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Yes, go for it. Talk to her, have a good time, go for the kiss, and take it from there.
/r/seduction09/03/22 01:16 AM
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Maybe try cutting the conversations early yourself and leave them wanting more. But aside from that it looks fine, sometimes you can play all your cards right and still lose.
/r/seduction09/12/21 03:19 PM
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Lol you're such a loser.
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:00 PM
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I mean men compliment women all the time with no intention of banging them. But they'll asumme you do.
/r/seduction29/09/21 05:22 PM
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But that's the point, most people who are comfortable being alone aren't looking for that, until they meet someone they click with and it flows into it naturally. So the point is even if you want something long term, unless you're going for the rare case of a woman that just right off the bat wants something serious, which is a red flag because they're interested in being in a relationship not in you specifically, you have to play it cool. I've had partners that became something serious many mor…
/r/seduction04/09/21 07:27 PM
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That's the vast majority of women, unless you've already established something deep with them for a while. I don't mean it as an insult to women, there's things that as much as men wouldn't want to be stereotyped are basically the same for most men. I've met amazing women that were very intelligent, beautiful, successful, and that still applies. Mature in every way but that then.
/r/seduction04/09/21 06:25 PM
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Yeah that's how you can basically fuck up something guaranteed. It's amazing, I've had many girls that were into me at first and the moment I confessed my feelings oh I don't see you like that? Bullshit.
/r/seduction04/09/21 04:11 PM
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This is such a romantization of reading and exactly what I expect from people of this type. Bloody everyone reads, it's not reserved for some limited intelligent group which has refined tastes. Finding a woman in a bookstore doesn't make her any more likely to be intelligent, especially in comparison to any other woman who reads books she buys from Mercado Libre or Amazon, or that reads papers in pdf format she finds online. Same thing for you, so a woman shouldn't assume oh this man is in one o…
/r/seduction25/05/21 02:27 PM
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You shouldn't really tolerate shit tests if you're looking for something long term. I've done it and it always means immaturity and things that will just make the relationship awful.
/r/seduction20/04/21 06:15 PM
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Maybe you come from a conservative country, because where I come from women that are wealthy, even if you assume those are the more intelligent and capable of those conversation, tend to have tattoos if they're under 35.
/r/seduction08/04/21 07:21 PM
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Jaja cheers expérience will make you better.
/r/seduction16/03/21 04:34 PM
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Honestly sneak in some implicative remarks, look at her sexually, but not creepily.
/r/seduction16/03/21 04:14 PM
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This has happened to me a lot. Honestly being relaxed, bold and a bit crude is the best combination I've seen.
/r/seduction16/03/21 02:43 PM
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I'm exactly like you, but two of the top comments are very true. Beware of when a dry spell hits, and be aware that the real high might be feeling like a rock star because of external validation. I'll admit it, more often than not I like having a hot girlfriend more for the external validation than what she does for me.
/r/seduction27/02/21 01:25 AM
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There have been seduction for women posts and such, but yeah most of the people here are men. I'd say seducing a man is basically the same thing in essence. Being confident, kind, dressing well, being a multi faceted person with interests and opinions. And getting out there and starting the conversation.
/r/seduction08/02/21 01:39 PM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction17/01/21 09:49 PM
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Nah I'm not the one complaining about what someone on the internet calls them, the snowflake is someone else.e
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:14 PM
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You're such an absolute sack of worthless shit. Saying men are a threat to women is a garbage sexist mentality.
/r/seduction25/07/20 07:22 PM
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Except, you absolute fool, black men are a subset of men. So if men are a perceived threat or allergy....so are black men as a subset of that. You're kind of a dumbshit.
/r/seduction25/07/20 07:07 AM
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That sort of thing doesn't apply here. Not all allergies are negative. You can't equate them. Unlike in mathematics
/r/seduction25/07/20 06:47 AM
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I'm sorry are you allergic to men? That sounds pretty fucking shitty. If I said I was allergic to women, people would rightly say I'm a misogynist.
/r/seduction25/07/20 04:13 AM
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Yes you are. You guys generalized to basically any general case. She's ordering an ice cream? Careful it's a frightening situation. She's eating a taco? Truly terrifying. It's exactly what you're talking about, OP at least tried to say it well, in the other thread. But in this one everyone generalized her argument and started saying yeah men don't know when to talk to women and women see men as a threat.
/r/seduction24/07/20 08:42 PM
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He just said not secluded places at night. So why are you literally choosing the case he said not to.
/r/seduction24/07/20 02:15 PM
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No, that's untrue. From the perspective of women who have bought into anti male modern discourse sure. What kind of prejudice person assumes everyone of x group is a threat? You said all men are a perceived threat to women right? So let's choose a subset within that group, black men. All women perceive black men to be threats. See how that's blatantly racist? All women perceive gay men to be threats? See how that's blatantly homophobic? Taking the assumption that all women view all men as a thre…
/r/seduction24/07/20 02:14 PM
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Thinking that one woman is the "one" and the only possible way to be happy
/r/seduction10/07/20 09:53 PM
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It means you need more exposure to women so you don't get oneitis
/r/seduction10/07/20 09:45 PM
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It's true, it's not magic. Women don't have a magical ability to sense things, be strong or other actual magical abilities. But, on average, they do have a better social awareness. So they see social value easily.
/r/seduction03/07/20 05:22 PM
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She's probably a person with insecurity issues. Congratulations you're not only making them worse but you're also making your relationship boring by deteriorating the person you're talking to.
/r/seduction22/05/20 12:12 AM
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Wow 1 and 4 are so me it's not even funny. No really it's depressing. Hope you got over it OP.
/r/seduction15/02/20 04:33 PM
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That last thing is a good addition, I've never thought of it and it's definitely helpful. Women have criticised me asking if that's ok and if she's enjoying it.
/r/seduction11/02/20 02:37 PM
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Yeah our country is pretty liberal. Our women are really independent too, higher than most countries management rate and home ownership rate for women. They can be hard to impress sometimes though. I'm glad you had fun and liked someone from here so much, hope you come back!
/r/seduction10/02/20 04:15 PM
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Hey I agree with you alot. Tinder is different in my country, Colombia in that there are alot of women who are looking for something serious. But for me ironically that meant meeting women who were looking for serious when I was looking for casual, and vice versa. Plus some that were confusing in every sense, explicitly saying constantly that they don't want a boyfriend...but also treating me as such. Anyway the point is if Tinder isn't your thing that's perfectly fine, it definitely has some se…
/r/seduction10/02/20 02:35 PM
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I agree with common values a ton. But common tastes not so much. Like sure maybe a couple, but so many couples are the guys likes sports and games, and she likes shopping and dancing. Or things like that. And they're still good relationships. I think one usually finds some common ground or even influences the other person to develop new common tastes when the chemistry and other things line up well. But yeah it's true that it's good to look for someone who shares alot, it makes things more seaml…
/r/seduction04/02/20 12:28 PM
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Yeah I'm not good at writing things that have to do with me. Good in academic papers. Not here. But yeah women are like that. You'll have tons of differences in tastes, your style in comparison to her type, etc, but if you turn her on and show you're passionate none of that matters. But when you fuck up and stop polarizing, stop being that wow in her life, it's a domino effect. Suddenly it's not just that you're not making her world explode, you're also the guy with a backpack that's just not ma…
/r/seduction03/02/20 09:52 PM
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Because those things don't really matter as much as people think. She liked me physically alot, she would tell me handsome, cute, sexy, everything all the time. More than me to her. She liked that I'm smart and liked to read. How I danced too but that's a smaller thing. There's more fundamental things that cause initial attraction, it's later when things go bad that every little thing becomes a reason why not to be with you.
/r/seduction03/02/20 09:39 PM
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I was doing something like this until she got back with her ex 🙄
/r/seduction11/01/20 08:26 PM
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It doesn't have to be a first date.
/r/seduction25/12/19 12:48 AM
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It's because of your mindset, honestly that's the most important thing and what you're lacking. You see ugly guys with attractive women all the time. Just try being friends with a few women, average if it helps with the pressure. Be a little flirty but legitimately try to have fun with them. Then take it from there.
/r/seduction16/12/19 03:31 PM
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And that in itself is a huge help. Women are more open to attention and conversation than many men think, but then actively showing it is a big boost.
/r/seduction08/12/19 09:41 PM
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I agree so much. Tinder used to be good. It's now shit.
/r/seduction05/12/19 05:14 PM
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Not really, it's also very cultural. People where I live, women included are very willing to insult and yell at someone who starts following you or sexually harassing. I just meant that I wished you luck. So I hope you're happy and keep on being very well with your boyfriend :).
/r/seduction29/11/19 02:10 AM
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It's sounds funny.
/r/seduction28/11/19 11:55 PM
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What. No. Ironically the country I live in is considered somewhat unsafe, in an exaggerated way. But women aren't so worried about those things here, or at least it wouldn't seem like so. Ok, well I hope some guy that's cool approaches you in a circumstance where you feel comfortable.
/r/seduction28/11/19 11:10 PM
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Where do you live that everyone is so dangerous? Or weird Jaja.
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:33 PM
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That's what many women I've met and dated have told me. Except that that's also how I've met many of these women. Not saying you're not like you say, but if the man is wearing the same t shirt as your favorite band and is handsome, you're telling me you wouldn't at least indulge a little?
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:14 PM
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I think it's serious. People like seeing positive change in those who they see often and like. Well just act on it, be a little more flirty. Try to establish physical contact. Be friendly and make conversation. You can always post a picture if you want us to confirm you're attractive but it's pretty obvious.
/r/seduction25/11/19 01:50 PM
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Not really. I know men and women who would walk away from it due to emotional and other circumstances. I wouldn't do it, but they would.
/r/seduction19/11/19 09:50 PM
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I don't know why you're being downvoted, I'm physically attractive, everyone says so, but on the street and depending on the day I can stare alot and women will go from looking to looking away. You have to be Adonis level pretty to be able to do whatever.
/r/seduction18/11/19 05:29 PM
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It seems you have no trouble attracting women. So honestly the issue seems mental in what you say, that anxiety you get. Most guys feel some butterflies or nerves in a situation with that much tension. But to let it overpower them, that's rarer. I think the therapy will help you. Honestly I'd say you need to ignore that anxiety in the moment and just go for the kiss, for the turning her on. But if you truly hit a wall with the anxiety then that's a psychological thing you need professional help …
/r/seduction12/11/19 03:18 PM
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That's exactly it. Stereotyping hurts all. One of the coolest girls I've met, into anime, rock, reading, etc, I met at a club.
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:38 PM
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Yeah, I lived in the US quite a while, 8 years and when I visit I do well. I'm German looking, since part of my descent is German. But ironically people think in Latin America being blond and such is a big advantage, but it really isn't. Being foreign is an advantage. By the way man you have some guns on you, what routine do you do?
/r/seduction06/11/19 04:02 PM
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They are good looking, and you are too! If you ever posted on one of those Tinder profile reviews I even told you I think. Yeah once I get home I'll send you the pics, I'm at the gym. The thing is also there's a large gap in countries. I'm Colombian, so the good looking girls here are crazyyy hot, but they're also really sought after. Lots of competition.
/r/seduction06/11/19 03:33 PM
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I'll post them when I get home, but women themselves have told me I have good pics, on Photofeeler they're ranked 9+. In person I can get the attention of good looking girls, although I definitely look better in person.
/r/seduction06/11/19 03:16 PM
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I believe in you man.
/r/seduction29/10/19 03:39 PM
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Well it depends on what your priorities are. It's like in music, there are people who are lucky and are born prodigies. Others which have to work day and night to get near or at those results. But if you love music, either way you try. I feel the same as you, and I'm objectively good looking. But terrible socially, just plain awful. I see average looking guys getting with very beautiful women all the time so easily, while I struggle to make conversation with anyone, let alone women. However on o…
/r/seduction29/10/19 03:04 PM
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I'd say some women do that. But the majority don't.
/r/seduction29/10/19 03:01 PM
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Um that's not how women are here at all, that's like me seeing American women in Cancun and thinking they're all sluts. That's probably because he went to the most famous party neighborhood in Medellin, parque Lleras, and that's where lots of prostitutes congregate. It's like if I went to Hamburg and thought all German women were prostitutes because of the party area near the red light district. That's not how most women are at all, especially in Medellín... Yeah of course a web cam girl will be…
/r/seduction26/10/19 05:50 PM
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Well it's different, Medellín Is ethnically somewhat different from Mexico and culturally as well. Women here are whiter for example and look quite different in many cases. Urban culture is stronger here too, which affects dress and attitude. I say it because it's relevant for the kind of women you want to meet. Mexican women are very attractive too, and as you say Medellin has a ton of expats plus us men from here are known for being attractive and good with women, so it's very competitive. I m…
/r/seduction26/10/19 05:27 PM
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Seddit isn't so sex starved in general.
/r/seduction26/10/19 02:37 PM
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That's absurd. There's a whole range between someone who can't ride a bicycle and a Tour the France winner. I sleep with women every once in a while. It's no where near as much as I'd like or usually with women that are as interesting or physically attractive bad I'd prefer. Clearly I am no pro.
/r/seduction26/10/19 01:25 PM
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Most people who give advice aren't pros, they're guys who started trying and found some results.
/r/seduction26/10/19 01:01 AM
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Most people on this sub are average guys trying to do better with women. The comic makes no sense.
/r/seduction25/10/19 07:36 PM
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I think neediness can manifest itself in not actually trying to get to know the woman. It happens with me sometimes, I'll talk to a woman and just be too strong with the sexual topics. Truly having a fulfilling lifestyle solves like half those issues.
/r/seduction25/10/19 03:24 AM
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Colombia
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:34 PM
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Not easily at all. You're oversimplifying. Sure it happens more often than for the average man with no money or status. But women all don't flock towards rich men or such.
/r/seduction24/10/19 05:48 PM
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I love Mexico.
/r/seduction24/10/19 05:46 PM
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Experience. To be honest, at least in my case, with a woman you truly feel for it will never get easier or barely. But in general you can definitely use practice and experience to improve. I don't even care when a woman rejects me anymore.
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:24 PM
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Wow, impressive.
/r/seduction22/10/19 10:48 PM
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I don't think so honestly. People are in different places of what they're looking for in different moments. When I met her I wanted something casual, it's just that things changed for me. She didn't break up with me either, I broke up with her since I told her it was impossible for me to keep seeing her, her being "emotionally unavailable".
/r/seduction19/10/19 02:22 PM
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Yeah I agree with alot of that. A fulfilling sex life is part of a fulfilling life. But only part. You need the whole pie, and the size of the pieces depend on the individual. I'm going to do something the seddit community is probably against, and text her in a few months to see if she by some miracle is "emotionally available". I don't believe she will, but who knows. At least I know she liked me up to the five days ago we broke up. The point is to work for those things that make you happy. I d…
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:52 AM
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I did all what seddit recommends and went out with a woman I really liked, and liked me back. We both were looking for a casual think originally. I started developing strong feelings and we had to end it, since she was emotionally unavailable and I couldn't simply hold a casual relationship with someone I felt that way for. So I didn't commit mistakes, in the sense that I had her attracted to me and wanting to sleep with me, but we still weren't successful together.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:55 PM
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Man up or fail. It's pretty simple. Face your fears and become close to someone which will make your life better, or let cowardice ruin you.
/r/seduction18/10/19 02:00 AM
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Text her back. Jesus.
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:43 AM
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That actually sounds like really good advice. That's a kind of game I have to learn more, the not take myself too seriously kind.
/r/seduction13/10/19 07:21 PM
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Well I'm Colombian, I'm just translating. To be more accurate I say she's being really cold when I feel she's being cold, and yesterday that we fought I told her that I find it unequal that she gets me to sext her in writing but won't do the same in return.
/r/seduction13/10/19 06:36 PM
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This is a great post. I posted here last night, sad because I messed up with a woman I enjoy going out with and like alot. But she responds very positively to around half of me, and very dry to the other half. She likes the confident, outgoing, joking guy. Doesn't like the vulnerable and sensitive guy so much, that tells her what she's doing is hurting his feelings. Neither one of the two sides is inherently bad, but they each attract different women and have different bad sides. These bad sides…
/r/seduction13/10/19 06:11 PM
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I understand...my question revolved more around how badly I fucked up by complaining about the "inequality" element. Because I like her and not only did she get mad, she stopped responding until this morning. And she's pretty cold right now, even for her.
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:12 PM
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I'm not talking in bed though. In bed I'm comfortable, I was talking to her through text. I was describing all Is do to her and she loved it but didn't want to send anything back, textual or otherwise. I told her it was unequal and she said I say everything she does is bad.
/r/seduction13/10/19 03:23 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah I'll be honest and say I'm disappointed because I really liked this one. But her dislike of confrontation making it impossible to have an honest discussion about why I don't think her actions are fair to me I think is immature. Cheers!
/r/seduction13/10/19 11:14 AM
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Thanks, she left me on read, and it does hurt some. I like her and we've gone out. But strictly following what people say about being honest it's probably for the better then, if she's going to react like that. It's a case of her not being into me as much as the other way around.
/r/seduction13/10/19 06:28 AM
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It's because she wanted to at first but now she's over you. Stop talking to her.
/r/seduction12/10/19 08:42 PM
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Well I would say there's more volatility. Sometimes your absolutely right. Or the opposite. There's no middle ground.
/r/seduction12/10/19 07:42 PM
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As a colombian you can definitely sexualize over text, it's just if your Spanish is bad it doesn't sound smooth.
/r/seduction12/10/19 06:42 PM
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I've had the problem for a while honestly.
/r/seduction11/10/19 10:29 PM
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How do you concrete with women through text? I don't have so much of a problem picking up, but out of the 10 I might hang with one or two. I'm exactly the case that is discussed in Models about the guy that gets alot but actually gets somewhere with 1.
/r/seduction11/10/19 09:55 PM
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Damn your paciente, would have gotten bored like by the third page of texts of excuses. But nice job on the close man.
/r/seduction11/10/19 08:46 PM
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I agree with the sentiment of the post but the conversation is so manufactured it's not even funny. No woman talks like that and much less goes into every relevant point in order plus thoroughly.
/r/seduction11/10/19 06:42 PM
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He's certainly creepy. But this is a garbage charge.
/r/seduction10/10/19 10:50 PM
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This sounds so lovely, I'm so happy for you. I hope everything goes great!
/r/seduction01/10/19 04:25 AM
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Same man.
/r/seduction29/09/19 05:16 PM
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But what do you ask and she says yes or do you go for it after the message?
/r/seduction29/09/19 02:45 AM
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How does that go?
/r/seduction29/09/19 02:38 AM
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Walk up and say hey, small talk and then say hey I had a dream about you the other day. From there let the conversation flow.
/r/seduction29/09/19 02:36 AM
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If you want to sleep with him then do so, get it out of your system. You're young too, it's a good moment.
/r/seduction29/09/19 02:13 AM
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In general, although there are alot of exceptions which are quite strong, knowing there are other women competing for you gives you a ton of social value. But try not to mention it directly, be like oh a friend and let her be the one that thinks it's a romantic interest. But these games aren't so important, especially when you're at the point you are. Just hangout with her, get her to your place for some reason and escalate.
/r/seduction28/09/19 07:47 PM
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I think it would be too harsh and can likely backfire. Instead I'd talk about alot of events you're going to and stuff, and how you've met alot of cool people. She'll think you mean women by herself.
/r/seduction28/09/19 07:40 PM
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Cheers mate, proud of you!
/r/seduction23/09/19 06:16 PM
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Amazing transformation in mentality and the results speak for themselves. Congratulations in being a new man for the rest of your life. Be proud of yourself.
/r/seduction16/09/19 05:23 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that, if you want you can PM me and talk about it. The other guy I said to listen to also knows his stuff clearly, good person to listen to for game.
/r/seduction16/09/19 03:05 PM
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It's crazy I've gone out with bang average and less girls, as much as some very attractive ones. They all have a million messages at a time.
/r/seduction14/09/19 04:01 AM
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He's saying that it was because of you appearance that they reacted well to a corny line. I thought it was a great line, I'd never think about it, and I also agree that the physical isn't that important with women. It's how you acted and what you said that really made it so successful.
/r/seduction11/09/19 06:43 PM
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All the more reason to listen to that guy's advice. If she has a FWB then definitely start things more casual, don't overinvest in someone who clearly isn't in a position to invest that much in you.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:46 PM
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At least one and a half.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:41 PM
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I think most of the comments here by men are oversimplifications that are similar to when women say just talk to us and ask us out as if it were that easy. Some of the advice, be confident, try to stay in shape, get a hobby, are gender neutral and good advice for both. But there are other things that are more gender skewed. For example letting a man share his vulnerability with you is huge. Contributing and taking the lead in conversation. Giving small gifts or things that are of a shared experi…
/r/seduction09/09/19 04:11 AM
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What other have said is very good advice, but I'd add that maybe trying to meet women in less sexual or physical circumstances might help at first, since you're nervous. With little experience, such a strong atmosphere of sex and such might be a little nerve recking. So maybe take some classes in painting, or yoga, or anything else where you can see women in a friendly and social but non sexual way. That will calm you down and let you ease into the physical and such. Also you should post a pictu…
/r/seduction26/08/19 04:42 PM
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Daygame is thought and is more inner linked. You can't just put up a confident face and talk your way into a woman's pants. Well you can but it's tougher and less likely. Instead you focus on the hobbies and things you like and try to naturally build rapport with women who are in that sphere. From there you can make good friends with women, sleep with them, share with them. Whatever you want. I understand where you're coming from since it's the same for me.
/r/seduction19/08/19 01:37 AM
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A six pack isn't raw strength..it's just a low bf. The SAT and GRE are minimums. Between two people who pass no one cares who has a higher score. Height is a positive trait...but being tall isn't a guarantee lay. There's plenty of dumb and ugly tall people. If you take an average looking mathematician and average looking gym bro, both of the same social ability...the mathematician can edge the gym bro.
/r/seduction13/08/19 12:04 AM
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No...just not IQ, only idiots who don't know anything about intelligence talk in terms of IQ. Do you think in academic circles thinkers ask each other what IQ they have?
/r/seduction12/08/19 11:47 PM
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Only a child speaks in terms of IQ.
/r/seduction12/08/19 08:59 PM
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It absolutely does not. In fact if you read women's blogs, a six pack is a cherry on top of a desert, many women would be WAY more attracted to a man who has read ten classical books. Intelligence melts women. Is this a joke? When people in the PUA community talk about conversations and how women already decided whether they will sleep with a man or not, intelligence is amongst the top things there. A woman having an interesting conversation with a man, that challenges her positions, that teache…
/r/seduction12/08/19 07:19 PM
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That's not true, intelligence is very attractive for women. If you strike up a conversation and start talking about academic subjects, but truly show through the conversation that you know alot, they'll be impressed.
/r/seduction12/08/19 05:39 PM
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Don't worry man there's a reason he's being downvoted, he's an asshole. What one of the people said, read Models. Also try to integrate yourself into social groups without expecting anything from women. It feels counter intuitive but women will see you having fun, confident and without desperation and it'll happen. Work on yourself, sub to gainit and workout to be the best physical you you can be.
/r/seduction03/08/19 09:06 PM
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Um I disagree with Rio definitely and São Paulo a bit. Not to mention gringo is foreigner for anyone in Brasil. I'm Colombian and they call me gringo, Brasil thinks of itself as a very closed country. Also just because a woman isn't snow white doesn't mean she's not attractive.
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:48 PM
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If you ever have the time I recommend south America. The large cities have women who are very similar to European ones. Both in dress, looks, attitude.
/r/seduction01/08/19 03:45 PM
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This happens with women too though. You just have to learn how to take advantage of it.
/r/seduction24/07/19 01:17 AM
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Jajaja you're such a moron. I don't date Spanish, which doesn't even make sense since I'm not a Spaniard for you to expand the criteria to all. You're ignorant, lack reading comprehension and racist. Pretty stupid and it shows.
/r/seduction22/07/19 05:03 PM
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JAJA I have two master's and speak 4 languages fluently. And you're not even capable of understanding simple psychology.
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:46 PM
1

You're right. For some reason I read it as saying you're dumb. Doesn't matter, the point still stands, you have the reading comprehension of a toddler.
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:39 PM
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You're*. And you're so bloody daft you don't even have the reading comprehension skills to understand that there's a larger problem in many individuals who search for casual sex than just attachment.
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:36 PM
-1

Ok you're just dumb and close minded.
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:32 PM
1

Because people aren't free of themselves. You're basically saying if people feel bad after doing heroin why do they keep doing it? It's the nature of our own flaws that they be addictive.
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:09 PM
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Not if it's iterative, (excuse me if it's the wrong term, I speak Spanish). So if it's a regular occurrence that the sex is unsatisfactory and leaves the relevant individual feeling bad about themselves even though by apparent circumstance they should be quite compatible and the same should enjoy it, then there might be a trauma or way of thought it something that's skewing the resultant feelings.
/r/seduction22/07/19 03:29 PM
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Plenty of people do. And even if they didn't it's part of robust research to show what might be "common sense". But many people have self worth issues and other problems which lead to unfulfilling searches for casual sex.
/r/seduction22/07/19 03:08 PM
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You're so out of touch. I never said a single thing about anything serious. I didn't even mention relationships, your reading comprehension is so awful that you took a paragraph talking about how Tinder is stacked against men and how women receive validation easily on it and you turned it into looking for a relationship. Even though it's not mentioned at all. Have you seen the data posts? A thousand swipes for 15 mediocre matches with women who aren't guaranteed to be interesting and are probabl…
/r/seduction21/07/19 07:37 PM
4

Lol you have to match first to unmatch. You have to match first to see if she's interesting or not. And getting matches is difficult, especially now. It used to be easier, the odds were always against men in general but at least it was workable. They monetized the platform to an extreme to fleece men for matches. How is you post any sort of advice or otherwise when women will get validation from thirsty men like nothing. Even an average woman gets thousands of likes.
/r/seduction21/07/19 07:15 PM
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Plus that ideal face girl then proceeds to say her boyfriend looks alot like him? As in success with that ideal face is proven with someone that looks like him? That's gold Jerry!
/r/seduction18/07/19 07:30 PM
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I get you completely. In the name of all the guys who have frozen up or lost to the shit tests...you're a bloody hero. Cheers.
/r/seduction17/07/19 08:13 PM
1

Goes to show how south American women are very down to earth. I'm Latino myself and tend to have more success with foreign women, but people have told me alot that south American women are really chill and progressive. I'm glad you had fun friend.
/r/seduction12/07/19 03:37 AM
1

Intelligent, passionate, physically beautiful and kind hearted.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:57 AM
3

It's pretty fucking safe in the resorts.
/r/seduction04/07/19 01:05 AM
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The weed part makes it believable for me. I've had mediocre performances which resulted in orgasms for women just because of weed. There's even academic literature on it. Seriously it's like a cheat code.
/r/seduction04/07/19 01:04 AM
1

I mean if you like him he's not in the friend zone.
/r/seduction13/06/19 11:43 PM
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Yes this works for insecure and inexperienced girls basically. Not a woman. A confident woman, who has value in her intelligence and personality isn't going to bend over for a trash person like the one OP describes.
/r/seduction31/05/19 05:10 PM
7

If I understood the last thing, if she quickly looks into a different direction, I should maintain eye contact?
/r/seduction30/05/19 12:06 AM
4

What if women don't like your eye contact? I say it in my case, not yours.
/r/seduction29/05/19 11:20 PM
2

That's what I thought too.
/r/seduction28/05/19 07:53 PM
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I was going to say, what's going on here?
/r/seduction28/05/19 04:45 PM
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Hey well there will be better advice then mine for some of the specific things you ask but a big one is that media and other things greatly exaggerate most of the things you are worried about. Most women will be happy to have a guy talking to them and even if they're not interested they'll be polite in turning you down. They won't think you're a creep, they'll think you're a confident guy for having the balls to talk to her. From there it's practice. Appearing uninterested/outcome independent li…
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:13 AM
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What you're saying is the first time you met your now wife she pulled the I have a boyfriend card, without having a boyfriend?
/r/seduction27/05/19 03:23 PM
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I agree with you completely. On the street women, of every physical category, are not keen at eye contact usually. They'll be occasions and they might look over, but strong IOI eye contact is very rare, especially for a very attractive women. Probably due to what you said. The rest of the things you said I also identify with. At a bar or a nightclub, places where meeting with women is expected they'll give me strong eye contact and IOIs. But on the street it's rare. Women, even average ones comp…
/r/seduction27/05/19 02:45 AM
1

Does the grooming include hair? That's always been the toughest for me. My beard sort of maintains itself, I have to trim it like once a month at most.
/r/seduction26/05/19 04:05 PM
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Jaja then go for it. I'll warm you before hand that women in Rio are famously flakey. Everything else is great though. Their warm and you'll never see one annoyed that you're talking to her unless she's in the middle of a funeral or something.
/r/seduction17/05/19 01:24 PM
6

Have you read Models? They want both. It is security to be vulnerable, soft, and sweet and emotional. But with them. To the world they want a defender. A champion.
/r/seduction16/05/19 11:21 PM
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I think it depends per country. I mean women are definitely dishonest about it at times with some things but there are other things where it's pretty clear. Here in Latin America they're more direct. They'll tell you about their type and it's usually true.
/r/seduction16/05/19 11:06 PM
1

I'm guessing too few pictures is also a problem.
/r/seduction12/05/19 07:04 PM
2

Yes, you have to leave your comfort zone in that regard. On the bus, in the library, anywhere really.
/r/seduction12/05/19 04:24 PM
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Hey I'm very much like you. Women love someone that can make them laugh, that's true, but you can woo them with your passions too. Women are varied, some like to get drunk and party, not think of anything serious in their life. Other love thinking things to depth and passions. But you don't know what kind of woman you're dealing with until you talk to her. So the answer is talk with more women. Some will have the same bad result you describe already, it happens to me often, that they sort of get…
/r/seduction12/05/19 02:39 PM
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A confident woman that has mystery about her.
/r/seduction09/05/19 12:12 AM
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Jaja both of those things are true. Meditation is very useful, you also reach many conclusions that are very practiceable. You need to find something, through meditation or otherwise, that gives you such a passion that you regulate yourself and your behavior over it. It can be anything, but something that makes you be the best you can and also see your progress and such from a pragmatic sense so as to validate yourself in a healthy fashion.
/r/seduction07/05/19 06:24 PM
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That's exactly what I expected, although I'm surprised that didn't end the problem. I am very much like you, including your note that requires validation in other things. Again that requires time and experience, but also to really learn true confidence and self love. If you constantly need external validation, which you probably get from these women and close friends, yet the validation is not enough and you search for it constantly, that means you don't trust their compliments and validation be…
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:21 PM
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To be honest I see things going two ways. You have to consciously set alarms to yourself, remind yourself to be better, work to meet people you find genuinely interesting and for reasons that are not physical, to see the value in non physical things. Explore your passions that are not physical to learn to value things that aren't vain, like music or art. Writing. By learning the value in that which is not physical and becoming more open to the fact that casual sex is fun but has no transcendence…
/r/seduction06/05/19 10:02 PM
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With time. You clearly cared some for this woman so give yourself some time, work on yourself and do some things you love. With that, now better and feeling better, you get back out there and rebuild your abundance mentality.
/r/seduction29/04/19 04:32 PM
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I walk a bunch, similarly to you. Don't magically have good posture or great energy. I mean walking is good but specialized resistance and weight lifting work is important, maybe more so at times. Especially for aesthetics.
/r/seduction24/04/19 03:58 PM
1

For example?
/r/seduction19/04/19 10:49 PM
2

What is an IOI?
/r/seduction19/04/19 09:35 PM
1

I'm blond and in Colombia too, although I'm from here. As a Colombian then smiling and the comments are what makes it a definite them being into you. Just ask them out and game then normally.
/r/seduction06/04/19 02:50 AM
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Just initiate kino more and invite her over your place.
/r/seduction03/04/19 01:01 PM
1

Yes although you could say that about everything. Theory definitely goes into anything. I think it takes both but it's quickly learned by practice.
/r/seduction27/03/19 03:58 PM
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I think it's a balance of both. Sure women know the guy is trying to seduce them, but that doesn't turn them off necessarily. In fact it can go the other way most of the time. I in fact don't try to pick up and act like you said but still everyone is different. It's definitely effective to text enough to get her attention but not too much and leave the intrigue. Just enough for the intrigue to get a yes for an invite on a date.
/r/seduction26/03/19 05:52 PM
2

That's true, although I imagine finding or financing good studies on the subject is difficult.
/r/seduction11/03/19 05:25 PM
2

Good luck! That nervousness of meeting someone you truly like and vice versa is honestly really beautiful. I don't think you should game her or anything, just be yourself and it can turn out wonderful. Women do see many times they are being gamed and such, they just tend to like it so they don't mention it, or will do it teasingly. But this is an opportunity for something more honest and of scale. Cheers!
/r/seduction14/02/19 05:50 PM
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Dude you're being very nervous and pessimistic about her, which I'm not saying as a criticism because you're developing a crush on her if not already so that's why you are reading things as negative. I think she definitely does like you and if anything likes the mystery and tension of does he like me, will he kiss me, etc. Share with her and have a great time, and this time don't forget to kiss her.
/r/seduction14/02/19 05:40 PM
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Don't worry there are men that love y'all women, it's not strange to be taller then the average. I like women who are slightly shorter then me, but after that I prefer a woman taller then me then one that is much shorter. Plus it's not a big deal, it's not like a negative quality.
/r/seduction09/02/19 09:49 PM
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You'll have to just wait a bit. She likes she because all sorts of reasons so go back to showing her that side, then maybe in a week or two, maybe more depending on how you see things with her and how she is treating her, you apologise and ask her out again, this time not like you did.
/r/seduction08/02/19 02:38 PM
1

It takes time. You have to have abundance, you have to practice charm, you have to work on yourself. But you'll get there. Trust me.
/r/seduction08/02/19 02:12 PM
1

Maybe it was just an FWB thing.
/r/seduction07/02/19 11:58 PM
1

Probably nerves or sometimes when one tries to calm down to last longer or such, mentally you sort of overcommit and kill the boner. That last things happens to me.
/r/seduction22/01/19 11:13 PM
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I don't necessarily agree. I mean look at their age group. Sure if you are crazy in love with someone then you might feel more ready, but there are people who aren't in a point in their lives they want to have a serious relationship. And that's not just age, you can want to be with half the planet one day, then want something serious and then go back to wanting to be a dog. There are people who don't accept that reality and let the high of the relationship make them give up seeing other people w…
/r/seduction21/01/19 04:25 PM
1

Yeah but attraction levels change over time. Not every woman or man is going to be star struck in love at first sight, and it's ok. You can sort of like someone but still not be over powered by it. Yet be able to see that it might change over time if you keep on seeing each other.
/r/seduction21/01/19 04:17 PM
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But I don't think you have to give up anything. Since she has more FWB going on and says not just yet, you can do the same. I think she does like you, more then the usual but doesn't feel ready. So don't throw yourself on the sword for a woman who isn't ready for it. Keep on doing what you are doing with her and the other women and if you two get closer over time, which is what I think will happen, then you can go exclusive. If you don't get closer you don't lose anything, you didn't give up you…
/r/seduction21/01/19 03:25 PM
1

Jaja I hope you learn. Another important thing is to ask questions. Since one of the most way for a woman to flirt is by making themselves available, but sometimes that's not so attractive. In the sense that a girl might respond every message giving details for the guy to talk about, appearing in front of a guy she likes constantly, etc. Which is nice but it means that they don't ask him about what he likes, what he's doing, etc. Even if you respond every message instantly, make yourself availab…
/r/seduction19/01/19 02:47 AM
1

Well maybe it's because they didn't try.
/r/seduction18/01/19 03:48 PM
2

Don't worry it's hard for both sides, most people are shy! It's part of the reason why bravery and confidence is attractive, because it's a rare trait. Just like this subreddit is constantly telling men that there is no single scale of attractiveness for women the same applies for men. Just try to be as confident as you can and be the active one if the guy is being shy. Eventually he will either lose his shyness, or isn't interested.
/r/seduction18/01/19 03:46 PM
3

So what you are saying is that I should go up to women with a doctor's note?
/r/seduction13/01/19 07:47 PM
2

A Basque huh? I'd say there are a couple of ways. You clearly have the physical down, so maybe it's more the mental. Try to make some friends and expand into a friend group with some girls. They'll make you see that women aren't so different from men and you'll be used to casual conversation with them. That with some flirting and being confident plus honest will lead to sex. Or if you live in San Sebastián or a more party heavy city, you could try to go out with a friend to a bar/club. Buy a sin…
/r/seduction13/01/19 07:19 PM
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That's what I was thinking! Plus when I've been there the people have been kind, almost like Latin America type warm.
/r/seduction11/01/19 10:04 PM
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I see, I've heard of Mardi Gras but I think you have to be very young for that no? Between 18 and 22 I imagine, college age. I apologise if it sounds dumb, I'm Colombian so I don't know very well.
/r/seduction11/01/19 09:59 PM
3

Destroyed. Also as a side note, may I ask your opinion on New Orleans? I really like that city and the people but have only been for short periods so don't know it well.
/r/seduction11/01/19 09:49 PM
4

Let yourself hurt the bad days and treat yourself those days, be extra gentle. On normal days fight to make yourself better and meet someone new. When you are with someone you love you'll see that you are fine without her and even though she might come to your head on occasion, you will be able to deal with it and it won't hurt. It will be more of a what if.
/r/seduction04/01/19 04:19 PM
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This is very true in the Latin American case. Most normal feminists here, like in Western Europe, are just people oriented towards certain women's issues. I think people outside of my region would be surprised how liberal South America is (central America, the Caribbean and Mexico in many ways are like the US South). So unless you find a SJW feminist most are actually cool and intelligent people that if anything might be more direct about their sexuality. Good on you OP.
/r/seduction30/12/18 07:28 PM
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Yeah this reads like those posts on this subreddit of women are these evil judgmental demi gods which must be pleased according to a formula. I'm sorry if you give a girl your number, that you had a good conversation with or that likes you for any reason, she will definitely write you first. Women also love banter and teasing and won't bail just because you said something that can be misconstrued, usually. Women are also not looking to discredit you, especially again if they like you. This posts…
/r/seduction24/12/18 02:20 PM
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Saved just in case Jaja.
/r/seduction24/12/18 03:54 AM
3

Yes then you criticize China and Russia for having laws that are repressive. Law isn't morality.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/12/18 12:31 AM
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It's because you need the girl so badly that you give off the desperation vibe. I had that vibe after a breakup for two years. It'll pass don't worry. If you want to sleep with an escort that's cool, life is short and we should try to have a good time in it, but it's not a permanent fix. You need your confidence and self worth back. It's good that you've worked on yourself in those ways but you need to work on yourself in a social way. Go out and dance, meet people and have fun to have fun, not …
/r/seduction11/12/18 05:51 PM
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This is good, this is what I come to this subreddit for. Nice job OP.
/r/seduction08/12/18 12:07 AM
1

You have to go into things but without such effort/desperation. Like let's say you meet a girl. Talk friendly and fun but not intense. Then ask her to do relaxed things as a friend but always teasing her and touching her. You then just invite her to your place or dancing or something casual that has sexual potential but isn't too romantic. You tease her a bit, maybe make things a bit sexual and then go for the kiss. From there it's all uphill. Hooking up is a relaxed form of a relationship. Not …
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:57 PM
1

About the Tinder thing, don't worry people on there are very flakey. When people talk Tinder success they don't mention the flake percentages. Try being quicker on the money with it. As in chat on it but not too much and once you move the conversation to the texting platform and get the date make it a date that same day or very soon. Also don't over talk. The negative mindset is definitely big, when people talk about improving yourself the practical value of it is that you calm down and become s…
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:52 PM
6

Damn you sound like a cunt.
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:17 PM
1

Yeah this is sexist redpill idiocy. Out of much of the quality on this sub this is foolish. Literally it is saying all women are the same and this sexist stereotype. Bloody idiocy.
/r/seduction04/12/18 12:36 AM
1

This is so cute. Great work! If you see her again you can say hi and get her number.
/r/seduction09/11/18 11:55 PM
2

I agree completely. Although if they have little to incite emotion there will be greater difficulty. There's a reason why people like multifaceted people. Or specialized people who truly are master's in their field. It's learning how to communicate and working hard to be someone with much to communicate.
/r/seduction09/11/18 04:48 PM
2

I defined boring in a dumb stereotypical fashion to contrast with the post. There are many men who are boring, just like there are many women who are boring, and not many want either. But I didn't speak of those kinds of men. A well read man isn't boring. A woman loves passion, be it for sex drugs and rock and roll, or knowledge, poetry and the like. Mutual interests define which attracts a woman more. Which brings us back to a quality woman. An intelligent woman will probably prefer a well read…
/r/seduction09/11/18 04:03 AM
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Well part of what makes a quality woman is her intelligence and such. So it depends what you are looking for. Yes many women want the interesting guy to make their boring lives interesting, at any cost as you could see. But quality woman might want a more boring guy that is well read and such. It depends on common interests and goals. There are women in clubs that only like to get drunk and have sex. There are also women who go to clubs that like dancing but spend most of their time working on t…
/r/seduction08/11/18 08:06 PM
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Literally find something that "reminded" you of her and mention it by writing her through chat on IG. Then go on from there and ask her out.
/r/seduction07/11/18 02:38 AM
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On a tutorial or really anything about social group game.
/r/seduction30/10/18 12:01 AM
1

If you get any info please don't hesitate to share.
/r/seduction29/10/18 10:02 PM
1

I mean more of a they are looking elsewhere and they see me and sort of stare for half a second and then immediately look away Jaja.
/r/seduction26/10/18 02:50 AM
1

It's true. I'm really shy in general and an angry person so I make a sort of mean face that people don't like. But when I'm in a good mood, like today, all women look and many stare. I can say basically anything and they'll laugh while they respond. Hell I think once I asked for a number and didn't get it. Women are superficial and when we really bring out our best, they love it.
/r/seduction17/10/18 01:37 AM
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I really don't. I have read it and I see it as viable for some but not most. Even polygamous couples tend to start their praises with it's definitely not for everyone.
/r/seduction15/10/18 08:23 PM
1

Well that's not true for two reasons. Dividing the genders in two, women have to commit energy and resources because of pregnancy obviously and it somewhat rare for a woman to not care about her offspring. The case is very similar in men. Men absolutely contribute to both the 9 month process and in the raising of the children. This is shown in the fact that men have basically an equal capacity to sexually discriminate. The only species who have that are ones where both contribute to the child re…
/r/seduction15/10/18 03:49 PM
2

That is definitely true. But I don't think that's a contradiction of monogamy. While we are with a partner, even one we love, we may be tempted by a new one or others. But that drive for others, be it purely sexual, or of a potential greater compatibility, etc, is an example of monogamy in the sense that one desires a Pareto optimal improvement in partner to the current one, even if from a pragmatic perspective the new person is not. It is the fear of being locked in a monogamous relationship wh…
/r/seduction15/10/18 04:17 AM
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The data, as usual, is right. It is the interpretation that is wrong. The fact that we have many relationships throughout our lives, and that we commit mistakes and cheat on occasion, does not make us polygamous. 5 different two year long relationships is not an example of polygamy. A one night mistake in four years of a relationship does not make us polygamists. If you are legitimately a polygamist, which is fine, I welcome your desires and that you share them with other polygamists. But it is …
/r/seduction15/10/18 04:11 AM
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That's absolutely not true. There is an enormous amount of research that points to monogamy in humanity. People are naturally monogamous. That game theory skews us at times or there are some who break the mold is a different question. But it's absolutely not the norm.
/r/seduction14/10/18 05:29 PM
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