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Jake_Barnes_/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 07:24 PM
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DiscussionJake_Barnes_/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 04:41 AM
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Just depends on what jurisdiction you’re in, and even then it can depend on the judge. I know some a Judge who has it automatically go 50/50 if you move out, and the more traditional judges who give whoever moves out every other weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 09:13 AM
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The main reasons why you should not leave the house are: You create a second set of bills. The discomfort created by staying in the house helps cases settle quicker. If you are in the house, you have full access to your kids and there’s no custody schedule. Once you move out, you’ll get whatever time the court gives you and it’s usually every other weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 01:02 AM
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They are right maybe 10 to 20% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 03:23 AM
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I think in their mind they need to prepare their lawyer that he is going up against the mad evil conniving genius that is their spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 03:12 AM
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Lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 03:05 AM
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About 60% of my female clients use this word in our first consultation
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 09:23 PM
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I’m a low status male and I have regularly talked down to the rich of both genders, not proud of it but it is what it is
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 07:07 AM
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Lol this comment shows a lot about American society. Being aghast that someone who is not as rich as you could talk down to you. In medieval Europe how a lord would feel if one of his peasants reprimanded him
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 06:40 PM
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It’s all considered, so if you say put $10 in it from your salary over a 5 year period that’s going to be different than if you put $10,000. But generally commingling funds will make it marital property, so I would not put any new salary in it. Keep it separate and untouched.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 05:28 PM
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I’m in an equitable distribution state, so the rule is generally that anything owned pre-marriage is separate property and not subject to division in a divorce. The exception is if the property ends up being used for the common benefit of the marriage. And living in it together as husband and wife makes it marital property, especially that it was 8 years. That’s the definition of property being used for the common benefit of the marriage. People out there need to understand, right or wrong, the …
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 04:19 AM
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I can tell you from my last couple trials that men are not only getting bad mediation settlements but are also getting bad judgments from trial too. In my last 3 divorce trials I have had 2 go my way and 1 didn’t…. And I represented the wife on both wins and husband on the loss. Of course I’m biased, but we didn’t lose that one on account of a lack of effort or skill from me. My position is to try and tell guys what I realistically think their best day in court is and what their worst would be s…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:55 AM
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Whatever you do, don’t move out of the house. That’s a perfect recipe for creating a drag out messy costly divorce. If you both live together and someone ends up filing, the tension will be enough to cause whichever party is holding out to eventually settle so you can move on with your lives.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 10:01 PM
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Fyi, Dissipation has to have occurred during the breakdown of the marriage. So he needs some proof they were already pretty much separated then.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 05:05 AM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 04:52 PM
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Yep. People have won multi million judgments in NC. https://9thstreetjournal.org/2019/12/08/under-n-c-s-homewrecker-law-adultery-can-be-costly/
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 12:22 AM
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“I’m an average looking Cambodian-American” Lol for some reason this made me crack up. Idk why, just was unexpected, honestly thought it was going to read average joe. But instead a very niche ethnicity. And to answer your question, put your energy into your work. Specifically seeking out dating can backfire if it’s not the right time for that. Let it happen on its own.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 05:33 AM
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No specific threshold, it’s a case by case basis. You will have to present your monthly budget and show how you cannot meet those obligations with your income. And you can’t get away with saying things like your monthly grocery bill is $2k etc etc. ultimately it’s up to the bankruptcy judge.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 07:11 AM
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And I should point out I think it can be explained, because I have seen many CPAs/financial advisors give horrible advice regarding divorce, especially to guys with a lot to lose. Part of that is probably a misunderstanding between a criminal case and a divorce, and what you can get away with. They are thinking with the wrong mindset and imagining white collar prosecutors and the IRS. In divorce trials your asset division comes down only one person: the judge. The burden of proof in criminal cou…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 07:02 AM
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Lol, yes because making transfers to random entities in the Cayman Islands is just the thing the American man needs appearing on his bank statements when he is about to enter the painful world of divorce litigation.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 06:57 AM
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This is an incredibly dumb piece of advice and an easy way to have OP”s wife end up with 75% of the marital estate due to sanctions. Lawyers will find it and it will end badly. Paper trails are 1/2 of divorce discovery.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 02:38 AM
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You need an attorney. The reason being, when you litigate a divorce, your attorney will ask her attorney for what is called discovery. They will ask to list and provide statements of all her banking and retirement accounts and their value. The point being, how can you settle before you’ve found out everything that’s there? She will have to list out all her financial assets under oath. You’re entitled to 50% of all her retirement earned during the marriage and vice versa.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:46 AM
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You’re not going to be able to file a chapter 7 bankruptcy (the kind that discharges debts immediately). Your income is probably too high and you can meet all the minimum payments. Meaning you’ll have to file chapter 13. It’ll take 3-5 years to discharge the unsecured debts.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:39 AM
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You certainly have the money that getting a divorce attorney on retainer should happen asap. Maybe a post nuptial agreement might save the marriage and your peace of mind as you sleep with your millions of dollars! I can go ahead and tell you a post nuptial agreement is your only real way to end up with more than 50% of the equity in your house, aka if she agrees to it. Her names on it and you lived there together as man and wife, she’ll get 1/2 if you divorce. Gifts and inheritances are not mar…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:22 AM
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Okay. Let’s say it’s with 200k with a mortgage on it for 100k. If it’s foreclosed, it’ll sell, mortgage company will get their 100k and then she will get remaining 100k equity. And you probably do not have any grounds to vacate the settlement agreement so no way around it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 10:49 PM
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First of all, I’m guessing you settled and agreed to quit claim the house to her? If it does not plainly state she has to refinance, then she does not have to and she won’t. You’re in a bad spot. If she doesn’t pay, you’re on the line. Now worst case scenario, house forecloses and they’ll get their loan paid off, but your credit will take a hit.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 10:37 PM
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She can waive alimony but some judges don’t let you waive child support. What’s the custody schedule like? If she is getting custody and you are getting every other weekend, then yeah a judge may kick it back if they see you make 4x her income and she’s keeping the kid with her but you’re not paying any support.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 10:50 PM
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She owns 50% of the house
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 03:06 AM
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Just pray she doesn’t suddenly decide she wants alimony
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 03:06 AM
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Mediation with a good mediator is very valuable. Another benefit is you can hash out the minor details that may come back to bite you if you overlook them during a courthouse steps settlement that just settles big picture.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 01:11 AM
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If you were sexually attracted to men during the course of your marriage to a biological female, yes I hate to break it to you, but unless your wife was fully aware you were gay prior to the wedding, then it was the actual definition of a lie.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 08:26 AM
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I can’t imagine what she must be feeling like. To know her marriage was a lie. There’s nothing lower than this. Basically frauding someone of years of their life.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 03:49 AM
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Depends on the state, but you definitely need to try regardless. Your lawyer will file a motion asking for attorneys fees. Although warning she will only have to pay your attorneys fees if you don’t truly have access to any money. If you’ve got a 401k with 70 grand in it and she shows that to the court, it’ll be denied despite disparity in incomes.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 06:11 PM
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I just witnessed a wife get approximately 70% of the marital assets due to fault grounds
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 01:50 AM
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Get evidence of that asap, then file for divorce on grounds of adultery (unless you’re unfortunate enough to live in one of the 17 states and the District of Columbia that are “true” no-fault divorce states).
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 03:19 AM
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Yep. Although I’ve seen plenty of cases where dad got custody and the mom had to pay child support. But never alimony. And the only place to fight anything in court is the court of civil appeals. Which ain’t easy
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 01:00 PM
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If you live in a conservative state I’m sorry because you’re a great male candidate for alimony. I’m in south Texas and have never seen a male receive alimony in years of practice as an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 04:16 AM
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I’ve handled probably 50 divorce trials by now
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 10:17 PM
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You have completely missed the point about divorce trials. The evidence is the determining factor in how the judges divide the assets, at least in an equitable division state. Anything that makes the judge not like the other side is one thing that can swing more of your assets back to you. Now in states where the assets have to be divided according to a certain percentage by statute, then yes maybe evidence doesn’t matter. But I don’t live in one of those states.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 07:44 AM
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He is 100% wrong. Two party states only mean that both parties to a conversation have to be aware it is being recorded or else it’s wiretapping. As long as she knows he is recording, it doesn’t matter whether she consents or not.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 07:14 PM
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This. From the judge’s perspective, if they just let any guy off the hook because they quit working, then just any guy in the world would quit their job when they went through a divorce. That’s why they impute you at what they think you should be able to make. You need a strong rebuttal which would take a psychologist saying you are so mentally unwell you can’t work.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 11:31 PM
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Well aside from the fact that you know have a completely new set of bills and can only see your children 50% of the time, sure, no negative repercussions.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 09:40 PM
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Dude, you’re only 35. You can still 100% have children. But you have got to let this girl go, and you can only move on by stopping this kind of interactions. She left you, never forget.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 01:58 AM
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Damn, talk about down and out. Sad days in this sub.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 06:20 AM
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If a person stays out of the workforce to raise your children, then they haven’t spent time working and gaining the skills that make you valuable. You know as well as anybody how much more money you will make if you have been in a field five years vs showing up day one witho any experience. The law views spousal support as rehabilitation for them as they gain the skills back in the work force.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:06 PM
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You got an ex parte protection order because she moved out. If one party has moved out and their return would cause a shit show, then the judge will give you exclusive possession. You have a hearing on it coming up though, this protection order will only last a couple weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 05:48 AM
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Yes. Just put in your Venmo handle and we’ll all send you $ for your attorney’s fees.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 03:39 AM
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It is unfortunately too common for men and women to perform violent acts during divorce. Don’t become another statistic.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 10:18 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 08:15 PM
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9/10 divorce clients use it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 03:14 AM
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No, 1 in 200 people classify as clinical narcissist. My point is, your spouse isn’t a narcissist, trust me they aren’t that smart. They’re just assholes.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 05:52 PM
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Marriage does have something to do with child support, ie if you are married then you don’t pay child support
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 05:21 AM
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I’m a divorce attorney in court everyday.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:44 PM
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Perjury isn’t the point. The last thing our overworked criminal justice system needs is people going through a divorce who lied being added to their docket. The point is to make the opposing party seem untruthful to the judge if you go to trial. If they’ll blatantly lie about one thing it’ll impeach their credibility when testifying, which is 90% of your case in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 01:26 AM
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Yep your spouse is usually far too dumb to be a narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 04:05 PM
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9/10 clients claim they married a narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:33 PM
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Depends how long you were married and how much you make vs her income
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 05:11 PM
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Yep, only cases I’ve seen where it was ruled separate was when guy had an investment account prior to marriage and during the marriage he didn’t touch it and let dividends reinvest. 100% his
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 12:42 PM
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Prenups are strongly enforced actually. You are really giving some terrible advice to folks.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 10:24 PM
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I think guys would deal with it a lot better if they knew what the legal implications of getting married are from the outset. From the day you get married, there is no such thing as her_ money or his money…. Every cent you earn is marital.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 10:22 PM
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Testimony is a form of evidence. Most of the time it after a hearing a judge puts that into place they have a good reason.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 10:25 PM
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Whenever a client tells me this it means it’s time to settle and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 01:37 AM
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Right, I was replying to your comment saying you’ve never heard of any court with a 25 limit. The federal rule is 25, but of course it varies but that is typical. And yes federal courts don’t hear family law cases but states tend to model their rules of civil procedure after the federal RCP. Where I am, Texas, you cannot serve more than 25 interrogatories without leave of court. In Florida it is 30, California is 35, New York is 25, 30 in Illinois, 20 in Michigan. So the federal rule of 25 is no…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 05:04 PM
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https://www.law.cornell.edu/rules/frcp/rule_3
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 07:09 AM
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Hold on a second…. In many states you can’t ask more than 40 interrogatories. 25 is federal and it varies by state. You don’t have to answer those unless the other side asked the court for leave to exceed number of permitted interrogatories, but depends what state rules are.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 04:30 AM
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This is common for women who suddenly advance in their field, see kacey musgraves for example. They leave their old husband cause they get all “excited” by their new status and think they should do better. I’m sorry man, hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 03:48 PM
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You’ll get used to it quick
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 02:52 AM
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Don’t date older girls
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 08:10 PM
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You brought home all the money… and you cooked all the meals??? Yeah you’re better off without her man, I promise
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 05:44 PM
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Basically. When you’re married, besides gifts or inheritances, legally speaking there is no money that is just your money or just her money. Marriage turns two people into one, so everything you have you own together. You cease becoming an individual when you get married.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:30 AM
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That’s a good point, and is why I want to reiterate: do not cut your wife off, that will really screw you in court. What I mean more is say you have a big pot of money that her name is on and you suspect she may withdraw a huge figure, not just for day to day marital expenses. Take her name off that but continue to give her money, just not enough to where she’s gonna abscond to Timbuktu.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 01:34 AM
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Yes. So if you’ve been giving her 2,000 a month, the courts gonna force you to continue, this is where I also see a lot of guys downfall. They let their wife live too high on the hog. The court can only increase her temporary alimony too, they are never going to order you to start giving her less than you were prior to filing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 01:32 AM
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Yeah this is the problem. The judges have no idea how to resolve it correctly, because technically it’s not theft because you’re married and you can’t steal from your own money. so the easiest solution is to agree with the woman’s attorney that it was marital funds used on marital expenses and just let it slide.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 01:28 AM
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Now I would never advise someone to cut their wife off completely. I think best practice is to have your money safe and if you have been the provider then just give her a set amount each week you think is reasonable.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 09:45 PM
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Courts only looking at the children you have with the other party in your case. If you had child support payments on the record with your ex then that can factor into your calculation but they aren’t gonna modify or change anything about your prior
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 07:26 PM
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I’ve been a divorce attorney and over my career usually 1/2 clients will tell me their spouse is a “narcissist”. It’s been true maybe 5% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 07:11 PM
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Hold on, where are you living right now???
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:24 AM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 03:57 PM
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I never understood the gun part of it. Like why wouldn’t you want to kill her instead of yourself?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 05:24 AM
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Marriage is for life, but I have less sympathy for someone on their third round vs someone who was left abruptly after 30 years
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 05:22 AM
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Okay well you’ve gotta provide for your family. But let’s get to brass tax, you have not signed the settlement yet right? If so, you don’t need to. You’ll have a better chance at trial if you think you should pay a whole lot less than 10k in alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 12:23 AM
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I’m guessing you make in the 200-300 income range?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 10:16 PM
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Exactly… the court can only decide on what’s in the best interest of the child based on…. Evidence. Would you rather have courts decide it based off something else?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 01:48 PM
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She can’t just “file” for child support. Did your agreement state you had to pay $1500 per month specifically? If not, she will need to file a new petition and go to trial to get you to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 04:36 AM
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What does that mean, because you live in Florida you get 50/50 custody? I’m pretty sure in every state custody is decided by what’s in the best interest of the child and nothing else.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 01:19 AM
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Anytime you hear her wanting to “take space” it’s already over. I had to learn that the hard way, and more than once.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:28 AM
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Most guys especially want 50/50 because of the amount it lowers your child support payments by if the dad is the higher earner
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:27 PM
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So you want joint and the kids want joint. What does mom want?
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 06:53 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:30 PM
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Career maxxing. You know how many doctors I know who were practically ignored by women their whole lives but now as physicians in their 30s they are constantly being fought over by nurses. You’ve got to really make good money to peak later though, a guy who makes 40k a year definitely peaked around 20. Meanwhile look at Elon musk with amber heRd. Could he have gotten her when he was 20? Doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:09 AM
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It benefits men and women. Who benefits more from it is honestly best figured out on a case by case basis. But just like you can tell from the fact women are the plaintiffs 70% of the time, it will seem like 70% of married men may appear to benefit slightly more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:05 AM
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Oh well then yeah if you’re fine with what you have and your ex is not trying to take away what you have now then what’s the problem?
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 06:10 AM
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You need to ask your lawyer to file a motion to appoint a guardian ad litem asap. They don’t represent the kid, they represent what’s in their best interest. Sometimes the kids wishes don’t go along with that and the GAL can help your case
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 04:16 AM
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No such thing as a an “ick” for men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:54 PM
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I know, I know I am. But it’s not illegal to jerk off to somebody! But ethically? Idk. I can’t help it from time to time
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 06:17 PM
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I’ll admit I do this once I quit pron, usually just go to girls I’m friends with instagram pages and find a good bikini photo. So much healthier for you than watching some drugged out bimbo getting throat fucked. That shit kills your soul. Jerking off to the cute girl from math class is good for your soul, no cap
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:09 AM
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Lol you dope. Go ask millionaires if money changes the dating game. And this is true at all levels. It’s only because women in their early 20s aren’t so much yet hit with the harsh reality of adult life and having to slave away to pay your bills. They just want to have fun. Girls 25 and up…. Money counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:57 PM
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Hmmm fair enough, so if they’re in middle school how old will your youngest be when you hit 70?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:41 AM
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The whole women can’t cum from missionary sex is one of those things that is a “Reddit theory” . You’ll never find it in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 01:13 AM
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If she has tattoos
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:16 PM
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100% for the last majority of guys. Some chads probably only see them as whores until they hit their 30s and decide to settle down
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:40 PM
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You’ve got a nice cock
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 09:01 AM
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Damn you hit the nail on the head, 9 times out of 10 if two people have had sex on numerous occasions and aren’t dating it’s because the guy doesn’t like her enough to date her 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:12 AM
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Okay…. Where in my comment do I state that any woman is going to want a lonely man? I simply said IF one liked him he would reciprocate. I’m aware that if is like a one in a million.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 04:58 PM
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Lonely men do not hate lonely women though. They hate every woman who is has a boyfriend or active dating life. If a lonely girl was interested in a lonely man I guarantee you he’s not gonna hate her
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 02:16 AM
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Women are disgusted by weakness, it’s by nature. They can empathize but it does not equal affection
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 02:14 AM
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Fuck no… you know she’ll gain it back
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:49 AM
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Sadly, no
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:35 PM
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It’s one of the biggest myths that most women prefer other ways to orgasm than penis in vagina sex. The truth is the vast majority of women will have their most intense sexual experience with a man they love in the missionary position. Women are far more mental than physical when it comes to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:31 AM
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Does it make her ass any tighter? Or her skin any fairer, or her eyes any bluer? No
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:41 AM
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Men who do mr Olympia are not trying to get laid, they have an addiction to steroids and body dysmorphia.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:38 AM
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Lol true, you don’t think of Oprah as someone a bunch of guys want to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:30 AM
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