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| 1 | My local bar actually has a "Men's Night" with specials for menconfidant but you understood from the context, what I was trying to communicate, so it's all okay then. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/14 08:05 PM |
| 1 | My local bar actually has a "Men's Night" with specials for menThe reason I mentioned that story is to underline the reason why bars give free entry and drinks to women. It's not for the women's benefit it's for the male customers. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/14 06:52 PM |
| 1 | My local bar actually has a "Men's Night" with specials for menWhen I was in university, there was a bar quite close to the student digs, which during the week attracted a mix of upper management types from some nearby businesses. It was never advertised but if you were female and attractive, dressed appropriately and didn't mind at least making a semblance of chatting to the blokes that approached you. Then you could be fairly confidant of not having to pay for drinks. Actually I was trying to describe the place, but I think the fact that they wouldn't ser… | /r/MensRights | 11/11/14 12:52 AM |
| -3 | Failed 'game developer' that faked harassment and slept with game journalists for free PR now playing the victim on the BBCFor quite some time before the incident with Zoe Quinn, people in the gaming community had been asking questions about the relationship between the media and developers. I actually think it was quite close to building to the point where it was going to become a major issue, just as Zoe Quinns boyfriend posted his blog. At that point she became the focal point for what became #gamergate. It didn't matter that she was essentially a non entity as a developer. Even the media that reviewed her game w… | /r/MensRights | 30/10/14 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Anita Sarkeesian has no idea about gaming! HDIn fairness Anita Sarkeesian isn't alone, a lot of people that have no interest in gaming are among the most vitriolic commentators on both sides of the argument. I made a post here a few days ago, dealing with the central issue which was the cosy relationship between developers and the media, and the majority of people that commented were focused directly on the gender politics, and obviously had little or no interest in gaming as a medium. In a way I think the gaming community is to blame, the… | /r/MensRights | 29/10/14 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Are modern young men badly prepared for the workplace?The girl was the least qualified of the four, yet somehow she was able to keep her mouth shut and get through the experience. When I was in their position I was shadowing some really horrendous people, yet no matter how bad they were I always managed to learn something from the experience. Even if I was the instructor from hell, they should still have been able to get through the day, without causing an incident. | /r/MensRights | 27/10/14 08:46 PM |
| 0 | #Gamergate and my stance as a MRM on it FAQ for curious females.You don't really address what was the initial cause of #Gamergate, which is the relationship between developers and the gaming media. Or the reasons why instead of focusing on a large development house, they fixated on an obscure independent developer, that nobody had ever heard of. | /r/MensRights | 27/10/14 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Single Dads and relationships, any thoughts on this situation?It's not contempt it's mild criticism. | /r/MensRights | 25/10/14 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Single Dads and relationships, any thoughts on this situation?I should probably point out again, that I'm not in a relationship with him. He's more a colleague than a sexual partner. | /r/MensRights | 25/10/14 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Single Dads and relationships, any thoughts on this situation?I don't think they want a mother figure, and I really shouldn't have even mentioned that in the post. | /r/MensRights | 25/10/14 09:58 AM |
| 2 | Man revives woman with AED, but branded 'pervert' for removing her clothes to apply electrode pads (xpost /r/nottheonion)At least in the UK nobody has ever successfully sued someone for attempting first aid on them, even when there was clear evidence that they had botched it. | /r/MensRights | 25/10/14 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Women have the right to be as drunk and stupid as men...AND cry rape the next morning!I remember sitting through a lecture given to female students when I started University. It was run by the students union and an outside agency paid by the University. It was kind of ridiculous in one sense, starting off throwing statistics around about sexual assault, and basically implying that it was part of the culture and there was nothing you could do about it. One step away from saying you could be sitting in the students union having a drink, then a maurading pack of rugby players would … | /r/MensRights | 25/10/14 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Three recent Harvard Law alumnae take offense that 28 Harvard law profs spoke out about Harvard's hostility to due process in sex casesRelationships in University can be a nightmare for everyone, men and women. To be honest I think the best solution is to get to the situation where people actually verbalise their intentions when it comes to sex. I do tend to believe that a lot of incidents are cause by alcohol and genuine misunderstanding. | /r/MensRights | 24/10/14 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Was It Rape? A handy flowchart, courtesy of lawcomic.net.ok I'm not going to argue the point. | /r/MensRights | 24/10/14 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Some thoughts on #GamergateYou do need to bear in mind that she didn't initially choose to be the focus of all this attention. Why Gamergate focused on her is a bit of a mystery, while it's suspicious that her game got the (minor) reviews it did, it was in no sense the worst case of it's kind. Her boyfriend did behave very badly, and he deserves to be condemned more forcefully than he has been from all sections of the debate. | /r/MensRights | 24/10/14 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Was It Rape? A handy flowchart, courtesy of lawcomic.net.I think it's fairly relevant, there was a legitimate element of confusion in that I'd consented to sex the first time, but obviously hadn't consented to what he tried later. I think the issue is made a little worse by ignorance on some peoples part. Some people don't actually believe it's possible to sleep through someone having sex with you. | /r/MensRights | 24/10/14 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Was It Rape? A handy flowchart, courtesy of lawcomic.net.I went to bed with a guy once in university. We were both exhausted after working late, we had a few drinks, and then ended up having sex. After we finished I fell asleep pretty much immediately. So I woke up a while later, to find he was in the process of trying to have anal sex with me. Which didn't get a good reaction from me. He did protest that he thought I'd said yes, and that we had sex a little while earlier 'so what was the problem?'. So I got angry and kicked him out of the room (it wa… | /r/MensRights | 24/10/14 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Some thoughts on #GamergateAs I read comments on various sites not just Reddit about Gamergate, I'm surprised at how few people want to talk about the initial allegations. When people do actually post something about the relationship between the Media and Developers the general consensus is that somehow it's off the point. Out of curiosity, which folks involved in the gamergate mess would you most compare to the kind of mindset that you witnessed? I described that incident because it illustrated a problem with the gaming … | /r/MensRights | 24/10/14 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Some thoughts on #GamergateI arrived on my course, pretty ignorant of the level of maths skills I needed. I was able to work through it, and they could have as well, instead as a group they obstructed the people that could have helped them. I watched an interview Zoe Quinn gave, she largely focused on the abuse she received, the interviewer didn't ask her any questions about her own game and the reviews it got. I'm not really a fan of computer games, I know a few people that work in the industry and I know people that are… | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 09:29 PM |
| -1 | Some thoughts on #GamergateNo it's about gaming, and anyone that wants to use the scandal to talk about anything other than gaming, is harming what was initially a positive movement. There was always a valid criticism in the games that the movement attacked, instead of choosing a mainstream publisher they picked an independent developer nobody had ever heard of! | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 09:25 PM |
| 0 | Some thoughts on #GamergateI've said very clearly that anything unrelated to the relationship between the media and developers is irrelevant. Why don't you want to discuss the original cause of gamergate? You haven't made a single comment yet, on the developers, gaming media or the events leading up to it. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 08:48 PM |
| 0 | Some thoughts on #GamergateNo I don't, not everything is a matter of opinion. A factual case can be made about the perverse relationship between many publications and game developers. Instead of making that case they went off on a crazy tangent, which let the developers and the media off the hook. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Some thoughts on #GamergateEverything that's not directly related to the relationship between the gaming media and developers. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Some thoughts on #GamergateHave you read what I posted? | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Some thoughts on #GamergateI think it lost focus as soon as people moved away from the main issue and started talking about stuff that was largely irrelevant. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 08:17 PM |
| 6 | Some thoughts on #GamergateNo I support the original argument they were making, which is that industry and the gaming media were in far too cosy a relationship. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 08:12 PM |
| 0 | Eliminating feminist teacher bias erases boys' falling grades, study findsThere are different studies that are commissioned by various organisations, basically the state educational establishment in the UK was set against single sex education, seeing it as something associated with private schools. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Eliminating feminist teacher bias erases boys' falling grades, study findsI think that boys and girls thrive in single sex education, the worst thing that the UK ever did after abolishing grammar schools was moving away from single sex schools. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 10:34 AM |
| 5 | GamerGate, Part 2: Videogames Meet FeminismMy university fed a lot of Computer Science graduates into the games industry. I never really understood why it was seen as a such a prestigious area, by so many guys, because as employers the big game developers aren't particularly great, their pay and conditions tend to lag behind companies in other sectors. As I put it to one guy, if you're getting paid 30% less than what you could earn in an equivalent job with a a different employer, then essentially you're paying for the privilege of worki… | /r/MensRights | 23/10/14 10:11 AM |
| -2 | Why I visit prostitutes: Just as sex workers are shamed by society, so are the clients who see them. It's time to tell my side of the storyIf you're going to make claims, you need to back them up with reasons. I offered an opinion not a claim, one formed by my own experiences and contacts with working prostitutes. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 09:13 PM |
| -1 | If you had to categorize Rape and sexual assault how would you make the distinctions?so you wouldn't make a distinction between (what's crudely known as) 'date' rape and 'stranger' rape? | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 08:51 PM |
| 0 | When men do it, it's sex tourism and prostitution. When women do it, it's romance tourismThere's all sorts of reasons for marrying someone, good and bad. She might just be doing it for money, but once he marries her, she's his wife not a prostitute. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 08:13 PM |
| -2 | When men do it, it's sex tourism and prostitution. When women do it, it's romance tourismI'm not defending it, it is exploitative. However I don't consider it prostitution. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 06:16 PM |
| -2 | When men do it, it's sex tourism and prostitution. When women do it, it's romance tourismI think the term prostitution is often used in far too broad a sense. The situations described are actually relationships, no matter how dysfunctional they might be. It's not the case that the women hand over money for an hour of a mans time. They enter into a relationship where they offer financial support. It's not a particularly romantic way to have a relationship, but it's also not prostitution. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 06:06 PM |
| 12 | Why I visit prostitutes: Just as sex workers are shamed by society, so are the clients who see them. It's time to tell my side of the storyIn some ways it seems logical, I think in the last few years people have started to over analyse rape, starting with the simple one line explanation that 'rape is about power'. Which I don't think is actually true. I think sometimes rape is simply an act of desperation, as a Man tries to take something he can't get any other way. I think you could use the prevalence of male rape in prisons to support that case. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 05:56 PM |
| -5 | Why I visit prostitutes: Just as sex workers are shamed by society, so are the clients who see them. It's time to tell my side of the storyProstitution is basically legal in the UK, although the law itself is pretty archaic. I've interacted with prostitutes on a few occasions, for a lot of the women and one man that I met, I felt it had done a lot of damage to them. Though what state they were in before they started counts as well. By legalising it, the number of prostitutes will grow. While it might make life easier for people that are currently working as prostitutes, I think on a whole it will just have a negative effect on indi… | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 03:06 PM |
| 2 | When men do it, it's sex tourism and prostitution. When women do it, it's romance tourismActually this is something that's fairly well known, Channel 4 in the UK did a program on it. I get the impression that the women shown were actually convinced themselves that what they were doing was romantic rather than exploitative. I actually blame the film Shirley Valentine. I know a lot of middle aged women that think it's the greatest film ever. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 02:48 PM |
| 0 | A question of respectI said originally The types of murder and crimes that women commit tend to fall into narrow categories Therefore when I refer to women not tending to commit murders linked to robbery or sexual assault, I'm referring to women that are murderers, likewise when I make the comparison, I make it to murderers that happen to be men. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 02:38 PM |
| 2 | [Discrimination] You know how black people are 4 times as likely to be jailed for drug offenses than white people? Well, men are 13 times as likely to be jailed for drug offenses than women.You're right in that the post doesn't really compare like with like. From what I understand, women charged with drug offences tend to fall into the bracket of users, not suppliers. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/14 09:04 PM |
| 0 | A question of respectThe types of murder and crimes that women commit tend to fall into narrow categories. For example not many women at least in the UK would commit a murder linked to robbery, or a murder linked to a sexual assault. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/14 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Almost half of sex workers in Britain are men, so why does the idea of a male prostitute remain a social and political blindspot.I only worked at venues where there were prostitutes on two occasions. Generally speaking we tended like to keep a firewall between us and them but both times, we were paid more for allowing prostitutes to attend. On one occasion we shared a changing room. For us dancers, we'd go through costume changes a few times during the night, and we tended to arrive with a lot of different clothes and costumes. The escorts tended to just arrive strip down to their undies, and stay to one side until a guy … | /r/MensRights | 21/10/14 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Almost half of sex workers in Britain are men, so why does the idea of a male prostitute remain a social and political blindspot.It's my own fault I should have been clearer. In general though the prostitutes I've met, male and female tend to have a lot of issues. I've never met the sophisticated Belle De Joure type. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Almost half of sex workers in Britain are men, so why does the idea of a male prostitute remain a social and political blindspot.I'm saying that male sex workers are actually in a small minority, largely catering to other men, rather than women. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 02:49 PM |
| 0 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.So the post has just been deleted, thanks to anyone that took the trouble to reply. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 02:38 PM |
| 6 | Almost half of sex workers in Britain are men, so why does the idea of a male prostitute remain a social and political blindspot.I worked as a lap dancer for a while in University. We did private functions and parties rather than work in a club. One of the side effects of that was that we came into contact with prostitutes occasionally. One of the agencies that we mixed with would often send at least one guy, who would kind of hang around at the back, until someone asked for him. It wasn't always that one of the customers wanted to fuck him, it was sometimes the case that someone would pay him to fuck one of the other pro… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 02:35 PM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.He wasn't quite, I mean the way he taught was quite an involved process, so it wasn't as if he was doing all the talking there was a level of interaction there. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 01:07 PM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.lots of guys do that, some lean in for a kiss or put their hand on you, some just grab a hold. Whatever form it takes, whether or not they stop when told to stop is what makes it rape. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 12:54 PM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.I actually liked and respected him. Usually that's enough to make me at least open to the possibility of having sex with someone. I felt that time I spent with him was worthwhile. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 12:53 PM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.I think that he was always going to stop when I said no, even if I hadn't pushed him off me. Not excusing him hurting you or trying again after being rejected, but the idea that an actions offendability depends on how it is received is, to me, faulty One thing that I did make very clear to him, was that he had hurt me. We had a relationship of sorts after that first time, and it was something that I constantly reminded him off. Not the fact that he had just jumped on me but the way he had just j… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 12:50 PM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.It literally was mid sentence, though I was more focused on what we studying than him | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 11:16 AM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.I split it in two bits, see below | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 11:14 AM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.he seems to lack any appreciation of graduated expression of interest I found him hard to talk to about anything other than work. I think socially he was bad at picking up on signals. I mean if he'd done something like put his arm around me or try to kiss me, it would have given us a chance to do, well what normal people do. And why did you have sex with your attempted rapist? You felt you owed it to him? Oh dear. Sex as an exchange commodity. Well. Maybe that makes some kind of sense. Myself, I… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 11:01 AM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.I don't accept this was rape, because I was able to stop it at any time. Once I made the decision to stop him I was able to do it fairly easily. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 10:57 AM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.Both times I only said No after he starting hurting me. Once I said No I was able to get him off me fairly easily. I mean he didn't rip my knickers off, he took a while pulling them down. So I had an opportunity to say no. You know I'm trying to guess his motivations but I'm struggling to describe my own. Basically I was always going to be happy enough to have sex with him, but not in the way he tried to do it. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 10:55 AM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.Firstly there is the situation with the university, which is absolutely unrelated to gender issues in and of itself, but helped create an atmosphere of desperation amongst students, including you, to avoid failing the course, so it becomes a relevant factor: I am glad to hear they got programs for this now. It was an oddity of the British University admissions system. Essentially it was a highly demanding course, but because it was under subscribed the entry requirements were lowered. It was a p… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 10:52 AM |
| 1 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.To be completely honest, that it wasn't sexual assault. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 10:43 AM |
| 0 | I described this incident to a female friend of mine recently and got a predictable response. I was wondering if men here might provide a different viewpoint.I think the reaction I've gotten when I've described this incident, is a men's rights issue even if it's in a tangential sense. The reactions have been incredibly hostile to him, even though those reactions obviously don't affect him, they speak to wider issues. At least that's my feeling. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Can I ask for opinions on this incident?I think the responses I get here are more relevant and of a higher quality generally than r/gonewild | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Can I ask for opinions on this incident?Your post was in relation to whether I was male or female, and I did reply to that. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Can I ask for opinions on this incident?To give an example from my own experiences, I was at a conference last year. I got chatting to a guy and ended up going to bed with him. The sex was equally bad, but he was an interesting guy and I enjoyed my time with him. The next morning we had breakfast and we exchanged contact details. Every few months I make it a point to e-mail him, always work related. Asking his advice where I didn't really need it. The first few times I think he mistook it as invitation to something more, but he got th… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Can I ask for opinions on this incident?Even though it's not in my job description, I follow a unofficial policy in my department, and I actively engage with recruiting, largely because our HR dept was dysfunctional for so many years. I've had mixed results with it, what I tend to prefer is when someone writes to me rather than calls and rather than a CV maybe sends an overview of some interesting project they've worked on. That phone call really threw me, I mean it took me a while to compose myself enough to end it. I've used men I'v… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Can I ask for opinions on this incident?I don't know if your post is intended to invite a response from me, but I'll reply anyway. If you read all my my posts they are all related, but at the same time tending to detail different incidents that happened over the space of sometimes several years. I don't know anything about that, but it seems at one point in her post history, she identifies herself (in post title) as. "26 F", and in another several months back from that post as "28 F". That's very true I lied about my exact age, when a… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/14 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Is this an example of Male ego leading someone to make a bad decision?It wasn't a paltry sum of money, it was the means for him to get home. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/14 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Is this an example of Male ego leading someone to make a bad decision?This was always going to be a fairly casual relationship. Though up to that point I was actually a little amazed at how much I enjoyed it. That said I wouldn't accept anyone talking to me like he did. He may have been angry, frustrated etc. I prefer to be with people that are able to handle things like that without lashing out. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/14 10:11 AM |
| 2 | Is this an example of Male ego leading someone to make a bad decision?So what is it that's making it hard for you to decide? | /r/MensRights | 16/10/14 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Male Versus Female Hiring practices.They're not telling lies to candidates, they're simply not telling them that their applications won't be considered. To be fair these guys are making unsolicited applications to the company, and the HR dept have been told in the past not to engage with them. | /r/MensRights | 25/06/14 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Male Versus Female Hiring practices.The women they're hiring are engineering graduates but their degrees are much broader based than would be suitable for the positions they're apparently meant to be filling. We tend to have a huge turnover of Engineers, partly that's intentional with people joining the company for particular projects and then leaving.It's a slightly odd working environment and I don't want to be too specific. I just have my doubts about how long those women are going to stay. I also worry that it will ruin the co… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/14 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Continuously ignored by the mainstream, hundreds more men and boys are singled out and killed by Boko Haram. What’s the excuse now?what's a rape relief site? | /r/MensRights | 08/06/14 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Here's what looks like a simple example of discrimination but is there more to it?Do you mean none of the Men using your gym use the showers? | /r/MensRights | 08/06/14 09:43 AM |
| 6 | Colleges become victims of progressivismAt the end of the day even in George Will's version of the story the woman said No so why did the guy continue trying to have sex with her. The fact that they'd broken up is irrelevant, if your in bed with your partner and she doesn't want to have sex, well that should be the end of it. If the guy doesn't like it, he should try and hook up with someone that's happier to put out more. Incidentally I don't consider what was described to be rape, there was an element of coercian involved though. I'… | /r/MensRights | 07/06/14 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Here's what looks like a simple example of discrimination but is there more to it?ahhmm no there was other stuff. .. I'm just saying in general r/mensrights have been just a little bit more tolerant... though they still delete a lot of my posts.k | /r/MensRights | 07/06/14 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Here's what looks like a simple example of discrimination but is there more to it?I like my Gym and I like the owners and management, they're small business owner trying to survive in difficult climates. | /r/MensRights | 07/06/14 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Harvard pubs study showing women perpetrate more DV, study mysteriously disappearedNo the links show the summary the authors wrote. | /r/MensRights | 07/06/14 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Men are better than women at visualising a big building project'. This goes for science and engineering as well.I'm a big fan of the TV series restoration man, and it's worth pointing out that what George Clarke is referring to is very specific incidents from his own career, dealing largely with couples commissioning restoration projects. The last few years has seen the educational establishment in the UK make a massive push to encourage women to study Engineering and the hard sciences. In a way it's worked but still I've seen it happen where qualified women engineers with enter the workplace and quickly … | /r/MensRights | 07/06/14 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Harvard pubs study showing women perpetrate more DV, study mysteriously disappearedOne of the problems with academic studies is that people often find them inaccessible and need the media to provide a sort of bottom line for them. This is slightly different in that apparently the authors did it themselves which kind of makes me a little suspicious, as to who they were aiming their study at. As academics their study should have been conducted and written up, not with a mind to being presented to the general public, but to their academic peers. | /r/MensRights | 07/06/14 01:23 PM |
| 1 | What is Rape Culture?I don't understand some of the views here with regards to the reporting of sexual assault. I actually agree that the definition of rape is bring broadened so much that it's in danger of diminishing the act. Stranger rape is by far the most dangerous to women, and it's also thankfully these days becoming rarer and rarer. However the issue of sexual assault in the broader context is something that society is still getting to grips with. I've been sexually assaulted and on other occasions felt pres… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 08:08 PM |
| -31 | They singled out men and boys and opened fire on themBecause Boko Harem see girls as a commodity, it's not out of any sense of decency that they didn't murder them | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:44 PM |
| 0 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.Why do you think that? | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:42 PM |
| 1 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.I think he was a bit put out when I last saw him that I didn't want to spend time with him, the way I look at it is that I've moved on from that period in my life and I don't really want to reconnect. At the same time I want to know he's doing ok. Like I mentioned I tried to give him money last year and he refused it, seeming to think I was doing it out of charity. It actually really pissed me off and I kind of washed my hands of him, but I'm having second thoughts | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:42 PM |
| 1 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.His attitude surprises me, I tried to give him money last year and he wouldn't take it (which actually really pissed me off at the time to be honest)... where as he is actually entitled to it, and it's not charity | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:39 PM |
| 0 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.I offered him £400 last year and he wouldn't take it, I probably should have just posted it to him. He was obviously embaressed. The thing is, in reality he should have just said 'yeah about time' and take it as if he's entitled to it which he is... however he doesn't feel he is.. which is strange to me | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:37 PM |
| 0 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.It's not really a personal problem, to be honest, I'm doing fine... I just wonder if he got treated badly. Also I'll be a bit more honest and admit that I got banned from r/AskMen | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:34 PM |
| 8 | Prostitution is empowering, according to prostitutesActually human traficking for the purpose of prostitution has been shown gradually over the last few years to be something of a moral panic with very little evidence to back it up. this is an interesting blog if you're interested http://belledejour-uk.blogspot.ie/2011_04_01_archive.html#7617654293727844995 | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 07:32 PM |
| 0 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.He won't take money from me. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 03:06 PM |
| 0 | I'd like an opinion on what you feel this guy is entitled to.I believe it's relevant in the sense that if the situation was reversed I think expectations would be different. I know of a few women that helped men that they were in relationships with through period when they were either in full time education or where they weren't working. In those cases I think there was an acknowledgement that a lot was owed by one party to the other, and that debt didn't disappear even if the relationship ended. In my case it's different, he doesn't feel I owe him anythi… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 03:06 PM |
| 0 | If you post to /r/MensRights, angry "women" will make horrible comments about you on every group on Reddit. *This* is terrorism, and shame on Conde Nast and Reddit for not doing anything.Terrorism actually has a disturbingly broad definition, which I think has caused a lot of problems for the western world in the last decade. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Another fabricated "misogyny" scandal in the tech industryIf he worked for my company I'd be a bit annoyed that he allowed his presentation to be overshadowed by something that was entirely predictable. Especially at a trade show that to be quite honest tends to attract an awful lot of pedants. I mean if the genders were reversed and it was a woman talking about her boyfriend there'd be quite a few men here that would be upset by it. The bottom line is that nothing unexpected happened. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Boy become men when... they put up with abuse?..I quite like that.. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 01:08 AM |
| 0 | "All men must die. Seriously, valar morghulis." Thinly-Veiled Misandry and a Feminist's Idea of "Definitive Proof"I think she's being Ironic I mean the majority of the main characters from Jon Snow, to Rob Stark are tradition old school hard as nails men. The women characters are a mixed bunch, and you can't really make the case for them having the same authority as the men. I'm a fan of George RR Martin but his female characters tend to suffer a bit more than his males (and that's saying something) | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 12:42 AM |
| 0 | "All men must die. Seriously, valar morghulis." Thinly-Veiled Misandry and a Feminist's Idea of "Definitive Proof"It's funny I've heard people complaining that GOT is misogynistic never that it was anti male... or are you just saying the article is anti male | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Divorce Shakedown: Michael Moore, Wife Tangle Over Divorce DollarsIs he going to get screwed over? I mean he's said a lot of times that he owes a lot to his wife, so they just need to work out a dollar amount | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 12:25 AM |
| 3 | MEN'S RIGHTS VIOLATIONSMy company would literally kill to get a decent engineer that also happens to have a vagina. Unfortunately there's not that many of us in our particular field. For the last few years in the UK there's been a massive push to persuade more women to study Engineering and Physics. All that's happened in a lot of cases is clever promotion is pushing girls into university courses that they don't have the grounding for. So they drop out in the first year. The educational potential for girls and boys, i… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 12:23 AM |
| 0 | Discussion comment from AskReddit about how male professors should never take the risk of being alone with a female studentWhen I started University I was a bit of an idiot, I had some weird set of goggles on that made the teaching staff look a lot more attractive to me than in hindsight they actually were. I was very focused on my studies, and relationships with Men that I respected professionally seemed natural to me. I never had any need for them to change my marks, but relationships like that tend to revolve around sex and our particular area of study. In their defense there was a low proportion of women on the … | /r/MensRights | 06/06/14 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Another fabricated "misogyny" scandal in the tech industryMy problem with the guys presentation isn't that it was misogynistic, it was that the reaction it got was entirely predictable. So he exhibited pretty poor judgement. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/14 11:49 PM |
| 0 | Condoms: Low Hanging FruitMy school had very extensive sex education, actually it came into a lot of criticism for trialing a new program that gave seperate lessons to boys and girls. Anyway it didn't really seem to pay dividends, there were quite a few girls from my year that were pregnent before finishing school. I never really understood why, they could get free prescriptions for the pill (without parental consent) the nurses office had bowls full of condoms outside (my mates and I would spend ages practicing putting … | /r/MensRights | 05/06/14 11:27 PM |
| 0 | Condoms: Low Hanging FruitIt still surprises me when I meet a guy that isn't able to put a condom on properly, or isn't able to keep it on or can't take it off in an assured manner. I've been with some men that seem to have a mental blackspot when it comes to using them. I mean I know they're not sexy but still they're a fact of life. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/14 11:22 PM |
| 0 | As a woman how should I provide professional guidance to a Man.I'm very conscious of my position and think I'm entitled to a degree of respect. So if he kicks off like the last guy did, then well it's going to have the same result. That said I'm going to try and give a more detailed explanation of what I was him to achieve. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 10:16 PM |
| 0 | As a woman how should I provide professional guidance to a Man.I think he realizes that he's not achieved much over the last few months, and that's mostly not his fault, which might explain his attitude. I think they all made a mistake by participating in a program with a rather woolie description, rather than broadening their skill bases in other ways. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 10:15 PM |
| 1 | As a woman how should I provide professional guidance to a Man.I have a difficult relationship with HR for a number of reasons. Luckily the management tend to want them to stick to a strict definition of their job rather than interfering on the shop floor, which they used to be inclined to do. Basically they'll give me lots of paper work to do, which they'll almost definitely ignore as I believe they've already written the references for the placements. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 10:14 PM |
| 0 | As a woman how should I provide professional guidance to a Man.Nope he's gone see the link above. I freely admit that didn't end well | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 08:30 PM |
| -1 | As a woman how should I provide professional guidance to a Man.I should have been clearer. I think it's a mens rights issue because he's in danger of getting left behind because basically he's a guy. There are women in his intake that have no where near his level ability, who are being considered for full time positions | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 08:20 PM |
| -1 | As a woman how should I provide professional guidance to a Man.Basically he's in a pool of juniors that engineers are meant to draw on to perform certain tasks. While quite a lot of us can do it, in practice it tends to be the same people, and quite frankly the engineers tend to be the poorer ones. It's not a very successful program, and it's going to be replaced by a government sponsored scheme soon. So yes I would be in a formal supervisory role over him, in fact HR will bombard me with paper work to document it. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 08:09 PM |
| -2 | How come penis size is rarely mentioned in the context of men's rights, feminism and gender?Breast size defines your figure, Penis size doesn't | /r/MensRights | 17/05/14 06:46 AM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?I understand, though I'll be honest since I've started the habit of posting my sexual history on Reddit, I'm no stranger to having my posts deleted It's not always obvious, because I can still see the post, and I don't get a notification, it's only when I log out that I see it. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 08:11 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?I always took sour grapes to mean simply disparaging something you've failed to do. Yours is more narrow. Anyway I don't think it really applies, because even though I didn't realize it he wanted to fuck me in Uni as much as he wants to fuck me now so.. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 08:04 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?I didn't delete the post I imagine it must have been the moderator. Anyway, the post itself is pretty short and the first part talks about his professional success and the tour he gave me of his company and recent project. Later I mention him being rich when describing the argument we had. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:53 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?read it again | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:41 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?How so? | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?I spent considerably longer describing his professional success. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:28 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?Like I said, I don't need a rich boyfriend. Actually it's funny how men here focus on the fact that he's rich, rather than on his professional achievements. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:10 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?The main reason I didn't have much to do with him in University is that I found him very hard to talk to. Also at the time I didn't rate him that highly academically, he was probably in the middle third of our course. The reason for his underwhelming performance in University, I know now is that his interests are very tightly focused on niche areas, so in a course with a broad syllabus he was always going to under perform. As for him and sex he left University a virgin, which was an achievement. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:07 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?It was a great opportunity to be able to have tour of his company and a look at what he's been working on. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 07:03 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?I have no interest or need to take money from him. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 06:46 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?Solely because I wasn't wearing knickers | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 06:27 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?It's not a matter of trust. University was a good time in my life and I like having a relationship that keeps a connection with it. I also like the intellectual side of the relationship, I enjoy having someone that I can talk about work with, plus what his own life is quite interesting at the moment. His attitudes to women are all over the place though. He litteraly threw a fit recently when I turned up at his place not wearing knickers, called me a slut and started a massive shouting match. He … | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?I am interested in him as a human being, he's never boring, fascinating in some ways, and he's good in bed. He's also got a massive amount of issues, and is almost permanently wound up. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 06:09 PM |
| 0 | Does lack of success with women make men bitter?lol maybe, but he's got some fucked up ideas about women in general. He's got a girlfriend that lives with him as well as other women he sees occasionally. One of the fascinating things about him, is that he will actually tell me what he's thinking. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 06:06 PM |
| 5 | How come penis size is rarely mentioned in the context of men's rights, feminism and gender?I've never thought that a comparison can be made between breast size and penis size. Penis size is usually discussed in a sexual context, breast size isn't. Breast size basically defines your figure, it dictates what type of clothes can you. Penis size is a matter between you and your partner. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 04:17 PM |
| 18 | Creep shamed, because I wouldn't let a woman return a sweaterI used to work behind the counter in a shop and wasn't a stranger to getting verbal abuse.. Some people generally just have no manners, it's nothing to do with gender. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 03:48 PM |
| 17 | Creep shamed, because I wouldn't let a woman return a sweaterI don't think that something confined to women | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 03:38 PM |
| -1 | I'd like your opinion on this situationI gave him a massive opportunity, even if I'd been a bitch he should have been able to bite his lip and put up with it. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 03:25 PM |
| 0 | I'd like your opinion on this situationGender may have been the key factor, or you could have read something into the situation that wasn't there I remember being a little gobsmacked, from my point of view I was doing him a massive favor. It was an hour out of my work day, and I didn't stand to benefit from it in anyway. So I expected a certain degree of respect, and I'll be frank I expected him to do what he was told, but.. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 03:24 PM |
| -1 | I'd like your opinion on this situationI was giving him an opportunity that I would have killed for if I was in his position. Yes I was demanding and abrupt with him, but many other engineers would have been worse, if they'd agreed to teach him at all. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 03:22 PM |
| -1 | I'd like your opinion on this situationPeople get angry and want to vent, it's just they're usually able to bite their lip. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 11:29 AM |
| -1 | I'd like your opinion on this situationThis issue was put to bed pretty quickly by the company. The reason I'm posting it here is pretty complicated, I think gender was the key factor here. Also he wasn't a bad guy, I wouldn't have wasted my time with him if I thought he was. I want to hear from people that would be more inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 11:29 AM |
| -2 | I'd like your opinion on this situationHe probably thinks you are a "bitch" You know in all honesty I was a bitch to him, but in certain work environments you need to put up with it. What I'm convinced off is that he'd have put up with it from a man. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 11:26 AM |
| -3 | I'd like your opinion on this situationIOW, they receive preferential treatment In some ways, but it was obvious that they were better finding a role for themselves than the men. As for the point. Well the guy I'm describing had/has a lot of potential. His attitude has obviously fucked him up massively, but how he came to have that attitude is the question. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 11:06 AM |
| -2 | I'd like your opinion on this situationHe had an outburst with me, stormed off and then had an altercation with some other people where he used various words to describe me. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 11:03 AM |
| -2 | I'd like your opinion on this situationNo because, even if it was his own fault he's the one that lost out, although he probably didn't realize it at the time. While his attitude was to blame I wonder how he came to have it. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/14 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Man complains that Lifeguard testing favors womenI think part of the problem is that they don't do realistic training when doing the course. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Gender and Equality in University.There were a number of guys that were really bad interacting with women, and would see being friends with a woman as an opportunity for something more.. In fairness I did tend to have relationships with guys that were almost exclusively studying similar subjects to me, I got good at diffusing situations and dealing with most situations, it helped that I wasn't a big drinker. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Gender and Equality in University.This is the first thread I started here that's got a vote total, that's a positive number | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationIn engineering you can either perform a task or you can't there isn't a grey area | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Gender and Equality in University.I don't use the word predator casually | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 06:37 PM |
| -1 | Colleges can’t play cop in sexual assault investigationsSex can be a bit of a mine field in University a lot of it comes down to Alcohol and occasionally misunderstandings in confused situations. Something I found is that sometimes Men tend to initiate sex very suddenly, it can be a bit disconcerting chatting with a guy, while having a drink and then suddenly he'll try to kiss or do more. One minute you think you were just having a drink with a friend, now you discover he sees you as a potential sexual partner. That's where misunderstandings happen, … | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationI think that mixing your sex and professional life can have all sorts of benefits provided you're careful about how you go about it. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationreally? I can still see it | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:30 PM |
| 0 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationlol I've been called random... What kind of context do you want? | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:29 PM |
| 0 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationWhat do you mean? | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationI don't think your mechanical skills are as good as you think they are It's not a matter of opinion the range of tasks I can peform is wider than the majority of my peers. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:29 PM |
| -1 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationI think that reading my post history, in isolation might give a skewed picture of who I am | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 02:18 PM |
| -2 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationIs your not sharing of knowlege good for the company, co-workers, and you? Well it's good for me. If I cross trained my colleagues then I wouldn't be as valuable as I am now. It's not just me that does it, it's part of the ethos of the company, I'm simply a lot better at it than most of the others. There is a sort of ethos in the Company where people will hoard knowledge, it's a competitive environment with projects beginning and ending on a regular basis, and a pool of engineers often sitting a… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:54 PM |
| -2 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationI think the moral question arise largely because I mix my sex life and professional life, and that so many of my most valuable professional relationships are with men that I've had some form of sex with. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:34 PM |
| -5 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationI didn't say I was going to ignore different viewpoints, I was simply being honest enough to say I prefer my own current POV. When people make a comment I do my best to engage with it. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:33 PM |
| -8 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationoh shit, I kind of expected you to come back and say something hostile, I was all geared up for an online arguement... ahmm thanks. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:26 PM |
| -5 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationI haven't asked the same questions in different subreddits, it's simply that my professional and sex life and so closely connected. I think you might not be getting a fully rounded picture of me. If someone was making judgements about you based on individual sexual incidents it might be a bit skewed. you keep seeking validation Ahmm it's not validation I'm seeking so much as different point of views. I'll be honest I might be doing it with the intention of reinforcing my own view point but I am … | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:25 PM |
| -7 | Women in male dominated work environments, I'd like your opinions on this situationHumblebrag, that's a pretty cool word, I kind of get a sense of it's meaning... I've tried and tidy up the post because I realize I'm probably trying to describe too much. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:13 PM |
| 2 | Game of Thrones Rape Scene "encouraging people to think like rapists"It's odd, that for all the horrible things Jamie Lannister has done (pushing children from windows, killing cellmates) the rape scene is somehow seen as pushing the envelope... I think the real problem is, that from a feminist perspective the writers have somehow created a character that some men might say deserves to be raped. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/14 02:53 PM |
| 0 | Yukon High School Yearbook Photo Causes ControversyIt doesn't matter whether or not anything can be seen, it's the perception that something can be seen, and the school are right to deal with it.In the US High school year books are important to Graduating students... Is it really so much to ask that this Girl have something to show for her years in school that doesn't leave her feeling humiliated. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/14 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Game of Thrones Rape Scene "encouraging people to think like rapists"Do men here find it possible to empathize with rapists? It's not making excuses for a rapist to understand what his motivations are | /r/MensRights | 13/05/14 12:03 PM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolMan is stressed. His stress is impairing her functionality. She knows that ejaculating will relieve his stress. She decides to jerk him off. That's not entirely fair, I liked the idea that of doing something for him. He was actually really appreciative afterwards, and it took both our minds off the job for a while. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 04:45 PM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolMaybe if I was interested in the mechanics of it a sex based Reddit would be an outlet. I'm more interested in the ethics of it to be honest. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 04:44 PM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolI think the term troll is used way too lightly. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 11:21 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolYou know the word troll is thrown about very lightly. If you take any incident from your life, and actually take the time to write it down and think about it, then you get a different perspective on it. If you let other people read it and then engage with them in discussion over it, then you get another perspective again. I have other other outlets for different aspects of my life. However for these I think Reddit works for me. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 11:12 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolI don't think it do, my doing it was in a way making a statement that I liked, cared about and trusted him. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 11:08 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolI think I displayed quite a degree of empathy, and as an act it did involve quite a complex degree of communication. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 11:06 AM |
| 0 | Do Men gain confidence from doing things for Women ?It seemed fairly obvious he was interested, just from his demeanor. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 11:00 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolBecause you could be sacked? If I thought it it could have resulted in my being sacked, then I wouldn't have done it. I did actually think about it first. Also, what do you think will happen when you're no longer willing to perform these services pro bono? Matey boy is going to be fun to work with. I don't want to give the wrong impression of the Guy, he wasn't bad to work with, he was just having a bad time. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 10:56 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolWhat you did was inappropriate. Imagine if you were acting antsy one day and a male coworker said "Hey, you can't touch me or anything, but how about I fingerblast your partybox so you stop acting like a crazy bitch for a couple hours?" I probably wouldn't agree to it, and it's doubtful that any guy I worked with would feel it was a useful suggestion to make. In that situation and in other situations where I've done it, it's always worked out. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 03:24 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolThere are more positives than negatives, and the negatives can be sorted out. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 02:30 AM |
| -1 | Using Sex as a toolHow so? | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 01:16 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolGee. You could have been a concerned coworker and said "Hey man, you seem t be having a hard time. Wanna grab a beer and some chicken fingers after work and talk about it?" It wasn't really that environment, we were essentially working in the middle of no where for several days. Even though there wasn't a lot to do we couldn't leave for more than short periods. Instead, you're an idiot and he's an idiot. You're both idiots. And you'll probably be going to HR to complain about his sexual harrasme… | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 01:15 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolYou are British, right? Is this level of sexual contact with your coworkers seen as normal or tolerated? I don't consider myself British but I work in the UK. It's only a problem with the company if it becomes a problem. I've had a lot of relationships with people I work with, but they've never been a problem because i don't let them become one. I'd imagine that, if the genders were reversed, the man would be summarily dismissed if this type of behavior were discovered. If he offered to masturba… | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 01:10 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolI thought it was a good idea because well part of the reason was that I was bored, cold, wet and pissed off. It gave me something to do and it was kind of exciting. He was getting pissed off as well, and I just felt it was a good way to spend 5 mins I did actually like the guy, and I'm actually pretty good at getting Men off with my hands so why not? | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 01:06 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolI considered that, my actual main issue was to make clear that I didn't want to have sex with. He is actually a nice guy, the key thing is that I felt I could do it without any negative consequence. In fact it kind of made him more comfortable around me. Plus he's fairly successful with women, so it's not as if he needs constant hand jobs from me as a sexual outlet. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 01:03 AM |
| -1 | Using Sex as a toolIt wasn't as if I just grabbed his penis. I asked him if he wanted me to do it, gave him my whole list of rules ... Then he thought about it for like five minutes, until I told him to make his mind up. Actually doing it only took a minute. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 01:00 AM |
| -1 | Using Sex as a toolI'm actually getting something out of discussing things that I usually don't get an opportunity to. I like Mens using r/MensRights because blokes here see things in a different way from how I look at them, and I kind of like the combative style. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 12:58 AM |
| 0 | Using Sex as a toolReally? people have gone from Gerorge Bernard Shaw to Alfred Hitchcock to Some Sci Fi bloke. | /r/MensRights | 20/08/13 12:49 AM |
| -1 | Using Sex as a toolThis didn't actually removed any drama, and it just seemed to make everything so much easier afterwards. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/13 11:36 PM |
| 0 | Do Men gain confidence from doing things for Women ?He was one of those guys (and I've actually met a few) that's fairly confident in a professional setting, but any sort of romantic/intimate moment just has them in bits. The first night I gave him a kiss on the cheek and he got all flustered, that sort of thing. He was pretty limited in his general social skills as well. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/13 09:14 PM |
| 0 | Do Men gain confidence from doing things for Women ?That makes sense in a lot of ways. It was strange, from early on I was willing to respond to any sexual advances he made, but even though it was obvious he wanted sex, he never seemed to be able to get up the courage to try and initiate anything. I think it was only the last night there, where he saw me wearing a dress that he'd bought me, at a prestigious function he'd brought me to, that he felt able to do it. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/13 04:32 PM |
| 0 | Do Men gain confidence from doing things for Women ?I think maybe I'm giving the wrong impression of myself, it wasn't that he had to make some massive charm offensive to get me into bed. It was his own nerves that stopped him even attempting a sexual approach, not that I'd be unreceptive to it. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/13 04:29 PM |
| 0 | Do Men gain confidence from doing things for Women ?It was his discomfort around me that stopped anything sexually happening. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/13 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.Typically how clubs in the UK will work, is that they won't pay the Women at all. In fact at certain times the Women have to pay the club. They make their money from Lap dances or from guys buying them drinks (they're extremely expensive but the woman gets a certain amount) thought that's not so common anymore. So as the clubs don't have to pay the Women, they're essentially self employed, for that reason they put too many women on. They have to spend long hours at the club waiting for customers… | /r/MensRights | 19/08/13 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?No we were spending quite a lot of time together at work, so we already had a relationship, Sex just tended to make it work better. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 11:47 PM |
| 8 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.I'm not being cynical, nor do I really want to criticize Men that were actually all pretty decent. However there was a difference between how a guy would treat me before and after I gave him a lap dance. First night there I just waitress-ed at first, the Customers were polite enough to me. When I told my Boss that I was up for lap dancing, I had to change my underwear, she taught be quickly what I had to do. Then introduced me to one of the customers. Now how he treated me before and after I gav… | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.I think that was my Bosses plan, she was paranoid about any of us having sex of any description with the customers. She wanted a clear line between us and the Prostitutes. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.They did spend a lot of money. As well as giving us money directly they used pay our boss quite a bit just to arrange everything. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 07:04 PM |
| 4 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.It's a kind of odd distinction. I had friends that would be paid to go on dates with guys but there was never any sex involved. They were escorts.. I mean the job required prostitutes not escorts, all they had to do was to take guys in one of the bedrooms and suck them off, it wasn't difficult. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 06:59 PM |
| 8 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.Being an escort implies some social skills and none of those woman had any. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.It's awkward if a guy doesn't chat, I used always try to get him to talk about something (and they could be some pretty bizarre subjects), silence isn't good. As for hugging, well quite a bit of physical contact is involved a lot of the time I'd end up sitting on a guys lap. Though I'd try to have my undies on if I was. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Some ideas on how Men interact with Women.One thing I've taken away from that experience is a low opinion of Prostitutes. We used to have prostitutes at the parties on occassion and every time they caused drama. I used to have this image of a Prostitute as a slightly jaded, cynical woman with lots of street sense. Any ones that I met were almost uniformly stupid and would just become drunken drugged up idiots at the first opportunity. It got to the stage where my boss would have them wait near the venue and then phone them if any of the… | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I'm here because I'm curious to read the thoughts, opinions and experiences of other people. What is that thing that you're seeking then? I don't know what that means, and I don't think you do either | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Mother assualts skater after he accidentally hits her kidWas it a skate park? | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I think it can be positive to take advantage of the Internet to discuss incidents from your life with strangers. Sometimes you get a different perspective on things. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?In this case I was in a relationship with the Guy, so it wasn't a case of trading sex for anything. I put my professional and technical development at the very center of my Life. That doesn't mean that I have to somehow settle when I'm choosing partners. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 11:31 AM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?Say you're hiring someone to work as a fitter in a Garage. You've got two applicants, you don't bother checking for formal Qualifications, instead you bring them to a vehicle and ask them to change the Alternator. One can do it and one can't. Now does it really matter how the Applicant that can do the task, learned how to do it? | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I'm afraid if you were trying to appear 'not too judgmental' then you didn't quite pull it off. I decided to check your post history. I stumbled into your story about how to get into a nice group in university. That explains a lot. You were doing research, well that's always good. Incidentally I'm not sure I'd describe them as a Nice group. They were people I liked, respected and admired... they all had issues with the opposite sex but that only made them more interesting... | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I was initially going to write a very different response but I'll give an example instead. Some time back a Guy I knew in University got in touch with me he wanted to show me a project that he'd been working on at his Company. In University he was quite a difficult individual, a kind of loner and we didn't have much interaction. So I was surprised but interested when I got the invitation. So I turn up at the Company and start getting the VIP treatment, though I was surprised I was the only one t… | /r/MensRights | 18/08/13 09:53 AM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?Well obviously the situation is different, but how are the implications different? (are you trying to ration words) | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 11:42 PM |
| -3 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I was trying to convey that I'm willing to answer questions but From where or who did you learn this behaviour? Didn't seem to be a comment worth responding to. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 11:40 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?Would you like to explain why you feel that way? | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 11:37 PM |
| -2 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I am quite good at sex, I think if anyone was ever going to be able to fuck their way into a particular job, I'd be able to. However my Job doesn't exactly leave itself open to that. I have a skill set that very few other people at my workplace share. While I was in university I researched industry and undertook studies outside the scope of my course, so that someday I'd be highly employable. I think getting the opportunity to learn those skills was often made easier by my being a Woman, and how… | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 10:02 PM |
| -2 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?However if you are using the guy, as in sleep with him so that he will teach you or date a guy just to gain a skill and then dump him once your done with him, then yes it's morally wrong If you look back over past relationships, what did you take away from them when they ended? Do you feel you grew or developed as a person while you were together? I think that growth and development are reasons (among others) for entering into a relationship. that you attacked her here by saying she only dates l… | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 09:57 PM |
| -4 | A "feminist" friend posted this on tumblr. Does she not realize how un-feministic this is?I think men like demonstrating any prowess they might have in front of women. It helps if the woman is a little bit gracious about it but sometimes even that's not required. I needed some work done on a property recently, and I got an ex boyfriend to sort it out for me. It was pretty much equivalent to getting a heart Surgeon to put a sticking plaster on someone finger, but he did it anyway. Now there's an element of manipulation there on my part, and his part because there's a blatant hope he's… | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 09:21 PM |
| -1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?I think if you have a work centered life, then these relationships are fairly healthy. So you've never experienced Nepotism? ever worked in a small business? Actually the thing I love about my Company is how aggressive they are when it comes to recruiting I essentially started my job application in my first year of college. Anyway someone gave me good advice once about being careful where I choose my partners, and it's always worked out for me. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 09:15 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?you have to trust your partners to keep their mouths shut during and after, and people do talk. It depends the caliber of people you're dating. You do have to be careful especially when the relationship ends, it has to be done in a mature way. I'm actually on quite good terms with the Majority of my Ex's. It's actually really useful to know and work with a Man for a period of time before entering into a relationship with him. I can honestly say I've never had a bad experience doing it. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 08:33 PM |
| -4 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?Oh I have, but you're phrasing. It's very general don't you think? open to all sorts of interpretations. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:27 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?It's not a case of sharing, as in it's some secret he's whispering in my ear. To instruct someone in a complicated task is something that takes a lot of time and effort. In fact now that I think about it sometimes I've had to teach guys how to Instruct before they could teach me (I know grammatically I've murdered that last sentence) | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:24 PM |
| -2 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?Wow! you sound disapproving. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:23 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?No, but I like to feel I'm constantly developing and do my best to surround myself with people I have a high opinion off. Also men tend to like it, they like to feel they have something to offer. In general it tends to make them far more confidant and assertive if they're in a position where they're instructing me in something. On every level it's almost astounding how well it's worked out for me. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:21 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?not a great idea in itself. You're better off keeping your private life well clear of your professional life I've never found that to be true, in fact just the opposite, you have to be a lot more careful but often it's incredibly rewarding on many different levels. if I would benefit from that financially and had a history of dating people who could help me financially, I'd be worried about how that would look. It's odd how people start reading money into things, my professional Skills and Caree… | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:09 PM |
| -1 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?Relationships are complicated, there's multiple things that attract me to men but their professional achievements are definitely one of them. Also I enjoy having that common ground with someone that comes from working in the same field. I've also always tried to date up rather than down. I like professionally successful men, even if on occasion socially they're not so great. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:06 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?So, again, are you dating these men to learn, or are you learning from men you date? I've done both, generally speaking If I have a high opinion of a Guy professionally I'm going to be more inclined to be open to starting a relationship with him. I used to be quite bad for it in University. However professionally, romantically sexually it's always worked out rather well for me. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 07:03 PM |
| -5 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?You seemed to progressively wind yourself up as you worked your way through your post. Look I was in a relationship with him already, if you got your Girlfriend to teach you how to e.g. drive, would that be immoral? | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 06:29 PM |
| 0 | Is it wrong to benefit Professionally from a Sexual relationship?exchanging sex for career enhancement I probably haven't been clear, that's was how she viewed it. I've always dated guys that move in the same Professional circles as I do. So if they have a skill that I'd like to learn then why not ask them to teach me. If you had a Girlfriend that say spoke a foreign language and you asked her to teach you, would that be immoral? | /r/MensRights | 17/08/13 06:12 PM |
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