I am starting to make ground in my connections between seddit ideas and I am getting better every week with women. BUT--one thing I cannot figure out is how to stop coming across as a Provider type when talking with women.

I have recently begun to understand the impact of being a Provider vs. Lover and this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGEO6ig8WsM&app=desktop shows what I am understanding. However, in the video, Tyler (RSDTyler) comes across completely as a lover (his body language, tonality, things he says with ease, etc...) while his friend comes across as a beta provider (low tonality, quieter, smaller body language, not as boisterous or 'wild', etc..). Instantly, (even though the friend introduces himself as a dentist, a highly respectable job) he is 'beta shamed' and told he is not funny, and the women try to put him in his place. RSDTyler says the exact same things as his friend, but since he comes across as carefree, loud, and lover, the women accept him and laugh at what he's saying and get flirtatious with him.

With all that being explained, my main problem is how do I come across like Tyler (lover)? I am young, have a good job, car, home, and I travel and have hobbies, I dress well and am atheletic, but ultimately my game sucks and I come across as a provider (albeit a confident one, but still a provider). What are some ways I can convince myself to believe that girls want me to be a man who doesn't give two shits, or says what he wants, and is not ashamed of his sexuality? What were some ways you may have gone from provider type to lover type and seen success?

All advice is welcome. Thank you.