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Jiujitsu_Dude/r/Divorce_Men02/12/19 03:35 AM
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Cane Corso is another recommendation or a retriever, or an English mastiff, and chickens I now have all of them 😂 pets are the key
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 03:37 AM
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It can, if you don’t like it build a life that supports what you want. Divorce is a chapter in the long book of life
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 03:34 AM
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Run
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 12:01 PM
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😂 Fripperies. Had to look up the definition on that one. I shall use it invariably
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 02:59 AM
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I would recommend not showing any type of aggression what so ever, it can all be used against you. You sound like a person who can handle himself and trust me he knows. Don’t put your self in a position to ever jeopardize your kids. He won’t do shit, he’s a pawn for her. Buy him a beer he did you a favor.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 04:54 AM
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Is Wicked Witch an ethnicity ?
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:39 PM
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You should be excited that you don’t have to share your earnings with a disloyal person. Buy that sweet car and enjoy your success, she doesn’t deserve it
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:38 PM
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Without darkness we can’t see the light. These are trying times and they will pass to brighter days. Life is a journey and without these we won’t have truly experienced it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 03:36 AM
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Seeking marriage advice on a Divorce forum is wild 😂. But I digress.. I’m no relationship expert but I would say the number one thing that a healthy relationship must have is communication and lots of it. You will fight, you will argue but if you can talk about it and rationalize where you made mistakes and also where your partner did and you’re both willing to take responsibility I would say that’s the makings of a strong relationship
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 03:46 PM
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This.. and if she’s checked out it only gets worse and more hurtful. Get out, move on and build your new life.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:48 PM
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They are your boundaries, if you feel like she overstepped then she did. End of story.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 04:35 AM
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Imagine staying with a person like that, she’s a garbage human and did you a favor
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 04:03 AM
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Block and move on
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 10:31 PM
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It takes time to heal, at least you got some answers and closure. Now onto you and your kids. If you choose to learn from mistakes you will be a rockstar version of your old self. If you choose to wollow in misery and live in the past you will die there. Don’t die there. There’s a whole new life right in front of you and it will be 100% better in a lot of ways. If you want a family unit there’s a million women out there that you can create that with but fix yourself and heal up and only then wil…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:48 PM
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Best thing that’s ever happened to me. Relationship with my kids is great, my own home, own schedule, awesome girlfriend, better job. 10-10 Would recommend
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 05:54 PM
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If I was going to have more children I would get married again, typically when in a marriage 50/50 custody is almost guaranteed in my state as long as you’re not completely insane. I am not having more kids, snip snip made sure of that. I see no reason to get the government involved again. However… I have been through it and would do it again for children. So don’t let poor experiences make the decision for you. If you really want to get married then I think you should, one life to live my man.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 04:29 AM
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I have done both, I can tell you that every time I joined the ex and her crew I was miserable. But, my son appreciated I was there. It has gotten easier and I always have a separate party. I’ve tried to look through my son and daughter’s prospective and if they want me there you’re damn right I will be. But, I can understand why people don’t want to torture themselves though. It has gotten exponentially easier and helped establish a working relationship with the ex. Kids are young so I have to c…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 08:44 PM
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Do this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 07:10 AM
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Everyone has a breaking point. And never underestimate dad rage.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 06:46 PM
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This is true, my ex painted me out to be a monster I’m sure. Fact of the matter is I’m smart enough to know that if anything actually happened between the two of us it would drastically affect my young children. I would have never actually hurt him. But thinking about how easy it would be gave me some comfort.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 04:41 PM
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I married one too, nope never again 😂
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 03:28 AM
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Can confirm this is the way.. I prayed her new bf said something to me sideways 😂 I’ve been training 20 years. Blackbelt. But you don’t need to be a blackbelt, just train and up that confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 07:18 PM
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I agree, definitely get comfortable in your own skin before seeking a new relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 02:55 AM
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Happy birthday!! First couple are weird but the future is bright my friend. If a new hot girlfriend and her awesome family is what you want then you will get it. In the meantime treat yourself on your birthday. Do what makes you happy, whatever that may be!
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 09:41 PM
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Erase, unfriend, start fresh
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 03:28 AM
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Found Anna
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 06:47 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:44 AM
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God I love hearing this so much 😂
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 07:41 PM
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Ya it’s definitely not… don’t do this
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 04:33 AM
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The pain of unrealized dreams is real, the pain of coming to the understanding that the only one you can always rely on is yourself is also very real. I realized my pain was a combination of those facts and the death of my old self and my ex as I knew her. You are mourning loss, it’s ok. Feel it and you will I guarantee be stronger. Fight it and you won’t. There’s only one path.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 04:20 AM
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Ex bartender here.. it’s not a brag to get picked up by a bartender. It’s a one and done situation, You should laugh it off.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 03:24 AM
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Your brain will trick you into thinking about all the good things and none of the bad. Don’t listen.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 12:48 AM
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God damn, this 100%
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 12:44 AM
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Higher paying Job, a girlfriend who is awesome, she was equipped with a daughter of her own who is my kids age and they all get along great, 50/50 custody and a decent parenting relationship with my ex. My own house, things are great. I would have just rode my marriage into death even though I was miserable with her if she didn’t cheat and go crazy. Clouds have cleared and life is great. Divorce is a very painful process but the other side is endless possibilities.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 02:00 PM
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Don’t remember, 37 ish. 42 now and couldn’t be happier:)
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 04:53 AM
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What other people say about me is none of my business, and the people who believe people who say bad things about me are not my friends.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 06:27 PM
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Like Shawshank you must crawl through a tunnel of shit before being on the glorious other side.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 02:04 AM
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There’s only one thing you should concern yourself with, is he a good guy to your kids? If so it’s all good. He can have all the things and take them on trips and whatever he wants but he will never ever be their dad. You are, and they will always know that. So if he’s a good guy and treats them right then it’s great for both them and you, there’s no competition you are and always will be dad.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 04:11 AM
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You need a physical outlet, it’s not abnormal to feel like you’re going to explode and take the world with you but that’s not the answer, think of sitting in prison reliving this situation over and over until the day you die. This too shall pass, also seek therapy to help unpack your brain. It saved me
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 07:39 PM
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Do not go anywhere until you have spoken with an attorney and get the ok.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 03:22 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 09:22 PM
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The person I married died in the divorce, a little piece of me died too. I think that’s the hardest part. The new person I have a business relationship with called children, we both hold stock and we both want it to grow so we cooperate with that intention. That’s how I look at it anyways
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:48 AM
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She’s not the same person plain and simple. It’s ok to still have some feelings for the person you once knew but she isn’t that person
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:40 AM
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100% my ex had me so fucked up I didn’t know up from down. Still healing but in a great place, hell our kid plays baseball and I’ll sit next to her and her new man with zero fucks givin
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 11:10 PM
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I’ll never get married again. But so what, I don’t want the government involved in my relationship and there’s zero benefit to me. Doesn’t mean I can’t have meaningful relationships though.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 03:01 PM
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Go to Therapy for yourself, nobody is equipped to resolve these crazy situations alone. I was gaslighted in such a crazy way right before my divorce it was making me go crazy, she says she wants to stay, now she wants to go, now she wants to work it out, now she won’t talk to me. It’s all really crazy. Therapy helped me 1000% percent. Go, and go a lot! Get out of the relationship that is creating all this craziness and continue to go to therapy and exercise like you’re training for a fight with …
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 02:48 PM
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100% Therapy is amazing and I recommend it. Don’t try and figure everything out on your own.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:24 PM
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I will also say, it’s simply not your fault. If a person cheats it’s their morality not yours. Don’t make it change you. She is a cheating liar not you. Hold your head high and onto greener pastures. Women are everywhere… literally. If you want another one, it’s not difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 05:55 AM
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The jaded feeling will turn to caution, it ok to have knowledge and experience and understanding of what to expect. This doesn’t mean you won’t find an awesome woman, you will just not be blind to the reality of how women operate. I love my now Girlfriend but I know how women operate and will never be caught off guard again. Ignorance is bliss but wisdom is reality.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 05:49 AM
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Happy to hear this 👏👏
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 04:08 AM
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And the feeling at the end is worth crawling through shit 1000x
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 02:05 AM
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Thank everything holy you didn’t have children together, otherwise you would be stuck communicating for at least 18 years, it’s the gift that keeps on giving 😂.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 08:16 AM
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You will get to a place where you won’t care enough about her to engage in her crazyness, it will be only about your son and his wellbeing. Violating court orders, call the cops. Play by the book and don’t ever show her any emotion. It will Get better for you man.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:29 AM
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They always have someone waiting
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 03:18 AM
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She used it as a platform to bring up old situations and essentially just shit on me as a person, it was almost like she needed a therapist to agree with her irrational decision making, the therapist did what most do and that was just listen, I was pretty much a punching bag and just in shock, not really even capable of understanding why I was being treated so poorly all of a sudden. It was some next level shit, made me feel terrible and accomplished nothing. We also did another kind of therapy …
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 05:14 AM
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I did mediation and I did not get the better end of the deal, hire a great attorney. She will likely be paying for it, seek spousal support, half of the assets including retirement, at least 50/50 custody and sail off into the sunset my friend. You are going to be better than good. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 03:07 AM
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Be careful, my ex weaponized therapy and it was absolutely brutal.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 02:52 AM
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3rd, I would also be surprised if someone else wasn’t buzzing around her in wait for her to let him know she’s leaving you. Women like this 100% don’t just leave to be by themselves, they aren’t capable.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 02:47 AM
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If you’re trying to get out of the woods and see the same tree twice what are you?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 04:06 AM
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1- I will never get the government involved in another relationship. She came with a bag and left with half my shit including a house, yes she gave me 2 kids but she definitely got the better end of the deal. 2- I’m free to end it without the immense entanglements, ie. Judge says half 3- zero pressure to (stay forever) even though we all know marriage definitely doesn’t mean forever, it’s intended to be that way 4- this isn’t the Middle Ages joining houses for power, it makes zero sense 5- fool …
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 04:04 AM
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You will too, you got this!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 03:38 AM
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Everyone feels bad for women and men often endure alone, women also process divorce during the relationship while men are typically loyal enough to die in a shit marriage for the kids etc. Men often start processing after the divorce or the news of.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:40 AM
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I understand that feeling and have been through it, trust you will be better on the other side. I was gaslighted, cheated on, lied too, lost my job and found myself on my mom’s couch with my head spinning thinking what the hell happened.. fast forward 3 years. New girlfriend who lives with me, 50/50 custody of my kids, way better job and way happier. Trust me, it’s better on the other side. Have faith and confidence in yourself you can and will be way the hell better off you just can’t see it ye…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 03:54 PM
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You realize there’s other amazing women out here who won’t cheat and gaslight you right? Have some self respect and get rid of her. You and the kids will be wayyyy better off. This is insane
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:54 AM
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I have 2 a boy and a girl, we divorced 4 years ago when my daughter was 3 and son was 6, luckily he’s not a bad guy. Kids like him and talk about him in a positive way so I have no problem with him. It’s not easy, he’s the dude she cheated with but It wasn’t exactly a happy marriage and it just is what it is. I’m much better off with her being his responsibility. I can appreciate that he’s not a bad guy and there’s way worse scenarios. I can’t do anything about it so I try and put the kids fist …
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 04:09 AM
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Not only will you build yourself back up but you will discover you are 10x stronger than you ever game yourself credit for. You will also appreciate the man you become and your past self will be unrecognizable.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 07:29 PM
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Do you know why divorces are expensive? Because they are worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 05:17 AM
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Do not settle for anything less than what you are owed, HALF. You better believe if the rolls were reversed that’s what she would go after. Protect yourself, this is now a business deal not a happy marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 02:37 PM
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You’re only 6months divorced, one day you will think. Man that crazy Bi*** lied her as* off, good thing I’m not married to her anymore. She can be someone else’s problem. While you’re happy doing all of the things you want to be doing, with someone way damn cooler
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 04:33 AM
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Damn, sounds oddly similar to my situation the back and forth, luckily we agreed on mediation. She came with a backpack and left with half a house and an education. I would gladly pay it again to be where I am now. Things will get better much much better, trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 04:29 AM
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I’m glad we didn’t get attorneys involved, she just took half my shit and it was over. Talking to a mediator was probably the best decision.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 04:29 AM
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This 100%, get all of your ducks in a row. Bank account, attorney, living situation, what you’re prepared to be amicable about. Remember it’s only about the kids now, the women you married is gone and now she’s just the mother of your kids. Also remember, you and her have a mutual business called children the goal is to raise them right and you have equal stock you don’t have to like her to speak respectfully and never loose your cool. I made the mistake of being blinded by sadness of the ending…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 07:05 PM
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Life will be better on the other side, it’s impossible to see that right now. Trust it will
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 05:04 AM
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Your kids won’t grow up without a father, you will be there every step brother.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 04:59 AM
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Thanks man. Solid advice, When I first started going through this I trained like a maniac. It wasn’t healthy. I’m back at it but not as frequent, finding some more hobbies I think will be important for me, finding some balance again I think is key, getting so thrown off routine has been hard because I’m such a creature of habit, I think most men are and that’s why these drastic changes are so hard for us. I can’t wait until I get into my own place and I can settle again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/19 04:01 AM
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Needed this, and I’m doing my very best in showing her that I am strong and capable and will continue to be the very best dad. Thank you for the wisdom
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/19 06:01 AM
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It’s so hard not being so angry at her, but we have children and I have to have a relationship with her. Makes things so much more difficult. But your absolutely right...
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/19 04:37 AM
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On and off ya, not as much as I was. Very sporadic, I should get back on a schedule. Everything just seams so fucking messy it’s been hard to create a schedule.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/19 04:09 AM
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This is some of the best advice I have read, thank you for this. As I am also going through a god damn shit storm and feel very lost at times.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 03:15 AM
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Amen.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 02:01 AM
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