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Say "Thanks, I love you too." It doesn't make any sense, but hey, it's just fun to say things.
/r/seduction05/05/14 07:07 AM
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The best opener I've heard was "You, me, hotel or motel." A woman used this with success. Fastest lay I've ever heard.
/r/seduction30/04/14 09:53 AM
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Why does the majority of people seem to think that The Game is a manual? It's not. It's a biography of Neil Strauss as a pickup artist. If you want to learn this stuff then go out, have fun and approach women. You perfectly can learn this shit on your own without any manuals, though I have to tell you that some guidance can help you get faster results but only to a certain degree. It's better to approach 1000 women and read 1 book than to read 1000 books and approach 1 woman.
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:36 PM
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Youtube. Go to rnb hip hop clubs. The music is almost always about sex and picking up chicks. The vibe is there. Avoid techno. Harder to escalate.
/r/seduction07/03/14 08:45 AM
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I know what you mean, LOL. I overcame my AA while travelling. So when I got back home I was like, huhh?? What do I say now? My opening line was at the time always, "Where are you from?" But eventually I've came up with a solution. I'd guesss it anyway. I didn't care if she was foreign or not. If the girl was blonde I'd ask, "Are you Swedish?" if she was a brunette, "Are you Spanish?" LOL Those were my noob days :3
/r/seduction24/02/14 08:51 PM
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Conventional wisdom says it? Never heard of it, though. If you are afraid of being a creeper then only approach a woman who gives you approach invitations (IOIs). Which in this case (the gym), is not a bad idea because you obviously are going to train there again.
/r/seduction24/02/14 08:47 PM
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Go to a club and go alone. That's the ultimate test, man. If you can do that, you can do everything.
/r/seduction22/02/14 12:52 AM
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Escalate, man. Touch her. Start with her hands. Hold them. Dance a little. Get closer. Caress her back. Slowly escalate while dancing. Move back. Cool down. Then again move closer and go further. Take two steps and one step back. Slowly escalate. Look in her eyes. Get closer until your lips almost touch each other, but don't kiss her. Dance sexually. Edit: approach in front of her.
/r/seduction09/02/14 05:09 PM
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Either you have style and/or you are pretty. As long as you don't have a gay voice then being called gay by women is a plus. Edit: btw, a good response is something like this: "Hmm. You'll soon notice I'm not gay" You tell this by looking in her eyes and giving her a sly smile.
/r/seduction01/02/14 03:39 PM
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Peacock. Wear a cowboy hat or something. Stand out of the crowd.
/r/seduction01/02/14 03:15 PM
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How can you expect to get women if you're dressed awfully? Before even considering picking up women, go buy some new clothes that fits you well. If you're unsure if it's too skinny or too loose. Go ask someone who works there and ask what your size is. If you don't know which clothing store, I suggest you go to Zara and Mango. Throw all your clothes away. And also buy new shoes. Two pair of classic shoes. One black and other brown. And one sports shoes. I suggest All Stars. As for your hair, go …
/r/seduction30/01/14 03:44 PM
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Don't overcomplicate things, lol. Sometimes it's just a tease. No shit test or anything. The only thing you have to keep in mind is that sometimes she needs to feel like you're still a guy with options, aka you can get other girls easily. You do that by keep being a challenge (just sometimes and just a little bit).
/r/seduction29/01/14 07:26 PM
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Those three bullet points you already gave should do it. And the conversation should last long. Also talk about yourself. Being vulnerable creates intimacy and builds an emotional connection.
/r/seduction29/01/14 02:08 PM
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Here is a hard fact: APPROACH, then ask yourself what you could improve. Then approach again. And yes, looks matter. It makes life easier.
/r/seduction28/01/14 09:13 PM
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"Being honest, it's too easy to hook up with all these less attractive girls." I dont agree with that. From my experience, hot chicks are more polite and easier going. I think it's because most men are intimidated by their looks so they approach less attractive girls. Result: 6's act like bitches and 10's have lower self-esteem. EDIT: Well, maybe it's a self fulfilling prophecy. For me and maybe for you too.
/r/seduction28/01/14 12:08 PM
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Thinking in rating systems like that is so you can please society. I use another 'system'. My system is simple: Do I find her sexually attractive? Yes? Approach, No? Ignore. Some girls are 6's I want to bang hard and sometimes not. Sometimes there are 10's I don't find sexually attractive. Or their personality is a big turn off.
/r/seduction28/01/14 12:01 PM
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My frame that gives me more success is just "I wonder what's going to happen tonight." Assuming you approach of course and escalate.
/r/seduction28/01/14 11:57 AM
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Here's a simple tactic: First go on a date. At the end of the date tell her you want to drop her off (assuming you drive a car of course). You're now in front of her home. If she doesn't invite you in, here's how to invite yourself in: "Ok, I know this sounds weird but I really have to go to the toilet." BAM. You're in.
/r/seduction28/01/14 01:03 AM
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What do you mean by privacy? Are your parents very conservative? Date a few times until your girl feels comfortable enough so you can be at her place. Edit: Living with your parents shouldn't be a limitation, otherwise all teenagers couldn't get a girlfriend because they live with their parents.
/r/seduction27/01/14 04:54 PM
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He said talk or dance in front of her. That was the point -> approach in front of her.
/r/seduction25/01/14 10:36 PM
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Next time you go out, just observe the dance floor. If you approach from the back you will creep her out.
/r/seduction25/01/14 10:35 PM
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This is solid advice. Approach in front of her.
/r/seduction25/01/14 10:33 PM
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If I have seen you in the interaction then I could tell you more. It's possible you had to build more comfort. Maybe she was never attracted to you and she was just being polite.
/r/seduction25/01/14 10:25 PM
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Night clubs, malls and stores. Also keep your radar on when you're not sarging. For example at a bus stop. When you see a cute girl, open.
/r/seduction25/01/14 03:23 PM
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This is what I did when I first attempted college and I knew no one: I went to my first class, looked at which guys looked decent, then I sat next to them and just introduced myself. "Hey, I'm John." Then everything happened automatically. My social circle has gotten bigger automatically from that point.
/r/seduction25/01/14 02:20 PM
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Feel great! I remember my first approaches. I was proud of myself. Look it from this perspective: if you can approach women without using alcohol, then you're already above average.
/r/seduction25/01/14 02:15 PM
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She was just being polite. You just got a nice and soft rejection.
/r/seduction25/01/14 12:57 PM
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That's part of the game :) It has happened to me a lot in night clubs. A few months ago, I approached a girl three times in one night. I approach some women a few times in a month (also night club). Edit: It isn't something to feel embarrassed about. You can't expect to remember everyone you approach.
/r/seduction24/01/14 01:38 AM
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My apologies. It was practical advice, though. Next time I'll just post it within Reddit.
/r/seduction23/01/14 05:47 PM
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What I do is pretty simple. I slowly move closer to see if she moves back or not. If she doesn't move back I slowly come closer until our lips are almost touching each other. Then I slowly start to kiss her. If she does move back, wait a few minutes and try again.
/r/seduction20/01/14 12:02 PM
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Getting lots of phone numbers and letting statistics do his work is a beginner mistake. I too was like that, until I asked myself how the interactions went. What was different between flakey numbers and solid numbers? I came to a surprising conclusion. All my solid phone numbers were situations where the girl or me HAD to leave the interaction. And all my flakey numbers were when I voluntary left the interaction. So here's my tip on solid phone numbers: 1. She really has to find you attractive 2…
/r/seduction18/01/14 09:39 PM
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Most people give general compliments they hear all the time. Here's how to give a genuine compliment: Example: I like you're shirt, it reminds me of... (say whatever you want)
/r/seduction18/01/14 03:39 PM
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Ok, I will write a post about it and I will notice you when it's published. The key is actually not to look for cues, but to look for changing behaviors.
/r/seduction18/01/14 03:32 PM
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Many people think of porn and masturbation as cause of the problem. I think that over 90% of poor performance in bed is due to psychological problems. The need to perform (=insecurities). If you want to perform well, you need to be in the moment. Relax and enjoy the experience. Let all thoughts go.
/r/seduction17/01/14 05:13 PM
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It took me years. Then I got sick and tired of it. After my first approach I changed and improved dramatically. I have spend an entire year just working on general improvements like confidence, style, social skills, body language. The only thing I did for meeting women was just approaching and see how it goes. After my first year of approaching and changing my total being I started to join the pick up community. At first, my game got worse. I started to overanalyze everything. Eventually I've ex…
/r/seduction17/01/14 05:05 PM
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If you cold approach tons of women then yes, it is a numbers game. But if you look for body language signals before approaching then you'd be amazed how less of a numbers game it is. In other words, approach women who find you physically attractive and send you signals to approach her. EDIT: Women can often be extremely subtle. Reading people is a skill per se. But it is fun. Also in normal conversations at work for example.
/r/seduction17/01/14 04:45 PM
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I hate online dating. Too much competition. You have to get to know each other well before setting up a date. It's terrible. In real life, you meet a woman and if she likes you, you can see her within days. But that doesn't mean online dating is stupid. I have a friend who's terrible at approaching women in real life and he's very good at online dating. He has gotten several girlfriends all from the internet. My only successes has been from approaching women in real life. I suck at online dating…
/r/seduction17/01/14 12:52 PM
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No no no. It's all in your head. I also live in Europe. I actually did an experiment. I literally asked a girl "Would you like to go on a date with me?" (Yes I am 18+), it was the easiest way to set up a date. We were both looking at our agendas to see what's the best day for the both of us. It was the easiest and fastest date ever. I like to take risks and experiment, but if I want to go on a date I actually prefer to ask if she'd like to go have a drink with me. Normally they know what's the d…
/r/seduction17/01/14 12:45 PM
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I'm reading that book to improve my sex life, not my game. It's a book about living in the moment. It's more like a book on buddhism.
/r/seduction17/01/14 12:37 PM
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I have another way to choose women. I ask myself the following question, "Do I find her sexually attractive?" This is totally different than logically looking at her looks. Sometimes I see a pretty looking girl but I don't have any sexual feelings. I don't feel it. And sometimes I see an average looking girl and I want to bang her hard. I guess sexual attractiveness is subconscious and using number scales conscious.
/r/seduction17/01/14 12:33 PM
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It will work, but you'll attract more gold diggers. The best way to find good girls (= for long term relationships) is to keep a low profile. Act like you're poor, lol. Edit: I prefer acting poor than acting rich.
/r/seduction12/01/14 01:19 PM
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I do a similar tactic but on very large mixed sets. Like a mixed 10-set for example. I go to the tallest, biggest guy and ask which girl is single. They usually help me. Of course this is not limited to large sets. This 'tactic' is also valid on a mixed 3-set; 2 girls, 1 guy. Go to the guy first. Usually you'll already know which one is single and you ask the guy, "Hey, what's your name?" Then I go to the girl and say, "[Name of guy] said you were single and I should say hi to you" Trust me. Try…
/r/seduction12/01/14 01:13 PM
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Learn how to dance and escalate (don't escalate too fast, don't make out after 2 minutes. What do you want? Solid #close or quick make out?) Try making out after 10-15min and try that she will kiss you. If for some reason she kisses you within 5 minutes it's fun that you let her kiss you for 1 sec and tell her "hey, I'm that easy you know" with a smile of course. don't put on a serious face Approach. Don't talk. Only talk when she asks you a question. Edit: approach from the front. And don't foc…
/r/seduction09/01/14 02:12 PM
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Hmm. When a girl says she'll text you back. I don't know, man. My first gut feeling tells me she'll never text you back. About phone game: I usually text her the next day to do something together (probably something to drink). And if I'm a little tired or not in the mood I text her two or three days later. Never show neediness. It's hard to explain. She must feel like you are a guy with options, but at the same time you shouldn't appear like a player. I prefer to escalate slowly. Edit: I prefer …
/r/seduction09/01/14 01:55 PM
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I've never heard that before. What do you say? Or maybe because it's how you behave? Because my friend often get the response "Are you a player?" and I never and I have more success.
/r/seduction09/01/14 01:49 PM
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"Ok, this may sound strange because I don't know you, but would you like to grab a drink with me?" You could also ask to grab a drink with you next week, so they're more likely to say yes. And if it's very obvious she likes you, you could even ask to grab a drink after work (= meet the same day).
/r/seduction09/01/14 01:42 PM
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Thanks for the share!
/r/seduction09/01/14 01:38 PM
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lol yeah here is his speech: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kZg_ALxEz0&feature=youtube_gdata_player It's on 3:00
/r/seduction09/01/14 02:47 AM
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I suggest you stop reading PUA and forget everything you've read before. Get massive field experience and believe in your own gut instinct. THEN read pua books. And I recommend trying different kinds of methods. Don't just rely on Mystery Method, which is indirect game. I've experimented with lots of methods and for me personally direct game and dance floor seduction (dancing) works much much better. EDIT: I have experimented with opinion openers, but I have much better and faster success by jus…
/r/seduction09/01/14 02:12 AM
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What do you mean? Do you think overcoming AA is easier than developing game? For me personally, my evolution went something like this: I want to pick up women. What is the problem? Approach anxiety. Ok, I can handle it. What's the problem now? Escalation Fixed. Now what? #close. New problem: I want more solid #closes -> How? Don't escalate too fast. Etc. I kept improving, but at the very beginning when I didn't have any game and I was a completely shy noob I could #close and get dates. So that's…
/r/seduction09/01/14 02:02 AM
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Hmm. I guess everybody's different. My first approach ever went something similar like the ABC model, but then at the time I've never heard of it before. It went natural like, "Why am I like this?" And then I came up with thoughts why I should approach her. And then eventually I opened.
/r/seduction09/01/14 01:48 AM
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Then I recommend you to read some books about small talk. They really helped me. What I learned is that actually most people already use the principles of small talk automatically when they are feeling comfortable with their friends.
/r/seduction08/01/14 10:00 PM
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At the very beginning of my pick up adventures, the time I could approach women without having any game, I never knew what to say. Even when I saw a target and I didn't know my opening line, I still approached her. Eventually, you'll come up with things to say. If you can talk to your friends, you can talk to women. But what's the difference? The difference is that with your friends you're feeling comfortable and with women, not. But if you approach lots of women, eventually you'll become comfor…
/r/seduction08/01/14 07:47 PM
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Indeed, the first step is to admit your problem. For me personally, I have denied years and years I had approach anxiety. I always came up with excuses like, "Nah, ppffff. She's ugly." or "She's probably with that guy." Then came a time I admitted I didn't have balls. And I started to think and try to approach women. After lots of regretting for not approaching women I eventually approached a lady. Since then I have built up my confidence from there. Now, approaching is nothing for me. I still f…
/r/seduction08/01/14 07:36 PM
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Thanks for the share! I also learned a great lesson a few months ago. I always thought I should talk a lot, but I have learned that silence creates attraction (if you're making eye contact and smiling and shit). I also thought that leading the conversation is talking. No, you can lead the conversation and letting her talk all the time.
/r/seduction08/01/14 01:32 PM
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Just say sorry and leave. No need to go all alpha. But don't act like a pussy. Genuinely say sorry and leave like it's no big deal. And the guy is not a threat. I've been in situations like that and I usually laugh it away, say sorry or something and leave.
/r/seduction07/01/14 11:16 PM
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I don't have experience in India, but I think you should go direct and then really take your time to escalate. But do escalate.
/r/seduction07/01/14 11:12 PM
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It doesn't matter to practice on 5's. You can also practice on 9's, because there are lots of 9's who consider themselves 6's and vice versa. Warm up makes you more in a talkative state, but it's not necessary. Most women are shy too.
/r/seduction07/01/14 11:09 PM
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Keep talking to a minimum. Open, dance, escalate (through dancing), #close. You don't really need to kiss her. You can go for the make out, but do a little push pull until she kisses you. (Hard to explain). But it's better not to kiss her than to go all over her and stick your tongue in her mouth after 2 minutes (= buyer's remorse)
/r/seduction07/01/14 11:03 PM
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The problem with asking for sex is that you put all responsibility on her. This triggers her anti-slut defense. You should make her feel like it just happened and that you were responsible for it to make it happen.
/r/seduction07/01/14 12:20 AM
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"so what should I do when they have their back towards me?" Just move a little so you can approach her from the front. There's only one situation where you can approach from behind and that's when a woman go to you and start grinding against you.
/r/seduction07/01/14 12:14 AM
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You may have read that. But I have experienced that. Try sarging with three guys and then sarge alone and see the results for yourself.
/r/seduction07/01/14 12:08 AM
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Omg, I have approached hundreds and hundreds of sets. I know what I'm talking about... I mostly sarge alone and I hit the clubs at least three times a week. I have also experience with day game. And I don't drink alcohol. The problem with interacting the entire set is that the girls won't know who you're interested in. So they play it safe. You're just wasting time. If you immediately go to your target you can #close much faster. Efficiency is top priority. Most guys read The Game and Mystery an…
/r/seduction06/01/14 11:55 PM
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Trust me. It's better not to drink alcohol. In the beginning it might feel weird. But think long-term. Approach tons of women and eventually you hate alcohol, because it ruins your game. Drink alcohol and play drinking games just to have fun with your friends, not to pick up women. Enter the club and immediately start approaching women. Better is to find women who give you approach invitations. That way, you have less approaches and more success.
/r/seduction06/01/14 11:52 PM
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The only benefit for being physical attractive is that you can make more mistakes and women will make it easier for you.
/r/seduction05/01/14 04:46 PM
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The only thing I can say is that smiling decreases sexual tension, but social interactions is not an exact science. In PUA terms, calibration is key.
/r/seduction05/01/14 04:43 PM
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I think these are just genuine text messages. Nothing special. No tests or anything.
/r/seduction04/01/14 05:44 PM
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What is the name of the book called?
/r/seduction04/01/14 05:38 PM
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I go out alone and find new clubs all the time. Enter the club and immediately approach women. Don't go to the bar and order a drink. No. Enter the club and approach.
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:58 PM
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Stop with that mental masturbation. Just go to the girl you want and approach her. If you want, you could occasionally interact with the other girls too but that's not even necessary. Go for your target. Edit: just to make sure, this applies to every situation. Not only clubs, but also bars, streets, etc.
/r/seduction03/01/14 08:28 PM
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Go to clubs. You can find women aged 18-35. If you have to, go alone. You'll get more success, because hanging out with friends is more intimidating for women.
/r/seduction03/01/14 07:14 PM
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Body language and voice tonality. Speak louder and slower. Eye contact.
/r/seduction03/01/14 06:06 PM
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"I have to get up early tomorrow but if you want, you can stay with me for a few minutes. I can show you those pictures I was talking about." You can thank me later.
/r/seduction03/01/14 06:01 PM
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I think oneitus has something to do with lack of experience with girls. I used to have oneitus with every girl! But now, I'm more 'cold'. I don't get into oneitus anymore. Maybe in the future there will be one special girl and I get oneitus again. Who knows?
/r/seduction02/01/14 10:55 PM
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Correct, you shouldn't approach from behind. That creeps women out. Never ask women to dance. Just dance in front of her and see how she reacts. If she turns away from you, you have no chance. If she stays there, grab her hand and dance with her. If she pulls away, you have no chance. Repeat this process until you find a woman to dance with. About escalation, you escalate WHILE dancing. Not after dancing. Btw, only talk when she asks you something. You should dance and escalate. No talking. Talk…
/r/seduction02/01/14 02:03 AM
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Just don't give a shit, but that only comes from experience. Experience will give you the feeling of abundance. When you got options, you don't give shit. Btw, getting a woman's number means nothing. If they don't answer when you want to ask her out that means she was never interested in you sexually or maybe she met another guy.
/r/seduction02/01/14 01:47 AM
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You never ask a girl for sex (even if you indirectly suggest it). You take her hand and go upstairs without saying shit. If you text her that she'll assume you just want sex. Start with something casual like, "Hey, what's up?" She answers and then you text her this, "Want to grab a drink with me?" If she likes you, she will say yes.
/r/seduction02/01/14 01:37 AM
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Your rejection rate depends on when you approach a lady. If you only approach women who gave you body language signals that shows they find you attractive, then your rejection rate is zero. You never get rejected. And if they reject you because they have a boyfriend, then they will be very polite. If you approach everyone, then your rejection rate can sometimes be 99% on a bad night. Sometimes I have nights that I'm at the 99%, and sometimes I have nights I never get rejected. Most women are pol…
/r/seduction02/01/14 01:17 AM
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