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Two things that I take from your post. you are too obsessed with this girl. I’m sure you don’t have a ton of succes with women, and are therefor getting stuck on a woman who’s somewhat attractive in your environment. This is a toxic mindset. And to be honest, I wouldn’t recommend following it up with her, but too start going out and talking to more women. Because two, you’re suffer from social anxiety and/or the ability to express yourself freely everywhere. What you’re describing about the beha…
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:32 AM
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I’m presuming you are new there. Just walk up to anyone, guy or girl and ask them “hey, are you new here too?” Introduce yourself and shake their hand. From there take the conversation anywhere. Your day, their day; their studies, your studies, the bar. Whatever. Of course there’s more suave ways of going about it. But this is practical and can get you to loosen up if you do it often enough. Have fun bro. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:27 AM
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Combined. I like to get to know her and tease her on some of the things that I get to know.
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:20 AM
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To be honest, I think you did well. Now you enter the waiting game - which essentially means you forget about her and move the fuck on. Stand by your words if you mean them. If you can’t be with her if she’s with her bf, then let her make the decision to break up or not. But never wait for that to happen. Expect that this is one you can’t have, and move on. Perhaps with time things change, but don’t count on it.
/r/seduction10/09/22 08:25 AM
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Well. What do you want?
/r/seduction10/09/22 08:10 AM
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I like that
/r/seduction10/09/22 01:07 AM
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In a vastly chaotic world, these rules will always apply. Some people are naturally gifted at math, some people aren’t. Some people dunk like Shaq, some people don’t. Some people will be naturally gifted with women, some will not. You can’t simplify that as a missing gene. Human biology and evolutionary nature are incredibly complex. Either way, it doesn’t mean you can’t learn it – it’s just not your natural disposition. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:49 PM
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That's a hard no.
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:45 PM
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Mostly on YouTube. Type in anything from: ‘men’s dating coach’ to ‘how to approach a girl’ to ‘daygame infield’ to ‘nightgame infield’. Have fun in the rabbithole. Some aspiring ones use reddit comments, lol. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:38 PM
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By all means, if you want to pay for coaching – do it. But perhaps first find some wingmen to go approach with. Could be friends, people you meet online (or in bars etc, but seeing that you are having trouble cold approaching, that might be for later). Sometimes seeing your wingmen approach or having them give you a kick in the butt can help you move forward. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:35 PM
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I’ve had coaching and benefited. With regards to your issue though - have you already gone out approaching with others in general?
/r/seduction09/09/22 04:43 PM
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Sounds a lot like the uncomfortable truths of life. With fame, money, power comes unwanted attention. Rich men facing golddiggers, people lifting on the back of powerful people. Doesn’t account for anyone though. You need to find some bro’s with integrity, they’re out there. Good luck
/r/seduction09/09/22 03:13 PM
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Consistency. Approach anxiety never fully goes away, you just learn to handle it better. It sounds like you might have a small pause approaching when you are getting leads/dates. The longer you stop approaching, the harder it will become again. And then the cycle repeats. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction08/09/22 04:57 PM
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Without being there, it’s hard to tell whether you did anything to throw her off, or she just wasn’t interested. Assuming that you did everything right – her lack of interest could be for a thousand reasons, none necessarily related to you. Generally, it’s a good thing. The more you vibe with people, the better. Nothing has to come out of it necessarily. Shake to off and on to the next ones.
/r/seduction08/09/22 04:54 PM
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That’s a good thing. You do decent with women when you don’t try, you suck when you do. Stop trying. Throw yourself into conversations without overthinking, you’ll do fine. In your case it seems more a matter of continuing to push over your anxiety of approaching EVEN when you don’t have any lines to rely on.
/r/seduction08/09/22 04:51 PM
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Can standing out work as a conversational starter. Sure. ‘The Game’ describes peacocking as a requirement though, for attracting the most beautiful women. That’s utter bullshit.
/r/seduction07/09/22 09:20 AM
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I never actually read The Game and was going off on what I heard about it. So your comment was a healthy reminder for me to: shut the fuck up if you don’t actually know what you’re talking about. Instead of parroting what others say, form your own opinion. Lesson for me. Anyway, I figured that the current criticisms on the book would be well founded though. So after reading your comment and feeling stupid, I decided to pick the book up so that I could actually form a well-rounded opinion for mys…
/r/seduction06/09/22 07:34 PM
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It’s a combination of places. You can meet them while ‘gaming’ yourself, specifically out in bars and clubs. By being a social dude and finding other men interested in these topics. There are large Telegram groups being run by GameGlobal, for lots of cities around the world. Those will give you lots of potential wingman. And if you would be up to pay for mentoring, lots of the mentor programs there will be likeminded people willing to develop together. Generally, the most recommended book for le…
/r/seduction06/09/22 10:42 AM
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Yes. Improve what you can improve. General looks, fitness, professional succes, social status, game, general interests. You have a ‘handicap’, but so does anyone who is old, or young, or poor, or bald, or fat, or high-pitched in their voice, or autistic, or who battles mental illness. Or whatever the fuck. Plenty of these people who are highly successful with women. Don’t let it become an excuse. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction06/09/22 09:52 AM
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The pick-up community is bigger then ever. Google is your friend. Fyi, the game is a pretty terrible book in actually learning how to effectively and authentically interact with women. Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction06/09/22 09:46 AM
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Envy is a motherfucking bitch. I feel for you. Not because I think any of your feelings towards your brother are grounded or helping you one bit; you are blind sighted by emotions. But I still feel for you, because envy is a particular difficult emotion to deal with. In the end it does come down to putting your ego aside, accepting the situation you are currently in and taking responsibility to better it. From 21 to 27 is a looonngg time. There is absolutely no reason you cannot get the things y…
/r/seduction30/08/22 11:17 AM
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The title is clickbaity. The post does not say you cannot become one, just that the odds are stacked up against you. Heavily. Either way, thanks for the feedback
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 10:14 PM
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Post is aimed at a specific group of men who are obsessing over becoming a ‘high value man’, which is a term that’s thrown around left and right nowadays. Post is not aimed at every man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 06:17 PM
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Totally agree, I am all for setting a high bar and striving to become a better version of yourself. I just do not want people to put their eggs of life satisfaction in a basket that is statistically rigged against them. You will not find satisfaction there, regardless of the fact that it is your responsibility to strive for improvement every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 04:31 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 04:26 PM
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Preach
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 04:26 PM
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Literally the post in one sentence lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 04:25 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I replied to most top comments, please re-open.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:09 PM
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Yes. I would also say that it is human to strive for all the things we consider ‘high value’. Nothing weird about wanting sex, being attractive to the other sex, being successful, having a purpose, being fit. But it is all about balance. People are trying to preach that you need to be grinding 24/7, 365, pulling in millions, slaying Instagram babe after Instagram babe, walking around with a sixpack always. And say bye bye if you ever let it slip. It is an unhealthy obsession, and completely unne…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:08 PM
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The exponential rise in dissatisfaction being voices by (young) men, who feel like they cannot compete due to a level of averageness does not signal ‘acceptance’ to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:00 PM
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Any average man can improve himself to the point of sexual and romantic relationships. They might not be banging models on the daily, but then again – perhaps that should not be the ultimate aim for happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:56 PM
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What is OP abandonment?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 11:24 AM
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I also do not want to falsely promote a: just be happy sentiment. I think some people’s odds are stacked up against them, and they suffer more consequences because of it. My main conviction is that a large group of people is obsessed with reaching some ultimate state of ‘masculinity’, while they are in fact perfectly average, and that being perfectly average would be perfectly fine if you were not constantly obsessing over your supposed inferiority. You do not need to be considered on the top of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 08:39 AM
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In terms of your point 1, I understand what you are saying, but my post is directed at the fact that people preaching the high value man rhetoric will often proclaim that everyone could be a high value man. I try to dissect that both ways. 1) by seeing whether that could happen if literally everyone would try, or any percentage larger than say 11%. 2) by looking at the innate abilities of individuals. Which I account for in the post as ‘luck’, and is therefore not a separate component. But you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 07:14 AM
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You can become in a better shape: financially, romantically, physically, mentally, then you were before. That includes attractiveness, and by a substantial degree. That is not the point of this argument though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 06:10 AM
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I don’t think its emotional connection per se. I think it is attraction and comfort, which are both ‘skills’ you can improve on. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction20/08/22 01:14 PM
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You're essentially saying exactly what Mark Manson is saying.
/r/seduction19/08/22 08:44 PM
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For me personally, it is less of a ‘rule of thumb’ that can be adopted in the interaction (although meditation may help in catching yourself slipping into over-analysis again), and more of a general state of: how am I feeling in my life. The urge to over analyse how you are presenting yourself is a sign that you are concerned with how you come across, because of the opinion that others have about you. In other words: insecurity in yourself. I would say it’s a combination of both working on yours…
/r/seduction19/08/22 08:41 PM
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The name is not essential. For all I care he goes up to her and say: “hoopsiefloopsiedoopsie”. But I think it is good to just have a standard sentence in your brain, that you can use in any situation, so that overthinking is a non-option. Any other opener is fine, such as your observational statements. However, they are not applicable to every situation (perhaps she is not looking happy or pensive), and therefore prone to overthinking. Once you start to overthink, use the standard one you got. I…
/r/seduction18/08/22 06:14 PM
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The girl you are dating can either place you in the ‘camp’ of a friend, or of a sexual interest. Obviously, they are currently placing you in the ‘friend-camp’, which means you are showing more behaviours that they associate with friends then with a sexual interest. You are probably pretty good at having conversations with them, perhaps even opening up and building comfort. You might be a good listener even. All of which are great qualities, which I recommend you treasure and keep, but you need …
/r/seduction18/08/22 10:47 AM
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‘Easiest’ would probably be online dating, due to every woman on an online dating app already being screened to be interested either romantically or sexually. But to have an actual good online dating profile is difficult, and if you do not – it is probably one of the worst ways to get laid. For tips, check out the website/YouTube channel Playing with Fire. If you do not have a top tier online dating profile, it would probably be nightgame (i.e. clubs/bars/houseparties), but here you will run int…
/r/seduction18/08/22 10:32 AM
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“Hey, I wanted to come and meet you real quick. What’s your name?” “Hey, you look awesome. What’s your name?” Keep it simple, do not overthink it. Just open, and watch the conversation flow from there. Johnny Joseph from Abundance & Aphrodisiacs
/r/seduction18/08/22 10:25 AM
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Thanks, appreciate it
/r/seduction15/08/22 04:56 PM
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Appreciate it
/r/seduction15/08/22 04:40 PM
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It is a confidence issue. Or at least a vulnerability issue. You are afraid of rejection, afraid of creeping her out, afraid of making a fool out of yourself. It takes balls to do it anyway. Nothing special here either, this is literally what every man going into pickup deals with (yet they approach anyway). I know you want a logical answer, a piece to the puzzle, but the only thing you need to do is to take action. Trip, smack down on your face, lie in shame, get up, recognize it wasn’t that ba…
/r/seduction01/08/22 06:32 AM
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Correct me if I am wrong, but you seem to be wondering why a girl would move from the inside of a venue to the outside of a venue with you, if she had a boyfriend. Answer: because there is nothing necessarily fishy about moving from the inside of a venue to the outside of a venue if you are in a relationship; even if accompanied by another man. Everyone has different standards for what people deem as acceptable behavior in a relationship (e.g. are you allowed to flirt with others, yada yada yada…
/r/seduction01/08/22 06:08 AM
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In addition to what everyone else has already mentioned: I would still make an attempt and approaching with radical honesty. Instead of sheltering yourself because of the dark energy, acknowledge it in your conversation. Something along the lines of: "Hey, I have been feeling really down the past week, so I am not sure how this is going to come out, but I saw you walk by and I just lighted up a little - so I wanted to come and say hi." A lot of women react positively to this type of vulnerabilit…
/r/seduction31/07/22 07:09 PM
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No sorry, completely impossible. Only reserved for Italian people.
/r/seduction31/07/22 06:45 PM
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Action and consistency
/r/seduction31/07/22 06:44 PM
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A ‘shit test’ does not equal ‘treating someone like shit’. If any girl is treating you like shit, or being borderline offensive to you – you should resort to healthy boundaries and not give her the time of day again. However, often a ‘shit test’ is just a matter of testing your responsiveness and stability as a masculine man. I wouldn’t say it is often a conscious thing either. Women want to know that you can remain unfazed when thrown ‘some shit’. If you throw a hissy fit the girls throws you a…
/r/seduction25/07/22 09:10 PM
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Hey bro, I often go out alone and have had success. I wouldn’t necessarily agree with the advice in the comments to only go out alone, its fun to go with friends and going out is all about having fun, but it is a great way to practice nightgame. I personally liked this video by More Plates More Dates on the subject https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7sheKRnZWHY&t=311s&ab_channel=MorePlatesMoreDates You can check it out. For your questions: I personally am honest if girls asks where my friends are, …
/r/seduction25/07/22 08:37 PM
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Same advice stands and holds for Western EU. Language barrier might be an issue in France, certain parts of Belgium and Germany, although English will do fine in most Dutch cities, but that has nothing to do with the advise given in and of itself.
/r/seduction25/07/22 06:06 PM
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Hey bro, Chiming in, because I have OCD as well and can relate to a certain degree with what you are saying. As is common with most treatments of OCD, the concept of exposure and response therapy still stands. Essentially, you need to build up a frame of references that indicates that your beliefs are false. Obviously, this goes against your initial beliefs, and is therefore difficult and unnatural. No-one can ever outargue you and say that none of the women you will interact with will turn out …
/r/seduction25/07/22 06:00 PM
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That's an invitation, not a tease. Accept it if your sexually interested (which your GILF implies).
/r/seduction25/07/22 05:49 PM
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I'm talking about things like the 'London daygame model', which used to be a thing some years ago. Don’t worry about specific systems or models though. Regardless of being named the ‘London daygame model’, it has nothing to do with its approach only being useful in the UK, or the only way of approaching that is useful in the UK. I was just trying to point out that game/seduction is possible in the UK, but that should be obvious. To think that a whole country full of women would be easier/harder …
/r/seduction25/07/22 05:46 PM
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I have no personal experience approaching in the UK, but from the large amount of dating coaches and so called 'approaching systems' that came out of the UK, I think you should be more than fine. Just go out and start approaching, you will be pleasantly suprised.
/r/seduction25/07/22 04:20 PM
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There is a difference between what woman look for in a long-term partner, and what women turns women on sexually. What you describe are mostly traits that women look for in a long-term partner, not what terms them on sexually. I also think that women could get more of a taste of the 5 variables named through the dating app then you are giving credit for, but that’s another discussion.
/r/seduction25/07/22 07:29 AM
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Literally anywhere, given that you are in a city with a reasonable population (100k+, if not hop in the car/train towards one). Clubs, bars and other night time events for night game. Public places such as busy streets, malls, parks, shops, stations for day game. Anything you enjoy doing such as sports, hobbies, concerts, jamming, dancing, whatever for your social circle game. Dating apps for online game.
/r/seduction25/07/22 07:22 AM
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We are clearly coming from two different perspectives. Because that is completely off from my own experience with approaching women, or the experience of the people around me.
/r/seduction24/07/22 08:11 PM
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There is a major difference between a group of socially unintelligent guys using ‘tricks and games’ while approaching women, and people who do it in a socially calibrated and honest way. The majority of women will find the latter at worst a kind gesture and at best balls-to-the-wall wonderful. For many men, cold approach is absolutely necessary in overcoming anxiety towards, developing attractive traits in relation to and building up social circles with women. Saying that men who are unsuccessfu…
/r/seduction23/07/22 12:50 PM
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Any older woman interested in dating you at eighteen is not qualifying you to the same degree they are qualifying older men. They don’t care that you don’t have a job. You are not supposed to be a self-sufficient, mature and responsible man at eighteen. If they were interested in those qualities, they would date men closer to their age or older. What you have, and what many older men don’t have is youthful energy. She dates you because she wants to be around your youthful energy, your spontaneit…
/r/seduction22/07/22 04:21 PM
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Yes, practice always comes first. Theory should only be something you add on top of a regular practice routine.
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:21 AM
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Generally speaking, all coaches base their teachings on identical fundamentals, and then twist them to their own personality. The coaches I named, which are just a few of what's out there, are completely different in terms of style from oneanother. Find what clicks for you, build from there
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:10 AM
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If he's nervous, being overly dominant will probably not put him at ease. If he actually is nervous and inexperienced, then creating a vibe of 'no expectations', giving reassurance, and slowly building up to sex would do a better job. Most important, try and have sex if he's down for that, and see what happens. Plenty of guys build up a lot of anxiety because it's their first time with someone, or they put someone on a pedestal - only to find out it was all in their head when you are both lying …
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:05 AM
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It is probably not the sole reason, but one of the reasons is the fact that practical advice has been covered extensively for years by dating coaches, and is widely available on both paid and free platforms of dating coaches. Some prominent coaches, from the top of my head and in no particular order, include: The Natural Lifestyles, Coach Kyle, Austen Summers, Playing With Fire, John Anthony Lifestyles, Todd V and probably a bunch more. You can find most core practical principles by just spittin…
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:15 AM
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Only approach women that genuinely spark an interest within you, which leaves out women you are not sexually attracted to. But make sure you DO approach women that you find sexually attractive, even if they are not in the threshhold of your 'type' or 'standard'. Women can suprise you. You can find some of the strongest connections and highest attraction to women from who'd you did not expect it on the first hand.
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:02 AM
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Missing a bit of information here. Are you saying he is inexperienced because 1) he said so or because 2) you noticed he was while having sex?
/r/seduction22/07/22 04:49 AM
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Places that are freqeunted by a lot of women (besides houseparties, bars and nightclubs, which are a major 'social hobby' for a large portion of women in the age bracket you describe): yoga, concerts, lectures, ecstatic dancing, open mic's, dance classes/parties (e.g. salsa), festivals, any other sport to be honest; I know bouldering is a goldmine, at least here in Europe.
/r/seduction22/07/22 04:43 AM
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