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If you have any close guy friends, go talk and hang with them. Just do some bro shit for you and your friends for now. This too shall pass.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:47 PM
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Californication
/r/askTRP29/04/18 04:43 PM
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Second this. Stop planning things over 5 days out max. Start planning for same day to 3 days out. If you text a girl on Wednesday asking her to go out that Friday, guarantee she’ll be thinking of you each of those days. If you’re planning something over a week out, you will be thinking of her but she won’t be thinking about you.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 04:04 PM
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Perfect.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/17 09:47 PM
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If you guys like rap/hip hop, listen to the song Cut Her Off by K Camp. By no means is it an amazing song, but it has a resounding message with this post. Essentially, as soon as the girl gives you trouble, move on. Good write up.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/17 09:30 PM
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I used to hate it too. I hated the fact that it was up to us men to make the first move. But then I grew up, found TRP and realized why it needs to be. In fact, I grew to love this burden. It's fucking perfect that it's up to us to start things. It gives us power. Imagine a world where sexual strategy was flipped in this regard. Imagine if we guys had to wait for women to make the moves. It would be agonizingly painful to wait on them. That's why it's so much better the way it is, because we get…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/17 09:53 PM
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Exactly. 100% correct. As men, we're given a choice (just like in the Matrix)...either believe what these people tell you, what the media tells you, live in your Disney fantasy land and wait for scraps to fall in front of you OR see the world for what it really is, accept that it's not all sunshine and rainbows and that there are no handouts, get hungry for a better life and begin pushing yourself to achieve it. Of course, choosing the second path will expire the "magic" we once saw in women, bu…
/r/askTRP15/03/17 02:55 PM
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Don't worry, this is normal for most RPers, but most don't post about it. What you're not recognizing is the discrepancy between where you are now and where you were before finding TRP. Ask yourself what it was back then that made you goo goo gaga over beautiful women. I'd make an educated guess and probably say it was your imagination. That is to say, you would see a beautiful girl and your brain would begin to subconsciously pedestalize her; you would "foresee" your future with her and even th…
/r/askTRP14/03/17 11:39 PM
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Catholic here too. You have to remember, this was pulled from the Catholic subreddit. There may be a small fraction of common sense folk subscribed there but any subreddit that is angled toward a partition of society (especially religion) is going to have the die-hards. I wouldn't be surprised if some of the subscribers there are secretly wishing for Vatican 1 days again. So yes, it makes sense you're going to get outlandish and harmful responses to this guy; but to me, that's not surprising. Th…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 05:43 PM
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It's a difference of light years between mindsets is what it is. Think about how you were before you unplugged; all the thoughts, beliefs you had about the world and how things work. How you wouldn't even think about the gym or the real truth behind what's going on. Why? Because it's comfortable. It's so damn easy and fuzzy to just sit back, coast through life, get fat and die. But then you realized you weren't happy. So you started questioning things. Maybe it took some huge hurt or heartbreak …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 07:08 AM
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Hell yes!!!! As a believer in real equality and as a KU fan, this is awesome news!
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 04:24 PM
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Ex-girlfriend...ftfy
/r/askTRP10/12/16 02:41 AM
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True story. Was at a concert the other night. Before the main band came on stage, everybody was playing it. My friend and I were playing it and we were able to strike up conversations with everyone around us just because of the game. It's a light topic, gets you in a playful competitive mood, and allows you to connect to people and have your own fun at the same time.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 08:17 PM
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Classic move. Plus one for you
/r/TheRedPill17/06/16 08:35 PM
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Damn. Sorry to hear it, man. May his story not go in vain.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 12:25 AM
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I read this from a comical perspective, because your buddy sounds like a total cheeseball indoctrinated with BP media.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 07:49 PM
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Telling him would defeat the point. Women want a man who "just gets it." Precisely. What we need to understand, as men, is that we can't listen to women or the media to tell us how to live. It's the classic 'fish trying to teach a fisherman how to catch itself'. It's not gonna work. Women view the world from a woman's perspective and men view it from a man's perspective. When the perspectives criss-cross (i.e. men try taking advice from women) they end up trying to install a women's mindset into…
/r/TheRedPill08/04/16 09:59 PM
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Truth right there. Had that exact situation happen to me before I found trp. Average girl, decent looks, great body, awesome sex. I committed fast due to the sex and was ultimately screwed over.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/16 05:26 PM
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I really like that quote from your last paragraph. Anyways, my answer to your question is simple. Shit tests and comfort tests. When women notice a high SMV man, they will shit test first to ensure the man is truly of high SMV. Once a man can demonstrate that he can pass shit tests and is high SMV, the women will commence their locking-down tactics (i.e. comfort tests). They will then badger the guy with tests to see if he'll commit to them. Comfort tests will be of any sort....asking the guy to…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/16 05:25 PM
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Entertaining to read. You seem very Machiavellian. I second the sentiment that you shouldn't string her along and just break up with her, but hey it's your life. Good luck.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 06:08 PM
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If you come into AskTRP to get an answer you really want, then learn how to ask the question well. It is not our job to instantly know what OP's situation is. What does he mean by racy? We don't know. Maybe he could have put in some effort into the post and gave us some background. You know, give the community some insight into the situation rather than just posing a vague, one line question. Seriously, it's not that hard. Halfass questions deserve halfass answers.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 08:54 PM
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Respond appropriately.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 06:24 PM
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If YOU don't want to be exclusive, then don't be. You can make it vague, but just tell her that you're open to something if it's right, but you're not actively seeking exclusivity. No harm, no foul. If she's not about that life, then oh well. Better to soft or hard next a chick wanting exclusivity, then catch some drama from a crazy chick who you lied into fucking you.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 05:56 PM
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It's funny how men are out there who think that state lines automatically change women's attraction to men. If you're a high SMV guy, you will attract women. Anyone who says different is handicapping themselves by placing those restrictions themselves. The thing about California, specifically LA, is that there is a plethora of high SMV men running around. Women want those men. Most likely the guys telling you that they are "undesirable" have low self esteem, and probably low SMV.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 05:47 PM
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Great post. Interesting points I've never thought of. Honestly, if you dance well, you will dance better than 95% of the people in most clubs these days. And you will standout in a good way. Dancing is a lot like sex. Girls know that.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/16 04:24 AM
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This post is abnormally full of downvotes.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 06:08 PM
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google search for love line
/r/askTRP01/03/16 06:10 AM
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If one person tells you that you smell like you stepped in dog shit, it might be their nose. If everyone tells you that you smell like you stepped in dog shit, it might be you.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 06:09 AM
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Somewhat ended monk mode near the beginning of this year. Since then, I've been applying. Acting. Doing. Challenging. Recently, I've been watching a lot of videos of Conor McGregor. I'm 200% certain his mentality is the definition of champion's mentality.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/16 05:58 AM
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So much truth. This is a must read. I'm nowhere near brad pitt in looks, but I'm decent, well groomed, athletic and muscular, and have good SMV. Yet I've found tinder to be hit and miss for me. This post is the soundtrack to my experience. Well written and thought out.
/r/TheRedPill29/02/16 09:55 PM
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Awesome, now go help some of the newbies if you feel your wisdom is sound.
/r/TheRedPill29/02/16 04:41 PM
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For me, it's never. Like I said, there's too many girls in this world, why recycle the same girl amongst each other? But I digress. It's up to OP. I know some guys don't care so more power to them. If I plated a girl, then stopped, and my buddy played her months later, I guess I wouldn't really give a shit, but like I said, it's not something my friends and I try to accomplish.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 04:29 PM
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I don't share chicks with my bros. And all of my bros and I have an unspoken agreement not to mess with each other's chicks. There's just too many girls in this world to let them come between a friend and I.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 02:05 AM
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You've learned your lesson and it seems like it's time to truly swallow the pill. It doesn't go down easy, but you'll need it. Keep your friend, forget the girl. Now if you had dated the girl or plated her and then he slept with her, that'd be different.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 02:04 AM
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which may be true, but she didn't counter offer with a day that worked for her It's really good that you pointed that out and noticed that she didn't offer an alternative. When I invite them out, and they decline, I always wait for them to suggest an alternative time/date. If they don't, I assume no interest and walk away. On to the next, essentially. Yeah, don't put too much investment into her since she's clearly not doing that for you, but seeking your attention. Going quiet will make her ham…
/r/askTRP29/02/16 01:04 AM
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Do you mean continue to talk with them, but ignore the fact that they said they're too busy to date?, or do you mean to say ignore them completely (no communication with them) until they ask you to hang out with them? I think you're asking the latter, and I will say this: Women talk a lot. And they say a lot of things. But most of the time, what they say doesn't mean anything. Pay attention to their actions, not their words. Therefore, the fact that they continue to text you sounds like they're …
/r/askTRP29/02/16 12:53 AM
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Outcome Independence, or in layman's terms, the IDGAF attitude.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 12:36 AM
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The people that give you hell over having nerdy hobbies are either insecure about themselves or are sheeple following what the mainstream media labels as uncool. You don't want people in your life like that anyways so forget em. Quality people, whether it be friends or girls you like, will find your interests to be cool or at least neutral. Find those people.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 12:34 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3koyx4/your_attraction_cannot_be_negotiated_either_raise/ ^ This is gold. Your attraction to women cannot be negotiated. Hope it helps as it's a good post.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 12:31 AM
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Are you attracted to someone like that? Personally, I'm not into girls that act that way. It's like they have no femininity.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 11:49 PM
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No problem. I agree with your last line there. I've definitely felt like I disappointed some of the girls by not inviting them over. You can feel it, they want you to be the man and initiate.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 11:47 PM
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Like DarkisKnight said, my lesson was learning to stand up to the BS and unnecessary stuff I was putting myself through. I stopped associating myself with things that got me nowhere. I started setting boundaries.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 11:17 PM
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Start a family one day. Play music for hundreds of people. Travel the world. Live comfortably. Write a memoir.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:59 PM
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+1 for your creativity, good sir.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:52 PM
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To answer your question from the post: A good thing to do is go to the TRP main subreddit and search within the subreddit for 'escalation', then sort the results in 'Top' order and read those posts. Top posts of the main subreddit are always great for learning. Are you meeting these girls off Tinder? I've found over time that girls on Tinder are usually dtf from the getgo if they are attracted to you and you play your cards right. I realized this when I had gone on so many first and second dates…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:50 PM
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For me, if it's blue pill family members that are older than me (like my uncles) I just let them do their thing. No sense in trying to coach them. If it's a family member or friend who is around my age or younger, I'll offer advice when they ask but I'll never mention TRP or any terminology we use.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:28 PM
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Yeah going out alone is fine. But why don't you just go out with your friends and go talk to the girls while you're there. Maybe wing your friends. Sounds like they're nervous about approaching women.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:26 PM
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Yes, being better socially is not as easily measured like sports or money, but it is still possible to see what steps to take. In this case, visualize yourself being really good socially. Take some time to meditate, close your eyes, no noise around, and really try to envision this. Imagine yourself at a bar/club/party/event/class/whatever and you're just killing it socially. You're making people laugh, high fives, girls are smiling and talking to you....etc etc etc. The whole nine yards. Now whe…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 07:18 PM
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Everyone is handed adversity in life. No one's journey is easy. It's how they handle it that makes people unique. - Kevin Conroy
/r/askTRP28/02/16 07:09 PM
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It's not a matter of length of time. It is not sufficient to say to ones self, "Oh I'll just do monk mode for 3 months." or to say "I'll do monk mode until the end of the semester.". It's a matter of completion. First, ask yourself what your goals are. Do you want to be strong? Good with women? Become a social butterfly? Improve your grades? Get a good job? Once you know your goals, you must then ask yourself how can you achieve your goals. Most people know what they have to do to achieve their …
/r/askTRP28/02/16 06:57 PM
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Well you've definitely learned your lesson. How do you know you're on his bad side?
/r/askTRP28/02/16 05:38 PM
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Monk mode.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 05:36 PM
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I think your response is good.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 05:35 PM
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A quick way to build huge forearm muscles is to get a weight (roughly the same weight that you can bicep curl) and do wrist curls with it. This is just holding the weight at your side, and curling, not your arm, but just your wrist. This will build huge forearms for you in no time. Do it at the end of your workout though, since afterwards, your arms will feel dead. Also to build wrist strength, do pushups on your fists. I always found that doing pushups this way made my wrists stronger and I loo…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 04:16 PM
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This is truth. Never settle for what the girl will give you. Even if you really enjoy her company and are very attracted to her, if she tries to make you settle for what little affection she'll give you, then it's gonna be shit. Tell her what BudapestPUA said, and then go find a better girl who will want to kiss you.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 04:13 PM
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I know how you feel. We all feel it, but we have to make a conscious effort to see it for what it is. Oxytocin is a helluva chemical and it is making you feel this way. If you really like this girl, you will screw it up if you fall head over heels for her. It's okay to feel good when you're with her and sad when you're not, but never let her know you miss her. I go by a maxim when I start "falling" for a girl and it goes: "Once a girl knows she has you, you've lost her".
/r/askTRP28/02/16 04:10 PM
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Go do something more fulfilling than chasing women. Sounds like your life is craving some type of other pursuit.
/r/TheRedPill28/02/16 03:59 PM
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Being successful with women is pretty much all mental. A lot of guys like us need TRP to help because we don't have the same mentality/mindset as other guys who are "naturals". The naturals get their mindset from pretty much everything futuretrophyhusb said. Whereas some of us who need TRP never get the proper reinforcement growing up when it comes to engaging girls. We are trained to be submissive, spineless, and this leads to us being awkward and not good with girls. It's a lot like health. So…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 03:13 PM
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Of course man. Always here to help. And the part about going out and meeting 5 new women. That shit is gold and is not my original idea. I am still very much a student of TRP but I have come a long way. Short story about the 5 women thing. Last year, I was very beta. I had just broken up with an hb7 who fucked great and I was heartbroken and hurt. I pulled myself up by the bootstraps though and decided to keep meeting women. So I posted a question on this very subreddit maybe ayear ago and it wa…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 02:56 AM
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Oh yeah that's a given. For sure. Like I said, it's clear she wants him, so she'll definitely be chasing him. Hopefully OP is smart enough to realize what's going on when she comes around and texts him.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:58 AM
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I'd have to find the great post that I read on trp but it said something that I think will answer your question. It said (and I'm paraphrasing here) something like "Before swallowing the red pill, it's like you can only see visible light. Your view of the world is very average and mainstream and does not really feel alive. But after swallowing the red pill, it's like you can see all levels of light, visible and invisible spectrums. After swallowing the red pill, it's like you can see infrared, g…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:55 AM
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who fucking cares. That's my opinion on what they think. But seriously, I don't go to the movies to meet chicks, or to look "cool". I go because I want to see a damn movie. If I have to go alone because none of my friends can go, then so be it. I'm a big boy. To be fair to your question, I will say I used to care about petty shit like that. Then I realized, one day, I'm gonna be dying. And then one day shortly after that, I'll be dead and gone forever. On the day of my death, am I gonna look bac…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:36 AM
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By saying to her, "have a fun night", it implies several things: First, it shows you don't need her. By not automatically inviting her out, it shows you have the power in that convo. You are the one blowing off the situation with ease. It's about how much you're investing into the convo vs. how much she's investing. Clearly she wants you, so you are the one in control here. Use that power. Second, it seems like she's trashed and you're not. IDK about you, but if I'm sober and a girl is trashed a…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:30 AM
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Start small. You aim for sex right away, but your post reeks of insecurity. So my advice is start small with them. Go for sex if you can get it and want it, sure. But start small by just getting the girls phone numbers off of Tinder. Then invite them out somewhere to hang or do something. Then escalate. Then go for sex. Step.By Step. By step.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:18 AM
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Even a dude with a 3 inch dick will do okay at doggy. BTW if you haven't tried doggy, do it. It's amazing. But listen to the other guys. A lot of your post is coming from a place of insecurity. It is my firm belief that the vast majority of women will take a 5 inch dick with a lot of confidence over a 6+inch dick with little or no confidence any day. In other words, it's not your size. It's your confidence they crave.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:14 AM
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Possibly. I'd say the confident traits would outnumber the needy traits, but not necessarily overpower them. As TRP men, we implement narcissistic traits that benefit us, but balance it by leaving out the needy traits and adopting an IDGAF attitude.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:10 AM
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Fair enough
/r/askTRP28/02/16 01:04 AM
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I always go to clubs where there is an activity (dancing, games, etc.). I don't like to go solo to bars where people are mostly sitting around and with their friends, because it's too easy to stand out like a sore thumb there. But a dancing nightclub that is somewhat dark is perfect for my tastes. Easy to blend in without being noticed but also great for meeting women. However, I also go out to the movies or concerts, or just drive somewhere and park and walk around and introspect.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:56 AM
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Depends on the mood really. If I feel like going out, I'll just go by myself. If I feel like staying in, I'll play music and read.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:42 AM
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Sounds like a bitch tbh
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:39 AM
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Yeah dating is pretty much shit. Now, messing around with a plate and having that turn into exclusive dating over time is much more organic and fun. But I find traditional dating to be forced and a pain really. I'd rather have some organic interaction happen by meeting women and then letting the attraction build and set the way for the relationship, but that's just me. Good luck. Keep improving.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:38 AM
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Most of FB is shit. I just browse to see what people send me, and that's it.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:33 AM
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Outcome independence is outcome independence. That is all. If you don't get a particular girl and you can ask yourself if it's gonna ruin your day and you answer 'No', then you are outcome independent. So ultimately, whether you think about it from your perspective like "Hey it's all good, I'm not mad about losing that chick" or whether you look at it from a different perspective like "Hey, it's all good. I have more girls at my disposal; why would I worry about any one girl?". It doesn't matter…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:32 AM
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Yes. The top post of asktrp is Newbies: A Red pill primer post. Read that.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:22 AM
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Cut out most processed food. Definitely cut out as much sugar and unnecessary bs as you can. Carbs are fine, because you'll need them for energy when you workout. It may be hard at first, but trust me when I say leg days and sprinting coupled with a good diet, will help you lose weight super fast. Only drink water. Drop juice and alcohol if you can, and milk is fine.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:19 AM
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Maybe both, but who cares.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:17 AM
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Tell her you're busy
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:16 AM
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?
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:14 AM
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Just play with them. Just say something jokingly like "Hell no. I didn't even notice you'd left.".
/r/askTRP27/02/16 04:30 PM
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You bring up the fact that your friend has just passed. Sounds like you're struggling with that loss still. My advice is to forget women for a while and focus on being there for your friend and their family/friends. Girls aren't everything, and if you're dealing with other heavy situations, maybe prioritise what you have going on and focus on one thing at a time.
/r/askTRP27/02/16 04:19 PM
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My advice. Get busy. Literally become so busy that you have minimal time to schedule dates with women. That way, when you pitch the time/place/activity of the date to them, it's a deal or no deal situation for them. If they say, Oh can't make tonight, what about lunch tomorrow...then tell them you're busy and actually be busy. You are the prize. Act like it. They are missing out by passing up on you, so let them know they are after you, not the other way around. You're just offering them an open…
/r/askTRP27/02/16 02:56 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean by "closed system", but my advice is go. Just go. Go tonight. Go tomorrow. Go out. I didn't go to a big college, but I live in a big city, and I say fuck it. No one out there knows me, so they won't know that I was out solo. And if I do see people I know, I just say I was out with other people earlier, but they left and I wanted to stay. It's one of those things that fly right over people's heads. They won't even care. As far as advice on how to score, we can't hold yo…
/r/askTRP27/02/16 02:42 AM
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Yeah ^ this. If you hooked up recently, she'll probably think you're a retard if you don't remember her. I mean seriously, yeah it's cool to play it off like you don't remember her and it puts you in an advantageous position, but if it was last month then everyone will know you're full of shit. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP27/02/16 02:32 AM
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Don't respond. Fuck them. She's in your past for a reason. Keep her there. No need to be angry/bitter about it, just let them live their shitty lives and you keep improving yours.
/r/askTRP27/02/16 02:29 AM
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Network hard. This means talk to people that you perceive to be better off than you are. Trust me this will be your biggest help. I went to college yes, and have a good job but I know a lot of my friends that don't have bachelor degrees that have more marketable skills than I do or are already making more than I do. Look for a job in IT if it interests you and you can handle it. A lot of these jobs will pay well, have job security and will give you highly marketable skills. For example, one of m…
/r/askTRP27/02/16 02:28 AM
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Lighting. This is huge. A good amount of dim lighting will set the mood anytime at night. Music. Get a good sound system and have pandora or spotify running at all times. Cleanliness. I can't tell you how many times my place has astounded people at how clean it is. They think, "Guys live here?!?! It's so clean!!". Women will notice cleanliness in a heartbeat. Above all else, always have your room clean. Second the all pics/posters in frames. Posters/pics outside of frames on the wall looks like …
/r/askTRP27/02/16 02:22 AM
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It's uncanny how this true this is. Loved it the moment I realized I was so busy that I couldn't afford to waste time on having a girlfriend, whereas I used to come from a place where everything I did was an effort to try and get a gf.
/r/askTRP26/02/16 02:53 AM
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I'd second what u/blighter711 said. I've always realized that alcohol would always be a crutch for me, if I continued to use when going out. I still drink, but nowhere near as much thanks to Phenibut. Phenibut is still a crutch. It works like alcohol, but without the side effects, like drowsiness/confusion/slurring of words, etc. But it has made me drink so much less. I used to get drunk every weekend or every other weekend and now it's probably been since early December since I last got drunk. …
/r/askTRP25/02/16 12:58 AM
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True. I've learned so many things since I started shaking off my beta behaviors; my spine has come back. I've even learned so much since I posted the original post. Main thing is that I learned that there are way too many in this world that I will come across in my lifetime. I am young. If one girl doesn't want to give me the time of day, then oh well. That's her problem, not mine, and I can't stress on that. I also can't widdle time away by chasing some girl. She is, after all, just one girl ou…
/r/ThankTRP18/02/16 04:55 PM
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Take any dating advice from a girl with a grain of salt. It's like fish trying to teach a fisherman how to catch them.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 11:55 PM
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No doubt, and the 10 minutes of cardio before workout is me on a bike at a moderate speed. I do it to get my heart rate up, loosen up my body, and a light sweat, but the real cardio is post workout.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 07:27 PM
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It's up to you. If you want to get bigger and don't mind gaining a few pounds of fat with a lot of muscle, then go into a bulking mode. Eat a lot of good nutrition and lift heavy; lower reps with more weight. If you want to trim up and are more concerned with getting a six pack rather than beefing up, then go into a cutting phase. Eat healthy, portioned meals. Drink a shit ton of water. Cut out carbs/sugars/unnecessary fats. Do a lot of cardio and stamina lifting; higher reps, lower weight. Spri…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 07:03 PM
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Sales is a great answer, but be wary, it is a dog eat dog world in sales. Funny thing about sales is this: If you are average or worse at sales, then your life will be hell. If you're good or great at sales, you can make a shit ton of money. Try sales for a while and see how you do. If you're good at it, keep going. If you suck at it, consider something else.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:57 PM
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It's hard to truly answer your question. Not that you posed the question terribly, but rather that a question like this needs more context. For example, girls love to call guys 'assholes'. Depending on how they say it and what the context is, it can be a good or bad thing to be called an asshole. If she calls you an asshole and she is flipping you off, not smiling, and about to walk away, then that you means you may have actually been a real asshole and pissed her off. If she calls you an asshol…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:54 PM
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Have you asked this question on the fitness subreddit? I guarantee you will have a 100x more responses and they will be more informed over there.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:45 PM
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She's figured him out. She feels like she has him. She probably knows that she could say some degrading shit to him, and he'd be the one to apologize. It means she's bored. Think of it like this. Think of a really good song. Remember the very first time you heard it and how amazing it sounded. But then you heard it 100 times on the radio and you got tired of it, because it became predictable and every time it comes on now you just think about how you've heard it so many times. You get bored of l…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:39 PM
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Fitness subreddit. Just do it.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 07:54 AM
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hahahaha
/r/askTRP13/02/16 07:37 AM
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I agree 100%. I wasn't excited about seeing the post saying TRP is only sexual strategy, not self-improvement. I laughed because what that post said is exactly why I joined TRP like a year ago because I thought reading it would get me easy pussy. But then I realized that TRP is mostly about improving yourself and your life. Yes the sexual strategy is in there, but you're right, it's implied and that's more about working on your game. But the 90% bulk of getting women is the self-improvement stuf…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 07:26 AM
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Great post. There is a lot of good info here related to classical and operant conditioning. If anyone wants to understand the feedback loops even better, youtube "Classical conditioning" and "Operant conditioning" and you will find a ton of great and cool videos describing this unique facet of human behavior.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 07:01 AM
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No. She's your ex. You don't owe her anything. If you tell her the truth, she will be devastated. Not that that would be your problem, but save her the pain and save yourself the trouble.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:52 AM
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I hate to say this, but I don't think you're gonna be able to swing social dominance on this trip you're on. You simply won't have enough time to set that precedent. The only way I could see it happening whilst you're on this trip, is if the group got into something where you were the outright dominant male. It'd have to be a situation where you're better than everybody else at it. For example, if the group went to a dueling piano bar and you played excellent piano and could sing and you talked …
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:48 AM
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Sadly, unless you're Leonardo diCaprio or some well-known pro athlete, it's not gonna happen. Is it impossible for a woman to approach a man she's interested in? No, of course not. But if I had to guess, it'd probably 1 out of every 10000 women or more that would do something like that, and usually that 1 girl is not worth doing anything with. If you don't know by now, the onus is on the man to approach. The onus is on us to be, to do, to think, to act, to create, etc. There are a lot of good po…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:33 AM
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No doubt man. It's posts like yours that I used to post back in the day. I got some shitty responses, but a lot of responses were informative, and more specific than some of the sidebar material for my life. I really appreciated the help I used to get and I hope you do too. Just PM me if you have nay other questions.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 06:09 AM
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It's been more than a year since I discovered TRP and during that time I've lifted, changed my diet and my habits, also my worldview is completely different from what it was. But even though I can see the progress I've made I'm still thirsty, I'm still unable to be as successful with women as I want to be. Good to hear that you're improving your life. But I feel like you're making TRP into 1+2=3 (1 being physically healthy, 2 being mentally healthy, 3 being successful with women). Unfortunately,…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 01:27 AM
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That's it. There you go. Take small steps and ease into it. No one is pushing you to try to lay the first girl you approach. And actually, if you go into with that kind of mindset, then you will bomb spectacularly. I would recommend searching the TRP forum for "outcome independence" and "abundance mentality". Those topics will help your mindset tremendously.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 01:05 AM
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I've been there. I'd say 99% of guys that come to TRP were in some sort of situation highly similar to yours. Guys that have gotten rejected and disrespected most of their adult lives. Hell, it was that way for me even. I dated a girl for half a year and she eventually just left me, no text, no call, no nothing. That breakup hurt. I had fallen head over heels for her and that's how she treated me in the end; like our relationship was nothing to her. I was depressed, hurt, and angry. Then I found…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 01:01 AM
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Read some of the top stories on thanktrp. They are good stories of guys who had the same thing going on in their relationships (some of the stories are from guys who had this happen 10+ years into their marriage, so trust me, they were in a meaningful long term relationship like you if not moreso). Those stories can help show how TRP can improve your situation. I'm not in a LTR so I know those waters are different from my single life escapades, but TRP would say read up on dread game and essenti…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 12:51 AM
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I think the guys that do the best at approaching have two main things going on in their approach: The stuff that actually happens, such as the body language, the eye contact, the conversation, the situation in general etc. and The stuff going on behind the scenes with the guy. The guys who do well with approaching know how to have conversations with women. They have a good balance between being an entertaining conversationalist and also not "trying". The girl should feel like you aren't "trying"…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 12:46 AM
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my dad is beta and wants me to respect women Dude, I'm going to give you a break here, because asktrp is for questions, and most posters on here are new to TRP, but you're coupling being beta with respecting women, and you're coupling TRP with disrespecting women. That is simply bullshit. We are not teaching misogyny here at TRP. Nor are we saying to get what you want from women that you need to disrespect them and treat them like shit. TRP is about respecting yourself. Respect yourself as a hum…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 12:18 AM
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Read the sidebar. Lift. Eat right, sleep well. That is all.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 12:06 AM
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An alpha never stops being alpha. There is no "occasional" betaness. If your girl's pet dies, you don't have to tell her to suck it up (if that's what you think alphas do). But you don't have to cry with her either. An alpha, in this case, would be strong for the girl, because undoubtedly she is going to be weak (crying, emotional, distraught, etc). She needs you to be her rock. You don't have to be an asshole nor do you need to comfort her like she's sick and you have her ring a bell anytime sh…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 12:02 AM
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prepare for a life of not getting exactly what you want
/r/askTRP12/02/16 11:58 PM
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you are so fucking tired you literally do not have the energy to give a fuck. Such a great analogy. Good work.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 04:48 AM
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The moment our workforce concerns itself more with becoming diverse rather than hiring the best candidates, that's when it starts to fail.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 04:31 AM
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You're fine. I rather just have fun with my friends and do crazy shit Ok. Then just do that. Nothing wrong with that. I am completely fine with my life right now, with or without women. There you go. You said it yourself. You're okay. Nothing wrong with you. In fact, if you focus on having fun with friends and doing crazy shit while leaving girls out of the picture, I guarantee they'll start noticing you and opening you. The only contrary point I'd have to everything I just said would be if you'…
/r/askTRP07/02/16 11:03 PM
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She's breaking your frame hard....at least you're letting her do it. Think of how a father talks to his child. If his child asks him, "Father, my toy is broken. Are you going to buy me a new one?", do you think the father flips out and yells at the child? No. Why? Because the father knows his frame and does not let his child shake it or bring him into their frame. In other words, he just brushes it off or makes a little joke. No biggie. You should be doing the same with women.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 10:36 PM
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Not screwed for life...but you'll have to make up for that gap that could've gotten you into grad school or a decent job. Best advice: start networking and talking to people about finding jobs.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 10:33 PM
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Hell yeah...my friend, that is a good sign.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 10:23 PM
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Hi, i'm swallowing for about 2 months now EEK. Cringe. Wording bro haha. Seems like you associate Machiavellianism with being an asshole, which could be technically true depending on how you spin it. But in all honesty, TRP recommends it because it has been proven to work. Yes, there are even peer-reviewed and published journal articles on the Dark Triad (google it) and showing that girls like guys who have those traits. Above all else, machiavellianism works because it prevents you from being a…
/r/askTRP07/02/16 10:22 PM
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First real gf basically wanted every square inch of my being, because I didn't chase her. TBH I didn't like her whatsoever initially, so I was very aloof and nonchalant about the way I interacted with her. This made her want me more, because here was a guy who didn't give her what she wanted. So many RP truths in that relationship and it was long before TRP was a thing.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 10:14 PM
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To me, SMV, your Sexual Market Value, is basically a big market where everyone is trying to buy and sell using their value. Women's values are mainly their looks, but for men it is much more complex what makes up our SMV For the most part you're right. Women's SMV is primarily based on appearance. But...great looks don't automatically justify a high SMV for a woman. At first glance, yes it does, but let's say the woman has STDs. Yep, not gonna be a very high SMV then huh. So yes, looks matter in…
/r/askTRP07/02/16 06:25 PM
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When I read posts like this, I feel two things: concern and pride. Concern because I'm disappointed in the state of men in our day and age... And pride because, being a man of TRP knowledge, it's guys like this that make me feel like King Man.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 05:47 AM
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Smells like a troll to me...
/r/askTRP06/02/16 05:02 PM
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Maybe this is the question you need to ask that MGTOW youtuber after all.
/r/askTRP06/02/16 04:20 PM
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Personally, when I hit the gym, I'm alone. In reality, there are at least 20 other people in the gym at any given time when I go. But when I get there, I just put in my headphones and zone out of their world and zone into mine. I don't even notice people anymore. Moral of the story: Focus on yourself. 50 Cent once said..."If they hate, then let em hate and watch the money pile up".
/r/askTRP06/02/16 02:26 AM
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Hey Thanks for the update. Always appreciate what may actually come of this subreddit's responses. Good for you man. Yeah It's one thing to say you're busy or to give some excuse to not hang out, but when you don't even offer or suggest another time, then that's some bs. Glad you have enough dignity and knowledge to blow past that bs and do you. Keep doing you. Only good things will come from this.
/r/askTRP05/02/16 03:22 AM
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Ouch. He's got a tough road ahead of him.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 05:45 PM
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yes.
/r/askTRP03/02/16 05:26 PM
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I haven't done any research on pedophiles so no.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 11:38 PM
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True. Since finding TRP, I've been more conscious of which kind of girls I actually do anything with, but not yet to this extreme. My original reply was not intended to downplay the seriousness of a false rape charge by any means, because I think anyone who catches one has a shitstorm coming their way. But I'd hate to see the day when videotaping sex has to become the staple of every sexual interaction because we live in fear of catching a false rape charge. We should not live in fear.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 06:42 PM
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No, you're right, sexual offense registration and prison is extreme...but I can't see pulling out a camcorder everytime you want to touch a girl as being the resolution to that. Our focus from this post is pointed at the cleanup of something that may not happen, but why aren't we focusing our attention on preventing it from happening in the first place. u/prodigy2throw said it best. Worry about the kinda girl you're messing with. If she's a chick from the bar or you know she's crazy, then yes ta…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 06:37 PM
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I agree. I'm not gonna start filming my sexual encounters. This is extreme.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 04:46 AM
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I'm just saying, your issues are not something that TRP or any of us are trained to assist with. You seem to have deep seated issues in your self esteem that cannot be solved online.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 02:19 AM
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If that's true, you don't need TRP right now, you need therapy.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 02:03 AM
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Dig deep inside on this one. Instead of watching that show, playing that game, or going out on the town, devote one night this week to just sitting alone in your room with no electronics and ask yourself why your self-esteem and self-respect is low. Dig deep. Ask yourself the hard, hurtful questions. Find out why you feel this way. You need to get right with yourself before you consider other's opinions on yourself.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 01:24 AM
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No More Mr. Nice Guy. The Definite Book of Body Language. The Selfish Gene.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 01:18 AM
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Just read a post in r news stating that a teenage girl made up a story about migrants raping her in Germany....
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 12:44 AM
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I'll give you an example. One of my goals is to play my own songs for a crowd this year (I play music). First, I say OK that's my goal. Now what are the steps to achieve that? And when do I want to accomplish it by? Well, first, I have to write my own songs. That's step 1. Accomplish that. Also, I want to accomplish before the end of the summer, so I keep that in mind while I plot the steps. Step 2. Rehearse a lot and play for friends and family. Accomplish that. Step 3. Start playing for strang…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 11:38 PM
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Ok I see now. I wouldn't worry about it. That was the old you and to be fair she probably doesn't remember adding you. I'm assuming you already have her number. Just keep doing what you're doing.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 11:09 PM
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I don't. I don't forget my goals ever, because my goals are a part of who I am at all times. I know that's not the answer you're wanting, but it's the truth. If you have goals, then those are things you want to achieve, and it's something you want to achieve, how do you forget what you want to achieve? That's like saying, "I forgot I needed to go to the bathroom".
/r/askTRP31/01/16 11:00 PM
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I'd rather send a card than a gift IMO, but I'd keep it up. College is such a bubble. If you tried this in the real world, it'd be beta, but since you're in college and the sororities already expect this to happen, I'd say continue with it, especially if it works.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:53 PM
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College is weird.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:44 PM
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Social media sucks. What is your goal with adding these girls on FB?
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:43 PM
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I don't do the method you do. I just ask myself what I really want out of life. Once I know what I want, I ask myself what steps I need to take to get there. Then I do those steps as quickly as possible.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:42 PM
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The debate rages on...but it's all in how you perceive yourself. Be confident in yourself. Don't worry about these things.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:41 PM
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I've cut back a lot. Gains: I never drank so much that it really affected my health, other than an occasional hangover and maybe 1-2 lbs. of beer belly, but I feel a lot cleaner now. Money: You'll save money, but now when I do go out with friends I usually will buy a round or two for us since I know I'll drink less. Social life: Surprisingly, I realized I always had a drink or 6 when I went out on the weekends. It gave me a false sense of confidence plus all the blurry vision, wobbly balance, an…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:38 PM
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Music. I started playing more music (I play guitar) and am hoping to play in a venue soon. Put music off for a long time, because I was really focused on getting women. I'm still focused on getting women, but not my main priority anymore.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:35 PM
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I don't think he's calling you out, or trying to frustrate you, but the initial post is somewhat unclear what you really want out of the situation. I'm assuming you're in a LTR/marriage? To offer some advice, I'd say play their game. Know how a lot of guys get turned down by girls when girls put them in the friend zone? Do that same thing to her. Just tell her you're glad you're both friends and hope it stays that way. No harm, no foul. Make it obvious you enjoy her company, but only as a friend…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:29 PM
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Truthfully, some people are mentally sick, do things like this, and need mental help. With that being said, just because someone needs medical mental help doesn't negate the fact that they committed a heinous crime and should not rule out civil punishment.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/16 08:25 PM
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Personally, and probably the best option, I would text some introductory message like "Hey" or "hello" or whatever you normally use to initiate a convo. One of two things will then happen: either she responds or she doesn't. If she responds, your next text should be setting up the date. Do not waste time here. We want to know if she is still interested and going immediately for the date will help us know. If she doesn't respond, then she's not interested. I would then simply move on. Who knows..…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 06:30 PM
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No doubt brother. Kick ass and take names.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 06:06 PM
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TRP does whatever the fuck it wants. Haha, but seriously. TRP men do not concern themselves with the flavor of the day; by that I mean, don't worry about what TRP men do, or what you think the community would do. Every guy is different. The whole point of TRP and this community is to guide you, not define you. That was the biggest problem of PUA. It gave men canned material, and ultimately became a community of nitpicking. Everyone was micro-managing their interactions. Now, I'm not saying this …
/r/askTRP31/01/16 05:14 PM
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A lot of reformed betas (including myself) have fallen into the trap of seeking the opposite extreme. We were needy and validation-seeking for most of our lives and now that we found TRP, we thought we needed to jump to other end of the spectrum, which is not always the best option. In other words, a lot of us have fallen prey to thinking we need to be extremely stoic, serious men. Thinking this way has led us to become reserved, aloof, and sometimes a killjoy. So if you see some of that in your…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 04:34 PM
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If she's not responding, that's a sign and it's not a good one. Hold on to her number and maybe throw another line out to her in two weeks or so and push for a meetup. If she declines or doesn't respond, then she don't want you brother. If she accepts, great. In the interim, go meet other women. You'll be surprised how awesome your life becomes when you start having abundance mentality/outcome independence and you don't give a shit whether a specific girl gets back to you or not because you know…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 04:24 PM
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^ This right here. It's that simple. Do you want to fuck her? Yes? Then go for making her a plate. You don't want to fuck her? Then don't respond. K.I.S.S. Good luck.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 04:20 PM
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Girls will know whether you're BB or AF by the way they interact with you and how they see you from a distance. Image is finnicky. Some girls will think you're alpha for having a nice car and a bunch of money (it shows you're ambitious, successful, hardworking, sensible, financially independent) and some may see it as beta if they think you're doing it to try to impress them (tryhard, cares about their opinions, super self-conscious, etc). But behavior is the truth when it comes to how girls int…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 04:17 PM
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It is problematic when comes to girls as well. If I meet one up all I think is getting out of there because it seems like a waste of time. If it seems like a waste of time, then maybe it is. Follow your gut. I know you titled this, "How to be interested in others" but how are any of us supposed to help you if you refuse or have no inclination to be interested in others. You are either interested or you're not. It's that simple. You're not alone. There are millions of people in this world happy j…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 04:12 PM
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You're right it is sucky to think that way. You have to ask yourself, why am I friends with them? If you can answer, maybe you think "Well we like to play video games together sometimes", then keep them and realize maybe that's all you'll do with them. You do you. They'll keep being themselves, but that's not your problem. I know how it is. When you find TRP, start improving your life, you see all your friends sitting on their ass becoming more beta by the minute and you think 'How do you improv…
/r/askTRP30/01/16 10:30 PM
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Awesome. Good luck with your entrepeneurial venture my friend. I need to get into something like this.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 08:56 PM
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I was in the same boat as you. I couldn't realize how to achieve outcome independence because I didn't have abundance mentality, and I couldn't realize how to have abundance mentality if I had no abundance. Until I realized something... Here's a link I wrote concerning abundance mentality. Read it, live it, be it haha, but seriously give it a consideration. Once you achieve abundance mentality, then you will have an easier time being independent of the outcome.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 08:53 PM
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curious, if I may inquire, what is your income project? Sincerely, a gentleman who wants to make a shit ton more money this year
/r/askTRP30/01/16 05:36 PM
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I haven't been clinically diagnosed, but I have self-diagnosed myself with S.A.D. (ironic name) aka Seasonal Affective Disorder aka the winter blues. Due to lack of light, always staying indoors, and the dreary weather, it's enough to get most people down. Maybe that is the case for you right now, which should subside when Spring comes. Outisde of that, try to get outside and spend some time alone and refresh.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 04:51 PM
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Just continue lifting and doing well at school. I'm well out of high school now and looking back, the things I wish I did were: lift more, learn to be highly social and confident w/o alcohol, focus on my hobbies, and flirt more. You sound like you're doing fine, just keep improving everything about yourself and remember to social around women and you'll be fine. Also, your last paragraph was superfluous, IMHO.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 04:11 PM
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These are good problems to have.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 04:04 PM
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Hate to say it, but this sounds all bad. Even if she wasn't going to cheat on you, now that you went through her phone (broke the trust) and called her out on it (displaying you are concerned she may be up to cheating, etc), she will now have a reason (hamstering) to be unfaithful. Sorry buddy.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 03:49 PM
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Women shun men of "lower value" because they are afraid; they have a huge innate fear of shacking up with a guy they think is "high value" and learning that he is of "low value", so they try to weed out all the guys early on. AKA they do shit tests to see if you're a "high" or "low" value man so they know who they're working with. I'm assuming you submitted this question because it probably happens to you or at least to your buddies. If that's the case, keep improving your life (SMV), and read u…
/r/askTRP30/01/16 03:39 PM
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Drink less.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 03:12 PM
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It may be a hard knock life for you if you're over 18 and worried about who is going to make your food and do you laundry...good luck.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 03:10 PM
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Before we all make this way too complicated, just give eye contact to everyone you're talking to. Simple as that. With that being said, if you're talking to a girl you want to get with, look her in the eyes and look every now and then at her lips.
/r/askTRP30/01/16 03:09 PM
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Honestly had this epiphany the other night. I have improved myself much over the past 6 months as far as lifting, hobbies, time by myself or with friends/family, and essentially focusing on bettering my life first. Now, I didn't shut out women altogether, but I fell into this passive approach to...well...approaching women. By that I mean, I didn't. I'm just realizing that because I had that mentality where I thought that my SMV was enough to just stand around and girls would be attracted to me l…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 02:49 AM
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Oh I'd agree. My original comment assumes that girls have that disposition from well before 14, more likely they start viewing the world that way around puberty age or just before.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 02:31 AM
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Should I have said 13? 12? what would you have preferred?
/r/askTRP29/01/16 02:07 AM
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haha, just go to a big city and you'll find a lot of diversity. Probably NYC, Chicago, Denver, Texas, big towns in the SEC areas may have a bunch, but they're everywhere
/r/askTRP29/01/16 01:59 AM
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good example to show that it all starts early on
/r/askTRP29/01/16 01:44 AM
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Oh yeah for sure. Lots of girls use that night as an excuse to get drunk and f around since they're too scared/sheltered/shy normally. Now with that said, you still got to bring your game, but it should be easier to score. Yes to the after party.
/r/askTRP28/01/16 01:32 AM
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I would danced more. Also would have slept with that hot junior who clearly wanted it....oh well, I've learned my lesson and will not let that slip by me again.
/r/askTRP27/01/16 11:54 PM
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Just left my first post on this subreddit today. I posted a story highly similar to yours. Then, I read your story. All I have to say is... Hell yeah, sir.
/r/ThankTRP21/01/16 04:31 AM
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This post is such a great idea for this thread. It'd be great to have 1 or 2 different "classic" posts stickied to this subreddit every month. Like the month's lessons that members could refer back to on the same page they are asking their questions.
/r/askTRP19/01/16 04:47 AM
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Dearest Gentlemen of TRP... Shut the fuck up about TRP outside of TRP.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 04:40 AM
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The Pussification of Friends section was me 100%. Since finding TRP, I feel like I "awoke". Now I'm not comparing to a religious experience, but definitely life-changing. And now I can't stop analyzing my friends' situations. So much blue pill thinking and events. I think their girlfriends can tell I'm RP and their bfs (my friends) are BP. For example, I think I was with my friend and his gf and he said something BP or she did something and he responded in a BP way, but whatever it was, it was B…
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 04:36 AM
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Thank you for responding. I read your post and typed that response when I was a little loopy last night, so I'm glad it made sense.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 06:43 PM
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I have to say, the way you spoke of your idea on "hiring" women really has me thinking in a different light. I've never thought about adding a plate or girlfriend to my life like that. Normally, I would just vision my life absorbing the relationship. That is to say that the girl and my relationship to her would just melt into my life and become a part of life like an ingrown hair. But you have me thinking that relationships are accessories; much like a watch would be in a man's outfit. Something…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 02:52 AM
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Kino is a fancy term for touch. We are referring to the nonverbal portion of seduction. Basically, Kino is learning to touch the girl in certain ways that signify you're confident, that you're interested in her romantically, and that you're an intimate and sexual human. Why do we bring up Kino a lot? It's because guys will do everything they can to improve themselves, sounds like this guy, and the way they see it they think they deserve to get laid but they don't touch the girl. When you meet or…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/16 05:23 PM
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Hard next, bud. But the real point of this post, yourself. After you leave her, ask yourself why you stuck around with someone who acted like that?
/r/askTRP12/01/16 11:11 PM
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This. Of all the things I've been working on (lifting, sleeping better, hobbies, travel, etc.), the one thing I haven't been very proactive with is exposing myself to approaching and rejection. I need to start approaching more and getting over the fear of rejection. Any tips on where/how to start? Maybe something that got you into it?
/r/askTRP12/01/16 10:04 PM
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Lol nah
/r/askTRP12/01/16 10:00 PM
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Yeah I've tried Hinge and it seems like a Tinder/Bumble that less people use. But then again that was like 10 months ago. Who knows? Maybe in the next year or so, there will be something else that changed the dating game like Tinder did. Oh well, time to go meet some real women.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 09:02 PM
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Thanks for your response. I do have one question though about the last two sentences. If you are getting zero girls now, practicing game, and getting yourself comfortable with rejection sex and dating will develop an invaluable tool for your later development. It's called confidence. I'm assuming you're just reiterating the importance of confidence above all else?
/r/askTRP12/01/16 08:32 PM
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Well I don't like to give out too much info on the net, even to you guys who I'm sure I would trust in person. But... I'm a male in his early 20's living in a large city. It's no NYC or LA, but its still a large well-known city. I believe you and I differ since, like you said, you don't have time to run around public places talking to women. I do, so that does affect my reasons to use Tinder and such, since I usually go out every weekend to the bars/clubs/events with friends and talk to girls. I…
/r/askTRP12/01/16 08:14 PM
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To my understanding, there are a few reasons why women stay interested in LTRs and don't branch swing (choose a different guy)... If the man continues to improve his SMV whilst being in a LTR, then the girl stays interested. If the man uses a little dread game, then usually the girl will stay interested because she'll feel like she's losing him. If the man shows his willingness to walk away or at least that he has the ability to walk away from the LTR, then the girl should stay interested. Of co…
/r/askTRP12/01/16 08:09 PM
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Much truth in your response. No worries brother, I tried OKCupid once a long time ago, never again haha. Yes, that is true, Tinder is a huge ego booster for not just hot women, but even the ugly ones. In fact, I'd say all online dating is that way. Even ugly girls get a shit ton of desperate "Are you DTF tonight?" messages on online dating from what I've heard. I'll continue using Tinder, but begin focusing more on approaching women IRL. Thanks for your response.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 07:25 PM
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I like this response very much because it seems logical and it's honestly IMO an optimistic view. Good to realize that I actually have a better chance with women off the online dating. I've always figured that, since IRL they can actually get a feel for who I am and how confident I am, whereas a bio and a message is a shallow form of displaying confidence. Thanks for getting me amped up to go out this weekend.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 07:17 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I figured I wasn't alone, but just like to read the comments. I'll definitely look into those posts you've mentioned.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 07:10 PM
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This is what I've found exactly. I'm not ugly, but I'm no model. Very much middle of the map. Easy to look at, but not the most attractive guy ever. So I've found that the cards are pretty stacked against me in that regard to online dating. You're right, women are using these apps to screen and while they are matching with me, it's too easy for them to pursue the other guy who is a bit better looking. I think I'll keep the apps and open them when I take my daily shits. But put an emphasis on tal…
/r/askTRP12/01/16 07:09 PM
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Funny you should put it that way. I have been developing another idea similar to this post. An idea of 10,000 soulmates. Now, I have to explain... I don't believe in "soulmates". I don't believe there are people who are divinely put on Earth for us to find and fall in love with forever, but rather I find the word convenient to describe someone who is a good match for us. Also, I use that word to explain my next thought which is... It's classic Hollywood Rom-Com B.S. belief that everyone has a so…
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 03:49 PM
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I think the other replies have said it better than I can.
/r/askTRP11/01/16 12:52 AM
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Lol what? You're together: good You're separate: you become a robot How? Is she saying you're robotic over texting and calling???
/r/askTRP11/01/16 12:29 AM
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I don't think you're nuts. Sometimes, you just realize bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 11:42 PM
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I think you've unicorned her. What is it about this girl that was so special that another girl couldn't replicate or improve upon?
/r/askTRP10/01/16 11:41 PM
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Don't know if this will help, but I had a profound, but simple moment of clarity a couple months ago in a crowded concert hall. I was alone at a concert. Now don't get me wrong, I enjoy doing things by myself, but that night I was feeling somewhat alone. I saw a bunch of happy couples enjoying date night at the concert and it reminded of my sad life, having just been dumped by my gf. All of a sudden, it hit me. I looked at everyone in that hall. Thousands of people. Single, taken, married, widow…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 11:14 PM
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I'm trying to understand your post, but I'm guessing you're wondering if it's beta or alpha to be content with just improving yourself and not necessarily chasing girls? If so, then it's somewhat outside of beta/alpha traits to want it that way. By this, I mean to say that wanting to improve isn't beta/alpha, it's just the right thing to do. Also, just because you're not chasing women doesn't make you either beta or alpha. It just means you're content with not needing a woman right now. Nothing …
/r/askTRP10/01/16 10:54 PM
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Reread it. It's not a take this and apply it when you need it kind of book. This book's purpose is to change your way of thinking entirely, to all situations. Reread it and when the author starts bringing up examples of bad behavior, pause and reflect how you may exemplify those examples. Basically, ask yourself, Do I do that too? If you do, then read what he says on how to change your way of thinking. After reading the book, you shouldn't wonder when and where and how to apply its principles, b…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 10:44 PM
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Hmm...being sexual with someone you've committed to a relationship with is not creepy. I feel like there may be something under the surface that's going on with her. But I don't feel knowledgeable enough to answer this. Good luck, my friend.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 09:59 PM
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Unfortunately, your title tells us nothing of substance. How should we give you advice?
/r/askTRP10/01/16 09:41 PM
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Going off of u/sovereignwings reply, you are seeking motivation when you do not have it. What you do have, is hopefully an inkling of discipline. All those things you say you know you should be doing, you are putting off until you find the perfect moment or motivation. Let me tell you something--That moment never comes. Discipline my friend, is the only thing that will get your ass into gear right now. You can continue to tell yourself that taking the bandage off will hurt, but damnit you better…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 09:39 PM
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Does she know you don't have a car? This one is a little tricky. If you tell her you don't have a car, then she may next you. Just saying, be prepared. If you don't bring it up or lie, then that's no bueno either. But above all else, you need to consider what you want. Do you really want to bike there to the center? Yes, then do it. No, then don't. It's that simple. I forget from time to time as well, but we often forget dating is a two-way street. Yes, it's good to have a little understanding a…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 09:29 PM
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I would go with Number 2 since it's someone taking a picture of you and I can tell that pic has some story or at least a punchline behind it. You'll get more questions about it and that's easy convo starter. Number 1 is not as good, since it's you taking a selfie in what seems to be a school.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 09:19 PM
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Sounds good man, sounds like you'll do just fine.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 09:05 PM
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Eventually, if I enter into a LTR with her and can see myself wanting to continue dating her, then I will begin paying more often. So it's not always 50/50. I usually will pay when I feel like it, but I never do this to try to get anything out of it by paying. The reason why I say first few dates are always 50/50 for me is because I have good reason to do it that way now, whereas before TRP I would usually pay. Why did it change when I found TRP, you may ask? Simple, before TRP I always framed t…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 08:56 PM
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Bro. This. Dancing is my go-to for physical escalation. I may be clumsy, sometimes awkward trying to kino across a table or bartop, but on the dancefloor I got it so well. So easy to kino escalate by dancing. Plus you don't have to say much which is also a plus. I've gotten numbers/makeouts/etc without saying a word, just because I started dancing with a girl and created that sexual tension.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 08:40 PM
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Relax and have fun is my only advice.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 08:29 PM
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This. Well-said and I would second this wholeheartedly.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 08:28 PM
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The way I do it... First date is always 50/50. Of course, some girls don't always understand this and then one of three things will happen.. Scenario 1: If she offers to pay the full amount and does, then I will reward that by paying for something in the future. For example, she buys a round, I'll buy a round. Scenario 2: If she offers to go 50/50, then just do it. That is truly fair. Scenario 3: If she does not offer to pay her part or anything at all, I consider if I'm willing to let it slide …
/r/askTRP10/01/16 08:24 PM
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I'd probably just go straight into setting up a date/hangout. Clearly she is thinking about you and that kiss, so those are good signs. Just go for it, you have nothing to lose.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 07:33 PM
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Stay. Plain and simple. I can recall times I've travelled, been at home, felt lonely or out of place or missed home. Then something would happen. A stranger would chat me up. I would catch a cool show/event somewhere, or would simply revel in the fact that I am living this lifestyle. Would you consider yourself simply homesick? Trust me, do not give this up, because something may happen there that will completely turn this around and then you'll think, "I can't believe I almost went home".
/r/askTRP10/01/16 07:01 PM
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Don't say anything. She read your message. Either she'll text you back and this post is meaningless, or she read it and is not interested. Also if you text her, you shoot yourself in the foot for having any chance with her. It will show you are too desperate if you do. Don't get hung up on this girl. Whatever you do.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 06:51 PM
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I had to learn how to handle situations like this too. The good news is that she offered the reschedule. If she flakes or has an excuse and doesn't offer an alternative or reschedule, then she doesn't care about seeing you. But since she did, that is good. In this case, I would not reply to her saying you were mad/upset. You would lose frame by doing that. Don't even bring up why you didn't text back. Just agree to meeting Monday, but let her carry some of the onus (maybe she sets up the time , …
/r/askTRP10/01/16 06:35 PM
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Stop worrying about who he is and what he's about. This is about you. Right now you need to stop comparing yourself to others. Have you not addressed skills/hobbies/interests/differences that set you apart from the dude? Trust me, I have buddies who are taller, stronger, more attractive, better paid than me, but they don't do or have certain things like I do. This keeps me grounded in the idea that I don't truly give a shit if there is a higher smv friend. You should feel this way too. Listen if…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 06:19 PM
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Shut out the world for a day or two and finish reading No More Mr. Nice Guy. Take that shit to heart.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 06:14 PM
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I'll check it out.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 01:56 AM
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Definitely, humor eases the situation for both sides and can easily segue into a flirtatious interaction. Never thought about it that way, but it makes sense. Thank God, you guys are giving these kinds of answers and not those shite answers of do this one special trick and yadayadyayada. I can't stand canned material anymore and you guys are proving that TRP is something more real and natural. Thanks for your insight.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 01:45 AM
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Thanks for responding. I 100% agree with you, even though I may not have fully grasp the implementation of the principles. Above all else, it seems I need to study up on some body language skills and work on that, and learn to express myself more nonverbally than verbally when it comes to flirting. Have you read What Every Body is Saying? I want to start reading it, as I've heard it's a great read for body language material.
/r/askTRP10/01/16 01:40 AM
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I haven't heard of the Charisma Myth so I'll definitely look into that and the 48 Laws which I've read most of. Concerning the dualistic thinking comment... I just wrote it as such since when I go online, I get into an online jargon mindset, but out in public my inner thinking is less like, "Is this beta or alpha?" and more like, "Is this something that will increase or decrease my odds of laying?". lol So essentially the same thing, but no I don't usually think in those terms (alpha/beta) outsi…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 12:42 AM
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Awesome, thanks. I started reading the book of pook a long time ago and didn't get too far before something else sidetracked me. Time to pick it back up tonight.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 10:02 PM
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haha you know it. You don't have to tell me twice.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 09:58 PM
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Awesome. Thanks I'll definitely watch these later tonight and see what insights I can snag from them. I feel very close to my goals. I know I have internalized a lot of good beliefs from TRP and I hope to see where it takes me this year. But you're right, close only matters in horseshoes and hand grenades. I'm not where I want to be yet, but hopefully by the end of 2016 I'll be that much closer. Time to get to work.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 09:57 PM
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Thanks for the response. Just to clarify, by your disclaimer you mean to say be smart about hands-on flirtation, right? Like basically watch out for crazy bs that will have me catching sexual harassment charges or something to that effect? Is that what you mean? If so, you're so right. Nowadays, we men have to find the balance between being sexually sure of ourselves and our advances whilst monitoring for the crazy girls that may cry wolf to it.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 09:54 PM
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I agree. I think you and I are on the same track.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 09:50 PM
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Probably reiterating what others have already said, but you seem intelligent to understand what really needs to happen. First things first, try your damnedest to start talking to all girls, and not necessarily in a sexual context. By that I mean, start slow, by simply making small talk with girls. Don't worry about trying to sound cool/alpha/any of the above. Just focus on getting to a point where you can a have a successful platonic talk with a woman at will. Why? Because the way you described …
/r/askTRP09/01/16 08:50 PM
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She may or may not be stupid but ASMALT (all single moms are like that on this one). That is to say, she's trying to set the ground rules for their relationship by bringing her kids right away. Crazy, yes. Stupid, maybe. But she's clearly trying to see if he's gonna be a provider BB for her or if he's AF.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 08:29 PM
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Next that chick.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 08:27 PM
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yay for us
/r/askTRP09/01/16 08:21 PM
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I like your attitude u/zardfizzlebeef , I like your attitude...
/r/TheRedPill02/01/16 04:41 PM
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Truth. I do need to lift, and am currently starting from the beginning of the sidebar again. I have a long way to go, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't excited for the journey.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 09:02 PM
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Thanks a lot for your answer. The main reason I got into RP was because of a shitty breakup I had with my ex. I was pretty RP in getting her, but slowly became BP over time. She eventually "went on a trip to Mexico" (I had no way to confirm this as we were long distance) and when she came back we talked less and she flaked a lot. Whether or not she cheated on me or had someone else in her life, I'll never know, because one day when I was inviting her up to my city for the weekend she just stoppe…
/r/askTRP02/09/15 06:40 PM
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Thanks a lot man, this is exactly what I was looking for. Good examples, good explanation, clearly written too. You seem to have a great mindset with this whole thing.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 04:48 PM
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Fair enough, but that didn't answer the question in the text.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 04:29 PM
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First off, thanks for the quick reply and I like that you got to the point. But for clarification, are you saying abundance mentality, or actually be talking/gaming many women, or both? Thanks again my friend.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 04:22 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I read your message when I received it before it was deleted, and no worries man, I've been in that same boat. I've started to realize that if a girl is desperately trying to cling onto me for my "provider" benefits, then all she gets from me is a hard f*cking. Nothing else. Much love.
/r/seduction12/07/15 11:09 PM
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Care to share?
/r/seduction12/07/15 05:35 PM
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I find your response very interesting, and I think it makes a ton of sense. I really do believe in the power of outcome independence and I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that it is most key above all else.
/r/seduction18/06/15 05:52 PM
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It's not about being mean really. You're not going to get girls by being mean, you'll still t Repel them honestly. Read between the lines and you'll see what is really working is not being a "nice guy". By this I mean don't be "nice" to them Just because you want something. Girls smell the bs. Read no more Mr nice guy by Dr glover and you'll understand. But you don't fix nice guy syndrome by jumping to the other end of the spectrum and think it will work. Seriously read that book, it might take …
/r/seduction08/06/15 11:25 PM
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YES! Don't watch your life go by. Mediocrity is always based on not taking chances.
/r/seduction20/04/15 04:00 AM
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Truth.
/r/seduction20/04/15 03:48 AM
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^ This is a good one. A lot of guys on here have questions like, Does this girl like me? etc. and I always say, easiest way to gauge the level of interest the girl has for you is to escalate the situation and gauge her reaction.
/r/seduction20/04/15 03:48 AM
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I see your side, but I don't think he is thinking that way. But I digress, if it were me, I wouldn't sleep with her, but it's not me, so this thread is essentially worthless. Gracias por conversar conmigo
/r/seduction20/04/15 03:46 AM
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you know...i would agree with this 100%. Learning the power of strong, sexual eye contact made a huge difference in my game recently and I noticed that I had been missing out on so many girls because I had terrible eye contact. What was your experience after you learned these facts? Did you notice a huge change too?
/r/seduction20/04/15 03:23 AM
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Right, what I was getting at was the original dilemma brought up by OP. The fact that he knows this girl has herpes bothers him, right? So if that is ultimately his sticking point, and knowing that apparently everyone has herpes, then wouldn't it be best for OP to just go after girls where there is mystery around this fact? Seeing as the knowledge of her having herpes is what is stopping him or making him hesitant
/r/seduction20/04/15 03:21 AM
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No worries my man. Approach anxiety is real and is tough to beat. The thing that helped me the most was this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fpygj78zF4 . Hopefully you're one of those guys that thrive off motivational vids or inspiring ideas. If that doesn't help, then find a mindset that makes girls less intimidating. One that worked for me back in the day was, "Hey, that hot chick over there, she used to be a little girl on a playground who had cooties. She's still that same little girl…
/r/seduction20/04/15 12:30 AM
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I see what you're getting at. If we're getting as highly specific as we possibly could with this conversation, then my final word is this--if a girl comes up to me and she says she has herpes, I'm assuming two things...1) She has genital herpes, and 2) She is currently symptomatic. I don't want that. But that's what we're getting at here is genital herpes. That's the stigma of herpes, is that when it's genital, its a big deal to tell a sexual partner. I have a hunch that if she just has a cold s…
/r/seduction20/04/15 12:10 AM
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The overall percentage of survey participants who reported having been diagnosed with genital herpes did not change significantly between 1988-1994 and 1999-2004 (3.3% and 3.8%, respectively). However, among those who were HSV-2 seropositive, the percentage reporting a diagnosis of genital herpes increased from 9.9% in 1988-1994 to 14.3% in 1999-2004 (P = .02). The percentage of persons having been diagnosed with genital herpes increased among those infected with HSV-2 only and among those with …
/r/seduction19/04/15 11:14 PM
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Yeah I don't know where that came from...
/r/seduction19/04/15 10:37 PM
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hell yeah senor, what are your spots?
/r/seduction19/04/15 10:28 PM
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r/askseddit is best for this, but honestly, the best way to judge a girls interest over text is to setup a date. Just ask her out. If she says yes, she likes you. If she says no, but offers a different time/date to reschedule, then she is still interested. If she declines (with excuse or not), then its probably done for or she is socially dumb. Either way, the best way to gauge interest is to push the relationship forward and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction19/04/15 10:25 PM
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Maybe throw out a line to see what she is up to with the intention of getting her into another date with you. She may be genuinely busy but only way to find out is to ask her out again. Personally, I'd just invite her over to hang and sexy time.
/r/seduction19/04/15 10:23 PM
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ayo
/r/seduction19/04/15 10:15 PM
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Keep going... Honestly, the answer to most if not all questions on this sub is to just continue to experience what you are going for. In your case, continue to talk to women. You are going to fail and be afraid, but eventually your skills will improve, you will learn something new, and things won't be as bad. This is the secret. Just keep going.
/r/seduction19/04/15 10:13 PM
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Read it.
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:27 PM
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Don't worry bro, I've been through all of these situations and feels. The best advice I can give you right now is to do what you want. Focus on what you really want out of life and what you want to do. Want to practice a hobby? Do it. Want to learn something new? Do it. Get into the practice of making your own life as fun as possible. Why do this? Because right now I sense you are receiving a lot of negative energy (maybe depression, anxiety, unnecessary stress, etc.) from thinking about this gi…
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:24 PM
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Yes, sounds like the girl in the vid is floored by you and was really into you from the beginning. I'd say you have really strong daygame from what I can tell in the video. One thing I picked up on that may reiterate your thoughts in your post is that you have a strong vibe...you give off this vibe that you are sure of yourself, sure of what you want, and generally laidback and wanting to simply have fun. Girls feel this from you and it puts them at ease. Keep getting it bruh.
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:16 PM
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Ask yourself what do you like about her and what do you like about other women. Have you ever liked a different girl as much as you like this one? If yes, then you will see that these oneitis eventually come and go. It does take getting used to, to get out of that mindset, but you must realize that eventually you're probably going to fall for a totally different girl just like you did for this. Get out there and just meet people to get your mind off her.
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:12 PM
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Did you lead the interaction at any point? Sounds like she instigated pretty much the whole night with you and if you would have taken a bit more control and direction with her, she'd probably be having sex with you right now.
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:09 PM
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Great book to back this up is No Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. Excellent read that explains why its important to be yourself and do what you want, not what other want.
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:08 PM
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I know that feel, where something so great like that happens and it floors you. Ecstatic and feelgood emotions flood your whole being and you can't give half a shit what happens for the rest of the night, whether you get her number, or look like a jackass doing a crazy dance or whatever. Man its such a good feeling.
/r/seduction19/04/15 07:02 PM
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A wise man once said, "You do you, man....you do you."
/r/seduction19/04/15 06:53 PM
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I think you're right. Given the overwhelming odds of there only being one "me" and millions of potential girls I could sex that are actually clean with no herpes, why should I choose her. Simply put, do you think if she was who she was, without herpes, and you had herpes, do you think she would want to sleep with you regardless. STD-free>sex with a hot babe who has the herpes
/r/seduction19/04/15 06:51 PM
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Go for who you want.
/r/seduction19/04/15 06:39 PM
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Shouldn't we move this to r/AskSeddit?
/r/seduction19/04/15 03:13 AM
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Try taking some time away from game and possibly socializing (not completely of course) to figure out your wants. Go out into the woods or a quiet personal place and really take your own time to ask yourself the hard questions and find out what you want. Ask yourself, from your perspective, what characteristics of a girl would make your dream girl? That might help.
/r/seduction19/04/15 02:37 AM
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Yeah no lie, I don't take dating sites/apps seriously. Sometimes I get on Tinder to see what dumb shit I can tell to girls and get away with, but for the most part online dating is shit. The women on there are pretty crappy people, unattractive (and I don't just mean looks guys), or they are on there to boost their egos by seeing how many guys they can have message them. These sites/apps are fucking traps. In person is real life. Meeting real women in person is more validating and lucrative I fi…
/r/seduction19/04/15 02:20 AM
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The thing is it has to be smooth and subtle--a.k.a. don't make it a big deal. And also be sure when you touch her, as in touch her because it's natural and you mean to touch her, don't hesitate and make it awkward. The biggest thing here that I am sensing is that you feel you may be reprimanded, shunned, slapped (etc. name all the words to describe what you think might happen if you touch her there) if you touch her in a slightly sexually intimate manner i.e. touching her legs, thighs, etc. This…
/r/seduction19/04/15 02:12 AM
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Plain and simple. This right here!
/r/seduction19/04/15 12:13 AM
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I'm not too sure what you meant by the first question, but I think you're asking why some schools of thought say don't show interest, but then some say to flirt, so what to do? Is that what you're asking? I think the main thing to remember is that you want the girl to know that you are interested in her sexually, without saying to her face, "I like you sexually."
/r/seduction19/04/15 12:11 AM
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No problem, bro. Hope I didn't come across harshly either, but sometimes we all need someone to be frank with ourselves. Also, to answer your final question in the post, when I started out practicing game I was pretty bad. Like I would approach girls and think that there some secret phrase or action that made them want to sleep with me. If I could give you one tip when first starting out, I would definitely say take pride in the small victories at first. Instead of thinking you failed because th…
/r/seduction19/04/15 12:05 AM
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There are different types of kissing for different scenarios. You're not going to kiss a girl the same on a first date as you would right before you sleep with her and likewise you wouldn't kiss her like you're about to sleep with her in front of her grandma. So in this case here, since this is a first date, go for a single kiss on the lips near the end of the date. A kiss on the cheek would be fine, but if you can go for it on the lips, do it. No tongue, unless you two start to makeout heavily,…
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:50 PM
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Recall a time when a stranger (male or female) started a random convo with you--one that was really fun and light. Be that. Envision that and do that to everyone you meet. Eventually all this practice making small talk with strangers will allow you to start to truly see how you can naturally open your convos, you'll see what people respond well to essentially.
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:47 PM
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Let her go. Find ten more girls who are hotter, more interesting, and will give you the time of day. Simple.
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:42 PM
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Sounds like the overall message in your post here is: Do this for yourself.
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:40 PM
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First things first--start in the safe zones and slide into the naughty zones. Why? Because it gives the woman (and you) a chance to mentally prepare for the touches and also it will heighten her arousal when it is done right. Go slowly, but surely. Envision a bead of water rolling down her body and go about that speed.
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:39 PM
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Do it a lot. Practice. This is the only way.
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:34 PM
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Yes. You will get rejected, even when your game is spot-on, sometimes you will get rejected. (BTW, I'm not an expert with women by far, but I am an ambitious guy who is going for it). Another thing is that you need to stop comparing yourself to others. Ask yourself, is my goal to eventually get a hot girl and see all other the guys without hot girls and think I'm better than you? NO! It should be something for yourself, like "Eventually I want to be so good at getting girls that I can look at a …
/r/seduction18/04/15 11:31 PM
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Take everything with a grain of salt. As with science, nothing is truly proven, mostly theoretical. That girlfriend I spoke of in the text above, yeah she fell head over heels for me too. Within a week of meeting me, she drove 700 miles round trip to come fuck me in a hotel. Three weeks later, she blurts out "I love you". I think that's batshit crazy, but also what some would call "falling head over heels for someone". Up until those two events, I played it cool and acted as if I didn't really n…
/r/seduction09/04/15 04:54 PM
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Other guys help me out with this (because in no way, do I claim to be an expert or even good with women) but the best method I've had is fake it til you make it. In other words, believe the mindset first. Develop better body language and attitude when around attractive women. Basically, convince yourself that, when talking to a new girl that you're attracted to, pretend that you know a bunch of other attractive women that are talking to you. Yes--fake it! The reason being is that this mindset wi…
/r/seduction09/04/15 04:18 PM
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agreed with this answer
/r/seduction09/04/15 03:56 PM
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this is a great answer and it is what I would have said.
/r/seduction09/04/15 03:56 PM
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they are separate. continue keeping goals, use them to develop your lifestyle, your strategies, your demeanor when you head out to game, but-but don't expect the night to automatically be anything. There are too many variables in game and life to assume that a certain outing will yield any particular result. However, goals help to push life/game toward achieving a certain night/outing
/r/seduction08/04/15 05:45 PM
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