Real Estate meetups. Whatever. You gotta put in the time. Go to something you like EVERY week for 3 months. The more a woman sees a specific man, the more open she becomes to him. Water those plants..
/r/seduction25/05/26 09:00 PM
4

“don’t deserve” … work on your Self Esteem.
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:13 AM
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Morty Lefkoe method. ( warning: Your mind may discover any number of excuses to avoid trying it )
/r/seduction05/04/26 03:23 AM
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“10 ways I still judge women and haven’t taken responsibility for choosing to stay in a toxic relationship”
/r/seduction28/03/26 04:22 PM
12

Ovulation.
/r/seduction17/12/25 04:07 PM
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Hard Agree. Swing dance is also smart because it’s fun/thrilling for her, and also disarming compared to salsa/bachata which have sexual overtones.
/r/seduction28/11/25 08:46 AM
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Most of these places women aren’t open to meeting men. Smarter & more effective to go to places where the same 10-40 women keep reappearing: pilates, yoga, arts & crafts, improv classes, etc… where it’s the same class/same time every week or 2 days a week, etc. You don’t even have to “strike up a conversation“. After a month, some of the girls’ curiosity will be too much for her to handle, and she’ll simply ask you. Especially if she isn’t single but has Single friends. It’s scientifically prove…
/r/seduction28/11/25 08:43 AM
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this is the best answer. It’s scientifically proven that women become more attractive to a man the more she’s around him. That is, the first time she sees you, she may not even be interested in you. But after seeing you twice a week for a month or more, she’ll feel a lot more safe & open & curious to interact with you. Also, arts & crafts is great for first dates. Rare, and there’s zero pressure to continually keep a convo going. I suggested it to a Norwegian gal and afterwards we went to her pl…
/r/seduction28/11/25 08:33 AM
3

Comb your fingers along her scalp, grab a handful at the roots, and gently pull (easing from gentle to hard, until she responds)
/r/seduction16/09/25 06:32 PM
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Divorce, unless you have any kids with her. Who cares if you lose half your assets now, you barely have any at 22. Yeah, your family may shun you for some time, but they’ll get over it and it isn’t their life. Without someone dragging you down, you’ll be able to accelerate your earnings. If you have kids, I’d do marriage counseling.
/r/seduction05/09/25 03:56 AM
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Too much time on the computer/phone: reddit, YouTube, podcasts. Go to meetup events or weekly activities like: Yoga, Improv Theater, Ecstatic Dance… something that gets you out of the logic/brain and into your feeling/body. Best when you show up consistently. Because the more a woman is around a man, the more she becomes attracted to him.
/r/seduction28/07/25 07:15 AM
47

Watch the Bond movies and absorb his vibe.
/r/seduction22/06/25 01:40 PM
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You gotta have a reason to meet before taking her contact. Something memorable. There has to be a moment of impact with her. Then setup the date “Coffee on Thursday?” then after she confirms, take her digits. Shouldn’t be texting so much that she stops responding. Just a fun initial text, then logistics.
/r/seduction16/06/25 04:10 PM
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🎯 the length of OP’s story shows the amount of emotional attachment. “Delete Facebook and hit the gym.” ie let it go and “NEXT!”
/r/seduction16/06/25 03:39 PM
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I once caught the eyes of 2 hot-and-ready girls within a span of 5 minutes.. by sitting down and meditating (Don't grapple with your natural energy -- it's what attracts the girls you vibe with.) I was at a club in France. Was about 2 summers ago.. I was dancing feeling high energy, then got bored and tired of all the sheeple. So I sat down and meditated with my eyes open. Using mindfulness to absorb the entire energy of the room. Within 2 minutes a girl positioned herself in my line of sight, m…
/r/seduction03/06/17 04:47 PM
1

You could also pass her a note. Then it becomes a secret and a game between you two. Each note brings a new surprise.
/r/seduction26/05/16 12:44 PM
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This is a good technique. A sign that if a person is constantly using these words, he should take the time to actually learn to pause between sentences and talk slower.
/r/seduction14/03/16 11:30 AM
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Your excuse is that there are too many teens. So, ask her age and refer to: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent Otherwise, try bars or cultural events, for example opera, concerts.
/r/seduction14/03/16 11:24 AM
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connect with her. be curious. what's unique about her?
/r/seduction14/03/16 11:21 AM
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Does anyone have any solutions? First, stop calling it bait. bait - lure placed in a trap and used in the taking of fish, birds, or other animals Second, be general and make people ask you. her: What do you do? you: I own 2 businesses, a nice car, and have my own pad. I'm entrepreneur [humbly].
/r/seduction14/03/16 11:18 AM
1

Would down voters explain their reasoning
/r/seduction05/02/16 08:00 PM
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let's go somewhere more comfortable If she resists, then you need to let her know two things.. She's safe with you You won't judge her
/r/seduction05/02/16 07:56 PM
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usually very busy So let's say in the near future, when you do get more self esteem, how will you have time for dates?
/r/seduction05/02/16 07:49 PM
1

Give her the James Bond eyes
/r/seduction05/02/16 12:52 AM
1

Build up sexual energy together (via kissing) and when it gets to the edge, ask if she knows anywhere more comfortable and private to go. If not, you've got a back seat.
/r/seduction04/02/16 10:28 PM
1

This sounds like a specific situation you're referring to. I need more context.
/r/seduction04/02/16 01:10 AM
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(Edit: OP has messaged me and this is what he is looking for) Because crying is a form of vulnerability. You're being vulnerable to yourself which is the first step. It's the same principle of being honest, authentic, etc. -- starting with yourself. Starting inward before projecting outward.
/r/seduction02/02/16 06:46 PM
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[humble tonality] My parents never talked to me about sex. It was kind of taboo in our family.. [switch tonality to playful/seductive] but I'm eager to learn ;) She'll find the first part endearing and the contrast of the tonalities is perfect. It still keeps it sexual.
/r/seduction02/02/16 06:27 PM
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what about the fact that you're both human beings attracted to each other so sex is normal? rebound mindset comes from scarcity mentality because a person needs that new relationship
/r/seduction02/02/16 06:20 PM
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If she's comfortable with asking, then I'm comfortable with sharing. Just remember what sex is like for a girl.. another person is literally inside her. It doesn't get much more physically vulnerable than that.
/r/seduction01/02/16 07:15 PM
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Why is it something to hide?
/r/seduction01/02/16 07:11 PM
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see each other once every 4 days.. no more if it's an overnighter, then wait 5-6 if sex doesn't happen on a rendezvous, wait 8 days Finally, have "the pre-talk". It can be short. After you're laying in bed, post-coitus, say, "What we have right now -- it's pretty awesome, right?" [wait for her to agree, then kiss her] "Let's keep it this way." [re-initiate sex] Make sure to say "right now" and "this way".
/r/seduction27/01/16 11:30 PM
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didn't watch, but my theory: these guys take action. they make themself available to a girl. as opposed to most guys who don't. newsflash: women like sex. hold their frame. they know what they want and a girl's "shit tests" don't phase them impact her emotions. the contrast of being surrounded by nice people vs. having someone actually challenging her.
/r/seduction27/01/16 11:23 PM
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Breathe app for iOS is what I use. Keep it on the first page on my phone and bust it open when I'm doing something non-sensical like driving. Or before bed.
/r/seduction27/01/16 10:49 PM
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Be vulnerable by yourself first. Cry. When was the last time you were super depressed, sad, angry.. Take that memory and try to tie it to a song. Lock yourself in your room, lay down on your bed, apply headphones, play the song, close your eyes, and replay the memory in your head. If you're doing it right, you'll probably start getting a tingling feeling in your stomach. That's pain. Feeling that pain will help your compassion and empathy. Once you can feel that for yourself, you can feel it for…
/r/seduction27/01/16 10:45 PM
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5000 students. ~2500 females. Let's just say 1 in 20 are attractive. That's 125 attractive girls. Definite possibility to develop multiple long-term relationships. EDIT: Plus, figure in that each year cycles more through. ideas on how to proceed ? Start with genuine compliments.
/r/seduction27/01/16 10:37 PM
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What personal question could she ask that you'd feel uncomfortable about answering?
/r/seduction27/01/16 10:31 PM
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right now: do something you enjoy. future: have an abundance. don't have an abundance yet? schedule stuff before and after your dates. use this "rejection" as fuel to approach.
/r/seduction10/01/16 10:25 PM
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Serious/rational tone: 2 things. 1: Sex is a skill. 2: I'm not concerned about other people right now. People that aren't in this room. I'm only focused on us right now. That should snap her back into the moment. (Honestly, I've never gotten this question before sex.)
/r/seduction10/01/16 10:20 PM
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here's how I escalate to kissing kiss on one her cheeks [point to your cheek] ("now it's your turn") kiss on her other cheek "you looked off-balance" [point to your other cheek] ("now I'm off balance") finally, eye contact and go straight for the lips. if she backs away, just smile and say, "not ready yet?" kissing on the cheek is normal and friendly in most cultures. but it's still kissing. and it gets her to invest a bit.
/r/seduction02/01/16 06:21 PM
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How are they random if you've both chosen to go on a date with each other and are attracted to each other?
/r/seduction02/01/16 06:15 PM
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Girls like guys. You must have something that they're attracted to. Maybe good vibes. Can't really elaborate with the little info you provided about what you're doing compared to other guys.
/r/seduction02/01/16 09:56 AM
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well, at least you're aware of where you're going wrong. instead of going "gamey" (whatever that means), you only need to make a connection with her. ask about her passion and then "why?". ask "why?" until she gives an emotion. then exchange your passion.
/r/seduction30/12/15 02:15 PM
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what if they just like having conversation with you?
/r/seduction30/12/15 02:06 PM
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Instead of "manwhore", What about the mindset that sex is a skill and you were sincerely enjoying the practice.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:59 AM
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(I made an edit.) Girls with boyfriends will hit on me Like the edit says, maybe she wants you for the future. Nothing to lose. From the girls that I've made a connection with and had boyfriends, the above convo is the basics of how I got her contact info.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:57 AM
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Why was this downvoted? If I was stuck under my parents, I would learn to develop WP websites and learn cold-calling. Regular customers will have you independent in 6 months.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:53 AM
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Start working out. Get the basics of a quality wardrobe. I have 2 pairs of pants and mostly wear a white or black v-neck. They all fit well. Grow your hair out for a year. Long hair is in. If it gets annoying, pay a stylist $30 for a quality haircut. Not some Cheap Clips B.S.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:50 AM
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How did you try to escalate? If she knew you were sexually interested and went on dates with you and you didn't escalate, then you rejected her.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:44 AM
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Hey Julia, you're pretty cute and interesting. I love how you <mutual interest or her passion>. I'd like to hear more about it sometime. What do you say we meet for frogurt/coffee? [exchange logistics]
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:43 AM
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did you compliment her or let her know you're sexually interested?
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:37 AM
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Lines are great for starting out. Really, it's not the line but the delivery. Eventually, I had hit a plateau. And it became necessary to actually understand what women want. Being direct, sincere and "natural".. it allows getting straight to the point. Because it's no secret that women like sex too. But she wants sex with an awesome guy. Someone she can connect with. And that's the next level after being comfortable going direct.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:36 AM
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edit: Maybe she wants your contact info to keep in touch for the future. How to Get Her Contact Info when She has a Boyfriend (for when she's single or lonely) (during a connecting conversation) me: hey you're pretty interesting! her: thank you! me: do you think I'm interesting? her: yeah. me: what do you say we stay in touch? her: sure, why not. me: how could we do that? her: let's add each other on Facebook example conversation uses Food-in-the-Door and Talking Around an Idea
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:28 AM
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What do you do for fun/hobbies/passion?
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:17 AM
1

what are you trying to achieve through texting?
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:16 AM
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Do you have everything to gain? YES. I sent a message to 3 of my low-steams. All good responses.
/r/seduction27/12/15 10:34 AM
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me: What're you doing right now.. plans? her: just sitting here me: Let's watch a movie. I got the couch and you got the popcorn If a girl messages me with boring shit, it's a sign she wants something. She wants sex. Her brain has short-circuited. She can't think. That's why her responses are so bland.
/r/seduction27/12/15 10:30 AM
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Hey, you just popped up on my news feed. I remember that time when <something unique and memorable> happened. I've got a few days free next week and would love to catch up. What do you say we get a drink or coffee
/r/seduction27/12/15 10:20 AM
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The Game is like 10 years old. It wasn't congruent with my personality either. Want something more natural? watch James Marshall's talks. Sasha, Johnny Soporno, etc.
/r/seduction27/12/15 10:17 AM
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initiating the makeout or the process?
/r/seduction27/12/15 10:09 AM
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Visit each city for 3 days. That's about how long it takes to get the vibe. Hit up couchsurfing before landing and stay with a local in the center. Take bicycle tours. Covers the most ground and the guides are usually excellent. (Personal experience from an American and my last 7 years of on and off travels. Including living in 2 european capitals and on the Mediterranean coast.)
/r/seduction27/12/15 09:31 AM
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I met one of my past lovers in Belgrade. At the time she had a "future ex-boyfriend". They were having sex "once every 2-3 weeks." I was shocked when she said this. When we were together, we were going at it 2-3 times every ~4 days. We went at it 2 times in 3 days. On the 3rd day, "He's no longer a future ex-boyfriend." I feel bad for her. Here's this guy. Supposed to be fulfilling her physiological needs and he's failing. And society says she needs to stay with him for X weeks.. Instead of movi…
/r/seduction27/12/15 09:21 AM
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So you're suggesting a 2-way interview. Want to get her invested? To impact her? Evoke an emotion from her by asking: What do you do for fun? What is your passion/hobby? Why?
/r/seduction27/12/15 09:09 AM
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Want to disarm her boyfriend defense and keep her on low steam? Me: You know.. you're pretty groovy. Her: Thanks! Me: You said you had a boyfriend.. Her: Yeah. Me: I'm not looking for a girlfriend right now. But, let's stay in touch and exchange facebook. Notice how to let each line sink into her. Not to plow through the entire thing in one sentence. In other words, avoid: [deep breath] Hey I think you're interesting. You said you had a boyfriend.. So I'm not going to get in the way. Let's stay …
/r/seduction27/12/15 09:04 AM
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What if she needs multiple men to fulfill all her desires?
/r/seduction27/12/15 08:37 AM
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Want to be above average and start maximizing your potential? exercise regularly dress fashionable groom yourself if you do those 3, you'll be above average
/r/seduction27/12/15 08:33 AM
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You're judging a past version of yourself and her. What if you met the same girl in a bar, without your history?
/r/seduction23/12/15 07:32 PM
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Arrange a date during the interaction. Then exchange numbers.
/r/seduction23/12/15 07:20 PM
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Just the way they're talking with girls, seems superficial. Unnatural. Regardless of what they say their philosophy is, through their marketing and videos I've seen, it seems fake. Maybe not the results. Just they way they go about it.
/r/seduction23/12/15 07:17 PM
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Exactly. My mindset: If she's with me, we would have sex. And I'm thinking that multiple times throughout our interaction.. us having sex. And admiring her beauty.
/r/seduction23/12/15 07:13 PM
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No. I don't feel this. Because it's not a game. It's all an experience. A learning process. For both me and the girl. Once I achieved the mindset that women love sex.. breakthrough. And there's been another breakthrough with another mindset change.
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:57 PM
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"Do you like talking to girls?" "Are you interested in women?" Your friends better be in a relationship or gay if they respond "No." Just don't call it "pickup" or becoming a "PUA". It's a turn-off for a LOT of people. Because those words have a negative connotation.
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:53 PM
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What about having the mindset that it isn't a game, but a continual experience
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:48 PM
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Approach her and get her attention. Smile in a friendly/seductive manner. If she responds positively, persist. Talk in each others' ears not to faces. Framework for: Escalation Ear Talking Every time you say something switch to her other ear. Every time you two finish a question and answer, pull away and gaze through her eyes Talk in ear When pulled away, hold eye contact and silence for just a bit longer than normal While pulling away, graze her cheek with your lips While pulling away, kiss her…
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:34 PM
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Indeed. Take action. Adjust to feedback.
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:21 PM
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It's continuous. New tricks and techniques help a bit. Eventually I plateau. But, the biggest leaps happen when I change a mindset.
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:19 PM
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How do you become sexually attractive? Become sexual. Just keep going the next step. Escalate. Listen to her body and tone more than her words. If she rejects you, it's not rejection. She's just not ready now. You can even say that, "You're not ready yet?" with the tone that it's going to happen. Just as long as you respect her current state. In this case, you rejected her. She was lying there, nearly naked, hot and ready. And you didn't do anything. I was the same. I also had to go through some…
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:16 PM
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Would someone who down-voted this explain their reasoning
/r/seduction23/12/15 06:02 PM
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conversations starts off with excitement in the first couple of weeks and becomes friendly later on She has three levels of signaling: red, yellow, green. red: she's running away green: hairflips, exposing neck, beaming, etc. yellow: {almost nothing} She'll almost always be in yellow. She needs the man to take risks. If she's displaying green signals and you don't escalate, you're rejecting her. boyfriend... work it into a conversation Underhanded, dishonest. I can see why you've "burned sets". …
/r/seduction11/11/15 02:58 PM
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failure is primarily in stating intention early enough and directly enough Would you make it more specific so it's measurable.. (reputation, rejection, etc.) Imagine you and I randomly meet at an event. Somehow we start talking about women. But something comes up; I have to leave quickly. Even if we had only talked for 2 minutes, it'd be rational for us to meet up in the future. Because, both of us were passionate about it. If you evoke an emotion in a woman, and you also talk about something th…
/r/seduction10/11/15 04:23 PM
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hitting on I never hit on a girl. Rather, I admire her physical attractiveness. Then I give her a sincere compliment (to which she'll thank me). And it's never a backhanded compliment or 'snuck' into the conversation. She needs to feel it. failing What are you failing at? fallout With the Brazilian girl? From the story, it appears like this other girl was quite intoxicated.. A person could get the impression that you were trying to take advantage of her. I would call the Brazilian and explain th…
/r/seduction09/11/15 09:24 PM
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If a girl is remotely interested, she'll be standing there. She wants to know that you're not weak. You're confident. Persistent.
/r/seduction09/11/15 09:09 PM
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She smiles and says, "thanks" What happened after?? Normally I don't think about approaching girls in the gym because I don't want to shit on my own doorstep. What?! Ridiculous mindset. You're not working there. It's fair game. Newsflash: You're a man, she's a woman. It's normal for you to be attracted. you: "hey!" [she responds] you: "I just wanted to say I like your hair, it looks really cool" her: [smiling] "thanks" When a girl responds positively (smile, thanks, etc.), persist. you: "How man…
/r/seduction06/11/15 07:27 AM
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You should've made her kiss you on your cheek. I was like surprised and kind of dumbfounded externally internally I was WTF She was testing your resolution. You failed. Next time, respond by saying, "Not ready yet?", sly smile, and point to your cheek.
/r/seduction06/11/15 07:18 AM
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"I'm more attracted to dark guys with dark hair and dark eyes.", my girlfriend stated within the first 2 weeks of our relationship. (Me, I'm blond with blue eyes and fair skin.) My response was as if she had merely said, "I have a belly button." It didn't phase me. [2 weeks later] "I've started looking at and noticing blond guys more." Women are attracted to confident, honest, and unwavering men. Mindset. It forms your beliefs. And your beliefs filter your reality. You believe that Indians can't…
/r/seduction06/11/15 07:12 AM
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get her # by asking a mutual friend to deliver a note Next time, ask the girl in person. It shows a lot more courage. you: "Hey Anna, you're looking awesome in that hat today." (sincere, sexual compliment displays your intention) her: "Thanks, Jake." you: "Hey I'm on my way to class. Let's walk and talk for 2 minutes." (time constraint) [back and forth convo] you: "Well, I've gotta go. And like I said, you look great today. I'd still like to hear more about <something from convo>. What do you sa…
/r/seduction06/11/15 06:55 AM
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talk to her a bit about an assignment... I don’t want to be on the president’s bad side... She ends up telling me about a coffee shop You're a guy. It's normal for you to be attracted to women. What about: "Hey you're cute and seem interesting. Let's get coffee on Tuesday." [exchange numbers] Just be sincere, genuine, and honest. What bad can happen from that? [girl] from my yoga class... someone from my dance class... girl from the class... this girl [from class]... [girl] on hiking trip A lot …
/r/seduction06/11/15 06:39 AM
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you didn't qualify her.
/r/seduction03/11/15 12:45 AM
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improv theater
/r/seduction03/11/15 12:40 AM
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Use your peripheral to notice when she looks at you.
/r/seduction27/10/15 09:26 AM
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That's how most women converse. Mindset: if she's standing there, she's interested.
/r/seduction27/10/15 09:17 AM
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Arrange date in person. Exchange numbers to confirm.
/r/seduction27/10/15 09:14 AM
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set up a date when you first meet for any of Mon, Tue, Wed
/r/seduction26/10/15 12:36 PM
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Tonality. Say "Excuse me." with the intention of suggesting (not demanding) her to stop.
/r/seduction26/10/15 12:25 PM
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[after brief pause] So, what's your hobby I should know about? Then, dig until she evokes an emotion. her: Hanging out with friends. me: What about by yourself? her: Hmm [thinking]. Riding motorcycle. me: What do you like about that? her: Feeling free. feeling free
/r/seduction20/10/15 11:08 PM
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I'm more attracted to darker, latino-looking guys. With dark skin, dark hair, and dark eyes. My girlfriend at the time told me this when we first started dating. I didn't react, but it wasn't the best confidence boost. I'm blond, blue-eyed, and lighter skin. A few weeks into our relationship... I'm looking at blond guys more often now. Preferences can change. Give those blondes a chance ;)
/r/seduction18/10/15 09:43 PM
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(larger and bold body copy are hard on my eyes)
/r/seduction18/10/15 09:36 PM
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Accountability. Get a friend to come along. Hint: avoid using pickup jargon.. including the word "pickup". It has a negative connotation. "Want to learn to talk with girls?" What heterosexual male would truthfully decline?
/r/seduction18/10/15 02:54 PM
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getting red sweating forehead, palms butterflies in stomach heat up your back ... Mere physical sensations. Be aware of them. Accept them. Avoid labeling them. Physiology triggers them, because you've never been in that situation. friend [to me]: Jake, your forehead is sweating. me: [obviously] It was the first time I had cold approached a model.
/r/seduction18/10/15 09:31 AM
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Exactly. I met a tourist recently that literally had nothing to do. Oh, uh, I have to go back to my friend, but why don't I take your number and we can meet up later. Or, what actually happened.. What do you say we have a tea. (1hr later back at my place)
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:54 AM
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feel like [setting up dates on the first meeting is] needy this feeling went away once I started qualifying her. when she passes, I suggest we meet up, she agrees, I mentally check my schedule, and suggest a time. don't even have a "number close routine" ditto.
/r/seduction18/10/15 07:48 AM
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If you've already had sex with these roles before, when I met her I would slowly walk to her, stopping at 5-6ft/2m. in a deep voice, state "Anna." like a father and she's a child who just did something bad and you're about to scold her. sternly point down right that she needs to come stand closer. ...
/r/seduction17/10/15 08:01 AM
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I prefer approaching in everyday life. Sometimes, I'll go to a bar/club to work on my sexual vibe/escalation. (Regardless of being a great dancer, I used to be horrible at approaching on a dance floor.) Now, in clubs I just go direct: Calmly dance over to her, get her attention, smile with sexual eye contact. If she smiles back, persist. Dance relaxed next to her until she initiates conversation. We lean to ears to exchange names. Respond and kiss her on the cheek as we pull away for eye contact…
/r/seduction17/10/15 03:07 AM
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I've had a similar experience. Here's what I wrote her on Facebook. Hey Anna! I'm in town until Wednesday. Let's meet up Hadn't seen her in almost 2 years. We met. We had great sex.
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:57 AM
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Hug her and when you slowly pull away, slide your arms down so your hands are by her waste (like you would have just pulled away from a kiss). Then, go in for a kiss.
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:52 AM
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this looks interesting: http://www.comfortzonecrusher.com/7-day-challenge/
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:50 AM
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Improv theater. Almost every element of seductive interaction is practiced: acute observation being in the moment natural conversation thinking on the spot saying what you feel raising stakes (escalation) eye contact, tension expressing emotions Power Yoga breathing exercise balance meditation/consciousness balance concept of energy
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:46 AM
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Awesome! Open up emotionally, let her in, connect, and synergize.
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:39 AM
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sticking point that I'm not SUPER engaging Sincere/direct compliment. Then ask questions until you evoke an emotion. What do you do for fun? Hang out with friends. What else do you do, like possibly by yourself? Ride motorcycle. Why do you like riding motorcycle? To feel free. [tell story with a theme of feeling free]
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:31 AM
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Never online. Poor time investment for me. Almost always day time. (Clubs only for increasing sexual vibe.) quality over quantity Exactly. I only approach girls I'm attracted to. I don't understand the goal of "doing sets". Rather, I reflect on myself and had set shorter-term goals. approach (always direct); alone, with friend(s), with mom suggest exchange numbers suggest meeting for coffee/drink (bonus: suggest insta-date) touch arm -- basic escalation lean in to kiss -- basic escalation try to…
/r/seduction17/10/15 02:23 AM
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When I do meet such a woman that I can build some sort of commonality with, if they're even remotely attractive, I'm going to start getting feelings for them. Invest 2hr (30 min * 4 days) to conquer your fear of rejection and build confidence. Start here: http://www.comfortzonecrusher.com/7-day-challenge/ Invest 10hr (2.5 hr * 4 weekends) learning to stop a girl, giving a sincere/genuine compliment, building a connection, setting up a date When you can do these 2 things, you live with an abundan…
/r/seduction17/10/15 01:38 AM
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I guess If you don't know what you want, how could she? Really, 4 months is a long time to be "seeing" a girl and still be in an unknown relationship state. I want her to miss desire me play games improve yourself
/r/seduction17/10/15 01:22 AM
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TL;DW optimize your logistics. Discover hers and screen with questions like: Where/How long are you in the city? Roommates?
/r/seduction17/10/15 01:14 AM
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she never replied to my first text You didn't make a connection. ask a girl for her homework her homework?
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:58 AM
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How about saying what you feel: Wow. You both look amazing tonight. I couldn't decide which one I'd rather take home They were both all over you. Just waiting for you to take action.
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:53 AM
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I prefer approaching in everyday life. Sometimes, I'll go to a bar/club to work on my sexual vibe/escalation. (I used to be horrible at approaching on a dance floor.) Now, in clubs I just go direct: Calmly dance over to her, get her attention, smile with sexual eye contact. If she smiles back, persist. Dance relaxed next to her until she initiates conversation. She leans to my ear and asks my name. I respond and kiss on the cheek as I pull away for eye contact. Exchange questions in the other ea…
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:48 AM
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elaborate; how long is: for a while Also, what do you want.. girlfriend, casual sex, multiple relationships?
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:35 AM
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maybe try this: http://www.comfortzonecrusher.com/7-day-challenge/
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:33 AM
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Yesterday, I approached a girl at a shopping mall. Said she was cute. She told me she had a boyfriend. I said that my friend and I are here to meet girls. [We turn to my friend.] We all have a 5min conversation. She asks us to join her for coffee. Before that it was a girl (who also had a boyfriend) and her friend asking me to join them for lunch. People like compliments. And most are stuck in mundane lives.
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:29 AM
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[approach in non-threatening manner] [get attention of group e.g. "Hello."] [to friends] I just wanted to say that [turn to attractive girl] this girl is {sincere compliment} {sincere compliment} = stunning, cute, sexy, fun, etc. Give out compliments and expect nothing in return.
/r/seduction17/10/15 12:13 AM
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I met a girl on Sunday and I would respond, I don't feel chemistry between us aka missing an emotional connection when in reality the girl: came off too eager, needy etc. She's trying to let you down without hurting your ego. As others said: Get dates with other girls.
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:54 PM
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How did your relationship end.. on what terms?
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:42 PM
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Be a man. Be honest. Take responsibility for your actions. Tell her uncle (with sincerity): I went on a couple of dates with {girl's name}. I'm feeling bad about how we ended things. I would really like to clear the air. Would you let her know. If he asks, "What happened?" I would respond: That might be something she wants to keep between me and her, but if she's comfortable talking about it to family then maybe all 3 of us could get together and clear the air."
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:41 PM
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Have a 1-10 minute conversation first. What if you don't find each other interesting?
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:29 PM
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Sounds amazing. And here's the main thing I noticed: She is Bisexual and only has 2 girl 1 guy threesomes. Likes to be in a poly relationship She's sexually free and experimental. Most people that are into threesomes are probably going to want a poly. Neil Strauss (FYI I detest PUAs and indirect, but he's since changed) just did an episode on Art of Charm that covered separating love and sex. I haven't listened, but it could be a worthy investment.
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:18 PM
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Girl with 1 dude: state assumption they're together me: [to dude] How long have you been together? (Option A) dude: 3 months me: You look great together. (Option B) dude: We aren't (together). me: [to girl] ... Girl with multiple dudes: state assumption that one must be with her me: [to dudes] Which one of you guys is with this girl? (Option A) dude: Me. Well, she's quite beautiful. You're a lucky guy. (Option B) dude: None of us. me: [to dudes] Well, where's her boyfriend? ... Girl in a group l…
/r/seduction16/10/15 03:57 PM
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What are the characteristics that attract you towards her?
/r/seduction16/10/15 03:07 PM
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Yes, sleep helps. And still, sometimes things happen and we have to go without adequate sleep. Just be honest with people, "Hey, I'm feeling a bit tired, and don't have as much energy as I normally do." They've most likely had similar feelings and can empathize.
/r/seduction16/10/15 02:56 PM
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I agree with petriomelony about being honest, yet I would avoid texting, "I want to see you." hey {nickname}, what do you say we meet for {complete logistics} This text implies "I want to see you." When have you ever suggested a meetup or met somebody without wanting to for some reason? {nickname} is an inside joke or something between you two. It'll trigger memories and the emotions she felt with you.
/r/seduction16/10/15 12:44 PM
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goal is to talk to one new girl and get one new number Goals should be something completely within your control. Ask for her number. connect Ask questions and dig into one until you get a response that evokes an emotion. me: What do you do for fun? her: I don't know.. hang out with friends and stuff. me: So, what's one thing you really enjoy doing? her: Hmm [thinking].. ride motorcycle. me: What do you like about riding motorcycle? her: To feel free. See that. To feel free. Now, I can focus conv…
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:59 AM
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public transport stops tourist locations food courts/areas during lunch time anytime while bicycling/walking
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:36 AM
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She probably is only one I have met in long time and good looking. How do I escalate and convert her into my girlfriend ? Be careful. It sounds like you have a scarcity mentality, which may translate to neediness. If she feels neediness, it might not turn out well.
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:31 AM
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how to go for a kiss on the first date Take a conversational pause. Gaze into her eyes. Lean in. If she doesn't connect then respond, "Not ready yet?" with a calm tonality that you're confident it's inevitable. high five? Would you take 10 seconds to think about all the people you've high-fived. How romantic and intimate were those moments? Always farewell and greet with minimal of a hug.
/r/seduction16/10/15 10:20 AM
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chasing women... girls I could only dream of talking to I tell myself... I psych myself out... Tell myself to go talk to her... feel like I can... in the mood... trying to destroy this feeling I'm not afraid of being rejected or being called a creep Not chasing, but seducing women. You're focused on the result. What about enjoying a conversation with another interesting person? You're in your head. The next time that happens, slow your momentum until you stop walking. Stand feet shoulder-width a…
/r/seduction15/10/15 10:52 AM
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my mindset: If a woman is standing there, she's interested (at least conversationally). If I've made it known that I'm interested in her mind and body, and she's standing there, she would sleep with me. would is not to be confused with will. will: inevitable, in the future would: conditional (given that we synchronize while seducing each other)
/r/seduction15/10/15 10:14 AM
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what did she talk about.. family, aspirations, goals, work, skills, activities?
/r/seduction15/10/15 10:03 AM
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I recently went from a direct cold approach back to my place in 1 hour. Build a theme by talking about her "why's" and using the environment. Utilize the theme to answer her questions. (Ours was 'adventure' and 'comfort', because she was bold and she was uncomfortable with us kissing in front of the coffee shop which we were going to insta-date at.) her: Where are we going? me: On an adventure. her: Where are we going? me: Some place comfortable. Kiss passionately and prepare for an objection at…
/r/seduction14/10/15 07:21 PM
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Touch her arms. Take her hands in yours. Pause. Eye contact. Lean in.
/r/seduction14/10/15 02:38 PM
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I've moved to a new city before. Twice. No friends. No family. Just me. I went to a Meetup event that I was sincerely interested in and met my best friend there. He invited me to his birthday and I met another friend there. Meetup and CouchSurfing. I'd bet Chicago has a lot to offer. When you meet someone with multiple common interests, arrange a rendezvous right there for a later date. e.g. "What do you say we go out on Friday." or "What do you say we go rock climbing next Tuesday."
/r/seduction14/10/15 02:36 PM
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Neither. And soon I'll have to move to a city of 90k. Conservative people too. That'll be a good challenge.
/r/seduction14/10/15 02:24 PM
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I used to be similar. performing kino Just call it "touching". All the time. That's what it is. When you mask it with some jargon word, it turns it into some monster. I started hugging my friends when we greet and farewell. Family too. Anyone I share some connection with, hug.
/r/seduction14/10/15 02:21 PM
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would you specify which types of touching and how long you currently can perform before feeling uncomfortable
/r/seduction14/10/15 01:18 AM
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Exactly.. unless she's literally the only girl at your college.
/r/seduction14/10/15 01:13 AM
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Be around and/or have sex with other girls.
/r/seduction14/10/15 01:09 AM
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I live in a city of ~3 million, so unlikely I'll run into the same girl. (I wouldn't care if I did. My friend has before and they had a laugh about it.) workers, guards Today, I saw her go to the escalator. Hopped on myself. Then let the fast-walkers pass her. Then waited until she was in the 10m/30ft of wall space between the previous store entrance and the next, before finally stopping her.
/r/seduction14/10/15 01:01 AM
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I haven't had that problem. I start with a nickname about something we've discussed and it immediately zaps her mind to our interactions. One girl liked to paint over the top of other pictures, so.. hey picture picasso ;) what do you say we do something Friday or Saturday? a small concert perhaps hi :) i'm free on friday and i looove open air things! what kind of concert is it?
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:33 AM
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figuring out how others see me There are 7 billion others on Earth. How long would that take? hard time figuring out with a girl is just being friendly, or is actually interested in me. Try taking 3 seconds and admiring her beauty. Give her a genuine and sincere compliment on how she's dressed e.g. "That hat looks awesome on you." or "You look so elegant in that dress."
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:23 AM
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I was talking with my mom over the phone last weekend. She didn't like 3 things I had said. So, we talked out all 3. The principle works with anyone. I embrace conflict resolution.
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:15 AM
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I don't do bars nor clubs either. Day time.
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:11 AM
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You'd have to throw in some cold approaches so you don't become too notorious as a player. Would you elaborate. I don't understand. friends who got banned from malls If they're anything like a German kid I've witnessed.. [gets 4ft/1.2m in front, puts his hand in their face] "Stop. Stop. STOP!" If I get into an interaction (aka not 'blown out'), she's grateful for the compliment.
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:09 AM
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With the exercise, what's the goal here? To practice adding value and avoid expecting something from her. what do I change ... to avoid ... looking for something from her? Practice this exercise. It helps train: [adding value], [being independent of result]
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:01 AM
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Im a pretty average dude by my own estimate... She's definitely a little out of my league What makes you say that?
/r/seduction12/10/15 08:04 PM
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set up the second date as we were saying bye That's what a boyfriend/future boyfriend does.. just in case you're trying to avoid a monogamous relationship. Hey <nickname>, let's do <activity> 6pm <day> at <location>, what do you say nickname = something sexual/funny between you two activity = cooking a meal you both like if you/she likes to cook or a certain food/wine-tasting (cooking is best) day = Thursday if you want to be BF/GF; Sun-Wed for casual. (Avoid weekends in the early stages. Girls …
/r/seduction12/10/15 08:01 PM
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feeling that you could be special... if you'd let me... probably a little more to me that you'd like... send her a big basket of flowers... if you let me take you... needy. For as much neediness as this projects towards a virtual, online community, I feel for the person that it was projected towards in real life.
/r/seduction12/10/15 07:49 PM
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I'll admit. Texting is a skill I lack. I never tinder. It's rarely necessary with my approach. I always arrange a rendezvous or the pretense of one in person. Exchanging numbers is merely for confirmation or finalizing logistics.
/r/seduction12/10/15 07:25 PM
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girls' resource is sex, guys' resource is attention and commitment My resource is time. And there is an inexhaustible amount of vagina to go around. That's why I just get straight to the point.
/r/seduction12/10/15 07:18 PM
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You're a man. It's normal to be interested in women. You've already had an engaging convo with her. At what point does it become weird to re-engage regardless of whether her friend is there. It'll actually show her and her friend that you have courage. Whenever a girl responds positively to anything you do, persist.
/r/seduction12/10/15 07:05 PM
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(tonality is sincere, not joking) If I already called it out e.g. "Hey, earlier I was a bit of an asshole for calling you LeatherHands." And she mentions it later, then I say, "Yes, we already addressed that. Is there anything else you wanted to discuss about it?" How could it not be resolved after this?
/r/seduction12/10/15 06:55 PM
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I admit. My rapport-building skill via text is lacking. I rarely take part. Usually I arrange a rendezvous in person and exchange numbers for confirmation. It just doesn't seem logical to go from [talking in person] and downgrade to [texting over phone].
/r/seduction12/10/15 06:47 PM
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would you elaborate on what he had to lose
/r/seduction12/10/15 06:42 PM
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(Note that this problem can be avoided by arranging a date before exchanging numbers. Texting is merely for confirmation.) He already has the joking, playful banter, and comfort building checked. Well, I did what I had to, now please comply. Exactly. That's the basis of a conversation. Both people committing. Because if she doesn't reply, then I can stand at a mall entrance for 20 minutes and she's forgotten. "Cool, hit me up when you're free" Seems nonchalant. Maybe I've been in Europe too long…
/r/seduction12/10/15 06:39 PM
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Send now. Because you have a specific date and time, it projects that you're busy and you know what you want.
/r/seduction12/10/15 04:56 PM
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and now he has a girl that he can tie up
/r/seduction12/10/15 04:53 PM
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There were 20 people at a workshop. Everyone wrote on a card something they were interested in. Then everyone rated that card 1-10. 1 = not interested. 10 = super interested. Most people got rated 5's, 6's, and 7's. A few got 1's and 10's. One guy wrote, "I love tying up women." He got a 10 from a woman and had a close conversation with her. (And maybe something more later..) Do you want people who're 5's, 6's, and 7's in your life.. people who are partially interested in you? Or do you want peo…
/r/seduction12/10/15 04:44 PM
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Hey <nickname>, I really want to hear more about <topic>. Let's meet for coffee on Wednesday 6pm at <location>. <nickname> = sexually/playfully amplify one of her characteristics e.g. tall -> "Legs"; smiling dimples -> "Dimples" <topic> = something she's really into <location> = ideally close to your place You already have a ton of rapport built up, so go sexual. Start with a hug. Let me know how she responds to the text message..
/r/seduction12/10/15 04:30 PM
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My mother left/abandoned my family when I was a 1-year-old. This gave me a personality disorder. I was emotionless. I used to be the same way. Then I dug down and faced my psychological trauma. Now, I can listen to a song to bring up strong memories and cry tears of joy.
/r/seduction12/10/15 04:21 PM
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TL;DR/W: <something small> near your place <something small> = coffee/tea/drink/slice of pizza/billiards/ice cream
/r/seduction12/10/15 04:08 PM
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I can tell you exactly what to say. Just give me more backstory.. how was the initial convo and text convo?
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:55 PM
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"You seem interesting. I want to hear more about <topic X>. Let's meet for coffee at <location> on Monday at 6pm." If she denies because of time/date: "We want to meet up. I suggested a time. You said you were busy that day. Would you please suggest another time." Non-violent Communication 101. [State what happened] [State what you want/did to try to fix it] [Make a request how the other person can fix it] Keep it to M, Tu, or Wed. People get more socially busy near the end of the week.
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:20 PM
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Feel the pain in its entirety. Don't try to ignore it, cry if you need to whatever. Agreed. Accept it. Utilize and direct it for extra energy when you're training. The best revenge is to live well. I disagree with the word "revenge". It places a dependence on her caring or him "showing her what's up".
/r/seduction12/10/15 02:53 PM
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she is really a perfect girl What attributes and characteristics make her a perfect girl? Details and behaviors please..
/r/seduction12/10/15 02:47 PM
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Agreed. Horrible ROI. Stand at any public transport stop or entrance to a mall.
/r/seduction12/10/15 01:55 PM
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it is not the most efficient highest return method Compared to spending hours and hours building a social circle in the chance that at a 4-hour party with 60 guys and 40 girls (with 5 being attractive).. problem with night game at bars/clubs is that it puts women on a huge pedestal People put women on a huge pedestal. Most girls go out for sex (whether it's to have sex or to build up sexual desire). problem with daygame... socially conditioned... "lack of time" Sounds like you're socially condit…
/r/seduction12/10/15 01:53 PM
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Body language, vocal tonality and words. Always direct. If I approach a girl because she has a sexy walk, I say "You have a sexy walk."
/r/seduction12/10/15 12:47 PM
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secure her number "Sargent, the number is secure!" She blows me off the first night What if she actually had other plans.. Got her to kiss me, but she ultimately turns me down. Elaborate. How long was the makeout? Did you hold her neck? Touching her arm/side/leg? Got her to kiss me... talking about her life... I asked her... I asked her... with me... She said she would. without seeing me Scarcity mentality. Value taker. I challenge you to re-write the original post and instead of using: "I/me" a…
/r/seduction12/10/15 12:32 PM
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..and create a false persona, just to have sex. Sounds needy and inauthentic.
/r/seduction12/10/15 12:19 PM
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It's not necessary to settle into a relationship, nor party, nor drink, nor have random hookups nor become a musician to have sex. Women will still want to have sex. In fact, older girls are more direct, because they know the value of their time. Did you see that cute girl at the grocery store? She needs to have sex. How about at the mall? Yep, her too.
/r/seduction12/10/15 12:18 PM
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I don't give a shit about my height Perfect mindset! If you don't care, she won't care. I travel by bike most places so I zoom past potential approaches I travel by bike too. And when I pass an attractive girl, I turn right back around. "Hey, I was just riding passed you and I had to tell you, you look <genuine compliment> today." <genuine compliment> must be genuine. sexy/amazing/stunning/awesome in that hat/elegant/cute... Big Ten college. Thousands of women. Horny women. Zero competition in t…
/r/seduction12/10/15 12:12 PM
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"I think you're cute/sexy/adorable and I want to hear your story. Let's meet for coffee on Monday at 6pm. [she wants to meet with friends] I'm interested in your story. Not theirs." You need to be sincere and genuine, so you're adding value. Otherwise, she'll intuit that you're taking her time. If she still declines: "Ok. Well, when the day comes that talking over coffee becomes normal for you, let me know. :) ;) [walk away]" You could re-ask and light-heatedly tease her in person weekly e.g. "H…
/r/seduction12/10/15 12:04 PM
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It's creepy if there's malicious intent. Yet he stated that he wants to "self-observe".
/r/seduction12/10/15 11:50 AM
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"What we have is pretty great. Let's be safe and responsible about it and establish a rule: I always wear a condom with you. And any other guys do too. Sometimes we get caught in the moment and 'Whoops! No condom this time.' If that happens, tell me and we'll talk about it."
/r/seduction12/10/15 11:46 AM
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Exactly. "Hey, someone recently said I need to work on my kissing. Would you know anyone with skills? ;)" [wait for reply] "But seriously. You, me. Teacher, student. If I get a bad grade, you can spank my ass and I'll wear a dunce hat."
/r/seduction12/10/15 11:41 AM
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journey to be a fitness model, starting to meditate daily, ... lots of reading Awesome. Keep improving yourself. luck... loneliness... pursue You have a scarcity mentality. It's not about luck. It's about biology. Women like sex too. She wants to have sex with a guy that's going to give her great sex. A scarcity mentality believes that there's limited amounts; therefore comes from the position of taking and pursuing. There are millions of women out there. Many will have between 5-15 sexual partn…
/r/seduction12/10/15 11:35 AM
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Meet in the middle OR Make a request e.g. "We're both interested in each other. I suggested to meet. You said you were busy. Suggest another time"
/r/seduction12/10/15 11:07 AM
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I see a girl for the first time. Something about her attracts me. I get her attention and tell her what attracted me. Chances are that's exactly what she wants to project to the world. Does that move her past any poor moments of prior interactions? I'd just call it out. "Hey, the first time we talked, I was an asshole. Let's start over. [rotate yourself around in a circle as if to rewind and re-meet for the first time. hold out your hand] Hi there, I'm Jake."
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:57 AM
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this opportunity bestowed to me from God LOL hard for me to approach without making a scene You're a man. You're attracted to women. How is it "making a scene"?! [after class] Hey Minnie, my ESP machine broke after we split. I wanted to signal "Let's meet for coffee on Wednesday at 6pm." [wait for giggle] Let's exchange numbers just in case I can't fix it before then.
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:51 AM
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wake up earlier sometimes works Set your phone farther away. Prepare everything the night before e.g. clothes beside bed, water ready to drink, breakfast mostly prepared. Then you're not dreading all the work that has to be completed to get ready. podcasts or audiobooks Whatever I'm interested in. I recently listened to A Song of Ice and Fire (aka Game of Thrones) audiobooks brilliantly read by Roy Dotrice. Art of Charm podcast.
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:44 AM
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I'm expecting results out very quickly Expect to have an interesting conversation, that's it. Ask her why she wants to become a fashion designer. Dig into her passions. It seems like an interview because it's only surface-level QnA.
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:39 AM
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Gain weight: https://www.reddit.com/r/gainit Until then, no need to divert attention. Call it out immediately with an exaggeration and it can never be used against you nor as an excuse later on. "Don't let me turn sideways, you might not be able to see me."
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:35 AM
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1 day before to reconfirm the rendezvous: "Hey <nickname>, curious to hear more about <topic> tomorrow night." <nickname> is something between you two <topic> is something she's interested in and briefly touched on
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:29 AM
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"Hey I want to hear more about <topic X>. Let's meet for coffee on Monday 6pm at <place Y>." <topic X> is something she's interested in but only briefly talked about <place Y> is a location near your residence
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:26 AM
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nervous Grab her hand and say, "Hey, I'm nervous around you because I like you." That's endearing. douche What makes him a "douche"? Be more specific instead of judging and labeling people. Next time say, "He seems dishonest and insincere."
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:22 AM
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Awesome Julian! This is how you become a natural.. improving yourself. language Duolingo, memrise, mylanguageexchange.com don't really feel motivated... 7am to 4 pm shifts... tired afterwards... Wake up 30min earlier. Write for 10min. Read for 20min. prepare meals I prepare a bunch of food at once and store in the fridge to re-heat later. OR, just make quicker, simpler meals. I also listen to podcasts and/or audiobooks while cooking and eating.
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:14 AM
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"hey, you seem like an interesting person. I want to hear your story. Let's meet for coffee on Monday."
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:02 AM
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rubbing my body up and down You rejected her. She gave you signs and you were indifferent to her advances. we barely had a conversation How about leading her to a quieter environment and having a conversation all the way to your bedroom.. Taking Value You have a scarcity mentality right now, so whenever you converse with a girl, she feels you want something from her. And that neediness translates all the way to the bedroom. She feels you're just going to pump and dump. Adding Value Newsflash: Wo…
/r/seduction12/10/15 09:57 AM
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I give a compliment within my 1st three statements of ever interacting.
/r/seduction12/10/15 09:35 AM
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"try to learn" needs to be "sincerely curious". Women are interesting people. I dont think I can be that open emotionally You're a human being, you're allowed to experience emotions.
/r/seduction12/10/15 09:10 AM
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Yeah, this stuff used to be so confusing. "Be yourself", my mom would say. Women are beautiful. Admire and adore them for it. You're a man. It's normal for you to be attracted. Look at an attractive woman. Focus on what's capturing your attention. Be specific. Her hat? Dress? Elegance? Maybe she's stunning. Does she have a cute walk? Then tell her it. If it's genuine, she'll thank you for the compliment. Then lead a conversation and dig into what interests her.
/r/seduction10/10/15 07:39 PM
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Build a connection with her. Find out what she's interested in and dive into it. Once you've created a connection. "Hey let's talk more about this. Let's meet for coffee on Monday." Take her number for logistic reasons.
/r/seduction10/10/15 07:08 PM
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Neither of you needs to "chase". Ask her what she's interested in and connect. If she's indifferent, then she's not worth your time. Move on to others.
/r/seduction10/10/15 07:04 PM
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Awesome! A simple reminder that most girls are friendly people too. Keep going.
/r/seduction10/10/15 07:00 PM
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Valuable comments about smiling and eye contact. I either [look at one eye] or [gaze through both]. Gazing is the "hypnotic" one. Feet: I never even pay attention. My intention is "you're sexy, I'm curious." From this, my body aligns itself. Text/phone game: you've already had a real-life conversation. Why downgrade to virtual communication?! Set up a date right there in person and exchange numbers for logistic reasons.
/r/seduction10/10/15 06:55 PM
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Here's the difference I perceive: An alpha pua demands a number, which implies "taking". Taking value. A natural builds a connection, adding value to the relationship. A number is meaningless compared to the conversation/date that's setup.
/r/seduction10/10/15 06:46 PM
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If she's interested in him, there's no need to waste time "getting into a project". Unless you mean getting into a project.
/r/seduction10/10/15 06:38 PM
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Her: "I don't drink coffee." Me: "They have hot chocolate and tea too." Her: "I don't like those either." Me: "Would you suggest an alternative."
/r/seduction10/10/15 06:35 PM
1

How direct: "That hat looks awesome on you." "That dress makes you look sexy and elegant." "You're stunning." How suave: this can't be typed out. Just be genuine. Truly appreciate her beauty and notice what attracted you to her. Response: "Thank you." almost every single time. If she doesn't have a boyfriend and she's interesting, we schedule a date.
/r/seduction10/10/15 05:09 PM
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The title doesn't make sense. "Chasing" women is caused by having a scarcity mentality. Leading women is necessary because following feels good to her. (Being a leader costs mental resources.)
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:57 PM
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set my intentions on the table from the start Exactly. Your time is your most valuable asset. Being direct has a much higher ROI than indirect.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:49 PM
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I'd like to add: Well I think you're really cool, let's hangout sometime! She says yes. <Let's meet for coffee on Tuesday.> [response] Let's exchange numbers just in case my car gets a flat. Set a date, then exchanging numbers becomes logical for logistic reasons.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:47 PM
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I never mention sex. It sets both our minds in the future and emphasizes a goal that's not completely within my control. Stay physically in the moment. The next step.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:42 PM
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First, kudos for taking the risk! (Most guys wait until they're barraged with signals.) You're a man and she's a woman. It's normal for you to be attracted to her. She probably has single, attractive girlfriends. Just have fun with her as a friend. Be a value-giver. She'll hook you up if you're awesome (Law of Reciprocity).
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:34 PM
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I look through her eyes and connect with her. And I hold until she breaks from the pressure.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:28 PM
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we started talking and things went from there Exactly. Delivery is more important than the actual content. You merely have to project your attraction for her.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:24 PM
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"Hey, I want to hear your story. Let's meet for frogurt on Monday" If she's talking to you, she's interested.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:20 PM
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"Hey [name], we said we wanted to go hiking together. I've proposed 2 times and you couldn't make it. Would you tell me when you can go" (Basic non-violent communication. State what happened and make a request.)
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:15 PM
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Do you ever leave your residence and there are girls walking around? Talk to girls in your everyday life when moving from A to B.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:07 PM
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I'm direct in a suave manner. Almost all girls respond positively. The ones that "blow me out" aren't people I want to be around.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:04 PM
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alpha pua: [demands] natural: "Let's meet for coffee on Wednesday." [takes phone number for logistic reasons and following up]
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:58 PM
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If you're asking, then it's probably a "yes".
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:55 PM
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You're a man. It's normal to be attracted to women. Therefore it's normal to talk to and filter in any that seem interesting.
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:52 PM
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Spanish people are direct. If you see an attractive girl, walk up and say, "Hola. [wait for response] Tu estas muy guapa hoy." By your accent, she'll immediately know you're a foreigner. Exotic. (lived in Spain for 6 months)
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:48 PM
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"You seem sexy and interesting. I want to hear your story. Let's do frogurt 6pm on Monday at Frogurt's." Directly advertises your intention. If she wants to, she just has to reply yes.
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:41 PM
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Mixed groups: "Which one of you guys is this girl's boyfriend?" 1 guy, 1 girl: "How long have you been together?" 1 girl: "How many lovers do you have?" 2+ girls: [to friend] "How many lovers does she have?" I'm direct. I value my time. Indirect has low ROI.
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:35 PM
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I'm sincerely curious why you approached them :)
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:28 PM
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only useful part: 1:48 -2:10 (use in bar/club)
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:29 AM
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Quit using pickup lines. Older looking women see right through it.
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:19 AM
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You're a man, she's a woman. It's normal for you to show your interest.
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:16 AM
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Our approach anxiety is singled down to this if anything, beauty enhances the will to approach. it's a reward, not a danger.
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:13 AM
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I don't go to clubs anymore. It's just not natural for me. (I talk to girls in everyday life.) But sometimes, my friends want to go. And they want me to go with them. I've recently tried a different strategy. What I do is sit on a bench or chair facing a high-traffic area where girls are standing still for some time (e.g. bar, bathrooms, coat area). And I meditate. Just sit there and absorb the energy of the room. I just sit there and I'm throwing out eye contact. If a girl holds for 2 seconds o…
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:05 AM
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Find out what her passions/skills are; what she does in her free time. If she says, "hang out with friends." or "party", dig deeper. What does she do in her own time... read, write, draw, paint, sing, etc.
/r/seduction08/10/15 11:57 PM
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What the hell is "overt kino"?! Just call it "touching". Start starting and ending conversations with hugs.
/r/seduction08/10/15 11:53 PM
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I'd send her: Let's go knock some pins on Tuesday at 6pm. what do you say
/r/seduction08/10/15 11:50 PM
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I had a lot of Norwegian friends at university. I second this.
/r/seduction08/10/15 11:43 PM
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I have negative qualities characteristics. Characteristics will always be a part of me. They set the base for my natural talents. Talents allow me to learn certain skills at a higher rate than a normal person. I receive more positive stimulation for my best skills, creating a cycle to master these skills. This creates an imbalance in my overall skill set, because I've neglected the skills which can't be boosted by my talents. It's my responsibility to recognize my talents and skills, especially …
/r/seduction02/10/15 12:23 AM
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Berlin
/r/seduction01/10/15 11:50 PM
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"hey [name], it seems you like [similar interest] just like me. let's argue about it over frogurt some time. what do you say"
/r/seduction20/08/15 03:48 PM
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I've started approaching in the day time. Each relationship takes a bit of time to develop and after that it's consistent sex. 3 girls at a time. 1 different date every few days. Most girls are ready for sex on the 3rd date (I need to escalate more). That means after 1 month of consistent dating, there will be sex every 2-3 days.
/r/seduction20/08/15 03:06 PM
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I've started approaching in the day time. Each relationship takes a bit of time to develop and after that it's consistent sex. 3 girls at a time. 1 different date every few days. Most girls are ready for sex on the 3rd date (I need to escalate more). That means after 1 month of consistent dating, there will be sex every 2-3 days. After a few sex dates with a girl, Option A. if there's NO strong connection (sexual nor personality), then we split and start looking for new people. Option B. if ther…
/r/seduction20/08/15 02:54 PM
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You want to be able to open and talk to random, attractive girls. So, let's break it down into a framework. This type of person has 3 characteristics: random, attractive, female. So, the sequence of an approach/open is broken down into levels. Each level is broken down into parts. Once you're comfortable with a part, you move onto the next part. Once you're comfortable with all parts, you move to the next level. I recommend doing all exercises in the same environment, because it'll establish a p…
/r/seduction20/08/15 02:23 PM
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